The Bible and experience taught me how, even when my family tried to suppress me. Truth is, people will say you're sensitive when doing so because, they don't want to be accountable for their actions, lack thereof or what comes out of their mouth. Parents are supposed to be our validator, when right or wrong. Good job Devale! Those boys need you, love you, look up to you and have much respect for you!
This is what you call good fatherhood and changing the narrative. Boys should be taught how to be emotionally intelligent. Black dads matter. Salute Devale! 🙌🏽
And also, children should be allowed to express themselves verbally. So proud of dad, and Toro because he understood what his dad was telling him and took responsibility for it. Yeah.
Umm but what about the people that do that anyways and it turns into harm. We can teach our children right but thr outside world maybe like no do what you want to do
It’s at this very moment that we can all understand why God gave Devale 4 boys. I’m 35 and I must say that I have honestly never seen a father speak with such compassion, patience, and understanding while also teaching in a positive light to their sons until now. He did it with such love & security. This video speaks volumes on the type of man Devale is and the type of men the boys will grow into. I pray that my future husband has this type of approach with our family.
"In life, you're going to make mistakes" i WISH i heard that more often as a child and been dealt with like this in a CALM manner. You're an awesome dad and those kids will be more emotionally healthy growing up because of you and your lovely wife. #BlackDadsMatter ❤
“You are allowed to cry. So if you feel like crying, you can cry. You don’t have to hold it in.” I wish more men were told this as boys. The difference it’d make throughout their lives is indescribable.
Accountability is hard!! #lifelessons. Congratulations! Another prince! Prince Marley better be crying to a melody!! Mommy feed me I'm hungry to the tune Ole pirates yes dey rob I #Jamdungvybes
I’m allowed to be mad. It’s ok to cry. I’m allowed to have feelings. It’s not ok to hit because I’m emotional. Mistakes happen. I have to be accountable…even though it hurts. Hugs help! Thank you RoRo and DeVale!
SO beautiful and necessary for those of us who didn't get this to see what healthy correction looks like!!! God is strategic....doesn't matter how we get it...just as long as we see it being demonstrated!!!! Devale you are helping us heal by sharing your family's day to day love journey! We love and appreciate you all for that!!!!!🥰👏🏼🥰👏🏼🥰👏🏼🥰👏🏼
I always disputed the notion of “a woman can’t raise a man” until seeing this video. The way he broke that down to his son, without providing judgment, was the epitome of discipline. The true art of love!!! As a single parent we don’t always know if our discipline is correct. I love this family so much. Khadeen is the queen surrounded by her King and all of her little prince charmings! Great job dad! Discipline with love AND a lesson!!!!
@@justfabbermuda2202 hey cuzsis hey! girl.... that is one thing I DO NOT tolerate is people that have no accountability whatsoever. It's exhausting just to be around. I simply cannot do it. owning your sh!t is true adulting!
This brother just had a heart to heart with his son. It’s not about toxic foolishness like punching your son in the chest and punking him and telling him not to cry. This was a correct example.💪🏾❤️✊🏾
@@lh8167 *may I suggest, that you ask him,* _So what do you think about this/ that type of solution?_ *He may be more receptive & open to dialog vs his POV- (Interpretation) of him hearing you say "SEE"* 👈🏾 _I TOLD YOU SO_ 😉 *lead in w/ questions, and supportive solutions, As you are & as you've witnessed here w/ the Ellises...~All the Best & cheers to you for doing the work* 🙌🏽 *Breaking **#GenerationalCurses*
I am a single mother of 3 boys, and I saw this and instantly felt like I need to do better. You honestly help me raise my children. I look up to you man. You are an incredible father.
I've always had mad respect for Devale as a husband, father, head of household, but real talk, my respect just doubled in how you handled this. The way you calmly corrected him, explained why, and by the end, reiterated that the love is unwavering. Kudos to you. I have 1 son. That's an adventure in itself. I couldn't imagine dealing with 3 and a growing 4th. Big ups, young homie.
I typically criticize parents of TH-cam family's for exploiting their kids but this was so genuine and necessary for other men and boys to see that I'm grateful to know that men like this are still around. I pray for this family's continued success and growth as a unit. Amen
This is the only time I’ve seen a child filmed while being vulnerable that makes sense. Wow, this is an amazing share. I’m big on not exploiting children however I feel the world is better for having seen this. Thank you for sharing Devale and Roro.
Yo who could honestly dislike this?! Allowing him to feel his emotions but still hold him accountable. This is REAL Fatherhood not no misogynistic/machismo nonsense.
I love seeing this Black father teach his son in a positive way. He son received the advice; my heart soften when Roro said, "Yes daddy." He connected with his father's advice. Love it!
This conversation spoke volumes & even made me stop and evaluate how I process my emotions. Devale is the dad many of us never had. So much love and communication, and life lessons packed into a 7 minute video. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This was everything. I cried like RoRo. Just hearing his dad tone in explaining and teaching him at the same time was what our young Kings need no yelling no screaming just teaching and explaining. He sealed it with a hug and kiss.❤ dad to son= one day will grow to be prince 2 king. Good job Devale 💯 love it. Kay you have 4 special ones in your life💯
As a first year teacher I wish more parents would have these conversations with their kids at home this young. I have 12 year olds displaying this exact behavior 10x worse and I have to stop teaching to raise somebody else child and have these conversations. Parenting is important!
Unfortunately a lot of parents do not have this understanding for themselves and are emotionally inept. Thank you for you're compassion and love of children to help make them become better going forward. 🌈🌟🌟🌟
I’m not a mother yet, but I will be one day and I pray to raise kids with someone that has the endearment, patience, knowledge and understanding that Devale has! Truly inspiring ⭐️
This is why boys need there father's. This whole conversation is blessings young boys everywhere. I love this teachable moment he took with his kid and filmed it for other little boys to see. Duvale you are the truth. I absolutely love that you gave him permission to have his feelings then showed him how to navigate and behave thru and towards them. Real men talk I loved every bit of this.
This was pure love !! You're teaching him lessons that money can't buy. How many young men are dead or incarcerated because of their emotions and the lack of accountability? 🤦🏾♀️ Thank you for sharing.
"Cause someone gonna hit yo ass back" the bigger lesson 🤣 😂 Glad you are teaching him it is okay to feel all the feels and express emotions. And so glad you explained that no one is mad at him! So many kids internalize without ever asking or making sure that no one is blaming or upset with them. Great job Devale!
Bruh! I wish I had this as a kid. I didn’t hit nobody but I broke things. Punched holes in walls, kicked glass doors, and broke my hand punching a chalkboard I was so mad. I see now being allowed to cry and somebody helping me process my emotions would’ve been so nice. Man I cant wait to be a dad to my son. Thanks for the inspiration.
THIS is the perfect example of why God's will for our lives is always PERFECT. Children are a gift of God; and He has gifted you all four precious sons, to whom you are charged with leading. Everything you said to your son made perfect sense to him. He knows he is loved and does not want you to be mad at him. He was confident enough of your love to admit that "it hurts", and your lesson was "I know. Accountability hurts." Wow... Leadership meted out with a calm, genuine and impacting love. You demonstrated being both a Daddy and a Father in a few short moments. Bravo!
This brought me to tears, you just don’t see this much. I commend the father that you are, and how you’re raising up your king!!! People need to see this, especially coming from a man to his son! Amen to this!
This right here! The absolute best when father’s are raising sons to be men. If I had a hat on, I would tip it to you, Devale. You and Khadeen both. Blessings to you and your family. I just live this!!!
Omg I needed this as a parent. Your patients and tone is everything. I get so frustrated when my daughters start crying and accusing me of being angry when I’m just trying to discipline them. I never thought to stop and help them understand their feelings. Some times i forget to let my kids be kids and make mistakes. I expect for them to be perfect. Thanks 🙏🏾
My son is going thru the samething. He is 12yrs old also with ADHD. We are working on his emotions. He will get so upset to the point of slamming things. I try so hard to calm him down to only makes things worst by yelling at him. Which I was brought into as a child. Yelling do not help none. I need Devale's patience & tone.
Im not even a parent yet God willing and I resonate with this statement. I used to think my grandma was the meanest woman alive but it was her discipline that makes me strive to be a virtuous woman as best I can be
Yes. I have 3 and people criticize me when I talk to mine like this. It's looked at in our community as babying or spoiling but every mistake a child makes doesn't warrant a spanking/whooping. A.k.a why most people from millennials on back have so called childhood trauma, misplaced emotions and for a lot of men being told to not show emotions sad or otherwise. This was a rant but your words said all this and more tho ☺️
My grandfather used to cry, him showing his emotions was everything to me bro so when I cried he made me feel like my feelings was valid, miss u Pa Pa, imma teach my little ones the same thing 💯
I want you to know that I worked many years in domestic violence at the felony level; and I have had beautiful little boys share with me that they have been thrown against walls, and pummeled like grown men by their fathers, for their mistakes. Know that your example is important, needed, and deeply appreciated. May God's blessings continue to rest upon you and your entire family.
👏🏽”How are you going to know these things if I don’t teach you?” Best statement ever from a real Parent🙂🥺Our children NEEDS guidance and correction.Emotional Awareness is the number one asset to thrive in any setting. Bless your family 🙏🏾
Normally I would say somethings need to stay private. But I must say this was necessary for someone. I pray for your family as you’ll continue to raise this next generation with integrity, love and accountability. Way to be a great example for fathers everywhere 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️
I initially felt conflicted about seeing Roro cry on camera, but I had to remember that this specific video is also part of the human experience and it’s ridiculous for us to expect TH-camrs to only show us the “good” or “happy” moments. I took this as a teaching moment for me and others who didn’t experience this type of discipline. Children can be taught with love.
Honestly I appreciate this video so much. As a single mom this is important to see. Until that special day where my kid had that help from a father, women like me can learn from this.
I seriously hope every dad (me included) can catch the unspoken lessons here. Eye contact, accountability, sincerity, honest, blunt, but also trust, love, and much more attributes. Thank you AGAIN Devale for another example
@David Jones: I Agree....I Am A Black Woman(And Mother),Many Times Over(We In Our Own)Community(Do Not Uphold),The Wonderful Black Fathers That Do Exist....Too Tainted By The Ones Who Aren't Physically Or Emotionally Present!!!!, I Will Always Give Credit Where It Is Due(I Am Sure That)You Are One Of The Good Ones Yourself.. Keep Showing Up, It Makes A Difference😊, To You As Well Devale!!!!, Bless Up
I love how this black man took the time to meet his son half way and speak to his heart. I Wish more Dads took the time to talk and explain instead of just hitting. Creating a safe place!!!!👏🏾
Lord, I'm over here crying. Thank you for teaching your son that it's OK to cry. God, thank you for this family and please continue to protect them. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Devales developing princes into emotionally mature kings❤️. Whats even heartwarming is knowing that there's an entire tribe in the background helping to take care of Khadeen and Dakota. Love❤️y'all, Ellises!
What you did for your son in that moment will stay with him for the rest of his life. Loads of respect to you for being a EXCELLENT father and an example to your children.
Man if more parents did this we would have a better generation of adults and children. A lot of our emotions were dismissed when we growing up and we were just beat and hit on which in most cases were our parents own frustrations. This video is simply beautiful. Im proud of the way he allowed his son to express himself, told him where he was wrong and then showed him love. Job well done!
"Accountability Hurts, its okay to Cry but its your emotions you have to control" These words will resignate with your children. You and your family are and continue to be a great example! Peace, love & blessings to you all.
If I’m being honest this made my inner child want to cry 😢 I wish I had this‼️ A beautiful display of how a real man teaches his son accountability! This was inspiring for me as a parent as well!
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“You’re allowed to be mad” I wish my parents would’ve taught me that instead of dismissing my emotions.
Me too
Right
Same
My parents still do that and take no accountability for it .....
The Bible and experience taught me how, even when my family tried to suppress me. Truth is, people will say you're sensitive when doing so because, they don't want to be accountable for their actions, lack thereof or what comes out of their mouth. Parents are supposed to be our validator, when right or wrong.
Good job Devale! Those boys need you, love you, look up to you and have much respect for you!
This is what you call good fatherhood and changing the narrative. Boys should be taught how to be emotionally intelligent. Black dads matter. Salute Devale! 🙌🏽
💯💯
💯💯💯😭🥰🙌🏼🙏🏽
Facts!
Truths spoken and it had me crying because this is needed and extremely important👌👌
Everyone should be taught how to be emotional intelligent
I love how you told him " You're allowed to be mad, You can cry!" So many children need to hear this
And also, children should be allowed to express themselves verbally. So proud of dad, and Toro because he understood what his dad was telling him and took responsibility for it. Yeah.
"You don't get to lash out on people because you're emotional"... That right there was a word!!🙌🏾🙌🏾
Amen, Amen, Amen!! Some grownups need to hear this too.
Amen! 🙌🏽
Umm but what about the people that do that anyways and it turns into harm. We can teach our children right but thr outside world maybe like no do what you want to do
@@naturalshatara9559 WHAT? He's teaching his sons not others. So cruel people rule our behavior and the world?
@@shoshanasadeh1266 I know he is teaching his sons but instead of thinking the world is not cruel mam reality it is
It’s at this very moment that we can all understand why God gave Devale 4 boys. I’m 35 and I must say that I have honestly never seen a father speak with such compassion, patience, and understanding while also teaching in a positive light to their sons until now. He did it with such love & security. This video speaks volumes on the type of man Devale is and the type of men the boys will grow into. I pray that my future husband has this type of approach with our family.
Yes this is a beautiful thing
Show your future husband this video😁
@@treyblk1417 It’s saved for whenever he finds me 👌🏾
I literally had to send this video to my husband! Definitely an example to follow!
Right! Helping add quality men into the world
Accountability hurts. Now, that’ll preach! That word wasn’t just for RoRo, but for us all!! Awesome job Dad!
Yep. And accountability is integrity.
❤️ Best daddy in the world ❤️ I wish I had that ❤️ with my fucked up family 💔 sad but true 💔 loved them tho.
True
Someone tell Will Smith this
The amount of love in this conversation between a father and his son... yall raising kings ❤
💯
#BoazMaterial 🤴🏾👑
Facts!
🥲
Couldn't agree with you more
Perfect. Every mother needs a husband like this for their children. Righteousness.
Yes I love my husband teaching our sons and daughters
Pay attention to Khadeen too. Only a Queen can have a King. Every mother/wife needs to be ACCOUNTABLE too.
"In life, you're going to make mistakes" i WISH i heard that more often as a child and been dealt with like this in a CALM manner. You're an awesome dad and those kids will be more emotionally healthy growing up because of you and your lovely wife. #BlackDadsMatter ❤
That part
This is why fathers are so important! Well done Ellis well done!
This man's love for his son's is a marvel to watch.
Yessssss!!! I love that's real!!! This is how it works!! Look at our people look at at our black brother!!! Yess!!
Real Daddy I love it
YESSS IT IS❣️❣️❣️
“You are allowed to cry. So if you feel like crying, you can cry. You don’t have to hold it in.”
I wish more men were told this as boys. The difference it’d make throughout their lives is indescribable.
I swear, there would be less violence...
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Such a Great Daddy
The 5 dislikes are from persons who aren’t accountable for their actions.
Facts
This made me laugh so hard #truth
Listen!! You ain't lied.
“Accountability hurts.” Wow, that’s a mouthful right there. God bless you, Ellises. ♥️
Very deep and truthful.
Whew chile...
LOVE to witness black men being the Dad and teacher; all while listening and taking to heart what the child is saying. GREAT JOB!!!!
Being a child therapist, I love this SO. MUCH. This is literally everything. That validation was beautiful. 🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤ #blackmentalhealthmatters
I mad love this family, teach him sir.... God is please with Father hood.
Yes!!!!!!!
You’re a real stand up guy Devale. The world needs more Black men like you ✊🏾
Factsss
Facts
So true
Absolutely 💯
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Devale for President!!! This conversation alone is breaking generational curses and rebuking childhood trauma. 🙏🏾❤️
Yes!!! God loves to see it!
yesssssssssssssssssssssss
Accountability is a hard thing to teach and learn. This was heartwarming
Very heartwarming especially because in these times it isn't recognized much less taught. Good for him!
Accountability is hard!! #lifelessons. Congratulations! Another prince! Prince Marley better be crying to a melody!! Mommy feed me I'm hungry to the tune Ole pirates yes dey rob I #Jamdungvybes
Absolutely. Accountability builds character
This piece of art needs to be shared, studied and taught worldwide.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽WELL SAID & I AGREE🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Truly does!!! Very powerful example of how to love and correct.
Amen! I am in agreement.👍😃
Indeed
Yessss
Daddy is shaping and grooming his confidence. He walked away with it intact and better than before. That's emotional intelligence!
I’m allowed to be mad.
It’s ok to cry.
I’m allowed to have feelings.
It’s not ok to hit because I’m emotional.
Mistakes happen.
I have to be accountable…even though it hurts.
Hugs help!
Thank you RoRo and DeVale!
🥰🥰🥰
Can this be reposted weekly for not only children, but adults who were never taught? This is a huge lesson. Bravo Devale!
SO beautiful and necessary for those of us who didn't get this to see what healthy correction looks like!!! God is strategic....doesn't matter how we get it...just as long as we see it being demonstrated!!!! Devale you are helping us heal by sharing your family's day to day love journey! We love and appreciate you all for that!!!!!🥰👏🏼🥰👏🏼🥰👏🏼🥰👏🏼
Major love devale calm allowed him to process his emotions in a loving calm way major key excellence of a dad raising kings of excellence!!!!💙💙💙💙💙
This has to be shown in stores so Karen's can see it.
And this is why it’s so important for little boys to have there fathers in there life
SUPER BIG FACTS
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I always disputed the notion of “a woman can’t raise a man” until seeing this video. The way he broke that down to his son, without providing judgment, was the epitome of discipline. The true art of love!!! As a single parent we don’t always know if our discipline is correct. I love this family so much. Khadeen is the queen surrounded by her King and all of her little prince charmings! Great job dad! Discipline with love AND a lesson!!!!
smh...I know fully grown adults that need that same "accountability" discussion. Emotional intelligence is everything!
Good job dad!
Every bit of truth in it!
Cuzsis Leggz, had tearing up all the way in Bermuda!!! This family is awesome!!! Accountability is everything!!!
@@justfabbermuda2202 hey cuzsis hey! girl.... that is one thing I DO NOT tolerate is people that have no accountability whatsoever. It's exhausting just to be around. I simply cannot do it. owning your sh!t is true adulting!
You need to be everybody’s father. This video hit my soul on so many levels. #perfection
This is reality show and not a movie
When he kissed and hugged his son,my heart melted
Aww why am I crying watching this..when rowy said “it just hurts” damnnn that’s so mature of him to notice his emotions like that
I know I’m bawling 😩😩😩😩😩
Thats the part that broke me DOWN! I LOVE THIS FAMILY
Definitely cried!
I'm crying too. 😪
I cried too 😭😭😭
"You're allowed to be mad"
That statement hit way different 🤞🏿
One of these days we gonna need a “Just Dadding” book on how you and Kay raised 4 WHOLESOME men.
🤜🏾🤛🏾. Big FaXXX
ABSOLUTELY
AMEN 🙏
This brother just had a heart to heart with his son. It’s not about toxic foolishness like punching your son in the chest and punking him and telling him not to cry. This was a correct example.💪🏾❤️✊🏾
Yes, I have to get on my dude with that with our son & his other son. I hate it!
@@lh8167 *PRONTO* _SHARE THIS WITH HIM, WITHOUT SAYING A WORD_ #nojudgement
@@letssee6473 oh I am. I want to watch it with him. & say see, you don't have to punch them in the chest for them to get it.
Right shit my dumbass baby daddy tries to do
@@lh8167 *may I suggest, that you ask him,* _So what do you think about this/ that type of solution?_
*He may be more receptive & open to dialog vs his POV- (Interpretation) of him hearing you say "SEE"* 👈🏾 _I TOLD YOU SO_ 😉 *lead in w/ questions, and supportive solutions, As you are & as you've witnessed here w/ the Ellises...~All the Best & cheers to you for doing the work* 🙌🏽
*Breaking **#GenerationalCurses*
I am a single mother of 3 boys, and I saw this and instantly felt like I need to do better. You honestly help me raise my children. I look up to you man. You are an incredible father.
Uncle Dolo: "It's alright man..but hey next time i'm gone body slam you" lmaoooo
Good cop (Devale) and bad cop (Uncle Dolo)… so both sides covered. On the real, both men handled it well. Nuff respect
@indigo Lynn I thought you made that up before I finished the video. Then I finished LMAO!!!! I died!!!!
Devale, you are so anointed as a husband, father and a man. Kay and your parents should be so proud of you.
Just imagine if all young black men had this level of discipline, love and support 🥺
Whn u sniffle like that, your soul is hurt... memories as a child.
Facts. I still cry like that and when I hyperventilate you know I’m hurt
Ikr when u cary and can't catch a breath, you know its deep lol. #memories
Lol yess sirr
FACTS!!!!!
Those young kings have a dad that believes in accountability, THIS is refreshing! RESPECT!!
This is the correct way to assist kids in their emotional mind state! Salute Black Father✍ most important part was "ITS OKAY TO CRY"
I've always had mad respect for Devale as a husband, father, head of household, but real talk, my respect just doubled in how you handled this. The way you calmly corrected him, explained why, and by the end, reiterated that the love is unwavering. Kudos to you. I have 1 son. That's an adventure in itself. I couldn't imagine dealing with 3 and a growing 4th. Big ups, young homie.
I typically criticize parents of TH-cam family's for exploiting their kids but this was so genuine and necessary for other men and boys to see that I'm grateful to know that men like this are still around. I pray for this family's continued success and growth as a unit. Amen
I love that Ro was able to identify his feelings...when he said it still hurts after Devale said I'm not mad...that was the realist.
“Accountability hurts” 😩😩 I love that he’s understanding his emotions!
"If you can't even remember what Uncle Dolo said, it wasn't even that bad" 🔥
Yeah
This is the only time I’ve seen a child filmed while being vulnerable that makes sense. Wow, this is an amazing share. I’m big on not exploiting children however I feel the world is better for having seen this. Thank you for sharing Devale and Roro.
Wow!! That brought me to tears . A real father handling his business.
Tears flowing down my face. So proud of this moment
True that
Same here.
Heartwarming 💕🥰
Yo who could honestly dislike this?! Allowing him to feel his emotions but still hold him accountable. This is REAL Fatherhood not no misogynistic/machismo nonsense.
Haters
I was wondering the same thing. Probably someone who needs counseling. Smh 🤦🏽♀️
@@shelisahumphrey4215 More than likely. We have to stop the trauma cycle in our community!
someone that wish they had this coming up sadly but to not like it is crazy hate is real
@@debrasartfulcreations318 hate and the evil eye is real
Do your thing father raising your 👑
💕, Teach. Amen
Love this. This is when it makes sense to film “disciplining” your child. He’s making him take accountability and showing patience.
Agree! This was teaching all of us! They are simply breaking the cycle.
An active father is everything!!!❤❤
Yes! Active AND present!
I love seeing this Black father teach his son in a positive way. He son received the advice; my heart soften when Roro said, "Yes daddy." He connected with his father's advice. Love it!
This conversation spoke volumes & even made me stop and evaluate how I process my emotions. Devale is the dad many of us never had. So much love and communication, and life lessons packed into a 7 minute video. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Dad Of The Century Award🏆
Same here
This was everything. I cried like RoRo. Just hearing his dad tone in explaining and teaching him at the same time was what our young Kings need no yelling no screaming just teaching and explaining. He sealed it with a hug and kiss.❤ dad to son= one day will grow to be prince 2 king. Good job Devale 💯 love it. Kay you have 4 special ones in your life💯
Me too crying like a river
me tooo.😭 so precious and meaningful.
Me too😭😭😭 lbvvs
Same! Just blew my nose 🤧🤧🤧
I shouldn't have clicked on this at work 😭😭😩😅
Fatherhood at it's absolute best 💓💓
Father of the year. He's raising 4 boys teaching him how to control his emotions. Awesome man, Father what a gift.
As a first year teacher I wish more parents would have these conversations with their kids at home this young. I have 12 year olds displaying this exact behavior 10x worse and I have to stop teaching to raise somebody else child and have these conversations. Parenting is important!
Unfortunately a lot of parents do not have this understanding for themselves and are emotionally inept. Thank you for you're compassion and love of children to help make them become better going forward. 🌈🌟🌟🌟
I 100% agree. It definitely should start at home with conversations like this. It's unfortunate all parents didn't get that memo.
I’m not a mother yet, but I will be one day and I pray to raise kids with someone that has the endearment, patience, knowledge and understanding that Devale has! Truly inspiring ⭐️
SAME!
Hands down what the world needs to see is this everyday on rewind. No abuse, no sarcasm, no handicap and letting them go free. I love it!
This is why boys need there father's. This whole conversation is blessings young boys everywhere. I love this teachable moment he took with his kid and filmed it for other little boys to see. Duvale you are the truth. I absolutely love that you gave him permission to have his feelings then showed him how to navigate and behave thru and towards them. Real men talk I loved every bit of this.
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This was pure love !! You're teaching him lessons that money can't buy. How many young men are dead or incarcerated because of their emotions and the lack of accountability? 🤦🏾♀️ Thank you for sharing.
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!! This is the sweetest thing and so beautiful. Blessings too you all.
"Cause someone gonna hit yo ass back" the bigger lesson 🤣 😂 Glad you are teaching him it is okay to feel all the feels and express emotions. And so glad you explained that no one is mad at him! So many kids internalize without ever asking or making sure that no one is blaming or upset with them. Great job Devale!
Bruh! I wish I had this as a kid. I didn’t hit nobody but I broke things. Punched holes in walls, kicked glass doors, and broke my hand punching a chalkboard I was so mad. I see now being allowed to cry and somebody helping me process my emotions would’ve been so nice. Man I cant wait to be a dad to my son. Thanks for the inspiration.
THIS is the perfect example of why God's will for our lives is always PERFECT. Children are a gift of God; and He has gifted you all four precious sons, to whom you are charged with leading. Everything you said to your son made perfect sense to him. He knows he is loved and does not want you to be mad at him. He was confident enough of your love to admit that "it hurts", and your lesson was "I know. Accountability hurts." Wow... Leadership meted out with a calm, genuine and impacting love. You demonstrated being both a Daddy and a Father in a few short moments. Bravo!
“You know why I’m smiling, because your being honest”
Blessings to you and your family 🙏🏽
When RoRo said it hurts! So powerful of his self awareness and emotions. I cried too. Keep up the good work Devale
This brought me to tears, you just don’t see this much. I commend the father that you are, and how you’re raising up your king!!! People need to see this, especially coming from a man to his son! Amen to this!
This right here! The absolute best when father’s are raising sons to be men. If I had a hat on, I would tip it to you, Devale. You and Khadeen both. Blessings to you and your family. I just live this!!!
Omg I needed this as a parent. Your patients and tone is everything. I get so frustrated when my daughters start crying and accusing me of being angry when I’m just trying to discipline them. I never thought to stop and help them understand their feelings. Some times i forget to let my kids be kids and make mistakes. I expect for them to be perfect. Thanks 🙏🏾
My son is going thru the samething. He is 12yrs old also with ADHD. We are working on his emotions. He will get so upset to the point of slamming things. I try so hard to calm him down to only makes things worst by yelling at him. Which I was brought into as a child. Yelling do not help none. I need Devale's patience & tone.
I'm there with you
Im not even a parent yet God willing and I resonate with this statement. I used to think my grandma was the meanest woman alive but it was her discipline that makes me strive to be a virtuous woman as best I can be
Me too, with my 6yo. This was good💯
A straight eye opener for me and my son. My husband needs to watch this video
DeVale’s relationship with his son’s are priceless!
Oh my goodness. “ It just hurts.” He love his dad so much.
Roro is a daddy’s boy and he doesn’t like disappointing DeVale😉
Ok. Now I'm crying! Your willingness to share your family with the world and let us see a healthy, black family. Love this lesson!
You are a Good Father Family is everything yes yes Kids will Learn from Daddy I enjoyed the video God Bless Love it ❤️❤️❤️❤️😎
I love this. That is the way children should be spoken to.
Yes. I have 3 and people criticize me when I talk to mine like this. It's looked at in our community as babying or spoiling but every mistake a child makes doesn't warrant a spanking/whooping. A.k.a why most people from millennials on back have so called childhood trauma, misplaced emotions and for a lot of men being told to not show emotions sad or otherwise. This was a rant but your words said all this and more tho ☺️
@@Daviss0413 every behavior doesn't warrant a spanking sometimes a little talking to is probably all it takes.
Nothing but love a daddy and his son’s
Facts
Amen
Love this. There's some grown men and women who need this talk and the hug.
Yes 🙋🏾♀️
Now this is why Fatherhood is SOOOOOO important!!!
My grandfather used to cry, him showing his emotions was everything to me bro so when I cried he made me feel like my feelings was valid, miss u Pa Pa, imma teach my little ones the same thing 💯
Out here breaking generational trauma cycles. I love to see it! Hoping I can handle these situations so calmly with my sons in the future.
I want you to know that I worked many years in domestic violence at the felony level; and I have had beautiful little boys share with me that they have been thrown against walls, and pummeled like grown men by their fathers, for their mistakes.
Know that your example is important, needed, and deeply appreciated. May God's blessings continue to rest upon you and your entire family.
👏🏽”How are you going to know these things if I don’t teach you?” Best statement ever from a real Parent🙂🥺Our children NEEDS guidance and correction.Emotional Awareness is the number one asset to thrive in any setting. Bless your family 🙏🏾
Devale is a king maker for real. Like how wonderful of a father is he?! I can’t even. 🥺💙
Taught me a lot! Thank you!!!!! Pray my Suns be great in this lifetime!!! Pray I do my best to teach them!!! Thank you again💙🌞👑🌞👑🌞👑
Ro is a Virgo baby already being hard on himself. He is blessed to have the parents he has ✨🙏🏻
The Most High book tells us not to use Horoscope. He knows us and our future.
@@shoshanasadeh1266 🎯
Normally I would say somethings need to stay private. But I must say this was necessary for someone. I pray for your family as you’ll continue to raise this next generation with integrity, love and accountability. Way to be a great example for fathers everywhere 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️
Completely agree. This was a private moment but so important to see real men training their son's to be real men❤❤❤❤
Yes I so agree 100%... Bravo to Ellise
I initially felt conflicted about seeing Roro cry on camera, but I had to remember that this specific video is also part of the human experience and it’s ridiculous for us to expect TH-camrs to only show us the “good” or “happy” moments. I took this as a teaching moment for me and others who didn’t experience this type of discipline. Children can be taught with love.
Honestly I appreciate this video so much. As a single mom this is important to see. Until that special day where my kid had that help from a father, women like me can learn from this.
Everyone talking bout what he said which was great. But the level of calmness the ENTIRE time
🎯that part
I seriously hope every dad (me included) can catch the unspoken lessons here. Eye contact, accountability, sincerity, honest, blunt, but also trust, love, and much more attributes. Thank you AGAIN Devale for another example
@David Jones: I Agree....I Am A Black Woman(And Mother),Many Times Over(We In Our Own)Community(Do Not Uphold),The Wonderful Black Fathers That Do Exist....Too Tainted By The Ones Who Aren't Physically Or Emotionally Present!!!!, I Will Always Give Credit Where It Is Due(I Am Sure That)You Are One Of The Good Ones Yourself..
Keep Showing Up, It Makes A Difference😊, To You As Well Devale!!!!, Bless Up
@@sugarpie8137 yess Natasha! Thank for that compliment. One of the best feelings is being a Father
I love how this black man took the time to meet his son half way and speak to his heart. I Wish more Dads took the time to talk and explain instead of just hitting. Creating a safe place!!!!👏🏾
Mr. Ellis you're a blessed, beautiful example. You're saving lives Sir. Know that, for sure.
Lord, I'm over here crying. Thank you for teaching your son that it's OK to cry.
God, thank you for this family and please continue to protect them. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Devales developing princes into emotionally mature kings❤️. Whats even heartwarming is knowing that there's an entire tribe in the background helping to take care of Khadeen and Dakota. Love❤️y'all, Ellises!
Good father teaching them while they young 💕💪🏽👍🏼
What you did for your son in that moment will stay with him for the rest of his life. Loads of respect to you for being a EXCELLENT father and an example to your children.
telling him to relax so he could pace his breathing and come out of the emotion to hear you was top tier parenting 👏🏾👏🏾
Congratulations Ellis family on King #4you guys are amazing and beautiful. Much ❤️
Lord have mercy! I don't think it gets any better than this! 💜
Side note: "Uncle Dolow" needs to leave my baby alone!
What a VALUABLE lesson to teach Roro that so many adults didn't get. Talk about breaking cycles, I love to see it 🤎
Man if more parents did this we would have a better generation of adults and children. A lot of our emotions were dismissed when we growing up and we were just beat and hit on which in most cases were our parents own frustrations. This video is simply beautiful. Im proud of the way he allowed his son to express himself, told him where he was wrong and then showed him love. Job well done!
Devale is a PHENOMENAL dad! I even loved that he told him it was ok to cry! Such a beautiful blessed family
Devale is Kiaro's hero but Kiaro is my guaranteed smile.
"Accountability Hurts, its okay to Cry but its your emotions you have to control" These words will resignate with your children. You and your family are and continue to be a great example! Peace, love & blessings to you all.
If I’m being honest this made my inner child want to cry 😢 I wish I had this‼️ A beautiful display of how a real man teaches his son accountability! This was inspiring for me as a parent as well!