I was in a relationship with a guy who was having unrelenting standards /hypercriticalness. He had more Schemata active, but when he looked at his results, he said "I want to keep those, they are not a problem". I suffered a lot from this, because he was never satisfied with anything, last week my therapist said that he was a narcissist. He was putting pressure on others and felt angry if the other person was not meeting his unreasonable expectations. She said, many narcissist have the schema (she's a schema therapist by the way). I am healing now with the help of my therapist from all the pressure and unreasonable expectations and rage he put me through. Just three years were enough to crush my self- worth.
I would love to understand more about how this schema shows up in relationships. I’ve just realised how belittling, demanding and insensitive I am with my partner. I want more Joy and less constant hustle, but I’m not sure how to catch it and correct it before it ruins my relationship.
Excellent presentation. I would love to continue to follow your work
I seem to have all the modes. Overwhelming.
Thank you so much for this series
My pleasure!
I was in a relationship with a guy who was having unrelenting standards /hypercriticalness. He had more Schemata active, but when he looked at his results, he said "I want to keep those, they are not a problem".
I suffered a lot from this, because he was never satisfied with anything, last week my therapist said that he was a narcissist.
He was putting pressure on others and felt angry if the other person was not meeting his unreasonable expectations.
She said, many narcissist have the schema (she's a schema therapist by the way).
I am healing now with the help of my therapist from all the pressure and unreasonable expectations and rage he put me through. Just three years were enough to crush my self- worth.
Thank you
You're welcome!
Thanks, Ruth & Rita. This was very elucidating and straight to the point! 🧠🤝👏🏻
So interesting, thank you for your clarity.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you very much!!!!
Phenomenal, thank you
I would love to understand more about how this schema shows up in relationships. I’ve just realised how belittling, demanding and insensitive I am with my partner. I want more
Joy and less constant hustle, but I’m not sure how to catch it and correct it before it ruins my relationship.
Hi Angela,
We are hoping to provide more about schemas in relationships in the coming months - stay tuned!
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