Thanks for this David. I remember being younger and stating how I found all these types of girls attractive, and my sister used to laugh at me for doing it, and discourage me from doing it again, so now it's acceptable, cool. But a question though - lets say you approach a girl on a street, and you have this rapport with her. How do you bring up sex in conversation - obviously not on the pickup, obviously, but how do you bring the subject of sexual intent in it.
Wow. Completely busted here. My world view is the issue. Fuck me. Women can probably sense when we haven't worked through this. I've resorted to locking away all the desire I would have. I think that that feedback loop is a major contributor to my depression and why I've had a, death is preferable attitude. It's been broken so long, I dont know how to fix it. I'll level with you Doc, ever since I processed my spinal cord injury as just a fulfillment of my mental state, I've been looking for the nembutal pudding. I don't know where to go from here. I'm fucking leveled here.
I'm going to comment as a woman. Many of us don't like men that lead with their sexuality.or come in strong with obvious lust and limerance, sexual innuendos when you barely know them. Class, standards, values morals, and boundaries . An obvious cavalier pick up artist-:player that objectifies and flirts. That's creepy.and sleazy. A turn off. Most women don't trust a flirtatious man with a wandering eye, in a relationship either.. It's disrespectful and untrustworthy. We could always return to slapping men for behaving like a pig as it was commonly done years ago. However verbal rejections are effective. Men test women's boundaries and we're aware of this. A good compliment to give to women is I'm attracted to you, or I'm drawn to you" More subtle, however effective..Classy behavior is always in style. That's impressive and memorable. What we need is more men that have some civil comportment, decency, and know how to behave like a gentleman. A fine human being that makes a woman feel comfortable, at ease and safe. That's a quality man. A powerful man is healthy, mature and has self control. He treats women with respect. There is acting sexy, and being sexy ( confident) Which is more attractive?
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Thanks for this David. I remember being younger and stating how I found all these types of girls attractive, and my sister used to laugh at me for doing it, and discourage me from doing it again, so now it's acceptable, cool.
But a question though - lets say you approach a girl on a street, and you have this rapport with her. How do you bring up sex in conversation - obviously not on the pickup, obviously, but how do you bring the subject of sexual intent in it.
Wow. Completely busted here. My world view is the issue. Fuck me. Women can probably sense when we haven't worked through this. I've resorted to locking away all the desire I would have.
I think that that feedback loop is a major contributor to my depression and why I've had a, death is preferable attitude. It's been broken so long, I dont know how to fix it. I'll level with you Doc, ever since I processed my spinal cord injury as just a fulfillment of my mental state, I've been looking for the nembutal pudding. I don't know where to go from here. I'm fucking leveled here.
This is a good resource to get started on studying this area further: www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
I've seen that before. Some guys have in naturally and they are flirty and sexual with everyone and it feels light to everyone around
I'm going to comment as a woman. Many of us don't like men that lead with their sexuality.or come in strong with obvious lust and limerance, sexual innuendos when you barely know them.
Class, standards, values morals, and boundaries
.
An obvious cavalier pick up artist-:player that objectifies and flirts. That's creepy.and sleazy. A turn off.
Most women don't trust a flirtatious man with a wandering eye, in a relationship either.. It's disrespectful and untrustworthy.
We could always return to slapping men for behaving like a pig as it was commonly done years ago. However verbal rejections are effective.
Men test women's boundaries and we're aware of this.
A good compliment to give to women is I'm attracted to you, or I'm drawn to you"
More subtle, however effective..Classy behavior is always in style. That's impressive and memorable.
What we need is more men that have some civil comportment, decency, and know how to behave like a gentleman. A fine human being that makes a woman feel comfortable, at ease and safe. That's a quality man.
A powerful man is healthy, mature and has self control. He treats women with respect.
There is acting sexy, and being sexy ( confident)
Which is more attractive?
Pink guy off drugs