Hey spuds! Hope you like the video and it brings you a little bit of happenis 😜 I focused more on what to expect from the actual surgery, rather than results etc. because I’ve covered that kind of thing in other videos. Much love 💛
You are helping me through so much and I just want you to know this. I am a non-binary pal and I still haven’t come out To my parents But you and Noah have been giving me hope and something to look forward to when I’m older and can pay for top surgery. So thank you, a million times Thank You, so so much for being here for everyone and you are so amazing!
You're a great communicator. i had to giggle when you talked about thinking it would be easier to poop after bottom surgery. Plus your absolute joy after getting the catheter out and sitting on a cloud lol
As a cis female, I appreciate how informative your videos are. It helps me understand more about the trans community and perspectives that are different from what I know and experience. Thank you so much. 😁 Also hehe happenis. Peen humor.
Hey, I'm also a cis female, here to learn more about what trans perspectives are. I have a trans cousin, f to m, that's had top surgery (partially paid for because he had breast cancer, otherwise the good old US "healthcare industry" would have made him pay all of it!). He's been debating bottom surgery, so I wanted to learn more about what his decisions would entail.
I had a meta two years ago and agree with all of that. The pain at first was fucking horrible, pooping ugh, and the catheter was the worst thing on earth! I had the uretha lengthening, but it was still horrible. I also had an urinal infection because of it so it was even more painful. Honestly, that surgery was probably the hardest thing I have gone through in my life. I'm only 25, but I really dont think I will go through something as hard physically and mentally again. I just can't imagine it. However I do not regret it one bit and I am very happy with the results now (after having some complications some months later and getting it fixed). Just fair warning for people wanting the surgery. Be ready for it to be hard.
Cis female here and I’ve had 3 babies... your description of pooping after lower surgery reminded me very strongly of pooping after having a baby. No catheter, but the rest was the same. So awful! If Shaaba ever has a baby, you will be the most empathetic husband ever! Love this video and all you post. Thank you for the education and the humor! ❤️
This is an old video (and comment) but I’m reading comments to see if any other cis females related to postpartum pooping! “Waiting for it to fall” was spot on!
As a semi-out bi woman just starting to dip a toe into the LGBTQ community and embracing the entirety of my own identity, this channel has been the most educational, affirming, and friendly resource I've found so far! Also so so so much appreciation for all unisex merch!
After my hysterectomy (which didn't affect the outside bits at ALL), bowel movements were nearly impossible it was so painful. Like, when you're freshly missing organs right beside where your bowels exist and those bowels have to MOVE to push something out, it is a whole new hell that I was not at all prepared for. The pain meds were not nearly enough, besides the fact that they also make you more constipated. I feel like there has to be a better option.
@@philippaclarke2844 I feel that. I never got a catheter I didn't get an epidural for my birth but I needed 6 stitches and they hurt the most I think of the whole experience.
As a lady who has just had the opposite surgery, all of the above applies apart from the aubergine willy part. I'd say its more of a plum pudding sort of deal with the fanny.
Is it weird that few things frustrate me more than the fact that we can't all just trade??? Like, I have what you wanted (congrats btw!) and you had what I want and we should just be able to trade and call it a day. lol
As a writer that wants to include trans characters in my stuff, your videos are amazingly helpful on giving me a personal point of view on the technical stuff! Thank you for sharing your experience!
I love following your channel and your journey Jammie. As a cis (gay) man and HUGE supporter of my all my trans brothers and sisters your channel offers insight and education from a real, relatable perspective. You’re open, honest and so adorably likeable. You’re a beautiful human being, and so, so handsome. Ive shown your videos to acquaintances (definitely not people I’d consider friends, and sometimes just arseholes) who don’t believe that trans is a “real” thing, and you’ve changed their minds, because they cannot believe that you would ever have been assigned female at birth, they can only se you as a man. They’ve realised that it’s not about being “big, butch and manly” it’s about your soul, your essence and fundamentally being who you are. You’re changing lives, you’re changing attitudes, and most importantly I see so many trans kids comment on you videos that are so much stronger and braver because of you. You are a WONDERFUL human being. I wish you every happiness in the world, you deserve it, and you’re changing so many lives. Don’t ever stop Jammie, it’s people like you who change the world, and I love you for it. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤
@@vegaschick4eva590 Exactly. God made us trans and chose for this to be our journey, transition and all. It's all part of the plan, just like it was part of the plan for me to have Crohn's disease and undergo treatment for that too.
@@vegaschick4eva590 You obviously don't know what being trans is. News flash: being trans isn't the same thing as homosexuality. Two totally different things. Also, pretty sure God killed Sodom and Gomorrah because of the attempted rape. If a rape is occurring between two men, it's pretty messed up to fixate on the fact that it's two men rather than the fact that it's rape. Says something about your morals.
I am a trans woman who had basically the opposite surgery in November 2019, and had a revision a month ago, and oh my god, a lot of what you are saying here applies for our surgery as well, is so similar. The pain was the most awful thing in the world for me though. Legitimately the most painful thing I've ever been in in my life, after my first surgery. Thankfully, revision wasn't.
7:16 you said that you had to tape the catheter to yourself... while touching your nose. For a milisecond my brain was like "WTF! Why would you tape it there?!". Then I understood you were just scratching your nose haha
Greetings from Toronto! As a ciswoman of colour, your comments regarding bruising has lead me to wonder about people of African descent as we can tend to get keloids (raised scars). Just something I thought your trans viewers of colour looking into bottom surgery may want to talk to their doctor(s) about. Full disclosure: I clicked on your video because you look like David Tennant in the thumbnail. Tee hee. No matter - brilliant and informative video. It is a topic have wondered about (I'm a bi gal with trans people in my social circle). Anyways, many thanks for the info.
"I did extensive reasearch, I did much much reading, and went into it not knowing everything that was going to happen" Jammie, I thought you were going to talk about your experience? Why are you telling everyone about mine? I always appreciate the highly relateable content!
I'm so grateful I found you. You're not only entertaining, you're informative. I'm watching these vlogs to know what to expect for my son if he decides on these surgeries. Thank you, Jamie!
I find it interesting that I'm a transwoman yet I find your videos to be amazing and inspirational and can relate to a lot of what you talk about. I plan on having bottom surgery but I am still only about three months into estrogen and my doctor is still waiting to start me on t-blockers(newer research show delaying the t-blockers result in better breast development, apparently) so it still feels like it's so far away, yet I keep pushing each day and try to enjoy this weird early stage of my transition as much as I can. Just knowing that others have gone through exactly what I'm going through(transwomen as well as transmen) makes me feel hopeful for my own transition.
No it wasn’t TMI. I really admire your honesty and openness. I think any surgery down low will be rough. After my csection my vagina literally looked as if it’d been beaten with a baseball bat! 😳 all those multicolored bruises and lower than the incision at my pubic bone. Your so blessed to have your love by your side to support and soothe you. Some people don’t have any support. You’ve seriously got balls of steel NOT silicone man! You also seem so happy and comfortable in your skin. Good things!🤗😀❤️
Oh! And off topic, i just got my first binder! My friend ordered it for me, my family doesnt know, but i have it, and its amazing looking in the mirror and being slightly less repulsed by what i see in the mirror
@@buffmusicman Aw, congrats! Hope you feel alot better with the binder! But trust me, I know that telling your parents is a scary thing, but I believe in you! Just tell your parents when your ready. Have a great day/night!
Congrats!!! My friend is getting me one for christmas and im getting my hair cut and potentially coming out to my mom tomorrow!!! Super proud of you and good luck!!!
I heard a debate recently about how a bunch of people apparently think that if people are allowed to transition “too easily” then a bunch of men will transition to become female, so that they will win at professional sports. They should see your videos. Anyways...I’m glad your new happenis didn’t fall off when you pooped. Much love.
@@lyla0775 yeah but what if they were normally trans (male to female) and wanted to do sports professionally. What would you say to that? (Just curious)
Gella Yxs I don’t think it would necessarily be a problem because many cisgender women take testosterone for sports so there’s always going to be some level of variability
Awhile back, I watched a documentary about transgender people, which included information about gender affirming surgeries. It was so interesting, and really neat!!! That was like 2004/5, on an airplane of all places. Transgender was still a fresh concept to me, but I went into it with no biases. It was really beautiful because it’s like we are all equal, and made of the same bits, so why not support people in their process? I really love that people can transition - we have come so far 💜💜💜
I had a cyst on my tailbone as a teenager. I was told I would have a tiny scar with a couple stitches. I woke up from surgery and I felt like I was hit by a car. It turned out I have several cysts from the tip of the tailbone to my mid back. Since its tissue the xray didnt see it and only one actually felt like an external lump. I had in excess of 100 stitches and a drain. At the hospital I was at they had never seen this. They kept parading in interns and nurses to look at it. I had to be on my belly for a couple days with a pillow under my groin. I was on iv fluids only for 3 days post OP. There were times a dr would come in with a colleague and compliment on how nicely it was stitched. Meanwhile I had scarring so bad and the tube made it bump up like a ridge. It was so awful. I was getting close to my 16th birthday and it impacted my self esteem greatly. Back with this was done teens had way less options , the parents usually made the choices. Maybe it wouldn't have made a difference but if for sure was the worse thing I'd dealt with.
@@kaitenvonbitchguru3600 it wasnt the most fun thing ever lol. I'm now in my mid 40s and it is less of a concern to me. It did cause some issues later is life due to scar tissue but I manage 😁 thank you for being so kind ❤
You are so awesome! I can only imagine how much your info has or will help someone during their transition. You are open, honest and comical. Yet retain enough seriousness appropriate to talking about a serious medical proceedure. Just made my day to see a new Jammidodger video pop up!😊 Please give the lovely Shaaba a big warm hug from me and offer her my condolences on the loss of her Nana. Much Love, from Ontario, Canada 🍁...Keli 💖
It’s called Bengan in most Indian languages including Bengali, Hindi, Punjabi, Marwadi and several others. But yeah in the Indian subcontinent it would be called Bengan for the most part. It’s called aubergine in the UK where I grew up.
Kind of reminds me of things you didn’t get told about child birth. When you described all these people scrutinizing your perineal and pubic areas that’s like when you have a baby. Only of course it’s a very different overall outcome for sure. I found I was more concerned about my babies than my own well-being after both. The hospital wouldn’t let me go home until I peed and pooped and both were scary after delivering my first baby. My second baby was an emergency c section. It wasn’t as bad really as a normal delivery like with my first child. Then of course you have a very tiny mini human to learn to take care of! Considering the nature of your reports you’ve done a nice job without getting too graphic here. Wishing you good luck with your new you!
Jammi, as a Parent I am glad to hear your happy. Thanks for sharing, it gives others non trans insight into your mindset and what you went through. God Bless
I know this is sorta unrelated. But! I just came out as transgender to my parents. I'm blessed with very accepting parents. Next is my siblings 😅. Anyways, I wanted to say thank you, Jammi you've been such a really cool person to watch as I figured myself out.
Right on. I experienced everything except the extensive bruising. After 7 days in the hospital (ALT phallo) I couldn't get the pain meds for 5 [FIVE] days. 6 weeks of physical therapy, and as for pooing, It was as close to giving birth as I'll ever get. It was 35 minutes of excruciating pain. This began an almost 3 month cycle of painful BMs which caused a 1 inch tear (terribly painful) and inflammation of the hemorrhoids tissue which made things worse. It felt like pooping razor blades. I was on stool softeners the whole time. I decided to do a 7 day fast so as to poop as little and few times as possible. Once the tear healed, I was able to finally apply hemorrhoid cream and it eventually got back to normal. Other than a small common fistula that healed in only a few weeks, no complications occurred. Thank heavens!!!!
I'm following your channel for over a year now and one of my friend's children came out lately. So I feel better prepared to understand her and her journey as a transwoman now and I also told her parents about your channel. You are such an inspiration, Jamie, thank you!
I really don't mean to be disrespectful or cause anyone discomfort, but it's incredible to me how much the experience of medically transitioning sounds like my pregnancy and birth. Everything about changing bodies, not recognizing yourself or knowing how to feel about yourself, the incredible invasions of privacy... I'm still recovering from my pregnancy and cesarean, but it sounds like a finished and healed surgical process is exactly as wonderful and relieving as giving birth and getting my body back, plus a wonderful new tiny human, was for me. My sister is starting her medical transition this year and I'm so excited for her to feel comfortable and happy as she progresses 💖
I really have to applaud you for the straight goods delivered open and honest. It's a little sad that people can't get this information from their doctors or pamphlets or medical info somehow... but I am going to say a great big "thank you" from everyone in the world for being brave enough to put this out there. How else are people to know?
Thanks for being so open about things. As a person who won't ever have that surgery and would never be forward enough to ask a trans person of my acquaintance, this has really satisfied my curiosity. You are doing a public service I swear.
I know this video is at least a year old now, but I truly just want to say thank you, Jammi. So many people are so afraid to speak on these facts & information, & I 3,000% understand why. It’s so intimate, personal, something people struggle w/ for years, sometimes their entire lives, & since not everybody is intelligent enough or caring enough to be understanding & *mature*, it can be very scary. But I can’t thank you enough for all of your videos. I love you & your lovely lady so much & appreciate the information you give. It not only helps me personally, but it allows me to have the CORRECT information, just in case I ever need to help somebody feel more comfortable & understand. ❤️ I also feel more comfortable myself too learning all of this b/c ever since I was able to talk I always asked my mom when I was going to be a boy. & I truly still feel this way to this day. I don’t think I will personally go through a transition, but I have always been curious about going through it, & if I EVER WANT to go through w/ a transition, your videos help me be more comfortable exploring that thought. Sometimes I even puts me at peace a little bit w/ just the way I am now. Just so you know, either way, you help me so much & I can’t express my appreciation enough. Keep being you sweetie. You’re an amazing soul. ❤️
You are so good at explaining with out any kind of feeling of any kind of useless false embarrassment while still being funny and open about it, you sharing is real and to the point. You always make me feel better about people. Sympathy to Shaaba on her loss of someone she loved deeply it is hard but you will carry on as you always do, he was loved and he knew that very well
I used to date a nurse who attended trans people at our university trans ambulatory (sorry if thats not the correct translation, it's a thing in Brazil) and we went to the first Brazilian WPATH event - World Professional Association for Transgender Health. We set down for the lectures about surgeries, and they gave every information possible about the procedure, showed pictures of every step and everything. But said nothing about anything you and others say in these videos. Keep up the good job :)
Thank you, I know this is an old video but seriously thank you people don’t explain openly frequently enough to really glean an understanding of what the types of bottom surgery even are let alone the realities of recovery!
Jamie, 1. every time I have a catheter, even if I am sedated, I remove it from my peehole. 2. As a cis man, I have had left testicle removal. So I understand the bruising in that area. 3. Thank you for doing this video for my trans men friends. 4. Happy holidays.
omg...I had to have a hysterectomy some years back and when you said the part about it feeling like everything was going to fall out or off of you when going to the bathroom...I felt that...I never thought that anyone else would understand that...
I’m not personally going through anything like this, but I love how candid you are. I started watching out of interest and wanting to be more informed but I subscribed because of you. Always click when you post, no matter what you post about 😁
I was the same! Honestly, no idea how I went through with it - but I pushed past the fear and it was worth it (I realise it's easier said than done though).
If you don’t mind blood and stuff, I had to have knee surgery and I found it super helpful to go online and watch an educational type video of a DR showing and explaining each step of the surgery. It took away a lot of my anxiety knowing exactly what was going to be happening to me and my body.
@@OK-hi5ym I'll have to check that out! Thank you. I just haven't had any kind of surgery before so I'm super nervous. It would be nice to know what will be going on!
@@matthews8838 Hey, I have heart surgery before and that's something I am used to - I am very nervous about top and lower surgery though. I will just say that honestly, it is normal to feel frightened, anxious and afraid because it is such an abnormal situation but the doctors are really skilled and can really look after you. It is almost a case of psyching yourself up and reminding yourself you're going to be okay. Do pros and cons too and look at whether the cons of surgery are short term things like fear, discomfort and pain and whether the pros are long term things such as feeling better in yourself. It may not help but I found it helped me with rationalising all my heart operations.
I had first stage RFF phalloplasty with Mr Rubin in London 5 weeks ago, I’ve been documenting on my Instagram (@alexharker) because honestly it was SO difficult to find info on lower surgery in the UK and I couldn’t find anyone who had Rubin as their surgeon until a few days before surgery. There is so much that nobody talks about, like the burning pain in your groin from the nerve hook up or how difficult it is to wear pants 😅 It’s really important to get this information out there!
This is really important information for people. I'm a cis-gendered gay man, but warmest wishes to you for your journey and everyone following this difficult path. Love and solidarity.
I’m lookin into surgeries at this point for that area. Im on a list for top surgery but haven’t decided on lower... Honestly this helped me a little. I like to know alllll the details before going in. So I know I’m not DYING.
Omg!! Because of ur channel I’m learning so much about my up coming journey! I was so scared but u have let us know about those questions that are floating around our heads. Thank you so much hun!
Not trans myself (gay male here). I found your recounting of some aspects of your experience "uncomfortable" to conceptualize in my minds eye, but man(!) do I respect what you have gone through to create synergy between your body and your soul! Props dude! Through this post, you have done a great service to all of those who now find themselves facing similar realities. Kudos! I don't typically watch trans content of TH-cam, (no relation to my life experiences and struggles), but I very much enjoyed your contribution to the self-identity conversation. May your journey's end be even more fulfilling than you ever imagined en route.
Sounds like some of the same things that happen after giving birth.🤯 You're so brave for sharing all this. Thanks for giving us all more common ground.
I don't pretend to know anything about transitioning, and I know this comment is late, but I have to say I admire your determination and understanding for knowing who you are, and for your courage in making it happen. I hope you are really happy now, and also wish you a lifetime of joy.
You are so lovely. Thank you for this documentation of your transition. It is so helpful for people to see your progress! I’m glad you have moved passed the pain and still want to help people into their transition. It is so beautiful ❤️
I’ve literally put off my septoplasty/rhino for 20+ years because I’m scared of the pain and recovery...I can’t even begin to imagine what gender reassignment surgery entails. Kudos. You’ve got BALLS 😊
The pain you described from bottom surgery brought back memories of 2nd degree tearing after delivering a 10lb baby. For me, it was as bad as labour that lasted weeks. Oh the pooping on the toilet nightmare afterwards! Feeling like everything was going to fall off!
I understand you may feel a bit embarrassed or that it’s TMI, but as a CIS woman I appreciate it very much. These are the things that a lot of us are interested in most people do not talk about. Thank you for sharing! Also, Having to do number two after having a baby is a similar feeling. Especially if you have a episiotomy. You know you need to go but you just don’t want to bear down because you know it’s going to hurt like hell!
I'm not trans, but I have a suggestion for the toilet. There is a thing that goes over your toilet and raises the seat so you don't have to bend so much. I used one when I had knee surgery and it was so helpful!
I was going to make a similar point: free-standing toilet frames are available, usually for people with mobility issues, but could be helpful post-op for this procedure. You can buy them from mobility appliance providers or Amazon / Argos / Age Care UK (in the UK obvs). In the UK you *might* also be able to borrow one from social care services appliance providers via your local authority.
@Afrax Cosoble What do you consider "a man" or "a woman?" If you look at the science, those terms really aren't as clear as you seem to believe they are.
@Afrax Cosoble Nice deflection, but you didn't answer my question. No surprise, really... It's scary to think that maybe you don't know everything, that you could be wrong.
@Afrax Cosoble Common sense... Again I think you should look into things beyond "common sense" and what you "just know." You would be surprised by just to how many species don't rely on "male and female" for reproduction. Or you can bury your head in the sand, plug your ears, and keep on thinking you're right regardless of the truth.
@Afrax Cosoble You don't seem interested in hearing anything that doesn't fit your narrative. You don't even seem to have read my comments. You seem more interested in shouting your beliefs. I'm not needed for that.
I have to say, I learn so much from your videos and I'm grateful for your candid truths about your experience. Also, MAD PROPS for what you've endured, you are one total BAMF, and I have so much respect and appreciation for anyone who commits to this process. I cannot imagine going through all of this pain and long months of recovery to get to where you are. Also, you're gorj. Totes gorj.
i just want to say thanks jamie to you for sharing these things with us on the internet. it’s good that you can be so open and i find it both entertaining from your personality and informative as well :)
Have you ever given thought of offering informal counseling for all the gritty stuff Ike this the medical team just don’t think to tell someone. I wish someone had mentioned that it hurts to pee after childbirth ! It’s the little details like you are sharing that make such a difference. You are really good at explaining a very extensive, intensive experience.
I saw this in my feed and even though I’m not trans, one of my closest friends is so I decided to watch it so that if/when he did get said surgery I’d be able to support him better, and I got a lot more TMI than I expected, but it was a very good an informational video!
Being fairly early into my transition journey I can now 100% say I am not going to get lower surgery. Too much anxiety, I can't tolerate pain either. This entire process is scary :(
Hello Jammi! Your aubergine story made me think of 2 things ... 1) a friend had exaggerated with a cockring and got a similar result ... horrible! 2) A week ago I went to dinner in Japanese restaurant (2 japanese women cook) and I discovered their "Déngaku" = Aubergine with caramelized miso sauce. It's a delight ! yet aubergines are not what I prefer. There is no relationship between these 2 memories! 😂 Only the color ! Other than that, congratulations for what you do! You simply explain complex things and thoughts and it's useful for everyone (Cis or trans). Hugs 😘
Jammi, you are so entertaining to watch and I very rarely subscribe to youtube channels but I just need to keep watching you and your lovely lady. You are an inspirational human. I have been blessed to have been born into a body I identify with with I am hugely compassionate towards anyone who feels differently. Thankyou for your content and educating the world!
sounds a lot like having an episiotomy after having a baby! Good thing I have had that experience witch causes me not to have bottom surgery....also the part of being exposed to the entire world (it seams) I'm defiantly not a fan.......im much to old and I think a nice prosthetic sounds so much less painful ....not as personal or real but cheaper, NO pain, and NO peaking!!! love your videos !
After I had my episiotomy and haematoma behind the stitches,, I had everyone and his dog coming up to "have a quick look down below!" I got so sick of it i told the midwife tourists were banned. The consultant turned up and I said I said he could look so long as he then came to talk to me - ie via my face!!
I'm not trans, but as a person born with spina bifida who also had a different kind of lower surgery in Feb. 2014 (infection in tail bone) and then had to have another type of catheter for a few weeks, I can confirm that post-surgery catheters are indeed THE WORST THING IN EXISTENCE..
Hi Jammie,I am gay man, maybe for this circumstances I should say I am a cis-gay man, or I was born with my penis. And I alway liked being a man, the only difference is that sexually I only like man and liked a lot. I always had a tremendous fascination for all the trans people. I think you guys are born naturally more intelligent and adorable than the rest of us. I don’t know any trans, and I miss it, alway think about all the incredible process that trans and their families have to go thru, so I am very happy I found your channel. I am extremely impressed with you, your look, your personality , your skills to communicate and attract people. You are also very secure of what you want, very determined to get it and very courages to do it, is very admirable. You gave me so many precious information about being a trans, what just confirmed what I thought before: you guys are very, very special human beings.i would like to know more about your education and professional plans , you would be the psychologist of my dreams. Well to finish , let me tell you: as a man with a penis , I feel just like you : is not easy to have and managed it down there. Just like you said , it is there , is something extra, and we can feel in any movement, getting comfortable in the car alway will require some adjustments , alway thought that for the lady’s have to be so much easier . So, we’ll come to the club, be proud and enjoy your “new extra” I love to have my and to play with more than one when I am with my husband. Here goes all my best wishes, love and a big 👋 hello to your wife, only another very noble and lovely person can give the love and support she is giving you😘🥰😍
Well ... this is just excellent. You are delightful! I love your positive attitude. I love your honesty. You are so brave to come forward and share this valuable and sensitive information about your own experience. I can well imagine that you are helping so many people by demystifying this procedure. I am a gay man. I am not transitioning. But, I really appreciate knowing more about what my trans brothers and sisters go through. Thank you. I admire anyone who lives in their own truth like that. Best wishes.
What you're describing sounds just like how I felt after giving birth. Everyone looking at my nether-region. Stitches holding things together. Pooping feeling fearful things will fall out. Pain sitting, squatting, peeing. Thank you for sharing your story xx
Allow me some forgiveable sexism to say "Delicate?!? Those things have entire infants come out of them, they're tough as leather." and - as you cheerfully describe hip-to-hip bruising, in your ironic fun 'but it's okay!' tone, I do think "what amab could be this baddass about such things??" You're a joy and gift. Thank you so much, you can't ever give 'tmi' when- yes, What to expect, that they DON'T tell you, in glowing detail is what so many of us are here for! You're a joy and gift to the community and allies.
It's definitely very individual! My experiences were quite different for a lot of it: Pain really wasn't too bad, second stage was the least painful surgery I've ever had Getting on the toilet and into a sitting position was fine. Shitting was terrifying, but wasn't as bad as I'd feared it would be. I didn't have much bruising other than in my scrotum, and it didn't hurt, just looked scary. Catheters were really variable, first stage was horrible, second stage wasn't bad at all.
Hey spuds! Hope you like the video and it brings you a little bit of happenis 😜
I focused more on what to expect from the actual surgery, rather than results etc. because I’ve covered that kind of thing in other videos.
Much love 💛
The aubergine emoji is entirely appropriate after bottom surgery.
You are helping me through so much and I just want you to know this.
I am a non-binary pal and I still haven’t come out To my parents
But you and Noah have been giving me hope and something to look forward to when I’m older and can pay for top surgery.
So thank you, a million times Thank You, so so much for being here for everyone and you are so amazing!
You're a great communicator. i had to giggle when you talked about thinking it would be easier to poop after bottom surgery. Plus your absolute joy after getting the catheter out and sitting on a cloud lol
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@Robin Ramsdell ~it's kinda cute
Jammie is like the trans dad of the lgbt community and i love it
I accept this title
Its facts
This is very true
My favorite dad ofc
Best comment, and so true. Trans icon and true, real time educator. We Stan hard. Xx
As a cis female, I appreciate how informative your videos are. It helps me understand more about the trans community and perspectives that are different from what I know and experience. Thank you so much. 😁
Also hehe happenis. Peen humor.
Thank you for being a truly amazing ally!!! ❤️
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Really great you do this! More people should learn about this stuff to become more understanding
You're precious!
Hey, I'm also a cis female, here to learn more about what trans perspectives are. I have a trans cousin, f to m, that's had top surgery (partially paid for because he had breast cancer, otherwise the good old US "healthcare industry" would have made him pay all of it!). He's been debating bottom surgery, so I wanted to learn more about what his decisions would entail.
I had a meta two years ago and agree with all of that. The pain at first was fucking horrible, pooping ugh, and the catheter was the worst thing on earth! I had the uretha lengthening, but it was still horrible. I also had an urinal infection because of it so it was even more painful. Honestly, that surgery was probably the hardest thing I have gone through in my life. I'm only 25, but I really dont think I will go through something as hard physically and mentally again. I just can't imagine it. However I do not regret it one bit and I am very happy with the results now (after having some complications some months later and getting it fixed). Just fair warning for people wanting the surgery. Be ready for it to be hard.
Thanks for sharing! Sorry you had a rough recovery, but glad you also find it worth it!
When he said: “poop hit the fan” for some reason I thought that was an actual problem.....
Same!!!
LOL! Me too.
Same😂
Same here! I mean, we weren't far off. 😂😂
Same 🤣
Cis female here and I’ve had 3 babies... your description of pooping after lower surgery reminded me very strongly of pooping after having a baby. No catheter, but the rest was the same. So awful! If Shaaba ever has a baby, you will be the most empathetic husband ever! Love this video and all you post. Thank you for the education and the humor! ❤️
This is an old video (and comment) but I’m reading comments to see if any other cis females related to postpartum pooping! “Waiting for it to fall” was spot on!
Jamie: "It's weird, it hurts, it's uncomfortable, it takes very long"
Me: "I see. Can I has?"
Have*
@@eramsey6028 No, look at the name. Felix is a cat.
Ikr
As a semi-out bi woman just starting to dip a toe into the LGBTQ community and embracing the entirety of my own identity, this channel has been the most educational, affirming, and friendly resource I've found so far! Also so so so much appreciation for all unisex merch!
I will never see the word “happiness” again after hearing Jamie say “hap-penis”... 😂
After my hysterectomy (which didn't affect the outside bits at ALL), bowel movements were nearly impossible it was so painful. Like, when you're freshly missing organs right beside where your bowels exist and those bowels have to MOVE to push something out, it is a whole new hell that I was not at all prepared for. The pain meds were not nearly enough, besides the fact that they also make you more constipated. I feel like there has to be a better option.
@Mia Smith Mind you, this was merely post-op, not post-healing.
@Mia Smith Oh yeah, I'm fine now. It's great.
There is a better option. Just not having a hysterectomy.
@@FronteirWolf Be gone, opinion not asked for
The way you talk openly about things most people are embarrassed of even thinking about.. You are such an amazing, beautiful person inside out.
Pooping after a baby feels the same. Feels like everything will fall out.
That first trip to the loo after stitches... Ooof! Terror! Also, catheters, not fun.
@@philippaclarke2844 after I had my first kid I opted not to have stitches (I'm terrified of needles), and I immediately regretted it.
Ashley Perry I thought the same. After a c section you have to position yourself so carefully. I was scared to strain incase my stitches exploded!
@@philippaclarke2844 I feel that. I never got a catheter I didn't get an epidural for my birth but I needed 6 stitches and they hurt the most I think of the whole experience.
@@dinalou8827 I honest waited until I had to go so bad that it happened pretty naturally without any push it was the only way I could 😂
As a lady who has just had the opposite surgery, all of the above applies apart from the aubergine willy part. I'd say its more of a plum pudding sort of deal with the fanny.
Wooo! Good luck on your recovery! Wishing you all the best :)
-I woulda traded with ya darling!-
I love your creative use of words. Congrats!
Is it weird that few things frustrate me more than the fact that we can't all just trade??? Like, I have what you wanted (congrats btw!) and you had what I want and we should just be able to trade and call it a day. lol
I take it you're not American. Fanny is something else over here
(Americans, Aubergine=Eggplant)
Thanks, River, I'd no clue! 😄
ohh! that makes sense
Thanks!! I had no clue and didn’t even know how to start spelling it to google 🤣
Eggplant emoji 🍆 = penis
My husband was super confused. I had to explain it to him as well.
As a writer that wants to include trans characters in my stuff, your videos are amazingly helpful on giving me a personal point of view on the technical stuff! Thank you for sharing your experience!
thank you :)
For Trans Male, it’s all about Pursuit of Happenis!
hahahaha
Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happenis
Life, liberT, and the pursuit of Happenis
I love following your channel and your journey Jammie. As a cis (gay) man and HUGE supporter of my all my trans brothers and sisters your channel offers insight and education from a real, relatable perspective. You’re open, honest and so adorably likeable. You’re a beautiful human being, and so, so handsome.
Ive shown your videos to acquaintances (definitely not people I’d consider friends, and sometimes just arseholes) who don’t believe that trans is a “real” thing, and you’ve changed their minds, because they cannot believe that you would ever have been assigned female at birth, they can only se you as a man. They’ve realised that it’s not about being “big, butch and manly” it’s about your soul, your essence and fundamentally being who you are.
You’re changing lives, you’re changing attitudes, and most importantly I see so many trans kids comment on you videos that are so much stronger and braver because of you.
You are a WONDERFUL human being. I wish you every happiness in the world, you deserve it, and you’re changing so many lives.
Don’t ever stop Jammie, it’s people like you who change the world, and I love you for it. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤
Allister Flannigan GOD DOESNT MAKE MISTAKES
@@vegaschick4eva590 Exactly. God made us trans and chose for this to be our journey, transition and all. It's all part of the plan, just like it was part of the plan for me to have Crohn's disease and undergo treatment for that too.
S Mudge u obviously don’t know the BIBLE . Why did GOD DESTROY Solomon & Gomorrah .
@@vegaschick4eva590 You obviously don't know what being trans is. News flash: being trans isn't the same thing as homosexuality. Two totally different things. Also, pretty sure God killed Sodom and Gomorrah because of the attempted rape. If a rape is occurring between two men, it's pretty messed up to fixate on the fact that it's two men rather than the fact that it's rape. Says something about your morals.
@@vegaschick4eva590 one he did for sure. You.
When I look at you I see a softer bearded David Tennant???
Lmfao you're right.
It's his expressions!
Nailed it! I was thinking he looks like someone but couldn't find the name!
I'm always thinking that, too!
MangoesAndGrapes YES!!! But more handsome tho than David Tennant 😘
I am a trans woman who had basically the opposite surgery in November 2019, and had a revision a month ago, and oh my god, a lot of what you are saying here applies for our surgery as well, is so similar.
The pain was the most awful thing in the world for me though. Legitimately the most painful thing I've ever been in in my life, after my first surgery. Thankfully, revision wasn't.
7:16 you said that you had to tape the catheter to yourself... while touching your nose. For a milisecond my brain was like "WTF! Why would you tape it there?!". Then I understood you were just scratching your nose haha
Hahaha, that would have been a look
Same
ValeryVal SAME!
Greetings from Toronto! As a ciswoman of colour, your comments regarding bruising has lead me to wonder about people of African descent as we can tend to get keloids (raised scars). Just something I thought your trans viewers of colour looking into bottom surgery may want to talk to their doctor(s) about.
Full disclosure: I clicked on your video because you look like David Tennant in the thumbnail. Tee hee. No matter - brilliant and informative video. It is a topic have wondered about (I'm a bi gal with trans people in my social circle).
Anyways, many thanks for the info.
"I did extensive reasearch, I did much much reading, and went into it not knowing everything that was going to happen"
Jammie, I thought you were going to talk about your experience? Why are you telling everyone about mine?
I always appreciate the highly relateable content!
Man, your authenticity and your sense of humour are a gift to all mankind! Thanks a lot, u make us all better humans!
I'm so grateful I found you. You're not only entertaining, you're informative. I'm watching these vlogs to know what to expect for my son if he decides on these surgeries. Thank you, Jamie!
I find it interesting that I'm a transwoman yet I find your videos to be amazing and inspirational and can relate to a lot of what you talk about. I plan on having bottom surgery but I am still only about three months into estrogen and my doctor is still waiting to start me on t-blockers(newer research show delaying the t-blockers result in better breast development, apparently) so it still feels like it's so far away, yet I keep pushing each day and try to enjoy this weird early stage of my transition as much as I can. Just knowing that others have gone through exactly what I'm going through(transwomen as well as transmen) makes me feel hopeful for my own transition.
Update? :o
No it wasn’t TMI. I really admire your honesty and openness. I think any surgery down low will be rough. After my csection my vagina literally looked as if it’d been beaten with a baseball bat! 😳 all those multicolored bruises and lower than the incision at my pubic bone. Your so blessed to have your love by your side to support and soothe you. Some people don’t have any support. You’ve seriously got balls of steel NOT silicone man! You also seem so happy and comfortable in your skin. Good things!🤗😀❤️
I love trans youtubers, sharing information we need that we all need!!!
Jamie, you’re the best!!!
Oh! And off topic, i just got my first binder! My friend ordered it for me, my family doesnt know, but i have it, and its amazing looking in the mirror and being slightly less repulsed by what i see in the mirror
@@buffmusicman Aw, congrats! Hope you feel alot better with the binder! But trust me, I know that telling your parents is a scary thing, but I believe in you! Just tell your parents when your ready. Have a great day/night!
@@buffmusicman stay safe
Congrats!!! My friend is getting me one for christmas and im getting my hair cut and potentially coming out to my mom tomorrow!!! Super proud of you and good luck!!!
@twistedApocynacae so happy for you dude!
I heard a debate recently about how a bunch of people apparently think that if people are allowed to transition “too easily” then a bunch of men will transition to become female, so that they will win at professional sports. They should see your videos.
Anyways...I’m glad your new happenis didn’t fall off when you pooped.
Much love.
Magicme79 god, I fucking hate people who think like this. Jeez, get a brain
lyla 07 I know, right? It’ll probably be a reality show, eventually.
@@lyla0775 yeah but what if they were normally trans (male to female) and wanted to do sports professionally. What would you say to that? (Just curious)
Gella Yxs I don’t think it would necessarily be a problem because many cisgender women take testosterone for sports so there’s always going to be some level of variability
Also I think it’s really funny that transphobia think no penis=female. Like no, now you just don’t have a dick.
“Happenis!”
Best thing ever!
As a cis female I have no why this ended up on my feed, but I'm glad I watched. It never hurts to learn and you are so adorably animated.
Months of discomfort for a life of happenis. I'm happy with (for) you it went so well.
I like the pun lol
It sounds like pooping after bottom surgery is as terrifying as pooping after giving birth 😂.
100% thinking the same thing lol!
My first thought
*Hap-penis*
webba03 i snorted
Man, I need me some hap-penis in my life...
The comment I was searching for! :D
Hap-penis, reminds of a king of the hill episode when Peggy hill was a substitute teacher for sex education
Bunkyman that would be a good episode
Awhile back, I watched a documentary about transgender people, which included information about gender affirming surgeries. It was so interesting, and really neat!!! That was like 2004/5, on an airplane of all places. Transgender was still a fresh concept to me, but I went into it with no biases. It was really beautiful because it’s like we are all equal, and made of the same bits, so why not support people in their process? I really love that people can transition - we have come so far 💜💜💜
Thanks for this information man!! Not many trans guys talk about this which I understand but.. It is really important. I'm happy to see you happy😄
I had a cyst on my tailbone as a teenager. I was told I would have a tiny scar with a couple stitches. I woke up from surgery and I felt like I was hit by a car. It turned out I have several cysts from the tip of the tailbone to my mid back. Since its tissue the xray didnt see it and only one actually felt like an external lump. I had in excess of 100 stitches and a drain. At the hospital I was at they had never seen this. They kept parading in interns and nurses to look at it. I had to be on my belly for a couple days with a pillow under my groin. I was on iv fluids only for 3 days post OP. There were times a dr would come in with a colleague and compliment on how nicely it was stitched. Meanwhile I had scarring so bad and the tube made it bump up like a ridge. It was so awful. I was getting close to my 16th birthday and it impacted my self esteem greatly. Back with this was done teens had way less options , the parents usually made the choices. Maybe it wouldn't have made a difference but if for sure was the worse thing I'd dealt with.
Laura Coleman that sounds quite horrible. Hope you are doing fine now ❤️
@@kaitenvonbitchguru3600 it wasnt the most fun thing ever lol. I'm now in my mid 40s and it is less of a concern to me. It did cause some issues later is life due to scar tissue but I manage 😁 thank you for being so kind ❤
You are so awesome! I can only imagine how much your info has or will help someone during their transition.
You are open, honest and comical. Yet retain enough seriousness appropriate to talking about a serious medical proceedure.
Just made my day to see a new Jammidodger video pop up!😊
Please give the lovely Shaaba a big warm hug from me and offer her my condolences on the loss of her Nana.
Much Love, from Ontario, Canada 🍁...Keli 💖
TIL that 🍆 is “aubergine” in UK English (like French!) rather than “eggplant” in the US. Learn something new every day 😃
Afaik it's aubergine almost everywhere
It's "brinjal" in Southeast Asia!
What's Brinjal? I am from bangladesh.. Here eggplant is called brinjal (in english) and in our language its বেগুন / Begun.
It’s aubergine in the South of the U.S. too. No one in the south that I know says eggplant...
It’s called Bengan in most Indian languages including Bengali, Hindi, Punjabi, Marwadi and several others. But yeah in the Indian subcontinent it would be called Bengan for the most part. It’s called aubergine in the UK where I grew up.
Kind of reminds me of things you didn’t get told about child birth. When you described all these people scrutinizing your perineal and pubic areas that’s like when you have a baby. Only of course it’s a very different overall outcome for sure. I found I was more concerned about my babies than my own well-being after both.
The hospital wouldn’t let me go home until I peed and pooped and both were scary after delivering my first baby. My second baby was an emergency c section. It wasn’t as bad really as a normal delivery like with my first child. Then of course you have a very tiny mini human to learn to take care of!
Considering the nature of your reports you’ve done a nice job without getting too graphic here. Wishing you good luck with your new you!
Jammi, as a Parent I am glad to hear your happy. Thanks for sharing, it gives others non trans insight into your mindset and what you went through. God Bless
I know this is sorta unrelated. But! I just came out as transgender to my parents. I'm blessed with very accepting parents. Next is my siblings 😅. Anyways, I wanted to say thank you, Jammi you've been such a really cool person to watch as I figured myself out.
Congrats 🎉 Good luck on coming out to your siblings💕
I am so happy for you ❤️
♥️
Right on. I experienced everything except the extensive bruising. After 7 days in the hospital (ALT phallo) I couldn't get the pain meds for 5 [FIVE] days. 6 weeks of physical therapy, and as for pooing, It was as close to giving birth as I'll ever get. It was 35 minutes of excruciating pain. This began an almost 3 month cycle of painful BMs which caused a 1 inch tear (terribly painful) and inflammation of the hemorrhoids tissue which made things worse. It felt like pooping razor blades. I was on stool softeners the whole time. I decided to do a 7 day fast so as to poop as little and few times as possible. Once the tear healed, I was able to finally apply hemorrhoid cream and it eventually got back to normal. Other than a small common fistula that healed in only a few weeks, no complications occurred. Thank heavens!!!!
I'm following your channel for over a year now and one of my friend's children came out lately. So I feel better prepared to understand her and her journey as a transwoman now and I also told her parents about your channel. You are such an inspiration, Jamie, thank you!
I got trans friends and your videos really help me understand the stuff they have to go through
i’m so moved by your whole journey! thank you for putting yourself out there for the sake of educating the world. you’re so brave jeez!!!
I really don't mean to be disrespectful or cause anyone discomfort, but it's incredible to me how much the experience of medically transitioning sounds like my pregnancy and birth. Everything about changing bodies, not recognizing yourself or knowing how to feel about yourself, the incredible invasions of privacy... I'm still recovering from my pregnancy and cesarean, but it sounds like a finished and healed surgical process is exactly as wonderful and relieving as giving birth and getting my body back, plus a wonderful new tiny human, was for me. My sister is starting her medical transition this year and I'm so excited for her to feel comfortable and happy as she progresses 💖
I really have to applaud you for the straight goods delivered open and honest. It's a little sad that people can't get this information from their doctors or pamphlets or medical info somehow... but I am going to say a great big "thank you" from everyone in the world for being brave enough to put this out there. How else are people to know?
Final count lol (including all names)
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Thanks for being so open about things. As a person who won't ever have that surgery and would never be forward enough to ask a trans person of my acquaintance, this has really satisfied my curiosity. You are doing a public service I swear.
I know this video is at least a year old now, but I truly just want to say thank you, Jammi. So many people are so afraid to speak on these facts & information, & I 3,000% understand why. It’s so intimate, personal, something people struggle w/ for years, sometimes their entire lives, & since not everybody is intelligent enough or caring enough to be understanding & *mature*, it can be very scary. But I can’t thank you enough for all of your videos. I love you & your lovely lady so much & appreciate the information you give. It not only helps me personally, but it allows me to have the CORRECT information, just in case I ever need to help somebody feel more comfortable & understand. ❤️ I also feel more comfortable myself too learning all of this b/c ever since I was able to talk I always asked my mom when I was going to be a boy. & I truly still feel this way to this day. I don’t think I will personally go through a transition, but I have always been curious about going through it, & if I EVER WANT to go through w/ a transition, your videos help me be more comfortable exploring that thought. Sometimes I even puts me at peace a little bit w/ just the way I am now. Just so you know, either way, you help me so much & I can’t express my appreciation enough. Keep being you sweetie. You’re an amazing soul. ❤️
You are so good at explaining with out any kind of feeling of any kind of useless false embarrassment while still being funny and open about it, you sharing is real and to the point.
You always make me feel better about people.
Sympathy to Shaaba on her loss of someone she loved deeply it is hard but you will carry on as you always do, he was loved and he knew that very well
You're literally the best person ever.
Such honesty!!! Such courage to go into such detail, but I'm sure many people wonder about this.
I used to date a nurse who attended trans people at our university trans ambulatory (sorry if thats not the correct translation, it's a thing in Brazil) and we went to the first Brazilian WPATH event - World Professional Association for Transgender Health. We set down for the lectures about surgeries, and they gave every information possible about the procedure, showed pictures of every step and everything. But said nothing about anything you and others say in these videos. Keep up the good job :)
Your honesty, openness, and candor are amazing and welcomed. Thank you for sharing!!! You've helped a number of people today!
Thank you, I know this is an old video but seriously thank you people don’t explain openly frequently enough to really glean an understanding of what the types of bottom surgery even are let alone the realities of recovery!
Jamie, 1. every time I have a catheter, even if I am sedated, I remove it from my peehole.
2. As a cis man, I have had left testicle removal. So I understand the bruising in that area.
3. Thank you for doing this video for my trans men friends.
4. Happy holidays.
omg...I had to have a hysterectomy some years back and when you said the part about it feeling like everything was going to fall out or off of you when going to the bathroom...I felt that...I never thought that anyone else would understand that...
I’m not personally going through anything like this, but I love how candid you are. I started watching out of interest and wanting to be more informed but I subscribed because of you. Always click when you post, no matter what you post about 😁
When you want lower surgery but you're terrified of getting any kind of surgery... Dope
same
I was the same! Honestly, no idea how I went through with it - but I pushed past the fear and it was worth it (I realise it's easier said than done though).
If you don’t mind blood and stuff, I had to have knee surgery and I found it super helpful to go online and watch an educational type video of a DR showing and explaining each step of the surgery. It took away a lot of my anxiety knowing exactly what was going to be happening to me and my body.
@@OK-hi5ym I'll have to check that out! Thank you. I just haven't had any kind of surgery before so I'm super nervous. It would be nice to know what will be going on!
@@matthews8838 Hey, I have heart surgery before and that's something I am used to - I am very nervous about top and lower surgery though. I will just say that honestly, it is normal to feel frightened, anxious and afraid because it is such an abnormal situation but the doctors are really skilled and can really look after you. It is almost a case of psyching yourself up and reminding yourself you're going to be okay. Do pros and cons too and look at whether the cons of surgery are short term things like fear, discomfort and pain and whether the pros are long term things such as feeling better in yourself. It may not help but I found it helped me with rationalising all my heart operations.
I had first stage RFF phalloplasty with Mr Rubin in London 5 weeks ago, I’ve been documenting on my Instagram (@alexharker) because honestly it was SO difficult to find info on lower surgery in the UK and I couldn’t find anyone who had Rubin as their surgeon until a few days before surgery. There is so much that nobody talks about, like the burning pain in your groin from the nerve hook up or how difficult it is to wear pants 😅 It’s really important to get this information out there!
This is really important information for people. I'm a cis-gendered gay man, but warmest wishes to you for your journey and everyone following this difficult path. Love and solidarity.
I’m lookin into surgeries at this point for that area.
Im on a list for top surgery but haven’t decided on lower...
Honestly this helped me a little. I like to know alllll the details before going in. So I know I’m not DYING.
Omg!! Because of ur channel I’m learning so much about my up coming journey! I was so scared but u have let us know about those questions that are floating around our heads. Thank you so much hun!
Not trans myself (gay male here). I found your recounting of some aspects of your experience "uncomfortable" to conceptualize in my minds eye, but man(!) do I respect what you have gone through to create synergy between your body and your soul!
Props dude!
Through this post, you have done a great service to all of those who now find themselves facing similar realities. Kudos!
I don't typically watch trans content of TH-cam, (no relation to my life experiences and struggles), but I very much enjoyed your contribution to the self-identity conversation.
May your journey's end be even more fulfilling than you ever imagined en route.
Love the darker highlights in your hair. Don’t know if it was intentional but it looks really good.
Sounds like some of the same things that happen after giving birth.🤯 You're so brave for sharing all this. Thanks for giving us all more common ground.
I don't pretend to know anything about transitioning, and I know this comment is late, but I have to say I admire your determination and understanding for knowing who you are, and for your courage in making it happen. I hope you are really happy now, and also wish you a lifetime of joy.
You are so lovely. Thank you for this documentation of your transition. It is so helpful for people to see your progress! I’m glad you have moved passed the pain and still want to help people into their transition. It is so beautiful ❤️
I’ve literally put off my septoplasty/rhino for 20+ years because I’m scared of the pain and recovery...I can’t even begin to imagine what gender reassignment surgery entails. Kudos. You’ve got BALLS 😊
The pain you described from bottom surgery brought back memories of 2nd degree tearing after delivering a 10lb baby. For me, it was as bad as labour that lasted weeks.
Oh the pooping on the toilet nightmare afterwards! Feeling like everything was going to fall off!
I understand you may feel a bit embarrassed or that it’s TMI, but as a CIS woman I appreciate it very much. These are the things that a lot of us are interested in most people do not talk about. Thank you for sharing! Also, Having to do number two after having a baby is a similar feeling. Especially if you have a episiotomy. You know you need to go but you just don’t want to bear down because you know it’s going to hurt like hell!
I'm not trans, but I have a suggestion for the toilet. There is a thing that goes over your toilet and raises the seat so you don't have to bend so much. I used one when I had knee surgery and it was so helpful!
I was going to make a similar point: free-standing toilet frames are available, usually for people with mobility issues, but could be helpful post-op for this procedure.
You can buy them from mobility appliance providers or Amazon / Argos / Age Care UK (in the UK obvs).
In the UK you *might* also be able to borrow one from social care services appliance providers via your local authority.
@Afrax Cosoble What do you consider "a man" or "a woman?" If you look at the science, those terms really aren't as clear as you seem to believe they are.
@Afrax Cosoble Nice deflection, but you didn't answer my question. No surprise, really... It's scary to think that maybe you don't know everything, that you could be wrong.
@Afrax Cosoble Common sense... Again I think you should look into things beyond "common sense" and what you "just know." You would be surprised by just to how many species don't rely on "male and female" for reproduction. Or you can bury your head in the sand, plug your ears, and keep on thinking you're right regardless of the truth.
@Afrax Cosoble You don't seem interested in hearing anything that doesn't fit your narrative. You don't even seem to have read my comments. You seem more interested in shouting your beliefs. I'm not needed for that.
I have to say, I learn so much from your videos and I'm grateful for your candid truths about your experience. Also, MAD PROPS for what you've endured, you are one total BAMF, and I have so much respect and appreciation for anyone who commits to this process. I cannot imagine going through all of this pain and long months of recovery to get to where you are. Also, you're gorj. Totes gorj.
It makes my eyes water just hearing about it
Loved how you treated the subject with honesty and authenticity... This contribution helps everybody understand the process.... well done friend!
This was very helpful. I’m a closeted trans boy, and I’ve been a little nervous about bottom surgery.
i just want to say thanks jamie to you for sharing these things with us on the internet. it’s good that you can be so open and i find it both entertaining from your personality and informative as well :)
It's so awesome that this information is out there for people. You've done a real service, I'm sure of it.
I will never be able to say the word 'happiness' with a straight face ever again
Have you ever given thought of offering informal counseling for all the gritty stuff Ike this the medical team just don’t think to tell someone. I wish someone had mentioned that it hurts to pee after childbirth ! It’s the little details like you are sharing that make such a difference. You are really good at explaining a very extensive, intensive experience.
EARLY SQUAD JAMIE...LOVE FROM INDIA... Just need a 💓😍
Thanks for the info
I was worryingly far into this before I realised you weren’t actually getting surgery on your actual bottom.
I saw this in my feed and even though I’m not trans, one of my closest friends is so I decided to watch it so that if/when he did get said surgery I’d be able to support him better, and I got a lot more TMI than I expected, but it was a very good an informational video!
Being fairly early into my transition journey I can now 100% say I am not going to get lower surgery. Too much anxiety, I can't tolerate pain either. This entire process is scary :(
You should Definitely cover complications. A lot of doctors just breeze through that part, leaving people completely blindsided later.
Hello Jammi!
Your aubergine story made me think of 2 things ...
1) a friend had exaggerated with a cockring and got a similar result ... horrible!
2) A week ago I went to dinner in Japanese restaurant (2 japanese women cook) and I discovered their "Déngaku" = Aubergine with caramelized miso sauce. It's a delight ! yet aubergines are not what I prefer.
There is no relationship between these 2 memories! 😂 Only the color !
Other than that, congratulations for what you do! You simply explain complex things and thoughts and it's useful for everyone (Cis or trans). Hugs 😘
Jammi, you are so entertaining to watch and I very rarely subscribe to youtube channels but I just need to keep watching you and your lovely lady. You are an inspirational human. I have been blessed to have been born into a body I identify with with I am hugely compassionate towards anyone who feels differently. Thankyou for your content and educating the world!
sounds a lot like having an episiotomy after having a baby! Good thing I have had that experience witch causes me not to have bottom surgery....also the part of being exposed to the entire world (it seams) I'm defiantly not a fan.......im much to old and I think a nice prosthetic sounds so much less painful ....not as personal or real but cheaper, NO pain, and NO peaking!!! love your videos !
After I had my episiotomy and haematoma behind the stitches,, I had everyone and his dog coming up to "have a quick look down below!" I got so sick of it i told the midwife tourists were banned. The consultant turned up and I said I said he could look so long as he then came to talk to me - ie via my face!!
I'm not trans, but as a person born with spina bifida who also had a different kind of lower surgery in Feb. 2014 (infection in tail bone) and then had to have another type of catheter for a few weeks, I can confirm that post-surgery catheters are indeed THE WORST THING IN EXISTENCE..
For anyone interested in MTF bottom surgery, Stacy Fatemi has a very comprehensive video!
Hi Jammie,I am gay man, maybe for this circumstances I should say I am a cis-gay man, or I was born with my penis. And I alway liked being a man, the only difference is that sexually I only like man and liked a lot. I always had a tremendous fascination for all the trans people. I think you guys are born naturally more intelligent and adorable than the rest of us. I don’t know any trans, and I miss it, alway think about all the incredible process that trans and their families have to go thru, so I am very happy I found your channel. I am extremely impressed with you, your look, your personality , your skills to communicate and attract people. You are also very secure of what you want, very determined to get it and very courages to do it, is very admirable. You gave me so many precious information about being a trans, what just confirmed what I thought before: you guys are very, very special human beings.i would like to know more about your education and professional plans , you would be the psychologist of my dreams. Well to finish , let me tell you: as a man with a penis , I feel just like you : is not easy to have and managed it down there. Just like you said , it is there , is something extra, and we can feel in any movement, getting comfortable in the car alway will require some adjustments , alway thought that for the lady’s have to be so much easier . So, we’ll come to the club, be proud and enjoy your “new extra” I love to have my and to play with more than one when I am with my husband. Here goes all my best wishes, love and a big 👋 hello to your wife, only another very noble and lovely person can give the love and support she is giving you😘🥰😍
OMFG.. you look in every video better and better. I just fell in love😍
Your amazing
So strong a person
We need more people like you in life x
Well ... this is just excellent. You are delightful! I love your positive attitude. I love your honesty. You are so brave to come forward and share this valuable and sensitive information about your own experience. I can well imagine that you are helping so many people by demystifying this procedure. I am a gay man. I am not transitioning. But, I really appreciate knowing more about what my trans brothers and sisters go through. Thank you. I admire anyone who lives in their own truth like that. Best wishes.
What you're describing sounds just like how I felt after giving birth. Everyone looking at my nether-region. Stitches holding things together. Pooping feeling fearful things will fall out. Pain sitting, squatting, peeing.
Thank you for sharing your story xx
Allow me some forgiveable sexism to say "Delicate?!? Those things have entire infants come out of them, they're tough as leather." and - as you cheerfully describe hip-to-hip bruising, in your ironic fun 'but it's okay!' tone, I do think "what amab could be this baddass about such things??"
You're a joy and gift. Thank you so much, you can't ever give 'tmi' when- yes, What to expect, that they DON'T tell you, in glowing detail is what so many of us are here for!
You're a joy and gift to the community and allies.
It's definitely very individual! My experiences were quite different for a lot of it:
Pain really wasn't too bad, second stage was the least painful surgery I've ever had
Getting on the toilet and into a sitting position was fine. Shitting was terrifying, but wasn't as bad as I'd feared it would be.
I didn't have much bruising other than in my scrotum, and it didn't hurt, just looked scary.
Catheters were really variable, first stage was horrible, second stage wasn't bad at all.
I m cis man and I m just in love with you...you are my crush...just wanted to let you know. Stay blessed
Me and my best friend have been watching your video to get information to help him understand his transition so thankyou for helping ❤️