I Escaped a Violent Gang - I spent a day with EX-GANG MEMBERS

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  • @AnthonyPadilla
    @AnthonyPadilla  ปีที่แล้ว +566

    come back in a couple weeks for *I spent a day with BOUNTY HUNTERS*
    UNCENSORED ON SPOTIFY ▸ open.spotify.com/show/5aOLuPenneHbhLh05fmkeu
    UNCENSORED ON APPLE ▸ podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-spent-a-day-with/id1550213250

  • @Mystyrium97
    @Mystyrium97 ปีที่แล้ว +11254

    Fabian’s sound effects were just amazing when telling his stories. I hate to think that it’s because he’s heard those noises so often that he’s able to imitate them so well.

    • @llorandoagritosmusica
      @llorandoagritosmusica ปีที่แล้ว +261

      indigenous people are just natural story tellers💯

    • @tigerlily515
      @tigerlily515 ปีที่แล้ว +199

      Or he's a sick beatboxer

    • @MiaLucifer
      @MiaLucifer ปีที่แล้ว +89

      I’ve heard lawn mowers every day. Doesn’t mean I can recreate the sound😂

    • @dasha_ucko
      @dasha_ucko ปีที่แล้ว +96

      @@llorandoagritosmusica I know you probably meant that as a compliment, but it's still a stereotype, and not necessarily true, so I would be careful making such broad, sweeping statements.

    • @MiaLucifer
      @MiaLucifer ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @Patrick39 that’s redundant because anyone who says they’re better than someone is instantly way worse than that person

  • @FlyGuy_1525
    @FlyGuy_1525 ปีที่แล้ว +5890

    Fabian needs a podcast or to write a book or something. The mans storytelling ability is amazing, and his story is touching and relatable to so many. Loved this.

    • @gabiluch87
      @gabiluch87 ปีที่แล้ว +75

      He has a lovely voice and pace, I'd listen to a podcast for sure

    • @RedHotMessResell
      @RedHotMessResell ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I was about to say the same thing!

    • @lucindasullivan201
      @lucindasullivan201 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just wanted to come to the comments to see if anyone else thought he was amazing at telling his story!

    • @randomnameforarandomnerd8400
      @randomnameforarandomnerd8400 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      i wish this guy could speak at my school

    • @anusername8350
      @anusername8350 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’d buy his audiobook

  • @MisterBolticus
    @MisterBolticus ปีที่แล้ว +9009

    The highway awakening story was actually something else, dude knows how to create a vivid picture with his words

    • @AnthonyPadilla
      @AnthonyPadilla  ปีที่แล้ว +3328

      fabian is an incredible artist who usually uses paint as his medium of choice. he told me he also loved to paint stories with his words and he visualizes his stories in paintings that he simply describes as he sees them in his head.

    • @mortsir1149
      @mortsir1149 ปีที่แล้ว +87

      Wow thats so cool :0

    • @chimichangaproductionsextr4714
      @chimichangaproductionsextr4714 ปีที่แล้ว +84

      @@AnthonyPadilla does he have a social media, i would love to follow him

    • @foofington5431
      @foofington5431 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      @@chimichangaproductionsextr4714 Yeah, he has a site that's linked in the description of the video the art is incredible.

    • @Nick77ab2
      @Nick77ab2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@AnthonyPadilla incredible.

  • @Shunpon77
    @Shunpon77 ปีที่แล้ว +3518

    The best part of the pair of people interviewed this time is that they both went through completely different paths that lead them to leave the same problem. One through spirituality and one through realism.

    • @gigibeal
      @gigibeal ปีที่แล้ว +26

      yup!! i was just about to comment this

    • @daoyang223
      @daoyang223 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      Which is very nice. Growing up in gang culture, it's really the dumbest shit ever and I am happy these dudes saw through that and got out.
      I know a lot of people are very desperate so they do desperate things. I don't want to blame them completely; these guys in the video and my irl family members and friends who are caught up in the gang culture (or dead).

    • @yyg4632
      @yyg4632 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Indeed. And both worked out great for them and caused them to want to help others too. 2 cool humans.

  • @KingGhidorah5464
    @KingGhidorah5464 ปีที่แล้ว +3032

    Both these men's quiet demeanors. You can tell just from listening to them speak that they've been through some shit.

    • @emmaearthling444
      @emmaearthling444 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      That was my first thought when Fabian spoke that he had such a gentle peaceful voice and demeanor

    • @subiludo1928
      @subiludo1928 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@emmaearthling444i heard Fabian talk, and as somebody who was around gangs a lot, i immediately though "Oooh he done shot someone."😭😭😭

  • @lonitbonit5618
    @lonitbonit5618 ปีที่แล้ว +1477

    Fabian is a natural storyteller. He reminds me of my tribal storytellers. They're so good at keeping you engaged, you never want them to stop talking. You want to hear anything they have to say. I could listen to him talk about a trip to the grocery store and want to stay til the end.

    • @hoorayitsjackie6166
      @hoorayitsjackie6166 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Yes, tribal. He reminds me of my indigenous friends when they tell stories.

    • @awen7870
      @awen7870 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I was thinking the same thing!! Fabian seems like a beautiful person and definitely reminded me of some people in my tribe too.

    • @bluelopez960
      @bluelopez960 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @HoorayItsJackie although he probably identifies as latino but his indigenous story telling really peaks through. Our story telling stuck with us mixed native Latinos throughout the genocide, indigenous-erasure, oppression, and cultural loss

  • @twilighterification
    @twilighterification ปีที่แล้ว +2432

    Those are amazing men who worked hard on themselves to make themselves and their communities better. Well done gentlemen.

  • @Arylist
    @Arylist ปีที่แล้ว +2697

    It's crazy how Anthony's channel changed from 2015 and his content is still great

    • @TheFlaxCompany
      @TheFlaxCompany ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I still miss Tennessee tho 😭

    • @yorzengaming
      @yorzengaming ปีที่แล้ว +59

      I saw him first as a pokemon trainer lol now he doing real talk with impact and shit

    • @Arylist
      @Arylist ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I miss smosh

    • @samul2100
      @samul2100 ปีที่แล้ว

      great? You mispelled better*

    • @jrayne6360
      @jrayne6360 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Its only natural he grew and matured. A lot of TH-camrs have done the same, they're no longer the kids they once were. They're content should grow along with them. I loved Smosh but now I love spending a day with series.

  • @jackolantern104
    @jackolantern104 ปีที่แล้ว +925

    Fabian’s storytelling makes me forget i’m only watching a video. feels like i was actually there. bless him

  • @leeah7743
    @leeah7743 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    The fact the one man just wanted to be a bus driver hurts my heart 😭

    • @urdad492
      @urdad492 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      right. glad he’s out and healing now

  • @c.danielle3444
    @c.danielle3444 ปีที่แล้ว +1482

    I'd love to see you talk to Jessica Kent. There are several video topics she could easily contribute to. She was an addict, a dealer, did time in prison and had her daughter there, got her daughter back after her release, and now fights for prison reform. She offers a ton of insight into why prison doesn't work and how drug addiction works.

    • @browniesnofrownies4843
      @browniesnofrownies4843 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Yes! She’s also so close to 2 million subscribers. I love her to death, she’s truly inspiring.

    • @fantasticfr0g
      @fantasticfr0g ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I agree!!! She has so many stories!

    • @riversongsmelody
      @riversongsmelody ปีที่แล้ว +68

      Would be interesting to see Anthony do a whole video on women who gave birth in prison

    • @gigibeal
      @gigibeal ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@riversongsmelody i second this!! I think anything involving getting a conversation about prison going would b great, but I would love to hear the mother's sides of stories and even struggles they faced pregnant n stuff like that

    • @mojimoko
      @mojimoko ปีที่แล้ว +7

      her and anthony would have an amazing dynamic and i’d love to hear her side of things in this channel!! i hope he sees this comment ugh

  • @catsrmylyf
    @catsrmylyf ปีที่แล้ว +805

    "the reason why [the drive-by shooters aren't] shooting is not because you got more patrol units, or your detectives got overtime, it's because *I* put them at the table & paid $200 for them to eat, and now they're not killing each other no more." Damn right! Community healing comes from within, not from outside punishment. We could all learn a lot from these great men. Community is a big theme in my life right now & I'm trying to learn how to do better, so this was extremely helpful & moving. Thank you for sharing your experiences & wisdom!

    • @armerls
      @armerls ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +

  • @ImLuvinMe001
    @ImLuvinMe001 ปีที่แล้ว +316

    “i don’t care about dying.” so painful to live like that. i loved this video, how self aware and open they are. i’m a teacher and many of my students have family members that are in gangs or victims of gang violence. breaks my heart that kids feels like this.

  • @ot7stan207
    @ot7stan207 ปีที่แล้ว +437

    In high school we were assigned a book called Monster to read to get into high school English honors. Not knowing that there could be books with the same titles, I checked out a book called Monster, an autobiography of a LA gang member. I was confused as to why the school wanted met o read a huge book on gang activities but I spent the summer reading it. At the end, I was supposed to write a report on it and realized holy crap I read the wrong book. Lets just say I did not get into English honors, but that book taught me a WHOLE lot about this side that no one talks about and being in a non honors class also opened my eyes as to how much of a disparity the education system was for kids that weren't seen as advanced. That was the most costly but educational mistake I ever made in my life.

    • @rubyredyoshi
      @rubyredyoshi ปีที่แล้ว +14

      omg im reading that right now!

    • @YRTTSSFS
      @YRTTSSFS ปีที่แล้ว +23

      a real-life happy accident

    • @sophieheid4464
      @sophieheid4464 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      We forget that you can learn valuable things/life lessons outside of school just as much. I'm gonna look that autobiography up now.

  • @Nesssquiiik
    @Nesssquiiik ปีที่แล้ว +160

    The chills and raw emotion I felt when Fabian was telling his awakening story on the highway is something so real and just eye opening

  • @Tanyathestoryteller
    @Tanyathestoryteller ปีที่แล้ว +767

    I grew up in a gang riddled town and I used to be afraid of men like them. And then the gangs just... Calmed down? Ceased to exist one day? I was happy about that but I never thought to hear their side of the story. I am so glad I did, but I can't find the words to explain why. This video is beautiful, thank you for this work, Anthony.

    • @blanket4763
      @blanket4763 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Probably all got sent to jail or died

    • @justanautisticnerd8969
      @justanautisticnerd8969 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @@blanket4763 im sure some others have gotten out too.
      If these two gentlemen found there way out, im sure a couple of others have done the same.
      We dont always have to think about the gloomy gloom side of things.
      Mostly saying this because your comment was pretty uncalled for.

    • @taos6960
      @taos6960 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @sewerrat7418 because that's true most of the time
      If you're living a life like that you usually die living like that or get sent to prison

    • @skunksprayorlicorice7922
      @skunksprayorlicorice7922 ปีที่แล้ว

      That anti gang bill fucked up a whole lotta families. Life sentences, deportations from Haitians, Hispanics, Asians, got sent back to their orgin country and brought the violence they knew in places like LA, New York, Chicago and they brought the gangs to their new homes and the violence, today you look at haiti and el salvador. The biggest gangs are from bloods and ms13 and they run the countries economy and influencing elections

    • @РоманБекиров-с4м
      @РоманБекиров-с4м ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @sewerrat7418 I was born in Baku, Azerbaijan and studied in Kazan, Russia. Back in the day Kazan was a gang city. And then in 2013 all those gangbangers were exterminated. There is no gang activity anymore in this city, but the streets are still empty by 6pm because people STILL cannot forget decades of gang violence. This gives a creepy, calm and serene feel in the evening.

  • @ughjahy7760
    @ughjahy7760 ปีที่แล้ว +199

    Fabian’s spiritual awakening is so inspiring and heart wrenching.. wow..

  • @captainayaaya28
    @captainayaaya28 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    The thing Skipp said about parents needing to realize how much they influence their kids is so true. Also Fabian is an amazing story teller

  • @roderickbawcutt
    @roderickbawcutt ปีที่แล้ว +393

    You always assume that people in gangs are just people doing bad things for no reason but with this interview, you realise there is actually a reason for it even if it's never shown. It makes me feel bad for other people in gangs that haven't been able to find peace like these two guys have

  • @lucasabdo4260
    @lucasabdo4260 ปีที่แล้ว +453

    This was so needed. Everyday more and more people keep pushing the stigma that once a criminal, always a criminal, but as this interview showed, there's always a human being behind every criminal. Congrats to these two for transforming their lives and finding meaning to life again.

    • @nlellison99
      @nlellison99 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      It highly depends on the crime, some crimes are unforgivable(in my opinion things like r@p3 and p3d0ph!l!a ) but MOST crimes absolutely are forgivable and most of the time ppl dont even wanna do them or are only doing them because there circumstances pushed them to do so.

    • @marah3298
      @marah3298 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@nlellison99 100%.

    • @emmabunch-benson4795
      @emmabunch-benson4795 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      This is why I love restorative justice

    • @justanautisticnerd8969
      @justanautisticnerd8969 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@nlellison99 i think it doesn't depend on the act, I think it depends on alot of things. I think some actions could never ever forgiven. A murder is still a murder. A r@p3 is still that. Its horrible no matter what.
      But can somebody change ? Yes they definitely can but that depends on the surcumstance.
      Mostly on guilt, if the person doesn't feel any sort of remorse what so ever, well nothing could change.
      If they regret pretty much everything, well while it's not forgiven, those people can change.

  • @TheOriginalMrAbsurd
    @TheOriginalMrAbsurd ปีที่แล้ว +147

    One of my best friends I met as an adult was an ex gang member who had to move 2000 miles away to nowhere to hide and start over in life. He was never able to return to his home city and if he did he would disguise himself just to visit family. He went on to help children in need as a job.

  • @liymaf
    @liymaf ปีที่แล้ว +210

    Fabian is a phenomenal story teller. I felt like I was watching a movie with how descriptive he was. I'm glad he had that awakening & is doing good today.👏👏👏✌️

  • @sabway45
    @sabway45 ปีที่แล้ว +121

    My step dad was a gang member when he was younger
    He would tell me his stories when I was younger,
    He changed his whole life around n I love him for always being there when I needed him growing up
    The nicest person you'd ever meet

  • @hannahbanana7834
    @hannahbanana7834 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    The way these men were talking about suicide really touched my heart. It's not always obvious, sometimes it's as quiet as not caring if you live or die. It breaks my heart that so many people can relate to that. Our world has a lot of good but it has a lot of bad too.

  • @teresita7933
    @teresita7933 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    this was such an emotional episode for me, i grew up with my dad being a gang member and hearing the other perspective really opens my eyes to the fact that my father didn’t want to hurt anyone he himself was hurting. Fabian reminds me so much of my father their life’s are so similar.

  • @nataliemaxey7796
    @nataliemaxey7796 ปีที่แล้ว +257

    Anthony I can’t thank you enough for making content like this. You are informing so many people about what is truly happening in the world and the consequences of living in a society where not everyone has what they need. Keep going
    Edit: didn’t know it would make a public comment

  • @ImBarelyMe
    @ImBarelyMe ปีที่แล้ว +52

    It’s scary and insane to think how many gangs are literally just kids or teens who are so afraid to have no one they’re groomed into it, then end up becoming the same type of person that people fear, and when in reality those scary people, they could be scared people who feel so desperate for attention and love in any way, that they’re willing to do and risk whatever it takes

  • @isabelleroy3692
    @isabelleroy3692 ปีที่แล้ว +339

    I love watching all of Anthony’s interviews. It’s so nice to hear the personal stories of all sorts of people.

  • @lailashaikh4464
    @lailashaikh4464 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    I had the privilege of meeting Fabian a couple years back on a school trip. His story is so special, it brought all of us to tears. You can tell how much wisdom he's gained through being able to process all that he's gone through. His ability to put all of it into his art and his drive to give back to his community is incredible.

  • @CMJDT
    @CMJDT ปีที่แล้ว +107

    I hope Fabian tells stories regularly. He was amazing at bringing his memories to life so others can imagine and appreciate the situations he was describing.

  • @onlyxun
    @onlyxun ปีที่แล้ว +221

    Goddamn, they both had me crying, what a beautiful job they have done at understanding and forgiving themselves

  • @TheMovingChicane
    @TheMovingChicane ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Fabian is one of the best guests you’ve ever had on this show, hands down. And you’ve had so many amazing guests on this show.

  • @pinkyhc4130
    @pinkyhc4130 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    These men are so strong, to have survived that level of trauma with their minds and souls intact.

  • @latischahuller
    @latischahuller ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Fabian has not only the gift of art but also of storytelling. Thank you to both Fabian and Skipp for sharing their stories.

  • @btrdangerdan2010
    @btrdangerdan2010 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Fabians story is very touching, I almost wanted to go cry when he talked about his spiritual moment on the I-5 freeway

  • @jmeee
    @jmeee ปีที่แล้ว +100

    Fabian could be a voice actor with all those perfectly done sounds effects!

  • @evabrachfeld5552
    @evabrachfeld5552 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Fabian is an absolutely wonderful poet! His language and rhythm makes it so clear how much wisdom he holds. He should write a book, and narrate the audio version I love his voice!

  • @tl1326
    @tl1326 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    skipp is an amazing communicator
    he told us everything he learned so clearly and efficiently

  • @bellathompson2183
    @bellathompson2183 ปีที่แล้ว +150

    It's just so inspirational to so many people out there that these brave men were able to make a the right choice for themselves are escape their own hell. these stories they are very inspiring

  • @rockyember
    @rockyember ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Fabian’s intense story with the sound effects and everything were so captivating and moving, he really is a good speaker and story-teller

  • @jasminem812
    @jasminem812 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    seeing men who have done the work and healed, even when put in the most toxic environment where there is no safety to express emotions is genuinely so beautiful. Hearing them talk had me teary eyed. Too many men are afraid to acknowledge any emotion other than anger because they think its weak, when actually it takes immense courage and strength to actually see yourself and the trauma you have gone through truthfully and honestly and then face it head on. If these men can do it, anyone can, everyone deserves to heal and grow as a person.

  • @milkdud4444
    @milkdud4444 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    These guys are both such strong men. To hear anyone openly discuss their traumas, their weaknesses and to be vulnerable like this shows incredible strength. I am grateful to hear their stories.

  • @vanessa5637
    @vanessa5637 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    The way Fabian described his spiritual awakening brought me to tears😭 he’s such a good story trller

  • @Choshako
    @Choshako ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Fabian has a beautiful way with words, he legit made me tear up. I'm glad he and Skipp are free and having good lives now.

  • @chasingamurderer
    @chasingamurderer ปีที่แล้ว +940

    I grew up very poor. You are what you are surrounded by. Children are innocent and they need safety, love, attention. So they go where they feel these things. Some of us learn there is a different way, some of never find that out.

  • @ShelbieMua
    @ShelbieMua ปีที่แล้ว +18

    That spiritual awakening part nearly had me in tears. He’s an amazing story teller and I’m happy he’s okay now

  • @erinmireille
    @erinmireille ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The part where Skipp says “I wanted to be a bus driver” reminded me of when I was a kid. I used to pretend a hula hoop was the steering wheel and drive a bus around the playground.

  • @jmeee
    @jmeee ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Incredible video. Thank you for letting these men share what they wanted to and not interrupting them.

  • @dr.mental8323
    @dr.mental8323 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    fabian is a beautiful storyteller. the way he describes everything in such detail is amazing. his ability to describe things and paint such vivid images through his words alone is unreal. you can tell he’s a true artist through and through.

  • @Kree.B.
    @Kree.B. ปีที่แล้ว +62

    I'm so glad these men not only found a way out, but a way to heal and a way to give back. That's powerful. I very much understand these men and their stories. You don't have to be in a gang to find commonality in their struggles and empathy for the reason this is happening.

  • @What.The.Chell_lol
    @What.The.Chell_lol ปีที่แล้ว +38

    would you consider doing part 2 of some of these? the one that stuck with me the most was school shooting survivors & their stories make me want to do more to change laws and prevent it fro9m ever happening again . i think if you did part 2 with others effected sharing their own story would touch even more people ... that was just one example there's so many ISADW guests/episodes i loved.

    • @stef.jane20
      @stef.jane20 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I so agree with you !! Especially since nothing has changed sadly 😞 including some of the Uvalde victims families and El Paso families would be a great episode .. we desperately need more awareness about this subject.

    • @thatwaterriver3824
      @thatwaterriver3824 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      im sure larry lawton would be happy to go on, hed fit great in a topic like this

  • @SixPathz
    @SixPathz ปีที่แล้ว +60

    Love this video because this type of social issue is rooted deep into society based on race, income, and resources. It is a very real, everyday issue that people in this country go through. Much love to those two guys.

  • @lilithjade4363
    @lilithjade4363 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    dude every cholo and latino gangster i have ever seen has the best and most poetic storytelling and speech pattern ever

    • @googlegmail9888
      @googlegmail9888 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Come on now

    • @googlegmail9888
      @googlegmail9888 ปีที่แล้ว

      What the heel are you even talking about

    • @certified-dumbass-Ik
      @certified-dumbass-Ik ปีที่แล้ว

      Dude and then the jokes kill you

    • @divaofthedamned365
      @divaofthedamned365 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Fr, he talks and tells stories like my papa and tios. It's the tone and passion in the voice and the hand gestures. They paint pictures with their words.

    • @MoonIsrathersilly
      @MoonIsrathersilly ปีที่แล้ว +4

      From a kid who has a immigrant dad. Storytelling is one of their best features, you get so invested.

  • @rodexx426
    @rodexx426 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Fabian's story resonates so much within my heart, not directly because of my life but because I can see all of my cousins through his story, and now hoping they will someday break loose from those chains before someone else takes them from our family

  • @kindralong2076
    @kindralong2076 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    As a child of someone who struggles with drug abuse, I’d love to see a video with recovered addicts to see their side of things more and maybe give a little hope to some of us going through that with family ❤

  • @cheshiremare
    @cheshiremare ปีที่แล้ว +19

    When Fabian told his story and he did the voices that telling to kill himself, i got the most weird goosebumps i ever had … it sound exactly like the voices in my head when i hit rock bottom … 😢
    he’s an amazing man, i’m glad he’s able to tell his story like this …

  • @wafflez7519
    @wafflez7519 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I applaud everyone on this episode for having the absolute BALLS to come on, it takes a lot to leave, and even more to come out better than before and a whole lot more to talk about. I appreciate and have a ton of respect.

  • @maggie5386
    @maggie5386 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thank you so much Skipp and Fabian for sharing your experiences!

  • @PeanutGam3s
    @PeanutGam3s ปีที่แล้ว +51

    My partner is in a gang… he got initiated at 8 years old. He was playing tricks on other guys since he was little. He doesn’t have a father. I’ve got a little out of him about it but I’d rather just let him be. He communicates with me well but that’s because I’ve taught him those things… thank you man a lot of kids need to hear those things

    • @ambitiously_
      @ambitiously_ ปีที่แล้ว +5

      How arrogant to presume to take responsibility for teaching someone to communicate 🙄

    • @rottenstrawberrry
      @rottenstrawberrry ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@ambitiously_the point was that you teach people to communicate…especially when they didn’t have that as children; nothing arrogant about it

    • @LilDuctTape
      @LilDuctTape ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ambitiously_ room temperature IQ💀

  • @kiryuthaone9711
    @kiryuthaone9711 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Anthony really taking it to the next level. Can't wait to watch!

  • @mightyheadcanon4487
    @mightyheadcanon4487 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    This ep was amazing. Thanks to everyone who shared their stories

  • @TrishaRyan
    @TrishaRyan ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Literally sobbing during the freeway story.

  • @rbridget24
    @rbridget24 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I found it interesting how Skip said that he learned violence not from being in a gang right away. But from his mom when she said if someone hits you, hit them back. I see so many people say that about if their kids get hit and as I do understand the parents who say that because you want your children to be able to defend themselves. It’s important for them to learn how to handle their emotions and confrontations in another way and not always lead with violence cause that can only get you so far.

  • @sylmelon
    @sylmelon ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i walk by fabians artwork once to twice a week and hearing his background from his struggles up until now makes me appreciate them more

  • @kingpuppet5881
    @kingpuppet5881 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I loved this episode, thank you for always bringing something new and fresh time after time. You are amazingly charismatic, compassionate and brilliant at what you do. 🙏❤

  • @Jess538
    @Jess538 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Fabian’s story has me crying uncontrollably. Thank you for sharing his story, Anthony. Your channel is inspiring and beautifully eye opening

  • @IamStereotype
    @IamStereotype ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This was my favorite episode of "I spend a day with" ever, genuinely so interesting

  • @ashleymusicx
    @ashleymusicx ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Fabian should make a docu about his life hes such a great storyteller you just get lost in the world hes telling about

  • @candyalchemist
    @candyalchemist ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Listening to the freeway story from Fabian has my eyes watering. This man felt so disconnected for so long and when all the world seemed against him he opened his soul to something that let him feel whole again

  • @Cass-so8uj
    @Cass-so8uj ปีที่แล้ว +2

    These men are incredible, not only choosing to defy who the world wanted them to be or who they thought they should be. But also trying to help other people get there.
    I do not condone gang violence, but I’m always here to support someone who’s trying to heal and grow.

  • @ShinyStation
    @ShinyStation ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Pure poetry coming out of their mouths.

  • @PennyTovar
    @PennyTovar ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "Behind every gang member, there is a human being". Love it. I have multiple ex-gang members in my family, and my mother taught me to always love them and never judge them because they were in a hard time in their life. They need love and support, not chastisement.

  • @peachago9113
    @peachago9113 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    such a great video, you can feel their raw emotions and how they've learned to see all of their mistakes and learn from them.

  • @DragonriderEpona
    @DragonriderEpona ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I hope some teachers and social worker, or just people who want to help their communities, will find this video and show it to teens and (young) adults. So Teens can see that there are people going through similar things, going through really bad things but still found a way to get out of it and be happy. Feeling loved, understood and supported. And learning that there are ways to feel being respected and having a promising future without the fear of being an outcast, threatened or/and getting into dangerous situations that may cost your life.

  • @frans_bauer
    @frans_bauer ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Fabian is a really calming person, im not religious myself but im glad to hear it helped him out, and most of the time it does with others. Wish him ghe best ❤️

  • @charmedbylalune
    @charmedbylalune ปีที่แล้ว +2

    im sitting in a dunkin’ donuts crying listening to him tell his spiritual awakening story, it was hypnotic. so intense, but beautiful. i know all those emotions/feelings. sent chills down my spine. im so happy he got to experience that harmony in the end & overall has peace now.

  • @emmaearthling444
    @emmaearthling444 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Skipp talking about healing and needing to take care of yourself before you can really do the work to heal your community too ❤️

  • @gabrielahough4976
    @gabrielahough4976 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was watching this at the end of my workout while on the treadmill i was so enthralled with fabians story on his spiritual experience i realized that it was not sweat dripping down my face but tears.

  • @gettingstranger
    @gettingstranger ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The strength these two men have shown is commendable.
    on a side note, I could listen to Fabian talk all day long. He has a very soothing voice.

  • @armerls
    @armerls ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The way Skipp talks about meeting people where they are/offering space for forgiveness and growth is so beautiful. These men are amazing

  • @charlii7386
    @charlii7386 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Fabian is a great human being, a person to look up and a really great artist. I’m so glad that he is happy now with his family 🥺

  • @alexm9653
    @alexm9653 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I heard this thing once, this guy said; "The people that do suicde attemps aren't looking to die, they are looking to only kill a part of themselves. " and my guess is that's the reason why most people who survived suicide attemps say they're really lucky to still be alive and have the opportunity to help others.
    "The person you become later in life will most likely be the person you needed the most during childhood." is a quote i heard Anthony say in a video from like a week ago, and thats what you're seeing here. Skipp and Fabian have been formed because of their experiences, from their trauma's and because of their childhood.
    I have deep respect for these guys that they had the courage to leave the community they were in and how they've come so far that they are able to help others, it's hard to face your insecuritys and things you've done in the past that you regret to this very day.

  • @makototakara7025
    @makototakara7025 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Interviewing ex-gang member makes me think that Anthony will talk to a ex-yazuka member.

  • @Cazcanhazvideos
    @Cazcanhazvideos ปีที่แล้ว +13

    They're truly doing some of the most important work. Shining examples of positive, nuturing and restorative masculinity.

  • @picklecat3544
    @picklecat3544 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fabian is so well-spoken and his storytelling was amazing. This completely changed my view of gang members.

  • @DrumsNRoses
    @DrumsNRoses ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm still not ready when he busts through the ceiling, gets me every time.

  • @evolvedviziion
    @evolvedviziion ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have never heard a story as powerful as Fabian’s…. Legit had me tearing up… incredibly applicable to a lot of thoughts and emotions, even unrelated to gang life. Thanks very much for this episode!

  • @Ogway.
    @Ogway. ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is my favorite video you’ve made, Fabian’s story was amazing

  • @Nataliah3r3
    @Nataliah3r3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It really is so crazy how young this boys are that get in this because they want to be a part of something/ no the proper guidance and that is totally understandable being in the situations they are in. They both are amazing men and thankful to hear their stories.

  • @shaniyabrooks2664
    @shaniyabrooks2664 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wanna say that I’m so happy he didn’t edit these serious situations with funny clips and stuff like that…I respect that man

  • @fetamean
    @fetamean ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Fabian's story of running onto the freeway is a crazy suicide attempt. If you ever look at people talk about suicide attempts that they've survived, they always talk about how they regretted what they were doing as it was happening and the joy they felt when they realized they were alive was spiritual, in a way. Might change your whole life. That's kind of how I interpret the whole suicide thing when it comes to gang culture. It's like Skipp said, you may not wanna off yourself but you might not care so much that you go out with your rival gang colors on everyday until someone shoots your ass. That's horrible and self destructive but certainly a reality.

  • @tolertoxin
    @tolertoxin ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve been going down the right path just recently, but Fabian’s story really hit me. needed that today.

  • @soupysoup931
    @soupysoup931 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Listening to Skipp, I literally see myself and realize how I got lucky by finding hope in other things given how lucky we all are having technology and other things/people around to not lose your hope. But it now only makes more sense why older people did that, they just had no choice, not like they wanted to. They had nothing to look forward to.
    TLDR: being suicidal sucks and that's what it leads to, just different times and options for the person in question.

  • @AstridB97
    @AstridB97 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fabian has such a rythm in the way he narrates his story I bet he would be an amazing musician! This man is an artist for sure
    Both stories were so moving, thank you Anthony for making such great content ❤

  • @dementedcat11
    @dementedcat11 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Anthony, you are such a respectful person who asks such amazing questions for these people you interview, keep up the amazing content dude

  • @LaughingOrange
    @LaughingOrange ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This showed me a new side of gangs. It's not about drugs, murder, and other crimes. It's about the feeling of community they never had while they were still clean. Gangs are still not a good thing, but at least I understand it slightly better.

  • @justxull9278
    @justxull9278 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a person who has been suicidal since i was 12 (now 19), it was very enlightening to hear the perspective that skip had on suicide, and how he experienced being suicidal. It makes me happy that both of them have gotten to a point where they can talk about it, and understand it so well.
    This is an important perspective, and im happy it has been shared.🖤

  • @moshroomba
    @moshroomba ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Fabian's sound effects remind me of Gabriel Iglesias (fluffy) when he's telling stories. Fabian is an amazing story teller, and I'm happy skipp and him are better people and much happier 💕

  • @bluelopez960
    @bluelopez960 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The fact that Fabians voice, accent, and story sounds just like my tios, teachers, mentors, friends, and community made me cry. Everything about his story feels familiar because it's the story of mi gente. Hearing his imitations of his mamá hits so close to home. Knowing he just wanted to be an artist like my friends. I know me and my entire friend group could easily go that path like our schoolmates, but it's people like him that put us on a path to jobs and family