Polygamy is celebrated when it favors the man. But is frowned up when it favors women. If the wives or women of those men supporting polygamy decided that they also wanted more than one man, all hell would break loose. It’s selfish and one sided.
exactly..because the man cant control you if the woman have more than one husband ,it is all about control not true love God said he is a jealous God only be faithful to HIM ..
I dont support polygamy, but let's be real. If a woman tries it, it will ruin her life period. She will be a whole immediately without delay, and that's how the world sees it.
1. Biologically speaking men are designed to be polygamous . Due to extremely higher levels of testosterone ( men have on average between 17x-23x higher levels of testosterone than women) women are born with all the eggs that they produce. After puberty, they start dropping one egg a month ( on average), until menopause. Men produce millions of sperm cells every day from puberty until death. Once a woman gets pregnant, she’s out of commission for the next 3 years as far as reproduction is concerned, and she can typically only have one child within that time period. Men can have as many kids with as many women that they sleep with. 2. Women are HYPERGAMOUS in nature ( quality over quantity). This is because they are vulnerable, especially during pregnancy and infants nursing. They also require massive amounts of resources and protection, that’s why they’re attracted to taller fit men with excess resources.
That's everything to girl but for me I can't cheat I'm principle and always cherish to be responsible but if I have riches I will be polygamist. That sure money change people to go for desires
That's everything to girl but for me I can't cheat I'm principle and always cherish to be responsible but if I have riches I will be polygamist. That sure money change people to go for desires
Try it please and you'll soon understand why men and women are different. You'll hate yourself more than society will and that's just because women are not wired and even physically and mentally equipped for it. They can cope long enough to fool themselves into liking it but trust me, when the realization kicks in it's down hill from there.
Right!! I'm a Christian by the way! But in the past in our religion. Man were able to have multiple wives of they were capable of doing so. Most of the time those "extra " wives were widow with kids
I am blown about Muslims have multiple wives because of their religion. The Quaran says do not take multiple wives unless you satisfy all of them equally emotionally, physically and financially. Most, if not all, can not fulfill that. It wasn't even fulfilled by their own prophet.
@@duckruler5507 Fr, and it's not because scripture allows men to have multiple wives (it doesn't), but because it says to take care of widows is a way of practicing true religion.
I can't believe you called yourself a Muslim, which one is mostly poor people have many wives. Little did you know the reason behind allowing Muslim men to have more than one wife? Tho it was made clear they should stick to one if they know they can't manage them in terms of justice. Think of the population of women to men (4 to 1), why do you think there are more prostitutes and the likes. Let me draw the curtain here.
If the women who are popular emphasize romance in terms of commercial value and comfort, it sends a message to men that relationships are more about materialism than genuine connection. Meaning you can be bought of the shelve 😢
That is a real point for concern o, that wife is a whole human being not a property , u can seek variety in things not in a human , can they for variety in kids too or go and seek variety in their mothers and families
Oluwole is so we'll spoken and an amazing husband...I pray his marriage lasts for eternity and his wife appreciates him as much as he appreciates her😌🤲 We need to protect him by all means❤
Mr Chukwuma, animals also steal, kill, practice cannibalism, and even have same-sex relations. We are not like other animals, we are of higher intelligence and should act accordingly.
true ,its a crazy person who tries to say we are like animals they where created after there own kind and humans after ther kind in Gods image ,the sooner people know this the sooner we have love for eachnother and help not blame ,kill and abuse
@Davian775 That is why we have Laws and Religions. So that people don't act like degenerates and kill each other. And we agree as a collective on what is good and what is evil.
Both men and women have a natural tendency to look at others. But because of love and respect to my husband i do not even allow room for it. But these men be thinking they are the only ones with feelings nonsensical
Besides being spiritual, as a woman I do not want to share my man or husband. As a Christian or not. Would these men be okay sharing a woman they actually love? I highly doubt. So then, they can't be shared either. I want to be special and the only one. Neither do I want to be cheated on. So this guy saying it's only religion and women need competition.....
They are selfish that's all. A man wouldn't even want to share his side chick (a woman he's using for just sex) with another man. And yet they want women to be perfectly ok with sharing their husband. Another debate topic should be are women polygamous. Men are acting like we don't have eyes and the desire to explore as well... but our upbringing, societal expectations, etc prevents us from admitting anything like that. But time and time again in our society we find married women cheating (and men raising a child that isn't theirs), single women sleeping around, etc. despite all the risks and slut shaming that may come with it.
I don't mean to be offensive but most if not all the guys in the polygamous section are not very knowledgeable. Talking about variety in material possessions and comparing it to human relationship is not a bright thing to do
I swear I felt so irritated seeing them comparing objects to human relationships! Even the elderly man too, they know what they are doing na, comparing objects to human relationships in this context?? Come on na! It's not bright at all..
Dear Ladies, choose a good man, a very kind man who is particular about your feelings, your personal development and your purpose in life. What are these people spewing???😢😢😢😢😢😢
Biologically speaking men are designed to be polygamous . Due to extremely higher levels of testosterone ( men have on average between 17x-23x higher levels of testosterone than women) women are born with all the eggs that they produce. After puberty, they start dropping one egg a month ( on average), until menopause. Men produce millions of sperm cells every day from puberty until death. Once a woman gets pregnant, she’s out of commission for the next 3 years as far as reproduction is concerned, and she can typically only have one child within that time period. Men can have as many kids with as many women that they sleep with. Women are HYPERGAMOUS in nature ( quality over quantity). This is because they are vulnerable, especially during pregnancy and infants nursing. They also require massive amounts of resources and protection, that is why they’re attracted to taller fit men with excess resources.
11:34 imagine at this age, you are referencing animals for human behavior. Instead of searching human history, it's NatGeoWild. Stay with your fellow animals in the wild 😂😂
@@prophetofanu8933Apes and humans are different because humans have language, which helps us communicate and learn complex ideas more easily. In training, humans can follow detailed instructions and understand reasons behind tasks, while apes learn through simpler instructions and observation. Please don't use this comparison ever.😂
Actually most children that grew up in polygamy society they tend to be monogamist because of the traumas, jealous, envy, comparison, insult especially to the mother
14:37 I want to see his reaction when his wife will go outside for variety 😂😂 it's only about what men want. Omo, I'm not anybody's property, open marriage or monogamy, me sef I get other spec
it not ,it only logical to you because it favours the idea u Vogue, he never argued logically with fact ,figures and history ,he coated everything from his religious point of view ...
what people do not realise is , polygamy did not arise as a benefit for men, polygamy actually benefits women than men in the sense that , polygamy isnt because men get to have multiple wives but its so because 'every woman' will have a husband Many years ago, when men went to war(this is all over the world,from the vikings to roman empires etc) and lost their lives, they left behind a wife and children, it was necessary that these wives and children were supported therefore other men took on that responsibility thereby giving rise to having mulitple wives etc. it was about support system and it got stuck
Note that they are more unmarried men than women in Nigeria. So more women should take multiple husbands ( polyandry ) rather ,based on your logic. Anyways , I want men to also benefit . I go like marry you and your elderbrother 😂
@@ChallangeAcceptedd thanks for your comment, however what my comment was looking to establish is some form of a background history as to why polygamy might have started. as to whatever happens in our modern era, every man and woman to his or her own. hope this helps
Pro polygamy advocates forget that polygamy isn’t only for men. I want to hear their opinion when it comes to polyandry. They’re here shouting variety is the spice of life. Women don’t need spice?? 😂 If anything women have more reason to be polygamous to satisfy different needs
The argument about men wanting to follow the path of their fathers as regards polygamous/ monogamous marriages has a faulty premise. There are lot of men who prefer monogamy because they've seen the damage polygamy can do. My maternal grandfather had over 6 wives, and all his male children are monogamous
Something to implement with these series which could reveal itself as interesting is bringing in one person who doesn’t fully agree with any of the sides. after the sides have discussed the given prompt/question.This (neutral) person could now give their input or talk abt which side they are leaning towards This could be a really interesting idea.But it may be difficult to find someone TRULY neutral on the topic
This is a very mature conversation. Polygamy has its own benefits but monogamy proves to be the best. Polygamy works best when a man's riches is enormous
Polygamy doesn't have any benefits abeg. This is the thing with you people😂 other guy brought in research. Oga has probably never read a research paper in his life. The 'research' proves that polygamy is not good and is not doing anything good for anyone except fulfilling the selfish fleshly desires that you people worship so bad😭😭 Results of polygamous marriages are especially hard on the womem because they are more likely and prone to depression, jealousy, overall life dissatisfaction, marital dissatisfaction, etc. They are also more likely to be treated as objects than as a person with humans and emotions because of the many wives the husband has to 'cater' to and if you're unaware, that is how the concept of slaves began. You don't see people as your equal. There are also obvious negative effects on men, more on how they begin to view and value they wives, taking them for granted, good example is the man in a white shirt and jeans with his 'if she vex me, i will go see another woman'🙄. Absolutely so vile. Humans, especially women are built for emotional conmection. Men too, no matter how many times they'll be forming hard guy. That many wives doesn't guarantee providing for them all equally. And notice how it's almost only and always poor men that go into this. Marrying more wives than they can handle and having more children than they can handle as well. Just blindly going after fleshly desires. This is why im the bible says that the flesh is evil. The only 'good' thing I've ever read on this topic is about fulfilling sexual desire. Is it only sex that makes up a human being? Is it only sex that is doing you people? It's not a flex ohh abeg. Not a flex at all!
why the hell is the man saying if the wife is not behaving giving him whala he will say i go to the woman who not do therefore she will behave what a silly thinking
I wish there was a platform like this were single people would line up and give their opinions about things like this, a great avenue to block lots of people before them mistakenly chyke me. That man’s opinions was just giving me a headache
what a silly thinking, my thoughts exactly. He does not want wahala, just happiness in the marriage. What people don't know is that, your happiness is not dependent on anyone.
I'm very ignorant but I think between genders, neither is more "polygamous." Some people can handle having multiple romantic relationships. Some people can't even handle having one. Usually bad to make blanket statements.
It is rare for people to be polygamous, it always starts off mono then eventually they usually go "I'm dissatisfied with this aspect..yeah me too let bring someone else in" then what happens is one ends up leaving, usually the one that was there from the start... adding personal events , a friend of mines was actually kicked out of one because the other two were never satisfied with them ....but I agree that it's possible but it's the poor who do it more , some do it to run away from their certain partners by going to make babies with another, it's sad but it happens
Black American polyamorist here. Just wanted to say that commitment to monogamy and commitment to individual people are two different things. Love while an action, is also abundant in energy. We see it with parents with multiple children. Time, resources, and physical energy are finite though. No two people are the same though so no two relationships are the same so the love will always be different. But unconditional love is possible and not solely transactional love. Also, I do believe majority of humans are nonmonogamous (there is a large umbrella of nonmonogamy. Not just polygamy nor polyamory). Majority of the species on Earth on nonmonogamous (males and females). But I do believe SOME people are inherently monogamous: they only have the capacity to romantically love one person at a time and/or pour into one relationship at a time. But I'm glad they are talking about the impact of colonization and Christianity cause that's real. I align with polyamory though. I as a woman desire multiple partners and the freedom of connection and don't believe that should be reserved for one person while others are monogamous to them.
Polygamy was our culture before the white man, including many unbeneficial things like child marriage, human sacrifices and authoritarian dictators in our Kings and monarchs. I guess we should also go back to those.
Polygamy in African culture was to secure heir 💀 or to show off how rich they are 😂 it was not required in my knowledge to marry more than one so it just became a trend
People should know the difference between Culture and tradition. Culture can never be changed or evolve but Tradition can be changed. The lady that said that killing of twins was culture lied because killing of twins was a tradition and that's why it was stopped, it's like saying that the act of having a deity is culture which is not true.Having a deity is a tradition and can be changed not Culture. In Igbo we call it Omenala(culture) and Odinala(tradition).
Apart from religion, the main reason I disagree with polygamy, is because of the affect it has on the children. Polygamy creates absent fathers, as you can't properly bond with many children even if you have financial stability
for me I can't cheat I'm principle and always cherish to be responsible but if I have riches I will be polygamist. That sure money change people to go for desires
I'm Nigerian and the lady that said our culture was killing twins is an educated illiterate cuz let her mention the tribe that did so instead of generalizing it
Women in CS saying what if women are the ones pushing for polygamy? Well, nature can't be toyed with. Women want to bond with a man not men but if there is that woman who want to bond with men; i wish her the absolute best & i say this as a man who is not even pro polygamy.
…the only reason that it seems like women ‘want to bond with a man, not men’, is because of society. Society has made it so even this argument with the men pushing for polygamy and saying it’s their nature, it’s simply what society has allowed with even making the woman not believe that she should enjoy sex talk less of having options or knowing that she has options. If this was a man’s nature as most men proclaim, they actually haven’t seen cultures where it’s actually the women that are polygamous in nature and these women are the ones that rule and if the man or men don’t behave themselves, they change them. According to definition of what nature is, it transcends culture, yes? So why are there cultures where the reverse is the case? i.e women are the one who are polygamous. Again, it’s just society. It’s easy for a gender to say something is natural when it benefits them, but ‘woman wanting to bond with just a man’, I can tell you that it isn’t necessarily the case. Everyone wants variety 😂 everyone has wandering eyes, just because society makes women seem like they don’t have these things doesn’t make it so. To be honest if you think about it, bonding to just one man can be stressful 😂 let us all have variety; one man is extremely rich, the other is a good lover, another one just likes to clean, etc. there is healthy competition and we are all happy, no? Basically, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. That’s all I am saying.
Polygamy exists because sin exists! God is not a confusionist! He created one man and one wife, so anything polygamy exists as a result of sin, Bible or religion aside, there were people who are not Christians but still remained committed to their partner and I believe there are people who would still do that till today..I love the monogamists, they are very very intelligent and I love that guy on white, he's really honest, I love the fact that he is honest ❤️ and he has integrity, saying God put polygamy in the nature of man, please it's totally wrong, for what purpose exactly? God will put polygamy in the nature of man and God would still say, "thou shall not commit adultery"?? No now..as for mr Kingsley, his points are not wrong but the fact he accepts it personally to himself his girlfriend or wife needs be at alert o..
Kingsley was in theoAyoms reality show to marri a rich guy daughter. How did it go? He end up in the hospital... Polygamy hell. I grow up in one. Nothing good comes out of it..
Kingsley on the poygamy side, he was on the feminist side in an old video Hearing what he’s saying here about women is just funny and confirmed my view on feminist-ally, sad.
We are animals with conscience. We are animals because both men AND women, are driven by instinct: if a healthy man or woman see something they like their body will react to it. The conscience comes to play in decision making: not everything that crosses through our mind we should do. An action being natural doesn’t make it right. The implications of polygamy need to be discussed: the jealousy between the wives; the conflict between the kids; being a man old and having to deal with more than one wife and the kids that came out of the union; abuse between one wife and another’s wife children; inheritance issues… What the men on the "pro polygamy" panel are failing to understand is that polygamy isn’t a way to avoid the responsibility of being faithful to your partner. Polygamy isn't an excuse for marital infidelity. You must commit to the wives you have and be loyal to them. Men having lovers and cheating on their spouses isn't an argument in favour of polygamy, because: 1) women cheat too but I don't see them using it to favour polyandry 2) you can have multiple wives and still cheat
Of course the men would be speaking such nonsense. There is nothing wrong with polygamy if all parties consent, but often times it favors the man and is at a disadvantage for the women.
Polygamy is celebrated when it favors the man. But is frowned up when it favors women. If the wives or women of those men supporting polygamy decided that they also wanted more than one man, all hell would break loose. It’s selfish and one sided.
exactly..because the man cant control you if the woman have more than one husband ,it is all about control not true love God said he is a jealous God only be faithful to HIM ..
I dont support polygamy, but let's be real. If a woman tries it, it will ruin her life period. She will be a whole immediately without delay, and that's how the world sees it.
Polygamy does favour women, as it gives every woman the chance to be a wife. Monogamy leads to leftover women that are bitter.
@@sanguiniuswarhammer4669that is the stupidest thing I’ve probably ever read
rubbish@@sanguiniuswarhammer4669
Now if the shoe is on the other foot, all hell with break lose. Men love themselves more than they love the woman they choose period.
if u can find a man that will let u marry another good 4 u
Nonsense.
1. Biologically speaking men are designed to be polygamous . Due to extremely higher levels of testosterone ( men have on average between 17x-23x higher levels of testosterone than women) women are born with all the eggs that they produce. After puberty, they start dropping one egg a month ( on average), until menopause. Men produce millions of sperm cells every day from puberty until death. Once a woman gets pregnant, she’s out of commission for the next 3 years as far as reproduction is concerned, and she can typically only have one child within that time period. Men can have as many kids with as many women that they sleep with.
2. Women are HYPERGAMOUS in nature ( quality over quantity). This is because they are vulnerable, especially during pregnancy and infants nursing. They also require massive amounts of resources and protection, that’s why they’re attracted to taller fit men with excess resources.
Esp the African man
Cry
And those classless men comparing women to items it’s just disgusting
the man (in white clothes)who understands about love is a blessing to the world
I am telling you . From his mindset, I can tell you his wife must be lucky.
@@ChallangeAcceptedd not only his wife any buisness dealings or friends ,his character is to have good intentions
Exactly! I love the fact that he didn't pretend..but he plainly said he chose commitment and with the help of God he will continue in it..
That's everything to girl but for me I can't cheat I'm principle and always cherish to be responsible but if I have riches I will be polygamist. That sure money change people to go for desires
That's everything to girl but for me I can't cheat I'm principle and always cherish to be responsible but if I have riches I will be polygamist. That sure money change people to go for desires
If your husband is giving you headache, carry your phone and call your side dude😂😂
@@black-te4tn real!!
Rabid feminist spotted 😂.
or have multiple
Try it please and you'll soon understand why men and women are different. You'll hate yourself more than society will and that's just because women are not wired and even physically and mentally equipped for it. They can cope long enough to fool themselves into liking it but trust me, when the realization kicks in it's down hill from there.
Competition is good for business after all
As a Muslim, it doesn't matter if you're rich. Some just don't want other wives. Mostly, it's always the poor that have many wives.
Right!! I'm a Christian by the way! But in the past in our religion. Man were able to have multiple wives of they were capable of doing so. Most of the time those "extra " wives were widow with kids
I am blown about Muslims have multiple wives because of their religion. The Quaran says do not take multiple wives unless you satisfy all of them equally emotionally, physically and financially. Most, if not all, can not fulfill that. It wasn't even fulfilled by their own prophet.
@@duckruler5507 Fr, and it's not because scripture allows men to have multiple wives (it doesn't), but because it says to take care of widows is a way of practicing true religion.
Your men will still have 72 virgins in heaven that's just how your Allah made it to be and that's just lustful and lack self control.
I can't believe you called yourself a Muslim, which one is mostly poor people have many wives.
Little did you know the reason behind allowing Muslim men to have more than one wife?
Tho it was made clear they should stick to one if they know they can't manage them in terms of justice.
Think of the population of women to men (4 to 1), why do you think there are more prostitutes and the likes. Let me draw the curtain here.
Is woman food? Is woman car? Why do they keep comparing women to objects???
Because we are property to them, not human beings with feelings, ideas, etc
If the women who are popular emphasize romance in terms of commercial value and comfort, it sends a message to men that relationships are more about materialism than genuine connection. Meaning you can be bought of the shelve 😢
objects to be acquired
SaidaBoj and her likes made sure women are objectified.
That's the danger of allowing people like Saida Boj bring up useless ideology in podcats
That is a real point for concern o, that wife is a whole human being not a property , u can seek variety in things not in a human , can they for variety in kids too or go and seek variety in their mothers and families
Oluwole is so we'll spoken and an amazing husband...I pray his marriage lasts for eternity and his wife appreciates him as much as he appreciates her😌🤲
We need to protect him by all means❤
Amen. Thank you ❤
Amen!
Omo as Monalisa first talk I burst laugh 😂😂
The accent is here and there
forced accent
@ukiastardoll7864 it's obviously not fake
Monalisa o 😂 Phoneé is not by force
@@choirofangels6228it’s obviously fake she’s trying to sound posh British lol
Mr Chukwuma, animals also steal, kill, practice cannibalism, and even have same-sex relations. We are not like other animals, we are of higher intelligence and should act accordingly.
true ,its a crazy person who tries to say we are like animals they where created after there own kind and humans after ther kind in Gods image ,the sooner people know this the sooner we have love for eachnother and help not blame ,kill and abuse
What happens if we take law and religion away? That’s stopping majority humans from these actions
@Davian775 That is why we have Laws and Religions. So that people don't act like degenerates and kill each other. And we agree as a collective on what is good and what is evil.
@@Davian775 stop acting like you're not benefiting from these legal and moral constraints
Many animals also mate for life too. But their NatGeo wild only allows them to see animals to go around jumping from one female to another
Both men and women have a natural tendency to look at others. But because of love and respect to my husband i do not even allow room for it. But these men be thinking they are the only ones with feelings nonsensical
The woman on white is so smart
"If you feel like killing someone, would you say you're murderous in nature?"😂
Besides being spiritual, as a woman I do not want to share my man or husband. As a Christian or not. Would these men be okay sharing a woman they actually love? I highly doubt. So then, they can't be shared either. I want to be special and the only one. Neither do I want to be cheated on.
So this guy saying it's only religion and women need competition.....
I want to marry you
They are selfish that's all. A man wouldn't even want to share his side chick (a woman he's using for just sex) with another man. And yet they want women to be perfectly ok with sharing their husband.
Another debate topic should be are women polygamous. Men are acting like we don't have eyes and the desire to explore as well... but our upbringing, societal expectations, etc prevents us from admitting anything like that. But time and time again in our society we find married women cheating (and men raising a child that isn't theirs), single women sleeping around, etc. despite all the risks and slut shaming that may come with it.
Women do need competition. They start behaving lackadaisical towards their husband if allowed too much comfort
What is doing me right now is that people's husbands are sitting right there, defending that it's in their nature to cheat
Basically letting them know that sooner or later, I will cheat on you 😂 and yo, it isn’t my fault because I am polygamous in nature 😂
@@LME101_soon now or later ke?? people that are already cheating😂
I thought women wanted honesty?
I don't mean to be offensive but most if not all the guys in the polygamous section are not very knowledgeable. Talking about variety in material possessions and comparing it to human relationship is not a bright thing to do
I swear I felt so irritated seeing them comparing objects to human relationships! Even the elderly man too, they know what they are doing na, comparing objects to human relationships in this context?? Come on na! It's not bright at all..
70% of Many rivalries, hate, killings and jealousy in families occur mainly in polygamous homes, u see step wives and step kids hating each other.
correct, monogamy is best for societal organization
Cruise... Sha do the Polyandry version
Dear Ladies, choose a good man, a very kind man who is particular about your feelings, your personal development and your purpose in life. What are these people spewing???😢😢😢😢😢😢
Trash
They are spewing biological facts
“It’s our culture” says men wearing trousers 😂
Is trouser African culture?
Any small thing, "King", "King", "King"
King with this your trouser? 😂
The polygamous men cannot wear one cloth all week. Mmm my question is can their wives wear one cloth all week?
It's them comparing women to clothes for me 😢 .....
Biologically speaking men are designed to be polygamous . Due to extremely higher levels of testosterone ( men have on average between 17x-23x higher levels of testosterone than women) women are born with all the eggs that they produce. After puberty, they start dropping one egg a month ( on average), until menopause. Men produce millions of sperm cells every day from puberty until death. Once a woman gets pregnant, she’s out of commission for the next 3 years as far as reproduction is concerned, and she can typically only have one child within that time period. Men can have as many kids with as many women that they sleep with.
Women are HYPERGAMOUS in nature ( quality over quantity). This is because they are vulnerable, especially during pregnancy and infants nursing. They also require massive amounts of resources and protection, that is why they’re attracted to taller fit men with excess resources.
They have to collectively share 1 piece of dirty cloth.
Why That Monalisa girl accent Dey vex me like this 😭the accent get confusion sef😂😂 shey na British or American 🤣
E get touch of Indian inside sef😂😂😂
Reminds me of episode of Junky Students when they got a new teacher😂
Na the comment be this 😂😂😂
She is trying too hard she needs to relax 😂
British
11:34 imagine at this age, you are referencing animals for human behavior. Instead of searching human history, it's NatGeoWild. Stay with your fellow animals in the wild 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Don't mind them😭😭God gave them dominion, but they're still associating themselves with animals😭😭
Broke my tooth😂😂😂😂
Humans are animals. We are of the Ape specie
@@prophetofanu8933Apes and humans are different because humans have language, which helps us communicate and learn complex ideas more easily. In training, humans can follow detailed instructions and understand reasons behind tasks, while apes learn through simpler instructions and observation. Please don't use this comparison ever.😂
I think you need to bring children from polygamous homes to come and share their opinions
Thank you, Oluwole, for such an insightful perspective!
Actually most children that grew up in polygamy society they tend to be monogamist because of the traumas, jealous, envy, comparison, insult especially to the mother
Oluwole is the saving grace of this conversation. Mona Lisa is the comic relief 😂
Notice how its only men on the polygamy side
That part. Open it up foor everyone. It's never fun when the rabbit has the gun.
It makes sense to me. Because women want a high value man to spend his resources on her and her offspring alone 😂.
@@pkom6418 I see nothing wrong with that
@@VâyasylvanaA rich man marrying multiple wives does the community and future kids a great favor.
@@pkom6418 how
The man on white 👏🏾👏🏾 One crate of cold Pepsi for you 👏🏾wow.
14:37 I want to see his reaction when his wife will go outside for variety 😂😂 it's only about what men want. Omo, I'm not anybody's property, open marriage or monogamy, me sef I get other spec
Open marriage or monogamy. Gbam!
Do one for “are women polygamous?”.
Notice how the polygamist never answered the question " If your daughters husband takes another wife how would you feel"
The man on white is so sound. His logic and arguments are sound.
it not ,it only logical to you because it favours the idea u Vogue, he never argued logically with fact ,figures and history ,he coated everything from his religious point of view ...
what people do not realise is , polygamy did not arise as a benefit for men, polygamy actually benefits women than men in the sense that , polygamy isnt because men get to have multiple wives but its so because 'every woman' will have a husband
Many years ago, when men went to war(this is all over the world,from the vikings to roman empires etc) and lost their lives, they left behind a wife and children, it was necessary that these wives and children were supported therefore other men took on that responsibility thereby giving rise to having mulitple wives etc. it was about support system and it got stuck
Note that they are more unmarried men than women in Nigeria. So more women should take multiple husbands ( polyandry ) rather ,based on your logic. Anyways , I want men to also benefit .
I go like marry you and your elderbrother 😂
Imagine having the nerve to say “I will clean up this mess I made by forcing you into a life of slavery at my side. You are welcome” 😂😂
@@ChallangeAcceptedd thanks for your comment, however what my comment was looking to establish is some form of a background history as to why polygamy might have started. as to whatever happens in our modern era, every man and woman to his or her own. hope this helps
@@kwahuprince5229 ok , I get your point now. So you are talking about how it originated not justifying it. Valid
This would definitely be an interesting episode
I agree😂
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Ohh really, will do
Pro polygamy advocates forget that polygamy isn’t only for men. I want to hear their opinion when it comes to polyandry. They’re here shouting variety is the spice of life. Women don’t need spice?? 😂
If anything women have more reason to be polygamous to satisfy different needs
We don't need spice 😞😞
As women all we need is salt 😂
The argument about men wanting to follow the path of their fathers as regards polygamous/ monogamous marriages has a faulty premise. There are lot of men who prefer monogamy because they've seen the damage polygamy can do.
My maternal grandfather had over 6 wives, and all his male children are monogamous
5:48 The dude explained everything.
Something to implement with these series which could reveal itself as interesting is bringing in one person who doesn’t fully agree with any of the sides. after the sides have discussed the given prompt/question.This (neutral) person could now give their input or talk abt which side they are leaning towards This could be a really interesting idea.But it may be difficult to find someone TRULY neutral on the topic
This is a very mature conversation. Polygamy has its own benefits but monogamy proves to be the best. Polygamy works best when a man's riches is enormous
Polygamy doesn't have any benefits abeg. This is the thing with you people😂 other guy brought in research. Oga has probably never read a research paper in his life. The 'research' proves that polygamy is not good and is not doing anything good for anyone except fulfilling the selfish fleshly desires that you people worship so bad😭😭
Results of polygamous marriages are especially hard on the womem because they are more likely and prone to depression, jealousy, overall life dissatisfaction, marital dissatisfaction, etc. They are also more likely to be treated as objects than as a person with humans and emotions because of the many wives the husband has to 'cater' to and if you're unaware, that is how the concept of slaves began. You don't see people as your equal.
There are also obvious negative effects on men, more on how they begin to view and value they wives, taking them for granted, good example is the man in a white shirt and jeans with his 'if she vex me, i will go see another woman'🙄. Absolutely so vile. Humans, especially women are built for emotional conmection. Men too, no matter how many times they'll be forming hard guy. That many wives doesn't guarantee providing for them all equally. And notice how it's almost only and always poor men that go into this. Marrying more wives than they can handle and having more children than they can handle as well. Just blindly going after fleshly desires. This is why im the bible says that the flesh is evil. The only 'good' thing I've ever read on this topic is about fulfilling sexual desire. Is it only sex that makes up a human being? Is it only sex that is doing you people? It's not a flex ohh abeg. Not a flex at all!
I beg to differ monogamy works best Everytime..
What are the benefits to polygamy beyond the man's seggsual options??
I love this show ... I get to learn different perspectives of societal issues/topics
Monalisa sounds like Siri
I pray that God blessed this oluwole guy
why the hell is the man saying if the wife is not behaving giving him whala he will say i go to the woman who not do therefore she will behave what a silly thinking
I know right, as if he is a prize to be won. This same person will be so mad if his wife made the same statement
I wish there was a platform like this were single people would line up and give their opinions about things like this, a great avenue to block lots of people before them mistakenly chyke me. That man’s opinions was just giving me a headache
@@Justugoeze 🤣🤣🤣
what a silly thinking, my thoughts exactly. He does not want wahala, just happiness in the marriage. What people don't know is that, your happiness is not dependent on anyone.
12:12 Shey Monalisa dey read news ni? 😂
I love this channel walai. God bless the content ideologist
Mr Oluwole may God bless you Sir❤
Kingsley looks like he has multiple wives and still cheats.
It’s always men wey Dey talk if na womAn marry 2 husband now she be ashewo 😂
Without polygamy a lot of our family members will not be alive today
It's the culture that evolves. It's common sense, mindset and education.
I'm very ignorant but I think between genders, neither is more "polygamous."
Some people can handle having multiple romantic relationships. Some people can't even handle having one. Usually bad to make blanket statements.
It is rare for people to be polygamous, it always starts off mono then eventually they usually go "I'm dissatisfied with this aspect..yeah me too let bring someone else in" then what happens is one ends up leaving, usually the one that was there from the start... adding personal events , a friend of mines was actually kicked out of one because the other two were never satisfied with them ....but I agree that it's possible but it's the poor who do it more , some do it to run away from their certain partners by going to make babies with another, it's sad but it happens
Is this the African version of Jubilee?
Nigerian 😅
Yes it is
Nigerian
How about a conversation on polyandry???
The girl in Orange has an American and English accent at the same time. It's so funny 😂😂😂
I actually like the concept please keep up the good work and I’m definitely subscribing
We should be monogamous
Everyone was vibing except the lady in orange I think. She seemed pissed
Black American polyamorist here. Just wanted to say that commitment to monogamy and commitment to individual people are two different things. Love while an action, is also abundant in energy. We see it with parents with multiple children. Time, resources, and physical energy are finite though. No two people are the same though so no two relationships are the same so the love will always be different. But unconditional love is possible and not solely transactional love.
Also, I do believe majority of humans are nonmonogamous (there is a large umbrella of nonmonogamy. Not just polygamy nor polyamory). Majority of the species on Earth on nonmonogamous (males and females). But I do believe SOME people are inherently monogamous: they only have the capacity to romantically love one person at a time and/or pour into one relationship at a time.
But I'm glad they are talking about the impact of colonization and Christianity cause that's real.
I align with polyamory though. I as a woman desire multiple partners and the freedom of connection and don't believe that should be reserved for one person while others are monogamous to them.
Polygamy was our culture before the white man, including many unbeneficial things like child marriage, human sacrifices and authoritarian dictators in our Kings and monarchs.
I guess we should also go back to those.
Polygamy in African culture was to secure heir 💀 or to show off how rich they are 😂 it was not required in my knowledge to marry more than one so it just became a trend
@@duckruler5507
Just like all the things I said above had use.
Sure it was a trend among rich, but after we knew better we decided to stop it.
True, culture is ever evolving
Fr. Make we go back patapata.
Who brought fake UK accent to the scene??😅
Mona lisa accent sounds forced fake. Where is she from what part of Europe
I don't have a problem with men that are polygamous ooo. As long as the women they marry are also allowed to be polygamous too.
The Lady on red English dey pain my ear
Was I the only one that observed the women were pro-monogamy and the men were majorly pro-polygamy?
It tells you that men generally can’t be with one woman, and the women hate to share their man with other women …
Finally yall have changed your subscription pitch
Cos they’ve finally gotten to 50k subs I think😅
The pro-polygynous panel was very unqualified to speak on this matter
People should know the difference between Culture and tradition.
Culture can never be changed or evolve but Tradition can be changed.
The lady that said that killing of twins was culture lied because killing of twins was a tradition and that's why it was stopped, it's like saying that the act of having a deity is culture which is not true.Having a deity is a tradition and can be changed not Culture.
In Igbo we call it Omenala(culture) and Odinala(tradition).
Polygamy is an African culture not an African tradition
Apart from religion, the main reason I disagree with polygamy, is because of the affect it has on the children.
Polygamy creates absent fathers, as you can't properly bond with many children even if you have financial stability
Thing with polygamous society's, a few powerful men get the share of the women while the poor and normal guys get left with a goat or a donkey.
for me I can't cheat I'm principle and always cherish to be responsible but if I have riches I will be polygamist. That sure money change people to go for desires
I'm Nigerian and the lady that said our culture was killing twins is an educated illiterate cuz let her mention the tribe that did so instead of generalizing it
This man in white!!! Wow God bless you and your marriage.
Women in CS saying what if women are the ones pushing for polygamy? Well, nature can't be toyed with. Women want to bond with a man not men but if there is that woman who want to bond with men; i wish her the absolute best & i say this as a man who is not even pro polygamy.
…the only reason that it seems like women ‘want to bond with a man, not men’, is because of society. Society has made it so even this argument with the men pushing for polygamy and saying it’s their nature, it’s simply what society has allowed with even making the woman not believe that she should enjoy sex talk less of having options or knowing that she has options. If this was a man’s nature as most men proclaim, they actually haven’t seen cultures where it’s actually the women that are polygamous in nature and these women are the ones that rule and if the man or men don’t behave themselves, they change them. According to definition of what nature is, it transcends culture, yes? So why are there cultures where the reverse is the case? i.e women are the one who are polygamous. Again, it’s just society. It’s easy for a gender to say something is natural when it benefits them, but ‘woman wanting to bond with just a man’, I can tell you that it isn’t necessarily the case. Everyone wants variety 😂 everyone has wandering eyes, just because society makes women seem like they don’t have these things doesn’t make it so. To be honest if you think about it, bonding to just one man can be stressful 😂 let us all have variety; one man is extremely rich, the other is a good lover, another one just likes to clean, etc. there is healthy competition and we are all happy, no? Basically, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. That’s all I am saying.
Why is there no polygynist in the conversation?
Polygamy exists because sin exists! God is not a confusionist! He created one man and one wife, so anything polygamy exists as a result of sin, Bible or religion aside, there were people who are not Christians but still remained committed to their partner and I believe there are people who would still do that till today..I love the monogamists, they are very very intelligent and I love that guy on white, he's really honest, I love the fact that he is honest ❤️ and he has integrity, saying God put polygamy in the nature of man, please it's totally wrong, for what purpose exactly? God will put polygamy in the nature of man and God would still say, "thou shall not commit adultery"?? No now..as for mr Kingsley, his points are not wrong but the fact he accepts it personally to himself his girlfriend or wife needs be at alert o..
Oluwole of hindsight podcast🎉🎉
If people can be gay & lgbtq by nature then men can be polygamous by NATURE. This issue shouldnt be a topic of contention
Do the pro-polygamist realize that women are people, not objects?
You should have brought that Ghanaian season man to talk
This conversation is one of the most uninteligent i've watched on this channel.....But i love CRUISE regardless
The Brother in white tho....Spot On!
Kingsley was in theoAyoms reality show to marri a rich guy daughter. How did it go? He end up in the hospital... Polygamy hell. I grow up in one. Nothing good comes out of it..
Abeg... Women also meet men they like while married. Liking multiple people is our nature as humans
As if women are not polygamous in nature
Go marry two husbands an.. Ode
@@som_theigboboy are you not stupid?
i just want to know if the polygamy men would keep this energy if it was a woman that was polyandry
Kingsley on the poygamy side, he was on the feminist side in an old video
Hearing what he’s saying here about women is just funny and confirmed my view on feminist-ally, sad.
We are animals with conscience.
We are animals because both men AND women, are driven by instinct: if a healthy man or woman see something they like their body will react to it.
The conscience comes to play in decision making: not everything that crosses through our mind we should do. An action being natural doesn’t make it right.
The implications of polygamy need to be discussed: the jealousy between the wives; the conflict between the kids; being a man old and having to deal with more than one wife and the kids that came out of the union; abuse between one wife and another’s wife children; inheritance issues…
What the men on the "pro polygamy" panel are failing to understand is that polygamy isn’t a way to avoid the responsibility of being faithful to your partner. Polygamy isn't an excuse for marital infidelity. You must commit to the wives you have and be loyal to them.
Men having lovers and cheating on their spouses isn't an argument in favour of polygamy, because:
1) women cheat too but I don't see them using it to favour polyandry
2) you can have multiple wives and still cheat
This would be an interesting episode if lies and personal differences was not involved
The problem is they are for polygamy only when it comes to men.
All I heard is i , me, those days,spice and verity.selfish lot .
You shouldn't remove religion anyway, because God definitely exists.
Lady in red’s accent is throwing me off
Lots ❤️ to the woman on white.shes smart
By nature men are polygamous…but only a Godly person can become better than his tendencies.
Men do not owe women happiness
My question is why did they bring women here (I am a woman)? Not many woman will be championing polygamy...
May God give me a man like the guy dressed in all white ❤️👌🏽Godly, not a selfish person, and considerate.
Of course the men would be speaking such nonsense. There is nothing wrong with polygamy if all parties consent, but often times it favors the man and is at a disadvantage for the women.
It’s crazy how the conversation is centered around men lol. Will those men agree to women having multiple husbands?
Nature ?
The guy on white just smart
Why una no invite Mr polygamist Yul he would have spiced up the sense@lessness coming from the polygamy side 😂😂