Woman's friend and husband object to her having a baby in her 40s | What Would You Do? | WWYD
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- A woman in her 40s is telling her friend she wants to have a baby. Her friend expresses her concerns about her desire to have a child. What happens if we switch the friend to a husband?
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This actress and those tears. Omgoodness, she brought me to tears.
Ko Um that actress has blue eyes, wow
same
So?
Omg same Omg Omg
Ko Um Same
My mum had me at 43, she’s 61 now (and I’m 18). Never did me any harm. Sure, I wouldn’t mind if she were a little younger. But I love her all the same.
Maddy Gowers my mother had me at 32 and she’s 50 now and I’m 18
Maddy Gowers it’s about the potential health risks. By age 49 the Down syndrome percentage is 10% (which is very high).
My mom had me at 18 now she is 30 and im 11
My mom had me at 20 years old now she’s 32 I’m 12
@beerus sama Are you saying that the original commentor is lying about how old their mother was when pregnant or the entire subject on it being a lie? Either way, you sound very ignorant.
My mom had me at 47. It wasn’t on purpose, but still, here I am. And she is the best mom ever, I love her so much, she’s the sweetest person in the world. God bless her heart. ❤️ Age doesn’t matter, there are many mothers in their 20ties who are just horrible to their children.
Your pretty
@@tonysolorio6127 ITS YOU'RE jk I am just bored
Correction, MY mother is the best.
My mom had me at 24.
That lady is such a good actress
RyanA who?
Because she can relate...
French fries He’s talking about the main actress which whom was crying
Traci is better actress. idiot
Idiot for having a different opinion?
The last guy warmed my heart . You’re never too old to be a parent . There’s so many women who can’t conceive for years and feel ashamed / all kinds of life factors . Never give up on your dreams . Tbh I worked at a daycare once and a five year old girl told me her mom was 41 during lunch. I love how this is becoming more normal
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
@@citizencan4444 Her body, her rules. He doesn't like it? Then he can leave. 😊✌🏼
@@moonsigil He should definitely leave her if she can't respect the mutual agreement they had at the start of their marriage (of not wanting children)...
@@citizencan4444 I agree, he should leave!
Maybe not to be a parent but you can be too old to be a ACTIVE parent which is just as important
who’s discussing these things out loud in public LOL
Gasper Kosmac once I heard a woman and her husband discuss divorce in a doctors office, people discuss all kinds of things in public.
Some people bring up things in public to prevent screaming and overreacting
Gasper Kosmac some people don’t care what others think
Some people just don't give a damn about other people's lives okay..
lol true
Do one about self harm scars or a anxiety or mental health attack in public
anonymous mental breakdown in public ? Lol
Անի trust me it happens
who tf cuts themselves in public??? shut up
someone whos depressed obviously
Vina
They probably meant someone with self harm scars, not cutting themselves in public.
The last man's response was so heart warming and his kid was so cute as well.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
@@citizencan4444 The woman wants a child but the man doesn't. Equality is letting the woman get the baby in a different manner without her husband being the father.
@@ekales_ that makes sense... as long as both party signs a pre-natal (similar to prenup) agreeing that the child (whome only one party wants) shall not have any claim to the husband's family name, property, inheritance or legacy in any way. Also, not entitled to any maintenance or child support from the husband. And make it clear that any financial and time cost relating to the child, is solely the responsibility of the wife. If they can agree on those terms, then it seems fair...
@@citizencan4444 I agree
Please do something like a 14 year old girl with selfharm scars and wounds how the public reacts
Lillyiiii that’s good!
I hope they see your idea and use it
that would be a good idea considering how many kids are like this these days
Lillyiiii yes they should definitely do that it would be really interesting to see
Agreed.
Ok but like if the husband doesn’t want to have a baby he should have a say in it. The woman can leave him if she wants
Zoë Parker agreed. Also, it would’ve been better to have that conversation in a private place. lol
I agree with both sides but the way he went about it was insensitive. If you love someone you need to be gentle in how you address such an issue. If this was real they would have probably divorced more for the blatant disregard for her feelings and not for the fact that he doesn't want one.
Zoë Parker that's a Fair point
Exactly..How the hell they are going to tell her go ahead and have it anyway..
@@londiwehlongwe8842 No its not he telling to ve realistic sometimes that is needed snap outta it because if you tip toe around then the issue will linger. He wasn't rude he was stern.
My mom had me at 42, by the time I was 18 she was already 60. She gave me everything and was the best mother I could ask for. She wasn’t ready for me when she was in her 20s and 30s, at 40 she was able to give me all the love and care she could give because she was in the right place.
My mother was also 42 (or 43 I forgot) when she gave birth to my sister and gave birth to my brother and I at 37 and 38. When I turn 18 she’ll be 56, 57 for my brother, and 60 or 61 with my sister, but she’s still caring =)
You should do one where a kid has a mental breakdown and the parents tell them not to embarrass the family. Or something like that. Bc that's VERY COMMON is many families.
Hityshi 11 yes that would be rlly interesting
Music’s Odyssey why not?
*scoff* mine
Ok but like... WHY DOES THIS COMMENT NOT HAVE MORE LIKES *This idea ain't bad y'all*
dunno I think it might have the other ideas in the same comment section but this one is not bad too
My dad had me in his late 40’s. I’m 25 now and he’s definitely still around.
&the last man was very touching!
A man's ability to have children doesn't reach a grinding halt in his 40's. It is a steady decline.
@@carultch he could be 75 and a dad to a preschooler.
@@carultch What point in their 40's? Approx. 40% of women between the ages of 40-45 will have fertility struggles. But that means 60% won't have any problem having kids. My aunt had her last baby 43 years old in the 2000's. My grandmother had her last baby at 46 years old in the 1970's. Neither of them were actively trying for a baby.
A bigger issue is that so many doctors perform hysterectomy's as soon as a woman has any issues. I don't see them doing penectomy and orchidectomy on men when they have issues but hysterectomy's are the most common surgery women have. When men have issues with their penis or testicles doctors investigate and try to resolve. When women have issues with the uterus, ovaries or fallopian tubes, doctors decide it's easier to just remove the whole kit and caboodle.
@@runningfromabear8354 what dr are you going to? Who are these women having all these hysterectomy surgeries? My dr gave me meds when they found abnormal cells in my uterine lining.
men dont have a time limit on fertility unless hes medically sick . men can have kids till they die women can not thats half the reason y men date younger women cuz we men biologically know this and we dont want the kids to have a disability . men and women are not made the same women might hate this truth but o well
My mother had me in her 40s and now I’m 24 and she’s still around. There people on here that say that the mother could pass away at an old age when the kid is still young but anyone could pass away at anytime and lose their parents at a young age.
I rather support that kind of woman than those reckless stupid teen moms
100% agree with this. Also my thought is simply always: if there are people who want to be parents and are passionate about that and not just going through the motions of a conventional life, if they really want a child that bad that they'll have one even when they're a bit older or have been trying for years, then that's always gonna be better than kids who have parents who mistreat them. Just having a parent who loves you and cares for you is the most important thing.
Thank you. As a woman who just had a baby at 42, those comments are fair but hurtful. I worry about that all the time. I'll be 62 when she's 20. Will I live to meet my grandbabies. Will I be there to see her get married? These things worry me, but I love her so much. I know I'm a better mom at 42 then her big brother and sister got when I was in my 20s. So, thank you for your comment❤
wow but the blonde lady's acting tho....
johnnyXXX the husband was the worst
johnnyXXX can u plz sub to me I'm trying to hit 100 subs
I think she was genuinely touched
Don't beg Subs
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My biggest concern with the baby is that he'll lose his mother at a very young age, and that's just a sad thing to bear.
Zant why is 40 really that old
@@ivanchambers5264 yes... Because when her daughter/son is 20 years old, the mother would be at 80 years old.
+Meow :3 no 60
@@fashionlifemarie2537 Whoops sorry
+-めぐみん we are talking about someone who is theoretically 40, not the age of the actress
That last guy made me tear up, he is such a great dad
Me too.
@Lon Hixson Not all Christians are KKK dumbass
The last guy piss me off how do you as men talk to someone else wife and advice to do something that will bring discord in household. That goes vice versa he is nosey cowardly sob
The man at the end of the video was dumb asf 😑. He said “ if you want a baby, just have one” if her husband doesn’t agree , that marriage isn’t going to last long . A marriage is about compromising, you can’t have everything you want .
He’s telling her to use someone else’s sperm, that so disrespectful, would even be his child, that would cause even more tension.
I don’t think he was giving her good advice other than adopting , but he should have told her since your married you can’t make life changing decisions like that on your own.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
I don't agree. you can't have a baby when both parents are not onboard. No one acknowledged that.
You can adopt sperm bank you can have a baby without...
@@darkknight4407 true. They could adopt if she wanted to.
@@darkknight4407 If you get a sperm donor, then the husband would obviously divorce.
Huffster actually you’re wrong. Married couples are meant to make decisions that affect them both together. One person doesn’t get to make a final decision without the other person having a say. If it’s that way then there is no point in being a married couple.
Having unwanted children is the cause of many divorces. It just depends on where your values lie. If this baby is a dealbreaker for you, that’s just how it is.
People are getting married older and older..... So it's the same for getting a baby.... Healthcare is very much advanced now too.
Ray Mak marriage is a social construct and is not anywhere near the same as biology.
Health care is expensive
You have a new subscriber. 😊✨
@@neverbackdown1918 I think the greater issue is how the baby's chances of developing health risks increases with the mother's age.
We do not accept incest for the sole reason of the baby being at risk, I do not see why this should be accepted either.
Rothschild make sure , you and your generations to come keep paying high for taxes and helathcare
“Well the tone of your voice concerned the whole diner” oh SNAP
"Ben is the star of my life."
How I wish I had a father like that.
but unfortunately you grew up to be a kpop fangirl
Mikhail Merkulov LMFAO SO TRUE
@@deemah3602 I don't like kpop but there's need to be rude.
I could be your father. We can play catch. I could teach you to drive. I'll even give you "the talk". I would love you and support you even if you are a kpop fangirl.
I wish i had a father like that too.
The last guy made me cry a little
same
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_Hey, how you doing? I’m John King goodness_
Neoatrai lololololol
He IS King Goodness though 😂
That was a funny typo looool
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Accurate
I am 40 and have a younger brother who just turned 13.....my mom missed having us around. So she had a baby. She has grand children older then my brother..but we supporter her.
Damn that crazy
Damn me and my brother are barley 11 years apart
older THAN....
@@sabin97 your point?
@@angeldoemer8263
than is for comparison.
for example my eldest child is taller than my youngest child.
then is for linear progression.
for example. first you take a left ,and then you take a right.
My mum had me at nearly 50, and she’s the most wise, understanding, energetic, and loving mother I could have ever have asked for !
Old is just a word, doesn’t mean anything
Well.. it means you’ve been around for a long while and that you’re more susceptible to medical conditions, chronic pain and diseases. Oh and much less energy MOST of the time, but heeyyy nah old is just a word welp grandma it’s time to go bungee jumping and I don’t give a fuck about your fibromyalgia.
Amen
The only thing that would suck about having old parents is that they're gonna be elderly when your in your 20s
Old is definitely not just a word
no old isn't just a word lol.
if the friend has an issue? who cares?
if the husband has an issue? It's a no-go since having children is something couples need to be on the same page about
U r so right. I think it's terrible that the people in this scenario said nothing about how the husband was feeling. Both partners should be okay with having a child.
I was thinking how to put this.. but then i found your comment . Plus she IS too old to have a baby. It is a risk for her and the baby. High chances the baby will be born with disabilities.
Akshaya Sakthivel there can be high risks with any woman though 😑. Getting tests done and meeting with doctors will help make sure everything is safe.
And I don’t think she’s too old. She still has 50 years left to live. Plus, any parent can die at any moment, or become disabled, what difference does it make if she’s 48 years old??
Preach!
@@PlumpnDreamyWalrus no, the wife can’t make him take care of the baby
"If she wants to be a mom, she shouldn't give up"
That's beautiful ❤
here is the logistics of how becoming a mom at all costs works, she points a gun at her husband and says either you shoot me or I shoot you.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
The risk of pregnancy complications and the risk of the child having genetic defects increases as the mother's age increases (in the second case, also father's age). Sure, you can have a baby at age 48, but you have to be aware of all those serious health consequences for you and your child. It's not as simple as 'I want to have a baby so I am going to have a baby', you have to think this through.
You'll already be 70 when your child will be 20, just starting his/her life as an adult; you may be gone before the child is able to stand on his/her own two feet, so you also need to think about the child's support network. If your family and friends don't support your decision of having a child at this age, he/she probably won't receive much support from them in the future. Also, the child will probably have to deal with death of both parents early in his/her life.
The husband's right - financial aspect has to be discussed, if you don't have much savings, you might be struggling with providing for the child after you retire. Also, the child might need to start providing for you early in his/her life if your pension is low.
If you want to have a baby and your husband doesn't think it's a good idea, you have to talk about it more, you cannot just stay in the mindset 'I'll do whatever I want'. If he doesn't like the idea, that means he won't support you if you really decide to have a baby, that means you'll probably separate with your husband and become a single mother.
Aga Faryś about the risk of a pregnancy complication is actually quite low still even if you are over 40, it increases like what 0.7 percent. But i do angree with you about the mother dead thing, it could affect your child life.
Aga Faryś lue i
Aga Faryś a 70 year old is more qualified for a child than 15 year olds getting pregnant
Spotted Predator Oh, I didn't know about that! I just heard that there's a higher risk of miscarriage and higher blood pressure of the mother that can lead to complications.
Aga Faryś , NO! political correctness supercedes nature!
I like how the girl said, "It's 2018, do whatever you want".
Well she can't exactly force her husband to get her pregnant lol.
She can trick him. Just poke a hole in the condom, it's what I did. Child support for life now :P
1978tenpack why are you assuming she is gonna use her husband? Sperm donation exists
What married couple uses condoms? Most likely, the woman is the one using the birth control. She could .... oopsie forget a pill or two... forget to put a patch on or whatever method she uses
Mimi YuYu and then oopsie, *DIVORCE*
Potatoe life you completely missed the point
Damn the guy in the last scenerio was amazing now thats a real man on my book, when he said "ive been waiting for you for a long time".......someone started cutting onions in my room.
The thumbnail kinda reminds me of Brenda and Cindy 😂
Garrett Brando lmao💀
Garrett Brando LOL! Brenda wouldn't let that lady in next booth talk to her like that. Loved Brenda talking in movie theater watching *Shakespeare In Love*
José Arturo don’t you mean Shake-AH-peer in Love? Lol
Yess 😂😂
Dennis Q. Ly she’s about to get it AWNNN with shake-a-spear
The guy in the blue shirt HOLY SHIT what a good guy
@Lon Hixson That isn't always the case. That's just a phrase anyone can use without believing in it.
@Lon Hixson what ? I dont get it ??! Someone explain to me please..
No he he isn't he is a nosey man who cowardly waited to her husband left and try to bring discord within their household.
Cant stop crying hearing the father saying to his baby "daddy loves you, we've been waiting for you for a long time ". Absolutely amazing and beautiful!! Congratulations to you!! I'm so happy for you. I have 4 children who are grown. Had my last child at the age of 38. I wanted one more but couldn't due to health issues. 👏🙏❤
Awww thank you for your beautiful comment 🥰
I have no problem with this. To me if you got the time, the love, the dedication and the financial side in order then what's the problem? Cuz you old!! Lol. Really. There are older women who have had babies in perfect health.
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Same! Im the youngest child(I'm 17), and we're only 2 kids(1 brother),my parents are ~45 years old and they always wanted a daughter.
If my parents wanted to give it a try,I'd fully support them(In my country,it's considered shameful if you give birth in 35+s),but the main problem is at the health side, and so they cant even try, because as others mentioned, miscarriages or child health problems as well.
It’s her right to have a baby at whatever age she wants. That being said, the health risks increase dramatically in your 40s, so it’s a valid conversation
What Not To Do At a Stoplight.
it's fact. There are women who have had babies past there forties with no health implications. Illogical is forgetting that women in some cases have and will continue to give birth in bad conditions with no medical aid as well as well be over age in some cases. Have you also forgot that before all the tech we have and medical assistance that as a race we have survived without. Or the human race would not have survived this long. In other words women are stronger than you can fathom.
What Not To Do At a Stoplight.
There is no argument. Because my comment is no messing.
And if you're struggling to understand the last part of my last comment it's because you didn't factor it into this topic at all. People like yourself say age or medical implications are a reality. I never said they wasn't just that they in the scheme of having a child don't come into it unless you actually have problems conceiving. In other words you don't ask the doctor can you have a baby? No you just do the act. You are not going to check your health unless you have had issues in the past. Nvm age. So as I said women are stronger than you can fathom.
Popping out kids since the dawn of our race with no medical aid. What was that? Lived til thirty you say yes great stuff still popped out them kids. The edwardian, the victorian even back in the times of vikings and cathergians(misspelled) women stilled popped em out, no medical aid and still reaching past forty again in some cases. What's not to accept????? What more can you add? Because everything I've said is out there and researchable. Only true thing that's a factor if woman has had no problems as such medically is the menopause. That's it.
It's illogical to think a woman must follow medical science when we have done without it before and some do as I stated earlier.
All that matters when having a child at any age appropriate that both parents handle the responsibility of raising the child. So again what's your problem??? Seriously.
How many women miss smears?? How many continue to have children? How many people actually go regular to get sti checked? Are they all going to practice any medical check up or procedures before trying for conception? Because a lot of women don't because it's not really necessary unless they actually feel it is of concern or a bad medical history. What are you advocating that all women should be checked medically because thats never going to work. It's there body and there choice. And no man can tell a woman what to do with there body. Established since how long.
By the time the kid is 12 she'll be 60. 66 by 18. He would probably lose his mother at a fairly young age which is extremely sad
My grandfather had a daughter at around the age of 65 .
HammyGuy :D R.I.P.
Wut is dat suppose to mean people in the uk normally live to 85 ?
HammyGuy :D That's the average. People die before then, even then the daughter would only be 20
Frosty Games - Life goes on .
My mom had me when she was 41. I’m 18 now and she’s given me everything. I love my mom so much. 💕
Edit: The woman in this video is 48, mom is 59 now and she’s still teaching kindergarten every day. She’s taught early childhood for over 30 years.
Have a baby whenever you want, but always keep in mind health risks, it is harder to have a baby older in life, but adoption would be the best option if you’re older and want a baby
Dead Prince Cosplay true
In a way that’s pretty rude. Basically saying I shouldn’t have existed because it’s “hard”.
Dead Prince Cosplay um and also think about the risks of the child having a disorder and having to live with that... (don't say that this is offensive or some crap like that because I went through that growing up)
ProgrammerMalcolm um what? Look who's talking? What're you even talking about 😂 LOL
ProgrammerMalcolm girl no I didn't or boy lol I guess people agree with me 😂 there isn't 2 of me, and don't worry about my comment liking even if I actually did
Wait a minute, that first lady just butted in a personal conversation lmao. That doesn't always go over well.
Im not sure how personal the conversation was if they were yelling across the room haha
I just wonder how they keep finding the most emptiest restaurants to do these videos.
My dad is 65 and I’m currently 20, he was clearly much older when I was born but he’s glad he had at least one child while he still could
*"There's risks involved no matter how old you are, you just have to be confident in what you want and go for it."*
I feel like I'll remember this quote for the rest of my life lmao, so true.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
This is a "mind your business" wwyd lol
Poop i completly agree, no one is being abused, or no one is stealing, there is no reason to get involved
Bianca Bernstein I mean if that poor lady is crying, I would definitely try to console her.
yup
I fucking hate when people jump in other peoples buisness , like eat your damn food and go home .. who are you to give advice to them
It’s more of a support your friend WWYD.
I was 42 when I had my princess. She is my world, and keeps me young. LOL
i'm gonna be completely honest here. people age exponentially, exponential decay. when you have a baby at 50, and your child graduates 18 years later, you're 70 years old. 70. Seven-zero. At 50 years old, most women are going to hit menopause soon. and think about it logically. your child just graduated and let's say they get through 4-6 years of college, maybe 1-2 years for another degree or whatever. when they're getting married around 26-30 years of age, you're 80 years old. you've most likely retired about a decade ago. you may not even make it to your child's wedding. you may die before then. they're trying to start a family but instead they have to worry about you as an ageing parent because you may be unable to take care of yourself, and you become their priority. I'm not saying to have kids at age 20. but the point of having a child at a younger age (25-35) is because you are able to care for them before they are off and having their own familes. and don't come for me. my grandma had 5 kids and had my mom at 41.
I scrolled many comments before finding one like yours. Maybe people commenting are too young not to know what aging parents are like. Being totally honest too, yes 48 is too old to get pregnant. There's no denying her energy levels are not gonna be the same and the mentality: generational gap is real. My friend is adopted, mum was 50 when she was born and man oh man we've been friends since our early teens and I've seen first hand how difficult things are because the mum has always been too old to understands, too old and needing medical care etc. It's just not that easy, people really need to stop fluffing reality to "you can do anything you want".
Completely agree, you have to plan and prioritize things in your life better before some things are too late, especially when it comes to women having kids. Nooo way I would ever even think about having a child at that age, if I got over the age of 35 with no children I would just accept that and do other things in life. It's sad but important for women to understand they dont have all of the time in the world.
Sheva Khaimov Thats a great point. That’s the exact reason why I disagree with the idea of someone having kids in their 40’s.
Sone Foreva So True. Preparing for your future is extremely important. I agree with you on that 100%.
Yeah, I have a friend who’s mom is 48 I believe.
Before she had my friend, she had another daughter in her 20s. And my friends sister recently had her second child, so it’s weird to know that my friends grandma already has 2 great granddaughters. This sounds so confusing haha
I just felt like I had to share.
This show.... The last ones always make me cut onions....always!
Crybaby!
@@aspiknf
No he's not. He's just a bad cook who doesn't know how to cut onions correctly.
I'm standing in the Middle of a Fire with lots of smoke my eyes and tearing like mad.
TRANSMIT A THIRD ALARM!
Sending a third alarm to your door! :-)
If people decide to want to have a baby, as long as their body can handle it and the baby will be okay i say go for it.
Husbane: Hello! Why you ignoring me!?
U can have a baby at 65 now because of science so still isn't always the right thing
Also as long as you know you are going to be healthy and strong enough to take care of the child
Blue Dayz, how do you know that you can handle having a baby? When I got pregnant at 39, I thought I'd be fine, yet I had a horrible pregnancy and my baby boy was born autistic and had jaundice for a whole first year of his life. He almost died when he was in the womb. I would not recommend anyone to have a baby after 37.
@@Junboex3 think about the future of the child. But nah we are going to completely disregard that?
My goodness, this actress totally sold it. She was amazing!
Also, my grandmother had a child at 42 and my mom at 43. Both are in great health (my nana is 91), and so are their children.
Lol the funniest thing about all these WWYD videos is that people are so comfortable walking up and pulling up a chair and sitting in the middle of a stranger's table just casually sharing personal life stories haha - never seen anyone do that in Britain - people would rather stand than sit next to someone/let alone talk to someone they don't know LOL
Thats america for you, we talk to strangers like we know them especially in the south. were very noisy people
@@thexvault nosy sounds bad all these people are being really nice
@@sargon0141 Maybe that's on you and the people you call friends. I'm British and have lots of foreign friends.
Americans are the best, we lead the world in everything
I think you're exaggerating. Up north people are very friendly
For the husband situation, he's not saying he doesn't want a baby, he's saying they're too old. So if they were younger, he would consider, hence why strangers were telling her its possible to have a baby even now.
But the ppl who say the woman should have a baby despite the husband not wanting to are kinda irresponsible. The child will feel that the father doesn't love them as much as he should, it's not fair towards the child.
If the father doesn't want to be a part of the child's life, then the child doesn't need him. Single moms and single dads are doing amazing work.
And I would've especially loved for my mom to leave *my* dad. It would've been better for all of us plus being around him made me mom and I feel terrible.
It's completely fair. They have a loving mom/dad to take care of them. Family is family no matter how big or small. It doesn't matter if you have one dad, two dads, one mom, two moms or a dad *and* a mom. It's still family, hun.
@@plutoisaplanet1020 right, because as long as you have somebody to take care of you, who gives one that the other parent(s) is neglectful and doesn't love their kid, am i right?
Y'all do realize that there's a husband involved here too right?...
Tread Knought that truly is sad
yeah, too right and doesn't he only think of himself hear?
@G G Well i mean i think he has a right to not want to have a kid. Are you saying that if a woman wants a kid she should be able to force her husband to do so?
@Tread Knought I mean they were together, it's not like she is single or something, she is probably with him in that age because she loves him so yeah, he is kinda involved in the convo, I mean he can at least express his concerns and be listened. And that is definetly not a single conversation to find the right solution situation
@@lea6385 It is also important that both partners agree to the decision. Not forced or guilt into having a kid.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
In India, women are considered “too old to have kids” at 35....
Jessica Moore lol the average indian family doesn’t force their girls into being child brides ... maybe a hundred yrs ago
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@Jessica Moore And we would be glad if you check your facts before speaking.
Yes
Geez, population decrease at hand!
Ok let's be real.
Do you really want to be taking care of a moody teenager in your late sixties?
I'm the eldest of four kids, and if my parents had some difficulties dealing with us in their thirties, I can't imagine what it would have been like in their sixties
Hugo QP not all teens are moody
Soufian 27 But a lot are. Y'know, hormones and such.
no.
Hugo QP maybe not but at least encourage people to be open minded and then make the decision
Hugo QP stfu they did bot have "difficulties" in their thirties wtf, thats when everyone has kids
I cried 😭😭😭😭 that last dude pulled my heart strings till they cudnt be pulled anymore so heart warming 😊😊😊😊😊
My mom had me in her 40s. I sometimes ask why she did and she said she wanted to be comeplete. I think its not that big of a deal to have a kid later in life. Its all for love and legacy. Plus, Im smarter than kids who were born to 20 year olds, because of the experiences theyve had that happens later in life.
As someone whose parents were in their early 40s when I was born, the love and legacy won't mean much if you get hit with caregiving once you grow up and you're forced to delay your independence, career, marriage, and parenthood. It is a big deal.
It all depends on who the parent is and how they parent a child.
@@Ghost-qk1kt For me, I've had to take care of my mom in some capacity since I graduated high school. She hurt her ankle and the recovery was a lot longer than expected and she hasn't been fully mobile since then. Other things popped up with her and the caregiving duties have been high for over 4 and a half years. She's been immobile for over 3 yrs after having a 2nd ankle injury. I've had to hit the pause button on basically everything.
I'm 29 and I'm well behind my peers when it comes to independence, a career, marriage, and having kids as a result of caregiving. It's all I've known since graduating college and it has been nothing but misery. I'm thankful it isn't worse, but this ain't Disneyland. I hope Covid is gone sooner rather than later so she can get physical therapy, be able to do normal things by herself, and I can move on with my life.
I personally never really wanted kids but that very end watching him with his new baby made me sob. You don't have to have kids or want kids to appreciate the miracle of life and love.
Thank you for your kind words. ❤ Nicholas just turned 6 and he is a true gift ❤
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* Lip smack *
*wOW*
Seriously though, when that man was talking about his family and the pictures and stuff of them afterword made my heart melt.
My mom had me in her early 40s. My dad was going to school to get his med degree at the time and my mom had to work to support them both. They wanted to wait until they were able to take care of themselves and a baby before having one, and I’m thankful for that. I love them both very much
That sweet baby at the end is changing the world just by being here! The last guy is so sweet. He melted my heart. I'm so thankful for the pics at the end.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
Suggestion: Girl comes out as bi to family, but they claim that bisexuality “isn’t real.”
Edit: I suggest a girl because most of the coming out WWYDs have boys. It’d be nice to see a change :)
Fluffy Quartz that literally happened to me lol
Fluffy Quartz Most ppl are going to be accepting, Because ppl are more accepting of LGBTQ+ ppl than they were 20-30 years ago+ she's a girl so of course ppl are going to be more accepting. They're less accepting when it comes to a guy.
Fluffy Quartz it isnt so
What if she were asexual? That would be interesting.
Rebecca Tierney How tf do you self reproduce 😂😂😂
My mom was 40 and pregnant, she turned 41 about a month before I was born. We’ve both been totally healthy our wholes lives and we have a great relationship! Honestly she was more adventurous and able to have fun with me than some of the moms 10-20 years younger than her.
aweeee the last man is a sweetheart
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The reaction, compassion & support from that last gentleman brought me to tears.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
The potential for birth defects when giving birth at that age is ENORMOUS!! At that age you either just shouldn't have kids or you should choose to adopt. Just because some women can be 50 and have a newborn doesn't mean every woman should. It's too high risk for the baby.
@Sadia Sharmeen Exactly, I agree with you 100%. My mom had me when she was 33, so she's 50 now. (I'm 18) I feel like that was the cut off age for her to have kids tbh. She had her first kid at 17, so my siblings and I are really far apart, lol. (My siblings are 32 and 30 I think) No one should be having kids naturally in their 40's.
@Sadia Sharmeen Yep, it's just better all around to have kids when you're younger.
They should do the opposite- a friend disapproves of her friend's decision to *not* have kids.
I've heard "but you'll never get the joy of raising children", "but you'll die alone" and "who will look after you when you're old" and the very infamous "you must hate children then" all too much.
That man at the end, is husband goals. So happy you got your son 🙏🏽♥️🎊
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
I had gone through almost the exact same thing when I was pregnant @ 44 y/o! The people I thought were my friends, disapproved. Well, I had a healthy beautiful baby boy and has been awesome. I lost my husband last year and I would have been alone, but thank God I had my son :)
My mother had me at 40 something, and I'm perfectly okay.
I'm 42 with a 2 year old son and I can't imagine living my life without him😍
My mom had my baby sister at 62 and she's 72 and she's perfectly fine my mom runs around with she is happy and I couldn't imagine my life without my baby sister
@@ladiiblue2u634 wow thats great 🙂
Clapback MDS there is less complications when you already had multiple kids and give birth old than when one gives there first child at age 45.
i smoke crack and drink beer when i was pregnant. and my baby is perfectly okay
Wow. The last gentleman had me crying. So loving and kind.
Thank you for your kind words. ❤ Nicholas just turned 6 and he is a true gift ❤
Idk I see both sides of the argument. You should never discourage a person trying to have a baby as children are a gift and it’s very exciting starting a family but the other woman has a point. The risks of having a child with Down syndrome are 10 times higher when the mother is over the age of 35. Health risks aside usually when a mother is 45+ and has a baby children are usually left to care for their elderly parent when they’re in their teens. This is JUST MY OPINION don’t get fired up. If you want to have a baby at 50 you do you sis
My aunt had her son at 44. He’s the most precious thing in the world ❤️❤️
I'm 25, and my father is 66 (mother has already passed away). Without their love for each other, I wouldn't be here. I am thankful. However, the only reason I wish they could have had me earlier in life is so that I'll have more time to spend with them.
The last gentleman’s story was absolutely beautiful 💙
Thank you for your kind words. ❤ Nicholas just turned 6 and he is a true gift ❤
I liked and agreed with this in the “friend” situation, if she wants a baby even at that age her friend could at least try to understand, be there for her etc
In the “husband” situation however I completely disagree, especially that girl’s comment “if you want it just do it” or that guy “if you wanna have a baby then have a baby” like wtf?? No? He has to agree too, being her HUSBAND in this scenario! Or they could break up of course but don’t just say “have a baby just do it if u want” assuming he has no say in this
I get this episode’s idea was the age of having kids, but it was executed good only in the “friend” scenario
Sorry if my english was bad
I agree, he is looking after the kid too. Maybe they could adopt an older child instead ?
@@bonniestar4707 agreed
Asdf 12403 I totally agree with this comment!
People wouldn't have reacted that way if Jason hadn't been such a jerk.
Vits Vicente Torres in the first scene with the husband he wasn’t that bad
My mom had me when she was 38 I'm 32 now and she's 70 alive and well and loving her grandkids it can work
Yes ik but there is a possibility if someone dying at 50 or 60
That last guy has me in tears!! Such a beautiful story ❤❤
It is also important that both partners agree to the decision. Not forced or guilt into having a kid.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
I'm 38 and Canadian.
Not that important but it's just to mention that i'm watching those clips for the last 36 hours. My birthday is today, I haven't got out of the house cause i'm so addicted to those clips.
37 hours ago, I had never seen one single clip of that program. I have to say, that is the nicest show ever....EVER. The messages that we're having from strangers of all nationalities is fantastic. A lot of different opinion, personalities, but at the end of the day. That is love and compassion that sticks us all around the world. I'm already more open mind than I was 37 hours ago.
Congrats to everyone who is contributing to this show. A special thanks for Traci. I know you did nothing wrong....but I hate you lol. That's how good you are haha
And yeah, don't worry guys, i'll see friends and family this weekend.
Peace.
My mother had me when she was 39, my father was 47 at the time, my mother unfortunately has a lot of health complications, even though I am young, losing my parents is something I have to face at a young age.
Why is everything so divided nowadays- I understand both sides of the argument - should the friend be more supportive yes but should the friend also try to be real with her and talk about the risks ...
It shouldn’t be the friend Is wrong or the mom is wrong
I would prefer having a child later in life being stable, and having good economy than jumping into something bc of my age? Its also better for the child if you have a good ground. Not saying that you can't have that when being young tho.
when ur young its easier cuz he have more energy and you'll get to have grand kids if you have a baby later you may never be a grand parent.
Shady Boy I don’t think any of that matters though. An older parent could do everything a younger parent can.
Also, lots of grandparents babysit or care for their grandchildren, and they are perfectly fine.
Also, being a grandparent doesn’t matter??? A young parent may also never become a grandparent if their kid decides to not have any kids.
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@@shadyboy5090 that's dumb
There's more risks to the baby and mom the longer you wait.
I'm glad they did a catch up with the last bloke and showed his wife and baby. Wonderful moment
Having a mom that was 42 when she had me, this makes me happy that people in public were supporting and sticking up for her. I would be hurt if someone I know or not say something so hurtful to my mom.
This is stupid.
1. This is nothing to intervene over. People just need to mind their own business
2. She has to consider all the risks of the baby and the money. By the time it’s a teenager, they’d be at the age to retire.
3. The advice “just go for it” is wrong because you can’t just go against your husband’s will to have a baby
Joy ;-; What she said doesn't affect you. You really think blurting out "stop" like a kindergarten student will make someone take down their comment because you said so? Please like really.
Elianna Warner well my mom did it and I’m fine 🙂
Elianna Warner lol
I personally think that if you come out in public to talk about something like that, people won't mind their own business. I mean, if this actually happened in real life and you wanted to talk about it, I'd say do it in the comfort of your own home.
Leah B u shouldn't do this in public but people should still mind their own buisness. It's personal issues and u don't want people coming nosing around and eavesdroping.
8:44 the actor was reassuring the actress. It reached my heart. 💟💟💟
I think he was actually lightly applauding the guy who stepped in....
When I was born my mom was 47, my dad was 50 and my siblings were 16, 21 and 22 years old
my mum had me at 43 and we are both very healthy 🤷🏻♀️
If the husband doesn't want a baby, it's not really fair to pressure him. This scenario is messed up.
I think the last guy was disappointed that they are only actors.
my mom was 21 when she had me and my twin brother, and the day before she had us she was told she had 12 hours to live. She lived through it and I'm happy I have her, but there are going to be complications no matter how old you are. My mom was told she was going to die 3 times in the span of 3 days yet she is still here. Some people don't make it but its worth it cause they got to bring a beautiful life into the world.
The baby looking up to his daddy at the end brought the tears!
Thank you for your kind words. ❤ Nicholas just turned 6 and he is a true gift ❤
If I was a friend of a woman who wants to have a baby while she's 40+ years old I'd say the same. Having a baby after a certain age increases the risks of the baby having health problems. A real best friend should tell you how it is (obviously in a nice way) to your face, not sugarcoat it. That's how you know a best friend from a fake one.
And it's not just the health issues, the more you go up in age, the higher the chances of you dying and leaving a young child to fend for itself with nobody else to take care of him/her... It's not just about what "I want", it's about that child. Would the child suffer or be happy? That's what should be more important.
In reality, "wanting" something doesn't equate to "must have". Sometimes you just have to make people realise the risks, but in a nice way...
I know this comment is old, but the risk for both the child and mother is probably way less tess thanks to modern health care, than if she was in her prime age without access to health care so I don't see the big deal. There are sooo many parents in this world that mistreat their children due to being unmotivated, narcissistic, sick, alcoholics etc being a few years older is the least problem..
Not one person said that BOTH parents should make this decision together!
I was born when my Dad was 58. He died when I was 25 and he raised me when my very young mother and he went their separate. He has been the most influential person in my life and he was the best example of a Dad.
Me and my mom are 42 years apart. I honestly am fine with it. There was a health risk but I’m thankful that I’m alive and healthy. I honestly really don’t even think about it. I mean people kinda question it, but I’m so lucky to have her ❤️❤️❤️
Not a big problem to me. If you have the money, and are willing to work hard as a parent do it. My mom was near forty when she had me and my dad was in his forties already. They didn’t care about their age. All they cared about was that they had me and made sure I am loved.
Donna C Are You an only child? Because I think many people like myself are thinking about this if a woman that old wanted to have a child for the first time.
Jonathan Williams I mesn there's nothing wrong with being an only child either lol. Let people do what they want
asseater007 I am not against having only 1 child. I am against someone that old having a child especially for the first time.
asseater007 Having Kids That Much Later in life is very stupid.
My cousin is 42 and she had her second son back in April of this year, and both of them are totally fine! Her husband is 52 and they're completely happy! Age is just a number :)
Did he agree to inseminate her? That's the difference.
It is also important that both partners agree to the decision. Not forced or guilt into having a kid.
Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...
@@citizencan4444 Dude, they decided together
@@angelaroseneder7980 And that's the difference between their situation and the one in the video. In the video, only one partner wanted the kid, and is trying to get the public to pressure her husband to inseminate her.
@@citizencan4444 I know. I was just making a point
I'm with the husband tho, you shoulda' thought about that a looong time ago. If you have lived your entire life agreeing with each other that you don't want kids, then all of a sudden you want one at 40 then the husband shouldn't have to comply. It's kinda' selfish thinking he should change the way it's always been because of something you spontaneously thought of.
I know, didn't think it was necessary to be specific cuz that's really not the point of the comment xD. I'm sure you could totally have a kid at that age, but if you've been married for years and years with already agreeing to not have a kid, then at that age you suddenly decide to then that's not right, is what I was saying.
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I agree with u! but we live in a world where Husband choice and voices doesnt matter.
Takashi please tell me your joking
Takashi wtf lol. You’re kidding right?
I love how “it’s 2018” is an answer for everything
My mom had me at 40. She met my dad at AA and My parents were sober for three years until she had me. They have stayed sober since and now I’m 25. I was her miracle child, and she still hasn’t told me the full story on why she never tried to have more kids. She beats around the bush a lot so I assume it’s infertility. but watching this video motivates me to be a bigger advocate for adoptive children
My mom has told me that having children at an older age stunts your ability to have children. But it’s never 100% infertility!! Women’s bodies are meant to get pregnant.
My mom was shamed for having me so late…. But she was so much more mentally stable and ready to deal with me. Sometimes it’s not a bad thing to wait.
I feel like the people involved in these realize they are being set up... I never see people speak up like this in real life, most people I have observed, seem almost terrified of confrontation these days...
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