Its so nice to hear that you’re living your dream. I’m trans and 15 and I normally don’t think of us having bright futures. It’s heart warming to hear that we get to live a fulfilled lifestyle and be ourselves. I would’ve never imagined that as possible being closeted
On my 21st birthday (first birthday out), our friend group stopped by the gay bar and my twin sister found this straight couple in their 30s who wanted to buy us shots. This couple might’ve also been swingers idk… Anywho, after my sister and I took shots with them, the woman caught on to the fact that I’m trans and drunkenly asked “So, do you wanna be a boy because you think you’ll never be as hot as your sister?” Funniest fucking thing I’ve ever heard. And also a total shot in the dark. This woman had met me barely ten minutes before. Strangely validating to learn I could take a comment like that in stride.
Yeah but notice how all the hate comments always have a very similar amount of likes in his videos. this implies a very specific group of very strange individuals actively seek out all the negative comments to fuel their strange echo chambers. They are just a loud minority.
I love how open and honest you are. It is so comforting to watch your videos, more than anything else is. When I'm feeling down and scared about my future I watch your videos and see you beaming as you talk about your life and I feel like everything is going to be okay. Thank you so much x
This hits hard because I’m in my early 30s, and I’ve never had a real relationship, and I get told constantly fully transitioning means no one will ever want me, I’m garbage… but I’ve only ever been attracted to men. I have gay male friends who accept and care for me, but I assume that they only validate me because they care… so knowing other people do fine dating is peace of mind lol.
thank you for this video! you’re able to articulate your point of view so well and it provides a welcome contrast to the people who are just misguidedly attacking you/trans folks in general. it’s really encouraging to see that you are confident and proud of your identity :) i hope to reach that point eventually!
Thank you for sharing with us Arther! I have a different take on the comment expressing confusion about you transitioning and being gay. My grandma had similar confusion when I came out as nonbinary- she asked me if I am attracted to any gender and asked me to explain the difference between asexuality and agender/nonbinary. It confused me for a while because I understand how someone's gender and sexuality do not affect each other. I think straightness is so engraved as the norm that it's even imposed on queer people. In general, straight people prefer supporting queer relationships between masc and fem people rather than two people who present similarly because it applies more closely to heterosexual norms on the outside.
That's a great point! Yeah, I remember when my ex's well-meaning parents assumed that I would become straight after I transitioned because they associated being a man so heavily dating with dating women. So it definitely can be confusing for people not in the community and, at the end of the day, I'm obviously mostly just guessing on the tone of comments
When I came out, the only ignorant thing my dad said was, "Wait, I had always thought you liked women." So I had to explain, "Yeah, Dad, I do like women. I'm a lesbian!"
This was immensely helpful. I'm almost mid-30s and only figured out I'm a transguy in the past year or so. Just getting the ball (ha!) rolling on my transition. There's a lot of uncertainty, but being trans is not one of them. You are goals! Thanks!
@@Saar114 That's completely valid. :) You don't have to take the medical route at all if it's not for you. The most important thing is you doing what makes you comfortable and happy.
Great video Arthur! It's very powerful for me to see you so confident and dismissive of these comments. I'm happy for you that you can see how absurd they are because like you said, sometimes when you're still figuring stuff out those quite stupid things can be hurtful. I hope things will continue to be good for you! You are truly glowing and it's lovely to see ❤
Hi Arthur! Funny comments, these people are lost! Let me tell you, I am a pansexual trans man, late bloomer in transition, and I have ALWAYS attracted gay men and straight women. I wondered why straight men and lesbians avoided me, and the comments I received the most was : your body is attractive but I feel like you're a boy, you act like one and even smell like one! On the opposite side, the gay men I dated where confused about why they fancied me but no other "girl" 😝. The exes I seen again where reassured : yup, dude, you always where gay, you could do it with me because I am also a flavour of man 😉! Sexual attraction isn't only a matter of appearance, people can literally SENSE your gender and act upon it. My experiences as a pré-transition young man comforted me in my gender.
Wow that's so wild! Not exactly the same, but my straight ex had toxic friends who joked that he was "dating a man" because they found photos of me looking boyish from high school. Turns out, yup, he was 😂
Same!! I have two exes who are gay men and dated me pretransition. One of them kept saying he was so confused about liking me and wanting to date me because he was so sure he was gay. He basically broke up with me by coming out to me and that was a big thing on me figuring out I was trans because I didn't mind that he said he was gay and specifically attracted only to men, because, well, I was a man.
Yeah, I'm a trans lesbian, but for years I thought I was a straight man. However, straight women were never really into me. The women I had the most success with were usually either bi, or were gender-nonconforming in some way.
As a guy in the very beginning of my transition seeing this where you are so calm and confident in yourself inspires me to trust myself and shake off hurtful comments. Like bardic inspiration ✨️
I am a guy from India gorging on your videos right now. Can't decide whether i wanna be you or wanna marry you.. ( in my head obviously). Everything about you i find is extremely endearing. And that you are academically sharp.. That makes you even more irresistible. You are my new Crush. Love you.. 💚
@@arthur_rockwell Thanks very much for the reply. N' Kudos for standing up for those questioning and yet to be transitioned people who can be deeply demoralized with all these thoughtless negative comments. A human being is a human being is a human being. Why bother about so many conformities? So many set images..? Just live and let live.. Gosh!
Aw that is sweet but you don't need to worry about me!! These people just clearly have too much time on their hands if they're trying to say mean things to a complete stranger on the internet
I’ve always found real stan comments on TH-cam (“oh my god, [creator] you’re such an icon, you’re such a king/queen,” etc.) a bit weird, because even when it comes to TH-camrs I really like, I don’t normally feel the need to effusively praise them in such a non-specific way. It’s not that I think it’s bad; I just usually don’t get it. With you, though, I honestly feel the urge. You just seem so smart, self-possessed, confident, and just overall likable that I want to say “I love you, Arthur, you’re an absolute king!”
Many transphobic comments affects me greatly but one that some people from time to time say I even think is funny is about chromosomes and genes or bones, like "after you die they will tell you're a woman because of your skeleton." 😂 like??? Why in the hell would I care about that?
And they are so insistent about it. I point out that it simply doesn't matter, and they are always like, "Of course it matters! It matters a lot!" but they can never articulate why.
lol I would rather go bald than keep living in society being read as "such a cute petite female 🤮" Most of these comments are so senseless that I just have to laugh.
The 'defining sexuality by what genitals you like to touch' is so weird. Sure, it may be important to some people, fine. But like... there's people who've had their genitals (partially) amputated to medical reasons? Are you suddenly bi if your husband had testicular cancer and you stil love him and find him attractive? Lololol "women must be chaste for the fragile health of the female body" xD Dealing with hate comments is a tricky situation indeed. I really like the (new-ish) option on twitter to add context. The original tweet can stay up, but if it's wrong people can add a source to correct it or something that will show up right underneath. Would be great to have that on YT too. I think keeping hate comments up can become an issue if your channel/community is larger. Then maybe the first comment people see is a hate comment, which can discourage people from write their own (decent) comment, encouraging more hate comments, and eventually you just have a cesspit hate. Your approach to protect other people seems pretty good :) Your channel, do whatever feels right for you. And a video like this "debunking" some of the common nonsense seems like a good approach too :)
This is kinda irrelevant to this video but you honestly have such a calming voice + look too me like a Prince. (Similar to like an irl Howl pendragon?)So, the idea that anyone wouldn’t identify you as a man is laughable, and you can tell that the transphobic people are grasping at straws. I like how you pointed out how they clearly just are throwing whatever they can at people, in hopes that something will stick (and hurt). But it is also sad because like you said they’re definitely leaving comments like these on those who are strugglings pages too. I’m also glad you’re speaking up on the transphobia in LGBTQIA+ community. It’s so disheartening too see. It is so sad too that pathetic trans guy who got that cruel response you mentioned was probably hurt. 😓 It’s ironic too because when you look at the definition it says “interest of people of the same sex or gender “ ...and the Keyword their is gender. 🤦🏻♀ Gender and sex are two different things. If you’re a man dating / having sex with humans who identify as men, regardless of their chromosomes - then you’re gay. Literally by definition. I don’t know when people are going to get that if you don’t understand something, their is a wealth of information on the internet to help explain it too you. Thanks for adding to the wealth of info 💗
***sometimes I wonder if these queer people who side with hateful heterosexuals- are doing it because of how ingrained heteronormativity+ LGBTQIA stereotypes are. Obviously they should know better and do the work to undo socialization as many of us are trying, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that contributes to it being so bad.
I’m from the 1990s all the way to 2023 people are going to make fun of you disrespect you and some extreme cases commit some serious crime. It doesn’t matter if you’re gay lesbian or trans or even black or white or religion. People will always hate and that’s just part of life. There’s a couple of ways you could deal with it one you could cry like a little bitch and see if that does anything which in some cases it does work just not a lot option two you could try to knock their tooth out the other options or whatever do whatever you want with that information
I don’t really understand why don’t you just delete those comments, because they provide absolutely nothing and are only spreading hate directed towards you.
This is absurdly homophobic. You don't see us, not as we are, if you think we're merely an identity. Back in the day, they referred to us as having a 'lifestyle'...now we are told we have a 'genital preference'. It's confounding.
Actually, the origins of homosexuality was not self made. It did not naturally spring up between gay individuals. What actually occurred, was a progression towards psychoanalysis and the “uncovering” of an individuals repressed essence. In doing this, homosexuality was created as a pathology, a label for an individual which engaged in the act of sex with the same sex. It was known to be wrong and incorrect, and so the gay community was born through this marginalization. Homosexuality was an invented term used to hurt and oppress people who had different sexual preferences. This doesn’t mean it doesn’t have value, but it is inherently an identity created by discourse. Foucault discusses this a lot in History of Sexuality. It isn’t to say that people don’t have a certain sexual inclination, or drive, but it is food for thought when you think about where these identities really come from, and whether or not they are useful all the time when trying to understand oneself.
@@francisp2131 Such sophistry. Why would I have been subject to such marginalization in the bad old days were it simply an identity? Who, seeking safety, wouldn't have elected for the favored heterosexual identity? People have sexual orientations even if such orientations are never disclosed. The nature of any foundational trait a person may have...
@@daviddambrosio8247 not trying to discredit your feelings towards your sexuality and the marginalization that has happened to you. Foucault himself slept with other men, but he found the sex and pleasure should involve the individual and what they wanted in that moment, rather then taking on the label of homosexual which was used strictly to diagnose someone with a sexual abnormality. Think of Ancient Greece for example, although male citizens had sex with other males, it was not considered gay, it was considered what you did, not who you were. Again, this isn’t to say that you can’t find value in reclaiming that identity, but you must realize that sexuality is an invention of description, that means many people may find that they don’t fit so smoothly into that identity label. And that’s ok for them, as it is ok for you to find connection and solace in claiming the label of gay. This is just what I found for myself as well. I choose not to identify or make my pleasure into who I am, because I am not static, and often times that identification will contradict what I find I’m interested in. Not everyone is the same, and also you don’t have to agree with me or Foucault. Also, it isn’t to say that you don’t have natural inclinations towards strictly men, I suppose Foucault was just wondering if putting that into words really did liberate the individual at all.
You should probably ask yourself what "disagreeing" entails when it comes to identity. Disagreeing with it means you're denying them the most basic respect for little reason other than having political hang-ups around how they identify. I honestly do not care what you believe behind closed doors, even as I know this means fighting for legislation within your viewpoint. It's just not very hard to respect their identity, whether you disagree with the LGBT or not. It doesn't get you anywhere it's just petty. There are of course a few comments within this video that are based on viewpoints and nothing more, but the vast majority are just transphobic, plain and simple.
@@EGCs_3_year_old_Channel "You should probably ask yourself what "disagreeing" entails when it comes to identity. Disagreeing with it means you're denying them the most basic respect-" Not at all. Disagreeing with someone's beliefs (even about themselves) is not the same as not respecting as a person. And especially since this worldview is incoherent to begin with, I'm not obligated to share it with you. "for little reason other than having political hang-ups around how they identify." On the contrary, I believe truth has inherent value, so we should try to make our words reflect truth and logic regardless of politics. I also realize that there are some who would force or coerce others into speaking or running their business, etc. in accordance with these beliefs. Moreover, subscribing to a worldview they cannot logically defend (to themselves or others) probably isn't very good for them compared to rejecting it. "It's just not very hard to respect their identity," A. The ease of something has no bearing on whether or not you should do it. and B. I think it *is* actually difficult to grant (meaningfully) that one person is a man and another is a woman, on your worldview. Your side consistently fails to provide objective definitions for these terms, in fact, making it logically impossible.
@@Vic2point0 I don't know if you're worth talking to after that, but I think you should hear this. How you act afterwards is up to you, and considering you think your side is the objective truth, I don't see how anything I say can change your view. With that being said, I understand why you don't like the word transphobic. It has a negative stigma to it. However, I fail to see how disliking the concept of a person's identity doesn't translate to disliking them. You seem to like calling spades a spade, so how is this any different? You're free to use different terms, but one of the terms that apply to you will always be transphobic. Next, I think that truth is important as well. I've been against theism for most of my life, if only because of how it takes advantage of the desperate and breeds bigotry. With that being said, it's proven to give people more of a purpose in life, which is important for people, who are notoriously prone to existential terror. As such I wouldn't go out of my way to target them or their beliefs because that's a dick move, as I never know the circumstances they're under. This kind of annoying pursuit that most atheists have to disprove things which are so easily disprovable has gotten old and I don't think it accomplishes anything. As for gender ideology, the same stands, except dysphoria is an actual thing. It actually kind of frustrates me how anti-trans people pick and choose the truth, denying gender dysphoria because they don't care to understand it. Plus the spiel about gender and genitals not being linked in any meaningful way, but that's kind of been ran into the ground at this point so I won't bore you. Transitioning medically or socially is shown to help them, and it (dysphoria) can be called a delusion, in-fact I won't even deny it is, but denying this psychological affliction doesn't accomplish anything and will only hurt the individual. I've seen blunt truth in this context compared to body dysmorphia, but the difference would be there's no harm that comes from indulging in their view of themselves, plus it's actually obtainable through surgeries. As our understanding of concepts such as gender grows we should make an effort to expand our minds, no matter how absurd it sounds, at the very least giving what we once knew a second thought. I just consider the simplification of such a complicated concept as gender so reductive and I think it would benefit you to try and reconsider your stance. Anyways it was nice talking, even if I disagreed. Think about this message, or don't, I'm not sure I care. I cared enough to write this so who knows. If you reply and I see a good point I might respond. We're both iron clad in our stances so I don't see this going anywhere unfortunately. I encourage to try though ✌
@@EGCs_3_year_old_Channel "considering you think your side is the objective truth, I don't see how anything I say can change your view." Well first off, I could say the same about you. We *both* believe we're correct on this, and that the other is wrong. Only difference is that I'm able to answer challenging questions about my worldview without dismissing them as hate, phobia, etc. "I understand why you don't like the word transphobic. It has a negative stigma to it." It does have a negative stigma to it, but the reason I "don't like" it being used in this case is that it doesn't fit. Maybe there are people who have a literal phobia of transgenderism or trans people (there are people who are so afraid of shadows, after all), but that group would get no help as we're too busy calling everyone who disagrees with transgenderism "phobic" instead. "I fail to see how disliking the concept of a person's identity doesn't translate to disliking them." What's so difficult? I have no personal dislike of the person, I simply reject specific beliefs they hold about themselves. I probably agree with them on a ton of different beliefs, including many about themselves. Might even have more in common with them than some other conservatives. But I disagree on this one thing. "but one of the terms that apply to you will always be transphobic." People can call me whatever they like, but unless they're admitting (if only tacitly) that they equate disagreement with phobia, "transphobic" wouldn't be accurate. "Next, I think that truth is important as well. I've been against theism for most of my life, if only because of how it takes advantage of the desperate and breeds bigotry." I'm a nonbeliever as well, but even if we say that theism itself causes these wrongful acts (which I don't think it does) that doesn't make it false... "With that being said, it's proven to give people more of a purpose in life, which is important for people, who are notoriously prone to existential terror. As such I wouldn't go out of my way to target them or their beliefs because that's a dick move," Perhaps. But the theists aren't walking around demanding that we speak as if we believe in their gods, and accusing us of phobia or hate when we refuse to. "As for gender ideology, the same stands, except dysphoria is an actual thing." Dysphoria is a real thing, sure, and I've never heard someone on my side deny that. But it doesn't follow that because you're unhappy/uncomfortable with your body that you're in the *wrong* body. It could instead be your mind that needs correcting. Hence why the vast majority of cases of gender dysphoria in children don't continue into adulthood (Cohen-Kettenis; Drummond, Bradley, Peterson-Badali & Zucker). "Transitioning medically or socially is shown to help them" I'm sure that, once someone commits their lives to a worldview no matter how incoherent, other people going along with it *would* make them feel better. That doesn't establish that they *should* subscribe to that worldview however, especially when those who of us who reject it have even better mental health. "As our understanding of concepts such as gender grows" But your understanding of "gender" has only gotten smaller, given that no one on your side can provide an objective definition of it to begin with.
I see you have removed the comments where do not fit your point of view. Gays who say it's homophobic. To say that being gay is identity attraction. Or rejecting trans because gays want a penis means having genital preferences. Would be homophobic and derogatory either. I'm not out doing content. It must be difficult to deal with such things. When people make comments that hurt you. I don't know if I would be tough enough to endure it. It's good that you share your authentic truth and you are brave. How to deal with the controversial opinions? I do not know it either. I was personally interested in your video here. I had you in my mind Because of this issue of trans people calling themselves gay. I reflect on this topic from time to time. Also in relation to trans women who call themselves lesbians. If you have been married to a woman for 10 years. Or when they date women. They are in gay woman only rooms and send nude photos. When a lesbian girl says she's not interested they say that girl is transphobic. They think they are women. And anyone who doesn't accept that is transphobic. Two views collide here. I'm trans myself. I was born female but inside I am other. I look like a man and in a way I am a man. When I'm partnered with a man, people see two men. When I have a masculine girlfriend, people also see two men. I've often been asked if I'm a gay man. Every person is unique. And it is the case with me that I have both masculinity and femininity. People can't understand that. And if they could see it, they couldn't accept it. What I wanted to say. I know some gay men. One of them is my Konrad. He's usually interested in boys. When I introduced him to a trans man, he was interested in that person.
Gender is the "lived experience" in a female or male body. An important part of the "lived experiences" of men is having to deal with the embarrassment of the penis and the erection, something that people who "has lived in a female body" have no clue. Just my thoughts
@@catojames9771 It's not what "makes" a man a man, but it "shapes" male behaviour, especially regarding intimacy. Many men fear physical closeness because, especially as boys, they never know when a "random boner" will happen. In public showers it's rare to see a naked boy between 11 and 16, and they always wear a bathing suit when showering for fear of an erection. Women have no clue about this experience!
@@moonhunter920 Funny how you can freely say "I don't care about other people's thoughts" but you expect the world to respect the nonsense you guys spew.
ok but for both sides (either cis men or cis women) there are “lived experiences” that not everyone shares. Some men have medical problems that could stop that from occurring, does that make them less of a man? Some cis women dont have periods or cant have children, are they less of a woman? Your definition of lived experience means nothing to gender identity lol
"Am I masculine, am I feminine? I'm just me, whatever" that one hit hard, good way to put it
Its so nice to hear that you’re living your dream. I’m trans and 15 and I normally don’t think of us having bright futures. It’s heart warming to hear that we get to live a fulfilled lifestyle and be ourselves. I would’ve never imagined that as possible being closeted
On my 21st birthday (first birthday out), our friend group stopped by the gay bar and my twin sister found this straight couple in their 30s who wanted to buy us shots. This couple might’ve also been swingers idk… Anywho, after my sister and I took shots with them, the woman caught on to the fact that I’m trans and drunkenly asked “So, do you wanna be a boy because you think you’ll never be as hot as your sister?”
Funniest fucking thing I’ve ever heard. And also a total shot in the dark. This woman had met me barely ten minutes before. Strangely validating to learn I could take a comment like that in stride.
Omg leaving wack comments on a TH-cam channel is one thing but I can't imagine making that kind of comment to someone's face. People are ridiculous 😂
I hope once I transition I can be "deliriously happy"
I hope so for you as well!!
Same :)
It’s kind of insane how far transphobes will go to find validation for their transphobia
Yupp...
They're the same as the transgenders lmao
What hurts way more than the comments themselves is that they get upvoted.
Yeah but notice how all the hate comments always have a very similar amount of likes in his videos. this implies a very specific group of very strange individuals actively seek out all the negative comments to fuel their strange echo chambers. They are just a loud minority.
I love how open and honest you are. It is so comforting to watch your videos, more than anything else is. When I'm feeling down and scared about my future I watch your videos and see you beaming as you talk about your life and I feel like everything is going to be okay. Thank you so much x
Aw thank you!! I always appreciate your comments Lee 🥰
@@arthur_rockwell 💕 ahh thank you!
They're trying to call this hot guy a girl as if that won't make them look like idiots.
This hits hard because I’m in my early 30s, and I’ve never had a real relationship, and I get told constantly fully transitioning means no one will ever want me, I’m garbage… but I’ve only ever been attracted to men. I have gay male friends who accept and care for me, but I assume that they only validate me because they care… so knowing other people do fine dating is peace of mind lol.
you're like a dad and a friend for us😭😭💗💗💗💗💗💗 thank you for being here i enjiy listening to you!!
thank you for this video! you’re able to articulate your point of view so well and it provides a welcome contrast to the people who are just misguidedly attacking you/trans folks in general. it’s really encouraging to see that you are confident and proud of your identity :) i hope to reach that point eventually!
Aww thanks! I'm wishing you luck in reaching that place!
Thank you for sharing with us Arther! I have a different take on the comment expressing confusion about you transitioning and being gay. My grandma had similar confusion when I came out as nonbinary- she asked me if I am attracted to any gender and asked me to explain the difference between asexuality and agender/nonbinary. It confused me for a while because I understand how someone's gender and sexuality do not affect each other. I think straightness is so engraved as the norm that it's even imposed on queer people. In general, straight people prefer supporting queer relationships between masc and fem people rather than two people who present similarly because it applies more closely to heterosexual norms on the outside.
That's a great point! Yeah, I remember when my ex's well-meaning parents assumed that I would become straight after I transitioned because they associated being a man so heavily dating with dating women. So it definitely can be confusing for people not in the community and, at the end of the day, I'm obviously mostly just guessing on the tone of comments
When I came out, the only ignorant thing my dad said was, "Wait, I had always thought you liked women." So I had to explain, "Yeah, Dad, I do like women. I'm a lesbian!"
This was immensely helpful. I'm almost mid-30s and only figured out I'm a transguy in the past year or so. Just getting the ball (ha!) rolling on my transition. There's a lot of uncertainty, but being trans is not one of them. You are goals! Thanks!
Hell yeah congrats on getting your transition started! That's such an exciting time. And thanks for watching ☺️
Im in my nid thirties also and i want to be a transman but i dont want to take the medical route.
@@Saar114 That's completely valid. :) You don't have to take the medical route at all if it's not for you. The most important thing is you doing what makes you comfortable and happy.
Great video Arthur! It's very powerful for me to see you so confident and dismissive of these comments. I'm happy for you that you can see how absurd they are because like you said, sometimes when you're still figuring stuff out those quite stupid things can be hurtful.
I hope things will continue to be good for you! You are truly glowing and it's lovely to see ❤
Aww thank you 🥰
Hi Arthur! Funny comments, these people are lost! Let me tell you, I am a pansexual trans man, late bloomer in transition, and I have ALWAYS attracted gay men and straight women. I wondered why straight men and lesbians avoided me, and the comments I received the most was : your body is attractive but I feel like you're a boy, you act like one and even smell like one!
On the opposite side, the gay men I dated where confused about why they fancied me but no other "girl" 😝. The exes I seen again where reassured : yup, dude, you always where gay, you could do it with me because I am also a flavour of man 😉!
Sexual attraction isn't only a matter of appearance, people can literally SENSE your gender and act upon it. My experiences as a pré-transition young man comforted me in my gender.
Wow that's so wild! Not exactly the same, but my straight ex had toxic friends who joked that he was "dating a man" because they found photos of me looking boyish from high school. Turns out, yup, he was 😂
Same!! I have two exes who are gay men and dated me pretransition. One of them kept saying he was so confused about liking me and wanting to date me because he was so sure he was gay. He basically broke up with me by coming out to me and that was a big thing on me figuring out I was trans because I didn't mind that he said he was gay and specifically attracted only to men, because, well, I was a man.
Yeah, I'm a trans lesbian, but for years I thought I was a straight man. However, straight women were never really into me. The women I had the most success with were usually either bi, or were gender-nonconforming in some way.
As a guy in the very beginning of my transition seeing this where you are so calm and confident in yourself inspires me to trust myself and shake off hurtful comments. Like bardic inspiration ✨️
I really just want to binge your videos all night but I like… have school tomorrow. Your videos are really comforting for some reason
I'm gonna use "Gayface" to describe myself more often. Thanks 👍🤣
I am a guy from India gorging on your videos right now.
Can't decide whether i wanna be you or wanna marry you.. ( in my head obviously).
Everything about you i find is extremely endearing.
And that you are academically sharp.. That makes you even more irresistible.
You are my new Crush.
Love you.. 💚
Ahaha I'm flattered!
@@arthur_rockwell Thanks very much for the reply.
N' Kudos for standing up for those questioning and yet to be transitioned people who can be deeply demoralized with all these thoughtless negative comments.
A human being is a human being is a human being.
Why bother about so many conformities? So many set images..?
Just live and let live.. Gosh!
I love your videos Arthur. So thoughtful and full of great energy.
Thank you!! ☺️
I am crying watching this video because how people commented those hurtful comments to you.
Aw that is sweet but you don't need to worry about me!! These people just clearly have too much time on their hands if they're trying to say mean things to a complete stranger on the internet
I’ve always found real stan comments on TH-cam (“oh my god, [creator] you’re such an icon, you’re such a king/queen,” etc.) a bit weird, because even when it comes to TH-camrs I really like, I don’t normally feel the need to effusively praise them in such a non-specific way. It’s not that I think it’s bad; I just usually don’t get it.
With you, though, I honestly feel the urge. You just seem so smart, self-possessed, confident, and just overall likable that I want to say “I love you, Arthur, you’re an absolute king!”
youre probably has most and more chill than cis guys. that i salute.
Is it wrong if I say that you as a trans man are more masculine than I ever was when I presented as a guy? I'm a trans lady
Haha doesn't bother me!
Many transphobic comments affects me greatly but one that some people from time to time say I even think is funny is about chromosomes and genes or bones, like "after you die they will tell you're a woman because of your skeleton." 😂 like??? Why in the hell would I care about that?
And they are so insistent about it. I point out that it simply doesn't matter, and they are always like, "Of course it matters! It matters a lot!" but they can never articulate why.
LOL I love how you bleeped it out and said "unnecessary flex" LAMO
lol I would rather go bald than keep living in society being read as "such a cute petite female 🤮" Most of these comments are so senseless that I just have to laugh.
I'm okay with you leaving the comments up because the ones at the top are always nice and I don't scroll to far down to see ang bad ones
I scroll down and see the bad ones, and then always regret it.
The 'defining sexuality by what genitals you like to touch' is so weird. Sure, it may be important to some people, fine. But like... there's people who've had their genitals (partially) amputated to medical reasons? Are you suddenly bi if your husband had testicular cancer and you stil love him and find him attractive?
Lololol "women must be chaste for the fragile health of the female body" xD
Dealing with hate comments is a tricky situation indeed. I really like the (new-ish) option on twitter to add context. The original tweet can stay up, but if it's wrong people can add a source to correct it or something that will show up right underneath. Would be great to have that on YT too. I think keeping hate comments up can become an issue if your channel/community is larger. Then maybe the first comment people see is a hate comment, which can discourage people from write their own (decent) comment, encouraging more hate comments, and eventually you just have a cesspit hate. Your approach to protect other people seems pretty good :) Your channel, do whatever feels right for you. And a video like this "debunking" some of the common nonsense seems like a good approach too :)
This is kinda irrelevant to this video but you honestly have such a calming voice + look too me like a Prince. (Similar to like an irl Howl pendragon?)So, the idea that anyone wouldn’t identify you as a man is laughable, and you can tell that the transphobic people are grasping at straws. I like how you pointed out how they clearly just are throwing whatever they can at people, in hopes that something will stick (and hurt). But it is also sad because like you said they’re definitely leaving comments like these on those who are strugglings pages too.
I’m also glad you’re speaking up on the transphobia in LGBTQIA+ community. It’s so disheartening too see. It is so sad too that pathetic trans guy who got that cruel response you mentioned was probably hurt. 😓
It’s ironic too because when you look at the definition it says “interest of people of the same sex or gender “ ...and the Keyword their is gender. 🤦🏻♀ Gender and sex are two different things. If you’re a man dating / having sex with humans who identify as men, regardless of their chromosomes - then you’re gay. Literally by definition. I don’t know when people are going to get that if you don’t understand something, their is a wealth of information on the internet to help explain it too you.
Thanks for adding to the wealth of info 💗
***sometimes I wonder if these queer people who side with hateful heterosexuals- are doing it because of how ingrained heteronormativity+ LGBTQIA stereotypes are. Obviously they should know better and do the work to undo socialization as many of us are trying, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that contributes to it being so bad.
Have you ever hooked up with another trans guy?
Yeah! I have a video talking about T4T dating actually
Your hair, eyes, smile, voice.. everything is sooooo.... mmmm...
and most importantly your intellect and deep sensibility.
Hi arthur hope your day goes well
I’m from the 1990s all the way to 2023 people are going to make fun of you disrespect you and some extreme cases commit some serious crime. It doesn’t matter if you’re gay lesbian or trans or even black or white or religion. People will always hate and that’s just part of life. There’s a couple of ways you could deal with it one you could cry like a little bitch and see if that does anything which in some cases it does work just not a lot option two you could try to knock their tooth out the other options or whatever do whatever you want with that information
I am Gautam btw. ( as in Gautam Buddha)..
Arthur I love youuuuu😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
❤️❤️❤️
Glad you are you!
Arthur says we should accept other people's identity, as wr know nothing about them,so why does he keep imposing cis on men?
Trans victim mentality. He's evil.
Because he's a biological woman.
I don’t really understand why don’t you just delete those comments, because they provide absolutely nothing and are only spreading hate directed towards you.
They are good for entertainment value! We can laugh at how dumb transphobes are!
Plese stop saying ' like', so annoying!
This is absurdly homophobic. You don't see us, not as we are, if you think we're merely an identity. Back in the day, they referred to us as having a 'lifestyle'...now we are told we have a 'genital preference'. It's confounding.
Actually, the origins of homosexuality was not self made. It did not naturally spring up between gay individuals. What actually occurred, was a progression towards psychoanalysis and the “uncovering” of an individuals repressed essence. In doing this, homosexuality was created as a pathology, a label for an individual which engaged in the act of sex with the same sex. It was known to be wrong and incorrect, and so the gay community was born through this marginalization. Homosexuality was an invented term used to hurt and oppress people who had different sexual preferences. This doesn’t mean it doesn’t have value, but it is inherently an identity created by discourse. Foucault discusses this a lot in History of Sexuality. It isn’t to say that people don’t have a certain sexual inclination, or drive, but it is food for thought when you think about where these identities really come from, and whether or not they are useful all the time when trying to understand oneself.
@@francisp2131 Such sophistry. Why would I have been subject to such marginalization in the bad old days were it simply an identity? Who, seeking safety, wouldn't have elected for the favored heterosexual identity? People have sexual orientations even if such orientations are never disclosed. The nature of any foundational trait a person may have...
@@daviddambrosio8247 not trying to discredit your feelings towards your sexuality and the marginalization that has happened to you. Foucault himself slept with other men, but he found the sex and pleasure should involve the individual and what they wanted in that moment, rather then taking on the label of homosexual which was used strictly to diagnose someone with a sexual abnormality. Think of Ancient Greece for example, although male citizens had sex with other males, it was not considered gay, it was considered what you did, not who you were. Again, this isn’t to say that you can’t find value in reclaiming that identity, but you must realize that sexuality is an invention of description, that means many people may find that they don’t fit so smoothly into that identity label. And that’s ok for them, as it is ok for you to find connection and solace in claiming the label of gay. This is just what I found for myself as well. I choose not to identify or make my pleasure into who I am, because I am not static, and often times that identification will contradict what I find I’m interested in. Not everyone is the same, and also you don’t have to agree with me or Foucault. Also, it isn’t to say that you don’t have natural inclinations towards strictly men, I suppose Foucault was just wondering if putting that into words really did liberate the individual at all.
@@daviddambrosio8247exactly. This is just an identity to him. He is living the gay “lifestyle” of fucking around.
Disagreeing =/= being phobic, fearing, hating, or even disliking someone.
You should probably ask yourself what "disagreeing" entails when it comes to identity. Disagreeing with it means you're denying them the most basic respect for little reason other than having political hang-ups around how they identify. I honestly do not care what you believe behind closed doors, even as I know this means fighting for legislation within your viewpoint. It's just not very hard to respect their identity, whether you disagree with the LGBT or not. It doesn't get you anywhere it's just petty.
There are of course a few comments within this video that are based on viewpoints and nothing more, but the vast majority are just transphobic, plain and simple.
@@EGCs_3_year_old_Channel "You should probably ask yourself what "disagreeing" entails when it comes to identity. Disagreeing with it means you're denying them the most basic respect-"
Not at all. Disagreeing with someone's beliefs (even about themselves) is not the same as not respecting as a person. And especially since this worldview is incoherent to begin with, I'm not obligated to share it with you.
"for little reason other than having political hang-ups around how they identify."
On the contrary, I believe truth has inherent value, so we should try to make our words reflect truth and logic regardless of politics. I also realize that there are some who would force or coerce others into speaking or running their business, etc. in accordance with these beliefs. Moreover, subscribing to a worldview they cannot logically defend (to themselves or others) probably isn't very good for them compared to rejecting it.
"It's just not very hard to respect their identity,"
A. The ease of something has no bearing on whether or not you should do it.
and B. I think it *is* actually difficult to grant (meaningfully) that one person is a man and another is a woman, on your worldview. Your side consistently fails to provide objective definitions for these terms, in fact, making it logically impossible.
@@Vic2point0 I don't know if you're worth talking to after that, but I think you should hear this. How you act afterwards is up to you, and considering you think your side is the objective truth, I don't see how anything I say can change your view.
With that being said, I understand why you don't like the word transphobic. It has a negative stigma to it. However, I fail to see how disliking the concept of a person's identity doesn't translate to disliking them. You seem to like calling spades a spade, so how is this any different? You're free to use different terms, but one of the terms that apply to you will always be transphobic.
Next, I think that truth is important as well. I've been against theism for most of my life, if only because of how it takes advantage of the desperate and breeds bigotry. With that being said, it's proven to give people more of a purpose in life, which is important for people, who are notoriously prone to existential terror. As such I wouldn't go out of my way to target them or their beliefs because that's a dick move, as I never know the circumstances they're under. This kind of annoying pursuit that most atheists have to disprove things which are so easily disprovable has gotten old and I don't think it accomplishes anything. As for gender ideology, the same stands, except dysphoria is an actual thing. It actually kind of frustrates me how anti-trans people pick and choose the truth, denying gender dysphoria because they don't care to understand it. Plus the spiel about gender and genitals not being linked in any meaningful way, but that's kind of been ran into the ground at this point so I won't bore you. Transitioning medically or socially is shown to help them, and it (dysphoria) can be called a delusion, in-fact I won't even deny it is, but denying this psychological affliction doesn't accomplish anything and will only hurt the individual. I've seen blunt truth in this context compared to body dysmorphia, but the difference would be there's no harm that comes from indulging in their view of themselves, plus it's actually obtainable through surgeries. As our understanding of concepts such as gender grows we should make an effort to expand our minds, no matter how absurd it sounds, at the very least giving what we once knew a second thought. I just consider the simplification of such a complicated concept as gender so reductive and I think it would benefit you to try and reconsider your stance.
Anyways it was nice talking, even if I disagreed. Think about this message, or don't, I'm not sure I care. I cared enough to write this so who knows. If you reply and I see a good point I might respond. We're both iron clad in our stances so I don't see this going anywhere unfortunately. I encourage to try though ✌
@@EGCs_3_year_old_Channel "considering you think your side is the objective truth, I don't see how anything I say can change your view."
Well first off, I could say the same about you. We *both* believe we're correct on this, and that the other is wrong. Only difference is that I'm able to answer challenging questions about my worldview without dismissing them as hate, phobia, etc.
"I understand why you don't like the word transphobic. It has a negative stigma to it."
It does have a negative stigma to it, but the reason I "don't like" it being used in this case is that it doesn't fit. Maybe there are people who have a literal phobia of transgenderism or trans people (there are people who are so afraid of shadows, after all), but that group would get no help as we're too busy calling everyone who disagrees with transgenderism "phobic" instead.
"I fail to see how disliking the concept of a person's identity doesn't translate to disliking them."
What's so difficult? I have no personal dislike of the person, I simply reject specific beliefs they hold about themselves. I probably agree with them on a ton of different beliefs, including many about themselves. Might even have more in common with them than some other conservatives. But I disagree on this one thing.
"but one of the terms that apply to you will always be transphobic."
People can call me whatever they like, but unless they're admitting (if only tacitly) that they equate disagreement with phobia, "transphobic" wouldn't be accurate.
"Next, I think that truth is important as well. I've been against theism for most of my life, if only because of how it takes advantage of the desperate and breeds bigotry."
I'm a nonbeliever as well, but even if we say that theism itself causes these wrongful acts (which I don't think it does) that doesn't make it false...
"With that being said, it's proven to give people more of a purpose in life, which is important for people, who are notoriously prone to existential terror. As such I wouldn't go out of my way to target them or their beliefs because that's a dick move,"
Perhaps. But the theists aren't walking around demanding that we speak as if we believe in their gods, and accusing us of phobia or hate when we refuse to.
"As for gender ideology, the same stands, except dysphoria is an actual thing."
Dysphoria is a real thing, sure, and I've never heard someone on my side deny that. But it doesn't follow that because you're unhappy/uncomfortable with your body that you're in the *wrong* body. It could instead be your mind that needs correcting. Hence why the vast majority of cases of gender dysphoria in children don't continue into adulthood (Cohen-Kettenis; Drummond, Bradley, Peterson-Badali & Zucker).
"Transitioning medically or socially is shown to help them"
I'm sure that, once someone commits their lives to a worldview no matter how incoherent, other people going along with it *would* make them feel better. That doesn't establish that they *should* subscribe to that worldview however, especially when those who of us who reject it have even better mental health.
"As our understanding of concepts such as gender grows"
But your understanding of "gender" has only gotten smaller, given that no one on your side can provide an objective definition of it to begin with.
@@Vic2point0transphobe doing mental gymnastics.
I see you have removed the comments where do not fit your point of view. Gays who say it's homophobic. To say that being gay is identity attraction. Or rejecting trans because gays want a penis means having genital preferences. Would be homophobic and derogatory either.
I'm not out doing content. It must be difficult to deal with such things. When people make comments that hurt you.
I don't know if I would be tough enough to endure it.
It's good that you share your authentic truth and you are brave.
How to deal with the controversial opinions? I do not know it either.
I was personally interested in your video here. I had you in my mind Because of this issue of trans people calling themselves gay.
I reflect on this topic from time to time.
Also in relation to trans women who call themselves lesbians. If you have been married to a woman for 10 years. Or when they date women.
They are in gay woman only rooms and send nude photos. When a lesbian girl says she's not interested they say that girl is transphobic.
They think they are women. And anyone who doesn't accept that is transphobic.
Two views collide here.
I'm trans myself. I was born female but inside I am other.
I look like a man and in a way I am a man.
When I'm partnered with a man, people see two men. When I have a masculine girlfriend, people also see two men.
I've often been asked if I'm a gay man.
Every person is unique. And it is the case with me that I have both masculinity and femininity.
People can't understand that.
And if they could see it, they couldn't accept it.
What I wanted to say. I know some gay men. One of them is my Konrad. He's usually interested in boys. When I introduced him to a trans man, he was interested in that person.
Gender is the "lived experience" in a female or male body. An important part of the "lived experiences" of men is having to deal with the embarrassment of the penis and the erection, something that people who "has lived in a female body" have no clue. Just my thoughts
Random boners?? That’s what makes a man a man? That’s sad that you have nothing else to go off of 😢
@@catojames9771 It's not what "makes" a man a man, but it "shapes" male behaviour, especially regarding intimacy. Many men fear physical closeness because, especially as boys, they never know when a "random boner" will happen. In public showers it's rare to see a naked boy between 11 and 16, and they always wear a bathing suit when showering for fear of an erection. Women have no clue about this experience!
I think we also ‘don’t care’ about ur thoughts. This is transphobic in a way. No ‘need’ to say it.
@@moonhunter920 Funny how you can freely say "I don't care about other people's thoughts" but you expect the world to respect the nonsense you guys spew.
ok but for both sides (either cis men or cis women) there are “lived experiences” that not everyone shares. Some men have medical problems that could stop that from occurring, does that make them less of a man? Some cis women dont have periods or cant have children, are they less of a woman? Your definition of lived experience means nothing to gender identity lol