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- So many changes in such a short amount of time 🥺. Join us as we transform the rest of our tiny city backyard this week! Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit betterhelp.com... and enjoy a special discount on your first month.
Thank you all for your patience and love as we've navigated this next chapter of our lives. If you haven't watched our life update episode we recommend starting there so you can get caught up with the last 6 months of our lives: • life update
Moving forward with high vibrations and a whole lot of love 🌈 ✨ Most importantly we are loving time with our sweet baby girl Frankie Lee Fitzgerald.
You should also watch our episode called "We're Back" to see Part 1 of our tiny backyard makeover:
• We're Back!
Today we tackle the second half of our DIY backyard project at our Toronto triplex. It's only 500 sq-ft but with our daughter and our niece set to grow up here we wanted to make it a fun space for everyone! This time we take on the teeny tiny patio space and hope to add another living room to our apartment by panelling the ceiling, painting the concrete floor, adding some furniture and a privacy screen too.
What do you think of the total transformation of this space?! Would love to hear from you in the comments x
We miss you Eamon and Bec! Thank you for continuing to share. We appreciate that you’ve decided to continue at your pace! ❤❤
Thank you so much!! We’re so grateful for a community full of amazing souls just like you Lauren 💛🌞
Frankie is adorable,you are amazing parents, thank you for uploading these precious moments , I agree with Bec regarding the door frame, Eamon the transformation in the backyard is amazing ! love from UK ❤
Totally agree! ❤
I agree!!❤🎉
Wow the back yard looks amazing!
Bec those feelings are totally normal about working after having a baby. Do what feels right for your family and it will work out.
You guys are awesome! Thanks for sharing!
If every woman had an Eamon in her life - this would be a better world. Happy Father’s Day Eamon.
Exactly! He is amazing, wow!
Couldn’t agree more!! Eamon is A M A Z I N G!!!! Frankie, Oso and I are so incredibly grateful ❤❤❤
@@eamonandbec I know that you are my dear Bec. You are one of the most appreciate and sensitive people I've ever "got to know" on this planet. It's not easy to be a human and a woman. I love you so much, you are such a wonderful person and mother. Bless you and your family, incl. Oso! ❤
Happy Father’s Day
Oh so true
I ran a home daycare for 14 years. The one message I would give to the mom dropping off their new baby was to not feel guilty. Babies can feel your stress and anxiety. If they feel that you are stressed and anxious about leaving them, then they feel that there is something wrong with you leaving them.
You’ve made a decision based on what’s best for you and your family, so do not feel guilt and do not feel anxious over that decision. Know that your child will be loved and cared for, and will be OK.
Send that positive energy out into the universe, and let your child know that you value your time alone, and at work. There’s nothing wrong with that decision, so do not put the energy of negativity in the mix. Feel confident, and comfortable with your decision. Let your child feel your positivity and good energy. It will make their day away from you much easier, and they will learn that it’s OK to do things for yourself.
You set the energy of the experience… so make it good energy!
I read in a book about ancient history once that historically, babies would only spend about 40% of their day with their mother/primary parent. The rest would be dads, aunties, uncles, cousins, grandparents. Nowadays, the village is different and involves daycares, but it’s completely natural to have other people look after your child during the day if that’s what you want. It made me feel better anyway!
I agree, I also did daycare in my home for 25 years and the parents felt SO guilty leaving their little, especially when they cried. One mother would try and console her toddler and the longer she stayed the more worked up he would get, One day she came in and I asked her "please hand me Adams bag, and hang his coat on the rack and just say, bye, I will be back soon and I love you" she did, and when she stepped out the door and closed it he stopped crying INSTANTLY and went to the toy box....
I also was told when having a hard time with my child going to daycare or camp or wherever, that I was showing my child that I trusted him and believed that he could handle the situation and that this helped build his confidence each time :)
Excellent advice!
I miss my son’s daycare lady so much! She was amazing! It was hard the first few days but it got to the point where he would cry when I picked him up because he didn’t want to leave lol.
Mother of 6 here…..just cry, miss them, happy to see them, sleep, eat, pump, work, repeat. Boom! 43 years is gone. ❤❤
I have to say. The part where Bec said to us ‘you’re doing a good job’ I actually cried. I needed to hear that. I’m a full time carer for my youngest, who is now 10 and has multiple disabilities. I didn’t know how much I needed to hear someone say you’re doing a good job.
Thank you Bec. And right back at ya. ❤
You are doing an AMAZING job!! I’m so proud of you ❤❤
@@eamonandbec So are you two. Huge hugs.❤❤
Here to tell you a month later you're doing a good job 💕 caregiving is not easy. Super star status!
The backyard looks so different! Excellent job! As the mother of many, I think Eamon needs to remember that taking time for himself is nothing to feel guilty for. Refreshing yourself is needed to make yourself a better parent. When they see us role modelling liking our own company and taking time for self-care and just chilling, they learn how to do that themselves, which will make them healthier and happier adults in the future too. My husband died suddenly at just 45. My only regret for his life is he didn't take enough time for himself, putting everything into work and our kids, even though I tried to get him to take time just for himself and with his friends more.
It takes a village.
I am so sorry for ur loss❤
Incredible wisdom here, take heed. So sorry for your loss. May our heavenly Father bless you and comfort you.
I’ve never been so happy that a TH-cam couple is continuing on providing us with top notch content!! Parenting looks good on you guys ❤
Thank you so much!! Means so much to us 🦋🦋
You should tell Bob's history. As Eamon's father and the bond all of you have, probably will be a great video to watch.
@joaoguilhermeberttitargino629 Bob is so cute. You can tell he loves his family very much and is there for them through it all!
Eamon is 10 people in one, it's unbelievable what he's all capable of - such a craftsman, I love it!
Haha that’s a good way of putting it! He really is 10 people in 1 😅
Gorgeous renovation ! Enjoy your days and every second you have with Frankie. She is so beautiful and growing so fast. The days feel like they are long sometimes, but the years go by way too fast. Slow down to be with her, but you have to keep moving forward also for her. Give her lots of kisses, hugs, holding her while she sleeps, singing to her as she goes to sleep, these are some of the things I miss so much doing now that my son is a grown man. Those years went so fast - almost 33 years now. Enjoy her because that time too goes away so fast! ♥️
time as a parent is so different! it feels like every moment you have needs to be productive or efficient in some way. you have to manage your time so well or you don’t get anything done or get time for yourself. it’s HARD to adjust to having less time for projects and creativity, especially as a creative. it’s such a valid feeling and I love that you both are open about these feelings and experiences with each other and with your audience. so good to normalize. we aren’t bad parents for needing time “off duty” or time for creativity or choosing to work!
Don't feel guilty about taking time away from your beautiful child to work or relax. Your mental and physical self needs refreshing. That way, you're at your best for your child and family. Both of you must take time just for each other, away together.
You probably know all of this. You two have a great extended family and are fantastic parents.
Be safe and have fun.
Excellent advice and true!
Thanks Mike!! We know it but it’s always helpful to be reminded ❤❤
Yes take time away together but also make sure you take time alone for yourself the guilt will subside you have to take care of yourself to be your best for her hubby and I both take time alone once a week to get that refresh to be at our best for the kids
And your child(ren) will grow up with the understanding that you are individuals/people - not just parents. Doesn't sound like much, but it's really important as they learn to be independent.
Motherhood is a constant evolution. The baby phase where you need SLEEP and are just learning mom things. To toddler this kid is into everything you never sit. To the activities phase where you’re a taxi. To now my kids are 18 and 21, and the be safe, use money wisely, be a good human phase. You got this.
Bec, one thing I learned but when my child was already 15 and having issues is that a girl learns to take care of herself by how she sees her Mom taking care of herself. Never feel guilty for taking care of yourself. Your teaching your child valuable tools.
Second this. They learn so much through watching us. ❤️ You gotta walk the talk.
My son was born in 1989 and maternity leave was 3 months, so crazy! I thought I was taking 2 weeks to get ready for our new baby, but he arrived early, the day after my last day of work! Looking back, I have no idea how I did it, 2 days to spend some quality family time, do laundry, get groceries, clean the house and get back to work Monday! I would keep our son up late in the evenings and not wake him to take him to daycare! I’d take him there in his jammies and put him in a crib! He’d usually sleep until 10/11 am! I think that helped his sleep habits and we did this right up to 4 yo - he eventually would lift his arms or legs as I did start to dress him and he’d sleep right up to arrival at his daycare! At least we got to spend evening time together! If I had it all to do again, I would have tried to find a job that allowed me to be at home!
I remember the day I returned to work as a nurse with our first and second daughters. It was painful, and I cried. They had a babysitter when they were small, and then they went to day school. My husband would pick them up from school, fix dinner, and put them to bed. So, I started working the night shift to spend more time with them. When I took classes, they went with me as two- and four-year-olds. They told me they still remember learning from my classes. They are both adults now and repeat what they learned in my classes. Can you believe that? Being a working mom is rough. Our girls turned out to be smart, healthy, and great adults that we are proud of.
That baby is absolutely adorable! Happy Father's Day.
You are so kind! Thank you!!
Love those baby rolls, Frankie. Parents are kind of cute too.
@@Suz9006its the one time in life your chub legs and folds are adorable! Lol. She truly is the sweetest little cherub tho..and yes, she comes by her cuteness honestly. Way to go E & B!❤
Happy Father's Day Eamon !!! ....the struggle is real my friend... Fatherhood comes with an immense change in responsibilities...or at least that's how it felt to me too.... It's something that gets better with time, but never really leaves you...just remember you're no good to them if you're overtired, overworked, or too stressed....self care is important for you too... Cheers! Hope you all have a fantastic day !
Great advice.
Well said!
You got that right! Thanks for sharing and for the love today 🙏
Happy Father's Day Eamon & to all the Dads out there!
Well said‼️
Yay!!! 💜 Happy Fathers’ Day Eamon! 🎉 my best advice as a parent: Time is an illusion, do what you can.. whenever you can.. Frankie was there with you both the whole time (the sparkle in your eyes)✨youve been together, now she’s in present 🎁 physical form.. wild! 🫶🏼
I FEEL EXACTLY THE SAME!! Her soul was divinely linked with ours. We looooove experiencing this 3D life with her too 🦋🤸
@@eamonandbec 🙏🏼
Bob casually wearing the see you Sunday T-shirt is the most wholesome thing
I'm late to the comments, but just here to jump on the parent wagon. One of the secrets of parenting is finding joy in all those little learning moments. They happen a lot when they are tiny. Enjoying a book for the first time, first words, first steps. Our kids are 12 and 9 and we still find joy in the discoveries. It's magical. Love seeing your journey!
Your positivity and spirit is contagious. You guys make everything and everyone better. What an example you are to this world and that cutie patootie of a baby girl!!!
Thank you so so much ❤❤
Love your section about parents loving on each other! I’m a working mom to three littles- ages four, two and one! In January our four year old got diagnosed with Leukemia and we’ve been doing our best to balance the chaos of life!! One thing I’ve learned in this season is that YOU ARE SO MUCH MORE CAPABLE THAN YOU KNOW! Our capacity, as parents, will always expand to be whatever it is our babes need from us! You got this and we parents need each other to lean on!!! Keep persevering ❤
Sending you love and hugs. Prayers for your little one to have complete healing.
Sending lots of love to you and your entire family 💛💛💛
It’s so wonderful to see how joyful and playful you seem Bec! ❤️ your energy feels so light, it’s really nice to see you like this after all you have gone through over the last few years 🙏🏻🥰
Thank you so much!!
Your doing great Eamon! Don't put so much pressure on yourself. You and Bec are a great team with a beautiful family. No need to feel rushed. When you guys adopted Ozo...did you feel like the essence of time had changed and you had to start rushing to accomplish and finish tasks. No, not at all. Your beautiful baby girl is just another wonderful much smaller, less hairy addition to the fam. As she grows older and is able to start walking and holding tools she's gonna want to be your little helper and that feeling is gonna be on another level and feel so cool and fill your eyes with all happy tears! 😊🥰❤❤❤🧡💛💚💙💜💝🙌🤝👊🤘🤘🤘💪🐾🌻🌷🌹🌿🌼🌺☀
That feeling is commonly known as “mom guilt” but it goes both ways. Like if it’s sunny outside you feel guilty for not taking your kid out to play. Or if you’re off work, you feel like you should take them somewhere fun. It’s normal and everyone experiences this, you’re not alone ❤
Eamon and his dad, Bob, remind me so much of my son and husband working on projects together. Eamon talks to his dad exactly the same way that my son does to his dad. Happy Father’s Day to all Dads. Thank you for this upload; it’s always great to see all of you.
That is awesome! These boys are always “having fun” if you ask them but doesn’t seem like it on the outside 😝
Wherever you guys decide to plant yourselves, you always make it better and beautiful. Thanks for sharing your lives with all of us. Love you guys.
Thanks so much! We love you too!
Great to see you grandpa Bob, Happy Fathers Day❤, You helped to raise an AWESOME man, and have been a sweet addition to the channel over the years, during Covid, cabin remodel and now. Thanks for showing up and being you❤
So nice of you to send this message for Bob!! I’m going to show it to him this evening 💛💛
What a world of a difference it would make if parents had each other’s back and lift each other up. Parenting can be so hard so more love for everyone is needed in this world ❣️
My pediatrician for my kids was also my pediatrician when I was a child. I was a stay at home mom and she told me that I needed to give myself time away from my kids. I have a son and a daughter that are 15 months apart, they are grown now and the advice from my kids doc was priceless. Remember that they will love you no matter if you’re there 24/7 or not. It is good for the both of y’all to get some away time. And don’t forget to take time for yourselves with dates and time together. Your kids will grow up and move out….take care of YOUR relationship together. It will make that transition easier if you’re still strong in your relationship. Much love to the three of you. ❤❤❤
Doing things when you don’t feel like it - that’s parenting! Having less time, more to do and a baby led structure is the rub. You two are managing it beautifully! Take care of yourselves and know Frankie will thrive even more when she has to find her own stimulation.
Thanks for the top drilling tip!
Love that! Thanks you!
I bought my little neice an adirondack chair like Frankie's and she loved it so much that when she learned to walk, she dragged it to wherever she felt it needed to be ❤❤❤ sending love to you all
Omg!!! Now I can’t stop seeing Frankie doing this and …. I’m crying lol 🥹
@@eamonandbec i wish i could send you a video of it- she was wearing not much of anything 😆 and very carefully dragging it from the living room to HER bedroom- saying "mine, mine, mine" the whole time 😂😂😂
Eamon, you are doing great as a dad. As others have said, do what you can do. Spending time with Frankie is not about how much you spend with her. It is the quality of time you spend with her. Remember to take time for yourself as well; I don't know how that would work for you with all the projects you have planned; it is different for everyone. One thing I tell all the parents I work with (I work in early child intervention) is to remember to take time for yourself. Remember what they tell you on an airplane: put your oxygen mask first before helping others. If you don't have that oxygen mask on, you are no good at helping anyone else. So try to forget about the time it takes to finish a project (it looks like you have plenty of help) do what you need to do for yourself, and then be there for Frankie; Frankie will be grateful for that in the end. Bec, the same goes for you.
I second this!
It’s really refreshing to see a realistic project undertaking like this in terms of timing and whatnot….i loved that you included how much longer it took you, and how many times you needed to stop to help Frankie. As a mom of 3 who loves diy projects and feeling “productive,” it can be discouraging to see so many people knock projects out so quickly when I feel like I get nothing done! (Of course being a mom and taking care of my kids/family is productive, but I think you know what I mean haha). Love y’all’s content!
As a solo parent - what I discovered was being present with my children (no phone, no distractions etc) when I was with them and the same with work. It’s had not to have a foot in both worlds but by giving each my all when I was there, meant I felt less guilty. If that makes sense. ((Hugs)) you guys are doing amazing!
Eamon, as a probable co-ADHD being, the three quickest fixes are earthing (being barefoot on the ground, several times a day for at least 5 minutes) and breathing in thru the nose, hold it and breathing out thru the mouth (make a low rumble). When I do it with children I say ‘smell the flowers, breathe out a dragon rumble). You can never do this to much. And of course, drinking plenty of healthy water. Earthing helps to calm and sleep better (I bet you’re sleep deprived and this will help like ‘power sleep’. You got this. ❤
These are such powerful tips! Thank you, thank you 💛💛
bec, your joy is infectious!! and happy father’s day, eamon!
Thank you! You too!
Thank you so much for the video. As a mom of two grown boys, everyone’s balance is different…the key is to be kind to yourself. You’ll make mistakes and that’s okay. It’s so important to have moments of selfishness since we will always give so much of ourselves to our children. Enjoy these moments and don’t give in to the pressures.
Bec, I'm almost 23 years into being a mom (my kiddos are 22 and 17). We all have different journeys as mom. I started as a nanny and knew right then, that I never wanted to have a nanny for my kids. I stopped working after my first was born, but went back to work when she was about 2. Then after my 2nd was born, I completely quit work and became a full-time mom and homeschool teacher. I did that for 9 years and had no intention of going back to work, but saw an ad for a part-time admin, so we decided that I would go back to work part-time. I worked part-time until 2020 when I went back full-time. The oldest had graduated from high school and the youngest was about to enter high school. It's always a juggle, but having a good routine helps. Mine was wakeup, feed the kids, get ready for work, take the kids to school, go to work until school was out, then pick up the kids from school, run an errand or two, go home & make dinner, then the evening with the family, then get the kids ready for bed, do bedtime routine, then time with just us parents, then to bed.
Now that my youngest has just graduated from high school, I'm back to working part-time and back in college to finish my degree. And come the fall, we are hoping to travel a bit more.
You will figure out your routine and it will always be evolving as Frankie keeps growing. Then one day, you will be empty nesters and you'll create new routines.
❤Love you three adorable humans and the best dog ever❤.
Here is a parenting goal…raise your kids to be someone you want to be friends with. My son will be 50 next year and I am constantly learning from him and being impressed with the man he has become. I am so proud that we are friends. His high school sweetheart is his wife. Their daughter is grown up and left the nest. And we’ve been through some STUFF and come out on the other side different yet better. Just relax and enjoy Frankie and each other. Never stop having fun. Don’t worry. Be happy and safe and surround her with a village as it appears you already have. That’s my vague opinion on parenting. Oh, don’t sweat the small stuff and always make your expectations clear. ❤
I feel you SO much on the feeling of losing time for yourself, to think, to be YOU. I have two under 5 and my time is not my own. There is a period of grieving your old life, even when you love your child with all of your heart. Your identity changes, taking care of yourself changes, your marriage changes… give it time, know you are not alone, and it’s okay to be bummed about it. It’s the hugest change you’ll ever go through!
“Our time” became my new “me time” and it was so rewarding. I also worked full time outside the home so when I was home it was all quality time. She’s 19 now and we couldn’t be closer. You have entered a new phase in life where you’re not trying to fit her into your schedule, You are starting from scratch as a new team of three.
That is SO true!! We really feel we’re starting from scratch and we love that!
Happy Father's day.
Parenting is a constant state of guilt. You want to spend time with your kids, BUT you need a break. So guilt is a part of it. Mine are now 35 and 33. I still want to protect them, but it's now their life to live. Did I do enough to prepare them? What damage did I do by doing something or not doing something. Parenthood is hard, demanding and no assurance of doing it all right. Remember, you are doing the best you can with the tools you have. In twenty years from now, there will be new parenting advice books that contradict what we know now.
Just love your kids for who they are.
My mistake was making my kids behave a certain way as I thought it was a reflection on my parenting. Don't expect your kids to be a reflection of how good you are.
Love to all the parents who are doing, or did their best.
Hugs from Burlington 🇨🇦
Hi Beck! I’ve been following you guys for years and watching you transform your life especially through your sickness has been incredibly inspiring for me. I’m currently on week two in the hospital in a really bad shape with my autoimmune disease and I would love to hear some of your journey through finding what has helped you to heal, including your meditations practice and anything else you can offer really. I feel desperate at this point as my levels for everything are quickly declining but I’m staying positive regardless, I love you guys and just want to thank you for the genuine content you guys have put out. Much love❤️
God Blesss you. I pray you will heal❤
Wow wow wow. Watching your content has always brought me joy and I loved your cabin reno series, but these recent videos are truly next level in terms of the positive energy you are radiating. Thank you for continuing to share bits of your life with your community. We are cheering you on all the way. 🎉 and there’s already been tons of great advice about self-care shared in the comments, but I’ll add this: As a mom of a 13 and 7 year old, it took me a long time to put MYSELF first and it cost me a lot, health-wise, but I’ve spent the past year seeking out many sources of help and recalibrating the mama role; I’m on the road to healing.
I feel so sorry for Oso! He used to be an only child living in a huge space, going for long runs with his humans, pooping in the woods. Now he's so left out, squished, can't even take a poop in the backyard. No place for him. And yet, he's still such a good boy about all the changes.
I am with you. He's such a good boy.
Agreed.
It’s not right
I suspect Oso is happiest when he is with his family. Sometimes it’s in a van, or on a lake, or in a small triplex backyard. He has his family- life is good.
@@DeborahLanglois-zz5zw❤
It's always nice to see your faces light up the screen. But it's also good to take private time to take care if your health, whether it be mental or physical. Harriet and I can't stop talking about
how cute Frankie is . Those wide eyed, blue eyes. How adorable ! And Eamon, You are a legend. You are truly a loving father. We can see that. It's never going to be perfect. Keep doing what you're doing and be present when Bec and Frankie need you. Happy Father's Day to you and yours. ❤❤ You are loved. Harriet, Jim and Yuki Richmond, Va.
Happy first Father's Day ❤️ we love you all ❤️
I am not a mom, but I do have one, and I want to emphasize how important it is for kids to see their moms working/doing something they love/taking time away. I am an adult now, but for the first three and a half years of my life, I was attached to my mom. When it came time to start preschool or for her to go back to work, I struggled really hard. So many tears. Transitions are still hard for me. With much more experience when my brother was born, my mom made sure to take time for herself. He to this day does much better than I do. Part of that is temperament, but I truly believe that part of it is me never learning in my most formative years that mom always “comes home.” Bec, by taking time, even a few minutes, to leave Frankie with someone she is safe with who isn’t you, you are giving her such a better chance at growing into a well adjusted child. You’re doing just fine 🩷🩷
Watching your beautiful family and the wonderful community you surround yourself with brings me so much joy. I look forward to the videos you post but am also extremely happy for you guys that you're putting health and family first because that's what matters above all else. ❤ I enjoy your updates very much and will always be along for the ride whenever you you're up for sharing!!!
Welcome to parenthood! … the hardest and most rewarding job you will ever have. I had my three boys within 37 months of each other along with a very high stress job. I found that I was most comfortable being away when I felt that their care was with someone that I could trust, if you have a great babysitter, then you’re golden. Don’t feel guilty about taking some time for yourself. You will be better for them if you take care of yourself. Enjoy the ride…you will look back on these days and think they were one of your best. Thanks for sharing them with us.
omg it’s gonna be a good Sunday bc we got an upload! love y’all 🩷 happy Father’s Day eamon!
I’ve been a single work mom for my sons whole life and I am at the point where I get to buy a house. Something I really want in my property is the ability to have a quiet space for me to take those moments when I need on. Being a parent isn’t easy. I admire yall so much also seriously want a cold plunge sauna combo ❤
Dear Bec, The best mom is a happy mom. So that means taking some time to care for YOU. And that is valid for EVERY mom !
You should give Oso a run area next to the fence, so he can have a space for himself. Put up a half fence so he can go behind and do his business this way he knows where to go and not to go. I bet he would like to go to a dog park and see other dogs because he looks sad.
I agree...a small garden socially well used shouldn't also be a dog toilet. I know thats not always possible....Take the dog out a couple of times a day...one being a long walk or run about fetching a ball. Sorry to be a whiney granny
I've been a solo mom, with no extended family, for both my kids, for over 23 yrs. As an early infant and childhood trauma survivor, I took SO much time to be with my kids, enjoying and soaking it all up. I pivoted life, started a wee home based business and small homestead so they had magical childhoods.But! I wish I had experienced more me time and took time to fuel my own passions. I took whatever jobs to pay the bills and ... you have an amazing support system and financial abundance, so enjoy😊
Happy Father's Day, Eamon!! As always, sending nothing but love 💕
Also, Happy Father's Day, Bob!!!
Happy very special first Fathers Day Eamon .. your an absolutely amazing daddy .. Bec your an amazing Mommy .. Frankie is absolutely gorgeous 🥰👶💜 her eyes 💙 are sooooo beautiful ... 🥰💜 Bec you look so beautiful .. I'm so happy you posted and I get to see my fav little family again .. God bless you always 😇🙏💜 much much love and light big hugs 🤗💜💜💜💜
You are so kind! Thank you Annette for being a part of this truly remarkable community 🌞 we love you!
I stayed home with my son for 5 yrs until he went to school. Then i went back to work. Never regretted doing it. It was a great decision for me. We all have to make decisions that work for us. GOD BLESS!💓
Hey Bec,
Your question about parenting and returning to work is such a critical one as we (women) are redefining our roles as mums and professionals. I’m at least 20+ years older than you and my 2 kids are now 19 and 20. My oldest lives with an Autism Disorder and parenting needs majorly impacted my career choices and I battled this and felt guilt and was constantly exhausted, anxious and overwhelmed. I feel 100% certain this contributed to my child’s anxiety. In hindsight, I wish I stayed with the creative filmwork I was doing and the flex schedule that came with that instead of caving to pressure to get a salaried position. You can do what you need to do and as you need to without the societal pressures and additional drama which can be contributed to by your viewers. Trust your gut. If it ever feels too much step back into the embrace of family supports and do the self care necessary to be the best parent possible. I don’t think we can do it all. We just can’t. This is honestly (beside childbirth and pregnancy) part of the silent conspiracy that women continue to buy into. Don’t fall for it. Follow your energy, your dreams and most importantly your child in terms of their needs and what’s best for your family. Let that be the only guideline you follow.
Much love to you all in TO. Eastern Ontario misses you. xx
I love that Frankie is growing up in a multi generational environment......our older folk have so much to give. Seeing the light on Bob's face every single time he lays eyes on Frankie is a gift. Happy Father's Day to all the dads, new and old. The gifts you all bring to the new generation cant be underestimated.........and seeing everyone together is a gift.
I love Bec doing all her cartwheels in the background! 🎉 love seeing her so happy!
Happy Father’s Day, Eamon!!!
Thanks so much!!
Happy Father’s Day Eamon! Hope you and the other triplex “men folk” have a wonderful and rejuvenating day.
I know that sometimes hard to define, honor and nurture all your expanding rolls…family member, partner, parent and self. Honor “self” and it will be reflected in your other roles. And yes, it really does take a village.
Your family warms my heart and makes me smile. 💕
And you have an awesome village.
Thank you kindly!! This is exactly what I’m all about. Taking care of myself means I can take care of others which is all I really want to do 💛💛
Enjoy every second because it goes so fast. I always encourage my kids to be kids. Now they understand since now they are twenties. Enjoys your life and make great memories with your family.
Advice (that you asked for): as soon as Frankie stops mouthing everything (for my son it was 20 months, but I think that's early) include her in everything! Once you can trust her not to put shards of glass or nails in her mouth it's a game changer! That way you're getting your projects done AND helping with her.
I used to be so stressed out trying to DO stuff while also caring for my son. The thing is, even if you're interrupted 30 times, the thing will still get done.
Before children, focused time means having uninterrupted time to work, post children means just living your life with them.
My child is 3 years old and I don't 'do kid activities' with him. I just do life with him and then sometimes we play! He's always included, but he's not always the focus. I'm a sahm in Europe for reference.
From this mom to you mom, it is okay to love your child with your whole heart and still need to flex your adult brain. Those first few years, you can really lose so much of yourself because your child's health and safety is your first priority since they are so squishy. As time goes on, you will start to be able to feel like you can do more for yourself with maybe a little less guilt and find more of yourself again. It is all a wonderful adventure!
When my daughter was a year and a half old I had to go on a biz trip for almost 3 weeks. I cried and cried, thought I was the worst mother. Now she is a young adult, she doesn't remember me being away and loves hearing the stories from that trip. Getting back to work is harder on you than it is for your beautiful baby. Love seeing the family dynamic you all share. And, sorry, but I really liked the trim around the door!
Haha poor oso where he supposed to do his business.. just keep grass seed on hand to patch up his spots and clean up his waste daily it will be fine lol love your little backyard transformation! Gorgeous! Missed you guys, franky soo cute! You both look amazing, happy fathers day Eamon! ❤
Hated every minute of going back to work at 5 months postpartum. I did it for a whole year, of managing working from home full time. Finally quit because I just wanted to be a mom, nothing else. Best decision of my life. I have never felt more content in my life ❤
It took me 9 years to feel comfortable doing something else than take care of my daughter. Listen to yourself Bec. You have it inside you what is the best for you and Frankie
Eamon..... to be honest, it's probably a bit of anxiety. When I had our baby, my usually laid back hubby said he "felt like he was wearing a cap on his head that was too tight" for a quite some time. Anxiety, worry, preoccupied. Yep, comes with the territory of parenthood, but also comes with the harder situation you guys have been dealing with. It's good you are talking about it..... give yourself breaks from it all and take some long walks to just try to sort it out, if that helps. And, Bec..... sending you my love & a hug! ❤
Awe! Was hoping I would see you guy’s this weekend & there you are! Beck you give me so much hope as I embark on my own healing journey 🙏🙏🙏Blessing’s
I need more renters like you guys!!!!
It’s not even about the money.
It’s about you wanting to make the place better. Win/Win!
Would you pay for it?
It is not cheap doing what they do.
I certainly can’t afford to spend thousands of dollars on upgrades as a tenant.
If my land lord paid I certainly would do heaps to improve my world.
Poor Oso, I love him. Where is his poop supposed to go😢😂.? He is a big boy in a small space.
I agree. Why make the poor dog feel guilty about pottying in the yard? Where is he supposed to go?
I think its just a joke guys🤷♀️
Agreed, but it does turn the grass yellow which can be costly maintenance. My brother has a similar yard in London and they’ve trained their dog to only pee/poop on walks, similar to any dog living in a compact city. If only they didn’t have to hold it in and go in toilets like the rest of us 😩
Dig a dog compost hole, reuse a large paint bucket, cut out the bottom to allow it to break down, insert in hole, cover with the paint lid. Add 💩. Compost away.
@@nancysquyres4103They were just joking… because it’s a small yard… where children play and they have to clean it up everyday
First time mom, living in a foreign country, still trying to figure out what I want to do with life/time as it unfolds. It’s been such a challenge, but I have some really supportive people where I am. I just hope one day I wake up and just fall into a groove ❤ I love seeing you happy and productive and I want that energy for me and my family. Send some good vibes plz ✌️
Poor Oso. He looks so bummed out every time we see him. And he's always in trouble (gentle, loving, teasing trouble, tho). I think he's genuinely homesick. And wishing he was running outside with his loving "parents." :)
The city can be a lot for some dogs. Unfortunately ecollar training is also very outdated, and has been proven multiple times via studies to cause harm to dogs, which is something they do with him
Eamon and Bec are selfish, always have been.
Whenever I see parents so head over heels in love with their baby, I think "take a step back and think about the fact that YOU are loved like that by your parents." We tend to forget that. I mean, we know that our parents love us, but I don't think that we truly understand the depth of a parent's love until we have our own children. Love to all the parents!!!
Some of us are not loved like that by our parents. But we can give that love to our kids.
Not if you're my mother. If you're my mother you don't even give enough of a crap to come see me graduate my bachelor's degree and never ever reach out to check up. I did for years but it was always one sided. So I gave up cos I realized she don't give two craps
@@sharonholmes8451 I am guessing that she had the best of intentions at one point...and royally screwed it up. I am sorry that you were not treated as you deserve. Congratulations on your graduation and all of the very very hard work that you have done to get where you are!
Some parents don’t even have “best intentions”… nobody owes parents anything
@@SinMore That is true, but I don't know how my comment about how ......as children we don't realize the capacity of a parent's love until we become parents ourselves...... has turned into this.
Adding a whole human to your life is an adventure. My baby just graduated high school yesterday.
Both my children are now young adults… balance- that is a giving and receiving while the parent constantly letting go- allowing the child to do things independently. 💜💜💜
Stunning yard transformation!!!!! If you’re worried about the grass, you can get a mineral spray to spray on each spot Oso urinates on or get a sprinkler out there so when he does potty, it will dilute the urine and your grass wont fade or smell
So good to have you two back and your daughter and friends and family. The backyard and patio look SO GREAT!! Looking forward to seeing you when you can. Have missed you.
Frankie is so adorable❤Great to see her raised in such an extensive community, she will ‘master the world’. I love you Frankie Lee❤
I hope so too! She’s a beautiful addition to our community 🌞🤸
Happy First Father's Day Eamon ❤ Sending nothing but positive vibes and love to your beautiful family. Thank you continuing to share with us at your own pace. ❤❤❤❤
Loving watching you two and having you back. Eamon you are awesome. You too Beck but the dad talk of Eamon's just touiched my heart.❤ Lovin Bob too. Bob and Eamon magic team. Friend is helpful too. Great mom talk Bec. Awesome job...delicious.
Oh man going back to work was SO hard! I loved my job, but I loved my baby more. It was so tough. I love that you can work near her! You’re so blessed that way! Think about homeschooling, too! I don’t know the laws in Canada, but here it is pretty straightforward. We started in first grade and haven’t looked back (he’s 13 now!). You have plenty of time to think about it. Just wish I’d done it from day one.
You are doing an AMAZING job! She’s adorable and so happy! What a blessed life she has with you guys! You seem like you have a great community and support system. Don’t know how you feel about these things, but church is a great place to find great mom support systems. I found my tribe and it made motherhood much more fun! You need other moms who know what you’re going through day to day. I’m always here, too! ❤
Love all these open questions. I also need a sauna now. I am a mom and a childcare provider and that has left almost no room for breathing. I have carved out these places of peace for myself, working out, walks, nightime watering the garden. The sauna is definitely on my list of peaceful things.
Awww, the yard looks so wonderful. A little piece of heaven in the back yard. Frankie is so adorable. Omg, how can you not look at the sweet face all day and say, WE DID THIS?
Don't scold Oso for doing what's natural. At least he's not going on the rug. If he had a dog run, it would be one thing but he doesn't have all the room he used to have. It's not his fault. Backyard is lovely BTW 💕💕
Yeah, I thought the same thing. Where do they expect him to go, someone else's yard? He's been a country dog his whole life. And knew it was fine to go when he got outside. I'm really curious where they do want him to go??
Poor Oso 😔
I actually think Eamon was simply teasing the dog he was not serious. I am sure as good as that yard looks Eamon regularly cleans up after Osso. Unless they are training Osso to go somewhere off to the side away from the new grass that we have not seen (and maybe that is it as Bob has dogs too and if that was the only place that yard would look much worse) then Eamon would be aware Osso has nowhere better to go I assume, and know it is part of his job to clean up after the dog.
@@charlotte50224 I took this as a joke. Of course Oso is going to poop in the backyard.
He’s been such a loyal and great dog now he’s put to the side. A stamp sized yard no place to run or play and can’t go to the bathroom without being scolded seriously? He has very limited space. He seems depressed and isn’t the dog he used to be he’s being treated like he’s a burden. I think I know where this is going. He would be so good with the baby he’s a gentle giant and smart. It’s heartbreaking 💔 I would take him in a heartbeat. They need to stop adopting dogs!
Thank you thank you thank you for continuing to post and share your life with us! Wish you nothing but the best and a healthy life and healthy baby girl! 💜💜💙💙
Bec this is my first time seeing you since you and Eamon found out you were expecting! It is so nice seeing that you are living authentically. You are authentic. You are a survivor. You are a hero. You are a mother. You are blessed. My favorite love for you is simple. You are You! ❤
It’s wild how much I connect w/ you guys, but also makes perfect sense. Just so glad you create and share so much with us, it’s truly amazing!
Happy Father’s Day, Eamon! ✨
I can never click on your videos quick enough!!! I just love when you guys post!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Happy Father’s Day Eamon!!
I’ve been going to therapy for 1.5 years now. I started out because I knew something was wrong, and I was always depressed, angry, and anxious. Coming out of my first appointment I realized that I didn’t know how much trauma I had shoved down and tried to ignore through out my entire life. I am so grateful I have found someone that cares about me enough to help me work my trauma.
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This is so accurate being a mom and retiring to work! You tend to feel pulled in two directions all the time and it’s hard to find balance some days. What I’ve learned is that #1 it’s valid to feel how you feel, and #2 you can’t be the best mom you can be unless your filling your cup every single day. And whether that’s through work, or a workout, or getting a chapter in on your book. Your “mom cup” needs to be filled too!! You’re doing amazing mama!
can’t wait to watch this new chapter of your lives Sundays have been boring without your videos!!
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Happy Father’s Day! Thank you for a great video!! ❤
It just popped into my head. Maybe hold the little one while you do your dreaming or contemplating. So at least she gets quality time with you. Essentially bring her into your life just like you do with your dog osso (sp?). ❤
We are currently traveling full-time and have no idea what the next chapter of our life will have in store, but I love seeing how ya'll have navigated the changes, embraced it, and find what works well for you. Thank you for sharing❤
I am in the Grandma stage of parenting. My oldest son and his lovely wife have two kids, 1 and 4 years old. I absolutely love seeing my own son become a daddy. He is the best dad ever and I am so proud of him. I knew NOTHING when I had him at age 20, never even changed a diaper and he grew up, became a Firefighter Captain and paramedic and now a husband and father in spite of me not knowing anything about being a mom. It was really hard. My youngest is a talented musician and full time dog groomer/whisperer. I am incredibly lucky to have such wonderful grown children who all moved back to our hometown, close to my husband and myself. I love watching you and Eamon find your way. And I think it's a must to take time for yourselves. You will be much better parents for it. Love you guys and glad you are back.
Oso's life has changed since being the king of the outside couch 😂😂