It's quite clear in my opinion that having multiple caretakers to one child is a good thing, and that parenting definitely matters. But most modern societies no longer have that sort of culture and infrastructure to support multiple caretakers. We're also seeing a general decline in birth rates (which I think is necessary wrt the current state of the planet, but that's a different topic), possibly meaning fewer people to care for an aging population... which could mean fewer resources for child-rearing. One possible way to address this is to have people go back to a more communal way of life or multigenerational homes and such, but that's vastly easier said than done and would mean sacrifices that many may not be willing to or are able to make.
Yeah, I don't think we go back until the costs of not being tied back together are too high. We live on this borrowed capital (ecological, social, and the future of our descendants) which allows us to think we have it all figured out and can do it on our own, but the bill will eventual come due. Only then will more of us be willing to live under the same roof. Thanks for the thoughts and watching!
Yeah I mean it doesn't necessarily have to be living under the same roof - I'm in Asia and it's not always great according to anecdotes and personal experience lol. But still that shouldn't be viewed as something weird like how living with your parents is generally seen as weird in the US. And we should be finding ways to better connect people to their communities and families - Education, community gardens, fewer work hours, trains, whatever - Small stuff and big stuff. These also come with pros and cons and there aren't any silver bullets. But yeah if we don't try anything different then socioeconomic and ecological changes will push us.
Thanks for another great video! I suggest you have a look at the book by evolutionary psychologist Sarah Hrdy (yes, that's how she spells her surname), "Mothers and Others." She makes the same point you do. Her book is well-researched and quite convincing.
Hey , just my opinion , i never asked to come inside this world , and its my parents responsibility to take care of me (which they did) , but as i grew up i realized that this world is horrible and not made for anyone because of humans. Not gonna go too deep into it but as a college student i hate almost everything cus i think i know everything but at some point i still think that this world is wrong and i think that this world would be far more be better if i wasnt there .
I'm sorry that things have been so tough. Your comment makes me think about another book about child raising by Jean Liedloff, which explores how many industrialized (and now post-industrial) child rearing practices are at odds with what a baby is expecting, often leading to negative outcomes. It's worth a read, and it can be helpful in understanding why we might feel like we don't fit into this world, and why forgiving our parents and ourselves is part of that journey. The capability of humans is a double edged sword. We can do great damage. We can also, if we get the framing right, do incredibly positive things as well. I look at someone like Sepp Holzer and the amazing things he's done, and I have hope. The challenge is getting that into a culture that extend beyond ourselves. I wish you the greatest luck and wisdom in your journey.
The probability to go to college if your parents are rich and went to college themselves has nothing to do with the probability when your parents are poor and didn't go to college. But yeah, we can keep saying that parents are overrated.
Westerners need to learn that children are human in spite of being small and start treating them as such.
It's quite clear in my opinion that having multiple caretakers to one child is a good thing, and that parenting definitely matters. But most modern societies no longer have that sort of culture and infrastructure to support multiple caretakers. We're also seeing a general decline in birth rates (which I think is necessary wrt the current state of the planet, but that's a different topic), possibly meaning fewer people to care for an aging population... which could mean fewer resources for child-rearing. One possible way to address this is to have people go back to a more communal way of life or multigenerational homes and such, but that's vastly easier said than done and would mean sacrifices that many may not be willing to or are able to make.
Yeah, I don't think we go back until the costs of not being tied back together are too high. We live on this borrowed capital (ecological, social, and the future of our descendants) which allows us to think we have it all figured out and can do it on our own, but the bill will eventual come due. Only then will more of us be willing to live under the same roof. Thanks for the thoughts and watching!
Yeah I mean it doesn't necessarily have to be living under the same roof - I'm in Asia and it's not always great according to anecdotes and personal experience lol. But still that shouldn't be viewed as something weird like how living with your parents is generally seen as weird in the US. And we should be finding ways to better connect people to their communities and families - Education, community gardens, fewer work hours, trains, whatever - Small stuff and big stuff. These also come with pros and cons and there aren't any silver bullets. But yeah if we don't try anything different then socioeconomic and ecological changes will push us.
This is such a weirdly amazing video for such a small channel, wish I could donate to support 😄
Thanks for another great video! I suggest you have a look at the book by evolutionary psychologist Sarah Hrdy (yes, that's how she spells her surname), "Mothers and Others." She makes the same point you do. Her book is well-researched and quite convincing.
Hey , just my opinion ,
i never asked to come inside this world , and its my parents responsibility to take care of me (which they did) ,
but as i grew up i realized that this world is horrible and not made for anyone because of humans.
Not gonna go too deep into it but as a college student i hate almost everything cus i think i know everything but at some point i still think that this world is wrong and i think that this world would be far more be better if i wasnt there .
I'm sorry that things have been so tough. Your comment makes me think about another book about child raising by Jean Liedloff, which explores how many industrialized (and now post-industrial) child rearing practices are at odds with what a baby is expecting, often leading to negative outcomes. It's worth a read, and it can be helpful in understanding why we might feel like we don't fit into this world, and why forgiving our parents and ourselves is part of that journey.
The capability of humans is a double edged sword. We can do great damage. We can also, if we get the framing right, do incredibly positive things as well. I look at someone like Sepp Holzer and the amazing things he's done, and I have hope. The challenge is getting that into a culture that extend beyond ourselves.
I wish you the greatest luck and wisdom in your journey.
As far as I know, most orphan wish to be adopted by good parents.
Maybe the answer is there as well.
The probability to go to college if your parents are rich and went to college themselves has nothing to do with the probability when your parents are poor and didn't go to college.
But yeah, we can keep saying that parents are overrated.