Proud of you for going to therapy! As someone who just graduated from regularly scheduled therapy...the answering your own questions thing is normal. Every therapist has a different style, but my therapist was really good about me allowing me to have my own realizations most of the time instead of projecting things on to me. And if she ever missed the mark in assessing my thinking, I felt comfortable telling her she was incorrect. I'm like you...I'm pretty good at connecting the dots. I, too, think everyone should go to therapy. Theres no "right way" but I think your entry point, when you don't actually need it, is more ideal. I first went to therapy when I was falling apart. No regrets for my past, but maybe I wouldn't have had to fall apart if I had a relationship with a therapist before it happened. I appreciate you using your platform to encourage others to try therapy...you may very well be saving some lives!
Tam you're just something else. I'm about 7 years older than you but I feel you're way ahead of your age mentally and spiritually. Out of all the self help youtubers you're the only one in my opinion who has really cracked the code and are generous enough to share with us. Not by preaching, just LIVING. I'm gonna comment a before/after of how I'm feeling every time I'm finished watching your video: I was gonna skip my evening walk bc I was feeling lazy but I'm gonna put on cute clothes, my fav lip oil and finally enjoy my new wireless earphones while I finish by steps for the day. Love you girly 🧡
I felt super inspired when she was preparing her calendar for the upcoming week. 11 areas of life and incomes to juggle, its not easy and definitely seems dreadful. Looking at her feels like i can do anything i want to. Kudos to you tam for showing self care vlog and productive day vlog. Watching your vlogs really makes me feel there are 24 hours in a day just as you said in your phone addiction video. Proud to be a subscriber of your channels. Love what you do❤
I don't know what EXACTLY it is about Tam, but I have found her, and especially her voice VERY calming and motivating. This goes for her podcast too. Like there are millions of podcasts out there that cover the same topics she does, but I can't listen to any of them and feel fulfilled the same way I do when I listen to Self-obsessed. It's in her voice. That energy. And I am so glad I have found her finally.
I really love your solo date videos!! ❤️❤️ As a psychology student myself, I just wanted to comment on what you said about her telling you, that you were having great insight. The thing is that a lot of people reaching out to a therapist, have not really experienced real emotional appreciation in their life, so in fact she’s just trying to validate your feelings and make you feel safe and secure with your own emotions. Hope this could maybe change up your opinion on it a bit! Really love your desire to grow!
I’m glad you said this! I also have my therapist at times tell me “wow you know so much about this” and I was like ma’am….lol I also realized unpacking things in my past that I’ve already processed and healed started to negatively impact my subconscious so I asked my therapist to switch to more life coaching techniques and it’s been super helpful ❤ therapy is amazing but I also believe it’s important to know when it’s not serving you and pivot
Therapists aren't supposed to give you the answers they are there to guide you to them on your own. They can provide you with the tools you need to help you on your way. It is good to see more people talking about therapy and it not being a taboo subject anymore.
I feel the therapy thing! Sometimes it can be nice to just have someone who’s unbiased to talk to and vent but it’s frustrating when you feel you have the answers & they don’t come up with it before you. Sometimes having the answers isn’t always the end all be all in the path towards healing but rather a step towards learning tools to navigate life and solutions that work for you! Good luck!
Wow! This is the first time I’m watching your vlog and it’s soooo relaxing and inspirational. Just want to add some healthy routine to my haotic evenings😅 Thank you! Absolutely love it!
Indulging in your self-care day is like an exquisite canvas, each element a stroke of self-love. Your care routine resonates with the mindful practices Lisa Haisha imparted during that transformative retreat in the Philippines. Both your rituals and her teachings guide me to cherish moments dedicated to personal well-being.
hey tam, just wanted to tell you that your content is a blessing to everyone, i was at one of the lowest points in my entire life when i found your channels, and you and your content helped me in ways words cannot even begin to describe- but thank you anyway :) ps: this video is the only thing getting me through studying my physics right now.
Found ur channel a few days ago and in love w ur channel! Ur so inspirational! I think tht clicking on ur vid was one of the best decisions I have ever made! ❤
Girlll!! I love you and your videos so much❤ I can’t wait for the day you do your own live show and I can witness your wisdom in real life xx you’re pulling all us ladies out the gutter and into the light🎉
You’re literally so perfect ❤ your soooo pretty, your so put together, productive and really kind!! This is the first video I’ve watched from you and you’ve already inspired me a ton
Hi Tam, It’s a good thing to have insight it shows you know yourself and your emotions and what you would like to work on.I wouldn’t be put off by it it’s just the therapist giving you a compliment not a negative. Hope this helps ❤ Lots of love and love your videos Heather
I completely resonate with the therapy section. I also feel like I have insights before my therapist and I wonder “what are they telling me that I don’t already know?” Maybe you could try a different therapist too. I noticed I did that because I wanted a sense of control and didn’t want to talk about the things I didn’t have the answer for already, because it’s stressful to talk about
Hi, I've had a similar experience to you and Tam. But I've recently discovered something called life coaching, its similar to therapy, except it focuses more on empowering a person to focus on the future by working towards a goal x
Tip for meditating: you can have your palms up, as it helps you breathe a little bit deeper. Ps: I think your such a star and i love watching your videos!❤
If you ever feel like doing a what I eat in a day on a healthy reset day or a tutorial on how you did your best hair ever glow up you seemed to have in progress - love that kind of thing! I have a goal of getting the best skin ever any love getting inspiration from favorite youtubers like you and Romee Strijd.
Hey Tam! I love your content and I recommend you to all my friends! I wanted to comment on the therapy portion of this video and say that you can always see a few different therapists before settling on one! The first therapist or form of therapy may not always be the best fit. There’s a few different types of therapy you should look into; such as cognitive, EDMR, emotion code (EFT tapping), etc. I wanted to give some insight in case you didn’t know :)
Hi tam im just a normal teenager but oh my gosh you inspire me so much you give such good advice i feel like you helped me find out who i am (obviously i still have things to find out) but i don't know i just wanted to sort of say thank you xx
Besan (chickpea flour) dahi (curd) and haldi (tumeric powder) god I've been using this mask since forever 🥹 (typical desi homedmade mask) but honestly it does a deep cleaning and it's really a good mask
So therapy/ counselling = it depends on what type of therapy you’re going to. Counsellors have more of a “listen and let you figure it out” approach in my personal experience, whereas when I was in CBT therapy it was about how to rewire and reteach the brain and my therapist was much more proactive with helping me to figure out my issues. It’s different for everyone but thought I’d let you know as it could just be that her specific type of therapy doesn’t resonate with you. Best of luck with your second session xx
how did she make brum look so aesthetic i swear ive been here for like 7 yrs and cant find anything interesting to do in town and stuff ALSO THESE HAIR SALONS ARE SO HIGHEND which side are these on??
Your vlogs are so relaxing and insightful and genuinely not boring also if you feel like your therapist is unsatisfactory maybhe try better help ? It’s an online reasource where you’ve access to many worldwide therapists and you can change therapist for free until u get the right one Also walking while listening to music is the best I completely understand the vibe
@@TamKaurVlogs It's so nice though when you show us the struggle. Sometimes it feels very unatainable because you're always so efficient and productive, so when you show us that you're not always on your 100%, it's like :) I can relate to this.
Hey tam ilysmmm🩷u’re so inspiring🍭and I just started watching u recently and u changed my life keep going🐻and I hope u see this comment and reply to me🦋🫶🏻
the clip of her eating alone and just feeling herself at the restaurant just like warmed my heart
lovee that
I love seeing people enjoying their music while they walk along, always makes me smile
Proud of you for going to therapy! As someone who just graduated from regularly scheduled therapy...the answering your own questions thing is normal. Every therapist has a different style, but my therapist was really good about me allowing me to have my own realizations most of the time instead of projecting things on to me. And if she ever missed the mark in assessing my thinking, I felt comfortable telling her she was incorrect. I'm like you...I'm pretty good at connecting the dots. I, too, think everyone should go to therapy. Theres no "right way" but I think your entry point, when you don't actually need it, is more ideal. I first went to therapy when I was falling apart. No regrets for my past, but maybe I wouldn't have had to fall apart if I had a relationship with a therapist before it happened. I appreciate you using your platform to encourage others to try therapy...you may very well be saving some lives!
Tam you're just something else. I'm about 7 years older than you but I feel you're way ahead of your age mentally and spiritually. Out of all the self help youtubers you're the only one in my opinion who has really cracked the code and are generous enough to share with us. Not by preaching, just LIVING.
I'm gonna comment a before/after of how I'm feeling every time I'm finished watching your video: I was gonna skip my evening walk bc I was feeling lazy but I'm gonna put on cute clothes, my fav lip oil and finally enjoy my new wireless earphones while I finish by steps for the day. Love you girly 🧡
You’re the best and I’m so proud of u!!! Hope you had an amazing walk 💕
I felt super inspired when she was preparing her calendar for the upcoming week. 11 areas of life and incomes to juggle, its not easy and definitely seems dreadful. Looking at her feels like i can do anything i want to.
Kudos to you tam for showing self care vlog and productive day vlog. Watching your vlogs really makes me feel there are 24 hours in a day just as you said in your phone addiction video.
Proud to be a subscriber of your channels.
Love what you do❤
I don't know what EXACTLY it is about Tam, but I have found her, and especially her voice VERY calming and motivating. This goes for her podcast too. Like there are millions of podcasts out there that cover the same topics she does, but I can't listen to any of them and feel fulfilled the same way I do when I listen to Self-obsessed. It's in her voice. That energy. And I am so glad I have found her finally.
going to therapy made me realize i already have all the answers she just helped me get there asking the right questions 🥰
Nothing is better than when Tam upload a new vlog 💌
I really love your solo date videos!! ❤️❤️ As a psychology student myself, I just wanted to comment on what you said about her telling you, that you were having great insight. The thing is that a lot of people reaching out to a therapist, have not really experienced real emotional appreciation in their life, so in fact she’s just trying to validate your feelings and make you feel safe and secure with your own emotions. Hope this could maybe change up your opinion on it a bit! Really love your desire to grow!
I’m glad you said this! I also have my therapist at times tell me “wow you know so much about this” and I was like ma’am….lol I also realized unpacking things in my past that I’ve already processed and healed started to negatively impact my subconscious so I asked my therapist to switch to more life coaching techniques and it’s been super helpful ❤ therapy is amazing but I also believe it’s important to know when it’s not serving you and pivot
Therapists aren't supposed to give you the answers they are there to guide you to them on your own. They can provide you with the tools you need to help you on your way.
It is good to see more people talking about therapy and it not being a taboo subject anymore.
I feel the therapy thing! Sometimes it can be nice to just have someone who’s unbiased to talk to and vent but it’s frustrating when you feel you have the answers & they don’t come up with it before you. Sometimes having the answers isn’t always the end all be all in the path towards healing but rather a step towards learning tools to navigate life and solutions that work for you! Good luck!
Wow! This is the first time I’m watching your vlog and it’s soooo relaxing and inspirational. Just want to add some healthy routine to my haotic evenings😅 Thank you! Absolutely love it!
Never stop solo date series. I am 21 and feel like I am growing with a friend when I see you thriving
Indulging in your self-care day is like an exquisite canvas, each element a stroke of self-love. Your care routine resonates with the mindful practices Lisa Haisha imparted during that transformative retreat in the Philippines. Both your rituals and her teachings guide me to cherish moments dedicated to personal well-being.
hey tam, just wanted to tell you that your content is a blessing to everyone, i was at one of the lowest points in my entire life when i found your channels, and you and your content helped me in ways words cannot even begin to describe- but thank you anyway :)
ps: this video is the only thing getting me through studying my physics right now.
Found ur channel a few days ago and in love w ur channel! Ur so inspirational! I think tht clicking on ur vid was one of the best decisions I have ever made! ❤
Girlll!! I love you and your videos so much❤ I can’t wait for the day you do your own live show and I can witness your wisdom in real life xx you’re pulling all us ladies out the gutter and into the light🎉
You’re literally so perfect ❤ your soooo pretty, your so put together, productive and really kind!! This is the first video I’ve watched from you and you’ve already inspired me a ton
I LOVE YOUR CONSISTENCY!!!!😫😫🤌🤌
Hi Tam,
It’s a good thing to have insight it shows you know yourself and your emotions and what you would like to work on.I wouldn’t be put off by it it’s just the therapist giving you a compliment not a negative.
Hope this helps ❤
Lots of love and love your videos
Heather
OMG! I absolutely loved every second of this vlog! You're such an inspiration! Keep going!
I love watching your vlogs
Sunday evening+my dinner+your vlogs give such a wholesome vibe together🫶😭
Girl I just discovered you and WHAT? You are such a good vibe. I’m truly enjoying watching this video.
I completely resonate with the therapy section. I also feel like I have insights before my therapist and I wonder “what are they telling me that I don’t already know?” Maybe you could try a different therapist too. I noticed I did that because I wanted a sense of control and didn’t want to talk about the things I didn’t have the answer for already, because it’s stressful to talk about
Hi, I've had a similar experience to you and Tam. But I've recently discovered something called life coaching, its similar to therapy, except it focuses more on empowering a person to focus on the future by working towards a goal x
I love watching your vids! They are so incredible!
Tip for meditating: you can have your palms up, as it helps you breathe a little bit deeper.
Ps: I think your such a star and i love watching your videos!❤
If you ever feel like doing a what I eat in a day on a healthy reset day or a tutorial on how you did your best hair ever glow up you seemed to have in progress - love that kind of thing! I have a goal of getting the best skin ever any love getting inspiration from favorite youtubers like you and Romee Strijd.
This one is actually the bestest vlog I have seen so far.....
As a very shy person, tam helps me alot to build confidence. Love you tam! ❤️
tam your vlogs are soooo needed omg thank you for inspiring me so much!😭
Hey Tam! I love your content and I recommend you to all my friends! I wanted to comment on the therapy portion of this video and say that you can always see a few different therapists before settling on one! The first therapist or form of therapy may not always be the best fit. There’s a few different types of therapy you should look into; such as cognitive, EDMR, emotion code (EFT tapping), etc. I wanted to give some insight in case you didn’t know :)
You don’t even know how much I love your vlogs 🩷🩷🫶🏼🫶🏼
Hi tam im just a normal teenager but oh my gosh you inspire me so much you give such good advice i feel like you helped me find out who i am (obviously i
still have things to find out) but i don't know i just wanted to sort of say thank you xx
Hey Tam! Love your content♥️ keep going
ALL HAIL QUEEN TAM ✨✨✨
Absolutely love your energy ❤️
Besan (chickpea flour) dahi (curd) and haldi (tumeric powder) god I've been using this mask since forever 🥹 (typical desi homedmade mask) but honestly it does a deep cleaning and it's really a good mask
Your videos are my therapy 🫶🏻🌻💞
Self care queen🛁💘👑
So therapy/ counselling = it depends on what type of therapy you’re going to. Counsellors have more of a “listen and let you figure it out” approach in my personal experience, whereas when I was in CBT therapy it was about how to rewire and reteach the brain and my therapist was much more proactive with helping me to figure out my issues. It’s different for everyone but thought I’d let you know as it could just be that her specific type of therapy doesn’t resonate with you. Best of luck with your second session xx
I watch your videos manifesting this for me when i grow up. This is what I want so so bad
love her vibing to music ♥
You and your vlogs>>>
I just loveeeee you girl you're like a therapist to me❤️❤️
Her consistency made me think, how the hell she works this much in a week! 🥲💕
Can you do a video of how to set intentions and how to plan your month in detail please ? ❤❤
You did super amazing, both this channel and the other channel. Keep it up.
I never get bored of your vlogs
Need more amazing detailed vlogs like this one!! ❤
why this is so beautiful ‼️
hey tam! can you make a video about how we can improve ourselves for 2024? love from india
We love you tam 💖 I really appreciate your content and hard work
Changed my total mindset upon life
I loved this video ❤ so inspirational
Your aura though 🥰
Love, love, love these vlogs.
Such a cozy & wholesome vlog ❤😊
fav person posted 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
such a queen
Ur so pretty without makeup omggg
Really enjoyed watching this video!
In this video what tinted moisturizer or foundation did you use? 2024 I’m going minimal makeup natural beauty routine ❤
LOVE UUUU QUEEN💕
girllll I love your videos and your accent
Your videos have actually changed my life, thank GOD for you :)
I want to eat cheesyyy pizza this afternoon.....ahhh self care that i need
Love the salon vibes 🤩
Tam's British accent >>>
LOVE YOU SM💗✨
Watching your video's is a big manifestation for my future life 🌚❤
how did she make brum look so aesthetic i swear ive been here for like 7 yrs and cant find anything interesting to do in town and stuff ALSO THESE HAIR SALONS ARE SO HIGHEND which side are these on??
Hahaha the salon is in Harvey Nichols mailbox!! It’s called James bushell💕
Please do vlogs more , I love you , god bless you and give you beautiful happy life ❤
what is the outro song!?! I love the instrumentals 💗💗
U just got ur nails done with white nail paint and you’re doing a turmeric mask..girl ur brave lol
Awww new favourite TH-camr
I love ur videos so much ❤️🔥
She didn’t drink the starbucks coffee☺️😭❤️
FAV GURLIE
Your vlogs are so relaxing and insightful and genuinely not boring also if you feel like your therapist is unsatisfactory maybhe try better help ? It’s an online reasource where you’ve access to many worldwide therapists and you can change therapist for free until u get the right one
Also walking while listening to music is the best I completely understand the vibe
I need to know where that black coat is from! It’s so beautiful! Love the video!
I love these vlogs! 💕
Also how do you edit videos on both your channel- efficiency and time wise hshs
Thank you! Um I struggle quite a bit hahaha
@@TamKaurVlogs It's so nice though when you show us the struggle. Sometimes it feels very unatainable because you're always so efficient and productive, so when you show us that you're not always on your 100%, it's like :) I can relate to this.
U should post ur every week's solo date ❤❤
ahh love u diiiii
🥰
Hey tam ilysmmm🩷u’re so inspiring🍭and I just started watching u recently and u changed my life keep going🐻and I hope u see this comment and reply to me🦋🫶🏻
More videos like this please
Pls share detailed skin care routine
Is mocktail like a drink with no alcohol??
can we get book recomendation part 2
i feel like you you would look so good with a chanel short haircut. One day you should try it.
where is your jewellery from ?
Very nice vlog😊
All I was thinking about is Why dont you go to the date after blow dry and nails?
I'm confused as to how she walked in the rain with maxes on... they have microphones on the outside that get very easily damaged
Great video 👍 . I just subscribed to your channel . I’m from Australia 🇦🇺.
Can anyone recommend me a good matcha for matcha lattes ?
love you ❤❤❤
The qeen has posted yallll
Where is your night suit from Tam its so chic and pretty.
first one, feels illegal to be this early BUT I LOVE YOUUUU