i swear, i’m a firm believer in God. you have no idea the power & strength you have to be self aware & get the help you need. On top of that living in your truth to come on here & help us out. You have no idea as a victim turning survivor, how you have helped me. the pain from these ppl is so unbearable, the mental distress, and loneliness and confusion you feel. The feeling of looking like the bad guy while they look like a victim. Idk where i’d be without you and Lee Hammock. I am learning and growing, and keeping minimal contact when i have to discuss my son. The tools, grey rocking etc. you guys have taught me. It still hurts, i’m still healing. but you have changed my life. God will bless you. Narcs usually don’t change, God chose you and you’re acing His assignment. God bless. Thank you Ben!
What made me realize i am being manipulated by my friend narc was that she asked for her house keys back in indirect way and started saying random nostalgic recalls of the past to remind me of it just before she started my discard to keep me hanging … she knew … 100%
Please block those inappropriate comments, like the one under Sarah Harris. This is offensive. I don't know how they slip in,, but you and we don't deserve it. Thank you. 🙏
@@RawMotivations Thank you, Ben. I appreciate that. We live in Satan's world, dear heart (1 John 5: 19 - of the books 1,2,&3 of John, after 2 Peter). No worries. 💖🫂💖
@@beverlytaylor1745 Hi 👋🏽 , I’m living in my Heavenly Father, God’s world through my advocate in Heaven, Jesus. Satan has no dominion over anything. From where I sit, thats way too much credit. God delivers us all from evil.
@@LEM19284 Hello! Thank you for your reply. Interestingl y, Jesus himself called Satan the ruler of the world at John 12:31, and John 16:11. Revelation 12: 7 - 9 says Satan and his angels were hurled down to earth, and they are misleading the entire inhabited earth. Vs.12, and 13 say Satan has neen hurled down to earth, knowing he has a short period of time. Therefore, since 1 John 5: 19 says the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one, it is reasonable to conclude that Satan has some influence over the wickedness we see today. I think the point was that we would appreciate the 'porn' be removed. Of course, you are free to interpret my comment as you like. As a fellow Bible student, I appreciate your faith. 🌸🌷🌸
Can you please share what is the shame part? I’m so over done with hearing about it. I recognize you’re not making it an excuse, but shame is something we all have if you live long enough. What makes narcissist so “special”/not special- that they do not deal with it in a healthy way and then terrorize the rest of us for it? Give examples of what they are so shamed with and guilty with please.
Yes this please !!!…. Mine is a covert/ neglectful narc and the “shame” he acts like he carries is just destroying us more and more …. No one has any room to heal because he gets to out do everyone with his “shame”
It's very difficult to wrap your head around the narc personality when you first realize what is happening. I think what you're asking, is what makes their aversion to accountability so pervasive when we all experience some form of shame from time to time. The lack of rational interaction is so extremely frustrating, but trying to apply logic to an irrational person will only keep you stuck. Just as narcs project onto good people, good normal people project healthy traits onto them. That only keeps the trauma bond going. Don't get caught up in that with the mental gymnastics of why and WTF. Before trying to understand the abuser, recognize the arrogance in the belief that their feelings are more important than yours. Once you realize that they think everybody who disagrees with them is stupid, and everything is just a game of manipulations based on the idea that they're smarter, nothing else really matters. Anyone who thinks your intelligence is inferior needs to go. Otherwise the manipulations continue and behavior gets more emboldened because they believe you deserve it.
Do the flying monkeys know? I believe they do. They know more than you know, and say/do nothing to stop it.
Thank you Ben for sharing. The shame.. the Rage. It make sense. I understand now. Your honesty is very helpful. 🙏
Thank you
i swear, i’m a firm believer in God. you have no idea the power & strength you have to be self aware & get the help you need. On top of that living in your truth to come on here & help us out. You have no idea as a victim turning survivor, how you have helped me. the pain from these ppl is so unbearable, the mental distress, and loneliness and confusion you feel. The feeling of looking like the bad guy while they look like a victim. Idk where i’d be without you and Lee Hammock. I am learning and growing, and keeping minimal contact when i have to discuss my son. The tools, grey rocking etc. you guys have taught me. It still hurts, i’m still healing. but you have changed my life. God will bless you. Narcs usually don’t change, God chose you and you’re acing His assignment. God bless.
Thank you Ben!
Thank you so much. I really do appreciate it a lot.
What made me realize i am being manipulated by my friend narc was that she asked for her house keys back in indirect way and started saying random nostalgic recalls of the past to remind me of it just before she started my discard to keep me hanging … she knew … 100%
so very true
Thanks!
Thank you 🙏🏻
Very good video bro !
Thank you
Please block those inappropriate comments, like the one under Sarah Harris. This is offensive. I don't know how they slip in,, but you and we don't deserve it. Thank you. 🙏
I just banned the user. Sorry as the channel grows they seem to come up. Wish I could have moderators for comments.
@@RawMotivations Thank you, Ben. I appreciate that. We live in Satan's world, dear heart (1 John 5: 19 - of the books 1,2,&3 of John, after 2 Peter). No worries. 💖🫂💖
@@beverlytaylor1745 Hi 👋🏽 , I’m living in my Heavenly Father, God’s world through my advocate in Heaven, Jesus. Satan has no dominion over anything. From where I sit, thats way too much credit. God delivers us all from evil.
@@LEM19284 Hello! Thank you for your reply. Interestingl y, Jesus himself called Satan the ruler of the world at John 12:31, and John 16:11. Revelation 12: 7 - 9 says Satan and his angels were hurled down to earth, and they are misleading the entire inhabited earth. Vs.12, and 13 say Satan has neen hurled down to earth, knowing he has a short period of time. Therefore, since 1 John 5: 19 says the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one, it is reasonable to conclude that Satan has some influence over the wickedness we see today. I think the point was that we would appreciate the 'porn' be removed. Of course, you are free to interpret my comment as you like. As a fellow Bible student, I appreciate your faith. 🌸🌷🌸
Thanks Ben for being real about Narcissism and sharing your experiences with the disorder. It is very heartwarming 💜❤️🩹🌈
Thank you
Can you please share what is the shame part? I’m so over done with hearing about it. I recognize you’re not making it an excuse, but shame is something we all have if you live long enough. What makes narcissist so “special”/not special- that they do not deal with it in a healthy way and then terrorize the rest of us for it? Give examples of what they are so shamed with and guilty with please.
Yes this please !!!…. Mine is a covert/ neglectful narc and the “shame” he acts like he carries is just destroying us more and more …. No one has any room to heal because he gets to out do everyone with his “shame”
It's very difficult to wrap your head around the narc personality when you first realize what is happening. I think what you're asking, is what makes their aversion to accountability so pervasive when we all experience some form of shame from time to time.
The lack of rational interaction is so extremely frustrating, but trying to apply logic to an irrational person will only keep you stuck. Just as narcs project onto good people, good normal people project healthy traits onto them. That only keeps the trauma bond going. Don't get caught up in that with the mental gymnastics of why and WTF.
Before trying to understand the abuser, recognize the arrogance in the belief that their feelings are more important than yours. Once you realize that they think everybody who disagrees with them is stupid, and everything is just a game of manipulations based on the idea that they're smarter, nothing else really matters. Anyone who thinks your intelligence is inferior needs to go. Otherwise the manipulations continue and behavior gets more emboldened because they believe you deserve it.