The honouring your body thing is so so true. A man of God who loves you will not want to sin with you and he won’t want you to sin. Anybody that wants you to sin against God and to dishonour God…ladies, run!!! Run quick!!!
Yes I just had to cut ties with the person I already knew was a counterfeit because of this and SO many other reasons that don’t line up with the list in this video.
Summary: 1. He must have a personal relationship with Christ (John 3:16) 2. He has the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) 3. He honors YOUR body and his body before God 4. His intentions will be clear with you (Genesis 29:20) 5. He will make you a better person (Proverbs 27:17) 6. He will be a man of his word (1 John 2:5) 7. God will confirm it (Genesis 24)
I’ve been telling myself no pity party. Time to tighten up! Yes self growth is uncomfortable but I was miserable in the worldly relationship anyway. So I chose salvation. God came back to get me. I’m not going back to my old ways 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I fell for the counterfeit after being so strong on my walk and now I’m wallowing in heartbreak… if you’re strong on your walk, stay there & don’t fall for the enemy dangling the candy in your face when you know that man’s heart isn’t pursing God and if he loves sin more than God and is willing to bring you down… run. Make them come up to your level.
I’m 23 & currently in the same situation right now, & the heartbreak really hurts. I’m leaning on God right now more then ever so I don’t drown in my feelings
Heavy on a man of his word. A guy I was dating told me he was a romantic guy but in the 4 weeks of dating him, not one romantic gesture was seen, he had to go.
Me & God are Locked in right now. I am on my purification/celibacy journey. Nonetheless I met a guy who was extremely nice, clean cut, and seemed in some aspect a good catch but I asked him what are his beliefs. I asked if he believed in Jesus Christ and he gave me a long pause & said he believed in a higher power. All that to say that counterfeits come in many forms. The person "having a relationship with Jesus" is so key. I do pray for his Soul. But I Cannot ignore that red flag. I have dated many guys who said they were Christian or saved but they had No Relationship with God & it was evident. I cannot be with anyone like this going in future. I cannot go down that path again. It was destructive for my spirt. I enjoyed this! Thanks for sharing!
Same. However I sometimes wonder ok so there are just two sides. A big one of unbelievers and some real Christians. And it's so hard to find a real one who also fits to you, isn't it?
I just came to the realization that I never really had a true relationship. They were just sex partners, and / or I was the leader, aka mom. I have been chaste since 2014. Men approach, but I know it's not time. I am not a wife yet. I am still building like Nehemiah. Yes, that man must have a personal relationship with Jesus. No exceptions! I ain't bringing no grown man to Christ unless it is mentorship. I am glad you expressed that every man or woman dangled in your face is not for you. Women should pray before considering entertaining a man. The same for men. The whole list is 🔥 👌 🙌.
Had this realization this year. I don't think I've ever been an equal relationship. Honestly strengthening my faith and walk in Christ has been so transformative this year.
I agree. Don't entertain anyone unless the Lord says so. As I look back, every counterfeit wanted sex. Right off the bat. They would pretend to love me. Pretend to want Christ. Pretend to want marriage. I'd always pray & God would remove them. Right quick. Thank the Lord!!!
Thanks Queen This was so much needed definitely confirmation about my Boaz ❤ It took me 2 years to finally get to this point of release the old and finally letting God do his big one in my life . This is Tea
Wow. I had this realization too. I lost my virginity in 2015, so that’s almost 10 years of fornicating with men not sent by God. Something has got to change!! Cannot commit to another 10 years or even one year of living in the flesh. May the spirit lead us all ✨
I needed to hear this ; the last two men I’ve met revealed their true intentions in short spans.& their intentions were not to know me but to know my body. I had to remember God is clarity & while those men seemed worthy of time, time exposed our interactions were better separated.
Satan is definitely upping the ante. Going out of his way to harm God's children. I've been thru it all. Mostly because I was ignorant and naive. The brother I like now, I don't think he'd dream of touching me unless we were married. He's very honorable. A man of integrity. I'm just waiting on God to know if he might be my person. Pray for us. I know he's very attracted to me & especially the fact that I serve Christ. We are only on the getting to know each other stage. Just friends for now. Brother & Sis.
I am crying. I was told to pray for my exhusand because he's going through some things ... but the other side of me thought because i was told to pray for him that we were supposed to be together. My God! You confirmed, he is just my assignment. He checks off ALL the red flags for a relationship, but i feel the need to keep him in prayer. God wants me to separate his SOUL from who he is to ME. JESUS. Thank you for this video for confirmation. I've been so confused about his behavior vs. the fact that I am led to pray for him.
I was driving and asking God if he sent the person I have been with, waiting on marriage or not and my TH-cam selected this video and started playing it! 😳😱 Wow! 7 year relationship, no marriage proposal, I need some prayers!
Girl, you don't need prayers.. you need to run! 😭😭 S e v e n years! Do you know, statistically men know within 6 months if they want to wed a woman? And often do so within 2 years. Habibti, if you are not (a) Rachel, whom Jacob *worked* 7 years to have the opportunity to be her husband...why are you entertaining a man for almost a decade 🤔? Sincerely though, I just pray that God's will be done in your life and that He guides you through this ♡ but honestly lovely, the optics of that situation ain't looking good :((((. Surely there is a reason why it has been 7 years, I reckon. God bless you ♡
This video found me! I had a break a situationship with a “Godly man” and he gave me so much hope, broke my peace then lost interest after we had sex. It hurts. Thank you for the word I needed this!!! ❤
Girl you are speaking !!!!!!!!! Every woman in Christ needs to hear this !!!! So many other entities influence us women in Christ to go against what God has ordained for us. Thinking that another way or the shorter way is better and we pay for it in the long run. To all women in Christ, who are waiting for their mate, I pray God gives you peace in the season that you are in and patience to wait for the man that he has created for you and you have been created for him🙏🏽
I’ve recently started reading the Bible. This video came out in the perfect timing too because I feel I’m in a season of detaching and really having discernment and seeing things for what it is.I’m still in Genesis but the fact that you’ve mentioned some of the messages I understood during my season of isolation. ❤️ God is love.
I encourage you to read a bit in old testament AND new testament. I encourage you to locate a solid church community or Bible study. Isolation is not God's will. Not for too long.
Sis. You are 150% on point!! I am 41, and I met a man who has done everything on this list from day one! Locked me down on our first date! We are both divorced too! Don't settle ladies! The crazy thing is that I was with the counterfeit months ago, He broke my heart so bad. He came looking and acting like my new man, so I was nervous when I met this one because he felt the same. I prayed and he said he prayed. I just asked God again to confirm and this video popped up! I have never seen your videos before. Don't be fooled. He will do everything on her list, I promise you. Sending love ladies, don't give up!
Needed thisssssss. This is so validating because it affirms my decisions to leave the situations I left. My goal now is to work to become the woman that THIS type of man deserves 🙏
It’s soooooo true when you said it shouldn’t take 3 months to lock a woman down. It only took one month before my man asked me to be his woman. But I think that also has to do with STANDING on your standards and NOT budging. The right man will respect it (and you) AND will comply/act accordingly.
Pray for me I’m stuck dealing with my counterfeit right now. I started praying fasting giving my life back to god and he revealed this man isn’t for me I tried to stick it out because I thought I crazy. we live together separated now i just want my own space and be free to praise the lord.
First time here and I love it when someone stick to God's standards. Too many people to social media and giving advise that is not Godly. A lot of them don't tell the whole truth hence sugar coat everything. If you got married and he was not saved or had sex before marriage and it worked for you don't make it a doctrine, it might not work for someone. Let's just stick to what he word says. Lets not confuse assignment to be your spouse no matter some marriages don't last yet you were busy telling you heard from God he was the one. God is not a man that he should lie. Thank you Vanessa for your honesty.
The brother I like is a true brother. A real Christian. We are friendly. He's been caring, kind...thoughtful but he's moving slow. He doesn't do casual dating. Neither do I. We are both abstinent. He hasn't asked for coffee or invite to church YET. It's only been a few weeks. Am I being impatient? He's made it clear he's attracted to me.
Lol i love this! Its very true! My boyfriend made me his girlfriend on the third date💕 you never have to wonder where you stand with the man God has for you!
I do talk to God about who comes into my life. God showed me past relationships and it was a deal breaker. I also know that men play games. But the Bible says 1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they cannot contain let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. So I did meet someone, and I am praying to hear from God.
I always say the person you’re with should NOT make you worse. Your mental health, body, appearance, spirit, what you like, finances etc. A relationship shouldn’t CAUSE struggle.
I needed this I met a seemingly great guy. Financially stable and comfortable, handsome. He talks about wanting the same things I do and he’s respectful but I don’t know if it’s my fears or my intuition telling me that he is judgemental and probably has a secret issue in terms of personality or behaviour that has delayed him finding a wife
Ugh he has been acting quite odd since our last phone call but it’s our first date today so god willing I am able to discern what this situation is and will be
@@jadajjlakee dont go into the date trying to find something wrong just be open minded and enjoy yourself. When you pray God will answer you don’t need to go on a date on guard sis
Words cannot express how much I appreciate your video! I truly believe God allowed me to see this specific video at this specific time! Thank you for the clarity and wisdom provided in your video! ❤ I am glad I found your channel!
I’m so thankful for this video popping up. I’m beyond heartbroken- was blindsided this weekend with a breakup text. We just came back from a vacation in Hawaii and I thought this was my best relationship ever. We were only together for a year but I finally thought I met my man of God…I know God has good plans but it hurts. God bless you ❤️
I did not except for this video to make me cry so much but everything you said is spot on for me. This video made me realized that I am not with a man of God 😢
wow, that's a good word. Thank you sister in Christ. I am in a single season and this is confirming past relationships. I am glad I dipped. God bless you!
Number 4 is a big one!!! I refuse to wait 6 months for a guy to ask me to be his “girlfriend”. With intentionality it should take no more than 3 months
The husband I had did all this but as we got to know each other his true colors came,he uplifted me but he also ignored my feelings he did a lot of gaslighting , deflecting was nice and lovable to everyone else but changed with me .
God Bless you Vanessa!!🙏🏼❤❤💫 You are doing the Lord's work and it's so evident! Spreading the truth and wise counsel straight from the Word!! I watched the whole video because I was curious and I already have peace that my fiancé is from God but your video confirmed even further ☺❤🙏🏼
Very wise words and all true. I didn’t trust God when he was showing me the signs and it just extended the time spent with someone not for me. GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSION. PLEASE trust God in ALL THINGS
no more casual dating, situationships, sex partners they’re distractions and usually do not have our best interest at heart! ladies treat your body like the temple it is, with respect and love.
i have currently been with my significant other for 4 years, we are both furthering our journey with god. he introduced the love of god. we live together but before that we weren’t faithful. now my biggest thing in life is to honor god & at least marry or engage but his main thing is money to afford a ring or too feel more manly. we are currently abstinent, we still sleep in the same bed. i just feel he doesn’t understand the fact that i want to do this the right way & i understand we are growing as individuals. i believe & have faith he’s the one for me but i don’t know how to get him to understand. & then i feel wrong because my main focus should be god right now & waiting until marriage finds me. because it’s not that he doesn’t respect me, or value me, i feel like we got caught up in society instead of spirituality.
@@khyiathekreatourSame. My boyfriend and I are growing our faith. But we both have been sinning and I don’t want that. We’re trying to grow our faith individually and together. I just need him just to put more energy into God so he can better our relationship spiritually. Physically and worldly he’s perfect but he just needs more faith. Faith to lead me. I don’t know what to do.
@@khyiathekreatour me personally will not live with a man that I’m not married to that never really works out you end up having to wait longer for the ring even if his intentions is to marry you, he will come up with excuses because not having a rain is just an excuse. You can literally go to the courthouse and get married without a ring and get the ring later if this is really love and you want to honor God with your relationship we have to stop making excuses because we want something so bad. This is not an alignment with God‘s word, and I would strongly suggest that you pray and listen to what exactly the Holy Spirit gives you and act and move quickly when God answers your questions because you have to think about it if God tells you to leave this relationship, would you wanna leave or would it be a stronghold for you to leave , you’ll risk being disobedient to God to please your flesh
My beautiful sister, you must get away. Do not put yourself in a tempting position. Fornication is very grave. I appreciate your candor. Pray. God will give you a way out. Let the Lord deal with your ex.
This happened to me , I married him , all the red flags , every one of them& now I’m absolutely going through one of the hardest things 😢 I feel stuck & like I’m drowning. All because I idolized & rushed.
Yes, this was a blessing to hear I've been in prayer about this topic, and literally the signs are very clear no settling and no counterfeit are welcome we need to choose wisely
I knew he was the one before this but this also explains more of what i was doing subconsciously in the beginning asking those questions praying if he was meant to be with me getting to know him and his walk.
Honestly, this touched me on a much deeper level than I expected. It answered so many questions I had, and I’ve been replaying the video over and over. Thank you so much for sharing this, it means a lot.
I’m glad you make these videos Help other ladies to have some discipline and wisdom to choose the right man. We already got enough single moms by bad decisions
This is sooo good, and right on time for my situation 😫 thank you so much! We’re both still in each other’s lives just as friends and we’re choosing to become the man and woman God rlly is calling us to be. We’re not necessarily waiting on each other but if we end up together after maturing and growing in Christ, then so be it. I feel like this is a good idea, but I’m not sure, like maybe it’s possibly faulty idk 😭.
I love this! Thanks for the video. I was praying to God to show me a sign wether I should pursue a career in jewellery design and a friend mentioned afew hours ago about a film she was watching about a jewellery thief and then you had an advert about your earrings! I'm now wondering if these are the signs!
I learned this , this weekend. I felt so convicted. I thought my children's father was the one .. again.. but the overwhelming pressure to have sex with him, no matter how many times I said NO, let me know that unfortunately he's not the one. He could not explain to me why "NOW was NOT the time for a relationship BUT it was the time to have sex " I felt so condemned and covicted. Did we have sex? Yes :( After he told me that now was NOT the time for a relationship. Even when i mentioned that we should be friends first, he kept saying the same. Sigh. This really hurt my feelings, but now i will continue to pray and repent, and he is JUST my ex-husband from this point. He's not the one. God would not do this to me after all the praying and as close as i have grown with God. I felt so devalued, BUT i thank God for confirmation . Funny how this video popped up 2 days later
Good insight. The only thing that is not biblically true is the narrative that Jacob waited 14 years to marry Rachel. He did not. He waited 7 years and 1 week. However, in return, Jacob had to work another 7 years. And I think that's where ppl get the story wrong. Nonetheless, your points were definitely spot on.
she didnt say he had to wait another 7 years, she said exactly what you just said, he WORKED for her dad for 14 years to have his blessing to marry her
I really should be with someone that's going to add value to my life am trying to elevate and am trying not to stay stagnant it's hard sometimes l think 🤔
TOPICS IN THE VID: 1. 3:49 he has a personal relationship with god. 2. 4:49 he has the fruit of the spirit. (love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control) 3. 8:30 he honors your body. 4. 11:59 his intentions with you are clear. 5. 14:50 he will make you a better person “iron sharpens iron” 6. 16:49 he is a man of his words. 7. 19:55 god will confirm the relationship to you and him that you’re for each other.
The honouring your body thing is so so true. A man of God who loves you will not want to sin with you and he won’t want you to sin. Anybody that wants you to sin against God and to dishonour God…ladies, run!!! Run quick!!!
Amen to this I will NOT sin against my body anymore.
Yes I just had to cut ties with the person I already knew was a counterfeit because of this and SO many other reasons that don’t line up with the list in this video.
Yes that's the man thing ❤
Summary:
1. He must have a personal relationship with Christ (John 3:16)
2. He has the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22)
3. He honors YOUR body and his body before God
4. His intentions will be clear with you (Genesis 29:20)
5. He will make you a better person (Proverbs 27:17)
6. He will be a man of his word (1 John 2:5)
7. God will confirm it (Genesis 24)
I’ve been telling myself no pity party. Time to tighten up! Yes self growth is uncomfortable but I was miserable in the worldly relationship anyway. So I chose salvation. God came back to get me. I’m not going back to my old ways 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I like your mindset!
@@AT-pw9dx thank you. I’m learning to find my rainbow in every situation!
It's OK to cry sometimes. It's healing & healthy. Jesus wept. Sooo..weep & then carry on.
@@danilaroche1156 yes I’m not holding back anymore 🙏🏾
Amen! ❤
I fell for the counterfeit after being so strong on my walk and now I’m wallowing in heartbreak… if you’re strong on your walk, stay there & don’t fall for the enemy dangling the candy in your face when you know that man’s heart isn’t pursing God and if he loves sin more than God and is willing to bring you down… run. Make them come up to your level.
@@itstaylourmade you’re learning so count that for something
I’m 23 & currently in the same situation right now, & the heartbreak really hurts. I’m leaning on God right now more then ever so I don’t drown in my feelings
Heavy on a man of his word. A guy I was dating told me he was a romantic guy but in the 4 weeks of dating him, not one romantic gesture was seen, he had to go.
@@tresbellestudio oh uhuh lollll a liar
“That’s illegal covenant” immediately subscribed 😂😂😂
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She indeed did eat with that one!!!
Guys we need God! Please seek God & develop a relationship with God!God will never do you wrong 💖!
Me & God are Locked in right now. I am on my purification/celibacy journey. Nonetheless I met a guy who was extremely nice, clean cut, and seemed in some aspect a good catch but I asked him what are his beliefs. I asked if he believed in Jesus Christ and he gave me a long pause & said he believed in a higher power. All that to say that counterfeits come in many forms. The person "having a relationship with Jesus" is so key. I do pray for his Soul. But I Cannot ignore that red flag. I have dated many guys who said they were Christian or saved but they had No Relationship with God & it was evident. I cannot be with anyone like this going in future. I cannot go down that path again. It was destructive for my spirt. I enjoyed this! Thanks for sharing!
me too, you worded this perfectly!!
@@laneem9746 thank you 😊
Same. However I sometimes wonder ok so there are just two sides. A big one of unbelievers and some real Christians. And it's so hard to find a real one who also fits to you, isn't it?
Sometimes saying no too that is the final test
@@raemahhenderson1602 Amen 🙏🏾
I just came to the realization that I never really had a true relationship. They were just sex partners, and / or I was the leader, aka mom. I have been chaste since 2014. Men approach, but I know it's not time. I am not a wife yet. I am still building like Nehemiah. Yes, that man must have a personal relationship with Jesus. No exceptions! I ain't bringing no grown man to Christ unless it is mentorship. I am glad you expressed that every man or woman dangled in your face is not for you. Women should pray before considering entertaining a man. The same for men. The whole list is 🔥 👌 🙌.
Had this realization this year. I don't think I've ever been an equal relationship. Honestly strengthening my faith and walk in Christ has been so transformative this year.
I agree. Don't entertain anyone unless the Lord says so. As I look back, every counterfeit wanted sex. Right off the bat. They would pretend to love me. Pretend to want Christ. Pretend to want marriage. I'd always pray & God would remove them. Right quick. Thank the Lord!!!
Thanks Queen This was so much needed definitely confirmation about my Boaz ❤ It took me 2 years to finally get to this point of release the old and finally letting God do his big one in my life . This is Tea
Wow. I had this realization too. I lost my virginity in 2015, so that’s almost 10 years of fornicating with men not sent by God. Something has got to change!! Cannot commit to another 10 years or even one year of living in the flesh. May the spirit lead us all ✨
I needed to hear this ; the last two men I’ve met revealed their true intentions in short spans.& their intentions were not to know me but to know my body. I had to remember God is clarity & while those men seemed worthy of time, time exposed our interactions were better separated.
@@shelbyspellman3046 hellooooooo and I’m so happy you didn’t fall for the bait
Right. These counterfeits want to get physical quickly. Nooooo....
@@danilaroche1156 and it was so scary because one of em’ said he was in his Word… I’m thinking to myself 🤔 “what Word you in?”
Satan is definitely upping the ante. Going out of his way to harm God's children. I've been thru it all. Mostly because I was ignorant and naive. The brother I like now, I don't think he'd dream of touching me unless we were married. He's very honorable. A man of integrity. I'm just waiting on God to know if he might be my person. Pray for us. I know he's very attracted to me & especially the fact that I serve Christ. We are only on the getting to know each other stage. Just friends for now. Brother & Sis.
@@danilaroche1156 awwww I love that for you… praying God reveals if that’s your person or not 🙏🏾
I am crying. I was told to pray for my exhusand because he's going through some things
... but the other side of me thought because i was told to pray for him that we were supposed to be together. My God! You confirmed, he is just my assignment. He checks off ALL the red flags for a relationship, but i feel the need to keep him in prayer. God wants me to separate his SOUL from who he is to ME. JESUS. Thank you for this video for confirmation. I've been so confused about his behavior vs. the fact that I am led to pray for him.
I was driving and asking God if he sent the person I have been with, waiting on marriage or not and my TH-cam selected this video and started playing it! 😳😱 Wow! 7 year relationship, no marriage proposal, I need some prayers!
@@annadeines7767 no more signs
Girl, you don't need prayers.. you need to run! 😭😭 S e v e n years! Do you know, statistically men know within 6 months if they want to wed a woman? And often do so within 2 years. Habibti, if you are not (a) Rachel, whom Jacob *worked* 7 years to have the opportunity to be her husband...why are you entertaining a man for almost a decade 🤔?
Sincerely though, I just pray that God's will be done in your life and that He guides you through this ♡ but honestly lovely, the optics of that situation ain't looking good :((((. Surely there is a reason why it has been 7 years, I reckon. God bless you ♡
@@priscille1577 It is extremely complicated....lots of life & God in the mix of my story. I appreciate the comment so much!! 🤍🤍
"Sometimes that's not your man but your assignment" 😂
@@Tortilla1111 you’re laughing but it’s the truth
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Amen!!!!!
This video found me! I had a break a situationship with a “Godly man” and he gave me so much hope, broke my peace then lost interest after we had sex. It hurts. Thank you for the word I needed this!!! ❤
We don't casually date or do situationships here at Camp Jesus. No way!
@@danilaroche1156 hellooooo🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Camp JESUS 😂😂😂❤
Helppp the crying part 😂😂 not me forcing myself to think someone who makes me feel so anxious is from God
heavy on the forcing myself amen! 😭
Me too. My God
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Girl you are speaking !!!!!!!!!
Every woman in Christ needs to hear this !!!! So many other entities influence us women in Christ to go against what God has ordained for us. Thinking that another way or the shorter way is better and we pay for it in the long run.
To all women in Christ, who are waiting for their mate, I pray God gives you peace in the season that you are in and patience to wait for the man that he has created for you and you have been created for him🙏🏽
Video starts at 3:50
I’ve recently started reading the Bible. This video came out in the perfect timing too because I feel I’m in a season of detaching and really having discernment and seeing things for what it is.I’m still in Genesis but the fact that you’ve mentioned some of the messages I understood during my season of isolation. ❤️ God is love.
I encourage you to read a bit in old testament AND new testament. I encourage you to locate a solid church community or Bible study. Isolation is not God's will. Not for too long.
@@danilaroche1156TRUE!! 🙌🏾💯💯💯
@danilaroche1156 how do you know isolation may not be His will for HER? Everyone's journey is different, my walk may not look like yours. 🤍
Sis. You are 150% on point!! I am 41, and I met a man who has done everything on this list from day one! Locked me down on our first date! We are both divorced too! Don't settle ladies! The crazy thing is that I was with the counterfeit months ago, He broke my heart so bad. He came looking and acting like my new man, so I was nervous when I met this one because he felt the same. I prayed and he said he prayed. I just asked God again to confirm and this video popped up! I have never seen your videos before. Don't be fooled. He will do everything on her list, I promise you. Sending love ladies, don't give up!
@@tiffthetaxlady888 yessssss 🫶🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 and I pray over your future union that it will be blessed
Needed thisssssss. This is so validating because it affirms my decisions to leave the situations I left. My goal now is to work to become the woman that THIS type of man deserves 🙏
It’s soooooo true when you said it shouldn’t take 3 months to lock a woman down. It only took one month before my man asked me to be his woman. But I think that also has to do with STANDING on your standards and NOT budging. The right man will respect it (and you) AND will comply/act accordingly.
Pray for me I’m stuck dealing with my counterfeit right now. I started praying fasting giving my life back to god and he revealed this man isn’t for me I tried to stick it out because I thought I crazy. we live together separated now i just want my own space and be free to praise the lord.
First time here and I love it when someone stick to God's standards. Too many people to social media and giving advise that is not Godly. A lot of them don't tell the whole truth hence sugar coat everything. If you got married and he was not saved or had sex before marriage and it worked for you don't make it a doctrine, it might not work for someone. Let's just stick to what he word says. Lets not confuse assignment to be your spouse no matter some marriages don't last yet you were busy telling you heard from God he was the one. God is not a man that he should lie. Thank you Vanessa for your honesty.
“What is gonna keep you ?” “You have to have the fear of the Lord.” That part ! This video is an answered prayer. Thanks sis 💕🫡
Your channel is helping me get back in alignment. Thank you for your obedience!
@@rheadreid God is so good🥹🙌🏾🫶🏾
The brother I like is a true brother. A real Christian. We are friendly. He's been caring, kind...thoughtful but he's moving slow. He doesn't do casual dating. Neither do I. We are both abstinent. He hasn't asked for coffee or invite to church YET. It's only been a few weeks. Am I being impatient? He's made it clear he's attracted to me.
Lol i love this! Its very true! My boyfriend made me his girlfriend on the third date💕 you never have to wonder where you stand with the man God has for you!
#6 felt that one fr , what kinda father you want for your kids 🙌🏾
@@Africanbaddie bigggggggggg facts
This came at a great time for me. I love that this is only enforcing my beliefs.
Whew I needed this sis. The celibacy journey is not easy but it’s worth it.
I do talk to God about who comes into my life. God showed me past relationships and it was a deal breaker. I also know that men play games. But the Bible says 1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they cannot contain let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. So I did meet someone, and I am praying to hear from God.
He aligns with all 6 values in this video. I’m so sure it’s him. I just keep praying for confirmation. It’s been 5 months.
@@Ffa2003 see what God says
Are you a worthwhile woman…
I always say the person you’re with should NOT make you worse. Your mental health, body, appearance, spirit, what you like, finances etc. A relationship shouldn’t CAUSE struggle.
I needed this I met a seemingly great guy. Financially stable and comfortable, handsome. He talks about wanting the same things I do and he’s respectful but I don’t know if it’s my fears or my intuition telling me that he is judgemental and probably has a secret issue in terms of personality or behaviour that has delayed him finding a wife
Ugh he has been acting quite odd since our last phone call but it’s our first date today so god willing I am able to discern what this situation is and will be
@@jadajjlakee pray to God about it whatever is a secret will be revealed
@@jadajjlakee dont go into the date trying to find something wrong just be open minded and enjoy yourself. When you pray God will answer you don’t need to go on a date on guard sis
Update?????
This came right on time!!! Only God’s timing ❤
Words cannot express how much I appreciate your video! I truly believe God allowed me to see this specific video at this specific time! Thank you for the clarity and wisdom provided in your video! ❤ I am glad I found your channel!
I’m so thankful for this video popping up. I’m beyond heartbroken- was blindsided this weekend with a breakup text. We just came back from a vacation in Hawaii and I thought this was my best relationship ever. We were only together for a year but I finally thought I met my man of God…I know God has good plans but it hurts. God bless you ❤️
@@veronicat.3422 I’m so sorry but I want you to go into prayer about this relationship ask God the questions that on your heart
If I could like this video 100 times I would. This was needed 🙏🏾
I love this! Thanks for breaking it down. I’ve had so many counterfeits in my past life! Thank God for spiritual growth and healing. ❤
Halleluyaaaaah, praise the Lord!🎉🙌🏾☦... Shoutout to our wisdom, more marriages and fruitful relationships 🌟🤍
Thank you, all thanks to God, May God Bless you with your good fruiteful Godly Marriage and Godly relationship 🙏💖👑
Yes, thank you🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I did not except for this video to make me cry so much but everything you said is spot on for me. This video made me realized that I am not with a man of God 😢
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Thank you for Boaz checklist..🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
After this video, I think this was confirmation. It is comforting to know that this time, I don't have to stress that he's a counterfeit.
wow, that's a good word. Thank you sister in Christ. I am in a single season and this is confirming past relationships. I am glad I dipped. God bless you!
@@KatKnwsBest 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you so much love your talks and u are truly a sister in Christ 🎀💖
@@Timealone555 thank you sister
Number 4 is a big one!!!
I refuse to wait 6 months for a guy to ask me to be his “girlfriend”. With intentionality it should take no more than 3 months
No even that long
The amount of peace this just brought to my spirit- thank you.
Sis you better teach! Amen. Let the Lord use you! This is good and well-needed for women!
Wow I needed to see this video. Big eye opener. Thank you for this 🙏🏻💕
The husband I had did all this but as we got to know each other his true colors came,he uplifted me but he also ignored my feelings he did a lot of gaslighting , deflecting was nice and lovable to everyone else but changed with me .
Your videos are so good!
Men are MADE to take responsibility of their women and family from the Day 1. If he cannot, he's not the one.
God Bless you Vanessa!!🙏🏼❤❤💫 You are doing the Lord's work and it's so evident! Spreading the truth and wise counsel straight from the Word!! I watched the whole video because I was curious and I already have peace that my fiancé is from God but your video confirmed even further ☺❤🙏🏼
@@beatricederossi1601 praise God and congratulations 💕
Very wise words and all true. I didn’t trust God when he was showing me the signs and it just extended the time spent with someone not for me. GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSION. PLEASE trust God in ALL THINGS
no more casual dating, situationships, sex partners they’re distractions and usually do not have our best interest at heart! ladies treat your body like the temple it is, with respect and love.
@@laneem9746 yesssss
i have currently been with my significant other for 4 years, we are both furthering our journey with god. he introduced the love of god. we live together but before that we weren’t faithful. now my biggest thing in life is to honor god & at least marry or engage but his main thing is money to afford a ring or too feel more manly. we are currently abstinent, we still sleep in the same bed. i just feel he doesn’t understand the fact that i want to do this the right way & i understand we are growing as individuals. i believe & have faith he’s the one for me but i don’t know how to get him to understand. & then i feel wrong because my main focus should be god right now & waiting until marriage finds me. because it’s not that he doesn’t respect me, or value me, i feel like we got caught up in society instead of spirituality.
moral of the story we both need to mature
@@khyiathekreatourSame. My boyfriend and I are growing our faith. But we both have been sinning and I don’t want that. We’re trying to grow our faith individually and together. I just need him just to put more energy into God so he can better our relationship spiritually. Physically and worldly he’s perfect but he just needs more faith. Faith to lead me. I don’t know what to do.
@@kemiajohnson107 girlll, i don’t want to be the spiritual leader; thats your job. to love him is to love me better.
@@khyiathekreatour me personally will not live with a man that I’m not married to that never really works out you end up having to wait longer for the ring even if his intentions is to marry you, he will come up with excuses because not having a rain is just an excuse. You can literally go to the courthouse and get married without a ring and get the ring later if this is really love and you want to honor God with your relationship we have to stop making excuses because we want something so bad. This is not an alignment with God‘s word, and I would strongly suggest that you pray and listen to what exactly the Holy Spirit gives you and act and move quickly when God answers your questions because you have to think about it if God tells you to leave this relationship, would you wanna leave or would it be a stronghold for you to leave , you’ll risk being disobedient to God to please your flesh
My beautiful sister, you must get away. Do not put yourself in a tempting position. Fornication is very grave. I appreciate your candor. Pray. God will give you a way out. Let the Lord deal with your ex.
I do need more self control and try to be connected to the vine but it's hard sometimes
Nobody said it'd be easy.
I'm trying to do good but it's hard sometimes like really really really really really really really good
Am watching this again and again .. Coz I need it to sink so deep.. Deep down in my Soul❤💯📌📌🥺🙌🏽🙌🏽
Period Vanessa!!!!!!!!!!! Whew this was SO GOOD
How do i like this a 100 times❤. 100% true!
You’re a blessing and reminder sis, thank you❤
@@nikkisosedity5500 😘😘
@@nikkisosedity5500 thank you 😊
Thank you sister! This blessed me today! 💕
This is crazy, the timing!! I was just praying about this
This happened to me , I married him , all the red flags , every one of them& now I’m absolutely going through one of the hardest things 😢 I feel stuck & like I’m drowning. All because I idolized & rushed.
@@ohkay1976 good thing is now you know, run to God for healing and start taking care of you
I love this so much thank you sister!!♥️ “enough is enough wake up” Amen!!
Yes its about honoring God!
Yes, this was a blessing to hear I've been in prayer about this topic, and literally the signs are very clear no settling and no counterfeit are welcome we need to choose wisely
Can you do a video explaining what the fruits are exactly I’m trying to understand what you’re trying to say
Very insightful.❤
“Put your flesh under submission” is KEY!!!
I needed this video so bad, u don’t even know. Thank you and bless you ❤
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This video really helped me with a tough decision im trying to make i believe this video was God scent because I just stumbled across it
Thanks for sharing, this the truth sis. Definetly was Blessed. I can listen to this over and over :)
This video is definitely divine timing WOW. Thank you for this. God is definitely speaking to me 😊
Thank you ❤❤❤❤
God bless you sis ❤
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I knew he was the one before this but this also explains more of what i was doing subconsciously in the beginning asking those questions praying if he was meant to be with me getting to know him and his walk.
This was sooo good!! ‼️‼️
Honestly, this touched me on a much deeper level than I expected. It answered so many questions I had, and I’ve been replaying the video over and over. Thank you so much for sharing this, it means a lot.
I needed to hear this ❤❤.. ooh yes
This is a blessing! Great points you pointed out WOG & toped it off with the Word of God, which is exactly what we need! Glory To God!
@@MsTBrown07 🩷😘🙌🏾
@@MsTBrown07 thank you
@@Vanessa_Elaine Yes ma’am, you’re welcome! Bless you! 💕🙏🏾
I’m glad you make these videos
Help other ladies to have some discipline and wisdom to choose the right man.
We already got enough single moms by bad decisions
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you r so true & right!!!
You gained a new subscriber! You broke it down so clearly. Thank you for sharing 💕
Thanks for subbing!💕🫶🏾 welcome to the family
Lovve this. God bless ❤
This is sooo good, and right on time for my situation 😫 thank you so much!
We’re both still in each other’s lives just as friends and we’re choosing to become the man and woman God rlly is calling us to be. We’re not necessarily waiting on each other but if we end up together after maturing and growing in Christ, then so be it. I feel like this is a good idea, but I’m not sure, like maybe it’s possibly faulty idk 😭.
I love this! Thanks for the video. I was praying to God to show me a sign wether I should pursue a career in jewellery design and a friend mentioned afew hours ago about a film she was watching about a jewellery thief and then you had an advert about your earrings! I'm now wondering if these are the signs!
@@louiseseaman-4903 ask God for clear instructions
Wow, this video blessed me so much and confirmed everything I recently experienced with a man. I’ve ended things; God is so good. Thank you! 🙏🏾😘
@@tanyacruickshank5305 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 look at God
this video is sooo helpful especially with scripture to back it!! thank you🩷
Thank you, Father, I trust you!❤❤
I learned this , this weekend. I felt so convicted. I thought my children's father was the one .. again.. but the overwhelming pressure to have sex with him, no matter how many times I said NO, let me know that unfortunately he's not the one. He could not explain to me why "NOW was NOT the time for a relationship BUT it was the time to have sex "
I felt so condemned and covicted. Did we have sex? Yes :( After he told me that now was NOT the time for a relationship. Even when i mentioned that we should be friends first, he kept saying the same. Sigh. This really hurt my feelings, but now i will continue to pray and repent, and he is JUST my ex-husband from this point. He's not the one. God would not do this to me after all the praying and as close as i have grown with God. I felt so devalued, BUT i thank God for confirmation . Funny how this video popped up 2 days later
Good insight. The only thing that is not biblically true is the narrative that Jacob waited 14 years to marry Rachel. He did not. He waited 7 years and 1 week. However, in return, Jacob had to work another 7 years. And I think that's where ppl get the story wrong. Nonetheless, your points were definitely spot on.
she didnt say he had to wait another 7 years, she said exactly what you just said, he WORKED for her dad for 14 years to have his blessing to marry her
She feels since the wife was a addict she deserved the abuse of cheating.
This was a wonderful pep talk sis. Thank you!! 💖
Thank you for this!
I really should be with someone that's going to add value to my life am trying to elevate and am trying not to stay stagnant it's hard sometimes l think 🤔
Preach !!!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Yass. He will gives you signs .
Ouuuuuu girl 😭😭 I needed thissss
TOPICS IN THE VID:
1. 3:49 he has a personal relationship with god.
2. 4:49 he has the fruit of the spirit. (love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control)
3. 8:30 he honors your body.
4. 11:59 his intentions with you are clear.
5. 14:50 he will make you a better person “iron sharpens iron”
6. 16:49 he is a man of his words.
7. 19:55 god will confirm the relationship to you and him that you’re for each other.