Seriously man, i bet most of these "alpha males" dont have very strong/loving marriages if they just go out and do something that could cause them to not come home one day without considering their wives feelings about it... Imo, if you have a serious partner you should always consider their feelings with things that could harm you and take you away from them, unfortunately riding can be very dangerous sometimes so you bet your ass me and my partner would be having a lot of long conversations about that if one of us decided we wanted to get into riding.
Not to be a dick but lets be real Blockhead is in no position to hand out advice on this. He is not married and his GF is the one who wanted to ride. Neither of which makes him in any way qualified to give advice on this subject. You also don't have to be a triggered alpha male or a a shit marriage to have a conversation with your wife about what you are going to do.
My wife and I were married for 10 years before I had a REAL desire to ride and 17 before I actually got my first bike. Money was a huge reason for the wait. I try to do everything I can in the name of safety which has helped her be "ok" with it. She loves to ride with me but has no desire to ride her own which is just fine with me. Y'all that say "man up" or "get your balls out of her purse", good luck on your 2nd 3rd or 4th marraiges cause that's not how a relationship works. Finding a way to involve your spouse in your dream is the most important part. Just my opinion.
I have been with my wife for 16 years this August 2019, married for 8. It took 15 of those years it to getting her to ok with me riding. She bought my first bike for me last year. I just traded in that bike for my new Harley yesterday. Sure she was pissed, but she is quickly getting over that anxiety of the new, more powerful bike.
My wife was happy with the choice and trusts that I will remain vigilant on a motorcycle. After 3 years of riding every day, her fears aren't alleviated really, but she wants one of her own... and our daughters do too. I created a motorcycle monster and I love it. Granted, the times she has been on the road with me, I scare her when I ride by myself, and it shows because she hugs me hard and fusses about taking risks and the ignorance of other drivers... That's love, fellas. Men, be considerate of your wife's feelings. If it isn't about control, it is about love and worry about your future together. As a man you have a duty to provide, be reliable, be a part of the team that is Family, and honor your spouse through understanding at the very least. Not to mention your responsibility as a Father if you are one... So, be patient. Great Video, Blockhead!
My ex-wife was not cool with motorcycles, so she's my ex-wife now. My new girlfriend previously had never thought much about bikes, but since I introduced her to mine, she fell in love with riding and is considering taking the MSF course and getting her own bike.
I kinda made the "safety first" deal with my wife! I wear a full face helmet, took the MSF course @ local HD (wife said it was a must) an all that. However at 39 yrs old at the time, I told her either way it was happening! As far as actually buying the bike well..... "I asked for forgiveness" 😉
My wife never really liked the idea of me getting a motorcycle but she never said I couldn’t but there were stipulations like the MSF course, and I finally got her on the back for a ride around the neighborhood and now she wants to ride
My dad died unexpectedly last March from a heart attack. He retired the year before, we always talking about buying bikes and ride. My mom was the problem. I bought an Iron 2 weeks after he passed, because at 32, I don’t want to regret not doing something. So this was the time to do it. Lucky for me the Mrs. Mom and step dad ride so it wasn’t foreign. As for the purchase, I got it at a steal and what can she say really? Took my MSF course, excelled and really ride responsibly. Can’t prevent what others do, but I’m not regretting a thing.
My wife doesn't ride, doesn't really like motorcycles, and for the most part doesn't enjoy being around lots of motorcyclists at events; however when I told her i was going to take the MSF years back and then buy a motorcycle her response was "you do you, and buy some life insurance" nothing more to it than to do it gentlemen
Your content is really approachable without being dense or too technical, and your style is very informative but also laid back (think Joe Rogan). Really dig your channel. Keep it up!
See this is why Marriages don’t last ,, she don’t own you do what makes you happy as she should also..this nonsense of wifes telling their husbands is ridiculous,, I have been married for over 25 years happily i might add,,because i always have been me never try’d or acted in way that wasn’t me,, you are partners no one is the boss of the other,, so to all you guys go get your Dam Balls out of the box in her panty drawer and go buy the dam bike.. so take it from someone who has been married for almost 3 decades,, life is to short to not be happy either she accepts you and your dreams or she doesn’t and its better to find out now than 10 years from now when you have wasted alot of your life away only to end up in divorce,, guys and gals life is to short trust me follow your dreams , of that dream is a bike go buy it... so Block i have been a sub with you since the beginning ,, but this time we are gonna have to agree to disagree on this one buddy,, thats why they say respect your elders because we know shit 😂😂😂
PhatboyHD88 ...here here! Men nowadays have become puppets for their wives. And most are afraid of their wives or girlfriends...what a pathetic shame!!!
So here is the deal from a 50 year old, once divorced. DO NOT let your significant other stop you from doing what you want. You will regret your decisons later in life. You only live one life, if you want to ride and the other half isn't cool with it....find another one. There are plently of fish in the sea. Also if you ride, be an organ donor and have life insurance to cover your lives expenses like kids and burial god forbid you die.
Spot on brother. 30 year marriage consisting of total love support and respect given on my part blown up cause one day shes not happy. No other explanation offered except to say its complicated!? In the last year of healing and trying to get my shit together my only regret is all the times I capitulated to her demands and ultimatums. Never again life is too short to let anyone ever tell you what you can and can’t do. Blockhead love your channel but on this issue like many of us pre divorce you’re being a Simp.
I bugged my wife and she finally gave in. Bought her a helmet when I bought the bike and just came home one day a said “let’s go for a ride” she was hesitant but she went. She fell in love with it and now she rides her own. She says all the time she never would have imagined herself on a motorcycle. Minds can be changed. You can’t force it. Just wait till they are ready. Love the video Block!
Told my old lady I wanna buy a bike and start riding 3 years ago..she knew the dangers.she supported me 100% even after my first bad wreck on a sports bike (now I ride a cruiser) now she's on the verge of starting riding herself. Some of us are just lucky.
I am very fortunate in that she actually encouraged me to do it. She is in the process of getting her permit and license then a bike. That’s right after the safety course. We do a good bit of traveling and now I cant wait to take trips with her on the bikes. I have watched your “Learn to Ride” videos and they’ve helped tremendously, both her and me. Keep up the great work brother.
Let your significant other find your life insurance. Mine found my insurance and then encouraged me to take up riding.. She even came with me when I bought my first bike 6 months ago. She does not and will not ride. 30 years we've been together. What a star!
My secret to having my wife supporting my riding, is be just enough of a pain in the ass for her to be glad to see me go on a motorcycle trip for 2-3 weeks but not enough to divorce me. * Side note - I'm on my 4th. wife. So, you see it does take some development.
Somewhere I picked up that your achievement and happiness comes first and then safety third. Life is too short to have people that don’t respect your wants and needs. What you want is so important because later in life it gets harder to search those things out. I knew from 5 years of age motorcycles were my passion. It’s made me an extremely passionate person and I used that to relate to other things and people. There is an obvious risk. The moment you swing your leg over you choose to be in a glass box. Things will happen outside of your control. But the beauty of it is you have more control in a way. I would assume if you have a wife and kids already, it’d be hard to go buy a bike if you’re not experienced. I’m not married yet but the relationships I’ve been through didn’t support me. Neither did my best friend. So after college I moved across the country, sold my truck and fully committed to riding my 2018 Fat Bob. Could not imagine my life without motorcycles. They’re quite literally my therapy. Soon I’ll be buying another truck/dirt bikes and go racing again in Tennessee. Love the channel! Shoutout from Chicago!
This is how I got my wife to be cool with riding. I took her with me to do my Motorbike Pre-Learners course. She unfortunately failed it because she is a tiny girl and did not feel confidant riding the honda cb125 they had. But she is cool with me riding now and is still going to get her license done eventually.
Truth. Best deal is to lay the framework before you even get married in the first place but I do realize some dont come to this point to later in life so then yeah, a MSF class and everything else is the way to go. Totally agree
My wife was always against me riding. One day I signed up for the Team Oregon class, then talked to her about it. I just want to try it. I may not like it. I might not be able to pass. After I passed, I told her that I was buying a bike. "I know" she said. Granted we'd been married 25+ years, so your results might vary. Celebrating 27 this year. Ride safe.
When I started dating my wife I already had a Harley,but she was terrified of bikes due to an accident on her older sister's boyfriend's bike-he missed a curve and nailed a tree at about 70,when she was 10 years old that left her in P/T for a year and wiped out the first 10 years of her memory. After 6 months or so we started doing just short,slow rides around the neighborhood,and built from there. After 10 years we'd been all over the West on the Harley,freeways,secondary highways,even gravel roads and fence line roads;she got comfortable enough she'd even doze off a bit on long rides,and I even taught her how to pick up the bike if it fell over,start it and ride it to the nearest assistance to bring help,just in case anything happened where I got too hurt to ride and get us home. (accident,snake bite,broken leg,etc.
When i decided to start riding, i told my wife I was going to buy a bike. She rolled her eyes and said “ yeah right, knowing you, you’ll buy more than one”..... 3 years and 6 bikes later, here I am, and she still loves me. 😊
Took the HD MSF course up here in Michigan. Loved it. They offered many different time frames for the course, I did the week long course. It was a very positive experience and I recommend it to everyone.
Just a little about my experience... I got my first bike 15 years into marriage. 1. Go through the whole plan with your SO and show your doing it with a level head. 2. Take the safety course. 3. Buy all the proper gear and show your SO that you will ride with it all. Attgatt 4. Practice safety every day 5. Get life insurance. Theres a lot of jokes there, but it's the responsible thing to do.
Actually, nothing on that list was really required by my wife. I did it out of courtesty/respect for her. In the same way that i expected my wife to respect that i wanted to ride (responsibly). to be honest, i would ride even if she didn't want me to... but if you approach it the right way, you won't have to deal with that drama.
Made my wife understand I am a volunteer firefighter( always gone ) and I will not have any less than 2 bikes, have three now. Second wife so at my age I wasn’t going to change. Last bike I got was a brand new Harley and she picked it out.
Get a bike before you start dating When a girl sees you already been riding, she wouldn't forbid it as much compared to while dating or after marriage and you suddenly decide to ride
Krazed Rider ...she has no right to forbid anything, while married or just being a girlfriend, unless it’s going with another woman...men should decide weather they ride or not, not their female partners, period!
100% this. My GF of 5 years is a nurse so she's seen the worse outcomes from motorcycles. I've road for many years before meeting her. I know she doesn't like it but she's never once tried to stop me from riding.
I don’t even need to watch this video to know i need to send this to my wife 🤣! She was so against me getting one and is slowly coming to terms that I will be getting one whether she likes it or not! But thanks for the awesome videos as usual!
As someone else mentioned below. Take your significant other to the BRC course. Safe environment, small bike to ride. Even if they don’t take up riding they at least get some piece of mind that you can be safe.
Interesting topic. I fell in love with motorcycles at the age of 11 or so. Found a mini bike frame in the woods and attached a “borrowed” engine from a cement mixer. Didn’t have money so throttle control and brakes were nonexistent. Bald tires would just have to due. Road that thing for months until the police caught me. Oops. Man that thing was fun. Then when I was old enough, my parents were pretty much in the”hell no!” Camp. Wanted a moped, remember those? Parents didn’t want to hear it. Fast forward a whole bunch of years, I fell back in love with bikes. Took the MSF course, had a blast and got my endorsement. Wife hates it. I had an accident, kind of a freak thing, she said “you’re done, no more”. 6 months later I had a new bike. Wife still hating it, probably more than ever. I think the only reason she puts up with me is because she knows I put safety at the top of the list, I tend to ride pretty slow, I don’t ride at night and she knows riding is some serious “wind therapy”. A ride on the bike melts away stress and anxiety. She doesn’t like bikes, though she knows nothing about them (ignorance amplifies fear), but she does see that riding makes me happy. I’m hoping I can convince her to try the BRC1 course from the MSF. I think she’ll be hooked. Then, maybe I can be like Blockhead with my very own Ms. Block:-). Ride safe brother.
I have ridden since dirt bike days about 38 years ago. Had my first accident on a street bike at 15. If you ride long enough things happen. In 2015 I was on a full touring bike and my wife of 20 years was on the back. A caged not paying attention caused an accident I couldn’t avoid. Result was 6 months missed work from my injuries and wife killed. I still ride and remarried and current wife has gone from back seat rider to getting her endorsement and her own bike. I am blessed and we ride as safe as possible and we always talk about being alert to cages and looking for subtle hints they might be about to make a dangerous move. Wear your gear. Always continue to practice ride techniques to be safe.
When I told my wife how I have had a desire to ride a bike for decades but never had the opportunity to get one, she encouraged me to take an MSF class, which I did. We had visited two different cycle shops looking at models. She told me to upgrade the helmet I had bought for the MSF class to a $750 high-end one. Then she rapidly and inexplicably dug her heels in the turf and is absolutely opposed to me getting a bike. Even received a 45 minute rant about: It’s selfish of me to want one. “Where would you ride it?” “You always prioritize our family time, and now you want to go off riding sometimes?” (Yes, you read that last one correctly) “It’s an irresponsible use of money.” (Trust me, money is not an issue on this one, we have blessed with a VERY comfortable income) We are at a deeply uncomfortable stalemate on this.
3 cruises to Bermuda, where we rented scooters and went all over the island later...I came back, took MSF and now ride a Harley Sport Glide. I added sundowner seat and tour-pak for her. I actually rode it to my soccer game tonight, while my wife drove car with my son..at night (oh my!) married 23 years. A lot of life insurance helps too. Happy negotiations!
Blockhead you are the reason I traded in my Vulcan and bought my first Harley yesterday. I was so impressed by your videos with your Dyna that I decided it was the bike for me and I could not be happier with my decision. I have had it for 24 hours and have already put 450 miles on it. Decided to make it's maiden voyage, with me, a long one. Thank you for helping me make that decision. (2017 Dyna Street Bob, only 4,270 miles at point of sale. LOVE IT!)
Wife was dead set against me getting a bike. After a few years of being persistent, a coworker had a bike for sale and she gave me the ok to get it. 2 years later she bought me a Harley for my Birthday.
I had bikes before I meet my wife, so I did not ask, I did informed her what I was doing, and made sure it was not going to hurt our finances. Still married for 37 years.
For me I had a couple exes who against it personally and they would never be seen near a bike but they didn't mind me riding so much because they saw that it was a way for me to bond with the dad I barely knew (he rides too and is what got me into riding other than the Terminator, but that's a long complicated story there involving divorce courts and custody hearings) so yeah. My current lady doesn't mind my motorcycle addiction.
Great advice. Another way to view it (especially if someone hasn’t ridden before) is to just take the msf just to find out if you’re willing to die to ride. If you take the course and realize riding isn’t as amazing as hoped for, then at least you have an understanding of what motorcycles are capable of. This kinda comes from my viewpoint that all cagers should take at least some of the msf course. That course made me a better driver in general.
As a woman some of these comments are just... Wow. Luckily I love to ride on bikes. Now I want to ride my own and looking into MSF course. But even still, if my husband rides without me I worry. It comes from love. Communication does matter in a relationship. But yes, common interests are wonderful in a relationship.
Bridgette McConnell omg yes, I ride and still worry... he does the same. Most stressful was following him home from dealer for an hour picking up the new bike seeing crazy yuppies speeding and weaving around him while staring at their phones. We both love riding though so we chalk it up to the chance you take when living and enjoying life. Our biggest argument these days is which bike to get next, lol 😂
I’ve had several bikes before I got married and wife was ok with that and rode with me until... I was on my way to work when a dump truck pulled out in front of me. The curve was off camber and when I hit the brakes I went down and hit the rear wheel of the truck. I was very lucky only had massive bruises from my lower back down to the back of my thigh. My left cheek of my butt was numb for almost a year. The kicker was the hospital I was taken to my wife worked in the X-ray dept. First she ask how I feel then the next words out of her mouth are I’m pregnant. Needless to say my riding days were done (for now). Fast forward kids grown and out of the house. Bam 💥 after 38 years divorced (friendly). New Sportster then new 2018 Softail Slim. I’m a happy camper even if it took a long time.
Long comment...This is the boat I was in. My wife rode with her dad when she was a kid. Much like Block, I rode dirtbikes as a kid up until i was like 14 or so. I wanted to get a motorcycle, she hated the idea. She pulled out all the excuses from "we can't afford it" to "you're gonna get killed" to "we have too many hobbies"... even "if you get a bike we'll get a divorce" (yeah I know they're crazy, maybe I should've let her divorce me) Took over a year and a half of pushing and little fights and big fights.. but I had explained everything I could, but she wouldn't have it. - So I moved on and started researching gear. I chose the helmet and jacket I wanted and waited for the perfect deals to save money. Searched a lot of ebay, got my stuff new with tags attached.. When she saw my helmet arrive she knew how serious I was about wanting to ride. I showed her the bike I wanted (883) and explained why this was the best option for me. As soon as we agreed on a color I knew i was good. - I also had stipulations. I had to text her when I left and when I arrived where I was going to make sure I didn't die. After riding 4 months or so I bought the passenger pegs and a 2up seat. Took her to buy gear for her and now SHE is the one asking to go for a ride. - Part of me wanted to go the "ask for forgiveness" route but I understand how crazy women can be.. Call me what you want, but I ended up getting exactly what I wanted in the end. Oh, another stipulation was that if i'm buying a bike, she is getting a perfect smile. So I got her smile direct club braces and now we're both happy.
Parents are divorced but my dad has been riding since he was a teenager. I’ve always gotten on the back of his to Daytona or poker runs. Recently been wanting to learn how to ride and figured it be great thing for me and my dad to do together. He bought me my first bike, (Honda Rebel 250) and I’m taking the course this week at East Orlando HD. Told my mom and she is totally against it. My husbands okay with it my dads exstatic. She says she’s okay with me riding on the back of my dads or husbands. I personally don’t see the difference. But Ive told her things as to how I’m gonna be safe and only go with my dad and husband and also, no I4. But she’s not happy. Nothing i can do 🤷🏽♀️
my dad had 7 motorcycles in his riding career. His advice to me was 'You're invisible. Quiet as a mouse. Fragile as glass. Everyone's out to get you. And you'll never win in an accident; so everyone else has the right of way." It doesn't help that our city doesn't take very good care of the roads, either. Or that people are becoming more and more reliant on 'features' in cars that let them drive distracted. I see teens about to get their licenses riding bicycles with phone in hand, and head down, and all I can think of is, "damn, you're about to get behind the wheel of a car.."
My mom found out about my first bike through some warranty info that came in the mail to my parent's house. I haven't lived at home since 2011 but that's still the address on my license. She first accused my dad of getting a bike and then allegedly cried when she found out it was me! Now she has all sorts of opinions about bikes and style... lol. She came around. But I'm not the first of my family to ride.
Great video!!! If she is not on board, then like some mention in the comments and Blockhead, take a MSF (most Harley dealerships offer and provide the bike). Get her to take it with you even though she may not have any desire to ride herself, she will have a better understanding and kudos if she decides to ride herself. If you put her on the back, try to make it as comfortable as possible. Next point from hearing this from women over the years: DON'T RIDE LIKE A BAT OUT OF HELL with her on the back (2 up) scaring the crap out of her. Just don't do it, you lost from that point on. Some good comments and some bad comments below. Divorces are expensive especially with kids involved so be smart about it and have honest communication if she is not on board at first. Ride safe.
When I was married the wife said no motorcycles, and I honored that because family first. Now that I'm divorced I have a motorcycle, looking to get a second. I would still say if your partner is really against it, you probably shouldn't get one. A partner I mean lol. I kid, but seriously... Do right by your family, if you love her (or him) just respect their wishes and keep pestering them until you get what you want. :-D
I was in a motorcycle accident in 2014. Couple broken bones, a brain bleed, skull fracture, and a mild TBI. My girlfriend (now wife) at the time, had her own bike and rode with her ex all the time. She's seen people crash and some passed, but it really shook her when she saw me in the hospital and instantly, she quit and forbid me to ride again. It's been 9 years this month and she threatens divorce. "How SHE puts it is, you can ride, I just won't stay around to witness your next accident." Soooooo that means you're threatening divorce. She won't admit that, but yes, thats exactly what she's saying. I have no joy anymore if I can't ride....it's a shame I made a commitment to her. Divorce isn't going to be my fault. If SHE wants out, she can be out.
As soon as I turned 16 and started working, my folks made it clear that I could have anything I wanted as far as Vehicles went. I've had 4 trucks, 1 Mustang and 3 motorcycles. Still currently with a truck and a bike. I'm also in a healthy relationship where not once have I ever had to choose between them or him.😁
Learn from a Motorcycle Cop-it's in their JOB description to know how to stay safe on a bike. Also,the longer you ride,the more things you learn about riding that can/will save your life. If you're a seasoned rider,offer to take your wife with you a few times and show her you know how to be a safe rider. Regarding the MSF Course,invite her to do the course with you,even if she doesn't want to ride;at least she'll know what the schooling of being a good rider looks like.
I just said “hey babe, when we get a house I plan on getting a bike and I want a big enough backyard for my own separate motorcycle shop in the backyard. That way you can have the garage” Her response: “Ok, you know I want you to have whatever you want, you work hard enough for it” Just communicate and be straight forward, Happy wife Happy life! Even though they are super dangerous and people can’t drive in Texas... I need to get this out of my blood, I need a motorkycal!!!
She-"I think it's time you should be more responsible and sell your Harley-I've talked to you before about this,but I'm gonna have to get tough on it now. Either the bike goes or I go. Make your choice." Me-"Well,I've had motorcycles since before I met you,and you never minded before. I don't wanna see you leave,but I'll help you pack." Problem solved.
My wife is pretty awesome about it too. I rode motorcycles before we were together and that definitely helps. She even took the MSF course and got her endorsement but never got her own bike as we had our first kid in the way shortly after. She cared more once there were little ones to think of (I do too). I switched to wearing a full face helmet and a quality jacket at all times. I also rarely ride at night and don’t ride to work into the city. I stick to the rural roads of west central FL for the most part. The hardest conversation was the, I want to buy a new bike conversation, but she eventually came around.
I'm always surprised that taking tests for safety is not mandaory in the US. I live in the Netherlands and had 16+ hours of theory lessons plus test. After that at least 20 hours of lessons on the road plus a test for slow driving and safety and a test for general behaviour in traffic.
I'm fairly sure that the basic (beginner) MSF course they provide bikes, usually a 250. The Advanced course, you ride your bike. Both are pretty good classes! Also, once you complete the course, you can take your card into Cycle Gear and get 15% off your total bill once..does not apply to everything.
For me, I took the class at harley, (fiancé still wasn't happy about it) She doesn't tell me I can't do anything she's scared that something will happen, living near Tampa and Orlando, we see a lot of bikers being hit (not knowing what happened). She knows I will do whatever I can to be safe and come home after I ride. She tells me she's going to have to take some time to warming up to it.
I always tell people the "its better to ask forgiveness" line and I think it is always taken as a joke. My landlord came by and was looking at my bike and he said he wants one but the wife won't let him and he points to her. I gave him that line and she shot me a look and said don't you dare. We all laughed, including her. I'm sure some people are serious when they say that though.
Great content. Riding in a group or at minimum one other rider allows you to be seen much better vs. riding alone. Yes the alpha wolves are out hot and heavy. Lol. Nothing wrong with being respectful to your significant other. A large life insurance policy can sometimes quiet a spouse down too.
I don’t have this problem but I just wanted to watch it. But my current girlfriend owns a horse. Now she used to own 4 but that’s besides the point.... she tells me as long as I let her have her horses she doesn’t mind me having my toys. She loves the idea of a bike and agrees with me that I’d probably save money using that as a commuter potentially.
That easy get I new Girlfriend or new ride . With me I had bike 1st but I been ride form age 6 . Lucky my grandpa got me one so that out ruled parents lol .
Easy guys, just come home with the bike. Do they tell you they are going to buy a new purse, shoes, jewelry etc...? Man up and go get your bike! No one is "asking for trouble ". 99% of women love a go getter, a decision maker, protecter, an alpha male. You become a yes dear, yes dear, yes dear guy before you know she will use your niceness and find her a alpha male on the side. I'm not saying be disrespectful about it. The only reason you need to say or do more then "hey babe I'm going to go buy my bike want to come help me pick one"? Is if you both are struggling financially and it may hinder your financial abilities. Maybe I'm just lucky but that's how my wife is. She respected that i stayed who i am because that's who she married. She liked riding so much she got her own bike.
We talked about it, and I bought a clean 94 heritage softtail. I promised I’d take a safety course. Fast forward a few thousand miles. She rode on the back. And couldn’t stop laughing. A few thousand miles later. She sees an Indian scout 60, and we gotn it for her, she takes a safety course , gets her license. %50 of the time she rides hers, and the other %50 she’s on the back of mine.
My wife loves that I rode when we first met. I stopped riding for about 3 years after my daughter was born.... Now I'm riding again. My wife never had a problem with me riding.
My girlfriend was against it forever but she eventually came around with rules & regulations of course one being taking an msf course & wearing gear & of course being as safe as possible
I took a course through my local Harley-Davidson dealer where I live and I passed, my first attempt at the msf course was through my state horrible experience. My second attempt was through Harley-Davidson awesome experience.
We talked about it, and I bought a clean 94 heritage softtail. I promised I’d take a safety course. Fast forward a few thousand miles. She rode on the back. And couldn’t stop laughing. I start showing her your videos, and Adam Sandoval’s videos with Ashley, and what do you know, A few thousand miles later. She sees an Indian scout 60, and we gotn it for her, she takes a safety course , gets her license. %50 of the time she rides hers, and the other %50 she’s on the back of mine.
My wife is not against me riding. I have been a rider before I met her and she loves motorcycles. She's always teasing me that I'm 2 old to be on 2 wheels and that I need a trike. She only worries about car drivers here in Georgia specially because I ride on one of the most dangerous interstates in Georgia everyday to get to work. I never ride in the rain but sometimes you got to ride at night. I told her that I will always drive or ride defensively. In a relationship you want to reassure your significant other that you will always be careful and be honest with her. Then she uped my life insurance. Lol!
I'm almost there convincing my wife to let me get my endorsement. I told her it'd be strictly a "weekend" toy. Not the commuter like I originally wanted. But I do believe that with a season of weekend rides she may be convinced to be ok with riding to work on occasion. That's my method of getting through.
safety is relative. bikes are more maneuverable, smaller, and can stop faster than those heavy cars. you trade the metal cage with seatbelts and airbags along with other injury reducing devices for those things. motorcycle safety mostly comes down to the rider's behavior and safety mindset. wearing proper gear, taking rider courses, and treating riding with the respect it warrants. my understanding is that most fatal motorcycle incidents result from the rider being stupid like riding way too fast or drinking and riding.
Never had a problem. My wife when we first met I owned a motorbike as with previous girlfriend's I owned motorcycles. Magazines I purchased during my school days was motorcycle magazines. My wife has told friends and strangers we meet at motorcycle events, dealerships ect that she met me knowing i am a biker and there is no point in changing me because i won't be that person who she fallen in love with. Only once did my wife, asking me to get rid of a bike that I was rebuilding as she was pregnant and needed the room for baby but said she buy me a replacement in which my wife did. We wasn't married then few years on sold that bike and was looking for a replacement on second hand market so far only owned Japanese bikes due to the availability on second hand market and very cheap. Anyway wife asked me would I like to look at the new harley Davidson dealer I ecstatically said yeah and on that day I owned a brand new harley Davidson which my wife helped with the deposit and okay everything for the finance. That was 15 years ago now have a softail and wife goes pavilion with me as much as she can. If she didn't like me being a biker we wouldn't got together in the first place and if she did try to change me she knows I would have left. Oh we got married when I had the harley and yes turned up at the registration on the harley and rode off together. 👍✌️
Blockhead, my wife leads me ride and she sometimes rides two up. My mission of the century is to get my wife to get on her own bike so we can ride together. She’s always low key likes bikes and at one point got on mine and took it around the block but she lost her footing one day consign to a stop and dropped it. Although she won’t come out and say it, she’s never wanted to ride alone after that. Blockhead how do I convince her to get back on it and eventually get her own.
My GF of 5 years is a nurse so she's seen the worse outcomes from motorcycles. I've road for many years before meeting her. I know she doesn't like it but she's never once tried to stop me from riding.
Basically this all comes down to a NEGOTIATION with your wife....if this is SOLELY a decision of you wanting to do something and they dont want you to, and NOT a financial issue (I can understand your wife not wanting you to buy a motorcycle if you are struggling to maintain your household and basic needs)...then you have other issues that have nothing to do with motorcycles. It is FINE for them to be worried and express that need for you to be safe, however if you are wanting to do something in life and they are basically saying you cant, well I would have issues with that...especially if I am the major breadwinner in the family (ie the only reason she doesnt want you to do it is that she doesnt "feel" that you should due to safety). Personal Risk is up to an individual....luckily my wife is understanding and realizes that I have my own judgement as to what risks I am willing to take and is NOT going to infringe on them. You have to assess how far you want to push your marriage and understand the reasoning behind them wanting you to not ride....if its because they had a family member who died on a bike thats one thing...but if its just because they dont want you to have it...well thats entirely another and you need to look at your relationship as a whole....as to me thats just someone being selfish because you have something you want in life and they simply want an excuse for you not to do it.....
that is true and false, my wife and I share about 50% likes, we both enjoy shooting and the same kind of movies, but she is no fan of motorcycles or the lifestyle, and I am no fan of young women's novel series and book club meetings. We also don't always watch the same tv shows, she avoids yard work and I avoid kitchen cleaning. Splitting duties and also having our own hobbies and likes makes it so our time together is as good as the time apart is welcomed. Ten years of marriage and 12 years together we must be doing something right...
Kyle Zapf I gotta agree, healthy relationships mean having some of your own interests. If mr were up in my business all the time I’d go crazy, so I respect his video game time 🤓🎮
Yeah I was actually poking fun I know a guy that rides bikes and his wife rides horses. But there has to be respect and trust. I have been married 26 years or so she rides some but doesn’t complain to much when I buy old bikes
Parent permission is a whole lot different than a significant other! Being young and inexperienced on the road spells disaster. Rarely is there ever a case where I would say buy a motorcycle a start riding unless riding is in your blood based on a family experience where you've been heavily exposed to riding on the street. An adult has to be 100% committed to riding and taking their life into their own hands. You have to be a defensive driver on a bike and if you don't possess that quality when driving a car, forget it! I'm a firm believer it takes two to have an accident. 9 times out of 10 when someone says it was unavoidable, I will find fault in both involved. Its hard to have a conversation with a person that knows someone that died on a motorcycle and tell them there are things the rider failed to do that may have contributed to their own death, so you just blame it on the motorcycle - don't buy a bike and start riding or you'll end up dead! I believe more in honoring the "fallen" and riding sensibly on the road. It is a risk but you must pick and choose the day to ride or night, your route you take might not always be the shortest distance, better to take a longer safer route if at all possible. Enjoy your ride, if you're angry then take the car! If you road rage about stupidity on the road, don't ride a motorcycle!!!
Don’t ask. If she doesn’t like it....tough. Do what you want. Don’t let your life be determined by someone else. Especially if she is too selfish to let you do something you enjoy.
*triggered alpha males have entered the chat
I know this is off topic but can you please do a walkthrough or updates of your cdr and ownership review? I'm considering one coming from a gsxr 600
Seriously man, i bet most of these "alpha males" dont have very strong/loving marriages if they just go out and do something that could cause them to not come home one day without considering their wives feelings about it...
Imo, if you have a serious partner you should always consider their feelings with things that could harm you and take you away from them, unfortunately riding can be very dangerous sometimes so you bet your ass me and my partner would be having a lot of long conversations about that if one of us decided we wanted to get into riding.
A car can carry more cases of beer, bags of dope, party animals, and women than a motorcycle…so on second thought I take back all my other comments.
It’s easy to say “I do what I what to do when I want to do it” ..... when you live alone.
Not to be a dick but lets be real Blockhead is in no position to hand out advice on this. He is not married and his GF is the one who wanted to ride. Neither of which makes him in any way qualified to give advice on this subject. You also don't have to be a triggered alpha male or a a shit marriage to have a conversation with your wife about what you are going to do.
My wife and I were married for 10 years before I had a REAL desire to ride and 17 before I actually got my first bike. Money was a huge reason for the wait. I try to do everything I can in the name of safety which has helped her be "ok" with it. She loves to ride with me but has no desire to ride her own which is just fine with me. Y'all that say "man up" or "get your balls out of her purse", good luck on your 2nd 3rd or 4th marraiges cause that's not how a relationship works. Finding a way to involve your spouse in your dream is the most important part. Just my opinion.
I have been with my wife for 16 years this August 2019, married for 8. It took 15 of those years it to getting her to ok with me riding. She bought my first bike for me last year. I just traded in that bike for my new Harley yesterday. Sure she was pissed, but she is quickly getting over that anxiety of the new, more powerful bike.
Here's how my conversation went.... Babe, I'm getting a bike.
That was it
Then the divorce then she gets half
Just name her in a $1,000,000 life insurance policy, she'll be pushing you out of the door to ride everyday
This is how my wife let me ride lol
No kidding. When I told her how much insurance I had she was all “so how fast will that bike go?”
My wife was happy with the choice and trusts that I will remain vigilant on a motorcycle. After 3 years of riding every day, her fears aren't alleviated really, but she wants one of her own... and our daughters do too. I created a motorcycle monster and I love it. Granted, the times she has been on the road with me, I scare her when I ride by myself, and it shows because she hugs me hard and fusses about taking risks and the ignorance of other drivers... That's love, fellas.
Men, be considerate of your wife's feelings. If it isn't about control, it is about love and worry about your future together. As a man you have a duty to provide, be reliable, be a part of the team that is Family, and honor your spouse through understanding at the very least. Not to mention your responsibility as a Father if you are one... So, be patient.
Great Video, Blockhead!
My ex-wife was not cool with motorcycles, so she's my ex-wife now. My new girlfriend previously had never thought much about bikes, but since I introduced her to mine, she fell in love with riding and is considering taking the MSF course and getting her own bike.
"How to convice ur wife to let u ride motorcycles" HEY! I'm going for a ride, BYE!!!
Thats how I do it too :D
That’s what I do and every now and then I’ll message the wife and let her know I’m okay.
When block makes you feel twice as single as you already are
I kinda made the "safety first" deal with my wife! I wear a full face helmet, took the MSF course @ local HD (wife said it was a must) an all that. However at 39 yrs old at the time, I told her either way it was happening! As far as actually buying the bike well..... "I asked for forgiveness" 😉
My wife never really liked the idea of me getting a motorcycle but she never said I couldn’t but there were stipulations like the MSF course, and I finally got her on the back for a ride around the neighborhood and now she wants to ride
My dad died unexpectedly last March from a heart attack. He retired the year before, we always talking about buying bikes and ride. My mom was the problem. I bought an Iron 2 weeks after he passed, because at 32, I don’t want to regret not doing something. So this was the time to do it. Lucky for me the Mrs. Mom and step dad ride so it wasn’t foreign. As for the purchase, I got it at a steal and what can she say really? Took my MSF course, excelled and really ride responsibly. Can’t prevent what others do, but I’m not regretting a thing.
My wife doesn't ride, doesn't really like motorcycles, and for the most part doesn't enjoy being around lots of motorcyclists at events; however when I told her i was going to take the MSF years back and then buy a motorcycle her response was "you do you, and buy some life insurance" nothing more to it than to do it gentlemen
That’s pretty much how it was for me too. Already had some great life insurance going into it though.
Your content is really approachable without being dense or too technical, and your style is very informative but also laid back (think Joe Rogan). Really dig your channel. Keep it up!
See this is why Marriages don’t last ,, she don’t own you do what makes you happy as she should also..this nonsense of wifes telling their husbands is ridiculous,, I have been married for over 25 years happily i might add,,because i always have been me never try’d or acted in way that wasn’t me,, you are partners no one is the boss of the other,, so to all you guys go get your Dam Balls out of the box in her panty drawer and go buy the dam bike.. so take it from someone who has been married for almost 3 decades,, life is to short to not be happy either she accepts you and your dreams or she doesn’t and its better to find out now than 10 years from now when you have wasted alot of your life away only to end up in divorce,, guys and gals life is to short trust me follow your dreams , of that dream is a bike go buy it... so Block i have been a sub with you since the beginning ,, but this time we are gonna have to agree to disagree on this one buddy,, thats why they say respect your elders because we know shit 😂😂😂
PhatboyHD88 ...here here! Men nowadays have become puppets for their wives. And most are afraid of their wives or girlfriends...what a pathetic shame!!!
So here is the deal from a 50 year old, once divorced. DO NOT let your significant other stop you from doing what you want. You will regret your decisons later in life. You only live one life, if you want to ride and the other half isn't cool with it....find another one. There are plently of fish in the sea. Also if you ride, be an organ donor and have life insurance to cover your lives expenses like kids and burial god forbid you die.
EXACTALACKLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Spot on brother. 30 year marriage consisting of total love support and respect given on my part blown up cause one day shes not happy. No other explanation offered except to say its complicated!? In the last year of healing and trying to get my shit together my only regret is all the times I capitulated to her demands and ultimatums. Never again life is too short to let anyone ever tell you what you can and can’t do. Blockhead love your channel but on this issue like many of us pre divorce you’re being a Simp.
What if you have 3 small kids with her like me.. just passed my test and she REALLY doesn't want me to get a bike?
I bugged my wife and she finally gave in. Bought her a helmet when I bought the bike and just came home one day a said “let’s go for a ride” she was hesitant but she went. She fell in love with it and now she rides her own. She says all the time she never would have imagined herself on a motorcycle. Minds can be changed. You can’t force it. Just wait till they are ready. Love the video Block!
Told my old lady I wanna buy a bike and start riding 3 years ago..she knew the dangers.she supported me 100% even after my first bad wreck on a sports bike (now I ride a cruiser) now she's on the verge of starting riding herself. Some of us are just lucky.
I am very fortunate in that she actually encouraged me to do it. She is in the process of getting her permit and license then a bike. That’s right after the safety course. We do a good bit of traveling and now I cant wait to take trips with her on the bikes. I have watched your “Learn to Ride” videos and they’ve helped tremendously, both her and me. Keep up the great work brother.
Let your significant other find your life insurance. Mine found my insurance and then encouraged me to take up riding.. She even came with me when I bought my first bike 6 months ago. She does not and will not ride. 30 years we've been together. What a star!
my old lady is 22 years old,, she never gripes, doesnt care what i do and she loves to be lubed up and rode hard.......oh wait thats my Harley!
My secret to having my wife supporting my riding, is be just enough of a pain in the ass for her to be glad to see me go on a motorcycle trip for 2-3 weeks but not enough to divorce me.
* Side note - I'm on my 4th. wife. So, you see it does take some development.
Lmao
Those learn to ride videos definitely helped. Been riding for the last 4 months and have around 2500 miles already
Somewhere I picked up that your achievement and happiness comes first and then safety third. Life is too short to have people that don’t respect your wants and needs. What you want is so important because later in life it gets harder to search those things out. I knew from 5 years of age motorcycles were my passion. It’s made me an extremely passionate person and I used that to relate to other things and people. There is an obvious risk. The moment you swing your leg over you choose to be in a glass box. Things will happen outside of your control. But the beauty of it is you have more control in a way. I would assume if you have a wife and kids already, it’d be hard to go buy a bike if you’re not experienced. I’m not married yet but the relationships I’ve been through didn’t support me. Neither did my best friend. So after college I moved across the country, sold my truck and fully committed to riding my 2018 Fat Bob. Could not imagine my life without motorcycles. They’re quite literally my therapy. Soon I’ll be buying another truck/dirt bikes and go racing again in Tennessee.
Love the channel! Shoutout from Chicago!
This is how I got my wife to be cool with riding. I took her with me to do my Motorbike Pre-Learners course. She unfortunately failed it because she is a tiny girl and did not feel confidant riding the honda cb125 they had. But she is cool with me riding now and is still going to get her license done eventually.
Truth. Best deal is to lay the framework before you even get married in the first place but I do realize some dont come to this point to later in life so then yeah, a MSF class and everything else is the way to go. Totally agree
Depending on the state, when you get a motorcycle permit it will come with restrictions such as no passengers and not riding at night.
My wife was always against me riding. One day I signed up for the Team Oregon class, then talked to her about it. I just want to try it. I may not like it. I might not be able to pass. After I passed, I told her that I was buying a bike. "I know" she said. Granted we'd been married 25+ years, so your results might vary. Celebrating 27 this year. Ride safe.
When I started dating my wife I already had a Harley,but she was terrified of bikes due to an accident on her older sister's boyfriend's bike-he missed a curve and nailed a tree at about 70,when she was 10 years old that left her in P/T for a year and wiped out the first 10 years of her memory. After 6 months or so we started doing just short,slow rides around the neighborhood,and built from there. After 10 years we'd been all over the West on the Harley,freeways,secondary highways,even gravel roads and fence line roads;she got comfortable enough she'd even doze off a bit on long rides,and I even taught her how to pick up the bike if it fell over,start it and ride it to the nearest assistance to bring help,just in case anything happened where I got too hurt to ride and get us home. (accident,snake bite,broken leg,etc.
The MSF thing about bring your own bike. in Missouri you can get your permit and then take the course on your bike. Stay safe
In Missouri, MSF 1 is on the school's bike. Msf 2 and 3 are on your own bike.
When i decided to start riding, i told my wife I was going to buy a bike. She rolled her eyes and said “ yeah right, knowing you, you’ll buy more than one”..... 3 years and 6 bikes later, here I am, and she still loves me. 😊
Solved that problem by not having a wife.
Took the HD MSF course up here in Michigan. Loved it. They offered many different time frames for the course, I did the week long course. It was a very positive experience and I recommend it to everyone.
Been lucky enough to know my wife when I was riding over 20 years ago and now she loves to ride as well. But we do have some stipulations on safety.
Just a little about my experience... I got my first bike 15 years into marriage.
1. Go through the whole plan with your SO and show your doing it with a level head.
2. Take the safety course.
3. Buy all the proper gear and show your SO that you will ride with it all. Attgatt
4. Practice safety every day
5. Get life insurance. Theres a lot of jokes there, but it's the responsible thing to do.
WHAT?? GET ANOTHER WIFE!!
Actually, nothing on that list was really required by my wife. I did it out of courtesty/respect for her. In the same way that i expected my wife to respect that i wanted to ride (responsibly).
to be honest, i would ride even if she didn't want me to... but if you approach it the right way, you won't have to deal with that drama.
Made my wife understand I am a volunteer firefighter( always gone ) and I will not have any less than 2 bikes, have three now. Second wife so at my age I wasn’t going to change. Last bike I got was a brand new Harley and she picked it out.
Get a bike before you start dating
When a girl sees you already been riding, she wouldn't forbid it as much compared to while dating or after marriage and you suddenly decide to ride
Totally correct, never change who you are. 👍
Totally correct, never change who you are 👍
Krazed Rider ...she has no right to forbid anything, while married or just being a girlfriend, unless it’s going with another woman...men should decide weather they ride or not, not their female partners, period!
I agree. She can’t squash it if it’s already part of who you are. If she try’s then it’s on her and you can run away on the bike. 😋
100% this. My GF of 5 years is a nurse so she's seen the worse outcomes from motorcycles. I've road for many years before meeting her. I know she doesn't like it but she's never once tried to stop me from riding.
I don’t even need to watch this video to know i need to send this to my wife 🤣! She was so against me getting one and is slowly coming to terms that I will be getting one whether she likes it or not! But thanks for the awesome videos as usual!
As someone else mentioned below. Take your significant other to the BRC course. Safe environment, small bike to ride. Even if they don’t take up riding they at least get some piece of mind that you can be safe.
Interesting topic. I fell in love with motorcycles at the age of 11 or so. Found a mini bike frame in the woods and attached a “borrowed” engine from a cement mixer. Didn’t have money so throttle control and brakes were nonexistent. Bald tires would just have to due. Road that thing for months until the police caught me. Oops. Man that thing was fun. Then when I was old enough, my parents were pretty much in the”hell no!” Camp. Wanted a moped, remember those? Parents didn’t want to hear it. Fast forward a whole bunch of years, I fell back in love with bikes. Took the MSF course, had a blast and got my endorsement. Wife hates it. I had an accident, kind of a freak thing, she said “you’re done, no more”. 6 months later I had a new bike. Wife still hating it, probably more than ever. I think the only reason she puts up with me is because she knows I put safety at the top of the list, I tend to ride pretty slow, I don’t ride at night and she knows riding is some serious “wind therapy”. A ride on the bike melts away stress and anxiety. She doesn’t like bikes, though she knows nothing about them (ignorance amplifies fear), but she does see that riding makes me happy. I’m hoping I can convince her to try the BRC1 course from the MSF. I think she’ll be hooked. Then, maybe I can be like Blockhead with my very own Ms. Block:-).
Ride safe brother.
Convinced her yet?
shaqdzl nope, still hates it. But my 13 year old daughter loves it.
@@bobellis2912 that's nice
I have ridden since dirt bike days about 38 years ago. Had my first accident on a street bike at 15. If you ride long enough things happen. In 2015 I was on a full touring bike and my wife of 20 years was on the back. A caged not paying attention caused an accident I couldn’t avoid. Result was 6 months missed work from my injuries and wife killed. I still ride and remarried and current wife has gone from back seat rider to getting her endorsement and her own bike. I am blessed and we ride as safe as possible and we always talk about being alert to cages and looking for subtle hints they might be about to make a dangerous move. Wear your gear. Always continue to practice ride techniques to be safe.
When I told my wife how I have had a desire to ride a bike for decades but never had the opportunity to get one, she encouraged me to take an MSF class, which I did.
We had visited two different cycle shops looking at models.
She told me to upgrade the helmet I had bought for the MSF class to a $750 high-end one.
Then she rapidly and inexplicably dug her heels in the turf and is absolutely opposed to me getting a bike.
Even received a 45 minute rant about:
It’s selfish of me to want one.
“Where would you ride it?”
“You always prioritize our family time, and now you want to go off riding sometimes?”
(Yes, you read that last one correctly)
“It’s an irresponsible use of money.”
(Trust me, money is not an issue on this one, we have blessed with a VERY comfortable income)
We are at a deeply uncomfortable stalemate on this.
Daniel Nicholson My wife literally said all the same things and was all about me getting my license.
3 cruises to Bermuda, where we rented scooters and went all over the island later...I came back, took MSF and now ride a Harley Sport Glide. I added sundowner seat and tour-pak for her. I actually rode it to my soccer game tonight, while my wife drove car with my son..at night (oh my!) married 23 years. A lot of life insurance helps too. Happy negotiations!
Blockhead you are the reason I traded in my Vulcan and bought my first Harley yesterday. I was so impressed by your videos with your Dyna that I decided it was the bike for me and I could not be happier with my decision. I have had it for 24 hours and have already put 450 miles on it. Decided to make it's maiden voyage, with me, a long one.
Thank you for helping me make that decision.
(2017 Dyna Street Bob, only 4,270 miles at point of sale. LOVE IT!)
Great PSA! Links to Kevin @MCRIDER And Greg @MotoJitsu .. dove tail well in this convo.
Wife was dead set against me getting a bike. After a few years of being persistent, a coworker had a bike for sale and she gave me the ok to get it. 2 years later she bought me a Harley for my Birthday.
I had bikes before I meet my wife, so I did not ask, I did informed her what I was doing, and made sure it was not going to hurt our finances. Still married for 37 years.
For me I had a couple exes who against it personally and they would never be seen near a bike but they didn't mind me riding so much because they saw that it was a way for me to bond with the dad I barely knew (he rides too and is what got me into riding other than the Terminator, but that's a long complicated story there involving divorce courts and custody hearings) so yeah. My current lady doesn't mind my motorcycle addiction.
Great advice.
Another way to view it (especially if someone hasn’t ridden before) is to just take the msf just to find out if you’re willing to die to ride. If you take the course and realize riding isn’t as amazing as hoped for, then at least you have an understanding of what motorcycles are capable of.
This kinda comes from my viewpoint that all cagers should take at least some of the msf course. That course made me a better driver in general.
As a woman some of these comments are just... Wow. Luckily I love to ride on bikes. Now I want to ride my own and looking into MSF course. But even still, if my husband rides without me I worry. It comes from love. Communication does matter in a relationship. But yes, common interests are wonderful in a relationship.
Bridgette McConnell omg yes, I ride and still worry... he does the same. Most stressful was following him home from dealer for an hour picking up the new bike seeing crazy yuppies speeding and weaving around him while staring at their phones. We both love riding though so we chalk it up to the chance you take when living and enjoying life. Our biggest argument these days is which bike to get next, lol 😂
I’ve had several bikes before I got married and wife was ok with that and rode with me until... I was on my way to work when a dump truck pulled out in front of me. The curve was off camber and when I hit the brakes I went down and hit the rear wheel of the truck. I was very lucky only had massive bruises from my lower back down to the back of my thigh. My left cheek of my butt was numb for almost a year. The kicker was the hospital I was taken to my wife worked in the X-ray dept. First she ask how I feel then the next words out of her mouth are I’m pregnant. Needless to say my riding days were done (for now). Fast forward kids grown and out of the house. Bam 💥 after 38 years divorced (friendly). New Sportster then new 2018 Softail Slim. I’m a happy camper even if it took a long time.
Long comment...This is the boat I was in. My wife rode with her dad when she was a kid. Much like Block, I rode dirtbikes as a kid up until i was like 14 or so. I wanted to get a motorcycle, she hated the idea. She pulled out all the excuses from "we can't afford it" to "you're gonna get killed" to "we have too many hobbies"... even "if you get a bike we'll get a divorce" (yeah I know they're crazy, maybe I should've let her divorce me)
Took over a year and a half of pushing and little fights and big fights.. but I had explained everything I could, but she wouldn't have it.
- So I moved on and started researching gear. I chose the helmet and jacket I wanted and waited for the perfect deals to save money. Searched a lot of ebay, got my stuff new with tags attached.. When she saw my helmet arrive she knew how serious I was about wanting to ride. I showed her the bike I wanted (883) and explained why this was the best option for me. As soon as we agreed on a color I knew i was good.
- I also had stipulations. I had to text her when I left and when I arrived where I was going to make sure I didn't die. After riding 4 months or so I bought the passenger pegs and a 2up seat. Took her to buy gear for her and now SHE is the one asking to go for a ride.
- Part of me wanted to go the "ask for forgiveness" route but I understand how crazy women can be.. Call me what you want, but I ended up getting exactly what I wanted in the end. Oh, another stipulation was that if i'm buying a bike, she is getting a perfect smile. So I got her smile direct club braces and now we're both happy.
Lol. You wore her right down to the bone. Hahahahaha 👍 Congratulations glad you both enjoy it. 😂
Nice, I just recently just wore my wife down to: "I won't leave you". Lolol
Note to self....
"Never piss off Superman when he is riding his bike."
Parents are divorced but my dad has been riding since he was a teenager. I’ve always gotten on the back of his to Daytona or poker runs. Recently been wanting to learn how to ride and figured it be great thing for me and my dad to do together. He bought me my first bike, (Honda Rebel 250) and I’m taking the course this week at East Orlando HD. Told my mom and she is totally against it. My husbands okay with it my dads exstatic. She says she’s okay with me riding on the back of my dads or husbands. I personally don’t see the difference. But Ive told her things as to how I’m gonna be safe and only go with my dad and husband and also, no I4. But she’s not happy. Nothing i can do 🤷🏽♀️
“hokay, so...”
Am I the only one that caught the “end of ze world” cartoon reference? Well played.
my dad had 7 motorcycles in his riding career. His advice to me was
'You're invisible. Quiet as a mouse. Fragile as glass. Everyone's out to get you. And you'll never win in an accident; so everyone else has the right of way."
It doesn't help that our city doesn't take very good care of the roads, either. Or that people are becoming more and more reliant on 'features' in cars that let them drive distracted.
I see teens about to get their licenses riding bicycles with phone in hand, and head down, and all I can think of is, "damn, you're about to get behind the wheel of a car.."
My mom found out about my first bike through some warranty info that came in the mail to my parent's house. I haven't lived at home since 2011 but that's still the address on my license. She first accused my dad of getting a bike and then allegedly cried when she found out it was me! Now she has all sorts of opinions about bikes and style... lol. She came around. But I'm not the first of my family to ride.
Great video!!! If she is not on board, then like some mention in the comments and Blockhead, take a MSF (most Harley dealerships offer and provide the bike). Get her to take it with you even though she may not have any desire to ride herself, she will have a better understanding and kudos if she decides to ride herself. If you put her on the back, try to make it as comfortable as possible. Next point from hearing this from women over the years: DON'T RIDE LIKE A BAT OUT OF HELL with her on the back (2 up) scaring the crap out of her. Just don't do it, you lost from that point on. Some good comments and some bad comments below. Divorces are expensive especially with kids involved so be smart about it and have honest communication if she is not on board at first. Ride safe.
Yeah I'm defo watching this vlog 😂
I got lucky, when I met my wife about 30 years ago i was racing motorcycles. They have just been a part of life ever since
When I was married the wife said no motorcycles, and I honored that because family first. Now that I'm divorced I have a motorcycle, looking to get a second. I would still say if your partner is really against it, you probably shouldn't get one. A partner I mean lol. I kid, but seriously... Do right by your family, if you love her (or him) just respect their wishes and keep pestering them until you get what you want. :-D
*Rolls into driveway* Look what I found!
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I was in a motorcycle accident in 2014. Couple broken bones, a brain bleed, skull fracture, and a mild TBI. My girlfriend (now wife) at the time, had her own bike and rode with her ex all the time. She's seen people crash and some passed, but it really shook her when she saw me in the hospital and instantly, she quit and forbid me to ride again. It's been 9 years this month and she threatens divorce. "How SHE puts it is, you can ride, I just won't stay around to witness your next accident." Soooooo that means you're threatening divorce. She won't admit that, but yes, thats exactly what she's saying. I have no joy anymore if I can't ride....it's a shame I made a commitment to her. Divorce isn't going to be my fault. If SHE wants out, she can be out.
As soon as I turned 16 and started working, my folks made it clear that I could have anything I wanted as far as Vehicles went. I've had 4 trucks, 1 Mustang and 3 motorcycles. Still currently with a truck and a bike. I'm also in a healthy relationship where not once have I ever had to choose between them or him.😁
Buy her one! That’s how my husband convinced me!
Learn from a Motorcycle Cop-it's in their JOB description to know how to stay safe on a bike. Also,the longer you ride,the more things you learn about riding that can/will save your life. If you're a seasoned rider,offer to take your wife with you a few times and show her you know how to be a safe rider. Regarding the MSF Course,invite her to do the course with you,even if she doesn't want to ride;at least she'll know what the schooling of being a good rider looks like.
I just said “hey babe, when we get a house I plan on getting a bike and I want a big enough backyard for my own separate motorcycle shop in the backyard. That way you can have the garage”
Her response: “Ok, you know I want you to have whatever you want, you work hard enough for it”
Just communicate and be straight forward, Happy wife Happy life!
Even though they are super dangerous and people can’t drive in Texas... I need to get this out of my blood, I need a motorkycal!!!
She-"I think it's time you should be more responsible and sell your Harley-I've talked to you before about this,but I'm gonna have to get tough on it now. Either the bike goes or I go. Make your choice."
Me-"Well,I've had motorcycles since before I met you,and you never minded before. I don't wanna see you leave,but I'll help you pack." Problem solved.
Right on. 👍
My wife is pretty awesome about it too. I rode motorcycles before we were together and that definitely helps. She even took the MSF course and got her endorsement but never got her own bike as we had our first kid in the way shortly after. She cared more once there were little ones to think of (I do too). I switched to wearing a full face helmet and a quality jacket at all times. I also rarely ride at night and don’t ride to work into the city. I stick to the rural roads of west central FL for the most part. The hardest conversation was the, I want to buy a new bike conversation, but she eventually came around.
I know! lol, you say hey, I will be back later. :) Simple and easy lol
I'm always surprised that taking tests for safety is not mandaory in the US. I live in the Netherlands and had 16+ hours of theory lessons plus test. After that at least 20 hours of lessons on the road plus a test for slow driving and safety and a test for general behaviour in traffic.
I'm fairly sure that the basic (beginner) MSF course they provide bikes, usually a 250. The Advanced course, you ride your bike. Both are pretty good classes! Also, once you complete the course, you can take your card into Cycle Gear and get 15% off your total bill once..does not apply to everything.
For me, I took the class at harley, (fiancé still wasn't happy about it) She doesn't tell me I can't do anything she's scared that something will happen, living near Tampa and Orlando, we see a lot of bikers being hit (not knowing what happened). She knows I will do whatever I can to be safe and come home after I ride. She tells me she's going to have to take some time to warming up to it.
I always tell people the "its better to ask forgiveness" line and I think it is always taken as a joke. My landlord came by and was looking at my bike and he said he wants one but the wife won't let him and he points to her. I gave him that line and she shot me a look and said don't you dare. We all laughed, including her. I'm sure some people are serious when they say that though.
Great content. Riding in a group or at minimum one other rider allows you to be seen much better vs. riding alone. Yes the alpha wolves are out hot and heavy. Lol. Nothing wrong with being respectful to your significant other. A large life insurance policy can sometimes quiet a spouse down too.
Take your lady with you when you get you're gear so she knows you got good stuff, and she can see the difference for herself.
That's real sad, not let them! I'm so lucky that my wife Ms Tink also rides.🍻🤙
I don’t have this problem but I just wanted to watch it. But my current girlfriend owns a horse. Now she used to own 4 but that’s besides the point.... she tells me as long as I let her have her horses she doesn’t mind me having my toys. She loves the idea of a bike and agrees with me that I’d probably save money using that as a commuter potentially.
That easy get I new Girlfriend or new ride . With me I had bike 1st but I been ride form age 6 . Lucky my grandpa got me one so that out ruled parents lol .
Easy guys, just come home with the bike. Do they tell you they are going to buy a new purse, shoes, jewelry etc...? Man up and go get your bike! No one is "asking for trouble ". 99% of women love a go getter, a decision maker, protecter, an alpha male. You become a yes dear, yes dear, yes dear guy before you know she will use your niceness and find her a alpha male on the side. I'm not saying be disrespectful about it. The only reason you need to say or do more then "hey babe I'm going to go buy my bike want to come help me pick one"? Is if you both are struggling financially and it may hinder your financial abilities.
Maybe I'm just lucky but that's how my wife is. She respected that i stayed who i am because that's who she married. She liked riding so much she got her own bike.
All the people that say its better to ask for forgiveness rather than permission have never had to make alimony payments.
We talked about it, and I bought a clean 94 heritage softtail. I promised I’d take a safety course. Fast forward a few thousand miles. She rode on the back. And couldn’t stop laughing. A few thousand miles later. She sees an Indian scout 60, and we gotn it for her, she takes a safety course , gets her license. %50 of the time she rides hers, and the other %50 she’s on the back of mine.
My wife loves that I rode when we first met. I stopped riding for about 3 years after my daughter was born.... Now I'm riding again. My wife never had a problem with me riding.
My girlfriend was against it forever but she eventually came around with rules & regulations of course one being taking an msf course & wearing gear & of course being as safe as possible
I took a course through my local Harley-Davidson dealer where I live and I passed, my first attempt at the msf course was through my state horrible experience. My second attempt was through Harley-Davidson awesome experience.
We talked about it, and I bought a clean 94 heritage softtail. I promised I’d take a safety course. Fast forward a few thousand miles. She rode on the back. And couldn’t stop laughing. I start showing her your videos, and Adam Sandoval’s videos with Ashley, and what do you know, A few thousand miles later. She sees an Indian scout 60, and we gotn it for her, she takes a safety course , gets her license. %50 of the time she rides hers, and the other %50 she’s on the back of mine.
My wife is not against me riding. I have been a rider before I met her and she loves motorcycles. She's always teasing me that I'm 2 old to be on 2 wheels and that I need a trike. She only worries about car drivers here in Georgia specially because I ride on one of the most dangerous interstates in Georgia everyday to get to work. I never ride in the rain but sometimes you got to ride at night. I told her that I will always drive or ride defensively. In a relationship you want to reassure your significant other that you will always be careful and be honest with her. Then she uped my life insurance. Lol!
I'm almost there convincing my wife to let me get my endorsement. I told her it'd be strictly a "weekend" toy. Not the commuter like I originally wanted. But I do believe that with a season of weekend rides she may be convinced to be ok with riding to work on occasion. That's my method of getting through.
How'd it go?
As Adam Sandoval says....Buy the Damn Bike !
Ok, get Ms. Blockhead to call her.
I don't have to convince mine, she rides too, 2019 Heritage with a 114.
safety is relative. bikes are more maneuverable, smaller, and can stop faster than those heavy cars. you trade the metal cage with seatbelts and airbags along with other injury reducing devices for those things. motorcycle safety mostly comes down to the rider's behavior and safety mindset. wearing proper gear, taking rider courses, and treating riding with the respect it warrants. my understanding is that most fatal motorcycle incidents result from the rider being stupid like riding way too fast or drinking and riding.
I’m 24, single & living on my own. I didn’t have to convince anyone to let me ride 😂
Congratulations, it is probably better to stay that way.
JakeFromStateFarm94 _ Smart man!!!!
Never had a problem. My wife when we first met I owned a motorbike as with previous girlfriend's I owned motorcycles. Magazines I purchased during my school days was motorcycle magazines. My wife has told friends and strangers we meet at motorcycle events, dealerships ect that she met me knowing i am a biker and there is no point in changing me because i won't be that person who she fallen in love with. Only once did my wife, asking me to get rid of a bike that I was rebuilding as she was pregnant and needed the room for baby but said she buy me a replacement in which my wife did. We wasn't married then few years on sold that bike and was looking for a replacement on second hand market so far only owned Japanese bikes due to the availability on second hand market and very cheap. Anyway wife asked me would I like to look at the new harley Davidson dealer I ecstatically said yeah and on that day I owned a brand new harley Davidson which my wife helped with the deposit and okay everything for the finance. That was 15 years ago now have a softail and wife goes pavilion with me as much as she can. If she didn't like me being a biker we wouldn't got together in the first place and if she did try to change me she knows I would have left. Oh we got married when I had the harley and yes turned up at the registration on the harley and rode off together. 👍✌️
Blockhead, my wife leads me ride and she sometimes rides two up. My mission of the century is to get my wife to get on her own bike so we can ride together. She’s always low key likes bikes and at one point got on mine and took it around the block but she lost her footing one day consign to a stop and dropped it. Although she won’t come out and say it, she’s never wanted to ride alone after that. Blockhead how do I convince her to get back on it and eventually get her own.
My GF of 5 years is a nurse so she's seen the worse outcomes from motorcycles. I've road for many years before meeting her. I know she doesn't like it but she's never once tried to stop me from riding.
Basically this all comes down to a NEGOTIATION with your wife....if this is SOLELY a decision of you wanting to do something and they dont want you to, and NOT a financial issue (I can understand your wife not wanting you to buy a motorcycle if you are struggling to maintain your household and basic needs)...then you have other issues that have nothing to do with motorcycles. It is FINE for them to be worried and express that need for you to be safe, however if you are wanting to do something in life and they are basically saying you cant, well I would have issues with that...especially if I am the major breadwinner in the family (ie the only reason she doesnt want you to do it is that she doesnt "feel" that you should due to safety). Personal Risk is up to an individual....luckily my wife is understanding and realizes that I have my own judgement as to what risks I am willing to take and is NOT going to infringe on them. You have to assess how far you want to push your marriage and understand the reasoning behind them wanting you to not ride....if its because they had a family member who died on a bike thats one thing...but if its just because they dont want you to have it...well thats entirely another and you need to look at your relationship as a whole....as to me thats just someone being selfish because you have something you want in life and they simply want an excuse for you not to do it.....
If you and your wife don’t enjoy the same things it’s probably not gonna work out anyway.
that is true and false, my wife and I share about 50% likes, we both enjoy shooting and the same kind of movies, but she is no fan of motorcycles or the lifestyle, and I am no fan of young women's novel series and book club meetings. We also don't always watch the same tv shows, she avoids yard work and I avoid kitchen cleaning. Splitting duties and also having our own hobbies and likes makes it so our time together is as good as the time apart is welcomed. Ten years of marriage and 12 years together we must be doing something right...
Kyle Zapf I gotta agree, healthy relationships mean having some of your own interests. If mr were up in my business all the time I’d go crazy, so I respect his video game time 🤓🎮
Yeah I was actually poking fun I know a guy that rides bikes and his wife rides horses. But there has to be respect and trust. I have been married 26 years or so she rides some but doesn’t complain to much when I buy old bikes
I basically convinced her to do the course with me and now we always ride
Parent permission is a whole lot different than a significant other! Being young and inexperienced on the road spells disaster. Rarely is there ever a case where I would say buy a motorcycle a start riding unless riding is in your blood based on a family experience where you've been heavily exposed to riding on the street. An adult has to be 100% committed to riding and taking their life into their own hands. You have to be a defensive driver on a bike and if you don't possess that quality when driving a car, forget it! I'm a firm believer it takes two to have an accident. 9 times out of 10 when someone says it was unavoidable, I will find fault in both involved. Its hard to have a conversation with a person that knows someone that died on a motorcycle and tell them there are things the rider failed to do that may have contributed to their own death, so you just blame it on the motorcycle - don't buy a bike and start riding or you'll end up dead! I believe more in honoring the "fallen" and riding sensibly on the road. It is a risk but you must pick and choose the day to ride or night, your route you take might not always be the shortest distance, better to take a longer safer route if at all possible. Enjoy your ride, if you're angry then take the car! If you road rage about stupidity on the road, don't ride a motorcycle!!!
Don’t ask. If she doesn’t like it....tough. Do what you want. Don’t let your life be determined by someone else. Especially if she is too selfish to let you do something you enjoy.