ASMR 12 Things I Learned in My 20s (Soft Spoken)
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“What does not align with me is not meant for me” is a lesson I learned here in my 30’s. It’s one of the toughest because I feel like we’re wired to believe everything will or can work out. Sometimes it’s better if it doesn’t and that’s ok. Growth can still happen when something doesn’t align.
YES! Sometimes it's better when things don't work out. Also I think sometimes it's nice to look at something and just be like: oh, that thing isn't FOR me, it isn't mine, that's a good thing that's gotta go find someone else, and that's okay 😛
@@MauveASMR yes exactly!!
The part about not trusting my future self to make good choices, by wanting to plan everything now, was mind-blowing, life-changing for me. I feel like you gave me a summary of some lessons I've also learnt these past years, but I had never put into concise words.
A good affirmation that I have for when "What if it's easy?" goes wrong, and I'm actually facing something difficult, is "You can do hard things". It has helped me keep my motivation.
Thanks for a great video, Mauve.
So glad that one resonated with you! Also yes, totally-- "you can do hard things!" I have something like that too but tbh it goes more like "you're tough as shit!" 😂
When my sister was in law school she had a little sign on her desk that said “If we don’t sacrifice for what we want, what we want becomes the sacrifice”. Im working and studying in Japan now trying to improve my Japanese, and I always think of that when I’m feeling too lazy to study.
Timestamps for the list
1) 01:30 - Talk to yourself as you would a dear friend
2) 03:22 - As long as you are paying attention, you are not goung to wake up in a life you hate.
3) 07:00 - Gradual change is lasting change
4) 09:07 - There are some things that you can't think your way out of
5) 12:00 - Boundaries are agreements you make with yourself
6) 14:40 - Change is uncomfortable
7) 17:06 - What other people think of me is none of my business
8) 19:35 - The right decision is the one you make
9) 22:10 - what does not align with me is not meant for me
10) 24:30 - Real love is not cool or flashy but it endures and you feel it
11 & 12) 27:35 - How can I make it easy? / What if it were easy?
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Aww thank you, and thank you for being here 🤗💜💜
thanks for sharing this! i’m entering my 20s this year, so it feels particularly relevant. “there are some things you can’t think your way out of” resonated with me especially - i have a tendency to stew on my problems to the point where it does more harm than good, and hearing you share how letting things unfold can often be for the best was incredibly poignant. incredible video as always!
You sound just like me! I had/have the same tendency, and it has been such a good thing for me to learn how to let go and find a little more ease 😊
"Wake up babe, new Mauve upload just dropped!" This is yet another incredible video and the tingles are out of this world. Just turned 30 myself, so I love all these reflections and makes me think of my own!!
So glad you got into it! If you think of any of your own you'd like to share, I'm all ears!! We can all learn from each other 😊
I am 18 right now so I’ll probably can learn a lot from this, excited to see what you learned 😍❤️
As a 23 year old, I find some of these slowly coming true for myself. I used to worry about things a lot, now I just tentatively plan things and if they work out, it works out. If not, no sweat, life moves on. Another is being grateful for things, too many times as a younger adult I took food, shelter etc for granted. It's a wonderful feeling
Absolutely! A little gratitude can change everything, and this is something I've been reminding myself of a lot lately 💜💜
Also 23 and I agree on these things
Your penmanship is incredible, I'm genuinely jealous
Thank you! 💜
I really like the way you did this video, and of course thank you for sharing your insights :) as someome in their early 20s these are really nice to hear
I'm glad you liked it! I love advice videos like these too, and I think I always will! 🤗
Being uncomfortable in change is something I just recently learned. It’s nice to hear that others get sad and uncomfortable with change as well :-)
Absolutely! Change is sometimes hard and often feels strange 💜
In my 30's I have learnt to try and help my family and friends out a lot more and be nicer to them even in uncomfortable moments because it gives more meaning to life which is what makes myself and people in general happy. Once you have kids it's a lot less about yourself and it's basically all for your family. Things that stress you out in your 20s don't even matter anymore. Way less time to think about it tryna run a household
Loved this so much ❤ wrote down each one too so I could remember. I resonate so much with each one and definitely needed to hear these again in this phase of life. You have such a caring and authentic aura and it makes me feel like we’re chatting over coffee having a meaningful convo. Appreciate your content so much! 🙏🥰❤️
Ahhh Stacy thank you so much! You are such a gem and I feel exactly the same way about you, so I'm super happy to hear I was able to give you some useful things to pocket! Thanks for being here 💜🤗
22:35 In Scotland we have an old saying “whits for ye will no go by ye” 💞
(basically “what’s for you won’t go past you”)
I love that!!
This was very enjoyable. I love hearing others wisdom. You made it tingly too. Thank you!
One that I like is learn what is in your control and focus on that. All else is not yours to control.
I love that! Thanks for sharing it!
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Such nice hand writing !
9:39 Major key !
Thanks!! 💜
This is everything I needed to hear. Thank you :-)
Wow Mauve you are ever so wise!
Hahah thank you 💁🏻♀️
Hey Mauve, it's been a while since I've dropped in to say hi so here's a quick little life update. School is going good and I've made lots of friends and a few really good ones. I made a bad decision and had a falling out with my best friend but I also found somebody special in the process. Life is decent right now and im hopeful for the new year.
You have such beautiful handwriting!😍
Thanks! So kind 🤗
Writing in paper is very interesting. It attracts the content a lot
Thank you for making this I needed to hear it 💕
Your advice is always so soothing to me. It makes me feel like I’m on the right track.
Sometimes if I’m getting worked up about something or I’m mad or whatever I’ll ask “what story am I telling myself?” We all have stories and ideas about ourselves and others that we can get sucked into. I try to check myself and see if the story is helping me. If it’s the cause of my strife, can I switch up the story and therefore switch up the perspective?
Oo nice, thanks for adding that one! Also I KNOW you're on the right track bc it sounds like you do what you can to be thoughtful and intentional 💜
Great video as always. : )
My lesson is to protect your head. I got a brain injury, and got the holy trinity of fun: severe pain, cognitive problems, and complete loss of emotions.
It’s been nearly three years since I’ve felt anything, so I’d like to say appreciate your emotions. Even the bad ones. Because that’s better than feeling nothing. And living in permanent gray.
Fortunately, I’m a stubborn bastard. So I’ll be ok. Even if I’m dumb and numb. ; )
Thanks for reading. Hope everyone has a great day.
Oh man I'm really sorry to hear that. Thank you for sharing--it's unbelievable sometimes how quickly your whole world can change. Wishing you a gentle recovery, with lessened pain and a full return of your emotions, even if it's slow in arriving 💜
Hello! Great video! Happy Monday ❤❤
Hi hi! Thank you, and happy Monday!
I found it surprising to hear that you don’t consider yourself particularly analytical, given how you tend to articulate yourself in such a thoughtful, well-developed, and layered manner. Just out of curiosity, how would you describe yourself in contrast to analytical? Would “reflective” be a quality that resonates more with you?
Ooo such a good question. Yes, maybe reflective or introspective or thoughtful! I tend to make decisions based on the way I FEEL about things, not the way I THINK about them, and I don't really reach for data sets to understand something but rather art/narrative/intuition -- so I don't really consider myself analytical :)
@@MauveASMR makes perfect sense, thanks for clarifying! I feel like I have one foot in both camps, because I’m a fellow INFJ, buuut I’m just about as Virgo as it gets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, AND Mars all in Virgo)… so there’s constantly this inner tension between Ni and the compulsive need to rationalize everything. I think, however, experience has taught me that following my intuition almost never fails, whereas neglecting it can lead to analysis paralysis. Anyway, lovely video as always (actually the entire self-reflection playlist just might be my favorite section on your channel), and I’m really looking forward to today’s as well!
@@themischa "analysis paralysis" -- love that! Wrt to the "you can't think your way out of it" advice in this video, for me it applies less to strict analysis and more to emotionally-minded thought cycles/loops that never arrived anywhere, just to further clarify. Also don't get me wrong, I LOVE orderly info, as you can see on my channel 😅 But in terms of how I actually behave in / think about the world, it's very emotional/qualitative and not analytical/quantitative at all. Anyway thanks for sharing about you too! We sound similar for sure 👯
I think it is very difficult to find people that are thought provoking in the way that i tend to consume media i already agree with but every video i watch of yours, i don't just agree but also learn.
Aw thanks for sharing this with me! 🤗💜
Sooooo excited for this one!!!
To answer where your positive self talk comes from, probably your parents/caregivers! It’s so important how adults communicate with children because they carry that with them into adulthood
Totally! I definitely agree
I need to learn #7 so badly.
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Can't wait to hear what you learned in your 30's.
Sit tight bb! 😘
Aspen is waiting for ya 😅
i like your english accent where do you come from?
I'm from the Midwest but I speak other languages too so occasionally people think I have an accent (usually only if I've been speaking a lot of another language and my English gets rusty, which hasn't happened in a long time, but) :)
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All these are more of a realisations then learnings..
Think of it like bits of advice :)
@@MauveASMR okay.. thanks