This is so hard to hear, much less grasp the extent of suffering you’ve experienced. I lost the majority of my contacts and relationships a long time ago, which sucked goats, but I got to rebuild something better with people I truly care about. The wind is changing, so don’t be surprised if some of them come back right out of the blue one day. Remember you are not the sum of their insecurities and we - yes, WE - support you and love you.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish You heartwarming response is all I need to make me feel good and I am always here if you need a friend to chat with or listen!❤️💕
Sorry to hear all the suffering. But life goes on and end of the day they still your parents/family that they can't ignore. But I'm hear for you anytime. ❤ Your so beautiful indeed I would happily propose to you to make your life more better with happiness and joy and love.
My father disowned me after I came out to them for having a trans girlfriend (now my wife). We never spoke again. After my father's funeral (that I wasn't invited to) my mom eventually came around and we have a good relationship today. It wasn't easy but at the same time the adversity (wasn't just this facet) also brought my wife and I closer together. We've been together for 22 years now.
@@exnihilo415 I'm sorry to hear that, my boyfriend also worries how his parents react and hasn't told them I’m trans. I feel like they probably know but it hasn't been spoken out loud. Its great that your mum came around and 22 years of marriage - wow congrats!
This is so sad, but I can totally relate. Having transitioned young myself, in the late 90s I lost all my family. But over 20yrs later I have got a good relationship with my family now. And they were all at my wedding last month
As someone who is a fierce advocate for her own child, I am so sorry to hear your mum didn't have your back. You deserve better. I hope she continues to come round and work through her own fears, and one day can look back and give you the apology you deserve. x
Hearing your story and reading all these comments about other trans woman losing their families for coming out breaks my heart. I have 3 almost adult kids and I don’t think there is anything in this world they could do to make me cut them out of my life. I just can’t imagine. I’m a more conservative in my life and views but before anything I’m a mom. If my kid come out as trans or gay I would be worried about their safety and the life they’re going to face but I think that would just make me that much more protective of them. I’m so sorry to all you that have lost people in your lives that was supposed to support and love you no matter what. If you can’t love your children absolutely unconditionally then you have no business being a parent.
I think finding out my parents' love was conditional has been the hardest part of my transition. I am one one year out of the closet, but I hope I can push past it as you have.
You weren't brave enough before to tell people but look at you now ... Your telling the whole world your trans and helping others too 😊 stay positive and your a very beautiful woman don't let no one tell you otherwise.
Girl this is sad 🫂 I'm really glad you're fine in the end though 💜 My parents are thankfully supportive but trans people have so little representation in my country that the rest of my family would never understand, for now I just didn't tell anyone in my family, I did go see my grandma recently and she made fun of me the whole evening for wearing nail polish :(
@@TrashcanAccount some people just don't get it unfortunately but its great that you have supportive parents, maybe your grandma will understand in time ❤️
I'm so sorry to hear that your family disowned you. A family's love should be unconditional, as long as they haven't done anything like crimininally and morally illegal, then i might get it; but this is just ignorance and bigotry, the way they treated you... You're beautiful, and keep being you lovlie x
Ugh ... I understand that far too well. You're invited but you know your family doesn't want you at gatherings but tries to make it look like it's your choice. Thanks for sharing this as loads of other people can relate to this and apperciate it ❤
I realized I am trans this month and am transitioning. No HRT yet as this takes a process in Germany, but I’m wearing female clothes, a wig, makeup, bras, etc. No contact with my father or the rest of my family, and I haven’t told my mother yet. I don’t know how she would take it. Still no clue when I will tell her.
Hello. Thank you for sharing your story. You seem to be a brave, intelligent, complete and beautiful person (physically and personally). I really wish and will pray that yourife just keeps getting better and better - and especially that your boyfriend knows just how lucky he is to be sharing his life with you. One of the wonderful life lessons we humans learn from our cats and dogs (I have a beautiful boxer dog) - is that they simply love each of us "unconditionally"! When I discovered the 'fe' in my 'male' body & and began a new wonderful wardrobe and living as 'me' (expressing our 'fe-male' self) - Henry still kept on loving me and me him - as usual!!! I have been fortunate to have a very special and wonderful wife and genuinely understanding family and friends - who can see how I am even more now than the mere 'male' they had grown up with or known before. While it is totally your call, I think it might be a really good thing for you to take the initiative - and reach out to your mum's / dad's family simply to make sure they understand why it was that you didn't see them at Christmas etc 'family' get togethers - and especially why you didn't feel able to see your dad as he was dying. I actually think that just meeting you after all this tims - and having the chance to see what a wonderful person you clearly are - they would really appreciate you reaching out to at least explain what was happening in your life - and you and they can decide how you want to go forward - either making up for lost experiences and 'family' stuff - or not. What have you got to lose?? Also - as a final thought and nothing more, clearly it was tough that your dad was living in the way he was - and especially that he lost out on so much in his all too short life (especially seeing you and helping you grow up)because of his drug affected life. All I suggest is that often there are reasons for people going down that destructive path. In his case, wouldn't it be so important for you (& possibly for you to help his own family and possibly even your mum) to explore - from your dad's own childhood - such az it may still be remembered - whether - just possibly - his turning to drugs & their lifestyle consequences - may have been because he also realised and experienced that he was and wanted to live snd express himself ass 'herself' as a trans-gender-female - just like you have. It would be perfectly logical snd reasonable - medically and biologically jf perhaps he did have the same feelings as you had jn his teens. Only then - things were even worse in the society in which he was growing up - and so he possibly turned to drugs to ease the pain he may have really felt deep inside that be could never 'be who he felt like' in terms if his gender self expression. Realising even that possibility - might actually even help his surviving family and your mum - even now - find 'healing' and 'understanding' and 'peace' in their lives and memories of your dad. It might also help you with what was understandably your 'loss' and 'feelings possibly of guilt for not going to see him to say good bye before he died. All a bit deep perhaps - but truly, seeing and listening to you quite by chance on your yourube post has helped me - & so I simply wanted before moving on - to share these 'outsider' yet hopefully empathetic fellow human being - and gender expressing person - in the hope that they may help you to grow and have as full and happy and rewarding a life as you can. While I totally understand your love of your cats as the 'children' in your life - I also totally sense that you would be an AWESOME Mum &/or Auntie' & would urge you and your boyfriend (with help perhaps from your newly connected broader 'family' to seek to adopt one or more children - who really could do with a great mum (& dad) to give them the love and good parenting that I feel sure you could and would give them!! Huge responsibility - & - perhaps almost impossible given the "adoption" system - but hey - nothing ventured!!!! Cheers and have a grest life!!! 😊😊😊❤❤❤
Thank you for your comment :) its true about animals loving us unconditionally, as long as you give them the love they need they don't care what we do 😻 I may reach out to my family one day but I'm not sure how or who I would want to contact, to be honest and I don't think I'm in the right place in my life (though I may seem ok I suffer with social anxiety) It’s an interesting take on my father, of course I can't be certain but from what I know of him I don't think that was the case. And my boyfriend does have 2 children from his past relationship so I have them, for me I’m not sure I want my own children to be honest.
You really had a hard time in growing up and finding out you’re trans? But you grew up to beautiful person. A lot of trans women take things for granted as to where you definitely struggled and sacrifice a lot! Just keep in mind you are a beautiful person regardless of what happens! You need the support and you deserve and have mine!❤️💕
That sounds so hard. Grief is not easy or based on "allowed" or "deserving" levels of contact. It is whst it is. The rest of your family might be better than you/your mum might have thought.
I'm so sorry your family let you down so badly. But look at you! You're so lovely and kind. Who, in their right mind, would not be proud to have you as a daughter?
The last words my sister ever said to me: "Do whatever you want". The last thing my dad ever said to me: "I don't approve. Talk to your mother". The last thing my mom ever said to me...... "You will always be ugly, you will always be stupid. I never understood why we waste our time with you. Don't contact us again [deadname]. We are changing our number". My mom is already preparing for her end, she got the urn and everything. That was almost 2 years ago. I *think* I know what time zone they live in. And I changed my number too. When I turn 60, I will have to assume they passed.
I really like talking to you because besides Nikki Chanel you are the only other trans woman that gives a true darn about your viewers! There are others but they seem unavailable to respond so I truly thank you for responding to me?❤️💕😍🥰😘😇
Sorry to hear about your family. Earlier I came across a video regarding these topics and the person did what I always felt one of my own parents would do...suggesting psychotherapy. Truly hope you won't mind but I brought you and a few others up I've come across on YT because I am quite surprised by some things. Another video you mentioned your age like others have which always felt alone growing up. Some friends grew up wanting to appear muscular whereas myself being thin and getting my belly pierced. Truly hope you won't mind, I've never been to an actual peer support group that where I go offers. When It comes to loss of friendship, long time friend out of nowhere after expressing interest in their older brother blocked me, while ultimately if I may...if that's the reason why rather not be friends.
Thank you and I don't mind you bringing me up in conversation :) unfortunately a lot of us do have to go through losses during our transition but like you say if they can't accept you then you're better off without them.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish Glad to hear that. Went shopping after well window shopping in the sense. Saw a few brand names I kept seeing on ThredUp, still have yet to find the brand "Don't Ask Why" but I did see others on that site which in a sense lessened my anxiety. Every time I see that brand name on that website I'm always asking myself don't ask why what?. Shopping in store is so much more peaceful, mentally vs creeped out over someones choice of words.
This is such a sad story, I’m sorry you’ve been through so much but you are strong enough to stand by your conviction and I dare say this trait can only have come from your mum so she gave you that at least. Her short comings are not your fault, she is from a generation that didn’t know or want to understand about such things but it’s so sad she doesn’t have the courage to try and that her selfishness has meant a disconnect with not only her but your extended family and that’s on her and for as long as this remains the case she has to live with that, what I would say is if you’re strong you owe it to yourself to tell your family yourself you can’t expect your mum to do it at some time in the future, she may never. At least then you can address the big thing of your transition and being able to socialise again and littler things like pronouns and use of your chosen name will either resolve as they become aware or you may find they react the same way as your mum again if they do it’s not your issue at least you are being true to yourself, I don’t understand why people are so selfish and only think in terms of how it effects them and how they are perceived by others, what do they think you are going through? Very best of luck with everything 🙏
I’m not as strong as I may seem unfortunately and don't have the courage to try and connect with anyone, maybe in the future I will. Thank you for your comment ❤️
That is so sad to hear. 😢 Thankfully she didn't completely disown you after you came out to her though. However that still doesn't completely let her off the hook for her lack of empathy for you though. It's always a shock for parents to find this out about their child, but most will still support their child regardless. As a single mom she had it hard enough raising you, but that also does not give her a free pass for ignoring your gender identity struggles either.
@@rayoliver760 she just didn't understand it I suppose like so many don't, back then it was almost unheard of as well so I do get it must've been really weird for her.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish I just want to tell you that ,you are very beautiful ,and don't let no one tell you any diffrent. X I would love to have a trans girlfriend x.
I don't see family members as a great loss unless we did spend a lot of time together and became very close. Even that love fades away if only in contact at holidays. They say time heals when someone losses a loved one. Yes, time also causes folks to forget about relationships that are not kept. We shouldn't expect to have love for people we don't even know anymore. Also, there is two sides to the coin. Family members likely viewed that they were doing nothing to curtail their relationship, rather it was Malibu who chose to go away. It's hard for them to see that Malibu had to live a life of being herself or live in misery. She was only staying away because the situation was very uncomfortable for her and all, do to this simple oddity or major difference. We have seen this for many decades with White and Black mixed families throughout the U.S. They could have been close families, but it just wasn't happening. Kind of strange that this social matrix evolved as such. I try often to jump out of this matrix to see the true reality as it is.
@@ltwig476 I'm sure they did view it like you said tbh, I also suspect my mother told them stories to paint me in a bad light possibly without mentioning my transition so they likely have made assumptions about me based on that.
My gran in st Hellons told me years ago to be me and if i move back home she will support my decision never did have 3 brothers 2 sisters would miss them now wish i did because I like you have no family and the person that loved me for me died7 years ago at 94 still lived alone was as sharp ass a pin God bless always Jennifer trans pre op
I don't really understand or comprehend transitioning, but I actually don't need to. What's important is that you understand it, understand you !!. There is something I can tell you though and it's really important for everyone to understand. Biology is a fact just like you can't breathe underwater is a fact & nothing you can do can change that. Sexuality on the other hand is purely a social construct. Different cultures interact with it differently and what some cultures consider normal a conservative puritan would consider perverse. We are fed these social constructs right from birth through to our grave. Mostly we're not given a choice because 95 percent of society surrounding us have bought the shoes and feel comfortable in them. You on the other hand , like so many gay & lesbian's tried on those shoes and thought " these don't feel comfortable to me !". This doesn't make you wrong and I would argue makes you more right and honest in yourself than most people are. I know!, I've many gay/lesbian friends who disagree with me and fervently believe there is a biological reason underlying their sexuality, but I'm stubborn in this. Sexuality is purely sociological and is a product of cultural upbringing. Did you know that most Roman soldiers were gay ?. They believed that sleeping with women would rob them of their virility like the story of Sampson and Delilah. If your mother or other family members time traveled to ancient Rome they would be in shock at what they would perceive as sexual depravity, but that was perfectly socially normal at the time. Keep talking because it will help you to further understand yourself better and know that there's nothing wrong with YOU. There's nothing wrong with recognising & living your truth. So you stepped out of the matrix?, nothing wrong with that!!!.
I know how you feel. I told my mom I was a girl 👧 when I was 11y and got mad my ex wife left me when she see me dressed 👗 up as a woman 👩 so I have no one
I'm so scared to come out to my mom. I've been cis-het presenting for 30 years now, she has always seen my as her "eldest son". When I was younger she would ask me if I was gay, even though I had been in multiple relationships with girls. She has 2 gay brothers.... but we're central American and people of older generations in LatAm has a very twisted way of being "accepting" or "allies" of gay people. I know their perception of non-cis people is nothing beyond of pity 😞
@@PirateZ1 I feel your pain. Its always hard knowing you likely won't be accepted, but people do also surprise you so don't lose hope. Have you tried speaking to your gay uncles about it?
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish One of them is (sadly) estranged and the other is (even more sadly) transphobic and homophobic lol. I have a gay cousin I can talk to about it and my sister would also be accepting I hope. I came out to my bff yesterday, she was very nice to me :') Will have to come out to my girlfriend soon tho and that is scary but I'm 99% sure she would be accepting even though she may be shocked Also, thanks for replying, it means a lot 🥲
I live in America but born in Liverpool England my family has disowned me every one brothers sisters all say dont care but it hurts but im being me financially hormones are great and FFS is comming up good bless you Jennifer B trans pre op
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish For one I didn't say all but "may be", for two even if people have abandoned religion, the homophobic idea of queer people being sick or something still originates from religion. If you check real life stories here on YT you'll see how often this happens, not only with trans but with all kind of queer people, best example maybe the story of Kate Austin, who made headlines on the Ellen Show when she got married while her parents still insisted that she has to marry a man and return to religion up to the point where Kate figured the only way for her to live in peace was to lock her family entirely out of her life.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish It's pleasure to speak with another trans women as one myself but still not on hormones but want to be a aly for other LGBT people.
Hearing your story and reading all these comments about other trans woman losing their families for coming out breaks my heart. I have 3 almost adult kids and I don’t think there is anything in this world they could do to make me cut them out of my life. I just can’t imagine. I’m a more conservative in my life and views but before anything I’m a mom. If my kid come out as trans or gay I would be worried about their safety and the life they’re going to face but I think that would just make me that much more protective of them. I’m so sorry to all you that have lost people in your lives that was supposed to support and love you no matter what. If you can’t love your children absolutely unconditionally then you have no business being a parent.
@@brandicaudill8539 I don’t think my mum ever stopped loving me or caring about me it was just something she couldn’t understand and support at the time, thankfully she is much better with it these days but hearing everyone else’s stories in the comments here just shows how common it sadly is 🥲
This is so hard to hear, much less grasp the extent of suffering you’ve experienced. I lost the majority of my contacts and relationships a long time ago, which sucked goats, but I got to rebuild something better with people I truly care about. The wind is changing, so don’t be surprised if some of them come back right out of the blue one day. Remember you are not the sum of their insecurities and we - yes, WE - support you and love you.
@@vanessaleblanc2583 Awwh thank you Vanessa ❤️ who knows maybe someone will pop up one day you’re right
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish You heartwarming response is all I need to make me feel good and I am always here if you need a friend to chat with or listen!❤️💕
Sorry to hear all the suffering. But life goes on and end of the day they still your parents/family that they can't ignore. But I'm hear for you anytime. ❤ Your so beautiful indeed I would happily propose to you to make your life more better with happiness and joy and love.
My father disowned me after I came out to them for having a trans girlfriend (now my wife). We never spoke again. After my father's funeral (that I wasn't invited to) my mom eventually came around and we have a good relationship today. It wasn't easy but at the same time the adversity (wasn't just this facet) also brought my wife and I closer together. We've been together for 22 years now.
@@exnihilo415 I'm sorry to hear that, my boyfriend also worries how his parents react and hasn't told them I’m trans. I feel like they probably know but it hasn't been spoken out loud. Its great that your mum came around and 22 years of marriage - wow congrats!
I just finished my first year of transition and everything you said parallels my life. Thank you for sharing
This is so sad, but I can totally relate. Having transitioned young myself, in the late 90s I lost all my family. But over 20yrs later I have got a good relationship with my family now. And they were all at my wedding last month
@@LouLou19814 that's amazing I'm glad you were able to get back to a good place with your family, maybe I will one day 🩵
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish I really hope you do, and I've just come across your page and content and think ya amazing girl, keep it up 🏳️⚧️
@@LouLou19814 Awwh thank you ❤️
As someone who is a fierce advocate for her own child, I am so sorry to hear your mum didn't have your back. You deserve better. I hope she continues to come round and work through her own fears, and one day can look back and give you the apology you deserve. x
Hearing your story and reading all these comments about other trans woman losing their families for coming out breaks my heart.
I have 3 almost adult kids and I don’t think there is anything in this world they could do to make me cut them out of my life. I just can’t imagine.
I’m a more conservative in my life and views but before anything I’m a mom. If my kid come out as trans or gay I would be worried about their safety and the life they’re going to face but I think that would just make me that much more protective of them.
I’m so sorry to all you that have lost people in your lives that was supposed to support and love you no matter what.
If you can’t love your children absolutely unconditionally then you have no business being a parent.
Preach!!
not out to my family yet but i lost my ENTIRE friend group of SEVEN YEARS!! I am so sorry girl
Damn that's rough I'm sorry, hopefully your family will be supportive 💙
You are so genuine. Thanks so much for sharing your story.💕🌻🦋
We support you!❤
You are awesome - keep reaching out - you are important - your life is a blessing to me and the world.
@@juligrlee556 Awwh thank you ❤️
This resonates with me so much.
I came out at 38, and in the two years since, my family has evaporated. But a family of choice is a beautiful thing 💜
That sounds like a very rough start into your life! I'm glad you made it though, and that it got better.
I think finding out my parents' love was conditional has been the hardest part of my transition. I am one one year out of the closet, but I hope I can push past it as you have.
I'm sorry :( it does get easier and they may come round in time
You weren't brave enough before to tell people but look at you now ... Your telling the whole world your trans and helping others too 😊 stay positive and your a very beautiful woman don't let no one tell you otherwise.
Girl this is sad 🫂
I'm really glad you're fine in the end though 💜
My parents are thankfully supportive but trans people have so little representation in my country that the rest of my family would never understand, for now I just didn't tell anyone in my family, I did go see my grandma recently and she made fun of me the whole evening for wearing nail polish :(
@@TrashcanAccount some people just don't get it unfortunately but its great that you have supportive parents, maybe your grandma will understand in time ❤️
I'm so sorry to hear that your family disowned you. A family's love should be unconditional, as long as they haven't done anything like crimininally and morally illegal, then i might get it; but this is just ignorance and bigotry, the way they treated you...
You're beautiful, and keep being you lovlie x
They are a disgusting joke for that and so you deserve far better people to be in your life anyway.
The disconnect from your family makes me sad, for you and for them 😢
@@RichardDeighton its ok wee Ric
This was so mature and so brave. You’re amazing, and I hope in time you and your mum will continue to get closer ❤
I'm also sorry you went through this and had this experience i can definitely relate to this
Hey Sis I so proud of you! Ok? =)
❤❤❤ lost family & friends- in last 4 years - is sad truth
@@ReikkiKyraJonsun I'm sorry :(
Sorry to hear about your family. You seem like a good person, so it's their loss. Wishing only good things for you. 😊
@@QueenBee-dj4wv Thank you love ❤️
We all support you Malibu.
Ugh ... I understand that far too well. You're invited but you know your family doesn't want you at gatherings but tries to make it look like it's your choice. Thanks for sharing this as loads of other people can relate to this and apperciate it ❤
I realized I am trans this month and am transitioning. No HRT yet as this takes a process in Germany, but I’m wearing female clothes, a wig, makeup, bras, etc. No contact with my father or the rest of my family, and I haven’t told my mother yet. I don’t know how she would take it. Still no clue when I will tell her.
Take your time, there's no need to rush these things and I wish the best of luck with your family 💜
Hi Malibu, sending love yr way. My heart breaks for you. Love yr spirit and energy. Love frim Sydney Australia 🌏🌏❤
Hello. Thank you for sharing your story. You seem to be a brave, intelligent, complete and beautiful person (physically and personally).
I really wish and will pray that yourife just keeps getting better and better - and especially that your boyfriend knows just how lucky he is to be sharing his life with you.
One of the wonderful life lessons we humans learn from our cats and dogs (I have a beautiful boxer dog) - is that they simply love each of us "unconditionally"!
When I discovered the 'fe' in my 'male' body & and began a new wonderful wardrobe and living as 'me' (expressing our 'fe-male' self) - Henry still kept on loving me and me him - as usual!!!
I have been fortunate to have a very special and wonderful wife and genuinely understanding family and friends - who can see how I am even more now than the mere 'male' they had grown up with or known before.
While it is totally your call, I think it might be a really good thing for you to take the initiative - and reach out to your mum's / dad's family simply to make sure they understand why it was that you didn't see them at Christmas etc 'family' get togethers - and especially why you didn't feel able to see your dad as he was dying. I actually think that just meeting you after all this tims - and having the chance to see what a wonderful person you clearly are - they would really appreciate you reaching out to at least explain what was happening in your life - and you and they can decide how you want to go forward - either making up for lost experiences and 'family' stuff - or not. What have you got to lose??
Also - as a final thought and nothing more, clearly it was tough that your dad was living in the way he was - and especially that he lost out on so much in his all too short life (especially seeing you and helping you grow up)because of his drug affected life. All I suggest is that often there are reasons for people going down that destructive path. In his case, wouldn't it be so important for you (& possibly for you to help his own family and possibly even your mum) to explore - from your dad's own childhood - such az it may still be remembered - whether - just possibly - his turning to drugs & their lifestyle consequences - may have been because he also realised and experienced that he was and wanted to live snd express himself ass 'herself' as a trans-gender-female - just like you have. It would be perfectly logical snd reasonable - medically and biologically jf perhaps he did have the same feelings as you had jn his teens.
Only then - things were even worse in the society in which he was growing up - and so he possibly turned to drugs to ease the pain he may have really felt deep inside that be could never 'be who he felt like' in terms if his gender self expression.
Realising even that possibility - might actually even help his surviving family and your mum - even now - find 'healing' and 'understanding' and 'peace' in their lives and memories of your dad.
It might also help you with what was understandably your 'loss' and 'feelings possibly of guilt for not going to see him to say good bye before he died.
All a bit deep perhaps - but truly, seeing and listening to you quite by chance on your yourube post has helped me - & so I simply wanted before moving on - to share these 'outsider' yet hopefully empathetic fellow human being - and gender expressing person - in the hope that they may help you to grow and have as full and happy and rewarding a life as you can.
While I totally understand your love of your cats as the 'children' in your life - I also totally sense that you would be an AWESOME Mum &/or Auntie' & would urge you and your boyfriend (with help perhaps from your newly connected broader 'family' to seek to adopt one or more children - who really could do with a great mum (& dad) to give them the love and good parenting that I feel sure you could and would give them!!
Huge responsibility - & - perhaps almost impossible given the "adoption" system - but hey - nothing ventured!!!!
Cheers and have a grest life!!! 😊😊😊❤❤❤
Thank you for your comment :) its true about animals loving us unconditionally, as long as you give them the love they need they don't care what we do 😻
I may reach out to my family one day but I'm not sure how or who I would want to contact, to be honest and I don't think I'm in the right place in my life (though I may seem ok I suffer with social anxiety)
It’s an interesting take on my father, of course I can't be certain but from what I know of him I don't think that was the case.
And my boyfriend does have 2 children from his past relationship so I have them, for me I’m not sure I want my own children to be honest.
You really had a hard time in growing up and finding out you’re trans? But you grew up to beautiful person. A lot of trans women take things for granted as to where you definitely struggled and sacrifice a lot! Just keep in mind you are a beautiful person regardless of what happens! You need the support and you deserve and have mine!❤️💕
@@buffylow68 Awwh thank you so much that's lovely 🩷🥰
That sounds so hard. Grief is not easy or based on "allowed" or "deserving" levels of contact. It is whst it is. The rest of your family might be better than you/your mum might have thought.
I'm so sorry your family let you down so badly. But look at you! You're so lovely and kind. Who, in their right mind, would not be proud to have you as a daughter?
Awwh thank you Anna that is very sweet ❤️
What ever makes you happy im there to support you.
I can totally relate with you will start following you thanks again Malibu
Love your makeup Malibu!
@@DanielleSmith042-xf6mh thank you 💜
The last words my sister ever said to me: "Do whatever you want". The last thing my dad ever said to me: "I don't approve. Talk to your mother". The last thing my mom ever said to me...... "You will always be ugly, you will always be stupid. I never understood why we waste our time with you. Don't contact us again [deadname]. We are changing our number". My mom is already preparing for her end, she got the urn and everything. That was almost 2 years ago. I *think* I know what time zone they live in. And I changed my number too. When I turn 60, I will have to assume they passed.
@@Rising_Pho3nix_23 gosh that is sad I’m so sorry :( I hope you were able to find happiness without them
I really like talking to you because besides Nikki Chanel you are the only other trans woman that gives a true darn about your viewers! There are others but they seem unavailable to respond so I truly thank you for responding to me?❤️💕😍🥰😘😇
@@buffylow68 of course! whats the point in making content if you don't respond to the comments :)
Sorry to hear about your family. Earlier I came across a video regarding these topics and the person did what I always felt one of my own parents would do...suggesting psychotherapy. Truly hope you won't mind but I brought you and a few others up I've come across on YT because I am quite surprised by some things. Another video you mentioned your age like others have which always felt alone growing up. Some friends grew up wanting to appear muscular whereas myself being thin and getting my belly pierced. Truly hope you won't mind, I've never been to an actual peer support group that where I go offers. When It comes to loss of friendship, long time friend out of nowhere after expressing interest in their older brother blocked me, while ultimately if I may...if that's the reason why rather not be friends.
Thank you and I don't mind you bringing me up in conversation :) unfortunately a lot of us do have to go through losses during our transition but like you say if they can't accept you then you're better off without them.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish Glad to hear that. Went shopping after well window shopping in the sense. Saw a few brand names I kept seeing on ThredUp, still have yet to find the brand "Don't Ask Why" but I did see others on that site which in a sense lessened my anxiety. Every time I see that brand name on that website I'm always asking myself don't ask why what?. Shopping in store is so much more peaceful, mentally vs creeped out over someones choice of words.
Hi loosing your family in there problem don't worry about it you are a beautiful young lady stay safe have fun ❤😊
This is such a sad story, I’m sorry you’ve been through so much but you are strong enough to stand by your conviction and I dare say this trait can only have come from your mum so she gave you that at least. Her short comings are not your fault, she is from a generation that didn’t know or want to understand about such things but it’s so sad she doesn’t have the courage to try and that her selfishness has meant a disconnect with not only her but your extended family and that’s on her and for as long as this remains the case she has to live with that, what I would say is if you’re strong you owe it to yourself to tell your family yourself you can’t expect your mum to do it at some time in the future, she may never. At least then you can address the big thing of your transition and being able to socialise again and littler things like pronouns and use of your chosen name will either resolve as they become aware or you may find they react the same way as your mum again if they do it’s not your issue at least you are being true to yourself, I don’t understand why people are so selfish and only think in terms of how it effects them and how they are perceived by others, what do they think you are going through? Very best of luck with everything 🙏
I’m not as strong as I may seem unfortunately and don't have the courage to try and connect with anyone, maybe in the future I will. Thank you for your comment ❤️
So sad too see but you got uss aa a part of family ❤️
That is so sad to hear. 😢 Thankfully she didn't completely disown you after you came out to her though. However that still doesn't completely let her off the hook for her lack of empathy for you though. It's always a shock for parents to find this out about their child, but most will still support their child regardless. As a single mom she had it hard enough raising you, but that also does not give her a free pass for ignoring your gender identity struggles either.
@@rayoliver760 she just didn't understand it I suppose like so many don't, back then it was almost unheard of as well so I do get it must've been really weird for her.
Anyone who doesn't support you as who you are is a liability and not an asset.
Sorry your family are how they are. Yiu deserve better
Hi. Malibu. You are beautiful Xx.
Im sorry you lost contact with your family 😢
Beautiful. Nails btw. X
Thank you :) I am yes
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish
I just want to tell you that ,you are very beautiful ,and don't let no one tell you any diffrent. X
I would love to have a trans girlfriend x.
@@user-kc3fn1gu6g that's very sweet thank you 💜
I don't see family members as a great loss unless we did spend a lot of time together and became very close. Even that love fades away if only in contact at holidays. They say time heals when someone losses a loved one. Yes, time also causes folks to forget about relationships that are not kept. We shouldn't expect to have love for people we don't even know anymore.
Also, there is two sides to the coin. Family members likely viewed that they were doing nothing to curtail their relationship, rather it was Malibu who chose to go away. It's hard for them to see that Malibu had to live a life of being herself or live in misery. She was only staying away because the situation was very uncomfortable for her and all, do to this simple oddity or major difference. We have seen this for many decades with White and Black mixed families throughout the U.S. They could have been close families, but it just wasn't happening. Kind of strange that this social matrix evolved as such. I try often to jump out of this matrix to see the true reality as it is.
@@ltwig476 I'm sure they did view it like you said tbh, I also suspect my mother told them stories to paint me in a bad light possibly without mentioning my transition so they likely have made assumptions about me based on that.
My gran in st Hellons told me years ago to be me and if i move back home she will support my decision never did have 3 brothers 2 sisters would miss them now wish i did because I like you have no family and the person that loved me for me died7 years ago at 94 still lived alone was as sharp ass a pin God bless always Jennifer trans pre op
I don't really understand or comprehend transitioning, but I actually don't need to. What's important is that you understand it, understand you !!. There is something I can tell you though and it's really important for everyone to understand.
Biology is a fact just like you can't breathe underwater is a fact & nothing you can do can change that. Sexuality on the other hand is purely a social construct. Different cultures interact with it differently and what some cultures consider normal a conservative puritan would consider perverse. We are fed these social constructs right from birth through to our grave. Mostly we're not given a choice because 95 percent of society surrounding us have bought the shoes and feel comfortable in them. You on the other hand , like so many gay & lesbian's tried on those shoes and thought " these don't feel comfortable to me !". This doesn't make you wrong and I would argue makes you more right and honest in yourself than most people are.
I know!, I've many gay/lesbian friends who disagree with me and fervently believe there is a biological reason underlying their sexuality, but I'm stubborn in this. Sexuality is purely sociological and is a product of cultural upbringing. Did you know that most Roman soldiers were gay ?. They believed that sleeping with women would rob them of their virility like the story of Sampson and Delilah. If your mother or other family members time traveled to ancient Rome they would be in shock at what they would perceive as sexual depravity, but that was perfectly socially normal at the time.
Keep talking because it will help you to further understand yourself better and know that there's nothing wrong with YOU. There's nothing wrong with recognising & living your truth.
So you stepped out of the matrix?, nothing wrong with that!!!.
You are such a beautiful doll, wow 🤩
Im sorry about your family not supporting you 😢😊❤😊
It's OK there are lots of other people transgender woman like me will be a family member for you ❤ ..kiss my hear..❤
Love to get to know you❤
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This I am absolutely certain will happen to me!😭
@@kevinewing2895 you never know, people can surprise you. Best of luck! 🩷
You be you. Everyone else can either update their phone contacts or delete. They don’t get to validate you. You validate, appreciate and respect *you*
I know how you feel. I told my mom I was a girl 👧 when I was 11y and got mad my ex wife left me when she see me dressed 👗 up as a woman 👩 so I have no one
@@mikepage2709 I'm sorry 💔
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I'm so scared to come out to my mom. I've been cis-het presenting for 30 years now, she has always seen my as her "eldest son". When I was younger she would ask me if I was gay, even though I had been in multiple relationships with girls. She has 2 gay brothers.... but we're central American and people of older generations in LatAm has a very twisted way of being "accepting" or "allies" of gay people. I know their perception of non-cis people is nothing beyond of pity 😞
@@PirateZ1 I feel your pain. Its always hard knowing you likely won't be accepted, but people do also surprise you so don't lose hope. Have you tried speaking to your gay uncles about it?
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish One of them is (sadly) estranged and the other is (even more sadly) transphobic and homophobic lol. I have a gay cousin I can talk to about it and my sister would also be accepting I hope. I came out to my bff yesterday, she was very nice to me :') Will have to come out to my girlfriend soon tho and that is scary but I'm 99% sure she would be accepting even though she may be shocked
Also, thanks for replying, it means a lot 🥲
@@PirateZ1 I'm sorry to hear that, its great that you have your BFFs support though, good luck telling your girlfriend and everything else!
So is it better to be transitioned or have your family? Cause i want to transition also. But scared to tell my family
@@MichaelBoser-f4q This is a good question, perhaps one I will save to answer in a future video.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish what's your feelings now. Just curious
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish besides. You'll have to let me know when you do make a video on that question I asked. I'm very interested in your conclusions
@@MichaelBoser-f4q I will do :)
@MalibuBarbiieDelish Your so kind. Thank you.
U R loved 💝
I live in America but born in Liverpool England my family has disowned me every one brothers sisters all say dont care but it hurts but im being me financially hormones are great and FFS is comming up good bless you Jennifer B trans pre op
I'm sorry to hear that Jennifer, but I'm glad you're getting the treatment you need, stay strong ❤️
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish thanks sweetheart sending all my love and best wishes to you Malabu
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Because some people don’t believe in all this stuff that’s going on
Blood doesn’t mean shit I swear
Unfortunately I cannot give you my opinion here, because YT is totally allergic to any remote hint that religion may be the problem in these cases.
@@thomasg627 are they? 😂 I don’t think its that though as no one in my family has ever been religious
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish For one I didn't say all but "may be", for two even if people have abandoned religion, the homophobic idea of queer people being sick or something still originates from religion.
If you check real life stories here on YT you'll see how often this happens, not only with trans but with all kind of queer people, best example maybe the story of Kate Austin, who made headlines on the Ellen Show when she got married while her parents still insisted that she has to marry a man and return to religion up to the point where Kate figured the only way for her to live in peace was to lock her family entirely out of her life.
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Maybe you need a new family
Hi 👋 new viewer
@@Victoria3232-j7o hi :)
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish It's pleasure to speak with another trans women as one myself but still not on hormones but want to be a aly for other LGBT people.
Why does this video look like AI
@@johnaguirre6865 not sure? Lol
Their loss.
I’ve always wanted to try to do a transgender person
Ew
Creep.
You're not alone Malibu barbiie
Im here for a woman like you ❤🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈⚧️♀️♂️❤️🔥
Hearing your story and reading all these comments about other trans woman losing their families for coming out breaks my heart.
I have 3 almost adult kids and I don’t think there is anything in this world they could do to make me cut them out of my life. I just can’t imagine.
I’m a more conservative in my life and views but before anything I’m a mom. If my kid come out as trans or gay I would be worried about their safety and the life they’re going to face but I think that would just make me that much more protective of them.
I’m so sorry to all you that have lost people in your lives that was supposed to support and love you no matter what.
If you can’t love your children absolutely unconditionally then you have no business being a parent.
@@brandicaudill8539 I don’t think my mum ever stopped loving me or caring about me it was just something she couldn’t understand and support at the time, thankfully she is much better with it these days but hearing everyone else’s stories in the comments here just shows how common it sadly is 🥲