I really like what you had to say because I've had some challenges in my Christian community about this. I'm deaf but I speak coherently in 2 languages and yet the community don't bother to talk with me like I'm one of them. I have tried to intergrate myself with them but they don't understand. So I have tried to explain what I felt with the pastors but it didn't turn out the way I needed..I thought they would help me by explaining to others what was lacking. Instead of understanding my position, they were saying that God doesn't want us to put down brothers and sisters or assign blame, etc as you explained up there. It's been a very frustrating time for me for years and years. Other things have come up that really didn't help me and now I find that I don't have anything to talk about because I'll just be cut off or the ultra brief convos end up being unfruitful and lacking. So yes, I like the things you have to say here and in other videos. you make sense. You go, girl!! Keep up the good work!
Hi Suzanne, thank you for sharing your experience with us. I'm sad engaging in your church community has been such a challenge. Were you looking for communication support resources? I wish more of us learned sign language. I'm far from fluent, but learning.
How I wish your experience wasn't so common. I'm sorry you've been through that, and I'm glad you're in the process of reconnecting to your emotions. May you find safe places and ways to feel what needs to be felt.
Deep breath. Yeah, that pattern makes me so sad. And it keeps me motivated to talk about how words, phrases, and scriptures get misused or misunderstood. I'm so sorry you experienced so many painful events, in the abuse and in the secondary harm.
Hello Jolene, Thank YOU for your reply, I really appreciate being acknowledged. That's just the thing, being acknowledged. I don't need sign language but it's important to be looked in the face and be a bit more expressive than to have a stony face with none. Body language and indications help a lot. Articulation is very important, so I don't see where the problem is with anyone meeting people like me halfway. We're doing what we can and there are those of us who work harder to be heard. As it is said: It takes two to tango, but don't leave your partner hanging in the middle of the dance. I wish we could communicate with each other, It would be so beneficial to me if we could. I've been depressed for quite some time and I may be coming out of it now but let's see. Thank you again.. Be blessed Jolene. Keep up the good work!
@@suzannemorin1205 I hope your comment reaches several people so they can hear specific ways to connect with someone who is deaf. I know we can get uncomfortable with others when we don't what to do, so I hope this helps alleviate this aspect. I grew up with reduced hearing and learned to talk by reading lips. My home town in MN also had a state school for the deaf and I ended up becoming friends with a few students in my high school years. The deaf community holds a special place in my heart.
I really like what you had to say because I've had some challenges in my Christian community about this. I'm deaf but I speak coherently in 2 languages and yet the community don't bother to talk with me like I'm one of them. I have tried to intergrate myself with them but they don't understand. So I have tried to explain what I felt with the pastors but it didn't turn out the way I needed..I thought they would help me by explaining to others what was lacking. Instead of understanding my position, they were saying that God doesn't want us to put down brothers and sisters or assign blame, etc as you explained up there. It's been a very frustrating time for me for years and years. Other things have come up that really didn't help me and now I find that I don't have anything to talk about because I'll just be cut off or the ultra brief convos end up being unfruitful and lacking. So yes, I like the things you have to say here and in other videos. you make sense. You go, girl!! Keep up the good work!
Hi Suzanne, thank you for sharing your experience with us. I'm sad engaging in your church community has been such a challenge. Were you looking for communication support resources? I wish more of us learned sign language. I'm far from fluent, but learning.
So helpful. This went on my whole life until I shut down all expression of my emotions. I denied them. Still trying to awaken them.
How I wish your experience wasn't so common. I'm sorry you've been through that, and I'm glad you're in the process of reconnecting to your emotions. May you find safe places and ways to feel what needs to be felt.
Kept me in domestic abuse for 25 years
All the cliches and verses thrown at me out of context.
This was helpful!
Deep breath. Yeah, that pattern makes me so sad. And it keeps me motivated to talk about how words, phrases, and scriptures get misused or misunderstood.
I'm so sorry you experienced so many painful events, in the abuse and in the secondary harm.
For help processing emotions and thoughts with God, this tool can help. Unleash: Heart & Soul Care Sheets. joleneunderwood.com/unleash
Hello Jolene,
Thank YOU for your reply, I really appreciate being acknowledged. That's just the thing, being acknowledged. I don't need sign language but it's important to be looked in the face and be a bit more expressive than to have a stony face with none. Body language and indications help a lot. Articulation is very important, so I don't see where the problem is with anyone meeting people like me halfway. We're doing what we can and there are those of us who work harder to be heard. As it is said: It takes two to tango, but
don't leave your partner hanging in the middle of the dance.
I wish we could communicate with each other, It would be so beneficial to me if we could. I've been depressed for quite some time and I may be coming out of it now but let's see.
Thank you again.. Be blessed Jolene. Keep up the good work!
@@suzannemorin1205 I hope your comment reaches several people so they can hear specific ways to connect with someone who is deaf. I know we can get uncomfortable with others when we don't what to do, so I hope this helps alleviate this aspect. I grew up with reduced hearing and learned to talk by reading lips. My home town in MN also had a state school for the deaf and I ended up becoming friends with a few students in my high school years. The deaf community holds a special place in my heart.