Darling Listen to me I’m 62, you have an opportunity to save your money by living with your parents. So please do that and save as much as you can your so young. Take the first year to reorganize your thoughts and spend time with your parents. In other words don’t rush…..save your money and try not to get into another relationship right away. Get to know you. 🙋🏻♀️
So true! I'm reminding myself that not everyone gets the opportunity to spend a lot of time close to their parents as an adult so I'm making the most of this chance, because it also won't last forever 💛
This!! I didn’t have anyone )my dad passed and my mom left because she was addicted to drugs and alcohol) I had to sleep in my car for 2 days. It was the loneliest time in my entire life. Please take time with your family and enjoy life as best as possible 🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
My daughter was in your exact position five years ago ending a 7 year marriage at the age of 30. She has lived with us for the last five years, saving more than $10,000. During this period she was in a relationship with someone overseas that did not work out. Just when she thought she would not find her way again, she met the person who is the right person and has found her dream job. God has a plan for your life, you just have to have someone in your corner who believes this whole heartedly even though you may not believe it yourself.
I love that things worked out so beautifully for your daughter & that you supported her through it all! I also believe that things will work out they way they’re meant to 💛
I'm 35 and separated from my boyfriend last year, with whom I was for 13 years. When we are griefing we always feel like we are the only ones feeling such pain. But it has happend and will happen to so many people. You are on the right path with having a great appreciation for change. All the best for you!
I'm 50 and a father of 3 children, I am glad that you can move back with your parents. They are there (and should be happy) to support you in time like this. It is completely OK to get help sometimes, especially from those who are closed to you.
I did the same thing, after my breakup I moved back home. I saved a lot of money and got a new (used) car with cash. It was hard at first, but like anything it gets better with time.
Life never falls apart. It falls apart only in your mind & only in your thoughts. you seem healthy & good to go. dont buy every idea your mind sells to you. thats its job! good luck
Sending you all the virtual hugs ❤️ I had to move back to my mums at 30 and I had moved out at 18 so it felt like I'd taken a step backwards. It ended up being the best thing though, space to get over the bad break up and time to get my savings back on track. I'm 37 now and ended up with my soon to be husband and living by the coast - literally the life I've always dreamed of. Things will fall into place and your life will be so much better :) you've got this!
Hi Elena, I got some crazy things to say. Your video popped up on my feed and I just clicked it because of the title because thats exactly the situation I am in too. I will turn 30 in a couple of days und broke up with my long time partner 2 month ago, now living with my parents again. I even had long brown hair (cut it on my own yesterday haha) and wearing a grey jumper right now. Is this crazy?! Here I am, on the other side of our planet, going through exakt the same pain and issues. And I, as well, see the opportunity to save money to create my own future, while living with my parents. In some crazy way it was like I was watching my alter ego telling me what to do and that the best is yet to come even if the grieve feels heavy somedays. So thank you for this video, it was weird and comforting all at once. All the best for you and greetings from germany.
Wow, I love when the universe sends signs of support & the exact messages we need to hear at the perfect time! ❤ I'm so glad my video connected with you & that you found it comforting. Sending you all the best from Canada!
Elena I'm in the same boat as you. My marriage of 24 years is over. My husband has mental illness, narcissistic, and serious anger issues. We have an adult daughter. I wish I had my Mom close by so I can stay with her. But unfortunately we have to stay in a hotel. I got a house but it needs cosmetic repairs. My whole life has been turned upside down. I'm working full time, finding someone to fix the cosmetic repairs, being a Mom and packing my stuff all at the same time. My daughter is packing her stuff too. So my emotions are all over the place and it's a hard time for me especially with no family support and no friends. I'm been praying more than ever. I have to stay strong and not look tired when I go to work. It's hard but I know God will get me through.
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through that. Thankfully my husband & I ended things mutually & amicably and are still on good terms, so I can only imagine how much harder this would be when that's not the case and children are involved. I hope you are able to find time to care for yourself and your emotions through this. Sending you lots of love - if the comments on this video have showed me anything it's that we are never alone in our experiences
@@chaptersofelenahow could it have ended mutually? I mean there has to be some resentment especially after committing to marriage, changing your whole life to be with someone only to have to start over again
@@AFGixxeR88 Nope, there actually doesn't have to be! Every relationship is unique & different, and the way they end is too. I know many people don't understand that because they've never had that experience themselves, but it's possible :)
I got out of a 5 year relationship/marriage after 5 years at age 28, also had to give up my dog. Life has been wonderful ever since. Enjoy your stay with your parents, you won't regret it.
Went through this about 3 years ago. My ex wife and I divorced after years of being together. I moved from Kentucky, back home with family in California to start over. Took this time to heal, and asses where I was at in life, and decide who and where I wanted to be in the future, and then started working towards building that future. Its not easy, but Im much happier now.
I'm sorry that you're going through this. I can't imagine how hard it must be to end a long term relationship and marriage, but I imagine this experience also comes with a lot of learning lessons, personal growth and new opportunities. I will say I love how you hit 1k on the day of your move. It's definitely a sign that the Universe has your back and the sign of one chapter closing and a new one starting. Sending you all the best vibes 💛
Thank you, I appreciate the support! 💛 So true & I think the learning & growth from this experience is just beginning and there's so much more to come :)
As a 45 year old single mom, I’ve launched a few times. I stumbled upon your channel because I want to do travel UGC. Sometimes in life we get matchbox car experiences. We go back a bit in order to propel forward. You will be fine. Breathe and continue to be you.
hey! my relationship recently ended, i'm 28 and moved across the country to live with my dad. you're not the only one in this boat! don't be ashamed, inflation sucks right now, the economy is shit and you're making a smart decision. in a few years you will look back and be so glad you sacrificed for your future.
Hello from the UK! Just found your channel and wanted to share some solidarity. In London so many people aged 28-35 are living w parents to save money. Dating here is really tricky too and without a partner it is nearly imposs to get on the property ladder. Living at home at 30 should never have been de-normalised when it is right for so many of us working towards the next chapter in these expensive times. Different paths. 🌻
Spend as much time with your parents. My dad passed away last Sunday and that is one thing I don’t regret doing, moving out, I’m in my 30s but staying home allowed me to stay with him a bit longer.
I've been where you are. In a situation like this, the comfort of family is gold. I am telling you... spending as my time with my family as much as possible made me feel whole, comforted and secure. Many things in life are fleeting, but if you have a good family, that is something that will always remain. Take this time to heal, recharge and regroup. You are lucky to have that opportunity. :)
I don't make much either but I'm remaining hopeful. I'm in my forties. I too am excited for the new journey ahead. It's exciting to know I will have my own space soon.
My 5-year relationship ended when I was 31 (now 33). I moved into a 1-bedroom and I still live in the 1-bedroom. Unexpectedly I met the love of my life shortly after my breakup and I recently got engaged. We are now looking for a place together, so things happens for a reason. You’ll get through this😊
At 27 I became single and moved back home. I’m 31 and still at home. I’ve finished college debt free his past summer and am just now starting to save since I got a better job. Life has a lot of “starting over” moments I’ve learned. It sucks and is emotionally hard but if you focus on you, you’ll love it like I have.
Congratulations on finishing college debt-free, that's amazing!! It's so true, but I'd rather "start over" again & again than stay where I know I'm not meant to be. Good luck on your next steps! 💛
This exact thing happened to me at 31. Moved in with my parents and had lost what I thought was everything. almost 34 now and I have my own house and am living peacefully on my own! When it gets tough (which it most certainly will), just keeping staying positive and working toward what you want next for yourself. It'll come :)
It's so nice and comforting to see someone else going through a similar thing. I'm turning 30 in a about month, me and my husband are in the process of separating, I'm moving into my own apartment in a different town that's new to me (in Sweden) in a couple of weeks and on top of that I just started a new job a month ago. I feel like my life is turned upside down and I just hop I land on my feet. Not what I thought 30 would look like, but it will be okay.
Your not leaving you are going where you are being called. If you knew how many angels are guiding you your grief would stop immediately. Be joyful that your life is being renewed. Your future is so bright. Self discovery is such a gift. Being alone will help you be the best you possible. I’m sorry about your beautiful little dog. I’m happy for your new journey. God be with you.
Breakups are never easy but you are doing great and although not lasting that relationship had amazing moments and helped you grow into the person you are now so you can live your own life and travel , travel, travel and never forget only you can make yourself happy and your greatest love should always be to yourself
Just remember that you are beautiful inside and out. You have a beautiful soul and heart. You are a talented young lady. You have so much ahead of you. Focus on yourself and on your goals. Sometimes is better to be by ourselves. Have time for you to heal. Do no jump into a relationship. We learned by experiences. You are a priority and your goals. I wish you the best on this new journey in your life. God bless you and protect you always.
Sending all the Love & Support to you! Iam in your shoes at 62 my husband & I divorced lost my best friend My Everything to me! He threw us away 38 years so easy that I’ve had to go see a therapist Iam still Struggling!❤ your still young Iam not saying your not hurting as bad but u still have your Whole life ahead of you!! I feel for you! But try not to let it keep you down!❤
This video is so touching a deeply human. What a moment for you! Rooting for you during this chapter. The best changes always come after big changes, often the bad ones. You got this ✨✨
I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm also so hopeful for you!! I love your outlook on things, and I'm so positive things happen for a reason. This is just part of your story, and it's just a chapter that you need to get through to prepare you for all that's coming :) I'm in a similar boat with choosing to live with my parents right now, until I have a steady ground with my choice in my career (I'm currently switching fields). I am thankful that the money I do make, I get to literally save all of it, and when I do move out, I will not only have enough for a downpayment, but I'll also be in the career I want to be in, instead of blowing it all on rent right now during this transition phase. I think you are doing amazing!!! Best of luck to you
Thank you! Yes, rent is so high in many places right now that it just doesn’t make financial sense and it’s amazing to have parents who support us in making smarter long term financial decisions. Good luck with your transition! ☺️
Thank you for having the courage to share this part of your life! I too am starting my life over in my late 20s in a brand new city and its really scary. As long as we remain optimistic and hope, things will always workout for us ❤️
I just happened to click on what was in front of me prompted by TH-cam. You are very sweet and dear. Treasure the time you have with your family again under one roof. Not many people have that kind of opportunity. Focus on what make you happy. Start with what you are good at. Consider yourself lucky to have a chance to restart a new life at a relatively younger age of 30. God Bless.
I'm sorry to hear that things have not gone well with you recently! Major life changes can be difficult especially the ones you are dealing with. I don't consider this to be a failure at all. We all have our own steps to take in life, and there is no right or wrong path. I know you are taking the path which will make you happy which is the most important thing. I'm excited to see the beginning of your next chapter, and I know you will continue to be the awesome person you truly are! I have faith in you - you got this Elena!!!
Dear friend, if it was going to happen, better now than in another 5 yrs? This is going to be okay, and could be the right thing to happen, though you may not believe that right now, as grieving skews one’s thoughts and feelings. Enjoy this time with your parents and I’m sure you will appreciate not having the worries of the world on your shoulders. 30 is no time at all, you are just getting started, look forward, be present, and keep those breakup cd’s to a minimum! The hardest bit is behind you so go you! 😊
Behind that breakup be happy that you still have your parents and you have a place in their home. Don’t care what people think or talk about. Be hopeful and your year will change. I am 53 years old and it can happy to anyone! Mostly take of yourself and heal your heart.
Sending you the most love and good energy from Seattle. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing with us. I have similar feelings about similar life circumstances recently and it is so nice to connect with someone (even if it is YT) that tells it how it is in grief and loss and that it is not always sunshine and rainbows in life. Especially for influencers. Hang in there! You are enough as you are and thank you for the video. I needed to hear that there is another side of the coin and that there is hope ❤
Thank you! Sorry to hear that you're going through something similar - its not easy but it will be worth it if we can commit to following our own paths. Every life will have it's ups & downs and that's what makes it so beautiful & rich to experience ☀
Same happened to me! I lost my job, then a month later my wife of five years admitted she was having an affair and took the house. I had nothing… but I took the time at my parents to reconsider what had gone wrong, my part in what happened. I also thought about who I want to keep of the old me and who I wanted to become. I let my parents just love me and reshape our relationship. I realized I wasn’t very happy in my old life or in my marriage despite deeply loving my wife. Now 12 years later I have rebuilt my career in a different country, got remarried and have a wonderful 5 year old…. Sometimes life gives you a push. Good luck.
You are young! Very young! Enjoy this decade, I am in my 40's and almost out of it and I cannot tell you how I wish I could re-live my 30's. But I cannot in any way. Life happens and sometimes it is not pretty, kind or nice. Be thankful the relationship ended now and not in your later years, you still have time to find another great relationship, even to have kids if yu want. Learn the lessons and keep on moving forward. All the best!
Did this in Sept 2020, age 34. took me until Oct of 2023 to finally be settled into my own place again. What a blessing to have family be there for you at that age. You always appreciate your parents but after living with them again almost midlife is a whole different experience. I'm SO blessed for my parents. For me I was struggling with my health. I don't think I would be here if it was not for them.
You are incredibly brave. You dont know it yet but you will look back on this time and be grateful for who you became. Spend time with your parents and to be selfish. Do what you want to do. Although society will try to make you believe otherwise...you have all the time in the world!. ❤
Elena, this must be so hard. I separated from my partner of 16 years this year, and it really felt like I was dying. You are not alone. One hour at a time.
I love that this popped up on my youtube home page! sending you all the good vibes. as someone who is also in their 30s, i'm convinced 30s are the new 20s. and you're right, we get to do that again & again 7ish more times. we are young!💛
This video was put together so well. I admire your strength as you navigate this difficult time, it’s truly inspiring and relatable. You have so much good coming your way, incredibly exciting stuff! Oh, and I really want to see the room tour! Love watching videos on how people organize and set up their spaces :)
Hey Elena, I just want to wish you the best in this new chapter of your life - the best is yet to come! Congrats on growing your channel - I can relate to you so much as I just turned 30 and started a TH-cam channel after finishing my PhD which was a big chapter of my life. I love travelling too, I've been to 35+ countries. I am excited for your travels, travelling is great to not only discover new places in the world, but new places inside ourselves too. Enjoy that!
@@chaptersofelena Thanks, yes it was intense, but I'm grateful for the journey. Enjoy being back home with your parents, it is great to spend some quality time with them. Time goes by quickly, you will start another chapter soon.
I've been going through a breakup for a year and a half. Together 4.5, lived together for 1.5 and im just now moving into my own place and it is terrifying. I feel you 100 percent and you have a support system, even from strangers.
@@chaptersofelena You're welcome, and i'll give the cliche response of, keep going, build yourself up to be stronger! I hate hearing it but i know that it works lol
I have experienced starting over after break up, i won't deny it it's tough especially if one is not in the correct frame of mind, which no one is when going thru it. If you got a support group be it friends, family, group whatever it is, i would say lean on that, there is so many people that can indur the hurt with basic daily activities and that can also be a downfall not for all for some. just be positive, i was never one to think ahead two, three years, i was live in the moment one day at a time because one thing i learned is that the world does not stop for one second for you. I knew one day i would look back at that part of my life and laugh it, yeah the what if's but no one knows like the writers of the world say it's the interweaving of our lives how they come together and come apart, and it truly makes us that much STRONGER for the next conflict or challenge we have to go up against. Live Life Love Hard be vulnerable and authentic in your relationships. Thanks for Sharing...
I only found your channel a few weeks ago but this video really spoke to me. You seem like such an amazing person and I am sending you so many best wishes
it happened to me, he met someone else and moved out, i was a wreck for 2 weeks crying all the time, then one day i woke up and said to myself, i dont need him, he is not loyal, but a traitor, so to speak. In about 6 months, you will slowly start to forget about the pain, it will be relief. Hang in there, god has a better plan for your life.
I mean it’s not the worst thing. Like whatever. You get to spend some quality time with your parents and they will enjoy having you there! … I had lived overseas for 11-years then returned to live with my parents in my mid-30’s … then I met the love of my life. He met my parents on our first date! Ha’ as he picked me up at home. … We were married a year later and I got pregnant with our twin boys. We’re still together almost 28-years since then it feels like yesterday. We’re still on our honeymoon ❤ I love him so much. One of our sons still lives with us and that’s okay. Enjoy your time with your mum and dad. ❤
It's amazing that your talking about this but you going through a lot your only young .. this good in sense you can save up possible not just rent but buy your own place if need it literally can be such struggle on own not say can't be done I'm single mum 2 kids and rent is insane as long u get see your kids ..and your doing best what works for u and your kids Wether u choose move on with someone new soon or in long time or never that up to u and your choice it's so great your parents are so supportive but also hard that u Lost part you independence .. no one should ever judge u nore should u judge yourself your doing the best u can do and u should be proud ..
You're not moving backwards, think of it as a side-step before moving forwards again (which you will soon enough). And don't think the rest of us have everything planned out for the rest of our lives either, most of us are on that same life rollercoaster - for every down, there will be always be an up. Looking forward to your vlog/TH-cam/life journey as I know (going by the growing numbers), many of us are 😃
When we are young it's surprisingly easy to trust the wrong person. Then we realise we have to take care of ourselves. Never mind babies unless you have one. Take care of you.
The end of my marriage had nothing to do with a breakdown of trust, but I understand where you're coming from. I'm glad to have some time to focus on building my life up :)
im a new subscriber and ive gone through seperation and divorce and yes i am back with my parents and my daughter who is 15, so thank you for sharing your journey
I'm 30 years old and have never been in a long term relationship. Every time I come across stories like this, I just feel very fortunate that that's the case. I've never experienced needing to "start over", I don't know what it's like to spend several years of my life investing into someone only for it all to just disappear, and I hope to keep it that way. I don't really see the appeal of relationships, from my observation only a small minority of people are genuinely happy and fulfilled by the marriages they are in and so getting into one just always seems like a massive gamble. You could hit the jackpot ( a loving, healthy relationship that lasts you the rest of your life ), but the chances of that are very, extremely slim.
I'm glad you're happy with your life! I have no regrets & I don't see these years as a loss at all, I've experienced & learned so much and have many happy memories - relationships bring such a depth & richness to life :) Relationships can be loving & healthy & still end, "forever" is not the defining factor of success (like you said, many people stay in ones they don't like). But of course, romantic relationships aren't for everyone, so it's important to know what you want in life & it sounds like you do!
Grandma Karen here. You? Are gonna be just fine. Also there are NO accidents or coincidences. If you haven’t heard of it yet I highly recommend a book: the artists way.
I just found your video. The same ish thing happened to me. Going back to your parents house is going to be a massive change! But.... Take your time, go for your walks and be good to yourself!!! After I got messages from my ex of 10 years saying Sorry... I will always Love you and miss you. No. Stay strong ☘️☘️💚💚
I think if you get attached to someone in your early 20s then its almost the norm to break up around the 30s. Life is long. You have a whole other lifetime to live between your 30s and 60s and it can be good.
Around 2003 I have had to deal with a similar situation. But on my case, after suffering an accident and my girlfriend's death. - I spent months on a hospital, have had to do my best and overcome all the crap that happened to me... And then I ended getting back home, as it was painful to stay on a apartment with so many memories... Anyways, eventually things got back to the track and I decided to stay home, as my father suffered an stroke and needed some help... So, in the end, getting back home is a chance to restart your life as a better person.
Your parents love you and are there for you, and this is a time of healing and redefining your life. But don't stay with them too long! They have a "next chapter" of their lives too, while they still have vigor and health. Enjoy them to the max, but press on to your own next chapter. If you need to, get more education for a job that will enable you to be independent.
accepting a helping hand is ok but usually this helping hand (in this case parents which is too strong of a habit because parents is a safety net)also gets a habit and drawns us back. Good luck @@chaptersofelena
I'm 48; I have started over many many times and always from shitty situation, and the older I got, each time got harder and harder starting over. I wish I had my parents sometimes, so I could go home, take full advantage, forget about a relationship, it's not going to make you happy. Remember stay away from relationships.
Sorry to hear that you've had to start over multiple times, it's never easy. Though I'm still very optimistic when it comes to relationships - not to make me happy, but to amplify & share the joy I already have in life. Just because something doesn't last forever, doesn't mean its not valuable or worth pursuing! I hope you find healing with that & are able to experience loving relationships in the future 💙
You need to be positive stop the self pity. you have your parents to live with rent free you have possessions i left with just the clothes i was wearing, no place to go to no home no money no job no one to stay with It was very hard i had to leave two dogs that were then killed. within a couple of months i had a job and a flat a bed and a fridge they were all the possessions i had for a few quite a while but thats life you have to work with what you have and make the best of it you are soooo lucky you just dont know it
I'm so sorry to hear that you've had such a hard time 🙁 I am extremely grateful, everyone deserves to have love & support in hard times, including you, and from the bottom of my heart I wish you could've had that too 💛
Not sure why this came up on my YT …prob because I watched another vlogger talk about her breakup. Well, as someone who’s in her fifties and separated with kids, I wonder if I ever should have seen the signs sooner and left sooner. You are young and you will be ok. It’s tough and it truly is grieving.
You’ve got your health. You don’t have kids with your ex. The worst part of your situation is having to share the dog. You dodged many bad turns. Your new life will be fantastic. Stay positive.
Good video. I enjoyed it. A few things... 1. Losing your loved one to cancer is probably worse than what you've gone through. Always remember... Other people have it better, and worse, than you. 2. I lived at home with my parents for a bit around your age. No shame. Save/invest and you'll be fine. 3. Don't assume you have several decades more to go. We're all one medical diagnosis away... Or just unlucky to be at the wrong place at the wrong time... And that's it. Good luck to you! 👍🙏
Of course, there are always people in different places in life. I've never found comparing myself to others (whether they are doing "better" or "worse") to be helpful for me, and thinking that life is short just makes me feel pressure & anxiety & paralyzes me rather than inspiring me, so I personally find the "life is long" mindset to be much more helpful! But it's true that having a big picture perspective is important! Thanks for watching :)
honey- i've "started over" countless times over the course of my 65 years in this realm...yeah it sucks no question, but when i look back at all my rock bottom periods, i know that i became a better person each time- BTW- my last start over was 2 years ago when i lost my job, home, family and friends during the Covidian Rule. I was 63 then and I've built a new life by my own strength. I know me now, and had no clue who i was half my life ago. Just say this every night before you go to bed, "My life turns out better than i could ever have imagined!" 🤗
Yes, I can already feel myself becoming stronger from this period & can't wait to see who I'll be in a few years. Love that phrase - a similar phrase I like to come back to is "universe, show me how good it can get" 💛
Congratulations. I am sorry for your loss but you are finding that a "partner" is not necessary in your life--perhaps even a hindrance at this stage. Your parents are lovely to let you move back home as a STEP FORWARD to a better more rewarding life. TAKE YOUR TIME to figure out what you want to do next. Do not rush yourself. Grieve when you need to but use that pain as a stepping stone to continue the process of figuring out who YOU are without a partner. I am most sorry you are leaving your pup behind--two losses--one non-judgmental. Any friends or relatives who PUT YOU DOWN for this move you should relabel "toxic" and stay away from them. I'll be watching you move forward.
I would love a life partner again someday but like you said, I am certainly in no rush & have many other things I want to solidify first! And I'm grateful to have really amazing friends who have been nothing but supportive & encouraging through all this 💛 Thank you for your support!!
It's really not a big deal. Sometimes you have to go back to your roots to ground yourself and re-establish a sense of safety. A relationship breakup is a 'loss' so you need time to grieve that.
Also good look work as well as other fantastic u get travel ..and so good u can talk about ..you won't be only 1 going through this and other can even myself turning 30 I thought I should done more Gome further in life but I think just remember your doing your best.
ARE YOU LIVING MY LIFE? I TURN 30 IN LIKE 9 DAYS. I STILL LIVE WITH MY MOM. (GRANTED IM FROM MEXICO AND CULTURAL DIFFERENCES) BUT RENT IS REALLY EXPENSIVE HERE IN THE CITY SO.. YEAH I AGREE LIKE YES SO GLAD IVE FOUND YOU TODAY HAVE A GREAT DAY, AFTERNOON OR NIGHT WHENEVER AND IF YOU READ THIS
sweetheart I divorced when I was 22 yrs old, met my 2nd husband when Iwas 28, I have never been happier in my life, I am 67years old, 3 beautiful kids, Trust me things seem at the worst, but they will get better
It is better that you are goung through this now. You did not wastw endless years. Look to the future work on yourself become self sufficient A relatiinship should enhance your life never ever be your life. Glad I found your channel
I don't consider the last 5 years wasted as I learned so much & made a lot of treasured memories, but it is certainly good to make changes as soon as you know it's not right for you! Thank you for watching 😊
You do not look like someone whose life fell apart, quite contrary. You surely know the saying "Is the glass half empty or half full". Well that sounds naive and simple, but in reality it is that simple, it just depends on the point of view. Simple doesnt mean easy, though. About 22 years ago i found myself a single dad with a not yet one year old child. After having been lied to, cheated on and screamed at for years. After about three weeks i needed to reset myself, i found the glass is already half full and awaits further filling. I focused on what i gained, that required quite some effort in the beginning though, not on what i lost, or what i realized later on what i actually only imagined i had lost.
You are blessed to have your parents. Always show them and tell them how much you love and appreciate all they do. After death, there's no second chance. Don't let your circumstances change how you think, what and in whom you believe and how you feel. Worry is the number one cause of illness. If you have a problem, fix it instead of worrying, seek help if necessary and if possible pray and leave it in God's hand, He is in charge and move on living right. (The way I live: when I get up in the morning everyday is a great day, I don't complain about anything, not even the weather, I just dress for it and enjoy. I go about loving everyone no matter what they look like or who they are even if they don't like me. I don't hold grudges and am quick to forgive...results in peace of mind daily). God bless you.
Hi @53 darling please go back to your true home and know that’s a safe place to find the new you and enjoy life this time with no timelines and boundaries and the peace and happiness we all deserve as women this time pour into YOU the way you poured into that 20 something life making the primary focus YOU….This too Shall pass trust me if I could go back to my 20s I would never had jumped into a relationship it fucking drained me and I learned and vowed never the fuck again - so go into 30 knowing this is the Universe giving you what you need ….A restart enjoy!
33 year old man (or boy....) here. Broke up with my bf who I'd been together with for 10.5 years. We're almost a year later and I'm still an emotional and physical wreck. The worst part is that I gave him almost all (what should've been) the best years of my life, held myself back on so many occasions and received little in return (especially sexually). I'm alone, broken and bitter because of it. I can't see positivity anymore.
I'm sorry that you've had such a tough time with the breakup. It can take time, but I have faith that you'll find your way back. Despite what society says about your youth being the best years, I hold the belief that my life only gets better & better as I age. Sending hope & positivity your way! ☀
I grief 9 years now. Since my fiancé died due to cancer after 5 years relationship. We were about to get married and well I will not lie saying I was happier and happier every single day. He was an amazing men, with moral spine , hard working , very protective and well the men all of us dream about. This is a different grief then after splitting . You can always be together again. I can’t . And for 9 years I didn’t find purpose in life. I wanted to be amok and have family not work to pay bills. I just exist. I don’t have time left to be a mom so I grief that one as well . I don’t have any family nor friends 😮 I literally live a lonely life every day filled with work , crying and suicidal thoughts. It was same after funeral - not even 1 person helped me 😔 I shouldn’t have been born 😢
I'm so so sorry to hear that 💙 You absolutely were meant to be born, I believe that we are not what happens to us but what we make of it, how we grow & move forward. It's not easy, but I hope you can start by finding some support (I personally love therapy!) and begin to heal so you can move forward and build a beautiful life for yourself. I believe in you!!
Girl how did you adjust from having a whole house to just one room? Did you get a storage unit? (No hate, my fiance broke things off this summer and i had to move back into my parents for a bit while i found a new place, it was really hard)
Ah that sucks, I'm sorry :( and totally valid question! I didn't need to get a storage unit as my room is a decent size and I stored bigger items/boxes of stuff I don't actually need right now (dishes, small appliances, off-season clothes etc) in my parent's basement. If they didn't have the space then I probably would have had to get a unit!
Darling Listen to me I’m 62, you have an opportunity to save your money by living with your parents. So please do that and save as much as you can your so young. Take the first year to reorganize your thoughts and spend time with your parents. In other words don’t rush…..save your money and try not to get into another relationship right away. Get to know you. 🙋🏻♀️
100%
So true! I'm reminding myself that not everyone gets the opportunity to spend a lot of time close to their parents as an adult so I'm making the most of this chance, because it also won't last forever 💛
Aww I love this so much, I love advice from people that are older ❤❤
I agree great advice ❤
This!! I didn’t have anyone )my dad passed and my mom left because she was addicted to drugs and alcohol) I had to sleep in my car for 2 days. It was the loneliest time in my entire life. Please take time with your family and enjoy life as best as possible 🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
My daughter was in your exact position five years ago ending a 7 year marriage at the age of 30. She has lived with us for the last five years, saving more than $10,000. During this period she was in a relationship with someone overseas that did not work out. Just when she thought she would not find her way again, she met the person who is the right person and has found her dream job. God has a plan for your life, you just have to have someone in your corner who believes this whole heartedly even though you may not believe it yourself.
I love that things worked out so beautifully for your daughter & that you supported her through it all! I also believe that things will work out they way they’re meant to 💛
I needed to see this. Thank you.
I'm 35 and separated from my boyfriend last year, with whom I was for 13 years. When we are griefing we always feel like we are the only ones feeling such pain. But it has happend and will happen to so many people. You are on the right path with having a great appreciation for change. All the best for you!
So true, we are never alone even in our most trying times! Thank you 🙏🏼
I'm 50 and a father of 3 children, I am glad that you can move back with your parents. They are there (and should be happy) to support you in time like this. It is completely OK to get help sometimes, especially from those who are closed to you.
But God does not approve of divorce.
Thank you! I’m grateful to have supportive parents ☺️
@@purpleflowers92 god doesn't approve of many things, but we also have free reign to choose for ourselves.
I did the same thing, after my breakup I moved back home. I saved a lot of money and got a new (used) car with cash. It was hard at first, but like anything it gets better with time.
Amazing :) Glad to hear things are improving for you!
Life never falls apart. It falls apart only in your mind & only in your thoughts. you seem healthy & good to go. dont buy every idea your mind sells to you. thats its job! good luck
Thank you! :)
Sending you all the virtual hugs ❤️ I had to move back to my mums at 30 and I had moved out at 18 so it felt like I'd taken a step backwards. It ended up being the best thing though, space to get over the bad break up and time to get my savings back on track. I'm 37 now and ended up with my soon to be husband and living by the coast - literally the life I've always dreamed of. Things will fall into place and your life will be so much better :) you've got this!
That is amazing!! Thank you for sharing your story & your encouragement 😊
Hi Elena, I got some crazy things to say. Your video popped up on my feed and I just clicked it because of the title because thats exactly the situation I am in too. I will turn 30 in a couple of days und broke up with my long time partner 2 month ago, now living with my parents again. I even had long brown hair (cut it on my own yesterday haha) and wearing a grey jumper right now. Is this crazy?! Here I am, on the other side of our planet, going through exakt the same pain and issues. And I, as well, see the opportunity to save money to create my own future, while living with my parents. In some crazy way it was like I was watching my alter ego telling me what to do and that the best is yet to come even if the grieve feels heavy somedays. So thank you for this video, it was weird and comforting all at once. All the best for you and greetings from germany.
Wow, I love when the universe sends signs of support & the exact messages we need to hear at the perfect time! ❤ I'm so glad my video connected with you & that you found it comforting. Sending you all the best from Canada!
Elena I'm in the same boat as you. My marriage of 24 years is over. My husband has mental illness, narcissistic, and serious anger issues.
We have an adult daughter. I wish I had my Mom close by so I can stay with her. But unfortunately we have to stay in a hotel. I got a house but it needs cosmetic repairs. My whole life has been turned upside down. I'm working full time, finding someone to fix the cosmetic repairs, being a Mom and packing my stuff all at the same time. My daughter is packing her stuff too. So my emotions are all over the place and it's a hard time for me especially with no family support and no friends.
I'm been praying more than ever. I have to stay strong and not look tired when I go to work. It's hard but I know God will get me through.
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through that. Thankfully my husband & I ended things mutually & amicably and are still on good terms, so I can only imagine how much harder this would be when that's not the case and children are involved. I hope you are able to find time to care for yourself and your emotions through this. Sending you lots of love - if the comments on this video have showed me anything it's that we are never alone in our experiences
Thinking such good thoughts for you. Keep moving forward and breathe. Wishing you the best!
Wishing you all the best. It will come good eventually. Be kind to yourself. Big hugs
@@chaptersofelenahow could it have ended mutually? I mean there has to be some resentment especially after committing to marriage, changing your whole life to be with someone only to have to start over again
@@AFGixxeR88 Nope, there actually doesn't have to be! Every relationship is unique & different, and the way they end is too. I know many people don't understand that because they've never had that experience themselves, but it's possible :)
I got out of a 5 year relationship/marriage after 5 years at age 28, also had to give up my dog. Life has been wonderful ever since. Enjoy your stay with your parents, you won't regret it.
Love that things have worked out so well for you!! 😊
Went through this about 3 years ago. My ex wife and I divorced after years of being together. I moved from Kentucky, back home with family in California to start over. Took this time to heal, and asses where I was at in life, and decide who and where I wanted to be in the future, and then started working towards building that future. Its not easy, but Im much happier now.
Amazing, glad to hear you’re happier now!! ☺️
I'm sorry that you're going through this. I can't imagine how hard it must be to end a long term relationship and marriage, but I imagine this experience also comes with a lot of learning lessons, personal growth and new opportunities. I will say I love how you hit 1k on the day of your move. It's definitely a sign that the Universe has your back and the sign of one chapter closing and a new one starting. Sending you all the best vibes 💛
Thank you, I appreciate the support! 💛 So true & I think the learning & growth from this experience is just beginning and there's so much more to come :)
As a 45 year old single mom, I’ve launched a few times. I stumbled upon your channel because I want to do travel UGC. Sometimes in life we get matchbox car experiences. We go back a bit in order to propel forward. You will be fine. Breathe and continue to be you.
Glad you’re here & thank you for your kind words :)
hey! my relationship recently ended, i'm 28 and moved across the country to live with my dad. you're not the only one in this boat! don't be ashamed, inflation sucks right now, the economy is shit and you're making a smart decision. in a few years you will look back and be so glad you sacrificed for your future.
So true! :)
Hello from the UK! Just found your channel and wanted to share some solidarity. In London so many people aged 28-35 are living w parents to save money. Dating here is really tricky too and without a partner it is nearly imposs to get on the property ladder. Living at home at 30 should never have been de-normalised when it is right for so many of us working towards the next chapter in these expensive times. Different paths. 🌻
So true, thank you for sharing!
Spend as much time with your parents. My dad passed away last Sunday and that is one thing I don’t regret doing, moving out, I’m in my 30s but staying home allowed me to stay with him a bit longer.
Oh I'm so sorry to hear that 💙 Sending love your way!
I've been where you are. In a situation like this, the comfort of family is gold. I am telling you... spending as my time with my family as much as possible made me feel whole, comforted and secure. Many things in life are fleeting, but if you have a good family, that is something that will always remain. Take this time to heal, recharge and regroup. You are lucky to have that opportunity. :)
Absolutely, I'm lucky in a lot of ways, supportive family included! 💛
I don't make much either but I'm remaining hopeful. I'm in my forties. I too am excited for the new journey ahead. It's exciting to know I will have my own space soon.
Stay hopeful, you've got this!! 🙌
My 5-year relationship ended when I was 31 (now 33). I moved into a 1-bedroom and I still live in the 1-bedroom. Unexpectedly I met the love of my life shortly after my breakup and I recently got engaged. We are now looking for a place together, so things happens for a reason. You’ll get through this😊
Love that!!! So glad things worked out well for you :)
At 27 I became single and moved back home. I’m 31 and still at home. I’ve finished college debt free his past summer and am just now starting to save since I got a better job. Life has a lot of “starting over” moments I’ve learned. It sucks and is emotionally hard but if you focus on you, you’ll love it like I have.
Congratulations on finishing college debt-free, that's amazing!! It's so true, but I'd rather "start over" again & again than stay where I know I'm not meant to be. Good luck on your next steps! 💛
This exact thing happened to me at 31. Moved in with my parents and had lost what I thought was everything. almost 34 now and I have my own house and am living peacefully on my own! When it gets tough (which it most certainly will), just keeping staying positive and working toward what you want next for yourself. It'll come :)
That's so amazing, congrats!!
It's so nice and comforting to see someone else going through a similar thing. I'm turning 30 in a about month, me and my husband are in the process of separating, I'm moving into my own apartment in a different town that's new to me (in Sweden) in a couple of weeks and on top of that I just started a new job a month ago. I feel like my life is turned upside down and I just hop I land on my feet. Not what I thought 30 would look like, but it will be okay.
Sorry to hear that - I have faith that you absolutely will land on your feet!! It’s a hard transition but will be so worth it :)
Your not leaving you are going where you are being called. If you knew how many angels are guiding you your grief would stop immediately. Be joyful that your life is being renewed. Your future is so bright. Self discovery is such a gift. Being alone will help you be the best you possible. I’m sorry about your beautiful little dog. I’m happy for your new journey. God be with you.
Thank you 🙏
Breakups are never easy but you are doing great and although not lasting that relationship had amazing moments and helped you grow into the person you are now so you can live your own life and travel , travel, travel and never forget only you can make yourself happy and your greatest love should always be to yourself
Yes absolutely, I have no regrets and I'm so thankful for the relationship I've had 🙏
Just remember that you are beautiful inside and out. You have a beautiful soul and heart. You are a talented young lady. You have so much ahead of you. Focus on yourself and on your goals. Sometimes is better to be by ourselves. Have time for you to heal. Do no jump into a relationship. We learned by experiences. You are a priority and your goals. I wish you the best on this new journey in your life. God bless you and protect you always.
That is very true indeed
Thank you! ☺️
Sending all the Love & Support to you! Iam in your shoes at 62 my husband & I divorced lost my best friend My Everything to me! He threw us away 38 years so easy that I’ve had to go see a therapist Iam still Struggling!❤ your still young Iam not saying your not hurting as bad but u still have your Whole life ahead of you!! I feel for you! But try not to let it keep you down!❤
I'm so sorry to hear that, that must be really hard on you :( therapy is a wonderful resource, I'm glad you're getting support!
Lots of love from me to you❤
I can’t imagine how hard these past couple of months have been for you but I just have to say I really love your outlook on this next chapter ❤️
Thank you!! ☺️
This video is so touching a deeply human. What a moment for you! Rooting for you during this chapter. The best changes always come after big changes, often the bad ones. You got this ✨✨
Thank you, that means a lot! 💛
I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm also so hopeful for you!! I love your outlook on things, and I'm so positive things happen for a reason. This is just part of your story, and it's just a chapter that you need to get through to prepare you for all that's coming :) I'm in a similar boat with choosing to live with my parents right now, until I have a steady ground with my choice in my career (I'm currently switching fields). I am thankful that the money I do make, I get to literally save all of it, and when I do move out, I will not only have enough for a downpayment, but I'll also be in the career I want to be in, instead of blowing it all on rent right now during this transition phase. I think you are doing amazing!!! Best of luck to you
Thank you! Yes, rent is so high in many places right now that it just doesn’t make financial sense and it’s amazing to have parents who support us in making smarter long term financial decisions. Good luck with your transition! ☺️
@@chaptersofelena thank you so much!!
Thank you for having the courage to share this part of your life! I too am starting my life over in my late 20s in a brand new city and its really scary. As long as we remain optimistic and hope, things will always workout for us ❤️
100%! We’ve got this 🙌🏼
I just happened to click on what was in front of me prompted by TH-cam. You are very sweet and dear. Treasure the time you have with your family again under one roof. Not many people have that kind of opportunity. Focus on what make you happy. Start with what you are good at. Consider yourself lucky to have a chance to restart a new life at a relatively younger age of 30. God Bless.
So true - thank you for your kind words! :)
It warms my heart that you've replied to every one who left a comment on your site. You have a heart of gold!@@chaptersofelena
I'm sorry to hear that things have not gone well with you recently! Major life changes can be difficult especially the ones you are dealing with. I don't consider this to be a failure at all. We all have our own steps to take in life, and there is no right or wrong path. I know you are taking the path which will make you happy which is the most important thing. I'm excited to see the beginning of your next chapter, and I know you will continue to be the awesome person you truly are! I have faith in you - you got this Elena!!!
Thanks Scott!!
Dear friend, if it was going to happen, better now than in another 5 yrs? This is going to be okay, and could be the right thing to happen, though you may not believe that right now, as grieving skews one’s thoughts and feelings. Enjoy this time with your parents and I’m sure you will appreciate not having the worries of the world on your shoulders. 30 is no time at all, you are just getting started, look forward, be present, and keep those breakup cd’s to a minimum! The hardest bit is behind you so go you! 😊
Thank you! It's absolutely for the best, even though there are a lot of emotions to work through. I appreciate the encouragement! 🙏
Your life is not falling apart, it’s falling back together.💜
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Behind that breakup be happy that you still have your parents and you have a place in their home. Don’t care what people think or talk about. Be hopeful and your year will change. I am 53 years old and it can happy to anyone! Mostly take of yourself and heal your heart.
Thank you! Staying hopeful 🙏🏼
im glad I keep running into these videos It gives me hope as a 25 year old living at home still. saving money and making plans
Glad to hear this gives you hope! 25 is so young & saving money at home is such a smart choice at that age :)
I love the fact being so open and vulnerable, but also trying to look forward for living life in this new chapter❤
Thank you 🙏🏼
You got this sweetie ~ take your time and breathe ❤❤
Thank you 💛
Sending you the most love and good energy from Seattle. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing with us. I have similar feelings about similar life circumstances recently and it is so nice to connect with someone (even if it is YT) that tells it how it is in grief and loss and that it is not always sunshine and rainbows in life. Especially for influencers. Hang in there! You are enough as you are and thank you for the video. I needed to hear that there is another side of the coin and that there is hope ❤
Thank you! Sorry to hear that you're going through something similar - its not easy but it will be worth it if we can commit to following our own paths. Every life will have it's ups & downs and that's what makes it so beautiful & rich to experience ☀
Same happened to me! I lost my job, then a month later my wife of five years admitted she was having an affair and took the house. I had nothing… but I took the time at my parents to reconsider what had gone wrong, my part in what happened. I also thought about who I want to keep of the old me and who I wanted to become. I let my parents just love me and reshape our relationship. I realized I wasn’t very happy in my old life or in my marriage despite deeply loving my wife. Now 12 years later I have rebuilt my career in a different country, got remarried and have a wonderful 5 year old…. Sometimes life gives you a push. Good luck.
You are young! Very young! Enjoy this decade, I am in my 40's and almost out of it and I cannot tell you how I wish I could re-live my 30's. But I cannot in any way. Life happens and sometimes it is not pretty, kind or nice. Be thankful the relationship ended now and not in your later years, you still have time to find another great relationship, even to have kids if yu want. Learn the lessons and keep on moving forward. All the best!
So true, there's so much time ahead of me! Thank you 🙏
You’re being so strong and positive! Thanks for sharing ✨👏🏽 you got this
Thank you!! :)
GOD , you’re still a baby. Live, appreciate, learn, and you can conquer the world.. still ahead of time. I swear.i swear.
Thank you 😊
In our 30s are very very very young !
Don't listen to society !
Trust yourself !
I totally agree!! Self trust is so important
I am going through the same thing currently just know it is a fresh new start and enjoy getting to know more about your self . 😇
Absolutely, right back at ya!
Did this in Sept 2020, age 34. took me until Oct of 2023 to finally be settled into my own place again. What a blessing to have family be there for you at that age. You always appreciate your parents but after living with them again almost midlife is a whole different experience. I'm SO blessed for my parents. For me I was struggling with my health. I don't think I would be here if it was not for them.
It truly is! And you learn so much from spending so much time with them as an adult. Glad to hear you were able to get the support you needed too!
You are incredibly brave. You dont know it yet but you will look back on this time and be grateful for who you became. Spend time with your parents and to be selfish. Do what you want to do. Although society will try to make you believe otherwise...you have all the time in the world!. ❤
Thank you! 😊
Elena, this must be so hard. I separated from my partner of 16 years this year, and it really felt like I was dying. You are not alone. One hour at a time.
Sorry to hear that! Thank you & I hope you feel better soon 🤍
I love that this popped up on my youtube home page! sending you all the good vibes. as someone who is also in their 30s, i'm convinced 30s are the new 20s. and you're right, we get to do that again & again 7ish more times. we are young!💛
Thank you!! Yes I am genuinely so excited for my 30s and everything they will bring! 💛
This video was put together so well. I admire your strength as you navigate this difficult time, it’s truly inspiring and relatable. You have so much good coming your way, incredibly exciting stuff! Oh, and I really want to see the room tour! Love watching videos on how people organize and set up their spaces :)
Aw thank you!! You got it - room tour coming soon! 📹
Hey Elena, I just want to wish you the best in this new chapter of your life - the best is yet to come! Congrats on growing your channel - I can relate to you so much as I just turned 30 and started a TH-cam channel after finishing my PhD which was a big chapter of my life. I love travelling too, I've been to 35+ countries. I am excited for your travels, travelling is great to not only discover new places in the world, but new places inside ourselves too. Enjoy that!
Thank you!! And congrats on completing your PhD, that's huge! 🙌
@@chaptersofelena Thanks, yes it was intense, but I'm grateful for the journey. Enjoy being back home with your parents, it is great to spend some quality time with them. Time goes by quickly, you will start another chapter soon.
Just stumbled across your channel because of this video. I subscribed so fast! Leaving the wrong situation is always an upgrade.🙌🏻
Thank you & welcome!! :)
I've been going through a breakup for a year and a half. Together 4.5, lived together for 1.5 and im just now moving into my own place and it is terrifying. I feel you 100 percent and you have a support system, even from strangers.
Sorry that you're going through something similar. Thanks for your support! 🙏
@@chaptersofelena You're welcome, and i'll give the cliche response of, keep going, build yourself up to be stronger! I hate hearing it but i know that it works lol
I have experienced starting over after break up, i won't deny it it's tough especially if one is not in the correct frame of mind, which no one is when going thru it. If you got a support group be it friends, family, group whatever it is, i would say lean on that, there is so many people that can indur the hurt with basic daily activities and that can also be a downfall not for all for some. just be positive, i was never one to think ahead two, three years, i was live in the moment one day at a time because one thing i learned is that the world does not stop for one second for you. I knew one day i would look back at that part of my life and laugh it, yeah the what if's but no one knows like the writers of the world say it's the interweaving of our lives how they come together and come apart, and it truly makes us that much STRONGER for the next conflict or challenge we have to go up against. Live Life Love Hard be vulnerable and authentic in your relationships. Thanks for Sharing...
Thanks for watching!! Having a support system is truly such a blessing & so important in hard times.
I only found your channel a few weeks ago but this video really spoke to me. You seem like such an amazing person and I am sending you so many best wishes
Thank you so much & welcome to my channel! 💛
Losing my dog was the absolute worst part of my separation. I’m still broken hearted.
I’m so sorry to hear that 😔 it is so difficult to separate from them.
Making your life is a joy.Moving home is good
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Wishing you all the best and I hope you are ok. Sending positivity your way
Thank you! :)
it happened to me, he met someone else and moved out, i was a wreck for 2 weeks crying all the time, then one day i woke up and said to myself, i dont need him, he is not loyal, but a traitor, so to speak. In about 6 months, you will slowly start to forget about the pain, it will be relief. Hang in there, god has a better plan for your life.
Thank you 😊🙏
I mean it’s not the worst thing. Like whatever. You get to spend some quality time with your parents and they will enjoy having you there! … I had lived overseas for 11-years then returned to live with my parents in my mid-30’s … then I met the love of my life. He met my parents on our first date! Ha’ as he picked me up at home. … We were married a year later and I got pregnant with our twin boys. We’re still together almost 28-years since then it feels like yesterday. We’re still on our honeymoon ❤ I love him so much. One of our sons still lives with us and that’s okay. Enjoy your time with your mum and dad. ❤
Wow what a story, thank you for sharing! Glad things worked out so wonderfully for you ☺️
It's amazing that your talking about this but you going through a lot your only young .. this good in sense you can save up possible not just rent but buy your own place if need it literally can be such struggle on own not say can't be done I'm single mum 2 kids and rent is insane as long u get see your kids ..and your doing best what works for u and your kids Wether u choose move on with someone new soon or in long time or never that up to u and your choice it's so great your parents are so supportive but also hard that u Lost part you independence .. no one should ever judge u nore should u judge yourself your doing the best u can do and u should be proud ..
Thank you 💛 There are lots of ups & downs to this situation but I'm choosing to focus on the good & potential of my future!
You're not moving backwards, think of it as a side-step before moving forwards again (which you will soon enough). And don't think the rest of us have everything planned out for the rest of our lives either, most of us are on that same life rollercoaster - for every down, there will be always be an up. Looking forward to your vlog/TH-cam/life journey as I know (going by the growing numbers), many of us are 😃
Thank you! Love thinking of it as a side-step :)
When we are young it's surprisingly easy to trust the wrong person. Then we realise we have to take care of ourselves. Never mind babies unless you have one. Take care of you.
The end of my marriage had nothing to do with a breakdown of trust, but I understand where you're coming from. I'm glad to have some time to focus on building my life up :)
im a new subscriber and ive gone through seperation and divorce and yes i am back with my parents and my daughter who is 15, so thank you for sharing your journey
That must be so tough, but you’ll get through it! Glad you connected with my story 🤍
I'm 30 years old and have never been in a long term relationship. Every time I come across stories like this, I just feel very fortunate that that's the case. I've never experienced needing to "start over", I don't know what it's like to spend several years of my life investing into someone only for it all to just disappear, and I hope to keep it that way. I don't really see the appeal of relationships, from my observation only a small minority of people are genuinely happy and fulfilled by the marriages they are in and so getting into one just always seems like a massive gamble. You could hit the jackpot ( a loving, healthy relationship that lasts you the rest of your life ), but the chances of that are very, extremely slim.
I'm glad you're happy with your life! I have no regrets & I don't see these years as a loss at all, I've experienced & learned so much and have many happy memories - relationships bring such a depth & richness to life :) Relationships can be loving & healthy & still end, "forever" is not the defining factor of success (like you said, many people stay in ones they don't like). But of course, romantic relationships aren't for everyone, so it's important to know what you want in life & it sounds like you do!
Fellow young creator here. Stay strong. Rooting for you every day ❤
Thank you!
Grandma Karen here. You? Are gonna be just fine. Also there are NO accidents or coincidences. If you haven’t heard of it yet I highly recommend a book: the artists way.
Yes I love the artist's way! I do my morning pages every day ✍
New beginnings ❤ congrats on 1K subscribers ❤
Thank you! 🤗
I just found your video. The same ish thing happened to me. Going back to your parents house is going to be a massive change! But.... Take your time, go for your walks and be good to yourself!!! After I got messages from my ex of 10 years saying Sorry... I will always Love you and miss you. No. Stay strong ☘️☘️💚💚
It's an adjustment for sure but it comes with its own blessings, which is what I'm trying to focus on :) Thanks for watching!
New subscriber here. I'm sorry to hear about your separation from your husband. His loss. Remember, rejection is God's protection. Peace 🕊️
welcome, thank you for watching & your support! 🙏
I think if you get attached to someone in your early 20s then its almost the norm to break up around the 30s. Life is long. You have a whole other lifetime to live between your 30s and 60s and it can be good.
It’s certainly more common than I thought - the comments section on this video has shown me that!
Hope things get better for you asap❤❤
Thank you 😊
Around 2003 I have had to deal with a similar situation. But on my case, after suffering an accident and my girlfriend's death. - I spent months on a hospital, have had to do my best and overcome all the crap that happened to me... And then I ended getting back home, as it was painful to stay on a apartment with so many memories...
Anyways, eventually things got back to the track and I decided to stay home, as my father suffered an stroke and needed some help... So, in the end, getting back home is a chance to restart your life as a better person.
Sorry to hear you've had to go through all that. I'm glad you are able to see it as a chance to restart over again!
things will get better. sometimes life gets worse before it gets better.
Very true! Sometimes things have to fall apart before you can build bigger & better things :)
Your parents love you and are there for you, and this is a time of healing and redefining your life. But don't stay with them too long! They have a "next chapter" of their lives too, while they still have vigor and health. Enjoy them to the max, but press on to your own next chapter. If you need to, get more education for a job that will enable you to be independent.
Absolutely, it’s just a transition phase :)
stand on your own feet and dont depend neither your parents .....life its difficult and getting passed obstacles makes you mature
Absolutely! But I also think there's a difference between dependence & accepting a helping hand in hard times :)
accepting a helping hand is ok but usually this helping hand (in this case parents which is too strong of a habit because parents is a safety net)also gets a habit and drawns us back. Good luck @@chaptersofelena
Accept the help it’s what they would want anyway. No one likes to see a loved one struggle ❤
Lucky that your parents could afford to take you back in.❤
absolutely
I'm 48; I have started over many many times and always from shitty situation, and the older I got, each time got harder and harder starting over. I wish I had my parents sometimes, so I could go home, take full advantage, forget about a relationship, it's not going to make you happy. Remember stay away from relationships.
Sorry to hear that you've had to start over multiple times, it's never easy. Though I'm still very optimistic when it comes to relationships - not to make me happy, but to amplify & share the joy I already have in life. Just because something doesn't last forever, doesn't mean its not valuable or worth pursuing! I hope you find healing with that & are able to experience loving relationships in the future 💙
God is guiding you ❤
thank you 🙏
You need to be positive stop the self pity. you have your parents to live with rent free you have possessions i left with just the clothes i was wearing, no place to go to no home no money no job no one to stay with It was very hard i had to leave two dogs that were then killed. within a couple of months i had a job and a flat a bed and a fridge they were all the possessions i had for a few quite a while but thats life you have to work with what you have and make the best of it you are soooo lucky you just dont know it
I'm so sorry to hear that you've had such a hard time 🙁 I am extremely grateful, everyone deserves to have love & support in hard times, including you, and from the bottom of my heart I wish you could've had that too 💛
Not sure why this came up on my YT …prob because I watched another vlogger talk about her breakup. Well, as someone who’s in her fifties and separated with kids, I wonder if I ever should have seen the signs sooner and left sooner. You are young and you will be ok. It’s tough and it truly is grieving.
We're always doing the best we can at any given moment. As the saying goes, better late than never 💙
You’ve got your health. You don’t have kids with your ex. The worst part of your situation is having to share the dog. You dodged many bad turns. Your new life will be fantastic. Stay positive.
I have no doubt this is for the best :) Thank you!
Good video. I enjoyed it. A few things...
1. Losing your loved one to cancer is probably worse than what you've gone through. Always remember... Other people have it better, and worse, than you.
2. I lived at home with my parents for a bit around your age. No shame. Save/invest and you'll be fine.
3. Don't assume you have several decades more to go. We're all one medical diagnosis away... Or just unlucky to be at the wrong place at the wrong time... And that's it.
Good luck to you! 👍🙏
Of course, there are always people in different places in life. I've never found comparing myself to others (whether they are doing "better" or "worse") to be helpful for me, and thinking that life is short just makes me feel pressure & anxiety & paralyzes me rather than inspiring me, so I personally find the "life is long" mindset to be much more helpful!
But it's true that having a big picture perspective is important! Thanks for watching :)
honey- i've "started over" countless times over the course of my 65 years in this realm...yeah it sucks no question, but when i look back at all my rock bottom periods, i know that i became a better person each time- BTW- my last start over was 2 years ago when i lost my job, home, family and friends during the Covidian Rule. I was 63 then and I've built a new life by my own strength. I know me now, and had no clue who i was half my life ago. Just say this every night before you go to bed, "My life turns out better than i could ever have imagined!" 🤗
Yes, I can already feel myself becoming stronger from this period & can't wait to see who I'll be in a few years. Love that phrase - a similar phrase I like to come back to is "universe, show me how good it can get" 💛
@@chaptersofelena love that one too 😍
Congratulations. I am sorry for your loss but you are finding that a "partner" is not necessary in your life--perhaps even a hindrance at this stage. Your parents are lovely to let you move back home as a STEP FORWARD to a better more rewarding life. TAKE YOUR TIME to figure out what you want to do next. Do not rush yourself. Grieve when you need to but use that pain as a stepping stone to continue the process of figuring out who YOU are without a partner. I am most sorry you are leaving your pup behind--two losses--one non-judgmental. Any friends or relatives who PUT YOU DOWN for this move you should relabel "toxic" and stay away from them. I'll be watching you move forward.
I would love a life partner again someday but like you said, I am certainly in no rush & have many other things I want to solidify first! And I'm grateful to have really amazing friends who have been nothing but supportive & encouraging through all this 💛 Thank you for your support!!
It's really not a big deal. Sometimes you have to go back to your roots to ground yourself and re-establish a sense of safety. A relationship breakup is a 'loss' so you need time to grieve that.
Also good look work as well as other fantastic u get travel ..and so good u can talk about ..you won't be only 1 going through this and other can even myself turning 30 I thought I should done more Gome further in life but I think just remember your doing your best.
Yes so many have commented about similar experiences, it's more common than I realized! We're always doing our best :)
I am Zaire Haylock. I subscribed and love your channel. ❤
Welcome!
@@chaptersofelena Thanks. Born in '95. I'm 28 years old.
ARE YOU LIVING MY LIFE? I TURN 30 IN LIKE 9 DAYS. I STILL LIVE WITH MY MOM. (GRANTED IM FROM MEXICO AND CULTURAL DIFFERENCES) BUT RENT IS REALLY EXPENSIVE HERE IN THE CITY SO.. YEAH I AGREE LIKE YES SO GLAD IVE FOUND YOU TODAY HAVE A GREAT DAY, AFTERNOON OR NIGHT WHENEVER AND IF YOU READ THIS
So glad this connected with you - thanks for watching! 💛
Sleep after toil, Port after stormy seas, Ease after war, Death after life, Does greatly please.
It's great to be able to breathe is it not...
sweetheart I divorced when I was 22 yrs old, met my 2nd husband when Iwas 28, I have never been happier in my life, I am 67years old, 3 beautiful kids, Trust me things seem at the worst, but they will get better
I love that, glad things worked out so beautifully for you! Thank you for sharing :)
It is better that you are goung through this now. You did not wastw endless years. Look to the future work on yourself become self sufficient A relatiinship should enhance your life never ever be your life. Glad I found your channel
I don't consider the last 5 years wasted as I learned so much & made a lot of treasured memories, but it is certainly good to make changes as soon as you know it's not right for you! Thank you for watching 😊
You do not look like someone whose life fell apart, quite contrary. You surely know the saying "Is the glass half empty or half full". Well that sounds naive and simple, but in reality it is that simple, it just depends on the point of view. Simple doesnt mean easy, though. About 22 years ago i found myself a single dad with a not yet one year old child. After having been lied to, cheated on and screamed at for years. After about three weeks i needed to reset myself, i found the glass is already half full and awaits further filling. I focused on what i gained, that required quite some effort in the beginning though, not on what i lost, or what i realized later on what i actually only imagined i had lost.
So true, I'm definitely doing my best to see the glass as half full!
You are blessed to have your parents. Always show them and tell them how much you love and appreciate all they do. After death, there's no second chance. Don't let your circumstances change how you think, what and in whom you believe and how you feel. Worry is the number one cause of illness. If you have a problem, fix it instead of worrying, seek help if necessary and if possible pray and leave it in God's hand, He is in charge and move on living right. (The way I live: when I get up in the morning everyday is a great day, I don't complain about anything, not even the weather, I just dress for it and enjoy. I go about loving everyone no matter what they look like or who they are even if they don't like me. I don't hold grudges and am quick to forgive...results in peace of mind daily). God bless you.
Wise words!! Thank you for sharing :)
Hi @53 darling please go back to your true home and know that’s a safe place to find the new you and enjoy life this time with no timelines and boundaries and the peace and happiness we all deserve as women this time pour into YOU the way you poured into that 20 something life making the primary focus YOU….This too Shall pass trust me if I could go back to my 20s I would never had jumped into a relationship it fucking drained me and I learned and vowed never the fuck again - so go into 30 knowing this is the Universe giving you what you need ….A restart enjoy!
Yes there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, even if we don't always see it! :)
33 year old man (or boy....) here.
Broke up with my bf who I'd been together with for 10.5 years.
We're almost a year later and I'm still an emotional and physical wreck. The worst part is that I gave him almost all (what should've been) the best years of my life, held myself back on so many occasions and received little in return (especially sexually).
I'm alone, broken and bitter because of it. I can't see positivity anymore.
I'm sorry that you've had such a tough time with the breakup. It can take time, but I have faith that you'll find your way back. Despite what society says about your youth being the best years, I hold the belief that my life only gets better & better as I age. Sending hope & positivity your way! ☀
I grief 9 years now. Since my fiancé died due to cancer after 5 years relationship. We were about to get married and well I will not lie saying I was happier and happier every single day. He was an amazing men, with moral spine , hard working , very protective and well the men all of us dream about. This is a different grief then after splitting . You can always be together again. I can’t . And for 9 years I didn’t find purpose in life. I wanted to be amok and have family not work to pay bills. I just exist. I don’t have time left to be a mom so I grief that one as well . I don’t have any family nor friends 😮 I literally live a lonely life every day filled with work , crying and suicidal thoughts. It was same after funeral - not even 1 person helped me 😔 I shouldn’t have been born 😢
I'm so so sorry to hear that 💙 You absolutely were meant to be born, I believe that we are not what happens to us but what we make of it, how we grow & move forward. It's not easy, but I hope you can start by finding some support (I personally love therapy!) and begin to heal so you can move forward and build a beautiful life for yourself. I believe in you!!
❤eternal youth❤forever😊
Girl how did you adjust from having a whole house to just one room? Did you get a storage unit? (No hate, my fiance broke things off this summer and i had to move back into my parents for a bit while i found a new place, it was really hard)
Ah that sucks, I'm sorry :( and totally valid question! I didn't need to get a storage unit as my room is a decent size and I stored bigger items/boxes of stuff I don't actually need right now (dishes, small appliances, off-season clothes etc) in my parent's basement. If they didn't have the space then I probably would have had to get a unit!
I come here… I immediately noticed you had 111 comments. I felt I had to tell you that. Have a great day.
Thank you! 🙏🏼
Thnk u inspire more than a therapist
Thank you! 🙏🏼