Nurse here. Its recommended to only use an electric razor before surgery, standard razors can create microscopic wounds that increase the risk of infection. Just thought I'd mention that.
@@nonbinarycode993 i wouldn't recommend it since that also can trauma the epidermis (skin), always reach out to your surgeon and their team is you aren't sure
I never thought about the fact that it might. Then I heard the question read aloud and had a split second panic. One of my friends wears a binder and I hug him a lot. I was worried that I might be hurting him for a second.
I am a transman. I got pregnant way before I came out. It was very traumatic. However, my daughter just knew I was her dad. It was so funny because she told me she knew I was transgender. Hands down I have become a much better father since I have come out. Also, my top surgery was painless. I just don't want anyone to get scared by stories. A lot of people tried to tell me it was very painful.
Bro that's awesome!! I have medical trauma and really low pain tolerance so I don't know how or if I'll even manage, I'm a cis girl with chest dysphoria so 😔 Update: I am not cis
Thx for pointing this out. I also got pregnant twice and also for me it was traumatic. Not just the pregnancy though, also breastfeeding made me have a lot of dysphoria
@@alex-jk9uj lmaoo the closet was made out of glass. I'm under the trans umbrella but gender is weird so I'm pretty comfy looking like a girl but I still have a lot of dysphoria. Took me a while to figure it out but I got there lol.
keter wafflez it’s amazing the expectation that people have for anyone with a uterus is supposed to, or wants to, or can, carry a child. 😑 You do you, babe. 🥰
@@cuteandstrange6618 both of you are very valid and have valid reasons for not wanting to give birth. everyone in this comment section is valid (except for the ucky yucky transphobes)
I'm ftm and I have so much RESPECT for the ftm guys who get pregnant purposely. Like, those dude are so courageous?? I know some guys don't have so much dysphoria about it but I have a LOT and I really respect them. They are fierce.
I have severe depression, and a whole host of other mental crap runs in my family, so even before I knew I was trans, I never had any intention of purposely and selfishly inflicting that on a child. I'm impressed by the dads who do carry their babies themselves. That takes an epic level of fortitude and strength. Also, instead of "pregnant dads," they should be "seahorse dads," if they aren't already (fyi for those who may not know, the male seahorse is the one who carries the fertilized eggs in a belly pouch until they hatch, and he "gives birth" to them).
Same! I'm a cis female and the thought of pregnancy makes me want to scratch all my skin off. Dudes who do that willingly are the bravest mfers on the planet.
@Billy D Incredible, I HAVE to check out that documentary. I really didn't think any trans man would consider carrying at all but I guess I'm wrong! Hope your hysterectomy goes well and that it's painless, at least for the most part (no idea that was a thing either). Take care, mate!
It is a very dysphoria triggering experience, I (a trans man, who have been pregnant and have a biological child), decided that nine months of intense dysphoria was worth it for having a child. One reason is that in my country one has to be 25 years old to adopt, I'm not 25. Another reason is that I'm married to a man and when my transition is done we'll be a same sex couple on paper and then adoption will be a lot more difficult. I certainly don't think I could deal with it a second time though, because now I would fully know what I'm getting myself into. Me and my husband intend to foster kids in the future though :) And of course, my kiddo is the best thing in the world and I wouldn't change a thing, he's well worth the dysphoria of the pregnancy.
As an enby, I find pregnancy incredibly dysphoric and awful. I'm over halfway through my last pregnancy, and I'm currently in consultation with doctors to get on T and get top surgery and a hysterectomy asap (though I'll still have to wait a year for either one at this point). I think it's really a balancing act of how much you want bio children vs how badly the dysphoria will affect you (we still want more kids, but we'd rather adopt in the future).
Trans guy and I would love to carry at least some of my future kiddos. I haven't actually been pregnant, so I have no idea if I'll find it dysphoric, but I'm not expecting it to be a problem. I've always wanted to foster/adopt, but since I hit my 20s I've increasingly had a desire to do the pregnancy thing at least once. I don't have any issue imagining myself pregnant or giving birth, and certainly no dysphoria with the idea.
I'm a cis-female and honestly being pregnant sounds traumatic to me. I don't experience gender dysphoria but I've heard this described as tokophobia when it occurs in cis-women. The aspects that I find disturbing aren't connected to my gender identity though. For those who find it triggers gender dysphoria it sounds like absolute hell, although as some have mentioned it doesn't trigger a dysphoric reaction in all trans-men. I would assume that those who experience such a strong negative reaction would simply avoid the possibility of pregnancy occuring to the best of their ability. From my perspective there is no way I could ever force myself through the experience even if I wanted children, which is why I feel a tremendous respect for men who have gender dysphoria triggered by pregancy who take that path to fatherhood.
Trans FTM can absolutely have children. However, the testosterone supplements can interfere with fetal development, so those who chose to have children may have to go off T therapy. This obviously can increase dysphoria and increase depression both pre- and post- partum. Something to look out for. All the trans childbearers, stay strong and youre amazing.
I'm a 16 year old trans guy, my boyfriend and I are planning on having kids around our late twenties to early thirties and I'm planning on getting pregnant for my first child and adopting for our second (we only want 2), and even though it scares and worries me, my heart knows that it'll be worth it and it'll make a huge impact on my life, mad respect to seahorse dads!
just dont leave it to late. later pregnancies can cause problems to. i was at high risk for down syndrome coz of my mom being older when i was born. ended up having to come out 6 weeks early as well. i dont have down syndrome but i do have autism and possible ADD (getting tested for it soon when things catch up again so i can get my apointment) and my body has grown weird as in i have extra bones in my feet, 2 missing joints in my hands and some of my body didnt grow past child sized (eg. my knee caps are the size of a 8yr olds and my hands arnt much bigger) while the rest of my body kept growing till done.
@@Charlieto I didn't know their, thank you so much for informing me! I will keep that in mind for when we have kids, I appreciate it and I hope you're doing well during this harsh time, I myself may be on the spectrum of autism and I'm curious if it has something to do with my mom having me so late (all my siblings are 10+ years older than I am)
Re: injections of T..... I'm not a fan of needles either. When I was first diagnosed with diabetes, I would get woozy and even faint just doing the finger prick to check my sugar levels. I also passed out cold at the start of my first tattoo. When I had to start taking insulin, I was understandably not looking forward to that. The good news is that you learn to deal with it in short order. Jabbing myself is now easier than when others do it. So your viewer shouldn't live in fear of injections, but rather think of it as taking in their own hands their transition into who they know themselves to be. Do not be a prisoner to the fear.
I’m strange because I have no problem doing the finger prick, I don’t even have problems with big needles for IVs or blood work. Tattoos and piercings NO PROBLEM I have a million. But I cannot get over the fear of giving myself actual shots 🤣🤣 it’s so silly but somehow a shot seems scarier to me!
Hi, I just wanted to share that the last time i had my testosterone injection (the 2nd) the new nurse used a very big needle for this little amount of liquid. I was awake since 5 min and I only had 4h to sleep... Obvioulsly i fainted xD
I never heard this stereotype but I did hear the stereotype that most LGBTQ+ (and mostly gays, bi and lesbians) play musical instruments me who plays guitar, who has many LGBTQ+ friends who about half play ukelele/guitar/bass: I guess being Asian and playing the violin isn't much better Oh wait, I am also Asian.... and played violin for 2 years... OOPSIE
The beard thing is such a silly thing. My husband who is a cis man can’t grow a full beard. He can barely grow a mustache and a little goatee. So people thinking only trans guys have patchy beards is just stupid.
Facial hair also really just depends on your genetics whether you're trans or cis. If your family tends to have hairy men, you might start growing lots of hair. I'm ftm, just starting hormones, and I've already got a bit of a goatee going on which even my doctor was surprised about. I really wasn't surprised because when my brothers went through puberty, they all had full-grown beards that made them look like grown men by the time they were 12-13. Before even starting hormones I was considered pretty hairy when I was just letting my hair grow out on its own.
@@trashboi1286 yes my husband is Native American and Mexican and his genetics were hair free and with widow’s peaks... which sucks for our two girls because I also have a widow’ s peak that I pluck to make it look less like a scary witch 😂 but my oldest daughter had thick black hair when born now it’s brown, but my youngest had hardly no hair and it was blondish brown but had dark hair on her back and everyone said it’ll fall out well she’s 5 now and still has the hair on her back so I make sure to let her know it’s beautiful and show her the hair on my tummy which I get a few dark hairs even though I’m a cis woman but it’s all about genetics and hormones.
Our family tree has Native American which resulted in little to no body hair in all of us. Great for the women compelled to maintain southern American (Texas) grooming standards and awful for the men, who were bound by the same southern hair standards. 😂
This is a real thing! Cis men generally have a cycle roughly the same length as people who menstruate! But they just vary in hormones, they don’t have as sudden of a release as periods are.
Thank you for these videos. As a cis and older woman, these are many of the questions we would love to ask the Trans people in our lives. Simply because it is interesting and fascinating. But we hold back, because many of the questions are simply too intimate. we dont want to view you, or have you think we view you, as anything other than who you are, but we also want to be able to understand your challenges. Channels like yours make this possible. Thank you ☺️
Thank you for answering my question! It felt very weird, even with permission, to ask a question that’s so personal just for my personal curiosity. You’re such a wonderful educator. I’ve been an ally for as long as I can remember, and the B in the LGBTQ+ sandwich, but the T is newer to me. I’m wanting to become a parent and on the chance I have a child that is trans, I want to know as much as possible about as many walks of life possible so I can be the most supportive parent possible, and to raise the best humans possible. 💖
It’s so funny that you call it a sandwich, my and my sister have an inside joke where we call it the lgbt sauce community XD (brief explanation for those who wanna know: my sister has a bit of trouble saying ltg (lime tomato garlic) sauce and has accidentally called it lgbt sauce multiple times)
Hey Jamie, I got a question. I really, really want the paper plane- Trans Flag Merch pullover of yours. The problem is, that when I want something to buy from the internet, I need to get my parents buy it for me (As I don't have a bank account and stuff). However, my parents aren't that accepting when it comes to me being transgender, so I'm sure they definitely won't buy it, if they see that it has to do with being transgender (They don't know the flag btw). Anyway, my question is if it is possible to change the name of the pullover to maybe just "Paper plane" or something else? It would be really helpful for me because then I could get it, support you with it and yeah.. Would be cool if you answered but yeah just a question.
Nevio moon you can visa gift cards anywhere in the world, they're not exclusive to walmart I believe. If that isn't an option though I would consider asking your friends if they could buy it for you but you give them the money. As well as that though I would consider when uou would be able to wear this jumper, if your parents aren't accepting and unwilling to buy this in the first place I would maybe consider where and when I would wear it and also how you would wash it. That being said I hope you manage to find someway to get this pullover!
@@andrewhannaford2995 With all due respect, no, they aren't available "anywhere in the world". I live in a 3rd world country (not saying which one -- major censorship problems here), and there are no Visa giftcards here, or Mastercard, or AmEx. If you want a card, you go to a bank and open an account.
Andrew Hannaford yeah sometimes my friends will get me things and it’s really great when they can. My parents don’t really notice things like flags just because when you buy things and it says pride jumper or something
"I always think that unhappy people want to make people unhappy." Couldn't agree more Edit: I mean those who make others unhappy are probably unhappy themselves
I have a question for you: So what I really want is to be able to go out shirtless. I am 12 and started puberty blockers about a week ago. If I start testosterone right after puberty blockers is possible for me to go out shirtless without surgery?
I think that really depends on how developed your chest was at the time of puberty blockers, which varies for every person. Testosterone also distributes fat differently so can also make the chest area smaller which combined with blockers could mean that yes you can without worry but it really depends on your unique body
4:34 as your trans viewer in the military, the trans guy stereotypes are much more different then civilian trans guy stereotypes. For example; non-binary voice, being 5'6 or shorter yet built like freight train who can pick up an F-150 with one arm while carrying the M240 without breaking a sweat.
I got soooo hugggy when I got my binder, I finally got to hug my friends without hating my chest. I’m binding for 2 years now and sometimes it’s sore and hugging indeed is uncomfortable so yeah it depends.
Hey, Jamie, I just wanted to say thank you for everything you do. Yesterday marked one year of me being on testosterone, and I have really found comfort and reassurance every step of my transition because of you and Shaaba and your videos. Even though we have never met, you are part of what gave me the courage to finally come out to my family. You make me believe I'm worthy of love and that someday I'll find happiness too. Having you in the world makes breathing a little easier. Hope this wasn't too cheesy, and that you have a wonderful day.
For singing: It's a pain. I imagine knowing techniques will be helpful to keep it from cracking, but I never learned any, so it's been like 2 years and I'm only now starting to somewhat get the hang of it again lol
Really? I am getting better all the time. I was a soprano before and am a baritone now and took many lessons before and very infrequent lessons now but everything just works a little different. The techniques, in their core, are the exact same ones. They just need to be used in different places. For me the more difficult thing was daring to sing in what is now falsetto, but I am getting better. I am hitting notes and my voice breaks a lot less frequently and I am pretty sure that I will be able to sing high notes with confidence again. It's only been one year on T for me and only a few months since my voice truly stabilized. But yeah, techniques help greatly and also just daring and trying. We need to relearn how to hit notes because they are in different places now.
@@samk324 Yeah so I didn't have any lessons either before or after lmao, so when I say I never learned techniques I mean for either voice type (I don't even know what I was, but not a soprano). I was going to! But then voice dysphoria hit hard. I only dropped to a tenor, really wanted at least baritone, but alas. That was jarring enough, soprano to baritone is quite a drop! I could hit notes again relatively soon too, but the cracking is only getting better now that I'm actually trying a little to smooth it over, I'm not particularly dedicated :P
@@DevilishlyDutch Hey, you can console yourself with the fact that tenor is the most sought-after voice type, especially in choirs! I'm a choir director and there are NEVER enough tenors. Baritone is the most common male vocal range, and they usually sing bass in a choir. Also, a huge portion of popular music is sung in a tenor range, so you've got that going for you too! Man, I would love to help trans guys find their voices. Helping people discover how to sing is one of my favorite things! When guys voices change, it really does take some time for the voice to settle and for the person to learn what using their new voice feels like. So keep on trying - you'll get it eventually. 😊
Sam K how did the quality of your voice change? did it get worse? btw i am a transmasc enby, i am currently an alto but especially my speaking voice seems quite high and feminine.this is one of the big factors in considering low dose T, also do you know if it would drop alot/to the same extent as higher dose, eg i wouldn’t want to go from alto to baritone, probably just to tenor
I've done testosterone via needle, patch, and gel. I did the needle method first, for about a month, and yes, you have to give yourself the shot. I actually started off fine, but I developed a fear of needles as time went on. Then, I switched to patch method. It was good for the most part, but sometimes afterwards you'll get a little red circle where the patch was, and it can be a bit itchy. Also, pulling it off feels like a band-aid, so keep that in mind. Right now, I'm on the gel. It's really good for me. It comes in a little pump-bottle, and you just rub it on. Super easy application, however, I've found it is easier to forgot to put it on. Usually (with the patch and needle method) you go to get blood taken every 3 or so months, however, with the gel, (at first, for about 6 months) you have to get blood taken once every month. It's a trade-off, and it depends on your preferences and your doctors. Edit: Feel free to ask me questions. I'd be happy to go into detail and explain stuff.
bittersweet furrytrash so with the gel, how difficult is it so not get the gel on stuff? I’m worried some one like a couch and someone who doesn’t want t will touch it and yeah
@@charb719 Good question! The gel is absorbed by the skin super duper quickly, so it's kinda hard to get T on stuff like couches and chairs unintentionally. In less than 30 seconds, and everything is back to normal (so, the skin is dry after 30 or so seconds). However, it is recommended that you wash your hand carefully after applying, just to be safe. I usually just apply it on my upper arm, and wait a minute or so before putting my shirt on, and it's no issue.
@@findingagain Yes!!!! I really liked patches, but it wasn't covered by my insurance. One two month box was nearly 700$. It's so crazy and corrupt. Health insurance is so important.
3:54 This is such a huge problem for me Most of the time I don't have dysphoria, sometimes it'll randomly hit me like a train unprompted. But most of the time I only get dysphoria around things like getting dressed to go outside, people using my 'real' name or she/her pronouns for me, or just saying I look pretty/nice when I'm forced to present feminine or complimenting something that's very girly about my appearance. But, these are all things that don't happen very often for me because I don't leave the house a lot, even before quarantine, and I avoid interacting with most people expect my boyfriend and some online friends so I still often get 'misgendered' or 'deadnamed' (in quotes because I'm only out to my boyfriend) because I live with my family. I'm never thrilled to be a girl, I never was I was always a tomboy child, I don't randomly go 'oh hell yeah I'm a woman, sweet' but most of the time it doesn't bother me and I don't feel dysphoric if I just don't think about it. I've never been one to care much about my appearance even before I started questioning my gender much less identified as trans so it's just kinda 'oh well that kinda sucks, I don't like that about myself' and just go on about my business. My biggest concern is I am trans, but I won't qualify for treatment.
Discomfort over being hugged because of the chest area!? You just unlocked a whole vault in my brain of all the times I was literally too dysphoric to fucking hug and I would do side hugs or bend tf over to hug just to save my chest 😂
Oh! I have a embarrassing binder story. So basically I was wearing my binder and it was a bad washed out colour and I was wearing a baggy t shirt and my mum noticed the bad colour....then she found out I was wearing a binder 😐...then I told her I was trans... Then she told me I was a freak. Lol, so embarrassing 😜
I feel like the hug thing would hurt if you were trying to strangle someone, but if it’s a nice hug, then it probably won’t hurt? Just don’t hug aggressively :)
i’ve recently started questioning my gender and feeling uncomfortable with who i am, and watching videos like this is really comforting for some reason.
I felt so relieved when you said your parents forget you're trans sometimes I'm still having a bit of trouble with mine (even if they're globally sort of okay) and that would be so nice Maybe in like ten years time xD
The whole area of singing and voice and sex hormone changing is really worth a video on it's own. I'm sure it must be quite the thing for anyone out there to be a singer and experience your voice break and shift around and then eventually change to a new normal in real time. The whole thing of what it is for a guy's voice to change isn't something I ever really noticed in my school days, but when a trans acquaintance I hadn't seen since he was a girl suddenly phoned, I remember assuming it was a different male friend. I wonder if anyone else thinks about how mind-blowing that is for a body to create. This thing that you have spent your life shaping around a particular language, that you've always heard the same way, this thing very intertwined with your very breathing, just kind of takes chemical cues and decides to do the male puberty thing, often some year after it normally would for guys and as far as I've heard there's no more vocal chaos than is usually the case when it happens for adolescents. Maybe I'm wrong and it's not consistently quite that similar or miraculis, but it seemed like it.
Hey Jamie I’ve got a question have you experienced any differences in how people treat you when you were male or female? Did people assume you were going to do something based on how they perceived you? For example did people think you would be more aggressive when you were perceived as male. Thanks for the video it was cool
As someone who has always worked with mechanics or computers, I can say 100% that when I present as female the value of my opinion/knowledge dropped dramatically compared to before. Mainly among men aged 20-50 Women don't seem to have the same bias, and older people who have never dealt with computers/mechanics usually always trust that youngins know more (I'm 29, but compared to an 80 year old they still see me as a child :P)
Thanks for the reply guys I’m new to this channel so I might have messed that video but I’ll check it out It was cool to read about everyone’s experiences
Bro my dad came in (I’m closeted) and told me to sleep so I said ‘at the end of the video’ and he asked what the video was and I said a video then he asked educational? And I was like MmmMmMm? And he asked what it was educational about and I just sat there... in silence... god that seemed suspicious
For the singing question, your voice can get to the point of reaching high notes again. Your voice will be drastically different and like Jamie said, comes out as more of a breath. Mine used to come out like that but now I can sing high notes again. This is just my personal experience so this might not happen for everyone. (I'm 6 months on T)
As YT comments get meaner and meaner over time, I just wanted to say : thank you! I really love watching your content and you're such a nice and relaxed guy! :) I'm always looking forward to a new video. Thank you very much and stay awesome :)
Big question: IS it okay for me to wear dresses still as a trans man? I like how comfy and flowy dresses are and like dressing in them but I'm not sure if that would make (I dunno the word)
I'll give you a really honest answer, might not be what you want to hear, and that's maybe. Do you go out presenting as female, wearing a dress, no medical transition, with makeup and/or long hair, and feel no discomfort in people calling you she? Then you probably arent trans. It depends if you experience gender dysphoria or not. If youre okay presenting as female everyday and having people misgender you (strangers or otherwise) because of it, then i doubt youre trans. But it's not my place to say. Now, if you pass as male even with a dress on, and you experience dysphoria, then yes of course it's fine
Do what makes you comfortable. People may judge you for wearing one but people judge anyone in the LGBTQ community. Just do what makes you happy and dont worry about the people who dont like it
@@whatshouldinamemyself809 My voice cracks ALL THE TIME but its still steadily deepening. Its strange, it sounds just like what I heard my younger brother go through over the course of a hear or so but, well, 5 months thus far (only ~2 weeks from 6, holy heck). Lots of stuff is changing faster than expected, but its kind of fun. It feels good, even with the weirdness.
@@menopriezvisko94 My voice just keeps dropping but at least its stopped cracking. And my face has the same texture as my legs did after 3 days of not shaving, but if I shave it gets back to that state within a day. I'm still not able to grow it out much, either, so its just eternal prickly. Kind of satisfying but kind of irritating when I want to sleep.
Congrats! That’s a big step. I’d like to be on T someday, but I’d have to research it more and see about complications and the full effects, of which I am not entirely aware of. No rush though (sadly) as I won’t be able to even take the steps to get there until I’m a great deal older and by that point I’m not sure if it’ll even be possible.
As a doula I support all couples and birthing bodies. For those who want an insight into a trans male giving birth watch the film “Seahorse”. It’s really eye opening. I hope you and Shaaba have the chance to grow your family with all the support that you deserve.
jamie, i just wanna say i've been watching your videos for a while, and i really can't state enough how much i appreciate your positivity, kindness, and willingness to answer the questions everyone has (even if they're sometimes a little silly or weird) in order to help other trans/questioning people and allies. you've got an incredible heart, and i wish you and shaaba all the best 💜🏳🌈
Came across your channel last night randomly and starting paying attention because I adored you and your fiance's accents (lol I live in Florida) but stayed because I didn't realized it was a subject that I lacked so much knowledge on. Thank you for that. Have a great day 😊
When coming out, there's a range of things to keep in mind. Remember, your safety is the most important thing in this situation. If you aren't sure how they'll respond at all, try asking a few little questions; like "Hey mom, what do you think about those transgender(Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Pan/Etc.) people?" or "Hey dad, why are Transgender (Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Pan etc.) people so disliked?", or something a kin to that. If you already know they'd be somewhat supportive, or if you think they'd be accepting, just try to have a calm, sit down conversation with them one on one. If you don't think they'll be accepting, please keep yourself safe. There's no shame at all about staying in the closet little longer so you can be safe.
I asked for a binder and told them directly. I will say that my parents completely ignored the fact that I was trans and don't hesitate to call me by my deadname a misgender me. My mom even yelled at me and told me she wasn't going to call me Aericke, when she could tell that I was incredibly upset about her desdnaming me that morning.
bittersweet furrytrash ty. I tried coming out to my mom by just saying “I’m trans” and I was so used to keeping it a secret that I didn’t know what to say so she just didn’t believe me
This is totally unrelated but as a girl from Spain, for some reason, every time I see you, my mind thinks you’ll speak in Spanish with my accent. But then you obviously don’t speak or sound Spanish at all, and my brain is super confused for a few seconds. I just love the way you talk and the way you explain even simple things. I could be listening to you for hours ( I’m not a stalker I swear hahahha)
just right out asking a little question that bothers me a lot: Is it only me or it normal that it just emotionally hurts to see someone who already transitioned? I don't know why I feel like this, like i also feel happy for them if it helped them, but then it just hurts to see how far they got. I don't know why i feel like it, i don't know if it is normal, it certainly doesn't feel normal. I think it might have to do a lot with how i just can't make any progress due to my parents. I just don't want to feel bad because someone else made it that far in their life and are happy now. It just makes me feel even worse. But yeah... Is it normal to feel that way or am I the problem? Are there any things that help with it?
Awww. It's okay, you're not wrong or bad for having those feelings. It's just jealousy, everybody feels that from time to time. It can be hard to be happy for people who we perceive as doing better than us. I don't know how to make it better except for doing work to raise your self-esteem. Some things that may help: 1. Remember it's not a contest. You have hope, no matter what other people are doing. 2. They would want you to transition and be happy, they would love to support you. 3. It always sucks before transition and it will get a lot better when you start. 4. Remember you're your closest and oldest friend. How would you support a friend if they felt the way you feel? 5. What you're feeling is truly normal, and there will be a time that you no longer feel this way, if you hold on and keep surviving. Good luck!
About the voice on T: you can expect your voice to drop about an octave, meaning you will (most likely) speak a lot lower and you won’t be able to reach as high notes as before.
ps, thank you so much for answering these questions, and so openly and honestly - it really helps other people understand a bit more what your experience has been like / is.
I've been watching a lot of your videos because this girl I'm talking to is trans and I really like her so this is very informative, so thank you for doing these Q&As. I'm too nervous to ask her so I'm learning through TH-cam 😅
The period symptoms without the period makes sense to me for sure. I have an IUD that has greatly reduced my period bleeding, to the point that some months I just don't get a period. But even in those months, I will still have some of the symptoms.
Yes I started with part 3. Honestly have been more interested in your social experience so I can understand better and knew this series would end up being more biological. Honestly thought TH-cam was just recommending part 2 again since obviously I'm a subscriber so I want to watch all your videos, right algorithm? Anyways if you read this, I just wanted to thank you for your honesty, maturity, and bravery. Keep up the good work bro
About the last question: Boys generally experience a big gap between their head (high) and chest (low) voice After they went through puberty. The best time to remedy this is when you're voice is still dropping. According to advice I saw singing songs by female artists While transitioning, can really help to minimize the strain on your upper register later on, However make sure to get comfortable with the lower register too, It's arguably the more important part for you now.
Of course you can train your vocal muscles to do a lot, But it's far from easy. Intonation is the most important factor to passing tho, So if you want to sound like a guy, Try to replace ALL the words of a male actor's quote, But keep the quote recognisable as that character.
I forget I’m trans sometimes, especially after 4 years on T and 2yrs post top surgery. I have no bottom growth or increase of sensitivity, and I’m asexual, but I feel slightly ripped off.
I sing, and my range went from Alto-Soprano to Alto-Tenor-Bass with Alto being STRENUOUS and Bass being where i could probably stretch my range if i had voice lessons. you'll Never get your tinny high voice back from T, but what you get out of it is sooooo silky smooth~
I hate that this was a realization I had to have, but when you referred to yourself as 'presenting as female' it really flipped a switch in how I perceive trans people. I am trying to learn as much as possible since I found your channel and now others like it, and I hadnt realised until that moment that I literally cant perceive you as even pretending to be female. Thank you for everything youve done to educate people, Im sorry you live in a world where such education is so widely neccessary. Keep being awesome!
My villager's first nickname for me in Animal Crossing: New Horizons was spud and I could not figure out for the life of me why I liked it so much. Then I remembered you call us spuds
It's almost 2am over here and I couldn't sleep because I was having too many thoughts and feeling sad about things but watching Jamie always manages to make me feel better. So thank you ♥️
Adding to the singing: Yes, range goes lower (even before your speaking voice properly drops) but if you carefully stay in practice, you can still reach pretty high. That said, you have to be very technical with your voice, using both your head voice and your falsetto.
The first time I put my binder on I put it on backwards and couldnt get it off for ages, genuinely thought I was going to have to rip it after spending €60 on it
Hi jamie! I love your videos and espaccially, that you answer questions, nobody else does. I am biligual and you (and shaaba aswell) are speaking fast. Could you please show the question in the video? Would be a lot easier to understand 1. the question itself 2. the context :) Thank you and stay awesome!
I’m a very unhappy person from many things, childhood abuse being the hardest to get myself back from but I’ve never felt like making a hate comment. I’ve never wanted to say racist things or homophobic things and transphobic things. My mental health is in a very bad place but I would never want to think about causing someone else sadness or hate. Just a thought not every hater is doing it because of mental health sometimes people are just mean.
Awesome questions! Awesome answers, you gave me some feels with a few of them, also a few feels from people genuinely concerned about if something could physically hurt (like a hug) and about surgery recovery. Thank you to all the sincere questions and concerns, as well as wonderful answers 💖🥰👏✌✨👍
Jamie, I want to thank you for the work you do on educating people. I am personally figuring out who I am, and your videos help me understand more the people I know and allow me to have a wider view on life. Thank you 😀
The end of your video about voice changes makes me wonder if there is any trans singer that documented their voice changes through singing and now I realllllly want to scour the Internet to see if I can find any! Someone has had to, right? I’ve been a singer basically since I could talk so this would make my heart so happy!
I feel like you once said that you still sit to pee, because you can't pee standing up, but I couldn't find it, so... If it's not TMI, could I ask why? Is your urethra still located where a female one would, or is it a pressure thing? I'm just confused, I'm sorry..
3173 Δ the p still comes out of the pee hole in a vagina and that won’t change unless you have a surgery to lengthen it or change the urethras positioning :)
@@3173_Delta Honestly, usuallywith histerectomy, the vaginal canal is not removed. It can be closed up on the outside, but it is unusual to do (at least from what I've heard).
You’ve helped me so much through being trans (well kind of, I’m a demiboy, was originally a girl) but yeah, you’ve helped me figure out so much about myself and things I can do to be myself, thank you :D
I have learned a lot from you. I have many gay friends, but have never met a transgender person. Thank you for being so open and honest for those of us that truly just want to become more informed.
I've been wondering if there is still a vaginal opening after bottom surgery. If not, and a hysterectomy has not been performed prior to bottom surgery, what happens if the (admittedly rare) chance of getting a period does occur? And what happens to vaginal fluids? It may sound like a weird question, but it's genuine nonetheless :) Lots of love to you and Shaaba from Greece
So, usually the opening is still there after bottom surgery. I honestly never heard of a person having it closed up, since it is pretty difficult to do. Also, I have not heard of people having bottom surgery but not histerectomy. Additionally, one can get some bleeding after being on testosterone for some time and it only definitely stops after removing the internal organs.
Speaking as a large-chested person who wears a binder (still questioning identity, but I wear the binder for dysphoria), hugs aren’t *painful* so to speak when I wear the binder-I’ve yet to meet anyone who can hug tighter than the binder itself, and the pressure is in different places, so there’s no discomfort in that particular respect. I actually quite prefer wearing my binder when hugging people; it’s physically easier, and the lack of movement and squish (relative to a binderless hug) is a huge relief. That said, having extra pressure on the chest like from a hug may trigger just a bit of a heightened sense/reminder of the binder being there which I could see possibly being disheartening for some people if they manage to forget its there, but that’s not something I personally deal with.
"There's a stereotype that all trans guys play ukulele" Me, a ftm trans man who plays French Horn: I'd rather not. I wanna stay sounding like an Elephant FRENCH HORN PLAYERS! TELL ME OUR INSTRUMENT DOESN'T SOUND LIKE AN ELEPHANT!
I understand why some people might think that hugs might hurt a FTM that is binding, because before I got my top surgery done, I used to make extream akward hugs to make sure that my chest did not touch them, in fear that they might feel something there that was not supposed to be there.
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When you and Shabba have a baby don't be alarmed if she can't see you anymore. You've just become (a) trans-parent!
...my eyes
NOT THE DAD JOKES!
Haha dad jokes
That is.........art
AMAZING!
Nurse here. Its recommended to only use an electric razor before surgery, standard razors can create microscopic wounds that increase the risk of infection. Just thought I'd mention that.
Can I ask is waxing safe before surgery?
@@nonbinarycode993 i wouldn't recommend it since that also can trauma the epidermis (skin), always reach out to your surgeon and their team is you aren't sure
Thank you for the information!**
ER worker - agreed. Important info for the public
Thats very good to know!
Okay but the hug question was really wholesome
HUG HIM
As was ‘my parents forget’ Awww! 💜
I never thought about the fact that it might. Then I heard the question read aloud and had a split second panic. One of my friends wears a binder and I hug him a lot. I was worried that I might be hurting him for a second.
Unrelated but I just saw your pfp 🥺🥺🥺
I thought it was kinda sweet😘
I am a transman. I got pregnant way before I came out. It was very traumatic. However, my daughter just knew I was her dad. It was so funny because she told me she knew I was transgender. Hands down I have become a much better father since I have come out. Also, my top surgery was painless. I just don't want anyone to get scared by stories. A lot of people tried to tell me it was very painful.
Bro that's awesome!! I have medical trauma and really low pain tolerance so I don't know how or if I'll even manage, I'm a cis girl with chest dysphoria so 😔
Update: I am not cis
Thx for pointing this out. I also got pregnant twice and also for me it was traumatic. Not just the pregnancy though, also breastfeeding made me have a lot of dysphoria
@@angelicgacha Wait wdym a cis girl with chest dysphoria?? Sorry I'm a bit confused :,)
@@alex-jk9uj lmaoo the closet was made out of glass. I'm under the trans umbrella but gender is weird so I'm pretty comfy looking like a girl but I still have a lot of dysphoria. Took me a while to figure it out but I got there lol.
@@angelicgacha wait what gender did you transition to?
pregnancy: *exists*
me, trans ftm: *now im just gonna have to say no to that-*
keter wafflez it’s amazing the expectation that people have for anyone with a uterus is supposed to, or wants to, or can, carry a child. 😑 You do you, babe. 🥰
I'm a cis adult woman and there's no way I'll ever carry a child. Not saying I don't want children. I simply don't want to be pregnant or give birth.
@@BlueEyedRaven_ Yeah same! I may be only 16, but pregnancy and child birth scare the shit out of me
@@cuteandstrange6618 both of you are very valid and have valid reasons for not wanting to give birth. everyone in this comment section is valid (except for the ucky yucky transphobes)
There are too many people already-why add another person who may very well be miserable a lot of the time? Better to adopt or foster.
I'm ftm and I have so much RESPECT for the ftm guys who get pregnant purposely. Like, those dude are so courageous?? I know some guys don't have so much dysphoria about it but I have a LOT and I really respect them. They are fierce.
I have severe depression, and a whole host of other mental crap runs in my family, so even before I knew I was trans, I never had any intention of purposely and selfishly inflicting that on a child.
I'm impressed by the dads who do carry their babies themselves. That takes an epic level of fortitude and strength.
Also, instead of "pregnant dads," they should be "seahorse dads," if they aren't already (fyi for those who may not know, the male seahorse is the one who carries the fertilized eggs in a belly pouch until they hatch, and he "gives birth" to them).
The idea of carrying a child scares me on a visceral level. It's amazing that some trans folks can carry children
@@liamwilbur1897 that is an amazing way of call them- I'll use it now
@@findingagain Sweet!
Same! I'm a cis female and the thought of pregnancy makes me want to scratch all my skin off. Dudes who do that willingly are the bravest mfers on the planet.
Getting pregnant as a trans guy sounds traumatic
@Billy D Incredible, I HAVE to check out that documentary. I really didn't think any trans man would consider carrying at all but I guess I'm wrong! Hope your hysterectomy goes well and that it's painless, at least for the most part (no idea that was a thing either). Take care, mate!
It is a very dysphoria triggering experience, I (a trans man, who have been pregnant and have a biological child), decided that nine months of intense dysphoria was worth it for having a child. One reason is that in my country one has to be 25 years old to adopt, I'm not 25. Another reason is that I'm married to a man and when my transition is done we'll be a same sex couple on paper and then adoption will be a lot more difficult.
I certainly don't think I could deal with it a second time though, because now I would fully know what I'm getting myself into. Me and my husband intend to foster kids in the future though :)
And of course, my kiddo is the best thing in the world and I wouldn't change a thing, he's well worth the dysphoria of the pregnancy.
As an enby, I find pregnancy incredibly dysphoric and awful. I'm over halfway through my last pregnancy, and I'm currently in consultation with doctors to get on T and get top surgery and a hysterectomy asap (though I'll still have to wait a year for either one at this point). I think it's really a balancing act of how much you want bio children vs how badly the dysphoria will affect you (we still want more kids, but we'd rather adopt in the future).
Trans guy and I would love to carry at least some of my future kiddos. I haven't actually been pregnant, so I have no idea if I'll find it dysphoric, but I'm not expecting it to be a problem. I've always wanted to foster/adopt, but since I hit my 20s I've increasingly had a desire to do the pregnancy thing at least once. I don't have any issue imagining myself pregnant or giving birth, and certainly no dysphoria with the idea.
I'm a cis-female and honestly being pregnant sounds traumatic to me. I don't experience gender dysphoria but I've heard this described as tokophobia when it occurs in cis-women. The aspects that I find disturbing aren't connected to my gender identity though. For those who find it triggers gender dysphoria it sounds like absolute hell, although as some have mentioned it doesn't trigger a dysphoric reaction in all trans-men. I would assume that those who experience such a strong negative reaction would simply avoid the possibility of pregnancy occuring to the best of their ability.
From my perspective there is no way I could ever force myself through the experience even if I wanted children, which is why I feel a tremendous respect for men who have gender dysphoria triggered by pregancy who take that path to fatherhood.
Trans FTM can absolutely have children. However, the testosterone supplements can interfere with fetal development, so those who chose to have children may have to go off T therapy.
This obviously can increase dysphoria and increase depression both pre- and post- partum. Something to look out for.
All the trans childbearers, stay strong and youre amazing.
I'm a 16 year old trans guy, my boyfriend and I are planning on having kids around our late twenties to early thirties and I'm planning on getting pregnant for my first child and adopting for our second (we only want 2), and even though it scares and worries me, my heart knows that it'll be worth it and it'll make a huge impact on my life, mad respect to seahorse dads!
Seahorse Squad!
Awe that's so sweet
just dont leave it to late. later pregnancies can cause problems to. i was at high risk for down syndrome coz of my mom being older when i was born. ended up having to come out 6 weeks early as well. i dont have down syndrome but i do have autism and possible ADD (getting tested for it soon when things catch up again so i can get my apointment) and my body has grown weird as in i have extra bones in my feet, 2 missing joints in my hands and some of my body didnt grow past child sized (eg. my knee caps are the size of a 8yr olds and my hands arnt much bigger) while the rest of my body kept growing till done.
@@Charlieto I didn't know their, thank you so much for informing me! I will keep that in mind for when we have kids, I appreciate it and I hope you're doing well during this harsh time, I myself may be on the spectrum of autism and I'm curious if it has something to do with my mom having me so late (all my siblings are 10+ years older than I am)
@@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice hell yeah that's so sweet!! :D
Re: injections of T.....
I'm not a fan of needles either. When I was first diagnosed with diabetes, I would get woozy and even faint just doing the finger prick to check my sugar levels. I also passed out cold at the start of my first tattoo. When I had to start taking insulin, I was understandably not looking forward to that.
The good news is that you learn to deal with it in short order. Jabbing myself is now easier than when others do it. So your viewer shouldn't live in fear of injections, but rather think of it as taking in their own hands their transition into who they know themselves to be. Do not be a prisoner to the fear.
same here! i struggled for the first year to start taking insuline. and probably i'll struggle with my first tattoo and testosterone too.
I’m strange because I have no problem doing the finger prick, I don’t even have problems with big needles for IVs or blood work. Tattoos and piercings NO PROBLEM I have a million. But I cannot get over the fear of giving myself actual shots 🤣🤣 it’s so silly but somehow a shot seems scarier to me!
Hi, I just wanted to share that the last time i had my testosterone injection (the 2nd) the new nurse used a very big needle for this little amount of liquid. I was awake since 5 min and I only had 4h to sleep... Obvioulsly i fainted xD
Are you type 1 or 2, I'm type 1
A.J. Kleipass Bro im type 2 diabetes patient so is it possible for people like me to have injections of t n top surgery
'theres a stereotype that all trans guys play ukulele'
me, a trans guy who plays ukulele:
Same lmao
Me too :)
First off, me too, second off, I go to a trans youth meet-up, and I can say with absolute certainty that MOST trans kids can play the ukulele XD
Tis true
I never heard this stereotype but I did hear the stereotype that most LGBTQ+ (and mostly gays, bi and lesbians) play musical instruments
me who plays guitar, who has many LGBTQ+ friends who about half play ukelele/guitar/bass: I guess being Asian and playing the violin isn't much better
Oh wait, I am also Asian.... and played violin for 2 years... OOPSIE
The beard thing is such a silly thing. My husband who is a cis man can’t grow a full beard. He can barely grow a mustache and a little goatee. So people thinking only trans guys have patchy beards is just stupid.
I Love you
Facial hair also really just depends on your genetics whether you're trans or cis. If your family tends to have hairy men, you might start growing lots of hair. I'm ftm, just starting hormones, and I've already got a bit of a goatee going on which even my doctor was surprised about. I really wasn't surprised because when my brothers went through puberty, they all had full-grown beards that made them look like grown men by the time they were 12-13. Before even starting hormones I was considered pretty hairy when I was just letting my hair grow out on its own.
@@trashboi1286 yes my husband is Native American and Mexican and his genetics were hair free and with widow’s peaks... which sucks for our two girls because I also have a widow’ s peak that I pluck to make it look less like a scary witch 😂 but my oldest daughter had thick black hair when born now it’s brown, but my youngest had hardly no hair and it was blondish brown but had dark hair on her back and everyone said it’ll fall out well she’s 5 now and still has the hair on her back so I make sure to let her know it’s beautiful and show her the hair on my tummy which I get a few dark hairs even though I’m a cis woman but it’s all about genetics and hormones.
Our family tree has Native American which resulted in little to no body hair in all of us. Great for the women compelled to maintain southern American (Texas) grooming standards and awful for the men, who were bound by the same southern hair standards. 😂
My cis boyfriend totally has pms mood swings. We say he's MAN-struating
This is a real thing! Cis men generally have a cycle roughly the same length as people who menstruate! But they just vary in hormones, they don’t have as sudden of a release as periods are.
@@thomasblake2286 THIS IS TRUE I KNOW AS A CIS MAN MYSELF.
Jerry Bethea Are you saying I’m a cis man?
@@thomasblake2286 i know this is old, but i read it as a Jerry confirming that he, as a cis-man, noticed himself go through fluctuations/a cycle
@@jerrybethea5877 the heck are you yelling for?
Thank you for these videos. As a cis and older woman, these are many of the questions we would love to ask the Trans people in our lives. Simply because it is interesting and fascinating. But we hold back, because many of the questions are simply too intimate. we dont want to view you, or have you think we view you, as anything other than who you are, but we also want to be able to understand your challenges. Channels like yours make this possible. Thank you ☺️
Thank you for answering my question! It felt very weird, even with permission, to ask a question that’s so personal just for my personal curiosity. You’re such a wonderful educator. I’ve been an ally for as long as I can remember, and the B in the LGBTQ+ sandwich, but the T is newer to me. I’m wanting to become a parent and on the chance I have a child that is trans, I want to know as much as possible about as many walks of life possible so I can be the most supportive parent possible, and to raise the best humans possible. 💖
I like how you called it a sandwich.
londonac lettuce, guacamole, bacon, tomato, quinoa and more! Haha
It’s so funny that you call it a sandwich, my and my sister have an inside joke where we call it the lgbt sauce community XD (brief explanation for those who wanna know: my sister has a bit of trouble saying ltg (lime tomato garlic) sauce and has accidentally called it lgbt sauce multiple times)
@@ScheelesGreen pansexual people get to be the potatoes!!
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Jamie: Not today
i feel really good being hugged when i'm binding because it makes me feel that i'm flat.
The thought of getting pregnant honestly makes me want to throw up or throw myself into traffic
Honestly same and I'm a cis-woman
Me too and I'm a cis woman.
As a trans person a n d an asexual, this is the most relatable thing I've read
Same here. No,thank you
me too
Hey Jamie, I got a question.
I really, really want the paper plane- Trans Flag Merch pullover of yours. The problem is, that when I want something to buy from the internet, I need to get my parents buy it for me (As I don't have a bank account and stuff). However, my parents aren't that accepting when it comes to me being transgender, so I'm sure they definitely won't buy it, if they see that it has to do with being transgender (They don't know the flag btw). Anyway, my question is if it is possible to change the name of the pullover to maybe just "Paper plane" or something else? It would be really helpful for me because then I could get it, support you with it and yeah.. Would be cool if you answered but yeah just a question.
𝙰𝚠 𝚒 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚙𝚊𝚒𝚗 𝚍𝚞𝚍𝚎 😔✌🏻
@@findingagain No, I'm not, sonce I don't live in America we don't have Walmarts here :/
Nevio moon you can visa gift cards anywhere in the world, they're not exclusive to walmart I believe. If that isn't an option though I would consider asking your friends if they could buy it for you but you give them the money. As well as that though I would consider when uou would be able to wear this jumper, if your parents aren't accepting and unwilling to buy this in the first place I would maybe consider where and when I would wear it and also how you would wash it. That being said I hope you manage to find someway to get this pullover!
@@andrewhannaford2995 With all due respect, no, they aren't available "anywhere in the world". I live in a 3rd world country (not saying which one -- major censorship problems here), and there are no Visa giftcards here, or Mastercard, or AmEx. If you want a card, you go to a bank and open an account.
Andrew Hannaford yeah sometimes my friends will get me things and it’s really great when they can. My parents don’t really notice things like flags just because when you buy things and it says pride jumper or something
"I always think that unhappy people want to make people unhappy."
Couldn't agree more
Edit: I mean those who make others unhappy are probably unhappy themselves
People who want you to be unhappy are probably unhappy themselves. But not all unhappy people jerks
Nah its unhappy people try to make people happy
@@beatrix1120 I'm not saying all unhappy people, but I think people who make others unhappy are probably unhappy themselves
@@froggylord655 yeah thankfully some are
/could have worded that a little better/
I have a question for you: So what I really want is to be able to go out shirtless. I am 12 and started puberty blockers about a week ago. If I start testosterone right after puberty blockers is possible for me to go out shirtless without surgery?
I think that really depends on how developed your chest was at the time of puberty blockers, which varies for every person. Testosterone also distributes fat differently so can also make the chest area smaller which combined with blockers could mean that yes you can without worry but it really depends on your unique body
Maybe try asking your doctor or a professional how being on blockers will affect your chest growth if you start T right away
You're lucky enough to have T and puberty blockers. My parents don't even care that I'm trans. It's like I dreamed I said it
even if you didn’t get T the puberty blockers would probably make it fine since you’re young
I don't think a 12 yo should be walking around outside topless unless you live in a really hot country or are in your own garden
4:34 as your trans viewer in the military, the trans guy stereotypes are much more different then civilian trans guy stereotypes.
For example; non-binary voice, being 5'6 or shorter yet built like freight train who can pick up an F-150 with one arm while carrying the M240 without breaking a sweat.
Basically powerhouses then?
Not trans, but I just like listening to different people in the LGBT community share their struggles and expieriences
I got soooo hugggy when I got my binder, I finally got to hug my friends without hating my chest. I’m binding for 2 years now and sometimes it’s sore and hugging indeed is uncomfortable so yeah it depends.
I remember having some of those questions when I first came out and now I realise how far I've come and how much I've learned
Hey, Jamie, I just wanted to say thank you for everything you do. Yesterday marked one year of me being on testosterone, and I have really found comfort and reassurance every step of my transition because of you and Shaaba and your videos. Even though we have never met, you are part of what gave me the courage to finally come out to my family. You make me believe I'm worthy of love and that someday I'll find happiness too. Having you in the world makes breathing a little easier. Hope this wasn't too cheesy, and that you have a wonderful day.
For singing: It's a pain. I imagine knowing techniques will be helpful to keep it from cracking, but I never learned any, so it's been like 2 years and I'm only now starting to somewhat get the hang of it again lol
Really? I am getting better all the time. I was a soprano before and am a baritone now and took many lessons before and very infrequent lessons now but everything just works a little different. The techniques, in their core, are the exact same ones. They just need to be used in different places. For me the more difficult thing was daring to sing in what is now falsetto, but I am getting better. I am hitting notes and my voice breaks a lot less frequently and I am pretty sure that I will be able to sing high notes with confidence again. It's only been one year on T for me and only a few months since my voice truly stabilized.
But yeah, techniques help greatly and also just daring and trying. We need to relearn how to hit notes because they are in different places now.
@@samk324 Yeah so I didn't have any lessons either before or after lmao, so when I say I never learned techniques I mean for either voice type (I don't even know what I was, but not a soprano). I was going to! But then voice dysphoria hit hard. I only dropped to a tenor, really wanted at least baritone, but alas. That was jarring enough, soprano to baritone is quite a drop! I could hit notes again relatively soon too, but the cracking is only getting better now that I'm actually trying a little to smooth it over, I'm not particularly dedicated :P
@@DevilishlyDutch Hey, you can console yourself with the fact that tenor is the most sought-after voice type, especially in choirs! I'm a choir director and there are NEVER enough tenors. Baritone is the most common male vocal range, and they usually sing bass in a choir.
Also, a huge portion of popular music is sung in a tenor range, so you've got that going for you too! Man, I would love to help trans guys find their voices. Helping people discover how to sing is one of my favorite things!
When guys voices change, it really does take some time for the voice to settle and for the person to learn what using their new voice feels like. So keep on trying - you'll get it eventually. 😊
Sam K how did the quality of your voice change? did it get worse? btw i am a transmasc enby, i am currently an alto but especially my speaking voice seems quite high and feminine.this is one of the big factors in considering low dose T, also do you know if it would drop alot/to the same extent as higher dose, eg i wouldn’t want to go from alto to baritone, probably just to tenor
I've done testosterone via needle, patch, and gel. I did the needle method first, for about a month, and yes, you have to give yourself the shot. I actually started off fine, but I developed a fear of needles as time went on. Then, I switched to patch method. It was good for the most part, but sometimes afterwards you'll get a little red circle where the patch was, and it can be a bit itchy. Also, pulling it off feels like a band-aid, so keep that in mind. Right now, I'm on the gel. It's really good for me. It comes in a little pump-bottle, and you just rub it on. Super easy application, however, I've found it is easier to forgot to put it on. Usually (with the patch and needle method) you go to get blood taken every 3 or so months, however, with the gel, (at first, for about 6 months) you have to get blood taken once every month. It's a trade-off, and it depends on your preferences and your doctors.
Edit: Feel free to ask me questions. I'd be happy to go into detail and explain stuff.
bittersweet furrytrash so with the gel, how difficult is it so not get the gel on stuff? I’m worried some one like a couch and someone who doesn’t want t will touch it and yeah
@@charb719 Good question! The gel is absorbed by the skin super duper quickly, so it's kinda hard to get T on stuff like couches and chairs unintentionally. In less than 30 seconds, and everything is back to normal (so, the skin is dry after 30 or so seconds). However, it is recommended that you wash your hand carefully after applying, just to be safe. I usually just apply it on my upper arm, and wait a minute or so before putting my shirt on, and it's no issue.
@@findingagain Yes!!!! I really liked patches, but it wasn't covered by my insurance. One two month box was nearly 700$. It's so crazy and corrupt. Health insurance is so important.
bittersweet furrytrash oh wow I didn’t know it absorbed that fast! I’m not seriously considering gel but that was my main concern about it
I’ve heard that changes come more slowly with gels and creams as opposed to injections. Has that held true in your case?
3:54
This is such a huge problem for me
Most of the time I don't have dysphoria, sometimes it'll randomly hit me like a train unprompted. But most of the time I only get dysphoria around things like getting dressed to go outside, people using my 'real' name or she/her pronouns for me, or just saying I look pretty/nice when I'm forced to present feminine or complimenting something that's very girly about my appearance. But, these are all things that don't happen very often for me because I don't leave the house a lot, even before quarantine, and I avoid interacting with most people expect my boyfriend and some online friends so I still often get 'misgendered' or 'deadnamed' (in quotes because I'm only out to my boyfriend) because I live with my family.
I'm never thrilled to be a girl, I never was I was always a tomboy child, I don't randomly go 'oh hell yeah I'm a woman, sweet' but most of the time it doesn't bother me and I don't feel dysphoric if I just don't think about it.
I've never been one to care much about my appearance even before I started questioning my gender much less identified as trans so it's just kinda 'oh well that kinda sucks, I don't like that about myself' and just go on about my business.
My biggest concern is I am trans, but I won't qualify for treatment.
"theres a stereotype that all trans guys play ukulele"
Me, learning bass: Wat
Me, learning guitar: Wat
Me learning piano: Wat
Me knowing ukulele, bass and piano but not being trans: Wat
Me learning a fuck ton of instruments: wut.......but yes I do play the ukulele.
Me, knowing ukulele before I realized myself(trans man), and now knowing keyboard, bass, and acoustic guitar as well: Wat
Hm.. no dislikes
Just how it should be
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Let’s be honest... the westboro baptist church has to have something to do with this
Discomfort over being hugged because of the chest area!? You just unlocked a whole vault in my brain of all the times I was literally too dysphoric to fucking hug and I would do side hugs or bend tf over to hug just to save my chest 😂
Oh! I have a embarrassing binder story. So basically I was wearing my binder and it was a bad washed out colour and I was wearing a baggy t shirt and my mum noticed the bad colour....then she found out I was wearing a binder 😐...then I told her I was trans...
Then she told me I was a freak.
Lol, so embarrassing 😜
You are not a freak. You are you, and that is what matters. Never stop being you.
I relate to being called a freak.. my dad called me that
@Speaking Truth I know, I knew that from the beginning. I was prepared for her to not be happy with it but I just hope the future gets better
Hang in there, fellow internet stranger.
Your mother needs an education...and some empathy. (this coming from a former transphobe!)
I feel like the hug thing would hurt if you were trying to strangle someone, but if it’s a nice hug, then it probably won’t hurt?
Just don’t hug aggressively :)
I’m not first,
I’m not last,
But when Jamie uploads,
I click fast ♥️
Y E S
beautiful poem!
With the stereotypes i think hoodies all year round
I mean...
And Cavetown. He’s like the music king of the genderqueer and/or ace spectrum gremlins.
i’ve recently started questioning my gender and feeling uncomfortable with who i am, and watching videos like this is really comforting for some reason.
I wish you the best of luck! 💜
I felt so relieved when you said your parents forget you're trans sometimes
I'm still having a bit of trouble with mine (even if they're globally sort of okay) and that would be so nice
Maybe in like ten years time xD
How are you doing now?
The whole area of singing and voice and sex hormone changing is really worth a video on it's own. I'm sure it must be quite the thing for anyone out there to be a singer and experience your voice break and shift around and then eventually change to a new normal in real time. The whole thing of what it is for a guy's voice to change isn't something I ever really noticed in my school days, but when a trans acquaintance I hadn't seen since he was a girl suddenly phoned, I remember assuming it was a different male friend. I wonder if anyone else thinks about how mind-blowing that is for a body to create. This thing that you have spent your life shaping around a particular language, that you've always heard the same way, this thing very intertwined with your very breathing, just kind of takes chemical cues and decides to do the male puberty thing, often some year after it normally would for guys and as far as I've heard there's no more vocal chaos than is usually the case when it happens for adolescents. Maybe I'm wrong and it's not consistently quite that similar or miraculis, but it seemed like it.
Hey Jamie
I’ve got a question have you experienced any differences in how people treat you when you were male or female?
Did people assume you were going to do something based on how they perceived you?
For example did people think you would be more aggressive when you were perceived as male.
Thanks for the video it was cool
I believe he actually has a video on this called something like "living as male vs female"
Considering he passes very easily, I'm 100% sure people treat him differently. We just treat women and men different.
As someone who has always worked with mechanics or computers, I can say 100% that when I present as female the value of my opinion/knowledge dropped dramatically compared to before.
Mainly among men aged 20-50
Women don't seem to have the same bias, and older people who have never dealt with computers/mechanics usually always trust that youngins know more (I'm 29, but compared to an 80 year old they still see me as a child :P)
Thanks for the reply guys
I’m new to this channel so I might have messed that video but I’ll check it out
It was cool to read about everyone’s experiences
i would find rain dove on insta :) they have a fun little series abt being percieved female vs male
Bro my dad came in (I’m closeted) and told me to sleep so I said ‘at the end of the video’ and he asked what the video was and I said a video then he asked educational? And I was like MmmMmMm? And he asked what it was educational about and I just sat there... in silence... god that seemed suspicious
Oh jeez that sounds terrifying
Oh jeez
For the singing question, your voice can get to the point of reaching high notes again. Your voice will be drastically different and like Jamie said, comes out as more of a breath. Mine used to come out like that but now I can sing high notes again. This is just my personal experience so this might not happen for everyone. (I'm 6 months on T)
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As YT comments get meaner and meaner over time, I just wanted to say : thank you! I really love watching your content and you're such a nice and relaxed guy! :) I'm always looking forward to a new video. Thank you very much and stay awesome :)
I'm taking a break from studying anatomy to watch this. I love your content!
U also thinking becoming a man?
@@rajab4187 they don't necessarily need to be trans to enjoy content from a trans creator, take me for example
that question about hugging had me like 😭😭😭
it was so sweet 🥰
Big question: IS it okay for me to wear dresses still as a trans man? I like how comfy and flowy dresses are and like dressing in them but I'm not sure if that would make (I dunno the word)
Im a cis guy and I wear skirts all the time :)
Wear whatever you want
Weeb Culture I think you might find the sub r/ftmfemininity very helpful
I'll give you a really honest answer, might not be what you want to hear, and that's maybe. Do you go out presenting as female, wearing a dress, no medical transition, with makeup and/or long hair, and feel no discomfort in people calling you she? Then you probably arent trans. It depends if you experience gender dysphoria or not. If youre okay presenting as female everyday and having people misgender you (strangers or otherwise) because of it, then i doubt youre trans. But it's not my place to say.
Now, if you pass as male even with a dress on, and you experience dysphoria, then yes of course it's fine
Do what makes you comfortable. People may judge you for wearing one but people judge anyone in the LGBTQ community. Just do what makes you happy and dont worry about the people who dont like it
I don't believe that clothing has gender, so for hell's sake wear whatever you want!
I've been on T for ~2 months and my dad already said he can hear my voice is deeper.
Gwendall Grey how are you doing now?
@@whatshouldinamemyself809 My voice cracks ALL THE TIME but its still steadily deepening. Its strange, it sounds just like what I heard my younger brother go through over the course of a hear or so but, well, 5 months thus far (only ~2 weeks from 6, holy heck). Lots of stuff is changing faster than expected, but its kind of fun. It feels good, even with the weirdness.
@@grey8288 and now how sre you doing?
@@menopriezvisko94 My voice just keeps dropping but at least its stopped cracking. And my face has the same texture as my legs did after 3 days of not shaving, but if I shave it gets back to that state within a day. I'm still not able to grow it out much, either, so its just eternal prickly. Kind of satisfying but kind of irritating when I want to sleep.
Congrats! That’s a big step. I’d like to be on T someday, but I’d have to research it more and see about complications and the full effects, of which I am not entirely aware of. No rush though (sadly) as I won’t be able to even take the steps to get there until I’m a great deal older and by that point I’m not sure if it’ll even be possible.
I’m non-binary and I taught myself how to play the ukulele! Does that mean I’m actually a trans man!?
🤔
(It’s a joke based on those stereotypes)
😂
i'm NB too and i have to say, you and your ukelele are no longer welcome XD (jk)
only if you can play at least one song by cavetown!
Same, same 😂
As a doula I support all couples and birthing bodies. For those who want an insight into a trans male giving birth watch the film “Seahorse”. It’s really eye opening. I hope you and Shaaba have the chance to grow your family with all the support that you deserve.
This is very interesting. You explain so many things. That's nice.
jamie, i just wanna say i've been watching your videos for a while, and i really can't state enough how much i appreciate your positivity, kindness, and willingness to answer the questions everyone has (even if they're sometimes a little silly or weird) in order to help other trans/questioning people and allies. you've got an incredible heart, and i wish you and shaaba all the best 💜🏳🌈
I absolutely love your content Jamie you're always entertaining but also informative
Came across your channel last night randomly and starting paying attention because I adored you and your fiance's accents (lol I live in Florida) but stayed because I didn't realized it was a subject that I lacked so much knowledge on. Thank you for that. Have a great day 😊
I have a question: how did you come out to your parents? Any coming out ideas?
When coming out, there's a range of things to keep in mind. Remember, your safety is the most important thing in this situation. If you aren't sure how they'll respond at all, try asking a few little questions; like "Hey mom, what do you think about those transgender(Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Pan/Etc.) people?" or "Hey dad, why are Transgender (Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Pan etc.) people so disliked?", or something a kin to that. If you already know they'd be somewhat supportive, or if you think they'd be accepting, just try to have a calm, sit down conversation with them one on one. If you don't think they'll be accepting, please keep yourself safe. There's no shame at all about staying in the closet little longer so you can be safe.
I asked for a binder and told them directly. I will say that my parents completely ignored the fact that I was trans and don't hesitate to call me by my deadname a misgender me. My mom even yelled at me and told me she wasn't going to call me Aericke, when she could tell that I was incredibly upset about her desdnaming me that morning.
bittersweet furrytrash ty. I tried coming out to my mom by just saying “I’m trans” and I was so used to keeping it a secret that I didn’t know what to say so she just didn’t believe me
Aericke Snow I hope your parents realize how horrible they are being - they don’t understand how it feels to be deadnamed and misgendered
Elis G oof that teacher isn’t respectful. Safety is the most important - I don’t want to come out while my dad is drinking xd
This is totally unrelated but as a girl from Spain, for some reason, every time I see you, my mind thinks you’ll speak in Spanish with my accent. But then you obviously don’t speak or sound Spanish at all, and my brain is super confused for a few seconds. I just love the way you talk and the way you explain even simple things. I could be listening to you for hours ( I’m not a stalker I swear hahahha)
God that title, I must brace myself-
Hey Jamie! I'm early today, very abnormal. Question : have you ever drawn anything before/can you draw 😁 love your videos ❤️
just right out asking a little question that bothers me a lot:
Is it only me or it normal that it just emotionally hurts to see someone who already transitioned? I don't know why I feel like this, like i also feel happy for them if it helped them, but then it just hurts to see how far they got. I don't know why i feel like it, i don't know if it is normal, it certainly doesn't feel normal. I think it might have to do a lot with how i just can't make any progress due to my parents. I just don't want to feel bad because someone else made it that far in their life and are happy now. It just makes me feel even worse.
But yeah... Is it normal to feel that way or am I the problem? Are there any things that help with it?
Awww. It's okay, you're not wrong or bad for having those feelings. It's just jealousy, everybody feels that from time to time. It can be hard to be happy for people who we perceive as doing better than us. I don't know how to make it better except for doing work to raise your self-esteem.
Some things that may help:
1. Remember it's not a contest. You have hope, no matter what other people are doing.
2. They would want you to transition and be happy, they would love to support you.
3. It always sucks before transition and it will get a lot better when you start.
4. Remember you're your closest and oldest friend. How would you support a friend if they felt the way you feel?
5. What you're feeling is truly normal, and there will be a time that you no longer feel this way, if you hold on and keep surviving.
Good luck!
@@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice thx :3
About the voice on T: you can expect your voice to drop about an octave, meaning you will (most likely) speak a lot lower and you won’t be able to reach as high notes as before.
maybe one day someone will find this comment
Oh, I've found a comment! :)
I found itttt
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Found it
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ps, thank you so much for answering these questions, and so openly and honestly - it really helps other people understand a bit more what your experience has been like / is.
I've been watching a lot of your videos because this girl I'm talking to is trans and I really like her so this is very informative, so thank you for doing these Q&As. I'm too nervous to ask her so I'm learning through TH-cam 😅
I'm cis female, post menopausal, and not on hormones. I still get pms. Just without the "M". Jamie's explanation makes perfect sense to me.
About the last question: when I try to speak or sing in a high-pitched voice now (6 months on T) I sound like a dying goose lmao
The period symptoms without the period makes sense to me for sure. I have an IUD that has greatly reduced my period bleeding, to the point that some months I just don't get a period. But even in those months, I will still have some of the symptoms.
I love you Jamie. You’re just so sweet, and you always helps me feel better if I’m having a bad day.
Yes I started with part 3.
Honestly have been more interested in your social experience so I can understand better and knew this series would end up being more biological.
Honestly thought TH-cam was just recommending part 2 again since obviously I'm a subscriber so I want to watch all your videos, right algorithm?
Anyways if you read this, I just wanted to thank you for your honesty, maturity, and bravery.
Keep up the good work bro
when he said “You like what you like and your expression is different to your identity” just made my dysphoria go boom away
About the last question:
Boys generally experience a big gap between their head (high) and chest (low) voice
After they went through puberty.
The best time to remedy this is when you're voice is still dropping.
According to advice I saw singing songs by female artists
While transitioning, can really help to minimize the strain on your upper register later on,
However make sure to get comfortable with the lower register too,
It's arguably the more important part for you now.
Of course you can train your vocal muscles to do a lot,
But it's far from easy.
Intonation is the most important factor to passing tho,
So if you want to sound like a guy,
Try to replace ALL the words of a male actor's quote,
But keep the quote recognisable as that character.
I forget I’m trans sometimes, especially after 4 years on T and 2yrs post top surgery. I have no bottom growth or increase of sensitivity, and I’m asexual, but I feel slightly ripped off.
I sing, and my range went from Alto-Soprano to Alto-Tenor-Bass with Alto being STRENUOUS and Bass being where i could probably stretch my range if i had voice lessons. you'll Never get your tinny high voice back from T, but what you get out of it is sooooo silky smooth~
for every transphobe there are two frogs falling in love:)
I hate that this was a realization I had to have, but when you referred to yourself as 'presenting as female' it really flipped a switch in how I perceive trans people. I am trying to learn as much as possible since I found your channel and now others like it, and I hadnt realised until that moment that I literally cant perceive you as even pretending to be female. Thank you for everything youve done to educate people, Im sorry you live in a world where such education is so widely neccessary. Keep being awesome!
My villager's first nickname for me in Animal Crossing: New Horizons was spud and I could not figure out for the life of me why I liked it so much. Then I remembered you call us spuds
It's almost 2am over here and I couldn't sleep because I was having too many thoughts and feeling sad about things but watching Jamie always manages to make me feel better. So thank you ♥️
Fun fact: Male puberty makes your voice about an octave deeper
As an enby, I sincerely appreciate how considerate you are answering questions about enbies. ❤️
Just so you know... You are amazing... Yes you... You amazing person scrolling through the comments. Oh, my gender? Im non-binary
-Nova
@@glitchingecho3082 You too
-Nova
You're amazing, too, my non-binary sibling ^_^
@@kaworunagisa4009 Well thank you
-Nova
Hi!! 🖤🧡🖤🧡🖤🧡
I’m non binary too this made my day thank you
Adding to the singing: Yes, range goes lower (even before your speaking voice properly drops) but if you carefully stay in practice, you can still reach pretty high. That said, you have to be very technical with your voice, using both your head voice and your falsetto.
The first time I put my binder on I put it on backwards and couldnt get it off for ages, genuinely thought I was going to have to rip it after spending €60 on it
Hi jamie! I love your videos and espaccially, that you answer questions, nobody else does. I am biligual and you (and shaaba aswell) are speaking fast. Could you please show the question in the video? Would be a lot easier to understand 1. the question itself 2. the context :) Thank you and stay awesome!
the positive from the cramps is that you're a guy who can empathise with your partner
I sent my mum your videos for her to understand my situation and we both love and appreciate your sharing
I’m a very unhappy person from many things, childhood abuse being the hardest to get myself back from but I’ve never felt like making a hate comment. I’ve never wanted to say racist things or homophobic things and transphobic things. My mental health is in a very bad place but I would never want to think about causing someone else sadness or hate. Just a thought not every hater is doing it because of mental health sometimes people are just mean.
Awesome questions! Awesome answers, you gave me some feels with a few of them, also a few feels from people genuinely concerned about if something could physically hurt (like a hug) and about surgery recovery. Thank you to all the sincere questions and concerns, as well as wonderful answers 💖🥰👏✌✨👍
"I had a lil impromptu waxing session, hmm hmm" laughed a bit too much at that part, sorreh
Jamie, I want to thank you for the work you do on educating people. I am personally figuring out who I am, and your videos help me understand more the people I know and allow me to have a wider view on life. Thank you
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“The red queen messenger” it’s what I like to call my pms
The end of your video about voice changes makes me wonder if there is any trans singer that documented their voice changes through singing and now I realllllly want to scour the Internet to see if I can find any! Someone has had to, right? I’ve been a singer basically since I could talk so this would make my heart so happy!
I feel like you once said that you still sit to pee, because you can't pee standing up, but I couldn't find it, so...
If it's not TMI, could I ask why? Is your urethra still located where a female one would, or is it a pressure thing? I'm just confused, I'm sorry..
3173 Δ the p still comes out of the pee hole in a vagina and that won’t change unless you have a surgery to lengthen it or change the urethras positioning :)
@@ne-ola I thought he didn't have a vagina anymore though? 😦
You can choose whether or not to get urethra lengthening which allows you to pee standing when you get bottom surgery. He chose not to
@@needntknowmyname I know that much
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@@3173_Delta Honestly, usuallywith histerectomy, the vaginal canal is not removed. It can be closed up on the outside, but it is unusual to do (at least from what I've heard).
You’ve helped me so much through being trans (well kind of, I’m a demiboy, was originally a girl) but yeah, you’ve helped me figure out so much about myself and things I can do to be myself, thank you :D
i cant sing high notes anyhow so i see this as an absolute win
I have learned a lot from you. I have many gay friends, but have never met a transgender person. Thank you for being so open and honest for those of us that truly just want to become more informed.
Looking at him , I cannot imagine he could have ever been a girl. He is too handsome 😀
Jamie is so likeable and has such a cute personality. He's so calm and I really enjoy watching his videos :)
I've been wondering if there is still a vaginal opening after bottom surgery. If not, and a hysterectomy has not been performed prior to bottom surgery, what happens if the (admittedly rare) chance of getting a period does occur? And what happens to vaginal fluids? It may sound like a weird question, but it's genuine nonetheless :) Lots of love to you and Shaaba from Greece
So, usually the opening is still there after bottom surgery. I honestly never heard of a person having it closed up, since it is pretty difficult to do. Also, I have not heard of people having bottom surgery but not histerectomy. Additionally, one can get some bleeding after being on testosterone for some time and it only definitely stops after removing the internal organs.
@@that_weird_mer Thank you so much for the reply! It does make sense, thank you for the clarification and for explaining it so well
@@VitriolXandakas No problem my dude, happy to help!
Speaking as a large-chested person who wears a binder (still questioning identity, but I wear the binder for dysphoria), hugs aren’t *painful* so to speak when I wear the binder-I’ve yet to meet anyone who can hug tighter than the binder itself, and the pressure is in different places, so there’s no discomfort in that particular respect. I actually quite prefer wearing my binder when hugging people; it’s physically easier, and the lack of movement and squish (relative to a binderless hug) is a huge relief. That said, having extra pressure on the chest like from a hug may trigger just a bit of a heightened sense/reminder of the binder being there which I could see possibly being disheartening for some people if they manage to forget its there, but that’s not something I personally deal with.
"There's a stereotype that all trans guys play ukulele"
Me, a ftm trans man who plays French Horn: I'd rather not. I wanna stay sounding like an Elephant
FRENCH HORN PLAYERS! TELL ME OUR INSTRUMENT DOESN'T SOUND LIKE AN ELEPHANT!
Me, a trans guy who plays ukulele: You know, I've always liked french horn. But in band class I was clarinet.
I understand why some people might think that hugs might hurt a FTM that is binding, because before I got my top surgery done, I used to make extream akward hugs to make sure that my chest did not touch them, in fear that they might feel something there that was not supposed to be there.