Our community needs couples like this. The fighting we have now is because single men are saying what women need to do and single women are saying what men need to do. We need COUPLES to do the talking and then men and women can get on board with the vision. Can’t have traditional marriage if so many black men balk at the idea of being sole provider and don’t want to accept the full scope of the traditional marriage vision they claim to want.
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I’m not sure ALL women are “fighting” to work. Yes many of us have non-domestic interests, but the hardest part is finding a Male partner who will rise up to this traditional marriage and all it entails.
Exactly! I don't understand how they expect women to be the traditional housewife when many of them can't even afford a lifestyle that allows for that to happen.
What I thought was interesting is they spoke about building up to this point of having a traditional lifestyle but the mindset was always wanting to be traditional. She spoke about getting her out of her job and in the home.
@@Jane_Toussaint23 There's plenty of good brothers out here who's smart, educated, career driven, homeowner who's looking for good women to get into a traditional relationship like our ancestors used to do. My advice to you is: Just learn to choose better not for looks but for the qualities he may bring. ⚘
@@Chery869 Women don't choose. Men choose, and women say yay or nay! And it's really not that simple as you lay it out. The society has created a bunch of weak 50/50 men, and women have to dive and duck just to find a traditional man. The society has created a minefield. And it's no joke.
We can try to fool ourselves all we want but God's design tends to work best. What a woman! I completely believe in the same kind of marriage: supporting my spouse and home schooling our kids...when I get married. I'm a career woman for now: I intentionally continue to educate myself but when I start a family, I plan to leave it behind and build with my future husband...God willing, of course.
This woman touched a cord. Everything she's said is so true, but hard. That's some wisdom right there. It all boils down to having a vision before marriage and marrying the right person
This couple are great role models for marriage. They're honest about their shortcomings in life but they didn't let those things deter their love for each other and the commitment they made to each other when they got married. ⚘
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This was a needed and helpful conversation. My big takeaway was hearing this couple’s story of how everyone wins and legacy flourishes in a traditional family. This happens when everyone knows their role and responsibilities.
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I needed to hear this! A strong woman with a masters degree at home raising her kids! I feel so guilty I have a masters and I’m “not using it” to be home. She is an inspiration!
Don't let society shame you. A lot of times degrees we get can be useful in the home. Women who get nursing degrees, education degrees, child phycology, etc can all be used to be better homemakers and mothers.
I'm almost 60 and growing up my parents had their own business. I did not understand why my father did not want his children working for somebody else. I did not understand then, but I 100% do now!!!. Looking back, I now see the freedom my parents had and always able to provide not only our needs but also our wants. I have taught/ teaching my daughters 24 and 29 to understand the value of entrepreneurship, making sound financial decisions, waiting for a husband to find them, but in the wait working on the characteristics they want in a husband to be found in themselves. They are sometimes left to feel that they should lower their standards, but even in this environment where it seems hard to be found...God is still in charge, so it's still good and possible. Also, I would like to say that sometimes the road to entrepreneurship starts by being employed by someone else. Take that knowledge and be willing to go the extra mile to be cross trained (even if not in your job description people), because you can probably use that knowledge when you go out on your own.
Wow!!! This conversation actually made me feel very good to see that there are other people out here who actually get it. They hit everything on the head for me. My wife and I have 2 sons who have been homeschooled from the beginning and my wife has been a homemaker for 19 years and we've been happily married for 13 years.
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The way that husband is looking at his brilliant wife says everything. He’s just so in awe of her, that’s real love. Also, it’s amazing how they don’t interrupt or talk over each other, so much respect!
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I enjoyed the interview. Everyone has the right to define what type of marriage they will have. Having a ‘traditional’ marriage works for some and not others, and that is okay. Having a ‘modern’ marriage doesn’t make your way the wrong way. A modern marriage can be just as successful. Every idea of success in work/family is not the same.
It works because the man is not successful enough to provide the traditional life. If a man is successful he is less likely to want that path for his wife.
I just hit the SUBSCRIBE button!!! This was AMAZING!!!!! Marriage ain’t hard, working on you is hard! People need personal development, different roles of equal importance!!! Yes!!!!!
I respect this couple's perspective. I also celebrate women like me who believe our Christian presence in the workplace is God's best for us right now. Working outside the home is not a "modern" role, it's what's best for some of us.
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She preached a whole sermon regarding “boss chicks”. Some of us are “boss chicks” because we never saw a healthy, functional relationship between a man and a woman nor was a part of a healthy family unit. We didn’t CHOOSE to become a “boss chick”, it was our only option due to our experiences. Whew Chile….I gotta journal now lol. Thank you for this episode and shedding light on marriage by design! 💛✨
Her comment about boss women raising strong, independent women while simulateneously raising weak men is correct, and it's also the reason why the traditional marriage they're advocating for is not realistic for most of us. Too many men are weak and lazy & unqualified to lead a household, and don't actually bring enough money in to take care of their family. As a result, we have to work to help them pay the bills, while they also expect us to cook, clean, and take care of the kids... marriage with these type of men is a burden to a woman. Being a boss chick actually feels better than having this type of man in my house.
This was hands down the best episode of the Table, besides the black history panels. The Black community needs to hear this and more information like it!
In my opinion, over 40 hours a week away from family is way too much an investment of time especially for a job you are not enjoying. If it happens occasionally ok, but regularly working under 40, and still earning huge income should be the goal, whether self-employed or not. We need more time for God, our family, health, recreation, and other pursuits Amazing presentation. Both of them were amazing, the woman especially personally for me said some RIVETING things. The way they speak with confidence, conviction, and clarity is thoroughly refreshing and enlightening
Wow!!!!!!!!!! Profound!!! Finally someone said it and said it right. I love this way of thinking. This will help heal this world, if you really think about it.
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Wow!!! I love love love this interview 💙 Marriage isn’t hard, working on you is hard. Do your work 🤞🏾 Peace & Blessings to this beautiful, transparent, and loving marriage.
Yolanda is preaching!!! I can definitely identify with boss chick reference. After being let down so many times, the best thing to do is channel my energy else where. I'm trying not to give up but it's so hard.
This was on point!!! I.m an older woman & my husband & I started out as traditional & I will go back to traditional in a heart beat. I agree, our families need to build our own legacy & stop building others legacy.
My only issue with traditional marriages is often when the breadwinner passes, the family suffers but I love that they are building together and putting plans in place to mitigate against any such eventualities...
@@jpt610 How many people have a 2 million dollar life insurance policy? Most life insurance may pay off a mortgage but typically the wife will have to go to work full time.
This was an amazing episode and I didn't want it to end. She was phenomenal on her delivery. I really think the majority of black families have been moving in this direction since the pandemic.
The leadership points were great and I needed to hear them...and marriage points that "it's not me against you, it's us against the problem or situation..." and mentors...
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I think we're having the wrong conversation on women working or "boss chicks." The issue is not getting degrees or working - it's the struggle in turning off that independent mentality when you're back home in your partnership/marriage, being able to manage time well, and in the power struggle that comes when one person in the couple makes more. Somewhere between modern and traditional is a functioning two income household. We just need to grow the skills and maturity to make it work.
You are right. But men and some women have this fixed idea that women are supposed to work in the house cooking, cleaning and taking care of kids and ONLY this. Women are expected to be servants and only that. They can't be independent in anything. And herein lies the problem. It should be the women's choice. Not what she is told to do.
These are the conversations that need to happen more often. A strong community is built off strong families and thats built off strong marriages. If each household is built off a solid structure then the collective would be a greater community. It starts at home. From my marriage to yours Congratulations to all husbands and wives here.
I have watched this amazing couple grow and develop since the beginning and as wife, as a marriage and family therapist, as a mom, as an Appalachian State Alumni, I just love the evolution of their intentional marriage 💖💫
Yes!!! Excited to see more traditional marriages, this is my dream! Love this so much! I realized this too within the first two year of my marriage, I worked two jobs with two male bosses and I realized that I wanted my husband to be a boss. I even call my husband my boss and I love, I’d rather have him as a boss instead of a corporate boss. I quit these jobs so that I could work from home full time.
I think social media and the pandemic have made it a lot easier to blur the lines between traditional and modern. Most modern families are forced to homeschool at this time and working remote has always been ideal and this is the age to start a business. My mom and my stepfather homeschooled my four younger sisters together until middle school and it was very difficult for my mom to return to work after 13 years of being out of the workforce altogether, so she started businesses and now works remote as often as possible.
It's so interesting to hear how people define traditional vs. modern. I really wouldn't classify this couple as traditional. Having a nanny, housekeeper and online schooling (not home schooling) take away from the traditional aspect no? Plus he was technically a stay at home dad for a minute right? I just see seasons and adjustments. People should just do what they want and what fits them. The labels of traditional and modern don't really add up anymore.
Seems like they’re traditional but wealthy enough to still hire help for the wife, which is reasonable if they can afford it and with the number of kids they have. I would define any situation where the husband works and the wife doesn’t have a 9-5 as traditional. Maids, a nanny, and online classes doesn’t really mean the wife is sitting around all day not doing anything.
@@Julian-zc9vm Not saying that she is not doing anything. But it's not the traditional way. Or what I would classify as traditional. Having a nanny isn't really part of the traditional package. That is more often something modern women who work outside the home do. Sure they can afford it but is it traditional?
I needed this conversation today! This has been coming up so much in my life- in my relationship and outside voices… learning to lean into MY feminine role is hard… I have had to be “strong” for so long… it is so hard to shift that attention to non-career drive… thank you for this conversation!
Same! My husband and I don’t have kids yet (planning to try this year) but I am working remotely/from home and supporting him. Once I took care of everything around the house and supported him so he can focus on work, his career has really started to grow exponentially. I think that’s because he feels supported to focus on work and has space for that. (Plus we been praying of course 🙏🏽.) Good luck
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This video right here!!!! It's 🔥🔥🔥. Everyone needs to watch this. EVERYONE and EVERY MARRIAGE should build their lives around their priorities, not societies. Transitional marriages are a MUST!
I don’t like the stereotypes at the end but let me rewind because I caught the last five minutes… I was raised in a traditional marriage Christian home and it’s healing right now. One thing that had to happen- the head of the household needed to less his family in humility and vulnerability. This is the time for men to humble themselves before God and let God be God. Helpmeets RISE.
"We need to start with the family first and then we can start working on the black community" This this this. That is the key to many of the problems and issues of today.
They are ADMIRABLE! This was the EXACT SAME THING I did with my husband. He worked outside of the home as a doctor, and I was the Domestic Goddess at home! Our children are now 18 and 22 and I will NEVER regret those years I was at home. I am now a business owner times two and he owns several private practices. We are now divorced, but we were on the same page about traditionalism and how we wanted to raise our children. What these "modern-day" couples are doing is called EGALITARIANISM. Basically, the "50/50" set up where they both work, both pay bills, and are both too tired to see about each other or their children! NO ONE WINS IN THAT SITUATION. we need to wake up for real.
This was just a great episode. They reminded me of my grandparents. I look up to their marriage. They had a traditional marriage but my grandmother was involved in building their legacy. She passed 20years before my grandfather and he recently passed. Now their children and grandchildren are benefiting from their legacy. The bigest one for me has been their family values that I now try to apply to my own little family.
This was a breath of fresh air!!! Awesome video and probably the best yet when it comes to marriage. I know this is gonna step on some toes but I'm here for it. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
When she spoke she spoke volumes….. so much so that they all had to sit back and listen, she made her husband proud with that big smile on his face. I love it, family first🥰🥰🥰🥰
Appreciative for this episode so much, Mr. O'Neal and the Married by Design couple. One of the more important things I have thought about as a young male and am implementing is making sure that I have my stuff in order BEFORE I start getting engrossed in thinking of marriage. In the immediate sense it is frustrating because I know I can be living it up now, but my future self and spouse will both be thankful for this later. Oh, and you best believe I'm sharing this with the homies, because this is sorely needed!!
I Love that their message is plan your Family. So many have gone out and let life happen to them but we have to understand that we can design our Families to look and be what we desire. We have to change that mindset to make sure that we go into life with a game plan not stumble into the life happening to us.
Wow Powerful show!!! We need more traditional thinking men so there will be more traditional marriages and homes. I carry the guilt of robbing my kids of a stay at home mom. especially since my mom was home with my brother and I. Great show and thank for sharing the importance of a traditional marriage!
@@themarriagebydesign Thank you so much for the encouragement! I took a leap of faith in God 4 months ago and left my situation, moved to another state and is now trying to see how I can work from home and be a better mom to my younger kids. By God’s grace and mercy, I’ll be able to accomplish this….. Thanks again for showing the importance of a traditional family. God Bless!!!
@@neneosei7168 Thanks for the advice, but sometimes that doesn’t work. I did that before and he still didn’t step up. It’s the mindset that’s missing/the ability to be a real traditional man.
I 100% agree with the "boss chick" statement. Very powerful and on point. AO I would like to hear from a modern couple. It seems like individuals with the traditional perspective on marriage and family often highlights the negative of women who perfer to work and not be stay at home moms. They almost imply that modern women/wives do not prioritize their children social and emotional needs. I think working women are capable of being nurturing mothers that raise respectable and responsible children.
Oooouuu that break down of the “Boss Chick” mentality was too real for me! She was dropping gems!!!! I see why AO was speechless. We really need to do better in the black community, the role reversals are too prominent… Women are being pushed to become too independent, distrustful of the black man or looking to other races for security and it’s truly sad. I do not want to settle on a sub-par black man, but I also do not want to look towards another race either… that would still be settling for me, so what am I left with???
I hear you! However, I wanted to encourage you to keep seeking what is meant for you. I personally do no feel that dating "outside" is settling. I think that if you know what you are looking for--and ask for it (I ask through prayer)--and it is brought to you...the outer packaging is not as important as the fact that you find the character and heart that you have been looking for. My partner is not of my race, and he is everything that I prayed for, plus so much more. It can really be rewarding as we open our minds and hearts to what can be, as opposed to what we feel should be. Best of luck and be blessed!
My grandmother was a nurse & married in the 30s-40s. To think that its modern is interesting. Its not that they didn't work traditionally but they have specific roles.
@@AskBibleNotes I feel it's what each person holds as being important to them and the vision they have for their family. Though we trust God for his will, we also do have a role in shaping it. If I'm in an all white church, most likely someone I'll find would be from that environment. Like AO some of us still value having a family that looks like us and building a successful black family without having to go through the dynamics of having biracial kids and all.
@@AskBibleNotes well said! I am open to the best male human for me lol some are strongly set on black only and that's their poragotive. It's only settling if you are going with something you really don't want and feel it's no other option.
@@otsam1050 um I could be wrong but I thought that AO was dating a White lady a while back. If im wrong let me know, but know that God does not see color the same way humans do.
He said "Equal importance but not equal roles!!!" She dropping all the "Boss chick" gems!!!This episode is NEVER leaving my TH-cam download list!!! 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯 Thank you Mr. AO!!!
This is interesting but it feels like when people say women should not work outside the home they really mean "women shouldn't have high paying, high education jobs." They never talk about how some women have to work just to support their family. So it's never directed to women that work "female" jobs outside the home lime nanny or maid. But still a worthwhile conversation to have. Great job.
Marriage by Design❤️🔥so grateful to hear such anointed couple. A lot of wisdom, truth, transparency and knowledge; all with Love. Definitely the mentors we need. Thank you all for empowering others to build genuine legacy.
This was the Greatest show, this couple shows how Husband & Wife share the stage & complement each other, tell about there ups & downs but do not lose site of the Vision
This was absolutely phenomenal, probably my favorite podcast/interview by far. Such great positive and inspiring voices!! Anthony thank you for introducing such wonderful people to us!
@@themarriagebydesignyes I've been married three years and would love to hear a mature married couple's opinion and vision. A book on family and married life! I see it in the future. Again, I loved listening to you two!
Can’t lie, I was a bit skeptical about this when I saw the title 😅, but this was actually a super DOPE convo! Ms. Yolanda definitely needs a microphone and her own podcast- she was dropping gems left, right, and center! 🗣
Excellent conversation! I had both parents till adulthood but I am a divorcee but this is perfect for my career driven daughters! Help us build our generational wealth with aligning our family values & morales 1st! All roles are different yet as important/thanks marriage by design!
Lord, thank you for speaking through your people, and giving hope to us single people that marriage can be done right, if we commit to doing it your way, guided by your VISION. Thank you so much Jesus for caring for your people, for raising up couples such as this, for providing platforms such as this, to showcase your VISION for the family, and for the church as a whole. Thank you Lord!
This episode is full of gems. As a married man of 4+years and counting, so many truths about marriage and dealing with self before and during marriage is spot on. The successfully marriage mentors is also a huge plus if you can link up with some. We become the product of our environment in life.
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Please have that couple on again. I find them extremely motivating. They stimulate my though processes. I remember when mom stayed home and dad worked. I think children turned out to be decent individuals. I think it was because we, children were raised by a village. As a child, if you got in trouble at the neighborhoods house, you were in trouble again when you get home. It should be like that today. We're letting some government entity control the raising of our children and when they become of age, somebody will continue to live richly off their incarceration. My grandmother was an traditional wife. My granddad was the "MAN."
This is coming from someone who barely comments on anything...but WOW, they had my total attention from start to finish. They are incredible! So bonded, clear minded, cogent, and these are not easy threads to guide or follow. Godspeed to you all, you are a beautiful, inspirational couple and example. I agree w the person below, who are they? How can we follow them? When you are achieving your vision with your community and ready to branch out, many await you :) Authentic leaders are all that is needed. And I don't even know your business or consulting model, but you got me. Bless you. Nice work to you too Anthony.
Ok James! I see Yolanda and you doing big things! My favorite people on one platform. I’m glad to see James and Yolanda doing well. I have not been on Facebook in months. They are an amazing couple. I will personally recommend following them. 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
I'm so proud of you AO! I still keep you in my prayers for protection, strength & obedience in holy guidance. Know that your efforts are being blessed Brother. It's cathartic to me to know you put out supportive & POSITIVE content regarding stewardship of marriage AND singleness.
Oh wow! 🤯 I wish someone would have had this conversation with me years ago. Having conversations about vision and what you want your family and life to look like and not focusing on what career you want is life changing as there are may paths to a successful career. Thanks this was very edifying to my spirit.
I partially agree with what she's saying. You can be a SAHM without downplaying or bashing women who chose to work. I CHOSE to work because SAHM life was causing me to lose who I was as a woman. I'm more than a Mom and a wife and WANTED to work. You're a great Mom and wife, but we're all doing what is best for our mental health and staying home isn't the goal for all of us.
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The BEST information I’ve heard in forever! Def def def resonated with me! This was beyond amazing! Family first, generational wealth, black families, etc….ALL import topics! Love it!
This was like a breath of fresh air. I'm glad to hear a married couple's prospective advice instead of the shows where there are singles trying to give couple advice.
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I absolutely love and respect this couple. I was introduced to them on clubhouse as well. So amazing to hear a couple that really get it. Can’t wait to meet my husband and support him in creating our family’s legacy. ❤️
I like the idea of designing your marriage. Yolanda mentioned girls are seeing their moms and grandmother's being both woman and man and that'sthe reason they want to be boss chicks. This isn't always the case. Many have grown up in a traditional household but the mother still got cheated on or abused and the daughter saw this and said, not me.
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I think this video is so inspiring!! I want to teach for a few years, retire and continue my business, using my English degree! Working a job for 40 years is not my forte. I want to have the flexibility to work both in capacities, but have more experience serving people and working on my business. This video is a gem for me and extremely inspiring and amazing!!
I am so truly grateful for all the people who have jobs such as pilots, nurses, judges, policemen, firefighters, cashiers ect. Thank you for going to work every day and helping the world stay in order.
This was a brilliant conversation!! Awesome perspective and mature outlook that's making me rethink and confirm my 'why?'. We need to hear from more couples like this🔥
I like this couple, but I also would like to say, there is a Middle Road. I personally encompass a little of both. I MUST have my own. My spouse or boyfriend could be injured, severely hospitalized or die and that would change the whole design in the blink of an eye. Life happens and you'll never catch me up creek without a paddle. 🤷🏾
I understand what you are saying, but nothing they talked about really goes against what you said if you think about it. I think we focus too much on "the woman stays at home" and we think that equals bondage or something. This woman is clearly very intelligent and independent in many ways. He even talked about how his wife has her master's degree and he doesn't even have that. She worked outside the home for several years. It isn't like she has no clue how things work. He talked about how she is very versed in finances. So, if anything happened to him she isn't going to be lost. She will be fine. Also, I think there is a lot of confusion about traditional women. I don't think people realize that many of today's traditional women are not lost/confused like the women of yesteryear. No disrespect to our grandmothers and great-grandmothers. But many of today's traditional women are educated. Many of them have degrees and worked outside the home for years. They know how to pay bills, they know how to take care of a household, they can do lots of things. They were already doing it. The difference is that they decided once they had children they wanted to be there for their children. So, they stopped working outside the home. If anything happened to their husbands - they aren't going to be lost. They still know how to take care of things. I have several friends that are now stay-at-home moms and all have them are highly educated, traveled, worked corporate jobs, did all of that. They continued working early in the marriage...and then once they had kids they decided to stay home to homeschool. They don't have any regrets. I think it makes a difference also that my friends got married and had kids a bit older. They got to live their lives in their 20s and then married and had kids in their early to mid-30s so they didn't feel like they missed out on anything.
@@lisacox3750 I know many who have done it differently with or without the label of traditional or modern and achieved the same outcome for their family, if not better. The same goes for single moms and single dads. There is no one-size-fits-all. To each its own. As for me, I need my own everything! Divorce is always a factor as well.
Excuses. The "boss chick" is a bs masculine MENTALITY that NO MAN finds attractive. Notice how its females that are the ones that came up with the term and give themselves and other females that label lol. My wife doesnt have to worry about me getting sick or dying...she taken care of either way. Right when we first got married I took out long term care insurance AND life insurance on myself. She taken care of while I'm living, while I'm sick and when I'm dead.
My mom and dad a modern marriage. They both worked outside the home and we had a very strong loving Christian home. They were married 63 years. Mom retired at 65 years old.
Our community needs couples like this. The fighting we have now is because single men are saying what women need to do and single women are saying what men need to do. We need COUPLES to do the talking and then men and women can get on board with the vision. Can’t have traditional marriage if so many black men balk at the idea of being sole provider and don’t want to accept the full scope of the traditional marriage vision they claim to want.
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I got chills listening to her. This is so needed in our Black community!
Same here. She is incredible. The brother chose well!
She is perfect black wife ( I know ain’t nobody perfect but you know what I mean)
Thank you so much! 😊
Same sis!!
Mooossst DEFINITELY ‼️🔥🔥🔥
I’m not sure ALL women are “fighting” to work. Yes many of us have non-domestic interests, but the hardest part is finding a Male partner who will rise up to this traditional marriage and all it entails.
Exactly! I don't understand how they expect women to be the traditional housewife when many of them can't even afford a lifestyle that allows for that to happen.
What I thought was interesting is they spoke about building up to this point of having a traditional lifestyle but the mindset was always wanting to be traditional. She spoke about getting her out of her job and in the home.
@@Jane_Toussaint23 There's plenty of good brothers out here who's smart, educated, career driven, homeowner who's looking for good women to get into a traditional relationship like our ancestors used to do. My advice to you is: Just learn to choose better not for looks but for the qualities he may bring. ⚘
Exactly. Thy are out there, but you may have. to look in different places to where you've. been looking.
@@Chery869 Women don't choose. Men choose, and women say yay or nay! And it's really not that simple as you lay it out. The society has created a bunch of weak 50/50 men, and women have to dive and duck just to find a traditional man. The society has created a minefield. And it's no joke.
We can try to fool ourselves all we want but God's design tends to work best. What a woman! I completely believe in the same kind of marriage: supporting my spouse and home schooling our kids...when I get married. I'm a career woman for now: I intentionally continue to educate myself but when I start a family, I plan to leave it behind and build with my future husband...God willing, of course.
You can do it!
All of this! It will happen for you ❤️
exactly!!! as woman, we should be working toward the goal of being a wife that is able to stay at home as singles.
May God continue to bless you on your journey
May the Lord be with you. May you hear His voice, do His will, and enjoy Him forevermore! 😉
This woman touched a cord. Everything she's said is so true, but hard. That's some wisdom right there. It all boils down to having a vision before marriage and marrying the right person
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This couple are great role models for marriage. They're honest about their shortcomings in life but they didn't let those things deter their love for each other and the commitment they made to each other when they got married. ⚘
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Mic drop! AO you need more people like this on the show! We need to face the truth AO. Thank you for having them on the show!
Thank you for watching.
@@anthonyoneal Omg this was so powerful!! I agree so much with @Tina Marsh. I love this couple!
@@beautfullymelanated4719 we love that you love us! 😊
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@@anthonyoneal AO what was their names and handles, didn't see it in the description.
This was a needed and helpful conversation. My big takeaway was hearing this couple’s story of how everyone wins and legacy flourishes in a traditional family. This happens when everyone knows their role and responsibilities.
So good!!!!
Lovely summary :)
@@hathaway5724 thank you! :)
Yes! Know your roles! 👍🏾
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I needed to hear this! A strong woman with a masters degree at home raising her kids! I feel so guilty I have a masters and I’m “not using it” to be home. She is an inspiration!
Never feel guilty! I'm praying to be in that position. Consider it a blessing, and enjoy!
@@delle3955 me too! Everyday I pray to be in this position after having my daughter 8 months ago.
Don't let society shame you. A lot of times degrees we get can be useful in the home. Women who get nursing degrees, education degrees, child phycology, etc can all be used to be better homemakers and mothers.
I'm almost 60 and growing up my parents had their own business. I did not understand why my father did not want his children working for somebody else. I did not understand then, but I 100% do now!!!. Looking back, I now see the freedom my parents had and always able to provide not only our needs but also our wants. I have taught/ teaching my daughters 24 and 29 to understand the value of entrepreneurship, making sound financial decisions, waiting for a husband to find them, but in the wait working on the characteristics they want in a husband to be found in themselves. They are sometimes left to feel that they should lower their standards, but even in this environment where it seems hard to be found...God is still in charge, so it's still good and possible. Also, I would like to say that sometimes the road to entrepreneurship starts by being employed by someone else. Take that knowledge and be willing to go the extra mile to be cross trained (even if not in your job description people), because you can probably use that knowledge when you go out on your own.
Well articulated!
So so good!
So on point👌
Wow!!! This conversation actually made me feel very good to see that there are other people out here who actually get it. They hit everything on the head for me. My wife and I have 2 sons who have been homeschooled from the beginning and my wife has been a homemaker for 19 years and we've been happily married for 13 years.
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The way that husband is looking at his brilliant wife says everything. He’s just so in awe of her, that’s real love. Also, it’s amazing how they don’t interrupt or talk over each other, so much respect!
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This woman just made my heart cry. I have been saying the same thing. Family First should be a whole movement!
I enjoyed the interview. Everyone has the right to define what type of marriage they will have. Having a ‘traditional’ marriage works for some and not others, and that is okay. Having a ‘modern’ marriage doesn’t make your way the wrong way. A modern marriage can be just as successful. Every idea of success in work/family is not the same.
It works because the man is not successful enough to provide the traditional life. If a man is successful he is less likely to want that path for his wife.
I just hit the SUBSCRIBE button!!! This was AMAZING!!!!! Marriage ain’t hard, working on you is hard! People need personal development, different roles of equal importance!!! Yes!!!!!
I respect this couple's perspective. I also celebrate women like me who believe our Christian presence in the workplace is God's best for us right now. Working outside the home is not a "modern" role, it's what's best for some of us.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 They are bringing it the way it needs to be brought. It's refreshing to see that this couple gets it. 👍🏽
100%!! It was so refreshing!
Thank you lady! 😊
I love their recognition of each other’s strengths. Equal importance even though roles aren’t identical. Still a partnership honestly
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The husband knows what he's talking about.The wife nailed it on the dynamics of the "boss chick".This couple is not common at all.
Real recognize real yes? 😉
She preached a whole sermon regarding “boss chicks”. Some of us are “boss chicks” because we never saw a healthy, functional relationship between a man and a woman nor was a part of a healthy family unit. We didn’t CHOOSE to become a “boss chick”, it was our only option due to our experiences. Whew Chile….I gotta journal now lol. Thank you for this episode and shedding light on marriage by design! 💛✨
Her comment about boss women raising strong, independent women while simulateneously raising weak men is correct, and it's also the reason why the traditional marriage they're advocating for is not realistic for most of us. Too many men are weak and lazy & unqualified to lead a household, and don't actually bring enough money in to take care of their family. As a result, we have to work to help them pay the bills, while they also expect us to cook, clean, and take care of the kids... marriage with these type of men is a burden to a woman. Being a boss chick actually feels better than having this type of man in my house.
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Modern relationships are a failure. This is what past generations fought for aka modern feminism.
This is a word. And also what to be in control but don’t want the responsibility or have the ability to be in control.
Ouch, but I concur
Boss chick mam, respectful is delusional and isn’t fulfilling, and God wants better for you.
This was hands down the best episode of the Table, besides the black history panels. The Black community needs to hear this and more information like it!
Wow! That’s an amazing compliment! 🙏🏾 Thank you! ☺️
In my opinion, over 40 hours a week away from family is way too much an investment of time especially for a job you are not enjoying. If it happens occasionally ok, but regularly working under 40, and still earning huge income should be the goal, whether self-employed or not. We need more time for God, our family, health, recreation, and other pursuits
Amazing presentation. Both of them were amazing, the woman especially personally for me said some RIVETING things. The way they speak with confidence, conviction, and clarity is thoroughly refreshing and enlightening
Wow! Thanks for such a thoughtful comment! 🙏🏾
Wow!!!!!!!!!! Profound!!! Finally someone said it and said it right. I love this way of thinking. This will help heal this world, if you really think about it.
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Wow!!! I love love love this interview 💙 Marriage isn’t hard, working on you is hard. Do your work 🤞🏾 Peace & Blessings to this beautiful, transparent, and loving marriage.
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Yolanda is preaching!!! I can definitely identify with boss chick reference. After being let down so many times, the best thing to do is channel my energy else where. I'm trying not to give up but it's so hard.
This was on point!!! I.m an older woman & my husband & I started out as traditional & I will go back to traditional in a heart beat. I agree, our families need to build our own legacy & stop building others legacy.
Truth! 💯
My only issue with traditional marriages is often when the breadwinner passes, the family suffers but I love that they are building together and putting plans in place to mitigate against any such eventualities...
I think that's where life insurance comes in place.
@@jpt610 How many people have a 2 million dollar life insurance policy? Most life insurance may pay off a mortgage but typically the wife will have to go to work full time.
This was an amazing episode and I didn't want it to end. She was phenomenal on her delivery. I really think the majority of black families have been moving in this direction since the pandemic.
Thank you! 😊
The leadership points were great and I needed to hear them...and marriage points that "it's not me against you, it's us against the problem or situation..." and mentors...
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I think we're having the wrong conversation on women working or "boss chicks." The issue is not getting degrees or working - it's the struggle in turning off that independent mentality when you're back home in your partnership/marriage, being able to manage time well, and in the power struggle that comes when one person in the couple makes more. Somewhere between modern and traditional is a functioning two income household. We just need to grow the skills and maturity to make it work.
It's both.
You are right. But men and some women have this fixed idea that women are supposed to work in the house cooking, cleaning and taking care of kids and ONLY this. Women are expected to be servants and only that. They can't be independent in anything. And herein lies the problem. It should be the women's choice. Not what she is told to do.
These are the conversations that need to happen more often. A strong community is built off strong families and thats built off strong marriages. If each household is built off a solid structure then the collective would be a greater community. It starts at home. From my marriage to yours Congratulations to all husbands and wives here.
I have watched this amazing couple grow and develop since the beginning and as wife, as a marriage and family therapist, as a mom, as an Appalachian State Alumni, I just love the evolution of their intentional marriage 💖💫
Hey hey App State! 🙌🏾
Thanks for watching!
What’s their names ? I’ll check them out on social media
Yes!!! Excited to see more traditional marriages, this is my dream! Love this so much! I realized this too within the first two year of my marriage, I worked two jobs with two male bosses and I realized that I wanted my husband to be a boss. I even call my husband my boss and I love, I’d rather have him as a boss instead of a corporate boss. I quit these jobs so that I could work from home full time.
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Who's tradition is this? 🤷♀️
What does your husband do for work?
I think social media and the pandemic have made it a lot easier to blur the lines between traditional and modern. Most modern families are forced to homeschool at this time and working remote has always been ideal and this is the age to start a business. My mom and my stepfather homeschooled my four younger sisters together until middle school and it was very difficult for my mom to return to work after 13 years of being out of the workforce altogether, so she started businesses and now works remote as often as possible.
It's so interesting to hear how people define traditional vs. modern. I really wouldn't classify this couple as traditional. Having a nanny, housekeeper and online schooling (not home schooling) take away from the traditional aspect no? Plus he was technically a stay at home dad for a minute right? I just see seasons and adjustments. People should just do what they want and what fits them. The labels of traditional and modern don't really add up anymore.
Awesome perspective. I guess we all have seasons of change and adjust lifestyles accordingly. Thanks for pointing that out!
Seems like they’re traditional but wealthy enough to still hire help for the wife, which is reasonable if they can afford it and with the number of kids they have. I would define any situation where the husband works and the wife doesn’t have a 9-5 as traditional. Maids, a nanny, and online classes doesn’t really mean the wife is sitting around all day not doing anything.
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@@Julian-zc9vm Not saying that she is not doing anything. But it's not the traditional way. Or what I would classify as traditional. Having a nanny isn't really part of the traditional package. That is more often something modern women who work outside the home do. Sure they can afford it but is it traditional?
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I needed this conversation today! This has been coming up so much in my life- in my relationship and outside voices… learning to lean into MY feminine role is hard… I have had to be “strong” for so long… it is so hard to shift that attention to non-career drive… thank you for this conversation!
Same! My husband and I don’t have kids yet (planning to try this year) but I am working remotely/from home and supporting him. Once I took care of everything around the house and supported him so he can focus on work, his career has really started to grow exponentially. I think that’s because he feels supported to focus on work and has space for that. (Plus we been praying of course 🙏🏽.) Good luck
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This video right here!!!! It's 🔥🔥🔥. Everyone needs to watch this. EVERYONE and EVERY MARRIAGE should build their lives around their priorities, not societies. Transitional marriages are a MUST!
YES! Build around priorities!!!
I don’t like the stereotypes at the end but let me rewind because I caught the last five minutes…
I was raised in a traditional marriage Christian home and it’s healing right now. One thing that had to happen- the head of the household needed to less his family in humility and vulnerability. This is the time for men to humble themselves before God and let God be God.
Helpmeets RISE.
Miss Yolanda don't look stressed she looks Happy. And He looks so proud of her when she's speaking.
God Bless this couple, this Family.
"We need to start with the family first and then we can start working on the black community" This this this. That is the key to many of the problems and issues of today.
Families are the foundations of society period as they go so goes the community and country
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My husband compares marriage to the Jordan and Pipen teamwork! Each had their roles but both were important to the Bulls success!🙌🏾
They are ADMIRABLE! This was the EXACT SAME THING I did with my husband. He worked outside of the home as a doctor, and I was the Domestic Goddess at home! Our children are now 18 and 22 and I will NEVER regret those years I was at home. I am now a business owner times two and he owns several private practices. We are now divorced, but we were on the same page about traditionalism and how we wanted to raise our children. What these "modern-day" couples are doing is called EGALITARIANISM. Basically, the "50/50" set up where they both work, both pay bills, and are both too tired to see about each other or their children! NO ONE WINS IN THAT SITUATION. we need to wake up for real.
She was SPOT ON!!!! This was good and needed!!! What are we really placing value on these days? I'm aligned with this couple!!
L❤️VE IT!
This was just a great episode. They reminded me of my grandparents. I look up to their marriage. They had a traditional marriage but my grandmother was involved in building their legacy. She passed 20years before my grandfather and he recently passed. Now their children and grandchildren are benefiting from their legacy. The bigest one for me has been their family values that I now try to apply to my own little family.
Family values is a must!
BABBBBYYYYY!! She's SPEAKING THAT!
This was a breath of fresh air!!! Awesome video and probably the best yet when it comes to marriage. I know this is gonna step on some toes but I'm here for it. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
We’re here for it too! 😉
Same! 👏🏾
When she spoke she spoke volumes….. so much so that they all had to sit back and listen, she made her husband proud with that big smile on his face. I love it, family first🥰🥰🥰🥰
These two opened my eyes wide about marriage . Definitely will be applying
Seriously....the traditional black family has been lost....I'm thankful for you all and the knowledge that you are giving
Appreciative for this episode so much, Mr. O'Neal and the Married by Design couple. One of the more important things I have thought about as a young male and am implementing is making sure that I have my stuff in order BEFORE I start getting engrossed in thinking of marriage. In the immediate sense it is frustrating because I know I can be living it up now, but my future self and spouse will both be thankful for this later. Oh, and you best believe I'm sharing this with the homies, because this is sorely needed!!
I Love that their message is plan your Family. So many have gone out and let life happen to them but we have to understand that we can design our Families to look and be what we desire. We have to change that mindset to make sure that we go into life with a game plan not stumble into the life happening to us.
Wow Powerful show!!! We need more traditional thinking men so there will be more traditional marriages and homes. I carry the guilt of robbing my kids of a stay at home mom. especially since my mom was home with my brother and I. Great show and thank for sharing the importance of a traditional marriage!
Do what you have to do and if you can work toward a plan to come home, make it happen! It’s not easy but it’s worth it. Be encouraged!
@@themarriagebydesign Thank you so much for the encouragement! I took a leap of faith in God 4 months ago and left my situation, moved to another state and is now trying to see how I can work from home and be a better mom to my younger kids. By God’s grace and mercy, I’ll be able to accomplish this….. Thanks again for showing the importance of a traditional family. God Bless!!!
@@neneosei7168 Thanks for the advice, but sometimes that doesn’t work. I did that before and he still didn’t step up. It’s the mindset that’s missing/the ability to be a real traditional man.
The way James and Yolanda look at eachother🥺❤️
I 100% agree with the "boss chick" statement. Very powerful and on point.
AO I would like to hear from a modern couple. It seems like individuals with the traditional perspective on marriage and family often highlights the negative of women who perfer to work and not be stay at home moms. They almost imply that modern women/wives do not prioritize their children social and emotional needs. I think working women are capable of being nurturing mothers that raise respectable and responsible children.
Oooouuu that break down of the “Boss Chick” mentality was too real for me! She was dropping gems!!!! I see why AO was speechless. We really need to do better in the black community, the role reversals are too prominent… Women are being pushed to become too independent, distrustful of the black man or looking to other races for security and it’s truly sad. I do not want to settle on a sub-par black man, but I also do not want to look towards another race either… that would still be settling for me, so what am I left with???
I hear you! However, I wanted to encourage you to keep seeking what is meant for you. I personally do no feel that dating "outside" is settling. I think that if you know what you are looking for--and ask for it (I ask through prayer)--and it is brought to you...the outer packaging is not as important as the fact that you find the character and heart that you have been looking for. My partner is not of my race, and he is everything that I prayed for, plus so much more. It can really be rewarding as we open our minds and hearts to what can be, as opposed to what we feel should be. Best of luck and be blessed!
My grandmother was a nurse & married in the 30s-40s. To think that its modern is interesting. Its not that they didn't work traditionally but they have specific roles.
@@AskBibleNotes I feel it's what each person holds as being important to them and the vision they have for their family. Though we trust God for his will, we also do have a role in shaping it. If I'm in an all white church, most likely someone I'll find would be from that environment. Like AO some of us still value having a family that looks like us and building a successful black family without having to go through the dynamics of having biracial kids and all.
@@AskBibleNotes well said! I am open to the best male human for me lol some are strongly set on black only and that's their poragotive. It's only settling if you are going with something you really don't want and feel it's no other option.
@@otsam1050 um I could be wrong but I thought that AO was dating a White lady a while back. If im wrong let me know, but know that God does not see color the same way humans do.
Anthony, I don't know who this woman is...but she is keeping it true and real. I love it:-)
Well thank you Traci! 😊
The way her husband was staring at his wife was so real, like YES that’s my wifey spiting real bars!
He said "Equal importance but not equal roles!!!" She dropping all the "Boss chick" gems!!!This episode is NEVER leaving my TH-cam download list!!! 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯 Thank you Mr. AO!!!
NICE! We made the list! 🙌🏾
This is interesting but it feels like when people say women should not work outside the home they really mean "women shouldn't have high paying, high education jobs." They never talk about how some women have to work just to support their family. So it's never directed to women that work "female" jobs outside the home lime nanny or maid. But still a worthwhile conversation to have. Great job.
Marriage by Design❤️🔥so grateful to hear such anointed couple. A lot of wisdom, truth, transparency and knowledge; all with Love. Definitely the mentors we need. Thank you all for empowering others to build genuine legacy.
This was the Greatest show, this couple shows how Husband & Wife share the stage & complement each other, tell about there ups & downs but do not lose site of the Vision
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This was absolutely phenomenal, probably my favorite podcast/interview by far. Such great positive and inspiring voices!! Anthony thank you for introducing such wonderful people to us!
My exact sentiments
I Love this Couple!! Thank you Yolanda for speaking the Truth!! I’m 46 and Very Proud of y’all!!
This is my first time seeing this channel, and I’m so glad that this came across my feed…… THIS EPISODE WAS 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
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Wow, just wow! I wish I saw this when I was younger. They need to write a book! I loved this! The community needs to hear this and listen.
A book huh? 🤔
@@themarriagebydesignyes I've been married three years and would love to hear a mature married couple's opinion and vision. A book on family and married life! I see it in the future. Again, I loved listening to you two!
Can’t lie, I was a bit skeptical about this when I saw the title 😅, but this was actually a super DOPE convo! Ms. Yolanda definitely needs a microphone and her own podcast- she was dropping gems left, right, and center! 🗣
Own podcast huh? 🤔
@@themarriagebydesign ABSOLUTELY! We need more wisdom from sis 😉
Excellent conversation! I had both parents till adulthood but I am a divorcee but this is perfect for my career driven daughters! Help us build our generational wealth with aligning our family values & morales 1st! All roles are different yet as important/thanks marriage by design!
Lord, thank you for speaking through your people, and giving hope to us single people that marriage can be done right, if we commit to doing it your way, guided by your VISION. Thank you so much Jesus for caring for your people, for raising up couples such as this, for providing platforms such as this, to showcase your VISION for the family, and for the church as a whole. Thank you Lord!
This episode is full of gems. As a married man of 4+years and counting, so many truths about marriage and dealing with self before and during marriage is spot on. The successfully marriage mentors is also a huge plus if you can link up with some. We become the product of our environment in life.
Those are facts! 💯
Hands down best show yet! This was amazing AO!
Oh wow! Thanks! 🙏🏾
Having VISION is sooo important. Love this conversation 👏🏾👏🏾
Sooooo gooooood! Be NOT conformed to this WORLD, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. This is a mind renewing conversation❣️
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The BEST relationship/marriage interview I’ve watched on YT.
As a woman in her early 20s, this definitely gave me a new perspective that I needed to have!! Thank you for having and displaying this conversation.
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Please have that couple on again. I find them extremely motivating. They stimulate my though processes. I remember when mom stayed home and dad worked. I think children turned out to be decent individuals. I think it was because we, children were raised by a village. As a child, if you got in trouble at the neighborhoods house, you were in trouble again when you get home. It should be like that today. We're letting some government entity control the raising of our children and when they become of age, somebody will continue to live richly off their incarceration. My grandmother was an traditional wife. My granddad was the "MAN."
This is coming from someone who barely comments on anything...but WOW, they had my total attention from start to finish. They are incredible! So bonded, clear minded, cogent, and these are not easy threads to guide or follow. Godspeed to you all, you are a beautiful, inspirational couple and example. I agree w the person below, who are they? How can we follow them? When you are achieving your vision with your community and ready to branch out, many await you :) Authentic leaders are all that is needed. And I don't even know your business or consulting model, but you got me. Bless you.
Nice work to you too Anthony.
Ok James! I see Yolanda and you doing big things! My favorite people on one platform. I’m glad to see James and Yolanda doing well. I have not been on Facebook in months. They are an amazing couple. I will personally recommend following them. 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Thanks for the recommendation lady! 😊
I'm so proud of you AO! I still keep you in my prayers for protection, strength & obedience in holy guidance. Know that your efforts are being blessed Brother. It's cathartic to me to know you put out supportive & POSITIVE content regarding stewardship of marriage AND singleness.
A.O. Is doing some amazing work for sure!
Amazing couple- amazing conversation. Love seeing another homeschool family 💛💛💛
Oh wow! 🤯 I wish someone would have had this conversation with me years ago. Having conversations about vision and what you want your family and life to look like and not focusing on what career you want is life changing as there are may paths to a successful career. Thanks this was very edifying to my spirit.
I partially agree with what she's saying. You can be a SAHM without downplaying or bashing women who chose to work.
I CHOSE to work because SAHM life was causing me to lose who I was as a woman. I'm more than a Mom and a wife and WANTED to work. You're a great Mom and wife, but we're all doing what is best for our mental health and staying home isn't the goal for all of us.
If marriage is a business, it should operate with defined roles. This is encouraging for me that people still believe as i do
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This was an excellent discussion!
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The BEST information I’ve heard in forever! Def def def resonated with me! This was beyond amazing! Family first, generational wealth, black families, etc….ALL import topics! Love it!
This was like a breath of fresh air. I'm glad to hear a married couple's prospective advice instead of the shows where there are singles trying to give couple advice.
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I absolutely love and respect this couple. I was introduced to them on clubhouse as well. So amazing to hear a couple that really get it. Can’t wait to meet my husband and support him in creating our family’s legacy. ❤️
Yo AO, you TRANSFORMING the whole game and LEVELING the playing field! BIG THANKS to you bro
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I like the idea of designing your marriage. Yolanda mentioned girls are seeing their moms and grandmother's being both woman and man and that'sthe reason they want to be boss chicks. This isn't always the case. Many have grown up in a traditional household but the mother still got cheated on or abused and the daughter saw this and said, not me.
Very true unfortunately. 😞
This one was golden. Definitely one of the top 5 interview you’ve done. 🔥🔥🔥
Just watched the condensed video, had to come watch the full thing! Thank you for the content you put out, it’s such a blessing to so many people.
A.O. is doing some amazing work!
I loved this seriously. What the wife was saying about boss chicks. She told the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
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@@themarriagebydesign subscribing now. Thank you.
She's speaking facts. Some I didnt want to hear earlier in my 20s about being a "boss chick" coming from generational trauma.
Good for you on embracing it now! 😊
This couple is the future of our people. ❤️❤️❤️❤️. There’s hope.
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I think this video is so inspiring!! I want to teach for a few years, retire and continue my business, using my English degree! Working a job for 40 years is not my forte. I want to have the flexibility to work both in capacities, but have more experience serving people and working on my business. This video is a gem for me and extremely inspiring and amazing!!
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I am so truly grateful for all the people who have jobs such as pilots, nurses, judges, policemen, firefighters, cashiers ect. Thank you for going to work every day and helping the world stay in order.
This was a brilliant conversation!! Awesome perspective and mature outlook that's making me rethink and confirm my 'why?'. We need to hear from more couples like this🔥
Thanks Nonci! 🙏🏾
This couple right here! Love to see it. I’m in a traditional marriage and have never been happier🤍
I like this couple, but I also would like to say, there is a Middle Road. I personally encompass a little of both. I MUST have my own. My spouse or boyfriend could be injured, severely hospitalized or die and that would change the whole design in the blink of an eye.
Life happens and you'll never catch me up creek without a paddle. 🤷🏾
I understand what you are saying, but nothing they talked about really goes against what you said if you think about it. I think we focus too much on "the woman stays at home" and we think that equals bondage or something. This woman is clearly very intelligent and independent in many ways. He even talked about how his wife has her master's degree and he doesn't even have that. She worked outside the home for several years. It isn't like she has no clue how things work. He talked about how she is very versed in finances. So, if anything happened to him she isn't going to be lost. She will be fine.
Also, I think there is a lot of confusion about traditional women. I don't think people realize that many of today's traditional women are not lost/confused like the women of yesteryear. No disrespect to our grandmothers and great-grandmothers. But many of today's traditional women are educated. Many of them have degrees and worked outside the home for years. They know how to pay bills, they know how to take care of a household, they can do lots of things. They were already doing it. The difference is that they decided once they had children they wanted to be there for their children. So, they stopped working outside the home. If anything happened to their husbands - they aren't going to be lost. They still know how to take care of things.
I have several friends that are now stay-at-home moms and all have them are highly educated, traveled, worked corporate jobs, did all of that. They continued working early in the marriage...and then once they had kids they decided to stay home to homeschool. They don't have any regrets. I think it makes a difference also that my friends got married and had kids a bit older. They got to live their lives in their 20s and then married and had kids in their early to mid-30s so they didn't feel like they missed out on anything.
@@lisacox3750 I know many who have done it differently with or without the label of traditional or modern and achieved the same outcome for their family, if not better. The same goes for single moms and single dads. There is no one-size-fits-all. To each its own. As for me, I need my own everything! Divorce is always a factor as well.
Excuses. The "boss chick" is a bs masculine MENTALITY that NO MAN finds attractive. Notice how its females that are the ones that came up with the term and give themselves and other females that label lol. My wife doesnt have to worry about me getting sick or dying...she taken care of either way. Right when we first got married I took out long term care insurance AND life insurance on myself. She taken care of while I'm living, while I'm sick and when I'm dead.
My mom and dad a modern marriage. They both worked outside the home and we had a very strong loving Christian home. They were married 63 years. Mom retired at 65 years old.