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Look at what is happening in Papua new guinea. There is nothing wrong with monogamy. Monogamy has nothing to do with the west. It just makes sense. Polygamy only creates poverty and unhappiness. Do these people even know what they are talking about.
@@sweetie539Wrong, Polygamy in most cultures isn’t about desires. It was a necessity because a lot of the men of particular tribes were killed off from wars. Women globally outnumber the males. So in order for those women to be married and have children, they shared the man. In Rwanda for example, there’s certain towns and villages where the women literally have to pay the men to marry them. Because it’s only a few men. Even in America, the city of Atlanta alone has 20 to 1 ratio of black women to men. So get out of your insecure feelings.
@@sweetie539 You are wrong. First let me make it clear that, I am not an advocate for polygamy and I won't be a polygamist. However, for what it is worth, let's get into the discussion. In those days in Africa, men with many wives were richer because they raised male children that worked and expanded their father's farms, fishing, or other trades. In Utah in America, the Mormons are predominantly polygamists (even presently) and they are very rich. The Arabs are predominantly polygamists, its just that they don't display their harem of wives all over the social media. Polygamy was given a bad wrap in Africa by the Europeans in order to further reduce the indigenous people's population, for fear of reprisal against them for what they didi to the people of colour. Polygamy is a choice provided you can afford it. I would rather agree with polygamy than homosexuality. I think every polygamy participants in a relationship should consent after properly enlightened of what polygamy entails. There shouldn't be a kind of 'bait and hook' situation. It should not be based on someone, parental, community, or financial pressure forced, or cajole them into it. Having said all that, your argument that polygamy causes poverty does not hold water; as a matter of fact, what constitutes poverty in the US, or South Africa might not be the same to a family in Checks Republic, or Romania, or Cambodia. The way the world is going now with the number males and females ration differentials climbing daily, polygamy will most likely be the new order in relationships. Besides, all these men shortage and rising numbers of single women compared to men, call it polygamy, if you may, had long been prophesied in the Scriptures (Isaiah 4:1). We must bear in mind, the Scripture cannot be broken.
Please Nigerian women provide enough value to go round. Why do you think Nigerian men find it easy to spend on us to start with? A Nigerian woman cooks, cleans, will be holding down a job or a business or both without complaints, are respectful and responsible. The Nigerian man sees mad value and in turn he spends on her, and that is the same behavior he takes with him outside Nigeria to every other country and the men are upset 😂😂 Its not their fault their Mama raised them right.
My parents were married and in Love for 45 years. My mom didn't perform wifely duties until she was a WIFE. My dad is Nigerian. My parents taught each other so much. Mom took care of him at home until he passed away two weeks ago. She bathed him until the day he died. It wasn't one sided, they took very good care of each other.
Thabo it isn’t. You are not Nigerian so of course our culture will seem “strange l” whereas to Nigerian men, lack of spending means you are cheap or stingy if not dirt poor.
@@activeobserver1150 Nigeria is poverty capital of the world with more people living below poverty line than anywhere on Earth, why you people like to come online and lie about things that don't exist? An average Nigerian man is too broke to even do what you are claiming
For sure! Any man, responsible just has to take care of his woman. Now spending money on a woman, is not taking care of a woman. And this is what these brothers are saying hare! When the money runs out, what then? Am no hush puppy!
Same in Congo. But frankly i dont care how much money a man flaunts, money does not impress me. Its actual a turn off for me that a man would think he could get me by flaunting his money. I grew up in money so find something else.
Nigerian men are sought after by these women not only because of money, although money is part of it Nigerian men are seen as cool too. They are thought of as having good taste in fashion, clever and ambitious.
It’s fine for nigerian men to seek other women other than Nigerian women, can y’all tell y’all African American women to stop coming for Nigerian women. I’m tired of being bashed as a nigerian woman yet they are slurping nigerian men 🍆. I don’t know what y’all be telling these women, they seem very old attacking nigerian women and their looks
Can't agree with Oshay... at least speaking on Nigerian women. Yes, they believe they deserve the world (no lies told lol) BUT... naija women will for the most part play their part. They cook, clean, manage family and even hold down professional jobs. As long as everybody's doing their part it's all good
Yes I am not Nigerian but I ‘ve seen many Nigerian couples that have a strong family culture and structure and that they stayed together,also Nigerian men do like spending money on women and do like romantic thing ,my friend is Nigerian and he is doing the exact same thing to his Nigerian woman and they are soon going to be married while his woman makes sure that she makes him happy ,cook and clean and work too .BTW I live in the UK
OK. If he keeps this up then Africa will surely stop black Americans from coming over and completely tourn over to China. Black Americans are the issue all around the globe. If you encounter the same problems every country you enter then it's YOU.
Big up my Nigerian brothers. I love that SA woman love them. I am from Guinea Bissau. Guess what? I love Nigerian woman. Naija woman are great too. Big up and God bless Nigeria.
28:06 This here sums up everything . I have said this about a girl I once dated. I was looking for just 1 reason , an excuse to marry her but she gave me none . Besides side chick vibes (plus she was pretty) and so I had to go my way and be true to myself 🇳🇬
Haibo guys! the 2nd lady who said the guy she wants must be nigerian is not south african, the accent is not south african. she is pretending to be south african for some reason. Secondly, south african women love their own south african men, knowing your man's family is important to us and our traditions. You are busy chasing after slay queens and generalising by giving SA women a bad name, for what really? Black on black hate? very disappointing!
That American guy is talking a lot of nonsense, he has no respect for black women and he wants black women to respect them damn respect is mutual not one sided , and the audacity he has saying h.saying black men are marrying other races because those women have value,what value the colour of their skin ? Because most of the time these women are either models or some Asian actress where is the value there.what is the difference with those and the instagram black model . I have seen well educated black women ,financially independent and the same black men won’t date them because they feel intimidated by her successi think it’s about time black men stop making all these excuses and start taking responsibility that they should be protecting the black women white men protects white women ,Asian men protects their women, black men disrespect their women and children abandons them a it’s just a disgrace going about making baby mamas and never taking responsibility
You will never hear African men saying African women have no value. Why paint everyone in such a broad brush and automatically other races have value. How. Make it make sense
@lulu 😅😅stick with your own bafethu we always tell you the tgings people say about yall kodwa ker vele nibaningi kunathi bathatheni abafokazi asinamona as long as nithandana vari you have our blessings
😂😂lol dats what i was asking myself...they dont understand south african culture and how looked down upon these kinds of relationships are😂you are immediately seen as a slay queen then ur chances with a south african man become very slim.😢
It's a myth, really. No serious South African woman wants to marry a Nigerian. I don't even understand how this was even elevated to a discussion topic.
It is very irresponsible for any Nigerian man not to attend to his girl friend properly, regardless love or no love. Nigerian men are very proud people and they never let a girl down, NEVER!! I can tell you that!
Please don't let oshay to contaminate Africans 😂 I had no idea he was in Africa. My ethnicity is East African but raised and born in the states. I know of this guy because of here and it was always refreshing to go back and forth between the two communities but seeing him here really surprised me 👀 I can't.... I don't... I won't...abeg 🫥
Thank you! Toxic self hating effeminate dude contaminating other communities. I hope these men don’t listen to him or they will have mass division and destruction amongst their men and women like here in the US
That's not nice, Oshey has always been candid and unbiased in his posts, as well as analysis. He is more Afrikan than many of the sellouts that only identify with Afrikans when they are in our communities either online, or outside in the real world. You need to stop that crab.
Loving this, I’m a long time viewer. It’s good to see it all come together. Well done Joanita!! Oshay and Maintain are magic together, their different delivery styles makes even the long form content fly by. The topics are serious but hilarious at the same time. Wondering what happened to King but enjoying the new talent.
Its beautiful the female as admitted evolving, thats what life's about, growing, learning. I love all the mens honesty, really refreshing. This podcast will go far, definitely subscribing 👍🏾
go after what you are looking for ...the good time girls will always be around , but they will be headaches in the morning when everyone is sober lol . but be careful dont lead with your money and do know that some women could actually be setting you up and could be working with unsavory people to do harm or rob you . rather join a social group or something to meet people with similar interests . in my opinion .
Lol man tricking is tricking if you don’t use your personality to attract women, you are definitely tricking. It’s like prostitution out here now days.
Nigerian men never wimp out on approaching a woman that appeals to them. Spending money on women is also a tradition. The man always takes care of his woman because her appearance also reflect on him as to whether he is doing a good job.
@@stephenford6132 😂 The only sensible comment I’ve seen, most these comments encouraging buying pussy under the guise of “tradition” no wonder why Nigeria is so westernized, they become so materialistic.
You guys are biased, a Nigerian should've represented in this discussion. You don't know us we are thought to take care of our women and family. This is what is instilled in us from our youth. Our focus is our family that includes our women we are not doing it for competition rather it's our orientation. In Nigeria a man is respected the way his family and his wife appears. We are generous and confident, if we don't like you we tell it to your face. If we like you we take you home.
@@Kenganda I am not emotional and doesn't care, just want to put the record straight most of Oshay's assumptions are wrong and misleading. He doesn't understand our culture or orientations, Africa is diverse with every country and tribes with it's uniqueness. How could you generalize Nigerians as spending to spoil ladies wherever they go. If I may ask has Oshay married all the ladies he dated . For the record we have so many Nigerian men married to SA women. Just because you had fun with a woman doesn't makes her marriage material same goes to the women. It's the same everywhere the difference is that we Nigerians are thought very early to assume responsibility of taking care of our home, women and family no matter the tribe or country you are married into. Even concubines are provided for and taken care. Polygamy is African traditionally. Please go and make money to spoil our sisters and make them feel like real queens 👑 which they truly are and deserve instead of misrepresenting. " A man who doesn't have money to buy a bottle of beer 🍺 to relax will always say beer is bitter" buy for him he will finish one carton .
@@ibinabos.amachree8762 obviously you do care...you just wrote a 1000 word essay in the comment section bro. People who don't care don't waste their time doing that lol. Thanks for the comment.
I do not think Nigerian men are ‘ refusing ‘ to marry South African women. When a man is a player, he not looking to marry anyone he just having fun. Not all women are looking to be married, some want to have FUN 🎉first, finish school. Then maybe some years down the road.😢 get a husband. Leah Tunkara
@pmambongwe8640 😂😅🤣 trust me, no jokes. You'd be surprised at some of these ladies' unrealistic demands and expectations, even when they are well over their spring chicken prime.
Hahaha😂😂😂. This is one of the funniest episodes of the Repat Podcast I have heard/watched and I agree with everything y'all said in this episode. I don't know whether y'all were looking for a fourth co-host. But I'll say Joanita and Oshay you got the right line up of 4 co-hosts for the Repat Podcast: Oshay, Joanita, DJ Maintain, Agaba. I hope you keep Agaba as one of your co-hosts the way you do with DJ Maintain.
@@africanglobalnomad Tina is alright too. But Tina relocated to USA after she got married. However I like the line up I mentioned because Oshay represents Black Americans that relocated to an African country; Joanita represents the Ugandan that's never been to the Americas/Europe; DJ Maintain represents the Black British that relocated to an African country; Agaba represents Ugandans from diplomat families that were born/grew up in USA. Its a great balance.
@African Global Nomad I thought you meant a different Tina because of how you spelled her name lol. But I later realized you meant the Black British Teenah. With that said, Black British Teenah is alright too, but there is already a Black British on the Repat Podcast by the time she came on. I think Oshay might have a budget for 4 co-hosts.
There is a culture in Nigeria called the Effik culture. Before the women get married they are sent to the fattening room. In this room old women teach the lady how to be a wife and have a successful marriage to get their husbands to catter to their needs.
While Nigeria is poverty capital? Spoil women with what? People who don't understand generational Wealth behave that way and is not a suprise because Nigeria is not really big in banking systems or investment hence the country itself is dominated by South African businesses and European business. Richest bank in Nigeria by assets is Ecobank, largely owned by Nedbank and 5th richest bank in Nigeria by assets is stanbic bank of South Africa. Anecdote theories with no evidence won't help Africans, when you do research, an average Nigerian is broke and poor but the very few once with money don't mind going around spoiling women of countries that are already doing far great than theirs for an average person. What will matter is for Nigerian men to increase standards of living for their people and build infrastructure, prostitutes in many countries will always appreciate the free money but we're is Nigeria to show how great they are????
Like most men with a sense of culture and value, NIgerian men are very picky who they commit to. They will happily spend money on you to have a good time, but they won't commit to you. I know many NIgerian guys who have dated Jamaican, South African, European women, sometimes for several years, but at the end, the Nigerian guy dumps them and goes to find a Nigerian wife.
Been trying to warn many young women about this. To stay away from Nigerian men coz of what you just said. If only they listened, lol. But yeah best to keep off Nigerian men, good thing I've never fallen for their tricks.
Besides, Nigerians get a very few ladies in SA and mostly is women who don't have local market at best. Basically ladies that SA men don't want. A typical example is this, an SA lady who is a reject by most standards of guys who are in middle class doing well, can be accepted by a middle class Nigerian man and he will see her as a price while if not, she would settle for a lower middle class level because that is mostly her practical market in the SA standards. On avarage, a Nigerian dude will have to offer something beyond what a local guy can offer just to be given attention even when is by an avarage SA lady who doesn't have many options. The truth is, Nigerians don't hold a high value status in SA mostly by just been a Nigerian, mostly get women we don't want
That's because they are users and hypocrites. Why date a woman without having honourable intentions towards her, wasting her time and years, denying her the opportunity to find and be with a man that actually wants her. That is nothing to be proud of, just as 419 is nothing to be proud of either. A lot of Nigerian men tell lies and one of their most corny chat up lines is''I tink I seen you in Lagos'', 😂😂😂
This is a excellent podcast, love you guys, just honesty so refreshing. Hats off to the lady, saying she as evolved and grown. You guys have got me dying with laughter🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
As a southeastern nigerian man it's common trend in our culture to have mistress and, spending on your woman or "women" is normal. As an igboman, we have this believe that a man's wealth is seen on his wife and kids. Am enjoying your conversation. Keep it up.
There's 3 types of women in South Africa. Model C high class, Hood Chick and Farm Girls. I'll be honest, men in SA like to date the Hood Chicks and Farm Girls for long and short term relationships the Model C chicks are hard to date because they mostly believe that they have hella options or they date hood dudes that run through them. The successful brothers marry the women that have a Farm Girl mentality because he knows that she is Traditionally minded. Hood Chicks collect Government money off them kids and then the Model C Chicks work hard and can almost never keep a stable relationship or marriage. Women in my country listen to western women and look at their shiny shows and want that but they're in a country where keeping it Traditional actually leaves you much happier in your elder years...
Since I was a kid, I heard about how South African women had more educational previlege than their men. It's not a question as to why some of their women aren't attracted to their men, but it makes sense why Nigerian men don't fancy them for marriage partners. Most Nigerian men have their pride and don't marry feminists. They rather have virtuous and respectful wives. My two cents.
That's not true. Everyone had a right to education in South Africa. That includes women. You must have a really fragile ego if you don't want your women educated. South African men don't have that issue. They prefer their women with brains
Then you guys show a postcast of doro... You guys didn't do your research well. Doro is even getting heat from south Africans for dating Nigerians, she's a slay queen/ club host, she's in their circle. She's all about money that one. Ask a normal southy girl if she wants to marry a Nigerian men. Most of us our parents would disown us. You should have invited a south African to your show to break it down for you better. Siya nyela because of boDoro and their lifestyle nxa.
There is nothing wrong if a man has money and make his girl friend happy by spending on them. men who don"t have anything to give a woman only criticize other men that can afford it.
When I am in West Africa, young women expect that a man can have up to 4 wives. This African man culture is not dead. I even fell in love with a man that wanted me to be his 3rd wife. Being American he knew it would be hard for me , yet he was so amazing 🥂. Made me consider it. 💯✈️
Women do it everyday in the West. They just don't formalize it. Women share men everytime because they are all interested in the top 10 percent of men. They would rather share a high status male with other women than have to themselves a low status male. So when women live in a country where the law supports it, they don't find it that hard to do. It's already in their nature to.
Ive said it before, Polygamy is coming back whether we like it or not. If 80% of 'maidens' and non-maidens are chasing 20% of Bachelors as fathers and stepfathers what is the likely outcome?
@@stephenford6132 No it was his DICK not just his money 🤣 fucking amazing. 💗🤪 Dark shin very good looking man , plus a first class gentleman. I call him my black prince. Yeah I was so in love with him, I would just cry when I make love to him. But he had to many wives and to many children (paying SCHOOL FEE’s) Not enough ‘time’ to be with me. The way I wanted to be WITH Him .....forever 💋! I let him go , I decided he had to many responsibilities, An he’s a responsible MAN, I love that, but children come first , I had to face that reality ,it was very painful for me and maybe for him too. Leah Tunkara
I think they just get y'all papers. Once they get it, they zoom! The good thing is that they are nice during the process. That way, your not hearth broken when they zoom.
This is sad because men who supposed to build their country are been reduced to seek papers and better life in a country build by other men to a point of simping and begging most of our rejects just to survive. You will never ever in your lifetime see a South African man trying to go to survive in Nigeria to a point of using women there just to get by in the country, we have pride in ourselves to fall so low
Even if you have it, they should also take care if you in some ways. There is a protector /provider instinct you have to nurture in (some) men. There is a difference between "can't" and and "don't have to" Imho.
There are a lot of South African women married to Nigerian men . Some of these women are even living with their husbands in Nigeria 🇳🇬 . To be honest Nigerian men actually understand the nature of a woman than most men. Most Nigerian men are honest about their intentions when they meet a woman. A woman is only being used if she’s under a false impression when it comes to a man eg . Shacking up with a man for years who’s not her husband, having his babies , financing him while in the mean time the man doesn’t have the intention of marrying the woman. With a Nigerian the woman always knows where she stands and acts accordingly.
I am sure they are many in terms of numbers but it's a fraction of the population of SA woman. Basically what I am saying is that the notion that SA women are after Nigerian men is incorrect infact the opposite is true. Generally SA woman despise Nigerian men.
I've noticed in all of your podcast and I'll say, OSHAY is a really difficult person and I'm sure he's going to find a hard time getting any good woman really because his way of thinking is so weird like bruh just wants to be worship cause he's a man that's his mindset / perception of how men should or are being treated in Africa 🤦yes men are RESPECTED in Africa cause we're thought from a young age how to be good wife's and husbands, but you should also know that a lot of men tend to use that advantage to control & mistreat women OKAY and I feel like that's exactly what someone like oshay will want to do cause of the way he speaks about it.. but maybe I'm wrong 😏 he really needs to learn a lot from the two other gentle men especially DJ maintain.. cause he's going on and on talking about American women not being/ doing this and that, sitting there talking about asking them what they bring to the table bro you don't go around asking any woman that, 😂 just do what you have to do as a man to provide and protect and watch her do all the good things for you.. can not just do nothing and expect All the treatment you talked about plus they're actually many MEN out there who are getting the value they deserve as providers & protectors cause you mentioned saying men don't get the value of what they do as men & that's a fat LIE okay.. just check yourself see what value you're bringing if you're a good man? &If you will be a good husband? And you'll see & will definitely get a good woman that will give you your values to..✌️☺️
That's black American men hands down, deluded. Take a look at their communities, they've destroyed them, their women and their children that's why they want to spread their dysfunction worldwide now.
He will definitely not get a good woman. Can you imagine someone like Dr Ola sitting with a guy like him? She will be repulsed. These men ddid not grow up in good homes. He will probably never marry or end up with a woman who go use am clean mouth finish. Typical bm who cant solve his problems and goes around looking for other women. They call them passport bros nowadays. Destroy their own communities, no fathers, lack responsibility, look up to lonely men on d internet and then fail ultimately will fail with d foreign women too. It is a matter of time. Their insecurity screams in every video they make trying to tarnish other men/women
@@aeiou0123 my thoughts exactly like they just keep going on &on saying all this things about women like women are the problems while they've refuse to look inward look themselves people like oshay and the so called passport bros, they need to check themselves to know if they're good to, for them to want a good women like be what you want okay be that good woman or man that you're looking for, cause we're not in the 50th /60th again people eyes dey open now I'm African and I know that many African women now are & will not tolerate what their mother/ mother, mothers did so this men need to look at themselves to see what is wrong with them to if they're the problem.. cause no woman will never want to respect or submit to a good Man non I've never seen the issues is we just don't want to give respect and submit to wrong bad men we're scared and instead of this men to reassure us that they're getting it together they'll work on themselves go the therapy and counseling but instead they're here making all this Interviews showing their colors & making us even more afraid giving us reasons to not want to submit to them that's it they should get it together please..
Oshay you are forgetting that majority of those women had no choice but to do those things for your grandfather wether she wanted to or not. Fast forward to 2023 women have options and some are choosing to stay single.
When you're about to mention a group of people, I wonder why is there not a South African women and a Nigerian man... both stand for their own people and give answers and reasons to what you guys are talking about..Referring to them.
@24:58 Oshay went off. I had to rewind to hear those golden bars being dropped. Were still expected to be traditional but women don't have to be and they are worse being single mothers in the work force now
Relationship aren't always for marriage...could be for fun as well and spending money on such a woman ain't nothing bad. All these depend on what both want out of the relationship. A lot of Nigerian and south africans married but people look at the failed sides. It's sad anyway that there is no school educating human beings about love, romance and family.
Everyone who does not know must understand one thing: igbo men know how to treat a woman and family. I am glad you say Nigerians so that those other Nigerian tribes who disappoint women will change their ways to become true Nigerians
Guys understands this and know peace. Nigerians are deeply culturally and religiously rooted. Despite the vast variations of tribes and customs, they all preach a very high standard for Nigerian men to take responsibility. In short Manhood and marriage is like a calling to a higher purpose which is both culturally and Religiously emphasized on. On the back of this Nigerian men take pride in Mirroring the image of a Husband and Father( Provider, protector, guardian, etc} while they are dating and take pride in it. It's a deep sense of purpose provided on the back of a lot of similarities in both culture and religion. Both don't get it twisted Nigerian men will roll out the big guns just for their pride in playing the role as MEN.
What kind of women have Oshay been dating in the US? They couldn't have been from the south. As in, South Carolina, Georgia, Tennessee, and North Carolina. Because we definitely cater to our men. Happily.
In my opinion and experience, it's more about the character of the person man or woman) including THEIR family and the prospective daughter or son in law's plans for marital sustainability and long term success. Wealth is good but not as big a consideration as other factors such as education, profession, skill, religion, humility and kindness to mention a few.
Bro, I am South African, we are very prejudice towards Africans that are not from Namibia, Botswana, Lesotho, Swaziland or South Africa. Sure peers and parents won't have much issue, if its someone from Kenya or other East African Bantu's. But dating/marrying especially West Africans is looked down upon, because of the stereotypes of criminality, hygiene etc. So majority of Nigerian men, get the bottom of the barrel South Africans. Those who identify as slay queens and live by the motto of city girls, and these commonly come from poor backgrounds. Its like a bunch of South Africans going to the states, and messing with Keishas from the hood, and then come on TH-cam generalizing that all South African men, are just having their way with American girls, and not taking them seriously. Its exactly the same thing when passport bro's go to Asia or South America, you guys get the bottom of the barrel, and think you doing something. All you going to get is headaches, empty wallets, STD's, also trust and believe they not loyal either lol. So good on the Nigerian man on not taking them seriously, I seen some Western men, wifing these chicks and talk about how they found a wife. Bro quick tip, when you come to developing countries, date in your class or above, don't save them. 😂
The point you made about the women being poor implies that a Nigerian can actually improve her situation which is not the case. And slay queens are generally attractive and want a guy with money and status, instead of a "kwerekwere". The only women who a Nigerian might have an edge on is the junkies and prostitutes they hang with in Hillbrow. South African irrespective of socio-economic background have no desire for Nigerian men. A loser South African man has more to offer than a 98% of Nigerian men.
@@Terrible9997 you don’t need money to get women it helps all you need is charisma and the ability to charm disarm to many men can’t see a woman past her physical look some beautiful women are not even worth talking to.
@@Terrible9997 Slay queens want experiences, not the improvement of their life. They want to look the part, but not actually be it. So majority of "kwere'kwere's", are known to make quick money and blow it. Slay queens know that South Africans are stingy, so they will go for anyone that bites. They don't see a kwerekwere, they see an easy experience, to post on their IG, at a club, with expensive bottles, or a beach front view, with a few apples and pears on her plate. I even seen one post a spur picture, flexing 😂...
Women know what time it is when they come over or get flown out. A friend of mine had this happen to him. The chick came over and walked around the hotel room naked and was on her phone ignoring him with him sitting there looking pitiful. It’s her choice to not want to, but then why come? Why are you there in the first place, playing with dude?
The women and men who were your ancestors build strong communities that birth you. They were about building a generation that can continue to build strong communities.They didn’t have the arrogance of our generation . All this loud chatter is why we are stuck in quick sand.
One time I asked a South African chic. "If it burns when I pee, is that bad?" She was like nah. I later found out her past 100 boyfriends had the same problem. 🙂
It's not just Nigerian men, it's any serious man. You are received how you present yourself. That goes for any country any continent. If you decide to purchase it and it's for sale, so be it. If you have the ability to seduce women with your character , go for it. Everyone will use the tools available to them to get what they want. That includes women, it's how one presents themselves.
We Nigerians take care of whosoever we date or marry. It's a cultural thing in Nigeria, y'all need to educate yourselves. I see why some Africans view it as taking their ladies because we spend on their women when we date them. We are intelligent, we take pride in being the best in what we do, we have a lot of energy and we work hard to maintain our lifestyle. We succeed in different industry all over the world but what I notice in this podcast is always aligning Nigerians with things that are illegal. I just stumbled on this channel and all I can see is bunch of grown people seated and pushing perspectives they have no idea about. Just know that NIgerians are DIFFERENT breed of humans, so as Congolese, Cameroonian, Rwandan, Kanyan, SA's etc. You need to get a Nigerian on your podcast if you want to comprehend people's culture. Y'all sat there talking about other people you think you know them but you don't. The fact that you couldn't get ONE Nigerian seated with you guys to educate you says alot about the podcast...Peace
Pls just leave them. Most of them are just very jealous ppl. They just see how successful Nigerians are, we mind our business and they sit there assuming all kinds of things. Its better to avoid getting into their convos. Really. Some of these folks are dangerous and are baiting you into their wahala
That's a generalization and not true of all Nigerians. Some are scammers and beggers who will choose western women to exploit and feed the families they truly love. Not all have wealth and means to provide for their families. However, the ones who can do it proudly and admirably.
If this was true, the country of Nigeria will be a success story instead of poverty Capital, at the end of the day, this are just claims, what you usually see in reality is broke Nigerian dudes running away from Nigeria and tying to survive. Some of them even die on boats getting to Europe and some are in jail in South Africa or killed during their criminal activities. Coming online to paint a Rosey picture just for validation doesn't change this reality. Men who take care of their women won't be here online making noise, you will usually see by their women living comfortably in their country and improved standards of living
So i have a question here, if we are pushing pan africanism forward and we want to bring the africanase together, how is gonna work if we cannot enter marry each other? If we cannot do that, then we are failing before the project has began!
This is why such conversations are essential. Both sides need to comprehend each other and their views on relationships. Women often struggle more than men in this aspect. Let's keep this discussion going and raise awareness of the challenges we face.
You guys will never understand the Nigerian culture...giving and sharing is a part of our culture. Thats why Nigerians spray money at parties. Stop focusing on the money focus more on the sharing and giving.....its our cuture to share and give. We believe you bless you by giving and God will reward us for sharing our gifts. You are too stuck on the money
Does African guys complain when Nigerian throw parties and invite them or pay for their drinks in the bar, Nigerians are natural born with confidence and spending habits please give Nigerians a break, Nigeria values shows regardless where they are,
You are saying the opposite they're marrying South Africans everyday because of citizenship no love at all. Other Nigerians are no more visiting homes.
The new blacks per Oshay are the new immigrants in the USA 🇺🇸 ; with the men choosing wm to marry is usually to avoid extended family obligations back in their countries not so much because their ww are providing REAL value 😂 that they can’t get from women in their community. They also don’t have to support the ww relatives FINANCIALLY and also it’s usually African men who have very African phenotypes usually from west and central Africa so are looking to water down their bantu genes in their offsprings 😂which has nothing to do with ww “value” - more inferiority feelings. That aside, very interesting discussion and I agree that women need to provide value instead of relying on looks and youth. Men too should stop using money and other access keys to get women. We should all keep it real to get what we want per Agaba. Enjoyed the show. Thanks
@joanita, are you married? I'm a follower of your podcast and must say that I'm liking more than your content. I think you have the most beautiful smile I've ever seen.
Don't try and erase peoples identities just because you want to be called a colour. We won't lose our roots and customs to accommodate you. Tf then end up a confused mess like black Americans. No thank you, one minute you're Egyptians, the next you're native Americans, the next you're Israelites. We will keep our tribes and countries thank you very much.
@@db6881 I can’t blame you! You make a strong point I will agree to disagree in saying tribalism shouldn’t be toxic and keep division alive between different black groups but yea one’s cultural identity and customs are very important to keep.
I’m A BLACK AMERICAN 🇺🇸 WOMAN and I Massage, Rub, Cook, Clean, Etc, for My Family. And I came from a SINGLE FAMILY HOME! The problem is Community and the Influencers of today. Parents ARE NOT BEING TAUGHT HOW TO BE PARENTS. THE COMMUNITY IS NOT COMMUNITY. EVERYONE IS DEPENDENT ON THE GOVERNMENT INSTEAD OF WORKING FOR THEIR WORTH AND COMMUNITY
As a nigerian I believe in making my woman look the best by assisting her financially in her needs. We take care of our girls and that's why nigerian girls don't go with men from other countries
@@africanglobalnomad are you for real?? So you want to tell me that every woman in South Africa is got disease?? Uyanya yazi msunu,what kind of a family are you from, the audacity in you is astonishing, nxa
Strong focused women who love themselves nd know their worth(whether Highly educated or not) stop being used nd abused handsome nd Money comes at a very high price. Live yourself save yourself the hurt.
Yes. Congolese men too. That said, men in Africa are generally expected to take care of women irrespective of income status. As a result men in Africa rarely date/marry up or women down in the motherland.
@@africanglobalnomad Black men all over the world are expected to provide. To be honest, even in other communities, men are still expected to provide because that's how the original design and that's societies have lived since the Genesis of the world. Secondly, men marrying up/women marrying down is still not looked upon favourably even in the Western world.
Thank you guys so much for supporting the PODCAST! I never seen this channel this active! We are going to make this best Podcast in AFRICA! P.S. Stop being mad!!!
Diversely panel participants and diverse topics! Great 👍🏿
@@opeyemiadegoke361 The podcast covers a wide range of topics which are very engaging by the way.
Look at what is happening in Papua new guinea. There is nothing wrong with monogamy. Monogamy has nothing to do with the west. It just makes sense. Polygamy only creates poverty and unhappiness. Do these people even know what they are talking about.
@@sweetie539Wrong, Polygamy in most cultures isn’t about desires. It was a necessity because a lot of the men of particular tribes were killed off from wars. Women globally outnumber the males. So in order for those women to be married and have children, they shared the man. In Rwanda for example, there’s certain towns and villages where the women literally have to pay the men to marry them. Because it’s only a few men.
Even in America, the city of Atlanta alone has 20 to 1 ratio of black women to men. So get out of your insecure feelings.
@@sweetie539 You are wrong. First let me make it clear that, I am not an advocate for polygamy and I won't be a polygamist. However, for what it is worth, let's get into the discussion. In those days in Africa, men with many wives were richer because they raised male children that worked and expanded their father's farms, fishing, or other trades. In Utah in America, the Mormons are predominantly polygamists (even presently) and they are very rich. The Arabs are predominantly polygamists, its just that they don't display their harem of wives all over the social media. Polygamy was given a bad wrap in Africa by the Europeans in order to further reduce the indigenous people's population, for fear of reprisal against them for what they didi to the people of colour.
Polygamy is a choice provided you can afford it. I would rather agree with polygamy than homosexuality. I think every polygamy participants in a relationship should consent after properly enlightened of what polygamy entails. There shouldn't be a kind of 'bait and hook' situation.
It should not be based on someone, parental, community, or financial pressure forced, or cajole them into it.
Having said all that, your argument that polygamy causes poverty does not hold water; as a matter of fact, what constitutes poverty in the US, or South Africa might not be the same to a family in Checks Republic, or Romania, or Cambodia. The way the world is going now with the number males and females ration differentials climbing daily, polygamy will most likely be the new order in relationships.
Besides, all these men shortage and rising numbers of single women compared to men, call it polygamy, if you may, had long been prophesied in the Scriptures (Isaiah 4:1). We must bear in mind, the Scripture cannot be broken.
Please Nigerian women provide enough value to go round. Why do you think Nigerian men find it easy to spend on us to start with? A Nigerian woman cooks, cleans, will be holding down a job or a business or both without complaints, are respectful and responsible. The Nigerian man sees mad value and in turn he spends on her, and that is the same behavior he takes with him outside Nigeria to every other country and the men are upset 😂😂
Its not their fault their Mama raised them right.
Correct yan!
True!
God bless you dearly.
Their FATHER raised them right. Correct yourself.
Yes, we're family oriented.
My parents were married and in Love for 45 years. My mom didn't perform wifely duties until she was a WIFE. My dad is Nigerian. My parents taught each other so much. Mom took care of him at home until he passed away two weeks ago. She bathed him until the day he died. It wasn't one sided, they took very good care of each other.
She is a good wife. Congrats bro.
That is beautiful, lovely memories
Awwnnnn😫... that's soo moving.. their union is bliss.. emulate theirs bruv🙂
Stop lying.
meaning?
A friend in college once said to me "if you want to know if a Nigerian man is wealthy look at his woman or family".
Yes, especially if he is Igbo.
@@sylviasworld9397 not only igbos all tribes use the world some igbos period
@@sylviasworld9397 una don carry una pride come here again? Arrogance no dey tire una ni?
@@efemzyekun900 why are you insecure? You can say "Yorubas have the best party" but igbos can't own their bragging rights
Especially if it's Igbo mainly from Anambra or some parts of Imo
You guys are misunderstanding Nigerians. To a Nigerian, it's normal spend on their wife, not just wife, but kids, family and all. It's a duty for us
But that's everyone it's not exclusive to Nigeria, it's the love boomer culture which we find strange
Thabo it isn’t. You are not Nigerian so of course our culture will seem “strange l” whereas to Nigerian men, lack of spending means you are cheap or stingy if not dirt poor.
@@activeobserver1150 yep you’re correct
I’m cheap But I’m not stingy and I’m African American who gets mistaken for Nigerian all the time😂
@@boywonder8114 you get mistaken for Nigerian. Until they get close to you.
You're not Nigeria. End📌
@@activeobserver1150 Nigeria is poverty capital of the world with more people living below poverty line than anywhere on Earth, why you people like to come online and lie about things that don't exist? An average Nigerian man is too broke to even do what you are claiming
This African American brother is spitting facts! Every high value man, Nigerian or not, want to wife a woman that has values.
Women also want men who adds value.....unless you are comfortable marrying or dating prostitutes ....
Men basically want mother a wife not Instagram model
For sure! Any man, responsible just has to take care of his woman. Now spending money on a woman, is not taking care of a woman. And this is what these brothers are saying hare! When the money runs out, what then? Am no hush puppy!
But how do you look for those women in notorious clubs and think you will get a wife of calibre
No most men want the baddest women they can find trying to turn her into a wife.
Its Nigerian culture to spend money on women they are with regardless if the intention is there to marry or not...same in Nigeria
Same in Congo. But frankly i dont care how much money a man flaunts, money does not impress me. Its actual a turn off for me that a man would think he could get me by flaunting his money. I grew up in money so find something else.
@@africaine4889I hold hands and open doors money is the last thing you should be thinking about
@@africaine4889 Haha, Congolese men are flashy men!!
@@africaine4889 what you wrote is virtue signalling. No one believes you ma'am. We are adults here. Stop the cap
@@africaine4889 Story story story
Nigerian men are sought after by these women not only because of money, although money is part of it Nigerian men are seen as cool too. They are thought of as having good taste in fashion, clever and ambitious.
It’s fine for nigerian men to seek other women other than Nigerian women, can y’all tell y’all African American women to stop coming for Nigerian women. I’m tired of being bashed as a nigerian woman yet they are slurping nigerian men 🍆. I don’t know what y’all be telling these women, they seem very old attacking nigerian women and their looks
They also stone women to death
@itsmoblife more like SA men stone and rape their women.
LOL 🤣
It's all about the money. If the money not right everything is bad
Can't agree with Oshay... at least speaking on Nigerian women. Yes, they believe they deserve the world (no lies told lol) BUT... naija women will for the most part play their part. They cook, clean, manage family and even hold down professional jobs. As long as everybody's doing their part it's all good
Well spoken!
Yes I am not Nigerian but I ‘ve seen many Nigerian couples that have a strong family culture and structure and that they stayed together,also Nigerian men do like spending money on women and do like romantic thing ,my friend is Nigerian and he is doing the exact same thing to his Nigerian woman and they are soon going to be married while his woman makes sure that she makes him happy ,cook and clean and work too .BTW I live in the UK
Oshay closed with a truthful mic drop that should be enlightening to some women .another SLAPPING show.
OK. If he keeps this up then Africa will surely stop black Americans from coming over and completely tourn over to China. Black Americans are the issue all around the globe. If you encounter the same problems every country you enter then it's YOU.
Big up my Nigerian brothers. I love that SA woman love them.
I am from Guinea Bissau. Guess what? I love Nigerian woman.
Naija woman are great too. Big up and God bless Nigeria.
❤
Thank you for the love brother. One love
We dont love them though
We love you too ❤
28:06 This here sums up everything . I have said this about a girl I once dated. I was looking for just 1 reason , an excuse to marry her but she gave me none . Besides side chick vibes (plus she was pretty) and so I had to go my way and be true to myself 🇳🇬
She's a concubine
These pods are getting better and better. Excellent conversations. Keep them coming Oshay.
Haibo guys! the 2nd lady who said the guy she wants must be nigerian is not south african, the accent is not south african. she is pretending to be south african for some reason. Secondly, south african women love their own south african men, knowing your man's family is important to us and our traditions. You are busy chasing after slay queens and generalising by giving SA women a bad name, for what really? Black on black hate? very disappointing!
Now, why will she pretend to be south african?
So true both women are not SA
@@promiseihunna4714west africans are capable of anything.
They are evil hearted.
That American guy is talking a lot of nonsense, he has no respect for black women and he wants black women to respect them damn respect is mutual not one sided , and the audacity he has saying h.saying black men are marrying other races because those women have value,what value the colour of their skin ? Because most of the time these women are either models or some Asian actress where is the value there.what is the difference with those and the instagram black model . I have seen well educated black women ,financially independent and the same black men won’t date them because they feel intimidated by her successi think it’s about time black men stop making all these excuses and start taking responsibility that they should be protecting the black women
white men protects white women ,Asian men protects their women, black men disrespect their women and children abandons them a it’s just a disgrace going about making baby mamas and never taking responsibility
It's a black American mentality.
It's just self hatred.
You will never hear African men saying African women have no value.
Why paint everyone in such a broad brush and automatically other races have value. How. Make it make sense
@lulu 😅😅stick with your own bafethu we always tell you the tgings people say about yall kodwa ker vele nibaningi kunathi bathatheni abafokazi asinamona as long as nithandana vari you have our blessings
@@akhonazasembo3016 hayi don't add me into that madness🚮
Are South African women wanting to be married by Nigerian men? Since when?
That's what confuses me.
😂😂lol dats what i was asking myself...they dont understand south african culture and how looked down upon these kinds of relationships are😂you are immediately seen as a slay queen then ur chances with a south african man become very slim.😢
@@mama-bp3yu LOL honestly!! Inene 😌
They are trying to flatter themselves
Self hating nigerians all over the world causing havoc and confusing.
It's a myth, really. No serious South African woman wants to marry a Nigerian. I don't even understand how this was even elevated to a discussion topic.
It is very irresponsible for any Nigerian man not to attend to his girl friend properly, regardless love or no love. Nigerian men are very proud people and they never let a girl down, NEVER!! I can tell you that!
Please don't let oshay to contaminate Africans 😂
I had no idea he was in Africa. My ethnicity is East African but raised and born in the states. I know of this guy because of here and it was always refreshing to go back and forth between the two communities but seeing him here really surprised me 👀
I can't....
I don't...
I won't...abeg 🫥
Thank you! Toxic self hating effeminate dude contaminating other communities. I hope these men don’t listen to him or they will have mass division and destruction amongst their men and women like here in the US
@@Aquagirl-in6wr Oshay bashes Black American women. He is an Incel if we want to all be honest. He does not respect women.
Contaminate? I'd Africans are already doing it seeing as how they are openly shitting on the floor in lots of areas
That's not nice, Oshey has always been candid and unbiased in his posts, as well as analysis. He is more Afrikan than many of the sellouts that only identify with Afrikans when they are in our communities either online, or outside in the real world. You need to stop that crab.
Loving this, I’m a long time viewer. It’s good to see it all come together. Well done Joanita!! Oshay and Maintain are magic together, their different delivery styles makes even the long form content fly by. The topics are serious but hilarious at the same time. Wondering what happened to King but enjoying the new talent.
King has gone WEST... lol
@@olalekansalami5773 word, I didn’t know that. Where Ghana?
Its beautiful the female as admitted evolving, thats what life's about, growing, learning.
I love all the mens honesty, really refreshing. This podcast will go far, definitely subscribing 👍🏾
Planning on moving to South Africa 🇿🇦 before the end of the year so I need to hear this
go after what you are looking for ...the good time girls will always be around , but they will be headaches in the morning when everyone is sober lol . but be careful dont lead with your money and do know that some women could actually be setting you up and could be working with unsavory people to do harm or rob you . rather join a social group or something to meet people with similar interests . in my opinion .
Don't come if you plan to be abusive!
@@mmmotives7452 👏🏾👏🏾Facts bc that’s Black Amer guys generally speaking
They will dudula u...better go somewhere else🤣🤣🤣
It is cultural for Nigerian men to spend on women. It isn’t about “ tricking” or whatever is misconstrued here.
Lol man tricking is tricking if you don’t use your personality to attract women, you are definitely tricking. It’s like prostitution out here now days.
Nigerian men never wimp out on approaching a woman that appeals to them. Spending money on women is also a tradition. The man always takes care of his woman because her appearance also reflect on him as to whether he is doing a good job.
Bwahahahaha most of these dudes are taught to be tricks basically but do what you do
@@stephenford6132 😂 The only sensible comment I’ve seen, most these comments encouraging buying pussy under the guise of “tradition” no wonder why Nigeria is so westernized, they become so materialistic.
@@stephenford6132 + Touché. The green colour doesn’t become you.☝️😃😀😄😆😁🤣😂😀😃😃😃😆🤣😂
@@stephenford6132 = Bum
@@james56660 bros abeg tell that guy man 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You guys are biased, a Nigerian should've represented in this discussion. You don't know us we are thought to take care of our women and family. This is what is instilled in us from our youth. Our focus is our family that includes our women we are not doing it for competition rather it's our orientation. In Nigeria a man is respected the way his family and his wife appears. We are generous and confident, if we don't like you we tell it to your face. If we like you we take you home.
You are being emotional man we defended Nigerian men why do you need to be represented when we are defending you? 🤣🤣
My thoughts exactly not even one NIGERIA was there to represent.. plus you can't use what one NIGERIA said to all the NIGERIANS..
@@Kenganda I am not emotional and doesn't care, just want to put the record straight most of Oshay's assumptions are wrong and misleading. He doesn't understand our culture or orientations, Africa is diverse with every country and tribes with it's uniqueness. How could you generalize Nigerians as spending to spoil ladies wherever they go. If I may ask has Oshay married all the ladies he dated . For the record we have so many Nigerian men married to SA women. Just because you had fun with a woman doesn't makes her marriage material same goes to the women. It's the same everywhere the difference is that we Nigerians are thought very early to assume responsibility of taking care of our home, women and family no matter the tribe or country you are married into. Even concubines are provided for and taken care. Polygamy is African traditionally. Please go and make money to spoil our sisters and make them feel like real queens 👑 which they truly are and deserve instead of misrepresenting. " A man who doesn't have money to buy a bottle of beer 🍺 to relax will always say beer is bitter" buy for him he will finish one carton .
@@ibinabos.amachree8762 obviously you do care...you just wrote a 1000 word essay in the comment section bro. People who don't care don't waste their time doing that lol. Thanks for the comment.
@@Kenganda I thought representation matters?
I do not think Nigerian men are ‘ refusing ‘ to marry South African women. When a man is a player, he not looking to marry anyone he just having fun. Not all women are looking to be married, some want to have FUN 🎉first, finish school. Then maybe some years down the road.😢 get a husband. Leah Tunkara
I'm looking for Love in Africa instead of the UK! Summer 2023.
Welcome home bro
😂😂 now I know I'm not the only one 😅
@@HRL. Lmao
@pmambongwe8640 😂😅🤣 trust me, no jokes. You'd be surprised at some of these ladies' unrealistic demands and expectations, even when they are well over their spring chicken prime.
@@HRL. You'd be surprised. We're demanding too
Hahaha😂😂😂. This is one of the funniest episodes of the Repat Podcast I have heard/watched and I agree with everything y'all said in this episode. I don't know whether y'all were looking for a fourth co-host. But I'll say Joanita and Oshay you got the right line up of 4 co-hosts for the Repat Podcast: Oshay, Joanita, DJ Maintain, Agaba. I hope you keep Agaba as one of your co-hosts the way you do with DJ Maintain.
I like Tina too.
@@africanglobalnomad Tina is alright too. But Tina relocated to USA after she got married. However I like the line up I mentioned because Oshay represents Black Americans that relocated to an African country; Joanita represents the Ugandan that's never been to the Americas/Europe; DJ Maintain represents the Black British that relocated to an African country; Agaba represents Ugandans from diplomat families that were born/grew up in USA. Its a great balance.
@African Global Nomad I thought you meant a different Tina because of how you spelled her name lol. But I later realized you meant the Black British Teenah. With that said, Black British Teenah is alright too, but there is already a Black British on the Repat Podcast by the time she came on. I think Oshay might have a budget for 4 co-hosts.
@@RealStellaStella Thank you, I like the balance too
I’m glad you guys brought it back. This pod is the real deal. The best pod in the game. Especially the black world.
Thanks brother
There is a culture in Nigeria called the Effik culture. Before the women get married they are sent to the fattening room. In this room old women teach the lady how to be a wife and have a successful marriage to get their husbands to catter to their needs.
I bet most tribes in africa have this even though the details may differ.
Quit generalizing on SA women.....leave us in peace. Stay away!
ok lol
@@Kenganda🦍🦍🦍🦍🦍
They are obsessed with our views
As for Nigeria men is a cultural thing not a big deal
Essy going 😂😂😂
Don't blame it on South African women, Nigerian men can spoil a woman until that woman get spoilt
Nigerian men don't know how to get girls without money. They need it to get love from women.
That unsustainable business model , the long game is better
@@thabomaphalala4352 Young man that is not true
until he either goes to jail or goes home and has a second family. qhubeka sisi
While Nigeria is poverty capital? Spoil women with what? People who don't understand generational Wealth behave that way and is not a suprise because Nigeria is not really big in banking systems or investment hence the country itself is dominated by South African businesses and European business. Richest bank in Nigeria by assets is Ecobank, largely owned by Nedbank and 5th richest bank in Nigeria by assets is stanbic bank of South Africa. Anecdote theories with no evidence won't help Africans, when you do research, an average Nigerian is broke and poor but the very few once with money don't mind going around spoiling women of countries that are already doing far great than theirs for an average person. What will matter is for Nigerian men to increase standards of living for their people and build infrastructure, prostitutes in many countries will always appreciate the free money but we're is Nigeria to show how great they are????
Like most men with a sense of culture and value, NIgerian men are very picky who they commit to.
They will happily spend money on you to have a good time, but they won't commit to you.
I know many NIgerian guys who have dated Jamaican, South African, European women, sometimes for several years, but at the end, the
Nigerian guy dumps them and goes to find a Nigerian wife.
Been trying to warn many young women about this. To stay away from Nigerian men coz of what you just said. If only they listened, lol. But yeah best to keep off Nigerian men, good thing I've never fallen for their tricks.
@Brother j Yet these same men go out and cheat on their Nigerian women with the same kind of women they dump. How is that healthy?
South African girls are warned against Nigerians. So it's those loose girls that they will get anyway. Not well raised girls
Besides, Nigerians get a very few ladies in SA and mostly is women who don't have local market at best. Basically ladies that SA men don't want. A typical example is this, an SA lady who is a reject by most standards of guys who are in middle class doing well, can be accepted by a middle class Nigerian man and he will see her as a price while if not, she would settle for a lower middle class level because that is mostly her practical market in the SA standards. On avarage, a Nigerian dude will have to offer something beyond what a local guy can offer just to be given attention even when is by an avarage SA lady who doesn't have many options. The truth is, Nigerians don't hold a high value status in SA mostly by just been a Nigerian, mostly get women we don't want
That's because they are users and hypocrites. Why date a woman without having honourable intentions towards her, wasting her time and years, denying her the opportunity to find and be with a man that actually wants her. That is nothing to be proud of, just as 419 is nothing to be proud of either. A lot of Nigerian men tell lies and one of their most corny chat up lines is''I tink I seen you in Lagos'', 😂😂😂
This is a excellent podcast, love you guys, just honesty so refreshing.
Hats off to the lady, saying she as evolved and grown.
You guys have got me dying with laughter🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That not a reflection of South African women, that a slay queen a subculture lol
Agreed! 👊🏾🇳🇬🇺🇸
Have to tell the truth this show is becoming great but it is really duh to me Jackson always keeping it real.
As a southeastern nigerian man it's common trend in our culture to have mistress and, spending on your woman or "women" is normal. As an igboman, we have this believe that a man's wealth is seen on his wife and kids. Am enjoying your conversation. Keep it up.
You have concubines?
@@joehouston2833 two wifes like my father, uncle and great grandfather who had 3 wife.
@@kachi70 do you put one of your wife above the other or you treat them equally?
@@mikailm6934 I have favourite but love them both
@@kachi70but ladies say u are easy going pple
SA MEN REFUSE TO DATE NIGERIAN WOMEN FULL STOP AND WHY YOU NIGERIANS ARE SO OBSESSED WITH OUR COUNTRY.
My brother Oshey hits the points right on, I hope our sisters are learning wisdom from this show..
Why is this news? South Africans have been terrorizing Nigerians
This women are everywhere in Africa not just only in South Africa, this women loves money
This was a great show, I am married but I appreciate it all the same.
There's 3 types of women in South Africa. Model C high class, Hood Chick and Farm Girls. I'll be honest, men in SA like to date the Hood Chicks and Farm Girls for long and short term relationships the Model C chicks are hard to date because they mostly believe that they have hella options or they date hood dudes that run through them. The successful brothers marry the women that have a Farm Girl mentality because he knows that she is Traditionally minded. Hood Chicks collect Government money off them kids and then the Model C Chicks work hard and can almost never keep a stable relationship or marriage. Women in my country listen to western women and look at their shiny shows and want that but they're in a country where keeping it Traditional actually leaves you much happier in your elder years...
Nice explanation!
Since I was a kid, I heard about how South African women had more educational previlege than their men. It's not a question as to why some of their women aren't attracted to their men, but it makes sense why Nigerian men don't fancy them for marriage partners.
Most Nigerian men have their pride and don't marry feminists. They rather have virtuous and respectful wives.
My two cents.
You're lying
That's not true. Everyone had a right to education in South Africa. That includes women.
You must have a really fragile ego if you don't want your women educated.
South African men don't have that issue.
They prefer their women with brains
Joker.
@@ezinnetorti9540 I struck a nerve on someone, didn't i ?
@@kaybeeMoAfrika very convenient response to what has already been acknowledged as an opinion. Quite a show of high intelligence.
Without mentioning SAns,there's nothing to talk about in Africa 😏.
Hey are obsessed with A.S
Well i think the topic is centered on Nigeria.
@@mcdonald1821 But there's South Africa included in the title so it definitely wasn't about only nigeria.
How is this about Nigerians when is about people leaving their countries to South Africa and SA women??
We are the topic of conversation
Starving for us as usual
Then you guys show a postcast of doro... You guys didn't do your research well. Doro is even getting heat from south Africans for dating Nigerians, she's a slay queen/ club host, she's in their circle. She's all about money that one. Ask a normal southy girl if she wants to marry a Nigerian men. Most of us our parents would disown us. You should have invited a south African to your show to break it down for you better. Siya nyela because of boDoro and their lifestyle nxa.
There is nothing wrong if a man has money and make his girl friend happy by spending on them. men who don"t have anything to give a woman only criticize other men that can afford it.
Nah stop making excuses for weak tricking men
This is very funny because a lot of Nigerian men have married South African women for citizenship in South Africa.
Another excellent episode!
When I am in West Africa, young women expect that a man can have up to 4 wives. This African man culture is not dead. I even fell in love with a man that wanted me to be his 3rd wife. Being American he knew it would be hard for me , yet he was so amazing 🥂. Made me consider it. 💯✈️
Women do it everyday in the West. They just don't formalize it. Women share men everytime because they are all interested in the top 10 percent of men.
They would rather share a high status male with other women than have to themselves a low status male.
So when women live in a country where the law supports it, they don't find it that hard to do. It's already in their nature to.
Ive said it before, Polygamy is coming back whether we like it or not. If 80% of 'maidens' and non-maidens are chasing 20% of Bachelors as fathers and stepfathers what is the likely outcome?
It depends on which country, tribe and religion !
His wallet made you consider it smh lol women be lying like shyt 😂
@@stephenford6132 No it was his DICK not just his money 🤣 fucking amazing. 💗🤪 Dark shin very good looking man , plus a first class gentleman. I call him my black prince. Yeah I was so in love with him, I would just cry when I make love to him. But he had to many wives and to many children (paying SCHOOL FEE’s) Not enough ‘time’ to be with me. The way I wanted to be WITH Him .....forever 💋!
I let him go , I decided he had to many responsibilities, An he’s a responsible MAN, I love that, but children come first , I had to face that reality ,it was very painful for me and maybe for him too. Leah Tunkara
I think they just get y'all papers. Once they get it, they zoom! The good thing is that they are nice during the process. That way, your not hearth broken when they zoom.
This is sad because men who supposed to build their country are been reduced to seek papers and better life in a country build by other men to a point of simping and begging most of our rejects just to survive. You will never ever in your lifetime see a South African man trying to go to survive in Nigeria to a point of using women there just to get by in the country, we have pride in ourselves to fall so low
Lol. Who is this? Come to nairaland.. come!. Lmao
I think women should become financially free so they don’t have to take any disrespect in the name of a man providing for them.
Even if you have it, they should also take care if you in some ways. There is a protector /provider instinct you have to nurture in (some) men. There is a difference between "can't" and and "don't have to" Imho.
you see how it played out America
Bhahahahahahahaha. But they are actually however their cheap skates don’t take them far.☝️
Not yourll throwing our SOUTH AFRICA🇿🇦 UNDER THE BUS 🤣🤣😱
No never 😂
@@DjMaintain just joking..when you gonna dj in S.A though😎🇿🇦✊
I’m DJing in Cape Town November 👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾
There are a lot of South African women married to Nigerian men . Some of these women are even living with their husbands in Nigeria 🇳🇬 . To be honest Nigerian men actually understand the nature of a woman than most men. Most Nigerian men are honest about their intentions when they meet a woman. A woman is only being used if she’s under a false impression when it comes to a man eg . Shacking up with a man for years who’s not her husband, having his babies , financing him while in the mean time the man doesn’t have the intention of marrying the woman. With a Nigerian the woman always knows where she stands and acts accordingly.
I am sure they are many in terms of numbers but it's a fraction of the population of SA woman. Basically what I am saying is that the notion that SA women are after Nigerian men is incorrect infact the opposite is true. Generally SA woman despise Nigerian men.
No bru stop lying .
Its true, in general SA women despise Nigerian men they are called drug dealers
SA women are feminists. Their relationships never go anywhere beyond the naija guy getting an SA passport.
Which is perfectly fine, we also wanna marry our own
I've noticed in all of your podcast and I'll say, OSHAY is a really difficult person and I'm sure he's going to find a hard time getting any good woman really because his way of thinking is so weird like bruh just wants to be worship cause he's a man that's his mindset / perception of how men should or are being treated in Africa 🤦yes men are RESPECTED in Africa cause we're thought from a young age how to be good wife's and husbands, but you should also know that a lot of men tend to use that advantage to control & mistreat women OKAY and I feel like that's exactly what someone like oshay will want to do cause of the way he speaks about it.. but maybe I'm wrong 😏 he really needs to learn a lot from the two other gentle men especially DJ maintain.. cause he's going on and on talking about American women not being/ doing this and that, sitting there talking about asking them what they bring to the table bro you don't go around asking any woman that, 😂 just do what you have to do as a man to provide and protect and watch her do all the good things for you.. can not just do nothing and expect All the treatment you talked about plus they're actually many MEN out there who are getting the value they deserve as providers & protectors cause you mentioned saying men don't get the value of what they do as men & that's a fat LIE okay.. just check yourself see what value you're bringing if you're a good man? &If you will be a good husband? And you'll see & will definitely get a good woman that will give you your values to..✌️☺️
Man I’ll take your wife or girl from u 😅😅
That's black American men hands down, deluded. Take a look at their communities, they've destroyed them, their women and their children that's why they want to spread their dysfunction worldwide now.
He will definitely not get a good woman. Can you imagine someone like Dr Ola sitting with a guy like him? She will be repulsed. These men ddid not grow up in good homes. He will probably never marry or end up with a woman who go use am clean mouth finish. Typical bm who cant solve his problems and goes around looking for other women. They call them passport bros nowadays. Destroy their own communities, no fathers, lack responsibility, look up to lonely men on d internet and then fail ultimately will fail with d foreign women too. It is a matter of time. Their insecurity screams in every video they make trying to tarnish other men/women
@@aeiou0123 my thoughts exactly like they just keep going on &on saying all this things about women like women are the problems while they've refuse to look inward look themselves people like oshay and the so called passport bros, they need to check themselves to know if they're good to, for them to want a good women like be what you want okay be that good woman or man that you're looking for, cause we're not in the 50th /60th again people eyes dey open now I'm African and I know that many African women now are & will not tolerate what their mother/ mother, mothers did so this men need to look at themselves to see what is wrong with them to if they're the problem.. cause no woman will never want to respect or submit to a good Man non I've never seen the issues is we just don't want to give respect and submit to wrong bad men we're scared and instead of this men to reassure us that they're getting it together they'll work on themselves go the therapy and counseling but instead they're here making all this Interviews showing their colors & making us even more afraid giving us reasons to not want to submit to them that's it they should get it together please..
@@db6881 but you are here watching a black american do something nobody else in Africa is doing right now it's called Talent don't be mad lol
Oshay you are forgetting that majority of those women had no choice but to do those things for your grandfather wether she wanted to or not. Fast forward to 2023 women have options and some are choosing to stay single.
Yep and it's absolutely destroying the black American family. You brag about it, like it's a flex. Smh
When you're about to mention a group of people, I wonder why is there not a South African women and a Nigerian man... both stand for their own people and give answers and reasons to what you guys are talking about..Referring to them.
Salute to the Nigerian brother , Mr think tank 👍👍👍👍
kudos, i really enjoyed the conversation by the panel and the musical and edited additions that were made when you made certain comments!
Look forward to seeing you Oshay and Jonita soon....shout out from Ghana
I think what women have is they call female intuition. No matter what you call it, it works.
@24:58 Oshay went off. I had to rewind to hear those golden bars being dropped. Were still expected to be traditional but women don't have to be and they are worse being single mothers in the work force now
Relationship aren't always for marriage...could be for fun as well and spending money on such a woman ain't nothing bad. All these depend on what both want out of the relationship. A lot of Nigerian and south africans married but people look at the failed sides. It's sad anyway that there is no school educating human beings about love, romance and family.
Everyone who does not know must understand one thing: igbo men know how to treat a woman and family. I am glad you say Nigerians so that those other Nigerian tribes who disappoint women will change their ways to become true Nigerians
ok
Are you saying igbo men don't disappoint women?
And you made it about tribe. Shameful.
Guys understands this and know peace. Nigerians are deeply culturally and religiously rooted. Despite the vast variations of tribes and customs, they all preach a very high standard for Nigerian men to take responsibility. In short Manhood and marriage is like a calling to a higher purpose which is both culturally and Religiously emphasized on. On the back of this Nigerian men take pride in Mirroring the image of a Husband and Father( Provider, protector, guardian, etc} while they are dating and take pride in it. It's a deep sense of purpose provided on the back of a lot of similarities in both culture and religion. Both don't get it twisted Nigerian men will roll out the big guns just for their pride in playing the role as MEN.
What kind of women have Oshay been dating in the US? They couldn't have been from the south. As in, South Carolina, Georgia, Tennessee, and North Carolina. Because we definitely cater to our men. Happily.
“i’ve never seen a nigerian guy that doesn’t come out as an alpha”🙌🏾🙌🏾
The British, Portuguese, and Ukrainians proved that false
Thing is African will welcome daughter in laws who are wealthy or come from wealthy family's. Wealth is key from my experience
In my opinion and experience, it's more about the character of the person man or woman) including THEIR family and the prospective daughter or son in law's plans for marital sustainability and long term success. Wealth is good but not as big a consideration as other factors such as education, profession, skill, religion, humility and kindness to mention a few.
I Love this show ...Ms. Vita is a praying woman,and sucess will always follow her
I am rolling 😂😂😂😂😂 on the floor.
Guys South African men also prefer their own and that lady does not represent us as the South African women because some of us prefer our own as well
I love you guys, so entertaining but true.
What is the time, god damn just asking the time (Nigerian men)🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
As soon as I heard that man say *A WOMAN HAS WISDOM* Istopped watching the video now there's a man who has no clue what he's even talking about.
Bro, I am South African, we are very prejudice towards Africans that are not from Namibia, Botswana, Lesotho, Swaziland or South Africa. Sure peers and parents won't have much issue, if its someone from Kenya or other East African Bantu's. But dating/marrying especially West Africans is looked down upon, because of the stereotypes of criminality, hygiene etc. So majority of Nigerian men, get the bottom of the barrel South Africans. Those who identify as slay queens and live by the motto of city girls, and these commonly come from poor backgrounds.
Its like a bunch of South Africans going to the states, and messing with Keishas from the hood, and then come on TH-cam generalizing that all South African men, are just having their way with American girls, and not taking them seriously. Its exactly the same thing when passport bro's go to Asia or South America, you guys get the bottom of the barrel, and think you doing something. All you going to get is headaches, empty wallets, STD's, also trust and believe they not loyal either lol.
So good on the Nigerian man on not taking them seriously, I seen some Western men, wifing these chicks and talk about how they found a wife. Bro quick tip, when you come to developing countries, date in your class or above, don't save them. 😂
Females do whatever you allow them too that’s why it’s important to check them and lay down your requirements and expectations in the beginning.
Very interesting perspective but real!!
The point you made about the women being poor implies that a Nigerian can actually improve her situation which is not the case. And slay queens are generally attractive and want a guy with money and status, instead of a "kwerekwere".
The only women who a Nigerian might have an edge on is the junkies and prostitutes they hang with in Hillbrow.
South African irrespective of socio-economic background have no desire for Nigerian men. A loser South African man has more to offer than a 98% of Nigerian men.
@@Terrible9997 you don’t need money to get women it helps all you need is charisma and the ability to charm disarm to many men can’t see a woman past her physical look some beautiful women are not even worth talking to.
@@Terrible9997 Slay queens want experiences, not the improvement of their life. They want to look the part, but not actually be it. So majority of "kwere'kwere's", are known to make quick money and blow it. Slay queens know that South Africans are stingy, so they will go for anyone that bites. They don't see a kwerekwere, they see an easy experience, to post on their IG, at a club, with expensive bottles, or a beach front view, with a few apples and pears on her plate. I even seen one post a spur picture, flexing 😂...
Women know what time it is when they come over or get flown out. A friend of mine had this happen to him. The chick came over and walked around the hotel room naked and was on her phone ignoring him with him sitting there looking pitiful. It’s her choice to not want to, but then why come? Why are you there in the first place, playing with dude?
Ugandan women have a femininity that is unique i put them over Ethiopian Tanzanian and Kenyan women. Even though i love the afore mentioned
I like how he said 300lb Beyonce and he's not in shape himself 😂
The women and men who were your ancestors build strong communities that birth you. They were about building a generation that can continue to build strong communities.They didn’t have the arrogance of our generation . All this loud chatter is why we are stuck in quick sand.
They’re being heavily influenced by the whores of America with these prostitution mentalities
Brother Oshea is dropping it on the relationship status! Whoa! Peace!
One time I asked a South African chic. "If it burns when I pee, is that bad?" She was like nah. I later found out her past 100 boyfriends had the same problem. 🙂
Shame on you, bro. Do your due diligence before you sleep with a chick without a rubber, not afterwards! 😉
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Me tlwaela marete young
Just make it CLAP 👏🎶.
She is a clap dealer.
Cheap propaganda
It's not just Nigerian men, it's any serious man. You are received how you present yourself. That goes for any country any continent. If you decide to purchase it and it's for sale, so be it. If you have the ability to seduce women with your character , go for it. Everyone will use the tools available to them to get what they want. That includes women, it's how one presents themselves.
Is Joanita married? I am asking for a friend!!
She’s not even dating - said so in earlier episode. Send her a dm on her social media 😂
@@africanglobalnomad nah man, it’s not for me. But I will pass it on.
Liar😅
My friend she is a red flag any women who wears make up is a red flag run for your life @afro Jamaican
Oshay, you're making sense. Wish there was a way people could call in & make contributions.
Good work, ma bro.
Cheers,
We Nigerians take care of whosoever we date or marry. It's a cultural thing in Nigeria, y'all need to educate yourselves. I see why some Africans view it as taking their ladies because we spend on their women when we date them. We are intelligent, we take pride in being the best in what we do, we have a lot of energy and we work hard to maintain our lifestyle. We succeed in different industry all over the world but what I notice in this podcast is always aligning Nigerians with things that are illegal. I just stumbled on this channel and all I can see is bunch of grown people seated and pushing perspectives they have no idea about. Just know that NIgerians are DIFFERENT breed of humans, so as Congolese, Cameroonian, Rwandan, Kanyan, SA's etc. You need to get a Nigerian on your podcast if you want to comprehend people's culture. Y'all sat there talking about other people you think you know them but you don't. The fact that you couldn't get ONE Nigerian seated with you guys to educate you says alot about the podcast...Peace
Pls just leave them. Most of them are just very jealous ppl. They just see how successful Nigerians are, we mind our business and they sit there assuming all kinds of things. Its better to avoid getting into their convos. Really. Some of these folks are dangerous and are baiting you into their wahala
I swear. The hate just choke everywhere. Everywhere Nigeria. Well Giant na Giant, boy go still be boy.
That's a generalization and not true of all Nigerians.
Some are scammers and beggers who will choose western women to exploit and feed the families they truly love. Not all have wealth and means to provide for their families. However, the ones who can do it proudly and admirably.
If this was true, the country of Nigeria will be a success story instead of poverty Capital, at the end of the day, this are just claims, what you usually see in reality is broke Nigerian dudes running away from Nigeria and tying to survive. Some of them even die on boats getting to Europe and some are in jail in South Africa or killed during their criminal activities. Coming online to paint a Rosey picture just for validation doesn't change this reality. Men who take care of their women won't be here online making noise, you will usually see by their women living comfortably in their country and improved standards of living
Getting Nigeria on your convos gets you money, clouts and traction. You cant blame this bunch.
So i have a question here, if we are pushing pan africanism forward and we want to bring the africanase together, how is gonna work if we cannot enter marry each other? If we cannot do that, then we are failing before the project has began!
This is why such conversations are essential. Both sides need to comprehend each other and their views on relationships. Women often struggle more than men in this aspect. Let's keep this discussion going and raise awareness of the challenges we face.
You guys will never understand the Nigerian culture...giving and sharing is a part of our culture. Thats why Nigerians spray money at parties. Stop focusing on the money focus more on the sharing and giving.....its our cuture to share and give. We believe you bless you by giving and God will reward us for sharing our gifts. You are too stuck on the money
Oshawa you are looking for a personal slave and not a partner.
Does African guys complain when Nigerian throw parties and invite them or pay for their drinks in the bar, Nigerians are natural born with confidence and spending habits please give Nigerians a break, Nigeria values shows regardless where they are,
You are saying the opposite they're marrying South Africans everyday because of citizenship no love at all. Other Nigerians are no more visiting homes.
The new blacks per Oshay are the new immigrants in the USA 🇺🇸 ; with the men choosing wm to marry is usually to avoid extended family obligations back in their countries not so much because their ww are providing REAL value 😂 that they can’t get from women in their community. They also don’t have to support the ww relatives FINANCIALLY and also it’s usually African men who have very African phenotypes usually from west and central Africa so are looking to water down their bantu genes in their offsprings 😂which has nothing to do with ww “value” - more inferiority feelings. That aside, very interesting discussion and I agree that women need to provide value instead of relying on looks and youth. Men too should stop using money and other access keys to get women. We should all keep it real to get what we want per Agaba. Enjoyed the show. Thanks
African Global Nomad well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@joanita, are you married? I'm a follower of your podcast and must say that I'm liking more than your content. I think you have the most beautiful smile I've ever seen.
Black people are one people let's stop with the tribalism terms.
Don't try and erase peoples identities just because you want to be called a colour. We won't lose our roots and customs to accommodate you. Tf then end up a confused mess like black Americans. No thank you, one minute you're Egyptians, the next you're native Americans, the next you're Israelites. We will keep our tribes and countries thank you very much.
@@db6881 I can’t blame you! You make a strong point I will agree to disagree in saying tribalism shouldn’t be toxic and keep division alive between different black groups but yea one’s cultural identity and customs are very important to keep.
Black peoples are definitely not all the same people smh 🤦🏿♂️
I’m A BLACK AMERICAN 🇺🇸 WOMAN and I Massage, Rub, Cook, Clean, Etc, for My Family. And I came from a SINGLE FAMILY HOME! The problem is Community and the Influencers of today. Parents ARE NOT BEING TAUGHT HOW TO BE PARENTS. THE COMMUNITY IS NOT COMMUNITY. EVERYONE IS DEPENDENT ON THE GOVERNMENT INSTEAD OF WORKING FOR THEIR WORTH AND COMMUNITY
Loved this one. Nice and positive, wise words.
As a nigerian I believe in making my woman look the best by assisting her financially in her needs. We take care of our girls and that's why nigerian girls don't go with men from other countries
You’re a side, you’re French Fries😂😂😂
The best news ever! I wondered what on earth would normal guy want to marry such woman
I want me a south African woman
Watch out for drama and diseases 😮
@@africanglobalnomad hey man I an america black women on America tops all that not trying to marry nobody just have fun.
@@africanglobalnomad disease? The ignorance
@@africanglobalnomad are you for real?? So you want to tell me that every woman in South Africa is got disease?? Uyanya yazi msunu,what kind of a family are you from, the audacity in you is astonishing, nxa
Strong focused women who love themselves nd know their worth(whether Highly educated or not) stop being used nd abused handsome nd Money comes at a very high price. Live yourself save yourself the hurt.
I am not following this conversation? Exactly what is it all about?
is part off theyre culture spending
Yes. Congolese men too. That said, men in Africa are generally expected to take care of women irrespective of income status. As a result men in Africa rarely date/marry up or women down in the motherland.
@@africanglobalnomad Black men all over the world are expected to provide. To be honest, even in other communities, men are still expected to provide because that's how the original design and that's societies have lived since the Genesis of the world. Secondly, men marrying up/women marrying down is still not looked upon favourably even in the Western world.