Five signs to get out 1) when she says “I’m sorry” if she starts to apologize (for minor things) she subconsciously feels superior to you and pity’s you. 2) when she tries to change plans. This means she doesn’t see you as a leader. She wants control. 3) when she interrupts you in a conversation. She’s feels more dominant. Doesn’t want to sit through “your story”. 4) when she really into social media. I mean like glued to phone into it. She craves cheap attention and that her currency. You will never satisfy her. 5) She unknowingly lies about little things. Her reality is not based in truth. She will always move the goal post.
4) when she really into social media. I mean like glued to phone into it. She craves attention and that her currency. You will never satisfy her. Like a Social Media Game...When a woman tells you HELP ME get lost into the game...
Just give her some space and do stuff for yourself, you'll see that you don't need her and regain some self respect which is more valuable then any relationship. Having a relationship is fun but losing who you are is a terrible mistake that will take months to recover from
Lol so true. They are basically cooking, cleaning and helping their mum in kitchen at home, and suddenly need queen like treatment when with you 🤣🤣🤣 Men are not made to understand the most complex creature ever made - WOMAN. Let’s have a life with great friends, one night stands and settling with someone who basically doesn’t throw tantrums and demands treatment like queen! 🤣🤣🤣
diztiinct love her too much and she will take advantage of your extra kindness and she will stop trying on her part and start taking advantage of you. I’ve been there 2 times and watched it happen. I flooded them with “nice guy” and over time I got very little in return. Once I started to back off she felt that she was losing me and started treating me like a king.
Ruby Scallan hi Ruby. I’m not referring to games I’m simply referring to who is the giver and who is the taker. You are a rare catch and it’s rare that both give equally to each other. Keep shining on with your good self. 💫
@@Aynshtaynn get to know, and someone know you better. Innitial "drawn" is just for "beautiful" people and it's shallow and never lasts. my view at least.
Newer had that kind of expirience even when it kind of looks like that it is realy not it is all just work and gamble you have to be like this you have to do that make one litle mistake and it is owe it is all about what you can give if you have nothing you have no chance its all just plain
I'll say this from expirence. If she likes you...you would be with her and not watching this video. You text her,she texts you back. You invite her out,she invites you out. Smooth,nice and still exciting. That's what happend every single time when a girl actually liked me and saw me as he priority. They don't take forever to text back,they don't say I was busy,if they can't come out for a date,they will make sure to give you another time of date...even when you are with them you can just sense a different energy. If it feels like work,if it feels like you have to move mountains. You have to move on,because you will not be your natural self around them and you will subconsciously lose respect for yourself.
A friend told me something a long time ago that makes perfect sense. Your heart is precious and extremely fragile. Only you can appreciate your own heart and what it does for you. Therefor NEVER give your heart to another person. It isn't theirs and they will not care for it like you would. Instead, LEND them your heart. That way it's still your heart and if you see they are damaging it, you take it back with no regrets.
When you FEEL like you need to move on, you NEED to move on. it's that's simple, no plan required. When someone is interested in you THEY will let you know it😉
You cannot change the behavior of a woman even if you're so in loved with her. The best thing is do nothing. Do not contact her anymore and find a new one. You are worthy to be love again.
johny rynjah how we used to talk so much and I really did like her and we used to text 24/7 and all of a sudden one day it’s changed she stopped texting me first like she used to and just not herself... I miss her so much I just don’t know what to do
@ThePatUltra when you said don't show her that you're strong. Can you give examples? You mentioned mirror her actions. This I very true. I did this and she noticed that I don't fuck around.
Matt Allen she just told me that she still misses her ex and still loves him ... she said I didn’t do anything wrong I just can’t stop thinking of her and what I could’ve done differently and it hurts like hell. The hardest part for me is how for weeks everything was amazing and all of a sudden
@@itztoxicc7091 Heard exactly the same story after two months intense contact. Whatever she says as an explanation/excuse....See what she does....and most probably it really isn't about about you, but about her not being ready to trust a new relationship as soon as she develops feelings.
Is this professional or reliable in any way? What if you desperately lack love and start getting desperate for it, it's pretty much automatic. Do you just keep sitting alone by yourself and survive it?
Just say, "Wrong place, wrong time" and politely make tracks. Anyone who demands to know more is someone you need to be careful about letting them know you too well.
The "Right One" is not going to use how you feel about them against you...nor will they be interested in engaging in these childish/immature "ego driven" mind games of cat & mouse. There is no power struggle or manipulation between two people that are right for each other.
If he/she stops showing interest in you, don't waste your time. Dating is a friendship first, if you are serious about marriage. When you stop feeling the friendship, it's time to walk away. The sexual attraction will never make up for the lack of friendship and chemistry. Some, if not most, friendships, take time to grow. If your friendship with a date continues to grow over time, even if slowly, and you always have something in common, lots of chemistry, and good feelings every time you see each other, then you have something worth pursuing. If the feelings of chemistry, friendship, and urge to be with each other diminish over time, walk away.
If there is another guy, walk away. If she approaches you later, make clear you are no longer interested. These women who see other men while you are simply are not worth the effort.
What if she has a 4 year old daughter and she went back to the father of the child after 10 months of being with me? I was really close to her daughter aswell. It's been almost a month. It's such a long story
It’s simple WE make time for what WE want to make time for. If some one isn’t making time for you they aren’t interested in you. You don’t need a plan. Be yourself and the right one will never have you guessing where you stand with them. If you have to guess, it’s time to leave
@@highstakes1235 There was a lot of cheating, lying, and manipulation on her part. She's a narcissist. If she didn't get what she wanted, she'd cause problems, make me out to be the one at fault, and dishonestly play the victim. I don't deal with women like that anymore. I've walked out on several women in a span of 2 years. My bulls**t meter is so broken that when they start in with excuses or I feel like I'm getting played. Time to take a walk. That's fine, there are other women.
This was a great video. He talks about stuff that happened to me very recently. The wounds are still fresh but the advice on recognizing a woman's disrespect is invaluable. Walking away is hard for me, but I can't be tolerating any woman's disrespect and warped thinking against me. That's when it's time to move on.
Thank you for this advice. I wish I would've had someone like you by my side when i was a young man in my 20's. It would've saved me a lot of money, pain, heartbreak, and confusion. The world is a better place because people like you are in it that are willing to help the inexperienced and the lost. Thank you. A man's only saving grace is time. As time goes by hormones calm down and you find out that you don't need women as much as you thought you did when you were in your 20's. And because you have more experience and you've accomplished a few life goals, you have a better idea of your own value and no longer go into a relationship with a "needy" mindset. Be with someone only if they respect you. A lady is an investment of time, resources, emotions, and mental energy--- don't go after a bad one.
Thank you. I almost made a mistake by calling her back. She was very disreputable to me. I broke it off. I felt she was just playing with me all along. Something in my gut was telling me that. I guess i just did not want to see it. So thank you again for this video.
Jorge Hernandez After constant belittling and disrespecting in public and in front of her friends, I learned that lesson the hard way. Such a bad person she was.
You are a good person Jorge! And you certainly did the right move. I myself have been in the emotional quicksand more than once, fucking hate it. Decided to not give my "heart" to a girl anymore...bcoz they just toy with before crushing.
Bobby gives great advice. The date other girls is what gets her back says so much about true female nature. No use complaining about it, it is what it is.
One thing that has always been consistent for me: when your gf/crush/some girl you're interested in mentions another guy who isn't a relative of hers, you're doomed. It's over and there's no way to save it. Move on NOW.
elsquibbs This one girl mentions another guy she likes. On that same day, she asks Me "If I like her". She says the same shit on a different day, saying it's okay if you do. I confess to her and now she neglects me. That was definitely a shit test. I'm moving on, I actually do feel good right now.
In today's world girls treat guys the same way they treat purse or shoes. When your new she shows you off. She takes you everywhere with her. Tells everybody about you and why your so great. Wants to be seen with you. Then after all that wears off. She thinks you clash with her. No longer wants to be seen with you. May even hate you. Tells everybody why your not so good. Forgets about you. And moves on to the next purse,,,,,I mean guy. And just like her old purse she might even feel the need to still USE you now and then even if she doesn't like you. Welcome to being nothing more than a Purse. Don't be the purse!
@@alexbennet4195 Lol!!. Funny you should say that. In todays twisted culture of self glorification and affirmation for superficial reasons, if you are a nice respectful guy they claim they want?, you will get run over like a truck fairly quickly. The culture of self esteem based on affirmation makes them seek a relationship that is abusive and or neglectful. Usually a guy that is indifferent, disrespectful and treats them like shat, or what they like to call " a bad boy" Why? Because they are that desperate to get validation from everyone, which is why they destroy nice guys. Because with a decent respectful guy, they get that validation almost immediately. They are addicted to the cycle of it, and just have to fix that guy so he can fill her with validation like the rest. The shattier you treat them, the more they are attracted. It is a very saddening cultural trend infecting the world.
I would suggest to be really purposeful and genuine with women. Ask yourself why you really like her? I think men like women for the wrong reasons half of the time. Sometimes you have to take a look at yourself. This is from a woman's perspective. Some men like shoes and handbags, treat women like an accessory instead of someone they really love.
I know it’s been a while since you posted your comment but I hope you have moved on and found somebody better for you. If not, don’t despair just keep being your best self and the right girl will come into your life eventually. All the best bro!
Bobby is saving you a heartache. So true.. walk away is actually a better chance and choice. The "Recoil" is the dreaded sign been there done that hahaha
We may have differences in our cultures, different colors and more importantly different countries But when it Comes to love, we all feel it regardless of whatever the differences might be. Bobby Rio has always been my go to dating coach because when he talks, my heart listens. This girl is trying to hurt my feelings even more by constantly posting about the other guy, a very specific target i initially thought was her past . What a time to be alive! Saludos desde Uganda
17:55-18:20 1. Emotional quick sand(Dependency, vulnerability) 2.Recoil (When she pulls away after you try to get physical,eg. Touching hand or cuddling) 3.She disrespects you. 4. There's some other guy in the picture(With an obvious advantage over you,like job parteners) 5.If you are turning down your other Options for her. Thanks
Someone's red pilled haha... hypergamy for sure. We can still do well (at least in the short term) just off confidence though. There's are some good books on that on UnbreakableConfidence, com.. If you come off like you don't give AF.. like you have a lot of options.. she'll be intrigued for sure, and she'll pursue. If you can approach girls without hesitating and getting nervous.. you'll always have a steady line up regardless.
*It’s easy to get caught up in hope, but when someone is consistently unresponsive or dismissive, it’s a clear signal to reevaluate the situation. Walking away can be empowering, allowing room for someone who truly appreciates you!*
You nailed it with the need for personal boundaries when it comes to being disrespected. Not enough people consider just how much that represents where you rank in that person's mind. Thanks for sharing this!
If she cancels the date by text. The best response is silence. The second best response... Text: OK (Wait 15 minutes) Text: "hey, my schedule opened up. Want to hang out"? (Send) Then text: "woops, wrong number.... nevermind". Respond to nothing for 48hrs.
The 3rd idea to text her by mistake but on purpose is horrible idea. Someone whom I wasn't in love with used to do that and just thought they were so pathetic, and believe me I didn't care, so why do that? They don't care which is why your first 2 ideas are great. It's obvious when someone pretends to text you on accident, and painfully pathetic. Don't be that guy who's acting like you have boundaries but still emotional trying to get a reaction out of her. No no no..just move on without a word.
If I had a could write a letter to my 25 year-old self I would have told myself everything in this video. It would have saved me a lot of money, time and mental struggles over the years. I will die before I ever take an ex back again.
an alpha doesn't chase women, it's weak beta if you are always pursuing - show interest but no to much interest. If you do everything right she will be chasing you. NEVER chase a woman
I just broke up with my daughter's figure skating coach, and I was a little vexed, but after a week, my productivity increased ten fold. I was getting EVERYTHING done, and that's when I knew it was a healthy agreement. She ran backwards to an unfavorable relationship, and that spoke in volumes in regards to her internal strength. I NEVER go backwards..... She swore she didn't either, but I digress, I have total well wishes for her, but when the mask falls off, believe what you discover.
Wish i knew this when i was young fella. Your words are 👌🏻, doing great job helping others. Been there, done that in my youth, misinformed, immature, stupid. She left me a blessing in disguise. Met my present wife, happily married 29 years. So glad we never married back then/had children/home etc...would have been a disaster. Good lord works in mysterious ways. 👋 🇦🇺 .
lalo rc how bro we used to talk so much and be so close 24/7 and all of a sudden she stopped and really had been dry with her texts and I really care for her too much, idk what do do
Itz Toxicc May I say something ? By having some self respect and valuing yourself It’s hard I know I’ve been there and suffered greatly more then anyone You will get through this It just takes time I’ve just found someone 💯 x better then my LDR Ex.
Matty Kay thx bro and she just told me she misses her ex and still loves him and I can’t get over it I miss her she always made my day, she was the person I always looked foward to talking with
Your describing attachment styles. Anxious, Secure and Avoidant. When you really like someone your dominant style prevails. Self-awareness is key. Staying on your life’s purpose and path is key.
Great points here. Don't let it get to where you lose respect for yourself. If you see the signs, maintain your dignity and walk away. Calls, emails, professions of romance and remembering the good times will be to no avail. It's a hard lesson I learned myself but have grown emotionally since she left and am a stronger version of myself.
Hands down the best video about dating, did most of these without even thinking but they're sooooo true. The most important aspect being, be focused on you and make your life an adventure, someone will surely tag along that likes you. Never make them the focus of your life(Unless it's a marriage).
Like there aren't enough girls out there to just obsess over one, ditch the limiting beleifs and adopt an abundance mindset, trust me you'll find a girl just like you want her.
The problem I had when I was younger was that if there were other guys, I would try to be "the winner". And both times I "won" a bad woman to be my wife 😀
The proper term for “chasing the loss” is actually Escalation of Commitment. If you are suffering from this, you will convince yourself that you can recoup all losses on an investment if you just commit more resources instead of cutting your losses. Just like with gambling...if you’re not willing and able to lose what you put in the table, you shouldn’t be playing the game.
Admiral Ackbar Yessir, it is however that is more an expression of the same phenomenon when applied to the area of economics and business decision making where as escalation of commitment is more of a psychological reasoning methodology (so I’ve been told by people more knowledgeable in the field than myself). But, I agree with you 💯.
I just decided "f" dating I rather be alone. So much easier. I am almost 40. I don't have time to play any more games and deal with bullshit games.We come into the world alone and go out alone. that is how it is. So long suckers.
Im not much of a little speach type of guy but I think We were put on earth for a reason and the meaning to life is to love one another not avoid girls and dating type of stuff we were meant to keep the stuff going to keep the generation river flowing not to stop the river and make a lake we were meant to make kids and b there for each other and help each other
The point about dating other women is soo true. We get jealous, even if we don't like the man. If he is chasing after other women, due to our nature, we get really, really jealous.
@Larry Carter men are difficult too! One minute they're obsessed with you and driving across the country to spend time with you. The next minute they hardly have any time for you! Jesus. This is why we have to act uninterested because otherwise, you guys will lose interest!
It's quite the game, and like many guys, I went through a long period of "conquest",with many encounters ensuing. That progressed to "catch and release", where just the knowledge that I could bed them was enough. Then, finally, I just lost interest in the whole sport, even with the availability of so many women in today's world. I moved on to more worthwhile things in Life. It also didn't hurt, that, when entering my mid fifties, women my age did not appeal to me at all. But, a game changer happened, and I met a girl 21 years younger than me. And we've been together now for 9 years. So, I guess, anything is possible.
My men just fuck them and go away they dont want you well ok just fuck her and look for another one they dont deserve your attention just fuck them and leave until one day you find one that fucks you too and doesnt let you go away.
I work with a girl, and we got along so damn well. We went on a couple of dates which also went well. We tried to have sex but sadly for me, I was suffering from erectile dysfunction. I told her recently that I like her more than a friend. She said she felt the same way. I even got flowers sent to her house, she loved them. Sadly, she hasn't wanted to hang out since. She still flirts with me at work and wants to sit next to me and chat at lunch but whenever I have asked her out she has politely declined. I was obsessing over her and telling myself I am worthless. Thanks for this video, it has really helped me feel much better about walking away.
I definitely noticed that the "unavailable" girl does like that I'm seeing other chicks in my life. The thing I'm doing, is avoiding worrying about her, and just keeping the follow-up's casual (service improvements at local bars, etc). Approaching new people is becoming a quick addiction of mine!
@@kxngsanjay1683 how is that the best comment ?? if a guy has to have $ to get a woman that's about lame as fuk and a beta cuck -I wouldn't let a bitch talk half my $
Met a woman about 6 weeks ago & I've been in emotional quick sand for the past 2 weeks....it's pretty unusual for me to be the chaser but she really threw me! I've been a bit too wordy in my communicating & I can sense her kinda recoiling. After watching this very informative video I feel as though the pent up emotion in my chest has evaporated & I'm going to walk away & be less keen & just see how things pan out.
I've been reading "The Multiorgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia and he talks about circulating sexual energy through your body. I found that really useful recently as I've had more success than usual with women and my sexual appetite has skyrocketed. Good way to harness that energy and not just let it explode or make me needy/desperate. I guess a good way to deal with emotional quicksand. I recommend it.
Stopped chasing weeks ago. I feel so happy now. No worries. My confidence is through the roof right now. Its gonna be impossible for women to not chase me now. In the best shape of my life,my goals and interests have been accomplished so fast-paced i have to keep adding new ones. I want nothing more than a true peaceful relationship, but if i have to shift focus away from myself and passions......then shes not the one for me.
I've watched probably 100 videos about my ex of 4 years left me for her ex within one month, you nailed it in this video, its exactly what she did and how I reacted.. thank you bra, I'll subscribe now. To build up my mental tool box.
I really felt your coaching in this video. I was once treated like a trash until I noticed I'm emotionally affected. I learned that not all you wanted you can get or meant for you. I was nothing before and no special thing to offer until I focus on the things I love, work hard on my my desire job. I can't blame woman if they see nothing to me. Years goes by I myself into nobody to somebody.
There was a woman whom I was interested in who frequented the cafe where I would go every day. She displayed a cool and detached demeanor to everybody, including me, until she saw another woman in the cafe who was interested in me. She knew that the other woman and I were having a relationship but she still tried to catch my attention and get friendly with me. After I broke up with the other woman the first woman and I went out on a few dates, until I realized that she had some very serious emotional issues and so I politely dumped her. She kept trying to get good with me on and off for the next two years but I purposely avoided her and so got free of her clutches.
Empathizing with the 'girls' here: This kind of obsessiveness is a turn off. Relationships aren't that complicated; they almost all start with some form of attraction. Focus on being attractive to the person or type of people you like and they will come willingly. It shouldn't be a predator/prey scenario, you shouldn't have to premeditate it to death. If there is a clear pattern of behavior, like women tailing off and avoiding conversations - ask yourself - is it something I'm doing? Is it because I tend to speak through my nose? Am I somehow sabotaging my own success? Can I do anything to change that? Etc...
If you can tell who loves who the most, walk away. It will never work as well as a relationship with someone else. The world is full of members of the opposite sex. The one you’re interested in but unsure of her commitment to you right now has only 1 in a million chance of being perfectly suitable. Are you really that lucky? No. No one is. Don’t be driven by wants over understanding.
I was living with a girl and I did the recoil when she tried to touch me. I know what they are feeling, it isn't disgust, it is frustration and anger that this person does not respect the line you have drawn. It's like they are trying to buy you off with affection instead of true compromise. The fact that she is willing to talk to you means she is not repulsed, it means she is taking a stand. It is a stand that can't be glossed over with a little sweet talk and petting.
There are three ways or perspectives about how anyone, man or woman, sees themselves: 1) Who you think you are 2) Who other people think you are 3) Who you REALLY are. Looking for approval is #2, and it puts one at the effect of the others and their opinions. You are never entirely what other people think you are, and that includes a significant other.
Most of people who breakup first and use others normal karma does decipline them special leaving someone who loves you very much,normal God is always there you don't play with someone soul and feelings.
Holy shit, awhole lota grief and pain was brought to the forefront. All 5 are on my list and I didnt even know, my reasoning was because of my insecurities and lack of experience. I couldnt and would not want to move on. This has single handedly saved me from future unnecessary pain. Truly thank you! Subscribed. Ps I had to let go and forgive alot stuff, which stem from my issues with my mom.
I walked away emotionally once when I started recognizing the other guy around. They eventually married. I stayed friends w/ her & became friends w/ him. Eventually, he did me a huge favor. But it was worth the 'trouble' 'merely' to stay friends w/ her.
@@SKRooU2: Like I said, her hubby did me a huge favor. It was ginormous. And I gained a lot in the attempt; her & I mostly weren't in the cards. (Yeah, I might've played them differently, but by definition, hindsight is 20/20.)
@@michaelking9818: I decided to be realistic rather than bitter. And we had enough common friends @ the time; nothing to be gained by being a public jerk about it. I do that too well as it is.
A word to the wise... Alpha males don’t worry about this nonsense. Confidence is always king. The man knows he doesn’t give damn what you think of him. But he will know in 5 mins whether or not you are his equal. Many women don’t make the grade. Simple
All i can say to any woman is hold on to your looks if you have them as long as you can.......it's all you have and the only reason most men even talk to you.
Yup when things and fellings starting to change and she got no times for you that's out of your control.. It telling you that it time to prepare a new one so you ain't the one that getting hurt.. never try to fix a broken relationship cause it will always end up the same way
Five signs to get out
1) when she says “I’m sorry” if she starts to apologize (for minor things) she subconsciously feels superior to you and pity’s you.
2) when she tries to change plans. This means she doesn’t see you as a leader. She wants control.
3) when she interrupts you in a conversation. She’s feels more dominant. Doesn’t want to sit through “your story”.
4) when she really into social media. I mean like glued to phone into it. She craves cheap attention and that her currency.
You will never satisfy her.
5) She unknowingly lies about little things. Her reality is not based in truth. She will always move the goal post.
all very true
Sounds about right great comment man.
does it have to be all five or just one?
4) when she really into social media. I mean like glued to phone into it. She craves attention and that her currency.
You will never satisfy her. Like a Social Media Game...When a woman tells you HELP ME get lost into the game...
My wife would NEVER accept our relationship if I tried to act as the “leader”. She doesn’t think of herself as just a soldier in my army.
Just give her some space and do stuff for yourself, you'll see that you don't need her and regain some self respect which is more valuable then any relationship.
Having a relationship is fun but losing who you are is a terrible mistake that will take months to recover from
Wimpie Baars thank you for your comment
I made that mistake
@@fear4503 ye kinda made the same mistake again myself.....
Lol so true. They are basically cooking, cleaning and helping their mum in kitchen at home, and suddenly need queen like treatment when with you 🤣🤣🤣
Men are not made to understand the most complex creature ever made - WOMAN. Let’s have a life with great friends, one night stands and settling with someone who basically doesn’t throw tantrums and demands treatment like queen! 🤣🤣🤣
😭😭😭😭 you are so true brother
As soon as you start questioning yourself... Run away, dude! Run fast, run far..
Wish I knew these things brother. Always find this information way too late...
🏃
RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNN🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️😏😁😁😁😁
@bd3n21 It happened once; to me 5 years ago; so I know; relax bozzah😒😒
You got a kid now Earl?
Feel you bro
🌟✨🌟 Treat her like a queen... and she will treat you like a servant. 🤜🏼
so not true iam a women I don't want games and respect and reassurance and dates, that's all I want and she will treat you the same way..
True, women who say they want to be "treated like a queen" are imagining the treatment that a servant gives the queen, not the way the king treats her
diztiinct love her too much and she will take advantage of your extra kindness and she will stop trying on her part and start taking advantage of you. I’ve been there 2 times and watched it happen. I flooded them with “nice guy” and over time I got very little in return. Once I started to back off she felt that she was losing me and started treating me like a king.
In most relationships there is only one giver and the other is willing to be the “taker”. It’s rarely mutual.
Ruby Scallan hi Ruby. I’m not referring to games I’m simply referring to who is the giver and who is the taker. You are a rare catch and it’s rare that both give equally to each other. Keep shining on with your good self. 💫
you dont need signs, just one simple rule:
is the interaction effortless, are you naturally drawn to one another?
thats it.
The problem is, nobody is drawn to me 🤔
When we’re in person, yes it’s kinda amazing. When texting, not so much.
@@Aynshtaynn get to know, and someone know you better. Innitial "drawn" is just for "beautiful" people and it's shallow and never lasts. my view at least.
No not that's it
It seems like you can easily erased that line between each other
Newer had that kind of expirience even when it kind of looks like that it is realy not it is all just work and gamble you have to be like this you have to do that make one litle mistake and it is owe it is all about what you can give if you have nothing you have no chance its all just plain
I'll say this from expirence. If she likes you...you would be with her and not watching this video. You text her,she texts you back. You invite her out,she invites you out. Smooth,nice and still exciting. That's what happend every single time when a girl actually liked me and saw me as he priority. They don't take forever to text back,they don't say I was busy,if they can't come out for a date,they will make sure to give you another time of date...even when you are with them you can just sense a different energy. If it feels like work,if it feels like you have to move mountains. You have to move on,because you will not be your natural self around them and you will subconsciously lose respect for yourself.
I agree. She doesn't want me.
@@dwightwilliams311 yeah bro but another one will
A friend told me something a long time ago that makes perfect sense.
Your heart is precious and extremely fragile. Only you can appreciate your own heart and what it does for you.
Therefor NEVER give your heart to another person. It isn't theirs and they will not care for it like you would.
Instead, LEND them your heart. That way it's still your heart and if you see they are damaging it, you take it back with no regrets.
Thank you for passing this along
One of the best advice I have heard . Thank you for sharing.
Holy shit that's smart
Awesome advice ..thanks for putting it out 👍
Very good advice! Thanks!
Learn to LOVE YOURSELF first . nothing else matters.
I agree
chris arcanas dont know how to do that. Its like breathing in space.
@@marionmelia2962 Practicing Yoga has changed many people life for the better for real.This is what worked for me too.
If you cant look in the mirror everyday and be happy and able to love what you see you will never be able too completely love another.
Metalica was right hi-hi
Best advice you can give is stay single! Less stress
Starts 1:38
1.Emotional Quicksand
2.Recoil
3.Disrespect
4.Other Guy
5.Turning Down Options
Be confident don't act like you need her and don't call her right away or constantly. She will let you know if she's interested .
She came back to me after 6 months no contact, i was so stupid to take her back. Dont make this mistake!
blabla moekd what happened my friend?
yeah what happened, my ex-girlfriend is still in her rebound relationship right now and it has been 1 month of no contact
She came back to use you some more. She ran out of victims temporarily , and you make a easy convenient target.
Noted..!
Sorry bud. Marriage isn't that bad. ;)
When you FEEL like you need to move on, you NEED to move on. it's that's simple, no plan required. When someone is interested in you THEY will let you know it😉
100%..!
This is on the money. Once u feel something in ur gut it’s not rt… time to go
Agreed
The restraining order just means she's playing hard to get.
It just means you're not properly channeling your inner Chad. 😁😂
@@davidbolha you called?
FastZebra Zoom 😂😂😂
That is a sick joke.
Dying! 🤣🤣🤣
You cannot change the behavior of a woman even if you're so in loved with her. The best thing is do nothing. Do not contact her anymore and find a new one. You are worthy to be love again.
Aww i hate that an bar but ur probably right
Amen brother!
True, they just hit a retaining wall.
I had walked away for two months now. It's hard but I respect and value myself.
johny rynjah how we used to talk so much and I really did like her and we used to text 24/7 and all of a sudden one day it’s changed she stopped texting me first like she used to and just not herself... I miss her so much I just don’t know what to do
@ThePatUltra when you said don't show her that you're strong. Can you give examples?
You mentioned mirror her actions. This I very true. I did this and she noticed that I don't fuck around.
@ThePatUltra ah, got it. It makes plenty of sense to me now. Thanks for the lesson.
Matt Allen she just told me that she still misses her ex and still loves him ... she said I didn’t do anything wrong I just can’t stop thinking of her and what I could’ve done differently and it hurts like hell. The hardest part for me is how for weeks everything was amazing and all of a sudden
@@itztoxicc7091 Heard exactly the same story after two months intense contact. Whatever she says as an explanation/excuse....See what she does....and most probably it really isn't about about you, but about her not being ready to trust a new relationship as soon as she develops feelings.
If you're in emotional quick sand, you should do exactly what hurts the most. Listen to the emotions and do the exact opposite.
wordddd
Is this professional or reliable in any way? What if you desperately lack love and start getting desperate for it, it's pretty much automatic. Do you just keep sitting alone by yourself and survive it?
Probably very true advice. I can't confirm because I am not very practiced at that lol but the opposite seems to not work that well
Niet P yep, you’re about to be alone anyways. May as well walk away with your dignity in tact and increase your odds.
🔥
One of the most powerful weapon a man have " power of walking away from toxic relationship"without giving any explanation
definitely true
@@BobbyRio You.contractict.yourself.so.much ..u idiot
Just say, "Wrong place, wrong time" and politely make tracks. Anyone who demands to know more is someone you need to be careful about letting them know you too well.
Yes!
@@georgenotsmith2804 okay so imagine if a girl does the same thing to you: "wrong place wrong time". You'd like that? That's bullshit
The "Right One" is not going to use how you feel about them against you...nor will they be interested in engaging in these childish/immature "ego driven" mind games of cat & mouse. There is no power struggle or manipulation between two people that are right for each other.
100.
All this bs is fir trying to get a girl who aint want u.
... so once u trick them then wat?
Do u play these games till you die?
Lol fuk thar
L G. Very well stated...
Facts
Everything is not that black and white. People's feelings change. I was asked out by a girl, she initiated everything, still I fucked it up.
Words so powerful, they have the capacity to leave a hand print.
Pity from someone is the end. Losing someone's respect makes it difficult to get that respect back.
True
Gotta show another side to you at least then
If he/she stops showing interest in you, don't waste your time. Dating is a friendship first, if you are serious about marriage. When you stop feeling the friendship, it's time to walk away. The sexual attraction will never make up for the lack of friendship and chemistry. Some, if not most, friendships, take time to grow. If your friendship with a date continues to grow over time, even if slowly, and you always have something in common, lots of chemistry, and good feelings every time you see each other, then you have something worth pursuing. If the feelings of chemistry, friendship, and urge to be with each other diminish over time, walk away.
If there is another guy, walk away. If she approaches you later, make clear you are no longer interested. These women who see other men while you are simply are not worth the effort.
Exactly...No sloppy seconds!
What if she has a 4 year old daughter and she went back to the father of the child after 10 months of being with me? I was really close to her daughter aswell. It's been almost a month. It's such a long story
@@mpmc2277 this is hard man. Nothing you can do..
Funny, to hear a man say that when they are the one who did that.
It’s simple WE make time for what WE want to make time for. If some one isn’t making time for you they aren’t interested in you.
You don’t need a plan. Be yourself and the right one will never have you guessing where you stand with them. If you have to guess, it’s time to leave
The moment a woman sticks me in a corner is the moment I am done with her. Was married and put up with it for 12 years. No more.
What happened during the marriage if cool to ask?
@@highstakes1235 There was a lot of cheating, lying, and manipulation on her part. She's a narcissist. If she didn't get what she wanted, she'd cause problems, make me out to be the one at fault, and dishonestly play the victim. I don't deal with women like that anymore. I've walked out on several women in a span of 2 years. My bulls**t meter is so broken that when they start in with excuses or I feel like I'm getting played. Time to take a walk. That's fine, there are other women.
when she calls the cops on you its over
This was a great video. He talks about stuff that happened to me very recently. The wounds are still fresh but the advice on recognizing a woman's disrespect is invaluable. Walking away is hard for me, but I can't be tolerating any woman's disrespect and warped thinking against me. That's when it's time to move on.
I'm in a similar situation tbh, in what ways did she disrespect you and what led you to walk away?
Thank you for this advice. I wish I would've had someone like you by my side when i was a young man in my 20's. It would've saved me a lot of money, pain, heartbreak, and confusion. The world is a better place because people like you are in it that are willing to help the inexperienced and the lost. Thank you.
A man's only saving grace is time. As time goes by hormones calm down and you find out that you don't need women as much as you thought you did when you were in your 20's. And because you have more experience and you've accomplished a few life goals, you have a better idea of your own value and no longer go into a relationship with a "needy" mindset. Be with someone only if they respect you. A lady is an investment of time, resources, emotions, and mental energy--- don't go after a bad one.
Thank you. I almost made a mistake by calling her back. She was very disreputable to me. I broke it off. I felt she was just playing with me all along. Something in my gut was telling me that. I guess i just did not want to see it. So thank you again for this video.
Jorge Hernandez
After constant belittling and disrespecting in public and in front of her friends, I learned that lesson the hard way. Such a bad person she was.
So true but harsh
Keep moving bro, l feel you
You are a good person Jorge!
And you certainly did the right move. I myself have been in the emotional quicksand more than once, fucking hate it. Decided to not give my "heart" to a girl anymore...bcoz they just toy with before crushing.
Dude, same shit here
No person is worth chasing ! If it’s for you it will not pass you up ! If it passes you up it wasn’t meant for you !
Bobby gives great advice. The date other girls is what gets her back says so much about true female nature. No use complaining about it, it is what it is.
We don't like it. We get jealous. Just our nature
@@supersarah5673 Yeah esp when the other girl is better looking lol
@@SFBay69 😂😂 well duh
One thing that has always been consistent for me: when your gf/crush/some girl you're interested in mentions another guy who isn't a relative of hers, you're doomed. It's over and there's no way to save it. Move on NOW.
Yep.
Sometimes it's a shit test
elsquibbs This one girl mentions another guy she likes. On that same day, she asks Me "If I like her". She says the same shit on a different day, saying it's okay if you do. I confess to her and now she neglects me. That was definitely a shit test. I'm moving on, I actually do feel good right now.
This info is 5 years to late such a wasted early life
!!!!!!!
In today's world girls treat guys the same way they treat purse or shoes. When your new she shows you off. She takes you everywhere with her. Tells everybody about you and why your so great. Wants to be seen with you. Then after all that wears off. She thinks you clash with her. No longer wants to be seen with you. May even hate you. Tells everybody why your not so good. Forgets about you. And moves on to the next purse,,,,,I mean guy. And just like her old purse she might even feel the need to still USE you now and then even if she doesn't like you. Welcome to being nothing more than a Purse. Don't be the purse!
OH MY GOSH, that is exactly what is happening to me!!! Why do women treat us like that!!!
Maybe women don’t like or respect you because you come across as the kind of person to have no respect for them?
@@alexbennet4195 Lol!!. Funny you should say that. In todays twisted culture of self glorification and affirmation for superficial reasons, if you are a nice respectful guy they claim they want?, you will get run over like a truck fairly quickly. The culture of self esteem based on affirmation makes them seek a relationship that is abusive and or neglectful. Usually a guy that is indifferent, disrespectful and treats them like shat, or what they like to call " a bad boy" Why? Because they are that desperate to get validation from everyone, which is why they destroy nice guys. Because with a decent respectful guy, they get that validation almost immediately. They are addicted to the cycle of it, and just have to fix that guy so he can fill her with validation like the rest. The shattier you treat them, the more they are attracted. It is a very saddening cultural trend infecting the world.
I would suggest to be really purposeful and genuine with women. Ask yourself why you really like her? I think men like women for the wrong reasons half of the time. Sometimes you have to take a look at yourself. This is from a woman's perspective. Some men like shoes and handbags, treat women like an accessory instead of someone they really love.
Don't carry her purse in the shopping mall either like those poor listless souls
I walked away, love myself even more now
Yep, it's called masturbation🌈💲✔
Never get attached, it's way of self harm
AGREED
I just ended my one year relationship today with my ungrateful fiancée..
I know it’s been a while since you posted your comment but I hope you have moved on and found somebody better for you. If not, don’t despair just keep being your best self and the right girl will come into your life eventually.
All the best bro!
Two years on, how much better is your life?
Bobby is saving you a heartache. So true.. walk away is actually a better chance and choice. The "Recoil" is the dreaded sign been there done that hahaha
yea too many women out there to waste time chasing a loss. And yes, the "recoil" is heartbreaking lol
I speak from experience. Save you dignity.
Bobb
We may have differences in our cultures, different colors and more importantly different countries But when it Comes to love, we all feel it regardless of whatever the differences might be. Bobby Rio has always been my go to dating coach because when he talks, my heart listens. This girl is trying to hurt my feelings even more by constantly posting about the other guy, a very specific target i initially thought was her past . What a time to be alive! Saludos desde Uganda
17:55-18:20
1. Emotional quick sand(Dependency, vulnerability)
2.Recoil (When she pulls away after you try to get physical,eg. Touching hand or cuddling)
3.She disrespects you.
4. There's some other guy in the picture(With an obvious advantage over you,like job parteners)
5.If you are turning down your other Options for her.
Thanks
#BLAM
She doesn't want you in the first place, only what you can provide...
#Hypergamy 😉
Basically a runner up
Someone's red pilled haha... hypergamy for sure.
We can still do well (at least in the short term) just off confidence though.
There's are some good books on that on UnbreakableConfidence, com..
If you come off like you don't give AF.. like you have a lot of options.. she'll be intrigued for sure, and she'll pursue.
If you can approach girls without hesitating and getting nervous.. you'll always have a steady line up regardless.
Womem don't love men. They love lifestyles
Tru dat
Why do I always find this shit ,when it's 3 yrs to late ?
4 yrs
Never too late. 2 years for me and she’s fallen back in love
I got lucky found it today
Three yrs whow
@@silverdragoon27 ya lol
*It’s easy to get caught up in hope, but when someone is consistently unresponsive or dismissive, it’s a clear signal to reevaluate the situation. Walking away can be empowering, allowing room for someone who truly appreciates you!*
You nailed it with the need for personal boundaries when it comes to being disrespected. Not enough people consider just how much that represents where you rank in that person's mind. Thanks for sharing this!
Mmm..!
If she cancels the date by text. The best response is silence. The second best response...
Text: OK
(Wait 15 minutes)
Text: "hey, my schedule opened up. Want to hang out"? (Send)
Then text: "woops, wrong number.... nevermind".
Respond to nothing for 48hrs.
The 3rd idea to text her by mistake but on purpose is horrible idea. Someone whom I wasn't in love with used to do that and just thought they were so pathetic, and believe me I didn't care, so why do that? They don't care which is why your first 2 ideas are great. It's obvious when someone pretends to text you on accident, and painfully pathetic. Don't be that guy who's acting like you have boundaries but still emotional trying to get a reaction out of her. No no no..just move on without a word.
If I had a could write a letter to my 25 year-old self I would have told myself everything in this video. It would have saved me a lot of money, time and mental struggles over the years.
I will die before I ever take an ex back again.
If you need an expert to help you -- you're chasing the wrong woman.
an alpha doesn't chase women, it's weak beta if you are always pursuing - show interest but no to much interest. If you do everything right she will be chasing you. NEVER chase a woman
Heavy Metal last time i checked. Human beings arent dogs who rely on an alpha/beta hierarchy.
@@SKRooU2 if you are so perfect with women then why did you watch this?
Only people I've ever know to have women chase after them are rich trust funders and generous meth cooks.
Everyone else has zero luck.
@@Playboysmurf1 tryoffering to buy a woman a drink. That works.
6. She's married
And this doesn't have more likes for what reason again???? 🤔
7. She became ghost.
I just broke up with my daughter's figure skating coach, and I was a little vexed, but after a week, my productivity increased ten fold. I was getting EVERYTHING done, and that's when I knew it was a healthy agreement. She ran backwards to an unfavorable relationship, and that spoke in volumes in regards to her internal strength. I NEVER go backwards..... She swore she didn't either, but I digress, I have total well wishes for her, but when the mask falls off, believe what you discover.
So true.
Wish i knew this when i was young fella. Your words are 👌🏻, doing great job helping others. Been there, done that in my youth, misinformed, immature, stupid. She left me a blessing in disguise. Met my present wife, happily married 29 years. So glad we never married back then/had children/home etc...would have been a disaster. Good lord works in mysterious ways. 👋 🇦🇺 .
The best way to get her attention back is to removes yours...
Great content as always bro🔥
so true, its really the best way
That’s Craig Kenneth’s Quote 👍🏻
lalo rc how bro we used to talk so much and be so close 24/7 and all of a sudden she stopped and really had been dry with her texts and I really care for her too much, idk what do do
Itz Toxicc
May I say something ?
By having some self respect and valuing yourself
It’s hard I know
I’ve been there and suffered greatly more then anyone
You will get through this
It just takes time
I’ve just found someone 💯 x better then my LDR Ex.
Matty Kay thx bro and she just told me she misses her ex and still loves him and I can’t get over it I miss her she always made my day, she was the person I always looked foward to talking with
Your describing attachment styles. Anxious, Secure and Avoidant. When you really like someone your dominant style prevails. Self-awareness is key. Staying on your life’s purpose and path is key.
Great points here. Don't let it get to where you lose respect for yourself. If you see the signs, maintain your dignity and walk away. Calls, emails, professions of romance and remembering the good times will be to no avail. It's a hard lesson I learned myself but have grown emotionally since she left and am a stronger version of myself.
i have to be honest. this guy is actually a brave man he understood a lot
Get out of your emotions and talk to other women in front of her let her see you enjoying some other woman's company women hate being side steped
Hands down the best video about dating, did most of these without even thinking but they're sooooo true. The most important aspect being, be focused on you and make your life an adventure, someone will surely tag along that likes you. Never make them the focus of your life(Unless it's a marriage).
Like there aren't enough girls out there to just obsess over one, ditch the limiting beleifs and adopt an abundance mindset, trust me you'll find a girl just like you want her.
The problem I had when I was younger was that if there were other guys, I would try to be "the winner". And both times I "won" a bad woman to be my wife 😀
Ditto
That moment when the lifelong outcast realizes he wasn’t missing out on much.
I made that mistake, and eventually a different guy won my sack of trash. It's obvious in retrospect.
I got slapped by her and she is threatening to call the police. I think she likes me but she's a little shy and wants me to initiate.
I think she wants to get kinky with you!!
Lol I think you are my next bf
Deranged
"Walk away"
Ha Ha!
I look at my phone 24 days a week.
The proper term for “chasing the loss” is actually Escalation of Commitment. If you are suffering from this, you will convince yourself that you can recoup all losses on an investment if you just commit more resources instead of cutting your losses. Just like with gambling...if you’re not willing and able to lose what you put in the table, you shouldn’t be playing the game.
Another term for it is "sunk cost fallacy".
Admiral Ackbar Yessir, it is however that is more an expression of the same phenomenon when applied to the area of economics and business decision making where as escalation of commitment is more of a psychological reasoning methodology (so I’ve been told by people more knowledgeable in the field than myself). But, I agree with you 💯.
Sensible. 🤔😌
I just decided "f" dating I rather be alone. So much easier. I am almost 40. I don't have time to play any more games and deal with bullshit games.We come into the world alone and go out alone. that is how it is. So long suckers.
You’re not alone man.
That's pretty terrible man. I understand what you're feeling but I really hope that someone comes around and brings you some life like she did for me.
Im not much of a little speach type of guy but I think We were put on earth for a reason and the meaning to life is to love one another not avoid girls and dating type of stuff we were meant to keep the stuff going to keep the generation river flowing not to stop the river and make a lake we were meant to make kids and b there for each other and help each other
And again I'm not big on little speeches
@@bloodline1013 That was great man, couldn't have said it better myself
The point about dating other women is soo true. We get jealous, even if we don't like the man. If he is chasing after other women, due to our nature, we get really, really jealous.
@Larry Carter men are difficult too! One minute they're obsessed with you and driving across the country to spend time with you. The next minute they hardly have any time for you! Jesus. This is why we have to act uninterested because otherwise, you guys will lose interest!
So true when a women looses interest or moved on they can get quite disrespectful..
Yeah because they get thier confidence because they have plan B already lined up.
It's quite the game, and like many guys, I went through a long period of "conquest",with many encounters ensuing. That progressed to "catch and release", where just the knowledge that I could bed them was enough. Then, finally, I just lost interest in the whole sport, even with the availability of so many women in today's world. I moved on to more worthwhile things in Life. It also didn't hurt, that, when entering my mid fifties, women my age did not appeal to me at all. But, a game changer happened, and I met a girl 21 years younger than me. And we've been together now for 9 years. So, I guess, anything is possible.
@TIGERWOODSBOYFRIEND Very intelligent discourse. Thank you, so much, for sharing. And, very well spoken/written.
A lot of women are attracted to what they cannot have.
So are men.
i'm in the emotional quick sand right now.
it sucks.
bradOLF pittLER I feel your pain.
man they all like to play us, wtf you want me or not?.
DROP HER!!
My men just fuck them and go away they dont want you well ok just fuck her and look for another one they dont deserve your attention just fuck them and leave until one day you find one that fucks you too and doesnt let you go away.
I work with a girl, and we got along so damn well. We went on a couple of dates which also went well. We tried to have sex but sadly for me, I was suffering from erectile dysfunction. I told her recently that I like her more than a friend. She said she felt the same way. I even got flowers sent to her house, she loved them. Sadly, she hasn't wanted to hang out since. She still flirts with me at work and wants to sit next to me and chat at lunch but whenever I have asked her out she has politely declined. I was obsessing over her and telling myself I am worthless.
Thanks for this video, it has really helped me feel much better about walking away.
I definitely noticed that the "unavailable" girl does like that I'm seeing other chicks in my life. The thing I'm doing, is avoiding worrying about her, and just keeping the follow-up's casual (service improvements at local bars, etc). Approaching new people is becoming a quick addiction of mine!
Walk away and become a billionaire lol she'll come around
yea then tell her to get fukked LOL
if you don't improve yourself and learn how to handle them.. you will only attract gold digger with that mindset...
@@holehearted3723 exactly -she will use then divorce and take half your shit
MrMoss786 Well said bro, Best comment I’ve read👏🏽
@@kxngsanjay1683 how is that the best comment ?? if a guy has to have $ to get a woman that's about lame as fuk and a beta cuck -I wouldn't let a bitch talk half my $
I’m in Emotional Quicksand Bobby.
Met a woman about 6 weeks ago & I've been in emotional quick sand for the past 2 weeks....it's pretty unusual for me to be the chaser but she really threw me! I've been a bit too wordy in my communicating & I can sense her kinda recoiling. After watching this very informative video I feel as though the pent up emotion in my chest has evaporated & I'm going to walk away & be less keen & just see how things pan out.
I've been reading "The Multiorgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia and he talks about circulating sexual energy through your body. I found that really useful recently as I've had more success than usual with women and my sexual appetite has skyrocketed. Good way to harness that energy and not just let it explode or make me needy/desperate. I guess a good way to deal with emotional quicksand. I recommend it.
Stopped chasing weeks ago. I feel so happy now. No worries. My confidence is through the roof right now. Its gonna be impossible for women to not chase me now. In the best shape of my life,my goals and interests have been accomplished so fast-paced i have to keep adding new ones. I want nothing more than a true peaceful relationship, but if i have to shift focus away from myself and passions......then shes not the one for me.
I've watched probably 100 videos about my ex of 4 years left me for her ex within one month, you nailed it in this video, its exactly what she did and how I reacted.. thank you bra, I'll subscribe now. To build up my mental tool box.
Did she mention him often..? She probably wasn't over him at all..
They have a 10 year old daughter together. So not really , they always talked about their daughter. That's all I saw.
I really felt your coaching in this video. I was once treated like a trash until I noticed I'm emotionally affected. I learned that not all you wanted you can get or meant for you. I was nothing before and no special thing to offer until I focus on the things I love, work hard on my my desire job. I can't blame woman if they see nothing to me. Years goes by I myself into nobody to somebody.
Love your brutal honesty. Really helped to get me out of the needy zone
There was a woman whom I was interested in who frequented the cafe where I would go every day. She displayed a cool and detached demeanor to everybody, including me, until she saw another woman in the cafe who was interested in me. She knew that the other woman and I were having a relationship but she still tried to catch my attention and get friendly with me. After I broke up with the other woman the first woman and I went out on a few dates, until I realized that she had some very serious emotional issues and so I politely dumped her. She kept trying to get good with me on and off for the next two years but I purposely avoided her and so got free of her clutches.
Empathizing with the 'girls' here: This kind of obsessiveness is a turn off. Relationships aren't that complicated; they almost all start with some form of attraction. Focus on being attractive to the person or type of people you like and they will come willingly. It shouldn't be a predator/prey scenario, you shouldn't have to premeditate it to death. If there is a clear pattern of behavior, like women tailing off and avoiding conversations - ask yourself - is it something I'm doing? Is it because I tend to speak through my nose? Am I somehow sabotaging my own success? Can I do anything to change that? Etc...
If you can tell who loves who the most, walk away. It will never work as well as a relationship with someone else.
The world is full of members of the opposite sex. The one you’re interested in but unsure of her commitment to you right now has only 1 in a million chance of being perfectly suitable.
Are you really that lucky? No. No one is. Don’t be driven by wants over understanding.
Moral of the story: Waaalk away 😁 and she will come running back to you. Cheers!
Best thing is that.I got a nice girl..I'am staying with her..growing daily ,wish me good luck
I suggest you to check correy waynes video, he teaches a lot about how to retain the interest of women. Godbless you bro
Just started walking away 2 days ago... And looks like this advice is actually working 😎😎😎
"It is almost always the fault of one who loves not to realize when he ceases to be loved." Francios de La Rochefoucauld
I was living with a girl and I did the recoil when she tried to touch me. I know what they are feeling, it isn't disgust, it is frustration and anger that this person does not respect the line you have drawn. It's like they are trying to buy you off with affection instead of true compromise.
The fact that she is willing to talk to you means she is not repulsed, it means she is taking a stand. It is a stand that can't be glossed over with a little sweet talk and petting.
At 10:40, "A better Woman will come along." ...sorry bro...YEAH F*** RIGHT."
Any girl I like a lot sends me into emotional quicksand so I have the choice to be with girls I don't like very much or be alone.
This..makes..so..much..sense!!!!
I literally tried explaining this the other day. You worded it perfectly.
I’ve lived and seen both situations but if you’re gonna be unhappy with somebody u don’t like I’d rather be alone and somewhat happy.
Great advice. Walk away, and work on your self-improvement. I am making so much money now, it's incredible.
Fantastic!
i think your advice is great and that your a really intelligent guy you have good names for things eg.Chaseing the loss .
Man, you're better than my therapist. And I'm not exaggerating. You really studied human psychology well. Thanks.
This guy is super straightforward this is interesting
There are three ways or perspectives about how anyone, man or woman, sees themselves:
1) Who you think you are 2) Who other people think you are 3) Who you REALLY are.
Looking for approval is #2, and it puts one at the effect of the others and their opinions.
You are never entirely what other people think you are, and that includes a significant other.
Most of people who breakup first and use others normal karma does decipline them special leaving someone who loves you very much,normal God is always there you don't play with someone soul and feelings.
Holy shit, awhole lota grief and pain was brought to the forefront. All 5 are on my list and I didnt even know, my reasoning was because of my insecurities and lack of experience. I couldnt and would not want to move on. This has single handedly saved me from future unnecessary pain. Truly thank you! Subscribed. Ps I had to let go and forgive alot stuff, which stem from my issues with my mom.
I walked away emotionally once when I started recognizing the other guy around. They eventually married. I stayed friends w/ her & became friends w/ him. Eventually, he did me a huge favor. But it was worth the 'trouble' 'merely' to stay friends w/ her.
what did you gain being friends ?? I know it didn't land you any pussy LOL -I don't have time for that friendzone BS
That’s really odd bro,don’t know how you did it.
@@SKRooU2:
Like I said, her hubby did me a huge favor. It was ginormous. And I gained a lot in the attempt; her & I mostly weren't in the cards. (Yeah, I might've played them differently, but by definition, hindsight is 20/20.)
@@michaelking9818:
I decided to be realistic rather than bitter. And we had enough common friends @ the time; nothing to be gained by being a public jerk about it. I do that too well as it is.
GeorgenotSmith2 That’s a really good mind set bro .
Word of the day, "Walk away!". Thanks for the advice, Sir.
A word to the wise...
Alpha males don’t worry about this nonsense. Confidence is always king.
The man knows he doesn’t give damn what you think of him. But he will know in 5 mins whether or not you are his equal.
Many women don’t make the grade. Simple
clarence gibbonz its called self respect mate.
I just went through this and although painful I will never allow that quicksand to take me down again.
Living in Thailand has it’s advantages.... 🙏🏻
There will always be one of the conditions you mentioned to Walk Away, so I will always be Walking Away.
Chasing a loss is like sunk cost fallacy .
Mmm..!
My opinion never let an undecided woman waste any more of your time.
All i can say to any woman is hold on to your looks if you have them as long as you can.......it's all you have and the only reason most men even talk to you.
Yup when things and fellings starting to change and she got no times for you that's out of your control.. It telling you that it time to prepare a new one so you ain't the one that getting hurt.. never try to fix a broken relationship cause it will always end up the same way