BROKE FROM FRAGRANCE SHOPPING?!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- From fragrance & shopping addiction to mindful spending 😌
Some tips and tricks on how to avoid over- spending and wasting your money and instead spend mindfully and set a budget - from one shopaholic to another 😉
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I got into this habit, where I was watching influencers daily and became a compulsive consumer. I was maxing out Klarna, hiding the packages and lying about the contents, never satisfied with what I had. My collection jumped from 8 bottles to 54 in the space of a year and a half. I only stopped when someone close to me pointed out how unhealthy it had become (and it really had). It was hard to face at first. My cure was to go cold turkey. I have enforced a straight up ban on fragrance shopping for a year. I deleted Klarna off my phone and haven't used it since. I had to accept that there is a void and I filled it with a more meaningful hobby that won't make me broke :)
All addictions are due to a void. We all internally feel this, to some degree, like we are not enough. I ended up with 400 bottles of nail polish due to watching influencers on TH-cam. I also have a bathroom full of expired makeup. Some people try to fill this void with food, some gambling, some shopping….its all the same.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing! I appreciate your honesty! I wish you all the best on your journey 🤍🤍🤍
Wow!! This sounds like me right now
What’s with y’all that do not have self control??? I’m glad you were able to find some but what the heck
@@martianlynch6769I’m glad you have self control on all aspects of your life, except for your need to project and criticise.
Wow how times have changed! When I was a young lady in the 80’s 90’s no one had collections. People had a few perfumes on their dressers of their favorite scents and didn’t buy another until they finished the bottle. Now these influencers have tried to normalize this idea of massive walls of perfume. And the way they try to get people to buy $200, $300…and up perfume like it’s no big deal!
I love your channel though and never feel like you’re trying to push something on us. You’re just explaining your experience and love for a perfume. 🙂
Fellow oldie here, lol. I can't believe the size of the collections I see online. On the one hand, I'm envious, but on the other hand, all I can think is it's like a down payment on a house lol. I would guess people carry a lot of debt as a result.
I think in reality few people actually have very large collections (at least people that i know) but social media can sometimes skew our perception of things. Thank you so much for your compliment, i really appreciate it! ❤️🌹
I always collected fragrances since high school but I always respected my set budget.
This new fad is crazy
Just stop window shopping and that means online too. That includes not watching influencers. Trust.
Thanks for addressing this topic. It’s never nice to have financial problems for a habit. I think even if we use all the 38ish perfume I have I won’t finish it even in a lifetime so can’t imagine having 300 or more because you will never finish. What I love to do is lists like wish list best of roses etc… then when Christmas of my birthday approaches I consider getting one :)
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I recently got back into fragrance and to make sure I don't overspend, I decided to only buy decants. And only of fragrances that I really love. Setting limits for yourself helps. And also thinking about the occasions you will wear them for, and how often you actually have those types of occasions occur in your life.
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Where do you buy your decants?
Yep I got sucked into this trap , it does become addictive. In the end you only end up chasing bottles spending to much AND not taking the time to enjoy your fragrance. I realised quite quickly and snapped out of it sold a lot on ( at a considerable loss ). Now I very rarely blind buy if ever and sample shopping is my first port of call before I commit to a full bottle. Saved a fortune as I've found of all the samples I've tried I've only moved on to a full bottle two or three times. Most important thing though is enjoy your fragrance not acquiring fragrance for the sake of it.
What sucks is I’m not broke but I have soooo many fragrances now and I don’t wear a lot or don’t like anymore and hard to sale so feel I’ve wasted money and get mad at myself lol
Try using the ones you don't like as air freshener for the bathroom. Still takes a loooong time to use it up, but it's amazingly effective.
I have about 60 perfumes, and I always look for some new love which is going to mach with my personality...I think that I am lookimg for signature. 😮
It doesn't exist. I've tried and was never satisfied with just one. I just looked at the bottles I put dents in and consider those my signatures. Only 5 bottles, so I'm getting rid of everything else. I stopped blind buying and buying samples. After a while a lot things start to smell redundant. I realize I'm not missing out. There aren't many fragrances that wow me and even some that do just aren't my style, so while I appreciate them, I'll never wear them.
Get samples instead
You can exchange with your friends the ones you dont like much, I did that a couple of times and I could discover more fragances without spending money. Good luck
I’ve spent… $7,500 in fragrances this year. My collection grew from 8 to 30. All niche and top tier fragrances. Creed, MFK, Tom Ford Private, Clive Christian HAH.
I’ve cut myself off for 2024 now. The thing is: you never actually scratch the itch. We’re simply shopping addicts. Trying to obtain some perfect scent or feeling of status 😅
I think I have 25 total and this even is still too much. I find myself reaching for maybe a top 6.
Eventually I want to get my collection down to 10. 5 spring/summer favorites and 5 fall/winter. That’s really more than enough to rotate.
I once had 25-30 a couple of years ago, now im down to about 8 bottles and a few decants and its more than enough. I also like being known to smell a certain way, I think I could have 5 of my favourite scents and be happy
@@Kadaf1 exactly right. I want to have a couple of scents that people identify me to. My sister and aunt have signatures and everytime I smell it anywhere automatically I think of them
I only hace 2 fragrances, I don't need to much my 2 IA perfect for all seasons winter summer etc.:))
Window shopping comparison is super easy for me controls inpulsive shopping plus test drive only one you like then out of the ones you like which one was the one stood out to you and season or year round fragrance that can turn love classic that's what I do once all boxes are check are you willing to pay the price then consider your stash and see if is bottle worthy plus ask do like long hrs fragrances or ist fine just ok to replying as well if it will work in your live everyday life are you working person that you won't choke others and having respect for other workers . Hope this helps it works for me or you must have alot fragrances in your stash suggestions start off with mist reason why is cheaper you have more options and for some you don't have to reply as much but very few do that but you can try .
I needed to hear this. Thank you so much!
Very wisely said! important topic and you went trough each point very nicely! Loved it!
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agree for 100% !!!!
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You are very beautiful!
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We need more female influencers talking about investing , saving , planning for retirement, making good financial decisions , with some occasional treats ! ❤
Good video
I AGREE with you! I feel I dont drink at all, dont smoke or any drugs, I dont go to restaurants at all. I pay my all bills, ofcourse taxes, and household stuff, save almost 20-33% of my income monthly and have a strict shopping budget but within that budget I SPEND, and dont think twice and really enjoy. Shopping to me is a reward of the strict discipline, cooking all those meals at home, childcare when we dont call nanny ever, and work tirelessly to improve my home. So depends how we spend it :) I love my shopping time.
To enjoy our collection and what we already have, it’s a good idea to try layering :) it helps with cravings for novelty!
Layering is great! 😊
Unfollowed a lot of infuencers. They get paid for litterly every link you click on, and half of the stuff they don't even use themselves.
I have ADD and it's a known thing that we hyperfocus on something for dopamine. One year it's shein orders, the next year it's perfumes..
I stopped shopping/blind buying in november because me and my bf bought a house so I'm proud of myself.💪🏼
Aka stop letting social media influence impulsive purchases
Wise words Rose! The reality is the product is actually the customer. Savouring what you have and exercising gratitude for it is a good tip. Rotate your fragrances. to keep it fresh. First get a sample and only once finished, consider if you want a full bottle. Nothing is unlimited as limited editions. Finally, balance is important. You don't need to stop just slow down and take up other hobbies and pastimes.
Well said! 🙌☺️
Hi Rose! Blindbuying is like a rabbit hole - sort of never ending 😆 The 'fear of missing out' is also a big one.
Great rips 👍
Totally! So easy to fall into it... Thank you 🥰☺️
I blind bought 6 Clive Christian fragrances. Each one smells so good. But I was playing a very dangerous game.
I’ve now cut myself off from anymore fragrance shopping for 2024
1000% agree. I’ve basically stopped buying and only will buy when I really have fully finished a whole sample. Now I have fewer larger bottles of only what I love. I don’t need everything in the collection. Sometimes a sample or travel size is all you need.
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You are absolutely right!! Travel sizes are so convenient, easier to go thru, saves some coins and helps keep your collection more moderate.
Great advice! I've set a limit of 30 bottles in my collection. If I have 30 and want something new I will sell something else and put that money to the new purchase. I still get decants and samples but am very selective about what full bottles I purchase.
That's a great idea! ☺️🌸
Just be careful because that is another kind of addiction. It's like being a bulimic shopaholic. You buy and purge just to keep buying.
@@michita7838 You're right. I'm in this stage of decluttering and buying other fragrances and I want to stop. I managed to stop my overconsumption of makeup, shoes and clothes and now I'm in the perfume stage. It's not easy though
I live in the rural mountains and don’t have immediate access to most things. The way I purchase fragrances is first I get a sample, if I use up and love the whole thing, I will get a travel size if possible, and if I still love it once the travel is used up, I put it on a wish list and wait for a sale, and only buy things that are already on my wishlist. I’ve saved so much money this way. The fragrances I’ve had to de-clutter in the past were things I liked at initial smell and bought on impulse, or blind buys. I also don’t buy limited edition because I don’t want to fall in love with something and never be able to get it again, and I don’t like being pressured by scarcity mental games.
That sounds like a great way to avoid overspending ☺️🤍
Why buy so many full bottles at all?
I have around 20 FBs of all time favorites that I rotate a lot (I wear more than I perfume a day - an office scent, an afternoon scent, and sometimes an evening scent if I go out).
The rest are a few decants and lots(!) of samples - So actually I have a huge collection of more than 100 different scents at my disposal, that fits on one big shelf and doesn't break the bank. Whenever I finish a sample, I buy the next one.
I don't suffer from FOMO, though I did buy a few discontinued/vintage scents for my pleasure and delight :)
Btw, I never blind buy FBs or decants. I always try/test samples on my skin first.
No need to be a big spender to enjoy the magical world of fragrances.
I see we have a similar approach to rotating fragrances - I also tend to have different fragrances for office, afternoon and evening 😊
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I have 200+ bottles...so this year I decided to buy only travel sprays and decants!! If I use those then I will purchase full bottles!!
Great idea!! 💗💖 I’m much more selective now as well ☺️
Why would anyone need over 200 bottles?
@@Kadaf1 As a collector myself, it's not a matter of needing, it's a matter of wanting..
Thanks for making this kind of content❤.
It s very rare nowadays to not see a YT pushing you to purchase.
Thank you so much! ☺️💗💗 I hope I can find a balance between sharing things I like without endorsing people to overconsume 🤍
I agree with you and i need to stop as well.. ☹
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My advice is slow right down rather than stop. Trust yourself to make the right decisions
I'd also add, know what you like and what goes with your lifestyle, so that you can get your money's worth per use! And if I like it but won't get much use out of it, then I get the smaller bottle or a travel spray. That has saved me a lot of money!
Yes! Very true, great point! 🙌☺️
I can really relate to what you say. I've been on a no-buy for a couple of weeks now, and in a way it's really liberating. It feels so good to get more use of what I already own. I think we really tend to forget about what we already have and it's worth to remind ourselves to redirect our attention to our own collection because it consists of items we once dreamt about and wanted. I try to fight the dopamine-hunger concerning new stuff. That rush wears off so quickly anyway and sometimes what remains after is only guilt.
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A colleague was evicted from her apartment because of fragrance shopping. Seeing her eating the free popcorn from the lounge and sleeping in the office was a red flag.
🫣 I hope she is doing better now 🙏
This video came to me at the right time 😅 It’s realistic. I was about to splurge on fragrances from Parfums De Marly and other niche fragrances but after watching this I realized I don’t need them for the time being and it’s only a want. I already have a collection of designer bottles that aren’t finished and should be satisfied with them. You’re right, it’s about being happy with what you already have and making the most out of it. 😊
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Yes I live in the country and do not get to Toronto as often as I would like and so I do blind buy many and can readily admit most are just OK. Nothing wrong with them at all but in my personal opinion don't live up to the hype of everyone else. Again not saying they are unpleasant just not what I was hoping for. Now at least there is a Sephora 45 mites away in both directions.
I never blind buy at all. I cant afford big bottles so I do decants and travel sizes only and i enjoy fragrances just as much as a person with 200+ bottles.
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Yeah I definitely don’t blind buy either.
A good idea is to exchange the ones you dont like with fam, friends, etc... I did that a couple of times and I could discover new scents without spending money.
I ve sold some of them too, on facebook market place or fb groups.
Well we have to be creative here cause is almost imposible to afford buying fragances, they are super overpriced and we dont have all of them in stores. 😢
Gostei muito do seu vídeo e vou compartilhá-lo. Um beijo do Brasil!
70 bottles in less than a year. Im on a no buy. For every two full bottles I use up, I plan to buy a 50ml until I’m down to 24 bottles.
I think the solution to this is to buy only decants and samples and only get 1 or 2 full bottles a year of only the perfumes that you personally identify with.
I buy decants before ANY full bottle purchase, I have found that while I appreciate tons of scents I only enjoy wearing a small few-only buy when I know I'm going to wear it ALOT.
That’s a great way to do it ☺️🙏
Very important topic, thanks for talking about it!
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Hi rose ,Absolutely 💯 Agree and this past year has been an eye opener for me !
I have un subscribed from all the websites so I’m not tempted anymore and also stopped watching as many content creators ,I will always struggle with tendency to over buy so these tips are always so helpful.
I love to shop my stash
Hugs Frances ❤
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I’m not even that into fragrance but I’ll always watch a video reminding people they have enough and don’t need to overbuy
I stopped buying as well 40,000 later over 3 years. I still enjoy videos from a very select few, and will on occassion order a 5ml from scent split but i would rather allocate my money elsewhere.
Sillage by gb,decantx and micro perfumes, and scent split do decants/ samples
Also lucky scent dose samples
What a lovely gift, this video for us to reflect and learn ❤ new sub because of this. I want to be more healthy with the way I use shopping. Thanks for this 😊
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🙏 Thank you I needed to see this
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Not problem for me im rich😎
had been there... I am still there but I stop it right now
All the best to you ☺️🙌
What a beauty!
Whats wild to me is, I have around 70 if I count bottles and travels (not samples) and I already found my few signature scents! WHY do I keep buying more? The thing is my favorites aren’t even that expensive or niche in fact most niche I hated so I really need to stop now before its too late. Thank you for this ❤
Had to put the brakes on my fragrance shopping,now it's Looney Tunes Christmas ornaments.Hi Rosie🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹Great advice though.
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Thanks for great adivice Rose, it’s truly soo important to practice gratitude.
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The right video at the right time.
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I appreciate this, it was real. I had this problem with following home decor content creators and realized how many times I was going to homegoods, Target, TJ Maxx etc trying imitate what others had in their home. I had to stop following them for a while until I realized “I” was the problem. Same now with fragrance content creators, you’ll find yourself going down a rabbit hole. Now a lot of these sites allow you to use Klarna, after pay etc and you’ll find yourself maxing those out. I found myself at BBW/VS more than often and I was also using after pay on fragrances trying to get my collection like others. I remember back in the day you would just have a few fragrances on your dresser now it’s like a library shelf. You also have to be careful because most of these creators get commission on some of their products they’re reviewing, which most of the time I don’t really believe their review since it’s $ involved. Kudos for you for making this video, this hit home!!
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It helped me to get rid of purchasing more and more which I ended up not liking after a few days. Thanks Rose for such an helpful video at the right time that really helped me out. I totally agree with your sentiment.
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Great advice! I just canceled one orders that I absolutely did not need 👍🏾
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Thank you for this Video. ❤❤❤❤❤
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You right thanks a lot
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Great advice.😊
Glad you think so! ☺️🙌
Thank you!!!
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blind buying 3 mancera today , help me !!!
Buy decants from a group in Facebook?
Oh no, I hope you didn’t! 😮 try to test them first in a store or buy decants or travel sizes if available. 🤗 also, if unopened you should still be able to return ☺️
How did you like them?
Thank you so much for this video❤❤❤i agree so much🙏🙏 you see influencers speaking about 400€ perfumes like it would be nothing.. i instead opt for perfume oils (take less space) and dupe houses like oakcha or perfume oil
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