Hey, it's God's fault. If he had not told Abraham to sacrifice his son, only to have and angel explain that it was just a test at the last second, none of us would be "circ'd up"...
I love how the most horrible people who say the most out of pocket things are always the most surprised when they get buttoned, like you can see the confusion, the hurt on their face as they ask "why'd you reject me?? I only said I kill babies and eat their bones, why would you hit the button faster than humanly possible??"
Baby girl can refer to really any person! We have our girly baby girls, we have non-binary baby girls, we have male baby girls! Most of the time it refers to “nerdy” guys. “Feminine” guys. It is just a term of the endearment for anyone :))
@@queen_meat I agree, but his idea of what gentle parenting is throws me off. Gentle parenting promotes understanding and communication, it doesn't mean you don't discipline your kid/let them get away with everything. He should educate himself more on what it means to gentle parent and why when done right it's a better method than slapping kids around.
That would happen to me at school. The teacher would say something that made me get lost in my mind and Im come back to reality not knowing how much time had passed but I had no idea what they were now talking about so Id be lost.
for cooper’s mum: babygirl is the most prestigious title you can give to a person, period. it means you raised a wonderful son who also has a really cool dog!
Imagine being there and the woman your talking to says “I don’t believe in physical discipline” and you respond with “I would beat my kids” then wonder why she rejected you
Ikr 😭 he literally implied he would physically harm her children and then wondered why she didn't wanna be involved with him?? She would have to be the worst mother ever to ignore that. That's not even a red flag, it's just a straight up confession of being an abusive person
I had an ex bf and I knew that he was going to be my ex the moment that he defended his friend physically assaulting her 3 year old in front of us. The situation; Child was well behaved but a bit wound up as she had company over in her small apartment, when the child asked her very nicely to read a story to him what she did was scream at the child in anger and drag the child off by the arm to his room where she beat him on the bottom so hard much harder than I would ever feel comfortable hitting a consenting adult. My ex completely supported and defended her behavior and that was when I knew that we would not have any future together. I wish I would have reported what I saw to CPS but I did not, I was only 19.
@@ThimbleFox350 Oh gosh that’s horrible, and some people would still call that “discipline.” It’s sick. That’s straight up abuse and nothing could excuse it. What is a 3 year old gonna learn from that? Don’t ask mommy questions? Don’t talk in public? Genuinely so disturbing.
for coopers mom; babygirl is what we call people who are precious and loveable, and a little silly goofy. it's just a silly little way to say "wow, he's so funny and precious" (and other things like that)
Honestly, regardless of race, a shaved head with a "rats tail" is just... giving Angelicas doll from the rugrats... I think miley cyrus has the same hair rn 😂
Learning that Cooper listens to Hozier was like when you're reading a book and all the plot threads are starting to connect. Of course he does, yes, that makes perfect sense. We need a Tier List (tipsy or not) of Hozier songs.
For cooper's mother, baby girl essentially means a sweet ol' boy, the nice type, the precious type. It is mostly used for people who look like the "bad boy" at first glance but are actually very soft. A cutie if you will.
@@shruubbs I feel like it does say a lot if they don't flinch, but it definitely doesn't mean anything if they do and they're jumpy. If a dog doesn't flinch when someone raises a hand at them they're definitely being treated well because they don't understand that that could even mean getting hit, but ya some dogs just be jumpy so it doesn't work in reverse if ya feel.
So, I'm a parent. Not a gentle parent, but I don't hit or yell at my kids. But that doesn't mean giving in to your kids demands and tolerating disrespect. Discipline can also mean taking things away, giving them things to do that they aren't normally responsible for, or having to earn things back. Discipline doesn't always mean hitting.
And gentle parenting doesn't mean you don't discipline your kids. I feel like not enough people are really interested in learning about gentle parenting and what it truly means and methods. The immediate thought is "oh you just spoil your kids". Not saying this is your way of thinking, just something I noticed. Toni Phantom (they/them) and Pleasant Peasant Media (Gwenna) are really awesome mothers who talk about gentle parenting and share real life experiences with their kids while also respecting their privacy if you wanna learn more.
Make sure you don't punish them with household tasks- that can make them still feel like a negative thing and a chore when they grow up and have to do those things!
@@Cheerleader644860 the post said they wanted this guy at their funeral. I said that they were the kid he was referencing. I made a joke- not commenting on the one liner from him I using it to make a joke here. 🤷🏻♀️ I’m also from the south in the US. I hear this all the time in Walmart. Not even shocking. 🤷🏻♀️
cooper is so relieving to watch when u have adhd, cause usually i cant focus on a youtube video and i gotta like pause and take breaks multiple times in order to finish it, but cooper just goes on so many tangents that im always stimulated and i never lose focus lmao LUV U BBYGIRL
i dont have adhd but Im extremely prone to tangents, love when he dos that it makes me feel normal like, "oh other people do that in convo too?" commentary YTers are usually so straight forward
Reading everyone explain babygirl to Cooper’s mom is almost as entertaining as watching Cooper’s emotional rollercoaster around the morality of judging others. 😂
Cooper: Goes on a whole rant about how if unfair for her to not want a guy that is uncut Cooper a minute later: "its okay to have preferences" *I just find that so funny
I love that when he raises his hand and pretends like he's about to hit his dog he defends himself so adamantly but really the dog's reaction is all the defense he needs He didn't even flinch you can tell he wouldn't hit him XD
Stretching is also a good way to show your dog (i think even cat) that they can relax and that the situation isn't as dangerous as they might think. Helpful for anxious animals.
A guy not letting his girlfriend have guy friends is a huge red flag, but here I think it's countered by the green flag of talking it out and taking it on a case-by-case basis. I like this guy.
I think being spoiled is fine but what you just said is not spoiled it is a lack of attention from the mother so he feels alone or he could get no respect for bonders form his mother
That’s what I was thinking. Cause I have definitely dealt many, many, many with children who’ve not been properly parented, but spoiled rotten. His ex heard “work from home” and thought “free babysitting”
For Cooper's mum: calling someone (especially men) babygirl is just a way of calling them cute. Like calling him a sweetheart or a cutie pie, but more joking in tone :)
Okay I'm paused at 15 min in so i could be wrong, but i don't think that tristan thinking the kid is spoiled by his partner's "gentle parenting" necessarily means he thinks corporal punishment or authoritarian parenting is okay. There's definitely uninformed people who think "gentle parenting" means no parenting at all and they can produce spoiled rude kids. That said, if he DOES mean he thinks the kid should have been spanked and parented in an authoritarian style, I would also pass on him. I do like the hair and nails though, idk what those other girls are on about.
Was scrolling through to see if anyone else said it. Yes, there’s so many people who do “gentle parenting” wrong and give no consequences for anything, then end up with kids that have no sense of personal responsibility. Those kids then go around other people or go to school and do whatever they want because there are never consequences for them. I really doubt he was implying “beating” children, but if he was, then obviously, drop that man!
I agree. I also felt like he was talking more about him not being able to give consequences at all. I have read a lot of stories where a step-parent figure isn't allowed to discipline the kids at all because they're not the bio parent. If he was merely a boyfriend and is spending most of the day with this child, its completely possible that the girlfriend didn't allow him to parent at all and that probably got frustrating.
I saw it as the mom never showing her son right from wrong, showing him consequences, or saying no. There are plenty of way to teach and discipline a child without abusing them. But idk ig many people think it’s either abuse or spoiling the child rotten
I’m so glad someone else pointed this out, extremes exist on either side, and the way he explained it sounds very much like the way-too-soft gentle parenting that does absolutely NOTHING to teach a child.
I also paused and scrolled to see if anyone mentioned this. His statement, to me, came across more like being frustrated at the lack of consequences for the child's actions. And I agree, his sense of style is dope. I don't even have anything to add; it's like you read my mind 😁
I think what Tristan meant was that he wasn't allowed to discipline, a lot of parents don't like it when their current partner starts acting like a parent to their kids.
@@bree789-x8cnah, the term gentle in parenting isn't about violence or not, it's the way you talk to them and teach them. It's meant to give them critical thinking skills and autonomy in making good choices when done right. Keyword though is "right" because a lot of people say they're gentle parents when what they mean is that they're a doormat and let their kids rule the house. And it very much sounds like Tristan was describing the latter, and he wasn't cool with that.
18:42 verbatim this is my motto!!! It’s so wild to hear someone else talk about used cars like this, I love it!! I’ve never had a car payment and I’ve been driving for almost 20 years 😊
I 1000% get where Great Value Drake is coming from when it comes to disciplining children who aren't yours-it can be a very tricky thing. "Discipline" doesn't always equal corporal punishment, it can be something as simple as verbally correcting a child, putting them in "time-out," taking away certain privileges, etc. So, I'm almost certain what he was getting at is that-being that he was at home with his exes child all day long-he was apprehensive about what his role was as an authority figure. If the child is acting out and being unruly, is it within his right to use his better judgment on how to correct the child, or does he just let the child run all over him because he's not the child's father? It's a tough spot to be in, for all parties involved.
Two things. 1) You are absolutely correct about Ross and Rachel and 2) The only thing more tragic than no one finding love on the button is Cooper getting cut off mid explaining his background
I have never been more seen and understood when I heard Cooper talking about new cars. Thank you. The number of people who don't like that I like and prefer used cars is astounding.
I love the part where you (briefly) mention the Bible and feel the need to palette cleanse by chanting "gay marriage" and "trans rights". As a queer person and former christian, this just really amuses me~
Kinda makes me sad that religion is so tied to bigotry people feel the need to make disclaimers like that, to that degree. I’m a queer atheist but know and respect so many lovely pro LGBTQ religious folks.
Juuuuuust for the record, there is often a discrepancy between people with kids and their new partners (not brand new, whoever they are moving forward in their life with, you know, moving in with or marrying or whatever) as far as discipline goes. A lot of people with kids don’t think their partner should discipline their child ~at all~, no matter what, even if it’s telling them not to jump on a bed or sending them to their room for something. I don’t know if that was Tristan’s issue, but it was definitely mine in a past relationship, so I get feeling awkward about maybe wanting to tell the kid to be quiet when he’s working or send the kid to their room or something, and maybe his ex didn’t like that. 🤷🏻
And I was also thinking there’s a difference between gentle parenting with discipline (like being stern or having rules/boundaries) and gentle parenting that leads to a spoiled child ya know? It also almost seemed like the relationship may have been a “well you work from home so you have time to watch my kid” kinda deal which could have put a strain on the discipline thing too.
@@mandymagnolia1966 Yeah a lot of ppl miusunderstand what "gentle parenting" means and he couldve meant no rules or consequences irresponsible let-your-kid-do-whatever-they-want type situation. I have a feeling maybe he didnt mean that w the word "discipline" but ppl use that word many different ways so im not gonna assume what he meant one way or the other.
@@idonotresidehere.5709 Right? The way he was talking about discipline, her being a gentle parent, and the kid being spoiled kinda made me think it was more “my kid’s an angel” or a pushover/give my kid whatever they want kinda parent 🤔
@@mandymagnolia1966 Yeah maybe, but its also possible that he meant exactly what cooper thought he did. No reason "gentle" should mean irresponsible but tbf those were her words he was just responding to, so its not unlikely that those wouldnt be the ones he would normally use.
honestly a 45 min cooper video witb random side tracks is literally so amazing bc it feels more like hes talking with us not at us yk? also the random rants are literally how my brain be braining so thanks cooper for being so bbg
This is a message to coopers mother (explaining the phrase baby girl) 8:31 So basically 'baby girl' is fandom slang a male fictional character or celebrity of whom one is extremely fond especially a "bad boy" type reinterpreted as adorable,quirky or secretly soft hearted. Obviously theres alternate meanings so thats only one of the meanings hope this helped!
as a woman who loves fantasy and is still incredibly mad i wasn't born as an elf as is my birthright, IF YOU HAVE A SWORD. IF YOU ARE A MAN WITH A SWORD. SHOW ME. THATS MARRIAGE MATERIAL
My boyfriend is a weapons nerd and a Star Wars boy and I have witnessed lightsaber fights between his friends, and also I ask him for advice about cool swords. I can confirm, marriage material, show me your cool swords 😂
For Tristan's case, gentle parenting can often go too gentle. My boyfriends neighbors are gentle parents and they kinda let go of their kids in general. They don't teach them to be calm at certain points or to use inside voices or to not try to peek over the fence into others backyards etc. Those kids are screaming and rioting all they and they never say ANYTHING. Only when one gets hurt they come in and do they lecture them about their behaviour and safety? No. They go "oh my baby come to mommy lemme kiss your booboo". One could kill the other and they wouldn't lecture or anything they would go "oh baby were you scared? Are you okay? It's okay mommy is here!" Like don't yell at your kids but damn step up and give them a stern talk at some points Edit: "that's just neglect" I know that, but that's what the parents call gentle parenting. Their excuse is they need to see how the world works for themselves and learn how to deal with it alone. These kids are 3 and 5 btw!
I know what you mean, I know a kid like that. His mom’s always making excuses for him, but it only serves to mold him into a little monster. It’s because they have low expectations of their kids accompanied by still giving lots of praise. High expectations + high praise is the best way to raise kids- and psychology will back me up on that lol.
This is exactly what I thought too. I feel like an elaboration on the discipline differences was warranted. Cause a lot of people who think gentle parenting think of ppl who don't discipline their child at all rather than true gentle parenting
This episode had a suspiciously large amount of normal people, it's so uncomfy for me to see people on this show actually capable of carrying conversation and having genuine discussions. It felt wrong
I also really respect tristen for not wanting to date a girl with kids because the trauma kids with single parents (not just mothers PARENTS) go through being introduced to the dates and partners just to see them broken up is terrible. I know not all single parents introduce their kids to their partners but I still think it would be hard for all parties even the ex partner after building a relationship with this child just to never see them again
Same. They both handled that well, he wasn't disrespectful about her having a kid and she was incredibly gentle and understanding when talking to him about his experience and boundaries.
Facts. My mom had 5 different partners throughout my life she introduced us(my sister and I)to. Only 2 of them I cared for( one died when we were young, the other cheated and him and my mom were already growing apart due to his alcoholism). The other 3 were toxic, abusive, and manipulative(my sperm donor included). Her last one made me want to unalive myself and contributed to me finally developing bulimia to deal with the stress.
My cousin is in a relatonship with a woman who has two kids. She introduced them to us at new year and they love me immensely. I don't wanna know how the kids will feel when my cousin and her break up. The younger of the two really likes my cousin too which is probably worse...
As someone who was a kid in that situation, i can confirm this. I wouldn’t say it traumatized me, necessarily, but i can 100% understand how it could traumatize someone. It hurt a lot when we had to go (we were staying with him at his house), it felt like all the progress made by finding them (he had kids too) was ruined in an instant. A little bit venty but i’m being honest
i'm not a big barbecue person (aka vegetarian) but you should definitely try Brazilian churrasco. Here are 5 facts: 1. All churrascarias (steakhouses) work in an all-you-can-eat way, or rodízio. 2. At a churrascaria, each server comes to the table bringing a giant metal skewer with a cut of meat for you to choose if you want it or not. 3. The most liked cuts are the sirloin cap, filet mignon, rump steak, pork loin, a type of sausage called linguiça, and chicken heart. 4. It's usually served with rice, beans, shoestring potato, mayonnaise salad, garlic bread, grilled fruits and seasoned corn flour (farofa). 5. It's a very important part of brazilian culture, it's very common on Sunday afternoons with LOTS of caipirinha (lime, sugar and pinga/vodka), samba, all the liked and disliked family members and more caipirinha :)
Cooper's Mom: Everyone is rocking the Baby Girl descriptions, so I'm just going to say thank you for helping mold such an amazing man. We need more Coopers in the world. ❤
That was my instant reaction. I'm a trainer & rescuer. You can always spot the dogs who have never had a hand raised in anger. They don't flinch. Gustav is soooooo loved and it shows.
Yes but my cat (who I've owned his entire life and have only punished him with a spray bottle) acts like I'm going to beat him if I raise my hand at him 😭
I love and appreciate that even when you were jokingly motioning to hit your sweet baby doggo he didn’t even react. He has only known you as a loving hand and I’m glad he is in your care ❤
As a kid of divorce (and a person who hasn't watched the full video so I don't know if Tristan admits to wanting to hit the kid), I get what Tristan saying when it comes to disciplining the child. By disciplining, I mean like telling them no and grounding them and shit, not hitting them. It can be difficult for a kid to adjust to your presence, especially when they're spoiled, to the point that they may begin to resent you as a new point in their life if you attempt to discipline them too harshly too soon. You also have to account for your partner's parenting style and how their household works. You provide a huge disruption to the dynamic and telling a kid no in the wrong way could lead to a whole mess of issues, especially when you are the only adult there and do not want to be. If you don't have your partner backing you up, the kid will not see your authority and just get mad you can just tell them what to do even when they don't know you yet. If you do have your partner backing you up, they can think you're ganging up on them and become aggressive. If you are made to just become the babysitter when you have other things to do and the kid just wants their mom, the amount that you are in their life now can create a hostile environment between both of you. I can get why Tristan wouldn't want to go through that again.
Another child of divorce here and your comment is so real. In my case, I wouldn’t have minded being disciplined by my (former) stepdad as much if he held his biological son to the same standards
the only reasonable person in this comment section. cuz discipline doesn't mean beating. and a lot of people say "gentle" parenting for parents who don't atually discipline their child at all. that's not gentle parenting, but because it's seens as softer, it gets a bad rep
i love how cooper goes on little rants for absolutely no reason im omw to a blackbelt in tkd (im one step away & 13) and seeing cooper being one too was honestly perfect lmao i love you cooper, you’re so funny and goofy and smart and absolutely kenough. you’re my fav ytber and honestly my comfort ytber, i look forward to all of your videos and they make me so happy and excited every time. :3 love the new place 💗‼
14:39 I wanna defend homeboy here, I had a neighbor I was friends with works from home while his partner worked out of home and he ended up being a babysitter more than a boyfriend, his girlfriend didn’t even let him put her kid in timeout, either because gentle parenting or because she didn’t want him disciplining her son. But at some point you have to understand that your child care provider, whether it’s a partner, paid stranger, or family has a right to discipline the child, now always ALWAYS make it clear discipline ≠ hitting
Yea, that was one thing I was wondering, was this ex a "gentle-parent" or a gentle parent, the difference being someone who doesn't vs does discipline their kid, the one that doesn't is only using the "gentle-parent" title to cover for why their child is a brat, and in which case he may have meant he does believe in discipline but not hitting the child and wasn't sure whether he had the right to discipline a child not his but a partner's. Alternatively he may have been a parent who does believe in discipling being hitting in which case, thank god he was buzzed.
so on point because i have to spend more time with this kid, if I don't discipline them appropriately am i not the one who continues to face the brunt of their chaotic behaviour. It's not even hitting, it'll be like taking away their phone ( cause all these kids are ipad kids now), and not giving them continuous access to junk food. Then they come home and are angry at you for not giving into the unnecessary whims of a child and tell you that you have no grounds to discipline. Then what gives me grounds to be a unpaid babysitter??
@@unholierthanthou7748 Clearly misunderstandings were had on every side, I don’t think he meant “I want to beat kids”, he clearly said that her brat was spoiled and he didn’t want to deal with that. Spoiled children come from parents who don’t want or know discipline and cave to their children’s demands giving them everything they want.
I liked Tristan a lot. He's self assured, and nice to look at. Since he works at home, it's not fair for him to be expected to be a free babysitter. He should be allowed to have some form of discipline if she works away from the home.
He does remind me of my ex though (if he was Aquarius I would freak out) software engineer, charming , dresses well and keeps up with his looks, and was a huge gaslighter who wanted to poly lifestyle knowing I didn’t …but he seemed like Tristan before i knew all of that. Just saying presentation is always true and I was just sensing the similarities the whole time. Hope he’s not like him but def gave me the vibes!
yes he should be allowed to discipline … in a manner that’s in line with the parent’s wishes. gentle parents don’t NOT discipline, they choose to not do it physically- speaking of, physical discipline is known & proven to cause trauma and negative effects in children. talking to them like adults is shown to have longer behavioral impacts & allows children to UNDERSTAND their mistakes rather than just being afraid of their parent. no person should be “allowed” to hit a child. especially not one that isn’t their own.
@@ghostsontrains7629 ehh to be honest w u i’ve found that most ppl who aren’t trauma informed will think gentle parented children are difficult/misbehaving when in reality they require more patience than the person is willing to provide . to me calling a child “spoiled” is very very rarely actually accurate- as adults it’s easy for us to look at a child and judge their behavior but they are just acting out of self preservation + whatever values they’ve learned in life. children aren’t capable of fully encapsulating the gentle parenting effect (ie communication) until they’re older because children are just not capable of the same level or depth of communication that we are. that doesn’t mean they’re bad, or spoiled, or that the parent is doing smth wrong.
I interpreted Tristan's comments as both "she's too lenient" and "I don't know what I can and can't do here". Kids can be raised too leniently, so they don't follow rules and they don't listen to others. And he, as the boyfriend, might not have been sure what he could do. Can he put the kid in time-out? Can he take away privileges (ie screen time)? It's a weird line to walk. I don't think the implication was that he wanted to hit the kid, though.
Exactly. I think the boundaries of his responsibilities for the GF's child weren't discussed in the relationship. She just dumped the kid on him since he was "free childcare" while she worked or whatever. Meanwhile he was working as well and trying to do his job. I feel like the child WAS spoiled and didn't listen to him or take him seriously as he wasn't the parent. Basically a "you have no authority over me" kinda mentality. Or just the GF wouldn't let him discipline the child because she didn't either. Even though the child may have needed some form of correction. Idk just my thoughts on relationships I've observed where a lazy single parent is dating someone who doesn't have children.
Yep. And the flip side to the same situation (of dating a single mother) is that the boyfriend is given all the freedom to do whatever he wants because the woman prioritizes her relationship over her kids. I've seen it happen to someone I know and it was sad because the person had younger siblings who didn't really grow up with a father figure besides 1 guy who ended up passing away shortly after his dog died. (The bio father wanted to be there for his kids but he got deported and got into an accident which left him permanently disabled)
I dated a single parent and that was the last time I would. You can't discipline someone else's kid but they also refuse to address bad behavior without it turning into an argument. If you're not the parent they'll constantly remind you of that while the child disrespects you in your own home. I don't recommend it, make your own family or find a different way of building a family if that's your thing. I can't blame people who don't want that life
Cooper. COOPER!! I randomly came across your videos today, this is my second one watching. Let me tell you, you have made me laugh louder and harder than any other channel has managed to accomplish in a very long time. You are awesome, please keep it up LOL!!!
prev cody ko fan, found you through your video about him. just wanted to say as a fan of him i’m glad you touched on the feelings of disappointment and like it’s a funeral. anyway, i’ve really enjoyed the few videos i’ve watched so far so i’m subscribing and will be watching you instead from now on. lol
Calling someone babygirl mean they give off sweet and silly energy, so like it just means someone lovable and fun to be around or watch. So when someone calls Cooper babygirl it just means he's super lovable and silly. Hope this helps💗
My only problem with gentle parenting is when parents do it wrong. Gentle parenting doesn't mean no consequences or lessons. You can do those without beating your kids.
If they do it wrong then it’s not gentle parenting. It’s simply not parenting at all. Plus “gentle parenting” is simply just parenting. Refusing to dish the consequences out to your child is neglect, and spanking/beating your child is lazy and abusive.
I love when Cooper makes offhand references or comments that are also my interests/hyperfixations, like, what we do in the shadows ♥️, percy jackson ♥️ literally all the wall decorations ♥️ also PLEASE do a percy jackson cosplay the vibes would be immaculate
DUDE YES I LOVE THAT! He mentioned the movie Tusk (be it negatively 🥲), Baphomet and he has one of my favourite paintings on his wall and it’s like- MENTIONING MY SPECIAL INTREST? STAAWP 😍😩🤩🫶💗
The cool second dude, the discipline problem may not be a physical violence thing, but sometimes a parent doesn’t allow the partner to parent while still expecting them to play the rest of the part. Even if they will follow the parents method. And it sounds like the kid does need discipline, I wish they had asked what his version of that was.
I just stumbled upon this channel and have a missing piece in life. As a cosplayer, lover of What We Do In The Shadows, and someone who appreciates comedic commentary, this video offers everything I need and more. Thank you for existing, sir.
Now that I’ve had to stop watching Cody Ko, can you make more button videos? I don’t care to watch em on my own but I love your commentary so make more please? Much love!!
Cooper is the most accepting judgmental person i have ever seen
I love your user name
Thank you, it's not just a user name it's a life style
I love your lifestyle
@@fetus_soupThat’s the best lifestyle
Hey, it's God's fault. If he had not told Abraham to sacrifice his son, only to have and angel explain that it was just a test at the last second, none of us would be "circ'd up"...
I love how the most horrible people who say the most out of pocket things are always the most surprised when they get buttoned, like you can see the confusion, the hurt on their face as they ask "why'd you reject me?? I only said I kill babies and eat their bones, why would you hit the button faster than humanly possible??"
"Well it doesn't have to be their _bones_ specifically- look I dunno why you feel the need to judge me over that 😠"
Fr like if your gonna kill a baby or have an abortion yea I am going to click the button.
i love this comment
If you're asking me (cause idk who you were asking) no I made mine on picrew when I was bored and sleep deprived at like 1 in the morning
Habit reference?
For Cooper's mom. Baby girl refers to a man who is comfortable in his masculinity, adorable and quirky. It's basically a term of endearment.
thank u
Baby girl can refer to really any person! We have our girly baby girls, we have non-binary baby girls, we have male baby girls! Most of the time it refers to “nerdy” guys. “Feminine” guys. It is just a term of the endearment for anyone :))
I thought it was another term for gay lmao 👁👄👁
@@whiteout711 it CAN be lol
he's a precious and soft boi
This young man is so self aware you can hear his internal monologue in between his commentary and I’m subscribing
“He’s a 10/10 but he wants to slap his girlfriends kids” is probably the most realistic version of that joke I’ve heard 😂
Real
Honestly discipline could even mean taking a phone away. I don’t like jumping to conclusions on real people
First guy however HELL no. Hahaha
@@queen_meat or even just giving the kid a stern talking to and putting them in timeout.
@@queen_meatyeah, back of the neck bush boy Reed had everyone expecting the worst of Tristan after confessing to being a child beater
@@queen_meat I agree, but his idea of what gentle parenting is throws me off. Gentle parenting promotes understanding and communication, it doesn't mean you don't discipline your kid/let them get away with everything. He should educate himself more on what it means to gentle parent and why when done right it's a better method than slapping kids around.
I love how this man goes off topic a lot, basically doing side quests with his mind and I love it so much because that's how my brain works too lmao
NO BC SAME LOL ITS SO ENTERTAINING TO SEE SOME1 ELSE PRETTY MUCH MIRROR ME ITS SO COOL
I didn't even notice he did that or that it wasn't commonplace because I do the same thing 😭
with my adhd that’s how i am all the time haha
That would happen to me at school. The teacher would say something that made me get lost in my mind and Im come back to reality not knowing how much time had passed but I had no idea what they were now talking about so Id be lost.
@@KizzabellSAME LMAO 😭,are we twins or something?
for cooper’s mum: babygirl is the most prestigious title you can give to a person, period. it means you raised a wonderful son who also has a really cool dog!
Period😌✨
I ruined 666 likes
@@mydarlingarianagood!
youre not british
@@akaidkskwjfkskjddj7405youre not babygirl 😞
The button is if Omegle made a dating show
100% accurate
Literally
You can tell Cooper has never laid a hand on Gustav....my man didn't even FLINCH lol. Proud of the healthy relationship you have with your pupper.
He really just looked defiantly chill 😂 Like "I would love to see you try!"
Pupper indeed
Was looking for this comment lol
@@Oliviaandtrina Gustav would wook Cooper's ass
how did cooper manage to find the lowest quality photo of Hozier I’ve ever seen 💀
Imagine being there and the woman your talking to says “I don’t believe in physical discipline” and you respond with “I would beat my kids” then wonder why she rejected you
Him repeatedly asking why had me rolling 😂
Ikr 😭 he literally implied he would physically harm her children and then wondered why she didn't wanna be involved with him?? She would have to be the worst mother ever to ignore that. That's not even a red flag, it's just a straight up confession of being an abusive person
I had an ex bf and I knew that he was going to be my ex the moment that he defended his friend physically assaulting her 3 year old in front of us. The situation; Child was well behaved but a bit wound up as she had company over in her small apartment, when the child asked her very nicely to read a story to him what she did was scream at the child in anger and drag the child off by the arm to his room where she beat him on the bottom so hard much harder than I would ever feel comfortable hitting a consenting adult. My ex completely supported and defended her behavior and that was when I knew that we would not have any future together. I wish I would have reported what I saw to CPS but I did not, I was only 19.
@@ThimbleFox350gosh :( I mean cps would most likely still end up terribly for the baby but jesus :(
@@ThimbleFox350 Oh gosh that’s horrible, and some people would still call that “discipline.” It’s sick. That’s straight up abuse and nothing could excuse it. What is a 3 year old gonna learn from that? Don’t ask mommy questions? Don’t talk in public? Genuinely so disturbing.
The button really is just a series about Cooper judging people at this point
and we eat that shi up
Stan Cooper judging ppl
The button is me doing my best Wendy Williams impression 😭😭
“clap if he should suffer”
That’s a weird way of spelling Cody Ko!!
jk i ❤ u cooper
@@FilmCooperBAHAHA
hey babygirl/weirdo😏👀👀👀
As someone who just took the SAT, Cooper calling himself "circed-up" is just what I needed today
for coopers mom; babygirl is what we call people who are precious and loveable, and a little silly goofy. it's just a silly little way to say "wow, he's so funny and precious" (and other things like that)
this is very accurate
u cant forget u also have to be hot to be babygirl. Not objectively hot obviously, but im not abt to call someone whose ugly as hell imo babygirl
@@deadseaz_baby girl is basically the less cringe, 2023 version of "Smol cinnamon roll ;^;"
little silly goofy? 💀💀💀
😂Thanks everyone!
as a black person you have every right to roast tf out of that guys hair lmaooo
Exactly, what is with them overgrown naps on the back of his head lol, he could have at least braided it or something
I just want to know what the vision was…. 😭
That’s called a Dallas booty or some shit 😭😭
Honestly, regardless of race, a shaved head with a "rats tail" is just... giving Angelicas doll from the rugrats... I think miley cyrus has the same hair rn 😂
The line up was so clean and then he fucks it up with that fluff in the back ..
Learning that Cooper listens to Hozier was like when you're reading a book and all the plot threads are starting to connect. Of course he does, yes, that makes perfect sense. We need a Tier List (tipsy or not) of Hozier songs.
I second this pls
YESSSSSS PLS
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
Cooper is the physical representation of bisexuality.
@@crethan219 and hozier is the gayest straight man I've ever heard
drake joke aged well! actually, if it hadn't aged at all, maybe it would be perfect for drake!
😭😭😭
Nah that's crazy
For cooper's mother, baby girl essentially means a sweet ol' boy, the nice type, the precious type. It is mostly used for people who look like the "bad boy" at first glance but are actually very soft. A cutie if you will.
😂Thanks!
"A cutie if you will." Lol the way you word things is wonderful
Cuties club
The fact Gus didn't flinch AT ALL, just proves how much he loves his dog. If literally ANYONE raises a hand, I instantly jump twelve miles.
Are you okay? Are you loved
real
Fr tho 😭😭😭😭😭
That's not saying much though my dog flinches if I pick something up too quickly and he's never been smacked. He's just jumpy for no reason
@@shruubbs I feel like it does say a lot if they don't flinch, but it definitely doesn't mean anything if they do and they're jumpy. If a dog doesn't flinch when someone raises a hand at them they're definitely being treated well because they don't understand that that could even mean getting hit, but ya some dogs just be jumpy so it doesn't work in reverse if ya feel.
I would actually love to watch a video of Cooper showing us all what each painting is and why he likes them.
Yes please!
Yeeeessss
Big YES!
yessssssssssssss
@Film Cooper please do a video on this!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
So, I'm a parent. Not a gentle parent, but I don't hit or yell at my kids. But that doesn't mean giving in to your kids demands and tolerating disrespect. Discipline can also mean taking things away, giving them things to do that they aren't normally responsible for, or having to earn things back. Discipline doesn't always mean hitting.
Rightbidk y ppl think this is funny too. And what you described is in fact gentle parenting.
And gentle parenting doesn't mean you don't discipline your kids. I feel like not enough people are really interested in learning about gentle parenting and what it truly means and methods. The immediate thought is "oh you just spoil your kids". Not saying this is your way of thinking, just something I noticed. Toni Phantom (they/them) and Pleasant Peasant Media (Gwenna) are really awesome mothers who talk about gentle parenting and share real life experiences with their kids while also respecting their privacy if you wanna learn more.
Make sure you don't punish them with household tasks- that can make them still feel like a negative thing and a chore when they grow up and have to do those things!
@Shettykettyofbettys-kz9cg i think it’s normal parenting
@Shettykettyofbettys-kz9cgno it's normal parenting 💀 bffr
“I don’t care whose kid it is - go over there, grab a tire iron and just start swingin” killed me. I’m dead. And I want this guy at my funeral.
Idk y tho
And the mortician gotta be that guy from this Wired or Vice videos where he reads questions on Quora and Yahoo
Plot twist- you’re the kid and died via tire iron 😂
@@07SapphireLights I still don't understand y it's funny
@@Cheerleader644860 the post said they wanted this guy at their funeral. I said that they were the kid he was referencing. I made a joke- not commenting on the one liner from him I using it to make a joke here. 🤷🏻♀️
I’m also from the south in the US. I hear this all the time in Walmart. Not even shocking. 🤷🏻♀️
cooper is so relieving to watch when u have adhd, cause usually i cant focus on a youtube video and i gotta like pause and take breaks multiple times in order to finish it, but cooper just goes on so many tangents that im always stimulated and i never lose focus lmao LUV U BBYGIRL
real
exactly, he matches my own adhd energy so i actually stay focused dskjlqs
i dont have adhd but Im extremely prone to tangents, love when he dos that it makes me feel normal like, "oh other people do that in convo too?" commentary YTers are usually so straight forward
REALLLLL OMFG
YOU GET ME
Reading everyone explain babygirl to Cooper’s mom is almost as entertaining as watching Cooper’s emotional rollercoaster around the morality of judging others. 😂
Cooper: Goes on a whole rant about how if unfair for her to not want a guy that is uncut
Cooper a minute later: "its okay to have preferences"
*I just find that so funny
I love that when he raises his hand and pretends like he's about to hit his dog he defends himself so adamantly but really the dog's reaction is all the defense he needs
He didn't even flinch you can tell he wouldn't hit him XD
Pfp from?
@@sanjanam520 no idea I got it off of pinterest XD
Stretching is also a good way to show your dog (i think even cat) that they can relax and that the situation isn't as dangerous as they might think. Helpful for anxious animals.
never stop using XD it makes me unironically happy to see
@@oxytociniv404 I'll never stop hehe
glad it made you happy XD
“Drag queens should be able to drag queen” and “GAY RIGHTS GAY RIGHTS GAY RIGHTS” is iconic
Thx for the likes
Learning that Cooper listened to Hozier made me so indescribably happy. I love it when people love and appreciate the same things that I do!
Cooper is like an American, Midwestern, quirky boy-next-door version of Hozier and I love that
"An uncut gem" is quite a beautiful way to refer to whether or not someone has been circ'ed. Every video, Cooper manages to surprise me. Kudos dude 👏
A guy not letting his girlfriend have guy friends is a huge red flag, but here I think it's countered by the green flag of talking it out and taking it on a case-by-case basis. I like this guy.
Some of those guy friends are playing the the long game hoping they have a chance
@@jzwalz51robin45 Only if they're creeps
@@MizukiUkitake
true, but one must be able to know which ones are indeed creeps
But is it also a red flag if a woman doesn't want her man to have too many female friends, or is that different?
@@dalienashen same
"Are you circumcized?" The button was so outta pocket for that-
I think that Tristian meant that the kid was spoiled so whenever he needed his time alone, the kid didn’t know how to accept that.
I think being spoiled is fine but what you just said is not spoiled it is a lack of attention from the mother so he feels alone or he could get no respect for bonders form his mother
That’s what I was thinking. Cause I have definitely dealt many, many, many with children who’ve not been properly parented, but spoiled rotten. His ex heard “work from home” and thought “free babysitting”
Seeing cooper yell “RUNNN‼️” and then INSTANTLY regretting it and frantically explaining why he cant yell is so fucking funny😭
Tbh… I automatically assumed, because of his fancy and classy pictures in the back, that he lived in a mansion in England 😂
Done been bamboozled
I started laughing out loud while I was working it jumpscared me so hard 💀
For Cooper's mum: calling someone (especially men) babygirl is just a way of calling them cute. Like calling him a sweetheart or a cutie pie, but more joking in tone :)
That 'uterus' dance had me cracking up EVERY.SINGLE.TIME
Ohh the love for Drake aged like milk 💀
Lmao looking for this comment
Or his other button video praising Cody co
Okay I'm paused at 15 min in so i could be wrong, but i don't think that tristan thinking the kid is spoiled by his partner's "gentle parenting" necessarily means he thinks corporal punishment or authoritarian parenting is okay. There's definitely uninformed people who think "gentle parenting" means no parenting at all and they can produce spoiled rude kids. That said, if he DOES mean he thinks the kid should have been spanked and parented in an authoritarian style, I would also pass on him. I do like the hair and nails though, idk what those other girls are on about.
Was scrolling through to see if anyone else said it. Yes, there’s so many people who do “gentle parenting” wrong and give no consequences for anything, then end up with kids that have no sense of personal responsibility. Those kids then go around other people or go to school and do whatever they want because there are never consequences for them. I really doubt he was implying “beating” children, but if he was, then obviously, drop that man!
I agree. I also felt like he was talking more about him not being able to give consequences at all. I have read a lot of stories where a step-parent figure isn't allowed to discipline the kids at all because they're not the bio parent. If he was merely a boyfriend and is spending most of the day with this child, its completely possible that the girlfriend didn't allow him to parent at all and that probably got frustrating.
I saw it as the mom never showing her son right from wrong, showing him consequences, or saying no. There are plenty of way to teach and discipline a child without abusing them. But idk ig many people think it’s either abuse or spoiling the child rotten
I’m so glad someone else pointed this out, extremes exist on either side, and the way he explained it sounds very much like the way-too-soft gentle parenting that does absolutely NOTHING to teach a child.
I also paused and scrolled to see if anyone mentioned this. His statement, to me, came across more like being frustrated at the lack of consequences for the child's actions. And I agree, his sense of style is dope. I don't even have anything to add; it's like you read my mind 😁
Honestly one of the funniest series to watch is Cooper reacting to the button, never gets old
I think what Tristan meant was that he wasn't allowed to discipline, a lot of parents don't like it when their current partner starts acting like a parent to their kids.
It's just that "gentle" is the keyword here that gave the impression that he would beat a kid.
@@bree789-x8cnah, the term gentle in parenting isn't about violence or not, it's the way you talk to them and teach them. It's meant to give them critical thinking skills and autonomy in making good choices when done right. Keyword though is "right" because a lot of people say they're gentle parents when what they mean is that they're a doormat and let their kids rule the house. And it very much sounds like Tristan was describing the latter, and he wasn't cool with that.
I want to quote him. “I beat kids, not mine.”
18:42 verbatim this is my motto!!! It’s so wild to hear someone else talk about used cars like this, I love it!! I’ve never had a car payment and I’ve been driving for almost 20 years 😊
god i love this man so much he literally makes my day
FR!!
@ForgiveZharion u could buy them but i wish u luck!! i'll sub :))
Your account is giving stalker and it's concerning. It's not normal to be that obsessive and scary lol
Same, I light up whenever he posts, he really makes my day
@@Squirtlesam frr!!
I 1000% get where Great Value Drake is coming from when it comes to disciplining children who aren't yours-it can be a very tricky thing. "Discipline" doesn't always equal corporal punishment, it can be something as simple as verbally correcting a child, putting them in "time-out," taking away certain privileges, etc.
So, I'm almost certain what he was getting at is that-being that he was at home with his exes child all day long-he was apprehensive about what his role was as an authority figure. If the child is acting out and being unruly, is it within his right to use his better judgment on how to correct the child, or does he just let the child run all over him because he's not the child's father? It's a tough spot to be in, for all parties involved.
“Uncut gems” had me on the floor 😂
I hope copper finds the nicest of all the nice girls he seems like a angel.
Did he say he was straight?
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634im pretty sure he's bi or stright, he's talked about being interested in women before
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634it doesn’t really matter but he’s very passionate about women 🤷🏾♀️ love him either way whatever his type is
@@sunnyisfictionalyeah he’s straight): I’ll get over it though, I still love him
Update: he's ✨️ engaged ✨️
7:36 is He still a big drake stan? 🤔🤔
Two things. 1) You are absolutely correct about Ross and Rachel and 2) The only thing more tragic than no one finding love on the button is Cooper getting cut off mid explaining his background
I have never been more seen and understood when I heard Cooper talking about new cars. Thank you. The number of people who don't like that I like and prefer used cars is astounding.
When I watch cooper it always feels like FaceTiming a good friend to gossip about others
That's not even a mullet, that's a skullet.
Fr
I'm ftm and you're basically my transition goals tbh, and the only person I would gladly have call me babygirl
Literally same
Sorry thing to educate myself further. Does ftm mean female transitioned to male or female transitioned from male.
@@Garm_HoundFemale to Male
@@fadedfiction2733thank you
@@Garm_Hound of course!
Cooper's rant about new cars comes at a time when I'm literally shopping for a new car. I feel attacked 😂
Is it MERCEDES-BENZ?
Lol don't let Cooper see this comment, and good luck in the car search! Hopefully you find a good one that doesn't deplete your whole bank account :)
the fact that your dog didnt flinch when you pretended to hit him speaks a thousand words.
how
it reflects how much his dog trusts him, therefore confirming he does not, in fact, abuse his dog@@kailee_c
@@kailee_cit means that the dog isn’t afraid of him
Yes, so good!
Means he doesn’t hit his dog
8:25 “i’m gonna get them gel done” was so babygirl
I love the part where you (briefly) mention the Bible and feel the need to palette cleanse by chanting "gay marriage" and "trans rights". As a queer person and former christian, this just really amuses me~
This was sucha mood aha
"drag queens should be able to drag queen" amen
Cool pfp🌮😊
That squiggly line there got me all 👀👀👀👀
Kinda makes me sad that religion is so tied to bigotry people feel the need to make disclaimers like that, to that degree. I’m a queer atheist but know and respect so many lovely pro LGBTQ religious folks.
Juuuuuust for the record, there is often a discrepancy between people with kids and their new partners (not brand new, whoever they are moving forward in their life with, you know, moving in with or marrying or whatever) as far as discipline goes. A lot of people with kids don’t think their partner should discipline their child ~at all~, no matter what, even if it’s telling them not to jump on a bed or sending them to their room for something. I don’t know if that was Tristan’s issue, but it was definitely mine in a past relationship, so I get feeling awkward about maybe wanting to tell the kid to be quiet when he’s working or send the kid to their room or something, and maybe his ex didn’t like that. 🤷🏻
And I was also thinking there’s a difference between gentle parenting with discipline (like being stern or having rules/boundaries) and gentle parenting that leads to a spoiled child ya know? It also almost seemed like the relationship may have been a “well you work from home so you have time to watch my kid” kinda deal which could have put a strain on the discipline thing too.
@@mandymagnolia1966 Yeah a lot of ppl miusunderstand what "gentle parenting" means and he couldve meant no rules or consequences irresponsible let-your-kid-do-whatever-they-want type situation. I have a feeling maybe he didnt mean that w the word "discipline" but ppl use that word many different ways so im not gonna assume what he meant one way or the other.
@@idonotresidehere.5709 Right? The way he was talking about discipline, her being a gentle parent, and the kid being spoiled kinda made me think it was more “my kid’s an angel” or a pushover/give my kid whatever they want kinda parent 🤔
@@mandymagnolia1966 Yeah maybe, but its also possible that he meant exactly what cooper thought he did. No reason "gentle" should mean irresponsible but tbf those were her words he was just responding to, so its not unlikely that those wouldnt be the ones he would normally use.
@@mandymagnolia1966 authoritative parenting vs permissive parenting is the actual psychology term for the two!!
to cooper's mom: We say cooper's a baby girl because cooper's actually three babies in a trench coat! And the leader is a girl! I hope this helps!
And all the babies are irrationally adorable. Just the cutest of babies.
it all makes sense how he can be both 6'2" (when they're all stacked up) and a short king (when they're not) 😂
“I’M NOT SAYING ANYTHING I’M NOT SAYING ANYTHING-“
Bro was panicking 😭😭
honestly a 45 min cooper video witb random side tracks is literally so amazing bc it feels more like hes talking with us not at us yk? also the random rants are literally how my brain be braining so thanks cooper for being so bbg
I agree it’s like your watching the episode for the first time but speaking your mind out loud
This is a message to coopers mother (explaining the phrase baby girl) 8:31
So basically 'baby girl' is fandom slang a male fictional character or celebrity of whom one is extremely fond especially a "bad boy" type reinterpreted as adorable,quirky or secretly soft hearted.
Obviously theres alternate meanings so thats only one of the meanings hope this helped!
replying so more people see this great explanation
@@heylol_. thank you.
😂Yes! This helps! Thank you!
@@bethneidecker your welcome
Replying so more people see this
as a woman who loves fantasy and is still incredibly mad i wasn't born as an elf as is my birthright, IF YOU HAVE A SWORD. IF YOU ARE A MAN WITH A SWORD. SHOW ME. THATS MARRIAGE MATERIAL
My boyfriend is a weapons nerd and a Star Wars boy and I have witnessed lightsaber fights between his friends, and also I ask him for advice about cool swords. I can confirm, marriage material, show me your cool swords 😂
YES.
THANK YOU. i have always told men that i don't want jewelry, i want a sword ,,,, an axe will also do.
Yes! Agreed 🤟🏼
I WANT A SWORD! GOD DAMMIT I WANT SO BADLY
31:22 I was thoroughly terrified when Cooper casually dropped the name of my city.
I’m coming for you
I have never seen such an accurate depiction of my ADHD in Cooper's tangents this entire video before 💀
watching his rant about not buying a new car, while having bought one, is so real. i made a terrible decision & everyone needs this lecture
For Tristan's case, gentle parenting can often go too gentle. My boyfriends neighbors are gentle parents and they kinda let go of their kids in general. They don't teach them to be calm at certain points or to use inside voices or to not try to peek over the fence into others backyards etc. Those kids are screaming and rioting all they and they never say ANYTHING. Only when one gets hurt they come in and do they lecture them about their behaviour and safety? No. They go "oh my baby come to mommy lemme kiss your booboo". One could kill the other and they wouldn't lecture or anything they would go "oh baby were you scared? Are you okay? It's okay mommy is here!" Like don't yell at your kids but damn step up and give them a stern talk at some points
Edit: "that's just neglect" I know that, but that's what the parents call gentle parenting. Their excuse is they need to see how the world works for themselves and learn how to deal with it alone. These kids are 3 and 5 btw!
@butterflymafia I agree, but I often see this type of parent call themselves "gentle parents"
@@cosmicwitchclarithyeah that’s kinda what I think he was getting at. Those people give gentle parents a bad name
Okay Karen.
I know what you mean, I know a kid like that. His mom’s always making excuses for him, but it only serves to mold him into a little monster.
It’s because they have low expectations of their kids accompanied by still giving lots of praise. High expectations + high praise is the best way to raise kids- and psychology will back me up on that lol.
This is exactly what I thought too. I feel like an elaboration on the discipline differences was warranted. Cause a lot of people who think gentle parenting think of ppl who don't discipline their child at all rather than true gentle parenting
Hearing you scream about Hozier, especially Unknown/Nth is literally so real. Love that song and album.
This episode had a suspiciously large amount of normal people, it's so uncomfy for me to see people on this show actually capable of carrying conversation and having genuine discussions. It felt wrong
Right the other episodes are clickbatish or a Chatroulette of random pairings
Most of the things Cooper says is such a green flag. He has golden retriever boyfriend energy and I love it so much
I also really respect tristen for not wanting to date a girl with kids because the trauma kids with single parents (not just mothers PARENTS) go through being introduced to the dates and partners just to see them broken up is terrible. I know not all single parents introduce their kids to their partners but I still think it would be hard for all parties even the ex partner after building a relationship with this child just to never see them again
Same. They both handled that well, he wasn't disrespectful about her having a kid and she was incredibly gentle and understanding when talking to him about his experience and boundaries.
Facts. My mom had 5 different partners throughout my life she introduced us(my sister and I)to. Only 2 of them I cared for( one died when we were young, the other cheated and him and my mom were already growing apart due to his alcoholism). The other 3 were toxic, abusive, and manipulative(my sperm donor included). Her last one made me want to unalive myself and contributed to me finally developing bulimia to deal with the stress.
My cousin is in a relatonship with a woman who has two kids. She introduced them to us at new year and they love me immensely. I don't wanna know how the kids will feel when my cousin and her break up. The younger of the two really likes my cousin too which is probably worse...
As someone who was a kid in that situation, i can confirm this. I wouldn’t say it traumatized me, necessarily, but i can 100% understand how it could traumatize someone. It hurt a lot when we had to go (we were staying with him at his house), it felt like all the progress made by finding them (he had kids too) was ruined in an instant. A little bit venty but i’m being honest
If a person hits an adult, it's assault
If a person hits an animal, it's animal abuse
If a person hits a child, it's discipline...?
Ew.. 🤮
i'm not a big barbecue person (aka vegetarian) but you should definitely try Brazilian churrasco. Here are 5 facts:
1. All churrascarias (steakhouses) work in an all-you-can-eat way, or rodízio.
2. At a churrascaria, each server comes to the table bringing a giant metal skewer with a cut of meat for you to choose if you want it or not.
3. The most liked cuts are the sirloin cap, filet mignon, rump steak, pork loin, a type of sausage called linguiça, and chicken heart.
4. It's usually served with rice, beans, shoestring potato, mayonnaise salad, garlic bread, grilled fruits and seasoned corn flour (farofa).
5. It's a very important part of brazilian culture, it's very common on Sunday afternoons with LOTS of caipirinha (lime, sugar and pinga/vodka), samba, all the liked and disliked family members and more caipirinha :)
I’ve been to a Brazilian statehouse and it’s actually the best food
and yet Cooper doesn't notice 😢
But barbequed aubergine is the best
Cooper's Mom:
Everyone is rocking the Baby Girl descriptions, so I'm just going to say thank you for helping mold such an amazing man. We need more Coopers in the world. ❤
I wish there were more Coopers in this world :(
as a european the circumcision thing is so weird to me 😭
You had to opt-out if you didn’t want it to happen when I had my son. Less than ten years ago. lol
Agreed although is that because larger europe tried to eradicate jewish people and their culture?
The fact the dog didn’t flinch when he raised his hand shows that he has actually never treated his dog like that, that is adorable 😿
That was my instant reaction. I'm a trainer & rescuer. You can always spot the dogs who have never had a hand raised in anger. They don't flinch. Gustav is soooooo loved and it shows.
bro that's not adorable, that should be a given 💀🙏
UGH OMG I WAS ABT TO SAY THIS
@@4nn4nas98 Yeah, but sadly most people don’t treat their dogs like that
Yes but my cat (who I've owned his entire life and have only punished him with a spray bottle) acts like I'm going to beat him if I raise my hand at him 😭
I love and appreciate that even when you were jokingly motioning to hit your sweet baby doggo he didn’t even react. He has only known you as a loving hand and I’m glad he is in your care ❤
As a kid of divorce (and a person who hasn't watched the full video so I don't know if Tristan admits to wanting to hit the kid), I get what Tristan saying when it comes to disciplining the child. By disciplining, I mean like telling them no and grounding them and shit, not hitting them. It can be difficult for a kid to adjust to your presence, especially when they're spoiled, to the point that they may begin to resent you as a new point in their life if you attempt to discipline them too harshly too soon. You also have to account for your partner's parenting style and how their household works. You provide a huge disruption to the dynamic and telling a kid no in the wrong way could lead to a whole mess of issues, especially when you are the only adult there and do not want to be. If you don't have your partner backing you up, the kid will not see your authority and just get mad you can just tell them what to do even when they don't know you yet. If you do have your partner backing you up, they can think you're ganging up on them and become aggressive. If you are made to just become the babysitter when you have other things to do and the kid just wants their mom, the amount that you are in their life now can create a hostile environment between both of you. I can get why Tristan wouldn't want to go through that again.
Another child of divorce here and your comment is so real. In my case, I wouldn’t have minded being disciplined by my (former) stepdad as much if he held his biological son to the same standards
the only reasonable person in this comment section. cuz discipline doesn't mean beating. and a lot of people say "gentle" parenting for parents who don't atually discipline their child at all. that's not gentle parenting, but because it's seens as softer, it gets a bad rep
7:27 well that aged well
omgs i thought the same thing
i love how cooper goes on little rants for absolutely no reason
im omw to a blackbelt in tkd (im one step away & 13) and seeing cooper being one too was honestly perfect lmao
i love you cooper, you’re so funny and goofy and smart and absolutely kenough. you’re my fav ytber and honestly my comfort ytber, i look forward to all of your videos and they make me so happy and excited every time. :3
love the new place 💗‼
"You are Kenough, you dont have to whallop your kids" was an iconic line tho lmaooo 🤣😭💀
14:39 I wanna defend homeboy here, I had a neighbor I was friends with works from home while his partner worked out of home and he ended up being a babysitter more than a boyfriend, his girlfriend didn’t even let him put her kid in timeout, either because gentle parenting or because she didn’t want him disciplining her son. But at some point you have to understand that your child care provider, whether it’s a partner, paid stranger, or family has a right to discipline the child, now always ALWAYS make it clear discipline ≠ hitting
Yea, that was one thing I was wondering, was this ex a "gentle-parent" or a gentle parent, the difference being someone who doesn't vs does discipline their kid, the one that doesn't is only using the "gentle-parent" title to cover for why their child is a brat, and in which case he may have meant he does believe in discipline but not hitting the child and wasn't sure whether he had the right to discipline a child not his but a partner's. Alternatively he may have been a parent who does believe in discipling being hitting in which case, thank god he was buzzed.
Y'all do not know what gentle parenting is
so on point because i have to spend more time with this kid, if I don't discipline them appropriately am i not the one who continues to face the brunt of their chaotic behaviour. It's not even hitting, it'll be like taking away their phone ( cause all these kids are ipad kids now), and not giving them continuous access to junk food. Then they come home and are angry at you for not giving into the unnecessary whims of a child and tell you that you have no grounds to discipline. Then what gives me grounds to be a unpaid babysitter??
@@unholierthanthou7748 Clearly misunderstandings were had on every side, I don’t think he meant “I want to beat kids”, he clearly said that her brat was spoiled and he didn’t want to deal with that.
Spoiled children come from parents who don’t want or know discipline and cave to their children’s demands giving them everything they want.
@@CL0WNP4RTY I didn't say anything about wether or not he wants to beat kids, I just said people don't understand what gentle parenting actual is
cooper: I’m not disabled
That guys kids: I am
Shout out to the girl at the beginning who straight up said whooping children is abuse, you're on the track to being a fantastic mom 😎
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Than she needs someone that had their p cut
SHAQUELLA ❤
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Tbh I don't think not hitting your kids should be the criteria for a fantastic mother I feel like that's kinda just... the bare minimum
I liked Tristan a lot. He's self assured, and nice to look at. Since he works at home, it's not fair for him to be expected to be a free babysitter. He should be allowed to have some form of discipline if she works away from the home.
The fact that he said NOTHING about hitting kids and just didn’t know how to discipline someone’s child, he wasn’t bad
He does remind me of my ex though (if he was Aquarius I would freak out) software engineer, charming , dresses well and keeps up with his looks, and was a huge gaslighter who wanted to poly lifestyle knowing I didn’t …but he seemed like Tristan before i knew all of that. Just saying presentation is always true and I was just sensing the similarities the whole time. Hope he’s not like him but def gave me the vibes!
yes he should be allowed to discipline … in a manner that’s in line with the parent’s wishes. gentle parents don’t NOT discipline, they choose to not do it physically- speaking of, physical discipline is known & proven to cause trauma and negative effects in children. talking to them like adults is shown to have longer behavioral impacts & allows children to UNDERSTAND their mistakes rather than just being afraid of their parent.
no person should be “allowed” to hit a child. especially not one that isn’t their own.
@gabeminson right but i feel like (from the way he said the kid was spoiled) she wasnt a gentle parent she wasnt disciplining
@@ghostsontrains7629 ehh to be honest w u i’ve found that most ppl who aren’t trauma informed will think gentle parented children are difficult/misbehaving when in reality they require more patience than the person is willing to provide . to me calling a child “spoiled” is very very rarely actually accurate- as adults it’s easy for us to look at a child and judge their behavior but they are just acting out of self preservation + whatever values they’ve learned in life. children aren’t capable of fully encapsulating the gentle parenting effect (ie communication) until they’re older because children are just not capable of the same level or depth of communication that we are. that doesn’t mean they’re bad, or spoiled, or that the parent is doing smth wrong.
I interpreted Tristan's comments as both "she's too lenient" and "I don't know what I can and can't do here". Kids can be raised too leniently, so they don't follow rules and they don't listen to others. And he, as the boyfriend, might not have been sure what he could do. Can he put the kid in time-out? Can he take away privileges (ie screen time)? It's a weird line to walk. I don't think the implication was that he wanted to hit the kid, though.
Exactly. I think the boundaries of his responsibilities for the GF's child weren't discussed in the relationship. She just dumped the kid on him since he was "free childcare" while she worked or whatever. Meanwhile he was working as well and trying to do his job. I feel like the child WAS spoiled and didn't listen to him or take him seriously as he wasn't the parent. Basically a "you have no authority over me" kinda mentality. Or just the GF wouldn't let him discipline the child because she didn't either. Even though the child may have needed some form of correction. Idk just my thoughts on relationships I've observed where a lazy single parent is dating someone who doesn't have children.
Yep. And the flip side to the same situation (of dating a single mother) is that the boyfriend is given all the freedom to do whatever he wants because the woman prioritizes her relationship over her kids. I've seen it happen to someone I know and it was sad because the person had younger siblings who didn't really grow up with a father figure besides 1 guy who ended up passing away shortly after his dog died. (The bio father wanted to be there for his kids but he got deported and got into an accident which left him permanently disabled)
I agree with you
I dated a single parent and that was the last time I would. You can't discipline someone else's kid but they also refuse to address bad behavior without it turning into an argument. If you're not the parent they'll constantly remind you of that while the child disrespects you in your own home. I don't recommend it, make your own family or find a different way of building a family if that's your thing.
I can't blame people who don't want that life
Cooper. COOPER!! I randomly came across your videos today, this is my second one watching. Let me tell you, you have made me laugh louder and harder than any other channel has managed to accomplish in a very long time. You are awesome, please keep it up LOL!!!
watching cooper's videos in 1.5 speed is my new fave activity, i just love the rambles, my adhd likey
Losing it at the "uncut gems" segment😂
i had to pause the video to catch my breath 🤣
I was at a Hozier concert last night, and cooper's noise was how I felt the whole time. I am emotionally wrecked today.
I went to one a week ago and took the next day off work to recover lol
prev cody ko fan, found you through your video about him. just wanted to say as a fan of him i’m glad you touched on the feelings of disappointment and like it’s a funeral. anyway, i’ve really enjoyed the few videos i’ve watched so far so i’m subscribing and will be watching you instead from now on. lol
Calling someone babygirl mean they give off sweet and silly energy,
so like it just means someone lovable and fun to be around or watch.
So when someone calls Cooper babygirl it just means he's super lovable and silly.
Hope this helps💗
😂Thank you!
the fact that the dog didnt flinch when cooper raised his hand up made me immediately like the video
"I know you won't do it,"
-The dog probably
My only problem with gentle parenting is when parents do it wrong. Gentle parenting doesn't mean no consequences or lessons. You can do those without beating your kids.
If they do it wrong then it’s not gentle parenting. It’s simply not parenting at all. Plus “gentle parenting” is simply just parenting. Refusing to dish the consequences out to your child is neglect, and spanking/beating your child is lazy and abusive.
"I was gonna do a Percy Jackson cosplay"
*starts foaming at the mouth*
i love cooper cause i know not one other youtuber that mentions how grateful they are for their job in literally every video lmao
I love when Cooper makes offhand references or comments that are also my interests/hyperfixations, like, what we do in the shadows ♥️, percy jackson ♥️ literally all the wall decorations ♥️ also PLEASE do a percy jackson cosplay the vibes would be immaculate
DUDE YES I LOVE THAT! He mentioned the movie Tusk (be it negatively 🥲), Baphomet and he has one of my favourite paintings on his wall and it’s like- MENTIONING MY SPECIAL INTREST? STAAWP 😍😩🤩🫶💗
The cool second dude, the discipline problem may not be a physical violence thing, but sometimes a parent doesn’t allow the partner to parent while still expecting them to play the rest of the part. Even if they will follow the parents method. And it sounds like the kid does need discipline, I wish they had asked what his version of that was.
This is one of the most adhd filmcooper video I love ittt
These vids literally make my day I’m sick at the moment and this is the only thing that has made me feel better so far 😭
Me too! I got covid recently and have been binge watching my favorite youtubers. Its always nice to have fresh content. I hope you feel better though!
Bro same!! We’re twinning
Saaaaame bro we be twinning frfr
Same here! Cough-laughing my way through this video and so worth it!🥲🙌🏻
Cooper moving homes and his background staying similar is so satisfying tbh
I just stumbled upon this channel and have a missing piece in life. As a cosplayer, lover of What We Do In The Shadows, and someone who appreciates comedic commentary, this video offers everything I need and more. Thank you for existing, sir.
Now that I’ve had to stop watching Cody Ko, can you make more button videos? I don’t care to watch em on my own but I love your commentary so make more please? Much love!!
Sameeeee I’m watching him now
He has one on his second channel! I think that’s where he’s gonna be putting them if he makes them ❤
i love how cooper will just be filming like normal then out of nnowhere confess his love for us and how grateful he is
Totally agree about Hoziers lyrics. He’s an amazing artist, his songs are lyrical masterpieces, they make me cry in a good way regularly 😊