I Asked 24 Experts for Sex Advice & This is What I Learned

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  • @Emmsley14
    @Emmsley14 ปีที่แล้ว +204

    Skipped through to the PLP section because I am in a PLP! I came out as a lesbian 4 years into my marriage with my husband (just celebrated our six year wedding anniversary on Saturday!), and we decided to stay married and raise our kid together because we are still best friends and he is my person 💖 we are polyamorous, and both have romantic/sexual partners that match up with our preferred gender. I absolutely love how even tho you are cis/het/monog you give so much rep to our communities on your channel and podcast 🏳️‍🌈 happy pride!

    • @hannahwitton
      @hannahwitton  ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Congrats to you! And that’s so lovely to hear you creating a life and relationships that work for you 🏳️‍🌈

    • @ericagreene1579
      @ericagreene1579 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is so cute! I'm glad it worked out so well for you guys :)

    • @candiceparnell39
      @candiceparnell39 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@hannahwitton Which episode of your podcast goes into this? I couldn't find it.

  • @saegemehlfee
    @saegemehlfee ปีที่แล้ว +70

    OMG never heard anyone talk about compulsary sexuality before. I didn't even know asexuality or aromanticism were a thing for so long and I've hated growing up in a society that thinks you're not a proper adult or that you are missing an aspect that will make you complete until you've had sex or a long term relationship. Glad there are voices out there.

    • @kikiTHEalien
      @kikiTHEalien ปีที่แล้ว

      Same 😔

    • @saegemehlfee
      @saegemehlfee ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kikiTHEalien ❤

    • @theprogrammerrolandmc3039
      @theprogrammerrolandmc3039 ปีที่แล้ว

      I though she was Indian when i seen her video that was 11 years old maybe she it's a religious thing anyway it's not for me this advice from a woman haha.

  • @chriggle1
    @chriggle1 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Your comments about ED are so valid. My husband has been suffering, and it’s down to medication for high blood pressure. We had no idea it could affect the body this way. Between that and menopause, our sex life has been suffering, but through open communication we have managed to hold it all together

    • @stephanieherman2861
      @stephanieherman2861 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i wonder how it would be without communication. also i wonder why one would not talk about it?

  • @AnotherHaron
    @AnotherHaron ปีที่แล้ว +77

    Tbh best ad for your podcast and in a great way! I was always a bit put off because there are so many interesting episodes. And now I know where to start! Thanks I would love more insights !:)

    • @hannahwitton
      @hannahwitton  ปีที่แล้ว +11

      So good to know this video is helpful and having the desired effect!!

    • @JelenaTomovic
      @JelenaTomovic ปีที่แล้ว

      I completely agree.
      Plus, you talk about needing to find time to fill up the well, isnt the podcast with the guests and their ideas a great filling?

    • @nothanks8557
      @nothanks8557 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have just listened to them all it took me two years 😂

  • @qualitystreetmoment
    @qualitystreetmoment ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Never really considered listening to the podcast before (not for any particular reason) but now I'm like why have I not ?! Would love a video like this for all the backlog seasons too, these short recommendations are so helpful for where to start!

  • @paulinefulcrand6409
    @paulinefulcrand6409 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    This is honestly a great way to advertise your podcast, I definitely want to listen to those episodes now!!

  • @katrinadarwin
    @katrinadarwin ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Somatic stuff is no joke! I don’t remember much of my childhood trauma but my therapist and I do a lot of somatic work and try to help the feelings flow through and out of my body. It works, and it as helped me so effing much.

  • @JuMixBoox
    @JuMixBoox ปีที่แล้ว +29

    This video definitely made me want to listen to the whole podcast! Such interesting and fascinating topics!

    • @katrinadarwin
      @katrinadarwin ปีที่แล้ว

      Right? I don’t like podcasts, not sure why, maybe because I like subtitles even though I passively “watch” videos on TH-cam, but I am tempted to go listen to Hannah’s podcast.

    • @JuMixBoox
      @JuMixBoox ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@katrinadarwin Maybe there are options for transcripts or auto subtitles while you listen to the podcast? I am very similar because I have ADHD, so I always have stuff on in the background but I still need multiple senses engaged to follow along reliably.

  • @rribbonss
    @rribbonss ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I always joke that my parents are just best friends, I think they are just in a much less queer & sex positive generation so they don’t have the words for it or the ability to define it as anything other than a “normal” marriage. But generally they are not very romantic with each other, they just get along very well and are great life partners

  • @ThatSpoonieTransGuy
    @ThatSpoonieTransGuy ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Omg that is so interesting! I would honestly say that the pressure on men to perform also extends to trans men (never mind that strapons exist apparently), from cis gay men as well. And it also relates to disability tbh. I recently started dating another disabled trans man and it's been so lovely!

  • @Dino50012
    @Dino50012 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm so glad you're plugging your podcast, it's soooo good and I love listening when I'm at work! Makes the day go so much faster

  • @Minilena
    @Minilena ปีที่แล้ว

    "with your partner or partners" ❤❤❤ this is why it feels so safe to watch/listen to your stuff

  • @emrys1366
    @emrys1366 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I found your channel by recommendation from my boyfriend. I’m nonbinary and he’s cis, we’re both ace & arospec in a romantic & sexual relationship, and I’m really grateful that he’s been dedicated about communication and consent from the start. And he’s helped me become more comfortable with sexual things and encouraged me to learn more, so I’m really glad I’ve found your channel, it’s very informative!

  • @webbystarr
    @webbystarr ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank God for you and this podcast! I just was watching a podcast led by a very narrow minded cis het man and I couldn’t finish the podcast because he was just so focused on het relationships and masculinity and femininity in these really outdated black and white ways. It was exhausting and I came here in order to get more the ideas that align with my views and I am just so grateful that this channel and people like you exist! Truly deeply THANK YOU!

  • @CarolineJuneee
    @CarolineJuneee ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hannah bossing her goal of promoting patreon... You're a natural now girl. SEAMLESS 🔥

  • @Semicolon42
    @Semicolon42 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really appreciate how much the different advice comes down to defining what it means for yourself and trying to buck the unhealthy norms that society puts on us.

  • @cariiinen
    @cariiinen ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great reminder to head over to the podcast and give it a listen!

  • @philurbaniak1811
    @philurbaniak1811 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    👍👍 I really, really welcome this one, Hannah! Super inclusive and thoughtful and a great list of further reading 👍😊!

  • @bimaloxley
    @bimaloxley ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm real bad at listening to podcasts, I prefer yt, so I love this break down! As a sex therapist, I love the recognition of the somatic too 🙌🏻

  • @EpicFailArniek
    @EpicFailArniek ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This made me want to finally go and check our the podcast, I knew you did one but apparently needed some teasers to go listen!

  • @ss_apobangpo
    @ss_apobangpo ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i wish i could tell my younger self that not wanting romance and a relationship was normal and that i didnt need to feel so broken. i only discovered im aro(ace? still figuring that out). im gonna check out some of the sources you mentioned.

  • @houserspeed
    @houserspeed ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "They tried to kill us. We won. Let's eat!" love that!

  • @ImBeautifullyTragicx
    @ImBeautifullyTragicx ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm really interested in somatic therapy for trauma and I think it could be really helpful for me, but I am struggling to find any information about it or any resources in my area. Could you do a video about your experience (doesn't have to be too personal!) and how you found somatic strategies that work? Or maybe an interview with a somatic therapist and how to access resources if you don't want to talk about your personal experience. Thank you!

  • @emi_fern
    @emi_fern ปีที่แล้ว

    i very rarely listen to podcasts but would love to continue seeing this video format based on existing episodes fromm all the seasons! (and future episodes but it sounds like you have something new on the horizon and i'm looking forward to hearing what it is!)

  • @indoorjetpacks
    @indoorjetpacks ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i like that the mainstream is coming around to the realization that the mind and the body aren't two systems but that they're super interconnected. i also hadn't thought about the flip side of people without penises not being educated about erectile dysfunction etc and that there is a lot of pressure on having erections etc.

  • @hconf
    @hconf ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video is gold, Jerry!!!! Thank you thank you

  • @joannepower203
    @joannepower203 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve been following you for a while and had no idea you had a podcast! Just followed you and can’t wait to hear all this fantastic info

  • @melima_
    @melima_ ปีที่แล้ว

    Such a great recap of the last season! Excited for the next one!

  • @kmjh4720
    @kmjh4720 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Would love to hear more about your somatic work after birth! I've struggled with vaginismus/PFD/pelvic pain for years and have only recently heard of somatic therapy, and think it could be really helpful but don't know where to start.

  • @zoeatrics
    @zoeatrics ปีที่แล้ว

    love more stuff from the podcast on youtube!! I prefer videos on sex topics over podcasts, just because I feel a bit funny listening to sexy stuff when I usually listen to podcasts (i.e. out and about, at work, etc) - keep it coming!

  • @starr6198
    @starr6198 ปีที่แล้ว

    That was fab! Such a useful overview. Definitely will be digging into the podcast now 🎉

  • @ericagreene1579
    @ericagreene1579 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love what Ben said about masculinity!

  • @hazelgeorgene7719
    @hazelgeorgene7719 ปีที่แล้ว

    This served as a great teaser for the podcast and has made me want to give it a shot! (Even though I have so many to listen to already!)

  • @laurenschenck5355
    @laurenschenck5355 ปีที่แล้ว

    SO EXCITED!!!🩵🌞💛💛💛💛🌞🩵🏝️🏝️🩵⛱️💛💛💛💛🩵🏝️🏝️🌞⛱️🏝️💛💛💛💛⛱️🩵🩵🏝️🩵🌞⛱️🌊🌊🌞🌞⛱️💛💛💛💛⛱️🌞🩵🩵🩵🩵⛱️💛💛⛱️🌞🩵🩵🩵

  • @amalmed9753
    @amalmed9753 ปีที่แล้ว

    Highlights of every season might be a great idea

  • @ashby7m
    @ashby7m 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i fucking love alll of this! got my brain really thinking and now i want to go and listen to every single episode

  • @wilkobye9533
    @wilkobye9533 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love the podcast so much!!! Keep up the good work

  • @sebastianevangelista4921
    @sebastianevangelista4921 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It would be awesome if you featured @RenaMalikMD on your podcast sometime! Also, I'm not sure if you've already done this or not but a video on how kinks and fetishes are depicted in mainstream media could be pretty cool, especially when you consider how certain fetishes are slowly becoming normalized to a certain extent.

  • @zZizify
    @zZizify ปีที่แล้ว

    this is basically a great promo for the podcast or a summary of some great advice Hannah has gotten through the podcast (for us who, for different reasons, can't listen to the full podcast)

  • @shaunlomax1
    @shaunlomax1 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thr ADHD bit has blown my mind! I'm off to listen to that IMMIDIATELY!

  • @laurenschenck5355
    @laurenschenck5355 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy Tuesday Hannah hope you have a great week xoxo 🩵🌞🌞⛱️⛱️⛱️⛱️⛱️💛🌊💛💛🩵🩵🌞🌞🌞🩵💛🏝️🏝️🏝️⛱️💛🩵🌞🌞🌞🌞💛⛱️⛱️⛱️⛱️💛🩵🌞🌞⛱️🏝️🏝️🏝️⛱️🩵🩵🌞🩵💛🏝️🏝️⛱️🩵🩵

  • @Ludesto
    @Ludesto ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing video!

  • @TinksiehTink
    @TinksiehTink ปีที่แล้ว

    Like many others I've decided that I also want to be Doing It 😂 gonna go find the podcast ❤

  • @broadwaybaby243
    @broadwaybaby243 ปีที่แล้ว

    I say this as someone who is not Jewish, but "They tried to kill us, we won, let's eat" is such a fantastic description of Judaism 😂

  • @fishfish7985
    @fishfish7985 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love qprs so much

  • @phillipjones611
    @phillipjones611 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Excuse my naivety but what are ACE and ALLO in this context?

    • @tompw3141
      @tompw3141 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      "Ace" = "asexual", people who have a lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity
      "Allo" = "allosexual", people who regularly experience sexual attraction to others.

    • @KxNOxUTA
      @KxNOxUTA ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's the same like naming the spectrum of transgender and cis-gender.
      The majority of ppl is currently considered to be:
      allosexual | cis-gender | of male or female sex | heterosexual | monogamous
      The minority of ppl is currently considered to be:
      asexual | trans- or nonbinary | of intersex | homo-, bi- or pan-sexual | polyamorous
      and trust me I've forgotten stuffs for sure so this guide is by absolutely no means complete!!! Just add what is missing if you feel like it

  • @walter9724
    @walter9724 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm girthy and with good length. My girlfriend is worried I may permanently stretch her. Any advice?

  • @Jodie_May92
    @Jodie_May92 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I liked the questions around whether social factors are at play with the differences in performance between the genders.
    I really want to do some more learning on how gender can affect sports performance because this is one area where I feel like my lack of understanding is a barrier for me. I’ve had a really hard time trying to determine what “fair” looks like to me for sports that have been segregated by gender. If society accepts that people with XY chromosomes generally perform better in some sports than people with XX chromosomes, and that we’ve traditionally segregated these groups for competition purposes due to this difference, I can understand why people with XX chromosomes would be resistant to being asked to compete against people with XY chromosomes, and the only way we will ever understand if it is a fair thing to ask is to do an appropriate amount of research to determine what actually causes the difference in performance and segregate on those terms instead. I think the current stance of letting people believe that trans-women have a biological advantage helps no one, as it encourages cis-women and sporting spectators to think trans-women shouldn’t compete due to this advantage, but it also hurts trans-women who do compete and work really hard for any achievements which are then often chalked up to this perceived advantage, rather than an acknowledgement of their hard work.

    • @KxNOxUTA
      @KxNOxUTA ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Also what about all the ppl with XX cholosomes and XY cromosomes (or tripples ones lol) who don't fit their gender role category while being cis and would actually do better in another category X'D Cause it turns our that even all the "only women can..." videos, putting stuff like flexibility to test, can actually not be done by some women and can be done by some men X'D
      I love figure skating as examples. In pair skaing there's a skate and dance category. The first concentrating more on athletic achievements while the later concentrates more on artistic ones. Meanwhile the men and women single skaing events take these two things and basically split them by gender. And know what? Quads (4-turn jumps) have stared to take over men's competition and killing the art in there. Meanwhile (sry if I'm no longer up to date) quads are outright forbidden in the short program (aka the performanc that leans heavier on technical scoring). The scoring is different. And there's this crazy thing that we seem to find it acceptable to confine the performance of women AND find it OK to encourage dangerious performanc practices in male skaters while letting them slack off more of their emotional expressiveness etc.
      Sth. like different classes (like weight classes) but going by preformance types makes so much more sense. You could have the JUST technical accuracy competitions with different levels (aka jump categories), the artistry ones that keep jumping to a bare minimum and don't score them high, and the mixed category, cause there are amazing skaters of all genders who are actually epic at both.

  • @c.morland
    @c.morland ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks

  • @stephanieherman2861
    @stephanieherman2861 ปีที่แล้ว

    so, kink is good for people with adhd. what about people without adhd? no good?

  • @Charlotte-hv6ll
    @Charlotte-hv6ll ปีที่แล้ว

    Leaving a comment for the algrithm

  • @MadisonJones
    @MadisonJones ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Judaism: They tried to kill us, we won, let's eat LMAOOOOO

  • @manicantsettleonausername6789
    @manicantsettleonausername6789 ปีที่แล้ว

    super interesting!

  • @blackfrost273industries4
    @blackfrost273industries4 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel like seeing scientific data will help determine if it is a myth. By default that changes the answer type to an opinion? To be egalitarian conclusions should come with caution. It must force some people to be inactive. It sucks, but there is not really a one size fits all for winning. We can take several approaches to with which athletes compete where, but i would like to not have any athlete feel excluded. And that can happen if we do not have data to backup why we are letting gender ideaology in the Olympics. No?

  • @OrPhEeUs
    @OrPhEeUs ปีที่แล้ว

    17:35 If its a myth, then why is it banned in most sports??? 🤔

  • @farosization
    @farosization ปีที่แล้ว +1

    6:02 - Factually incorrect to say "there is nothing in the middle for them"; this is exactly what Islam teaches (Quran 2:143)

    • @blackfrost273industries4
      @blackfrost273industries4 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm confused. I'm trying to understand what you are saying here. Please explain some more?

    • @farosization
      @farosization 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@blackfrost273industries4media has an agenda against islam. Things which are seen as modest and contole of emotion are seen as extremism. Men in islam specifically reverts see a massive improvement in life satisfaction in that you can have right (traditional) roles which biologically fit your nature and left wing also in supporting the women around you achieve what they want. Aka Islamic ideology is both right and left wing it is not extreem red nor blue pill hence why male reverts in the UK are increasing massively.

  • @emmabarnes609
    @emmabarnes609 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    hey

  • @aaa-tb2he
    @aaa-tb2he ปีที่แล้ว

    I admire your effort, but I can't agree with a few things

  • @howtoaca7504
    @howtoaca7504 ปีที่แล้ว

    💕💕

  • @GirliestMammy
    @GirliestMammy ปีที่แล้ว

    💖

  • @purelyindividual
    @purelyindividual ปีที่แล้ว

    😎

  • @monster21blog36
    @monster21blog36 ปีที่แล้ว

    How are u

  • @scottkrieger4701
    @scottkrieger4701 ปีที่แล้ว

    Here's a question, what you think about a guy that's 56y old still a virgin . Weights in at 370 at this time .several physical health issues so classified as disabled. Women generally just saying high want nothing to do with me. Been that way before I got so fat and disabled.

    • @worldchampion69er
      @worldchampion69er ปีที่แล้ว

      He probably had a mother that demasculate him

  • @davidtagauri2034
    @davidtagauri2034 ปีที่แล้ว

    Giving a child opportunity to express their position is different from "letting them figure out their sexuality". OF course the parent would prefer if the child is heterosexual. Only very unloving or unwise parent would wish otherwise. Children who are not heterosexual should have freedom to express their position, but parent should make it clear what is norm and what is the deviation from the norm.

  • @Sherry-jx9hs
    @Sherry-jx9hs ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think it is interesting that people deny that being Trans doesn't give you an advantage in sports. When you go from being a male to female after 18 years as a male your body has developed differently and you have bigger muscles usually and are stronger because of that. Then you go compete against women with smaller weaker muscles and it is no wonder that the Trans athlete wins most of the time. Explain how that isn't an advantage for one person. There are exceptions to this but most of the time it is true. I'm not trying to judge I am only pointing out what should be evident based on anatomy and development of boys and girls

    • @rachelwalsh95
      @rachelwalsh95 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      what are your sources for this claim?

    • @Sherry-jx9hs
      @Sherry-jx9hs ปีที่แล้ว

      @@rachelwalsh95 well there is the guy who competed in swimming against the boys and then decided he was a girl and went out and beat all the girls on the girls swim team

    • @rachelwalsh95
      @rachelwalsh95 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Sherry if you're referring to Lia Thomas, she, in fact, did not beat "all the girls," placing 1st in only one event out of five she competed in and breaking no previously set records. She even placed last in one of her events.

  • @alandonsaji6673
    @alandonsaji6673 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You were saying im other videos humans are not monogamous...then why are you in an monogamous marriage..?

    • @honestlyholly7657
      @honestlyholly7657 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      humans aren't monogamous in that we can have multiple relationships over a lifetime, or be in polyamorous relationships. It doesn't mean that polyamory is for everyone.

    • @KxNOxUTA
      @KxNOxUTA ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Humans are not monogamous !!by default!!
      And what do general trends have to do with individuals? You REALLY need to sort out your discernment when it comes to processing information. 99% of ppl can be one thing and 1% of people is still a large ass number of individuals who have different needs.
      That said, even when it comes to group dynamics: Just because the majority of ppl was raised with an assumption of monogamy at the current point in time, that does by no means mean that it's good for them just cause they live that way (cause everything else - especially for women - was utterly inacceptable to society) X'D
      And since when must people who talk about topics, live out what they speak about and e.g. completely and personally align with it. You know how many therapists out there speak about things like neurodivergence but have 0 personal experience of being that way? Or how many doctors speak on health and never struggled with those parts of them? :'D How many animal experts have never been any other animal than human? XDDDDDDD