@@MamaDoctorJones th-cam.com/video/-Ojvk-4IcOE/w-d-xo.html You might relate to this one better. It's a parody of the one you mentioned with a gender reversal.
Ouch ouch ouch......that guy wouldve been so much better off helping his wife and asking for tbe guy to wait. That just looked like he uses his wife. Seriously.
Inna Vitruk he probably couldn’t get up because he was only dressed from the waist up. When you’re on live tv you can’t just say “excuse me millions of people while I grab my screaming kids.” Lol. He’s working. Mom got them out of there pretty quickly. The end.
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Not a physician, but I remember in nursing school our professors talking so much crap about those who get pregnant or have a baby in nursing school. If I could have rolled my eyes any harder I would have fallen backwards.
We found out we were pregnant four months before I was supposed to start medical school. I deferred and my son was 3 months old when I started classes. He has honestly been the best motivation to work hard.
I appreciate this comment so much. We are having a baby now, because i'm graduating early and will have 5 months with the baby and nothing else. I have definitely already felt the pressure and negativity from others and the positivity from these videos really help 💜💜💜
@@Sam-od3qd I feel you, I am applying for med school this year, just after graduating from my molecular medicine bachelor ( this is my last year), and I am a mom of a 2 y.o. Definitely not easy, you'll cry some nights BUT your kid will always be your greater motivation, my actual cGPA is amazing and I just wonder How I did that with a baby. Don't listen to the negative comments, IT's always seems impossible until it's done. you got this
I have always translated the expression "there's never a good time" as a positive thing. As in, there's never going to be a good time so don't wait. If you are waiting for that perfect time, you will never start your family. So, if you want to have a baby, have a baby.
The same thing when they say, "you'll never be financially stable to have a baby." I see it as a good thing because it means you WILL make it work, it's possible to make it work. I HATE it when people say, "babies are expensive." No they're not. Breastfeed (if you can't, there's cheap brands of formula), make your own baby food, buy second hand, get WIC and Medicaid. Budget and save. You can make it work if you put your mind to it, and if you prioritize expenses. The only things we bought brand new was the car seats, for both kids. Everything else we spent on was either from the thrift store, or hand-me-downs. Also, family was really good at giving gifts of baby clothes, toys, and books 🤷🏻♀️
I started my first year of medical school at 7 months pregnant and finished top of my class. Its tough but nowhere near impossible. It’s always a good time! You are an inspiration! Absolutely love your videos!
Oh my gosh, Milo is absolutely adorable! What a precious little boy! I’m trying to figure out how you manage 4 kids, a busy medical practice AND do a TH-cam channel?!?! I know you have a husband, but still....WOW!! 💖 you are truly amazing girl!! 😳
How are you supposed to plan with such a small window? You'll have at most maybe 25 days out of the year available to conceive that should be illegal to ask. If you have the time to take off and feel it's right to your family why is it their business? Don't they realize teachers a human and want normal things like a family etc.? Sorry rant over have a nice day.
I know this is an old comment but the idea of an employer telling you how to plan your life to that extent makes my skin crawl 😂 whyyy do employers always seem to think they own their employees?
My dance teacher did actually have her baby at the end of june and was somehow teaching dance while super pregnant and then was back to teaching dance in september. I will never understand how she did that.
We're 2.5 years into active trying and still not pregnant. I don't know how people think it's possible to plan in so much detail. Some people can't even plan within the year.
As a gen surg R4, I have to say that I love this video. And I really love that you change the phrase from "it's never a good time" (which I've heard a million times), to it's always a good time. Subscribed!
I am an ER Physician and totally relate! I had twins right before med school after undergraduate and deferred my acceptance one year so they were toddlers when I started and I was home A LOT for them. Studying but home. I had my 3rd in the last few months of residency and had a lot if elective months to use my maternity leave and delayed working my new job a few months to be home with her, it was kind of perfect and I had my 4th while in practice. You can do it all!! She is right medicine will be there:) life finds a way😉
I think no matter the profession, it's always complicated and you just make it work. I once asked my own OBGYN when she had kids relative to school, especially since she went to med school a little later than most and she laughed and told me about how she found out she was pregnant with her third baby the day she started med school, a surprise! She loves and hates that story because she's like "See, even us OBGYNs can forget to take our pills!...IUDs are great!" but then she goes on to say that it ended up being one of her best-timed kids and she's known for being one of the best OBGYNs in the state, so it certainly didn't hold her back.
Currently in med school, had my first baby (girl) in 3rd year and my second (boy) in deccember. Ended up taking the 2nd term off my 4th year. The idea of being behind my bothered me at first but, as you said "medicine will always be there," so im glad i will have had my kids when i finish. There are so many stories of female drs who delayed having children and relationships and are single and childless when they finish, so i couldnt advise anyone to wait.
If they don't take time off, they will be in their twenties when finishing, I don't see the big deal of them being single and childless even if they want kids at some point
Shueps x med schools are getting increasingly competitive so it is no longer common for people to go straight through. The average age of my first years class was 26 with the oldest being 40.
@@breea07 It is definitely different here, getting in is also highly competitive, but most people start after high school. Even considering those who start being less young I would say the average age would be 20..
It's not medical school but I found out I was pregnant 1 weeks after I found out I got into nursing school, I never thought I'd be able to do it. I had my son at 28 weeks, but thank God it was a week after 1st semester ended, he came home a few weeks before 2nd semester started. There's truly no "bad" time, and things work out no matter how bad the seem to start with!
This is exactly what I needed right now 😭☺️☺️☺️ I’ve been so bummed out thinking about how I’m going to manage 3 kids (3, 1 & newborn) and nursing school. A different perspective is just want I needed. Thank you!
Nobody talks like this. Thank you. It really is horrible the way they all make you feel like as a woman, you have to choose between kids and med school.
I got pregnant exactly when I wanted to. Down the the exact cycle! I had my baby one month after I finished grad school. I know we can’t always make it happen but it worked for me and I really believe in manifesting! We prepared and planned and got busy when we needed to and did all the things and luckily it worked and we are forever grateful!
So true. I had my kiddos during residency and fellowship. It was so challenging but also great to come back home and hug them when you had a rough day. Thanks for your channel!
Love your perspective! I had my son at the end of 4th year - just a few weeks after graduation actually! For me, I had been indecisive about medicine throughout much of my training, so I ultimately decided to postpone residency. I know for me, being a new intern with a 2-3 week old baby just wasn’t going to work, ie. not at all what I wanted as a new mom. And like you said, family is more important! So now, I’m 2 years out and still staying home BY CHOICE, with baby #2 on the way! Definitive turn of events for me, but at the end of the day, I & my family are happy - and that’s ultimately what fueled all my decisions! It’s hard to know what you should do at times, and logistics can be complicated, but really the only “should” lies in where your heart is nudging you! Now, I’m trying to decide on a residency position that would begin when this little one is 3 months old. It’s difficult feeling like you have to choose between medical career/ family, but in reality, I think if we keep priorities at the forefront and develop some thick skin, we can make any of it work - no matter what we choose!
This was a great advice. Thank you! I have a 5 y/o son and I want to go to Medical School. A lot of people thinks it is a bad idea and that I should go ahead and have another baby so they won't be so far apart. I agree with you. One should do what he or she is believes is best for him or her and not what people wants.
This video and all the comments are so heartwarming. I am 34 and entering second year psychology degree (I know it’s not the same as an MD but there’s also lots of pressure!) specially as I feel so much older than everyone else! Also the pressure to have a baby is mounting from all sides, my biology, husband and parents! Oh goshhh, I just hope I have the strength as all the amazing women writing here!!
I wish there was a love button for this video!!! I have heard so many people say not to start a family in med school, and you are the 2nd person who has said something so encouraging and empowering.
I think it is a rude question to ask. When I was asked the question "Are You going to have more children?" I would reply with "I don't know, How is your sex life?" usually did not get a repeat inquiry.
@@pippetandpossum well one thing is when you best friend or sister ask this question, however, when second uncles and neighbors are asking this, it's very uncomfortable.
Mandy Robinson ??? That seems illogical. Am I supposed to tiptoe around subjects now, on the off chance that it might offend someone or make them uncomfortable? Can I ask people how their spouse is, or no because something tragic might’ve happened? Can I ask people how their job is, or no because what if they got fired? Can I ask people if they’re from the area or no because they might’ve moved following a traumatic event? I’m not trying to be rude, but I’m not going to ever shame or shut down someone who is trying to get to know me or show an interest in my life. Anecdotally, when my mom was deployed to Afghanistan, people asking me about her or how I was dealing with her being gone would cause me to tear up, and would usually lead to a violent crying spell at the end of the day. I still replied respectfully and thanked them for asking. They were asking out of concern for me and I still to this day appreciate it.
Aiste Osinskyte I still don’t get why though? Someone is taking an interest in your life. Maybe they see how much you love your kids and think it’s a good topic because you might be excited for more. All you have to say is “maybe, but not for awhile”
@@pippetandpossum Some of us care more about _asked hurtful questions peoples'_ feelings than feelings of those "asking too personal questions out of concern*" ones *Intent does not negate impact* (*even if actual concern, not being nosy) I'm sorry for what you have gone through. But your preference for "not to tip toe" society over hearing feedback and learning what questions have possibility to be intrusive (more than any others from your examples) and hurtful... is just that. Your preference. (you might wanna explore why) It might be logical to your values, not to other people's. I for myself prefer the opposite and that's why I welcome more feedback, and us, setting boundaries to what's appropriate, I quite liked form of reply like Kate does. I usually get uncomfortable, and as I'm honest I get to mention loss and it ends awkward... I get pity/simpathy (I don't need) and the possibility of light enjoyable conversation is ruined. See, even if I'm an outlier* not deeply hurt over the baby loss, I get my day ruined... And i feel for those who are... *I don't know, it's common theme that "every baby loss is devastating" I'm sure I'm not the only one but... that's another can of "societal expectations" worms
As a student finishing up first year and looking to start trying for kids sometime next year, this video has been a lot more comforting than most of the faculty I have talked to.
Not pregnant and not planning to be anytime soonish but I flippin LOVE your videos Dr Jones! You’re so informative & such a great story teller! Thank you for your channel!!!!
Omg why have I not discovered you earlier! This is the best advice I have ever received! I am such huge fan. I am a current 3rd year medical student and I just found out that I am pregnant, I had a mini panic attack. But your device is really reassuring, I feel like I am no longer going to die.
I am not in med school but I am pregnant with my third. I’ll be in grad school while nursing a new baby and homeschooling my older kids. It will always be hard but I am so happy we are expanding our family. I had to overcome invasive endometriosis and multiple surgeries to get here so I’m just so happy right now. Thank you for your videos!!!
I just love you. Currently prego with #3. Not in medical school but we were planning to move back home after living overseas for 7 years when this surprise happened. I struggled for a while feeling like this is the “worst” time and when you said that it’s always a good time to have a baby, I wanted to cry. Thank you. We can and will move after this baby is born. It will be postponed for a bit, yes, but right now IS the exact right time this baby was supposed to be born.
-Best response: "I can understand why you would feel that way, it's hard. But, the timing worked for me and I'm perfectly happy!" Done. I mean, if you feel like actually responding. It's not required, but a talker like me would have a response. "Get to the friggin content." This is YOUR vlog. You do it how you want. If the viewers don't like it, they can leave. Things like a child interrupting and you're telling people about a funny video gives the viewer insight into your personality, likes, and dislikes. Trust me, people love it and it humanizes you. And if they really want to skip all of that and go straight to the content, most know how to fast forward, they'll be fine. Also, it had humor to your videos and brings on smiles, nothing wrong with that!
Not medical related but I love that you mention that babies come at their own time. Just after I got married, I took an 'easy' job because we planned to try for a baby straight away and I didn't want to be that 'awkward' person who gets pregnant soon after starting a job. Two and a half years later and still no baby, I've learnt that it's pointless to try and plan babies for the sake of job suitability. Now I have a better job doing something I'm interested in and I try and keep those two parts of my life apart.
You're just so amazing! Mommy of 4, a full time practising doc, all around happy and sunshine person and running this channel to educate and help us! I had taken a break from my profession due to a critical illness and was wondering whether my career is over now, but your words hold true for me as all. It is always a good time!
I just don’t believe I could ever pull something like this off, I don’t handle stress or lack of sleep well and I couldn’t imagine myself being able to meet all of those responsibilities. (I don’t even think I’ll be able to get into med school let alone survive it) You are amazing, I hope one day I could manage to do half as much as you do
My thoughts exactly. We chose to start our family while my husband was still in undergrad, he didn't do an MD, but by the time he graduated from PT school we had 3 and 1 on the way and most of his class was flabbergasted that he would have a family while in school (though always wanted to babysit our kids because they were baby hungry). I love your change of wording - there's never a bad time to have a baby. It will ALWAYS be inconvenient to change your life drastically by welcoming new life into your family, but it will also ALWAYS be worth it to welcome new life into your family. Your capacity increases, and your priorities become more honed in on what is most important.
Love your content! Both here and on instagram. As a junior doc in Australia, it can be so hard to find seniors who encourage your other life goals outside of medicine, so thank you for being that for me.
Hi Dr. Jones! I just recently found your channel and I love it. I'm a current M1 and at 30 years old with no children, my husband and I struggle with this ALL. THE. TIME. Boards during 2nd year. Rotations during 3rd year. Interviews during 4th year. Then residency. And I am super hesitant to take a year off of school at my age and delay it any longer. But I totally agree, it's *not* that it is never a good time. It takes a lot of discussion with your significant other as to when would be best for you because it *is* complicated, but it's something that you make work because it's what you want. Thank you for sharing your insight with us on this!
I got pregnant at the end of my junior year in my undergrad. Was it the best timing? No, but like you said, we’re making it work. I have an amazing husband and amazing mother who are supporting me and helping me with her when she comes. Btw love your channel!
You're so inspirational! I study Engineering and have 2 part-time jobs and OMG it´s just crazy to manage everything! But this is just the best advice video about balancing life
I just had my first child literally one week ago today. I was freaking out thinking about how it's not a good time when I first got pregnant because I was just coming back up from financial loss, I was wanting to get started going to college, I'm living in a crummy apartment.... And then I thought about the fact that money can always come and go and you never know when it will, college will always be there later, and I can always move when I can afford to. My child is growing in me NOW and this is the only time I get to be pregnant with her and so I should enjoy it instead of looking at the negatives.
Exactly . I'm studying but we are so ready for a babe ... I'm giving birth in may, taking a few months off and then back to school again ! Lucklily we live in Sweden so it's going to work out wonderfully.
So true! I like that you go with the positive version - “it’s always a good time”. There are definitely times that are not as great as others but every woman and every family is unique and should decide for themselves when they’re ready! I’m going to start switching my language around this because I have definitely been in the “there’s never a ‘great’ time” camp - only because the point being that if someone is waiting out for this absolutely perfect moment, it doesn’t exist! Because as you said: every moment has its challenges. But we adapt and make it work to the best of our abilities. ❤️
Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear this today. I’m currently a little over 3 months pregnant and lost my job in January. My husband and I were trying to have a baby since last August, and after I lost my job people started telling me we should wait. It has made me nervous about the decision we made NOT to wait because (as you said) you cannot microplan these things. You just don’t know if you will be able to get pregnant without medical help, and starting a family will always be a time where you need to adjust to your new life. I guess what I’m trying to say is: Thank you for reminding me of something I already knew but lost track of because of other peoples opinions. On another note I wanted to tell you I find your video’s very informative and greatly admire the respectful and gentle way you addres delicate issues such as vaccinations and fear of getting examined. It is so important to get this information out there and even more so that people with your profession speak up. Thank you!
I can see why your husband choose you as a wife!! you are amazing!! Keep on being you and keep on focusing on your self and what is important in your life and family life!
This actually made me tear up. We are TTC baby 2 at the moment and I feel guilty as we are also purchasing a house at the moment and work is crazy... but you are so right, we are sooo ready to add another person to our family ❤❤ much love
I relate to the thing about not being able to choose when you're baby comes. With my first, my husband and I tried for over a year, then (during the recession) I lost my job and we decided to not try and then found out I was pregnant. My second baby came when we were just starting to discuss maybe trying but hadn't actually stopped preventing yet, and my third came as a complete surprised as I was still nursing my second and was using condoms and was absolutely not ready and I legit was mad at my husband for nocking me up because hormones. But my third baby turned out to be the world's easiest baby, thank God. Although he's my most difficult toddler now. But I can't imagine life without him. He's a love bug, just extremely adventurous.
The funny thing is, I tell people all the time that there's never a good time, but I've always meant it in the sense of, there's never a good time because you think you're busy now, but you'll be just as busy in the future, so if you want kids now, you might as well have them now, because if you wait until you get less busy, that day will never happen. You just need to do it now and readjust your priorities accordingly and work your life around them. That's how I've always been taught growing up as well. Ironically, I wanted kids by my mid-twenties and am almost 33 with no kids.
I understand the sentiment obviously, I disagree w the framing. “Never a good time” is incredibly negative. With no reason. It’s hard, but it’s always fine.
Thank you for sharing! As a non-traditional student applying to medical school, I have worried about when children would and could come into the picture. Did you feel like your pregnancy changed your interview experience for residency in terms of how they saw you as a candidate? If so, how did you handle that?
Thank you SOOOO much for this video!!!! My problem is, that I am very young, but I know that I won't live as long as others because of medical reason, so I don't want to leave a child and my spouse alone, so I kind of have to start very early despite university, despite of my young age, despite literally EVERONE else who wants to talk me in having a family when I am at least 30 or 35. Videos like this give me hope! Thank you for that!
My aunt is an an OBGYN too and you both have the same ways of explaining medical things, in the same tone of voice, and gesturing of hands/face and you remind me so much of her ahaha I love it!!!! I wish I would have pursued medical school...I tapped out after one year of being a biology pre-med major at a private university. Not for me...but now I am going to school to become an ultrasound technician:)
I'm A personal support worker but I found out i was pregnant right after i was accepted to the program. I decided I was gonna do both at the same time and it did work out. Finished all my in class before my due date and than had to return after a couple months to heal for my externship.
I've had this question a lot and the fact that you said it's always a good time, really eased my worries. I'm no where close to having a baby but considering that I would like to start a family in my 20s, it's always been something that plagues my mind. Thank you so much! I can rest easy now, acknowledging that, you know what, I can have a baby whenever I want because it's "always a good time". Thanks so much!
I had my son while I went back to undergrad. I actually went back when he was 8 months, but I wish I wouldve waited until he was about 1.5 yrs, bc i struggled a lot until he was 1.5 and i started to see improvement. Hes 3 now and I'm currently pregnant now with #2 and I'm due literaly a month before i graduate 😭 i am def not making the same mistake and going straight to dental school when new baby is 6 months... so I'm taking a gap year lol just make sure you and your spouse is on the same page about what needs to be done/versus what you would like to have planned. Itll all work out!
I love this 🥹🥹🥹 “medicine will always be there”. I’m about to enter med school and so anxious (clearly as I’m already worried about family planning Hahah!) but this video was so helpful ❤
You're amazing! I have been having these conversations with my partner who is also in medicine and it's nice to hear someone I look up to talk on this.
This was so helpful, I’m in undergrad now and I’ve always wanted to work in labor and delivery. However, I’ve been scared about my chosen path because I know how important having children is for me.
Late here, but like you said, you can never really plan when you'll have a baby. I was always planning on going to medical school so I was planning on having my first baby at 28 LOL. Well I found out I was pregnant with my first at 17! Still a Junior in high school. I was told by my dad that my dreams of college and medical school were over and I said " No way!". Well, I am now a junior in college and just had my second baby. I'm pretty nervous on starting medical school with TWO kids, but what you said and reading the comments, I feel sooooo much better about my decision to keep on going. I really needed this video ! Thanks!! Love your videos BTW! :)
Docs like you solidify my want to go to med school. I’m going into my 3rd year of undergrad and may take a gap year before med school but that is okay. I am in no particular rush in life and would rather be comfortable going at this pace than rushing and missing out on some stuff. Go you for handling so much on your plate too!! Women are superheroes!
This has got to be your best video I have seen! I’ve seen a dozen of them or so. Babies come when God says they should. Man can not control God. We can try to plan. God lets us have them when he wants us to. From the time I had our second on my mother and father-in-law both started telling us we should be done. That only made me not tell tell them when I was expecting 3, 4 & 5. Their bad, not mine.
I have always wanted to be a doctor. I have a disability and have spent a lot of my life in the hospital. I had a son at 19 though and waited to go to college. I’m 27 now with an eight year old and this fall will be my last year of undergrad. It’s time for me to start talking to grad/med schools and planning ... but we want our son to have a sibling before he is too old and he desperately wants a brother. My partner can stay home with our baby and if we do it now we would have a toddler by the time I was actually in medical school ... I’m glad to hear that we all struggle with this decision. I just found your channel but I hope you have all the advice on juggling 2 careers and kiddos 🖤🖤🖤
I loved this video Mama Doctor Jones! I’m a teacher and I am taking a few years off to have my kids and take care of my family. There’s so much negative stigmatism surrounding women in professional careers and taking time for their families. I’m looking forward to going back into teaching when my children are older and enjoying growing my family now.
Not in medical school but wanting to do MSc/PhD in Biology, and this legit helped. Trying to find the best way to fit it all in is so difficult. Thank you x
Thank you so much. As a nursing student who is getting married this month and wanting to have a baby asap ( or try, have PCOS) I was beating myself about when I should have a baby based on my body issues and nursing school.
It is truly my goal to at least finish my undergrad in psych before my husband and I start trying. He's already got his under grad and finishing up his masters, phew! But we wouldn't mind if it happened sooner than me finishing undergrad either. 💜 I also really enjoyed the "never a good time" perspective you gave. Things hardly go to plan and if you and your partner are ready and want a family, go for it. I love that.
I'm watching this video a year after you posted it and it is still so helpful. This year I'm applying to colleges to start my path to become a doctor (I have no clue what type yet and I'm totally okay with that). My mom has constantly warned me to not go because it takes up so much time of your life and I won't be able to have kids or have a family. Hearing your words have really helped me cope with wanting both a job as a doctor and a family when I have been told I can't have both for so long. You've made my decision to major as pre-med and start my new path of life. (it's 2 am and I'm rambling so I do apologize if this whole thing doesn't make sense)
I just found your channel and am a new subscriber, I am loving your channel and all the woman centred information I find here! Your personality is so wonderful, I so wish I could find a doctor like you!! Haha Im in Canada and seems like we have a tonne of old men doctors... which is fine but I dont know, you seem like you have a personalty that would make people very comfortable with maybe weird subjects!! Keep up the great content!! The doctor reacts was wonderful!! More of those for sure :) I dont know where you find the time with kids and being a doctor, but please please keep it up lol!
WOW I needed to hear this about a year ago. Luckily through talking to many many others, the message got across. I'm an MS2 due in May, right around Step 1 time, which would make a lot of people anxious, but our plan is all worked out and it isn't any more complicated than medical school already is. You are so right that it is ALWAYS a good time, always beautiful if that is what you want it to be, and to go for it when you and your partner feel ready. Such powerful words for women in medical training - thank you thank you thank you!
That video you were talking about with the guy working from home, i'm pretty sure he was skyping into the UK national news program when that happened haha
If you are a fan of parents dealing with kids out of bed, check out the Ryan Haywood twitch streams, his two kids are constantly interrupting him while he streams (and he doesnt start till 8:30, after their bedtime) and its adorable
I work in the UK as a GP (primary care) and have just gone back after my second (my daughter is 7 months old). It has seemed like a pretty good time. My first was born in my second year of GP training (four years post graduation) which also worked well.
My husband is in his first year of med school and we just had our first baby! Thankfully baby came during his spring break but today was his first day back to school.
Absolutely! Can't predict what it's gonna be like when you getthere. All the planning in the world and nature does its thing. Had a baby 4th year and another last year of residency and worked out.
My dads first comment on us expecting during the summer was "it's gonna be a hassle having a newborn when it's that hot outside" - yeah, thanks. Cause you can always PLAN which month it's gonna stick. not.
Ha! I lol’d when you said one of the worst times to have a baby was first months of intern year because that was me! First baby July 20 of surgery intern year 😂😂 and we both survived.
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@@MamaDoctorJones I searched what you mentioned: dad working from home with baby
@@MamaDoctorJones th-cam.com/video/-Ojvk-4IcOE/w-d-xo.html You might relate to this one better. It's a parody of the one you mentioned with a gender reversal.
Ouch ouch ouch......that guy wouldve been so much better off helping his wife and asking for tbe guy to wait. That just looked like he uses his wife. Seriously.
Inna Vitruk he probably couldn’t get up because he was only dressed from the waist up. When you’re on live tv you can’t just say “excuse me millions of people while I grab my screaming kids.” Lol. He’s working. Mom got them out of there pretty quickly. The end.
Idk how you raise four kids and do TH-cam as an obgyn physician. Major props 👏👏
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she probably needs youtube as a hobby because of her other commitments and not in spite of them
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Not a physician, but I remember in nursing school our professors talking so much crap about those who get pregnant or have a baby in nursing school. If I could have rolled my eyes any harder I would have fallen backwards.
My mom did it twice in nursing school and has been an ER RN for going on 20 years now.
😂😂
We found out we were pregnant four months before I was supposed to start medical school. I deferred and my son was 3 months old when I started classes. He has honestly been the best motivation to work hard.
I appreciate this comment so much. We are having a baby now, because i'm graduating early and will have 5 months with the baby and nothing else. I have definitely already felt the pressure and negativity from others and the positivity from these videos really help 💜💜💜
@@Sam-od3qd I feel you, I am applying for med school this year, just after graduating from my molecular medicine bachelor ( this is my last year), and I am a mom of a 2 y.o. Definitely not easy, you'll cry some nights BUT your kid will always be your greater motivation, my actual cGPA is amazing and I just wonder How I did that with a baby. Don't listen to the negative comments, IT's always seems impossible until it's done. you got this
How is it going?!?
@@aqualife88 Pretty good! Now a 2nd year resident and mother of two! Difficult, but doable!
I have always translated the expression "there's never a good time" as a positive thing. As in, there's never going to be a good time so don't wait. If you are waiting for that perfect time, you will never start your family. So, if you want to have a baby, have a baby.
The same thing when they say, "you'll never be financially stable to have a baby." I see it as a good thing because it means you WILL make it work, it's possible to make it work. I HATE it when people say, "babies are expensive." No they're not. Breastfeed (if you can't, there's cheap brands of formula), make your own baby food, buy second hand, get WIC and Medicaid. Budget and save. You can make it work if you put your mind to it, and if you prioritize expenses. The only things we bought brand new was the car seats, for both kids. Everything else we spent on was either from the thrift store, or hand-me-downs. Also, family was really good at giving gifts of baby clothes, toys, and books 🤷🏻♀️
Same!
I started my first year of medical school at 7 months pregnant and finished top of my class. Its tough but nowhere near impossible. It’s always a good time! You are an inspiration! Absolutely love your videos!
Rock on Erin Light leave us a vlog on your journey. Thanks 🙏🏽
How was your application period? I just find out I was pregnant and I’m trying to apply for this cycle!
Oh my gosh, Milo is absolutely adorable! What a precious little boy! I’m trying to figure out how you manage 4 kids, a busy medical practice AND do a TH-cam channel?!?! I know you have a husband, but still....WOW!! 💖 you are truly amazing girl!! 😳
As a teacher they always wanted us to plan for summer break. 1 baby born in Sept and the other in December....I do what I want LOL.
Megan Haroldson i mean it honestly difficult if ur trying for a baby to plan for three months
How are you supposed to plan with such a small window? You'll have at most maybe 25 days out of the year available to conceive that should be illegal to ask. If you have the time to take off and feel it's right to your family why is it their business? Don't they realize teachers a human and want normal things like a family etc.? Sorry rant over have a nice day.
I know this is an old comment but the idea of an employer telling you how to plan your life to that extent makes my skin crawl 😂 whyyy do employers always seem to think they own their employees?
My dance teacher did actually have her baby at the end of june and was somehow teaching dance while super pregnant and then was back to teaching dance in september. I will never understand how she did that.
We're 2.5 years into active trying and still not pregnant. I don't know how people think it's possible to plan in so much detail. Some people can't even plan within the year.
As a gen surg R4, I have to say that I love this video. And I really love that you change the phrase from "it's never a good time" (which I've heard a million times), to it's always a good time.
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As someone going into medical school in 2020 and wants 4 kids, this made me feel better about wanting both and being able to make it work!
I am an ER Physician and totally relate! I had twins right before med school after undergraduate and deferred my acceptance one year so they were toddlers when I started and I was home A LOT for them. Studying but home. I had my 3rd in the last few months of residency and had a lot if elective months to use my maternity leave and delayed working my new job a few months to be home with her, it was kind of perfect and I had my 4th while in practice. You can do it all!! She is right medicine will be there:) life finds a way😉
Hi! Can I ask how did you have help or who watched the twins when you were beginning school? Congrats BTW you have some amazing accomplishments ❤
I think no matter the profession, it's always complicated and you just make it work. I once asked my own OBGYN when she had kids relative to school, especially since she went to med school a little later than most and she laughed and told me about how she found out she was pregnant with her third baby the day she started med school, a surprise! She loves and hates that story because she's like "See, even us OBGYNs can forget to take our pills!...IUDs are great!" but then she goes on to say that it ended up being one of her best-timed kids and she's known for being one of the best OBGYNs in the state, so it certainly didn't hold her back.
Currently in med school, had my first baby (girl) in 3rd year and my second (boy) in deccember. Ended up taking the 2nd term off my 4th year. The idea of being behind my bothered me at first but, as you said "medicine will always be there," so im glad i will have had my kids when i finish. There are so many stories of female drs who delayed having children and relationships and are single and childless when they finish, so i couldnt advise anyone to wait.
@@catemeyer165 childfree is a choice, childless is generally not.
If they don't take time off, they will be in their twenties when finishing, I don't see the big deal of them being single and childless even if they want kids at some point
Shueps x med schools are getting increasingly competitive so it is no longer common for people to go straight through. The average age of my first years class was 26 with the oldest being 40.
@@breea07 It is definitely different here, getting in is also highly competitive, but most people start after high school. Even considering those who start being less young I would say the average age would be 20..
There are lots of female doctors who don't want children. Lets not portray being single and childless as a sad and depressing thing.
It's not medical school but I found out I was pregnant 1 weeks after I found out I got into nursing school, I never thought I'd be able to do it. I had my son at 28 weeks, but thank God it was a week after 1st semester ended, he came home a few weeks before 2nd semester started. There's truly no "bad" time, and things work out no matter how bad the seem to start with!
This is exactly what I needed right now 😭☺️☺️☺️ I’ve been so bummed out thinking about how I’m going to manage 3 kids (3, 1 & newborn) and nursing school. A different perspective is just want I needed. Thank you!
Nobody talks like this. Thank you. It really is horrible the way they all make you feel like as a woman, you have to choose between kids and med school.
I love Milo! He is totally adorable.
I got pregnant exactly when I wanted to. Down the the exact cycle! I had my baby one month after I finished grad school. I know we can’t always make it happen but it worked for me and I really believe in manifesting! We prepared and planned and got busy when we needed to and did all the things and luckily it worked and we are forever grateful!
"someone is always going to have a stupid opinion" 🙌
Leah Ackerman sounds like what the teachers at my school say to everyone 😂
So true. I had my kiddos during residency and fellowship. It was so challenging but also great to come back home and hug them when you had a rough day. Thanks for your channel!
Love your perspective! I had my son at the end of 4th year - just a few weeks after graduation actually! For me, I had been indecisive about medicine throughout much of my training, so I ultimately decided to postpone residency. I know for me, being a new intern with a 2-3 week old baby just wasn’t going to work, ie. not at all what I wanted as a new mom. And like you said, family is more important! So now, I’m 2 years out and still staying home BY CHOICE, with baby #2 on the way! Definitive turn of events for me, but at the end of the day, I & my family are happy - and that’s ultimately what fueled all my decisions! It’s hard to know what you should do at times, and logistics can be complicated, but really the only “should” lies in where your heart is nudging you! Now, I’m trying to decide on a residency position that would begin when this little one is 3 months old. It’s difficult feeling like you have to choose between medical career/ family, but in reality, I think if we keep priorities at the forefront and develop some thick skin, we can make any of it work - no matter what we choose!
Hi! I’m currently in a similar situation. I would love to talk to you about it if you’re willing.
@@ars9038 hey there, I apologize I’m just now seeing your reply! Definitely willing to chat more about this :)
@@kfhowie I’m sorry for the super late response! Are you still willing to talk??
This was a great advice. Thank you! I have a 5 y/o son and I want to go to Medical School. A lot of people thinks it is a bad idea and that I should go ahead and have another baby so they won't be so far apart. I agree with you. One should do what he or she is believes is best for him or her and not what people wants.
This video and all the comments are so heartwarming. I am 34 and entering second year psychology degree (I know it’s not the same as an MD but there’s also lots of pressure!) specially as I feel so much older than everyone else!
Also the pressure to have a baby is mounting from all sides, my biology, husband and parents! Oh goshhh, I just hope I have the strength as all the amazing women writing here!!
I wish there was a love button for this video!!! I have heard so many people say not to start a family in med school, and you are the 2nd person who has said something so encouraging and empowering.
I think it is a rude question to ask. When I was asked the question "Are You going to have more children?" I would reply with "I don't know, How is your sex life?" usually did not get a repeat inquiry.
Why? From the way you phrased it it seems like they’re just showing an interest in your life.
@@pippetandpossum well one thing is when you best friend or sister ask this question, however, when second uncles and neighbors are asking this, it's very uncomfortable.
Mandy Robinson ??? That seems illogical. Am I supposed to tiptoe around subjects now, on the off chance that it might offend someone or make them uncomfortable? Can I ask people how their spouse is, or no because something tragic might’ve happened? Can I ask people how their job is, or no because what if they got fired? Can I ask people if they’re from the area or no because they might’ve moved following a traumatic event? I’m not trying to be rude, but I’m not going to ever shame or shut down someone who is trying to get to know me or show an interest in my life. Anecdotally, when my mom was deployed to Afghanistan, people asking me about her or how I was dealing with her being gone would cause me to tear up, and would usually lead to a violent crying spell at the end of the day. I still replied respectfully and thanked them for asking. They were asking out of concern for me and I still to this day appreciate it.
Aiste Osinskyte I still don’t get why though? Someone is taking an interest in your life. Maybe they see how much you love your kids and think it’s a good topic because you might be excited for more. All you have to say is “maybe, but not for awhile”
@@pippetandpossum
Some of us care more about _asked hurtful questions peoples'_ feelings than feelings of those "asking too personal questions out of concern*" ones
*Intent does not negate impact*
(*even if actual concern, not being nosy)
I'm sorry for what you have gone through.
But your preference for "not to tip toe" society over hearing feedback and learning what questions have possibility to be intrusive (more than any others from your examples) and hurtful... is just that.
Your preference.
(you might wanna explore why)
It might be logical to your values, not to other people's.
I for myself prefer the opposite and that's why I welcome more feedback, and us, setting boundaries to what's appropriate,
I quite liked form of reply like Kate does. I usually get uncomfortable, and as I'm honest I get to mention loss and it ends awkward... I get pity/simpathy (I don't need)
and the possibility of light enjoyable conversation is ruined.
See, even if I'm an outlier* not deeply hurt over the baby loss,
I get my day ruined... And i feel for those who are...
*I don't know, it's common theme that "every baby loss is devastating" I'm sure I'm not the only one but... that's another can of "societal expectations" worms
As a student finishing up first year and looking to start trying for kids sometime next year, this video has been a lot more comforting than most of the faculty I have talked to.
Not pregnant and not planning to be anytime soonish but I flippin LOVE your videos Dr Jones! You’re so informative & such a great story teller! Thank you for your channel!!!!
Omg why have I not discovered you earlier! This is the best advice I have ever received! I am such huge fan. I am a current 3rd year medical student and I just found out that I am pregnant, I had a mini panic attack. But your device is really reassuring, I feel like I am no longer going to die.
I am not in med school but I am pregnant with my third. I’ll be in grad school while nursing a new baby and homeschooling my older kids. It will always be hard but I am so happy we are expanding our family. I had to overcome invasive endometriosis and multiple surgeries to get here so I’m just so happy right now. Thank you for your videos!!!
I just love you. Currently prego with #3. Not in medical school but we were planning to move back home after living overseas for 7 years when this surprise happened. I struggled for a while feeling like this is the “worst” time and when you said that it’s always a good time to have a baby, I wanted to cry. Thank you. We can and will move after this baby is born. It will be postponed for a bit, yes, but right now IS the exact right time this baby was supposed to be born.
Omg I really want to be a surgeon and still in high school and already facing this. Thanks for the encouragement.
I just found you and I’ve been binging all your videos. You’re amazing
Me too!! I’m never ever going to get pregnant and give birth but I’m still extremely interested in pregnancy and childbirth.
Same here, I'm almost done with the videos, can't wait for more
-Best response: "I can understand why you would feel that way, it's hard. But, the timing worked for me and I'm perfectly happy!" Done. I mean, if you feel like actually responding. It's not required, but a talker like me would have a response.
"Get to the friggin content." This is YOUR vlog. You do it how you want. If the viewers don't like it, they can leave. Things like a child interrupting and you're telling people about a funny video gives the viewer insight into your personality, likes, and dislikes. Trust me, people love it and it humanizes you. And if they really want to skip all of that and go straight to the content, most know how to fast forward, they'll be fine. Also, it had humor to your videos and brings on smiles, nothing wrong with that!
Not medical related but I love that you mention that babies come at their own time. Just after I got married, I took an 'easy' job because we planned to try for a baby straight away and I didn't want to be that 'awkward' person who gets pregnant soon after starting a job. Two and a half years later and still no baby, I've learnt that it's pointless to try and plan babies for the sake of job suitability. Now I have a better job doing something I'm interested in and I try and keep those two parts of my life apart.
You're just so amazing! Mommy of 4, a full time practising doc, all around happy and sunshine person and running this channel to educate and help us! I had taken a break from my profession due to a critical illness and was wondering whether my career is over now, but your words hold true for me as all. It is always a good time!
I just don’t believe I could ever pull something like this off, I don’t handle stress or lack of sleep well and I couldn’t imagine myself being able to meet all of those responsibilities. (I don’t even think I’ll be able to get into med school let alone survive it) You are amazing, I hope one day I could manage to do half as much as you do
My thoughts exactly. We chose to start our family while my husband was still in undergrad, he didn't do an MD, but by the time he graduated from PT school we had 3 and 1 on the way and most of his class was flabbergasted that he would have a family while in school (though always wanted to babysit our kids because they were baby hungry).
I love your change of wording - there's never a bad time to have a baby. It will ALWAYS be inconvenient to change your life drastically by welcoming new life into your family, but it will also ALWAYS be worth it to welcome new life into your family. Your capacity increases, and your priorities become more honed in on what is most important.
Love your content! Both here and on instagram. As a junior doc in Australia, it can be so hard to find seniors who encourage your other life goals outside of medicine, so thank you for being that for me.
Hi Dr. Jones! I just recently found your channel and I love it. I'm a current M1 and at 30 years old with no children, my husband and I struggle with this ALL. THE. TIME. Boards during 2nd year. Rotations during 3rd year. Interviews during 4th year. Then residency. And I am super hesitant to take a year off of school at my age and delay it any longer. But I totally agree, it's *not* that it is never a good time. It takes a lot of discussion with your significant other as to when would be best for you because it *is* complicated, but it's something that you make work because it's what you want. Thank you for sharing your insight with us on this!
I got pregnant at the end of my junior year in my undergrad. Was it the best timing? No, but like you said, we’re making it work. I have an amazing husband and amazing mother who are supporting me and helping me with her when she comes. Btw love your channel!
You're so inspirational! I study Engineering and have 2 part-time jobs and OMG it´s just crazy to manage everything! But this is just the best advice video about balancing life
I just had my first child literally one week ago today. I was freaking out thinking about how it's not a good time when I first got pregnant because I was just coming back up from financial loss, I was wanting to get started going to college, I'm living in a crummy apartment.... And then I thought about the fact that money can always come and go and you never know when it will, college will always be there later, and I can always move when I can afford to. My child is growing in me NOW and this is the only time I get to be pregnant with her and so I should enjoy it instead of looking at the negatives.
Exactly . I'm studying but we are so ready for a babe ... I'm giving birth in may, taking a few months off and then back to school again ! Lucklily we live in Sweden so it's going to work out wonderfully.
Wow what a refreshingly positive video!! Just found your channel today and can’t stop watching! What an inspiration☺️
So true! I like that you go with the positive version - “it’s always a good time”. There are definitely times that are not as great as others but every woman and every family is unique and should decide for themselves when they’re ready! I’m going to start switching my language around this because I have definitely been in the “there’s never a ‘great’ time” camp - only because the point being that if someone is waiting out for this absolutely perfect moment, it doesn’t exist! Because as you said: every moment has its challenges. But we adapt and make it work to the best of our abilities. ❤️
As a mom to many, I LOVE this!!!!
Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear this today. I’m currently a little over 3 months pregnant and lost my job in January. My husband and I were trying to have a baby since last August, and after I lost my job people started telling me we should wait. It has made me nervous about the decision we made NOT to wait because (as you said) you cannot microplan these things. You just don’t know if you will be able to get pregnant without medical help, and starting a family will always be a time where you need to adjust to your new life. I guess what I’m trying to say is: Thank you for reminding me of something I already knew but lost track of because of other peoples opinions. On another note I wanted to tell you I find your video’s very informative and greatly admire the respectful and gentle way you addres delicate issues such as vaccinations and fear of getting examined. It is so important to get this information out there and even more so that people with your profession speak up. Thank you!
I’m currently a med student and so glad I found your channel!
I can see why your husband choose you as a wife!! you are amazing!! Keep on being you and keep on focusing on your self and what is important in your life and family life!
This actually made me tear up. We are TTC baby 2 at the moment and I feel guilty as we are also purchasing a house at the moment and work is crazy... but you are so right, we are sooo ready to add another person to our family ❤❤ much love
I like large families :) But deciding how many children to have is so personal. I think you handled it very well.
I relate to the thing about not being able to choose when you're baby comes. With my first, my husband and I tried for over a year, then (during the recession) I lost my job and we decided to not try and then found out I was pregnant. My second baby came when we were just starting to discuss maybe trying but hadn't actually stopped preventing yet, and my third came as a complete surprised as I was still nursing my second and was using condoms and was absolutely not ready and I legit was mad at my husband for nocking me up because hormones. But my third baby turned out to be the world's easiest baby, thank God. Although he's my most difficult toddler now. But I can't imagine life without him. He's a love bug, just extremely adventurous.
Oh my gosh, Milo is adorable!!!!!
The funny thing is, I tell people all the time that there's never a good time, but I've always meant it in the sense of, there's never a good time because you think you're busy now, but you'll be just as busy in the future, so if you want kids now, you might as well have them now, because if you wait until you get less busy, that day will never happen. You just need to do it now and readjust your priorities accordingly and work your life around them. That's how I've always been taught growing up as well. Ironically, I wanted kids by my mid-twenties and am almost 33 with no kids.
I understand the sentiment obviously, I disagree w the framing. “Never a good time” is incredibly negative. With no reason. It’s hard, but it’s always fine.
Started med school with a 2mo and going into M2 with another newborn :) chaos and lots of love
Congrats! How is it going? May I ask who watches the kids?
Thank you for sharing! As a non-traditional student applying to medical school, I have worried about when children would and could come into the picture. Did you feel like your pregnancy changed your interview experience for residency in terms of how they saw you as a candidate? If so, how did you handle that?
Thank you SOOOO much for this video!!!! My problem is, that I am very young, but I know that I won't live as long as others because of medical reason, so I don't want to leave a child and my spouse alone, so I kind of have to start very early despite university, despite of my young age, despite literally EVERONE else who wants to talk me in having a family when I am at least 30 or 35. Videos like this give me hope! Thank you for that!
Discovered your channel yesterday..... Aaaaand now I'm binge watching! Love your content!
My aunt is an an OBGYN too and you both have the same ways of explaining medical things, in the same tone of voice, and gesturing of hands/face and you remind me so much of her ahaha I love it!!!! I wish I would have pursued medical school...I tapped out after one year of being a biology pre-med major at a private university. Not for me...but now I am going to school to become an ultrasound technician:)
Just discovered you. So likeable, so sensible, so knowledgeable. Wish I’d had this kind of help when I was your age,
I'm A personal support worker but I found out i was pregnant right after i was accepted to the program. I decided I was gonna do both at the same time and it did work out. Finished all my in class before my due date and than had to return after a couple months to heal for my externship.
I've had this question a lot and the fact that you said it's always a good time, really eased my worries. I'm no where close to having a baby but considering that I would like to start a family in my 20s, it's always been something that plagues my mind. Thank you so much! I can rest easy now, acknowledging that, you know what, I can have a baby whenever I want because it's "always a good time". Thanks so much!
I had my son while I went back to undergrad. I actually went back when he was 8 months, but I wish I wouldve waited until he was about 1.5 yrs, bc i struggled a lot until he was 1.5 and i started to see improvement. Hes 3 now and I'm currently pregnant now with #2 and I'm due literaly a month before i graduate 😭 i am def not making the same mistake and going straight to dental school when new baby is 6 months... so I'm taking a gap year lol just make sure you and your spouse is on the same page about what needs to be done/versus what you would like to have planned. Itll all work out!
I can't get enough of Milo!!
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I love that it is never a bad time. Complicated is not the same as "bad". Thank you for sharing! #GameChanger
I love this 🥹🥹🥹 “medicine will always be there”. I’m about to enter med school and so anxious (clearly as I’m already worried about family planning Hahah!) but this video was so helpful ❤
You're amazing! I have been having these conversations with my partner who is also in medicine and it's nice to hear someone I look up to talk on this.
This was so helpful, I’m in undergrad now and I’ve always wanted to work in labor and delivery. However, I’ve been scared about my chosen path because I know how important having children is for me.
Late here, but like you said, you can never really plan when you'll have a baby. I was always planning on going to medical school so I was planning on having my first baby at 28 LOL. Well I found out I was pregnant with my first at 17! Still a Junior in high school. I was told by my dad that my dreams of college and medical school were over and I said " No way!". Well, I am now a junior in college and just had my second baby. I'm pretty nervous on starting medical school with TWO kids, but what you said and reading the comments, I feel sooooo much better about my decision to keep on going. I really needed this video ! Thanks!! Love your videos BTW! :)
Docs like you solidify my want to go to med school. I’m going into my 3rd year of undergrad and may take a gap year before med school but that is okay. I am in no particular rush in life and would rather be comfortable going at this pace than rushing and missing out on some stuff. Go you for handling so much on your plate too!! Women are superheroes!
This has got to be your best video I have seen! I’ve seen a dozen of them or so. Babies come when God says they should. Man can not control God. We can try to plan. God lets us have them when he wants us to. From the time I had our second on my mother and father-in-law both started telling us we should be done. That only made me not tell tell them when I was expecting 3, 4 & 5. Their bad, not mine.
I have always wanted to be a doctor. I have a disability and have spent a lot of my life in the hospital. I had a son at 19 though and waited to go to college. I’m 27 now with an eight year old and this fall will be my last year of undergrad. It’s time for me to start talking to grad/med schools and planning ... but we want our son to have a sibling before he is too old and he desperately wants a brother. My partner can stay home with our baby and if we do it now we would have a toddler by the time I was actually in medical school ... I’m glad to hear that we all struggle with this decision. I just found your channel but I hope you have all the advice on juggling 2 careers and kiddos 🖤🖤🖤
I loved this video Mama Doctor Jones! I’m a teacher and I am taking a few years off to have my kids and take care of my family. There’s so much negative stigmatism surrounding women in professional careers and taking time for their families. I’m looking forward to going back into teaching when my children are older and enjoying growing my family now.
Milo is so adorable omg, he looks just like u!
Not in medical school but wanting to do MSc/PhD in Biology, and this legit helped. Trying to find the best way to fit it all in is so difficult. Thank you x
Oh, to put that into a bit pf perspective, I graduated from my BSc at 27, bit of a late bloomer academically ;)
Thank you so much. As a nursing student who is getting married this month and wanting to have a baby asap ( or try, have PCOS) I was beating myself about when I should have a baby based on my body issues and nursing school.
It is truly my goal to at least finish my undergrad in psych before my husband and I start trying. He's already got his under grad and finishing up his masters, phew! But we wouldn't mind if it happened sooner than me finishing undergrad either. 💜 I also really enjoyed the "never a good time" perspective you gave. Things hardly go to plan and if you and your partner are ready and want a family, go for it. I love that.
I'm watching this video a year after you posted it and it is still so helpful. This year I'm applying to colleges to start my path to become a doctor (I have no clue what type yet and I'm totally okay with that). My mom has constantly warned me to not go because it takes up so much time of your life and I won't be able to have kids or have a family. Hearing your words have really helped me cope with wanting both a job as a doctor and a family when I have been told I can't have both for so long. You've made my decision to major as pre-med and start my new path of life. (it's 2 am and I'm rambling so I do apologize if this whole thing doesn't make sense)
YESSSSSS! THAT VIDEO! my husband and I were CRYING from laughter 😂
I love your attitude and approach to these topics. Such an inspiration to the rest of us trying to naviagate these tricky situations.
I just found your channel and am a new subscriber, I am loving your channel and all the woman centred information I find here! Your personality is so wonderful, I so wish I could find a doctor like you!! Haha Im in Canada and seems like we have a tonne of old men doctors... which is fine but I dont know, you seem like you have a personalty that would make people very comfortable with maybe weird subjects!! Keep up the great content!! The doctor reacts was wonderful!! More of those for sure :) I dont know where you find the time with kids and being a doctor, but please please keep it up lol!
WOW I needed to hear this about a year ago. Luckily through talking to many many others, the message got across. I'm an MS2 due in May, right around Step 1 time, which would make a lot of people anxious, but our plan is all worked out and it isn't any more complicated than medical school already is. You are so right that it is ALWAYS a good time, always beautiful if that is what you want it to be, and to go for it when you and your partner feel ready. Such powerful words for women in medical training - thank you thank you thank you!
Who is giving mama doctor jones a dislike?? I wish i could have you as my doctor!
We had my second in my first month of fellowship in Houston. Wasn’t easy but we made it work
Oh my goodness! I LOVE your point of view on this!
You're so positive! I bet you're a great mom.
I need more videos! I'm running out. These are great.
I wish you were my GYN! You’re so amazing and I love your videos. I’m in the health field as well & I wish more people had humor like you.
Thank you for the advice! I'm a pre med student looking at med schools so this was encouraging
Loving your channel. The weird faces and sarcastic comments make me feel so less awkward in this world
That video you were talking about with the guy working from home, i'm pretty sure he was skyping into the UK national news program when that happened haha
If you are a fan of parents dealing with kids out of bed, check out the Ryan Haywood twitch streams, his two kids are constantly interrupting him while he streams (and he doesnt start till 8:30, after their bedtime) and its adorable
I work in the UK as a GP (primary care) and have just gone back after my second (my daughter is 7 months old). It has seemed like a pretty good time. My first was born in my second year of GP training (four years post graduation) which also worked well.
Oh my gosh! What a cutie! Hi Milo!!!
My husband is in his first year of med school and we just had our first baby! Thankfully baby came during his spring break but today was his first day back to school.
Absolutely! Can't predict what it's gonna be like when you getthere. All the planning in the world and nature does its thing. Had a baby 4th year and another last year of residency and worked out.
My dads first comment on us expecting during the summer was "it's gonna be a hassle having a newborn when it's that hot outside" - yeah, thanks. Cause you can always PLAN which month it's gonna stick. not.
I love your outlook!
This was so helpful!! Thank you so much! Love you! 😍
Ha! I lol’d when you said one of the worst times to have a baby was first months of intern year because that was me! First baby July 20 of surgery intern year 😂😂 and we both survived.
LOL that's great though!!!