Awe!!! Thank you so so much for sharing this with me ❤️🙏🏻❤️ This is my why: this is why I share my heart in hopes to help other people in their healing journey too!! You made my heart so happy, thank you 💚🇧🇷
New to your videos, I've been watching so many videos on cleaning, so many people with crazy hacks or long complicated tips. Whereas, you talk about altering a habit you already have. I really like this. I fully feel heard and seen with your video, I've subscribed and I'm about to watch a bunch more on your channel!
Awesome improvements! When I was young, we had a chore chart with age/ability-appropriate chores that my siblings and I rotated monthly: feeding the cat, emptying the dishwasher, sweeping the floor. Taking care of pets is a great responsibility for kids! By teen years, we were making our own school lunches and doing our own laundry. We used to have to put our dishes in the sink after meals as well, and then one day my mom said, "You're all old enough to put your own dishes in the dishwasher." I was affronted, thinking, "But that's your job, Mom!" Ha! She gathered us around and showed the way we should load it. I'm sure we didn't always do it exactly like she would have, but we still learned more about keeping a household running and took a little off her plate! Part of parenting is teaching your kids how to be functional adults--of course you know that, but I think household skills, like how to clean a bathroom, are so important to learn, especially for boys because they shouldn't grow up with the idea that those things will always be done for them!
I have severe ADHD. Sitting still is very hard. I’m always subconsciously doing too many things at once. I really like how you narrowed your goals down to weed out what you already have on autopilot. I need to try this. I have had to become extremely minimalist with the amount of stuff I have in my home or I will do nothing but clean constantly. Reducing inventory by literally about 80% has helped me tremendously. I now have some time to do things I enjoy instead of the constant cleaning.
I had the problem of washing some dishes and dishwashering others. I fixed the problem by replacing the hand washing things with things that can go in the dishwasher.
I love what you've done to modify the Fly Lady system for yourself! I have adapted it several times for myself, and I'm sure will again as life changes and as I change! I have chronic illness, and I don't know from day to day how much energy I will have. So I've started using a white board and colored dry erase markers to list what I'd like to get done in rainbow order of importance. Then if I'm having a flare day and can't do much, I just erase what I won't get done and carry on😊. If I just get the red stuff done, that's totally fine! Red is my daily habits that I'm working on, that make the most difference in how I feel. (Dishes, personal hygiene, wiping bathroom counter, and making the bed).
Oh, and my color categories are as follows, for anyone interested: ❤️ - daily tasks 🧡 - important today (cooking, and time sensitive to that day) 💛 - 10 minute home blessing (I keep a list of "weekly" cleaning tasks to the side and cross out as I do them, then write the list again) 💚 - daily focus (each day of the week has something, ie, order groceries on Fridays) 💙 - appointments, anything happening at a certain time 💜 - zone clean or extra I want to get done 💗 - habits (movement, journal, etc)
Re the clothes on the floor - is there somewhere on a wall near your closet you could put a couple of hooks? Anything you plan to rewear goes on a hook, anything you’re done with goes on the floor to be put in the hamper tomorrow (or hopefully, eventually, tonight! For example, could you change by the hamper rather than in front of your closet?) My husband and I have hooks for our ‘wear again’ clothes, and it keeps stuff off the floor (except socks).
Hi! Love your videos…an idea for clothes that helped me…I did away with my habit of re-wearing clothes so nothing to hang up…I wear it once and into the laundry…so much less to keep track of I wash things on a quick wash to not over wash them…a big game changer for me…good luck on your new system
This was awesome! I have always struggled with the fly lady system. Thought I was just a loser. Instead, I just keep plugging away getting better. Journey not a destination. Now I understand why. I love the three goals. Mine will be similar. BTW Some of this video and the one Jessica did recently on How to ADHD were similar. It was the one on kids products for those of us with ADHD.
You know what? I really need to watch “How to ADHD.” I keep hearing about her channel and how great it is ❤️ And I’m so happy this helps you, I know you’ll do amazing 🌟🌟🌟
I just wanted to write a thank you note to you! I'm a teacher, in my late 30s. I discovered your channel few months ago, and it has really helped me realize that I have some hoarding tendencies and attachment to my stuff due to struggles during childhood etc. Your videos helped me realize this and I'm working on dealing with those emotions and the stuff. I also wanted to say another thank you to how you describe the way your brain works. I struggle with a lot of things due to my busy mind, but I could never figure out why. After hearing you talk about ADHD and how your brain works, I really started to notice that this is how my brain works a lot too. I actually got an assessment done and it is SO CLEAR that I have ADHD. So thanks to you I'm hoping that I can develop some better strategies to deal with certain things and get medication for the ADHD to help my brain a bit too. Many cuddles to Pepper!
I like that you are confident to tweak schedules to make it work for you. I'm one of those that has repeatedly failed at the fly lady method as well as other you tuber suggestions. I finally wrote out my own weekly clean and organize schedule along with doing a 20 minute tidy every morning, targeting specific hot spot areas. Success is achieved when I create habits and habits make cleaning easier.
Great job! You will get there. I have the routine to overnight dishwasher done. Then first thing unload so dirty dishes go straight into dishwasher throughout the day instead of sitting in sink all day.
This video motivated me to clean up a need I left earlier, create a good storage solution for something that really needed it, and then organize a cabinet! Thank you!
I really like this. I have tried Fly lady before and failed too. It was just too much! I think that simple routines work best for me too. I love that you give yourself grace with your clothes. I drop mine in the floor too. Most times I take care of them in the morning .
You know what? The new morning routine is working for me too! The nightly “hang it back up or hamper” never ever worked even though I tried. It’s gotta be an ADHD thing!! Lol
I think your new routine seems so doable. I love how you do the clothes pick up in the morning. First off no one sees the clothes but you over night, second I am always able to make decisions better in the morning on dirty or not.
What if you moved the hamper to where your pile forms? It may not be ideal, but you could leave it there just until you get into a good habit. Good luck! I do a modified fly lady as well.
Well done. Because the system was designed for someone with no habits. So moving past those you have habituated to the ones you need to is really good.
I love how you simplified the Fly Lady routines. And if you don’t mind I will definitely use a few of them. Thanks for always keeping it real. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 👍👏💪🦄
I struggle with these same areas. I like the idea of focusing on those 3 areas in your control journal! I keep my "in between" clothes on a coat rack next to my hamper but then my coat rack becomes full and they fall into the hamper 😄
Great idea to settle the goals you want to achieve as small tasks, and just focusing on those! You look great also:) And thank you for the closing picture of one of the guineas pigs-they are so precious!:)
I worked as an elementary teacher for 12 years and then worked in special education for 13 years. I have a suggestion for you since you are trying to make a new habit of putting your clothes away. I would temporarily move your clothes hamper, without a lid, in front of your closet so you immediately put the dirty clothes in it or hang your clothes up. When I was teaching a student with special needs to hang his coat up, I put a hook near the door so he would quickly hang it up. He had immediate success! He normally just walked in halfway to the hook and dropped his coat on the floor. Over time, I moved the hook to the other side of the room where it needed to be. Your new list is perfect by the way. Well done!
Ahhhh my favorite Guinea pig at the end so cute. I just love them. Haha Good job mama. 🌈 🦄 💖 I’m all motivated to Break out my old control journal and revamp it!! 🤗
Girl, I am commenting before, I even see your video. Of course, I did a thumbs up, because I know all your Videos are Sandsational and Wonderful. I am ill. I have been very affected for about a month, more than usual. When I am ill, depression starts to pile up. I am so happy because I know that you and other in this beautiful TH-cam family will pray. Thank you, Thank You, and Especially Thank YOU FATHER LORD for Your Children who will join me in this Petition of Prayer. I did notice that your "hot spot" is not close as bad as it use to get. That is a Significant Sign that you are moving closer to Your Goal. Great Job, your are stepping in the right direction.
Thank you for sharing what works for you I am very similar to you in so many ways. It is always helpful to learn how you've treat things to work with how you tick. 😊
Ah! THAT'S where I get tripped up on daily routines! I write every little thing, even the ones that I automatically do without fail! I need to just write down the ones that are not automatic but just as important. If I do that, then eventually, hopefully, all I need to write gor my routines will be general categories like, "self-care, quiet time and planning, pet care, housekeeping, etc" right now, general is too vague, but my current lists are too detailed lol. Thanks! I'm going to start doing this, starting in the next few minutes ❤
I have adhd and I’m also autistic and have difficulty with executive functioning, so for me, adding, hygiene and getting undressed to my journal helps me. I use the journal more as a guide for me, and for my family too, to help check things off. I do a mixture of the fly lady method and the organisation mum too (she’s been a game changer for me) The house is actually starting to get clean. Also, can we get a video on your piggies? What breed are they? Girls or boys? How many do you have? I have six, a neutered boar and 5 girls. :)
Great! I think it's a good idea to only focus on a few things a day. We have to do something for 30 days before it becomes a habit. I used to have my kids get their backpacks, clothes and shoes ready the night before, too.
We have a doggie named Pepper! I think my routines can't be set in stone. I need to be able to tweak them if they're not working for me. Way to go with this video. You always do a great job!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 yes, i was doing her for a while, but not so much now as i did realize i did things automatically 99 % of the time, like make my bed and dress to shoes. i live in 200 sq ft. so dishes have to be done. and i get visitors maybe twice a yr, so i might use the duster once a month more if i see cobweb. have a blessed weekend. ✌🏻🙏🏻💗🤗🌷🌼🌺🌻🌹🥰🦄
I don’t have ADHD but You have explained this wonderfully and just adding something to what you are already programmed to do like cleaning teeth is what I am now heading towards to get myself out of my procrastination. Thank you love your vlogs.
I've swapped to a mouthwash/toothpaste that don't taste the same! I use a medicated mouthwash that tastes sorta...herbally?? and then my usual mint toothpaste after If my mouth is minty fresh, I know I've brushed!
Oi, the stress of lists telling me what to do everyday would be so annoying & unnecessary! I don’t think millions of people actually do that system ~ especially long term. Instead, like you, people just find what works for them over time! I really like your short & sweet routine sheet! You’re doing great!!
I can see a day where you are like “did I go through the mail?” “did I put away my clothes?” And you’d be like “Oh look, I already have! It’s so automatic for me😁”
I like flylady and been using it. The zones when they change over. I guess I still don't understand how she does it. I thought you stay in a zone a week. During the month change over I became 2 zones off. I love this video btw because I know you also work like I do. So this has been great to see how you do it.
Week 1 of the month is zone 1 week 2 is zone 2 and so on. At the end or beginning of the month you can be in two separate zone in the same week. For instance at the beginning of this month we started in zone 5 and ended in zone 1. Hope this helps you.
It's crazy how adhd patterns like bag of papers & this are so relatable! Great job! I did the same thing with my planner, it had a beginning page for year goals in different aspects of your life and daily routines. I found I wrote it once to visualize an ideal day, but then I ended up using my bullet journal for habit tracking on the things I need to tackle. So I have a daily/weekly/monthly grid on just a page & its like 15 min declutter once a week or my duolingo once a day. Also for the bedroom, I find I'm pooped by the end of the day, so some nights I just throw everything onto the floor and sleep. Now in the mornings I make sure to scan the room to fix my bed, get rid of my napkins or trash that accumulate somehow, then take my medicine b4 leaving and starting the day (aside from when I need to pee right away lol). I have to make a conscious effort to not dart to work until those key things are put away which takes 5 min while my mind wakes up and thinks about the rest of the daily stuff I need to do! I always enjoy your videos. You just keep giving great content & happy to be part of the journey!
Have you read much about ADHD and executive dysfunction? Personally, I also know I function better between 10 and 1. So the author of The Drummer and the Great Mountain suggested doing all of the HARDEST executive-heavy tasks during that window. It sounds like you function really well in the mornings, so picking up the house is great to do in the mornings. 👍 Oooh! You got a visual timer! They're great, eh?
Your channel is inspiring. Love this video even if I'm not ADHD but am easily distracted. Thank you for sharing this method as it's more doable and creates success! So happy to watch your progress through time. I'm now curious how you might tackle your weekly routines through a modified Flylady's way. I'm really struggling with establishing routines in the first place and would like to learn more. Keep on sharing, you help bring joy and hope to many struggling with hoarding. ♥ God bless!
I can’t believe how similar our issues are🙈😊 for myself I need to add that I don’t allow the ironing to pile up.. here we go with an excellent procrastination habit..😬 you are doing so great and are so inspiring - keep on rocking!👍🏼
Why don't you keep a pop up hamper right inside your closet in front of the spot where you regularly drop it. We are so mentally drained and exhausted that if we have to even go over to another spot to complete a task I'd rather not. It's not lazy its just that you're already on the next thing. Love this video!!!!
I'm wondering if you moved your hamper to where you naturally drop the clothes, if that would help over time and you can move the hamper back in a while?
I used to pile up clothes long ago until I started repeating my outfits in consecutive days. That way I now the true rotation of my clothes and no one has ever commented on it. probably they see I wear the same thing for a couple of days but it hasn't affect my daily life.
This looks like a good plan. I hope it works. I should come up with a plan to vacuum and sweep more often. Wouldn't it be necessary to clean the table before dinner? Or do you not eat at the table? For clothes, I have my nightgown hanging in the closet, so it's super easy to hang up my clothes when I change for bed. I can see how it would be easier for you in the morning because that's when you're at the closet.
Beautiful clip ! Very nice Vlog, Can You make clip.. Organisation, cleaning office desk - Paper Organization Declutter - sorting ripping..normal speed?
My mom was a night owl....usually she would sew our clothes without interruption. She would check in on us before she went to bed. If I had things on the floor she would wake me up late at night to put those things away. I never did that to my kids...it was because being woke up in the middle of the night was not fun.
Could your table and chairs fit into your kitchen, so, you can all eat there together? You could put something else in its place and maybe it wouldn't be such a hot spot as your table. I love you and your videos. Always click on them as soon as they pop up! You are such a sweet person and you have done an amazing job. Thank you. You really have helped me. One small step at a time. 💖
Did I saw Finnish flag there, in the boys artwork...? If it was, greetings from Finland! 🇫🇮 I have followed your channel a few years now, I love your content 💖 -Sanna-
I agree with her mainly because it is Ms Heart that has the ADHD not her boys. So it would be good for her boys to develop chore habits that will be easier for them than it was and is for her. Donna
LOL I detest lists and setting goals. 😅 I'm able to prioritize and complete tasks in small increments due to disability. Just have to work through the "not feeling like it" sometimes. You're such an wonderful inspiration.Thank you, my friend! 💜🦄💜
Hey Mrs. Heart, I hope you don’t take this as criticism, or think that I’m trying to insult you…. but I wanted to say this: A lot of the time, it seems that the many of the messes you are constantly cleaning up belong to your boys. A good example would be that table, which is always cluttered with their projects, or the front of the TV area. You’re only one person, you cannot clean up after 4 people. It’s just not possible. I think the best way to help you get on top of your cleaning routine is to designate chores to the boys. They’re old enough to know that contributing to household responsibilities is the right thing to do. They should be cleaning up their own messes, putting things away when they’re done with them, doing their own laundry, and taking care of their room regularly. It should just come naturally to them. I would create a chore chart for them. They have their daily expectations… and then maybe once a week, they have one or two additional chores that help out in the common areas, like vacuuming the living room or sweeping up the kitchen. I think this will help them become responsible young men, and it takes so much pressure off of you and your husband. Y’all work extremely hard to provide them a good life; it’s not unfair to expect them to help out in the household. They’re children; they’re going to make mistakes. And when they do, you shower them with love and grace, but remain firm in saying, “This is what is expected. We all have to pitch in.”
She did have her boys clean up later. She said that in the video. I know you didn’t mean to sound offensive, but as someone who has and is there, your suggestion was overwhelming and judgmental for me.
@@Darnabymom I'm sorry if you found it judgmental, because that was not my intention. But I won't change how I feel. It's unfair to her to burden herself with so much responsibility. She is just one person, she cannot do it all. And she shouldn't have to. She's a kind person and a wonderful mother. It was not meant as an attack.
Hi there, It's good to do whatever is good for you or whatever works for you. I just don't understand since your clothes hamper is so close to you and in the same room. Why when you take your dirty clothes off put them in the hamper right away? Also if they're still clean just hang them back up instead of them getting all wrinkled by lying on the floor all night. Then you wouldn't have to worry about picking up any clothes off the floor period. I really do love all of your videos and can't wait for your garage sale video? Have a great day?
Thank you so much 🦄💜🌟🙏🏻 With my ADHD, I have a lot of energy, throughout the entire day and then I crash, I mean crash like I’m falling asleep within 5 minutes & miserable. I just want to change into my jammies immediately and hop into bed. I know it would just take 10 steps to the hamper or hang back up…but it’s a habit I continue to fail every time I try 🤷♀️ I’m not sure why but I’m pretty sure it has to do with the way my mind is wired with my ADHD. So far the morning routine is working for me.
I am a psychologist and always recommends your videos for my clients. You are so inspiring and helpful. Tks for the videos. Kisses from Brazil.
fantastic idea personalized not lumping us all in the same pot 💜🦄
Awe!!! Thank you so so much for sharing this with me ❤️🙏🏻❤️ This is my why: this is why I share my heart in hopes to help other people in their healing journey too!! You made my heart so happy, thank you 💚🇧🇷
I am too and do the same. They really help.
I did my best to not get distracted while watching the video. Super motivating video.
New to your videos, I've been watching so many videos on cleaning, so many people with crazy hacks or long complicated tips. Whereas, you talk about altering a habit you already have. I really like this. I fully feel heard and seen with your video, I've subscribed and I'm about to watch a bunch more on your channel!
Awesome improvements! When I was young, we had a chore chart with age/ability-appropriate chores that my siblings and I rotated monthly: feeding the cat, emptying the dishwasher, sweeping the floor. Taking care of pets is a great responsibility for kids! By teen years, we were making our own school lunches and doing our own laundry. We used to have to put our dishes in the sink after meals as well, and then one day my mom said, "You're all old enough to put your own dishes in the dishwasher." I was affronted, thinking, "But that's your job, Mom!" Ha! She gathered us around and showed the way we should load it. I'm sure we didn't always do it exactly like she would have, but we still learned more about keeping a household running and took a little off her plate!
Part of parenting is teaching your kids how to be functional adults--of course you know that, but I think household skills, like how to clean a bathroom, are so important to learn, especially for boys because they shouldn't grow up with the idea that those things will always be done for them!
You are absolutely right!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us 🦄🌟💜🙏🏻
I have severe ADHD. Sitting still is very hard. I’m always subconsciously doing too many things at once. I really like how you narrowed your goals down to weed out what you already have on autopilot. I need to try this. I have had to become extremely minimalist with the amount of stuff I have in my home or I will do nothing but clean constantly. Reducing inventory by literally about 80% has helped me tremendously. I now have some time to do things I enjoy instead of the constant cleaning.
Your videos always brings joy to me. And it’s is just because of your personality.😊
This is such a well thought out plan. I think you will be very successful with it. You show continuous growth.
I had the problem of washing some dishes and dishwashering others. I fixed the problem by replacing the hand washing things with things that can go in the dishwasher.
I love what you've done to modify the Fly Lady system for yourself! I have adapted it several times for myself, and I'm sure will again as life changes and as I change! I have chronic illness, and I don't know from day to day how much energy I will have. So I've started using a white board and colored dry erase markers to list what I'd like to get done in rainbow order of importance. Then if I'm having a flare day and can't do much, I just erase what I won't get done and carry on😊. If I just get the red stuff done, that's totally fine! Red is my daily habits that I'm working on, that make the most difference in how I feel. (Dishes, personal hygiene, wiping bathroom counter, and making the bed).
Oh, and my color categories are as follows, for anyone interested:
❤️ - daily tasks
🧡 - important today (cooking, and time sensitive to that day)
💛 - 10 minute home blessing (I keep a list of "weekly" cleaning tasks to the side and cross out as I do them, then write the list again)
💚 - daily focus (each day of the week has something, ie, order groceries on Fridays)
💙 - appointments, anything happening at a certain time
💜 - zone clean or extra I want to get done
💗 - habits (movement, journal, etc)
Re the clothes on the floor - is there somewhere on a wall near your closet you could put a couple of hooks? Anything you plan to rewear goes on a hook, anything you’re done with goes on the floor to be put in the hamper tomorrow (or hopefully, eventually, tonight! For example, could you change by the hamper rather than in front of your closet?) My husband and I have hooks for our ‘wear again’ clothes, and it keeps stuff off the floor (except socks).
Hi! Love your videos…an idea for clothes that helped me…I did away with my habit of re-wearing clothes so nothing to hang up…I wear it once and into the laundry…so much less to keep track of I wash things on a quick wash to not over wash them…a big game changer for me…good luck on your new system
It's hard to change your habits 😕 so glad your trying. That's all that matters. Keeping moving forward
You are so right!!! It can be hard to break a habit so I try to adjust an existing one!!
This was awesome! I have always struggled with the fly lady system. Thought I was just a loser. Instead, I just keep plugging away getting better. Journey not a destination. Now I understand why. I love the three goals. Mine will be similar.
BTW Some of this video and the one Jessica did recently on How to ADHD were similar. It was the one on kids products for those of us with ADHD.
You know what? I really need to watch “How to ADHD.” I keep hearing about her channel and how great it is ❤️ And I’m so happy this helps you, I know you’ll do amazing 🌟🌟🌟
starting good habits is hard. But it is great if you stick with it. big hug Ellen
Great job with recognizing that what you were doing wasn't working. Flylady would be so proud!
I like the reset concept..it’s like ur giving your self a gift tomorrow instead of punishing yourself today! Thanks!
Clothes sort as you take them off. They don't touch the floor. Either in the hamper or back up in the closet. Just a thought. Great job.
Thank you so much 🦄💜🙏🏻🌟
I just wanted to write a thank you note to you! I'm a teacher, in my late 30s. I discovered your channel few months ago, and it has really helped me realize that I have some hoarding tendencies and attachment to my stuff due to struggles during childhood etc. Your videos helped me realize this and I'm working on dealing with those emotions and the stuff. I also wanted to say another thank you to how you describe the way your brain works. I struggle with a lot of things due to my busy mind, but I could never figure out why. After hearing you talk about ADHD and how your brain works, I really started to notice that this is how my brain works a lot too. I actually got an assessment done and it is SO CLEAR that I have ADHD. So thanks to you I'm hoping that I can develop some better strategies to deal with certain things and get medication for the ADHD to help my brain a bit too. Many cuddles to Pepper!
I like that you are confident to tweak schedules to make it work for you. I'm one of those that has repeatedly failed at the fly lady method as well as other you tuber suggestions. I finally wrote out my own weekly clean and organize schedule along with doing a 20 minute tidy every morning, targeting specific hot spot areas. Success is achieved when I create habits and habits make cleaning easier.
Yay, we can do this together! I have some habits that I do daily and some that I would benefit from. Awesome that you involve the whole family!
Great job! You will get there. I have the routine to overnight dishwasher done. Then first thing unload so dirty dishes go straight into dishwasher throughout the day instead of sitting in sink all day.
This video motivated me to clean up a need I left earlier, create a good storage solution for something that really needed it, and then organize a cabinet! Thank you!
Love this. The more you know about what can work for you, the more you will keep moving. The struggle to not dump the clothes in the pile is so real!
I really like this. I have tried Fly lady before and failed too. It was just too much! I think that simple routines work best for me too. I love that you give yourself grace with your clothes. I drop mine in the floor too. Most times I take care of them in the morning .
You know what? The new morning routine is working for me too! The nightly “hang it back up or hamper” never ever worked even though I tried. It’s gotta be an ADHD thing!! Lol
I think your new routine seems so doable. I love how you do the clothes pick up in the morning. First off no one sees the clothes but you over night, second I am always able to make decisions better in the morning on dirty or not.
What if you moved the hamper to where your pile forms? It may not be ideal, but you could leave it there just until you get into a good habit. Good luck! I do a modified fly lady as well.
That’s a great idea!!! So far, my pick up before I get my clothes is working, but if it doesn’t stick then I’ll do that 🙏🏻💜🌟🦄
Well done. Because the system was designed for someone with no habits. So moving past those you have habituated to the ones you need to is really good.
I love how you simplified the Fly Lady routines. And if you don’t mind I will definitely use a few of them. Thanks for always keeping it real. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 👍👏💪🦄
I struggle with these same areas. I like the idea of focusing on those 3 areas in your control journal! I keep my "in between" clothes on a coat rack next to my hamper but then my coat rack becomes full and they fall into the hamper 😄
THANK YOU SO MUCH! I literally searched Fly Lady ADHD and your video popped up. This was exactly what I needed!
Great idea to settle the goals you want to achieve as small tasks, and just focusing on those! You look great also:) And thank you for the closing picture of one of the guineas pigs-they are so precious!:)
Thank you so so much my dearest friend 🦄🌟💜🙏🏻 Your words and friendship mean everything to me and I greatly appreciate that ❤️❤️❤️
I worked as an elementary teacher for 12 years and then worked in special education for 13 years. I have a suggestion for you since you are trying to make a new habit of putting your clothes away. I would temporarily move your clothes hamper, without a lid, in front of your closet so you immediately put the dirty clothes in it or hang your clothes up. When I was teaching a student with special needs to hang his coat up, I put a hook near the door so he would quickly hang it up. He had immediate success! He normally just walked in halfway to the hook and dropped his coat on the floor. Over time, I moved the hook to the other side of the room where it needed to be. Your new list is perfect by the way. Well done!
Such good ideas! Thanks for the inspiration!
Thank you so much, I hope they help you ❤️🙏🏻❤️
Ahhhh my favorite Guinea pig at the end so cute. I just love them. Haha
Good job mama. 🌈 🦄 💖 I’m all motivated to Break out my old control journal and revamp it!! 🤗
I love this!!!! Thank you!!!! Totally helps me!!!
Girl, I am commenting before, I even see your video. Of course, I did a thumbs up, because I know all your Videos are Sandsational and Wonderful.
I am ill. I have been very affected for about a month, more than usual. When I am ill, depression starts to pile up. I am so happy because I know that you and other in this beautiful TH-cam family will pray. Thank you, Thank You, and Especially Thank YOU FATHER LORD for Your Children who will join me in this Petition of Prayer.
I did notice that your "hot spot" is not close as bad as it use to get. That is a Significant Sign that you are moving closer to Your Goal. Great Job, your are stepping in the right direction.
Praying for you and myself. I’m I’ll myself. Lord, we ask for healing and comfort
@@egr3071 Thank you. Amen.
Praying for you 🙏 💖
@@egr3071 praying for you as well 🙏 💖
Great ideas! I’m looking forward to seeing how these strategies worked for your family (or not). Definitely worth a try!!
Great- you got this🙂
Thank you so so much 🦄💜🌟🙏🏻
A great idea re. piggybacking the clothes pickup. In future, once you have that on auto-pilot, you could even piggyback laundry onto that.
Wonderful and inspirational video! Hugs from Portugal 🇵🇹 ❤️
Thank you for sharing what works for you I am very similar to you in so many ways. It is always helpful to learn how you've treat things to work with how you tick. 😊
Ah! THAT'S where I get tripped up on daily routines! I write every little thing, even the ones that I automatically do without fail! I need to just write down the ones that are not automatic but just as important. If I do that, then eventually, hopefully, all I need to write gor my routines will be general categories like, "self-care, quiet time and planning, pet care, housekeeping, etc" right now, general is too vague, but my current lists are too detailed lol. Thanks! I'm going to start doing this, starting in the next few minutes ❤
I have adhd and I’m also autistic and have difficulty with executive functioning, so for me, adding, hygiene and getting undressed to my journal helps me. I use the journal more as a guide for me, and for my family too, to help check things off.
I do a mixture of the fly lady method and the organisation mum too (she’s been a game changer for me)
The house is actually starting to get clean.
Also, can we get a video on your piggies? What breed are they? Girls or boys? How many do you have? I have six, a neutered boar and 5 girls. :)
Great! I think it's a good idea to only focus on a few things a day. We have to do something for 30 days before it becomes a habit. I used to have my kids get their backpacks, clothes and shoes ready the night before, too.
Its 40 days.
OMG! My kids also love reading "Diary of a Wimpy kid"! In Polish it`s called "Dziennik cwaniaczka":-D
I love how to adapted and personalized it!
I love your timer with the red wedge
Oh my gosh, I LOVE your pink hangers! I'm trying to adopt my own version of the fly lady system right now, and this video was very helpful. Thank you!
Awesomeness! Great job and video 🌺🌺🌺.
Thanks for new content!
Thank you so much 🦄💜🙏🏻🌟
Great job 😊❤️
Paper and the mail - nope! 95% of my mail NEVER comes in the house! It goes straight into the trash BEFORE I come into the house!
Love your way to start a routine....keeping the new routine simple until it becomes habit.Love seeing Pepper helping you.
Thank you for showing how to simplify this!
We have a doggie named Pepper! I think my routines can't be set in stone. I need to be able to tweak them if they're not working for me. Way to go with this video. You always do a great job!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 yes, i was doing her for a while, but not so much now as i did realize i did things automatically 99 % of the time, like make my bed and dress to shoes. i live in 200 sq ft. so dishes have to be done. and i get visitors maybe twice a yr, so i might use the duster once a month more if i see cobweb. have a blessed weekend. ✌🏻🙏🏻💗🤗🌷🌼🌺🌻🌹🥰🦄
👍 good job
I don’t have ADHD but You have explained this wonderfully and just adding something to what you are already programmed to do like cleaning teeth is what I am now heading towards to get myself out of my procrastination. Thank you love your vlogs.
"did I brush my teeth?"
Yesssss!! I’m always doing the “sniff” test too!! Lol Sometimes I’ll just put the extra deodorant to be on the safe side!!
I've swapped to a mouthwash/toothpaste that don't taste the same! I use a medicated mouthwash that tastes sorta...herbally?? and then my usual mint toothpaste after
If my mouth is minty fresh, I know I've brushed!
This is great!
I love your control journal♥️
Keep trying out whatever works for you, your family + 🐈⬛ 🐹. ☺️
Oi, the stress of lists telling me what to do everyday would be so annoying & unnecessary! I don’t think millions of people actually do that system ~ especially long term. Instead, like you, people just find what works for them over time! I really like your short & sweet routine sheet! You’re doing great!!
I can see a day where you are like “did I go through the mail?” “did I put away my clothes?” And you’d be like “Oh look, I already have! It’s so automatic for me😁”
Love this! 💜
I just showed this one to my daughter so she can try some of these tips.
I like flylady and been using it. The zones when they change over. I guess I still don't understand how she does it. I thought you stay in a zone a week. During the month change over I became 2 zones off.
I love this video btw because I know you also work like I do. So this has been great to see how you do it.
Week 1 of the month is zone 1 week 2 is zone 2 and so on. At the end or beginning of the month you can be in two separate zone in the same week. For instance at the beginning of this month we started in zone 5 and ended in zone 1. Hope this helps you.
I’ve been trying to establish morning routine. Thank you for the video.
Thank you so so much 🦄💜🙏🏻🌟
Awesome advice think I need to do something similar
It's crazy how adhd patterns like bag of papers & this are so relatable! Great job! I did the same thing with my planner, it had a beginning page for year goals in different aspects of your life and daily routines. I found I wrote it once to visualize an ideal day, but then I ended up using my bullet journal for habit tracking on the things I need to tackle. So I have a daily/weekly/monthly grid on just a page & its like 15 min declutter once a week or my duolingo once a day.
Also for the bedroom, I find I'm pooped by the end of the day, so some nights I just throw everything onto the floor and sleep. Now in the mornings I make sure to scan the room to fix my bed, get rid of my napkins or trash that accumulate somehow, then take my medicine b4 leaving and starting the day (aside from when I need to pee right away lol). I have to make a conscious effort to not dart to work until those key things are put away which takes 5 min while my mind wakes up and thinks about the rest of the daily stuff I need to do!
I always enjoy your videos. You just keep giving great content & happy to be part of the journey!
awesome. You got this
well done, that sounds really doable.
Hello from Germany, hi miss heart, meow pepper...... Surch for a good theme to clean....maybe flylady,.... Be safe
Have you read much about ADHD and executive dysfunction?
Personally, I also know I function better between 10 and 1. So the author of The Drummer and the Great Mountain suggested doing all of the HARDEST executive-heavy tasks during that window. It sounds like you function really well in the mornings, so picking up the house is great to do in the mornings. 👍
Oooh! You got a visual timer! They're great, eh?
Your channel is inspiring. Love this video even if I'm not ADHD but am easily distracted. Thank you for sharing this method as it's more doable and creates success! So happy to watch your progress through time. I'm now curious how you might tackle your weekly routines through a modified Flylady's way. I'm really struggling with establishing routines in the first place and would like to learn more. Keep on sharing, you help bring joy and hope to many struggling with hoarding. ♥ God bless!
Oh, greetings from Malaysia!
Glad to see your video
Thank you so so much 🦄💜🌟🌟
You have such a beautiful fox tattoo on your arm!!! I loved seeing it!! ❤️
I can’t believe how similar our issues are🙈😊 for myself I need to add that I don’t allow the ironing to pile up.. here we go with an excellent procrastination habit..😬 you are doing so great and are so inspiring - keep on rocking!👍🏼
Love seeing a guinea pig at the end.
Why don't you keep a pop up hamper right inside your closet in front of the spot where you regularly drop it. We are so mentally drained and exhausted that if we have to even go over to another spot to complete a task I'd rather not. It's not lazy its just that you're already on the next thing. Love this video!!!!
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I'm wondering if you moved your hamper to where you naturally drop the clothes, if that would help over time and you can move the hamper back in a while?
I used to pile up clothes long ago until I started repeating my outfits in consecutive days. That way I now the true rotation of my clothes and no one has ever commented on it. probably they see I wear the same thing for a couple of days but it hasn't affect my daily life.
This looks like a good plan. I hope it works. I should come up with a plan to vacuum and sweep more often.
Wouldn't it be necessary to clean the table before dinner? Or do you not eat at the table?
For clothes, I have my nightgown hanging in the closet, so it's super easy to hang up my clothes when I change for bed. I can see how it would be easier for you in the morning because that's when you're at the closet.
I've been meaning to read Atomic Habits and think that could apply here ❤ My laundry basket's home is under somewhere questionable 😂
I need that control Journal my ADHD brain has been having a hard time making one
Yeah great job! Great discoveries about yourself! When do you put your hand wash dishes away & empty your dishwasher? First thing in the morning? 🙂💛😺
Beautiful clip ! Very nice Vlog, Can You make clip.. Organisation, cleaning office desk - Paper Organization Declutter - sorting ripping..normal speed?
A nice daily routine!! Do you do this routine everyday?
My mom was a night owl....usually she would sew our clothes without interruption. She would check in on us before she went to bed. If I had things on the floor she would wake me up late at night to put those things away. I never did that to my kids...it was because being woke up in the middle of the night was not fun.
That is such a beautiful dress. You look amazing in it! Where did you get it from?
Btw, your son has such gorgeous hair. He must be such a cutie pie!
Could your table and chairs fit into your kitchen, so, you can all eat there together? You could put something else in its place and maybe it wouldn't be such a hot spot as your table. I love you and your videos. Always click on them as soon as they pop up! You are such a sweet person and you have done an amazing job. Thank you. You really have helped me. One small step at a time. 💖
Your kids can clean up the table after their art projects. Tina, Al's wife
Did I saw Finnish flag there, in the boys artwork...?
If it was, greetings from Finland! 🇫🇮
I have followed your channel a few years now, I love your content 💖
-Sanna-
Hi there sweetie great job with your decluttering and cleaning up love from Eugenie your friend xxx ⚘💟🏡
I agree with her mainly because it is Ms Heart that has the ADHD not her boys. So it would be good for her boys to develop chore habits that will be easier for them than it was and is for her. Donna
I'd put a hamper there to catch those clothes
I have literally brushed my teeth three times because I could not remember if I did it.
LOL I detest lists and setting goals. 😅 I'm able to prioritize and complete tasks in small increments due to disability. Just have to work through the "not feeling like it" sometimes.
You're such an wonderful inspiration.Thank you, my friend! 💜🦄💜
Hey Mrs. Heart, I hope you don’t take this as criticism, or think that I’m trying to insult you…. but I wanted to say this:
A lot of the time, it seems that the many of the messes you are constantly cleaning up belong to your boys. A good example would be that table, which is always cluttered with their projects, or the front of the TV area.
You’re only one person, you cannot clean up after 4 people. It’s just not possible.
I think the best way to help you get on top of your cleaning routine is to designate chores to the boys. They’re old enough to know that contributing to household responsibilities is the right thing to do. They should be cleaning up their own messes, putting things away when they’re done with them, doing their own laundry, and taking care of their room regularly. It should just come naturally to them.
I would create a chore chart for them. They have their daily expectations… and then maybe once a week, they have one or two additional chores that help out in the common areas, like vacuuming the living room or sweeping up the kitchen.
I think this will help them become responsible young men, and it takes so much pressure off of you and your husband. Y’all work extremely hard to provide them a good life; it’s not unfair to expect them to help out in the household. They’re children; they’re going to make mistakes. And when they do, you shower them with love and grace, but remain firm in saying, “This is what is expected. We all have to pitch in.”
She did have her boys clean up later. She said that in the video. I know you didn’t mean to sound offensive, but as someone who has and is there, your suggestion was overwhelming and judgmental for me.
@@Darnabymom I'm sorry if you found it judgmental, because that was not my intention. But I won't change how I feel. It's unfair to her to burden herself with so much responsibility. She is just one person, she cannot do it all. And she shouldn't have to. She's a kind person and a wonderful mother. It was not meant as an attack.
Hi there, It's good to do whatever is good for you or whatever works for you. I just don't understand since your clothes hamper is so close to you and in the same room. Why when you take your dirty clothes off put them in the hamper right away? Also if they're still clean just hang them back up instead of them getting all wrinkled by lying on the floor all night. Then you wouldn't have to worry about picking up any clothes off the floor period. I really do love all of your videos and can't wait for your garage sale video? Have a great day?
Thank you so much 🦄💜🌟🙏🏻 With my ADHD, I have a lot of energy, throughout the entire day and then I crash, I mean crash like I’m falling asleep within 5 minutes & miserable. I just want to change into my jammies immediately and hop into bed. I know it would just take 10 steps to the hamper or hang back up…but it’s a habit I continue to fail every time I try 🤷♀️ I’m not sure why but I’m pretty sure it has to do with the way my mind is wired with my ADHD. So far the morning routine is working for me.