10 THINGS STRAIGHT PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW FOR PRIDE 2019
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 พ.ค. 2019
- Because we all have that one straight, cis friend we need to share this video with. Happy Pride 2019!
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title: "10 things straight people need to know for pride 2019"
background: "be naked when i get home"
Saw that too..🤣
Lol
One question I’m straight can I wear the rainbow 🌈 as clothing just because I stand, support and respect the the lgbtqi community if not then I’m not wearing it
@@Maya-ld4ck eh, wear it, the gays don’t own the rainbow lol.
@@xxratsrcutexx3494 sound pretty hateful to me so shut up
“Pride season is like Christmas for the gays...”
**Likes Video**
Jesus or HELL!!!
@@j.oaklley8965 Santa or Disney World!!!
@@j.oaklley8965 Bro you're on this fucking video too? Fuck off and get a life
@@ODST172 That asshole above you, I've seen him on literally EVERY Pride video I've clicked on since yesterday.
J. Oaklley
Idk mate
Hell might be fun
Currently trying to decide if this vid is too passive aggressive to send to my mother lol
Do it
You can always watch it together.
I AINT!! Good luck.
Don't, u never know how's your mom gonna act
Pride right, so if your poud why hide it from mom's. I dont hide the fact that im straight from my mom. 😂
WHERE MY BI QUEENS AT
@C, first of all, *they’re. Second, please stop sending hate, and start spreading love. It is the season for it after all. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
💗💜💙 😘
C then by your logic, how do 8 year olds know they’re straight?
trmk12 ... you do realize that straight people can spread AIDS too right? In fact, there have been recent reports in some countries of AIDS outbreaks and studies have found that the outbreaks are mainly caused by sex between heterosexual couples.
@@user-yg7xj1rx9c -Bet you think the world is flat too.-
I think it is ironic that I was born in June......
And I am pansexual 💖💛💙
Im born at 6 june.. Im gay..!
😜😂❤🏳️🌈
Omg yes I'm pansexual non,bianary transgender
You do reaslis pansexual also includes kids and animals right?
@@gundamcollector77 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@gundamcollector77 pansexual means all genders.. Animal isn't a gender and kid isn't a gender... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 But you did make my day... 😂😂
The cat in the background makes the video gayer 🤷♀️
Does the fact that he's named after a gay icon help too?
ElloSteph OMG That is precious
Wait what is his name?
@@mstiller778 She said in the video it was Oscar Wild
AIDS!!!
I’m gay and watching this😂🌈
I'm bi and watching this 😂
same 🌈🌈🌈🌈
@@IfHighgateswereclimbable me too
Same😂
Catherine C congratulations, feel better
I'm the proud mum of a beautiful gay daughter. I am volunteering at pride this month, to represent her as she's away.
I felt, viewing this, that maybe I'm not doing the right thing. However, even though some of your points made sense, a lot is to do with one's conscience and respect. So if I say something which I don't know is wrong at the time, I'm hoping someone can explain to me what I've done wrong. It's part of learning about other human beings, regardless of which community they are in. So for me, forget the don'ts rule book. All I have to do is turn up with a kind and loving heart towards everyone.
Happy Pride
i 8-2 Much my nigga, she was asking for help and you reply with this shit?go to fucking hell
i 8-2 Much don’t use god for your ignorance. What about “love thy neighbor”? And didn’t god made everyone how he wanted to make them? Preach everything not just some out of context you disgusting piece of shit homophobe
The fact that you are genuinely concerned that you will offend someone already makes it ten times less worse if you do by accident offend someone. My advice would be to always ask if you are about to assume something and maybe ask someone who is part of the LGBTQ community for a little more explanation on some topics
always wanted to go to pride being bisexual but my bf wouldn’t want me to..i have to keep reminding him that i’m not straight and that since he’s my bf it doesn’t remove me from the spectrum 🙄
Break up with him. Asshole
I recommend you have a serious conversation with him, if he cant accept any of this than I recommend considering you relationship
This is coming from someone who isn't for against the LGBT, if you wanna go, then go. Don't let your man come between something you want to do if you let him do almost whatever the hell he wants to do. If he doesn't let you do what in pride month for atleast a day and you want to stay with him, then maybe he's not the right guy for you.
Dump that jerk.
You should go if you wish to no matter if he likes that or not. Its your decision. But dont pressure him into going if he doenst want to:)
As an ally, thank you for this.
Even if it's things I already practice or am aware of, it's always nice to have the reminders and constructive criticism.
*Hugs you* No, Thank you for your support
I’m an ally to!
Thank you for your support
This is my favourite comment
omg steph you're back! woooo! i missed you
As a cis gay man, let me make the following observations about your video.
One challenge is that the Pride March/Parade/Rally is definitely a political event, but it also fosters an atmosphere of carefree joy/whimsy/freedom. These two elements, while not necessarily dichotomous, can be confusing when combined into one event. I think that people who are support of the LGBTQAI+ community may even be afraid to attend for fear of saying/doing the wrong thing. I reclaim for myself the title of SJW, however, we should also be really patient toward allies who mean well when they misspeak or mis-act, even at a pride march.
Your message, "Stay out of the places you don't belong to" is misinformed and alienating. First, it is often impossible to avoid certain events in such huge crowds. Second, groups with "complex power dynamics" need to understand they're still in a public place with (hopefully) people who are supportive allies, even if the attendees do not understand those dynamics. This is the best time for Pride participants to inform about who they are with pride. If one goes to a pride parade as a supporter, regardless of group membership, there should be no portion of that parade that's off-limits. Asking people to "stay away" from certain components of the parade that they might not understand can't be a good thing for the community. It's all about visibility. A public march is about showing oneself, not hiding.
If flirting happens, it happens. If it's done correctly, nobody is hurt. Making no-flirting rules for only straight allies attending a public event is again misinformed. You tell straight cis people that because they're the minority, they might be hit on by the same gender and should be prepared. Then you tell them they cannot flirt with other straight cis people in a public space? You really want to control others' behaviors in public. And we should all have learned by now that being "in the minority" should never lessen our rights. Straight cicgender people flirting with each other shouldn't bother anybody as long as nobody's getting hurt.
I understand social progress, but I think your double standard is showing.
I think it is weird to say cishet peeps can't flirt because
A. Sometimes flirting is just people having a good time trying to be a little naughty or whatever lol
B. This implies that there is no one who will want to date you, but there are straight trans or otherwise gender nonconforming people and bi/pansexual people.
Check the flags and use consent! Lol
Yes
I'm gay and I totally understand and agree with you
I feel like you can be flirty with people as long as it’s not like bad flirty and you stop if they say so.
Preach! This video is problematic in SO MANY ways!
Aaron Rosenberg I completely agree with you! I’m straight and I clicked on the video just to see if I do things that are kinda incorrect and it bothered me how it was worded. Plus my gay friend never seemed bothered with any of these rules that she applied.
this video got me So excited for new york pride🥺
@@j.oaklley8965 how does aids have anything to do with NY Pride...
@@n40153 DON'T FEED THE TROLL. I'VE SEEN THIS ASSHOLE J. OAKLY ON LITERALLY EVERY PRIDE VIDEO I'VE CLICKED ON SINCE YESTERDAY. HE'S AN ASSHOLE
I'll be at Brooklyn Pride this weekend and I'll be at the Pride parade in the Village on the 30th ❤💛💚💙💜
One question I’m straight can I wear the rainbow 🌈 as clothing just because I stand, support and respect the the lgbtqi community if not then I’m not wearing it ✊🏽
Awesome video!!! So glad you made it!!! Happy Pride Month!!!
I agree with the core message of this video (being respectful, etc.) but I feel like this long list of rules for cis/straight people creates a barrier where there doesn't need to be. Idk, just my opinion
The whole point is that these are rules EVERYBODY should follow, it's just that most cishet people don't realize it because they aren't part of the community. This video is just to point them out! It's just common, if lesser known, courtesy.
I feel the rules themselves are ok, but the tone is not effective for those who it would be meant for. Some comments indeed call it passive-aggressive or find it too long/strict (just behave and have fun).
Those that don't have the common decency, respect or sense to behave themselves will definitely find this too politically correct or over the top.
@@teambellavsteamalice yes, that's a great way to describe why I think this video may be ineffective.
@@Ash-vv6io I agree, but I think her tone will come across as a little bit harsh or preachy and may turn people off from attending LGBTQ events. Just my opinion though
@@Goat.Cheese In my opinion, people who found this Video preachy, harsh or a turn off, shouldn't go to pride. I think we need to say things a bit stricter sometimes so that even the people in the back (ignorant people) hear it.
i’m drinking my morning coffee AND you upload? today is 1000% gonna be a good day. love you!
Juliette, it is the afternoon!
ElloSteph seattle says otherwise (it’s 11:50 HAH)
I’m going to queer prom later on tonight
I’m so nervous but I’m determined to have fun
Ahhh!! You'll have a blast :)
enjoy!
Kittyneedscaffine it was fun
Gooooooddddddd!!! I’m jealous!
Random Videos luckyyyy c:
Oscar wild is soo cute😍❤️and thanks for putting this out there
FLIPPING THANK YOU!! SOMEONE FINALLY SAID IT!
Newly out as Bi and I’m a bit nervous and waaay out of my comfort zone so I’m binge watching any videos about what to know and/or expect. Thank you for making this❤️💜💙
Be naked when I get home 😂😂
i really wish i could go to the parade in nyc they hold every year. but unfortunately, i'm only 13, my parents don't know that i like girls, and there's no way in hell they'd ever take me.
Same
same, i feel u
same same
Same. Stay strong, stay safe🏳️🌈
Yup, me too!
Sadly
:(
love you steph! thanks for everything you do
hola I was waiting so long for this you look so pretty I’m glad you are ok queen
Pride to me is about loving yourself for who you are
This why I'm not for straight hating as I feel that is not helpful
Ikr?? Everyone here in the comments likes it and it just rubbs me the worng way.. she really can't tell straight people that they don't have a right to say something...or act a certain way when they're really just trying to be supportive, also it's not like the video is explaining stuff nicely.. the tone of her speech is kind of speaking from above,like she's talking to a 5 year old child, maybe I'm wrong but it really feels like that (by the way I used to be a fan of Steph when she was active on TH-cam so it's really not coming from a place of hate just disappointment )
@@oryan1640 oh no you're right man, currently meme-watching, can confirm the air of pretentiousness.
@@oryan1640 omg! Exactly my words in the comments! This video is actually misanthrop! Not about freedom!
Her "rules" boil down to, make sure you're informed, be respectful, be polite, if you're not sure about something ask someone in the know and if you're not willing to do your research it might be better not to go. And somehow that's straight hating? It really isn't unless you have a big ego.
@@Sephajinami its less whats shes saying and more how shes saying it
im gay and even i can tell shes abit pertensious
i get what shes saying is coming from a good place, but she needs to learn how to talk to people even thoughs she believes are misinformed with respect
My older sis said "Why can't straight white people have months?".. This is an example of people not getting that some people are hated for who they are.
Legit just did a happy dance when I saw this video!! Missed seeing your videos Steph! 😄😄 Happy Pride 💛💚💙💜
I miss your videos!! Happy Pride Month! 🌈
Happy Pride!
Oh it's my high school support system! I've missed your videos girl! ☺️
It me! I'm back and gayer than ever!
@@ElloSteph "gayer than ever" such a smart play on words, we stan a poet!
Hi! I’m going to my first pride festival next week with two of my friends (who are also in the community) and I’m so excited! You also helped me come out, and are so inspiring. Thank you! 🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤😊🎵
That's incredible! So proud and happy for you!
Yess miss your videos so much!!!!! And congrats on graduating!!!!!
Thank you!!!
You are someone to me.
Thanks for this excellent, informative video.
Thank you for educating us hueeee
-I was like "what steph is doing is she not still uploading lets see"
*Uploaded a video 2 hrs ago after 7 months*
Wow i was lucky
Paradise I went and checked on her last week too.
Thank you for taking the time to use the longer version of the acronym. It meant a lot. 💜🖤
Loved this video!!!! Can’t wait to go!!!
My best friend and I are headed to Chicago pride at the end of the month, and she keeps asking if certain things might be offensive or if it's even ok for her to go because shes straight. I'm definatly sending this to her thank you Steph!!!!!
sending this to all may very supportive straight cis ally friends
Margo Sayre, lucky, I can't find another LGBT person..
Scott please hop off my thread with that incorrect and inconsiderate comment. That is not language that should be used by an ally, and as you can see this video is for allies.
Maybe not since it’s just a list of double standard bs
You have friends?
Oh
I wanna too
This was so respectful and informative!
Well, I’ve missed this hype ball of fun and happiness and plants
Welcome Back Steph!~
Happy Pride month!🌈~
I'm bisexual and proud! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Hana Gabrielle Bidon 🤮
Woahhh what’s with all the reply’s. It’s not a sin. You’re born this way. love
Nigerian Boi it’s not an abomination or a sin tho ✌🏻
i 8-2 Much I can’t “become normal” because I was born like this and I am normal
Hana do not mind the hate going down below
As a lesbian I definitely support my bisexual women. Be proud of who you are. We are born this way and no one's gonna change the way we love women
Happy pride everyone 💋 lots of love
I just discovered your channel and I.LOVE.YOU❤❤❤
I am an ally, friend, and family of the LGBTQ community. I support and accept you the way you are!
Happy pride month!❤❤
Robin Moreau
IM AN ALLY
SUPPORT
ONE TIME I SAW A RAINBOW UMBRELLA AND SHOUTED SUPPORT
Thanks for this one Steph. Proud to be an Ally. Hi Oscar Wilde and welcome to TH-cam
Thanks, Jim!!
SHE IS BACK!!
and gayer than ever!
OMG ... you are amazing and I love your view on the world !
Amazing video. Shared it to my Facebook so my cis straight friends can see this so they can understand what they need to know. Happy Pride Month!
Next week I'm going for the first time on Equality Parade in capital city of my country and I'm so excited bc it will be much bigger than in my city. Hugs from Poland!
Have a lovely pride!
Oscar's little ears popping up, OMG.
I’m asexual and let me just say it was so nice to hear you say lgbtqia+ thank you!
Lauren M but how can a person be asexual if you physically can’t asexually reproduce
Cooter Cabinet not everyone seeks to have children. But if they’re asexual and want children without sexual activity, adoption or sperm donors are available.
@@woah4848 wtf
Same. It feels really good when people include us.
Yeah, so true! I‘m not completely sure, if I am asexual or demisexual, but I really love it, if people say it that way :))
I am so about Gay Pride and Rights but I think that the banning of the Toronto police from the Parade is the height of Hate & Hypocrisy. We fought for Human Rights only to Discriminate. So Wrong. Either Everyone is Included or it is Exclusion and Discrimination. This is sentiment of many Gay people in Toronto.
Well said! You win the internet!
You said it. Even in the video she mentions that is best not to go to certain events if you don’t belong to a certain group. To me that is a discriminative practice. An inclusive community on the outside but segregated on the inside.
I, as a gay man, am upset by how many rules you feel you need to put on straight people to attend an open to the public party. That sort of discrimination is what led to the riots to begin with. If people want to go, let them go. If not, don't. But who are you to put rules on attendance? People need to learn to stop caring what everyone else says or thinks about them. Their opinion should mean nothing. Go to pride, celebrate the way you want to, and go home when you are done. Just my two cents worth. Either way, Happy Pride
@SMS101productions What makes you think gay people don't have jobs? 😂 And I'm sure you're a great person, what with your comparing consenting adults loving each other and being proud about it to paedophilia and all. 🙄 You are doing a disservice to all of the children who have been killed or had their lives ruined by paedophiles by comparing their horrific experiences to loving, positive adult relationships. I hope you enjoy this last dying gasp of bigotry that seems to be going on lately. Soon, people like you will exist no longer. ❤️🏳️🌈
SMS101productions exactly, normalizing things that are completely fucking stupid, and saying that it’s fine that they exist is not ok.
@SMS101productions I won't 'STFU' but you can GTFO.
@SMS101productions Please stop generalizing the entire community as feminazis who are accepting of pedophiles. Yes, there are people like that, and a good majority of the community doesn't like the people like that. Pedophilia will never be accepted in our community. (although I do agree that we need to cool it at pride, it's an all ages thing)
@SMS101productions A very angry Asexual, that's who. Increasingly angry because the notification that you just cause to pop up interrupted my art. So, again, gtfo, you damaged car bumber.
This is really informative. Good job!
Thank you! I'm glad you liked it ^_^
LA Pride is this week I can’t wait till Saturday ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Yes! Soooo many people need to hear this and understand it. I love how articulate you are Steph.
Okay but that intro though (same) 😆 🎉 🎊
I am so excited for pride in my hometown this month!
Happy Prideeee Steph and to all the community !! best month of the year !
btw I'm moving to my own in NYC, do you have any recommandation ?
Have fun in Pride guyyys 🏳🌈✨🔥
Amazing! Definitely check out Cubbyhole. It's my favorite lesbian bar here in NYC (and they also have the cheapest drinks)
I love the sign in the back of the video
I would love to go to pride if I could! Hopefully, I can this year
Me, too. But I’m still in the closet and still trying to figure stuff out.
This is a good video for our straight allies and friends
This is such an amazing video!! As a straight/cis person, I learned a lot about pride and the LGBTQAI+ community! ps - I love that your cat is named Oscar Wilde! 😆
Hello, thank you for your support.
- An Ace person
I get to spend this month newly engaged to my beautiful and amazing girl :)
Have a great pride month you guys, gals and everyone in between! 🏳️🌈
Happy pride Steph. I'm a proud member of the lgbt community
Welcome back!
Thank you! It's good to be back
I'd love to go ti pride this year but there's only one in my country and I already am going to a friend's birthday party... Well, maybe next year😇
Wish I could celebrate too :( living in the middle of nowhere in Australia has its disadvantages i.e. I've never been able to go to pride :/
I’m sorry. It’s the same here. I’m Romanian.
@Max Smith 😂😂😂😂 I AM a kiwi.. I just happen to live in Australia
LOVE IS LOVE
I have no problem with straight, cis men doing drag if they want to try something new or get out of their comfort zone. Drag is for everyone!
Im not out of the closet yet so idk how pride works ╥﹏╥
(im just hoping my trans friend helps me)
I am not out of the closet ether, soo it’s cool🏳️🌈
Banana Thrower i came out a few days ago and it was all good for me 😁
Gay conservative here, may I celebrate pride as well. Or?
Im a non-binary. You can dm me on this app if you ever need any help❤️
@@MiguelSantos-kc6vw Of course!
I agree with most of what you said, with the main exception being the use of the word queer. For some in the community that is how they identify. It's been used as an identity since the 80s, and some would prefer you use that over calling them gay or bi or whatever. Usage matters, and you should never use a word to describe someone that they are uncomfortable with, and there's a big difference between referring to someone as being queer vs. saying they're A queer, but the word itself has such a different meaning than it used to, that I don't think a blanket ban from all cis straights is the right approach. Kinda erases those who identify that way.
I've seen quite a bit of controversy around this. A friend of mine made a facebook post at one point saying 'queer is still a slur, straight/cis people can't say it." I tend to agree with you that the context is the most important thing. I would be okay with a cis het person saying 'the queer community' in conversation for example. But if you're at a pride event it's possible not everyone there will agree and it's best to be safe.
I'm watching this, prepping for the (postponed) pride festival my gay friend and I are going to in October:) I've always been an ally for him and anyone else I encounter in the community, just refreshing & checking to make sure I'm not oblivious to anything when we go🤙
I MISSED YOUUUU
Happy Pride Month!! 🌈 🌈
I honestly don’t think that we should be telling the supportive people that aren’t part of the community but still want to show up all these rules. There’s only about two rules they should really follow and that’s to be polite and respectful and ask to take pictures. You should also say that you openly support our community so people don’t get the wrong idea, I feel like your being too much of a gate keeper
😮 Ello......haha be naked when I get home the sign ...Hi Steph.....nice point about photography about people not being out yet..plus other stuff.Happy pride Steph.
Happy Pride!
I’m an ally I will remember to follow these rules when supporting friends and everyone else
Understand some of the "rules" but I think it's messed up saying "it's not something for you and you straight bestfriends to go to". I'm straight and I support the community so why can't I go? Not saying that I'm letting this stop me from going, but I just think it's wrong. Wouldn't you welcome others with open arms that stand by and support you?
For me she is just saying that that not an activity that you can do for "fun" this is a manifestation for right for the lgbt+++ so not just a place that you can go when you're bored... I don't think it was supposed to be offensive but to remember that we protest to have rights and remember the people who did it before us
I love pride month because I'm Bisexual ❤💜💙
You said things really well! Thanks for this! I am a straight ally. (:
welcome back steph :) fun fact you're the first lgbt person I started watching on youtube over 5 years ago :) thank you for introducing me to everything bc I wouldn't have known I was trans
you're great. BTW, you and Marisha Ray, from Critical Role, could be sisters. You two are doppelgänger of each other.
MrThierryFournier i agree. They are so similar
Don't send this to your straight friends. It's too antagonizing. I wouldn't go at all after watching this. Good thing I have been to all the marches for years. This video won't change my mind.
I loooove your shirt so much and this video(and I’m gay) happy pride 🏳️🌈!
Thanks for telling me why I shouldn't go, it saved me a lot of time.
Wtf
As a cisgender female I’m open to learn about the LGBT and how to respect them...
( BTW the sign you have in the back is hilarious)
I never heard of cisgender what's that? Btw hows ur pride month going mine is awesome knowing people support us
I'm gay!
FYI - has anyone noticed that the lines in the pride flag are straight 🏳️🌈 or is it just me 👀
Ps. Stormie DeLarverie was also one of the first most assertive members of the LGBTQ+ community and she was involved in the Stonewall Inn event as well.
I'm bi and going to pride in a few days I'm so excited
The Pr3stine Blade hey, I wanna go. But in my country it can be a little dangerous. And also I’m not out. So.. what do you think?
Wow! Great video...such important information. You are awesome at video. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Surely there is a difference between people associated with LGBTQAI+ community and the general cis straight community with no real connection that are just curious.
"...LGBTQ... _AI+?"_ 😟 My god. How many letters are necessary, here?
@@lazyperfectionist1 I like H+, I'm hoping it will blow up.
@@lazyperfectionist1
Yeah, it can be confusing or annoying to some. You could argue lgbtq+ is broad enough with + being like an other category. But asexual or intersex may like separate recognition. I'm kinda a bit lazy myself and you shouldn't annoy people telling them the miss letters or use wrong word.
But if people make the effort to use the full LGBTQAI+ why complain it's too many letters?
@@teambellavsteamalice I'm not complain that it's too many. I'm asking how many are necessary.
Lazy Perfectionist Human sexuality is expansive and there could be as many labels as there are people.
I always wanted to go to pride but I wasn't sure if that's ok bcs I'm straight😅 I don't wanna be judged😅😅😅
Thismyname dealwithit sure you can go, just go with good intentions and love. :) all are welcome
Aww there's a kitty! 🐱So cute!
Yes I love this
The sign in the background is SUCH a MOOD like OH MY LORRRRRRDDD
I see everyone as an equal
Ps I’m am a ace
Aaa I’m so exited to go to pride in Amsterdam cause it will be my first time WoO💖💜💙
I just finished my second year of school in the USA (Illinois specifically) and I'm here all summer this time. This will be my first time going to Chicago pride As a matter of fact...my first time EVER going to ANY pride event tbh. Hoping it will be as great as I've imagined it to be!! So excited!!!!!
Love you steph you are looking beautiful happy pride month I'm bi xxx