Аfter my first date with a one girl I asked her "do you want to go out again?" instead she corrected me that it was better to hear from me "hey I want to see you again". Then I understood the power of direct comunication.
@@tubefred Could be the first one you are asking her if she wants to see you it is a question but dose it mean you want to see her you could just be curious but not interested in another date it can leave a confuse feeling weather you like her or not.
Loved your commentary at the end. Masculine and feminine energy should work together in harmony. I think because men and women don’t embrace those energies is partially why our modern society is so screwed up.
yes, you made an awesome point. Most men think that if a woman is "confident", it means that she wants to dominate the realtionship fully. The OPPOSITE is true. It means she has embraced what she is; a LADY, someone who RECEIVES masculine energy and reacts to it in a feminine way. Confident lady means she is unapologetic to society that she loves feminine and loves to receive the rock solid energy from the masculine without constantly triying to undermine the man´s true qualities.
@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 Spot on man, it's no wonder so many people are anxious and depressed because men are out here acting feminine and women are acting masculine. And the worst part is that we're being told it's a good thing.
@@testosteronemastery yes, so true. Concerning this topic, I am absolutely a conservative man. Republicans have much better nerves concerning this topic, they still value the gender roles as they should be to make everyone happy in the long run. The lefties here think that we discriminate women if we want them to stay in their feline role, not noticing that they actually make them feel miserable...
My take: Some men, especially younger men, often mistake being mean or insulting with being 'direct'. Unless the person is 'under' you in a formal hierarchy, the need to 'put someone in his or her place' is a sign of weakness, not strength. Emotional security -- not being bothered by what other people do -- is the method AND the goal. A good way to practice this approach is 'not being offended' by anything. Nothing is a threat, unless it is a threat. Also, there is no need to 'match' a bully with bullying. Bullies are dysfunctional , and unless you're in prison, you have nothing to gain, and a lot to lose, by matching their tactics.
"I love fashion! Gonna make a TH-cam channel dedicated to men's fashion with a unique woman's perspective!" 3 months later... "Nah I actually just love money and will make a TH-cam channel dedicated to simps who can't talk to chicks".
@@balthazarbotbol8519 I can talk to women just fine. I don't want young men to have to spend decades figuring this stuff out like I had to because mass media lies to us constantly. I like Courtney, from what I see, and her motives for making videos is NOMB.
I think there are too many generalisations here. Putting people in their place is not always out of weakness. Sometimes it can be compulsive, sometimes it can be satisfying to see people get what they deserve. Really just depends on the situation.
I really appreciate that you stated how powerful a woman's femininity is as well! Nothing moves me or makes me want to be a better, more masculine man, than when I am in the presence of a truly feminine woman, who conveys a powerful confidence.... without trying to be "a man".
Alpha males in 1021: "I'll take your lands, cattle and women whether you like it or not." Alpha males in 2021: "I'll take the Chicken Alfredo whether you like it or not!"
@Simon Edwards No, I just think if you chime in here with some wild assumptions and sweeping over-generalizations, you should at least be able to handle some sarcasm.
"I love fashion! Gonna make a TH-cam channel dedicated to men's fashion with a unique woman's perspective!" 3 months later... "Nah I actually just love money and will make a TH-cam channel dedicated to simps who can't talk to chicks".
Ok . Great post . Your statement is correct you exude feminine energy and you use it well. More woman need to find there feminine energy . It's appealing to men because we see too many masculine acting woman in business and social settings.
When I am around a girl that puts off a lot of feminine energy, she makes me feel confident and strong towards the world but at the same time I feel a little weak or intoxicated towards her charms.
I had issues, in past relationships, of not being very direct, on top of being indecisive. It wasn't until conversations I had with an ex girlfriend's friend telling me why her friend was no longer interested in me that I had to change my behavior. Part of it was I lacked confidence. It wasn't until I started putting myself in leadership roles and taking the initiative in my life that things begin to change. One experience was when my Karate instructor asked me to help teach some of the classes since I was an advance student. That's when I gained my confidence in the ability to make decisions and be more direct. It took a long time but I eventually became more confident.
Courtney does such a good job of reacting and commenting on what guys say about women. She is not defensive, just a honest and helpful reaction and response to things. Courtney for President!
Love this! I’m, in some situations, in my relationship, direct. My husband has always said to me, “speak your mind. Say what you mean!” I can understand women not wanting to sound like they’re being too this or that when they say for example, as you said “I’m cold” hinting to either get your partner’s jacket or turn the AC down. I can so understand that! So bc I’m older and I’ve been in a relationship for 17 yrs, I personally found, I can speak directly. Perhaps that came with age? 🤔 You can be very feminine and say, “I’m cold, can I pls have your jacket or turn the AC down, I’m freezing?” You’re not being pushy or too much, and I’m sure for most guys they have an instinct to help a girl out! I love how men are direct, I personally find it very sexy!!! 😁 Loved this video… and love your content, keep it up, Sistah!💗
Courtney Ryan is a protagonist and absolutely socially intelligent woman .A particular kind of matter with uniform properties. She exhibits such true moderation and yet so intricately entertaining .I have to acknowledge my respect for the way you educate the society in the MORAL SPHERE!!!!!!!
"I love fashion! Gonna make a TH-cam channel dedicated to men's fashion with a unique woman's perspective!" 3 months later... "Nah I actually just love money and will make a TH-cam channel dedicated to simps who can't talk to chicks".
@@tomcarrow Women need a man who can provide more resources than she could alone; she can nag the man to get a better job or just mooch off his existing resources. A relationship is like wringing the water out of a sponge, except the water is a man's resources and women squeeze very hard. It's just the way things are and I don't think women are malicious, just there would be no incentive for a woman to have a relationship if she isn't getting more than she gives.
@@EhurtAfy I disagree. And I wouldn't just talk about good man or good woman alone but good, healthy couple/relationship. It's where a woman should be able to make her own independent living and so can a man. And if so what's good for both if they can totally support themselves? That's when it comes to WANTING a life partner, someone who can be there for us and support us mentally, emotionally, spiritually, you name it, and not just NEEDING a life partner. It's totally achievable and doesn't have to go the way you describe. Both can be giving and receiving exactly what one needs without resources and money always getting involved. Even though we're social animals, we should learn to live alone and support ourselves alone. When we achieve that, we can then move on and support and cherish others without being needy. If my woman desperately depends on me as if she can't live without me then honestly, I don't want her, because she's just gonna suck the life out of me.
You brought up a major point that many men see "Feminine Energy" as weak. If people acknowledge that there is power in both, and one is not "stronger" than the other, there will be more tolerance between the genders. There are pros and cons to everything - a common issue for "Feminine Energy" it may be decisiveness, for "Masculine Energy" it might be aggressiveness - but there are so many men who are indecisive as well. If we approach people understanding to "balance" the social dynamic (regardless of gender) and not control it, we might just become more attractive humans overall.
So on a whim I clicked on this video. I am glad I did. I agree that women are not fish and I appreciate this perspective. I can't help but cringe when I see these arrogant alpha male wannabes be disrespectful when talking to or about women. Manners should always come first. Before confidence, before what you're gonna say or how you intend to say it. Great video
Check out Alexander grace's video "Never date a woman below this line". He provides an interesting perspective on dependence in relationships. You will definitely provide a unique feminine perspective to the topic which is much needed.
I think the point of the "don't ask a fish how to fish" is that women tend to give answers that put them in a good light, not answers that are the reality of what they actually want. Women are hyper concerned with image and beauty and so on so it is expected they would not give truthful answers. Women will give SOME truthful answers but not all so why seek counsel from someone who will mix truth with lies when you can go to other sources, like this one, that give you the straight skinny? By the way, another opinion I'd like to share is that while I find these videos to be of significant benefit, I think they are not always correct at all times. In fact Courtney might not even dispute this point. For example, there was another video she posted advising various things to put around the house like a sound system even if small or a plant and other assorted items MOST women would appreciate, but not all women are going to be impressed by these things. So it's a matter of comparing advice against context and circumstances and personalities. In my opinion though, of the videos I've seen on this channel so far, something like 9 times out of 10 you're going to strike a bullseye with her advice.
not to mention, i've met plenty of women who had no clue of why they did what they did. and in this video, the hostess mentions she never even thought about how she doesn't directly ask her own boyfriend to take care of her feeling cold. so she isn't even aware of what she's trying to accomplish when she fails to speak directly to someone she should feel comfortable speaking directly to. and you'd expect a healthy relationship to have that direct communication.
Nah she’s right though. Plants show you care about your space and want life in it and to keep the air clean. A speaker is for sex... so you can play music when she’s comes by. Trust me, the speaker works every time, just know what music she likes first ;)
This isnt the straight skinny. If shes attracted u can say whatever u want without consequence if shes not attracted shed rather u not speak to her at all. Game is about maintaining what is already there, not making money grow on trees. Thats why the dudes most successful at "game" and "social" are physically more attractive. They can be delusional spergs but more women are attracted to them therefore they assume they have good game. Has nothing to do with who they are or their actions because the attraction has nothing to do with those things its all superficial layer. Just ask this chick to show her boyfriend off and its plain as day.
@@ethosterros9430 I think there is an element of truth to what you say. MOST people in my observation tend to hook up with others who are at their same or similar level of physical attractiveness. However I also observe that this is not universally true. There are many times I see beautiful women hooking up with very average looking guys because he offers certain things she really wants. (No I don't mean money although that kind of dysfunctional relationship obviously exists.) Also what Courtney said rings true that she has met guys who looked like greed gods but turned them down 'cause their personalities sucked. I think the male analog of that resonates true as well. Sure a bimbo airhead is fun to date and have sex with but would you want to marry that girl? Not unless you're stupid. Somewhat above average looks but with a brain is a MUCH better deal long term.
@@AwestrikeFearofGods That's pretty funny because I should have used this emoji 😜 So because we both failed to use the proper emojis you thought, that I thought, that you were serious. 😅 Good times lol
12:15 "You wanna come in with a confidence and a belief in yourself that things are going to work out and if they don't you'll be able to figure something out to where you'll still win" Courtney Ryan 2021 Courtney will less us fail, but not lose our girl lads.
"I'm cold" is _extremely annoying._ It may be "cute" the first couple of times, because the guy gets to "protect" or "rescue" the girl early on, but guys don't want a helpless woman. I would get so tired of my wife telling me this, *_especially_* when she was told/reminded it was going to be cold before we left. I would tell her to take her jacket and she wouldn't, then we'd be walking and she'd tell me she was cold. I would reply with "You should have brought your jacket like I told you." I could tell the rising heat in her face kept her warm. (Ha ha! j/k - She wasn't happy with me then.) On the plus side, she'll take her jacket and I'll put my arm around her. Thanks for the video! I agree he could have phrased _lots_ of things better, as well as pausing a bit more between thoughts. I would enjoy watching a masculine/feminine video from you when you're ready. I've been binge watching a lot of your videos since I discovered your channel about a week ago. I may have broken the *Like* button. ;)
"I love fashion! Gonna make a TH-cam channel dedicated to men's fashion with a unique woman's perspective!" 3 months later... "Nah I actually just love money and will make a TH-cam channel dedicated to simps who can't talk to chicks".
agreed. i stopped watching the vid after this, there could have been more examples of difference in communication. i do understand, that some folks "beat around the bush" since they can't find a pleasant way to say, "wow, do you really like it this cold?" but i have friends who do understand they can just be straightforward with me. i esp. loved your point about telling a woman before the event to bring a jacket, and then listening to her complain. i was always a "plan ahead" guy, and female friends who pull the "i can't figure out a restaurant, pick one" have learned quick--don't complain about my choice when you force me into one.
@@albertgaspar627 If you stopped watching the video because of that, then you're failing to understand what she realized and what she wants to improve upon. I'm _NOT_ complaining about Courtney's video, I'm pointing out that "I'm cold" is very annoying for guys. You're coming off in your post as a "I'm a stubborn mule and selfish" type of person.
Indirect works for guys. It’s called flirting. Both parties engage in a dance around the direct subject through a playful interchange. It’s fun, and a fun conversation is a good way to talk to women
There's a time for everything, so direct and indirect have a place. A man should know when to be direct and when to be playful. Since he leads, I think women are attracted to this type of man.
The reason why men say “don’t ask a fish how to fish” in regards to getting advice from women is because women don’t know what they want. It’s been scientifically proven that what a woman says she is attracted to and what her body is attracted to are often two totally different things.
Agree, also attraction for a lot of people works at a subconscious level. Have you ever heard anyone say 'I'm attracted to people I need to rescue', yet time after time they date people that need rescuing.
It also goes the otherbwsy around, for example if some dude tells a girl that all she has to do is idk wear short clothes and throw herself to me, i would honestlly avoid the girl because im not into that kind of stuff and i know tons of other guys that would react the same way. What it tries to say is to ask the person that has expirience doingvwhat you want to accomplish, for example i woukd ask other ude or alesbian how to flirt with girls just because they do what i want to achieve and i think is the same way the other way around. Meaning that a woman may ask another woman or a gay guy how to pick up guys
@@selomdoke5687 If it's all over the internet, it shouldn't be hard for you to find it. You're the one that made the claim so it's your responsibility to back it up.
Thank you, once again, for deciphering this from a woman's perspective and, especially, honestly sharing your own experiences. Vulnerability is so attractive and earns a TON of credibility! AWESOME job! 😊
Me being direct to ny crush: "i like you" She: "that is great for you!" What i don't like about being confident, is that it is often the same thing as lying to yourself. For example: in a project i try to see the pros and cons. I won't just say that it will work. I'd say it should work, chances are good.
It does notwork like that. Woman dont think like that and have no reason to listen to logic when having a emotional mind. They react different and for from average covers that in his videos
Not every woman is going to like you, and that's OK! What matters is that were honest with her. Keep being direct with people and it will become second nature.
Going by Courtney's videos she's a very good example of what a well developed modern woman can be. She uses her brain, accepts responsibility for her actions, is totally feminine and is not jealous of male "privilege". The unfortunate truth is that women like her are severely in the minority.
"A good woman always wants to find a life partner..." After she has had the popular guy for social status her friends like, then the guy who can (and is willing to) entertain her (ie fund her entertainment), then the bad boy she can't hold to find out how freaky she is, then the several "confirming the self-worth after heartbreak" guys, and THEN......the Life Partner.
This is definitely the hierarchy of the ladder to greater degrees of relationship, but like all generalities some skip a rung bounce around or go straight to the end from the beginning
I mean, guys go through that too. They go for the chick that everybody likes and will impress his friends, then after that he goes for the crazy chick that’s great in bed and then some rebounds and THEN the life partner. Same shit, same story.
As a bartender, with more than 10 years of experience in hospitality, I can tell you one thing: if you wanna stand out and be attractive to a waitress eyes, the words you really need to use are "hi" and "bye" when walking in and out of the venue, "please" "can I have" and "thank you" when you're placing your order and receiving it, and in general be well mannered and respectful... if you're gonna act like the guy in the example, you're not gonna be considered assertive and dominant, but "unpolite, rude and disrespectful" (feel free to add your own favourite description, believe me: waiters/waitress does...) and definitely not attractive to anyone... be kind, it's always the best way...
Hearing you speak is like a breath of fresh air. I'd also add that confidence is built through competence. If you work on your fitness you'll be more confident because you know you can protect her, if you focus on your intellect and reading you'll be more confident because you know what you're talking about. Work on your growth gentlemen 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Confident and respectful...if you are saying something that you wouldn't like, don't say it. The attitude, tone or words spoken represents you... If you make a mistake, an apology goes a long way...the fact you realize it...just says a lot about you. Because most wont know or wont apologize..
"What would you like to order?" and up pops a cartoon version of Courtney lol 😆
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Also an important point, you CAN be respectful and polite and still be direct and confident of your words/decisions, and yet the other person can still be thinking of you as an asshole, probably because they are immature and they can't handle that level of bluntness, or a "NO" for an answer.
Being direct & confident women like that but also they don’t want you coming on to strong. I admit I like to be considerable to women but completely comfortable with them too. Love looking directly into their & seeing a comfortable smile!!!
Most of what I saw here were demonstrations of why I pay no attention to animated videos narrated by AI voices. Most of them are memes, not information sources, and don't give good information. Besides that, if a guy doesn't have the courage to at least use his own voice when giving advice, much less show his face in the video, then why should I listen to him? I'd much rather hear it from you, Courtney. You're genuine, and your corrections and clarifications are informative and helpful.
Yay, reaction vids are my personal fave!! ☺️ I’ve come across a lot of videos like the one you’re reacting to and it’s really hard with dating to give general advice on some things because everyone’s looking for something different, but you do a great job
There are normal women, and you talk normal to them. There are crazy women, and you don't talk to them. I don't play games like this guy does. I am just a normal honest guy. To talk to women, just talk normal and honest.
Yes absolutely agree with you. I don't what you thought process on the ying and Yang of this mentioned. But I'm instructor of tai chi and our best is go softly. I find that most not all women show their feminine qualities in tai chi which to show the softness and when needed in constructive manner bring out the Yang. Masculine part. ☯️. We all share these qualities and it's how we use them in our daily life. I'm a strong man but aggressive it took me many years to learn this and found it so useful. Softness is the way to go 💖. Macho guys don't get for its a great process to for well being 👍🧜♀️. I've learned many styles of martial arts but tai chi..brings out the softness or feminine side of people you learn to be more in touch with your feelings and become more compassionate. It's not easy 🤔. I have studied over 30yrs and many styles, but softness or being able to change oneself can help you be s more calm person of one self. Yes absolutely it takes dedication willing to practice. But I have found that women have this innate ability to help you. Thank you sharing this vide. Sorry for the long statement but its worth a try to help become a better person of your self find a good instructor and female partner. 💖👍🧜♀️☯️🌹
Thank you Courtney for taking the time to read this I know that you are very busy with your you tube and I find it on honor for you to take the time . Love you positive out look on life. Some these comments are useful, and glad you took the time to read mine. Have a blessed day 🙏☯️🌹
I'm glad you watched this. It is good to have your input. He has much to offer in development in general but it is always good to be critiqued to learn from in general. Thanks for your take on this. Glenn
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On your crush's birthday say - happy birthday, and dont come home without headache, dizzines and at least 0.3 alc in blood.... and then continue the conv. Worked every time.
Such a good ooint that feminine is powerful. A lot of women think in order to be strong or show power, they have to be masculine. While in reality, a powerful women can or actually probably should be very feminine. Great topic and would love to see your full take on this topic!
Ah yes- I've lately drifted away from Far From Average. Despite nice pictures and a voice-over that talks as if it's expert, I find the advice very hit and miss. My own comment from a year ago on the video in question was "I'd be wary about expecting this dominance act to work on guys in the same way. I've had some try to use it on me and it pisses me off, my first thought being: 'Who the heck put you in charge?'" And its most popular comment of all rubbished it thusly: Balys goes up to his crush trying to act cool and all Crush: -What's up? Me: - YES, I'LL TAKE THE CHICKEN ALFREDO 8.2K likes
Dear Courtney Ryan... Indirect Communication and Direct Communication... Here is something to think about... When I eat breakfast at my local restaurant, on the occasion, a lonely young woman wanted to sit, no more booths, and my booth had more than enough room and so I invited her to sit, not asking as a date because she had a boyfriend and so I invited them both to share the booth.... The POINT is communication can create a friendly atmosphere and for roughly -45- minutes three total strangers shared a booth and good conversation.... We separately paid for our meals, but communication does create confidence and friendship.... Always In Good Taste... CHEERS!!
Courtney makes more sense than the "Far from Average" joker. I love the way she emphasizes the importance of self-confidence with respect. If you put on some alpha act, women will see through it every time. Real men do not put on acts. And they respect women as a priority.
I agree this guy has a shitty channel with a lot of poorly made up concepts. Women don’t need to be a priority though unless you’re looking for something long term. If it’s purely sexual attraction, they won’t want a guy who over values them. That said, good luck if you’re planning on having a long lasting relationship with a woman who does not feel the most important thing in your life.
Don’t ever chase a woman. If she likes you, she will let you know and she will consistent. If she is in your face one minute then flaky the next, she has a motive. Trust me on this I work with a large amount of single women at an elementary school. Whenever there’s a holiday coming up they are chatty but after the holiday they are stand offish. It’s hilarious.
Thanks for your well considered responses Courtney, you added something there once again. I wanted to disagree with one point however : you seemed to be saying at one point that you are trying to be less indirect with your boyfriend ( eg “it’s cold in here”). This is the exact example I saw a relationship coach give at one stage of something modern women should do more of - actually by being indirect, a woman actually gives a man a chance to offer care, leading - like in a dance, it’s part of a game you are playing together. I’m totally fine with a woman being direct, and if we are not romantic/ flirting this is better eg in the workplace. But, just as direct communication could be brash or arrogant if done without awareness (ie an insecure front) indirect communication could be malicious or annoying, if it is not done in the right spirit. If indirect communication is done in the right spirit by a woman it can be utterly charming for a man, part of a delightful dance where you’re offering different energies to the interaction. By contrast a woman being really direct and trying to lead me is kind of boring and annoying. Not because women can’t or shouldn’t lead in many contexts but because being too direct denies me my part in the dance where both people are very aware of the signals coming from each other.
Courtney, I really enjoy watching your reaction videos. Instead of focusing on men, I think it would be really interesting if you do one from Marni Kinrys. She typically gives men relationship advice from a woman's perspective. Please do a reaction video on her video "9 Mind tricks Used by Players and Bad Boys (Women Secretly Love These)"
Yes, definitely! Seeing and hearing about YOUR personal interpretation and understanding of "masculine" and "feminine" energies, and the differences (and even any similarities) that you believe they have between them, would definitely be a VERY interesting video, IMHO!... And I wouldn't ask that opinion or interpretation from every or just any "average" or "typical" woman, (if there even is such a thing as that), because most women do not really seem to know or understand those differences, but YOU Courtney, seem to be one of a relatively small percentage of women who actually DO have a decent grasp of the male/female dynamic, kind of like Alexander Grace does as a guy; very balanced, multilevel, and multidimensional overall, like you can see it from all different angles, and not be too biased in one way or another... So since YOU have such a good head on your shoulders, with a very good, comprehensively understanding, and truly knowledgeable mind, then I think YOUR personal take on those differences would be a quite beneficial thing for us all to see!... I look forward to watching and listening to you in that video if you ever DO decide to do it!... Keep up your great work, it's always very informative and even inspiring! :)
I have recently seen your channel and a few of your videos yet I can easily say that you are good at what you are doing, you don't need any other things to catch attention. We need youtubers like you that cares about their content and preserves their quality standarts. I hope for you and your channel all the best.
That's funny, if my lady tells me "she's cold" I act jokingly dismissive. "Oh that sucks, I'm pretty good in my jacket.". Make her ask for what she wants. But this isn't advice, I am probably an a$$hole more than not.
Lol, yea, that’s kind of asshole, not the part about not giving her your jacket but your comment. If I’m cold myself and I’m not even feeling her l’ll be like, “I am too”, or “I have this jacket and I’m still cold, let’s go someplace warmer.”
I appreciate the subtle but direct manner you use to convey any message you deliver. Were there more classy people,men and women alike with your open even handed way of approaching subject matter and/or show of respect to one another this would be a better world for all. Blessings Follow Clarity. Thank You, a fan and subscriber.
Yes, they are more like pigeons… they see you eating so they are sneaking around trying to get biggest crumbles from what you got…$h!ting on everything around in meantime..
The part about how your server isn't flirting with you, "she's just doing her job", I feel like majority of the time that's not true, they are flirting, but not because they are interested in you, but they are interested in making money and that's the way it has been for a while, I've even seen some employers telling them to be more interactive with the clients to try to obtain better tips
Interesting videos!! Seems to be that your covering all the subject matters that viewers are most interested in seeing. Since there are ALWAYS multiple videos of yours that are on my recommended viewing list. I’m sure your channel will grow very quickly
Courtney, you hit the nail on the head and kudos to you for recognizing it. You never ask to turn the A/C down you just state it's cold in here. This is the language men need to understand. Women's indirect communication. Like learning a foreign language called "Womanese"
I remember watching that channel's videos. That channel grew so fast. I can tell the author of those videos know what they are talking about. Good video share! 👍
Thank you for pointing it out at the beginning, every time I hear the phrase "A fish can never teach you how to fish, you have to be taught by a fisherman" I get sick. Fish don't want to be caught, however, women do want to be attracted to a man.
A woman wants to be attractive to an attractive man. That is not the same as a woman wanting to be attracted to any specific man, nor all men generally. The reason people say that you can't listen to a fish to learn how to catch fish, is because the fish doesn't want to be caught by the fisherman. So also, do women not want to be caught by most men, just the best men. The restaurant example here is a perfect reflection of that. 'If the waitress is attracted you, it doesn't matter how you said the order'. If that man did ask the woman why she was not attracted to him, she would not say 'Because I think you are ugly'. It would be 'I don't date customers', even if she 100% would date an attractive customer. I don't personally think that women give very good dating advice because, as Courtney said here, 'She is being nice because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings'. Hence she cannot say that being tall, being successful, being highly educated, being highly respected among your peers, being physically attractive' since these things are either completely outside of a man's control, or in a competitive market, guaranteed to exclude some portion of men. (i.e. you could work out and be more attractive, but someone else with better genes will always be more attractive given the same level of effort and you can't work out your face muscles to start looking like Chris Hemsworth). So instead, they will focus on personality traits that are largely within your control or the small parts that are in your control (working out is better than not working out; even though you might just end up looking like jacked carrot top; still ugly, but not fat. Which is "better" than ugly and fat). The real answer for women is the combination of the above traits, plus, the personality traits like being caring, being driven, having goals, etc. If you imagine that the dating advice women give to men is directed at attractive men, it's great advice. If you want advice on how to be attractive in the first place, you will instead get advice that leaves out anything that will hurt your feelings 9/10 times. That's not 'bad advice', it's inferior advice compared to direct and honest advice.
Yeah, women don't want to appear shallow or greedy. They're not likely to tell you they want hot, successful men. Women don't want to appear cruel either. So they dance around their rejections. Truth is that listening to women say what they want will leave you in the dark.
A lot women want to lead men on. And just like this video states they don’t tell you directly what they want it’s like a game you got to figure it out or should I say like “fishing”. She even admitted she does this.
@@shawn4110 Wow! Great comment. Lots of good, valuable truths there. I could not have said it any better myself. I agree, Courtney’s advice is baloney at best, most of the time. The best use for her channel for guys, is to pay attention to womanese on full display. Learn how they speak, and discern the truth and how it’s buried within their speech. Or decide it’s all bullsh*t and stay single.
@@CourtneyRyan about knowing your value in a business type sense but it applies to everything you gotta know who you are and what you bring to the table and what you stand for and example would be I've dealt with a lot sponsors over the years and they'll come to me and say X-youtuber and doing for this much and it half of what I'm saying well cool I'm doing it for this much and it might be like well your greedy and here's the thing even if it lot of money for not a lot of work that's awesome I'm grateful for it and it not like nah I want every penny it like no you not gonna play me like don't it aint a greed thing just because ither do it for less no those people don't understand their value
When I started learning about seduction, I kinda picked up the idea that women like what I can only describe as “aggression”. Assertiveness, ability to take control, being persuasive, straightforward communication, taking initiative, and so on. These are all basically aggressive things. I think the key is knowing that women develop a taste for aggression, not to mention that going overboard will indeed land you in some bad situations. I wish I had a better word than “aggression” to describe these qualities, but I don’t. As for me, I’m pretty straightforward, but I don’t trust people who always seem so sure of themselves. That kind of “confidence” is merely a façade. So I prefer not to speak in many certainties. I’d much rather be accurate than attractive.
With nearly 20 years in the military I’ve had to be really direct a lot because it’s my job. But I think where my ex-wife and ex-girlfriends got confused was: when I get home I don’t wanna have to be so direct, in the same way that I don’t wanna have to keep wearing the uniform and doing work stuff. Because I’m at home. I’m not saying when I get home I turn into a total wimp and go to the opposite extreme but hopefully there’s a girl out there somewhere who can understand that it can be a task/chore to always be really direct, especially if she almost never is and usually makes you bear the burden of things. Sometimes ya just want to chill and not end up doing every little thing that she passively, indirectly insinuates she wants you to do.
@@CourtneyRyan Yes!! Exactly... I wish we could somehow tell everyone in the world that there needs to be a balance. That partners need to understand that about each other and help each other sometimes. Even the strongest person in the world needs somebody to do small things for them every once in a while.
In my estimation “girls” aren’t monolithic creatures, unless you’re a psychopath. That being said, communicating with women comes from a variety of different motives. If somebody’s motive is shallow, they’ll get shallow results. If it’s more meaningful, they’ll get more meaningful results.
@@Incognit0777 for talking to women. If I’m attracted to somebody, physically, that’s a limited value. If I’m attracted to somebody, both physically and intellectually, that’s a much higher value. Females are designed to tell the difference, so you just better be prepared.
Interesting observation: Courtney frequently refers to herself as a “girl” despite the fact that she is an intelligent, articulate, successful young woman. Females who appear in forums such as Fresh and Fit and Kevin Samuels frequently get offended by being called a girl, and demand that you call them a woman. Courtney is truly the real woman in these examples because she still values being a girl as well. Courtney’s power comes from her femininity where as those other girls try to pretend power through their feminism.
I love your comment that being feminine is powerful. Hoping that inspires other women. The most powerful force in the world is beauty and a woman epitomizes that. Great video!
thats cheesy and objectifying her. It depends on what you say and at the way you say it. The smoothest line will be worth nothing coming from empty words and scared voice
I agree 100% about masculine & femanine energy. a lot of modern people have the opinion that feminine = weak & masculine = toxic. Which is ridiculous, there's a lot of strength in femaninity, in a group of people, a very femanine women can often be the MOST powerfull & influential person in the room. And of course there's nothing toxic about masculinity. I think society needs both the masculine & femanine and a lack of either will lead to issues.
Guys have u ppl ever seen any youtuber so consistent,valuble points,n so self less,having no ads??? Hell no!!!!, just look at other youtubers having been a sales person 3/4th part of the video n here is coutney !!!! I respect n experss gratidue from depth of my heart. n guys n notice that she reads all ur comments too, unlike other youtubers!!!!
Fun fact: you can be confident, and direct and still ask questions. If you always say “I want” that isn’t presenting the option of no because you never asked. As someone who came from a relationship where the person always said “they wanted” something and that “I needed” to do something. It made me feel like I had to do it even though I shouldn’t have. The best thing to do for me is to ask but be direct while asking. Not saying that you are cold, but asking “May I please have a Jacket?” It makes me understand what they want while still having that option of saying “ I am really cold myself”
For me, it's an introverted, or more intellectual perspective, where you speak to me better than most who give men advice; I don't usually ask men... either bad or too "harsh" advice that does not suit me. Not one to do things just because one said so, it has to make sense to me and as the bible has it... deep goes to deep. I think the right word, for me, is not confidence but assertiveness and starting conversations, is what I have to work on. Sometimes, all I require is the one word, to change everything. Now, if I can find "decent" and true God Fearing women, I'd be happy. Thanks for the video, loved it... 💋... ... and thanks for the grain sacks to look at. 👀
I prefer for people to be straight up with me. I'm not gonna die if they think they are gonna hurt my feelings. Just be honest and straight up. I'm not gonna stress it.
I know a guy who dumped a chick because she used to be fat. He thought: 1. She'd regain weight at some point 2. It was likely that their kids would be fat also. So, it kinda matters. I'm into fatties and I really dig the chicks who used to be thin. It doesn't turn me off. I guess I'm his total opposite, but I do dig the chicks who always were fat too. I think the style and ego that some chicks can have while thin can carry over post-weight gain, and that's the type of mindset that gels well with a ton of curves.. to me, that is.
I have seen a few of his videos, quite educational. Like how you present your own experience with what he said about indirect communication. 👍🏻 As for energy in new video, I don’t know if it’s relatable but, you could take up the question of “energy” being sensing suppressed emotions/unprocessed emotions? Through how people speak, behave etc. Keep up the good work!
So true. One has to be more positive. Believing in yourself and what you believe in and do and who you are makes you more confident. Then you can be more direct in talking to people and doing things, without being over overconfident.
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Аfter my first date with a one girl I asked her "do you want to go out again?"
instead she corrected me that it was better to hear from me
"hey I want to see you again". Then I understood the power of direct comunication.
Why is that better to hear?
It shows that you enjoyed her company and not just the activity of going out
@@tubefred Could be the first one you are asking her if she wants to see you it is a question but dose it mean you want to see her you could just be curious but not interested in another date it can leave a confuse feeling weather you like her or not.
@@tubefred Because she told him in other words that it is more attractive and persuasive to be direct. Which will ultimately give you better results.
Thank you everyone for the responses. You have added to my wisdom
Loved your commentary at the end. Masculine and feminine energy should work together in harmony. I think because men and women don’t embrace those energies is partially why our modern society is so screwed up.
Agreed 🤔✌
yes, you made an awesome point. Most men think that if a woman is "confident", it means that she wants to dominate the realtionship fully. The OPPOSITE is true. It means she has embraced what she is; a LADY, someone who RECEIVES masculine energy and reacts to it in a feminine way. Confident lady means she is unapologetic to society that she loves feminine and loves to receive the rock solid energy from the masculine without constantly triying to undermine the man´s true qualities.
@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 Spot on man, it's no wonder so many people are anxious and depressed because men are out here acting feminine and women are acting masculine. And the worst part is that we're being told it's a good thing.
Can you please tell her stop over looking my Comment idk see she won’t notice it🙏🙏
@@testosteronemastery yes, so true. Concerning this topic, I am absolutely a conservative man. Republicans have much better nerves concerning this topic, they still value the gender roles as they should be to make everyone happy in the long run. The lefties here think that we discriminate women if we want them to stay in their feline role, not noticing that they actually make them feel miserable...
My take: Some men, especially younger men, often mistake being mean or insulting with being 'direct'. Unless the person is 'under' you in a formal hierarchy, the need to 'put someone in his or her place' is a sign of weakness, not strength. Emotional security -- not being bothered by what other people do -- is the method AND the goal.
A good way to practice this approach is 'not being offended' by anything. Nothing is a threat, unless it is a threat. Also, there is no need to 'match' a bully with bullying. Bullies are dysfunctional , and unless you're in prison, you have nothing to gain, and a lot to lose, by matching their tactics.
Love this! 👏🏼 I completely agree.
Super good comment. Well said!
"I love fashion! Gonna make a TH-cam channel dedicated to men's fashion with a unique woman's perspective!"
3 months later...
"Nah I actually just love money and will make a TH-cam channel dedicated to simps who can't talk to chicks".
@@balthazarbotbol8519 I can talk to women just fine. I don't want young men to have to spend decades figuring this stuff out like I had to because mass media lies to us constantly.
I like Courtney, from what I see, and her motives for making videos is NOMB.
I think there are too many generalisations here. Putting people in their place is not always out of weakness. Sometimes it can be compulsive, sometimes it can be satisfying to see people get what they deserve. Really just depends on the situation.
I really appreciate that you stated how powerful a woman's femininity is as well! Nothing moves me or makes me want to be a better, more masculine man, than when I am in the presence of a truly feminine woman, who conveys a powerful confidence.... without trying to be "a man".
Alpha males in 1021:
"I'll take your lands, cattle and women whether you like it or not."
Alpha males in 2021:
"I'll take the Chicken Alfredo whether you like it or not!"
Woman's answer: not now that I'm having fun with chad,
Man; yes honey, let me know when he leaves. Hahaha
Lolz
That is hilarious! Good one.
@Simon Edwards Yes, of course. The Norse were the only people who ever conquered anything. Must be referring to those specifically.
@Simon Edwards No, I just think if you chime in here with some wild assumptions and sweeping over-generalizations, you should at least be able to handle some sarcasm.
Direct paired with emotional intelligence is a lethal combo- be powerful, but with grace :) cheers!
"I love fashion! Gonna make a TH-cam channel dedicated to men's fashion with a unique woman's perspective!"
3 months later...
"Nah I actually just love money and will make a TH-cam channel dedicated to simps who can't talk to chicks".
@@Murderbits Emotional intelligence is psyop speak for manipulation.
It's like the difference between being strong and swinging wildly in a fight versus being strong and well trained, striking with precision.
*Thomas Shelby joins the conversation* (not anymore)
Ok . Great post . Your statement is correct you exude feminine energy and you use it well. More woman need to find there feminine energy . It's appealing to men because we see too many masculine acting woman in business and social settings.
When I am around a girl that puts off a lot of feminine energy, she makes me feel confident and strong towards the world but at the same time I feel a little weak or intoxicated towards her charms.
Thank you Courtney!! It’s so refreshing to hear a woman who gets it! There are so many good men & women out there. Keep it up sister! 🥰
You’re so sweet! Thank you, Lynette! 💗
I had issues, in past relationships, of not being very direct, on top of being indecisive. It wasn't until conversations I had with an ex girlfriend's friend telling me why her friend was no longer interested in me that I had to change my behavior. Part of it was I lacked confidence. It wasn't until I started putting myself in leadership roles and taking the initiative in my life that things begin to change. One experience was when my Karate instructor asked me to help teach some of the classes since I was an advance student. That's when I gained my confidence in the ability to make decisions and be more direct. It took a long time but I eventually became more confident.
Courtney does such a good job of reacting and commenting on what guys say about women. She is not defensive, just a honest and helpful reaction and response to things. Courtney for President!
Love this! I’m, in some situations, in my relationship, direct. My husband has always said to me, “speak your mind. Say what you mean!”
I can understand women not wanting to sound like they’re being too this or that when they say for example, as you said “I’m cold” hinting to either get your partner’s jacket or turn the AC down. I can so understand that! So bc I’m older and I’ve been in a relationship for 17 yrs, I personally found, I can speak directly. Perhaps that came with age? 🤔
You can be very feminine and say, “I’m cold, can I pls have your jacket or turn the AC down, I’m freezing?” You’re not being pushy or too much, and I’m sure for most guys they have an instinct to help a girl out! I love how men are direct, I personally find it very sexy!!! 😁
Loved this video… and love your content, keep it up, Sistah!💗
Courtney Ryan is a protagonist and absolutely socially intelligent woman .A particular kind of matter with uniform properties. She exhibits such true moderation and yet so intricately entertaining .I have to acknowledge my respect for the way you educate the society in the MORAL SPHERE!!!!!!!
Awww thank you so much! ❤️
I’m upset u Never Mine You Over Looked Me Like 5 Times 🙄🙄🙄💔🙌
Yes! She's one of the good ones and that's why we love her.
"I love fashion! Gonna make a TH-cam channel dedicated to men's fashion with a unique woman's perspective!"
3 months later...
"Nah I actually just love money and will make a TH-cam channel dedicated to simps who can't talk to chicks".
"A good woman wants a life partner..."
Girls, most of them, anyway, are not "good".
Regarding "life partners".
It's not really profitable.
I'd buy you a drink or two of your choice. Cheers!
A good woman will make her man better and is, therefore, very profitable.
@@tomcarrow Women need a man who can provide more resources than she could alone; she can nag the man to get a better job or just mooch off his existing resources. A relationship is like wringing the water out of a sponge, except the water is a man's resources and women squeeze very hard. It's just the way things are and I don't think women are malicious, just there would be no incentive for a woman to have a relationship if she isn't getting more than she gives.
@@EhurtAfy I disagree. And I wouldn't just talk about good man or good woman alone but good, healthy couple/relationship. It's where a woman should be able to make her own independent living and so can a man. And if so what's good for both if they can totally support themselves? That's when it comes to WANTING a life partner, someone who can be there for us and support us mentally, emotionally, spiritually, you name it, and not just NEEDING a life partner. It's totally achievable and doesn't have to go the way you describe. Both can be giving and receiving exactly what one needs without resources and money always getting involved. Even though we're social animals, we should learn to live alone and support ourselves alone. When we achieve that, we can then move on and support and cherish others without being needy.
If my woman desperately depends on me as if she can't live without me then honestly, I don't want her, because she's just gonna suck the life out of me.
@@tomcarrow the greater she makes him, the greater she makes herself. I think you've got it.
You brought up a major point that many men see "Feminine Energy" as weak. If people acknowledge that there is power in both, and one is not "stronger" than the other, there will be more tolerance between the genders. There are pros and cons to everything - a common issue for "Feminine Energy" it may be decisiveness, for "Masculine Energy" it might be aggressiveness - but there are so many men who are indecisive as well. If we approach people understanding to "balance" the social dynamic (regardless of gender) and not control it, we might just become more attractive humans overall.
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So on a whim I clicked on this video. I am glad I did. I agree that women are not fish and I appreciate this perspective. I can't help but cringe when I see these arrogant alpha male wannabes be disrespectful when talking to or about women. Manners should always come first. Before confidence, before what you're gonna say or how you intend to say it. Great video
Check out Alexander grace's video "Never date a woman below this line". He provides an interesting perspective on dependence in relationships. You will definitely provide a unique feminine perspective to the topic which is much needed.
Oooh that’s interesting! I’ll check it out!
Funny you say that, because it’s right below this video lol
Yes please!
I second this
Edit- I third this
Courtney you savage 😎😎😎💪🏽 I talked to them like they my bro’s lol throws them off guard and makes them laugh 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂
Same
Girl: "I'm cold"
Me: "Sucks to be you"
Lol, great comment
Perfect. That's the response they respect
My response: Aren’t you a strong and independent woman??? Suck it up butter cup and woman up!🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣 I'm gonna try that with my girlfriend
It's a sad day to think that men actually think this is a good response, and the women who respond well to this are actually worth pursuing.
" You can be direct and dominant while being respectful and polite". Well said Courtney. I'm a strong believer in that. Very sensible :-)
I think the point of the "don't ask a fish how to fish" is that women tend to give answers that put them in a good light, not answers that are the reality of what they actually want. Women are hyper concerned with image and beauty and so on so it is expected they would not give truthful answers. Women will give SOME truthful answers but not all so why seek counsel from someone who will mix truth with lies when you can go to other sources, like this one, that give you the straight skinny?
By the way, another opinion I'd like to share is that while I find these videos to be of significant benefit, I think they are not always correct at all times. In fact Courtney might not even dispute this point. For example, there was another video she posted advising various things to put around the house like a sound system even if small or a plant and other assorted items MOST women would appreciate, but not all women are going to be impressed by these things. So it's a matter of comparing advice against context and circumstances and personalities. In my opinion though, of the videos I've seen on this channel so far, something like 9 times out of 10 you're going to strike a bullseye with her advice.
not to mention, i've met plenty of women who had no clue of why they did what they did. and in this video, the hostess mentions she never even thought about how she doesn't directly ask her own boyfriend to take care of her feeling cold. so she isn't even aware of what she's trying to accomplish when she fails to speak directly to someone she should feel comfortable speaking directly to.
and you'd expect a healthy relationship to have that direct communication.
It's still a flawed analogy.
Nah she’s right though. Plants show you care about your space and want life in it and to keep the air clean. A speaker is for sex... so you can play music when she’s comes by. Trust me, the speaker works every time, just know what music she likes first ;)
This isnt the straight skinny. If shes attracted u can say whatever u want without consequence if shes not attracted shed rather u not speak to her at all. Game is about maintaining what is already there, not making money grow on trees. Thats why the dudes most successful at "game" and "social" are physically more attractive. They can be delusional spergs but more women are attracted to them therefore they assume they have good game. Has nothing to do with who they are or their actions because the attraction has nothing to do with those things its all superficial layer. Just ask this chick to show her boyfriend off and its plain as day.
@@ethosterros9430 I think there is an element of truth to what you say. MOST people in my observation tend to hook up with others who are at their same or similar level of physical attractiveness. However I also observe that this is not universally true. There are many times I see beautiful women hooking up with very average looking guys because he offers certain things she really wants. (No I don't mean money although that kind of dysfunctional relationship obviously exists.) Also what Courtney said rings true that she has met guys who looked like greed gods but turned them down 'cause their personalities sucked. I think the male analog of that resonates true as well. Sure a bimbo airhead is fun to date and have sex with but would you want to marry that girl? Not unless you're stupid. Somewhat above average looks but with a brain is a MUCH better deal long term.
5:40 Thats Zeus nota Thor
Thank you I came here to say that 😅
That's Jupiter, not Zeus.
@@AwestrikeFearofGods How can you tell?
If I remember correctly the only difference between Jupiter and Zeus are their names.
@@TedJustTed47 Next time, I'll add a winkyface emoji.
@@AwestrikeFearofGods That's pretty funny because I should have used this emoji 😜
So because we both failed to use the proper emojis you thought, that I thought, that you were serious. 😅
Good times lol
12:15 "You wanna come in with a confidence and a belief in yourself that things are going to work out and if they don't you'll be able to figure something out to where you'll still win"
Courtney Ryan 2021
Courtney will less us fail, but not lose our girl lads.
I love how aware Courtney is.
Where can I find Courtney's twin? She's helping us bros so much. Thanks for these videos
😂😂 thank you! Happy to help!
She’s our online big sister ❣️
"I'm cold" is _extremely annoying._ It may be "cute" the first couple of times, because the guy gets to "protect" or "rescue" the girl early on, but guys don't want a helpless woman. I would get so tired of my wife telling me this, *_especially_* when she was told/reminded it was going to be cold before we left. I would tell her to take her jacket and she wouldn't, then we'd be walking and she'd tell me she was cold. I would reply with "You should have brought your jacket like I told you." I could tell the rising heat in her face kept her warm. (Ha ha! j/k - She wasn't happy with me then.) On the plus side, she'll take her jacket and I'll put my arm around her.
Thanks for the video! I agree he could have phrased _lots_ of things better, as well as pausing a bit more between thoughts. I would enjoy watching a masculine/feminine video from you when you're ready. I've been binge watching a lot of your videos since I discovered your channel about a week ago. I may have broken the *Like* button. ;)
Agreed! We shouldn't heed to each and everything that they want all the time
"I love fashion! Gonna make a TH-cam channel dedicated to men's fashion with a unique woman's perspective!"
3 months later...
"Nah I actually just love money and will make a TH-cam channel dedicated to simps who can't talk to chicks".
agreed. i stopped watching the vid after this, there could have been more examples of difference in communication. i do understand, that some folks "beat around the bush" since they can't find a pleasant way to say, "wow, do you really like it this cold?" but i have friends who do understand they can just be straightforward with me. i esp. loved your point about telling a woman before the event to bring a jacket, and then listening to her complain. i was always a "plan ahead" guy, and female friends who pull the "i can't figure out a restaurant, pick one" have learned quick--don't complain about my choice when you force me into one.
You two sound like The Bickerson's. Google it.
@@albertgaspar627 If you stopped watching the video because of that, then you're failing to understand what she realized and what she wants to improve upon. I'm _NOT_ complaining about Courtney's video, I'm pointing out that "I'm cold" is very annoying for guys.
You're coming off in your post as a "I'm a stubborn mule and selfish" type of person.
Masculine v feminine energy would be a good topic to hear about from you!
hit the nail on the head! AS ALWAYS. YOU ABSOLUTE GODDESS!
Gringa, you're fishing for compliments from Courtney as well, Jenni isn't enough? 😝
Indirect works for guys. It’s called flirting. Both parties engage in a dance around the direct subject through a playful interchange. It’s fun, and a fun conversation is a good way to talk to women
There's a time for everything, so direct and indirect have a place. A man should know when to be direct and when to be playful. Since he leads, I think women are attracted to this type of man.
The reason why men say “don’t ask a fish how to fish” in regards to getting advice from women is because women don’t know what they want. It’s been scientifically proven that what a woman says she is attracted to and what her body is attracted to are often two totally different things.
Agree, also attraction for a lot of people works at a subconscious level. Have you ever heard anyone say 'I'm attracted to people I need to rescue', yet time after time they date people that need rescuing.
Do you have a source for that science?
@@xzodiayinzero5929 come on mannn do a little research yourself it is all over the internet!
It also goes the otherbwsy around, for example if some dude tells a girl that all she has to do is idk wear short clothes and throw herself to me, i would honestlly avoid the girl because im not into that kind of stuff and i know tons of other guys that would react the same way. What it tries to say is to ask the person that has expirience doingvwhat you want to accomplish, for example i woukd ask other ude or alesbian how to flirt with girls just because they do what i want to achieve and i think is the same way the other way around. Meaning that a woman may ask another woman or a gay guy how to pick up guys
@@selomdoke5687 If it's all over the internet, it shouldn't be hard for you to find it. You're the one that made the claim so it's your responsibility to back it up.
Thank you, once again, for deciphering this from a woman's perspective and, especially, honestly sharing your own experiences. Vulnerability is so attractive and earns a TON of credibility! AWESOME job! 😊
Me being direct to ny crush: "i like you"
She: "that is great for you!"
What i don't like about being confident, is that it is often the same thing as lying to yourself. For example: in a project i try to see the pros and cons. I won't just say that it will work. I'd say it should work, chances are good.
It does notwork like that. Woman dont think like that and have no reason to listen to logic when having a emotional mind. They react different and for from average covers that in his videos
Not every woman is going to like you, and that's OK! What matters is that were honest with her. Keep being direct with people and it will become second nature.
Going by Courtney's videos she's a very good example of what a well developed modern woman can be. She uses her brain, accepts responsibility for her actions, is totally feminine and is not jealous of male "privilege". The unfortunate truth is that women like her are severely in the minority.
"A good woman always wants to find a life partner..." After she has had the popular guy for social status her friends like, then the guy who can (and is willing to) entertain her (ie fund her entertainment), then the bad boy she can't hold to find out how freaky she is, then the several "confirming the self-worth after heartbreak" guys, and THEN......the Life Partner.
This is definitely the hierarchy of the ladder to greater degrees of relationship, but like all generalities some skip a rung bounce around or go straight to the end from the beginning
I mean, guys go through that too. They go for the chick that everybody likes and will impress his friends, then after that he goes for the crazy chick that’s great in bed and then some rebounds and THEN the life partner.
Same shit, same story.
@@TheGeorgeD13 Idk about that. Woman are pickier than men. If she is cute I will take her.
@@TheGeorgeD13 girls do that cuz they have endless options. No guy with a dick ever turned down a hot girl over his friends
Notice she said, A good woman, not an insecure girl. Understand the difference
Bruce Campbell: "Gimme some sugar baby." Most direct dude ever.
Was he at the table having breakfest with said baby?
Ah .... a man of culture i see ...
@@thenextbondvillainklaussch3266 Ah. I see you are a man of culture as well. The honor is mine!
As a bartender, with more than 10 years of experience in hospitality, I can tell you one thing: if you wanna stand out and be attractive to a waitress eyes, the words you really need to use are "hi" and "bye" when walking in and out of the venue, "please" "can I have" and "thank you" when you're placing your order and receiving it, and in general be well mannered and respectful... if you're gonna act like the guy in the example, you're not gonna be considered assertive and dominant, but "unpolite, rude and disrespectful" (feel free to add your own favourite description, believe me: waiters/waitress does...) and definitely not attractive to anyone... be kind, it's always the best way...
Hearing you speak is like a breath of fresh air. I'd also add that confidence is built through competence. If you work on your fitness you'll be more confident because you know you can protect her, if you focus on your intellect and reading you'll be more confident because you know what you're talking about. Work on your growth gentlemen 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
I'll add working on your social skills into that mix. Be able to do cold approaches without feeling fear.
Excellent advice. I love that
Confident and respectful...if you are saying something that you wouldn't like, don't say it. The attitude, tone or words spoken represents you...
If you make a mistake, an apology goes a long way...the fact you realize it...just says a lot about you. Because most wont know or wont apologize..
"What would you like to order?" and up pops a cartoon version of Courtney lol 😆
Also an important point, you CAN be respectful and polite and still be direct and confident of your words/decisions, and yet the other person can still be thinking of you as an asshole, probably because they are immature and they can't handle that level of bluntness, or a "NO" for an answer.
I’m subscribed to his channel for about 5 months. He makes great videos in my opinion👍🏼
They seem great! Very different than anything I typically watch
Being direct & confident women like that but also they don’t want you coming on to strong. I admit I like to be considerable to women but completely comfortable with them too. Love looking directly into their & seeing a comfortable smile!!!
Those '1 second looks' to the camera by Courtney like wtf is happening got me everytime.
Most of what I saw here were demonstrations of why I pay no attention to animated videos narrated by AI voices. Most of them are memes, not information sources, and don't give good information. Besides that, if a guy doesn't have the courage to at least use his own voice when giving advice, much less show his face in the video, then why should I listen to him? I'd much rather hear it from you, Courtney. You're genuine, and your corrections and clarifications are informative and helpful.
Yay, reaction vids are my personal fave!! ☺️ I’ve come across a lot of videos like the one you’re reacting to and it’s really hard with dating to give general advice on some things because everyone’s looking for something different, but you do a great job
Thanks for being honest about your reactions and revealing your self-awareness rather than refuting the video or getting defensive.
There are normal women, and you talk normal to them. There are crazy women, and you don't talk to them. I don't play games like this guy does. I am just a normal honest guy. To talk to women, just talk normal and honest.
A video on masculine and feminine energy and the polarity between to the two would be great! Thanks for the vid 👌🏾
Girl: “I’m cold”
Guy: “and yet again… you didn’t bring a jacket!”
How charming
Thank you so much for your videos Courtney
You’re helping a very shy guy understanding more women’s mentality
Yes absolutely agree with you. I don't what you thought process on the ying and Yang of this mentioned. But I'm instructor of tai chi and our best is go softly. I find that most not all women show their feminine qualities in tai chi which to show the softness and when needed in constructive manner bring out the Yang. Masculine part. ☯️. We all share these qualities and it's how we use them in our daily life. I'm a strong man but aggressive it took me many years to learn this and found it so useful. Softness is the way to go 💖. Macho guys don't get for its a great process to for well being 👍🧜♀️. I've learned many styles of martial arts but tai chi..brings out the softness or feminine side of people you learn to be more in touch with your feelings and become more compassionate. It's not easy 🤔. I have studied over 30yrs and many styles, but softness or being able to change oneself can help you be s more calm person of one self. Yes absolutely it takes dedication willing to practice. But I have found that women have this innate ability to help you. Thank you sharing this vide. Sorry for the long statement but its worth a try to help become a better person of your self find a good instructor and female partner. 💖👍🧜♀️☯️🌹
Thank you Courtney for taking the time to read this I know that you are very busy with your you tube and I find it on honor for you to take the time . Love you positive out look on life. Some these comments are useful, and glad you took the time to read mine. Have a blessed day 🙏☯️🌹
I'm glad you watched this. It is good to have your input. He has much to offer in development in general but it is always good to be critiqued to learn from in general. Thanks for your take on this. Glenn
On your crush's birthday say - happy birthday, and dont come home without headache, dizzines and at least 0.3 alc in blood.... and then continue the conv. Worked every time.
Lucky you. This doesn't work for everyone
I think .3 BAC is sure death. At least total ashitfaced pukeathon blackout. Unless they are a true alcoholic
Such a good ooint that feminine is powerful. A lot of women think in order to be strong or show power, they have to be masculine. While in reality, a powerful women can or actually probably should be very feminine. Great topic and would love to see your full take on this topic!
Ah yes- I've lately drifted away from Far From Average. Despite nice pictures and a voice-over that talks as if it's expert, I find the advice very hit and miss. My own comment from a year ago on the video in question was "I'd be wary about expecting this dominance act to work on guys in the same way. I've had some try to use it on me and it pisses me off, my first thought being: 'Who the heck put you in charge?'" And its most popular comment of all rubbished it thusly:
Balys
goes up to his crush trying to act cool and all
Crush: -What's up?
Me: - YES, I'LL TAKE THE CHICKEN ALFREDO
8.2K likes
Feminine energy is amazing and powerful. It's sad when women want to stuff their feminine energy.
Loved this, only difference for me is I ALWAYS know what I want to eat when asked. LOL! I’m hungry.😤🤌
Nailed it with femininity being powerful. Bravo!
Courtney can you do a reaction on Kevin Samuels "Average at best video" lool 🤣😂
Oh yeah that would be a very interesting video, especially if she polled her friends from previous videos as well.
I think she would agree with lots of what KS says, because they have both a more.. 'classic' approach to relations. / gender roles.
Dear Courtney Ryan... Indirect Communication and Direct Communication... Here is something to think about... When I eat breakfast at my local restaurant, on the occasion, a lonely young woman wanted to sit, no more booths, and my booth had more than enough room and so I invited her to sit, not asking as a date because she had a boyfriend and so I invited them both to share the booth.... The POINT is communication can create a friendly atmosphere and for roughly -45- minutes three total strangers shared a booth and good conversation.... We separately paid for our meals, but communication does create confidence and friendship.... Always In Good Taste... CHEERS!!
Courtney makes more sense than the "Far from Average" joker. I love the way she emphasizes the importance of self-confidence with respect. If you put on some alpha act, women will see through it every time. Real men do not put on acts. And they respect women as a priority.
I agree this guy has a shitty channel with a lot of poorly made up concepts. Women don’t need to be a priority though unless you’re looking for something long term. If it’s purely sexual attraction, they won’t want a guy who over values them. That said, good luck if you’re planning on having a long lasting relationship with a woman who does not feel the most important thing in your life.
He never said to be disrespectful though. Sounds like you're making assumptions about a person that you don't know.
Don’t ever chase a woman. If she likes you, she will let you know and she will consistent. If she is in your face one minute then flaky the next, she has a motive. Trust me on this I work with a large amount of single women at an elementary school. Whenever there’s a holiday coming up they are chatty but after the holiday they are stand offish. It’s hilarious.
So how would you ask someone out to coffee in a masculine way?
Thanks for your well considered responses Courtney, you added something there once again. I wanted to disagree with one point however : you seemed to be saying at one point that you are trying to be less indirect with your boyfriend ( eg “it’s cold in here”). This is the exact example I saw a relationship coach give at one stage of something modern women should do more of - actually by being indirect, a woman actually gives a man a chance to offer care, leading - like in a dance, it’s part of a game you are playing together. I’m totally fine with a woman being direct, and if we are not romantic/ flirting this is better eg in the workplace. But, just as direct communication could be brash or arrogant if done without awareness (ie an insecure front) indirect communication could be malicious or annoying, if it is not done in the right spirit. If indirect communication is done in the right spirit by a woman it can be utterly charming for a man, part of a delightful dance where you’re offering different energies to the interaction. By contrast a woman being really direct and trying to lead me is kind of boring and annoying. Not because women can’t or shouldn’t lead in many contexts but because being too direct denies me my part in the dance where both people are very aware of the signals coming from each other.
Courtney, I really enjoy watching your reaction videos. Instead of focusing on men, I think it would be really interesting if you do one from Marni Kinrys. She typically gives men relationship advice from a woman's perspective. Please do a reaction video on her video "9 Mind tricks Used by Players and Bad Boys (Women Secretly Love These)"
Yes, that would be interesting. Marni's "These Five Tips Drive All Women Crazy!" schtick always seems a bit snake oil to me.
@@simontmn Couldn't agree more - All women? Better not try these on Grandma!
Yes, definitely! Seeing and hearing about YOUR personal interpretation and understanding of "masculine" and "feminine" energies, and the differences (and even any similarities) that you believe they have between them, would definitely be a VERY interesting video, IMHO!...
And I wouldn't ask that opinion or interpretation from every or just any "average" or "typical" woman, (if there even is such a thing as that), because most women do not really seem to know or understand those differences, but YOU Courtney, seem to be one of a relatively small percentage of women who actually DO have a decent grasp of the male/female dynamic, kind of like Alexander Grace does as a guy; very balanced, multilevel, and multidimensional overall, like you can see it from all different angles, and not be too biased in one way or another...
So since YOU have such a good head on your shoulders, with a very good, comprehensively understanding, and truly knowledgeable mind, then I think YOUR personal take on those differences would be a quite beneficial thing for us all to see!...
I look forward to watching and listening to you in that video if you ever DO decide to do it!... Keep up your great work, it's always very informative and even inspiring! :)
I would love to see Courtney react to Entrepreneurs In Cars!
I have recently seen your channel and a few of your videos yet I can easily say that you are good at what you are doing, you don't need any other things to catch attention. We need youtubers like you that cares about their content and preserves their quality standarts. I hope for you and your channel all the best.
That's funny, if my lady tells me "she's cold" I act jokingly dismissive. "Oh that sucks, I'm pretty good in my jacket.". Make her ask for what she wants. But this isn't advice, I am probably an a$$hole more than not.
Lol, yea, that’s kind of asshole, not the part about not giving her your jacket but your comment. If I’m cold myself and I’m not even feeling her l’ll be like, “I am too”, or “I have this jacket and I’m still cold, let’s go someplace warmer.”
That's childish😂😂😂😂
@@sucram1015 yep, I'm a giant child. Lol
Nothing wrong with that. You're just playfully teasing her and will likely give her the jacket.
I appreciate the subtle but direct manner you use to convey any message you deliver. Were there more classy people,men and women alike with your open even handed way of approaching subject matter and/or show of respect to one another this would be a better world for all. Blessings Follow Clarity. Thank You, a fan and subscriber.
"Women aren't fish."
This is exactly the kind of honest, unvarnished truth that a lot of people need to hear. :)
Yes, they are more like pigeons… they see you eating so they are sneaking around trying to get biggest crumbles from what you got…$h!ting on everything around in meantime..
@@WhiteMouse77 Keep watching the videos, friend.
No thanks...they already made me sick enough...
The comparison comes from the smell sometimes
Fish don't need bicycles. Fact.
The part about how your server isn't flirting with you, "she's just doing her job", I feel like majority of the time that's not true, they are flirting, but not because they are interested in you, but they are interested in making money and that's the way it has been for a while, I've even seen some employers telling them to be more interactive with the clients to try to obtain better tips
Remember guys if she says she's cold, say "well damn Jackie I can't control the weather "
lol!
Interesting videos!! Seems to be that your covering all the subject matters that viewers are most interested in seeing. Since there are ALWAYS multiple videos of yours that are on my recommended viewing list. I’m sure your channel will grow very quickly
Courtney, you hit the nail on the head and kudos to you for recognizing it. You never ask to turn the A/C down you just state it's cold in here. This is the language men need to understand. Women's indirect communication. Like learning a foreign language called "Womanese"
I remember watching that channel's videos. That channel grew so fast. I can tell the author of those videos know what they are talking about. Good video share! 👍
Thank you for pointing it out at the beginning, every time I hear the phrase "A fish can never teach you how to fish, you have to be taught by a fisherman" I get sick. Fish don't want to be caught, however, women do want to be attracted to a man.
Yes, never listen to dating advice from women.
A woman wants to be attractive to an attractive man. That is not the same as a woman wanting to be attracted to any specific man, nor all men generally.
The reason people say that you can't listen to a fish to learn how to catch fish, is because the fish doesn't want to be caught by the fisherman. So also, do women not want to be caught by most men, just the best men. The restaurant example here is a perfect reflection of that. 'If the waitress is attracted you, it doesn't matter how you said the order'. If that man did ask the woman why she was not attracted to him, she would not say 'Because I think you are ugly'. It would be 'I don't date customers', even if she 100% would date an attractive customer.
I don't personally think that women give very good dating advice because, as Courtney said here, 'She is being nice because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings'. Hence she cannot say that being tall, being successful, being highly educated, being highly respected among your peers, being physically attractive' since these things are either completely outside of a man's control, or in a competitive market, guaranteed to exclude some portion of men. (i.e. you could work out and be more attractive, but someone else with better genes will always be more attractive given the same level of effort and you can't work out your face muscles to start looking like Chris Hemsworth).
So instead, they will focus on personality traits that are largely within your control or the small parts that are in your control (working out is better than not working out; even though you might just end up looking like jacked carrot top; still ugly, but not fat. Which is "better" than ugly and fat). The real answer for women is the combination of the above traits, plus, the personality traits like being caring, being driven, having goals, etc.
If you imagine that the dating advice women give to men is directed at attractive men, it's great advice. If you want advice on how to be attractive in the first place, you will instead get advice that leaves out anything that will hurt your feelings 9/10 times. That's not 'bad advice', it's inferior advice compared to direct and honest advice.
Yeah, women don't want to appear shallow or greedy. They're not likely to tell you they want hot, successful men.
Women don't want to appear cruel either. So they dance around their rejections.
Truth is that listening to women say what they want will leave you in the dark.
A lot women want to lead men on. And just like this video states they don’t tell you directly what they want it’s like a game you got to figure it out or should I say like “fishing”. She even admitted she does this.
@@shawn4110 Wow! Great comment. Lots of good, valuable truths there. I could not have said it any better myself.
I agree, Courtney’s advice is baloney at best, most of the time. The best use for her channel for guys, is to pay attention to womanese on full display. Learn how they speak, and discern the truth and how it’s buried within their speech. Or decide it’s all bullsh*t and stay single.
Finally new video! Just to note... We need to care about ourself inway that benefit society! That is what are you doing. Thank you @Courtney Rayn!
Enjoy! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan about knowing your value in a business type sense but it applies to everything you gotta know who you are and what you bring to the table and what you stand for and example would be I've dealt with a lot sponsors over the years and they'll come to me and say X-youtuber and doing for this much and it half of what I'm saying well cool I'm doing it for this much and it might be like well your greedy and here's the thing even if it lot of money for not a lot of work that's awesome I'm grateful for it and it not like nah I want every penny it like no you not gonna play me like don't it aint a greed thing just because ither do it for less no those people don't understand their value
Never Takes Dating Advice From A Women ✌🏻
When I started learning about seduction, I kinda picked up the idea that women like what I can only describe as “aggression”. Assertiveness, ability to take control, being persuasive, straightforward communication, taking initiative, and so on. These are all basically aggressive things. I think the key is knowing that women develop a taste for aggression, not to mention that going overboard will indeed land you in some bad situations. I wish I had a better word than “aggression” to describe these qualities, but I don’t.
As for me, I’m pretty straightforward, but I don’t trust people who always seem so sure of themselves. That kind of “confidence” is merely a façade. So I prefer not to speak in many certainties. I’d much rather be accurate than attractive.
PLEASE PLEASE react to a “Marni your personal wing girl video.” Any of them. Thanks!
that would be funny as hell.
haha yes
nooo dont.
There’s no direct communication there’s no anything if she views you attractive she will be with you.
I feel like I am that kid with special need in the class and Courtney is the Special Ed teacher bridging me with the rest of the class.
Wish Morty was more direct with Jessica! Right, Noob Noob?
With nearly 20 years in the military I’ve had to be really direct a lot because it’s my job. But I think where my ex-wife and ex-girlfriends got confused was: when I get home I don’t wanna have to be so direct, in the same way that I don’t wanna have to keep wearing the uniform and doing work stuff. Because I’m at home. I’m not saying when I get home I turn into a total wimp and go to the opposite extreme but hopefully there’s a girl out there somewhere who can understand that it can be a task/chore to always be really direct, especially if she almost never is and usually makes you bear the burden of things. Sometimes ya just want to chill and not end up doing every little thing that she passively, indirectly insinuates she wants you to do.
That makes a lot of sense. I think it’s really about finding a balance that works for you!
@@CourtneyRyan Yes!! Exactly... I wish we could somehow tell everyone in the world that there needs to be a balance. That partners need to understand that about each other and help each other sometimes. Even the strongest person in the world needs somebody to do small things for them every once in a while.
In my estimation “girls” aren’t monolithic creatures, unless you’re a psychopath. That being said, communicating with women comes from a variety of different motives. If somebody’s motive is shallow, they’ll get shallow results. If it’s more meaningful, they’ll get more meaningful results.
Motive for what (for example)?
@@Incognit0777 for talking to women. If I’m attracted to somebody, physically, that’s a limited value. If I’m attracted to somebody, both physically and intellectually, that’s a much higher value. Females are designed to tell the difference, so you just better be prepared.
her voice is heavenly
Interesting observation: Courtney frequently refers to herself as a “girl” despite the fact that she is an intelligent, articulate, successful young woman. Females who appear in forums such as Fresh and Fit and Kevin Samuels frequently get offended by being called a girl, and demand that you call them a woman.
Courtney is truly the real woman in these examples because she still values being a girl as well. Courtney’s power comes from her femininity where as those other girls try to pretend power through their feminism.
I love your comment that being feminine is powerful. Hoping that inspires other women. The most powerful force in the world is beauty and a woman epitomizes that. Great video!
Yes and beauty is not only in the outside
I’m just like “hey cup cake, you look sweet” and they are like “go away”
thats cheesy and objectifying her. It depends on what you say and at the way you say it. The smoothest line will be worth nothing coming from empty words and scared voice
@@lolly4961 thanks, cupcake! 👍🏻
yep same
and you will get meetooed
@@SuperDVDguy1 fine by me. Most women aren’t with the time.
I agree 100% about masculine & femanine energy. a lot of modern people have the opinion that feminine = weak & masculine = toxic. Which is ridiculous, there's a lot of strength in femaninity, in a group of people, a very femanine women can often be the MOST powerfull & influential person in the room. And of course there's nothing toxic about masculinity. I think society needs both the masculine & femanine and a lack of either will lead to issues.
Yeah, do a video about that fish saying please as it doesn't apply to most girls.
Yes please do! It’s such a stupid saying!
Also talk about a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.
Guys have u ppl ever seen any youtuber so consistent,valuble points,n so self less,having no ads???
Hell no!!!!, just look at other youtubers having been a sales person 3/4th part of the video n here is coutney !!!!
I respect n experss gratidue from depth of my heart.
n guys n notice that she reads all ur comments too, unlike other youtubers!!!!
Fun fact: you can be confident, and direct and still ask questions. If you always say “I want” that isn’t presenting the option of no because you never asked. As someone who came from a relationship where the person always said “they wanted” something and that “I needed” to do something. It made me feel like I had to do it even though I shouldn’t have. The best thing to do for me is to ask but be direct while asking. Not saying that you are cold, but asking “May I please have a Jacket?” It makes me understand what they want while still having that option of saying “ I am really cold myself”
For me, it's an introverted, or more intellectual perspective, where you speak to me better than most who give men advice; I don't usually ask men... either bad or too "harsh" advice that does not suit me. Not one to do things just because one said so, it has to make sense to me and as the bible has it... deep goes to deep. I think the right word, for me, is not confidence but assertiveness and starting conversations, is what I have to work on. Sometimes, all I require is the one word, to change everything.
Now, if I can find "decent" and true God Fearing women, I'd be happy. Thanks for the video, loved it... 💋...
... and thanks for the grain sacks to look at. 👀
I prefer for people to be straight up with me. I'm not gonna die if they think they are gonna hurt my feelings. Just be honest and straight up. I'm not gonna stress it.
I think you’re right, this communication style and demeanour is just a byproduct of confidence
COURTNEY AT 4:26 WAS LITERALLY MEEE.
I know a guy who dumped a chick because she used to be fat. He thought:
1. She'd regain weight at some point
2. It was likely that their kids would be fat also.
So, it kinda matters. I'm into fatties and I really dig the chicks who used to be thin. It doesn't turn me off. I guess I'm his total opposite, but I do dig the chicks who always were fat too. I think the style and ego that some chicks can have while thin can carry over post-weight gain, and that's the type of mindset that gels well with a ton of curves.. to me, that is.
I have seen a few of his videos, quite educational. Like how you present your own experience with what he said about indirect communication. 👍🏻
As for energy in new video, I don’t know if it’s relatable but, you could take up the question of “energy” being sensing suppressed emotions/unprocessed emotions? Through how people speak, behave etc.
Keep up the good work!
So true. One has to be more positive.
Believing in yourself and what you believe in and do and who you are makes you more confident. Then you can be more direct in talking to people and doing things, without being over overconfident.