The 1st story, her laughter is a coping mechanism for her childhood trauma. That definitely was neglect. When I was a kid, I slept on bar stools or under the pool table.
When my dad was young, he enjoyed playing the slot machines. He realised that it could easily become a problem, so he saved up and bought himself a tabletop machine which he set up in his room and gambled away his spare change... only he could then take it out of the machine and spend it. One gambling addiction avoided and he still has the machine and a tray full of old sixpences to play with nearly fifty years later.
Laws changed in my state about 10 years ago to allow more casinos to be built. One was built not too far from my neighborhood basically next to the corporate park. The number of children and babies that have been left in the parking lot for hours is appalling. A few babies have died in the heat. There are now more cameras and police presence in the parking lot SPECIFICALLY to keep an eye out for neglected children. It’s such a deep, heartbreaking problem.
yeah that was just beyond the pale. I feel so bad for her. I'm wanting to srart a residential program for teens whose parents are fundamentalist, or in high control groups, cults. I want them to have a safe place to be, to start living in a more balanced place that supports them. But I hear stories like that and I want to open it up to kids like her too. She's got deep trauma. 😢
@@liz090833 Honestly, I love this idea! It can be very difficult to save teens from cults etc if they are born into them and indoctrinated from an early age, but it's definitely worthwhile. Getting older kids and teens out of these places, or out of neglect and abuse situations, given counseling, education, and training for a future is a wonderful thing. I hope that you are able to make it happen! If monetary support is needed I'd definitely recommend reaching out to a service organization in your area.
It's so sad that addiction can be so strong that people neglect their kids and even put their lives, health, and well-being in jeopardy. I wish that there were laws in place that where casinos are built that addiction counseling services are advertised at the casinos and available next door, free of charge. I know it would be very difficult to get approved because of how much money those casinos bring to the state, but it shouldn't be a tradeoff for the lives of young people. That's disgusting law making.
I went to Caesar's Palace in Vegas once, just for the experience, literally the only thing we did was go on a slot machine, put in $5, a minute later won $75 and _immediately_ took the money and left. We were like, get out, GET OUT 😂 it paid for a nice dinner, was a great night.
That’s how it starts for some people. My uncle and aunt (who never gambled before) used to go to the casino through a free shuttle and $20 free casino chips. Fast forward 5 years later (my uncle died) but my aunt got addicted to slots and lost both houses & all my uncle’s assets & savings and my cousin’s (their daughter) future inheritance as well. My uncle was super thrifty and cheap when he was alive (but he had saved a decent fortune through real estate ventures) so he’d be turning in his grave if he knew how innocently introducing his wife to ‘free’ gambling as entertainment would cost his family to lose all his lifetime of hard earned money. I’m sure she has actually lost over $5M since if my uncle was alive, he would have kept both houses. My aunt now lives in social security cheques and my cousin can’t give her any money, or else she’ll just gamble it away.
Yeah, the slots at the front door have higher payout rates to entice people to come inside and keep gambling. Plus, you usually have to go inside to the cash out desk to get your winnings, and people get smooth talked into staying to play, just a bit more, just a bit more...Playing once (or only using free chips you're given), winning, and immediately leaving is the only guaranteed return on your money. Glad y'all had the sense to take your winnings, book it, and get a nice meal instead of gambling more. I've heard that burgers and fries for two people can cost $50-$75 now, so y'all did good!
@@Angetbaby that's awful, I'm so sorry. Luckily I don't have a proclivity to addiction, and my ADHD makes sure I get bored of everything eventually 😂 so I don't worry I'll ever have a gambling problem, generally I think gambling is a bit silly, that's why we only went in for the 'Vegas experience'. But vigilance is always good!
Yeup . I won $200 the first time I ever gambled on the little slot machines . Went back and lost $20 . Went back a third time just this year (that first time was in 2021 I believe) (also this is all the same casino) and I lost $100 . That’s why I limit myself to $100 or less . I won’t keep going $5 more $5 more $5 more etc . That’s how it adds up !
My dad sat me down before i was ten and showed me how to balance a checkbook (pre online banking days) and told me to make 10% of my money work for me. Huge fan of "rich dad poor dad" though idk if it works in this economy. He also would point out the difference in price per ounce at the grocery store when we were out shopping and I think he was the one who told me to have a seperate account for bills vs fun. I am grateful for him because he taught me how to live within my means
When I was like 10 my mom worked as a home health nurse for this very nice elderly couple. Mom's shift was from 8am to 6pm, and they were totally fine with me coming over after school so mom didn't have to get a babysitter or leave me home alone. One of the coolest things this couple had in their house was an old slot machine bought from a casino that closed. It took nickles and they had a bucket of nickles next to it for people who wanted to play. I would feed nickles into that thing for hours and I never won anything more than like 10 cents. One day I played so long I literally used all the nickles in the bucket and they had to open the machine to get out more nickles. After spending like 2 years playing nonstop slots and basically never winning it was branded onto my brain that it's a huge scam. I've only ever played "real" slots once, I spent $5 and was totally over it. It felt just like giving money away to that old slot machine only this time it was my money and no one would open the machine to give it back.
I've been to the casino one time 'cause my grandma wanted to visit. She gave my sister and I each $10. My sister proceeded to lose it all on a slot machine. I said "Ooh I won $10!" when grandma gave me the money and put it in my pocket.
@@ZeniaRose I used to take my grandma to the casino a few times after my grandfather passed away. They had done it together once or twice a year as a date night--go and eat steak in the restaurant, get about $50 in chips, sit at side-by-side slot machines, and then walk away either when they lost it all or after 2 hours, whichever came first. Sometimes they won enough to pay for dinner, sometimes enough to pay for the next trip, but most often they lost it all and just shrugged it off. It was never an issue for them, and it was just a nice way for my grandmother to remember him and tell me stories while we played the slots. So the one time my husband and I went to Vegas with some friends, he and his guy friend played some blackjack and roulette, and then afterwards we hung out by the slots. He gave me his card and told me to play for a bit while they talked because our friend Rose was already playing. I was chatting with her and just randomly hitting the button every time the music stopped without paying attention to it. I hit the button and nothing happened, and I figured the card was out...turned out my husband HAD been watching, and when I hit a mini-jackpot of like $200 he reached over and ejected the card *lol* Between his blackjack and that slot machine, we got our money back and paid for about half our vacation. But I have zero desire to do it again.
I'm glad you were able to see the scam at work at a young age! That's really a great thing, especially if you can do it without spending a cent of your own money. @ZeniaRose I like the way you think! That's honestly the only true way to win at a casino, not play. I can understand your grandma just wanted you two to have a little fun, but there's plenty of ways to have fun without risking money.
That might be considered child abuse/neglect. Giving children medicine to get them to sleep could land you in jail. This happened to a grandchild of a friend of mine when he was at the babysitter's. The sitter shook the baby to wake him...she sedated him with some medicine and wanted him to wake up when mom went to pick him up. The woman caused him to become blind and unable to walk. He's disabled to this day.
Oh thats deeefinetly child abuse. You dont leave a child that young alone and then drug them up when their antsy 😅 Thats not funny but I'm laughing because she is.
@theadra23 No, Charlotte is not laughing at this???? This is not the story Charlotte reacted to. No one was shaken to disability in the video she reacted to. Charlotte is laughing at the RIDICULOUSNESS of the parents in the story and the way the girl told it. Humor about dark things is very common, and you should KNOW this by now, but you're looking to be mad at her for...laughing at a story being told in a clearly humorous way? Joking about trauma is a coping mechanism for many. Peoplr also laugh at horrible things when they come out of left field because the joke is that the thing is HORRIBLE. People don't laugh because they agree with the thing, or think it's no big deal. People laugh because in their minds, no sane person would ever do the thing they are laughing at. Chill.
I agree. I think if you are to leave your child in the car while you are gambling these days, you will be found and arrested on site. I think they have patrols that go around in the parking lot just for this reason. I don't think her mom gave her Tylenol I think it was NyQuil or something.
The number of times I would sit alone in the car because I didn't want to be in the bank/hardware store/office or whatever.. my parents would be in jail for that now. They would even give me the keys so I could listen to the radio!
I feel so bad for the little girl in a "fort" in a car in a parking lot, alone, in the middle of the night. Hearing her story as a mom was like listening to a horror story...
That was us too, 5 kids in a suburban while both parents were inside the casino. Blankets covering the windows. The casino staff does go out there to check if anybody leaves their kids in the car because I guess it happens a lot. after they were kicked out of the casino, they would take us to the hotel by ourselves and go back to the casino but at least we had tv. I don’t remember how old we were. We lived in Kansas and drive 4 hours to Oklahoma. For reference, I am Hispanic and I feel like it common to be left alone in a car or at home. I don’t do that with my kids but I don’t remember it be scary but I was the second oldest. We wouldn’t have gas in the winter and sometimes electricity. I don’t ever want my children to go though that.
@terimiddleton736 nobody is laughing about what happened.. sometimes, when it's your own story, you have to find a way to laugh about it, to emotionally disassociate from the trauma and make it feel less real.. because the reality is accepting it for what it truly was? Is too much for our minds to handle.. We are literally laughing to keep ourselves from crying. Or because we relate to her story, and we are laughing cuz it weirdly kinda makes us feel better, knowing we at least weren't alone in going through those experiences
Sad to say that back in my day it was not rare to see kids in a cars or left home alone with parents in bars or casinos. Parents having unwanted children in their lives is not new. It's horrible and sad. Tell me again why we are forcing women to have unwanted pregnancies and are banning birth control?
The fact that the first lady in the video was laughing doesn't mean that what she went through as a child wasn't serious enough. Abuse is abuse no matter how you sugar coat it. When I talk about my childhood trauma I laugh about it which is my coping mechanism. I hope she's doing okay
It wasn't just Tylenol that put her to sleep. It might have been Benadryl or another medicine with sleep aid in it. And, that's awful to do that to a child just so the mom can gamble 24/7.
Yeah. You learn to laugh so you don't cry. You use humor to downplay the severity and impact that it has had on you as a person. There are t-shirts and buttons that say, "You're hilarious!' 'Thanks it's the trauma." I'm going to buy one because it's pretty funny if you've lived it, but it's also really not funny if you think about it too hard. Often trauma and abuse survivors will look like the happiest adults, but it's often because it's a coping or defense mechanism or because they had to be the adult growing up, so what they're going through now feels like a walk in the park in comparison. I absolutely recommend therapy or counseling to any abuse survivors. You're not crazy, and therapy isn't for crazy people but everyone, but you do need to address all of those repressed feelings or they will eat through you like termites. The shell looks fine but the inside is destroyed, so one solid blow at a soft spot and you crumble away. My counselor has been seeing me since I was ten (my parents weaponized me against each other before the divorce on top of years of emotional neglect and I broke down) my psychiatrist has seen me since age 13 as well and I'm now in my mid 30s. Both get as frustrated as me that I'm the family scapegoat, the token "crazy one", while I'm actually the most well adjusted because no one else has been to counseling or therapy at all. "It's me, hi, I'm the problem." But seriously...they all just blame it on me instead of facing their own problems. 😒 Victims are not the problem. Their abusers are the problem. Fight the good fight y'all and I'm sending you all of the support, love, and genuine happiness that you need. ❤
@@anakelly76512It could've been Tylenol PM. It's still the same diphenhydramine which can cause problems if taken regularly, and if Tylenol isn't dosed properly it can damage the kidneys. There's a joke about the "Nyquil nap", but jokes are often rooted in reality and some parents and babysitters are guilty of drugging infants and children to get them to sleep.
I had a childhood exactly like hers minus the salon! I was dying over here listening to her..I used to call sunset station (casino) at 8 years old to page her, at like 4 in the morning crying with my sister begging her to come home please bc we hadn’t seen her in like 2 days.
yes I laugh too, my therapist says its nervousness tellin the story, cuz we know its not the normal so we giggle out of nervous and hopes of people accepting. Strange but true HOpe everyone gets healed by their child hood traumas.
The girl whose Mum put her in the car whilst she gambled all night... I live in Melbourne , Australia 🇦🇺 and when our first massive casino first opened quite a few parents were arrested for child neglect for leaving their kids in their cars for hours whilst they gambled. It was shocking and truly sad.
@@cowboylikeHana I recommend learning a bit of accounting! It’s a bit tedious at times but it can interesting to see everything add up and just how much your account actually knows about you. I mean ANYTHING that is not paid for in cash is right there for them to see. Makes ya think twice bout buying shit with a card 😂😂
The thing is I really didn't understand a thing of what happened to the girl that filed for bankruptcy, can U please explain to me thank you, I'm 19 yo and I've never heard of such a thing, thank you.
Wasn't expecting to find an MLM horror story in the middle of a Charlotte Dobre video, but I am here for it! Kudos to the person at 4:55 who was brave enough to share her story to help people avoid falling into a money trap!!!
When I was a kid, my sisters and I would be left alone in cheap hotels and cars while our grandparents (we were being raised by them because both parents had died) were at the tracks or casino, and yes we can laugh about it now because it’s healing to laugh about trauma. Yeah some of us were neglected and abused but when it was common we can can relate to other people because during those times we felt very alone and knowing that others went through similar experiences is actually healthy for the survivors. It feels good to know it wasn’t just you who went through it
It was common in Australia too. No kids allowed in hotels or places where alcohol was sold. My brother and I spent many a day sitting outside in the car, all day. Occasionally they thought to give us food and something to drink. Outside, in the sun, in a car, in Australia, means Death Valley temperatures in the car after 20 minutes. Fun times. Upside was there were always other kids to play with. No adult supervision btw. Or none I ever recall. We just ran wild. I became a very good reader. And basically, from the age of 7, raised my own younger brother. Not one of the pub goers ever thought to themselves, "I'm neglecting and abusing my children" because that's just how it all was then. The real fun for us was afterwards, watching the drunken fights.
As a single mom of 2 (with ADHD… all 3 of us 😅) AND full time small business owner of 12 years, hiring a tax guy was literally THE best thing I’ve ever done for myself… anything you can afford to take off your plate, especially if it’s something you really struggle with, is 100% worth it! ❤ this guy tracks me down when it’s time to do quarterly taxes 😂😬 I don’t know how I survived without him!
Business taxes are a beast and a tax person is a great investment. And anything tedious or timely you can afford to outsource as an ADHDer is worth it!!
OMG girl thank you for this. I'm totally ADHD + I have a slightly pricey consultation with a highly recommended tax guy literally tomorrow!! Thankfully the fee goes toward future work, but it was hard for me to finally admit I needed to hand off my small business finances to someone else after doing them myself (poorly lmao) for over 7 years. I have dyscalculia (dyslexia but with numbers) so this is something I should have done years ago but I think my pride/ ego prevented me from ever considering outsourcing the crappy work.
@@gr33ngirlsea yes indeed! Especially once online platforms started collecting sales tax for other states… what a nightmare. So thankful there are people who do taxes for a living!
@@hesherette I’m not sure exactly how your business is set up or what you might need from a tax service, but if your budget is tight, I suggest looking for smaller family run tax services (that still specialize in small business) vs. the larger or fancier corporations… I found Craig (my lovely tax fellow) about 6 years ago, and it’s great to be on a 1st name basis, plus the rates tend to be lower or at least on a sliding scale! I totally get wanting to do everything yourself, we ADHDers actually make amazing entrepreneurs! But I think there’s a lot of outside pressure/guilt/shame for women to be on top of everything & juggle a million responsibilities (and don’t forget to smile while you’re doing it! 😑) so it’s tempting to take it all on & “prove” that we can handle it, when really in the long run, we all going to burn out if we can’t reach out for help… so thankful for the number gurus out there who actually like math & have a talent for it! I struggled a lot with the paper-worky stuff (I design/make artisan gemstone jewelry for a living) I can only imagine how difficult it would be to have the added problem of dyscalculia on top of it! Glad you are getting some assistance 🤗❤️✨
As a table games dealer myself, I see a lot of people come in expecting to win big and get SO MAD when they lose. I always tell people never to come to the casino with more money than you can afford to lose. It's meant for entertainment, not to make money.
Unless you are a pro Card Counter . Which isn't illegal but can get you black listed and/or kicked out. Personally, tried to learn to count cards and that shit is hard. I plan to pick it back up when I have time because it sounds like a cool trick to use in a casual game like at a casual party gathering.
I feel so much for the casino daughter... I had a very similar situation with my mother growing up, but her addiction was drugs and men. I'd be left at the bar in the bowling alley and drugged with benadryl or something at bedtime so she could go out and party. It was extremely messed up and left me with insane trauma my entire life, that finally at 40 I am able to heal. My inner child was screaming to be there for yours! I'm so sorry anyone has to grow up this way. I hope that she has support and people who care about her now, and a mother like that should be kept at arms length, if anywhere in the picture at all. I don't speak to mine really either, and I've forgiven her for myself so that I could move on from everything. My life wasn't sunshine and rainbows, but at least the people who were there for me cared so very much, I hope you also had some people in your life to make the scary moments less so. Sending hugs!
Girl! I said in another comment.. same. Her story was like mine in the casino case. My sister and I used to call the casino and page my mom crying begged her to come home bc we hadn’t seen her in 2 days. She would ration food for us so she could gamble w the money. She changes the story now a days but my sis and I still talk about it.
@@TheChastity1986 I feel for you guys, I know how painful the whole thing is. As much as I'd like to be completely ok as an adult, it still messes with me to this day and makes it hard to trust. I'm just grateful to my few family who were there and tried so hard to make sure we were ok. If it weren't for them, we wouldn't have made it. Its so unfortunate that there are so many who relate to this story, at least we can take some comfort knowing that others understand and we are not alone. Big hugs to you and everyone else who needs one reading/watching this!
I feel so sorry for any child who isn't treated as a loved part of the family. As the saying goes " not all parents deserve children, but all children deserve parents". My heart goes out to any of you who didn't have present parents. I don't understand why gambling is legal and glamorised. It destroys the lives of so many innocent people. Thankfully gambling has never affected my family. But my daughter was an alcoholic for about 20 years. Unfortunately her children witnessed too many incidents that they never should have seen or heard. She was raped 4 years ago by my younger daughters partner who knew that she was too drunk to have any say. This is the bottom that she needed to fall to. She has not drank another drink since then. Thank God. The bastard who raped her broke her sense of security with a person who had been part of the family for 9 years. My youngest daughter stopped speaking to her after this because scumbag told her that the sex was consensual. Unfortunately she doesn't want to believe that he was capable of doing such a horrendous act. They broke up straight away. Then my daughter found out the next week that she was pregnant with her fourth child. She went through the whole pregnancy with just my husband and my help. She was due the baby Christmas week, 2019. On December 13th she found out that the baby was not alive. She gave birth to her on 16th December. She was perfectly formed. She was born silent. So through the choices that two people made broke the hearts of three little children who were excitedly awaiting the birth of their sister. The heart of a Mother who is a tower of strength for her children, trying to navigate them through the nightmare of 2019. The hearts of my husband and myself. Addiction is horrific for the family of the addict. The addict is often not aware of the tornado their actions, unlike the family. This is probably too much for some people to read or figure out why I went off on this long story. But sometimes it feels good to know that other people have some experience with the topic. Thanks for reading this.
@@sandracrosbie8468 thank you for sharing your story. Sounds like you've all been through so much. Addiction in any form is hard on the family left caring and trying to pick up pieces. Thanks for speaking out for the children. So often parents push their kids to grow up too fast, but without guidance, healing and someone to talk to, its just more trauma. Love to you and your family, you all deserve some love and kindness given everything you've experienced.
I'm 56 now & can totally relate to the first young lady, although I wasn't forced to stay in a car. My mom would leave me alone starting when I was in the 2nd grade (about 7 yrs old). At first she would get a babysitter, usually another Asian lady she knew who had kids my age. I'd go spend the night & sleep over while she went out. Eventually she started leaving me home alone. It never occurred to me why I stopped going to their houses. Years later into my adulthood, I finally guessed that either #1 they got tired of having to watch me all the time and/or #2 my mom wouldn't pay them the money that they were owed, probably because she lost all her money to gambling. It got to the point that she couldn't afford a babysitter any longer. So my career as the world's youngest night security guard began. She would make my dinner & then take off for the local card room/bar to play poker, black jack, etc. She would usually stay home until about two hours before what was supposed to be my bedtime. She would always say "be good & watch the house." Yeah, as if a little 2nd grader could protect anything! Since I didn't have any adult supervision, I stayed up late all the time. Mom would usually be gone until the bar closed at 2 am. Sometimes she'd stay out later if she & her poker buddies decided to grab something to eat at Denny's. She'd come home & sleep until at least noon or 1 pm. I would get myself up every morning, eat cereal or pop tarts, make my sack lunch, & get ready for school. By the time I got home, she'd be awake cleaning & cooking, then the daily routine would start again... I can only recall once when she came to my school - my class was putting on a Xmas concert, I was in the 4th grade. That was the one & only time she ever attended any sort of school event besides my high school graduation in 1985. That was my life from 2nd grade all through high school. When I was older, she'd head up to Reno, NV & would be gone for a week or more. Once she was gone for over 2 weeks. I had no idea where she was or how to contact her in case of emergency - we didn't have mobile phones back then. She'd leave some money for me to get food or gas for my car so I could get to school & back. Of course by then, I was a teenager & loved having the house to myself & my friends. If she pulled that crap nowadays, she'd be in prison for neglect & child endangerment. Growing up in the 70's & 80's was a whole different vibe. My mom didn't own a business like the first lady but she also ran a side hustle. She would go buy all sorts of 'American products" usually from the nearby military base (no sales tax) & ship it off to her relatives overseas. They would sell it on the Asian black market & then she would get a big cut from the money they made by marking up the prices. So a $5 jar of Folger's instant coffee would earn her about $30. She also bought high end clothes & jewelry from places like Macy's & made BANK on her return from the black market proceeds. Crazy times!
The lady who’s boyfriend got her to go to the “seminars” and they pressured them to get credit they couldn’t afford sounds so much like what Scientology does to their members. My husband and I became friends with a couple who had retired/cashed out his retirement for around $1 million. They bought a house (this was back when you could get a nice house for $120,000). Anyway, we met them in the local tavern and she was always playing the machines. She would always tell us “I won $400, or $600.” Of course she never told us how much she put in to win that. Anyway, long story short, within 6 months they had run through their retirement, he had to go back to work and start over in his mid-sixties. So it all doesn’t happen in Vegas. Gambling is everywhere.
The first story made me remember how my mom treated me. My mom wouldn't talk to me, forgot to feed me multiple times, when she did talk to me it was abusive, and tried to kill me. But when I told teachers they wouldn't believe me because she was a special ed teacher at the school. Only two teachers and my doctor reported my mother. Eventually my parents got a divorce and I lived with my dad since mom was deemed unfit to have me. Also, the doctor had proof that mom would neglect my injuries because an injury I had under my mom's care didn't heal properly and then got hurt again but worse.
As someone who used to work at a casino, the frequency we saw (and reported) children left in vehicles sickens me. I have worked for Childrens Aid Society, a drug rehab centre, casino and various non-profits in my adult life. I have seen the lowest of the low. It is not as uncommon as people like to think they are...
The thing with gambling is that you leave your credit/debit cards at home, only take a certain amount of cash with you. If you double what you brought, put away the original amount in your shoe or whatever. Set an alarm on your phone so you know when to leave. In the casinos I've been in, as long as you're actively playing, you drink free. There are no clocks, and the only light is from the casino, so it's easy to lose track of time. Always go in with the intent of having fun, not trying to make money.
People laugh about their traumatic childhood experiences not because they think it’s funny but because they try to dissociate from the feelings they really have about those events. It took me years of therapy not to laugh about my childhood, but to grieve and let go.
I have a family member who filed multiple times for bankruptcy. She had the same judge and Thank god the judge set her straight! Part of me believes she purposely did not pay her bills.
I knew someone like that, always scamming the system, getting expensive clothes and returning them after wearing. Getting her kids pictures in designer clothes, returning those too. It made me so uncomfortable.
I have never been to a casino and people like to give me grief over that because, “how can you be 35 and never have gone to a casino?” Feels like a solid life choice right now. 🤣❤️
I went to a 'smart one' with a GF once. Had to ask someone how to play a 10c slot machine 🤣 I've never been in a more depressing environment. Noone talks, everyone just looks completely miserable & utterly fixated on a lifeless nothing. Ended up drinking cocktails & admiring the beautiful fish tanks 🤔
I've been inside the casino to eat at the restaurant... That's literally it. Couldn't have gambled if I wanted because I was a kid. My step grandma was part of the local tribe so she always took us to eat at the casinos restaurant when we visited. I've been tempted to go play slots a little now that I'm 32, I don't know how to play the other games well enough and I know slots is just chance. I'm not a gambler, only ever bought 2 scratchers in my life, but I also know how to quit.
The second story actually did clear my mind It sounds awful but I’m stressed to the max and even though she went through all that she still can live and that’s comforting
Ex casino employee here. We were (I assume this is still the case) trained on exactly what to say to people who are depressed/sui****l, including the phone number for gambling addiction help. People would share with me all the time that they just blew their rent money or worse. It was awful.
my heart goes out to first girl- but the second girl..omg been there done that. its a long uphill battle, and the stress being swamped into a 8 to 10 digit debt can be a real deal breaker to a lot of folks mentally/physically, and emotionally. im glad she was able to pulled herself up by her (fancy ❤) boot straps, and found a way to fix it.❤
she got robbed financially by scummy mlm real estate scammers, and put her trust in someone who was never financially sauvey. had to nuke her life with a last resort. one pair of boots is a drop in the bucket of what she went through. just stop. please ❤
I used to do do bankruptcy work as a paralegal. I actually liked it the best of all the legal work I've done because it helped people. Everyone came in scared or depressed and ashamed, but anytime I saw one of them afterwards, they said it was the best thing and they felt so much relief having that monkey off their back. Unfortunately, you have to be careful the BK attorney isn't scammy. At one time, a lot of them were signing people up for Chapter 13s because they got paid more that way (you basically make payments to them as well as to your creditors), even though Chapter 7 is better for most people. Chapter 13 is only if you have an asset to protect, like a house with a lot of equity, or you make enough to pay your bills, but need your creditors to stop seizing your stuff and fining you long enough for you to get caught up. Most of the time, though, 7 is the way to go: total and immediate debt elimation (unless it's a student loan or back child support; you owe those forever).
That first one was laughing becuase humour is often a coping mechanism. You laugh about it to avoid the feelings. That's why most comedians are people who struggle with depression.
I remember one time my husband and I were in a casino in Las Vegas when someone from the casino approached us and offered us FREE GAMBLING MONEY if we signed up for a seminar. We had never been to Las Vegas before and didn't really understand what was happening. They talked us into it enough that we wound up in their back room while they were trying to call and verify some information on us. I had the UGLIEST feeling inside of me that was SCREAMING "Get the f*ck out of there!" So, somehow, I can't even remember how, I made up some excuse and was able to get my husband and I OUT OF THAT ROOM. I kid you not, we were LITERALLY RUNNING through the casino towards the exit and they were FOR REAL chasing us. We hit the front door and never looked back. It was awful.
Omg that's a gambling scheme! those are loan sharks! Theu loan you exdessive amoints of money but you have to pay it back with interest on a time limit. Thank god you got out! They find people that don't know the laws and have them use illegal gambling tactics like counting cards and tag team plays. Then they expect the majority of profits. People die like that bc of not being able to pay as well as putting the women to work walking the streets to make it up. No joke
I like going to the casino like 2 to 3 times a year. I never spend more than $100. I don't really go out, but casinos have live music, food, and stuff to have a nice time if you don't go crazy with gambling.
I'd like to see a study comparing the psychological profiles of people with gambling addictions and people who get sucked in to the 'buy this course' world like the 2nd woman did. My hunch is that they are fairly similar. They know on some level that this is a mistake, but also press hard into the 'but maybe THIS time' thought. The first woman made me really sad...that's a lot of abandonment and neglect to work through. But last guy, with the Elton John Peppercorn...I died. 💀🤣
I went into 14k of debt buying unnecessary online courses to "fix me" "solve all my problems" and "teach me how to manifest" I had a break down and decided that was enough and so I have worked really hard the past 10 months paying down my debts and I'll be debt free in the next 2 months 🙏
I don’t think she was drugging her by giving her Tylenol. But I have a suspicion that she told her it was Tylenol, but gave her something else instead to make her sleepy. Probably Benadryl or Codeine or something. That first girl’s story made me sad. She was definitely neglected, and possibly other things. Breaks my heart to think that not only did it happen to her, but there might be kids out there like this right NOW. Edit- Tylenol is a drug, but I took it to mean by “drugging” her child, she was giving her something to make her sleepy.
disagree...if you giving a kid Tylenol they dont need, you def drugging them...the momma wanted her to put her sleep....it de same if some creep chloroforms some chick for whatever dubious reason...
She gave her medicine to put her t sleep because when her active child got sick of being in a car "she was probably sick so night night". She drugged her with indent which is child abuse 100%
I used to work at BBBY for close to 6 years before our local store went out of business. When I got the letters about bankruptcy, it didn't surprise me. lol... that last story had me rolling. I feel like we all gave the store the "evil eye" curse during that time. I was promised so much... and got nowhere.
I was so invested in the Bed Bath and Beyond story 😂😂😂😂 Maybe it was the Gaelic curse… maybe it wasn’t… Elton John Peppercorn should have gave him employee of the month. 😂😂😂😂😂
I’m throwing it WAY back with this one but my mom and my grandmother used to give my sister and I something called paragoric to “help us sleep”. It used to be OTC. My grandmother used to say she didn’t know how women raised babies without it anymore after it was banned. It’s opium🤦♀️ It’s basically just liquid heroin😂 They used to rub it on our gums when we were teething and basically used it as a cough syrup if we were sick or if they just needed a break and wanted us to sleep. My older sister even remembers exactly how it tasted too, like black licorice. Edit: It’s spelled Paregoric, not paragoric. My bad.
Then they started advertising sugar breakfast in the 60s or 70s something like that. I've seen old Commercial for the high sugar cereals and how you can give your kid energy for the day. 😅
Dude - when my husband and I first got married we made friends with an old married couple (in their 60/70’s) and they gave us such solid financial advice!! I’m just here to say that everything they encouraged us to do we have done - and now as young people in our mid/late twenties we have set ourselves up for such financial freedom for when we get older and retire!
Set up a Roth IRA and put a little bit in every morning ($20-$30) Get a no annual fee credit card and only put one thing on it, example: gas or groceries. By our mid 20’s our credit score was in the high 700’s. Don’t buy anything that you don’t actually have the money to pay for it (not including car/house) - but stuff like new phones … electronics … “bigger small” purchases.
All of the sisters in my mom’s family (5) had a “problem” with gambling, including my mom. But, she isn’t gambling in this story. My mom and dad had to leave suddenly when my grandpa (Dad’s father) died suddenly. My mom’s sister, “Jane”, came over to watch my 3 brothers and me. I was 11, and brothers 10, 7, and 6. My aunt brought my cousin, an 18 mo old. She left us on Fri evening to play poker. She didn’t leave any number to reach her. She still hadn’t made it home by Monday morning. I got my brothers ready for school, made lunches, and sent them to school. I stayed home and took care of my cousin. Tues morning, same story, except I only had one diaper left, and running low on groceries. I was starting to panic, so I called my neighbor. She came in, surveyed the scene, and told me she’d be right back. She came back with bread, peanut butter, jelly, and milk. She also called my mom, (I didn’t want to call, because I knew my aunt would be pissed). I guess my neighbor told mom someone better be at the house in an hr, or she was calling the cops. My aunt showed up, pissed 😄, with McDonalds for the other kids, and toys from the store. Nothing for me. Mom and Dad got home the next day, and I never spoke to my aunt again, unless I absolutely had to.
@@LostSoulchild89 You are so sweet! My mom was pissed, (I think because a non-family member was involved), but my dad was so mad, my aunt wasn’t allowed over for a long time. All of my mom’s sisters, except one, (not my mom) were more than a little neglectful of their kids. I guess that’s why I just took care of my brothers for as long as I can remember. Also why I never wanted kids.
I'm 61 and never set foot in a casino, never gambled other than a lottery ticket once a year. "Elton John Peppercorn" 😂🤣😂🤣Laughed so hard I had to run before I peed myself!
My dad always said that you put your gambling money in one pocket, and your winnings in the other. You NEVER dip into the winnings pocket, and you leave when your gambling pocket is empty.
One time my mom gave me a $20 to use at a casino (we didn’t go there to gamble, there was a show we were attending there) and I doubled it, and my anxiety was so bad I was like “close it out, give me the $20 I won, I’m done” lmao
Lol I live close to Vegas so any big events happening that is where we go. I only ever let myself spend $20 because I figure I can afford to lose that. Lol I am nervous playing too. If we did go to gamble I figured it would cost me more than the $20 on drinks if we went to a club so I figured my $20 limit was good. Once I would win then that original 20 went back in my pocket and I only spent what I could win. Lol never very much though because I didn't dare bet more than a couple dollars hahaha
Story 1- Been there. New 31 year old widow left penniless. Sees ad, "Earn $300-500/ week being a medical transcriptionist! Free conference!" Was earning 4.35/hr (1992). Attend free conference, get stoked on how relatively easy MT would be. Then the hammer comes down. "$500.00 for these books to teach you how, and where to TRY for positions after you're done - what a BARGAIN!" Left the conference before entire schpiel is done, considering driving off a bridge someplace.
My boyfriend's mom had a gambling addiction and when the care room closed he would sleep on the tiled floor outside the casino entrance Infront of the security guards, when we first started dating he told me all of this in a very joking way and didn't understand why I was so shocked 🙁 it's years later and the more he opens up about it the more I can see how much hurt it's actually caused him, he is going to be the best father to our kids oneday
I grew up in the bars. I have vague memories of eating bags of chips and mozzarella sticks for dinner and drinking soda until midnight then it was switched to water from the water fountain by the bathrooms. I started learning how to play pool at 3 years old and can hustle most anyone standing at the table in any given bar
Same! My favorite babysitter was the bartender at the bowling alley my mother worked at. I ran wild at that bowling alley. He would give me beer bottles filled with his tips. He would also hype me up on Virgin Shirley Temples with extra cherries. I was like the bar mascot. Several of my moms boyfriends came there to visit with me (not that I knew they were). They were most likely trying to win points but at least they bought drinks while they were there. 😅
It IS drugging them if your intent is to make them fall asleep. She is neglecting and abusing her own child and sacrificing a decent life for this addiction. She definitely needs to pray for help, get counseling and visit Gamblers Anonymous.
One reason why super creative, resourceful people also have addiction problems is adhd. Along with those good things, there can also be impulse-control issues. Slots are designed to deliver the dopamine that people with adhd lack. Not everyone has this problem but there's a high correlation. Gambling is terrible as it preys on the vulnerable.
That first one is called "child abuse". I'm surprised the casino sevurity didnt notice the same lady going out to check on their "car" all the time. She couldve lost custody of you and spent time in jail or prison.
As a child of the 80's, a Gen Xer, I'm KILLING myself here!!!😂 My mum left when I was 3 so it was just my dad and I. I was left alone a LOT. Seriously though, gambling addiction is a horrible disease and to all those kids who were affected I hope you're all okay. Love ya Queen P!!! Thanks for your content!😁
The Star Casino in Sydney, Australia, had to ban 317 people for leaving their children in the car park unattended. There were many more who were guilty of it but they were never caught.
Back in the late 80s to early 90s, ages 5-8, my mom and dad would take me with them to the casinos. They let her have me sit on her lap at the slots. I used to love pulling the lever and helping her get the coins! I felt like a pirate when I held that big cup! I remember her getting in trouble once for letting me pull the lever off her machine 😅
Glad to see some other Kids Quest kids out there. My grandma always rented a hotel room so once kids quest closed we'd go to the hotel room. It's crazy how we realize it was neglect as adults but may not fully understand it as kids.
In Michigan, families go “up north.” We own cottages on lakes and acreage in forests. It’s what we do. I go to a casino in Mt. Pleasant, Michigan. It’s just off the highway, on the way to everywhere up north. There are signs all over the parking lot that say don’t leave your kids in the car. A lot of signs. There’s one especially large sign where you turn into the parking across this little road (maybe it’s called overflow parking?). It says they will immediately call police if any child under 18 is left alone in the car. There are security cars that patrol the lots. I was talking to a dealer there who said they probably arrest at least one parent everyday. They can’t stop it.
I used to win at the casino every single time I walked in. Every single time. I worked there lol! I was a dealer. I got to win all the time! And I always walked away with more money than I walked in with. I did get to know my regulars and saw them have some really bad losses. There was one day about a week before Christmas I had one guy completely melt down in front of me. He had ten bucks, lost it in one hand and started crying. It was the last money he had and he wasn’t going to make the mortgage payment. I started freaking out too and my pit boss noticed and immediately pulled me from the table. He explained to me that it wasn’t my fault nor my problem and I am here working a legal job for legal pay and no one forced him to sit down. It still gives me a heavy feeling in my stomach.
My dad used to play poker at a private club. Mom thought she was smart by sending me with him when he left the house, thinking surely dad wouldn't play poker with his little daughter in tow. Little did she know that we'd sit at the poker table for hours and I lived for when he had to use the restroom because he'd let me play a hand on his behalf while he was gone.
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I didn't go through bankruptcy, but I ruined my credit in my late teens because I was irresponsible with my credit cards. My score dropped to like the low 500s. I did something similar as the OP in my late 20's where I got what's called a secured credit card. I gave a deposit to the bank that acted as my credit limit. Several years later, they switched it to a regular credit card when my credit score improved and gave me my deposit back. (Just make sure you don't go over the limit and make all payments on time) After a lot of hard work, responsible credit card use (never use more than 10% of your credit limit and pay it off each month) , and years of on-time payments; I'm now closing in on a 800 credit score. Bottom line, I agree that some basic life skills course should be taught in high school senior year. Something that includes basic banking lessons (how credit works, mortgages, car loans, etc), cooking, how to do taxes, keeping a budget with typical living expenses, and what not. That would really give high school grads the preparedness needed to face the real world.
My aunt would put kids in a pack in play, put a piece of plywood over the top with weights to keep whatever kids she was watching for the day, locked in her bedroom while she was drugged out on the couch. She’d make sure to be up before pick up time to change and clean the kids up, bring them downstairs to get a snack. I have so many horror stories of her house while growing up.
Tylenol doesn’t put you to sleep unless it’s the PM variant, which I don’t think they make for kids… that was almost definitely something stronger like Dimetapp or something that you definitely shouldn’t be giving kids who aren’t sick…
Usually the purpose behind "paying for courses" is the "conveniently packaged information"- as someone who’s literally gone through medical school, can confirm that most of the information I’ve needed to know is something that I can usually find for free on the internet 🙃
While student teaching in Vegas, my mentor teacher told me about a student she had (1st grader) that always smelled so bad so she had to send her to the nurse to get her hair washed. The reason for that was due to her mother & grandmother always leaving the little girl alone at home while they gambled at casinos so they never gave her baths. The teacher called CPS but they said they couldn't do anything because the little girl still had a roof over her head & food provided for her. So once a week, the girl had to go to the nurse to get her hair washed because she had adult supervision at home.
I have enough in my personal finances to do those 30-40k “business moves” from story two and I’ll flat out tell you that if you ACTUALLY have the money for those things you definitely don’t want to throw it at those people. That’s why they prey on people who DONT have the money. If you have it you know how to keep it. If you don’t, they’ll bankrupt you with the promise of getting it.
The struggle is so real. My girlfriends parents were like the first woman's mom. Always in the casino losing money. She practically lived at my house. My parents knew what was going on and wouldn't let that poor kid be alone. I basically had another sister. Her mom died in the casino of a stroke!! What a way to go. Wtf!! 😬
my dad had a weird gambling addiction to those grody gas station places for a while. I personally find throwing away money insane, but it can happen to anyone. I am glad he stopped!!
My daughter had a friend that worked at a casino and we went to see him for lunch. I had never been inside one before and decided to try the slot machine. I lost 50 cents and decided it was not for me haha.
4:55 Former bankruptcy attorney here. Most people that look down on you for filing bankruptcy are holding on to old fashioned, outdated stereotypes. While there are some people who end up in bankruptcy due to bad decisions, the vasty majority of my clients where people who had something that happened beyond control like a job loss or a medical issue. And to the extent people mad bad decisions, it was part of my job to help educated them on how to avoid the same mistakes again. People don't realize how many suffer from mental health issues due to debt-related stress. if you are drowning in debt, most BK attorneys will give a free or low cost consultation.
Dude these stories resonates with my childhood soo fricken much. Bio mother was super physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive to both me and my father but left/neglected my litter brother. When I was younger, she often left me in the back of the van when at the various casinos at night, ALONE! My dad sometimes tagged along and also left me alone as well. When I turned 14 she abandoned us, which left just my dad to take care of us. I think the casino was his coping mechanism as he would often go to the casinos in the morning and stay there all day. I would have to wait 2 or more hours after school (both high school and college) before he would answer my calls and another hour to come pick me up. The same happens when I need to be picked up from work. I often had to take the public bus but they stop operations after 6-7pm... when he does manage to pick me up from my job or school, he would take me with him to the casino.... I hate the casino due to the cigarette smoke as I would have bad coughing fits and have passed out from them numerous times. He got anytime me or my little brother would confront him. BTW he would take my lil bro home when needed and leave him alone at home. My little brother is 6 years younger than me at that time.... I was 17/18.
My dad use to leave my brother and I in the car while he went to bet on horses and drink with his buddies. He’d be gone for hours, we knew the rules. Don’t open the car for someone you don’t know and don’t look out the windows. 😂 years later when my mom found out she was pissed. Still is and it was over 20 years ago.
Omg I just paused to say the look in the eyes of the first girl... Broke my heart! You can see flashes of sadness pass by in her eyes whenever she recounts the horrible situations 💔
I lived in Vegas for 14 years. I sat near people saying we can win, they were using their rent or mortgage payments to gamble. I saw it on a regular basis! When I played I spent $20.00, on my visits. My favorite winning place was The Palms Casino. I usually left with at least $200.00 twice a week. This was when the casinos gave the locals money to play there two to three times a week. Most weeks, I would put in one dollar and use the $60.00 or $80.00, to play. Those were the great days, in the end, no more good perks, free buffets, swag, etc.
When I aged out of daycare (10yo) but still had nowhere to go after school my mom would pick me up, drive me to her office, and I'd spend the remaining FOUR HOURS in the car in the parking garage. Car not on, windows up, just locked in. ADHD and being a child was *not* on my side, and I got in big trouble any time I left the car or anyone knew I was there.
I live in Las Vegas and remember the casino daycare. You could leave your kids there for up to 8 hours (I think…long time ago) and go gamble your ass off. Sadly, kids started to go missing in the casinos and the daycares were shut down. Yeah…that really happened.🤦🏾♀️
I worked with someone in a daycare, where later I heard they asked the other teacher if it would be okay if she gave the kids some meds to fall asleep faster for nap time. She basically asked if she could drug the kids and thankfully she didn't and I left after a year in that hell hole
I grew up in casinos 😂 my grandpa was a gambler, so was my dad but not as bad. My uncle was a black jack dealer and his wife was a hostess. So it would be me and my 4 siblings and 3-6 cousins depending on who was in town. They'd comp a bunch of rooms on the same floor, leave all us kids(a long with teens) to our own devices, and all the adults would be downstairs. We could go swim, go to the gym. Several times we got in trouble for playing elevator tag 😂 we ate at a lot of nice restaurants because of comps. It was in Tunica, MS and by the time I was 12 I'd stayed at every hotel there multiple times and I loved it lol. We'd take Oreos and playing cards with us and we'd sit in one of the rooms and gamble cookies 😂
There truly is a stigma about filing for bankruptcy. I was in a horrible situation financially as well due to health issues, even if I got a well paying job, there was no chance in paying off all my debt. Everybody told me that filing for bankruptcy is a bad thing. Then I talked to a friend about it and he was actually in the middle of the process of his filing. After two years of severe anxiety and struggle, I successfully filed for bankruptcy and I am doing MUCH better! All thanks to that one friend who actually supported me instead of feeding into this stigma
I relate to the first story, I had to call the bars all the time to try to find my alcoholic mom when I was a teenager. I was watching 2 younger siblings while she was out drinking every weekend.
I had to file for bankruptcy for medical bills insurance didn't pay for. I was catastrophically injured and was hospitalized for over a month. It was a very bitter pill to swallow because that 110mph (cumulative speed) head on was due to a distracted driver hitting me.
As someone who had a head on (not my fault), and thankfully wasn't injured as bad as you, I'm glad I'm in Australia. The ambulance cost me $0. The doctors cost me $0. I was reimbursed by the insurance company for specialist and rehab costs.
And yeah. I was born in the 70’s. NyQuil for naps, whiskey for upset stomachs. I’d also carry around grape Triaminic in my backpack. Imagine seeing a kid now just casually chugging cold medicine
My parents recently went out to a casino (keep in mind I'm an adult living w/ em so I was in charge for the night) and the next day I asked them how they went about it. They didn't find it the most thrilling thing in the world but it was fun. They set aside about 50 dollars each and went at it for a few hours, and my mom didn't make nor loose money, while my dad made 10 bucks that night. They mainly did it for the date night and I'm glad they had fun
I was passed around family members so that my parents could go to bingo....even on school nights, they'd pick me up after bingo which was always about 23.00ish....this happened up until I was about 12 and then they just left me at home on my own... I grew up pretty quickly 😂
I worked at BBB for a while. Can confirm the redundant restocking, and the bad music on a loop. I cannot confirm pillows getting lost off the back of trucks, but... I stayed out of the wearhouse.
0:20 I remember kids quest! My mom would travel to the area for work as a nurse. I don’t remember her or my father going to the casino, but I remember them letting be go to kids quest.
I really wish they taught basic financial planning and skills in high school to everyone. How credit cards actually work (eg, making the minimum payments means it takes 50+ years to pay off), how to budget for every day life and so on. This is a valuable skill to actually learn and know.
Agreed. We had some classes like that in high school in 10th grade ( i think..? sry i am from europe lol), i hated the teacher but she was teaching us actually useful and solid life skills...
The 1st story, her laughter is a coping mechanism for her childhood trauma. That definitely was neglect.
When I was a kid, I slept on bar stools or under the pool table.
Yeah, as someone who has similar background, if you don't laugh, you'd cry.
Yeah, if I wanted to talk my dad I had to call the tavern.
When my dad was young, he enjoyed playing the slot machines. He realised that it could easily become a problem, so he saved up and bought himself a tabletop machine which he set up in his room and gambled away his spare change... only he could then take it out of the machine and spend it. One gambling addiction avoided and he still has the machine and a tray full of old sixpences to play with nearly fifty years later.
That is a really smart idea. I love that!
SMART AND RESPONSIBLE! ❤🎉
Smart man.
Laws changed in my state about 10 years ago to allow more casinos to be built. One was built not too far from my neighborhood basically next to the corporate park. The number of children and babies that have been left in the parking lot for hours is appalling. A few babies have died in the heat. There are now more cameras and police presence in the parking lot SPECIFICALLY to keep an eye out for neglected children. It’s such a deep, heartbreaking problem.
Wow....
yeah that was just beyond the pale. I feel so bad for her. I'm wanting to srart a residential program for teens whose parents are fundamentalist, or in high control groups, cults. I want them to have a safe place to be, to start living in a more balanced place that supports them. But I hear stories like that and I want to open it up to kids like her too. She's got deep trauma. 😢
@@liz090833 Honestly, I love this idea! It can be very difficult to save teens from cults etc if they are born into them and indoctrinated from an early age, but it's definitely worthwhile. Getting older kids and teens out of these places, or out of neglect and abuse situations, given counseling, education, and training for a future is a wonderful thing. I hope that you are able to make it happen! If monetary support is needed I'd definitely recommend reaching out to a service organization in your area.
It's so sad that addiction can be so strong that people neglect their kids and even put their lives, health, and well-being in jeopardy. I wish that there were laws in place that where casinos are built that addiction counseling services are advertised at the casinos and available next door, free of charge. I know it would be very difficult to get approved because of how much money those casinos bring to the state, but it shouldn't be a tradeoff for the lives of young people. That's disgusting law making.
I also live near a casino and I know it was a huge problem there. They increased security patrols in the parking lot to look for unattended children.
I went to Caesar's Palace in Vegas once, just for the experience, literally the only thing we did was go on a slot machine, put in $5, a minute later won $75 and _immediately_ took the money and left. We were like, get out, GET OUT 😂 it paid for a nice dinner, was a great night.
That’s how it starts for some people. My uncle and aunt (who never gambled before) used to go to the casino through a free shuttle and $20 free casino chips. Fast forward 5 years later (my uncle died) but my aunt got addicted to slots and lost both houses & all my uncle’s assets & savings and my cousin’s (their daughter) future inheritance as well. My uncle was super thrifty and cheap when he was alive (but he had saved a decent fortune through real estate ventures) so he’d be turning in his grave if he knew how innocently introducing his wife to ‘free’ gambling as entertainment would cost his family to lose all his lifetime of hard earned money. I’m sure she has actually lost over $5M since if my uncle was alive, he would have kept both houses. My aunt now lives in social security cheques and my cousin can’t give her any money, or else she’ll just gamble it away.
Yeah, the slots at the front door have higher payout rates to entice people to come inside and keep gambling. Plus, you usually have to go inside to the cash out desk to get your winnings, and people get smooth talked into staying to play, just a bit more, just a bit more...Playing once (or only using free chips you're given), winning, and immediately leaving is the only guaranteed return on your money. Glad y'all had the sense to take your winnings, book it, and get a nice meal instead of gambling more. I've heard that burgers and fries for two people can cost $50-$75 now, so y'all did good!
@@Angetbaby that's awful, I'm so sorry. Luckily I don't have a proclivity to addiction, and my ADHD makes sure I get bored of everything eventually 😂 so I don't worry I'll ever have a gambling problem, generally I think gambling is a bit silly, that's why we only went in for the 'Vegas experience'. But vigilance is always good!
There’s no such thing as a child’s ’inheritance’. That was ALL the mothers
Yeup . I won $200 the first time I ever gambled on the little slot machines . Went back and lost $20 . Went back a third time just this year (that first time was in 2021 I believe) (also this is all the same casino) and I lost $100 .
That’s why I limit myself to $100 or less . I won’t keep going $5 more $5 more $5 more etc . That’s how it adds up !
My dad sat me down before i was ten and showed me how to balance a checkbook (pre online banking days) and told me to make 10% of my money work for me. Huge fan of "rich dad poor dad" though idk if it works in this economy. He also would point out the difference in price per ounce at the grocery store when we were out shopping and I think he was the one who told me to have a seperate account for bills vs fun.
I am grateful for him because he taught me how to live within my means
10% of my money is like one grocery trip 😢
Wow.. that's a rare dad you have there!! Teaches you more than my school did!
When I was like 10 my mom worked as a home health nurse for this very nice elderly couple. Mom's shift was from 8am to 6pm, and they were totally fine with me coming over after school so mom didn't have to get a babysitter or leave me home alone. One of the coolest things this couple had in their house was an old slot machine bought from a casino that closed. It took nickles and they had a bucket of nickles next to it for people who wanted to play. I would feed nickles into that thing for hours and I never won anything more than like 10 cents. One day I played so long I literally used all the nickles in the bucket and they had to open the machine to get out more nickles. After spending like 2 years playing nonstop slots and basically never winning it was branded onto my brain that it's a huge scam. I've only ever played "real" slots once, I spent $5 and was totally over it. It felt just like giving money away to that old slot machine only this time it was my money and no one would open the machine to give it back.
I've been to the casino one time 'cause my grandma wanted to visit. She gave my sister and I each $10. My sister proceeded to lose it all on a slot machine. I said "Ooh I won $10!" when grandma gave me the money and put it in my pocket.
@@ZeniaRose I used to take my grandma to the casino a few times after my grandfather passed away. They had done it together once or twice a year as a date night--go and eat steak in the restaurant, get about $50 in chips, sit at side-by-side slot machines, and then walk away either when they lost it all or after 2 hours, whichever came first. Sometimes they won enough to pay for dinner, sometimes enough to pay for the next trip, but most often they lost it all and just shrugged it off. It was never an issue for them, and it was just a nice way for my grandmother to remember him and tell me stories while we played the slots. So the one time my husband and I went to Vegas with some friends, he and his guy friend played some blackjack and roulette, and then afterwards we hung out by the slots. He gave me his card and told me to play for a bit while they talked because our friend Rose was already playing. I was chatting with her and just randomly hitting the button every time the music stopped without paying attention to it. I hit the button and nothing happened, and I figured the card was out...turned out my husband HAD been watching, and when I hit a mini-jackpot of like $200 he reached over and ejected the card *lol* Between his blackjack and that slot machine, we got our money back and paid for about half our vacation. But I have zero desire to do it again.
I'm glad you were able to see the scam at work at a young age! That's really a great thing, especially if you can do it without spending a cent of your own money.
@ZeniaRose I like the way you think! That's honestly the only true way to win at a casino, not play. I can understand your grandma just wanted you two to have a little fun, but there's plenty of ways to have fun without risking money.
That might be considered child abuse/neglect. Giving children medicine to get them to sleep could land you in jail. This happened to a grandchild of a friend of mine when he was at the babysitter's. The sitter shook the baby to wake him...she sedated him with some medicine and wanted him to wake up when mom went to pick him up. The woman caused him to become blind and unable to walk. He's disabled to this day.
Oh thats deeefinetly child abuse. You dont leave a child that young alone and then drug them up when their antsy 😅 Thats not funny but I'm laughing because she is.
yeah that is serious childhood trauma omfg
That segment just had zero funny about it.
That's so sad 😢 he'll have to be taken care of his whole life I hope she's paying for that.....or in jail
@theadra23 No, Charlotte is not laughing at this????
This is not the story Charlotte reacted to. No one was shaken to disability in the video she reacted to.
Charlotte is laughing at the RIDICULOUSNESS of the parents in the story and the way the girl told it.
Humor about dark things is very common, and you should KNOW this by now, but you're looking to be mad at her for...laughing at a story being told in a clearly humorous way?
Joking about trauma is a coping mechanism for many. Peoplr also laugh at horrible things when they come out of left field because the joke is that the thing is HORRIBLE. People don't laugh because they agree with the thing, or think it's no big deal. People laugh because in their minds, no sane person would ever do the thing they are laughing at.
Chill.
The things our parents got away with when we were kids vs what we get shamed for on a daily basis is wild 😅
I agree. I think if you are to leave your child in the car while you are gambling these days, you will be found and arrested on site. I think they have patrols that go around in the parking lot just for this reason. I don't think her mom gave her Tylenol I think it was NyQuil or something.
Yet my dad wonders why I couldn't just get a job with a fortune 500 company right out of high school like he did😂
Right?
The number of times I would sit alone in the car because I didn't want to be in the bank/hardware store/office or whatever.. my parents would be in jail for that now. They would even give me the keys so I could listen to the radio!
😂😂 So true...
I feel so bad for the little girl in a "fort" in a car in a parking lot, alone, in the middle of the night. Hearing her story as a mom was like listening to a horror story...
That was us too, 5 kids in a suburban while both parents were inside the casino. Blankets covering the windows. The casino staff does go out there to check if anybody leaves their kids in the car because I guess it happens a lot. after they were kicked out of the casino, they would take us to the hotel by ourselves and go back to the casino but at least we had tv. I don’t remember how old we were. We lived in Kansas and drive 4 hours to Oklahoma. For reference, I am Hispanic and I feel like it common to be left alone in a car or at home. I don’t do that with my kids but I don’t remember it be scary but I was the second oldest. We wouldn’t have gas in the winter and sometimes electricity. I don’t ever want my children to go though that.
Why would anybody think that first video was funny!!?! 👎🏻👎🏻
@terimiddleton736 nobody is laughing about what happened.. sometimes, when it's your own story, you have to find a way to laugh about it, to emotionally disassociate from the trauma and make it feel less real.. because the reality is accepting it for what it truly was? Is too much for our minds to handle..
We are literally laughing to keep ourselves from crying. Or because we relate to her story, and we are laughing cuz it weirdly kinda makes us feel better, knowing we at least weren't alone in going through those experiences
And her mom must still be at the casino, right now.
Sad to say that back in my day it was not rare to see kids in a cars or left home alone with parents in bars or casinos. Parents having unwanted children in their lives is not new. It's horrible and sad. Tell me again why we are forcing women to have unwanted pregnancies and are banning birth control?
The fact that the first lady in the video was laughing doesn't mean that what she went through as a child wasn't serious enough. Abuse is abuse no matter how you sugar coat it. When I talk about my childhood trauma I laugh about it which is my coping mechanism. I hope she's doing okay
It wasn't just Tylenol that put her to sleep.
It might have been Benadryl or another medicine with sleep aid in it.
And, that's awful to do that to a child just so the mom can gamble 24/7.
Yeah. You learn to laugh so you don't cry. You use humor to downplay the severity and impact that it has had on you as a person. There are t-shirts and buttons that say, "You're hilarious!' 'Thanks it's the trauma." I'm going to buy one because it's pretty funny if you've lived it, but it's also really not funny if you think about it too hard. Often trauma and abuse survivors will look like the happiest adults, but it's often because it's a coping or defense mechanism or because they had to be the adult growing up, so what they're going through now feels like a walk in the park in comparison.
I absolutely recommend therapy or counseling to any abuse survivors. You're not crazy, and therapy isn't for crazy people but everyone, but you do need to address all of those repressed feelings or they will eat through you like termites. The shell looks fine but the inside is destroyed, so one solid blow at a soft spot and you crumble away.
My counselor has been seeing me since I was ten (my parents weaponized me against each other before the divorce on top of years of emotional neglect and I broke down) my psychiatrist has seen me since age 13 as well and I'm now in my mid 30s. Both get as frustrated as me that I'm the family scapegoat, the token "crazy one", while I'm actually the most well adjusted because no one else has been to counseling or therapy at all. "It's me, hi, I'm the problem." But seriously...they all just blame it on me instead of facing their own problems. 😒
Victims are not the problem. Their abusers are the problem. Fight the good fight y'all and I'm sending you all of the support, love, and genuine happiness that you need. ❤
@@anakelly76512It could've been Tylenol PM. It's still the same diphenhydramine which can cause problems if taken regularly, and if Tylenol isn't dosed properly it can damage the kidneys. There's a joke about the "Nyquil nap", but jokes are often rooted in reality and some parents and babysitters are guilty of drugging infants and children to get them to sleep.
I had a childhood exactly like hers minus the salon! I was dying over here listening to her..I used to call sunset station (casino) at 8 years old to page her, at like 4 in the morning crying with my sister begging her to come home please bc we hadn’t seen her in like 2 days.
yes I laugh too, my therapist says its nervousness tellin the story, cuz we know its not the normal so we giggle out of nervous and hopes of people accepting. Strange but true HOpe everyone gets healed by their child hood traumas.
The girl whose Mum put her in the car whilst she gambled all night... I live in Melbourne , Australia 🇦🇺 and when our first massive casino first opened quite a few parents were arrested for child neglect for leaving their kids in their cars for hours whilst they gambled. It was shocking and truly sad.
Melb here too! 🇦🇺 👋🏻
Yeah I remember that.
I remember a child even died in the car on a hot day because of being locked in the car whilst mum gambled 🥺
glad it didn't open till I and my siblings were old enough to take care of ourselves or that might have been us
As an accountant, I am happy you are giving people helpful advice. And I am glad that you are spreading awareness of fraud
my mom is an accountant and it so cool to have both an awesome mom and free best tips on how to use your money lol
@@cowboylikeHana I recommend learning a bit of accounting! It’s a bit tedious at times but it can interesting to see everything add up and just how much your account actually knows about you. I mean ANYTHING that is not paid for in cash is right there for them to see. Makes ya think twice bout buying shit with a card 😂😂
Woo hello fellow accountant! 🎉
@@Worminthedirt hi there!
The thing is I really didn't understand a thing of what happened to the girl that filed for bankruptcy, can U please explain to me thank you, I'm 19 yo and I've never heard of such a thing, thank you.
Wasn't expecting to find an MLM horror story in the middle of a Charlotte Dobre video, but I am here for it! Kudos to the person at 4:55 who was brave enough to share her story to help people avoid falling into a money trap!!!
10x Grant Cardone scientology bs
things got so bad she apparently sold her hair.
When I was a kid, my sisters and I would be left alone in cheap hotels and cars while our grandparents (we were being raised by them because both parents had died) were at the tracks or casino, and yes we can laugh about it now because it’s healing to laugh about trauma. Yeah some of us were neglected and abused but when it was common we can can relate to other people because during those times we felt very alone and knowing that others went through similar experiences is actually healthy for the survivors. It feels good to know it wasn’t just you who went through it
It was common in Australia too. No kids allowed in hotels or places where alcohol was sold. My brother and I spent many a day sitting outside in the car, all day. Occasionally they thought to give us food and something to drink. Outside, in the sun, in a car, in Australia, means Death Valley temperatures in the car after 20 minutes. Fun times. Upside was there were always other kids to play with. No adult supervision btw. Or none I ever recall. We just ran wild. I became a very good reader. And basically, from the age of 7, raised my own younger brother. Not one of the pub goers ever thought to themselves, "I'm neglecting and abusing my children" because that's just how it all was then. The real fun for us was afterwards, watching the drunken fights.
As a single mom of 2 (with ADHD… all 3 of us 😅) AND full time small business owner of 12 years, hiring a tax guy was literally THE best thing I’ve ever done for myself… anything you can afford to take off your plate, especially if it’s something you really struggle with, is 100% worth it! ❤ this guy tracks me down when it’s time to do quarterly taxes 😂😬 I don’t know how I survived without him!
Business taxes are a beast and a tax person is a great investment. And anything tedious or timely you can afford to outsource as an ADHDer is worth it!!
OMG girl thank you for this. I'm totally ADHD + I have a slightly pricey consultation with a highly recommended tax guy literally tomorrow!! Thankfully the fee goes toward future work, but it was hard for me to finally admit I needed to hand off my small business finances to someone else after doing them myself (poorly lmao) for over 7 years. I have dyscalculia (dyslexia but with numbers) so this is something I should have done years ago but I think my pride/ ego prevented me from ever considering outsourcing the crappy work.
Omgg Noted. This is so helpful
@@gr33ngirlsea yes indeed! Especially once online platforms started collecting sales tax for other states… what a nightmare. So thankful there are people who do taxes for a living!
@@hesherette I’m not sure exactly how your business is set up or what you might need from a tax service, but if your budget is tight, I suggest looking for smaller family run tax services (that still specialize in small business) vs. the larger or fancier corporations… I found Craig (my lovely tax fellow) about 6 years ago, and it’s great to be on a 1st name basis, plus the rates tend to be lower or at least on a sliding scale! I totally get wanting to do everything yourself, we ADHDers actually make amazing entrepreneurs! But I think there’s a lot of outside pressure/guilt/shame for women to be on top of everything & juggle a million responsibilities (and don’t forget to smile while you’re doing it! 😑) so it’s tempting to take it all on & “prove” that we can handle it, when really in the long run, we all going to burn out if we can’t reach out for help… so thankful for the number gurus out there who actually like math & have a talent for it! I struggled a lot with the paper-worky stuff (I design/make artisan gemstone jewelry for a living) I can only imagine how difficult it would be to have the added problem of dyscalculia on top of it! Glad you are getting some assistance 🤗❤️✨
As a table games dealer myself, I see a lot of people come in expecting to win big and get SO MAD when they lose. I always tell people never to come to the casino with more money than you can afford to lose. It's meant for entertainment, not to make money.
That's the only way to do it: never take more money into a casino than you can afford to lose!
I had a client who gambled the money they were supposed to pay their court fines with. They were convinced they would double their money.
Unless you are a pro Card Counter . Which isn't illegal but can get you black listed and/or kicked out. Personally, tried to learn to count cards and that shit is hard. I plan to pick it back up when I have time because it sounds like a cool trick to use in a casual game like at a casual party gathering.
Exactly. You can spend $50 on movie tickets or $50 on a quick gamble on a card table. Slots are just for the dumb.
I feel so much for the casino daughter... I had a very similar situation with my mother growing up, but her addiction was drugs and men. I'd be left at the bar in the bowling alley and drugged with benadryl or something at bedtime so she could go out and party. It was extremely messed up and left me with insane trauma my entire life, that finally at 40 I am able to heal. My inner child was screaming to be there for yours! I'm so sorry anyone has to grow up this way. I hope that she has support and people who care about her now, and a mother like that should be kept at arms length, if anywhere in the picture at all. I don't speak to mine really either, and I've forgiven her for myself so that I could move on from everything. My life wasn't sunshine and rainbows, but at least the people who were there for me cared so very much, I hope you also had some people in your life to make the scary moments less so. Sending hugs!
Girl! I said in another comment.. same. Her story was like mine in the casino case. My sister and I used to call the casino and page my mom crying begged her to come home bc we hadn’t seen her in 2 days. She would ration food for us so she could gamble w the money. She changes the story now a days but my sis and I still talk about it.
@@TheChastity1986 I feel for you guys, I know how painful the whole thing is. As much as I'd like to be completely ok as an adult, it still messes with me to this day and makes it hard to trust. I'm just grateful to my few family who were there and tried so hard to make sure we were ok. If it weren't for them, we wouldn't have made it. Its so unfortunate that there are so many who relate to this story, at least we can take some comfort knowing that others understand and we are not alone. Big hugs to you and everyone else who needs one reading/watching this!
I feel so sorry for any child who isn't treated as a loved part of the family. As the saying goes " not all parents deserve children, but all children deserve parents".
My heart goes out to any of you who didn't have present parents. I don't understand why gambling is legal and glamorised. It destroys the lives of so many innocent people. Thankfully gambling has never affected my family. But my daughter was an alcoholic for about 20 years. Unfortunately her children witnessed too many incidents that they never should have seen or heard. She was raped 4 years ago by my younger daughters partner who knew that she was too drunk to have any say. This is the bottom that she needed to fall to. She has not drank another drink since then. Thank God.
The bastard who raped her broke her sense of security with a person who had been part of the family for 9 years. My youngest daughter stopped speaking to her after this because scumbag told her that the sex was consensual. Unfortunately she doesn't want to believe that he was capable of doing such a horrendous act. They broke up straight away. Then my daughter found out the next week that she was pregnant with her fourth child. She went through the whole pregnancy with just my husband and my help. She was due the baby Christmas week, 2019. On December 13th she found out that the baby was not alive. She gave birth to her on 16th December. She was perfectly formed. She was born silent.
So through the choices that two people made broke the hearts of three little children who were excitedly awaiting the birth of their sister. The heart of a Mother who is a tower of strength for her children, trying to navigate them through the nightmare of 2019. The hearts of my husband and myself. Addiction is horrific for the family of the addict. The addict is often not aware of the tornado their actions, unlike the family.
This is probably too much for some people to read or figure out why I went off on this long story. But sometimes it feels good to know that other people have some experience with the topic. Thanks for reading this.
@@sandracrosbie8468 thank you for sharing your story. Sounds like you've all been through so much. Addiction in any form is hard on the family left caring and trying to pick up pieces. Thanks for speaking out for the children. So often parents push their kids to grow up too fast, but without guidance, healing and someone to talk to, its just more trauma. Love to you and your family, you all deserve some love and kindness given everything you've experienced.
@@rebeckacalkins1616 Thank you.
I'm 56 now & can totally relate to the first young lady, although I wasn't forced to stay in a car. My mom would leave me alone starting when I was in the 2nd grade (about 7 yrs old). At first she would get a babysitter, usually another Asian lady she knew who had kids my age. I'd go spend the night & sleep over while she went out. Eventually she started leaving me home alone. It never occurred to me why I stopped going to their houses. Years later into my adulthood, I finally guessed that either #1 they got tired of having to watch me all the time and/or #2 my mom wouldn't pay them the money that they were owed, probably because she lost all her money to gambling. It got to the point that she couldn't afford a babysitter any longer. So my career as the world's youngest night security guard began. She would make my dinner & then take off for the local card room/bar to play poker, black jack, etc. She would usually stay home until about two hours before what was supposed to be my bedtime. She would always say "be good & watch the house." Yeah, as if a little 2nd grader could protect anything! Since I didn't have any adult supervision, I stayed up late all the time. Mom would usually be gone until the bar closed at 2 am. Sometimes she'd stay out later if she & her poker buddies decided to grab something to eat at Denny's. She'd come home & sleep until at least noon or 1 pm. I would get myself up every morning, eat cereal or pop tarts, make my sack lunch, & get ready for school. By the time I got home, she'd be awake cleaning & cooking, then the daily routine would start again... I can only recall once when she came to my school - my class was putting on a Xmas concert, I was in the 4th grade. That was the one & only time she ever attended any sort of school event besides my high school graduation in 1985.
That was my life from 2nd grade all through high school. When I was older, she'd head up to Reno, NV & would be gone for a week or more. Once she was gone for over 2 weeks. I had no idea where she was or how to contact her in case of emergency - we didn't have mobile phones back then. She'd leave some money for me to get food or gas for my car so I could get to school & back. Of course by then, I was a teenager & loved having the house to myself & my friends. If she pulled that crap nowadays, she'd be in prison for neglect & child endangerment. Growing up in the 70's & 80's was a whole different vibe. My mom didn't own a business like the first lady but she also ran a side hustle. She would go buy all sorts of 'American products" usually from the nearby military base (no sales tax) & ship it off to her relatives overseas. They would sell it on the Asian black market & then she would get a big cut from the money they made by marking up the prices. So a $5 jar of Folger's instant coffee would earn her about $30. She also bought high end clothes & jewelry from places like Macy's & made BANK on her return from the black market proceeds. Crazy times!
The lady who’s boyfriend got her to go to the “seminars” and they pressured them to get credit they couldn’t afford sounds so much like what Scientology does to their members.
My husband and I became friends with a couple who had retired/cashed out his retirement for around $1 million. They bought a house (this was back when you could get a nice house for $120,000). Anyway, we met them in the local tavern and she was always playing the machines. She would always tell us “I won $400, or $600.” Of course she never told us how much she put in to win that. Anyway, long story short, within 6 months they had run through their retirement, he had to go back to work and start over in his mid-sixties. So it all doesn’t happen in Vegas. Gambling is everywhere.
In only 6 months?! O.O That's....just wow
@@StudlyFudd13 I know! And this was back in the early 90s when a million bucks was a lot!
Girl, that wasn't Tylenol...it was most likely Benadril.
What about Tylenol PM?
Benadryl or NyQuil for sure... probably Benadryl though
That’s what I’m thinking
Peragoric
@@lizajane2971 tylenol PM got benedryl in it
The first story made me remember how my mom treated me. My mom wouldn't talk to me, forgot to feed me multiple times, when she did talk to me it was abusive, and tried to kill me. But when I told teachers they wouldn't believe me because she was a special ed teacher at the school. Only two teachers and my doctor reported my mother. Eventually my parents got a divorce and I lived with my dad since mom was deemed unfit to have me. Also, the doctor had proof that mom would neglect my injuries because an injury I had under my mom's care didn't heal properly and then got hurt again but worse.
I'm sorry that happened to you.
I'm sorry you had to go thru that
I'm so sorry. I hope you are doing ok and not suffering too much trauma (and if you are, you have people to talk to).
As someone who used to work at a casino, the frequency we saw (and reported) children left in vehicles sickens me. I have worked for Childrens Aid Society, a drug rehab centre, casino and various non-profits in my adult life. I have seen the lowest of the low. It is not as uncommon as people like to think they are...
The thing with gambling is that you leave your credit/debit cards at home, only take a certain amount of cash with you. If you double what you brought, put away the original amount in your shoe or whatever. Set an alarm on your phone so you know when to leave. In the casinos I've been in, as long as you're actively playing, you drink free. There are no clocks, and the only light is from the casino, so it's easy to lose track of time. Always go in with the intent of having fun, not trying to make money.
People laugh about their traumatic childhood experiences not because they think it’s funny but because they try to dissociate from the feelings they really have about those events. It took me years of therapy not to laugh about my childhood, but to grieve and let go.
I have a family member who filed multiple times for bankruptcy. She had the same judge and Thank god the judge set her straight! Part of me believes she purposely did not pay her bills.
I knew someone like that, always scamming the system, getting expensive clothes and returning them after wearing. Getting her kids pictures in designer clothes, returning those too. It made me so uncomfortable.
I have never been to a casino and people like to give me grief over that because, “how can you be 35 and never have gone to a casino?”
Feels like a solid life choice right now. 🤣❤️
I'm 58 never been in a casino in my life either.
I went to a 'smart one' with a GF once. Had to ask someone how to play a 10c slot machine 🤣
I've never been in a more depressing environment. Noone talks, everyone just looks completely miserable & utterly fixated on a lifeless nothing.
Ended up drinking cocktails & admiring the beautiful fish tanks 🤔
I've been inside the casino to eat at the restaurant... That's literally it. Couldn't have gambled if I wanted because I was a kid. My step grandma was part of the local tribe so she always took us to eat at the casinos restaurant when we visited. I've been tempted to go play slots a little now that I'm 32, I don't know how to play the other games well enough and I know slots is just chance. I'm not a gambler, only ever bought 2 scratchers in my life, but I also know how to quit.
I’m 66 and have never been in a casino, and have no plans to change that.
The second story actually did clear my mind It sounds awful but I’m stressed to the max and even though she went through all that she still can live and that’s comforting
Ex casino employee here. We were (I assume this is still the case) trained on exactly what to say to people who are depressed/sui****l, including the phone number for gambling addiction help. People would share with me all the time that they just blew their rent money or worse. It was awful.
my heart goes out to first girl- but the second girl..omg been there done that. its a long uphill battle, and the stress being swamped into a 8 to 10 digit debt can be a real deal breaker to a lot of folks mentally/physically, and emotionally. im glad she was able to pulled herself up by her (fancy ❤) boot straps, and found a way to fix it.❤
She deliberately stole those boots.
@@Hey___youshe didn't steal anything, she was robbed by scammers...
@@margodphd She stole a pair of boots.
she got robbed financially by scummy mlm real estate scammers, and put her trust in someone who was never financially sauvey. had to nuke her life with a last resort.
one pair of boots is a drop in the bucket of what she went through.
just stop. please ❤
The two are unrelated It's not a difficult concept. @@gingercake274
I used to do do bankruptcy work as a paralegal. I actually liked it the best of all the legal work I've done because it helped people. Everyone came in scared or depressed and ashamed, but anytime I saw one of them afterwards, they said it was the best thing and they felt so much relief having that monkey off their back.
Unfortunately, you have to be careful the BK attorney isn't scammy. At one time, a lot of them were signing people up for Chapter 13s because they got paid more that way (you basically make payments to them as well as to your creditors), even though Chapter 7 is better for most people. Chapter 13 is only if you have an asset to protect, like a house with a lot of equity, or you make enough to pay your bills, but need your creditors to stop seizing your stuff and fining you long enough for you to get caught up. Most of the time, though, 7 is the way to go: total and immediate debt elimation (unless it's a student loan or back child support; you owe those forever).
Good to know thank you! I hope I never find myself needing this info but it’s good to have 😊
That first one was laughing becuase humour is often a coping mechanism. You laugh about it to avoid the feelings. That's why most comedians are people who struggle with depression.
Growing up in Vegas I felt that first story. My mom barely made rent sometimes.
it is so hard to live with anyone who has an addiction. I lived with someone for 23 yrs and I feel sympathy for this girl.
I remember one time my husband and I were in a casino in Las Vegas when someone from the casino approached us and offered us FREE GAMBLING MONEY if we signed up for a seminar. We had never been to Las Vegas before and didn't really understand what was happening. They talked us into it enough that we wound up in their back room while they were trying to call and verify some information on us. I had the UGLIEST feeling inside of me that was SCREAMING "Get the f*ck out of there!" So, somehow, I can't even remember how, I made up some excuse and was able to get my husband and I OUT OF THAT ROOM. I kid you not, we were LITERALLY RUNNING through the casino towards the exit and they were FOR REAL chasing us. We hit the front door and never looked back. It was awful.
That's scary/ Sounds like a scam.
Omg that's a gambling scheme! those are loan sharks! Theu loan you exdessive amoints of money but you have to pay it back with interest on a time limit. Thank god you got out! They find people that don't know the laws and have them use illegal gambling tactics like counting cards and tag team plays. Then they expect the majority of profits. People die like that bc of not being able to pay as well as putting the women to work walking the streets to make it up. No joke
They also get you hooked to remain a client they profit off of. It ruins lives
Probably a time share. They try me every time offering 100 bucks to go to seminar and they have to see how much you can afford to buy in
they CHASE you because you didn't want to sign up in their seminar?? Good lord this is something.. glad you got out
I like going to the casino like 2 to 3 times a year. I never spend more than $100. I don't really go out, but casinos have live music, food, and stuff to have a nice time if you don't go crazy with gambling.
I'd like to see a study comparing the psychological profiles of people with gambling addictions and people who get sucked in to the 'buy this course' world like the 2nd woman did. My hunch is that they are fairly similar. They know on some level that this is a mistake, but also press hard into the 'but maybe THIS time' thought.
The first woman made me really sad...that's a lot of abandonment and neglect to work through. But last guy, with the Elton John Peppercorn...I died. 💀🤣
Addiction is very similar across the spectrum. Always chasing a feeling or high that you'll never get.
I went into 14k of debt buying unnecessary online courses to "fix me" "solve all my problems" and "teach me how to manifest" I had a break down and decided that was enough and so I have worked really hard the past 10 months paying down my debts and I'll be debt free in the next 2 months 🙏
I don’t think she was drugging her by giving her Tylenol. But I have a suspicion that she told her it was Tylenol, but gave her something else instead to make her sleepy. Probably Benadryl or Codeine or something. That first girl’s story made me sad. She was definitely neglected, and possibly other things. Breaks my heart to think that not only did it happen to her, but there might be kids out there like this right NOW.
Edit- Tylenol is a drug, but I took it to mean by “drugging” her child, she was giving her something to make her sleepy.
Its sad that she’s laughing, but at this point that is probably the only way she can deal with that. I thought my mother was a shrew!
yeah. I was thinking Benadryl as well, or at least Tylenol PM. but she was young at the time so probably didn't get a chance to read the label!
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disagree...if you giving a kid Tylenol they dont need, you def drugging them...the momma wanted her to put her sleep....it de same if some creep chloroforms some chick for whatever dubious reason...
She gave her medicine to put her t sleep because when her active child got sick of being in a car "she was probably sick so night night". She drugged her with indent which is child abuse 100%
It is drugging them if there is no medical need for them to take it.
I used to work at BBBY for close to 6 years before our local store went out of business. When I got the letters about bankruptcy, it didn't surprise me. lol... that last story had me rolling. I feel like we all gave the store the "evil eye" curse during that time. I was promised so much... and got nowhere.
I was so invested in the Bed Bath and Beyond story 😂😂😂😂
Maybe it was the Gaelic curse… maybe it wasn’t… Elton John Peppercorn should have gave him employee of the month. 😂😂😂😂😂
I’m throwing it WAY back with this one but my mom and my grandmother used to give my sister and I something called paragoric to “help us sleep”. It used to be OTC. My grandmother used to say she didn’t know how women raised babies without it anymore after it was banned. It’s opium🤦♀️ It’s basically just liquid heroin😂 They used to rub it on our gums when we were teething and basically used it as a cough syrup if we were sick or if they just needed a break and wanted us to sleep. My older sister even remembers exactly how it tasted too, like black licorice.
Edit: It’s spelled Paregoric, not paragoric. My bad.
That's not okay 😂
And I just realized how respectful most kids from the turn of the 1900 & the next 80 years! Kids younger & younger want to get high nowadays.
Then they started advertising sugar breakfast in the 60s or 70s something like that. I've seen old Commercial for the high sugar cereals and how you can give your kid energy for the day. 😅
Dude - when my husband and I first got married we made friends with an old married couple (in their 60/70’s) and they gave us such solid financial advice!! I’m just here to say that everything they encouraged us to do we have done - and now as young people in our mid/late twenties we have set ourselves up for such financial freedom for when we get older and retire!
Well hey it’d be nice to share that wisdom with some others :)
But I’m very glad you listened and it worked out :)
What was the advice?
I'll take things that never happened for 500, Alex 😂😂😂
What was the advice?
Set up a Roth IRA and put a little bit in every morning ($20-$30)
Get a no annual fee credit card and only put one thing on it, example: gas or groceries. By our mid 20’s our credit score was in the high 700’s.
Don’t buy anything that you don’t actually have the money to pay for it (not including car/house) - but stuff like new phones … electronics … “bigger small” purchases.
All of the sisters in my mom’s family (5) had a “problem” with gambling, including my mom. But, she isn’t gambling in this story. My mom and dad had to leave suddenly when my grandpa (Dad’s father) died suddenly. My mom’s sister, “Jane”, came over to watch my 3 brothers and me. I was 11, and brothers 10, 7, and 6. My aunt brought my cousin, an 18 mo old. She left us on Fri evening to play poker. She didn’t leave any number to reach her. She still hadn’t made it home by Monday morning. I got my brothers ready for school, made lunches, and sent them to school. I stayed home and took care of my cousin. Tues morning, same story, except I only had one diaper left, and running low on groceries. I was starting to panic, so I called my neighbor. She came in, surveyed the scene, and told me she’d be right back. She came back with bread, peanut butter, jelly, and milk. She also called my mom, (I didn’t want to call, because I knew my aunt would be pissed). I guess my neighbor told mom someone better be at the house in an hr, or she was calling the cops. My aunt showed up, pissed 😄, with McDonalds for the other kids, and toys from the store. Nothing for me. Mom and Dad got home the next day, and I never spoke to my aunt again, unless I absolutely had to.
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I'm so glad you went to the neighbor.
@@LostSoulchild89 You are so sweet! My mom was pissed, (I think because a non-family member was involved), but my dad was so mad, my aunt wasn’t allowed over for a long time. All of my mom’s sisters, except one, (not my mom) were more than a little neglectful of their kids. I guess that’s why I just took care of my brothers for as long as I can remember. Also why I never wanted kids.
I'm 61 and never set foot in a casino, never gambled other than a lottery ticket once a year.
"Elton John Peppercorn" 😂🤣😂🤣Laughed so hard I had to run before I peed myself!
My dad always said that you put your gambling money in one pocket, and your winnings in the other. You NEVER dip into the winnings pocket, and you leave when your gambling pocket is empty.
Exactly!
Yep, that's how I do it it's usually not over 40$ because I'm cheap, lol .
One time my mom gave me a $20 to use at a casino (we didn’t go there to gamble, there was a show we were attending there) and I doubled it, and my anxiety was so bad I was like “close it out, give me the $20 I won, I’m done” lmao
Lol I live close to Vegas so any big events happening that is where we go. I only ever let myself spend $20 because I figure I can afford to lose that. Lol I am nervous playing too. If we did go to gamble I figured it would cost me more than the $20 on drinks if we went to a club so I figured my $20 limit was good. Once I would win then that original 20 went back in my pocket and I only spent what I could win. Lol never very much though because I didn't dare bet more than a couple dollars hahaha
Story 1- Been there. New 31 year old widow left penniless. Sees ad, "Earn $300-500/ week being a medical transcriptionist! Free conference!"
Was earning 4.35/hr (1992).
Attend free conference, get stoked on how relatively easy MT would be. Then the hammer comes down.
"$500.00 for these books to teach you how, and where to TRY for positions after you're done - what a BARGAIN!"
Left the conference before entire schpiel is done, considering driving off a bridge someplace.
My boyfriend's mom had a gambling addiction and when the care room closed he would sleep on the tiled floor outside the casino entrance Infront of the security guards, when we first started dating he told me all of this in a very joking way and didn't understand why I was so shocked 🙁 it's years later and the more he opens up about it the more I can see how much hurt it's actually caused him, he is going to be the best father to our kids oneday
I grew up in the bars. I have vague memories of eating bags of chips and mozzarella sticks for dinner and drinking soda until midnight then it was switched to water from the water fountain by the bathrooms. I started learning how to play pool at 3 years old and can hustle most anyone standing at the table in any given bar
Same! My favorite babysitter was the bartender at the bowling alley my mother worked at. I ran wild at that bowling alley. He would give me beer bottles filled with his tips. He would also hype me up on Virgin Shirley Temples with extra cherries. I was like the bar mascot. Several of my moms boyfriends came there to visit with me (not that I knew they were). They were most likely trying to win points but at least they bought drinks while they were there. 😅
It IS drugging them if your intent is to make them fall asleep. She is neglecting and abusing her own child and sacrificing a decent life for this addiction. She definitely needs to pray for help, get counseling and visit Gamblers Anonymous.
People who also bought her trash as some new jewels should also sue her. She conned them. Same with the immigration thing.
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This is a very intense episode. 😮
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Good Morning beautiful woman!
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One reason why super creative, resourceful people also have addiction problems is adhd. Along with those good things, there can also be impulse-control issues. Slots are designed to deliver the dopamine that people with adhd lack. Not everyone has this problem but there's a high correlation. Gambling is terrible as it preys on the vulnerable.
Can't deny it. The last dude had me invested.
First rule of any casino: The house always wins. Repeat: THE. HOUSE. ALWAYS. WINS.
That first one is called "child abuse". I'm surprised the casino sevurity didnt notice the same lady going out to check on their "car" all the time. She couldve lost custody of you and spent time in jail or prison.
As a child of the 80's, a Gen Xer, I'm KILLING myself here!!!😂 My mum left when I was 3 so it was just my dad and I. I was left alone a LOT.
Seriously though, gambling addiction is a horrible disease and to all those kids who were affected I hope you're all okay.
Love ya Queen P!!! Thanks for your content!😁
I lost it at *”Elton John Peppercorn”* & I laughed so hard I cried, wheezed & then continued to laugh even more all at once! 🤣
The Star Casino in Sydney, Australia, had to ban 317 people for leaving their children in the car park unattended. There were many more who were guilty of it but they were never caught.
Back in the late 80s to early 90s, ages 5-8, my mom and dad would take me with them to the casinos. They let her have me sit on her lap at the slots. I used to love pulling the lever and helping her get the coins! I felt like a pirate when I held that big cup! I remember her getting in trouble once for letting me pull the lever off her machine 😅
Glad to see some other Kids Quest kids out there. My grandma always rented a hotel room so once kids quest closed we'd go to the hotel room. It's crazy how we realize it was neglect as adults but may not fully understand it as kids.
In Michigan, families go “up north.” We own cottages on lakes and acreage in forests. It’s what we do.
I go to a casino in Mt. Pleasant, Michigan. It’s just off the highway, on the way to everywhere up north.
There are signs all over the parking lot that say don’t leave your kids in the car. A lot of signs. There’s one especially large sign where you turn into the parking across this little road (maybe it’s called overflow parking?). It says they will immediately call police if any child under 18 is left alone in the car. There are security cars that patrol the lots.
I was talking to a dealer there who said they probably arrest at least one parent everyday. They can’t stop it.
I used to win at the casino every single time I walked in. Every single time. I worked there lol! I was a dealer. I got to win all the time! And I always walked away with more money than I walked in with. I did get to know my regulars and saw them have some really bad losses. There was one day about a week before Christmas I had one guy completely melt down in front of me. He had ten bucks, lost it in one hand and started crying. It was the last money he had and he wasn’t going to make the mortgage payment. I started freaking out too and my pit boss noticed and immediately pulled me from the table. He explained to me that it wasn’t my fault nor my problem and I am here working a legal job for legal pay and no one forced him to sit down. It still gives me a heavy feeling in my stomach.
My dad used to play poker at a private club. Mom thought she was smart by sending me with him when he left the house, thinking surely dad wouldn't play poker with his little daughter in tow. Little did she know that we'd sit at the poker table for hours and I lived for when he had to use the restroom because he'd let me play a hand on his behalf while he was gone.
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Two things I was told about gambling “it’s a mugs game” and “quit while you’re ahead” sage advice.
I didn't go through bankruptcy, but I ruined my credit in my late teens because I was irresponsible with my credit cards. My score dropped to like the low 500s. I did something similar as the OP in my late 20's where I got what's called a secured credit card. I gave a deposit to the bank that acted as my credit limit. Several years later, they switched it to a regular credit card when my credit score improved and gave me my deposit back. (Just make sure you don't go over the limit and make all payments on time) After a lot of hard work, responsible credit card use (never use more than 10% of your credit limit and pay it off each month) , and years of on-time payments; I'm now closing in on a 800 credit score.
Bottom line, I agree that some basic life skills course should be taught in high school senior year. Something that includes basic banking lessons (how credit works, mortgages, car loans, etc), cooking, how to do taxes, keeping a budget with typical living expenses, and what not. That would really give high school grads the preparedness needed to face the real world.
My aunt would put kids in a pack in play, put a piece of plywood over the top with weights to keep whatever kids she was watching for the day, locked in her bedroom while she was drugged out on the couch. She’d make sure to be up before pick up time to change and clean the kids up, bring them downstairs to get a snack. I have so many horror stories of her house while growing up.
Good lord 😢 That’s horrific
The neglect and abuse that first girl suffered as a CHILD was appalling. 😬😬 She was laughing but it was an awkward nervous laugh. Not funny at all.
I filed a consumer proposal which is kind of like a middle ground between all the debt and bankruptcy and it has basically saved me
It’s so messed up that many of our parents had this done to them and some actually perpetuated the cycle :(
That is my feeling also.
Tylenol doesn’t put you to sleep unless it’s the PM variant, which I don’t think they make for kids… that was almost definitely something stronger like Dimetapp or something that you definitely shouldn’t be giving kids who aren’t sick…
wow that second story was a wild ride. that guy totally took advantage of her. the bankruptcy will help her start fresh
Usually the purpose behind "paying for courses" is the "conveniently packaged information"- as someone who’s literally gone through medical school, can confirm that most of the information I’ve needed to know is something that I can usually find for free on the internet 🙃
While student teaching in Vegas, my mentor teacher told me about a student she had (1st grader) that always smelled so bad so she had to send her to the nurse to get her hair washed. The reason for that was due to her mother & grandmother always leaving the little girl alone at home while they gambled at casinos so they never gave her baths. The teacher called CPS but they said they couldn't do anything because the little girl still had a roof over her head & food provided for her. So once a week, the girl had to go to the nurse to get her hair washed because she had adult supervision at home.
I have enough in my personal finances to do those 30-40k “business moves” from story two and I’ll flat out tell you that if you ACTUALLY have the money for those things you definitely don’t want to throw it at those people. That’s why they prey on people who DONT have the money. If you have it you know how to keep it. If you don’t, they’ll bankrupt you with the promise of getting it.
The struggle is so real. My girlfriends parents were like the first woman's mom. Always in the casino losing money. She practically lived at my house. My parents knew what was going on and wouldn't let that poor kid be alone. I basically had another sister. Her mom died in the casino of a stroke!! What a way to go. Wtf!! 😬
What a sad life to have lived.
my dad had a weird gambling addiction to those grody gas station places for a while. I personally find throwing away money insane, but it can happen to anyone. I am glad he stopped!!
The way my friend played is she would win, and she put half away then and repeat. Saved her a lot of grief.
Any people telling u to take out loans, u can't afford, to pay them for a "program" that teaches u to b rich, sounds like the epitome of a scam.
Also be very wary of a "deal" that HAS to be today to get this ONE TIME OFFER that will never be available again. (Until the next group comes in.)
My daughter had a friend that worked at a casino and we went to see him for lunch. I had never been inside one before and decided to try the slot machine. I lost 50 cents and decided it was not for me haha.
4:55 Former bankruptcy attorney here. Most people that look down on you for filing bankruptcy are holding on to old fashioned, outdated stereotypes. While there are some people who end up in bankruptcy due to bad decisions, the vasty majority of my clients where people who had something that happened beyond control like a job loss or a medical issue. And to the extent people mad bad decisions, it was part of my job to help educated them on how to avoid the same mistakes again. People don't realize how many suffer from mental health issues due to debt-related stress. if you are drowning in debt, most BK attorneys will give a free or low cost consultation.
Dude these stories resonates with my childhood soo fricken much. Bio mother was super physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive to both me and my father but left/neglected my litter brother. When I was younger, she often left me in the back of the van when at the various casinos at night, ALONE! My dad sometimes tagged along and also left me alone as well. When I turned 14 she abandoned us, which left just my dad to take care of us. I think the casino was his coping mechanism as he would often go to the casinos in the morning and stay there all day. I would have to wait 2 or more hours after school (both high school and college) before he would answer my calls and another hour to come pick me up. The same happens when I need to be picked up from work. I often had to take the public bus but they stop operations after 6-7pm... when he does manage to pick me up from my job or school, he would take me with him to the casino.... I hate the casino due to the cigarette smoke as I would have bad coughing fits and have passed out from them numerous times. He got anytime me or my little brother would confront him. BTW he would take my lil bro home when needed and leave him alone at home. My little brother is 6 years younger than me at that time.... I was 17/18.
My Dad always told me to not bet anything that you can’t afford to lose. Apparently these people didn’t have that guidance.
My dad use to leave my brother and I in the car while he went to bet on horses and drink with his buddies. He’d be gone for hours, we knew the rules. Don’t open the car for someone you don’t know and don’t look out the windows. 😂 years later when my mom found out she was pissed. Still is and it was over 20 years ago.
Omg I just paused to say the look in the eyes of the first girl... Broke my heart! You can see flashes of sadness pass by in her eyes whenever she recounts the horrible situations 💔
I lived in Vegas for 14 years. I sat near people saying we can win, they were using their rent or mortgage payments to gamble. I saw it on a regular basis! When I played I spent $20.00, on my visits. My favorite winning place was The Palms Casino. I usually left with at least $200.00 twice a week. This was when the casinos gave the locals money to play there two to three times a week. Most weeks, I would put in one dollar and use the $60.00 or $80.00, to play. Those were the great days, in the end, no more good perks, free buffets, swag, etc.
When I aged out of daycare (10yo) but still had nowhere to go after school my mom would pick me up, drive me to her office, and I'd spend the remaining FOUR HOURS in the car in the parking garage. Car not on, windows up, just locked in. ADHD and being a child was *not* on my side, and I got in big trouble any time I left the car or anyone knew I was there.
I live in Las Vegas and remember the casino daycare. You could leave your kids there for up to 8 hours (I think…long time ago) and go gamble your ass off. Sadly, kids started to go missing in the casinos and the daycares were shut down. Yeah…that really happened.🤦🏾♀️
That first mom was super resourceful.
The first one out here just telling on her mom😂
I worked with someone in a daycare, where later I heard they asked the other teacher if it would be okay if she gave the kids some meds to fall asleep faster for nap time. She basically asked if she could drug the kids and thankfully she didn't and I left after a year in that hell hole
I grew up in casinos 😂 my grandpa was a gambler, so was my dad but not as bad. My uncle was a black jack dealer and his wife was a hostess. So it would be me and my 4 siblings and 3-6 cousins depending on who was in town. They'd comp a bunch of rooms on the same floor, leave all us kids(a long with teens) to our own devices, and all the adults would be downstairs. We could go swim, go to the gym. Several times we got in trouble for playing elevator tag 😂 we ate at a lot of nice restaurants because of comps. It was in Tunica, MS and by the time I was 12 I'd stayed at every hotel there multiple times and I loved it lol. We'd take Oreos and playing cards with us and we'd sit in one of the rooms and gamble cookies 😂
There truly is a stigma about filing for bankruptcy. I was in a horrible situation financially as well due to health issues, even if I got a well paying job, there was no chance in paying off all my debt. Everybody told me that filing for bankruptcy is a bad thing. Then I talked to a friend about it and he was actually in the middle of the process of his filing. After two years of severe anxiety and struggle, I successfully filed for bankruptcy and I am doing MUCH better! All thanks to that one friend who actually supported me instead of feeding into this stigma
I relate to the first story, I had to call the bars all the time to try to find my alcoholic mom when I was a teenager. I was watching 2 younger siblings while she was out drinking every weekend.
How neglectful of your mom. I hope you're in a better place now. If not, ask for help.
@@amberforster3782 Oh, I'm 39 now! And for kids in this situation, sadly there is rarely anyone to ask for help.
I had to file for bankruptcy for medical bills insurance didn't pay for. I was catastrophically injured and was hospitalized for over a month. It was a very bitter pill to swallow because that 110mph (cumulative speed) head on was due to a distracted driver hitting me.
As someone who had a head on (not my fault), and thankfully wasn't injured as bad as you, I'm glad I'm in Australia. The ambulance cost me $0. The doctors cost me $0. I was reimbursed by the insurance company for specialist and rehab costs.
And yeah. I was born in the 70’s. NyQuil for naps, whiskey for upset stomachs. I’d also carry around grape Triaminic in my backpack. Imagine seeing a kid now just casually chugging cold medicine
My parents recently went out to a casino (keep in mind I'm an adult living w/ em so I was in charge for the night) and the next day I asked them how they went about it. They didn't find it the most thrilling thing in the world but it was fun. They set aside about 50 dollars each and went at it for a few hours, and my mom didn't make nor loose money, while my dad made 10 bucks that night. They mainly did it for the date night and I'm glad they had fun
I was passed around family members so that my parents could go to bingo....even on school nights, they'd pick me up after bingo which was always about 23.00ish....this happened up until I was about 12 and then they just left me at home on my own... I grew up pretty quickly 😂
I worked at BBB for a while. Can confirm the redundant restocking, and the bad music on a loop. I cannot confirm pillows getting lost off the back of trucks, but... I stayed out of the wearhouse.
0:20 I remember kids quest! My mom would travel to the area for work as a nurse. I don’t remember her or my father going to the casino, but I remember them letting be go to kids quest.
I really wish they taught basic financial planning and skills in high school to everyone. How credit cards actually work (eg, making the minimum payments means it takes 50+ years to pay off), how to budget for every day life and so on. This is a valuable skill to actually learn and know.
Agreed. We had some classes like that in high school in 10th grade ( i think..? sry i am from europe lol), i hated the teacher but she was teaching us actually useful and solid life skills...
Ok but why don't parents do this