Your Inner Compass
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
- Ann Weiser Cornell talks about how to have a reliable inner compass for your life through Focusing. She shares her own story of not listening to uneasy and anxious feelings about a relationship that was toxic for her... before she learned Focusing. She offers a powerful exercise for feel what it is like to follow your "inner sense of rightness."
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EXCELLENT introduction to Focusing, Ann! Thank you from one of your many devoted students who have been so blessed by your gracious, non-judgmental, open, accepting presence! :-)
Rebecca, I am feeling touched by your kind and generous words. Thank you!
Thank you Dr. Cornell! This was actually a very powerful process. I believe in an internal compass but did not feel it had been guiding me accurately. You said something about "Courageous choices" opening doors that made me realize some powerful truths about fear getting in the way. Thank you again!
Hi Tara, thanks so much for writing! My tip would be give a hug to the part of you that is afraid so it's not in your way but it's also not being abandoned. You are welcome!
Dear Ann, thank you for this little compact introduction. You are so generous and helpful. I am somewhat familiar with Focusing through a student of yours. I noticed the small step, but also realized that there is a voice inside me that is not satisfied with the small steps and would always have the WHOLE solution right away. I am glad that I was allowed to see this voice so clearly. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.
Michaela, it's really great that you were able to turn toward "something in you" that wants the whole solution right away. This will make a huge difference in your Focusing--well done!
Dear Dr Cornell,
Thank you for sharing your wisdom in this video. I seem to be naturally in touch with my inner-navigation. My challenge seems to be that I can also sense those around me. How does one learn to stay tuned-in with oneself when one is trained by the virtue of one’s childhood to sense and feel those around her.
Hi Charnita, great to get your comment! I am so with you there. Everything I learned in my childhood was how to feel other people in priority over sensing myself. It's great that you retained the ability to sense yourself despite growing up like that! I had to really work hard to get there. Your question was how you learn to stay tuned in with yourself. Exactly! That's what learning the Focusing process has given to me: I'm always able to sense how I am feeling, as long as I remember to pause and bring awareness to my body in the here and now. Hope you'll look into Focusing! focusingresources.com
for me now came 2 things st was you can make it easier and second you can truat your relationsship more that was relief and little bit of satisfaction and happiness
Thank you! I meed to learn how to use this process. Ive been living in his eay for far too long ..and in not young anymore...... I have subscribed and im hopeful! 💜
Hi Deborah - This process works at any age! It's easy and powerful. Do let me know how it goes.
Hi Ann,
As a “close process” person, or maybe just as a trauma survivor, I have all too often found myself completely overwhelmed when alone and trying to “feel into” the chest, etc. , although I have no problem with this when I have a Listener. I have had to go in the opposite direction, and learn to keep my attention mostly on my hands and feet, or on holding myself, in order to maintain a sense of Self. One of the things that has helped me is the practice of “pendulating” in trauma work. If I just touch into the feelings, and then go back to my limbs, I can avoid what seems like an almost instinctual urge to jump out of my body altogether. (By the way, I had a very bad reaction to EMDR, which sent me into a tailspin.) I think some of us need more than a couple of minutes of feeling the support of a chair, or imagining a safe place, before we can cope with the intensity of what we feel in our chests. Especially if there are no Listeners in our lives. And, as now, no hugs, either.
Love and gratitude,
Lisa
(Ann here): Absolutely right, Lisa! And part of the brilliance of this individually tailored process is that each person learns to sense what they need from a whole array of processes we teach in our courses...
for me came guilt having missed something i should have done was about a relationship which i not wanred and so refused and the person now seeks another person thats how
i feel not good enough to fight for
Great information 👍
Thank you. Right timing for me. Feeling i can sense. It is the listening and trusting "answers". Is there a way to test the outcome? Before getting on the pad that you sense for example before changing career.
Hi Shirley, thank you for commenting! You're right! If you're doing something big like changing a career, you want to take a baby step... like talking to someone in the new field... and then pausing to sense again how that feels. Step by step!
FocusingResources thank you. That is helpful.
Hi this is Ann... yes I agree it's a good idea to test the answer! And that would be by taking a little step and then sensing again. Like going to visit the college before you sign up for it.
Thanks Ann. But what if you know you have "hangups" which distort your gut feelings and which may lead you in directions which just keep you stuck in those "hangups"? Does that mean you need to "do more work on yourself" before you can trust your inner compass?
Hi Andy, this is Ann. Yes! I've spent 25 years with my partner Barbara McGavin, working on this question. We call them Tangles... and you might want to have a look at some of our videos on Untangling which can be found on this channel. Basically you do need to do some Untangling before you can trust gut feelings, at least those feelings that are in the life area that is Tangled.
Much appreciated Ann.