Love Me For Who I Am: "Elle" Morris v Jash Gill - Season 26 Episode 34

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  • @roadrunnerbeep5919
    @roadrunnerbeep5919 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +103

    All controversy aside, NEVER beg anyone to love you. IT. NEVER. WORKS!!

  • @Hannahrk9
    @Hannahrk9 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +205

    Anyone else miss the old divorce court

    • @ronnimartin7033
      @ronnimartin7033 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      🙋🏽‍♀️

    • @leopardmoorer
      @leopardmoorer 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      I do. But I miss Robert a lot. The lie detector test is a good idea.

    • @wendyhavner
      @wendyhavner 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      Yes I miss star and Robert

    • @simply_Tani
      @simply_Tani 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

      I miss Judge Lynn Toler.

    • @timrimmer3789
      @timrimmer3789 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      No!!!+..

  • @Edward_Strong1982
    @Edward_Strong1982 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +86

    one comment I will make as a gay man, people that transition can be very selfish. The whole "I'm
    the same person" stuff is NOT how everyone views things. It's almost if they try to guilt you into staying with them. People can choice who they want to be with. I've had trans women online get upset but I was not interested in them. Like why are you mad? Find someone that is and leave me alone.
    If I get with a man, but he transitions into a woman I'm out. If I wanted to be with woman I most definitely could be but that's not what I'm attracted to. I didn't sign up for that. You can't force an attraction that isn't there 🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @terrytownsend4349
      @terrytownsend4349 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Exactly!

    • @matthewhartman7176
      @matthewhartman7176 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Stop. What you're spreading right now is harmful. It's not THE truth. It's just one nugget of truth in a big old bucket of truths.
      After this election, the trans community needs support more than ever. And if you think they won't come after the gay community next, you do not understand whats coming down the pike.
      Be part of the solution. Stop giving haters more unessesary ammo.

    • @JudeGliz
      @JudeGliz 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      💯💯💯

    • @denisebernardez1598
      @denisebernardez1598 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      I totally agree with you but not everybody that transition into a woman is selfish but don't get me wrong I respect you opinion and I'm saying it because I'm a trans woman myself when I started transitioning I was not selfish at all

  • @EllyzGoodwill
    @EllyzGoodwill 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +204

    Challenges in relationships are natural, but a path forward always exists. My marriage faced serious challenges, but with the right support, my wife and I resolved our issues and reinforced our bond. Solutions are within reach if you’re committed to the effort and working together. Don’t lose hope-answers are possible.

    • @SERIKAmrabat
      @SERIKAmrabat 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My relationship is going through major troubles, and losing her is unbearable for me. I love and miss my partner more than words can express and am ready to do whatever it takes to have her return. Any suggestions or guidance would be greatly appreciated.

    • @EllyzGoodwill
      @EllyzGoodwill 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @SERIKAmrabat
      @SERIKAmrabat 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I'm thankful for this guidance. I'll immediately search for her online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring about positive changes for me; I miss her deeply.

    • @EllyzGoodwill
      @EllyzGoodwill 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You should... I promise you will not regret it

  • @leeleegrace9015
    @leeleegrace9015 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +65

    There is a high level of delusion and desperation here. This relationship is not going to work at all

  • @thedesignresults
    @thedesignresults 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +44

    They moved way too fast...I feel bad for both of them

  • @Leahkeys9
    @Leahkeys9 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

    i'm sorry but ripping the wig off at the last moment took me out🤭

    • @nanaanan4731
      @nanaanan4731 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Still a queen. 😂

    • @JudeGliz
      @JudeGliz 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I literally could not stop laughing 😆

  • @tasbar7743
    @tasbar7743 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +23

    Always be true to yourself. Don't fake it just to be loved.

  • @Hazelsparks-u7y
    @Hazelsparks-u7y วันที่ผ่านมา +30

    Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

    • @GorgeTracy-d3v
      @GorgeTracy-d3v วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

    • @Hazelsparks-u7y
      @Hazelsparks-u7y วันที่ผ่านมา

      Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

    • @GorgeTracy-d3v
      @GorgeTracy-d3v วันที่ผ่านมา

      His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @GorgeTracy-d3v
      @GorgeTracy-d3v วันที่ผ่านมา

      he is Father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @Hazelsparks-u7y
      @Hazelsparks-u7y วันที่ผ่านมา

      I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

  • @patrickmiller1834
    @patrickmiller1834 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +30

    I did not expect the plaintiff voice to be as such.

    • @latoshamajors5085
      @latoshamajors5085 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I did.

    • @melriquajackson8480
      @melriquajackson8480 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@latoshamajors5085right like 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @latoshamajors5085
      @latoshamajors5085 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@melriquajackson8480 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @alexfarhat9295
    @alexfarhat9295 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    anyone else notice the guy behind her that keep looking at the lady next to him like “wtf” 🤧🤧🤧

    • @matthewhartman7176
      @matthewhartman7176 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You know these people are paid actors, right?

    • @alexfarhat9295
      @alexfarhat9295 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ nope u are the first person to ever tell me that! thanks!

    • @daeyanimckneely1426
      @daeyanimckneely1426 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Lmao I was waiting for someone to say something. Made me laugh so hard😂😭

  • @God-Love-Freedom
    @God-Love-Freedom 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +59

    Wearing makeup and upspeaking the last word of sentences doesn’t make someone a woman.

    • @matthewhartman7176
      @matthewhartman7176 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      I think everyone's entitled to define what they are for themselves.
      It's not that hard of a concept, really.

    • @JadeJoestar
      @JadeJoestar 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Why be so rude?

    • @God-Love-Freedom
      @God-Love-Freedom 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @@matthewhartman7176
      And I’m entitled to tell the truth about factually what is and what isn’t.

    • @kerrie2116
      @kerrie2116 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Biologically he knows he RegardkThat will never change.In his head he wants to be a woman. So he is Transitioning into a woman .Until that phase is complete he will not be a transformation. He knows it's that that is why he is willing to stand in his man ness for the man he loves and cross dress as a woman. Judge Star should leave him alone and let him be what he wants. She is just mad because this man is confirming what some people have been saying . This is also a reason not to allow children to use hormone blockers or transition until they are of age. I am done with Judge Star.

    • @God-Love-Freedom
      @God-Love-Freedom 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@kerrie2116
      Upside down. Backwards. Dysfunction. The author of confusion.

  • @nanaanan4731
    @nanaanan4731 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    I think it’s selfish to try to guilt or shame someone into being in a relationship with you, when you’ve changed so drastically. You have to own your choices. Other people have feelings too. Respect their choices. Choices have consequences, and everybody deserves to be in a committed romantic relationship with someone they desire and are attracted. That outfit though. 😂 It doesn’t say “that’s my boo.” It says “IDGAF” in a wig. IMO

  • @shawnda8317
    @shawnda8317 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I'm transitioning to be a pigeon. GO ME! 🤣

  • @darristhomas5602
    @darristhomas5602 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    They became a couple too quickly and got engaged too quickly.

  • @TwiceSmittenOnceShy
    @TwiceSmittenOnceShy 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    5mins in and the issues are already abundantly clear..
    1) They moved too quickly
    2) Gay bro is a Cisgendered gay man who’s attracted to other Cisgendered gay men.
    None of the details matter, the relationship was over before it even began.

  • @oliteabancroft2109
    @oliteabancroft2109 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +28

    Truly a woman? What the hell?

  • @JMoKnow
    @JMoKnow 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Elle!!!!!! Oh, Elle. I've seen you on TV before, but won't say which show. Seeing you then and now tells me that you're trying to make it. You're trying to find your footing and find yourself. I don't know your other struggles. But with having to be an escort, I can only imagine(unless it's something you enjoy). I don't think you're a bad person. Nor do I think Jash is a bad person for wanting what he wants. I'm sensing a lot of worry on your end, and I'm hoping that Jash can be a friend to you and help you back on your feet. I really wish I was a house mother and had a house to help people like you. If you can keep your heart pure, I'm sure there are good things that'll come your way. If it's the TV/reality TV show thing, then do it! Bad boys club, RuPaul's Drag Race, etc. Either way, there is something out there for you. Just please, don't change yourself for the sake of being with someone. Love yourself. You deserve someone to love you for you as much as Jash deserves to be with whoever makes him happy. I truly hope the best for both of you. ❤

  • @ElaineLoyd
    @ElaineLoyd 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    I'm like why that outfit making your shoulder look so big ma'am. Then I'm like ooohhhh.....😮😮😮

  • @JudeGliz
    @JudeGliz 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    At the end when they was talking in that hallway i couldn’t contain myself from lmao, So dramatic 😅

  • @shaunferguson83
    @shaunferguson83 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    That walk down the hall broke my heart

  • @the_calculatorx7501
    @the_calculatorx7501 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    No matter what anyone says or thinks about you, you should always choose to be yourself. No one can love you if you can’t truly love yourself.

  • @sonyahall5080
    @sonyahall5080 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    The bigger issue is Lars/Elle does not love herself…

  • @ShanetteLewis
    @ShanetteLewis 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    this is sad on so many levels….

  • @BreeLvee
    @BreeLvee 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Sorry But The Ending Was A Bit Dramatic With The Wig Tossing😂

  • @chachabotchway9329
    @chachabotchway9329 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    this was hard to watch

  • @ayefo7800
    @ayefo7800 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Thank you Judge Star for speaking up about the trans community 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @mswfamu
    @mswfamu 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I really miss the first season of Judge Star. This feels so odd.. the set, the bailiff, the whole thing is just off!😢

  • @kiwanajones642
    @kiwanajones642 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Let us pray 😵‍💫

  • @minae9935
    @minae9935 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    He can either want the defendant to go along with his delusions and call him a woman which means that they can’t be together because the defendant is gay or he can live in reality and just be a feminine presenting gay man. Maybe then he and the defendant can try to salvage the relationship.

  • @ultimatelym
    @ultimatelym 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This is being in your 20s. You think the sky will literally fall if you walk away from what you think is "love". Eesh! This was hard to watch. Judge was right on all advice.

  • @JazzyJeffRealTalk
    @JazzyJeffRealTalk 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    He’s not real a transgendered woman if he willing to flip back on a dime over a relationship. The other dude needs to just leave and just find a gay man

  • @killerhit00
    @killerhit00 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    What in the world am I watching???? NO!!!

  • @robbbietheim2096
    @robbbietheim2096 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

    I CAN'T DO THIS= SMH 😁💯

  • @MsBizzyRae
    @MsBizzyRae 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I think they should be able to annul a marriage. The plaintiff said that she has always wanted to be a woman but got married as a gay man and expected her partner to just “deal with it” basically.

  • @jasonling1628
    @jasonling1628 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I totally agree what judge star. Work hard individually for a while. Now is not the time. What makes me more sad is she still doesn't understand what the issue is.

  • @jarnettamcabee9632
    @jarnettamcabee9632 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I CAN'T

  • @brandymoore8101
    @brandymoore8101 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I feel so sorry for him. Transgender people have such a hard time being accepted and finding love

  • @Roxiedolly2016
    @Roxiedolly2016 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The ending seemed so fake.

  • @CleanSheet1191987
    @CleanSheet1191987 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Respectfully, this is just another case of proof that some “trans” people should not make the transition if they’re not even emotionally secure within their own selves. This is literally a case where she is playing dress-ups and is so insecure, desperate and obsessed with the partner, that she’s more worried about trying to please and exploit someone for her own gain, rather than living according to who she thinks she is.

  • @MillicentLangley
    @MillicentLangley 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Run man Run

  • @erickajames77
    @erickajames77 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    What in the Danny Devito and Arnold Schwarzenegger is going on here?!?!?

  • @patrickmiller1834
    @patrickmiller1834 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This is a new level of divorce court. I hope physical violence doesn’t occur

  • @KB-rb3vl
    @KB-rb3vl 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    The ending with the crying, big axx shoulders, and wig snatching was comical and ridiculous....its giving a character on a cartoon.

    • @erickajames77
      @erickajames77 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @Draco-Darkmoon
      @Draco-Darkmoon 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I know like what the wig do?

    • @KB-rb3vl
      @KB-rb3vl 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Draco-Darkmoon RIGHTTTT

  • @serenalampkin8241
    @serenalampkin8241 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    He’s 25 and he won’t be able to live a fake life for long! 😳

  • @GentlemensDialogue
    @GentlemensDialogue 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I'm doing this today! 😤

  • @christaarmstead1989
    @christaarmstead1989 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I think if you have feelings of being someone else you should tell that from the beginning period not think someone should accept you and they didn't have a clue this who you was all along please people be open and honest about who you are who you want to be. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF NOT FAIR FOR OTHERS

  • @leopardmoorer
    @leopardmoorer 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Elle quit lying and being overprotective.

  • @2400md
    @2400md 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Agreed this is over- How about the division of the asset (the house)?

  • @erg844
    @erg844 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This episode is something I won't put up with as a gay man. If you don't respect yourself no one else will. I like men and men only but I won't tolerate a selfish gay man who wants to be a woman and expect me to accept it. I cannot be with someone who doesn't love themselves.

  • @latoshamajors5085
    @latoshamajors5085 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Big L is playing dress up and is very confused about what it wants to be. Dude, get yourself together. What's love got to do with it? Love yourself, your true self. FIRST!

  • @ThomasGeathers-m4m
    @ThomasGeathers-m4m 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Mama big love

    • @ThomasGeathers-m4m
      @ThomasGeathers-m4m 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Alright, how was your day? Mom's gonna be a good day in kuwai'm cool. I'm gonna make you upset and then I feel like they start raiding around me. I know I still gotta go to court but I feel like they didn't. They could do in Georgetown I really fault if that's what it is. I love you. I'm blessed night.

  • @cynthiathomas1476
    @cynthiathomas1476 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Sounds like he needs counseling, cause anytime you compromising your self worth for anybody, thats a problem.
    Youll just be whatever "they" want you to be, needs help.

  • @highlander666
    @highlander666 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    They really jumped the gun buying a home before even getting engaged. If Elle can't be herself in this relationship, there's no way its going to last; they'll be miserable

  • @terrenawoodman7826
    @terrenawoodman7826 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Who was the best judge?

    • @carmelitaromero-doc
      @carmelitaromero-doc 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      toler!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @Otto8845
      @Otto8845 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Judge Mablean Ephriam, Judge Lynn Toler, Judge Faith Jenkins & Judge Star Jones are ALL the BEST "Divorce Court" judges.

  • @akindabili4449
    @akindabili4449 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I like the verdict

  • @MAKINGULAUGH27
    @MAKINGULAUGH27 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    “I like men “
    well he is one dressed like a girl .. well ok
    Star jones stop it being true to self is also reality men are men women are women 💯💯💯prayers to all ❤️💯

    • @sherrayreed5812
      @sherrayreed5812 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Amen! You're absolutely right.

    • @minae9935
      @minae9935 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@MAKINGULAUGH27 i’m pretty sure she knows this lol she just doesn’t want to get canceled. You know, nowadays, if you don’t go along with their delusions, they want to call you all sorts of bigots and phobes smh

  • @mayasilliman1465
    @mayasilliman1465 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    DNA says different! So do the original "organs."

  • @BossThoughts100
    @BossThoughts100 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    She did say she. Moves fast

  • @_sheisEthiopian
    @_sheisEthiopian 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Aint this the dude one that was on Dr.phill? Saying he doesn't like his family because they are irrelevant & they dont have much followers ?

    • @wendyhavner
      @wendyhavner 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      What episode was that?

    • @_sheisEthiopian
      @_sheisEthiopian 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @wendyhavner not sure which episode,but if you do search on YT, it will come up.

    • @CleanSheet1191987
      @CleanSheet1191987 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I just saw clips of that episode and I think you could be right. Was an episode from 5 years ago, with dude named Lars who was 20 years old then.

  • @proteusxl9814
    @proteusxl9814 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Craziness 😮

  • @KaRonda.Littlejohn
    @KaRonda.Littlejohn 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    1:00 Mrs. 😂😂 mmmmm ok

    • @alyssamorgan4846
      @alyssamorgan4846 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      The way I hollered😭😭

    • @vanessasantana93
      @vanessasantana93 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I literally missed that part and didn’t even see the name elle😂 I saw your comment clicked on the timestamp and bout lost it bc the body structure already threw me off but soon as I heard that that voice my mouth dropped. And that wig ain’t tf it 😂

  • @davedabuckman1237
    @davedabuckman1237 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Dang that's sad

  • @AnnMarieWalford
    @AnnMarieWalford วันที่ผ่านมา

    Father God where u at

  • @gb5262
    @gb5262 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    This aired October 24, 2024

  • @chilloutpaul
    @chilloutpaul 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hey tuna

    • @LARZBOY
      @LARZBOY 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      burger

  • @rashidadotson1100
    @rashidadotson1100 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    A week?!

  • @jimmythomas9657
    @jimmythomas9657 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is an old episode I seen this before

  • @shelliehuerta9392
    @shelliehuerta9392 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I swear this guy has been on almost every reality show. Dr Phil he was so annoying and raci$$t 🙄

  • @seetabocage6939
    @seetabocage6939 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lars have mercy!

  • @lynellesiler1872
    @lynellesiler1872 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hi💙💜

  • @kevinh.369
    @kevinh.369 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Mental Confusion

  • @alexfarhat9295
    @alexfarhat9295 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    how shitty of the boyfriend to say that he’d take her back if she was a man!!!! let that woman be who she is. if you really love someone you’d let them love themselves.

    • @CleanSheet1191987
      @CleanSheet1191987 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      On the same token; if you were someone else when getting into the relationship and decide to change who you are, then you should be willing to let the person go for no longer being attracted to you instead of trying to emotionally manipulate the person into staying for conditions they didn’t originally sign up for.

  • @tonyamcmillan4257
    @tonyamcmillan4257 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This one was very drainful

  • @TruckerGrl69
    @TruckerGrl69 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    They switch back and forth everyday star what are you talking about???

  • @Meme-q4p5s
    @Meme-q4p5s 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have suffered 😢

  • @Leo_Guy4life
    @Leo_Guy4life 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I'm 😲

  • @yodakimble6103
    @yodakimble6103 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    🤮🤢

  • @MillicentLangley
    @MillicentLangley 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hes such a cry baby

  • @thayungprince2
    @thayungprince2 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wtfeezy!?!

  • @chilloutpaul
    @chilloutpaul 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    JESUS IS MY SAVIOR ❤

  • @carlyy8284
    @carlyy8284 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is why Judge Lynn left... calling him a woman is wild. Another thing you're too desperate, he doesnt want you.

    • @minkki5656
      @minkki5656 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You do understand that even though he's not a woman physically, if he's Trans, and out of respect she had to address him as a woman. We might not agree, but this is called being ethical and respectful. Judge Toler would have done the same thing, and that's not the reason she left. Judge Star did great on this case. I just don't get why you and other people continue to complain. Toler isn't coming back at all.

  • @jamalrashard9091
    @jamalrashard9091 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    My eyes!!!

  • @KB-rb3vl
    @KB-rb3vl 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    That's a big woman