I relate to this very much. My consultation is month away. You easing my mind, and I’m able to go through with it having no regrets. We on the same page and it’s good coming across this video.
💯 we in this together bro! don’t let them sway your opinion you have it in your mind & you’re willing to handle it maturely and respectfully. anything is better than being a deadbeat/irresponsible parent! mine is next month as well.
I feel u. Coming from a guy with 2 kids. The stress can be real. Cause u really living for them and yourselves. So the decisions u make impact them. I've seen dudes have kids and then neglect them and I've seen kids and wives stress the father out to the break of destruction. It's tiring. Trust your judgement. If it's best for u It's best for u. I've learned to trust my judgement more and I'm 31. Got a lady and everything and she refuses to work now. So all that responsibility falls on me and it annoys me. Kids are an investment. And to help them grow it's a hefty financial commitment plus personal commitment. The growth u experience as a man is dope, amd too watch them learn and grow and see them smiling, learning and laughing is important. But who u have kids with effects u more than expected. My kid has sickle cell cause wife's dad had it. Plus son has asthma. But daughter is good. Plus the habits that get passed down from both parents are important to pay attention to. Cause as u make morecmoney at lot of times we have less time with the family. So if your partner doesn't practice good habits that rubs off on kids. Going through that now too. So getting the money together is super important
wow now that’s wisdom at its finest. very straight up answer thank you for sharing the troubles in your life & understanding and respecting other’s view on life itself. i hope everything works out for you man you made a lot of valid points. i’m sure you are a hell of a father that’s willing to do whatever it takes to see your children glow. i pray that your kids find the good path that’ll set them straight for life and sickle cell doesn’t get too bad. as for me i made a decision and i’m sticking with it everybody’s situation is different. once again i thank you hope you & your partner improve not for the 2 of you but also the children.
The only reason why I wouldn't want to have kids is because I don't want no one having control over my life. I went through it for the past 6 yrs dealing with child support and family court. Dealing with ungrateful baby mothers. I have 2 children now and my girl friend today wants to have a child and after dealing with child support it made me not to ever want to have a child again. Letting a women have rights to your freedom I can't deal with this again. So yeah I understand you. To be honest I wish I never had kids I'm just a ATM. I love them and have no relationship with them it's like I have no kids but have the responsibility of a father.
thank you for telling your side. it all depends WHO you have a kid with. i know that sounds redundant but it’s the truth. i never want to be like that. i appreciate the honesty i hope everything works out bro. i just think it’s too risky it’s all about business and not the kids that’s hurting.
I got a vasectomy bro in 2021 December 9th. Best decision. Little secret from men who have had a vasectomy. Never tell a girl, that you have had a vasectomy. If she ends up pregnant, she's playing away.
💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 may i ask how old are you? this is pretty inspirational a different approach. that’s dope bro. was it painful? & i agree unless she is your wife you keep it to yourself to see if everything is all good.
@@FreshhCutz im 36 bro. Was in & out in 30 minutes. Took around 2+ weeks to fully heal. I'm back to normal now. Scars where the urologist made the incisions are gone now. Been getting freaky wit the wife she not pregnant. So it was successful.
@@MrJamiez thanks for responding that’s 🔥🔥 congrats on getting the kick glad it was successful, how much you pay out of pocket? they still didn’t tell me yet
☀️🍉🖤My cousin did it at 21 years of age. He said he knew he didn't want children, however, when he introduced his friend Rosalie to us, he said,"Rosalie says she is having my baby." My grandmother and I looked at each other and smiled stifling our laugh. He eventually told her about his vasectomy, and he loves HIS son Solario to this day. Rosalie and him haven't been together in years, but he loves being a father to him. Your feelings could change, give it time and glove up. Lots of people desire to be child free. It's a personal choice! Oh, I forgot, a vasectomy is reversible if one changes their mind.
absolutely you do have very solid points thanks for sharing that example. not everybody is willing to take that route yes ppl change over the yrs most of us do. but when you have a baby & don’t stop up as a parent you’re looked down upon. but somebody who is willing to pay their way to not be in that situation responsibly it’s an uproar & the audience boos. not saying i would abandon a child bc that’s not what i’m about. but if i can put a stop before i crash the car than i’m all for it. tired of these no good parents circling around im just open to admit it.
You can get it reversed. Can cost like 10-15 grand though. The longer you’ve had vasectomy the harder it is to conceive after you’ve had it reversed. Just make sure fellas.
@@jamesgreer8938 ☀️🍉🖤Wow. I didn't know the reversal procedure cost that much. My cousin never got his reversed. He was ok with not biologically fathering children.
I used to feel the same way before COVID, and then the pandemic happened and I realized how important family is. I would've felt a lot more depressed mentally if it weren't for them. I feel like people who say that kids are a big responsibility are trippin too, because people have pet dogs and I feel like that's a lot more work and that they're a bit of a nuisance and you never hear people complain about that. These non traditional lifestyles are not for POCs, this is for them bro. Life is short mayne, risk it all and live it up, stop playing is so safe, but don't be impulsive either. It's all about balance, think about it ⚖️. I used to say the things you used to say word for word, I'm a deep thinker too. And another thing about kids, when they're like babies, you just feel at peace as a man because of their innocence and their aura of them just living the moment, it's a feeling that money can't really fulfill.
see this comment makes a lot of sense. totally relatable. family is indeed important bro i’m glad you seen the other side of it pets are a pain in the ass too lol. grew up with dogs all my life they have problems just like us. def about balance you have a lot of solid points. thanks for this comment bro not too preachy straight to the points, good ones. peace.
thanks bro! just a quick thought bc ppl get really sensitive on this topic & i thought why not bring it here to talk about. def follow your heart everybody’s life is different.
@@FreshhCutz severe life changing pain is 1/50 Chronic mild discomfort is as high as 15% on latest meta analysis. It just isn’t mentioned . There also isn’t any cure. Other things that will happen post vasectomy almost always are : Sperm granulomas . You develop hard pea like balls that are sperm granuloma. These don’t go away. They can get cut out but will reappear elsewhere . It’s the excess sperm collecting together. The epididymis can rupture due to back pressure and they can develop right on the testicle , which are usually the more painful kind. Generally not painful but they feel gross. Can be painful sometimes though. You develop larger swollen veins all over the scrotum. They don’t hurt but they look gross. Likely due to the chronic inflammation vasectomy causes but could be caused by lymph or vascular damage. To remove sperm your body attacks and breakdown all the excess sperm. It does so with your immune system. Creates anti-sperm antibodies and it removes sperm with chronic inflammation. Last thing is 100 %. Your testicles sit significantly lower. They no longer have the left vs right height separation. So you will constantly squash and crush them . Either against each other or seats etc. Also a risk of hydrocele formation. These are chronic cysts that develop due to damage to vascular and lymph structures
@@FreshhCutz just look up PVPS forum. If that dosent put your off then go right ahead. Like I said . There is nothing , not a thing in my life of 45 yrs I regret more than vasectomy.
Everybody is entitled to their opinion and I respect yours. You honestly seem like a dude with a good head on his shoulders. But I would say don't get a vasectomy. Instead if you don't want kids then mess with the family jeweles. The funny thing about love is that it comes when you least expect it. Your still young and you never know what tomorrow will bring. If Philly has gotten crazy then maybe it time for a change of scenery. But at the end of the day the final decision is up to you. When my son was born the doctor handed him over to me with no owners manual and I was scared. Three kids later I wouldn't change a thing and they bring so much joy to my life. God bless!
🙏🏾 amen brother i’m excited for you thank you for being a parent. i def feel where you’re coming from and you made a lot of valid points. the thing about me is i only care about myself. it always been that way. i’m sure when you had a kid you wasn’t selfish (or maybe i’m wrong lol) but i never learned the meaning of sharing & caring that’s just not apart of my lifestyle. i never had to all the toys were mine my games were mine & my time is all mine. that’s when you have to make a change & i chose this step. very good point on philly i meant to clarify that in the video.
lol, i watch a couple of your moose knuckles videos and this video randomly popped up on my feed. i couldn't agree with you more. that's why there are so many shitty parents out there, cause they don't really want to have kids in the first place. but society brainwashes them into thinking that they should.
lol appreciate you supporting the channel! & i absolutely agree with you it’s toxic thinking that everybody should be a parent when clearly too many ppl didn’t sign up to be one & refuse to be one.
A lot of people don’t talk about this you even got Star from Star & Bucwild he said that he don’t want no life suckers he’s 57 years old, and basically life is all about him lol,he won’t deal with women with kids unless they 14 years old😂
Very interesting 🤔 , personally I think you should wait your are way to young for such a permanent decision. My mind set in my 20s and now 30s is vastly different. I think wait 10years and see if you still feel the same way
@@mjbelle23 i agree with you and i see the angle you’re using. but what if you never changed your mind? ppl also said if i didn’t go to prom i’ll regret it. 10 yrs later i’m still glad i didn’t go to prom. yes two totally different things but again what if you never changed your mind? i don’t want to deal with repercussions from “accidents” or maybe being so in love with a monster & i was too blind to see it & now it’s too late. or better yet what if i’m the monster? no intentions of being one but i made the decision i’m not capable so i will remove myself from the table. but i love your way of thinking.
@@FreshhCutz I get the comparison but like you said 10years later you didn’t regret going to prom … you would know that if you didn’t have the 10years to grow into that thought process, hence why you used that analogy now it was an imprint of major choice and life change.
@@mjbelle23 i get it. but sometimes some things just has to be left alone. i’m def a big believer of be careful what you wish for but at the same time my nightmare was bringing another human being in this world. when i was close to it i couldn’t sleep lol yes that was my fault but at least i’m taking responsibility
I feel you bro. I have a child and I love him to death but I would’ve waited till my 30s if I could go back. It’s your life but I feel like you might as well keep your seed since you gotta wear condoms anyways. A vasectomy makes it impossible to have kids but it doesn’t protect you from stds
absolutely. it’s not about having unprotected sex even tho that’s one of the good benefits but being greedy/stingy could backfire so condom is still important. i feel you on the child thing bro hope all is well with your family. thanks for reaching out giving a different approach. i’m def listening.
I relate to this very much. My consultation is month away. You easing my mind, and I’m able to go through with it having no regrets. We on the same page and it’s good coming across this video.
💯 we in this together bro! don’t let them sway your opinion you have it in your mind & you’re willing to handle it maturely and respectfully. anything is better than being a deadbeat/irresponsible parent! mine is next month as well.
I feel u. Coming from a guy with 2 kids. The stress can be real. Cause u really living for them and yourselves. So the decisions u make impact them. I've seen dudes have kids and then neglect them and I've seen kids and wives stress the father out to the break of destruction. It's tiring. Trust your judgement. If it's best for u It's best for u. I've learned to trust my judgement more and I'm 31. Got a lady and everything and she refuses to work now. So all that responsibility falls on me and it annoys me. Kids are an investment. And to help them grow it's a hefty financial commitment plus personal commitment. The growth u experience as a man is dope, amd too watch them learn and grow and see them smiling, learning and laughing is important. But who u have kids with effects u more than expected. My kid has sickle cell cause wife's dad had it. Plus son has asthma. But daughter is good. Plus the habits that get passed down from both parents are important to pay attention to. Cause as u make morecmoney at lot of times we have less time with the family. So if your partner doesn't practice good habits that rubs off on kids. Going through that now too. So getting the money together is super important
wow now that’s wisdom at its finest. very straight up answer thank you for sharing the troubles in your life & understanding and respecting other’s view on life itself. i hope everything works out for you man you made a lot of valid points. i’m sure you are a hell of a father that’s willing to do whatever it takes to see your children glow. i pray that your kids find the good path that’ll set them straight for life and sickle cell doesn’t get too bad. as for me i made a decision and i’m sticking with it everybody’s situation is different. once again i thank you hope you & your partner improve not for the 2 of you but also the children.
The only reason why I wouldn't want to have kids is because I don't want no one having control over my life. I went through it for the past 6 yrs dealing with child support and family court. Dealing with ungrateful baby mothers. I have 2 children now and my girl friend today wants to have a child and after dealing with child support it made me not to ever want to have a child again. Letting a women have rights to your freedom I can't deal with this again. So yeah I understand you. To be honest I wish I never had kids I'm just a ATM. I love them and have no relationship with them it's like I have no kids but have the responsibility of a father.
thank you for telling your side. it all depends WHO you have a kid with. i know that sounds redundant but it’s the truth. i never want to be like that. i appreciate the honesty i hope everything works out bro. i just think it’s too risky it’s all about business and not the kids that’s hurting.
I got a vasectomy bro in 2021 December 9th. Best decision. Little secret from men who have had a vasectomy. Never tell a girl, that you have had a vasectomy. If she ends up pregnant, she's playing away.
💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 may i ask how old are you? this is pretty inspirational a different approach. that’s dope bro. was it painful? & i agree unless she is your wife you keep it to yourself to see if everything is all good.
@@FreshhCutz im 36 bro. Was in & out in 30 minutes. Took around 2+ weeks to fully heal. I'm back to normal now. Scars where the urologist made the incisions are gone now. Been getting freaky wit the wife she not pregnant. So it was successful.
@@MrJamiez thanks for responding that’s 🔥🔥 congrats on getting the kick glad it was successful, how much you pay out of pocket? they still didn’t tell me yet
☀️🍉🖤My cousin did it at 21 years of age. He said he knew he didn't want children, however, when he introduced his friend Rosalie to us, he said,"Rosalie says she is having my baby." My grandmother and I looked at each other and smiled stifling our laugh. He eventually told her about his vasectomy, and he loves HIS son Solario to this day. Rosalie and him haven't been together in years, but he loves being a father to him. Your feelings could change, give it time and glove up. Lots of people desire to be child free. It's a personal choice! Oh, I forgot, a vasectomy is reversible if one changes their mind.
absolutely you do have very solid points thanks for sharing that example. not everybody is willing to take that route yes ppl change over the yrs most of us do. but when you have a baby & don’t stop up as a parent you’re looked down upon. but somebody who is willing to pay their way to not be in that situation responsibly it’s an uproar & the audience boos. not saying i would abandon a child bc that’s not what i’m about. but if i can put a stop before i crash the car than i’m all for it. tired of these no good parents circling around im just open to admit it.
You can get it reversed. Can cost like 10-15 grand though. The longer you’ve had vasectomy the harder it is to conceive after you’ve had it reversed. Just make sure fellas.
@@jamesgreer8938 ☀️🍉🖤Wow. I didn't know the reversal procedure cost that much. My cousin never got his reversed. He was ok with not biologically fathering children.
I used to feel the same way before COVID, and then the pandemic happened and I realized how important family is. I would've felt a lot more depressed mentally if it weren't for them. I feel like people who say that kids are a big responsibility are trippin too, because people have pet dogs and I feel like that's a lot more work and that they're a bit of a nuisance and you never hear people complain about that. These non traditional lifestyles are not for POCs, this is for them bro. Life is short mayne, risk it all and live it up, stop playing is so safe, but don't be impulsive either. It's all about balance, think about it ⚖️. I used to say the things you used to say word for word, I'm a deep thinker too. And another thing about kids, when they're like babies, you just feel at peace as a man because of their innocence and their aura of them just living the moment, it's a feeling that money can't really fulfill.
see this comment makes a lot of sense. totally relatable. family is indeed important bro i’m glad you seen the other side of it pets are a pain in the ass too lol. grew up with dogs all my life they have problems just like us. def about balance you have a lot of solid points. thanks for this comment bro not too preachy straight to the points, good ones. peace.
@@FreshhCutz Thanks bro, appreciate it.
tbh this is really thought provoking, while I don't think I'll get a vasectomy your take does make me think twice. Good luck bro!
thanks bro! just a quick thought bc ppl get really sensitive on this topic & i thought why not bring it here to talk about. def follow your heart everybody’s life is different.
Mine left me with life long pain and sexual distinction.
Nothing I regret more .
My advice is do not have one!
@@leighbyford635 everybody is different i guess. but that’s a good twist i’ll keep in mind.
@@FreshhCutz severe life changing pain is 1/50
Chronic mild discomfort is as high as 15% on latest meta analysis.
It just isn’t mentioned .
There also isn’t any cure.
Other things that will happen post vasectomy almost always are :
Sperm granulomas . You develop hard pea like balls that are sperm granuloma. These don’t go away. They can get cut out but will reappear elsewhere . It’s the excess sperm collecting together.
The epididymis can rupture due to back pressure and they can develop right on the testicle , which are usually the more painful kind.
Generally not painful but they feel gross. Can be painful sometimes though.
You develop larger swollen veins all over the scrotum. They don’t hurt but they look gross.
Likely due to the chronic inflammation vasectomy causes but could be caused by lymph or vascular damage.
To remove sperm your body attacks and breakdown all the excess sperm. It does so with your immune system.
Creates anti-sperm antibodies and it removes sperm with chronic inflammation.
Last thing is 100 %. Your testicles sit significantly lower. They no longer have the left vs right height separation. So you will constantly squash and crush them . Either against each other or seats etc.
Also a risk of hydrocele formation. These are chronic cysts that develop due to damage to vascular and lymph structures
@@FreshhCutz just look up PVPS forum.
If that dosent put your off then go right ahead.
Like I said . There is nothing , not a thing in my life of 45 yrs I regret more than vasectomy.
Everybody is entitled to their opinion and I respect yours. You honestly seem like a dude with a good head on his shoulders. But I would say don't get a vasectomy. Instead if you don't want kids then mess with the family jeweles. The funny thing about love is that it comes when you least expect it. Your still young and you never know what tomorrow will bring. If Philly has gotten crazy then maybe it time for a change of scenery. But at the end of the day the final decision is up to you. When my son was born the doctor handed him over to me with no owners manual and I was scared. Three kids later I wouldn't change a thing and they bring so much joy to my life. God bless!
🙏🏾 amen brother i’m excited for you thank you for being a parent. i def feel where you’re coming from and you made a lot of valid points. the thing about me is i only care about myself. it always been that way. i’m sure when you had a kid you wasn’t selfish (or maybe i’m wrong lol) but i never learned the meaning of sharing & caring that’s just not apart of my lifestyle. i never had to all the toys were mine my games were mine & my time is all mine. that’s when you have to make a change & i chose this step. very good point on philly i meant to clarify that in the video.
lol, i watch a couple of your moose knuckles videos and this video randomly popped up on my feed. i couldn't agree with you more. that's why there are so many shitty parents out there, cause they don't really want to have kids in the first place. but society brainwashes them into thinking that they should.
lol appreciate you supporting the channel! & i absolutely agree with you it’s toxic thinking that everybody should be a parent when clearly too many ppl didn’t sign up to be one & refuse to be one.
You might change.
i won’t
A lot of people don’t talk about this you even got Star from Star & Bucwild he said that he don’t want no life suckers he’s 57 years old, and basically life is all about him lol,he won’t deal with women with kids unless they 14 years old😂
💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Very interesting 🤔 , personally I think you should wait your are way to young for such a permanent decision. My mind set in my 20s and now 30s is vastly different. I think wait 10years and see if you still feel the same way
can’t be the only one lol
@@FreshhCutz I just wrote more lol
@@mjbelle23 i agree with you and i see the angle you’re using. but what if you never changed your mind? ppl also said if i didn’t go to prom i’ll regret it. 10 yrs later i’m still glad i didn’t go to prom. yes two totally different things but again what if you never changed your mind? i don’t want to deal with repercussions from “accidents” or maybe being so in love with a monster & i was too blind to see it & now it’s too late. or better yet what if i’m the monster? no intentions of being one but i made the decision i’m not capable so i will remove myself from the table. but i love your way of thinking.
@@FreshhCutz I get the comparison but like you said 10years later you didn’t regret going to prom … you would know that if you didn’t have the 10years to grow into that thought process, hence why you used that analogy now it was an imprint of major choice and life change.
@@mjbelle23 i get it. but sometimes some things just has to be left alone. i’m def a big believer of be careful what you wish for but at the same time my nightmare was bringing another human being in this world. when i was close to it i couldn’t sleep lol yes that was my fault but at least i’m taking responsibility
I feel you bro. I have a child and I love him to death but I would’ve waited till my 30s if I could go back. It’s your life but I feel like you might as well keep your seed since you gotta wear condoms anyways. A vasectomy makes it impossible to have kids but it doesn’t protect you from stds
absolutely. it’s not about having unprotected sex even tho that’s one of the good benefits but being greedy/stingy could backfire so condom is still important. i feel you on the child thing bro hope all is well with your family. thanks for reaching out giving a different approach. i’m def listening.