You have such strength and grace during the worst of grief. Every time I see your emotions well up, you speak of plans and solving problems and moving forward. That takes such immense strength, strength your husband also seemed to have. His love for you is still alive and evident to me in your videos by the way you carry yourself. These are real, raw lessons for a 30 yr old like myself who fears losing their spouse every day.. the price we pay for love is so immense, but you are showing us that it is also beautiful. ♥ Sending strength, love and healing your way!
Your husband sent us to let you know you’re not alone and you have a HUGE family that are here with you ❤ we are giving you the BIGGEST virtual hug to hopefully put the pieces of your heart back together again 🥹
It is ok to cry , you grieve because you loved your husband , which in today’s world of broken marriages is a wonderful accomplishment . Another problem you live with someone for so many years he was part of you and that is taken away . Those memories of your husband will help you get through the hard days . Children are wonderful , but like you say they do not replace your husband .
20 years being a widow. I didn't think I would get through it. Sometimes I do cry. I raised 3 sons alone. They are my rock. Couldn't have done it without God. I have to turn the radio on with soothing music to help me.
You are a very strong women. I am so glad I have found your videos. You seem like a lovely lady. I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. I wish you all the very best ❤
You remind me of my grandmother who is one of the people who is so kind and sees the good in the world no matter what. It's hard to see someone like the both of you be hurt but as they say that to grieve is to have loved fully. I only hope to find the love you've experienced. ❤
Grief is unique to each individual. My husband was my best friend and rock. I had 33 years with him and he’s been gone over 7 months. Time passes so quickly. In some was I’m settling in, but I’ll be missing him for the rest of my life. My heart is still broken. Some people do well with support groups, some in counseling. I can spend time with friends,but I still come home alone and the transition back inside my house alone is difficult. You are doing better than you may think. The depth of one’s love is equal to the intensity of grief. Hang in there. One day at a time. Hugs.
You are doing an awesome job. By the way, laughter is the best medicine even through your tears. I say a prayer for you each morning. You are loved and cared about.
We all grieve differently. I told my MD that my husband passing and resulting grief made me physically ill. I believe MDs don’t treat grief induced illnesses. The physical trauma eventually runs its course. I was sick constantly for a year or more with various illnesses. Finally getting better. The pain of losing him does not go away but it has softened. The crying still continues unexpectedly. I prayed for him to come back knowing full well it could never be. Wishing you Peace and comfort
I had the samething happen to me. I was in the hospital twice. I went from 190 pounds to 113 in less than a month. I coudn't swallow food even though i was hungry. Over 3 years have gone by and it still seems like yesterday at times.
Give yourself time for grief. It is good that you are taking the time to cry, be sad and feeling lost. One day, you will see your life in a different light. You are helping a lot of people right now. Take care of yourself as best as you can.
Your husband must of been one heck of a man because i can tell from all the love in your emotions and the glow that sparkles in your eyes when you talk about him. Maybe telling us stories about how you met or stories on your 50 year journey with him could help in the grieving process, we are all made differently all feel differently our journeys arn't the same. I know when my grand dad and dad passed it really helped me to talk about them to keep their spirits alive
Your doing remarkably well for two months. I’ve been 17 months and still have waves of tears. When I was first widowed I had dehydration and a UTI and heart palpitations. I’m still not sleeping. It takes lots of time. More than you’ll expect. The heartbreak may always be there.
When my son passed it was so hard it’s been 14 years and I still cry and miss him. It gets easier but the sadness never goes away and it sucks. I am praying for u maybe take up a new hobby I started crocheting
Crying is healing and you are very strong. The firsts are hard. It will be a year for me on February 4. I cry a little each day but it doesn’t last long. My anxiety is getting less and less. I use breathing exercises to help and it does work. Take care ❤❤❤
Thanks and 2 of those first came just too close to his passing and it has been a hard couple months. Today at the Eye Doc was kinda sad as he always took me every 6 months and I had to have my niece drive me. So even some everyday stuff gets tough.
@ yes it does. My son and grand daughter keep a close eye on me. One day they were both out of town and I thought I could have a good ol ugly cry (i am an ugly crier). So my day progressed and I cried and cried some more and guess what they came home right in the middle of it. They were worried and I said to them it is okay to cry and sometimes I need to do that. It is better to let the tears come and you will find as time goes by the crying will start to get less and less. I still have bad days but like you I get up and get busy. You will be okay and it is very good that you have your family and us to lean on. Take care and I do keep you in my prayers ❤️❤️❤️
You deserve to feel the continuous grief and heartbreak AND to heal. We need you to share more birthday cartwheels with us!! Community and family is the best, so I’m thankful you’ve had your son and daughter to lean on as well as your neighbor who shoveled your snow! Good luck w the ants!!! Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing with us. May your husband’s memory be a blessing❤
You have a beautiful soul and the world needs that right now. You seem like you would be an amazing person to go thrifting with or even just to grab coffee. Stay strong beautiful lady. ❤️
Lovely to see you again Trisha, sharing your grief with us all is such a brave thing to do but I hope you get comfort in knowing all your friends on your channel are always here for you, I see many are no stranger to the pain of loss me included, last week was the five year anniversary of my son's passing, oh how I miss him but you know I believe they send signs and myself and my younger son ( who misses his big bro so much ) received a brilliant one , it helped us through a tough week. You are doing really well Trisha as someone has said grief comes in waves, little things can set it off, I shared a love of music with my son and I find it hard sometimes to listen to songs but. I persevere, talk to us when you can we all love to see you and hear how you're doing, take care from your friend in Yorkshire England 🌟💕
I don’t speak your language, but i can understand your feelings. All of my condolences, you’ll never be alone, remember that. All of us are with you. You are a strong woman and you can handle with this. I give you all of my support to you. Love ❤
Tricia, you're doing better than you might think. Don't be too hard on yourself. Grief is very personal, but its been 7 months since I lost my soulmate and I, too, feel a hole in my heart that almost takes my breath away. But for me it has gotten better over time. I feel him with me and I talk to him too. Be kind and patient with yourself. I'm 78 and have lupus. So, I, too, need to take of myself. As do you. I look forward to seeing more of your videos. Remember, some days will be better and some days will probably be grief days. Cry when you need to. God created tears for a reason. Praying for you. Sharon Zolna
Hes in a good place now ❤ and he sent us here to make sure your not alone 😊😊❤ we love you alot and im sure your husband would be STOKED to see you doing this well ❤ never give up and may god bless you ✝️❤️
I am so sorry for your loss. I know from experience of this type of grief, it takes a long time. You are in the first stage of grief, please, please talk to your doctor or a grief counselor. Being kind to yourself will help get you out of the house. Even going to have a manicure or out for a cup of coffee will help with doing something outside of home. Please know that you are not alone. You are strong...
Hello Trisha!!! Its always good to see you and hear your voice. Grief has a mind of its own is what I'm finding out. Its not easy to navigate and I'm sure you're doing the best you can. Take everything a minute at a time and don't worry about anything people tell you that aren't positive. Keep hanging in there my friend!!!
Hi, i lost people of mines too, and i know how grief is hard. But, i believe that if they weren’t good wherever they are, they would have returned in some way. They, too have lost us and they’re keeping it strong. We should take example of them, and be strong. Keep it up, you’re not alone, love ya!! ❤️❤️ and good luck for your medical care❤️❤️
Day by day , dear heart! You are doing amazing. Do what needs done each day. Our prayers and love are with you. I’m 71 , alone living with mostly elderly neighbors. We try to help each other, I’m thankful to be here each day! Many places need volunteers. I think you would love that. Give yourself grace. We love you . From Ky.
So hard it is to go on without him.. hardest thing ever I had to do.. and it does not stop.. nor do I want it to💜💙😭💔 People say time heals all wounds.. helps to remember what the healing process is.. always a scar is formed.. and that scar is a badge of honour that shows the power and beauty of the love you share.. Love does not die Trisha.. neither do we.. our bodies do and our souls and spirits live forever..🙏🕊️ My husband passed a while ago.. even so he is with me still in his spirit.. and will always be.. until it is my time .. and we will be together forever.. 💜💙 You are doing everything right.. keeping busy.. and making this channel helps so many! We love seeing you on your videos.. many of us appreciate hearing about your day and what your life is like.. this helps so much.. talking with those who share your pain helps us all🤗 Thank you for making your videos.. we love you💜💙🤗🫠 William and Jen
I hope you have a beautiful week Trisha. You deserve it. I love watching your videos and thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Youre helping lots of people🤍
You’re very lucky to have neighbors like that. I wish I did. Mine watched me do my driveway. An I too thought I would go soon after but here I am I think God has a reason.❤ God bless you what you’re going through is hard.
God Bless You Too! The neighbor is young and only lived next door a few years. I am blessed as the previous owner would have only complained about something.
My husband has been gone for over 3 years now. No rules for grief. It will be fine a day or two. Then a week, month, then all hell will break loose again. I'm still not over my husband. I got so sick of people saying you're so strong, they have zero idea and it's just words. You do whatever you feel like doing when you feel like doing it. It's okay to have a broken heart. The harder you love the harder you grive.
I'm so glad you've been able to get productive and free your mind from anxiety/panic attack (as much as you have). My mother and I have been going through Grammy's stuff today :) God bless you and your beautiful family 💕✨️
Hi Trisha, heart break is something that will heal in your time no one else’s. 💕NonnaGrace 🐓 my husband likes big and best too. If anything happens to Jim.i would have to get a different camper. The one we have is huge. I don’t like ants 🐜 either. 💕NonnaGrace 🐓
Thanks NonnaGrace, I'm feeling a little bit better each day and when you see my van you will say that is perfect the perfect size. My husband didn't like SUV camping but he loved the camper van.
Bless your heart, grief is hard on everyone but I can’t imagine losing my partner and the loneliness. I know it’ll happen to me one day and it heartbreaking. You’re in my prayers 🙏🏼
Had a friend who thought her husband would pass before her and kept telling me I would have to help he as I recently lost my husband. She took a fall on concrete drive and never regained consciousness. He seems to be doing well.
My heart is with you Trisha. As I had mentioned before, my husband's health has been declining fast now with pulmonary fibrosis and other complications as well now. I can't even imagine him not being with me and the loss. I know when you say just having your husband there to talk with and just his company is what you miss so very much! I honestly don't know how I am going to handle the time when mine is no longer with me and yet seeing him struggling breaks my heart. I thought I was a stronger person Trisha but I am finding I am not at all. I am very grateful to have had 43 years together, but I still don't want to lose him although I know many people never have that gift of having that much time together but it still is so hard. Sending many prayers to you and if you have any advice on how to navigate this awful journey, please do share. I suffer anxiety as well and I cannot sleep well at all and I know I have to take care of myself as well so I can be there for my husband. 🙏🙏💔💔 Geri
I'm on the same journey as you but my husband is suffering from different illnesses. Also going through exactly what you describe. Watching your husband cry with grief over his current situation and seeing him struggle so badly physically is like a physical pain in my own heart. For his sake I want it to be over: for mine, I cannot imagine how I will cope when the house is empty and he is no longer here to talk to. Prayers and comfort to you for your journey, we are all in this together, just walking each other home the best we can. xx
@@1sweffling Sending many prayers to you as well. My husband too, is grieving this awful and cruel illness. I break down now at the least provocation, even though I am trying to be strong for him. I too, don't want to see him continue to suffer, yet I don't want to lose him. Sending many hugs and prayers to you!🫂🫂🙏🙏 Geri
@1sweffling and @GeraldineFaust My heart goes out to both of you and your husbands. I just wish it was easier to talk with all of you. I think I may make a facebook group where we can really become friends.
You are strong and brave for sharing. I am 34, but I lost my mom at 15, she was 39. And I am closing in on the part of life she decided not to live with by her own accord. As you feel, I have no idea what to do. But somehow, we go one day at a time, even though every day is devestating. I wish I had your beliefs, god has nothing left for me. I look forward to your videos each day I am alive. Please survive with me.
I will be here for you. More important God is always with you. Sometimes He is hard to find but always in retrospect you will find He was there waiting. Prayers sent for you.
@flewthecoop1957 You praying for me is... No, I wish to give you support. I send my love to you, and you deserve all the love available. You are mightier than the statue of David.
Nine out of ten widows in this country are women. Many, many will go through the exact same journey you are going through. Thank you for showing us what it’s like to lose a spouse.
Your video touched me so much! Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 16 years. We got together when I was 16. And just to think about not having my bestfriend there hits me so hard i can't imagine living life without him. I know one day it will come. I hope i can find a community like you did. We are all here for you!! ❤
I never comment on videos, I lost my grandma in September and I miss her so much. You remind me of her, sweet and kind to everyone. My grandpa is not doing well anymore and I expect him to pass within the year. Grief is hard and its even harder when you lose your best friend in life. Ill miss seeing your sweet face in my feed, but do what is best for the remainder of your life. Its okay to not be okay.
you are in the thick of it. I was with my partner and married for 20 years and I did a nine month palliative care journey at 40 years old. It really is unbelievable. I understand the deep grief, the pain, the emotional roller coaster the sense of feeling dead inside. I’m almost coming up to three years and although it doesn’t consume me like it did in the first two years, I still cry enough and I don’t feel happy or really even content my zest for life and my spark is gone. I do OK I continue to live alone. I have some friends, but life just is not the same nowhere near the same. And I’m guessing this is going to be the feeling for the rest of my life. Sadly at my age people just expect you to run out and start dating idiots online. I tried that got cheated on dated a narcissist I’m done. When you had what you want and it’s taken from you it’s hard to settle.
Getting a good physical would be a great idea. We all have to be our own health advocates. Please get this done ASAP. You deserve to live a healthy life. Grief can take a toll on anyone. But you are still a vibrant person with much to offer to this world. Get involved in your community. You would be more than welcome in so many places….. You have started a successful You Tube channel! That in itself is a huge accomplishment! Please please please……. make an appt with an internist for a good physical. Also, hire someone to do your snow removal and other lawn care needs. ❤️
I’m so sorry and I love you. Please be nice to yourself and find something that you enjoy doing. One day you will be reunited with your husband, but for now he wants to watch you (from above), be happy and enjoy your life! Excited to see what’s next for you.
Hey Lovey! I’m new to TH-cam. I subbed to your channel. Please take care. I suffer from depression and grief since my mom passed. It was a long road and unfortunately cancer won.My father passed not long after. Blessings!🙏
Hi friend. This will be a long reply. I’m going on 4 month being a widow. I read a lot and watched many yt videos like yours. The pain we feel is not controllable sadly. I want to say I believe it’s true first 3 months shock grief then it changes. Some get better at this point. I feel in this day I have. But like you said. It may be horrid tomorrow. About the stomach and heart pain. Grief is prolly causing it but still needs to be cared for. I’ve had every test possible and nothing showed up. I just try to be good to myself. Eat right and drink lotsa water. Water so important as we grief. I have isolated these last few weeks and I think that helped me to stop talking about it. I’m not sure that’s a good thing. I know I’m the type that try’s to put things in the back of my mind. Basicly I try everything that others say helped. I have to be strong not depend on others because I have to heal on my own, I know this from my adult sons death in 2020. It took a year and a half to feel this pain will not kill me. My grief is totally differnt. So I can’t compare that. I just know I feel this will not kill me. I’m 68. I cleaned out his things within the first month. Everything was hurting me that was his. My 4 grand kids gently helped me. I rearrange evry room. I’m 1 person I don’t need much. Not comparing our grief or saying you should do the same. Only saying what I did. I don’t regret it. I’m Not getting any younger. I also parted with alot of my things. I don’t have a dining room table. I have 2 bedrooms with hardly nothing in them. I miss him so. Idk what the spring will hold for me. But I’m hopeful that it will be a time for me to relearn this life. Hugs friend. Yes nighttime is worse and Sunday is bad for me also.
Thank you for the message and I too tend to write long messages. We are about the same age as in May I will be 68 and I don't feel like I'm ready to join him. I also know that many people make it through. Today I really cried because he was supposed to be my seeing eye man. I have macular degeneration and have had it for years. Today I went to the eye docs for my 6 month checkup and it was hard not having him there with me. I'm also scared that in time I will lose my central vision and what will I do? But I calmed down when I thought that is why he got me a new to me car. I can still see to drive, just not at night. So I need to not worry as God surly has a plan for that too. Either way there is nothing I can do about it . I just always expected he would be here with me till we were really old. I'm thinking of starting a facebook group so many of us widows can talk back and forth. In other facebook groups I've met friends that I still talk to today. One I even met in person later and wish she lived closer but is a good friend now. Later Tater
Widow for 3 years and 9 months, l thought I would die from my broken heart and everything I didn't know, just starting to get a grip, cried so much, my husband was a maintenance man and I am still finding out how much he did l didn't know, sending love
We did almost everything together so at least I know the workings of most everything except the vehicles. But doing it by myself hurts. Sending love back to you too.
This may sound silly but you should consider signing up for an event like a half marathon or a sprint triathlon and start a training plan for the event I personally experienced the healing that comes from physical activity I went thru the death of two sisters and two beloved nephews all within a 3 year span it truly helped me maintain my mental and spiritual peace ✌️
I think posting videos might be very therapeutic for you. Grieving is like that, that some days are good, some days are bad but you’re doing a great job. 🙏🏼💜
Please please please take care of yourself! Unfortunately, sometimes your body reacts to how you're feeling... If you can, reach a thanatologist... Sometimes all you need to do is to lead that sadness somewhere else, instead of your gut. I know that, from now on, every happy moment will be a mixture of happiness and sadness because, you'll inmediately regret not sharing this moment with your loved one, but believe in your heart that he is always next to you. My mom passed over a year ago, and.. Although it's been hard for my sisters and me... It's been devastating for my dad... He always go to his room and cry for a while 😢 it's OK to cry and be sad, but don't let that feeling to be your everyday feeling. Live your best life to honor him ❤ but, for now, just live one day at a time..
Our strength comes from Jesus. Are you spending time in scriptures? That helps. Are you spending time at church? That church community support helps. I lost my twin sister a year ago from a broken heart. Our anguish does take a physical health. Please pay attention to the stomach pain and have it checked out if it persists. Don’t ignore it. Glad to see your video. ❤
Hum....I wish I could tell you that this gets easier but it doesn't. We all grieve in different ways and some may grieve for a few weeks and others grieve for several months. But grieving is a good thing,, it helps us deal with our loss and our pain. So don't try to dismiss it or get over it cause your grieving is there for a purpose. There will be a time when your grieving subsides, but now is not that time.
Grief I think, is something we live with for the rest or our lives. It is soooo very hard at first. It evolves. It never really leaves us. I will liken it to a toenail or fingernail you hurt. It bleeds and you see the 'bruise' beneath the nail. It grows out and eventually you clip all the 'bloody nail' away. And yet, there is an indention in the nail where the initial injury happened. It will always be there, you just can not see it or feel is as much, but it is there, just under the surface. 🙏
Grief is a normal part of life. Our bodies are designed to process these different feelings that we experience in our lifetime. Granted it is brutal to navigate through grief. It never goes away but it changes! Where there was great love there is great grief. I do a lot of flower gardening so when weather permits and it's nice outside I work in my gardens. That has been my saving grace! It is therapeutic for me. As far as passing shortly after a spouse. I feel we will live out our appointed time given to us. Don't let that concern you. God has the last say.Take care of yourself. Get things addressed that are bothering you physically. I had to go on medication shortly after my husband was DX with Pancreatic Cancer. He lived for 4 yrs. I am still on this medication. It is a low dose but it sure helped with my grief and heart palpitations etc. It still does! Lean on Jesus ! He is close to the brokenhearted! Holding you close in thoughts and prayers!❤🙏❤😘
You have such strength and grace during the worst of grief. Every time I see your emotions well up, you speak of plans and solving problems and moving forward. That takes such immense strength, strength your husband also seemed to have. His love for you is still alive and evident to me in your videos by the way you carry yourself. These are real, raw lessons for a 30 yr old like myself who fears losing their spouse every day.. the price we pay for love is so immense, but you are showing us that it is also beautiful. ♥ Sending strength, love and healing your way!
Thank you for those sweet words.
Your husband sent us to let you know you’re not alone and you have a HUGE family that are here with you ❤ we are giving you the BIGGEST virtual hug to hopefully put the pieces of your heart back together again 🥹
Thank you, that means so much to me.
You are not alone ❤
It is ok to cry , you grieve because you loved your husband , which in today’s world of broken marriages is a wonderful accomplishment . Another problem you live with someone for so many years he was part of you and that is taken away . Those memories of your husband will help you get through the hard days . Children are wonderful , but like you say they do not replace your husband .
You are right about the memories. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
20 years being a widow. I didn't think I would get through it. Sometimes I do cry. I raised 3 sons alone. They are my rock. Couldn't have done it without God. I have to turn the radio on with soothing music to help me.
Last night I listened to prayers and fell asleep. God is Who is holding me up right now.
You are a very strong women. I am so glad I have found your videos. You seem like a lovely lady.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband.
I wish you all the very best ❤
Thanks
You remind me of my grandmother who is one of the people who is so kind and sees the good in the world no matter what. It's hard to see someone like the both of you be hurt but as they say that to grieve is to have loved fully. I only hope to find the love you've experienced. ❤
I hope you find that kind of love too. Thanks for commenting.
Grief is unique to each individual. My husband was my best friend and rock. I had 33 years with him and he’s been gone over 7 months. Time passes so quickly. In some was I’m settling in, but I’ll be missing him for the rest of my life. My heart is still broken. Some people do well with support groups, some in counseling. I can spend time with friends,but I still come home alone and the transition back inside my house alone is difficult. You are doing better than you may think. The depth of one’s love is equal to the intensity of grief. Hang in there. One day at a time. Hugs.
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My husband been gone 2 years I still go to grief group
Oh you described that so well. Yes coming home is a difficult transition.
You should go t a widows group
The grieving will never go way but it becomes easier over the years ❤❤❤❤
You are doing an awesome job. By the way, laughter is the best medicine even through your tears. I say a prayer for you each morning. You are loved and cared about.
I agree laughter is the best medicine! It also is who I am. Thank you so much for the prayers.
We all grieve differently. I told my MD that my husband passing and resulting grief made me physically ill. I believe MDs don’t treat grief induced illnesses. The physical trauma eventually runs its
course. I was sick constantly for a year or more with various illnesses. Finally getting better.
The pain of losing him does not go away but it has softened. The crying still continues unexpectedly.
I prayed for him to come back knowing full well it could never be. Wishing you
Peace and comfort
My MD doesn't know how to treat much of anything. But when my doc passed they assigned her to me. Thanks for your encouraging words.
I had the samething happen to me. I was in the hospital twice. I went from 190 pounds to 113 in less than a month. I coudn't swallow food even though i was hungry. Over 3 years have gone by and it still seems like yesterday at times.
Grief comes in waves. Some days are better than others. We love you and will support you through this 🥰
It sure does come in waves and sometimes I feel that I'm drowning in it.
Give yourself time for grief. It is good that you are taking the time to cry, be sad and feeling lost. One day, you will see your life in a different light. You are helping a lot of people right now. Take care of yourself as best as you can.
Thank you for your encouraging words.
From one widow to another, you are stronger than you let yourself believe. Grief will hit you in waves, and it's ok.
Your husband must of been one heck of a man because i can tell from all the love in your emotions and the glow that sparkles in your eyes when you talk about him. Maybe telling us stories about how you met or stories on your 50 year journey with him could help in the grieving process, we are all made differently all feel differently our journeys arn't the same. I know when my grand dad and dad passed it really helped me to talk about them to keep their spirits alive
He was a good man and I miss him dearly, but I know he would want me to be happy and keep going. Yes I love to talk about him.
Your doing remarkably well for two months. I’ve been 17 months and still have waves of tears. When I was first widowed I had dehydration and a UTI and heart palpitations. I’m still not sleeping. It takes lots of time. More than you’ll expect. The heartbreak may always be there.
Thanks and I'm not sleeping well either it seems the nights are the worse.
When my son passed it was so hard it’s been 14 years and I still cry and miss him. It gets easier but the sadness never goes away and it sucks. I am praying for u maybe take up a new hobby I started crocheting
Thanks for the prayers and I sent out a prayer for you too.
Crying is healing and you are very strong. The firsts are hard. It will be a year for me on February 4. I cry a little each day but it doesn’t last long. My anxiety is getting less and less. I use breathing exercises to help and it does work. Take care ❤❤❤
Thanks and 2 of those first came just too close to his passing and it has been a hard couple months. Today at the Eye Doc was kinda sad as he always took me every 6 months and I had to have my niece drive me. So even some everyday stuff gets tough.
@ yes it does. My son and grand daughter keep a close eye on me. One day they were both out of town and I thought I could have a good ol ugly cry (i am an ugly crier). So my day progressed and I cried and cried some more and guess what they came home right in the middle of it. They were worried and I said to them it is okay to cry and sometimes I need to do that. It is better to let the tears come and you will find as time goes by the crying will start to get less and less. I still have bad days but like you I get up and get busy. You will be okay and it is very good that you have your family and us to lean on. Take care and I do keep you in my prayers ❤️❤️❤️
Take care of yourself. Be Well. I Enjoy your video
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I appreciate it.
You will get to the top of the hill, just one baby step and tear at a time. God Bless you and your husband is watching over you always 💐
Baby steps and tears, it's true!
You deserve to feel the continuous grief and heartbreak AND to heal. We need you to share more birthday cartwheels with us!! Community and family is the best, so I’m thankful you’ve had your son and daughter to lean on as well as your neighbor who shoveled your snow! Good luck w the ants!!!
Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing with us. May your husband’s memory be a blessing❤
Thank you for those sweet words
You are so strong! Remember it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. We love you! ❤
You have a beautiful soul and the world needs that right now. You seem like you would be an amazing person to go thrifting with or even just to grab coffee. Stay strong beautiful lady. ❤️
Thank you so much for that sweet comment, it means a lot.
Your sharing with us is very healthy. Please keep coming back , we are all here for you!
Thanks so much. I need it.
Lovely to see you again Trisha, sharing your grief with us all is such a brave thing to do but I hope you get comfort in knowing all your friends on your channel are always here for you, I see many are no stranger to the pain of loss me included, last week was the five year anniversary of my son's passing, oh how I miss him but you know I believe they send signs and myself and my younger son ( who misses his big bro so much ) received a brilliant one , it helped us through a tough week. You are doing really well Trisha as someone has said grief comes in waves, little things can set it off, I shared a love of music with my son and I find it hard sometimes to listen to songs but. I persevere, talk to us when you can we all love to see you and hear how you're doing, take care from your friend in Yorkshire England 🌟💕
Thank you and I'm sorry for your loss. I feel so blessed to have all of the love from so many around the world.
@flewthecoop1957 🌟💕
I don’t speak your language, but i can understand your feelings. All of my condolences, you’ll never be alone, remember that. All of us are with you. You are a strong woman and you can handle with this. I give you all of my support to you. Love ❤
Thanks for those understandable words of support.
You are wonderful, just take it day by day. It's ok to grieve for your loss of Wendell, God is with you. 🙏🏻🥰🙏🏻
Thanks Sharon, Nice to see you!!!
Tricia, you're doing better than you might think. Don't be too hard on yourself. Grief is very personal, but its been 7 months since I lost my soulmate and I, too, feel a hole in my heart that almost takes my breath away. But for me it has gotten better over time. I feel him with me and I talk to him too. Be kind and patient with yourself. I'm 78 and have lupus. So, I, too, need to take of myself. As do you. I look forward to seeing more of your videos. Remember, some days will be better and some days will probably be grief days. Cry when you need to. God created tears for a reason. Praying for you. Sharon Zolna
Thanks for the encouraging words and Prayers. I said a prayer for you too.
I’m sorry for your loss, you will feel better over time
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Where there is great grief, there was great love ❤ sending hugs to your heart!
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Hes in a good place now ❤ and he sent us here to make sure your not alone 😊😊❤ we love you alot and im sure your husband would be STOKED to see you doing this well ❤ never give up and may god bless you ✝️❤️
You are so right, he is in a good place and I'm glad you are here.
Darn cars. 🚙 I touhthings and then forget where I put it.💕NonnaGrace 🐓
Huge hugs Tricia 💓 ❤ xx
I am so sorry for your loss. I know from experience of this type of grief, it takes a long time. You are in the first stage of grief, please, please talk to your doctor or a grief counselor. Being kind to yourself will help get you out of the house. Even going to have a manicure or out for a cup of coffee will help with doing something outside of home. Please know that you are not alone. You are strong...
Thanks for your kind words.
Stay strong my friend. You can do this 🙏❤️🙏
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Hello Trisha!!!
Its always good to see you and hear your voice.
Grief has a mind of its own is what I'm finding out. Its not easy to navigate and I'm sure you're doing the best you can. Take everything a minute at a time and don't worry about anything people tell you that aren't positive.
Keep hanging in there my friend!!!
You are so right, it really does have its own mind! I'm trying to just keep the positive stuff in my mind.
Sending love ❤
Hi, i lost people of mines too, and i know how grief is hard. But, i believe that if they weren’t good wherever they are, they would have returned in some way. They, too have lost us and they’re keeping it strong. We should take example of them, and be strong. Keep it up, you’re not alone, love ya!! ❤️❤️ and good luck for your medical care❤️❤️
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Day by day , dear heart! You are doing amazing. Do what needs done each day. Our prayers and love are with you. I’m 71 , alone living with mostly elderly neighbors. We try to help each other, I’m thankful to be here each day! Many places need volunteers. I think you would love that. Give yourself grace. We love you . From Ky.
Thanks so much for the support! I know that when I'm in KY with my mother in law the people all around are so supportive and nice.
Continued hugs, keep on keeping on.
So hard it is to go on without him.. hardest thing ever I had to do.. and it does not stop.. nor do I want it to💜💙😭💔
People say time heals all wounds.. helps to remember what the healing process is.. always a scar is formed.. and that scar is a badge of honour that shows the power and beauty of the love you share..
Love does not die Trisha.. neither do we.. our bodies do and our souls and spirits live forever..🙏🕊️
My husband passed a while ago.. even so he is with me still in his spirit.. and will always be.. until it is my time .. and we will be together forever.. 💜💙
You are doing everything right.. keeping busy.. and making this channel helps so many! We love seeing you on your videos.. many of us appreciate hearing about your day and what your life is like.. this helps so much.. talking with those who share your pain helps us all🤗
Thank you for making your videos.. we love you💜💙🤗🫠
William and Jen
Thanks William and Jen, and your words are so what I always need. Wendell and Trisha
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God Bless you both, Wendell and Trisha.. with love and prayers🙏🕊️
William and Jen💜💙🕊️
I hope you have a beautiful week Trisha. You deserve it. I love watching your videos and thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Youre helping lots of people🤍
Thank you for your sweet words.
You got this ❤❤❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your channel was suggested to me by TH-cam. I have subscribed
I appreciate you and your support!
You are an amazing person. My heart goes out to you. Sending my love, prayers and hugs to you. Xxxx
You’re very lucky to have neighbors like that. I wish I did. Mine watched me do my driveway. An I too thought I would go soon after but here I am I think God has a reason.❤ God bless you what you’re going through is hard.
God Bless You Too! The neighbor is young and only lived next door a few years. I am blessed as the previous owner would have only complained about something.
@@flewthecoop1957oh boy😢
Hi Trisha. Glad I saw your videos on TikTok. Hang in there! You got this ❤
Thank you so much for the support.
My husband has been gone for over 3 years now. No rules for grief. It will be fine a day or two. Then a week, month, then all hell will break loose again. I'm still not over my husband. I got so sick of people saying you're so strong, they have zero idea and it's just words. You do whatever you feel like doing when you feel like doing it. It's okay to have a broken heart. The harder you love the harder you grive.
I agree, the harder you love the harder you grieve. I'm not so strong cause I'm just broken. But for some I guess I haven't broken farther than them.
Much love for you always, my dear. ❤
I'm so glad you've been able to get productive and free your mind from anxiety/panic attack (as much as you have). My mother and I have been going through Grammy's stuff today :) God bless you and your beautiful family 💕✨️
Thank you for the kind words
Hi Trisha, heart break is something that will heal in your time no one else’s. 💕NonnaGrace 🐓 my husband likes big and best too. If anything happens to Jim.i would have to get a different camper. The one we have is huge. I don’t like ants 🐜 either. 💕NonnaGrace 🐓
Thanks NonnaGrace, I'm feeling a little bit better each day and when you see my van you will say that is perfect the perfect size. My husband didn't like SUV camping but he loved the camper van.
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Sending so much love and healing vibes, biggest hugs to you 💚🫂
Bless your heart, grief is hard on everyone but I can’t imagine losing my partner and the loneliness. I know it’ll happen to me one day and it heartbreaking. You’re in my prayers 🙏🏼
Had a friend who thought her husband would pass before her and kept telling me I would have to help he as I recently lost my husband. She took a fall on concrete drive and never regained consciousness. He seems to be doing well.
Thank you and you are in my prayers too.
I love your videos and you! You are so strong! I wish you all support for this year.
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Grief is not linear, you will have the good days and the low days. But through it all, try to have grace for yourself ❤
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We're all rooting for you!
Noooo 😢 don't cry 😢 ❤
My heart is with you Trisha. As I had mentioned before, my husband's health has been declining fast now with pulmonary fibrosis and other complications as well now. I can't even imagine him not being with me and the loss. I know when you say just having your husband there to talk with and just his company is what you miss so very much! I honestly don't know how I am going to handle the time when mine is no longer with me and yet seeing him struggling breaks my heart. I thought I was a stronger person Trisha but I am finding I am not at all. I am very grateful to have had 43 years together, but I still don't want to lose him although I know many people never have that gift of having that much time together but it still is so hard. Sending many prayers to you and if you have any advice on how to navigate this awful journey, please do share. I suffer anxiety as well and I cannot sleep well at all and I know I have to take care of myself as well so I can be there for my husband. 🙏🙏💔💔 Geri
I'm on the same journey as you but my husband is suffering from different illnesses. Also going through exactly what you describe. Watching your husband cry with grief over his current situation and seeing him struggle so badly physically is like a physical pain in my own heart. For his sake I want it to be over: for mine, I cannot imagine how I will cope when the house is empty and he is no longer here to talk to. Prayers and comfort to you for your journey, we are all in this together, just walking each other home the best we can. xx
@@1sweffling Sending many prayers to you as well. My husband too, is grieving this awful and cruel illness. I break down now at the least provocation, even though I am trying to be strong for him. I too, don't want to see him continue to suffer, yet I don't want to lose him. Sending many hugs and prayers to you!🫂🫂🙏🙏 Geri
@1sweffling and @GeraldineFaust My heart goes out to both of you and your husbands. I just wish it was easier to talk with all of you. I think I may make a facebook group where we can really become friends.
@@flewthecoop1957 That would be great. Thank You. 💔💝
You are strong and brave for sharing. I am 34, but I lost my mom at 15, she was 39. And I am closing in on the part of life she decided not to live with by her own accord. As you feel, I have no idea what to do. But somehow, we go one day at a time, even though every day is devestating. I wish I had your beliefs, god has nothing left for me. I look forward to your videos each day I am alive. Please survive with me.
I will be here for you. More important God is always with you. Sometimes He is hard to find but always in retrospect you will find He was there waiting. Prayers sent for you.
@flewthecoop1957 You praying for me is... No, I wish to give you support. I send my love to you, and you deserve all the love available. You are mightier than the statue of David.
Nine out of ten widows in this country are women. Many, many will go through the exact same journey you are going through. Thank you for showing us what it’s like to lose a spouse.
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I love you! Please be strong xx sending so much loveeee❤
Your video touched me so much! Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 16 years. We got together when I was 16. And just to think about not having my bestfriend there hits me so hard i can't imagine living life without him. I know one day it will come. I hope i can find a community like you did. We are all here for you!! ❤
It's tough to think about that, but I'm so glad you have each other. Just live like he might not be there and you will not regret a thing.
I never comment on videos, I lost my grandma in September and I miss her so much. You remind me of her, sweet and kind to everyone. My grandpa is not doing well anymore and I expect him to pass within the year. Grief is hard and its even harder when you lose your best friend in life. Ill miss seeing your sweet face in my feed, but do what is best for the remainder of your life. Its okay to not be okay.
Thanks for taking the time to comment
Stay strong ,❤️
Love from italy ❤❤❤
you are in the thick of it. I was with my partner and married for 20 years and I did a nine month palliative care journey at 40 years old. It really is unbelievable. I understand the deep grief, the pain, the emotional roller coaster the sense of feeling dead inside. I’m almost coming up to three years and although it doesn’t consume me like it did in the first two years, I still cry enough and I don’t feel happy or really even content my zest for life and my spark is gone. I do OK I continue to live alone. I have some friends, but life just is not the same nowhere near the same. And I’m guessing this is going to be the feeling for the rest of my life. Sadly at my age people just expect you to run out and start dating idiots online. I tried that got cheated on dated a narcissist I’m done. When you had what you want and it’s taken from you it’s hard to settle.
I know what you mean. I'm a little old to even think about another partner. I don't think they would be able to stand up to the love I had.
We are all here for you, it takes time
We love u ❤❤
Getting a good physical would be a great idea. We all have to be our own health advocates. Please get this done ASAP. You deserve to live a healthy life. Grief can take a toll on anyone. But you are still a vibrant person with much to offer to this world. Get involved in your community. You would be more than welcome in so many places….. You have started a successful You Tube channel! That in itself is a huge accomplishment! Please please please……. make an appt with an internist for a good physical. Also, hire someone to do your snow removal and other lawn care needs. ❤️
I am working on getting seen Thanks for your good advise.
I’m so sorry and I love you. Please be nice to yourself and find something that you enjoy doing. One day you will be reunited with your husband, but for now he wants to watch you (from above), be happy and enjoy your life! Excited to see what’s next for you.
Thanks so much for the encouraging words.
Praying you find peace,hang in there!
Hey Lovey! I’m new to TH-cam. I subbed to your channel. Please take care. I suffer from depression and grief since my mom passed. It was a long road and unfortunately cancer won.My father passed not long after. Blessings!🙏
Hi friend. This will be a long reply. I’m going on 4 month being a widow. I read a lot and watched many yt videos like yours. The pain we feel is not controllable sadly. I want to say I believe it’s true first 3 months shock grief then it changes. Some get better at this point. I feel in this day I have. But like you said. It may be horrid tomorrow. About the stomach and heart pain. Grief is prolly causing it but still needs to be cared for. I’ve had every test possible and nothing showed up. I just try to be good to myself. Eat right and drink lotsa water. Water so important as we grief. I have isolated these last few weeks and I think that helped me to stop talking about it. I’m not sure that’s a good thing. I know I’m the type that try’s to put things in the back of my mind. Basicly I try everything that others say helped. I have to be strong not depend on others because I have to heal on my own, I know this from my adult sons death in 2020. It took a year and a half to feel this pain will not kill me. My grief is totally differnt. So I can’t compare that. I just know I feel this will not kill me. I’m 68. I cleaned out his things within the first month. Everything was hurting me that was his. My 4 grand kids gently helped me. I rearrange evry room. I’m 1 person I don’t need much. Not comparing our grief or saying you should do the same. Only saying what I did. I don’t regret it. I’m
Not getting any younger. I also parted with alot of my things. I don’t have a dining room table. I have 2 bedrooms with hardly nothing in them. I miss him so. Idk what the spring will hold for me. But I’m hopeful that it will be a time for me to relearn this life. Hugs friend. Yes nighttime is worse and Sunday is bad for me also.
Thank you for the message and I too tend to write long messages. We are about the same age as in May I will be 68 and I don't feel like I'm ready to join him. I also know that many people make it through. Today I really cried because he was supposed to be my seeing eye man. I have macular degeneration and have had it for years. Today I went to the eye docs for my 6 month checkup and it was hard not having him there with me. I'm also scared that in time I will lose my central vision and what will I do? But I calmed down when I thought that is why he got me a new to me car. I can still see to drive, just not at night. So I need to not worry as God surly has a plan for that too. Either way there is nothing I can do about it . I just always expected he would be here with me till we were really old. I'm thinking of starting a facebook group so many of us widows can talk back and forth. In other facebook groups I've met friends that I still talk to today. One I even met in person later and wish she lived closer but is a good friend now. Later Tater
I am so sorry I lost my wife 04-19-24 of cancer I will be praying for both us God bless you please take care of yourself
Sending prayers for you too.
Your doing fine it take a toll on your body,mine and soul to heal your brain and heart.
I think being able to laugh at yourself nervous or not is a special trait.
Thank you Margaret. Just seeing that name made me feel good, it is my moms name and she has been in heaven for 8 years now.
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Praying for you
we love you. I'm justine from the Philippines. ❤😊
God bless you
Widow for 3 years and 9 months, l thought I would die from my broken heart and everything I didn't know, just starting to get a grip, cried so much, my husband was a maintenance man and I am still finding out how much he did l didn't know, sending love
We did almost everything together so at least I know the workings of most everything except the vehicles. But doing it by myself hurts. Sending love back to you too.
This may sound silly but you should consider signing up for an event like a half marathon or a sprint triathlon and start a training plan for the event I personally experienced the healing that comes from physical activity I went thru the death of two sisters and two beloved nephews all within a 3 year span it truly helped me maintain my mental and spiritual peace ✌️
Not really silly and it's kinda what I do only I dance. Once it gets warmer out I will be on the bike trails near my house.
You look amazing!
Oh thank you!
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May god bless you with strength. Regards❤
I’m sure some of this is the adrenaline slowly abating, too- you’ve had a lot to deal with the last few months. ❤
It really is a lot and I hope that is all it is.
It hasn’t even been a year since my father died and I’m still so numb I’m hoping this changes soon ! Love you grandma !
I hope for the best for you and for my children and grandchildren as they too go through the grief of losing a dad.
I will pray for you dear
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I hate that you have to go through this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I think posting videos might be very therapeutic for you. Grieving is like that, that some days are good, some days are bad but you’re doing a great job. 🙏🏼💜
It really does help. Thanks for your kind words.
Please please please take care of yourself! Unfortunately, sometimes your body reacts to how you're feeling... If you can, reach a thanatologist... Sometimes all you need to do is to lead that sadness somewhere else, instead of your gut. I know that, from now on, every happy moment will be a mixture of happiness and sadness because, you'll inmediately regret not sharing this moment with your loved one, but believe in your heart that he is always next to you. My mom passed over a year ago, and.. Although it's been hard for my sisters and me... It's been devastating for my dad... He always go to his room and cry for a while 😢 it's OK to cry and be sad, but don't let that feeling to be your everyday feeling. Live your best life to honor him ❤ but, for now, just live one day at a time..
Thanks for your sorry and the encouragement
Psalm 34:18
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
I'm praying for you 🙏 ❤️
Thanks for the word and thanks for the prayers.
I’m so glad I found your channel on tik tok, ❤
I'm glad you did too.
Our strength comes from Jesus. Are you spending time in scriptures? That helps. Are you spending time at church? That church community support helps. I lost my twin sister a year ago from a broken heart. Our anguish does take a physical health. Please pay attention to the stomach pain and have it checked out if it persists. Don’t ignore it. Glad to see your video. ❤
Thanks for your prayers.
hello ma'am I hope you doing well wish you a good health take care always ✨
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Hum....I wish I could tell you that this gets easier but it doesn't. We all grieve in different ways and some may grieve for a few weeks and others grieve for several months. But grieving is a good thing,, it helps us deal with our loss and our pain. So don't try to dismiss it or get over it cause your grieving is there for a purpose. There will be a time when your grieving subsides, but now is not that time.
Thanks for those words of wisdom. In a way maybe this happening in the winter is for the best so I can deal with it and no outside distractions.
Grief I think, is something we live with for the rest or our lives. It is soooo very hard at first. It evolves. It never really leaves us. I will liken it to a toenail or fingernail you hurt. It bleeds and you see the 'bruise' beneath the nail. It grows out and eventually you clip all the 'bloody nail' away. And yet, there is an indention in the nail where the initial injury happened. It will always be there, you just can not see it or feel is as much, but it is there, just under the surface. 🙏
I know how you feel, it's almost 5 months since my husband died, my life is still in limbo.
Thanks and I think I may start a facebook group for people that have recently lost a loved one. We are in the same life boat after all.
Grief is a normal part of life. Our bodies are designed to process these different feelings that we experience in our lifetime. Granted it is brutal to navigate through grief. It never goes away but it changes! Where there was great love there is great grief. I do a lot of flower gardening so when weather permits and it's nice outside I work in my gardens. That has been my saving grace! It is therapeutic for me. As far as passing shortly after a spouse. I feel we will live out our appointed time given to us. Don't let that concern you. God has the last say.Take care of yourself. Get things addressed that are bothering you physically. I had to go on medication shortly after my husband was DX with Pancreatic Cancer. He lived for 4 yrs. I am still on this medication. It is a low dose but it sure helped with my grief and heart palpitations etc. It still does! Lean on Jesus ! He is close to the brokenhearted! Holding you close in thoughts and prayers!❤🙏❤😘
Thanks for your message and I too can't wait for the weather to change so I can get outside and in a place I have always loved being.
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Praying the Lord help you with your grief.
Thanks for the prayers