Wow. I was in such a terrible mindset before watching this. Filled with bitterness and rage. Now I have a new perspective, and I can move forward with grace to my husband. Thank you
This is so spot on! It was a blessing to me and I have sent it to all four of my children as well as all of my grandchildren. Thank you pastor! Love you! ✝️ ✝️ ✝️
This is brilliant!!!! Should have thousands of likes!!!!! We all need to hear this Thank you! Got question What is it when wife submits to wrong In blind obedience- fearful of his possibly divorcing her because she isn’t “SUBMISSIVE” But isn’t that rebellion against the LORD? -- ? Especially when it hurts affecting others adversley. (?) 10:37
Dear Pastor, whilst my being was poised to receive your subject matter, my spirit was unstirred by your prayer in which the NAME OF JESUS was not sounded.....
Ephesians 5:21 tells husband and wife to submit one to another as unto Christ. Vs 22 asks the wife to submit to her own husband as to the Lord. And verse 23 says husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church. So should wife submit only and not love and should husband love only and not submit. I pray we do not mix humanity with spirituality. May the Holy Spirit give us all understanding.
Respectfully, why would v.22 cancel out everything Paul says in (v.23-33) about role Distinctions in marriage and saying they refer to Christ (men) loving and the church (wife) submitting? v.22 is true, but it doesn’t cancel out the role distinctions that display the gospel in marriage. Blessings
Same here for 26 years, married to a narcissist. Really can’t take anymore, I can’t imagine God wanting me to continue taking this when it’s not doing me or family any good. Have become a shell of who I used to be. Please pray for me to know if it is acceptable to leave!
@sandraratliff2572 God does not want you to be in any form of abuse. I was in an abusive marriage for 3 decades. I loved my abuser. I prayed for years and years asking God if I should get out of this suffering. I did everything possible to save my marriage, i.e., years of counseling, read books galore, prayed, fasted and fasted and prayed, did continued warfare, read the Bible, researched and studied everything I could to get answers. He did nothing to help me try and save our marriage. I was in a 30 year war! One of the hardest things I have ever had to do was leave the man I loved. I was forced to leave him because my physical heart started hurting me due to the stress of the relationship. I had to leave to save myself. I have been separated from him for one and half years now. Not only has my heart stopped hurting but I have not had one nightmare since I left. While I was with him I would have 2 to 4 nightmares a week! All of that torment is gone. I did not know the damage I was doing to myself for allowing the abuse by staying in it. I am in a complete different journey now to heal the damage that was done. On many occasions I have caught myself "walking on eggshells" in my apartment to keep the peace with him and he doesn't even live with me! So much post traumatic stress I'm having to live with and unlearn mental conditioning that never should have happened. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a real condition and they do not change! So please, make a plan and then work that plan to get free. God will bless your journey for honoring life. I'm praying for you. Be strong and do what is right for your own wellbeing.
Please know that Jesus The Maker of all Life 🤍Loves you ❣ and invites you to speak with Him in your heart as you would to a good Friends, He never denies anyone who trusts Him.
I love the sermon but unconditional love is not a thing. the Greek word for that type of love is agape which means charitable love not unconditional. There is a condition for love hence Jesus stating that sexual immorality can be justified for getting a divorce (Matthew 5: 31-32). Adultery is the condition in which a marriage can dissolve. I'm not sure where this unconditional love interpretation came from because it is misleading. If your spouse tries to kill you or your children, then I think that would warrant a condition behind your love due to the evil and malice nature behind the intent. R.C. Sprouls agreed with the misnomer of "unconditional love" being incorrectly interpreted and I believe that pastors need to change their rhetoric with this interpretation of agape love.
1 Cor 13 understood correctly defines love, ending with “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends” (v.7-8) what conditions would change that definition of love or make it void? Marriages can end, all marriages will eventually end, some will have biblical grounds for divorce. I don’t believe Pastor Olesky was speaking about there not being biblical grounds for separation from a spouse for a season, or in some cases, divorce, but only to not put conditions on love, which is a biblical concept. If we are to love an enemy, when would we not be called to love a spouse? Even in worst cases, where there’s separation or divorce, love should continue, although expressed much differently.
@@thecrosschurchpensacola Yes we are called to love both our spouse and enemies, however those types of love are different within the spectrum of love. The Christian commanded love is the baseline love for all Christians. But I do not love my "neighbor" as I love my wife because there is a deeper intimacy with spousal love. Thus, loving a sister in Christ is different then loving a wife in Christ- although that one individual [the wife] is a sister in Christ also. The love of enemies is the love that does not harbor hatred towards them nor seeks vengeance against them, which we are all called to walk in that love. Nevertheless, the intimate type of love that is displayed in marriage is under the condition of fidelity and/or an unbelieving spouse walking away; Hence divorce being a justifiable option. Therefore, the spousal type of love is conditional. If my spouse commits adultery resulting in divorce and remarriage; then the former spouse no longer abides in the marital love and the new spouse would abide in that type of love. The love found in marriage can demand certain things that are not always the case for the universal Christianly love i.e. time, resources, protection, intercourse, a lifetime vow, etc. Therefore, that level/type of love is under a covenantal condition.
@@thecrosschurchpensacola does “unconditional love “ submit to wrong ? I took counsel after a couple left my home. He attacked me, “ YOU HAVE TO GO TO CHURCH!!!” Repetitively for maybe an hour! I’ve been in wheelchair all alone two years unable to even stand, drive -no neighbors family church (details ommited for brevity) yet, not even knowing me- being my guest, he railed me til I had anxiety attack (my doctor said) I’ve never had one before It left me feeing suicidal and took me a week to get over. His wife (my friend sweetly softly said, no, hubby, you have it all wrong while she supported him. Which part is unconditional love? I would have preferred she had said to me, please excuse us, hubby, we have some girl things to attend to. And got me away from him Counsel said, that’s Abuse! If it happens again, turn in your w/c and get behind a locked door!
By the grace of God I can extend His grace to others.
Wow. I was in such a terrible mindset before watching this. Filled with bitterness and rage. Now I have a new perspective, and I can move forward with grace to my husband. Thank you
same! its nice to know im not alone
Thank you! My hard heart has melted into gracious love for my husband who can be very …. difficult.
Thank you. I am teaching on Abigail tomorrow at Bible study. Perfect timing. Very good message
This is a very sobering and convicting sermon, but a blessing to hear.
This is so spot on! It was a blessing to me and I have sent it to all four of my children as well as all of my grandchildren.
Thank you pastor! Love you! ✝️ ✝️ ✝️
This is brilliant!!!! Should have thousands of likes!!!!!
We all need to hear this
Thank you!
Got question
What is it when wife submits to wrong
In blind obedience- fearful of his possibly divorcing her because she isn’t “SUBMISSIVE”
But isn’t that rebellion against the LORD?
-- ? Especially when it hurts affecting others adversley. (?) 10:37
I love your lesson. Thanks, it helped with understandingof the study of Abigail, and also, though not here, of Michal, wife of David
very nice thank you .
She wasn’t protecting that Fool , she was protecting David 🙄
Both
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She was protecting herself cos being a widow those days was rough.
Plus, if he killed Nabal she could have been killed too or captured and maltreated.
Dear Pastor, whilst my being was poised to receive your subject matter, my spirit was unstirred by your prayer in which the NAME OF JESUS was not sounded.....
Ephesians 5:21 tells husband and wife to submit one to another as unto Christ. Vs 22 asks the wife to submit to her own husband as to the Lord.
And verse 23 says husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church.
So should wife submit only and not love and should husband love only and not submit.
I pray we do not mix humanity with spirituality.
May the Holy Spirit give us all understanding.
Respectfully, why would v.22 cancel out everything Paul says in (v.23-33) about role
Distinctions in marriage and saying they refer to Christ (men) loving and the church (wife) submitting? v.22 is true, but it doesn’t cancel out the role distinctions that display the gospel in marriage. Blessings
Awesome.
What if you are in an emotional and verbal abusive marriage?
This is a terrible situation. There needs to be a qualified pastor brought into the situation
Check out Called to Peace Ministries. Leslie Vernick “The Destructive Marriage”. Peace Works Ministries.
How are you doing?
Same here for 26 years, married to a narcissist. Really can’t take anymore, I can’t imagine God wanting me to continue taking this when it’s not doing me or family any good. Have become a shell of who I used to be. Please pray for me to know if it is acceptable to leave!
@sandraratliff2572 God does not want you to be in any form of abuse. I was in an abusive marriage for 3 decades. I loved my abuser. I prayed for years and years asking God if I should get out of this suffering. I did everything possible to save my marriage, i.e., years of counseling, read books galore, prayed, fasted and fasted and prayed, did continued warfare, read the Bible, researched and studied everything I could to get answers. He did nothing to help me try and save our marriage. I was in a 30 year war! One of the hardest things I have ever had to do was leave the man I loved. I was forced to leave him because my physical heart started hurting me due to the stress of the relationship. I had to leave to save myself. I have been separated from him for one and half years now. Not only has my heart stopped hurting but I have not had one nightmare since I left. While I was with him I would have 2 to 4 nightmares a week! All of that torment is gone. I did not know the damage I was doing to myself for allowing the abuse by staying in it. I am in a complete different journey now to heal the damage that was done. On many occasions I have caught myself "walking on eggshells" in my apartment to keep the peace with him and he doesn't even live with me! So much post traumatic stress I'm having to live with and unlearn mental conditioning that never should have happened. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a real condition and they do not change! So please, make a plan and then work that plan to get free. God will bless your journey for honoring life. I'm praying for you. Be strong and do what is right for your own wellbeing.
I did everything, he does not act like a human
SAME😂
I was in a 30 year war! I'm free now.
Please know that Jesus The Maker of all Life 🤍Loves you ❣ and invites you to speak with Him in your heart as you would to a good Friends, He never denies anyone who trusts Him.
Tillman Burgs
I love the sermon but unconditional love is not a thing. the Greek word for that type of love is agape which means charitable love not unconditional. There is a condition for love hence Jesus stating that sexual immorality can be justified for getting a divorce (Matthew 5: 31-32). Adultery is the condition in which a marriage can dissolve. I'm not sure where this unconditional love interpretation came from because it is misleading. If your spouse tries to kill you or your children, then I think that would warrant a condition behind your love due to the evil and malice nature behind the intent. R.C. Sprouls agreed with the misnomer of "unconditional love" being incorrectly interpreted and I believe that pastors need to change their rhetoric with this interpretation of agape love.
1 Cor 13 understood correctly defines love, ending with “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends” (v.7-8) what conditions would change that definition of love or make it void?
Marriages can end, all marriages will eventually end, some will have biblical grounds for divorce. I don’t believe Pastor Olesky was speaking about there not being biblical grounds for separation from a spouse for a season, or in some cases, divorce, but only to not put conditions on love, which is a biblical concept.
If we are to love an enemy, when would we not be called to love a spouse? Even in worst cases, where there’s separation or divorce, love should continue, although expressed much differently.
@@thecrosschurchpensacola Yes we are called to love both our spouse and enemies, however those types of love are different within the spectrum of love. The Christian commanded love is the baseline love for all Christians. But I do not love my "neighbor" as I love my wife because there is a deeper intimacy with spousal love. Thus, loving a sister in Christ is different then loving a wife in Christ- although that one individual [the wife] is a sister in Christ also. The love of enemies is the love that does not harbor hatred towards them nor seeks vengeance against them, which we are all called to walk in that love. Nevertheless, the intimate type of love that is displayed in marriage is under the condition of fidelity and/or an unbelieving spouse walking away; Hence divorce being a justifiable option. Therefore, the spousal type of love is conditional. If my spouse commits adultery resulting in divorce and remarriage; then the former spouse no longer abides in the marital love and the new spouse would abide in that type of love. The love found in marriage can demand certain things that are not always the case for the universal Christianly love i.e. time, resources, protection, intercourse, a lifetime vow, etc. Therefore, that level/type of love is under a covenantal condition.
Agreed wholeheartedly!!!!!
I do t read anywhere in scripture about “UNconditional love”
Thanks for your comment
@@thecrosschurchpensacola does “unconditional love “ submit to wrong ?
I took counsel after a couple left my home. He attacked me, “ YOU HAVE TO GO TO CHURCH!!!” Repetitively for maybe an hour!
I’ve been in wheelchair all alone two years unable to even stand, drive -no neighbors family church (details ommited for brevity) yet, not even knowing me- being my guest, he railed me til I had anxiety attack (my doctor said) I’ve never had one before
It left me feeing suicidal and took me a week to get over.
His wife (my friend sweetly softly said, no, hubby, you have it all wrong while she supported him.
Which part is unconditional love?
I would have preferred she had said to me, please excuse us, hubby, we have some girl things to attend to. And got me away from him
Counsel said, that’s Abuse!
If it happens again, turn in your w/c and get behind a locked door!