I had an absent father growing up and i realized it has affected me in the way where i don't take a chance on relationships due to the fear of being rejected, hurt, abused or simply not wanted. it's like if my father didn't want me, who would? That's just the thought that plays out in my head. I also fear hurting others, them leaving and me not being what they need me to be within the relationship. Thank you for this video. It's helping me. & It's i do need alot of reassurance smh
Me not having a father in my life has actually stopped me from having children in this life i guess i may think i couldn't do it or its too hard if my Father couldn't or didnt want to take care of me then ot must be too much to deal with. I couldnt take the the chance of me being a bad father to a child and put him through rhe cycle all over again. At almost 40 it is too late now for me anyway but ots what cast that doubt for me. So yeah he was able to ruin my childhood and now my adulthood with never having the chance at being a Dad.
It takes a village to raise a baby. Guys are speaking a lingo that is causing a lot of anxiety and psychosis in both the male and female human species. Women are also speaking a lingo that causes anxiety and psychosis. It’s “she a hoe” vs “IMO take you for child support”. Love doesn’t really exist for a lot of people. Then people turn to an invisible crook named Jesus. Then you are stuck rubbing off orgasms because you quit the dating game for a ghost but still stuck with the laws of nature and procreation.
I’ve experienced every single one of these in almost every relationship, from anxiety to over thinking and being needy/ jealous. Growing up without a father has been tough. I never would have thought that all this is a result of growing up without a father. Mind blowing and healing in a way...
This is 100% my problem in life and it’s stopping me from reaching my true potential. I will always be apart of my children’s because living like this isn’t fun.
i almost started crying at 2:50. she's so reassuring and non judgmental about the fact that it's normal. i thought i was broken or something, and to know that not only is it to be expected in this situation, but it's normal. that meant everything to me
Actually, she said it’s “ normal” to need reassurance from time to time but when that reassurance turns into clingy, possessive, jealous behavior, THAT is not normal. Listen again because most of these people the therapist is describing have Borderline Personality Disorder
I wish the person I was dating would atleast look into informative videos like these. Falling in love with someone dealing with these traumas and in denial, has been one of the most difficult things to deal with
They refuse to look at anything and are in denial about everything.. instead of being mature and edifying themselves through knowledge their tear apart their own lives 💔💔 if they show no fruit of changing you would be best to get out of it while you can
I’m looking into these videos myself but running into the same problem. I wish she would look into these types of things to get help and move forward. After watching everything makes so much sense
Yes I feel unloved.. yes I want reassurance that someone genuinely loves me... Thanks for this video.. couldn't relate more.. couldn't hold my tears while watching this🙂❤️
Same... not many videos can get me to cry within the first 3 minutes... Although the second half I didn't relate to because my father didn't choose to leave me when he died.
Growing without a father is really tough, especially on certain situations. I am always proud of my mom for being the strongest mind for all these 18 years. She never make me feel the absence. Also,sometimes I feel like having a complete family life all my friends. Wishing for a bright future.
Fathers are important as I can see this as I ended up raising my daughter myself and my daughter has strong self esteem. My son has issues over their mother abandoning him . It hurt him more emotionally more than my daughter. My son complained that I favored her over him. She was easier to raise but I try to show I loved them equally as they got older. I can see others who did not have a father have jealousy issues and problems in their relationships.
I've felt unworthy of love and questioned if those feelings were genuine on their part. However I was never jealous or insecure requiring constant validation bcuz I was always guarded, waiting to be proven right or wrong of ones feelings for me....then internalizing it. Somehow I need to learn to love myself but its hard when you've conditioned yourself for so long that you'll finally feel complete when loved by someone else.
Meditation is the best medicine for anxiety, deppression and all negative feelings. Reach at zero thought stage or opening your chakra will kill negatives from you. Ofcourse, it will take a few days or months to feel the positivity or to come at the track of meditation.But I promise that one day you will surley feel the positivity. I am also a fatherless daughter. I had also too much wounds and too much negative thoughts. I had negetive thoughts each second and when I started meditation, I started to feel a positivity
My dad was dead when I was 12 and now I’m 25 and I still have that mental health problem .. I’m engaged and still I think I don’t have that love or I’m not good enough… thank you for this advice
It feels like a emotional pain in my heart that never goes away an unnerving feeling of emptiness. causes me complete mistrust of people and this feeling like life is completely pointless. I don’t know anyone else In my particular situation with my dad and it hurts not being able to go to anyone. He doesn’t feel the same and none of my family or friends do.
"I left your mother because of you kids!" my dad used to love saying to me. My mom has told me many times how much she regrets having kids. Definitely not Ward and June Cleaver.
I think it affects someone a lot more if their father is rideculing towards you, if I break a plate, it ends in a screaming match. I was so surprised when I went to my aunt and uncle's house and acidentally broke a bowl and they where like "oh, haha uncle always breaks plates too, comeon lets go get the dustpan." Like- I was so surprised that they handled it like that, I was sure I was going to get yelled at and the end result would be me crying and running, but no! Then when I was spending the night at my older cousin's house I didnt finish my cereal, so I was sure that I would get yelled at to finish it or ridiculed for not eating enough. But they just threw it away and didnt yell at me or anything, I was so bewildered even though thats normally what should happen. Its the little things that can change someone.
I connect today with my father, so this video helps me a lot today, thank you so much 💗. Growing up without a farther is hard, but every one is loved and it's sad, that it makes you feel like you're unloved. I hope everyone has a good day ⭐
My dad left when I was 6 weeks old. Never knew him, and when he finally contacted me and wanted to meet me when I was 16, he died before we got the chance. Met my dad's side of the family and my siblings in his funeral. I don't know how to cope with this stuff. I'm 19 now.
My wife met her father for the first time 2 years ago after giving her a 23andMe for Xmas. I didn’t even know if she wanted to take it and go through with it. Turns out we found her father. He had no idea about her…but he drove 4 states away and met her on her 30th bday. So right now she’s going through a healing process. It’s very real. Also, the her before she found who her father was…was VERY hard to deal with. I did the best I could pre-and-post father identified. Both have been a challenge for me but I had to understand.
Sorry to hear that. I’ve lost relationships due to this as well and I’m just realizing it. Can only imagine how hard it must be to lose a marriage. From one stranger to another I hope you’re doing okay.
I was kicked out on the 25th of December 2014 (while I was 13 years of age) and I haven’t seen or heard from my dad since. My mam Is basically my dad and always has been I’m 20 now and she done so much for me (Dad wise)❤️
Hi Doc. I found out in my early twenties that my mother left my father , while he was at work. She took myself (aged 5) , and my 2 yr old brother with her. Very shortly after that , she then gave us both away . To an unknown family. ( That bit , i didn't know about until my late 40's. She REFUSED to discuss anything ) That family ended up getting back in touch with her within weeks to tell her that my little brother was settling in fine , but she would have to come back and collect me because i was not. I was 5 , and i wanted my mother. So, she had to come and take me back. From there we moved and moved , all over the place. ( I so wanted a HOME.) My point to this is , i grew up ACHING for a dad. And it did get worse the older i got. A tiny voice deep down inside me somewhere , told me that he loved me. Whoever , & wherever he was. I knew it , and i physically ached for him. I searched for him most of my adult life , then to learn sadly he had died in 1996. I have read and watched as much as i can about ' daddyless daughters', but his absence was through no fault of his own. So i always wonder if such an aching all my life has helped play a role somehow in , refractured depression ( doesn't respond too well to medications ) , uni polar , a strong single life ( in which i have secretly never been truly happy ). Never really knew what to do with relationships . Still don't to be honest. I think i've just plodded through life. But alone .
You keep mentioning about fathers/mothers leaving she or he,but you cannot imagine how can one not even picture the father, because he passed away from a very fragile age. I am a strong person, but recently I miss my father so much that I sometimes cry like a baby. I miss my father that I never knew 😢
wow u just hit the points I struggle with big time!! ty for making this video ❤️ its hard when you don’t fully understand why you push people away or act in certain situations and people often misunderstand
My parents got divorced when I was 4 my mother always told me my father hated me and never wanted me in he’s life and when i started walking he would Call me the little devil! And i always believe her until I got older and found out she cheated on him with a married man and left him. he got married to another women she got very pissed and always used it against me i believe the trauma that I have off knowing my whole life that my father didn’t wanted me is because off her just because she didn’t end up with married man or My father i was the one getting punished for it my whole life 🥺🥺
Correct everywhere I came across my current girlfriend taking psychology As I was helping her throughout her essay I had to read psychology stuff like piaget , developmental psychology, cognitive, Well lot of notion n I started to reflect on my 2 children;since then I made peace with their mom so I can be in their life. Now I know the consequences of fatherlessness. By retrospective on myself . I present now more than ever . Psychology helped me be better and I’m part of their life daily ; homework, birthday, playing , spending time with then , quality time, well I tried to eleviate any potential trauma Guys , ladies n gentlemen .watch btw your legs bc lack of responsibility produce all the bad stuf we see in our society nowadays
My mother " told me " when I was a young girl, that my father TOLD HER that he didn't want the responsibility of taking care of me. I believe that she didn't want me to know and talk with my real father, because he would probably tell me the truth. I haven't seen my mother since 2003. ( I don't plan on seeing her ever again. ) Yes, I am angry. I had a physical, emotional, and mental abuser ( my mother, while I was growing up. ) Is what she has done a forgivable offence? Yes it is. Does my forgiveness require for me to, second guess if she treats me the way that she always did, if I visited her and talked with her? I have tried this before, it wasn't a loving and caring visit. The memories still feel fresh, when I feel sad about those horrible memories. I have no proof of what she said is true. ( I believe that she lied to me. ) But, from her own actions toward me, she wanted to control someone, to adhese her pain and guilt of being promiscuous at an early age. I do pray that she seeks the guidance and will for God to work in her life. I pray for peace for her. For me... I will love her from a distance. I do love her. My friendships and relationships are non-existent. And it hurts. Although, being alone is safer for me. Being a strong and compassionate person is very important to me.
Thank you for this video. I have felt the exact way that you described because of my father not being in my life and he’s gone on about his life and has no relationship with me. And I felt this way teenager thinking I couldn’t be loved because he didn’t love me. Took me a long time to heal and I’m still healing, but everything you said makes so much sense. It’s something that you eventually just have to make peace with and know that it’s not your fault.
i can’t tell you how much this helped me. thank you so much. 💗 is there a possibility that you could do a video on boarder line personalities/ narcissistic behaviours in mothers and how it effects their children
I do have a question.. My father never was in my life ,I'm 46 years old, my mom always take care of me.. I don't want to have his last name anymore ,my mom said, you are crazy... i want only my mom last name.. I don't think he deserves,have a son like me.. Do you think I'm right, oh wrong.. I'm a businessman, I have a nice life, a good one.. but i always was alone
I lost my father since I was 3. Its hard growing up without a father. An important figure. I'm failing as a man atm. I'm lost, weak, clueless and deep in the dark. I'm just really tired. Can't do this anymore.
Please hang in there. We go through things that we think we won't survive from. But you are much stronger than you know. I believe you when you say you are tired, but know that things will shift in your favor. One day at a time. I say this because I am also going through a rough phase in my life. Listening to music uplifts my spirit. Also, please know that no matter what you went through, you are still worthy of having that amazing life you envision. You are still worthy of all the good life has to offer. That's what you incarnated here for. And your story will be your biggest testimony. 🙏🏽
this helps …. thank you so much for this video … I grew up with an absent father and I always felt broken or that something was wrong with me … it had affected my last marriage and is currently having affects on my current relationship
How would seeing the father once a year affect a child? Would they grow up with the same struggles as kids with no present father do? Thank you for these videos 🤍
This was an okay assignment but we are loved by our Heavenly Father more than we know and he wants you to get to know him ❤ and spend time in his love if you sit with him you will feel that love your always wanted. You are loved by him
I didn't even realize i missed my dad until i one day thought about him. Since he was gone since I was a baby. Now I wonder if my self esteem issues possibly has to do with that. He was actually a great dad He just couldn't deal with an abusive wife so he left.
This was really helpful made me cry a little but helped me understand why I have trouble believing my ex partner loved me, I would question it a lot and I am always so hesitant cause I am scared It’s hard to believe
My absent dad (I sought him out when I was 18 and he's been passively in and out of my life ever since) has had the audacity to wonder why I'm (still) not married in my mid-40s, like something is wrong with me/it's all my fault (he, incidentally, has gone through so many relationships and is with a narcissistic woman). He has zero understanding/awareness of how his absence and passivity have affected every relationship I've had. My heart aches when I see my friends who grew up with fathers have 'healthy' marriages and men who pursued them. I've never felt seen and never had a man fight for me.
I just want you to know that there is a man who will always fight for you and who will never forsake you. He has given his life for you, so that you can find peace, grace and love in him. He loves you like no one else. And this man is Jesus Christ. You are loved and you deserve to be loved!❤
@ichbinderwegdiewahrheitund3775 Thank you, I do have a relationship with Jesus. Thankfully, he has brought me so much healing, and I'm thankful for his salvation and continual presence in my life. God bless you. 😊
I never knew my father growing and now as an adult and a parent my kids dads are emotionally absent and i can see how its hurting my kids especially my daughter she'll be 5 and shes seeing how her father is emotionally available and never does the things a father will do with a daughter to create memories and she has started showing withdrawal towards him and my son is only 1 and his father doesn't play a part in his life anymore i cut off contact with him as he saw his son as a burden and he has moved on to a new relationship with no care or whatsoever. I as their mother, am left to pick up the pieces and love both my kids unconditional and its not their fault and it hurts as a single mom that guilt will always be there even in 30years to come but my kids are happy theyve got me 😊
That is really the first time I feel really understand, I am french and this type of video just doesn't exist here, this video is really helpfull so... THANK YOU
You mentioned they can't see it like the cup of tea. Very true so the tend to desire objects to reflect how much one loves them. But after the item or token of love has lost it's definitive value its is discarded and they tend to need a replacement to define or show that love.
I grew up without a father and sometimes question myself was I not good enough I came from a foster family and my estranged mother told me he was now deceased leaving me still always wondering just who he was why he was never there and what he looked like smell like etc...
I don't have a dad.. they hid the fact I have ADHD for most of my life.. she.. slipped actually when talking ab stuff with my dad ab the fact he didn't want me on adhd meds when I was little.. and I wish.. I had known?. Id have treated it more like a tool rather than being insecure and wondering what was wrong with myself.. but than again bc of this ive learned so much on my own.. I amaze myself sometimes and I don't even know how I knew to do something I just do? I love my dad.. for many years I didn't bc of what happened. But.. him being healthy again has helped me a lot.. its like I'm actually me again since I went out to visit.. and I've had.. many traumatic events in my life. I notice those objects.. and yeah my mind doesn't shut up ever. It's just noise most the time but it does cause me anxiety.... but.. like I said since he's gotten better its helped me a lot?. Its kind of the push I needed. My dad totally didn't want anything to do with me for years.. I tried calling and everything. He's practically replaced me.. he got a new wife.. but I am proud of him and just hope he doesn't mess it up. I am 19 ive been struggling for years trying to start my life but no one's really helped me so I'm having to do everything myself.. I honestly don't know how I'm still here. I never sought out therapy.. I guess I just know myself in the way I know I won't kill myself even if I've thought about it. I dont need anyone to talk to.. like you said it's a beginning step. I'm just struggling with a lot on my mind and a lot of stuff I gotta get done not knowing what I'm gonna do. It's hard bc I'm such a introverted person.. even though I used to not be. My social skills are non existent it makes talking and getting my point across really hard and that's my adhd I think.. that's what bugs me the most about myself is the fact I can't listen properly or remember some things but I'll remember the color of something for example.. it just gets in the way. I used to wake up and have these fits where I wouldn't remember anything I'd say or do for atleast 20 minutes after waking up and most the time I'd fall back asleep and not even remember even if someone spoke to me about it. I dont know exactly what is wrong with me. I just know it's something and ADHD is the best guess I have.. Ive thought I was autistic but I'm so scared of doctors and I'm happy the way I am and I know if I do stuff people will cause me to change or get help I don't really need.. it always just makes it worse for me in the past when I had my therapy bc than it's on my mind more. I have moments like this occasionally though and I've been getting stronger and stronger mentally.
Reach out to her, check on her, ask her if she needs anything, ask about her day. Have those conversations that you never got to have because it’s like meeting a new person. Those little things matter. We want to “feel” the effort. Help her understand that your intentions are pure and real that you really care and are willing to do whatever it takes to make it better. The bare minimum won’t cut it because so much has been lost. I wish you the best. ❤️
I understand that it would be difficult for people who’s father left them by choice. But will I be psychologically ok if my parents broke up and I only saw my dad a few times a year? My dad loves me very much, I just don’t see him much
Yes! Do not worry! What matters is the quality of time spent with the other parent. Throughout history, children of sailors, warriors, etc, knew they could only see their father at rare moments. But they knew their fathers cared about them!Catherine
Yah I'm pretty lost in life right now at the age of 21... I don't know what I'm going to do. Every time I try to do something positive for myself I can only stick with it for a short amount of time. I never met my real dad, and my mom was only 15, so I was living with my grandparents for a good amount of time. When my mom was 19 she met my step dad and had my brother. I got to be with them a lot more at the age of 4 or 5. However I would still be with my grandparents a lot more as I have more memories with them and didn't fully move in with my mom until the age of 8. My Grandpa who was 1 out of the 2 people that I was close with emotionally, died when I was 8. 2nd being my Grandma, who also died when I was 18 or 19. Both of them kind of had the same deaths in a way. Well not really... but they both forgot who I was leading up to their deaths. Grandpa having a stroke during surgery and my Grandma with dementia. Also my mom and step dad ended up getting a divorce about 4 years ago after having my 2nd baby brother. We are barley surviving and I'm now a burden. Me and my mom struggle with an emotional connection. Rarely hug or even say I love you. it feels awkward when we do. I know she cares because she works hard and put me in therapy, and on anti depressants. But I've been on and off anti depressants and all that for the past 5 years. I'm starting to lose hope. I try to be positive, however gaining more clarity as i'm getting older, its tough to ignore my past as i've been doing for years. One thing i've noticed is when I was in a relationship for 3 years, from 15 to 18... I was the best version of myself. I kept jobs even though they weren't for long, I always had money to take her out to eat and buy things for her and also for me as well. But then I started to get into drugs during the relationship and I basically ruined everything for us magnifying the trust issues of abandonment i've already had. What hurts me the most about that is becoming sober and realizing the emotional damage I caused her. Realizing that she really did love me, when for some reason I convinced myself she didn't. I tried to date about 4 more times but none of them were even the same. I gave up on love. it's hard to listen and take action on my thoughts that tell me to do the right thing. Such as wanting to work, exercise or even taking a shower.. I just feel disconnected from everyday life as I just stay in my room all day playing video games. I'm a loser by society. The best way I can describe it is like a spiral illusion, like a screw. where i'm on the ridges. hell is at the bottom and heaven is at the top. Sometimes it twists downward bringing me to the bottom, and sometimes it twists upward bringing me to the top. I have no control of when or how long it happens. I literally don't know what to do after failing sooooo many times at everything a "normal" person can do, as it seems to be some what easy for them. I've just been thinking about all this the past week. It's starting to drive me crazy not being able to take action on what needs to be done. My thought process has always been I can't blame others. It's just those events could be one of the reasons all this is happening. Hence multiple videos like this.
You're clearly very smart and aware. What you describe was similar to years I've lived through. You can get you out and on the right path. It takes drive. drive is obviously difficult when you have little energy (like you mentioned to act on positive thoughts). The way I broke my mental cycle was by running every morning AS SOON as I woke up. At first I struggled to run 1 mile - within weeks/months I could run 10 miles+. Find the mental fortitude to continuously repeat shit you know is good for you - if you're able to sustain it for a decent period of time it'll act as a foundational positive behavior to pivot off of. The reason the above is important regardless of the specific activity is because it's you fighting for yourself. In the process of fighting for yourself, and what you deserve, you'll find the answers to all the bullshit that happened in your life. The universe drops us into a dark well - climb out...I have, and there's nothing but abundance here...we wait to delight in you :). And also, at age 21 you have a lot of time. Be chill, it'll all unfold as it needs to, but you can obviously speed up the process :). I hope this helped a lil
My parents are still married, I'm very much a family gal.... I'm scared of marrying or dating a man who grew up in a broken home or without a father especially.
I just have my guard up all the time. I put on a mask and never seek any sort of emotional intimacy. I can't risk being hurt by a man. I do get anxious when I don't receive male attention but I hide it by acting like a queen bee. That works just fine.
I thought that is my father give me birth to keep me at these condition of searching for healing wounds of a fatherless?? I am really fatherless. I have a physical father but not mentelly. This is equal to those not have a physical father.
I feel because I didn't grow up with a dad when it comes to dealing with women I tend to struggle with keeping my tounge in check when i get upset i can be very mean and that is not a thing i want to be content with i dont like taking out my anger on people however at times it happens and i wont put my hands on my partner's never have unless they wanted in the right ways if u get me however being verbally abusive is not the way I struggle with that I really do and I am not the type to just not say things how it is I feel like my temper not checked I could be a shit person that is why everyday i make sure i try and be GENUINELY as nice as i can be because if that flip gets switched forget about it i can really make people cry with my words and words are very powerful and if you got a fully automatic gun and the trigger gets stuck and just shoots without stopping that would be deadly that is how I think about my anger I cant let that trigger get stuck I always make sure my temper is on the chill side because once you lose composure u lost regardless the situation I'm not sayin lost as win or lose I'm sayin you lose the good in yourself more and more that you lose composure I don't like to think negative because I am very aggressive with my tounge when I am and that is a thing I do better with now I dont think as negative as I would I would say that I am humble of that fact never proud
Im a woman and also a lesbian. I assume this come from a man, it’s weird that am I also like this? My words are so powerful. I regret a lot of things that I have said and I wish that I didn’t. I have too much hate in my heart and myself. I tried to be positive but it’s difficult. I guess I have time to make my life a better version, Im in my very early twenties, I don’t want to be this person anymore.
Growing up in a split family with violent trauma although some war veterans would laugh at this comment,it's something that is stuck in the child's mind for the rest of their lives with all due respect to every War Veteran, Thank you but there's other things certain people grow up with from childhood that a war veteran will never understand it's just a different type of trauma to a young mind that they live with for the rest of their life. My father is a Vietnam Veteran he left when I was 2 years old. He was wild and wanted a good time of course he blames everything on "THE WAR" where in reality, he was just a non responsible coward but I guess we both live with our trauma day by day.
Ok tbh my mom is ah single mother since birth l don't even know my dad l was curious who was my dad is but tbh my mom never say anything who was my father but in my school if l didn't had ah father lm not real that's stupid then why am l standing here right now?? Tbh lm lucky that my mom is ah single parent why? This is just my opinion but father's sometimes are alcoholic or more tbh lm fine with my mom being ah ah single mother but lm still curious who was my dad is
Lady before you start calling someone bad. Remember this when the mother always ditched the dad and called police. What do you think is going to happen? Dad takes the hint and stop coming around!
Do not ever undermine the creditability, the validity and the merit of lesbian parents who are well intentioned and who actually do the right thing.Thats what I've got to say.
If a parent is not active in a child’s life why does that make them a bad person? What would someone thinking of adoption as an option supposed to feel about that comment? I didn’t agree with that statement. You still have some work to do before giving advice.
I had an absent father growing up and i realized it has affected me in the way where i don't take a chance on relationships due to the fear of being rejected, hurt, abused or simply not wanted. it's like if my father didn't want me, who would? That's just the thought that plays out in my head. I also fear hurting others, them leaving and me not being what they need me to be within the relationship. Thank you for this video. It's helping me. & It's i do need alot of reassurance smh
Me not having a father in my life has actually stopped me from having children in this life i guess i may think i couldn't do it or its too hard if my Father couldn't or didnt want to take care of me then ot must be too much to deal with. I couldnt take the the chance of me being a bad father to a child and put him through rhe cycle all over again. At almost 40 it is too late now for me anyway but ots what cast that doubt for me. So yeah he was able to ruin my childhood and now my adulthood with never having the chance at being a Dad.
It takes a village to raise a baby. Guys are speaking a lingo that is causing a lot of anxiety and psychosis in both the male and female human species. Women are also speaking a lingo that causes anxiety and psychosis.
It’s “she a hoe” vs “IMO take you for child support”. Love doesn’t really exist for a lot of people. Then people turn to an invisible crook named Jesus. Then you are stuck rubbing off orgasms because you quit the dating game for a ghost but still stuck with the laws of nature and procreation.
Omg I feel the same way
Why is this me
Omg were twins
I’ve experienced every single one of these in almost every relationship, from anxiety to over thinking and being needy/ jealous. Growing up without a father has been tough. I never would have thought that all this is a result of growing up without a father. Mind blowing and healing in a way...
This is 100% my problem in life and it’s stopping me from reaching my true potential. I will always be apart of my children’s because living like this isn’t fun.
Most definitely agree! This isn’t a great feeling sometimes idk why I am even here, He will never step up.😭🥺
i almost started crying at 2:50. she's so reassuring and non judgmental about the fact that it's normal. i thought i was broken or something, and to know that not only is it to be expected in this situation, but it's normal. that meant everything to me
Actually, she said it’s “ normal” to need reassurance from time to time but when that reassurance turns into clingy, possessive, jealous behavior, THAT is not normal. Listen again because most of these people the therapist is describing have Borderline Personality Disorder
I wish the person I was dating would atleast look into informative videos like these. Falling in love with someone dealing with these traumas and in denial, has been one of the most difficult things to deal with
They refuse to look at anything and are in denial about everything.. instead of being mature and edifying themselves through knowledge their tear apart their own lives 💔💔 if they show no fruit of changing you would be best to get out of it while you can
I’m looking into these videos myself but running into the same problem. I wish she would look into these types of things to get help and move forward. After watching everything makes so much sense
I’m sorry. I’m a teen, but I can’t imagine. I have a problem with fixing people and ik it’s hard to let go of those you care for
Fr it really sad and very difficult to deal with such people and also they are very needy and constantly wanting to be over loved
@@angelashell8250 how about you stop trying to fix them and make it about you what're you a woman?!
Yes I feel unloved.. yes I want reassurance that someone genuinely loves me... Thanks for this video.. couldn't relate more.. couldn't hold my tears while watching this🙂❤️
We are in the same shoes.
I cried, while I was watching this video. It helped me a lot. Sincerely THANK YOU!!! I understood many things now.
I cried too!
Me too😭😭
Jesus love you!
Same😭
Same... not many videos can get me to cry within the first 3 minutes... Although the second half I didn't relate to because my father didn't choose to leave me when he died.
Growing without a father is really tough, especially on certain situations.
I am always proud of my mom for being the strongest mind for all these 18 years. She never make me feel the absence.
Also,sometimes I feel like having a complete family life all my friends. Wishing for a bright future.
Fathers are important as I can see this as I ended up raising my daughter myself and my daughter has strong self esteem. My son has issues over their mother abandoning him . It hurt him more emotionally more than my daughter. My son complained that I favored her over him. She was easier to raise but I try to show I loved them equally as they got older. I can see others who did not have a father have jealousy issues and problems in their relationships.
I've felt unworthy of love and questioned if those feelings were genuine on their part. However I was never jealous or insecure requiring constant validation bcuz I was always guarded, waiting to be proven right or wrong of ones feelings for me....then internalizing it. Somehow I need to learn to love myself but its hard when you've conditioned yourself for so long that you'll finally feel complete when loved by someone else.
You are telling the truth 100%❤I am a retired Principal and notice that a male will correct deviant behavior in men. Keep posting this knowledge!
I grew up without a mother and father my grandparents raised me I know have antisocial personality disorder and not good relationships with others
Same man
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Meditation is the best medicine for anxiety, deppression and all negative feelings. Reach at zero thought stage or opening your chakra will kill negatives from you.
Ofcourse, it will take a few days or months to feel the positivity or to come at the track of meditation.But I promise that one day you will surley feel the positivity.
I am also a fatherless daughter. I had also too much wounds and too much negative thoughts. I had negetive thoughts each second and when I started meditation, I started to feel a positivity
My dad was dead when I was 12 and now I’m 25 and I still have that mental health problem .. I’m engaged and still I think I don’t have that love or I’m not good enough… thank you for this advice
It feels like a emotional pain in my heart that never goes away an unnerving feeling of emptiness. causes me complete mistrust of people and this feeling like life is completely pointless. I don’t know anyone else In my particular situation with my dad and it hurts not being able to go to anyone. He doesn’t feel the same and none of my family or friends do.
"I left your mother because of you kids!" my dad used to love saying to me. My mom has told me many times how much she regrets having kids. Definitely not Ward and June Cleaver.
So sorry to hear that, man. I hope you find peace and overcome this.
I’m sorry, that’s really horrible for a kid to hear. It seems they majorly lacked self awareness and empathy.
I think it affects someone a lot more if their father is rideculing towards you, if I break a plate, it ends in a screaming match. I was so surprised when I went to my aunt and uncle's house and acidentally broke a bowl and they where like "oh, haha uncle always breaks plates too, comeon lets go get the dustpan." Like- I was so surprised that they handled it like that, I was sure I was going to get yelled at and the end result would be me crying and running, but no! Then when I was spending the night at my older cousin's house I didnt finish my cereal, so I was sure that I would get yelled at to finish it or ridiculed for not eating enough. But they just threw it away and didnt yell at me or anything, I was so bewildered even though thats normally what should happen. Its the little things that can change someone.
I have an absent father, he left when I was 2, I haven't seen him since.
I hope you will have a beautiful life filled with love and support.
Thank you so much
@@amyjansenvanrensburg3589 you deserve it💝
I connect today with my father, so this video helps me a lot today, thank you so much 💗. Growing up without a farther is hard, but every one is loved and it's sad, that it makes you feel like you're unloved.
I hope everyone has a good day ⭐
My dad left when I was 6 weeks old. Never knew him, and when he finally contacted me and wanted to meet me when I was 16, he died before we got the chance. Met my dad's side of the family and my siblings in his funeral. I don't know how to cope with this stuff. I'm 19 now.
Will you be able to reach out to me?
My wife met her father for the first time 2 years ago after giving her a 23andMe for Xmas. I didn’t even know if she wanted to take it and go through with it. Turns out we found her father. He had no idea about her…but he drove 4 states away and met her on her 30th bday.
So right now she’s going through a healing process. It’s very real.
Also, the her before she found who her father was…was VERY hard to deal with.
I did the best I could pre-and-post father identified. Both have been a challenge for me but I had to understand.
This one thing has pretty much destroyed my marriage.
Sorry to hear that. I’ve lost relationships due to this as well and I’m just realizing it. Can only imagine how hard it must be to lose a marriage. From one stranger to another I hope you’re doing okay.
I was kicked out on the 25th of December 2014 (while I was 13 years of age) and I haven’t seen or heard from my dad since. My mam Is basically my dad and always has been I’m 20 now and she done so much for me (Dad wise)❤️
But unfortunately the majority of my relationships have ended in my “Anxiety” and “paranoia”
I know! I say the same thing! If my own Dad didn't even love me, why would a complete stranger! She hit the nail on the head! Exactly!!!
I cried but at the end of the video, i felt relieved, thank you for reassurance
Hi Doc.
I found out in my early twenties that my mother left my father , while he was at work.
She took myself (aged 5) , and my 2 yr old brother with her.
Very shortly after that , she then gave us both away . To an unknown family.
( That bit , i didn't know about until my late 40's. She REFUSED to discuss anything )
That family ended up getting back in touch with her within weeks to tell her that my little brother was settling in fine , but she would have to come back and collect me because i was not. I was 5 , and i wanted my mother. So, she had to come and take me back.
From there we moved and moved , all over the place. ( I so wanted a HOME.)
My point to this is , i grew up ACHING for a dad. And it did get worse the older i got.
A tiny voice deep down inside me somewhere , told me that he loved me.
Whoever , & wherever he was. I knew it , and i physically ached for him.
I searched for him most of my adult life , then to learn sadly he had died in 1996.
I have read and watched as much as i can about ' daddyless daughters', but his absence was through no fault of his own. So i always wonder if such an aching all my life has helped play a role somehow in , refractured depression ( doesn't respond too well to medications ) , uni polar , a strong single life ( in which i have secretly never been truly happy ).
Never really knew what to do with relationships . Still don't to be honest.
I think i've just plodded through life. But alone .
Sad
@@Jazz313 ❤🩹💝
You keep mentioning about fathers/mothers leaving she or he,but you cannot imagine how can one not even picture the father, because he passed away from a very fragile age.
I am a strong person, but recently I miss my father so much that I sometimes cry like a baby.
I miss my father that I never knew 😢
wow u just hit the points I struggle with big time!! ty for making this video ❤️ its hard when you don’t fully understand why you push people away or act in certain situations and people often misunderstand
My mother forced my father out of my life my wife forced me out of my child's life so full circle and no one ever cares it's only a act.
Yes. True. Need for reassurance. Yes. The mind recalls. I'm not jealous.
My parents got divorced when I was 4 my mother always told me my father hated me and never wanted me in he’s life and when i started walking he would Call me the little devil! And i always believe her until I got older and found out she cheated on him with a married man and left him. he got married to another women she got very pissed and always used it against me i believe the trauma that I have off knowing my whole life that my father didn’t wanted me is because off her just because she didn’t end up with married man or My father i was the one getting punished for it my whole life 🥺🥺
Correct everywhere
I came across my current girlfriend taking psychology
As I was helping her throughout her essay I had to read psychology stuff like piaget , developmental psychology, cognitive,
Well lot of notion n I started to reflect on my 2 children;since then I made peace with their mom so I can be in their life.
Now I know the consequences of fatherlessness. By retrospective on myself . I present now more than ever .
Psychology helped me be better and I’m part of their life daily ; homework, birthday, playing , spending time with then , quality time, well
I tried to eleviate any potential trauma
Guys , ladies n gentlemen .watch btw your legs bc lack of responsibility produce all the bad stuf we see in our society nowadays
My mother " told me " when I was a young girl, that my father TOLD HER that he didn't want the responsibility of taking care of me.
I believe that she didn't want me to know and talk with my real father, because he would probably tell me the truth.
I haven't seen my mother since 2003. ( I don't plan on seeing her ever again. )
Yes, I am angry. I had a physical, emotional, and mental abuser ( my mother, while I was growing up. )
Is what she has done a forgivable offence? Yes it is.
Does my forgiveness require for me to, second guess if she treats me the way that she always did, if I visited her and talked with her?
I have tried this before, it wasn't a loving and caring visit.
The memories still feel fresh, when I feel sad about those horrible memories.
I have no proof of what she said is true. ( I believe that she lied to me. )
But, from her own actions toward me, she wanted to control someone, to adhese her pain and guilt of being promiscuous at an early age.
I do pray that she seeks the guidance and will for God to work in her life. I pray for peace for her. For me... I will love her from a distance. I do love her.
My friendships and relationships are non-existent. And it hurts. Although, being alone is safer for me.
Being a strong and compassionate person is very important to me.
Thank you for this video. I have felt the exact way that you described because of my father not being in my life and he’s gone on about his life and has no relationship with me. And I felt this way teenager thinking I couldn’t be loved because he didn’t love me. Took me a long time to heal and I’m still healing, but everything you said makes so much sense. It’s something that you eventually just have to make peace with and know that it’s not your fault.
i can’t tell you how much this helped me. thank you so much. 💗 is there a possibility that you could do a video on boarder line personalities/ narcissistic behaviours in mothers and how it effects their children
I do have a question.. My father never was in my life ,I'm 46 years old, my mom always take care of me.. I don't want to have his last name anymore ,my mom said, you are crazy... i want only my mom last name.. I don't think he deserves,have a son like me.. Do you think I'm right, oh wrong.. I'm a businessman, I have a nice life, a good one.. but i always was alone
I lost my father since I was 3. Its hard growing up without a father. An important figure. I'm failing as a man atm. I'm lost, weak, clueless and deep in the dark. I'm just really tired. Can't do this anymore.
Stay strong 💪🏽!
Please hang in there. We go through things that we think we won't survive from. But you are much stronger than you know. I believe you when you say you are tired, but know that things will shift in your favor. One day at a time. I say this because I am also going through a rough phase in my life. Listening to music uplifts my spirit. Also, please know that no matter what you went through, you are still worthy of having that amazing life you envision. You are still worthy of all the good life has to offer. That's what you incarnated here for. And your story will be your biggest testimony. 🙏🏽
this helps …. thank you so much for this video … I grew up with an absent father and I always felt broken or that something was wrong with me … it had affected my last marriage and is currently having affects on my current relationship
How would seeing the father once a year affect a child? Would they grow up with the same struggles as kids with no present father do? Thank you for these videos 🤍
This was an okay assignment but we are loved by our Heavenly Father more than we know and he wants you to get to know him ❤ and spend time in his love if you sit with him you will feel that love your always wanted. You are loved by him
This has helped a lot, thanks ❤️
I didn't even realize i missed my dad until i one day thought about him. Since he was gone since I was a baby. Now I wonder if my self esteem issues possibly has to do with that. He was actually a great dad He just couldn't deal with an abusive wife so he left.
This was really helpful made me cry a little but helped me understand why I have trouble believing my ex partner loved me, I would question it a lot and I am always so hesitant cause I am scared It’s hard to believe
My absent dad (I sought him out when I was 18 and he's been passively in and out of my life ever since) has had the audacity to wonder why I'm (still) not married in my mid-40s, like something is wrong with me/it's all my fault (he, incidentally, has gone through so many relationships and is with a narcissistic woman). He has zero understanding/awareness of how his absence and passivity have affected every relationship I've had. My heart aches when I see my friends who grew up with fathers have 'healthy' marriages and men who pursued them. I've never felt seen and never had a man fight for me.
I just want you to know that there is a man who will always fight for you and who will never forsake you. He has given his life for you, so that you can find peace, grace and love in him. He loves you like no one else. And this man is Jesus Christ.
You are loved and you deserve to be loved!❤
@ichbinderwegdiewahrheitund3775 Thank you, I do have a relationship with Jesus. Thankfully, he has brought me so much healing, and I'm thankful for his salvation and continual presence in my life. God bless you. 😊
This "its not your fault" thing to change your mentality makes sense, but it didn't really work for me. It didn't hit deep enough
Thanks for this video and taking the time to give this information out to the world.
I never knew my father growing and now as an adult and a parent my kids dads are emotionally absent and i can see how its hurting my kids especially my daughter she'll be 5 and shes seeing how her father is emotionally available and never does the things a father will do with a daughter to create memories and she has started showing withdrawal towards him and my son is only 1 and his father doesn't play a part in his life anymore i cut off contact with him as he saw his son as a burden and he has moved on to a new relationship with no care or whatsoever. I as their mother, am left to pick up the pieces and love both my kids unconditional and its not their fault and it hurts as a single mom that guilt will always be there even in 30years to come but my kids are happy theyve got me 😊
That is really the first time I feel really understand, I am french and this type of video just doesn't exist here, this video is really helpfull so... THANK YOU
You mentioned they can't see it like the cup of tea. Very true so the tend to desire objects to reflect how much one loves them. But after the item or token of love has lost it's definitive value its is discarded and they tend to need a replacement to define or show that love.
I was so glad to find this video. It gives me hope and lightens my mind somehow. Now I know a little bit more of myself.
This it’s to close and honestly cried while you talked you may have just helped a little. Thank you
I couldn't hold a relationship. Especially when the other came from a loving home. I attract black sheep like myself
I find myself looking for validation when I don’t get that assurance,, which makes sense ;(
I wish she had more videos!
I grew up without a father and sometimes question myself was I not good enough I came from a foster family and my estranged mother told me he was now deceased leaving me still always wondering just who he was why he was never there and what he looked like smell like etc...
I don't have a dad.. they hid the fact I have ADHD for most of my life.. she.. slipped actually when talking ab stuff with my dad ab the fact he didn't want me on adhd meds when I was little.. and I wish.. I had known?. Id have treated it more like a tool rather than being insecure and wondering what was wrong with myself.. but than again bc of this ive learned so much on my own.. I amaze myself sometimes and I don't even know how I knew to do something I just do? I love my dad.. for many years I didn't bc of what happened. But.. him being healthy again has helped me a lot.. its like I'm actually me again since I went out to visit.. and I've had.. many traumatic events in my life. I notice those objects.. and yeah my mind doesn't shut up ever. It's just noise most the time but it does cause me anxiety.... but.. like I said since he's gotten better its helped me a lot?. Its kind of the push I needed. My dad totally didn't want anything to do with me for years.. I tried calling and everything. He's practically replaced me.. he got a new wife.. but I am proud of him and just hope he doesn't mess it up. I am 19 ive been struggling for years trying to start my life but no one's really helped me so I'm having to do everything myself.. I honestly don't know how I'm still here. I never sought out therapy.. I guess I just know myself in the way I know I won't kill myself even if I've thought about it. I dont need anyone to talk to.. like you said it's a beginning step. I'm just struggling with a lot on my mind and a lot of stuff I gotta get done not knowing what I'm gonna do. It's hard bc I'm such a introverted person.. even though I used to not be. My social skills are non existent it makes talking and getting my point across really hard and that's my adhd I think.. that's what bugs me the most about myself is the fact I can't listen properly or remember some things but I'll remember the color of something for example.. it just gets in the way. I used to wake up and have these fits where I wouldn't remember anything I'd say or do for atleast 20 minutes after waking up and most the time I'd fall back asleep and not even remember even if someone spoke to me about it. I dont know exactly what is wrong with me. I just know it's something and ADHD is the best guess I have.. Ive thought I was autistic but I'm so scared of doctors and I'm happy the way I am and I know if I do stuff people will cause me to change or get help I don't really need.. it always just makes it worse for me in the past when I had my therapy bc than it's on my mind more. I have moments like this occasionally though and I've been getting stronger and stronger mentally.
my old man left when i was 6 my parents used to fight like cats and dogs so he packed his bags never saw him again how can you miss what you never had
Lost sister at 4 she was six, lost mom at 11 , lost dad at 18. 51 today I’m lost
A question for women who didn’t grow up with a father, what should I do to make sure that my daughter knows that I am there for her?
Reach out to her, check on her, ask her if she needs anything, ask about her day. Have those conversations that you never got to have because it’s like meeting a new person. Those little things matter. We want to “feel” the effort. Help her understand that your intentions are pure and real that you really care and are willing to do whatever it takes to make it better. The bare minimum won’t cut it because so much has been lost. I wish you the best. ❤️
@@tootiefruity77 thank you
Don't let her surround with guys at her age.
Girls with Daddy issues tend to be promiscuous/teen age pregnancy
I had a father but he became an addict and alcoholic after he was diagnosed with Schizophrenia, than died in a car accident.
the rabbit hole goes deep the cause of all is rooted in the past
I am an absent farther but that's the grounds the mother set out. I must I feel guilty when you blocked in every way possible
When your parents been absent throughout your childhood and been treated poorly by others. It's hard to love yourself.
I understand that it would be difficult for people who’s father left them by choice. But will I be psychologically ok if my parents broke up and I only saw my dad a few times a year? My dad loves me very much, I just don’t see him much
Yes! Do not worry! What matters is the quality of time spent with the other parent. Throughout history, children of sailors, warriors, etc, knew they could only see their father at rare moments. But they knew their fathers cared about them!Catherine
@@catherinepeppers7854 thanks Catherine
Yah I'm pretty lost in life right now at the age of 21... I don't know what I'm going to do. Every time I try to do something positive for myself I can only stick with it for a short amount of time. I never met my real dad, and my mom was only 15, so I was living with my grandparents for a good amount of time. When my mom was 19 she met my step dad and had my brother. I got to be with them a lot more at the age of 4 or 5. However I would still be with my grandparents a lot more as I have more memories with them and didn't fully move in with my mom until the age of 8. My Grandpa who was 1 out of the 2 people that I was close with emotionally, died when I was 8. 2nd being my Grandma, who also died when I was 18 or 19. Both of them kind of had the same deaths in a way. Well not really... but they both forgot who I was leading up to their deaths. Grandpa having a stroke during surgery and my Grandma with dementia. Also my mom and step dad ended up getting a divorce about 4 years ago after having my 2nd baby brother. We are barley surviving and I'm now a burden. Me and my mom struggle with an emotional connection. Rarely hug or even say I love you. it feels awkward when we do. I know she cares because she works hard and put me in therapy, and on anti depressants. But I've been on and off anti depressants and all that for the past 5 years. I'm starting to lose hope. I try to be positive, however gaining more clarity as i'm getting older, its tough to ignore my past as i've been doing for years. One thing i've noticed is when I was in a relationship for 3 years, from 15 to 18... I was the best version of myself. I kept jobs even though they weren't for long, I always had money to take her out to eat and buy things for her and also for me as well. But then I started to get into drugs during the relationship and I basically ruined everything for us magnifying the trust issues of abandonment i've already had. What hurts me the most about that is becoming sober and realizing the emotional damage I caused her. Realizing that she really did love me, when for some reason I convinced myself she didn't. I tried to date about 4 more times but none of them were even the same. I gave up on love.
it's hard to listen and take action on my thoughts that tell me to do the right thing. Such as wanting to work, exercise or even taking a shower.. I just feel disconnected from everyday life as I just stay in my room all day playing video games. I'm a loser by society. The best way I can describe it is like a spiral illusion, like a screw. where i'm on the ridges. hell is at the bottom and heaven is at the top. Sometimes it twists downward bringing me to the bottom, and sometimes it twists upward bringing me to the top. I have no control of when or how long it happens. I literally don't know what to do after failing sooooo many times at everything a "normal" person can do, as it seems to be some what easy for them. I've just been thinking about all this the past week. It's starting to drive me crazy not being able to take action on what needs to be done. My thought process has always been I can't blame others. It's just those events could be one of the reasons all this is happening. Hence multiple videos like this.
You're clearly very smart and aware. What you describe was similar to years I've lived through. You can get you out and on the right path. It takes drive. drive is obviously difficult when you have little energy (like you mentioned to act on positive thoughts).
The way I broke my mental cycle was by running every morning AS SOON as I woke up. At first I struggled to run 1 mile - within weeks/months I could run 10 miles+.
Find the mental fortitude to continuously repeat shit you know is good for you - if you're able to sustain it for a decent period of time it'll act as a foundational positive behavior to pivot off of.
The reason the above is important regardless of the specific activity is because it's you fighting for yourself. In the process of fighting for yourself, and what you deserve, you'll find the answers to all the bullshit that happened in your life.
The universe drops us into a dark well - climb out...I have, and there's nothing but abundance here...we wait to delight in you :).
And also, at age 21 you have a lot of time. Be chill, it'll all unfold as it needs to, but you can obviously speed up the process :). I hope this helped a lil
My parents are still married, I'm very much a family gal.... I'm scared of marrying or dating a man who grew up in a broken home or without a father especially.
That so stupid
I just have my guard up all the time. I put on a mask and never seek any sort of emotional intimacy. I can't risk being hurt by a man. I do get anxious when I don't receive male attention but I hide it by acting like a queen bee. That works just fine.
having a fatherless girlfriend isnt for the weak
Yes, thank you for this !
My Real World Never Had A Chance. ;(
I thought that is my father give me birth to keep me at these condition of searching for healing wounds of a fatherless??
I am really fatherless. I have a physical father but not mentelly. This is equal to those not have a physical father.
I feel because I didn't grow up with a dad when it comes to dealing with women I tend to struggle with keeping my tounge in check when i get upset i can be very mean and that is not a thing i want to be content with i dont like taking out my anger on people however at times it happens and i wont put my hands on my partner's never have unless they wanted in the right ways if u get me however being verbally abusive is not the way I struggle with that I really do and I am not the type to just not say things how it is I feel like my temper not checked I could be a shit person that is why everyday i make sure i try and be GENUINELY as nice as i can be because if that flip gets switched forget about it i can really make people cry with my words and words are very powerful and if you got a fully automatic gun and the trigger gets stuck and just shoots without stopping that would be deadly that is how I think about my anger I cant let that trigger get stuck I always make sure my temper is on the chill side because once you lose composure u lost regardless the situation I'm not sayin lost as win or lose I'm sayin you lose the good in yourself more and more that you lose composure I don't like to think negative because I am very aggressive with my tounge when I am and that is a thing I do better with now I dont think as negative as I would I would say that I am humble of that fact never proud
Im a woman and also a lesbian. I assume this come from a man, it’s weird that am I also like this? My words are so powerful. I regret a lot of things that I have said and I wish that I didn’t. I have too much hate in my heart and myself. I tried to be positive but it’s difficult. I guess I have time to make my life a better version, Im in my very early twenties, I don’t want to be this person anymore.
Thank you for making this video
One of friends has no father growing up
Growing up in a split family with violent trauma although some war veterans would laugh at this comment,it's something that is stuck in the child's mind for the rest of their lives with all due respect to every War Veteran, Thank you but there's other things certain people grow up with from childhood that a war veteran will never understand it's just a different type of trauma to a young mind that they live with for the rest of their life. My father is a Vietnam Veteran he left when I was 2 years old. He was wild and wanted a good time of course he blames everything on "THE WAR" where in reality, he was just a non responsible coward but I guess we both live with our trauma day by day.
Can you make a video of the other details and things people can do for themselves in regards to this topic? Thank you for this video!!!
God bless you ! Thank you so much 🤍
I as a 32 year old me I crid so hard I realised everything she said was me
My right ear enjoyed this
I grew up without a father and married a much older man. Maybe I was looking for a father figure????
Interesting yet I've had plenty role models they prob saved my life yet I still was missing my pops
Please could you talk about this more
I wish my dad loved me enough to just call me once a year
Thank you for this video
Man my wife baby dad literally ghost his kids ain’t seen them since 2017 smh 🤦🏾♂️
So, are you speaking from your own personal experience or just text books?
Nice video 👍 i got this after search no father figure meme
thankyou
Ok tbh my mom is ah single mother since birth l don't even know my dad l was curious who was my dad is but tbh my mom never say anything who was my father but in my school if l didn't had ah father lm not real that's stupid then why am l standing here right now?? Tbh lm lucky that my mom is ah single parent why? This is just my opinion but father's sometimes are alcoholic or more tbh lm fine with my mom being ah ah single mother but lm still curious who was my dad is
This was very eye opening for me. Thank you!
Lady before you start calling someone bad. Remember this when the mother always ditched the dad and called police. What do you think is going to happen? Dad takes the hint and stop coming around!
How is it like having dry cereal
Do not ever undermine the creditability, the validity and the merit of lesbian parents who are well intentioned and who actually do the right thing.Thats what I've got to say.
Thank you
Awww cute voice🤗🙈
So this video sounds like is for women more
Amazing
thank u
Subject start at 1.30
If a parent is not active in a child’s life why does that make them a bad person? What would someone thinking of adoption as an option supposed to feel about that comment? I didn’t agree with that statement. You still have some work to do before giving advice.