@@l0l023 Everyone makes mistake then don't get drunk for the sake of your relationship... Cheating is a choice, knowing you might or might not fall into seduction or lust is a choice to open yourself up to that danger or not.
Farming Rom thats what i mean. When you’re drunk, you dont know what you’re doing, it’s hard to control yourself. That’s why you shouldn’t drink in first place. I’m against drinking because it cause a lot of problems and destroys a lot of relationships, homes and families.
It's not about the food nor drink that makes ppl cheat or make mistakes. It is the person itself, it depends on what they choose or decide when the situation arise. So I go for SeungGi's answer. Trust only works when you earn it, and trust works both ways.
@flake dutch this I will agree... it's always trust plays the thing but also understanding... men and women in a relationship should know their bounderies. If you are drinking with a male person friend or not as a woman in a relationship you really should know and take initiative when is enough.. and it's really not good going out with someone most male friends till middle of the night.. people worry.. even parents worry what will happen to their child that still out there.. the night cause dangers are always at the corner.. it's not only your male friends should worry about.. but also the environment... a perfect combination of answers in seung gi and sunjae's answer.. you can fetch your gf.. or trust them to go home as you expect them to be.. but if its the reverse women won't allow men to have drinks with their ex or be drunk with woman friends.. 🤪
@@satzuratedyu4825 She doesn't need my permission to meet anyone in the first place. my girlfriend isn't my property. Do you demand your partner to ask for your permission every time they need to meet someone? XD if i found out later she met her ex for a drink, then I would ask her the reason. My reaction will depend on what and how she answers. I've never got cheated on myself. But in my view, everyone is free to do anything they want. If my girlfriend wants to cheat on me, she's free to do so. But that means she doesn't really want to be with me anymore. I'm also free to dump her. There's consequence to every action. She's an adult who are fully responsible for her own actions. It's not my place to dictate what she can or can't do. And i don't need to. She should know what she's capable of, whether a solo drink with her ex can lead to cheating or not. If it can and it's not the outcome she desires, she should know not to drink with her ex in the first place. There's also a possibility that her ex may drug and rape her. But i wouldn't blame her for failing to calculate that possibility. she would be a victim and i wouldn't consider it cheating.
The most ideal and the most mature way would be seunggi's. Even I would go for that route but a part of me would go more for sangyun's ideology. I trust my partner but it's the alcohol I don't trust.
Maj Ruby but if the person knows they do dumb stuff when drunk then they themselves should make the mature decision not to drink or just don’t go overboard. I feel you should be able to trust your partner to make the mature decision in that type of situation. I agree with lee seungi, if they do end up fucking up, then it’s not meant to be.
KILLJOY I actually just analyzed this with my own personal experience bec I love to drink but I’m not dating anyone as of the moment. But if I do date, I guess it’d be fair for the both of us to follow sanghyun’s rule. Maybe minus the early curfew. But to each his own I guess, we all have diff circumstances.
Maj Ruby That's not Sangyung's ideology that's Yang Seyong's😅 Sangyun said he doesn't trust anyone who drinks with his gf and Yang Seyong said he doesn't trust the alcohol 😅😅 just for the correction☺️
I've been drunk alone around many of my guy friends who had feelings for me while I was in a relationship, neither of us ever crossed the line , in fact they've always respected my boyfriends and have always sent me home and have never taken advantage of me and me of them. Alcohol is never the problem, its the people who drink it.
I lov the way Seungi thinks. That's how I am and that is how everyone needs to be. The hard part is letting them go if anything happens but after lots of tears i will definitely dump him because if let's say something happens when they are drunk it means they don't love you enough. When a person drinks their real self comes out. So that's it. If your carnal desire is stronger than your love for the other than it's pointless being together. When you love someone your carnal desire automaticaly becomes carnal desire for your partner not for random people
Exactly, "prohibiting" them from seeing their friends will only make them believe you don't trust them and it'll be worse for the relationship. On top of that, like you said, if your partner wants to cheat on you they will cheat on you anyway, alcohol only makes it easier. To me they're projecting who they are tbh. Maybe they cannot trust themselves drunk in the company of a woman, whether she has a boyfriend or not. In that case, again, that's THEIR problem.
Hello, i think for me Seunggis answer is somewhat off. The other didn't prohibit their gf to drink with friends (male or female). They just don't want their gf to drink WITH A MALE FRIEND ALONE, that for me seems reasonable. We all need to understand the context not just what they first says. Se Hyeong: He said that he's okay with coffee, meal or hanging out but not drinking ALONE with a male friend. He didn't say that he doesn't trust his gf but he doesn't trust alcohol. His explanation is when you drink you lost rational thinking, which is true. Sang Yoon: He's also ok with coffee and meal or hanging out but not drinking ALONE WITH A MALE FRIEND. He didn't say he didn't trust his gf also but he didn't trust the guy. Hahaha Sungjae: He's ok with it also but he wants to take and pick up his gf after hanging out with her friends (male or female). But not drinking ALONE with a GUY FRIEND. Seunggi has a point also that he if he's gf made a mistake then they didn't made for each other. That's why he put so much trust on his gf, but his reasons are to idealistic. And idealistic relationships don't extist. You need to set limitations and red flags.
@@arialarin8883 I think I understand what you are saying. The girl can be trusted but the guy can't be. Come to really think of with how people are now days i guess its best that because the world is not as innocent as it used to be. Thanks for giving me a good point of view coz i learnt a lesson today. But this also makes me think don't u think a good girlfriend really knows who can n cannot be trusted because when it comes to me i will never go out drinking alone with just anyone. If I were to go its only with someone that i know for a very long time and he has proved me on multiple occasions but then again i am not much of a drinker and if i had a boyfriend i would ask him to pick me up for my own safety purposes. Because they are some occasional drinkers around me who takes care of me like a sister or a good fren that I know for a very long time. If my boyfriend says i can't go then of course i will be upset but if he is willing to drop me n pick me up then only I will go. Don't you think that's also reasonable..? 🤗
@@pereieswariragu6295 I agree with the other three than seunggi. I personally would feel uncomfortable if my bf drinks with another girl alone, especially when I don't know her. But I also agree with you that a good gf/bf will know how to act accordingly, and they won't cheat no matter what. However, you never know what people would do when they have alcohol in them. Plus, I have see way too many things that shouldn't happen happened.
Unlike sangyoon and sehyung, sungjae didn’t have trust issue with his girlfriend. He just said that if he had a girlfriend, he himself could just choose not to meet his female friends. By that sentence I suppose he meant if he did so, he hoped his girlfriend would also do so. But he didn’t specifically state she shouldn’t meet her male friends. Then he said he would just drop and pick her up if she’s going to meet her friends. It means she still has the freedom to have friends and he’s there to accompany her. That’s quiet thoughtful.
but on the other hand, it feels like he would “neglect” his friends by choosing not to meet. I feel that over time, your true friends would not choose to stay by your side because you choose to neglect them after getting into a relationship which is quite sad ...
Sungjae said if his girlfriend wants to he will not meet with his female friends (I think meet in here means drinking because they're talking about that?), he trust her and respect her just not with drinking alone with her male friend, in group is okay I guess
We know sungjae is really friendly..but there is a line between him and his female friends. He is actually very awkward when dealing with girls. That's why i think that he can do that easily
I agree to Seung Gi's point of view, this kind of understanding would be a great forward to healthy relationships. Trust and respect is really matter in relationships.
@@maggieallison3861 yeah, he said it of course. If things are not meant to be, it's just not meant to be, alchohol won't be the only reason to get into an affair anyway.
@@maggieallison3861 yes and so, if you know you're weak, you will not exceed your boundaries when going out drinking. you should restrict yourself more, Knowing that drinking more will make you less rational, hence would mke you possibly do something you shouldn't do. if you know you can't control yourself from drinking more, then don't go out drinking with an opposite sex friend. it's simple.
Trust from your children as well. No sane son/daughter would feel comfortable with their mother/father going out with another person regardless of whether that person appears kind or not.
LSG point of view is more mature in my opinion, is about trust if you can’t trust your partner then why even be in a relationship with them? I would never prohibit my boyfriend from spending time with his friends because friends are also important imagine all of the sudden your best friend stops hanging out with you because they have a boyfriend/gfriend. Friendships are as important as sentimental relationships they both bring different benefits.
True true! If you ghost your friends who had always been there for you since the beginning because of a girlfriend or boyfriend what will you do when you break up? Thats dumb and ungrateful i think!
coura baldé Yes, very much so. Besides if you have to change that much for your significant other you will end up very unhappy and will eventually feel trapped in the relationship.
I totally agree... We all need ME TIME and that includes hanging out with friends. No matter how deep your relationship with your partner, you still need both of your individuality. TRUST is very important in a relationship.
But for me its the other way around...i am the one who will adjust for them...because once a friend will have a partner in life...you will be living alone...so i think its better to find another friend...friends a just decoration in your life to nurture you as a human...but for your whole lifetime family and your partner is the one that are always at your side no matter what problem you have...
@@lyrics4you995 I can see your point but I think a true friend or you’re best friend someone who has seen your worst is not going to leave you behind because they found a partner unless its a superficial friendship. In my opinion friends are just as important as a partner and sometimes they can even become your family more than your own family it just depends on each situation.
i love seunggi's answer. i would never stop my boyfriend from meeting female friends, and i wouldn't stop meeting my male friends just because i'm in a relationship. friendships are so important in life so i really don't understand why it's romanticised to dump friends for a lover. like seunggi said, if the partner cheats on you using alcohol as an excuse then you're better off without them. i would rather trust fully and move on if my trust gets broken rather than be doubtful and paranoid throughout the entire relationship
Anyone who watched wgm would know sungjae is the protective type of boyfriend (I know wgm was just a reality show but it did show somewhat of what sungjae is actually like as a boyfriend)
I remember the one with him covering joy's lap for most of the broadcast. I remember him being extra cautious when joy was talking to strangers in Hainan. Also when he didn't like the idea of Joy going to clubs and decided that he will tag along instead. Protective and loving 💙
He have trust to his girlfriend.. I'm sure of that.. He just knows now what girls want. Admit it girls! If we asked our boyfriend to have a drink alone with our male friend and they say.. 'OK.. We feel a little upset. Why? Because it's seems like he's not feel jealous. 😂 I'm right? 😁
@@cess23imperial you shouldn't want your partner to feel jealous! That's so toxic no matter how small the amount is. If you make your partner feel jealous often, how can the partner possibly trust you?
that's why I love sungjae answer. He's not afraid to show how much he love his girlfriend.. He do all he can to protect his girl and their relationship. Ohh I love yook sungjae.. As a bbyu fan I hope it's joy that lucky girl 😍😉😊
All jibsabu members have good opinion...and like seung gi said its all about preferences. But from all of them I prefer Sungjae's opinion bcs for me its more realistic to do and its meant he also thought about his partner feeling. I mean I myself am not a person who who likes my social life to be limited by my partner. As a gf who loves my bf I really love when my bf drive me to meet my friend..male or female, and pick me up when it's over. For me it mean that he still respect my social life and the people around me but at the same time he also claim his authority as a bf without offending me. And also such treatment makes me feel loved and that makes me always aware about the boundaries as a gf.
I agree with sangyun, but I love how seung gi trust his couple. It's easy for Seung Gi to look for a spouse, but dont you think it's quite rare to find a man like Seung Gi? Such a good looking, caring, charming, funny, talented, and brilliant!! If I'm his woman, I'd ask for permission every time I want to go out with male friends even if we've married, in order to gain his trust and do the same to me. Lol.
Seunggi has really matured a lot. Once in an episode from 1 Night and 2 Days, he said he was very conservative and wouldn't like his girlfriend to wear short clothes and that he was the jealous kind.
i agree with Sehyeong,you can't trust alcohol really.😉 Sangyun's point is good to,with that certain limitations.😊 Sungjae's stance is defintely a lovely one,its every girls dream to have such a man like him.😍 Seunggi's point has point to,in relationship, trust is an essential factor.❤ conclusion: add altogether what they said,that will be a good formula to have a healthy,growing relationship.😅☺️ p.s i wish these guys will find their one true love and will stay in love forever.🙏🏻
Lee Seung Gi is very open minded. He's every girls dream man. 🥰 If you can't trust your partner then why are you in the relationship? Sounds so mature. I like his broad and flexible mindset and honest opinions. Think like a man he is.
LSG's opinion about the issue is not so Korean I would say and I love it. I just noticed how Koreans can be a bit possessive to their partners/gf/bf. I like how he explained that trust is very important in a relationship. 😊
I agree with Sanghyun's opinion. And I think it is also the woman's responsibility knowing she's in a relationship to set her boundaries for other guys.
@@preetipatel5512 Of course the man should know his boundaries but a lot of guys or girls flirt with people who are in relationships. It always happens even if they know you're in a relationship. It's up to the person who's in the relationship (whether it's the guy or girl) to set the boundary and say I'm sorry but I'm in a relationship and I will be faithful to him period. It doesn't matter the gender. Any person in a relationship knows going drinking with 1 person of opposite gender (even if it's a friend or coworker), bad things can happen. That's why you should just go with a group of people and have plans of how to return to your house.
Seung gi matured somuch over the years. He was already mature and responsible but had a closed minded approach to male-female relationships. But now, you can see how he'sopen to change if he sees logic in it and I'm so proudof him. His future partner will be the luckiest ever !
Your comments make me remember about 10 years ago, he was kinda traditional and wouldn’t even like his girlfriend wear revealing clothes or go clubbing and date many guys before him. Now he’s matured so much.
I think LSG is right. I don't think your partner should tell you which friends you can meet or not.... That's just too restrictive. If you can't trust me than we don't belong together. And if my partner ends up betraying me, we didn't belong together either. That said I never go drinking with just one male friend alone, but that's just me 😅.
Lmao.. All the girls gonna go for sungjae now!! 😂😂 1:23 But I will always love Lee seung GI and his answer!! 2:14 Trust is what really matter!! "If you don't trust her you'll never trust her!" *Strong point. 😍😍
I am completely agree with seungi. At the end of the day, it is all trust that matters. No matter how hard you try to hold him/her, if he/she wants to cheat, they will do it. The right one will stay because who you are, not because they cant find another choice
I COMPLETELY agree with what Seunggi said esp "then we weren't meant to be". BUT WHAT SUNGJAE SAID MADE MY HEART FLUTTER- the way he said it with such conviction 😭😭 his gf is/will be so lucky 💕
seunggi opinion is way too ideal in the real world. The world is no longer safe. I prefer Sung jae's answer. And i also find it sweet that he make sure that she is safe coming home. Uggh you're my ideal husband hahahhaha only in my dreams. Very lucky whoever your wife/gf is! 💙💙💙
We all wish we had a boyfriend like seungjae cause he’s the oppa we all wanna have. 😂😂💕 If I’m going to hang out with friends I’d rather my boyfriend drop me off and pick me up too just so that it shows that he cares.
LSG is so mature boy. His visuals are not my type but his persona made me felt in love with him 😍😍😍 In the end visuals don’t matter when it comes to true love and relationships ❣️
I 100% agree with Seunggi! The other 2 guys (I don't know their names sorry) want to pick and choose who she can meet and what she can do and its really controling, like if she was just talking to another man they would get furious and have a big fight. Sungjae is sweeter but I still think it's controlling. 'I've stopped doing this for you even though you didn't ask me to so I expect you to do the same.' although good intentions it can come off as being underhanded. Seunggi trusts that his partner can make their own decisions and if mistakes happen when drinking then it's a subconscious reflection on their feelings so they are just not meant to be. This shows that he would also trust his partner to tell him if they made a mistake, shows that honesty is the thing he values most and I seriously love that. Edit: wow this is from a year ago why is it on my timeline now lool
Seung Gi is so right.. I remember my previous relationship lasted 6 years.. He had a female best friend, and many times he went out with his friends at night clubs and even went on trips alone with his friends etc... But I never doubted him for a minute, and this was mutual... Because I trusted him blindly, he made me so sure of him, he gave me that safety... I knew and he knew too that we only had eyes for each other.. therefore our relationship lasted for so long.. and we broke off for other reasons but never had to do with cheating or jealousy... Trust and loyalty are the most fundamental elements of a relationship.. if they are not there forget it...
What a good perspective from Lee Seung Gi, not interfering in Partner's friendship life and if something happens then the relationship is not meant to be. Just wow.
Everyone has a point, and I'm learning how guys thinks when it comes to relationship. But I agree with Seung-Gi's point tho. We all need ME TIME and that includes hanging out with friends. No matter how deep your relationship with your partner, both of you still needs to keep your individuality. It sounds cliché or idealistic but TRUST is very important in a relationship.
I like SG's reasoning of if you're meant to be you are with or without alcohol. But thing is what hurts is if you found out much later that you were being fooled.
seunggi's reason is the best for me. i would want my boyfriend to trust me too because i would know my limits... it's just a matter of how much you trust your partner
Seunggi has a point but I agree with Sungjae on this. Trust is something you need to earn. And Sungjae’s principle is earning that trust. You don’t simply trust each other just because you love each other. That’s how you get hurt. P/s i became Sungjae’s fan after this episode 😂
Yes,you are right because i once trusted someone but then i getting hurt...So now i agree with Sungjae. P/s Thank you for became Sungjae's fan and please support his group too...BTOB,they are so talented..
Sungjae just like my husband before & after married.. See their girl friend when needed only with another friend as company or take me with her.. Always stay with me..
Yahhh.... Seung Gi yah! Nae chingu... I totally agree with his way. Especially at this age now (same age as him obviously), we are more rational and less jealous over littlest of things. And I've always believed in "If it's meant to be, it will be". So yeah.. Seung Gi yah!
Yes Lee Seung-Gi! The more I hear your opinions the more I like you. And I like the younger guy's opinion (sorry don't know your name). So I would do both if I have a boyfriend. But that is never gonna happen so, have no worries at all.
I think that's why sungjae said that he don't need to hangout with his female friend is because if he has a girlfriend she can be his friend/best friend and at the same time his lover ❤️ I think that's what he means.
Totally agree with Seung Gi. When we set restrictions on our partner, it can make them resentful towards us because we're taking away some of the freedoms they used to take for granted. If you can't trust them with alcohol or around opposite-gender friends, then you can't trust them period.
100% agree with Seung-Gi. Mutual respect and trust is absolutely necessary for a happy relationship. I think putting restrictions on yourself and your significant other just causes built up insecurities and paranoia. Platonic friendships exist but if your partner steps over the boundaries whether or not under the influence means it just wasn't meant to be, when trust is broken you shouldn't be sad about letting someone like that go because they're just not worthy.
Hello, i think for me Seunggis answer is somewhat off. The other didn't prohibit their gf to drink with friends (male or female). They just don't want their gf to drink WITH A MALE FRIEND ALONE, that for me seems reasonable. We all need to understand the context not just what they first says. Se Hyeong: He said that he's okay with coffee, meal or hanging out but not drinking ALONE with a male friend. He didn't say that he doesn't trust his gf but he doesn't trust alcohol. His explanation is when you drink you lost rational thinking, which is true. Sang Yoon: He's also ok with coffee and meal or hanging out but not drinking ALONE WITH A MALE FRIEND. He didn't say he didn't trust his gf also but he didn't trust the guy. Hahaha Sungjae: He's ok with it also but he wants to take and pick up his gf after hanging out with her friends (male or female). But not drinking ALONE with a GUY FRIEND. Seunggi has a point also that he if he's gf made a mistake then they didn't made for each other. That's why he put so much trust on his gf, but his reasons are to idealistic. And idealistic relationships don't extist. You need to set limitations and red flags. And besides who's a girl on her right mind would have a drink alone with a male friend ALONE? (except male best friends because best friends are precious and female friends). Knowing she's in a relationship? Is she sick in the head?
I totally agree with you. It's not really the trust issue (well, maybe it is for some people) but you need to have boundary as well. I feel like some of the comments misinterpreted what the guys said. For me, it's totally understandable where they come from, and they didn't even prohibit their gf from hanging out with friends or anything like that. I personally wouldn't like it if my bf drink with some girl alone, and I myself wouldn't do that either. Where can you set the boundary with trust? Can I go on a trip with my opposite sex friend alone? Can I sleep at his house alone? If my bf said no to that, does that mean he doesn't trust me? I do understand that people will cheat if they want to cheat, but you kinda have to set your boundary when you are in a relationship, you know.
@@vjbkbkllhgvjhbki5019 So true. Some misinterpret what the guys are trying to say and others love to draw the trust card lol. But really the guys are ok with their gf having a drink but not ALONE with a guy friend. Maybe with mix crowd. Boundaries are made to be set in a relationship specially in this world and time today.
i agree. i myself would feel off to drink with a guy friend alone. i would definitely call out other friends we have in that situation so we dont have to be seen as two, who may other people interpret, as 'dating'. even if were that much close. cause i dont want my bf to worry. 2nd, i dont want people who may see me with another guy gossip around that i may be cheating. 3rd, i myself wouldnt want my bf to be in that situation too with another girl all alone. this doesnt mean i dont trust my bf. it's just 'acting right' when you are in a relationship. you dont want your partner to worry or get jealous. besides, if i will be angry at my bf for not letting me drink with a guy alone, then that means i dont give importance to what my bf would feel. and thats insensitivity. in any case, if my bf dont have anything to do, i couldve invited him to drink with us to make us three so he may also get along with that male friend :) lastly, i know i can drink with a group of friends, mix with males and females, but not with a male alone or with a group of all boys. i wouldnt feel comfortable as well being in the latter.
@@hugsnkiCess So true, it's acting right not lack of trust. Many people immediately draw the trust card on the table, its ridiculous. Your points are so right is so many levels. If i really want to drink i would've called my bf. Because its so comforting that your bf is also you bestfriend. We can drink alone until morning. Lol
I love Seunggi's reasoning esp. when he said that if you commit mistakes while drunk (with the friend) and a fight arises (and worsens) then maybe you're just not meant to be. He seems to be the very practical type of person like when you've made mistakes and that mistake is too hard to accept and cannot makeup for anything anymore so why hold onto the relationship. Just break up and live life separately. I think the way he thinks is like, if a glass breaks, don't try to fix it anymore coz no matter how much you fix it and make it whole again it won't be the same anymore.
Then it will be better if we take precautions before the glass breaks, right? It doesn't mean that we don't use it or someone else can't touch it. But if that glass means a lot for us then we should use it carefully or put it on the higher place so children cant reach it.
@@bryama2129 Exactly. Before any glass breaks the one party should be very aware and not let any children to reach it. In short, if you're committed to someone that you truly care about be really careful not to break that person's heart coz if it starts to crack it will eventually break in the future. And if that time comes, you're gonna end up bleeding too. Lesson here, give importance to the person who values and loves you b/c when s/he's gone you're gonna regret it.
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Waaaah Lee Seung Gi, his opinion seems more matured. "If they drink and make mistakes, then we are not meant to be."
Everyone makes mistakes when they’re drunk. They’re drunk, it means they’re out of their mind
gofram khaled wtf??? So it’s ok to cheat if you are drunk? What logic is that
@@l0l023 Everyone makes mistake then don't get drunk for the sake of your relationship... Cheating is a choice, knowing you might or might not fall into seduction or lust is a choice to open yourself up to that danger or not.
How would you know?
Farming Rom thats what i mean. When you’re drunk, you dont know what you’re doing, it’s hard to control yourself. That’s why you shouldn’t drink in first place. I’m against drinking because it cause a lot of problems and destroys a lot of relationships, homes and families.
It's not about the food nor drink that makes ppl cheat or make mistakes. It is the person itself, it depends on what they choose or decide when the situation arise. So I go for SeungGi's answer. Trust only works when you earn it, and trust works both ways.
So would you let your partner go on a solo drink with her ex just because you trust him?
In "relationship " i will go for sungjae, love needs sacrifice, if u prefer hangout with anyone than u not really mean in "relationship"
@double dutch but you never know, because some people stay as friends with their ex's
@flake dutch this I will agree... it's always trust plays the thing but also understanding... men and women in a relationship should know their bounderies. If you are drinking with a male person friend or not as a woman in a relationship you really should know and take initiative when is enough.. and it's really not good going out with someone most male friends till middle of the night.. people worry.. even parents worry what will happen to their child that still out there.. the night cause dangers are always at the corner.. it's not only your male friends should worry about.. but also the environment... a perfect combination of answers in seung gi and sunjae's answer.. you can fetch your gf.. or trust them to go home as you expect them to be.. but if its the reverse women won't allow men to have drinks with their ex or be drunk with woman friends.. 🤪
@@satzuratedyu4825 She doesn't need my permission to meet anyone in the first place. my girlfriend isn't my property. Do you demand your partner to ask for your permission every time they need to meet someone? XD
if i found out later she met her ex for a drink, then I would ask her the reason. My reaction will depend on what and how she answers.
I've never got cheated on myself. But in my view, everyone is free to do anything they want. If my girlfriend wants to cheat on me, she's free to do so. But that means she doesn't really want to be with me anymore. I'm also free to dump her. There's consequence to every action. She's an adult who are fully responsible for her own actions. It's not my place to dictate what she can or can't do. And i don't need to. She should know what she's capable of, whether a solo drink with her ex can lead to cheating or not. If it can and it's not the outcome she desires, she should know not to drink with her ex in the first place. There's also a possibility that her ex may drug and rape her. But i wouldn't blame her for failing to calculate that possibility. she would be a victim and i wouldn't consider it cheating.
My respect for seunggi increased x10 because of that answer. That was an answer of a smart and rational guy who knows how to trust his partner.
True. Trust should be the base of every relationship be it friendship or love
The most ideal and the most mature way would be seunggi's. Even I would go for that route but a part of me would go more for sangyun's ideology. I trust my partner but it's the alcohol I don't trust.
Maj Ruby but if the person knows they do dumb stuff when drunk then they themselves should make the mature decision not to drink or just don’t go overboard. I feel you should be able to trust your partner to make the mature decision in that type of situation. I agree with lee seungi, if they do end up fucking up, then it’s not meant to be.
KILLJOY I actually just analyzed this with my own personal experience bec I love to drink but I’m not dating anyone as of the moment. But if I do date, I guess it’d be fair for the both of us to follow sanghyun’s rule. Maybe minus the early curfew. But to each his own I guess, we all have diff circumstances.
Maj Ruby that’s fair
Maj Ruby That's not Sangyung's ideology that's Yang Seyong's😅 Sangyun said he doesn't trust anyone who drinks with his gf and Yang Seyong said he doesn't trust the alcohol 😅😅 just for the correction☺️
I've been drunk alone around many of my guy friends who had feelings for me while I was in a relationship, neither of us ever crossed the line , in fact they've always respected my boyfriends and have always sent me home and have never taken advantage of me and me of them.
Alcohol is never the problem, its the people who drink it.
I lov the way Seungi thinks. That's how I am and that is how everyone needs to be. The hard part is letting them go if anything happens but after lots of tears i will definitely dump him because if let's say something happens when they are drunk it means they don't love you enough. When a person drinks their real self comes out. So that's it. If your carnal desire is stronger than your love for the other than it's pointless being together. When you love someone your carnal desire automaticaly becomes carnal desire for your partner not for random people
Exactly, "prohibiting" them from seeing their friends will only make them believe you don't trust them and it'll be worse for the relationship. On top of that, like you said, if your partner wants to cheat on you they will cheat on you anyway, alcohol only makes it easier. To me they're projecting who they are tbh. Maybe they cannot trust themselves drunk in the company of a woman, whether she has a boyfriend or not. In that case, again, that's THEIR problem.
Hello, i think for me Seunggis answer is somewhat off. The other didn't prohibit their gf to drink with friends (male or female). They just don't want their gf to drink WITH A MALE FRIEND ALONE, that for me seems reasonable. We all need to understand the context not just what they first says.
Se Hyeong: He said that he's okay with coffee, meal or hanging out but not drinking ALONE with a male friend. He didn't say that he doesn't trust his gf but he doesn't trust alcohol. His explanation is when you drink you lost rational thinking, which is true.
Sang Yoon: He's also ok with coffee and meal or hanging out but not drinking ALONE WITH A MALE FRIEND. He didn't say he didn't trust his gf also but he didn't trust the guy. Hahaha
Sungjae: He's ok with it also but he wants to take and pick up his gf after hanging out with her friends (male or female). But not drinking ALONE with a GUY FRIEND.
Seunggi has a point also that he if he's gf made a mistake then they didn't made for each other. That's why he put so much trust on his gf, but his reasons are to idealistic. And idealistic relationships don't extist. You need to set limitations and red flags.
@@arialarin8883 I think I understand what you are saying. The girl can be trusted but the guy can't be. Come to really think of with how people are now days i guess its best that because the world is not as innocent as it used to be. Thanks for giving me a good point of view coz i learnt a lesson today.
But this also makes me think don't u think a good girlfriend really knows who can n cannot be trusted because when it comes to me i will never go out drinking alone with just anyone. If I were to go its only with someone that i know for a very long time and he has proved me on multiple occasions but then again i am not much of a drinker and if i had a boyfriend i would ask him to pick me up for my own safety purposes. Because they are some occasional drinkers around me who takes care of me like a sister or a good fren that I know for a very long time. If my boyfriend says i can't go then of course i will be upset but if he is willing to drop me n pick me up then only I will go. Don't you think that's also reasonable..? 🤗
Best comment. And my ex is not even drunk. Lolololol 😂😂
@@pereieswariragu6295 I agree with the other three than seunggi. I personally would feel uncomfortable if my bf drinks with another girl alone, especially when I don't know her. But I also agree with you that a good gf/bf will know how to act accordingly, and they won't cheat no matter what. However, you never know what people would do when they have alcohol in them. Plus, I have see way too many things that shouldn't happen happened.
Unlike sangyoon and sehyung, sungjae didn’t have trust issue with his girlfriend. He just said that if he had a girlfriend, he himself could just choose not to meet his female friends. By that sentence I suppose he meant if he did so, he hoped his girlfriend would also do so. But he didn’t specifically state she shouldn’t meet her male friends. Then he said he would just drop and pick her up if she’s going to meet her friends. It means she still has the freedom to have friends and he’s there to accompany her. That’s quiet thoughtful.
I really like his statement, if u care ur gf or wife than ill do the same
Love this 👍
but on the other hand, it feels like he would “neglect” his friends by choosing not to meet. I feel that over time, your true friends would not choose to stay by your side because you choose to neglect them after getting into a relationship which is quite sad ...
Sungjae said if his girlfriend wants to he will not meet with his female friends (I think meet in here means drinking because they're talking about that?), he trust her and respect her just not with drinking alone with her male friend, in group is okay I guess
We know sungjae is really friendly..but there is a line between him and his female friends. He is actually very awkward when dealing with girls. That's why i think that he can do that easily
I agree to Seung Gi's point of view, this kind of understanding would be a great forward to healthy relationships. Trust and respect is really matter in relationships.
Yes but humans are weak when under the influence of alcohol.
@@maggieallison3861 yeah, he said it of course. If things are not meant to be, it's just not meant to be, alchohol won't be the only reason to get into an affair anyway.
@@maggieallison3861 yes and so, if you know you're weak, you will not exceed your boundaries when going out drinking. you should restrict yourself more, Knowing that drinking more will make you less rational, hence would mke you possibly do something you shouldn't do. if you know you can't control yourself from drinking more, then don't go out drinking with an opposite sex friend. it's simple.
The #1 foundation of relationship whether it's just dating or marriage is TRUST! I completely agreed with Seunggi's point of view.
Trust from your children as well. No sane son/daughter would feel comfortable with their mother/father going out with another person regardless of whether that person appears kind or not.
LSG point of view is more mature in my opinion, is about trust if you can’t trust your partner then why even be in a relationship with them? I would never prohibit my boyfriend from spending time with his friends because friends are also important imagine all of the sudden your best friend stops hanging out with you because they have a boyfriend/gfriend. Friendships are as important as sentimental relationships they both bring different benefits.
True true! If you ghost your friends who had always been there for you since the beginning because of a girlfriend or boyfriend what will you do when you break up? Thats dumb and ungrateful i think!
coura baldé Yes, very much so. Besides if you have to change that much for your significant other you will end up very unhappy and will eventually feel trapped in the relationship.
I totally agree... We all need ME TIME and that includes hanging out with friends. No matter how deep your relationship with your partner, you still need both of your individuality.
TRUST is very important in a relationship.
But for me its the other way around...i am the one who will adjust for them...because once a friend will have a partner in life...you will be living alone...so i think its better to find another friend...friends a just decoration in your life to nurture you as a human...but for your whole lifetime family and your partner is the one that are always at your side no matter what problem you have...
@@lyrics4you995 I can see your point but I think a true friend or you’re best friend someone who has seen your worst is not going to leave you behind because they found a partner unless its a superficial friendship. In my opinion friends are just as important as a partner and sometimes they can even become your family more than your own family it just depends on each situation.
i love seunggi's answer. i would never stop my boyfriend from meeting female friends, and i wouldn't stop meeting my male friends just because i'm in a relationship. friendships are so important in life so i really don't understand why it's romanticised to dump friends for a lover. like seunggi said, if the partner cheats on you using alcohol as an excuse then you're better off without them. i would rather trust fully and move on if my trust gets broken rather than be doubtful and paranoid throughout the entire relationship
Anyone who watched wgm would know sungjae is the protective type of boyfriend
(I know wgm was just a reality show but it did show somewhat of what sungjae is actually like as a boyfriend)
I watched bbyu wgm and i like his personality..
I remember the one with him covering joy's lap for most of the broadcast. I remember him being extra cautious when joy was talking to strangers in Hainan. Also when he didn't like the idea of Joy going to clubs and decided that he will tag along instead. Protective and loving 💙
Idk why I instantly thought of Joy when Sungjae was explaining 😂😂
바네사Vanessa me too hahhaha
ME 2
I knew it! I will see bbyuu comments here hahaha
Me too... Joy need to watch this...
I even imagined 😂
“You pass your gf in a dress with a man in tux... is that still ok?” 😂🤣
I like loving, caring and protective boyfriend, like Yook Sung Jae..
😍😍😍
he already prove it in we got married💖
he let joy drink but he make sure that she is safe😍
He have trust to his girlfriend.. I'm sure of that.. He just knows now what girls want. Admit it girls! If we asked our boyfriend to have a drink alone with our male friend and they say.. 'OK.. We feel a little upset. Why? Because it's seems like he's not feel jealous. 😂 I'm right? 😁
@@divinavinuya1870 true.. 😍
@@cess23imperial you shouldn't want your partner to feel jealous! That's so toxic no matter how small the amount is. If you make your partner feel jealous often, how can the partner possibly trust you?
that's why I love sungjae answer. He's not afraid to show how much he love his girlfriend.. He do all he can to protect his girl and their relationship. Ohh I love yook sungjae.. As a bbyu fan I hope it's joy that lucky girl 😍😉😊
And I thought I couldn't love Seung Gi more...
All jibsabu members have good opinion...and like seung gi said its all about preferences. But from all of them I prefer Sungjae's opinion bcs for me its more realistic to do and its meant he also thought about his partner feeling. I mean I myself am not a person who who likes my social life to be limited by my partner. As a gf who loves my bf I really love when my bf drive me to meet my friend..male or female, and pick me up when it's over. For me it mean that he still respect my social life and the people around me but at the same time he also claim his authority as a bf without offending me. And also such treatment makes me feel loved and that makes me always aware about the boundaries as a gf.
I see people go for Seungi's answer, but for me I love Seungjae's reasoning. Personally, I choose Seungjae coz I love that
I knew I stanned Seunggi for a reason...
Lee seunggi really is the best man in Korea.
I agree with sangyun, but I love how seung gi trust his couple. It's easy for Seung Gi to look for a spouse, but dont you think it's quite rare to find a man like Seung Gi? Such a good looking, caring, charming, funny, talented, and brilliant!! If I'm his woman, I'd ask for permission every time I want to go out with male friends even if we've married, in order to gain his trust and do the same to me. Lol.
Seunggi has really matured a lot. Once in an episode from 1 Night and 2 Days, he said he was very conservative and wouldn't like his girlfriend to wear short clothes and that he was the jealous kind.
People tend to grow. Personal growth is always imp. He sounds so matured here and his even more recent interviews u can see he is growing as a person
All 4 members are really adorable with their perspective on meals and drinking. Think Sangyun and Sehyeong are ready for marriage...
Yes sangyoon and sehyeong almost 40yr
i agree with Sehyeong,you can't trust alcohol really.😉
Sangyun's point is good to,with that certain limitations.😊
Sungjae's stance is defintely a lovely one,its every girls dream to have such a man like him.😍
Seunggi's point has point to,in relationship,
trust is an essential factor.❤
conclusion: add altogether what they said,that will be a good formula to have a healthy,growing relationship.😅☺️
p.s i wish these guys will find their one true love and will stay in love forever.🙏🏻
😍
Lee Seung Gis answer is really the most reasonable and grown up one.
Wow Lee Seung Ji! I really love this guy! He's amazing!
This is why I've been in love with lee seung gi since 9th grade lmfao
Lee Seung Gi is very open minded. He's every girls dream man. 🥰 If you can't trust your partner then why are you in the relationship? Sounds so mature. I like his broad and flexible mindset and honest opinions. Think like a man he is.
I Love You Lee Seung Gi ♥ you understand everything ♥ ♥
Sungjae being the ideal type of man 😍😍
LSG's opinion about the issue is not so Korean I would say and I love it. I just noticed how Koreans can be a bit possessive to their partners/gf/bf. I like how he explained that trust is very important in a relationship. 😊
I agree with Sanghyun's opinion. And I think it is also the woman's responsibility knowing she's in a relationship to set her boundaries for other guys.
Wow.. And what about man? You for got to add his responsibility and boundaries
@@preetipatel5512 Of course the man should know his boundaries but a lot of guys or girls flirt with people who are in relationships. It always happens even if they know you're in a relationship. It's up to the person who's in the relationship (whether it's the guy or girl) to set the boundary and say I'm sorry but I'm in a relationship and I will be faithful to him period. It doesn't matter the gender. Any person in a relationship knows going drinking with 1 person of opposite gender (even if it's a friend or coworker), bad things can happen. That's why you should just go with a group of people and have plans of how to return to your house.
SungJae oppa so cute!! And SeungKi oppa so mature and manly as always 💜💜💜
Seung gi matured somuch over the years. He was already mature and responsible but had a closed minded approach to male-female relationships. But now, you can see how he'sopen to change if he sees logic in it and I'm so proudof him. His future partner will be the luckiest ever !
Your comments make me remember about 10 years ago, he was kinda traditional and wouldn’t even like his girlfriend wear revealing clothes or go clubbing and date many guys before him. Now he’s matured so much.
I'm just wondering if the four of them has a girl in mind while answering this😂 I wonder who's in a relationship😂
Sorry but i just think of sungjoy😂
Sungjae was being so careful he kept saying“ if i had a girl friend “ unlike others 😂
Sungjae for sure. Hahaha
Sungjae 😂
Sungjae
I think LSG is right. I don't think your partner should tell you which friends you can meet or not.... That's just too restrictive. If you can't trust me than we don't belong together. And if my partner ends up betraying me, we didn't belong together either.
That said I never go drinking with just one male friend alone, but that's just me 😅.
For this reason I love Seungi!!!!
Lmao.. All the girls gonna go for sungjae now!! 😂😂 1:23
But I will always love Lee seung GI and his answer!! 2:14 Trust is what really matter!! "If you don't trust her you'll never trust her!" *Strong point. 😍😍
Sungjae-yaaaa, I’ll be your girlfriend whenever you want 🥰
I really like his point of view there!!!
Someone give this guy an award for respecting his woman and giving her freedom for whatever she wants to do and trust her
bare minimum
Wow, Lee Seung Gi....I loveeee youuuu... 😂😂😂😂... Truly a wonderful man...
I couldn't agree more Seungi oppa! U are right!
I am completely agree with seungi. At the end of the day, it is all trust that matters. No matter how hard you try to hold him/her, if he/she wants to cheat, they will do it. The right one will stay because who you are, not because they cant find another choice
Honestly my kind of type is also Seungjae 😂
I started to smile the moment LSG, that's exactly what I like to hear
Seungiyah saranghae 😍 so sad, there is only one lee seunggi existing in this world 💜
Yeah I agree to that.huhuhu.Wish I could've him for myself.😭😭😭😖😢💕💕💕 love him so much
Yes sueng gi your opinion is absolutely true.
I COMPLETELY agree with what Seunggi said esp "then we weren't meant to be". BUT WHAT SUNGJAE SAID MADE MY HEART FLUTTER- the way he said it with such conviction 😭😭 his gf is/will be so lucky 💕
I totally agree with what *Lee seung gi* said ,,, it's a matter of trust!!! 🖤🖤
seunggi opinion is way too ideal in the real world. The world is no longer safe. I prefer Sung jae's answer. And i also find it sweet that he make sure that she is safe coming home. Uggh you're my ideal husband hahahhaha only in my dreams. Very lucky whoever your wife/gf is! 💙💙💙
We all wish we had a boyfriend like seungjae cause he’s the oppa we all wanna have. 😂😂💕 If I’m going to hang out with friends I’d rather my boyfriend drop me off and pick me up too just so that it shows that he cares.
I agree with Seungi cause if there is trust there is no need to worry. Very mature and I respect his thinking.
Lee Seung Gi raising the bar too high. 😭😭😭 He's perfect.
joy red velvet you have a great husband
Yeah I agree
His fiance is a lucky woman! I wish them the best of happiness!
LSG is so mature boy. His visuals are not my type but his persona made me felt in love with him 😍😍😍 In the end visuals don’t matter when it comes to true love and relationships ❣️
I like Seung Gi’s mindset
I 100% agree with Seunggi! The other 2 guys (I don't know their names sorry) want to pick and choose who she can meet and what she can do and its really controling, like if she was just talking to another man they would get furious and have a big fight. Sungjae is sweeter but I still think it's controlling. 'I've stopped doing this for you even though you didn't ask me to so I expect you to do the same.' although good intentions it can come off as being underhanded. Seunggi trusts that his partner can make their own decisions and if mistakes happen when drinking then it's a subconscious reflection on their feelings so they are just not meant to be. This shows that he would also trust his partner to tell him if they made a mistake, shows that honesty is the thing he values most and I seriously love that.
Edit: wow this is from a year ago why is it on my timeline now lool
Seung Gi is so right.. I remember my previous relationship lasted 6 years.. He had a female best friend, and many times he went out with his friends at night clubs and even went on trips alone with his friends etc... But I never doubted him for a minute, and this was mutual... Because I trusted him blindly, he made me so sure of him, he gave me that safety... I knew and he knew too that we only had eyes for each other.. therefore our relationship lasted for so long.. and we broke off for other reasons but never had to do with cheating or jealousy... Trust and loyalty are the most fundamental elements of a relationship.. if they are not there forget it...
for dating relationship I agree with seunggi, but for married relationship I agree with sungjae hehe...
What a good perspective from Lee Seung Gi, not interfering in Partner's friendship life and if something happens then the relationship is not meant to be. Just wow.
yknow this is why i stan seunggi gotta stan harder i guess
I couldnt agree more with seung gi.. Trust is the key. Even without alcohol if your partner wanna cheat they will do it..
Sungjae your answer ahhhh so trueeee that’s why I adore him moreeee
Seunggi ❤️❤️ thats why hes the nation's son in law
I looooove Sungjae and Seunggi response!! Sang Hyun and Sehyeong is so funnny
Oh. How to find someone like LSG? He is the best!
Where can I find a man that is like Seung Gi oppa. You truly are the best. The king in our hearts.
Now I wanna listen to btob - only one for me...
Yess i see you Go support BTOB
@@ninabtob9351 yass dont sleep on them
1:30 i think of joy out of sudden😂
Everyone has a point, and I'm learning how guys thinks when it comes to relationship.
But I agree with Seung-Gi's point tho. We all need ME TIME and that includes hanging out with friends. No matter how deep your relationship with your partner, both of you still needs to keep your individuality.
It sounds cliché or idealistic but
TRUST is very important in a relationship.
I am in love with the answer of the blue shirt guy he definitely knows what a girl wants..
He's name is Yook sung Jae..
Btob member.. I agree with you..
SEUNG GI IS JUST TOOOO CUTE...!!! ALL THAT AND A BAG OF CHIPS..LOL.....WOW...😃😉
I wish I get a husband like Yook Sungjae 😆
I like SG's reasoning of if you're meant to be you are with or without alcohol. But thing is what hurts is if you found out much later that you were being fooled.
seunggi's reason is the best for me. i would want my boyfriend to trust me too because i would know my limits... it's just a matter of how much you trust your partner
I agree with seungi.👏👏👏 😍😍😍 u nailed. It oppa.. 😘
sungjae is so sweet
I instantly thought of Joy after hearing Sungjae hihu BBYU 💗
Seunggi has a point but I agree with Sungjae on this. Trust is something you need to earn. And Sungjae’s principle is earning that trust. You don’t simply trust each other just because you love each other. That’s how you get hurt.
P/s i became Sungjae’s fan after this episode 😂
Yes,you are right because i once trusted someone but then i getting hurt...So now i agree with Sungjae.
P/s Thank you for became Sungjae's fan and please support his group too...BTOB,they are so talented..
Sungjae just like my husband before & after married.. See their girl friend when needed only with another friend as company or take me with her.. Always stay with me..
Yahhh.... Seung Gi yah! Nae chingu... I totally agree with his way. Especially at this age now (same age as him obviously), we are more rational and less jealous over littlest of things. And I've always believed in "If it's meant to be, it will be". So yeah.. Seung Gi yah!
A man like Seung Gi pleaseee 😍
I strongly agree seung gi!!!👍😍 I'ts a matter of trust
Actually without alcohol if they want to cheat or just flirt it can happen anyway. Soo i stan LSG ❤️
damn right
Yes Lee Seung-Gi! The more I hear your opinions the more I like you. And I like the younger guy's opinion (sorry don't know your name). So I would do both if I have a boyfriend. But that is never gonna happen so, have no worries at all.
This makes me think that maybe Seunggi got this from dating Yoona who's always been close to Suju :))
good point seungi, very wit analyzing the situation...
trust is all that matter if the one breaks it so maybe they're not meant to be...
The first and second guy is the realest answer haha,the third and fourth is just wonderful and perfect answer
I think that's why sungjae said that he don't need to hangout with his female friend is because if he has a girlfriend she can be his friend/best friend and at the same time his lover ❤️ I think that's what he means.
i like sungjae answer..
Totally agree with Seung Gi. When we set restrictions on our partner, it can make them resentful towards us because we're taking away some of the freedoms they used to take for granted. If you can't trust them with alcohol or around opposite-gender friends, then you can't trust them period.
Ooooh Sungjae is a dreaaaam bf!!! I'm being melted by his answers😂😂😂💗💗💗
Me too
100% agree with Seung-Gi. Mutual respect and trust is absolutely necessary for a happy relationship. I think putting restrictions on yourself and your significant other just causes built up insecurities and paranoia. Platonic friendships exist but if your partner steps over the boundaries whether or not under the influence means it just wasn't meant to be, when trust is broken you shouldn't be sad about letting someone like that go because they're just not worthy.
Seunggi's point is right, if your partner is loyal and faithful to you he/she would know how to control himself/herself.
sehyung giving an extreme example is hilarious 🤣
I want a boyfriend like sungjae
I agree with Sungjae opinion....because my husband is like that too..😊😍
Me too.
Poor you
@@TayTks why???? I dont have problem with that situation...
Your husband so sweet.
Hello, i think for me Seunggis answer is somewhat off. The other didn't prohibit their gf to drink with friends (male or female). They just don't want their gf to drink WITH A MALE FRIEND ALONE, that for me seems reasonable. We all need to understand the context not just what they first says.
Se Hyeong: He said that he's okay with coffee, meal or hanging out but not drinking ALONE with a male friend. He didn't say that he doesn't trust his gf but he doesn't trust alcohol. His explanation is when you drink you lost rational thinking, which is true.
Sang Yoon: He's also ok with coffee and meal or hanging out but not drinking ALONE WITH A MALE FRIEND. He didn't say he didn't trust his gf also but he didn't trust the guy. Hahaha
Sungjae: He's ok with it also but he wants to take and pick up his gf after hanging out with her friends (male or female). But not drinking ALONE with a GUY FRIEND.
Seunggi has a point also that he if he's gf made a mistake then they didn't made for each other. That's why he put so much trust on his gf, but his reasons are to idealistic. And idealistic relationships don't extist. You need to set limitations and red flags.
And besides who's a girl on her right mind would have a drink alone with a male friend ALONE? (except male best friends because best friends are precious and female friends). Knowing she's in a relationship? Is she sick in the head?
I totally agree with you. It's not really the trust issue (well, maybe it is for some people) but you need to have boundary as well. I feel like some of the comments misinterpreted what the guys said. For me, it's totally understandable where they come from, and they didn't even prohibit their gf from hanging out with friends or anything like that. I personally wouldn't like it if my bf drink with some girl alone, and I myself wouldn't do that either. Where can you set the boundary with trust? Can I go on a trip with my opposite sex friend alone? Can I sleep at his house alone? If my bf said no to that, does that mean he doesn't trust me?
I do understand that people will cheat if they want to cheat, but you kinda have to set your boundary when you are in a relationship, you know.
@@vjbkbkllhgvjhbki5019 So true. Some misinterpret what the guys are trying to say and others love to draw the trust card lol. But really the guys are ok with their gf having a drink but not ALONE with a guy friend. Maybe with mix crowd. Boundaries are made to be set in a relationship specially in this world and time today.
i agree. i myself would feel off to drink with a guy friend alone. i would definitely call out other friends we have in that situation so we dont have to be seen as two, who may other people interpret, as 'dating'. even if were that much close. cause i dont want my bf to worry. 2nd, i dont want people who may see me with another guy gossip around that i may be cheating. 3rd, i myself wouldnt want my bf to be in that situation too with another girl all alone. this doesnt mean i dont trust my bf. it's just 'acting right' when you are in a relationship. you dont want your partner to worry or get jealous. besides, if i will be angry at my bf for not letting me drink with a guy alone, then that means i dont give importance to what my bf would feel. and thats insensitivity.
in any case, if my bf dont have anything to do, i couldve invited him to drink with us to make us three so he may also get along with that male friend :)
lastly, i know i can drink with a group of friends, mix with males and females, but not with a male alone or with a group of all boys. i wouldnt feel comfortable as well being in the latter.
@@hugsnkiCess So true, it's acting right not lack of trust. Many people immediately draw the trust card on the table, its ridiculous.
Your points are so right is so many levels. If i really want to drink i would've called my bf. Because its so comforting that your bf is also you bestfriend. We can drink alone until morning. Lol
Finally someone who doesn't misinterpreted Sungjae's word
Seunggi 💓
I love Seunggi's reasoning esp. when he said that if you commit mistakes while drunk (with the friend) and a fight arises (and worsens) then maybe you're just not meant to be. He seems to be the very practical type of person like when you've made mistakes and that mistake is too hard to accept and cannot makeup for anything anymore so why hold onto the relationship. Just break up and live life separately. I think the way he thinks is like, if a glass breaks, don't try to fix it anymore coz no matter how much you fix it and make it whole again it won't be the same anymore.
Then it will be better if we take precautions before the glass breaks, right? It doesn't mean that we don't use it or someone else can't touch it. But if that glass means a lot for us then we should use it carefully or put it on the higher place so children cant reach it.
@@bryama2129 Exactly. Before any glass breaks the one party should be very aware and not let any children to reach it. In short, if you're committed to someone that you truly care about be really careful not to break that person's heart coz if it starts to crack it will eventually break in the future. And if that time comes, you're gonna end up bleeding too. Lesson here, give importance to the person who values and loves you b/c when s/he's gone you're gonna regret it.