the truth about everything. (the wedding, jake, alissa, erika, mtv, mental health, drugs, etc)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ธ.ค. 2019
- i filmed this right after my (two day) break from socials. obviously things are a little better and different since then, but i felt like i needed to say all of this in order to grow. love you. thank u for listening. we got this.
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2019 was the grind and hustle for your career so 2020 is for healing and nurturing your success
Love this!
Yes ❤
Peridot.♥️
Yes!💪🏽
Colby and Brennen What I really got for Christmas please check that out in my channel ❤️
Jake loves no one but himself.
Tana loves everyone but herself. 🤷🏼♀️
Chelsea Brotherton realest comment
THAT part
This.
So true
Spot on
I remember someone commenting that jake loves no one but himself, and tana loves everyone but herself.
Sophie Chris so true 🥺
Sophie Chris yes🥺
omg that’s so sad
Thats fucking truthfully brutal
They're both narcissists lmao
“You’re the fun girl and you’re not having fun”
that hit me actually
Dani Derpasaurus same
same sis same
felt that
*in. my. SOUL*
Dani sameeeeeee
I felt that sis
tbh i always hated the “tana paul” thing. girl you are TANA MONGEAU.
SAME
PERIOD
Logan actually liked tana like fr
@@wakeupfilthy3463 hi I want to love you kiss you really what your name
Have to separate different kind of trash
“How many scars did we justify because we loved the person holding the knife?”
Deep
-Alissa Violet
I feel that...so deep. 😣❤️❤️
Well said.
Super deep and relatable
the fact that he didn’t stay with her and comfort her when her dad almost died and her grandma passed away shows exactly what kind of person he is. He is straight up manipulating her and she deserves better
@@hatdog4930 Jake, right after their wedding when he was pictured with a bunch of girls on top of him while his wife was grieving
Ela that was unforgivable
That literally says everything
Davld. Nostas
I GAGGED at that. Nobody deserves that.
Didn't Jake Paul do this same thing to Alissa Violet? Hook up with girls while being with her. this isn't cool he treats women this way.
Don’t worry. The devil will have his day with these a$$holes. They can think they will get away with things and then they are lost nobody’s.
A little late but tana did the exact same thing to jake paul so dont put all the blame on him. Shes al for “polyamory” and having side dudes and even shitted on brad for wanting her to he monogamous.
The answer: jake Paul being shit. 🥳
I mean look the dad hes a pos who called everyone who exposed jake for who he is and how hes a pos the dad gets pissed dose and say shit to hurt the other person makes jokes about them and lie about their character and make it look like jakes the good guy
this reminds me of this saying i once read: "When you are not fed love on a silver spoon, you learn to lick it off knives" - i hope you find happiness and the love you need in your life
holy shit. That's good.
beautiful saying.
This made me cry. Thanks
maybe that’s why i have a knife kink
💖 very much the truth!!
rihanna said something along the lines of “never underestimate a mans ability to make you feel bad for what he did wrong”
Kasey Thompson too fucking true though because that’s all they know to do
So true
exactly, « never underestimate a man's ability to make you feel guilty for his mistakes »
Never underestimate a woman's ability to make you feel bad for what she did wrong. It goes both ways.
@@divyanshsahai it does dude it really does these females been around boys not men
this feels like a deep FaceTime call
Deadass
Bubbles! 😍
Facts
He's a narcissist and you've trauma-bonded with him.
Chante Naude accurate!
"Trauma bonded".. super interesting!
Chante Naude yes, he was grooming her at the beginning that’s why she keeps clinging on to that
They’re both narcissists...
That’s not what trauma bonded means. Trauma bonding is a term for children being sexually abused by a family member. Then the relationship pattern becomes internalized as a learned pattern behavior as an attachment.
When you feel pressured around a guy to be the "cool girl" or the "cool girlfriend he never had", it's a role that strictly exists to let him do whatever he wants regardless of how it affects you. It's a position of exploitation. It's never healthy. And it's so incredibly common for guys to subtly manipulate you into thinking it's your idea to fill that role, manipulate you into thinking you're so mean and just making their life worse if you're not "chill" about everything. Have boundaries! Always defend them! Never let them be ignored or abused, not even by yourself. No healthy or happy relationship can exist when you're constantly having your boundaries crossed, or your feelings ignored, or pouring out you heart, soul, life, and effort for someone who isn't doing the same for you.
Beth B this is the hottest take of the century
!!!!! *attaches gone girl "cool girl" monologue*
🙌 LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BANK 🙌
Damn this really opened my eyes to my own situation thank you whatever person commented this
DAMN...That hit me HARD😶😭
“i put so much of myself into jake, that i lost myself” that one hit so hard.
devon hart Same ):
Sam
You can wet a stone with all the water of a river, but you will never make it soft. 🤷🏻♀️
That LITERALLY is Fuck Up. Feeling like you have to lose yourself before you lose someone. Shit hurts!
So glad to hear that she said that. Haven’t watched the video yet but I’ve been wanting her to see that her worth is far greater than what Jake can offer her. She’s a power house, people like Jake will only empty her tank.
The amount of “it was my fault” after things that were NOT her fault is so scary, sad, alarming, all the things.
oh my god yeah
She’s gotten so much shit for passing blame she’s overcompensating now :(
As soon as she said it was okay it became her fault and that’s facts..
Jennnifer everyone who did shitty things to her that she allowed were still adults. Adults should know right from wrong and how to treat other human beings. I am not a huge Tana fan but it’s definitely not fair to say that it’s all her fault.
Jennnifer technically yes, but as someone who has been in a toxic relationship where you feel like you have to give them everything to get ANYTHING back at all, there's a point where it's her fault but it's definitely also his for treating her like that. the whole video is about her being upset that she let these things happen to her but you can so clearly tell the people she's talking about are treating her like shit.
i remember when her and jake first started dating and everyone was shipping them.. and started to like jake because of tana..
I feel like it shows that she's genuinely likable and that Jake knows how to put on a persona that people will like. He just acted along and it worked.
Tana said herself that Jake did acted like she wanted until they got married then drastically changed immediately after
literally same
yea she made him likable
Tana is the only youtuber who I feel like I'm straight up friends with, like she doesn't know each of us individually but she is so human. Tana we all love you, and you should take as much time as you need . We'll be here when you get back
She helped scam almost 5000 people like you
She’s still a person and has dealt with her consequences. Try not to judge unless your are faultless . I feel for her and completely agree with what Zia said !
@@BBBMOXIE its not judgement its stating what happend lol.
Aries StarWind that was years ago, she’s changed
SerenaIsInAPocket no one really changes. A cheaters a cheaters, a scammers a scammer, a murderers a murderer, etc
The number of times she says “it’s my fault” is heart breaking
Yes but she is wise to know that everything is always our own fault. Whatever happens to us is because of us. If there is anything ever wrong in your life, it begins with you.
I know. She is mature but she makes excuses for people because she does not love herself.
**Saying Jake's the manipulator***
That's how manipulators work. They built up these son stories so you feel bad for them and would do anything to protect them. Sadly thats what Jake has done to her. He might not have meant for things to hurt her. But all of us could see she clearly cared more and put more into the relationship.
Lauren Suiter I used to be like this and I still am to some extent. It sucks
@Makayla Scarbrough I was raped at 10 by two men and again at 19 by two men. I have reproductive damage from the grown men inserting them selves into me at 10. I now a cardiovascular disease called pelvic congestion syndrome and I suffer everyday from chronic pain. I also bleed out of my bottom everytime I get my period. Ever since I started my period in fact. I never told anyone at 10. Women have killed themselves having this cardiovascular disease. I did put the two men at my age of 19 in prison. It is never someones fault that things so terrible happen however it is the outcome of strength they choose to find within themselves. Forgiveness and to carry on with a proud life that they made it through. I am speaking metaphorically and seeing the bright side to every thing. Also my son stopped breathing from S.I.D.S at 5 weeks old. I awoke to bright white light enveloping my eyes. It was my son speaking to me with energy to get to him. I found him completely blue and limp. Moments later the same day, his father was shot into his heart twice and killed in our living room of the home we just move into one month earlier. I am very strong now not dwelling or being sorry for myself. I see the strength in me from all my experiences in my book of life. In order to fully understand my comment you must read it again. You are not getting the point. You should feel proud of her not sorry. It has buikt her heart not broken it. What she was going through was breaking it.
“The love I never recieved from my parents, I got from the wrong areas in life” that shit resonated with me.
For real.
same and it hurt
Karen Bhawanidin same I searched for that love in anyone which was dangerous
100%
Karen Bhawanidin I felt that shit
“When someone dies I celebrate and move on” that’s just an excuse so he doesn’t have to deal with your sadness
The bond you feel you have with Jake is not real - i had a similar boyfriend where i felt we had the strongest bond, but every girl he met after me felt the same way about him . He was a Master Manipulator. And thats what Jake is ..
I feel like Jake won’t even watch this and I think that explains everything
was just thinking the same thing. doubt he really cares about her or this video or her mental state. poor tana. :/
If he did i dont think he would put it into full consideration or would just stop
Yea but he is in training camp rn
that’s what i was thinking too
He’ll probably get someone from his team to watch it then tell him what it said
that saddest part is i don’t think jake cares enough to even watch this video
Truth 🙌
someone from his team will probably watch it and then fill him in
Don't agree...part of him does care for her and her feelings so he probably will watch.
I kind of agree and don't at the same time. Jake has shown he really cares about Tana. But there are a lot of things that Tana said that shows he doesn't. I also think the only way he will watch this is if this is ruining his reputation on TH-cam and other social media. So he would want to fix that
Or only listen to the parts where she says “I don’t blame Jake” he feels like he didn’t do anything wrong
26:25 "it pushed away so many people who love me because they couldn't watch me kill myself." This resonates with me so hard.
This is something so many people never realize about themlevels that have the an addiction, not just to drugs/alcohol but to a toxic relationship with any one, any OCD behavior taking over the everyday functioning of thier life. Be proud of your self for the realization.
A year later and she’s still fucking with him... crazy.
She jokes about being with him for clout all the time lmao
righhht
They all trash
The dishonesty is annoying tbh
Damn realizing jake wanted to do everything for clout and tana wanted to do everything for jake is a whole new concept
It was pretty obvious the entire time ngl
Addison Neria it’s really crazy. But she doesn’t want to hate him for that
Addison Neria wow
Addison Neria we done knew that
yeah not really
she needs a podcast called “going off on a tana-gent”
Morgan Rhoades it’s flippin perfect I could listen to tana talk for hours.
Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.
Tangents with Tana
Genius
Morgan Rhoades Honestly I personally hate podcasts they’re boring and I’d rather just see her face and listen to her in a natural settin
I turned 30 this year & I can tell everyone that the people that you think you’ll never be able to live without.. there will be a day when you don’t even think twice about them anymore.
THIS
amen. About to be 30 and those people who were “your world”…not even around. Crazy.
I’m gonna be honest, I sent the link to this video to a friend and her immediate response was, “I don’t care about these people” and I said it’s not about the people, it’s about a relatable human experience.
People are so quick to judge don’t even take a second to slow down and hear someone else out. Listening to others can give you great insight to what you’re struggling with yourself. It also can articulate a struggle you’re not able to express
Yeah but famewhores and narcissists aren’t the best people to learn from or relate to...
Hopefully this does encourage someone to get mental health help or to realize that if this reminds them of their relationship they are most likely in a toxic relationship
Tana is the first person that I ever saw who admitted that she tries to act “cool” honestly love that
How is that a good trait?
Gonzalo Hernandez being self aware is good.
Tryna act "cool" makes you fake. Because its telling me you're not genuine.
Gonzalo Hernandez nobody disagreed with that. just said it’s cool that she admits it because nobody does
@@gonzalohernandez5930 most people act fake but refuse to be self aware of it.
tana you HAVE to stop trying to be “the girl who doesn’t care”. you DO care. you have emotions. you’re human.
I need to stop this too....
Jessica Worden I cant imagine being the girl who pretend not to care bc when I care you can just see it in my face and my body. I wish I could be in the middle
@@JahlenJohnson11 its just u want to please ppl even when i dont want so u end up faking that ure okay. And get used to feeling this way all the time when the worst enemy is yourself. And u cant run away from yourself.
Abby McLean thank god! Someone said it
So many girls try to be this. We all want to be "not like other girls" and it's a ridiculous mindset. It only hurts us tbh.
I’m old enough to be your mother but just watched the Shane Dawson Jake Paul series and ended up here...
I too had a f*cked up childhood and had no idea how to love or care for myself or others. You can overcome it, but venting your innermost demons to strangers on TH-cam isn’t the way.
Also, having been happily married for 15 years now, marriage isn’t something to take lightly or to enter into for views, attention, etc. Having an open relationship works for very few people, and definitely not for emotionally abused and stunted people like Jake Paul. I feel sorry for him, but you can’t save someone when you’re drowning yourself.
Be single, get therapy and don’t enter into any romantic relationships until you’re in a place where you value yourself. Until you do, you will keep replaying your childhood traumas and worse, compounding them with new traumas. I hate to see young women settling for scraps and putting up with shitty men. I did it and wish I had someone to set me straight at the time. All the best to you. Don’t let your past define you.
Wow I hope she sees this
i'm at the point where i'm being single, in therapy, and not seeking any romantic relationships, but i'm struggling to get to the point of loving and valuing myself 😔
Okay buddy, your name is literally mop. Tana needs to figure out things for herself. Give her advice but don’t you ever fucking tell her what to do.
@@lexcoble9835 i'm sorry but how is she telling her what to do? she's a grown woman who has been in similar situations and was only trying to help, and i don't see a problem with that. plus she makes some valid points, in order to love someone else you have to learn to love yourself first, and thats something tana has admitted to struggling with and wants to overcome. many professional therapists will recommend it as well, because you can't possibly heal from your trauma if you're putting all that energy into trying to heal others. its good, valid advice and in no way was she putting tana down. she even wished the best for her at the end. sorry but i'm just a little confused as to where your hostility is coming from.
lex coble girl what are u talking about she is literally just giving her advice that she really needs to hear she is not forcing tana . Plz take a seat..
Anybody who says "Its my fault" that many times has been ABUSED in some shape or form by way too many people. Tanas fans have to remember that encouraging her to be "SINGLE TANA" is only dragging her down further into her depression. At the end of the day she is doing crazy shit to entertain her fans that want to see her pissing herself from being blackout drunk or making out with other females! If anybody cared about Tana they wouldnt be asking for "Single Tana" they would want "SOBER TANA". I worry that 1 day she could pass away at way too early of an age. I believe Tana can entertain all of us for the rest of our lives without her being stupid drunk. The girl is beautiful and talented. Tana, I dont know you from a can of paint, but I want you to know that I care about you as as a person and want to see you happy with YOURSELF. I Promise you, if you quit drinking for 3 months you would see that things will start falling into place. Take care buddy and if you read this, please consider what I said. I wish you nothing but happiness and success!
I needed this
This^^^^^
When she said “I never sat down to learn how to love myself” it really got me
“I needed to lose you to love me”
I felt that.
This hit home...
I reccomend following some self care pages on ig. Type in the hashtag self care
In the words of christina yang: “dont let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy but he’s not the sun, you are”
💖
👐🏽
Did you just quote greys anatomy? I love this❤️
Yess
Briahna Ray that’s beautiful 💕
Honestly in love with how well spoken she is, her communication skills are goals, it breaks my heart to hear that she's been dealing with so much hurt behind the curtains, and so much pain from her relationship and marriage with Jake, let's pray for Tana, I hope she can get with a therapist that helps her work through these traumas and transform into the beautiful butterfly badass woman we all know she is. You'll get there sweetie, stay strong, we love you 🖤
Valen Asano her “quotes” are on fucking point
I’m sorry but Jake leaving you after he wedding WAS NOT your fault... he should’ve been there for you.
Definitely was a red flag when he went on “a boy’s holiday” instead of being with HIS WIFE DURING A FAMILY EMERGENCY, that’s when I *took a step back*
Eliott Toyota Tot damn u still believe they were married?
Eliott Toyota Tot you uh... took a step back...?
use code mahir holy shit WHO CARES, that’s OBVIOUSLY not the point
Eliott Toyota Tot yes that is true, these men
It's sad how selfish these young, entitled men have become. There's no love. It's all playing the game now. What kind of a life is that? There no authenticity anymore and I do think Tana could have given him something real if he had even the slightest bit of commitment for eachother.
The fact that Jake continued to go on the “honeymoon” while you dealt with the loss of your nan says a lot about him. Leave him in 2019 girl. Boy bye 👋🏼
bryony yep he’s trash
Yesss exactly
Exactly! Jake leaving Tana (you)...EVEN with business commitments....was hella disgusting and to know what you were going thru, even more angry
And you have to wonder how many girls he screwed on that yacht while Tana was at home dealing with that loss. Total prick.
bryony right!!! That’s what I’m sayin!!! Who does that to their wife?! So messed up!! That says everything she needed to know!! I feel for Tana! No one deserves to be treated that way!!
Tana remember you’re not bob the builder you don’t have to fix him. Don’t put yourself through that
this honestly helped me get through my breakup
hannah doss oh really your gonna breakup do you try for love with me really I'm serious tell me what your number please where are you I'm single
This video just helped me too. Bc my ex made me feel all the ways she is saying she felt/feels. & how she blames her self...
absolutely same
When his marketing team makes him watch this and do damage control and tries to get you back please, please don’t cave. You’re in a toxic relationship. Please leave him and don’t go back.
Hannah Foster she made it seem like they’re doing some type of show together for the first few months of 2020 and she’s legally obligated to do it, so she probably won’t leave him until that’s over
bro if that happens that’s some evil ass shit lmao. a marketing team? damage control? this is a real girl with real feelings. that’s manipulative bullshit to be like wow we still gotta use her and milk this for the screen
Yes! Yes! Yessss! So much yes!!
This is so important!
I hate seen this type of comment with out proof or content to back up what they are saying just let her live her life
this is what an abusive, toxic relationship looks like. “he could kill my whole family and i would still love him” that’s not how you should look at your significant other. it is not your fault, tana.
michelle brittany Yup I felt this way about my sociopath ex boyfriend. Honestly he wasn’t that bad most of the time but when he was it was just.. too much. I mean I’m borderline so my emotions and empathy are high as fuck so I was just the perfect toy 🙄.
Angelica Rose i have bpd as well so i 100% know what you mean
I think that frase show the toxic side of tana i you are smart you would comprehend
michelle brittany I felt exactly this way about my ex boyfriend and now I realise I was so unhealthily obsessed with him.
michelle brittany it’s called love if u really love this person then u would do anything for them u would do anything to say with them Bc u love the so much.
I don’t care what people say. It takes guts to put this on the internet. Nothing but support from me❤️ You are doing great, Tana
I want to love you devyn ok bay I'm wett your rply
Devyn Noelle nice looking you in the red dress up really tell me what your number
@@mr.zenedin1735 you are sick you have over 500 comments on this video, stop being a creep
Ngl even watching this months later it’s still heartbreaking.
Jakes people telling Tana “dOnT aLiSsA vIoLeT hIm” is just their way of manipulating Tana to stay silent on all Jakes toxic behaviour... she can do so much better!
OMG so true!! ughhh
Perla Almada apparently not but they should!😭
"Dont alissa violet him"
Then he needs to learn what it takes in real relationships if he wants to keep someone in his life. As long as he keeps the same behavior, it will never last. 🤷♀️
Plus like...Jake was nowhere near innocent in the Alissa situation. He and all his people make him out to be some poor victim who got his heart broken by the evil Alissa but that’s not how it was. Yes, Alissa did some not so great stuff but it’s BECAUSE Jake treated her like trash. Yet that’s never addressed and everyone in Jake’s crew paints her as this awful person 🙄
Michelle Barnhart BIG YESSSS!!!!!
“I wanted to be what he wanted” my heart breaks💔
This should bring awareness of mental health, and why it’s so important to seek help as a adult for childhood trauma.
That’s so god damn unfair, I mean childhood traumas. They follow you and shape your personality. That’s one of the thousands reasons why kids should grow up in a safe and happy environment. I think ppl underestimate them
when you talked about how after getting out of that toxic relationship with brad and then going right into another relationship when you should have been healing and finding yourself, i really related to that tbh. i genuinely wish i would have because i’m still not okay after that
This is probably the kindest TH-cam comment section I’ve ever seen. She deserves this.
Gracie Don she actually has a pretty strong fanbase when you think about it, that’s why she won the streamy award
No, its a trap. Dagnabit! Don't let ur guard down. Too much lies. I don't know what to belebbbbbb. Be(lie) ve.. Be
Kirbi Kirbi no it’s pretty much true
My friend really just asked “who are you facetiming” like Tana just talks to us like a friend
Stephanie Gold my sister asked me the same thing 😂😂
True
SAME
Fr I love it😭
Stephanie Gold my sister asked the same shit 😂
Hes a narcissist. Tana, you were trauma bonded to him. Someone treat this girl right. Tana, you deserve so much love. We love you.
Damn it's sad that Jake care about no one but himself but tana cares about everyone but herself
And sorry if anyone's opinion is different this is just my opinion over the years seeing jake and tana age. Yes I know they are both narcissists but Jake takes it to a new level he is also a sociopath. Sorry if my opinion offended anyone 🥺👉🏼👈🏼
ARMY Potato that hit
Ikr
idk about that lol but jake is def a narcissist
@@yashpermalla3494 I mean like... it seems pretty true tho
Army
“when you love someone more than they deserve, they hurt you more than you deserve”
Amen says the hen.
Makeup by Tabitha B very well said
Makeup by Tabitha B AMEN.
Makeup by Tabitha B I .. felt THAT
Love fake deep quotes. They hit even tho ppl say they don’t
"When a parent abuses a child, they don't stop loving the parent, they stop loving themselves." This is heavy stuff Tana and I'm so sorry, I highly highly recommend counselling and doing what it takes to live in alignment with yourself.
❤️
yes i agree💞
Jake and her are both toxic and manipulative. Noone ever watched a content cop about her? They're both toxic asf, obviously set all this up together and both gonna have another 10 videos on this for $$$
She dropped quite a few gems in there didn't she op?
Too much bs in the past till now, can make a person unstable. So yeah. I agree with ya.
There are no “cool girls” to the point that you don’t care about someone seeing their ex right after your wedding and leaving you when you are grieving the loss of a loved one/family member
Hi Kelley I want to join your work ok tell me what your number please
I was with a man who never saw the fault in himself, only in me....what hurt me the most, he would constantly refer to me as a child and childish, ungrateful and insecure....im glad we broke up, because i dont want to be with a man that says that to me when i say something bothers me
Stop saying “it’s my fault”, you’re in a toxic relationship and jakes toxic for making you even feel like this in the first place.
Amy Rowley ^^^^^^^
Hey Tana. This.
You dunmmmmmm
Sky Line you dumb dh. You clearly have never been in a toxic relationship before so you wouldn’t understand.
she's taking responsibility for putting herself in the situations to be hurt even more. Jake is an ass but we all been knew. It was no secret to tana that he is a toxic person. It's not her fault that he is the way he is but she played along when she knew deep down how she truly felt.
"and again, I'm not blaming Jake..."
some of this stuff she should be blaming him for. it is his fault
YES
Wrong. They are both responsible .
We are responsible for letting people treat us the way they do.
@@stefanioonaasmr623 nope you're wrong ! People you love shouldn't be taking your kindness for weakness lol I hate ppl like you who victim blame it was obviously apparent to him at some point all this was hurting her but he didn't care and still doesn't !
@@dyspo5391 lmfao I mean YES SHE SHOULD BE BLAMING HIM FOR SOME OF THE SHITTY SHIT HE DID TO HER !!
@@dyspo5391 bye troll 😂
i feel like if tana started drawing and painting and that kind of thing her pieces would be so deep
Nah
No matter what the terms of your relationship were or what you “greenlighted”, he knew what he was doing to your emotions. People are not that stupid. He has intuition. He just chose selfishness over his sense of right and wrong.
Hang in there Tana 💕
Danielle 09 he does not have emotions on my opinion
When you see she’s not “TANA PAUL” anymore.
Strap in guys.
What do you mean?
Sabrina Behnisch she changed all her social media to Tana Paul after the wedding but she changed it back. So I’m assuming Jana is over
Sabrina Behnisch she changed her yt and ig name
Omg new chapter for her good cos jake was really toxic to her
@@kportz19 thanks
“You’re in love with a version of a person that you’ve created in your head, that you are trying to, but cannot fix. the only person you can fix is yourself”
🖤🖤🖤
Okayyyy ariiii!!! True shit though
Honestly , Ariana Grandes song “In my head” is a good representation of this!
Deedi enough is enough, im 2 blocks away... i’m coming over
THANK YOU DSJF
I just got out of a relationship a couple days ago. He gaslighted me for years. I still blame myself for everything even though i know its not my fault. You always try to protect the people you love. He needs to own his shit, just like you did. Im still struggling with my pill addiction but im trying my best to pull through. The only one who can make a change is you❤️ hang in there tana banana
The "it's my fault " over and over again is so sad. .
this is sad because so many of us have been feeling so lost in 2019
Emma Gorby yes and my life has never been shitty until this year. Like emotionally and just everything is shit
Emma Gorby ive never felt as lost as i have this year
Emma Gorby holy fucking fact.
this year has been the worst year of my life and i don’t even know why
“jake could kill my whole family and i would still love him.”
someone tell me that this isn’t toxic. honestly even though people don’t like tana she doesn’t deserve this.
no one deserves this.
catriona m it’s so incredibly toxic, I really pity her tbh. Jake has 0 respect for tana and you can just see the way he acts he does not love her in the way she craves, he saw how broken she was how emotionally vulnerable she was and he is using it to manipulate her to his control and he gets all the benefits, clout, videos and good press while being able to fuck around and treat her like shit with no reproductions.
xxMel period
She needs to love herself enough to know that she deserves to be in a healthy relationship
Very toxic
i love how you are a super real you tuber. there aren’t enough of you. i think it’s good for you to tell someone your feelings. some people overlook signs that a “perfect” persons life isn’t perfect. i love seeing your true side bc it makes you seem like a real person
“When someone dies I celebrate their life and then move on. That’s how I was raised” *that shit is colddd*
How else are you supposed to go about someone dying? Death is a part of life that you can't avoid. Dwelling on the fact that someone is no longer here doesn't do anybody any good. The best way to honor a fallen friend/family member is to live happy and healthy and carry on their legacy in a positive way. No amount of moping is going to bring them back.
Aaron Stark it’s nothing to do with that it’s the context. Tana was going through a hard time and any empathetic person would know that, that is not what normal people say to vulnerable people.
Everyone will always know her as Tana Mongeau not Tana Paul. I’m glad she changed her TH-cam name back.
Wow I just realised yesss💪
:l L me too that made me happy. she deserves better.
I didn't even notice until I read this comment! Agreed, it will do her good I think.
The way she felt with Jake was very similar Alissa Violet felt. Hearing her was like hearing Alissa again
Cause the dude has a pattern. He involves himself with certain women who optically give him the apperance of being a dedicated boyfriend. Usually this is done to promote narratives and merchandising opportunities (like we saw in Shane Dawson's doc). Jerika, Jana, Jalissa. These ships are hyped and featured in news stories, interviews, magazines etc. Meanwhile Jake tells these women privately that he wants to be in an open relationship behind the scenes. These women agree because when you're in too deep with money, tv shows, and merch tethered to your names you have no choice but to say yes. Its even worse if youre under contract or living together. Friction develops, and you're torn between satisfying fans, who center your identity or progress as a creator with your relationship, and leaving a toxic person.
RIGHT!!!
Its no wonder Jake acts the way he does. When you treat and use women as promotion for yourself, and use your relationship as fodder for merch be it a livestremed wedding or even tee shirts, you see the women in your life less as people and more like objects for you to use to humanize yourself. People root for love and relationships. We love a love story and happy ending. Jake Paul has taken that human desire, to magnify and support love, and put a price tag on it. Truly the purest reflection of the poisonous nature of influencers. Taking everything precious or personal in your life just to put a price tag on it makes you into a hell of a modern age monster.
right? i think tana needs to talk to alyssa because he’s playing them both
@@rebeccarahmanthatone damnnnnn, girl! You hit the nail right on the f***** head. You are one wise woman. It's extremely sad to see the same pattern over and over, unfortunately some of us women, tend to think that we will be the ones to "change" the man. But that's never the case.
the saying isn’t just a saying TRUST NOBODY
"Jake could kill my whole family and I will always love him and have a bond with him"
What.....????
Yeah wtf
toxic relationships are so scary.
@@reesecatherine3424 they are, yet I see people defending them as love (case in point: after stans)
Trauma bonded
you also have to remember that tana doesn't like her family that much
this hits different when you’re also laying on ur side in bed watching this feeling defeated as well
Arianna Griffin me rn
Same
me rn
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I'm sorry guys I'm here for yall
Tana got her Mongeau back 😭❤️
love thjs
Oooh i love this
The best thing ever
THIS!
Omg yas
"my body's like a cage, I'm screaming to get it out" I felt that
whenever I get depressed I watch this video and I feel less alone.
♥️
"and im still with jake" that crushed me. baby, hes toxic. i know it feels like hes the sun, but hes not.
Imperfect Jenna 💞 amen.
oh what love can do to you, it can be so bittersweet.
you’ve set on me, but you are not the sun
Damn Cristina Yang has entered the chat
A diamond seems to shine like the sun but is cold to the touch
“i don’t blame jake”
tana, blink twice if you need assistance
whomst ‘dve they both did it for clout and now she’s manipulating little kids with her false acting.
@@engelsramirez4886 lol her fanbase isn't exactly super young.
GREY_FIVENINE THE_SET have you gone through the comments?
whomst ‘dve i need a replay button
TO KYO you are sick she is hurt leave
So I'm going thru a lot of shit right now and it's nice to hear that other people go thru hard shit too but pushes forward to try and feel better. This video is giving me hope that, when we hit rock bottom, the best way to go up is to talk about it, and it really works. Thank you Tana, stay strong!
i love you, tana. you’re so strong and you’re such a beautiful person. thank you so much for sharing. < 3
when you see someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags
Diana Zhao i LOVE your comment... it’s soo true.
Me and you had the same comment 😂😂
Quote from the show BoJack Horseman on Netflix. 10/10
bojack horseman is such a good show
Why people need time for themselves out of a relationship. Adelaine morins series is a great watch for people going thru a break up
"I just wanted to make him happy and was letting it kill me" felt that 💔
Same, i just got out of a toxic relationship and i feel free.
@@savanah7079 ayyyy good on you!
Savanah thats good! don't go back
I came here from Twitter trending. I've never seen someone be so honest about their struggles despite feeling like the world is against you. This is really inspiring and I really hope that eventually you feel peace and happiness and learn to focus on yourself / healing especially after losing so many people and blaming yourself. You seem like a beautiful, wonderful person who deserves a lot more than what you're being given.
“You promised the world and i fell for it, I put you first and you adored it” “Rose coloured glasses all distorted” “We’d always go into it blindly” “I NEEDED TO LOSE YOU TO FIND ME” “I gave my all and they all know it” “You replaced us like it was easy” “Made me think i deserved it”
Girl lose you to love me really suits all of thjs
She’s honestly such a smooth, intelligent speaker. That’s something I’ve always noticed. That “dizzy” shit don’t fool me.
Pariah Muse on god
stg !! yes
I’ve always loved that about her
True!!! She’s also very good at writing. Have you seen her captions on ig ? She’s sooo sentimental and down to earth
Fany rodriguez every time
petition for tana to make a podcast to vent say “i”
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“I”
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No offense but jake is the boy who cried wedding...he “married” Ericka also and it was fake and I’m sorry this happened to Tana because I love watching her be unapologetically herself n not having a filter if he ever does get married a lot of ppl r gonna think it’s a Apirl fools joke because he makes having feelings a joke
Erika* 🙄🤦♀️
This is why I love you. I fell in love with your honesty and being undeniably yourself. I love that you tell your fans what you're going through even if it means everyone knowing all your shit. You care more about letting the ones who love you in then people hating you or making fun of you.
The fact she’s blaming herself for everyone’s mistakes hurts me. 🥺
For real. So much of this is not her fault but it's sad she thinks it is
Megan Tate sounds mature to me. taking responsibility for not being honest
She married a known shithead someone for PR...
she made mistakes dont glorify people shes not jesus
@@maddelinepapermoon8509 her entire career is built around glorifying herself, if it wernt she wouldnt have married someone for PR.
2019 you did everything you could to heal Jake.
2020 you will do everything you can to heal yourself.
Honesty is a power move.
I really hope you read this but you remind me so so so so much of my sister if she had come back from her addictions and thrived and watching your videos makes me feel like I have that sister that I lost to drugs. Stay strong Tana!
Hearing you be so open about your concerns with drug use and addiction hit hard. I genuinely hope 2020 is a better year for you, Tana. Please focus on fixing yourself before you try to fix the people who helped break you in the first place.
"I'm not having fun anymore... at all." That's when it's time to walk girl. He came in like prince charming during a vulnerable phase and left you emotionally worse off. You don't have to hate him, and it's ok to morn what could have been. But it's time to let go and heal. Im saying this as someone who is 5 years in with a baby in a similar scenario of telling myself I could handle a lifestyle I didn't want just to hold on to a man I loved, girl please... walk away, because if you stick around the pain doesn't get better.
Toni Williams preach👏🏼👏🏼
We love you toni ❤️💗
Seriously beautiful and honest advice
Everyone situation is different she just need to honestly speak with him if she haven’t and said I am not okay with this or don’t like this or that and communicate because she clearly didn’t communicate with him how she was really feeling and go from there if she see change on his behavior and see that he try to fixed then he didn’t know but if they talked about and he keep having the same behavior then She need to walk away
and if he really has feelings for her he will understand a nd he will change his behavior
basically: the wedding was fake to everyone else, to all of us, to jake even. it wasn’t fake to tana tho :(
samantha I don’t know about all that
samantha that fucking breaks my heart
samantha What I really got for Christmas please check that out in my channel ❤️
Ninis V really?
That part. :(
You MORE THAN deserve the love you put out in this world and to others💗 you’re so strong please don’t EVER forget that
Tana, I BEYOND more than relate. my childhood was fucking traumatic and crazy, there’s only one way to go and it’s up. Proud of you love ❤️
“im not having fun anymore” bro i can hear the hurt in your voice
2019 literally took a little bit of everyone's soul
a LOT over everyone's souls💀
Literally, Twitter isn't even giving me the good chemical
Ashyo Sings omg i feel the same!
Ashyo Sings truth tea sis
People say this every year. Life is hard and takes a little bit of everyone's soul every day. No one's life is ever easy any year
i respect this video so hard, and on a lower level i feel like you spoke every ounce of my truth and what was on my mind. i feel like you're my best friend and you've saved my life. every scandal or wrong doing i still realize ur human and ill continue to be there for you. i hope you see this tana i love you so fucking much