Getting Unstuck After Relationship Crisis: Healing from Betrayal Trauma
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.พ. 2025
- The path toward healing after betrayal is a brutal one. Its common to feel stuck and unsure how to move forward. Sometimes it takes additional help to get you unstuck. Kristin Snowden, MA, LMFT, CDWF is a licensed therapist and coach that specializes in helping individuals and couples in crisis after infidelity, emotional abuse, and/or uncovering addiction. Kristin provides education, tools, and questions to explore to get you unstuck and return safety and stability after uncovering addictions, problematic porn use, secret lives, lying, gaslighting, manipulation and emotional abuse. She provides the potential reasons for getting stuck in the healing process and offers additional options. This is ideal for anyone trying to navigate relationship crisis.
(This is educational, NOT THERAPY)
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Timestamps:
0:53 Healing after relationship crisis hits isn't linear
2:25 Betrayal trauma destroys the four C's: Choice, Control, Context, and Connection
3:35 Potential reasons for getting stuck in the healing process after betrayal
9:40 Steps to help you get unstuck and incorporate empowerment into the healing process
10:50 Steps to return safety, consistency and predictability into your life after the chaos of cheating, infidelity, lying and other forms of uncertainty.
10:37 How to restabilize your life and emotions after crisis, couples issues, and arguments
17:00 the importance of doing work around trauma healing, shame resilience, and grief and loss
18:02 Do not isolate, engage others
18:56 Do non-recovery hobbies, social engagement
21:00 The importance of doing esteem-building acts, service toward others, support to others in need
23:15 Assess your legal rights, financial status, boundaries required to feel safe, consequences should your partner cheat, lie, or relapse again
25:36 Assess the mental, emotional and physical consequences of remaining in this relationship
26:45 Would it be productive to discuss this all with your partner and/or attend couples therapy to get unstuck
28:05 In-house separation
29:36 Exploring should you stay or go
34:15 Signs your partner is changing for the better
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Very clear … so spot on …
Describes so much of how he behaved and how I felt … so much … walked away … no contact … still no sorry or explanation ..
nervous system has been shot 6 years lost … 2 years still healing … I’m listening !
the fighting cancer by yourself in a human trying to fight something on their own that is beyond their own capacity" that was powerful"!!!!
Thank you 🙏, love what you said about not minimizing our pain ❤
Been stuck for the past 2 years due to my husband's infidelity. I'm so lost and can't seem to get myself motivated to move forward. I feels so insecure, lost, depressed anxious and hurt. I can't afford a therapist at the moment. I don't even feel confident to start looking for work. I need help😢
Great content. Thank you. Wish I heard this a year ago. Here we are..forward.
Brave bold discussion..
I feel like you are talking to me with this video 😂😂😂
33:47 Kristen….blame doesn’t need to be shared. The reality is it is not. Despite the social insistence it is shared.
Kristin...its like reading excerpts from my life script...THANK YOU!...Can you speak to any experience you may have had with patients that have utilized IV Ketamine as a tool to get "unstuck"...to try and get the limbic system reset, and out of the constant state of "alarm"...
It’s been almost 10years. Do I ever trust myself again? Bc the trust in my own instincts and what I know is my biggest problem.
Have you tried getting in a betrayed partner group? I have one that starts in March. That may really help.
Children make choices. Adults make decisions.
What if the unfaithful is now doing most or all things right to help them and you heal but you (betrayed) have now fallen out of love with them due to all of their affairs/cheating. I have been staying with my WW trying to make things work mostly due to our 3 kids.
That happens. And it’s ok if you’re staying mostly for the kids as long as it’s safe and somewhat stable. Hopefully you’ve developed a robust support community so you have connection with others, as well.
And if the goal is to heal and potentially reconcile with the betrayer while they’re trying to repair, maybe give it some time. The healing and rewiring is a long road.
Problematic porn use? Porn by its nature is the problem. It’s like saying…problematic child abuse.
I feel like its more like saying "problematic alcohol use". All alcohol use is unhealthy, but it is considered "socially acceptable" to some extent (unlike child abuse), and is widespread. Therefore, its important to assess how one uses both porn and alcohol, how it impacts their lives and their relationships, and determine how its working for them (or not working for them). Everything (even unhealthy choices and behaviors) works until it doesn't work anymore. I am not condoning alcohol use or porn use in any way. But I usually get called in when either of those behaviors become a problem in someone's life or relationship(s).
How can anyone do therapy that cost 150 hour?????
TH-cam is free. In many regards, better than therapy.
12 step programs are free, community counseling centers can offer "sliding scale" therapy and group therapy can also be more affordable.
are u edward snowden's relative?
No
I have to leave this austistic man. I have Cassandra syndrome.