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Dear men, never take advice from women about who is a "real man" just like we can't advice them about who is "a real woman". Learn that from the good men around you.
@@arroxelx3980 means a man with wisdom and maturity who lives life in a high state of awareness knows the reality of the world and can see beyond the illusion of this world
@@anoushkas8726If you're finding yourself getting upset over the opinions of someone you don't even consider knowledgeable, maybe it's time to step away and focus on something more productive. Watching videos just to get irritated and then leaving unnecessary comments isn't doing anyone any good.
@@Mallikaaa_04 At least I'm not getting irritated by watching videos of someone I don’t consider knowledgeable. I consider the man who owns this channel to be knowledgeable, which is why I watched his video. If I have a problem with his opinion, I’ll express it in a separate comment, rather than irritating someone else with half-formed ideas. Now, Mallika, please shut up and start reading-it’ll help you to grow.
@@earlraghav keep barking 😂.. geez you are so pathetic, getting worked up on someone's comment. Grow up lil b_tch, shewtabh himself call out guy like you
Shwetabh sir showing how actual critical thinking looks like and how it can expose all these people who talk about incorrect concepts with so confidence
Ofc she has.. what she's saying is 99% correct but shwetabh needs something to point out from every other person. I love to watch his videos though but sometimes he exaggerate the things like he always finds and point out small mistakes in other people or their words.
@@purvii2371 purvii, rasoi me jao aur khana bnao. As a man i have every right to tell you that you should comply to whatever i tell you. Tum literally cattle ki trh trh treat hui ho history me. Ek shashak aaya wo le gya, fir dusra aya wo le gya. That's what aurat is basically a cattle. Kaisa lga sunkr? Stop telling what men should act as you have no right just as i have no right to tell you how to be a woman. Me tng aa gya hu aurto se seekh kr ki how to be a man. Aurat jaat is so toxic. Ghar barbaad kar deti h, rishte barbaad kr deti h. Jao aur kisi ka ghar ujaado jaa kr..idhr gyaan mat chodo
Why it is shallow to want rich and successful man? Is she hurting anyone by doing so? If not then who are we to tell what what she should do? He asked her a question and she answered. If u don't like it then dont ask such questions
Why it is shallow to want rich and successful man? Is she hurting anyone by doing so? If not then who are we to tell what what she should do? He asked her a question and she answered. If u don't like it then dont ask such questions
Cuz no women podcaster has ever raised this question with male celebrity 😂😂😂 ??? First let them raise this question.. ki how he as a man perceives a "real woman" for himself ??? 😅😂
Shwetabh bhaiya...clarity of thinking and rationality is top notch🔥🔥🔥 His thoughts are flexible,adaptive and always considering different perspectives..which shows he is genuinely a wise person
I feel the best relationship is to grow together and insecurities are dealt together. I really this video of Shwetabh is something every growing teenage should watch.
That's the opposite of mansplaining. Am glad u understand how it feels when men do it. (I m a woman n I was annoyed by it too but jst giving a perspective)
I think by secure she means a person who isn’t always like, “omg you’re such a big star. You toh must get tons of better males than me. I just fear that I may lose you cause I know I have flaws. I am not that rich (or maybe good looking, or tall, etc etc). I think once in a while that’s fine but if that is repeated then she’s gonna be annoyed cause she herself is someone who doesn’t care about that. She has a high sense of self worth which is means as “strong personality”. That’s my interpretation. I may be wrong.
Yeh aadmi ko dekh dekhke, i have pushed a few fucked up people Outta my life. Like there were a few friends that were made due to living situations but were not really the group I liked to be with.
"Secure" in the context of relationships generally refers to attachment styles. So, I assumed she was talking about how a man is someone who has a secure attachment style. And the definition is also how it is defined in the psychological theory of attachment styles. Having a secure attachment style doesnt mean you do not get insecure but is self aware enough to realise he is being insecure. People with insecure attachment styles do not generally realise this. You should study about it, the attachment style theory is really useful and interesting
What do you mean when you say "being insecure"? And how can just realising that I am insecure, make me secure person ? Its a very simplistic argument. Its assumes ideality of a human.
Insecure means inability to be sincere as to who you are as a person and not being able to face your own reality. we all aspire to ideality of some kind that's how we know how to grow. Ya, i agree that labelling people insecure isn't a great idea ...but being aware when you are acting insecure helps us to act better and grow. So when I say some man is insecure it is futile as we all are insecure at some point or the other but turning a blind eye to when we are acting insecure is also not right
What she means 1:52 is that her partner should not feel scared of tapsee's success, he should not feel intimidated due to her success. And he should not be insecure.
I don't know that, you don't know that. She doesn't mention the word success at all. And I am not gonna assume on her behalf. For the sake of objectivity and analysis, i am going only use the words that she said.
@shreyakoul5108 Got your perspective but it really doesn't justify anything whatever she spoke about lol. I can put a 100 points lists of demands about "how a woman should be". Will you go through it? Of course, you won't, no matter how socially righteous I might be. Or would anyone. Same works for guys too.
@@TheNTDoteI never said about anything justified or not justified, didn't even back any side, I just mentioned in a conversation, the articulation is such that when a question is put, people tend to answer a whole lot of their experience at a very deep level squeezed into a one line sentence, which is exactly where things go wrong, and hence I am actually saying the same thing. It doesn't make sense basically, and above that, with this. Kindly see to that perspective
This is exactly what is known as cultural barrier, how so much we try, it becomes difficult for the other person to interpret the meaning unless and until they have seen you, walk through things or situations. So this applies to all of us.
What else can we expect from these types of speculative conversations and pop psychology. These discussions should really be done with experts with well-researched questions which actually enhance the understanding of the viewers. Otherwise such shallow conversations give people wrong idea about relationships and they tend to idealize their relationship based on such unrealistic hypotheses.
Damn...Watching this man since Mensutra days his perspectives are always so new.. I like this version better since he's a dad now his wisdom has increased so much. He used to be so brutal in the old days😂
literally these celebrities are so immature, here's another proof that maturity won't lead you to success but hardwork, so if you see some one who is more successful that you, this doesn't mean they're mature
how is being intimidated and being vulnerable the same thing bro? you can not be intimidated by someone and still be vulnerable with them. I am not intimidated by my friend, but still vulnerable with him. Intimidation is purely when you place the other person above you and are then very self-critical of their supposed judgement of you. This is something even you have talked about- to not put anyone above you ever.
Amazing Amazing perspective, loved the video, made me think about things from different perspectives. As you said, biggest bias of all bias is self bias.
The problem with her is that her expectations are not real Secondly she wants perfect human .. he should be outgrown and should have no improvement left.. her dream man is something bollywood teaches.. flawless. And one more thing what I get from her views is that.. she is not in a proper relationship.. cause in relationship u can't be individual.. like Swetab said ur life is entangled.. She is Shehulk needs a Redhulk in her life 😂
Precisely ......We are imperfect beings from the time we are born (Strength/ weakness)we can be better but not perfect. perfect is only one thing that is Nature itself " Perfection is myth " bc
Bruhhh you gotta retain some individuality lol, else it won't be long you will start being paranoid about your autonomy and ability to live life authentically. The fact that certain part of your Iife had been entangled with a other person doesn't mean that you can't retain your individual interest and opinions.
Bhai 10 saal ho gaye uski relationship ko. I think she is just not good at explaining things. And shwetabh bhai khud to podcast karte nahi. Jaisa anchor waisa answer.
@@adi-qx8ls That also doesn't mean that you don't involve your partner in decision making that affects them.. There is a spectrum of things that are relevant and important for your individuality, and for your relationships.. You gotto have the ability to recognise that and act according to the situation. Not club everything as either entangled or individual.
@@screensafari17 Good point. It really matters a lot who we are talking to. Sometimes we say things that we are expected to say by the person in front. But if that's the case, its a sign of conformality, which is good and bad depending on situations.
My advice to all of the boys here is to not focus too much on becoming a man. Rather, continue working and improving yourself by confronting the challenges and difficulties you face on a daily basis.
What she meant is that a guy should follow her philosophy and should not have any opinion of his own. She thinks she is always right and if she doesn't get that validation from her partner she will bounce
What I've noticed Over a period of time is that When a man feels uncomfortable when his partner is with someone then he's called Insecure And When a girl Feels uncomfortable when her partner is with someone then she's called Possesive. 🤷🏻
2:15 A moment of doubt is different from a pattern. Fear triggered by your own lack of skill is one thing, but fear or jealousy triggered when a girl has already achieved something that a guy can only dream of is another. ( generally) No one is stupid enough to throw away a potential match just cz he showed a moment of weakness
I think when someone is asked what a real version of the opposite sex is, they just describe their ideal types without any thought process behind it. I have heard way too many women saying that a real man is a protector but then doesn't stop them from doing anything. And when you ask men, they want a woman who doesn't nag them or scold them, but they want a nurturing woman. Protective men are a little territorial and nurturing women are like teachers. These are interconnected behaviours. To want two contrasting traits in one person is delusional and unrealistic. Of course don't let those behavioural traits reach their extremes. Let men describe what a real man is and let women describe what a real woman is.
2:28 hum arjun ka example lete hai he was very stable in every war but ek war esa aaya ki vo confuse ho gaye bhagvan krishna ne unko gita k through samjaya. Kyuki vo already ek mature stable strong warrior the bas ek baar esa hua kyuki situation parivaar k samne khada hone ki thi pura bharat shaamil ho raha tha future generations usme marne vaali thi bachhe aurate baad mai bohot musibat mai aanevali thi to vo sensitive ho gaye. Par agar vo har war mai pehle se ese hi karte to bhagwaan unhe har jagah samjane nahi jate. Halaki vo har war mai ek zabardast yodhha rahe hai. He already proved himself. To ha arjun ka confused hona jaayaj hai. Kyuki vo pehle esa baar baar nahi kiye the. Is baar situation puri alag thi. Tapsi ye keh rahi hai ki har baat ka batangad nahi banayega aadmi vo mature hai. Usne ye nahi kaha ki man ko hak hi nahi hai confuse hone ka.
I was just thinking about it and suddenly this video poped up. Guys, stay away from the above type of girls. Just find a simple seedha sadha girl who doesn't even know about flags. Don't fall in the trap of beauty, money or fame. Live a peaceful life.
3:04 she is talking about mental stability. Ha life mai aage ja k doubt khatra sab aayega insecure bhi hoga insaan dar bhi lagega but he knows how to handle this. Vo ekdum se bhagega nahi ya blame shifting nahi karega situation ko samaj kar aage niklega. Vo turant react karne ki jagah sochega samjega chizo ko. Vo solve karega baat karega that what she means.
Because we watch movies. Movies can change our perception of living and our mind think that actors changed that perception but actually those are directors most of the movie directors don’t get enough social attention instead actors get that all attention. For eg. Imtiaz Ali. Those great movies by directors centralise the focus on actors that’s why actors get more attention that’s why in social interviews actors are same in the movies and real life whether in real life they are more dumb than movies. That’s why their perception get more attention and that attention lead us to depend onto their perceptions.
They already have been doing that...for a while😭🙏🏼 No one should tell what a person should or shouldn't be, especially if they have different life experiences
Most of the podcasters of India don’t have well baked questions. They are doing it only for fame and money but lack the passion of real quest. When I watch Curt Jaimangal of theory of everything podcast then I don’t feel listening to Indian youtubers podcasts. Indian popular podcast feels more like PR and interview
@@neharai4927 Raw and real was good but again, mostly due to shwetabh. Do you know any good woman podcaster? not just in India.. anywhere? I have never seen a good woman podcaster..
1:30 well shwatabh Bhai she is an actress woh jiss industry se belong karti hai waha harr movie ke actor's- actress mai love vala angle ghusana ki koshis kartaa hai to promote or advertise the movie toh Shayad se wahi boall rahi hai ki harr instance pa agar samna wala partner shakk karr Raha hai ya annoy kar Kaha hai ya secure nahi hai toh phir woh relationship chall nahi payeg.. and that's the valid point according to me 😁
@@apoorvranjan6032 Haan Bhai par aap sidha extreme pa kyu leja raha hoo shwatabh bhi yahi boall te haii try to communicate.. aur seperate wali baat boall ke mera hisab se aap samane walee ko judge karr Raha hoo.. misunderstandings ko clear karna haii bakii toh sabh thik hee haii mera hisab se !!
She is a software engineer from Delhi , who had all the opportunities in hand : right from attending and studying alongside kids with similar socio economic backgrounds , along with millinneal generation in india ( who are extememly western fetishizing and indian culture repulsive ) , then she even spent many years in Telugu film industry where she played a side character in movies and mostly was objectified ( just Google her songs you will puke ) and then she starred in a Rashmi sharma produced filthiest movie of the decade - pink , wherein she proudly glorified women assaulting men .😂😂😂😂😊
man i like you, such formalism and rigorousness, you are inspirational in these aspects... and sometimes i truly admire you for these qualities... btw i am a mathematician... ( an honest one )
@@Huestlemaniac use your curiosity for something better, do maths, or science or maybe engineering.... those are way more fruitful and curiosity satisfying then taking interest in life of people u don't know
@@adityamishra7711 hahaha now you have insisted me to tell you, I'm a mathematician myself and I got intrigued by your comment and not your life. I assumed your life is nothing more than getting triggered by strangers. Grow up and get a life. Also, when you comment somewhere you're open to strangers' comments.
I think the best analysis by shwetabh, In life things are way more complicated than we think dont play in binary. See through from many perspectives. I learned a lot today ❤
I subliminally thought that as Shwetabh gets old, his intellect will decline and he’ll probably become an uncle. As he’s uploaded videos criticising a certain type of humor when he used to be all in for comedy, as long as it’s comedy. However, overall, now I feel like as you’re getting old, your perspectives are just getting sharper and better. Thanks for being with me virtually since I was a so-called boy in the mentioned video.
Brother just destroyed the concept of normal thinking jabse inki videos dekhna start kiya I have been feeling very wise,more sorted.Girlfriend ,family have started seeing me as a matured person.Thanks shwetabh bhai for teaching us the right way to think and handle situations❤🎉
@@Wonkd Are bhai, dosti toh same level of success/class me hi hoti hai, relationship toh aur aage ki chiz hai.. Ofc, ladka insecure/uncomfortable hoga agar ladki jyada successful hai as compared to him
So I am not insecure about whether you have more money, or fame, But I am insecure about how many male friends you have. Tumhare (ya taapsee) ke definition se mai to secure hun fir ? People's insecurity can be in thousands of different things, and it all varies from person to person. Sometimes insecurity might be valid too.. Its a very lazy statement to say secure insan chahiye. If what you mean is someone who can be comfortable in being flawed or being perceived as flawed. But there are always boundaries and limits..
20:25 exactly i was having a open conversation, and they were like dah dah dah... And i ended that fuking thing even before it started, I don't want someone to judge me Have fun with someone whom you can manipulate.
11:03 i think she meant was sunno sabki karo apni, which means input sabka lo but at the decision tumhara ho. Sadharan bhasha me apna dimag use krna ki kya sahi h us particular situation me Example:(my neighbour) Her husband hears his mother complaining about bahu to him , then he beats his wife. Then again one day, the bahu leaves the house, then husband puts all blame on his mother & curses her. After few months , wife came back. Cycle continues Conclusion: Husband is fool neither he is mamma's boy nor jodhu ka gulam(tho he doesn't need to be one, but apna khud ka to kuch vivek hota h n?), he is just a commmon tr@sh found in every indian neighbourhood, jiska koi world view nhi, jo auron ne kh diya bina dimag use kiye maan liya . He is the example of person she was talking about, but couldn't explain properly. Ye hmare neighbourhood me roj ka dhandha h. Jo log wife beating krte hn, vo usually yhi log hote hn(my observation) Its a BIG BIG RED 💔 FLAG Shwetabh bhaiya perspective: i think apka conclusion h, jo person apne maa baap , sage sambandhi, logo ki bat nhi sunta vo tumhare opinion ki bhi nhi qadar krega. As a 19yrs old, from my perspective Dono hi log shi hn but situation intensity different h, dono hi polar conditions hain
@@AsterRays7979Ur example do not fit with the argument ur presenting . Jiski tum baat krrhi ho(the man in ur neighborhood) woh hain hi chutiya who tf hits his wife or anyone,he seems uneducated. Rather than sharing ur thoughts or some misunderstanding with the wife can be solved by communicating..bas easy hain.... Agar if there is a prblm with the bahu and SaaS..and the SaaS is bitching abt bahu to his son..he should really get into the matter ..and make it solve ..rather than hitting someone.. And pls don't genralise ki u r getting these trashes in every indian household !! (And to be frank it's not in every Indian household ..rather in a minority areas) And ur argument ig doesn't suit the example (I may be wrong)...or may have misunderstood
Even James Bond the ultimate masculine fiction has his fair sahre of moments in novels and well as in movies his fair share of boy and man moments where he loses his shit. Why I took this example? Because I feel most of the "I am a man talk" are compares to these fictional characteristics and ideas of becoming a man(i know its not on the video I am talking in general). Thats what I think. But in reality even these fictional comparisons are not perfect on themselves people just cherry pick the ideas.
We are Human and we are not perfect, we have to do some adjustments in relationship.we can't be in a relationship where we can do anything without any asking or realizing what my partner will think after doing this and that?
Tapsee is talking in a very generalised manner, without understanding the depth of the topic she is talking about, giving just pointers, do this do not do that, and then your relationship will work fine.
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Dear men, never take advice from women about who is a "real man" just like we can't advice them about who is "a real woman". Learn that from the good men around you.
Good men ? 🤔
@@arroxelx3980 means a man with wisdom and maturity who lives life in a high state of awareness knows the reality of the world and can see beyond the illusion of this world
@@arroxelx3980 For example - Men who are wise, have morals, are humble and are happy to share their experiences etc.
Then the same wise, moral and long term commited women can also give advice about what it means to be a good man, doesn't it?
@@arroxelx3980 your father.
My deam is to see shwetabh debate some other people in real life/online
Sandeep Braheswari ?
@@arroxelx3980Sandeep Motiveshwari or Sandeep Debateshwari.
@@squ34ky aasan hai 😜
@@squ34ky ah shit here we go again.
Last time that happened FIRs were launched
The problem with men is they're asking women what the definition of a "real" man is instead of asking and learning it from their own father.
You ask a fisherman in this case fisherwoman how to fish😂
you don't ask the fish
Father ? 😂
@@arroxelx3980 yes
@@ibnebatuta4868 you can't ask the fish they can't talk lil bro 😭
@@arroxelx3980 He didn't mean literally lol, that was kind of a figure of speech
Red Flags in a woman : Having an idea of what a 'REAL MAN' is and expecting your partner to uncannily fit that description
@@anoushkas8726If you're finding yourself getting upset over the opinions of someone you don't even consider knowledgeable, maybe it's time to step away and focus on something more productive. Watching videos just to get irritated and then leaving unnecessary comments isn't doing anyone any good.
@@earlraghav same for you, writing big ass para 😂
@@Mallikaaa_04 At least I'm not getting irritated by watching videos of someone I don’t consider knowledgeable. I consider the man who owns this channel to be knowledgeable, which is why I watched his video. If I have a problem with his opinion, I’ll express it in a separate comment, rather than irritating someone else with half-formed ideas. Now, Mallika, please shut up and start reading-it’ll help you to grow.
@@earlraghav keep barking 😂.. geez you are so pathetic, getting worked up on someone's comment. Grow up lil b_tch, shewtabh himself call out guy like you
😂
To summarize it, she wants a 6'2 Delhi Punjabi Jaat with an ego of Maharashtrian middle class man.
Summed it up pretty nicely
Can you explain it to me ? I am from Nepal so I don't know what's different with state
@@anoushkas8726 😂
But her husband is a foreigner...
Lol
Guys best answer -> 17:00 - 17:40 - Best answer One and Only - watch this again and again
Shwetabh sir showing how actual critical thinking looks like and how it can expose all these people who talk about incorrect concepts with so confidence
As a woman she has no right to tell what a real man is.
Good... Everyone is an individual and should retain their inner child always....
@@eaglemgtow2789 is baat ka mere comment se kya lena denA.
Ofc she has.. what she's saying is 99% correct but shwetabh needs something to point out from every other person. I love to watch his videos though but sometimes he exaggerate the things like he always finds and point out small mistakes in other people or their words.
@@purvii2371 purvii, rasoi me jao aur khana bnao. As a man i have every right to tell you that you should comply to whatever i tell you. Tum literally cattle ki trh trh treat hui ho history me. Ek shashak aaya wo le gya, fir dusra aya wo le gya. That's what aurat is basically a cattle. Kaisa lga sunkr? Stop telling what men should act as you have no right just as i have no right to tell you how to be a woman. Me tng aa gya hu aurto se seekh kr ki how to be a man. Aurat jaat is so toxic. Ghar barbaad kar deti h, rishte barbaad kr deti h. Jao aur kisi ka ghar ujaado jaa kr..idhr gyaan mat chodo
@@purvii2371no she cannot, she is a female not even a real woman . A real woman doesn't work in bollywood and is virgin and young .
She is trying to explain rich and successful men without sounding shallow.
😂 sahi
Exactly
Exactly 😂😂
Why it is shallow to want rich and successful man? Is she hurting anyone by doing so? If not then who are we to tell what what she should do? He asked her a question and she answered. If u don't like it then dont ask such questions
Why it is shallow to want rich and successful man? Is she hurting anyone by doing so? If not then who are we to tell what what she should do? He asked her a question and she answered. If u don't like it then dont ask such questions
Women please tell me, can men say what a "real" woman is? The challenge is not to get offended.
Cuz no women podcaster has ever raised this question with male celebrity 😂😂😂 ??? First let them raise this question.. ki how he as a man perceives a "real woman" for himself ??? 😅😂
someone with bobs and vagina
See you're already mocking...That's the point.Thank you for proving it.@@am1tk_tales
Shwetabh bhaiya...clarity of thinking and rationality is top notch🔥🔥🔥
His thoughts are flexible,adaptive and always considering different perspectives..which shows he is genuinely a wise person
I feel the best relationship is to grow together and insecurities are dealt together.
I really this video of Shwetabh is something every growing teenage should watch.
Being told what a real man is, especially by a woman is goddamn annoying
Just like human define aliens 👽
No doubt why women don't like patriarchy
No doubt women hate patriarchy
Womansplaining?
That's the opposite of mansplaining. Am glad u understand how it feels when men do it. (I m a woman n I was annoyed by it too but jst giving a perspective)
Its felt like tapshee herself ia red flag 😂
Yes
Bachpan se hi h chid chidi or insecure,, victim blaming krti h 😂🙏
I think by secure she means a person who isn’t always like, “omg you’re such a big star. You toh must get tons of better males than me. I just fear that I may lose you cause I know I have flaws. I am not that rich (or maybe good looking, or tall, etc etc).
I think once in a while that’s fine but if that is repeated then she’s gonna be annoyed cause she herself is someone who doesn’t care about that. She has a high sense of self worth which is means as “strong personality”.
That’s my interpretation. I may be wrong.
I felt the same
I also felt the same when I watched that podcast... She was very respectful towards her partner❤
This is exactly what I understood from her statement
I agree with overanalysing and invalidation.
Yeh aadmi ko dekh dekhke, i have pushed a few fucked up people Outta my life. Like there were a few friends that were made due to living situations but were not really the group I liked to be with.
Good for you
she basically wanted someone who doesn't give a F about her and still carry enough credential so that ye us ladke ko chase karti rahe
🐦🔥🐦🔥
yeahhh lol
"Secure" in the context of relationships generally refers to attachment styles. So, I assumed she was talking about how a man is someone who has a secure attachment style. And the definition is also how it is defined in the psychological theory of attachment styles. Having a secure attachment style doesnt mean you do not get insecure but is self aware enough to realise he is being insecure. People with insecure attachment styles do not generally realise this. You should study about it, the attachment style theory is really useful and interesting
What do you mean when you say "being insecure"?
And how can just realising that I am insecure, make me secure person ? Its a very simplistic argument. Its assumes ideality of a human.
Insecure means inability to be sincere as to who you are as a person and not being able to face your own reality.
we all aspire to ideality of some kind that's how we know how to grow. Ya, i agree that labelling people insecure isn't a great idea ...but being aware when you are acting insecure helps us to act better and grow. So when I say some man is insecure it is futile as we all are insecure at some point or the other but turning a blind eye to when we are acting insecure is also not right
What she means 1:52 is that her partner should not feel scared of tapsee's success, he should not feel intimidated due to her success. And he should not be insecure.
Ye Indian society Mai Nehi chal payega log gand mar lega ladke ka agar uska wife jada successful hai 😂
I don't know that, you don't know that. She doesn't mention the word success at all. And I am not gonna assume on her behalf. For the sake of objectivity and analysis, i am going only use the words that she said.
@shreyakoul5108 Got your perspective but it really doesn't justify anything whatever she spoke about lol. I can put a 100 points lists of demands about "how a woman should be". Will you go through it? Of course, you won't, no matter how socially righteous I might be. Or would anyone.
Same works for guys too.
@@TheNTDoteI never said about anything justified or not justified, didn't even back any side, I just mentioned in a conversation, the articulation is such that when a question is put, people tend to answer a whole lot of their experience at a very deep level squeezed into a one line sentence, which is exactly where things go wrong, and hence I am actually saying the same thing.
It doesn't make sense basically, and above that, with this.
Kindly see to that perspective
This is exactly what is known as cultural barrier, how so much we try, it becomes difficult for the other person to interpret the meaning unless and until they have seen you, walk through things or situations. So this applies to all of us.
Men vs wild 🤸🏻♂️
That wild must be women😸😂
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Bro who's in your dp?
@@itzsam733 it's Benjamin Tennyson
@@arroxelx3980 Could have said Ben 10 but ofcourse, that'd sound less cooler.
Be yourself guys every human is different there's no "real man" all of us are men 🗿
28:55 beautiful perspective.
That Insecurity part is 💯... I've been thinking about this for a while... I had the same thoughts... 🙌🏻
What else can we expect from these types of speculative conversations and pop psychology. These discussions should really be done with experts with well-researched questions which actually enhance the understanding of the viewers. Otherwise such shallow conversations give people wrong idea about relationships and they tend to idealize their relationship based on such unrealistic hypotheses.
I hope you know that shewtab has studied psychology
@@KoralKaur4731i think he/she is talking about the podcast
@@KoralKaur4731he was referring to the podcast my guy 😂
India is still light years away from these kinds of education ...still light years away from psychology, philosophy, sociology, literature 😢
Damn...Watching this man since Mensutra days his perspectives are always so new.. I like this version better since he's a dad now his wisdom has increased so much. He used to be so brutal in the old days😂
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literally these celebrities are so immature, here's another proof that maturity won't lead you to success but hardwork, so if you see some one who is more successful that you, this doesn't mean they're mature
how is being intimidated and being vulnerable the same thing bro? you can not be intimidated by someone and still be vulnerable with them. I am not intimidated by my friend, but still vulnerable with him. Intimidation is purely when you place the other person above you and are then very self-critical of their supposed judgement of you. This is something even you have talked about- to not put anyone above you ever.
Sach main yrr har ek cheez mei nitpicking karna, vo uske experience se bata rahi hai
@@MadhavPandey-n2x Han bhai 😂
Amazing Amazing perspective, loved the video, made me think about things from different perspectives. As you said, biggest bias of all bias is self bias.
great video after a long time from him
gonna watch this multiple times
The problem with her is that her expectations are not real
Secondly she wants perfect human .. he should be outgrown and should have no improvement left.. her dream man is something bollywood teaches.. flawless.
And one more thing what I get from her views is that.. she is not in a proper relationship.. cause in relationship u can't be individual.. like Swetab said ur life is entangled..
She is Shehulk needs a Redhulk in her life 😂
Precisely ......We are imperfect beings from the time we are born (Strength/ weakness)we can be better but not perfect. perfect is only one thing that is Nature itself " Perfection is myth " bc
Bruhhh you gotta retain some individuality lol, else it won't be long you will start being paranoid about your autonomy and ability to live life authentically. The fact that certain part of your Iife had been entangled with a other person doesn't mean that you can't retain your individual interest and opinions.
Bhai 10 saal ho gaye uski relationship ko. I think she is just not good at explaining things. And shwetabh bhai khud to podcast karte nahi. Jaisa anchor waisa answer.
@@adi-qx8ls That also doesn't mean that you don't involve your partner in decision making that affects them.. There is a spectrum of things that are relevant and important for your individuality, and for your relationships.. You gotto have the ability to recognise that and act according to the situation. Not club everything as either entangled or individual.
@@screensafari17 Good point. It really matters a lot who we are talking to. Sometimes we say things that we are expected to say by the person in front. But if that's the case, its a sign of conformality, which is good and bad depending on situations.
This video made me cry.
Bhai this is very very behtarin deep critical extraction thinking, loved your skill ...mai bhi sharp karunga ..
Very deep indeed
This man is teaching critical thinking... Subhanallah!
My advice to all of the boys here is to not focus too much on becoming a man. Rather, continue working and improving yourself by confronting the challenges and difficulties you face on a daily basis.
What she meant is that a guy should follow her philosophy and should not have any opinion of his own.
She thinks she is always right and if she doesn't get that validation from her partner she will bounce
If there exists something like a real man , a grown man asking a woman what a real man is definetely not one .
Thanks shwetabh for video because while podcast of anyone we influence their word game even not critical thinking about it..
What a thinking bro..I wish I could think like you all the time
Thank you shwetabh this series of videos really helped me for critical thinking
Shwetabh bhai is like : Tu khaali muh khol 😂😂😂
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Aur mai daalu
Bhai tu kitni normal bnde wali bt krta hai jo simple logic k sath shi hai. You got a good work of keeping these podcasters in check. Keep up!
What I've noticed Over a period of time is that
When a man feels uncomfortable when his partner is with someone then he's called Insecure
And When a girl Feels uncomfortable when her partner is with someone then she's called Possesive. 🤷🏻
Nope ig , Maybe you are surrounded with people of those but no i've also heard girls being called insecure
Advice aur wo bhi Bollywood waalo se....kya time aa chuka hai shwetabh bhai
2:15 A moment of doubt is different from a pattern. Fear triggered by your own lack of skill is one thing, but fear or jealousy triggered when a girl has already achieved something that a guy can only dream of is another. ( generally) No one is stupid enough to throw away a potential match just cz he showed a moment of weakness
I think when someone is asked what a real version of the opposite sex is, they just describe their ideal types without any thought process behind it. I have heard way too many women saying that a real man is a protector but then doesn't stop them from doing anything. And when you ask men, they want a woman who doesn't nag them or scold them, but they want a nurturing woman. Protective men are a little territorial and nurturing women are like teachers. These are interconnected behaviours. To want two contrasting traits in one person is delusional and unrealistic. Of course don't let those behavioural traits reach their extremes. Let men describe what a real man is and let women describe what a real woman is.
Have you seen a woman asking a man how to be a real woman?
Basically, what you are saying is that compassionate listening is fundamental to relationships? Wow that's a good way to approach relationships.
Still in the end of the day its Me nd the boys figuring out what kind of a man tapsee needs 😂
2:28 hum arjun ka example lete hai he was very stable in every war but ek war esa aaya ki vo confuse ho gaye bhagvan krishna ne unko gita k through samjaya.
Kyuki vo already ek mature stable strong warrior the bas ek baar esa hua kyuki situation parivaar k samne khada hone ki thi pura bharat shaamil ho raha tha future generations usme marne vaali thi bachhe aurate baad mai bohot musibat mai aanevali thi to vo sensitive ho gaye.
Par agar vo har war mai pehle se ese hi karte to bhagwaan unhe har jagah samjane nahi jate. Halaki vo har war mai ek zabardast yodhha rahe hai.
He already proved himself. To ha arjun ka confused hona jaayaj hai. Kyuki vo pehle esa baar baar nahi kiye the. Is baar situation puri alag thi.
Tapsi ye keh rahi hai ki har baat ka batangad nahi banayega aadmi vo mature hai. Usne ye nahi kaha ki man ko hak hi nahi hai confuse hone ka.
I am so grateful that your channel exist to let us see the right perspective.
Bhai aap Podcast or Live type ka kuch kyu nahi karte?
That were really great content 🔥
I was just thinking about it and suddenly this video poped up. Guys, stay away from the above type of girls. Just find a simple seedha sadha girl who doesn't even know about flags. Don't fall in the trap of beauty, money or fame. Live a peaceful life.
3:04 she is talking about mental stability. Ha life mai aage ja k doubt khatra sab aayega insecure bhi hoga insaan dar bhi lagega but he knows how to handle this. Vo ekdum se bhagega nahi ya blame shifting nahi karega situation ko samaj kar aage niklega. Vo turant react karne ki jagah sochega samjega chizo ko. Vo solve karega baat karega that what she means.
Girl me se woman banna
Boy me se man banna mentally. Kuch chizo mai stability aa jati hai. Maturity.
You are a blessing Swetabh sir..
Love How Shwetabh Reacts To These Clips And Thoughts❤🎉
She is living in her own reality
Why is it that our perception of our lives are so dependent on what actors think !?
Because we watch movies. Movies can change our perception of living and our mind think that actors changed that perception but actually those are directors most of the movie directors don’t get enough social attention instead actors get that all attention. For eg. Imtiaz Ali. Those great movies by directors centralise the focus on actors that’s why actors get more attention that’s why in social interviews actors are same in the movies and real life whether in real life they are more dumb than movies. That’s why their perception get more attention and that attention lead us to depend onto their perceptions.
Shewtabh's rationality 🔥🔥🔥
Men should also start telling how a woman should be 😂
They already have been doing that...for a while😭🙏🏼
No one should tell what a person should or shouldn't be, especially if they have different life experiences
@@_inky_ yeah that's why bunch of feminists are trying to avoid real womanhood 😂😂😂
Bhai women are fighting among themselves when it comes to defining a 'woman'.
@@_inky_and they are mocked and criticised for it . But here its the opposite. That's the double standard u aren't seeing.
25:20 tum utne he insaan ho jitna tum batate ho ki insaan ko nhi hona chahiye. Ham sab utne he insaan hai … … … By S.G
Nice
We need good podcasters. This podcaster seems to be lost, not asking her anything.
Most of the podcasters of India don’t have well baked questions. They are doing it only for fame and money but lack the passion of real quest. When I watch Curt Jaimangal of theory of everything podcast then I don’t feel listening to Indian youtubers podcasts. Indian popular podcast feels more like PR and interview
@@neharai4927 Indias Smartest podcast wala toh ajeeb ajeeb logon ko bulata hai most of the time.
@@neharai4927 Raw and real was good but again, mostly due to shwetabh.
Do you know any good woman podcaster? not just in India.. anywhere? I have never seen a good woman podcaster..
1:30 well shwatabh Bhai she is an actress woh jiss industry se belong karti hai waha harr movie ke actor's- actress mai love vala angle ghusana ki koshis kartaa hai to promote or advertise the movie toh Shayad se wahi boall rahi hai ki harr instance pa agar samna wala partner shakk karr Raha hai ya annoy kar Kaha hai ya secure nahi hai toh phir woh relationship chall nahi payeg.. and that's the valid point according to me 😁
That's why degrees exist..mild,moderate, severe, extreme. In extreme cases it's best to distance yourself from such people
@@apoorvranjan6032 Haan Bhai par aap sidha extreme pa kyu leja raha hoo shwatabh bhi yahi boall te haii try to communicate.. aur seperate wali baat boall ke mera hisab se aap samane walee ko judge karr Raha hoo.. misunderstandings ko clear karna haii bakii toh sabh thik hee haii mera hisab se !!
She is a software engineer from Delhi , who had all the opportunities in hand : right from attending and studying alongside kids with similar socio economic backgrounds , along with millinneal generation in india ( who are extememly western fetishizing and indian culture repulsive ) , then she even spent many years in Telugu film industry where she played a side character in movies and mostly was objectified ( just Google her songs you will puke ) and then she starred in a Rashmi sharma produced filthiest movie of the decade - pink , wherein she proudly glorified women assaulting men .😂😂😂😂😊
If a man starts judging on the basis of girl vs woman, what would that be?
😂 misogynist orthodoxic patriarchal
man i like you, such formalism and rigorousness, you are inspirational in these aspects... and sometimes i truly admire you for these qualities... btw i am a mathematician... ( an honest one )
How is a mathematician related to this?
@Huestlemaniac why don't you mind ur own business.... how about that
@@adityamishra7711 was curious but okay as you say !
@@Huestlemaniac use your curiosity for something better, do maths, or science or maybe engineering.... those are way more fruitful and curiosity satisfying then taking interest in life of people u don't know
@@adityamishra7711 hahaha now you have insisted me to tell you, I'm a mathematician myself and I got intrigued by your comment and not your life. I assumed your life is nothing more than getting triggered by strangers. Grow up and get a life. Also, when you comment somewhere you're open to strangers' comments.
Ego maro pyaar karo 👀 aur pyaar batao be kind and your done(but first be a warrior before being a garden in a battle field)
25:10 Hard Hitting.. so simple as well so profound
8:54 Raj ki haasi dekho 😂😂😂 .
I think the best analysis by shwetabh, In life things are way more complicated than we think dont play in binary. See through from many perspectives. I learned a lot today ❤
Bhai maza aa gya is video mein 🎉❤
Bro please do podcast an all, debate whatever it is with different people I'm sure people are gonna be interested
11:20 ❤❤difference
I subliminally thought that as Shwetabh gets old, his intellect will decline and he’ll probably become an uncle. As he’s uploaded videos criticising a certain type of humor when he used to be all in for comedy, as long as it’s comedy. However, overall, now I feel like as you’re getting old, your perspectives are just getting sharper and better. Thanks for being with me virtually since I was a so-called boy in the mentioned video.
Boy = Listener
Man = talks without expectations
Boy = trusts
Man = predicts,dictates
Brother just destroyed the concept of normal thinking jabse inki videos dekhna start kiya I have been feeling very wise,more sorted.Girlfriend ,family have started seeing me as a matured person.Thanks shwetabh bhai for teaching us the right way to think and handle situations❤🎉
I think she has a much more black nd white perspective when real life things are actually grey
@@Wonkd Are bhai, dosti toh same level of success/class me hi hoti hai, relationship toh aur aage ki chiz hai.. Ofc, ladka insecure/uncomfortable hoga agar ladki jyada successful hai as compared to him
6:56❤❤
I realised I was wayyyy more secure when I was a boy than how secure I am as a man
thx for making videos 👍
25:21 that the real thing.
She is an actor for a reason, reel pe or real mein bhi!
Theek 👍
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5:30 she is talking about men getting insecure bcoz woman has career/earning money
So I am not insecure about whether you have more money, or fame, But I am insecure about how many male friends you have. Tumhare (ya taapsee) ke definition se mai to secure hun fir ?
People's insecurity can be in thousands of different things, and it all varies from person to person. Sometimes insecurity might be valid too.. Its a very lazy statement to say secure insan chahiye. If what you mean is someone who can be comfortable in being flawed or being perceived as flawed. But there are always boundaries and limits..
20:25 exactly i was having a open conversation, and they were like dah dah dah...
And i ended that fuking thing even before it started, I don't want someone to judge me Have fun with someone whom you can manipulate.
Shwetabh literally has something to say about everyone. 😅🤨
What tapsee actually means ‘meetha meetha khao, kadva kadva thooko’
She's almost right with not the best choice of words and obviously Shwetabh bhaiya jaisa wisdom sabka nhi hota.
Shwetabh taught me how to think ❤
Very good video thank you ❤
11:03 i think she meant was sunno sabki karo apni, which means input sabka lo but at the decision tumhara ho. Sadharan bhasha me apna dimag use krna ki kya sahi h us particular situation me
Example:(my neighbour) Her husband hears his mother complaining about bahu to him , then he beats his wife. Then again one day, the bahu leaves the house, then husband puts all blame on his mother & curses her. After few months , wife came back. Cycle continues
Conclusion: Husband is fool neither he is mamma's boy nor jodhu ka gulam(tho he doesn't need to be one, but apna khud ka to kuch vivek hota h n?), he is just a commmon tr@sh found in every indian neighbourhood, jiska koi world view nhi, jo auron ne kh diya bina dimag use kiye maan liya . He is the example of person she was talking about, but couldn't explain properly. Ye hmare neighbourhood me roj ka dhandha h. Jo log wife beating krte hn, vo usually yhi log hote hn(my observation)
Its a BIG BIG RED 💔 FLAG
Shwetabh bhaiya perspective: i think apka conclusion h, jo person apne maa baap , sage sambandhi, logo ki bat nhi sunta vo tumhare opinion ki bhi nhi qadar krega.
As a 19yrs old, from my perspective Dono hi log shi hn but situation intensity different h, dono hi polar conditions hain
Baat waha ho rahi thi red flag ki
How she/he is making decisions in their own brain is irrelevant here
@@sushil6509 re-edit kia h comment firse padho
Example k sath, or vo bhi daily life k
@@AsterRays7979Ur example do not fit with the argument ur presenting .
Jiski tum baat krrhi ho(the man in ur neighborhood) woh hain hi chutiya who tf hits his wife or anyone,he seems uneducated.
Rather than sharing ur thoughts or some misunderstanding with the wife can be solved by communicating..bas easy hain....
Agar if there is a prblm with the bahu and SaaS..and the SaaS is bitching abt bahu to his son..he should really get into the matter ..and make it solve ..rather than hitting someone..
And pls don't genralise ki u r getting these trashes in every indian household !! (And to be frank it's not in every Indian household ..rather in a minority areas)
And ur argument ig doesn't suit the example (I may be wrong)...or may have misunderstood
Learned so much in these 30 minutes,
have a podcast with Vimoh
2:01 6:20 9:10 25:18 26:36
No i would like to say security means he is not afraid of her if she progresses and grows only if a man grows equally he will not be afraid
Maza aaya❤...ye maza swethabh bhai poore desh ko dena chahte h😂
Even James Bond the ultimate masculine fiction has his fair sahre of moments in novels and well as in movies his fair share of boy and man moments where he loses his shit.
Why I took this example? Because I feel most of the "I am a man talk" are compares to these fictional characteristics and ideas of becoming a man(i know its not on the video I am talking in general). Thats what I think.
But in reality even these fictional comparisons are not perfect on themselves people just cherry pick the ideas.
20:30 Thats so true... 🙌🏻
Hi Shwetabh, can you please make a video about infidelity and whether people should be judged morally on this?
We are Human and we are not perfect, we have to do some adjustments in relationship.we can't be in a relationship where we can do anything without any asking or realizing what my partner will think after doing this and that?
Tapsee is talking in a very generalised manner, without understanding the depth of the topic she is talking about, giving just pointers, do this do not do that, and then your relationship will work fine.