Date Night Ends In Our Biggest Fight...
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Hello beautiful friends! In this video I get ready for our date night, Kyle picks out my date night outfit, I share my new favorite products from Spark*l and then we open up about what happened after our date.
“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." Romans 12:21
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“Wanna put down the phone and pray with me?” Loved that! He’s such a great leader!
@@yeshuaischrist9951
They might want to, but TH-cam algorithm very "specific" about what people can talk about. Plus, maybe they want to avoid political stuff because it can get out of hand.
My husband opens my door to get in and out and everywhere we go...we have been together 15 years!
When we focus on loving God more... we will automatically love our partner, and others, more 😊💓🙏
1 John 4:7-9
7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.
9 In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him.
Wow amen!
Definitely helpful! Thank you
*That's AMAZING that you were praying as your partner was upset! That is sooooo important to keep fighting for your relationship. God will always show Himself the most powerful!*
"I went to the gym, I don't know what you were doing-"
"Worshipping." ❤️❤️❤️
Kian is so beautiful its insane. The fact that despite that beauty she still comes off as so humble and sweet and talks about spiritual things is also amazing. Love your channel!
Definitely makes me look inward! I'm not married but I just got into an argument with my sister and this video makes me realize why God hasn't blessed me just yet in that way! I'm not by any means ready I can see that I need lots of time to get and stay right in my heart with God first! Love you guys! Thank you for sharing and for being so open! Praise God for you both!
What does readiness even mean?
@@jccarty1477 I guess you are right in a way (who's ever "ready" right?) But what I meant is God is working on big changes in my heart mind and soul and even physically! God won't bless me until I'm ready in the manner of following Him better! And only God knows if I even will be! I'm good with that! God bless you all! I hope this better explains what readiness means (to me).
Oh, course. It's just a convo I've had with people over the years. I could argue that I'm not ready because I'm not in a stable job etc. Or I have a temper or certain addictions. But I've listened to enough stories to realise that nobody is 'ready'. No one ever really has their stuff together. And as soon as you think you do, a close relationship will shine a bright and uncomfortable light on your other areas.
I'm starting to shed that phrase now as the older I get, the less sense it makes.
@@jccarty1477 I hear you! You are right! God bless you!
My boyfriend and I almost decided to get engaged after two months of dating, but we decided to wait a bit longer (we’re also still in college, so that was a factor too!), and I’m so glad we did! We’ve been dating for a year now (and getting to know each other for a year and a half), have had highs and lows, and I can definitely say that you learn so much about someone through conflict! My boyfriend is the same way with needing space, whereas I’m much more of a “talk it out right now” type of person, so it can be difficult sometimes, but it’s so good to start learning these things before marriage! Y’all just have to give each other grace and remember that y’all think differently, feel differently, process differently, and that’s okay! After our biggest fight, we decided to do the Dynamic Catholic Better Together Inventory (great for anyone, not just Catholics!), and it was so helpful! We were able to talk through so many things that hadn’t come up before (or if they had, we hadn’t discussed in detail), so I think y’all may really benefit from taking a look at it and having some of those conversations! 💗✨
I’m not currently in a relationship (nor have I ever been in a serious one), but I learn so much from the both of you! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing these parts of the not-so-great times ❤️
Wait Woah- I’ve never seen this done before. The honesty is UNREAL. Thank you for letting us in to that! I have so much respect for you both and the way you chose connection and then chose to let us in. Super cool.
So glad you enjoyed!
Yess opening the door is the sweetest!! I dated my husband for three years & we’ve been married for three and he still opens the door for me😍. I make sure to tell him how much I appreciate it too💙💙
One big big thing my fiancé and I do after we have a misunderstanding or disagreement is that we have a long deep hug, genuinely apologize, and tell teach other that we love, value, and appreciate each other. We understand that we both move very differently in the world and have very different ways we communicate and handle conflict. But when we come together out of love and mutual respect for each other we can always find a solution.
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, your ability to share stuff that most people don’t is why I’m subscribed to you
Thank you guys for being such an open book with your relationship conflicts + sharing how you guys overcame that. Matthew 18:20 “where two or three are gathered I am amongst them.” The fact you both were in prayer during your time of rift raft is amazing! 💕
Thank you for being open & raw about y’all having a fight and it can be easy for you to not share about it and only show the highlights. My husband & I have been married for over a year now but we had a similar love story like y’all. We met, fell in love, and got married all within 9 months❤️ we had to figure out how to handle conflicts along the way and we are the opposite of y’all, I am the one who shuts down and need space and my husband needs communication. But thank you for sharing; it happens for literally every couple - even the one who fall in love quickly!
I appreciate that you intentionally mention the downs. People need that! Thank you 😊
Its so good to know your partners love language it also help with conflict solving. Blessings to you guys for keeping it real🙏🏾
I loved how open you guys were about all of this and the fight. Couples on yt never open up. And I love that you debriefed what you are learning about each other
My hubby and I read the book "Men are like waffles and women are like spaghetti" it blessed our socks off and helped us better understand each other and honor each other through Jesus!💕💛 praying for you both!!
Thank you so much for showing that relationships takes work!!! Many people don’t show that and so many people are left with an expectation that everything is smooth 24/7!!
The “gurrrrl” after every dress. 😭😂
You’ve inspired my channel so much!😁❤️
Cay Gabe didn’t know it was self promo time
@@sophiachacon2957 sorry, just seeing your comment! Please, girl, don’t spread hate! Everyone starts somewhere in anything they do in life. ☺️ God bless you, and I hope your day has been full of blessings! Remember, we speak life or death. Much love from me to you. 😊
You are such an inspiration, Kian. Watching your videos has truly lit my fire for Jesus again
Total honesty and total loyalty are the foundation of of a good marriage with GOd being the glue
I love the honesty from this.
I ran across your channel and I'm so glad I did! You're so raw and real; I appreciate it. Just subscribed
Thanks for being vulnerable and real with us. That makes me value you guys do much more. You didn't have to share that your viewers but you didn't and that's really cool
i love love love your rawness and showing ppl you can still be committed in a relationship even tho their are disagreements involved... i will keep your marriage in my prayers 🙌💛
A few thoughts: I love how sweet Kyle's reactions are to all of your outfits, I realized that I'm definitely more a Kyle when it comes to being hurt in a conversation but when I hurt someone I tend to be a Kian and want to talk it out - how complicated is that?! HAHA, lastly it's definitely none of my business but I wish we knew what the fight was about. I tend to be a details based kind of learner but maybe you wanted to keep this one to yourself. Great video - love learning how you guys are navigating your relationship even though I'm single.
The honesty in this is amazing! This makes me think about how I handle conflict
Thank you for being so raw and honest. Your videos help to show the reality of conflict couples face in relationships. Your advice is extremely helpful!!!
Thank you both so much for your transparency. It is great to see the process of a Christ centered relationship and to be able to learn from mistakes that you guys are willing to share. You two are in my prayers! Peace be with you
Thank you for a sharing! This was a blessing and God is definitely working through both of you to help others ❤️ Praying for yall!
Praying for you guys❤️God bless you!
❤️ Beautiful lesson to learn for you both before your marriage begins. Thanks for being transparent! 🙏🏾🥳❤️ You guys will have a wonderful marriage. Always learning means always evolving 🤗
Such a wonderful idea to include this in the video so that as you guys learn, we can learn alongside with you!
Can you do a video on shame, and how you have approached situations where certain believers are more judgmental of others and their past mistakes?
Wait why is it misting in the restaurant? Arizona heat??
Also pranks never went well with my hubby, not for sensitive souls. I’m sensitive too and I think pranks are taken too far sometimes.
KIAN & KYLE! I love you guys! Conflict is a great way to learn and grow in a relationship. It can be something that brings you closer together as a couple but yes you have to have experiences with it in order to know best how each other deal with it. It’s not uncommon for guys to need their space and girls usually want to communicate through it. I highly recommend the relationship books “For Women Only” And “For Men Only” by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhaun. It goes in depth and explains many common differences between men and woman that is so helpful to get to know each other better and feel known and heard.
Another tip is reading the book he will read (For Men Only) before him and highlight or add notes to the things that really speak to you as an individual, and vice versa have him read (For Women Only) and add his own notes so that when you both read them you have personalized copies that give deep incite into your partner.
Praying for you guys! So excited for you to get married. May God bless your marriage and be glorified through it.
This is literally my boyfriend and I. He shuts down, he uses humor and then I'm trying to be serious and I get upset and then he's upset. He doesn't do well with conflict and I feel the need to communicate and work through things.
So raw 👏🏼 dope to see
super cute video. love the transparency. God is good
All three dresses are so adorable the third one was perfect for your date night, and yes all men should open the door for a lady all the time it’s OK if Kyle is in your video he’s not ruining it be lucky that you found your life mate.
girrlllll! I honestly just found you on here and I'm LOVING your videos!!! Honestly you and your fiance remind me of me and my bf! So glad to find Godly couples on here and the advice you share. You're so beautiful and thanks for sharing your journey! Love it love it, hugs! xoxo
I’ve been waiting for you to upload 💜
I just love your content so much!
Great video guys very insightful! God Bless y'all
If you are reading premarital books: Love & Respect helped me and my now husband during our engagement. We have been married for 7 months and still go back to Love & Respect. It was off-putting at first because it stereotypes women (need love) and men (need respect) but it really helped us understand our patterns and each other's needs.
Love all your videos! You and Kyle are adorable!!! ♥️♥️♥️
Water misting at that restaurant?
Such a great video!! So must yo learn from and thank you for your honesty and being real!! Even about your issues! Most couples only show the lovey dovey and hide their issue which is a kinda false perception that couples live happily ever after in Christ! Instead God reveals so much when he brings two people together and strengthen them in Him like the two of you! So thank you for this! Wedding is approaching soon so wish you so much of God’s Love on your wedding day and your lives together. God bless you both!
This is so beautiful! I'm always glad watching you both and I thank God for using you as an inspiration to me. I pray that your union will continually get deeply rooted in Christ and will get stronger In Jesus Name. I wish you a sparkled wedding. Love youu
Cheers to me!!first one here today....
Thanks for sharing it’s really mature and so lovely to hear that you guys are praying for one another during the heat from argument even apart from each other and submitting your emotions to God! That’s true love 💓💓 plus the dresses were amazing !!!😍🤩
Interesting place, pumping in fog.
I love you guys. So much
Wait can you link the outfits in the watch try-ons?? Please
I wish you the best, Kian. That's all I got to say.
Trying to control someone else never works, even though you feel better you will be tearing the other person down
Where did you get the first dress???
love this ❤️
Where did you get all of your date outfits from??
Great video, you’re very mature for a young woman!
I encourage you guys to do research about Courageous Conversations and see how that works for you 😊💗
Yea that prank would be a little much
Dang, even I'm tired of Kyle's drum rolls lol
Is that offer to write somebodys dating profile still on the table lol? could use the help
Lmaooo imagine if y’all did that prank, I would totally watch that 😂
Jesus Christ is coming soon and God bless you, Deus te abençõe, and Que Dieu vous Benísse.
Jesus is coming back soon!!!
RED IS YOUR COLOR
Kyle likes a lot of attention, he is always making noise for attention! Men right!
Have a Wonderful and Blessed day!!!
We all living in this world, in this country...God the Dear Lord and Savior made us all, he made the human race, he made all shades brown, black, white, red, yellow. He in his word never mentions race or division by color he looks at Born-Again, and lost, Jew or Gentile. We need to realize if we hate someone due to the shade of their skin we are telling God, the Mighty "Great I Am" he messed up. I really don't believe that is a good idea no matter what shade we are. He also tells us not to murder or take vengeance as it belongs to him.
Romans 12:17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
Romans 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
Romans 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
We are living in the last days and everywhere we look we see the signs!!
Please don't believe everything we see and hear from the media, and from this world. Trust What the Lord has told us and remember he is the only one that is the same Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow.
We need to pray daily for one another. We need to stop buying into the media and the deceitful ways of the enemy; which is Satan.
If you have never trusted Jesus come to him today!! We are living in the last days and know not what a day will bring. I am praying daily for our Country.
John 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
John 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
John 3:19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
John 3:20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.
John 3:21 But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God.
Do you not believe in the BIBLE'S WORD'S?
I love this raw scenes..showing us the good times and the bad.. viewers tend to only see the good stuff and forgot this is real life
I 100% get where Kyle is coming from on needing the space after a conflict builds up. Working out or exercise when you are feeling tempered can help release a lot of that tension that is built up. That way after it is released he can come back with a clear head and talk to you in the loving way he wants to and not let anger or frustration control his tongue and cause him to say something he didn't mean. Then y'all can communicate and talk things out in a way that is fruitful. Love that you two are so open about sharing moments like this so everyone can learn from them. Its easy to think people online are perfect so its very humbling to see that everyone struggles with things but God blesses us through them all.
Its true, people process emotions differently.
Sometimes, it is the man who needs to let the woman know what life can be like when she refuses to submit to him, as Scripture clearly teaches.
Date. Don’t stop dating. I feel strongly about this. Go ahead and make it a precedent in your relationship that dating each other will remain a priority no matter what the circumstances are. Imagine how much harder it’ll be once/if you have kids..
I would be so upset. I think the number one rule in. Relationship (especially marriage or headed that direction) is to never joke or threaten the idea of splitting up. It causes a lot unsteadiness.
Praying God continues to grow you guys and keep you humble in you YT journey! 💗
I believe that what happened to Kyle is called Emotional Flooding... There is a lot of examples and explanations online and ways to help prevent it. It often occurs when a partner feels that the other person is becoming too heated or the conversation is going too fast that they have a hard time slowing down and processing all the information, leading to wanting time and space to be able to return to normal heart beat and process everything to be able to discuss it logically and calmly. There are great books and advice for learning to manage emotional flooding, expecially by John Gottman (from the university of seattle). It also helps explain why Kyle may prefer to pray alone in those times, as it can be too hard to stay clear and focussed when together after/during the argument. For Kian, it can be scary or feel lonely to be left alone midway in an argument. Taking a moment to reassure you, and let you know that Kyle is in fact praying while he is gone, and that he loves and will fight for you can be very helpful in reducing the stress Kian may feel while she's waiting for him to return to the conversation. Sending lots of love, C.
I respect that you keep it real. You show the awesome parts of being in a relationship (what everyone wants) and the difficulties that come with it as well.
To people watching: Yes, all relationships will require work. Inner work. No, your relationship will not be the exception. And to my single people: enjoy singleness.😂
We are the tree, rooted in our Lord and saviour Jesus Christ. From their we grow together in love as the body of Christ. Producing good fruit 🙂
Kian! You need to read the book called 'For Women Only' by Shaunti Feldhahn. It explains how men's brains are wired differently in all aspects of relationships and marriage. There is multiple chapters about this 'needing space to process' issue. I think it would really really benefit you and Kyle's relationship. There is a brother book called 'For men only' by Jeff Feldhahn (the husband) that Kyle could read at the same time. (Or audiobook 🙂)
Where are the dresses from Kian? I literally loved all of them.
I love how REAL this is. Thank you for not making your channel just highlights. You’re so genuine! God bless YOU! ❤️ much love from my channel as always. ❤️
I would love if you did a video on “manifesting” or the law of attraction. I’ve seen several people talking about this and it seems secular. Would love to know your stance and if you think it’s biblical or not.
Lee Young hi 👋 I use to practice law of attraction before becoming Christian and the reason it isn’t biblical is because it makes YOU the creator of your reality. Basically you are your own God... and it works but it isn’t coming from God especially if your main goal is to manifest worldly things. (Ex: house, money, cars, followers, ect.) That’s why we say “your will be done” in Our Father prayer. His will not ours.
Lee Young I know you didn’t ask me but I’d thought I’d let you know my experience with it since I use to practice it
Vivian Vlogs Thank you for this! It’s truly appreciated! :)
I also sent Kian a message on Instagram on the same thing.
Personally for me. I think instead of Law of Attraction, I think for Christians it’s faith.
In terms of manifesting.. ppl debate.
I feel if it’s alignment with Gods plan, your faith of Him, and with Him. It makes sense.
Like faith to get into this school (& lets say you don’t, you really wanted to still- God planned that for a reason). I will say at this point I’m content with anything God has thrown my way or my path.
The only thing I truly manifested was a scholarship (in His timing not mine- I needed additional funding for this school year). And back at my community college ... a parking spot daily closer to campus since it was too many ppl enrolled that year so parking was limited 😂
First come, first serve.
I do know LOA and manifesting is something ppl go beyond. They tend to mix it with spirituality practices.
THATS SO CRAZY!!
I was just thinking about this!!!!
“I wonder if Kian and Kyle go through this”
I pray God continues to strengthen y’all in every way, that the Lord may continue to unite y’all. In Jesus mighty name.
This video was such a Blessing. Thank you ❤️
My fiancé and I were given a book from our preacher who is also doing pre marital counseling with us; the book is Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson...wow it is so good and has great biblical backing.
Hope you’re able to check it out. Love y’all!
Love this & the clip at the end, such an inspirational couple!
What the heck was being sprayed all over ya'll!?? That looked so dang suss
Most likely water mist. It’s nice when it’s super hot outside.
I thought that was the prank they were referring to at first!
@@tiffanyrac2865 yeah but how do you really know what's I. That 'watermist'
Grace Callie it’s nothing terrible😊 it’s just some water misters. I do remember Kian saying she lived in a hot area such as Arizona if I remembered clearly. Because of that, if you’ve ever visited a hot place like that, if you go out to a restaurant or sometimes in any public space, there are those misters. They Also have them at Universal Studios!✨❤️
I commend you guys for praying and seeking counsel! & for being open about it. That’s so wise! I know my husband and I couldn’t have gotten through our engagement without those two things 💕
dont do these pranks :(
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME
PHIL 4:13
Really appreciated you sharing the highs and lows, trying the be real & authentic. Appreciate having this on social media so much. I come away from your videos thinking and praying about being more like Jesus, so thank you!
I'm similar to Kyle about needing space after a fight/disagreement to clear my head and make sure I know how i'm actually feeling. I feel smothered if I have to resolve things in the moment. It's good to know your communication style!
You were so pretty in the last one!!! 😍
can you link the romper? so cuttte!
For my husband and I to avoid my shutting down when I feel like I’m starting to shut down I ask for a time out 5-10 minutes to organize my thoughts. Helps a lot ❤️ I also love how you added that you felt closer after dealing with the conflict. Conflict actually should bring you closer to your partner in the end and it’s so important that people talk about that!
I love that you do share all this ❤ Thank you for being vulnerable and open. Y'all help me understand my own idiolozations of relationships but also what healthy expectations I can have for a partner! Of course you guys aren't my end all be all but a great example I can learn and reflect on!
The last part really inspired me to get back into the word with my husband. I appreciate how open you guys are. Also where is your tank top at the end from? 😂😊
Do not ever sell yourself short for views!
Yes, I agree!
Thank you for sharing