Another one is to not tell ur friends because it could end up really badly. For me I told my friend and she told most of the people in my year/grade. She never talked to him before but now she is always talking to him. Whenever me and my crush talk alone talking or walking to class together she'll start running towards us and just start waffling about some random stuff. So moral of the story is not to tell your friends. Edit: I decided to talk to abt it to her and now she texts him at night and always interrupts me when I'm talking to him and is just getting worse. She apparently has a boyfriend now in a different school but I think she's lying to cover up that fact she likes him. I don't mind if she likes him because u can't control your feelings but at least be honest so we can both back off and just be friends.
I think the lesson learned here is more so to choose your friends more wisely. that isn't a friend, that's someone getting a kick out of intruding on your interests and playing social games
As a counselor who has had extensive trainings on domestic violence and intimate partner violence, I can tell you right now that when someone starts talking about how crazy their ex was (particularly if it was ALL of their exes…pretty coincidental, isn’t it?), my 🚩red flags 🚩 are automatically raised because it makes me wonder what is wrong with THEM. Of course, many times, it turns out that they did actually have a crazy ex. But, then again, particularly if it’s someone whose exes were all supposedly crazy, that makes me wonder who the crazy one is. This is a big tell for potential abusers. They will almost always shit talk their ex(es) in order to justify (even to themselves) their abusive behavior. Abusers and/or narcissists. Like I said, sometimes the ex is legitimately crazy. But, please also be cautious about the person and look out for any other signs that they might be a potentially abusive partner, such as: -They’re very controlling (this might start off as cute or endearing even, and make you feel like they really are just super into you, but it can be a huge 🚩red flag🚩) -They get jealous very easily (same as above, it might seem “cute” at first and some jealousy is normal and totally okay, but if they start making demands about going through your phone when you come home, constantly accuse you of flirting (or worse) with your coworker or classmate, and start making demands about who you are “allowed” to go out with-run 🏃 away because this is a huge 🚩red flag 🚩 and the end goal will eventually to isolate you from all of your friends and family and, Before you know it, you’re only allowed to spend time with your partner or it simply isn’t worth the trouble of having to argue with them. I know a lot of Jayus’ fan base is young and I wanted to share this with you all because it is extremely important information I wish someone would have told me when I was younger. If you want to learn more about abusive relationships, I highly recommend Lundy Bancroft’s book, “Why Does He Do That?” He actually has made it available for free online if you google it. And it’s not just about male abusers or heterosexual relationships, he just uses male pronouns for cohesion and readability and goes into detail about same sex relationships, as well. It’s just that, statistically, men are much more likely to be the abuser in a relationship. That’s not to say there aren’t many vile women out there (I’m looking at you, Amber Heard). Anyways, if you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading. I’m always happy to share my knowledge and experience-whether it be my professional or personal-with people if I think it might help someone. Just remember, if you have a bad feeling about someone you are dating, trust your gut instinct!!! Chances are, you are right. ❤
I was about to call you a liar ablut being counselor, thought you were about to say that ex's arent usually crazy. Yea i agree that its weird if all the exs were bad but still, relationshios are a roll of dice because no one chooses crazy exs. It all depends on luck. Its why i dont think its wrong saying your exs were crazy. Even if you loved them. My sister is crazy, but youd be a fool to think i wouldnt take a bullet for her just because i said shes crazy. Just actually is lol I only take issue with relationship advice like this because it treats things too closesly to black and white, and life is not like that. Life is full of curve balls when it comes to people, Jayus literally just got hit by one that she couldnt even understand. It's why "dont judge a book by its cover" has a ridiculous amount of popularity. Heck even when you hace read halfway through a book theres still plot twist. Is what it is
q: for the counsellor … We’re not “in a relationship” if we’re just hooking up, are we? We’re just right-swipes, like, do girls think that counts?? App-sex doesn’t count. You can’t really have it both ways. You can’t go saying, “oh, watch out for ____, he’s such a f__#ckboy__, you’ll end up crying for weeks and he won’t even remember your name”, but then still hit me up in messages, like, I _do_ hear what you’re saying about me, pick a version. F#ckboys aren’t out there f’ing themselves, you know?? Also, why is _anyone_ crying, nobody’s dead, relax!!
@@Lucas-gm3bv I mean, it depends. Probably not, if you haven’t defined the relationship and had a talk stating that you’re mutually exclusive. If you’re just having sex, it is probably just a hookup. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, is something only you and the other person can say for certain, so take what I say with a grain of salt. If you’re spending most of your free time together, doing things together (eating meals, going on dates/outings, talk or text with each other about things other than when your next hook up will be, etc. ), then it’s possible that you are in a relationship but you guys just haven’t put a label on it. The important thing is-are you both okay with it being just sex, with no strings attached? If one of you has feelings for the other, yet the other one sees what you have as a booty call and nothing more, then I can tell you it most likely won’t end well. Can feelings eventually develop? Sure, it happens all the time. But, don’t expect it to because, oftentimes, people are happy just keeping it casual. Basically, it all boils down to having good communication and keeping those lines of communication open. Are you both interested in monogamy-only sleeping with each other? I’m not saying that monogamous relationships are the only way to have a relationship because many people have very happy and healthy polyamorous relationships IF ALL people involved are on board and there is a solid foundation of mutual trust and respect for one another. From what little you’ve told me, it honestly doesn’t sound like a relationship. The person you’re talking about sounds very immature if she’s talking about you behind your back like that. She may be saying those things in an attempt to keep others away from you because she’s jealous, but I’m just speculating. Anyways, at the end of the day, the only way you can know with absolutely certainty where your relationship stands (I use the word relationship loosely here-there are many types of relationships and most of them are not romantic) is by having an honest and open conversation where you both tell each other your expectations of the other in a romantic, exclusive relationship and find out if you’re both on the same page. But, like I said, from what you’ve told me, it sounds more like a hookup with someone who is emotionally immature. If she is interested in a relationship, talking shit behind your back is not a good way to go about showing you. I hope that was a little helpful for you and I wish you the best!
My uncle is dating a very controlling girlfriend who does stuff like go through his phone and stuff. He's been with her for years, but he would be better off with someone who treats him better.
My crush was borrowing my pencil after she dragged me to mathtutoring afterschool because she didn't want to be there with no friends, she then told me "sorry I might use your pencil to scratch my Head, it's been itching all day" and I f!cking replied with "yeah I noticed"
I actually just straight up confessed to my crush and I thought that it was all over and he would hate me. It's been 2 years now and we are very happy :))
Lucky me that i need an emotional bond with someone to develop a crush 😂 yea anyways i tell them immediately in the manner of "hey listen, i have a crush on you. It is not a question and you don't have to respond to it if you feel uncomfortable but i just want to make you aware of the fact in case you think I'm getting too close for your liking" I want them to be aware because man it sucks when you think someone was a genuine friend and they start hitting on you the moment you are single. I don't want to be that person
The thing I don’t get about that is, do you want to develop a crush on a friend? And isn’t it emotionally safer to have crushes on people you just met where they don’t have stock in a platonic friendship yet?
@@gillianomotoso328 if I could choose then I'd absolutely love to but i need a bond to actually form a judgement about someone and i can't have crushes if I don't have an opinion of that person....
I also usually just walk up to ‘em and say: “Hey, we’ll always be friends, right?” and if they say yes, I say “cool, so… I like you, you don’t have to like me back, but if you don’t like me back we can still be friends right?”
The second one is so real. There's a guy from my school that has a crush on me and my house happens to be on his way to school. *He will purposefully wait for me in front of my house so we can go the rest of the way together, even though we never made plans to walk to school together*. I do very much feel smothered and it's actually a little creepy how he will go out of his way to literally stand in front of my home until I come out even though I never invited him to do so. And this all happened literally because I was just nice to him on the first day of school, I think. He's pretty unattractive by conventional standards, so I guess not many girls were nice to him before me, and now that I slightly acknowledged him he's immediately obsessed. He isn't even a bad friend, he's very funny and generally nice, but I wish he could get the hint that I'm not interested in anything more than a friendship and leave me be. He also sits next to me in three of our classes and whenever I feel stressed because of the work, he'll rub my back in a "comforting" way, even though I repeatedly told him not to touch me. I mean, I don't have to tell him twice in a day, if I tell him to stop, he does. But then he repeats it the next day and it's just so frustrating and awkward. I know he won't go farther than that and hurt me, he's not that typa guy (though even if he wanted to I could easily overpower him, he's shorter than me by far and built like a french frie). I don't know what to do at this point. This kinda turned into a vent, and I'm sorry, I'm just trying to get people to see how uncomfortable it can be for a person on the receiving side when someone sticks to them 24/7.
The social media one is so true 😂 we all do it, but don't fkn say you've done it, if you know what school their mom went to through sm stalking, keep it go yaself! And if they tell you, act surprised 😂
About exes, yes. When my boyfriend and I first started talking, exes did come up. All we did was explain how our last relationship ended. No blame games. Just honesty.
There's this guy who has a crush on me. It was sweet when I heard, I didn't like him back and still don't. He's in my english class, so i was like, "Sweet, he'll probably be seen there and nowhere else." Thats when I realized hes at my lunch table. I didn't really care until I found him staring at me every lunch. He still does. How do I let him down lightly? Both of our parents are friends and my mom is telling me to let him down slowly but I really want him to stop staring at me and theres no good way to phrase it!!
If you really wanna cut of from this dude just go to him and say don't stare at me as a men we are really insecure about these things and he is too so if you point it out he won't be able to make eye contact with you ever again in his whole life sad but ture
You should talk to him about it that you're uncomfortable with him staring at you all the time. If you're not saying it in a rude way and not in public to embarrass him, it should be fine
Lmao the last one is such a problem for me since I'm usually a quiet kid so people will tell me things they wouldn't tell anyone else, knowing I won't say anything or tell anyone and then proceed to forget that they told me
Call me creepy but I don't understand whats wrong with doing this tbh because you get to know their interests and different things about them and then you know wether that's kinda person you wanna date yk
@Depressed_AnimeNerd 1: you still use xD 2: your name is lowkey cringe, depression isn't something to flaunt, mental illness isn't a competition.. but if it was, you'd win because you have a crush on a literal fictional chatacter- something with no depth.
The first time I approached my crush, she literally froze and couldn’t even say hi, and then someone immediately came and saved (or interrupted) the moment . We never saw each other again and I don’t even know what’s her voice tone like. It’s been 5 years.
These are all great advice.. personally I kinda Have to talk about one of my exes cause before I could do it myself, she outted me on NATIONALLY SYNDICATED RADIO, after we broke things off cause I wanted to come out. Sucked pond water when it happened, but it's a Great story now, especially since it's so indicative of how my life really is
If you are a stalky type person take the same path everyday. Don't actively seek them out, if they feel weirded out and go a different way they're probably seeing if you follow them. Take a path that they're on regularly and give a small smile or wave if you make eye contact regularly and keep walking. Online, don't talk about specific stuff. If you see they posted a review about a movie they watched, if you talk to them say a couple days later if they've seen any cool movies recently or something vaguely related to what they said it that post. Don't be the stalker type but if you are, refrain. These might help.
The first one is real! One of the main reasons I broke up with my ex is because he would NOT shut up about how terrible and ugly his ex was. “She’s so ugly I can’t believe I ever thought she was attractive” “she’s so bitchy, you’re so much better than her” all this shit talking only shows me what it would be like if i messed up. And all this shit talking only shows that you are still not over her and that you’re just trying to kill the feelings by insulting everything about your ex. Which at first I didn’t mind this, but ever since I started dating him, his ex has been more involved in my life than ever before. AND I USED TO BE FRIENDS WITH HER? Did I talk about this with him? 3 times. He just won’t stfu about how “bad” she was. She was so involved with his life that he once accidentally said her name when telling me he loved me when we first started dating. And to make matters worse, no matter how much he said he didn’t like her at all, he still used her name when talking about her instead of “my ex”. I know this doesn’t seem like a big problem, but if he hates her so much, why is he addressing her by name? He didn’t even know what my ex’s name was until he asked me
Stalk the hell out of their social media, because they're doing the same thing to you. Eventually you'll need whatever ammunition against them you can find because love can be a fickle bitch. 💔😭
Exactly, we be making this stuff complicated. Girl: i wish he'd just let me know that he likes me Guy: i cant call her beautiful yet because then she'll know i like her and it will make her run away 1,000 games later Girl: we have hung out a lot, i wonder if he likes me still. God i wish he will just say it, ill faint! Guy: Y=mx+b but you must square it at 5am and then take square root of X and 3 to it so that we can then divide it all by the derivative 2x+3x^2. Why?
The social media one is so true 😅 I had a guy who liked me and stalked my social media a lot so I blocked him And he made another account to which I ignored, days later he called and started a conversation on things I never told him, it was awkward and I blocked him on everything
The ex one is also true because they may realize that if all your exes are “crazy” then maybe not all the exes were the problem. This may or may not be true but some people do look this deep into it.
My last ex (still very good friends) knew exactly how bad my ex before him was because he got me out of that relationship. Helped me realize it was abusive as hell by just asking questions and letting me figure it out from there. There was a long time between both of them as well.
Thanks for mentioning the last point. I love spying on people through social media, no matter if it's a guy or woman. I would do it. Especially with my crushes lol. Idk, it just makes me feel reserved and know in some way beforehand with who am I dealing with. Maybe I should become a detective one day 😂.
I'm in a really good friendly relation with almost all my exes, and people tend to like that when I tell them, I think it shows maturity to not suddenly act as if you hated the person you were with for 5 years all along
“You know how weird it is when someone knows everything about you but you didn’t tell them any of those things?” As someone with celebrity/fictional crushes, I feel attacked 💀
Me, who befriended my crush: Ok, I know I messed up on this, but now I can hang out with him. We did talk about our Ex's, but that was because he brought it up and then we switched topics.
He's an INFJ and so cute and charming. I've had a crush on him since fifth grade, but it was like the type of crush where you never expect them to like you back, but now he does. I'm learning that we don't get along very well. It's kind of a situationship, he calls me his fiance with other people, but when I asked him what we are, it's "just friends," and yet we still hold hands. One of my close friends also asked him and he said simply, "something." He had a crush on a girl and got rejected, but that was a year back so I'm not sure if it affected his answer. We don't have the best chemistry, but I still want to be more with him. Who's the manipulative one?
Forgive me if I get it wrong. With the context you mentioned, I think it's best to let it go. I don't think he's ready to have a real connection with you and it's not your fault. If a man truly loves you and wants to be with you, he wouldn't have held back and would ask you to be his girlfriend. It's best to focus on yourself and not limit your option. No matter how good he is and how happy you feel with him, if he doesn't feel like having commitment with you then he's not the one. Your comment was 6 months ago and I hope you're much happier now❤
I'm getting all this great advice from jayus about how to act around my crush and deal with relationships. It's great! Now I'll just wait until I actually get a crush for the first time in my life lol
The second one is something my ex friend needed to learn. He literally joined breakfast club to sit near me and came up to me all the time, I found it creepy. Found out a while later he has a gf in another city. Last weekend she broke up with him for like the 4th time and actually blocked him on everything.
don't listen to these kinds of things online every person is different and it's important to learn yourself what makes your partner happy and what doesnt
THESE ARE SO FUCKING ACCURATE I literally had someone do the last two to me and they even made me traumatized fr I legit thought they were a creep These don't give "romantic" babes, it gives "stalker" Don't overdo things if the person doesn't show interest, take "no" as an answer and don't push anyone, they're not gonna like you back if you do, that only happens in movies Also no, it doesn't make a difference when someone is physically "attractive", doing these just makes that person unattractive instatly I needed to come back just to comment on this cuz yt didn't let me last time
thanks for this God bless you! but the last one is so true this guy and i have been asking eachother a lot of questions about eachother and it’s just been going rlly welll
These are all such good takes. Please don’t be creepy! Self awareness and growth is attractive. Also, not being available all the time helps them want you more.
I asked my crush out when she invited me ti a date she rejected and said "This isint a dtae this is just a friend dinner"i ended up making her pay and i went to a alleyway and burnt the flowers she rejected from me
So, to boil it down: 1. Don’t complain about your EX like they are the worst person ever. 2. Don’t follow them. 3. Don’t stalk them. Now, this may be my absence of romantic feelings talking, but this feels like pretty basic info to me… but whatever
I was once seeing this woman for about a month, we had a real connection. We talked about everything, life, food, video games, music, art, you name it. The problem was that she kept finding a way to bring maybe 70 percent of these conversations to be about her ex. As much as I was into her, that’s what killed the relationship. Especially when she was comparing the two of us. I didn’t mind at first cause we all have a past, and maybe haven’t dealt with everything yet, but I could tell that there wasn’t any closure, and she still needed some time before jumping into another relationship. The red flags started to come more frequently. Mind you I had a few red flags myself, but I didn’t let them spill out all at once while I was working on them. Nobody is perfect.
Back in 2018 I went on a first date with someone I met on a well known legit dating site. First date, she talked about her ex. She then told me that she'd moved to the area with the ex-before-that-one. She worked as a teacher and complained that her teenage students were having more sex than she was and how that wasn't fair. Dealbreaker. The date ended amicably and it was a nice time we had, but that threw me. It was the sheer arrogance of it, very little regard to my feelings and having to be quietly insulted listening to all of that. I'm afraid there wasn't a second date. If she's talking about exes so much, it means that a) she clearly has unresolved issues and b) you will just become yet another one of those exes. You question just how much she will actually be interested in you? The problem is now I'm in my mid-30s there are no "greenfield" women anymore. They're all dragging baggage behind them.
I think it would be a treat to date Bella honestly, because she seems very secure and confident in who she is and is very intelligent but also straight up
This guy has a crush on me, and I had to yell at him twice until he actually gave me space. And he changes his likes and dislikes for me. So… two lessons. 1. Give them space, or they’ll hate you. 2. BE YOURSELF. If you aren’t, _they_ may be happy, but YOU won’t be.
Having a good memory and an extreme fear of silence is annoying because you remember shit they told you years ago and you once you remember you want to say it the moment the conversation slows down
A guy who had confessed to me, but I hadn’t given a response yet, decided it was a smart idea to not only bring up his ex, BUT COMPARE US. Not negatively, but about the good things about me that she also had. But, he apparently liked me before dating her, which made me feel like he’d just gone out with her because she was like me? (I might be overthinking that part, GOD I hope I am). But at the end of the day, this guy has not only directly compared me to his ex but also shown me his desperation which freaked me out and insulted me all at once. *Don’t bring up your ex people.*
"so my ex was physically and emotionally abusive while also cheating on me with multiple different dudes, but yea she was pretty great"...said no one ever
Nah. If someone talks shit about ALL their exes, they're the problem. Avoid them at all costs. But even then, don't badmouth them. Tell the truth if conversation specifically leads that way, but be even tempered about it. How you talk about your exes tells a lot about your character.
If someone has a crush on me, and tells me, if they had an ex that was something completely psychotic I want them to tell me. I don't want to hear about their ex's life, none of that, but if the ex is THAT crazy and messed up I want to know about it and I want to know of what Im getting myself into. I prefer honesty, I don't fear honesty since I am honest.
If you like someone don’t approach them 24/7 or stalk them on social media let it happen naturally don’t mention exs and how bad they were is what I picked up from this
the ex one is so true. it’s someone you once loved. unless they did something absolutely horrible, don’t speak about them as such
That is such a small thing OMG if Depanga left Corey over something so trivial the show would suck.
Learn to deal with real drama.
Maybe learn to communicate.
@@davidraffey9719 wut
@@davidraffey9719 im sorry but were you replying to yourself? 💀
"do you know how weird it is for someone to know everything about you??"
Marinette: 💀
omfg i’m dying rn
Y'all still watch that cringey ass show? Dam
Bro I was not expecting miraculous to come up here lol😂
@@sportsfan0803bro stfu like it’s never too late too watch it. I mean it’s a pretty good show
@poisxnivi that’s what I was thinking 😅
"A relationship is alot like a fart, if you force it - its probably shit" ~master oogway or someone
ew bro I'm tryna eat
@@siffie5355 LMAO
peter griffin
too relatable
thats from family guy!!
Can’t accidentally talk about exes if you don’t have any 😙✌️
I felt this in my soul.
@@T.Koetschme too 😭
Fr
I felt this on a spiritual level
ME😂😂
The looking at your crush one is so true tho omg like just seeing them naturally feels so much better then forcing it
Another one is to not tell ur friends because it could end up really badly. For me I told my friend and she told most of the people in my year/grade. She never talked to him before but now she is always talking to him. Whenever me and my crush talk alone talking or walking to class together she'll start running towards us and just start waffling about some random stuff. So moral of the story is not to tell your friends.
Edit: I decided to talk to abt it to her and now she texts him at night and always interrupts me when I'm talking to him and is just getting worse. She apparently has a boyfriend now in a different school but I think she's lying to cover up that fact she likes him. I don't mind if she likes him because u can't control your feelings but at least be honest so we can both back off and just be friends.
Babes that's not your friend,drop the b!tch you deserve better and trust me it'll save lots of headache,talking from experience
True very true
Yeah she doesn't seem like a real friend.
I think the lesson learned here is more so to choose your friends more wisely. that isn't a friend, that's someone getting a kick out of intruding on your interests and playing social games
@@akakuro.7376 she used to be really nice then all of a sudden she turned pretty toxic
shes the older sister we all need
edit:
"mom im famous"
"go do the dishes"
Oi oiii
FR I always wanted an older sister but that’s not possible so at least we got Bella to tell us how stupid we are and how to mess with people’s brains
But we aren’t the younger siblings she needs lmao, she has like a billion already 😭
Fair
@Laura James I believe Bella is ok with she/her pronouns. I used to correct people too and that's what others told me.
As a counselor who has had extensive trainings on domestic violence and intimate partner violence, I can tell you right now that when someone starts talking about how crazy their ex was (particularly if it was ALL of their exes…pretty coincidental, isn’t it?), my 🚩red flags 🚩 are automatically raised because it makes me wonder what is wrong with THEM. Of course, many times, it turns out that they did actually have a crazy ex. But, then again, particularly if it’s someone whose exes were all supposedly crazy, that makes me wonder who the crazy one is. This is a big tell for potential abusers. They will almost always shit talk their ex(es) in order to justify (even to themselves) their abusive behavior. Abusers and/or narcissists.
Like I said, sometimes the ex is legitimately crazy. But, please also be cautious about the person and look out for any other signs that they might be a potentially abusive partner, such as:
-They’re very controlling (this might start off as cute or endearing even, and make you feel like they really are just super into you, but it can be a huge 🚩red flag🚩)
-They get jealous very easily (same as above, it might seem “cute” at first and some jealousy is normal and totally okay, but if they start making demands about going through your phone when you come home, constantly accuse you of flirting (or worse) with your coworker or classmate, and start making demands about who you are “allowed” to go out with-run 🏃 away because this is a huge 🚩red flag 🚩 and the end goal will eventually to isolate you from all of your friends and family and, Before you know it, you’re only allowed to spend time with your partner or it simply isn’t worth the trouble of having to argue with them.
I know a lot of Jayus’ fan base is young and I wanted to share this with you all because it is extremely important information I wish someone would have told me when I was younger.
If you want to learn more about abusive relationships, I highly recommend Lundy Bancroft’s book, “Why Does He Do That?” He actually has made it available for free online if you google it. And it’s not just about male abusers or heterosexual relationships, he just uses male pronouns for cohesion and readability and goes into detail about same sex relationships, as well. It’s just that, statistically, men are much more likely to be the abuser in a relationship. That’s not to say there aren’t many vile women out there (I’m looking at you, Amber Heard).
Anyways, if you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading. I’m always happy to share my knowledge and experience-whether it be my professional or personal-with people if I think it might help someone.
Just remember, if you have a bad feeling about someone you are dating, trust your gut instinct!!! Chances are, you are right. ❤
I was about to call you a liar ablut being counselor, thought you were about to say that ex's arent usually crazy.
Yea i agree that its weird if all the exs were bad but still, relationshios are a roll of dice because no one chooses crazy exs. It all depends on luck.
Its why i dont think its wrong saying your exs were crazy. Even if you loved them. My sister is crazy, but youd be a fool to think i wouldnt take a bullet for her just because i said shes crazy. Just actually is lol
I only take issue with relationship advice like this because it treats things too closesly to black and white, and life is not like that. Life is full of curve balls when it comes to people, Jayus literally just got hit by one that she couldnt even understand. It's why "dont judge a book by its cover" has a ridiculous amount of popularity. Heck even when you hace read halfway through a book theres still plot twist.
Is what it is
q: for the counsellor …
We’re not “in a relationship” if we’re just hooking up, are we?
We’re just right-swipes, like, do girls think that counts?? App-sex doesn’t count.
You can’t really have it both ways. You can’t go saying, “oh, watch out for ____, he’s such a f__#ckboy__, you’ll end up crying for weeks and he won’t even remember your name”, but then still hit me up in messages, like, I _do_ hear what you’re saying about me, pick a version. F#ckboys aren’t out there f’ing themselves, you know??
Also, why is _anyone_ crying, nobody’s dead, relax!!
@@Lucas-gm3bv I mean, it depends. Probably not, if you haven’t defined the relationship and had a talk stating that you’re mutually exclusive. If you’re just having sex, it is probably just a hookup. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, is something only you and the other person can say for certain, so take what I say with a grain of salt. If you’re spending most of your free time together, doing things together (eating meals, going on dates/outings, talk or text with each other about things other than when your next hook up will be, etc. ), then it’s possible that you are in a relationship but you guys just haven’t put a label on it. The important thing is-are you both okay with it being just sex, with no strings attached? If one of you has feelings for the other, yet the other one sees what you have as a booty call and nothing more, then I can tell you it most likely won’t end well. Can feelings eventually develop? Sure, it happens all the time. But, don’t expect it to because, oftentimes, people are happy just keeping it casual.
Basically, it all boils down to having good communication and keeping those lines of communication open. Are you both interested in monogamy-only sleeping with each other? I’m not saying that monogamous relationships are the only way to have a relationship because many people have very happy and healthy polyamorous relationships IF ALL people involved are on board and there is a solid foundation of mutual trust and respect for one another.
From what little you’ve told me, it honestly doesn’t sound like a relationship. The person you’re talking about sounds very immature if she’s talking about you behind your back like that. She may be saying those things in an attempt to keep others away from you because she’s jealous, but I’m just speculating.
Anyways, at the end of the day, the only way you can know with absolutely certainty where your relationship stands (I use the word relationship loosely here-there are many types of relationships and most of them are not romantic) is by having an honest and open conversation where you both tell each other your expectations of the other in a romantic, exclusive relationship and find out if you’re both on the same page. But, like I said, from what you’ve told me, it sounds more like a hookup with someone who is emotionally immature. If she is interested in a relationship, talking shit behind your back is not a good way to go about showing you.
I hope that was a little helpful for you and I wish you the best!
Wowww Thankyou soo much and you’re sooo right ☺️❤️❤️❤️
My uncle is dating a very controlling girlfriend who does stuff like go through his phone and stuff. He's been with her for years, but he would be better off with someone who treats him better.
" i like to go camping"
" i know🙂"
😂😂😂
"My parents are separated"
"Oh honey, I *know* " 😊
My crush was borrowing my pencil after she dragged me to mathtutoring afterschool because she didn't want to be there with no friends, she then told me "sorry I might use your pencil to scratch my Head, it's been itching all day" and I f!cking replied with "yeah I noticed"
The real ones stalk you back 🤪
@@jeterf3649 now every time you sleep, you’ll think about this
@@jeterf3649what did she say after that?
1. Don’t talk about exes
2. Don’t force situations
3. Ask them for information about them instead of getting it another way.
I can't even talk properly, walk properly, breath properly when I'm around them let alone do all these things mentioned in the video☠️
Just think of them as a friend That’s what I do
Fr
Bro true I am talking to this girl and we both like each other and I am ok on text but when we go back to school I'm scared as he'll to talk to her
@@heavywalnut1175Yes, I agree with you. That is what I try to do nowadays.
me who doesnt have a crush(not including celebrity crushes):
ah yes i will remember these for always
Lmao
Lol that's relatable 😭
same besides celebrity crushes i dont understand them
Yeah, this all seems too hard. I'm not interested in doing this just to accidently fuck up and look like a creep
Those only person I love and can ever love is a classical composer so I don't know why this kind of stuff keeps showing up it my reccomendations
The last fact: !!!Don’t stalk them!!!
Miraculous ladybug: oops 👀👀
imagine still watching that shit
@@basiIlll imagine being offended over a joke
@@basiIlll imagine being a grown ahh man and commenting that on a kid’s reply
😂
I actually just straight up confessed to my crush and I thought that it was all over and he would hate me. It's been 2 years now and we are very happy :))
Dam he's really lucky 😂
Good for you...
It's been two months and they want to break up with me!
This shouldn’t have to be said, don’t randomly send nudes to someone you just started talking to. It’s creepy.
Lucky me that i need an emotional bond with someone to develop a crush 😂 yea anyways i tell them immediately in the manner of "hey listen, i have a crush on you. It is not a question and you don't have to respond to it if you feel uncomfortable but i just want to make you aware of the fact in case you think I'm getting too close for your liking" I want them to be aware because man it sucks when you think someone was a genuine friend and they start hitting on you the moment you are single. I don't want to be that person
The thing I don’t get about that is, do you want to develop a crush on a friend? And isn’t it emotionally safer to have crushes on people you just met where they don’t have stock in a platonic friendship yet?
@@gillianomotoso328 if I could choose then I'd absolutely love to but i need a bond to actually form a judgement about someone and i can't have crushes if I don't have an opinion of that person....
@@hell594 hmm. People I crush on tend to have me at hello 😅
@@gillianomotoso328 well it's good to see the different way people get crushes
I also usually just walk up to ‘em and say:
“Hey, we’ll always be friends, right?”
and if they say yes, I say “cool, so… I like you, you don’t have to like me back, but if you don’t like me back we can still be friends right?”
The second one is so real. There's a guy from my school that has a crush on me and my house happens to be on his way to school. *He will purposefully wait for me in front of my house so we can go the rest of the way together, even though we never made plans to walk to school together*. I do very much feel smothered and it's actually a little creepy how he will go out of his way to literally stand in front of my home until I come out even though I never invited him to do so. And this all happened literally because I was just nice to him on the first day of school, I think. He's pretty unattractive by conventional standards, so I guess not many girls were nice to him before me, and now that I slightly acknowledged him he's immediately obsessed. He isn't even a bad friend, he's very funny and generally nice, but I wish he could get the hint that I'm not interested in anything more than a friendship and leave me be. He also sits next to me in three of our classes and whenever I feel stressed because of the work, he'll rub my back in a "comforting" way, even though I repeatedly told him not to touch me. I mean, I don't have to tell him twice in a day, if I tell him to stop, he does. But then he repeats it the next day and it's just so frustrating and awkward. I know he won't go farther than that and hurt me, he's not that typa guy (though even if he wanted to I could easily overpower him, he's shorter than me by far and built like a french frie). I don't know what to do at this point. This kinda turned into a vent, and I'm sorry, I'm just trying to get people to see how uncomfortable it can be for a person on the receiving side when someone sticks to them 24/7.
Those are big red flags! Talk with family and friends about it. Even teachers if necessary. And be honest with him.
Call the police, tell them there's a suspicious man on your front porch
“Don’t talk about exes”
Got it 👍👍👍
“Don’t try to deliberately interact with them”
*nah I can’t do that*
People who have fictional crushes: I see this as an absolute win
Me who's love of my life is a dead musician: I don't know if I've lost or won
No drama. No chaos. 👍 🩷✨️
@@maylin1986 bold of you to assume I don’t want drama in my fictional love life
" DO NOT DO THIS THINGS" me listening with a four year relationship
😂
The social media one is so true 😂 we all do it, but don't fkn say you've done it, if you know what school their mom went to through sm stalking, keep it go yaself! And if they tell you, act surprised 😂
About exes, yes. When my boyfriend and I first started talking, exes did come up. All we did was explain how our last relationship ended. No blame games. Just honesty.
There's this guy who has a crush on me. It was sweet when I heard, I didn't like him back and still don't. He's in my english class, so i was like, "Sweet, he'll probably be seen there and nowhere else."
Thats when I realized hes at my lunch table. I didn't really care until I found him staring at me every lunch. He still does. How do I let him down lightly? Both of our parents are friends and my mom is telling me to let him down slowly but I really want him to stop staring at me and theres no good way to phrase it!!
If you really wanna cut of from this dude just go to him and say don't stare at me as a men we are really insecure about these things and he is too so if you point it out he won't be able to make eye contact with you ever again in his whole life sad but ture
You should talk to him about it that you're uncomfortable with him staring at you all the time. If you're not saying it in a rude way and not in public to embarrass him, it should be fine
@@gabevandenhoeven4546 true i think you should confront him
@gabevandenhoeven4546 he's finally stopped sitting here, so I don't have to worry as much. Thanks for the insight lol tho
My crush just sent me a pic of him in the mirror being full of muscles 💪 😂
Lmao the last one is such a problem for me since I'm usually a quiet kid so people will tell me things they wouldn't tell anyone else, knowing I won't say anything or tell anyone and then proceed to forget that they told me
Basically I knew my crushes like whole life story before he knew i existed I think
Bro💀
Call me creepy but I don't understand whats wrong with doing this tbh because you get to know their interests and different things about them and then you know wether that's kinda person you wanna date yk
When you don’t have that problem because your crush is someone from an anime since you’re mental 😌😌
touch grass
from the comment to your name everything is wrong
@@bebecheez lol fr
@@bebecheez bro what Xd
@Depressed_AnimeNerd 1: you still use xD
2: your name is lowkey cringe, depression isn't something to flaunt, mental illness isn't a competition.. but if it was, you'd win because you have a crush on a literal fictional chatacter- something with no depth.
If someone has always had “horrible crazy narcissistic exes” and not a single positive one then they are the common denominator.
The first time I approached my crush, she literally froze and couldn’t even say hi, and then someone immediately came and saved (or interrupted) the moment . We never saw each other again and I don’t even know what’s her voice tone like. It’s been 5 years.
My classmates know where I was born, but they don't know my birthday.
These are all great advice.. personally I kinda Have to talk about one of my exes cause before I could do it myself, she outted me on NATIONALLY SYNDICATED RADIO, after we broke things off cause I wanted to come out. Sucked pond water when it happened, but it's a Great story now, especially since it's so indicative of how my life really is
@Neon Blade 😤 I'm very happy for you
If you are a stalky type person take the same path everyday. Don't actively seek them out, if they feel weirded out and go a different way they're probably seeing if you follow them. Take a path that they're on regularly and give a small smile or wave if you make eye contact regularly and keep walking.
Online, don't talk about specific stuff. If you see they posted a review about a movie they watched, if you talk to them say a couple days later if they've seen any cool movies recently or something vaguely related to what they said it that post.
Don't be the stalker type but if you are, refrain. These might help.
💀my crush asked and i said “ye we passed that things didn’t work out”💀its so awkward talking abt my ex with my crush
It's even worse when they ask and when you talk about your ex you realize you're still not over them lmao
The first one is real! One of the main reasons I broke up with my ex is because he would NOT shut up about how terrible and ugly his ex was. “She’s so ugly I can’t believe I ever thought she was attractive” “she’s so bitchy, you’re so much better than her” all this shit talking only shows me what it would be like if i messed up. And all this shit talking only shows that you are still not over her and that you’re just trying to kill the feelings by insulting everything about your ex. Which at first I didn’t mind this, but ever since I started dating him, his ex has been more involved in my life than ever before. AND I USED TO BE FRIENDS WITH HER? Did I talk about this with him? 3 times. He just won’t stfu about how “bad” she was. She was so involved with his life that he once accidentally said her name when telling me he loved me when we first started dating. And to make matters worse, no matter how much he said he didn’t like her at all, he still used her name when talking about her instead of “my ex”. I know this doesn’t seem like a big problem, but if he hates her so much, why is he addressing her by name? He didn’t even know what my ex’s name was until he asked me
OK finally the one woman I have been looking for to give me good advice I can resonate with. THANK YOU!
Stalk the hell out of their social media, because they're doing the same thing to you. Eventually you'll need whatever ammunition against them you can find because love can be a fickle bitch. 💔😭
Rip
Exactly, we be making this stuff complicated.
Girl: i wish he'd just let me know that he likes me
Guy: i cant call her beautiful yet because then she'll know i like her and it will make her run away
1,000 games later
Girl: we have hung out a lot, i wonder if he likes me still. God i wish he will just say it, ill faint!
Guy: Y=mx+b but you must square it at 5am and then take square root of X and 3 to it so that we can then divide it all by the derivative 2x+3x^2.
Why?
thats psychotic
@@rain1ngg Yes it's sad but true... Love stinks, but I like the smell.
The social media one is so true 😅
I had a guy who liked me and stalked my social media a lot so I blocked him
And he made another account to which I ignored, days later he called and started a conversation on things I never told him, it was awkward and I blocked him on everything
This is such good advice.
“I like reading”
“I know.”
“I like music-“
“I know.”
“I like-“
“Me omgggggggg me to!”
“Don’t stalk their socials.”
Um…how do I do undo this?
The ex one is also true because they may realize that if all your exes are “crazy” then maybe not all the exes were the problem. This may or may not be true but some people do look this deep into it.
My last ex (still very good friends) knew exactly how bad my ex before him was because he got me out of that relationship. Helped me realize it was abusive as hell by just asking questions and letting me figure it out from there. There was a long time between both of them as well.
He was the typical hyena. He is your "friend", waiting for an opportunity. As a male I hate this so much.
Thanks for mentioning the last point. I love spying on people through social media, no matter if it's a guy or woman. I would do it. Especially with my crushes lol. Idk, it just makes me feel reserved and know in some way beforehand with who am I dealing with. Maybe I should become a detective one day 😂.
That's some of the best social advice I have ever heard.❤
Lol, trying to find them in the hallway is so relatable.😂
ikr
RIGHT😂😂
Me watching this as if I’m ever gonna meet my crush
I'm in a really good friendly relation with almost all my exes, and people tend to like that when I tell them, I think it shows maturity to not suddenly act as if you hated the person you were with for 5 years all along
“You know how weird it is when someone knows everything about you but you didn’t tell them any of those things?”
As someone with celebrity/fictional crushes, I feel attacked 💀
Marinette rn: 👁️👄👁️
Me, who befriended my crush: Ok, I know I messed up on this, but now I can hang out with him. We did talk about our Ex's, but that was because he brought it up and then we switched topics.
He's an INFJ and so cute and charming. I've had a crush on him since fifth grade, but it was like the type of crush where you never expect them to like you back, but
now he does. I'm learning that we don't get along very well. It's kind of a situationship, he calls me his fiance with other people, but when I asked him what we are, it's "just friends," and yet we still hold hands. One of my close friends also asked him and he said simply, "something." He had a crush on a girl and got rejected, but that was a year back so I'm not sure if it affected his answer. We don't have the best chemistry, but I still want to be more with him.
Who's the manipulative one?
Forgive me if I get it wrong. With the context you mentioned, I think it's best to let it go. I don't think he's ready to have a real connection with you and it's not your fault. If a man truly loves you and wants to be with you, he wouldn't have held back and would ask you to be his girlfriend. It's best to focus on yourself and not limit your option. No matter how good he is and how happy you feel with him, if he doesn't feel like having commitment with you then he's not the one. Your comment was 6 months ago and I hope you're much happier now❤
thank you so much for this. I moved on a while back, and we're friends now :)@@rokusashu7441
Never tell your crush how you feel unless you're 100% certain they feel the same way or they'll 100% reject you.
Why do you think I'm only friends with them...I KNOW THERE CRUSH and I'm friends with her ex
Never tell anyone that you have a crush on that person, cuz the whole class will know it in less than a week
I'm getting all this great advice from jayus about how to act around my crush and deal with relationships. It's great! Now I'll just wait until I actually get a crush for the first time in my life lol
The second one is something my ex friend needed to learn. He literally joined breakfast club to sit near me and came up to me all the time, I found it creepy. Found out a while later he has a gf in another city. Last weekend she broke up with him for like the 4th time and actually blocked him on everything.
don't listen to these kinds of things online every person is different and it's important to learn yourself what makes your partner happy and what doesnt
THESE ARE SO FUCKING ACCURATE
I literally had someone do the last two to me and they even made me traumatized fr I legit thought they were a creep
These don't give "romantic" babes, it gives "stalker"
Don't overdo things if the person doesn't show interest, take "no" as an answer and don't push anyone, they're not gonna like you back if you do, that only happens in movies
Also no, it doesn't make a difference when someone is physically "attractive", doing these just makes that person unattractive instatly
I needed to come back just to comment on this cuz yt didn't let me last time
That Bowie mugshot is 🔥
Also learning about someone via talking to them/spending time with them is much more memorable and romantic
step 1: be attractive
step 2: don't be unattractive
that's all you can do, the rest is irrelevant
Thx 🙏 for the advice
Fun fact be yourself (respectful still and have manners) but be yourself and you will find the one it works
" dont go out of your way to see them"
"But..hes my bf😂"
Women love when you make them jealous. Thats literally the way to go
No it isn't don't take this advice💀
everyone writing quotes or relating this to miraculous ladybug:
meanwhile me: “how many mirrors does this girl have in her house?”💀💀
thanks for this God bless you! but the last one is so true this guy and i have been asking eachother a lot of questions about eachother and it’s just been going rlly welll
These are all such good takes. Please don’t be creepy! Self awareness and growth is attractive. Also, not being available all the time helps them want you more.
I asked my crush out when she invited me ti a date she rejected and said "This isint a dtae this is just a friend dinner"i ended up making her pay and i went to a alleyway and burnt the flowers she rejected from me
another important thing to not do in front of your crush is say the n-word. Jayus would know
Actually, i encourage my crush to stalk my social media, it means less things i have to explain over time
No ex’s, minimal social presence, invisible social media presence, so what am I still doing wrong😂
So, to boil it down:
1. Don’t complain about your EX like they are the worst person ever.
2. Don’t follow them.
3. Don’t stalk them.
Now, this may be my absence of romantic feelings talking, but this feels like pretty basic info to me… but whatever
I was once seeing this woman for about a month, we had a real connection. We talked about everything, life, food, video games, music, art, you name it. The problem was that she kept finding a way to bring maybe 70 percent of these conversations to be about her ex. As much as I was into her, that’s what killed the relationship. Especially when she was comparing the two of us. I didn’t mind at first cause we all have a past, and maybe haven’t dealt with everything yet, but I could tell that there wasn’t any closure, and she still needed some time before jumping into another relationship. The red flags started to come more frequently.
Mind you I had a few red flags myself, but I didn’t let them spill out all at once while I was working on them. Nobody is perfect.
I almost never zalked w my crush, then the 'dont force the met' got me 😂😭🎀☝️
Me an my crush she literally tries to find me while i would wait until we naturally bump into each other 😭
Pov: you didn't do any of these but still your crush told his friends you are weird (4 times)
Me doing calculus in 3d space to confirm my crush will think im clinically insane the moment I speak:
OH I had that last one happen to me before!! Can confirm is very creepy, 0/5 would not recommend
I do the exact opposite of the second one bc if I see her somewhere I make a 180 and start running away
Back in 2018 I went on a first date with someone I met on a well known legit dating site.
First date, she talked about her ex. She then told me that she'd moved to the area with the ex-before-that-one.
She worked as a teacher and complained that her teenage students were having more sex than she was and how that wasn't fair.
Dealbreaker. The date ended amicably and it was a nice time we had, but that threw me. It was the sheer arrogance of it, very little regard to my feelings and having to be quietly insulted listening to all of that.
I'm afraid there wasn't a second date. If she's talking about exes so much, it means that a) she clearly has unresolved issues and b) you will just become yet another one of those exes. You question just how much she will actually be interested in you?
The problem is now I'm in my mid-30s there are no "greenfield" women anymore. They're all dragging baggage behind them.
Me who just looks for people i know 24/7 because im socially awkward….
Make sure to also not say racial slurs
I think it would be a treat to date Bella honestly, because she seems very secure and confident in who she is and is very intelligent but also straight up
This guy has a crush on me, and I had to yell at him twice until he actually gave me space. And he changes his likes and dislikes for me.
So… two lessons.
1. Give them space, or they’ll hate you.
2. BE YOURSELF. If you aren’t, _they_ may be happy, but YOU won’t be.
Having a good memory and an extreme fear of silence is annoying because you remember shit they told you years ago and you once you remember you want to say it the moment the conversation slows down
"Clark, I know that you're Superman"
"Woah, I never told you that.. that's kinda creepy, not going to lie!"
Me and my crush : agressive Math solving for an entire year. And competing in anything against each other.
A guy who had confessed to me, but I hadn’t given a response yet, decided it was a smart idea to not only bring up his ex, BUT COMPARE US. Not negatively, but about the good things about me that she also had. But, he apparently liked me before dating her, which made me feel like he’d just gone out with her because she was like me? (I might be overthinking that part, GOD I hope I am). But at the end of the day, this guy has not only directly compared me to his ex but also shown me his desperation which freaked me out and insulted me all at once. *Don’t bring up your ex people.*
“Hey, who have you dated?”
“what are you talking about, I’ve never been with anybody ever”
"so my ex was physically and emotionally abusive while also cheating on me with multiple different dudes, but yea she was pretty great"...said no one ever
Nah. If someone talks shit about ALL their exes, they're the problem. Avoid them at all costs. But even then, don't badmouth them. Tell the truth if conversation specifically leads that way, but be even tempered about it. How you talk about your exes tells a lot about your character.
love the musician pics on your wall
hendrix fuxking rules
Exactly! Purposely looking for them makes you look like a stalker
As sombody who only listens i learn so much about people without even having real conversations.
If you have a crush on somebody NEVER tell them and pretend you don't so that you can stay safe and alone.
If someone has a crush on me, and tells me, if they had an ex that was something completely psychotic I want them to tell me. I don't want to hear about their ex's life, none of that, but if the ex is THAT crazy and messed up I want to know about it and I want to know of what Im getting myself into. I prefer honesty, I don't fear honesty since I am honest.
Some girl that had a crush on me randomly pulled up my GRANDMOTHERS first name in a conversation 💀
Great advice Jayus. ✨
Damn she sounded like my parents telling what i do wrong
If you like someone don’t approach them 24/7 or stalk them on social media let it happen naturally don’t mention exs and how bad they were is what I picked up from this