The saddest part of this type of dynamic is that a psychopath will almost invariably prey upon the most empathic people they can find- because they know it's easy to make them feel emotions that aren't their own. PROTECT YOUR ENERGY, PEOPLE!
THAT PART! That is the most twisted messed up part of it all! Ugh, if they would only go for their own type or just people harming others but no they go prey upon the good-hearted people. It's evil. Of course, in their eyes its just what they do because they can. It works. But damn, as someone who has been on the other side it is maddening to realize how they try to deceive us by playing into our efforts to be generous and kind people. I think a good line of defense is to be wary of people who always play the victim and/or get you to pity them or guilt trip you
Nice to see you back again. According to French news, he was caught in Belgium at the beginning of September: they have charged him with resisting arrest after he had refused checks on his dog-breeding business in France. While resisting arrest, he wounded two police officers so it sounds like he might be charged with attempted murder also. That was just after a quick search (I found it on the BFM tv website). His "partner" Sandra was still with him in France at the time of the first attempted arrest - but I didn't see further news of her for the moment. I love your makeup and history videos: you're an extremely skilled storyteller! kindest regards, k (France)
@@tmcfarland3561 oh my goddd... hope you are ok. Check your local domestic violence advocacy groups, they may have resources to help you move, conceal your address, safety plan and so forth
The crazy thing about this type of control is it can take as little as three hours to fall into the trap. It’s how people end up in cults just by going to one or two meetings or watching just a few videos. With the right words and in the right environment, everyone is at risk. It’s actually really scary.
It's manipulation/brainwashing and it's mainly unknown. I dated a psychopath who was a master charmer, manipulative to the core... Long story short I'm lucky to be alive... But that's not what I'm trying to say. So when I first met my psychopath I was completely clueless about manipulation, as we dated and after I learned how it works. People don't all have this experience so they don't know. When you are unaware you are more susceptible to it. Take this as an example: I went shopping in the mall with a cousin a while ago. We walked passed stores, browsed clothes, etc. Well there was a man with the shop in the middle of the walkway. He was talking to people and trying to get them to buy his expensive massage chairs. My cousin didn't notice his immediate manipulation tactics, but I did. I then saw him notice my cousin and saw he was about to becon us over. My cousin, being a person that is, well, easily persuaded, I quickly inturrupted her chatter to me about what we bought and pulled her into the closest clothes store to us "lets go here rn!" so we both avoided the sales man, and in turn avoiding his manipulation.
Psychological abuse is so much worse than anyone can imagine unless you’ve been through it. As a victim myself I really tricked myself into thinking everything was off my own accord and that this person was not as influential as they were. I have a friend who was also apart of the situation and she still believes things were her choice because she continuously went to his house and planned to go to his house on certain days. I don’t know how else to show her that what happened to us was not our fault and it’s crazy to me that she still blames herself.
I completely understand this. Mental abuse is worse than physical. In my opinion. Broken bones will heal quicker than mental abuse. It takes YEARS TO GET OVER THIS. I know all too well unfortunately. It hasn't left me in 7 years+. Those old thoughts pops in my head all the time. I'm trying to heal, I'm doing my best.
@@katrinastoops7279 You're so right about how much longer healing from mental and emotional abuse takes. I was married to a narcissistic sociopath and it took so many years of therapy to get over it. I've been divorced for 15 years and I still have issues with relationships.
@@bri.makuahine Yeah I understand that wholeheartedly. The narcissist I was with tried and then threatened to kill me and chop me up in little pieces and throw them all over the state I live in. The threats were mental abuse. I'm still not over it. I have serious trust issues.
verbally abusive people think it is okay because it's not physical. I would rather be punched in the face than being told over and over that I am stupid, ugly, fat and so on.
And some clown judge lets people like this out. I've been through something similar but minor by comparison and it still wrecked me. I hope this will be properly recognized in courts of the future
When you say "A lot of you were mad about the Harry Truman video, I don't care. I said what I said and I'll say it again." I was so incredibly proud of you, from one woman to another, never stop being your badass self, shout the truth from the rooftops. Keep exposing these "heroes" for what they truly are. Love you!!! ✊❣️
my sister and I were brainwashed and financially abused by our father for over 30 years. as young as I can remember he would talk us in to taking back gifts people bought for us so he could by other thing for the household and he would say things like "oh your good girls for helping your family." then later turn around and mentally and verbally abuse us for hours. I wasn't even legally old enough to get a work permit when he came to me and told me I needed to start paying rent or find another place to live I was 13. I found under the table jobs and handed him every red cent I ever made and that continued on through other jobs when I was old enough. I didn't realize until I got away and started seeing therapist and doctors just how fucked that situation was. worst part was he made me work knowing I had serious physical health issues that I am now disabled for.
I am so sorry you've been put through that by someone you should normally be able to trust, it's perverse and SO sad and I am so happy for you that you managed to escape!
My mom did the **exact** same sh*t. Almost exactly. I didn't ever even luve with her for long periods of time; but when I did... Of course as a literal child I wanted to live with my mom. She would sell my things w/o asking steal from other family and blame me. Made me get a job but wouldnt take me or get me and so I'd have to beg others for rides. There was no bus and even tho I had a driving permit she wouldn't teach me to drive. She'd get me to sign over every check for her to 'cash it for me' cuz she had an acct and I didn't being 15/16 or w/e. I never got any of the money. There was always a bill due or I smoked too many cigarettes/ate too much food etc etc. Or the light Bill would be due and it was all 'well you like electricity don't you?' On and on. Once I finally escaped I found out she'd been ruining my credit since I was 16. So badly that I couldn't prove I was me to even get my own credit report to try to fix it.. I'm so sorry you expierenced this it's something that ruins you ever having trust in anyone.. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy giving you internet hugs 🤗🤗🤗 🧡🦇
I don't want to be rude but I'd love to hear more about your experience. I have a podcast discussing childhood trauma and how it can affect someone as an adult. If you are interested it is called Navigating Normal. Please feel free to check it out. Thank you so much for your time.
@@stitchlightly5995 were you talking to me or op? You didn't specify so I was curious. I deff will have to check out your podcast either way sounds very interesting 🧡🦇
Every time you said he made people listen to Duran Duran I laughed out loud. There’s something about being forced to listen to hungry like the wolf on repeat that makes me think these people were being put under some kind of spell
You make a great point, the audio must have been part of his method of enthrallment. Our girl Cydnee makes a GREAT point about the not being allowed to change the channel conditioning the participants to accept deferring to him, one imperceptibly tiny step at a time
I dated a con artist a few years ago. I am definitely a "go with the flow" kind of person, and I tend to overlook red flags because "nobody's perfect" so I was the ideal victim. I can attest how easy it is to be tricked by a con artist. It's what they do, and they're good at it. Manipulation is their entire personality, and they know how to make it subtle and they play the long game. He even told me once that he had a fetish about mind control, subliminal messages, and hypnosis. He was actually turned on at the thought of contolling people like puppets. It took me years before I stopped beating myself up over being "stupid" and falling for his lies, but I can see now that it doesn't matter how smart you are, they can still get to you if they really want to. At the time, I truly believed that HE was the victim and that HE was the good guy right up until the end, so I can sympathize with these people who appeared to have voluntarily followed this guy and trusted him. I hope they find Sandra and she's okay.
Whenever someone new comes into your life and starts smear campaigns about the people that youve known forever, run. Its honestly scary how these people dont care who they hurt.
Fascinating story, sad as well. This type of manipulation reminds me of abusers that kidnap and program children not to leave even when they have an opportunity
This video freaked me out honestly, so scary... like you said you think that this wouldn't ever happen to you and that it's ridiculous, but it seems that he managed to do this to so many people, and not just people who are in a mentally fragile place, it's actually insane
Because it's done on a daily basis. Chipping at a stone. You start telling people things and proving you're right by manipulation. Case in point, Sandra's son. The lies, the locking the house up. Mentally draining and driving him crazy. On the side he's spreading lies and when her son breaks down at the door since he's had enough, she doesn't see it thay way. She sees an unhinged teen that stole from her and has changed for the worse. She probably believes that still today. On top of that, physical abuse. Cydnee mentioned he did so to Maria. He punched the one guy prior to the trip as well. Who knows what he's doing to Sandra. There's definitely more to their stories. You can't get a decade plus of abuse over 45 min. Cydnee's storytelling is great though. People are usually fearful, and have low self esteem in regards to something about themselves. A con man can see that and play you like a fiddle. To beat a con man you need to know your weaknesses and not take people on just their word. It's a shame too because he used people's trust for each other against them. Like the college kids, and Sandra and her daughter.
Fascinating and frustrating to no end. My step-dad and step-grandmother did similar things with our family...specifically attempting to isolate our mum and grandfather, gaslighting and abusing us one by one until they had them all to themselves. It's happening all around us, this sickness. I hope more can wake up to this behavior and question more. I've heard it said "the devil isn't ugly"--it's the charmers to look out for. Thanks for this Cydnee. I LOVE this series and am so excited when each new one is released. :^)
This story is scary, sad, and frustrating. Thank you so much for sharing it because it does highlight how *anybody* can be a victim of psychological abuse. I pray Sandra finds a way out of it if she hasn’t already.
There was something my mother learned in college that I've seen be true time and time again. One of the first (if not the very first) thing an abuser will do is try to remove the family and friends around u. I've seen this happen with ex/friends and family. They r trying to isolate sp that can control u and get away with things that people around u wouldnt allow happen. So if u see someone purposely sabotaging ur relationships with everyone in ur life that is a BIG red flag.
You should write a novel, your story telling is so good. You get all these interesting little details and feelings in without going too much and you know how to tell the timelines in the most interesting way!
The most important job of a mothers is to make sure her kids are safe. Sandra took her kids to Spain & she didnt even have conformation of his last name by looking at his passport. After hearing that I no longer had sympathy for her. If you wanna endanger yourself, that's fine but never your kids. No man should ever be able to make you forget about your childrens safety.
Psychological abuse is a thing and I wish they take it more seriously. It's all about giving you what you need as long as you do what they want then they start changing as you get deeper and deeper in the relationship then at the point it don't matter what you do. You are STUCK with them even if you're separated from the situation. It's despicable on how they have a hold on the victims. Ugh. So Im with you girl
This was a wild ride. I don't even know what to make of it. Like you said, our brains are just mushy computers. It's mind blowing and terrifying how easily manipulated we can be! I say this all the time when I comment, but you one of my favorite youtubers! I adore your videos. You are so amazing. And I hope you are doing well. Sending love to you!!!
Wow this one really hit home... I would love to hear about the thing u mentioned at the end "unmasking the abuser". I feel like that would really help soooo many people. It's so hard to pinpoint certain behaviors and abusive traits...especially the sneaky ones
Woah this is insane. It’s interesting how this guys creates stories and illusions that influence people… like saying that a suicide is a murder, or that Sandra’s son was stealing things. He creates a narrative with an enemy (that’s not himself) and uses this to foster vulnerability in his victims. It’s absolutely sick, but important to recognize. Thanks for sharing.
It’s so disgusting how some ppl come into this world and only ever put all their energy into their own greed and just taking and robbing ppl their entire lives not ever focusing on growing themselves as a person n helping others. Some ppl really got that “every man for himself” mentality and it’s disgusting. I’m so tired of greedy ppl
That's what I said. You know your children best. Ain't no random coming in her telling my son stole something when I know he doesn't do that. He definitely had a hold of her mentally by then.
Take your time figuring life out. I’m going thru it too and everyone has to do it in their own time! Love the channel and I’ll be here if you you decide to do vids every 6 months. As long as your happy that’s all that matters
The prettiest girl in the world is back!! I'm going on my walk in a bit and will listen/watch then. You look stunning and this is one of my top YT series
Loved hearing this story from you-you're SUCH a great story teller-its a true talent! I also struggle to keep my head above water, it's all so confusing-continually asking myself; Why is everything so hard for me? Isn't it somehow my fault? Maybe I'm just a weak ass baby & need to push harder. etc., etc. etc.Its exhausting. But life IS really hard, like intrinsically, then add on all the shit that's unique to our time! It's *crazier* to me that some people find it all doable, ya know?! AH whatever, I don't even know. However, I do know you are SO not alone & your presence on TH-cam (& in the world) brings a lot of people some relief. XOXO
Hi beautiful! Great to see you back! According to Bust: (paraphrasing) in the 19th century, many Victorians considered the confidence man to be uniquely American. His victims willingly gave him their trust and literally, their confidence...😦
I don't know if you and Bailey Sarian are geographically close, but it would be so amazing if you did a video together. I feel like yall would vibe together so well!
Love your new background! So happy to see you forming your new identity. I’ve had a rough year as well (for different reason), it will take time to heal. But there’s always light following darkness
Haven’t seen this yet but wanted to say, “welcome back.” Love you ❤ You look amazing! Praying for healing, strength, and restorations! I can’t wait to listen to this tomorrow.
We love you too, Cyd! Thank you for your fascinating stories. As an old mother hen type, I miss you and worry about you when I don’t see you for a while. Definitely sending some “thoughts and prayers “ your way!
I get so happy, and damn near unable to move my damn thumbs QUICK ENOUGH, when Cyd pops up on my notifications! Cyd you’re worth the wait Dear!! We, your true supporters are just happy to see your beautiful face when you’re able to make content for us. We care for you like we know you personally and within that care, want you to ALWAYS think about YOU first and take however much time to yourself that you need/want. We understand; therefore we’ll always be here! ❤
I loved that Truman video! I was dropping knowledge bombs at my husband's family's house about Truman like I really knew something....because I did! Keep doing what you do!
I was in a situation recently where me and my partner were befriended by a registered sex offender. (We obviously didn't know at the time.) We started noticing red flags because of the control thing you spoke about. He needed to control everything: he tried to correct my girlfriend on how she fixed her coffee while we were at his house, would tell us specifically where to sit, told us we could chose a movie and then when we picked one he insisted on another one he wanted instead....they were seemingly little, but altogether it was creepy and overbearing. After that we started to dig into finding out more about him which is when we found him on the registry. 😱
Definitely have seen that kind of manipulation before to family members. It really can happen to anyone. Btw love your colorful background and your eyeshadow is flipping gorgeous!
It's so good to see you! The day before yesterday, I was thinking I hadn't seen you in awhile, & bc I never know if I'm getting all my notifications, I looked up your page to see lol. When I didn't see anything new, I was like, I hope she's ok! Sending prayers & love to you💗 && I LOVE your set up!😍
I appreciate your explanation of the small control leading to more and more control bc I really wanted to hear more about the progress of this mind control he did bc he had to learn it somewhere too so it must be available
I love your moments of quirkiness! It is very hard to not smile or laugh with you. I found your TH-cam today and have already watched 3 of your videos! I just realized my last sentence makes me seem like a weird stalker hahaha but I just wanted to say I love your videos and your makeup skills make me extremely jealous!
Some people lie so confidently that it can be easy to be taken in by it, have met people like this and its hard to belive that what they have told you is total bulshit when you find out the truth
Cydneee! Missed you I was thinking about you yesterday and surprise there’s a video! Thank you for your time and effort making these videos! You truly have a talent for story telling. I already watched the series but just wanted to hear your take! Peace and love ❤
I missed you Cydnee! I clicked so fast when I saw it in my feed! I wish I actually got the notifications so I could watch right away. Love, love, love your content!!!
Netflix has sooo many docs. I've watched many. Some stories of the people they feature, I have never heard of. You should do a story about the girl Emanuela Orlandi missing from the Vatican. I didn't watch it in it's entirety. It was hard for me to follow & comprehend, especially when they say things were this/that way & if so, then how? Another interesting & fascinating storytelling. Love your makeup! Thank you for this video & for sharing!
Hey, Syd, so glad to see you back and I love the new background! This stoy is so fascinating and sad at th same time. There is a movie inspired by it from 2022. It's called "Rouge agent" for anyone who's interested to watch.
I watch some of your videos on Snapchat. I love these videos. Your educating me and also I've learnt alot watching you do your makeup. Keep them coming.
Cyndi you covered this brilliantly, i was unsure it could be done in 45 mins or whatever. I would advise anyone to watch the documentary though, just to get the full weight of the psychological manipulation one person can do. Worse than the cult leaders. The worst pisces and there is quite a few bad ones! Love your work!
Sooo glad to see you back and did not disappoint with this one. Very interesting story but it’s you delivery that I stay for!!! I couldn’t stop shaking my head and dying of laughter at the same time! ‘You sick boy?!’ 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭 Keeping getting your ish together and we support you ♥️
Oh wow😢! That is so sad. I hope this video picks up traction so the children find their mom. Thank you for shining the light on this. It makes me think of how people can go missing.
Love the new scene! So glad you dropped a new vid! This episode was intriguing...I will now watch it on Netflix. Your makeup and earrings are gorgeous!💯⚜️😊
Girl, I hadn't gotten any notifications from your Channel, so I thought you just hadn't uploaded in a while. So I went to check on your TH-cam for old videos, and I find you've actually got a few I haven't caught up on!
Cyndee, you had me drawn in from the beginning to the end. You are a great story teller. Now let me head to the TV to watch on Netflix. Thanks for sharing...
Cydnee you are such a delight!! You always pique my interest in the most unique way. Its always a treat to see your beautiful face, so glad to see you and hope you’re doing well. May all of your heart’s desires manifest for you 💙🤎
Conning a judge out of a life sentence and a psychologist out of everything she owns is called sorcery in my country.
That’s exactly what it is in my opinion.
He is literally The Joker
Yep that’s what voodoo is. It’s like a narcissistic level of manipulation.
Exactly
A warlock.
"Very charming and handsome...To her." The SHADE 😂😂😂
I mean, at best he's a 4. Maybe 5.
@@grayovercast I’d give that man a solid 3 😂
The saddest part of this type of dynamic is that a psychopath will almost invariably prey upon the most empathic people they can find- because they know it's easy to make them feel emotions that aren't their own. PROTECT YOUR ENERGY, PEOPLE!
THAT PART! That is the most twisted messed up part of it all! Ugh, if they would only go for their own type or just people harming others but no they go prey upon the good-hearted people. It's evil. Of course, in their eyes its just what they do because they can. It works. But damn, as someone who has been on the other side it is maddening to realize how they try to deceive us by playing into our efforts to be generous and kind people. I think a good line of defense is to be wary of people who always play the victim and/or get you to pity them or guilt trip you
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Nice to see you back again. According to French news, he was caught in Belgium at the beginning of September: they have charged him with resisting arrest after he had refused checks on his dog-breeding business in France. While resisting arrest, he wounded two police officers so it sounds like he might be charged with attempted murder also. That was just after a quick search (I found it on the BFM tv website). His "partner" Sandra was still with him in France at the time of the first attempted arrest - but I didn't see further news of her for the moment. I love your makeup and history videos: you're an extremely skilled storyteller! kindest regards, k (France)
Whaaaat it's him?! I had heard the news on the radio.
Crazy!!! Poor Sandra. I hope she can be deprogrammed.
Thank you
He's appealing this too. He's such a PoS.
@@grayovercast Of course
I dated a guy like this. I didn’t let it get this far. But these people are real.
Ditto. Is incredible. They are real nutters
Same. Only found out mine was in the Armenian mafia and trynna infect me with HIV. The police were no help during his stalking phase.
@@tmcfarland3561 Omg just reading this gave me anxiety. I hope you’re doing better now and that he gets his comeuppance
@@tmcfarland3561 oh my goddd... hope you are ok. Check your local domestic violence advocacy groups, they may have resources to help you move, conceal your address, safety plan and so forth
Yessss they indeed are real!! Literal spawns of Satan
The crazy thing about this type of control is it can take as little as three hours to fall into the trap. It’s how people end up in cults just by going to one or two meetings or watching just a few videos. With the right words and in the right environment, everyone is at risk. It’s actually really scary.
It's manipulation/brainwashing and it's mainly unknown.
I dated a psychopath who was a master charmer, manipulative to the core...
Long story short I'm lucky to be alive...
But that's not what I'm trying to say.
So when I first met my psychopath I was completely clueless about manipulation, as we dated and after I learned how it works.
People don't all have this experience so they don't know.
When you are unaware you are more susceptible to it.
Take this as an example:
I went shopping in the mall with a cousin a while ago. We walked passed stores, browsed clothes, etc.
Well there was a man with the shop in the middle of the walkway. He was talking to people and trying to get them to buy his expensive massage chairs.
My cousin didn't notice his immediate manipulation tactics, but I did.
I then saw him notice my cousin and saw he was about to becon us over. My cousin, being a person that is, well, easily persuaded, I quickly inturrupted her chatter to me about what we bought and pulled her into the closest clothes store to us "lets go here rn!" so we both avoided the sales man, and in turn avoiding his manipulation.
Psychological abuse is so much worse than anyone can imagine unless you’ve been through it. As a victim myself I really tricked myself into thinking everything was off my own accord and that this person was not as influential as they were. I have a friend who was also apart of the situation and she still believes things were her choice because she continuously went to his house and planned to go to his house on certain days. I don’t know how else to show her that what happened to us was not our fault and it’s crazy to me that she still blames herself.
I completely understand this. Mental abuse is worse than physical. In my opinion.
Broken bones will heal quicker than mental abuse.
It takes YEARS TO GET OVER THIS. I know all too well unfortunately. It hasn't left me in 7 years+.
Those old thoughts pops in my head all the time.
I'm trying to heal, I'm doing my best.
@@katrinastoops7279 You're so right about how much longer healing from mental and emotional abuse takes. I was married to a narcissistic sociopath and it took so many years of therapy to get over it. I've been divorced for 15 years and I still have issues with relationships.
@@bri.makuahine Yeah I understand that wholeheartedly. The narcissist I was with tried and then threatened to kill me and chop me up in little pieces and throw them all over the state I live in. The threats were mental abuse. I'm still not over it. I have serious trust issues.
verbally abusive people think it is okay because it's not physical. I would rather be punched in the face than being told over and over that I am stupid, ugly, fat and so on.
And some clown judge lets people like this out. I've been through something similar but minor by comparison and it still wrecked me. I hope this will be properly recognized in courts of the future
When you say "A lot of you were mad about the Harry Truman video, I don't care. I said what I said and I'll say it again." I was so incredibly proud of you, from one woman to another, never stop being your badass self, shout the truth from the rooftops. Keep exposing these "heroes" for what they truly are. Love you!!! ✊❣️
my sister and I were brainwashed and financially abused by our father for over 30 years. as young as I can remember he would talk us in to taking back gifts people bought for us so he could by other thing for the household and he would say things like "oh your good girls for helping your family." then later turn around and mentally and verbally abuse us for hours. I wasn't even legally old enough to get a work permit when he came to me and told me I needed to start paying rent or find another place to live I was 13. I found under the table jobs and handed him every red cent I ever made and that continued on through other jobs when I was old enough. I didn't realize until I got away and started seeing therapist and doctors just how fucked that situation was. worst part was he made me work knowing I had serious physical health issues that I am now disabled for.
That's so sad.......he is a monster
I am so sorry you've been put through that by someone you should normally be able to trust, it's perverse and SO sad and I am so happy for you that you managed to escape!
My mom did the **exact** same sh*t. Almost exactly. I didn't ever even luve with her for long periods of time; but when I did... Of course as a literal child I wanted to live with my mom. She would sell my things w/o asking steal from other family and blame me. Made me get a job but wouldnt take me or get me and so I'd have to beg others for rides. There was no bus and even tho I had a driving permit she wouldn't teach me to drive. She'd get me to sign over every check for her to 'cash it for me' cuz she had an acct and I didn't being 15/16 or w/e. I never got any of the money. There was always a bill due or I smoked too many cigarettes/ate too much food etc etc. Or the light Bill would be due and it was all 'well you like electricity don't you?' On and on. Once I finally escaped I found out she'd been ruining my credit since I was 16. So badly that I couldn't prove I was me to even get my own credit report to try to fix it.. I'm so sorry you expierenced this it's something that ruins you ever having trust in anyone.. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy giving you internet hugs 🤗🤗🤗
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I don't want to be rude but I'd love to hear more about your experience. I have a podcast discussing childhood trauma and how it can affect someone as an adult. If you are interested it is called Navigating Normal. Please feel free to check it out. Thank you so much for your time.
@@stitchlightly5995 were you talking to me or op? You didn't specify so I was curious. I deff will have to check out your podcast either way sounds very interesting 🧡🦇
Every time you said he made people listen to Duran Duran I laughed out loud. There’s something about being forced to listen to hungry like the wolf on repeat that makes me think these people were being put under some kind of spell
Diane Downs vibes! 😬😬😬
You make a great point, the audio must have been part of his method of enthrallment. Our girl Cydnee makes a GREAT point about the not being allowed to change the channel conditioning the participants to accept deferring to him, one imperceptibly tiny step at a time
The album was like the pied pipers song 😂
Cyndee you wrong for making me laugh this hard during this tragedy 😂😂😂💀 I’m cracking the hell up right now 😂
Cyndee I am glad you are back.
*Cydnee. Like Sidney but different spelling... js
Cyndee you are the queen of TH-cam. Sending lots of love and prayers your way. Great video hope to see more of your makeup and histories.
He’s attractive… to her
The shade 😂😂😂
Cyd definitely brings the comedy
I dated a con artist a few years ago. I am definitely a "go with the flow" kind of person, and I tend to overlook red flags because "nobody's perfect" so I was the ideal victim. I can attest how easy it is to be tricked by a con artist. It's what they do, and they're good at it. Manipulation is their entire personality, and they know how to make it subtle and they play the long game. He even told me once that he had a fetish about mind control, subliminal messages, and hypnosis. He was actually turned on at the thought of contolling people like puppets.
It took me years before I stopped beating myself up over being "stupid" and falling for his lies, but I can see now that it doesn't matter how smart you are, they can still get to you if they really want to. At the time, I truly believed that HE was the victim and that HE was the good guy right up until the end, so I can sympathize with these people who appeared to have voluntarily followed this guy and trusted him.
I hope they find Sandra and she's okay.
I just learned that con man meant confidence man, like a month ago, and I’m 36 🤦🏻♀️ Glad to see you are back!
Thank you, I had no idea it was short for confidence man.❤️
Whenever someone new comes into your life and starts smear campaigns about the people that youve known forever, run. Its honestly scary how these people dont care who they hurt.
Fascinating story, sad as well. This type of manipulation reminds me of abusers that kidnap and program children not to leave even when they have an opportunity
You're a really good story teller. It feels like I'm hanging with a friend 😅 thanks!
She's my favorite. I also like Stephanie Harlowe and MrBallen, but I like Cydnee best.
They are called “confidence men“ not because they are confident, but because they are good at gaining the confidence (trust) of other people.😉
They could've just been called "man men" as in manipulative men, to avoid the confusion 😉
@@skullbones6282 Love it!😂
This video freaked me out honestly, so scary... like you said you think that this wouldn't ever happen to you and that it's ridiculous, but it seems that he managed to do this to so many people, and not just people who are in a mentally fragile place, it's actually insane
Idk it's like he did it to gullible people like they just followed him around and didn't ask questions
Because it's done on a daily basis. Chipping at a stone. You start telling people things and proving you're right by manipulation.
Case in point, Sandra's son. The lies, the locking the house up. Mentally draining and driving him crazy. On the side he's spreading lies and when her son breaks down at the door since he's had enough, she doesn't see it thay way. She sees an unhinged teen that stole from her and has changed for the worse. She probably believes that still today.
On top of that, physical abuse. Cydnee mentioned he did so to Maria. He punched the one guy prior to the trip as well. Who knows what he's doing to Sandra.
There's definitely more to their stories. You can't get a decade plus of abuse over 45 min. Cydnee's storytelling is great though.
People are usually fearful, and have low self esteem in regards to something about themselves. A con man can see that and play you like a fiddle.
To beat a con man you need to know your weaknesses and not take people on just their word. It's a shame too because he used people's trust for each other against them. Like the college kids, and Sandra and her daughter.
I did NOT know that "con" was short for confidence! Crazy!
Fascinating and frustrating to no end. My step-dad and step-grandmother did similar things with our family...specifically attempting to isolate our mum and grandfather, gaslighting and abusing us one by one until they had them all to themselves. It's happening all around us, this sickness. I hope more can wake up to this behavior and question more. I've heard it said "the devil isn't ugly"--it's the charmers to look out for. Thanks for this Cydnee. I LOVE this series and am so excited when each new one is released. :^)
This story is scary, sad, and frustrating. Thank you so much for sharing it because it does highlight how *anybody* can be a victim of psychological abuse. I pray Sandra finds a way out of it if she hasn’t already.
There was something my mother learned in college that I've seen be true time and time again. One of the first (if not the very first) thing an abuser will do is try to remove the family and friends around u. I've seen this happen with ex/friends and family. They r trying to isolate sp that can control u and get away with things that people around u wouldnt allow happen. So if u see someone purposely sabotaging ur relationships with everyone in ur life that is a BIG red flag.
Watched this documentary on Netflix and was just completely shook and dumbfounded that things like this are happening in real life smh
"Cluster b" or "dark triad"
Book: "the sociopath next door" by Martha stout
he's really handsome "to her"...i love you cydnee,never stop being you!
You should write a novel, your story telling is so good. You get all these interesting little details and feelings in without going too much and you know how to tell the timelines in the most interesting way!
The most important job of a mothers is to make sure her kids are safe.
Sandra took her kids to Spain & she didnt even have conformation of his last name by looking at his passport. After hearing that I no longer had sympathy for her. If you wanna endanger yourself, that's fine but never your kids. No man should ever be able to make you forget about your childrens safety.
Happy to see you again. No one tells a story like you! Love you lots!
Your set up is sooo good!!! Glad to see you’re back and I hope you’re feeling atleast a tad bit better ❤
Psychological abuse is a thing and I wish they take it more seriously. It's all about giving you what you need as long as you do what they want then they start changing as you get deeper and deeper in the relationship then at the point it don't matter what you do. You are STUCK with them even if you're separated from the situation. It's despicable on how they have a hold on the victims. Ugh. So Im with you girl
This was a wild ride. I don't even know what to make of it. Like you said, our brains are just mushy computers. It's mind blowing and terrifying how easily manipulated we can be! I say this all the time when I comment, but you one of my favorite youtubers! I adore your videos. You are so amazing. And I hope you are doing well. Sending love to you!!!
Wow this one really hit home...
I would love to hear about the thing u mentioned at the end "unmasking the abuser". I feel like that would really help soooo many people. It's so hard to pinpoint certain behaviors and abusive traits...especially the sneaky ones
Woah this is insane. It’s interesting how this guys creates stories and illusions that influence people… like saying that a suicide is a murder, or that Sandra’s son was stealing things. He creates a narrative with an enemy (that’s not himself) and uses this to foster vulnerability in his victims. It’s absolutely sick, but important to recognize. Thanks for sharing.
It’s so disgusting how some ppl come into this world and only ever put all their energy into their own greed and just taking and robbing ppl their entire lives not ever focusing on growing themselves as a person n helping others. Some ppl really got that “every man for himself” mentality and it’s disgusting. I’m so tired of greedy ppl
Crazy how a person can exercise such massive control on a person's mind! To the point that you reject your own offspring... Hell no. 🤬
That's what I said. You know your children best. Ain't no random coming in her telling my son stole something when I know he doesn't do that.
He definitely had a hold of her mentally by then.
I am so glad for the notification bell
I did not hey notified 😢
Take your time figuring life out. I’m going thru it too and everyone has to do it in their own time! Love the channel and I’ll be here if you you decide to do vids every 6 months. As long as your happy that’s all that matters
Only a minute in but holy aesthetic this video is gorgeous. Absolutely loving the new background
The prettiest girl in the world is back!! I'm going on my walk in a bit and will listen/watch then. You look stunning and this is one of my top YT series
THESE STORIES AND HISTORY LESSONS REALLY FLOW FROM YOU WITH EASE. IT'S A GIFT. THANKYOU FOR SHARING
Happy to see you! 💖 Remember, small progress is better than no progress. Love your new set up!! 💕💕
Its amazing how manipulative a person can be. Syd I’m glad to see you back in your groove and rebuilding your life ❤
Loved hearing this story from you-you're SUCH a great story teller-its a true talent! I also struggle to keep my head above water, it's all so confusing-continually asking myself; Why is everything so hard for me? Isn't it somehow my fault? Maybe I'm just a weak ass baby & need to push harder. etc., etc. etc.Its exhausting. But life IS really hard, like intrinsically, then add on all the shit that's unique to our time! It's *crazier* to me that some people find it all doable, ya know?! AH whatever, I don't even know. However, I do know you are SO not alone & your presence on TH-cam (& in the world) brings a lot of people some relief. XOXO
Sandra leaving her kids is disgusting. SHAME on her.
I agree
Hi beautiful! Great to see you back! According to Bust: (paraphrasing) in the 19th century, many Victorians considered the confidence man to be uniquely American. His victims willingly gave him their trust and literally, their confidence...😦
Take all the time you need between videos ❤️ will totally be here when you do get to post.
I don't know if you and Bailey Sarian are geographically close, but it would be so amazing if you did a video together. I feel like yall would vibe together so well!
Yesssss
I have no sympathy for any parent who would allow some stranger undermine their relationship with their children or choose a man over their children
I don't know why this is only just now popping up for me, but I'm so glad you're back, and I LOVE your new background!!
Love your new background! So happy to see you forming your new identity. I’ve had a rough year as well (for different reason), it will take time to heal. But there’s always light following darkness
Thank you for covering this documentary. I was curious but manipulative people make me queasy.
Haven’t seen this yet but wanted to say, “welcome back.” Love you ❤ You look amazing! Praying for healing, strength, and restorations! I can’t wait to listen to this tomorrow.
You should do that theme song with you in 4 screens harmonizing 🥰
Glad to see you and will keep you in my loving thoughts, lil sis 💕
What a trippy story! That head band is so cute!
We love you too, Cyd! Thank you for your fascinating stories. As an old mother hen type, I miss you and worry about you when I don’t see you for a while. Definitely sending some “thoughts and prayers “ your way!
Wow! What a wild ride. This guy is the worst. Thank you for the video Cydnee! It’s so good to see you.
You would LOVE The Crime Analyst podcast, it is all about coercive control (mind control and manipulation).
I get so happy, and damn near unable to move my damn thumbs QUICK ENOUGH, when Cyd pops up on my notifications! Cyd you’re worth the wait Dear!! We, your true supporters are just happy to see your beautiful face when you’re able to make content for us. We care for you like we know you personally and within that care, want you to ALWAYS think about YOU first and take however much time to yourself that you need/want. We understand; therefore we’ll always be here! ❤
I loved that Truman video! I was dropping knowledge bombs at my husband's family's house about Truman like I really knew something....because I did! Keep doing what you do!
I love your makeup and history videos ❤
I was in a situation recently where me and my partner were befriended by a registered sex offender. (We obviously didn't know at the time.) We started noticing red flags because of the control thing you spoke about. He needed to control everything: he tried to correct my girlfriend on how she fixed her coffee while we were at his house, would tell us specifically where to sit, told us we could chose a movie and then when we picked one he insisted on another one he wanted instead....they were seemingly little, but altogether it was creepy and overbearing. After that we started to dig into finding out more about him which is when we found him on the registry. 😱
We people in a three kind of people dating or how did you two became close with him
Wow what a POS
Definitely have seen that kind of manipulation before to family members. It really can happen to anyone. Btw love your colorful background and your eyeshadow is flipping gorgeous!
It's so good to see you! The day before yesterday, I was thinking I hadn't seen you in awhile, & bc I never know if I'm getting all my notifications, I looked up your page to see lol. When I didn't see anything new, I was like, I hope she's ok! Sending prayers & love to you💗 && I LOVE your set up!😍
I appreciate your explanation of the small control leading to more and more control bc I really wanted to hear more about the progress of this mind control he did bc he had to learn it somewhere too so it must be available
I love your moments of quirkiness! It is very hard to not smile or laugh with you. I found your TH-cam today and have already watched 3 of your videos! I just realized my last sentence makes me seem like a weird stalker hahaha but I just wanted to say I love your videos and your makeup skills make me extremely jealous!
I do not usually enjoy watching makeup videos but your makeup is always so amazing and it's cool to see the process!
Yea I heard of him and i saw the documentary on netflix! It was sooo interesting and so frustrating to watch. Glad you decided to cover this.
I’ve missed seeing your videos, you’re so well educated and well spoken it makes watching your videos so much more enjoyable. 🖤🖤🖤
Some people lie so confidently that it can be easy to be taken in by it, have met people like this and its hard to belive that what they have told you is total bulshit when you find out the truth
“That’s a lot of concealer,girl. Where you going wit this?” 😂😂😂 l love you
It’s the commentary for me “And some b**** ass judge…” 🤣🤣🤣
Cydneee! Missed you I was thinking about you yesterday and surprise there’s a video! Thank you for your time and effort making these videos! You truly have a talent for story telling. I already watched the series but just wanted to hear your take! Peace and love ❤
I missed you Cydnee! I clicked so fast when I saw it in my feed! I wish I actually got the notifications so I could watch right away. Love, love, love your content!!!
Netflix has sooo many docs. I've watched many. Some stories of the people they feature, I have never heard of. You should do a story about the girl Emanuela Orlandi missing from the Vatican. I didn't watch it in it's entirety. It was hard for me to follow & comprehend, especially when they say things were this/that way & if so, then how? Another interesting & fascinating storytelling. Love your makeup! Thank you for this video & for sharing!
I was skeptical when you said how bad a conman was but my god this guy is a nightmare!
Hey, Syd, so glad to see you back and I love the new background! This stoy is so fascinating and sad at th same time. There is a movie inspired by it from 2022. It's called "Rouge agent" for anyone who's interested to watch.
I watch some of your videos on Snapchat. I love these videos. Your educating me and also I've learnt alot watching you do your makeup. Keep them coming.
Cyndi you covered this brilliantly, i was unsure it could be done in 45 mins or whatever. I would advise anyone to watch the documentary though, just to get the full weight of the psychological manipulation one person can do. Worse than the cult leaders. The worst pisces and there is quite a few bad ones! Love your work!
Hello gorgeous 😘! Idc how long you’re gone, I’m always happy when you’re back! ❤️
Crazy story. I don't usually watch the docs on Netflix. But I'm glad you're telling the story. Thanks for all your hard work!
I love how you add humor and sarcasm in your videos to enlighten the dark spot. But this is bizarre. Now I want to listen to that podcast.
Sooo glad to see you back and did not disappoint with this one. Very interesting story but it’s you delivery that I stay for!!! I couldn’t stop shaking my head and dying of laughter at the same time! ‘You sick boy?!’ 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭 Keeping getting your ish together and we support you ♥️
This look is EVERYTHING Cyd 🤩
Oh wow😢! That is so sad. I hope this video picks up traction so the children find their mom. Thank you for shining the light on this. It makes me think of how people can go missing.
Anyone else gets drowned in by Sydney’s eyes and beauty! 😍😍😍 sweet sweet beauty!
Such a sad story, but I'm so glad that you brought light to this case and other unknown cases. Please keep doing so!
Happy to have you back! Sending love and hugs
Omg yay!!! I forgot about your last video too, so thank youuuu...this one reminds me to
What the heck this just gets more absurd the more I go into this. I have no words what do you want me to think of this cuz this is just CRAZY!
My boyfriend wonders why every time someone ask me to do something I immediately say no
Glad to see your back! Your make up turned out really pretty.
I do miss you when you don’t upload but I am just happy that you’re still here you brighten my day
Love the new scene! So glad you dropped a new vid! This episode was intriguing...I will now watch it on Netflix. Your makeup and earrings are gorgeous!💯⚜️😊
Girl, I hadn't gotten any notifications from your Channel, so I thought you just hadn't uploaded in a while. So I went to check on your TH-cam for old videos, and I find you've actually got a few I haven't caught up on!
Cydnee, it takes a lot of courage to evaluate your weak spots and work on it. Proud of you!
I was just thinking about you yesterday! Excited to watch this!
Cyndee, you had me drawn in from the beginning to the end. You are a great story teller. Now let me head to the TV to watch on Netflix. Thanks for sharing...
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Cydnee you are such a delight!! You always pique my interest in the most unique way. Its always a treat to see your beautiful face, so glad to see you and hope you’re doing well. May all of your heart’s desires manifest for you 💙🤎
Your videos make my day every time you post 😁😁
I love coming back to your videos while I await your awesome return everytime! You’re the best, Cydnee 🥰💜🌙✨
You are hilarious 😅 I laughed during so many inappropriate parts of this story time.