Yes. i was once in a relationship with someone who seemed ambitious af. when we broke up he expressed to me that his ambitious nature, and daily grind of self improvement (working out, reading, etc) was him just trying to mirror me. and he resented me for this lol. But yes, women love someone that is constantly evolving, and men should want that in a woman as well. I was attracted to his ambitious nature that was just a front. I was not attracted to him when he'd play COD all night, and wake up at 3pm. Hold high standards for others, and yourself. being alone is better than being with someone who doesn't align with you.
Ok then a question to someone whos more mature and made mistakes. I am in a healthy relationship with a great and traditional girl but shes my first girlfriend and I am insecure that if it goes long term I might only have a bodycount of 1. I am an insecure person who used to dream of getting women. What should I do?
Conclusion: Don't give up on your self improvement and workouts if you life starts getting better, you need to grind, grind, grind for yourself. You have to be and remain like the man she is attracted to Edit: never give up your goals for anybody or anything
Even though I'm a female, i noticed that when I got complacent my boyfriends started to notice. As soon as you stop caring and get comfortable that's when shit goes down. Stop allowing yourself to get complacent!
@@soy_boy69 sadly yes i know a girl that used to be like that she got a boyfriend then she started becoming super lazy and shit sadly alots of girls i know are just has down bad has mans we all need to allways self improve no matter what
@@soy_boy69, I know you're asking OP, but the answer is yes! Humans seek comfort. Especially when you're six months deep in a relationship and there's no longer an element of chasing or impressing someone.
It’s so difficult to admit our own manhood. Man, even Arnold spoke about being motivated by something, even if it’s girls, because you leverage it against your purpose. It creates urgency, it creates that enigma.
@@awanderer9966 He spoke of the purpose of having goals in order to have direction and commitment. He framed it with respect to bodybuilding but said that you have to have a goal, even if it's to attract girls - but there needs to be a purpose otherwise you will give up.
If you aren’t constantly improving everything in life goes bad, life long improvement is the key to life I couldn't imagine the regret you'd feel hitting 60 and never accomplishing anything
@kingsquid accomplishments mean different things for everyone you are assuming things, I never even mentioned working out in the first place, I thought you replied to the wrong comment, to be honest
@kingsquid When I'm 60 I hope to have a loving family and a charity for suicide prevention. Those don't seem to be superficial and I don't really care too much about what you say I'm just trying to figure out where you're coming from. Always looking to improve so I'm trying to figure out where I came off as superficial?
@kingsquid You are wrong my friend. The gym and meditation take a fraction of the day, and form one part of improvement. The rest includes living a meaningful life, cherishing friends and family and working towards a greater purpose. If you don’t continually improve, wasting your life playing videogames and scrolling on social media or whatever else, of COURSE you’ll regret it when your 60. That’s what this guy is saying.
Feminine energy is insane bro, like if im near someone attractive at my gym my body which was almost about to give up, suddenly got a huge hit of adrenaline and power. Its a biological drug i guess haha
I hate to admit but I fell into complacency after getting my first GF and she just stopped being attracted to me. I wish I had seen this video before it was too late, you're doing young men a great work Hamza
Take this advice with a grain of salt. Yes, the most important thing to keep the interest and in love with you is to not change what made you attractive in the first place and keep grinding and moving forward to other goals. *BUT* Do not attempt to be the 24/7 mysterious guy that barely talks to her and takes a long time to answer her messages only because "that's the way I keep her interest" When you can answer but you don't do it only because of this you are being a douch, why would you or she want to be in a relationship if there's really no place for her or you? Im not saying be for her 24/7 or if she calls you or text you stop doing what you're doing immediately, im saying just don't do this stuff if your really aren't doing anything, just for the sake of being "mysterious" and if you're working or doing something just tell her you're busy and you will call her in a few. That's it, there's no need to ignore or do those things to your couple, it's not healthy for neither of you
yeah, I completely agree, I saw this piece of advice somehwrre saying, if you're going to be unavailable, make it be because you're ACTUALLY doing something
I would say that you should answer text messages like a normal person. If you got her and now respond to her texts immediately, she knows that you played that mysterious guy role.
You missed the point of the video, its not about making yourself look busy but not making her the centre of your life. I agree by not making it look like you're busy building or working when you are not, but I've been that guy for awhile now where I would only meet them for an hour or so but that is due to me working 80 hour weeks on top of maintaining a fitness routine and good sleep hygiene and it does work in peaking their interest considerably so many men today drop everything they are doing because they got a girlfriend.
@@aaronkiuna2231 Yeah I remember when my female flatmate was talking to this guy she liked and she would always wait before responding to his messages so I told her: "He takes a while to respond because he's doing something important. You're not doing anything so just respond to him already."
My last girlfriend broke up with me because she thought I did not care about her anymore. At that time I did nothing else but study and go to the gym and that few days out of the week where I was free, I spent with her and no friends no alcohol, just trying to work towards a point where I could be proud of myself and be successful enough to provide in the future. And as you said, I felt much more comfortable hanging out with her, knowing that I had done my work. I felt sad that I could not put into words what I am trying to do and I still wonder to this day if I had my priorities straight as it was a good relationship but I know if I focused on her I might be in a really bad place now. This video is a huge relief that in the end, I made the right choices.
Man, this just hits exactly in the right moment... I have had a very long mental self improvement journey but my physical has been lacking since covid hit. I have been trying to put myself together the past 3 weeks and I've done a very good job so far, but the more I learn the more it seems I suffer, I've learned enough to see the mistakes I used to make all these years, when I started self-improvement I asked myself why I was doing this in the first place, everybody else said it was to get girls or to be a better version of themselves but that just didn't hit ME right!! But it seems everything finds it's place at the right time and that for me was last night, you see last night I had a dream, I had a dream in which I told the girl that I persuaded myself I didn't want anymore but in reality I just knew I wasn't good enough, how I felt . Anyway I told her always loved her and that I still do, and man this girl is literally it!! You know how everyone has a sort of manifestation of their perfect partner, their personality their looks and even their problems, maybe I am weird but literally when I first met her I felt sort of... odd, like something weird was happening, we had many conversations during the past couple of years and I could see she knew how good chemistry we have , I now realize that my mind was going mad realizing just how important she was, anyway in my dream I told her how I really felt, then we took a walk when it started raining, but then I kissed her and told her I loved her, it was a wonderful moment and there was even music in my head as this was going on, there were also some people in a car next to us who seemed very moved by our apparent union but then I found myself in that car with no-one around... I instantly became conscious of the fact I was dreaming and having never felt so intensely happy I stopped for a moment and prayed to God to guide me. Now I know the reason, I have my why, I am doing this because for her, I don't care what anyone says or even if she never feels the same way, I love her..with all my heart...
@Sincerely Respectfully it seems he use her for motivation and inspiration. If they end up happy I think that is amazing. Let him chase her. That's nothing bad. If it is not meant to be, to bad and if it is meant to be good that's great. But don't go denying yourself any pleasures because you think your "delusional" if you chase something with no certainty. Even tho it motivates you. Growth is often in discomfort so if he needs to work and reach for something it's probably for the best he is doing so. If he gets the price or not that's up to him. That's a journey he has to walk on his own. But he doesn't deserve to be called delusional by a stranger. Being a little bit naive results in a happy life. Maybe with more disappointments. But ultimately a happyer life.
I don't actually expect getting her, that's just the thing I know I am not good enough for her yet, and I never said we had anything other than good chemistry. And trust me this is a really high quality girl, I am just not a high quality man at the moment. That's why I really am doing this and if it doesn't work out, then I will move on.
I didn't even watch the video yet but I agree with you. After I got into uni, had a good body, got a gf we're in love with guess what. I got fat again, failed classes, just nosedived. Probably also has to do with other issues but I'm happy to say that after a long rut I'm back on the grind, hitting the gym hard, studying a lot, working and my gfs is as crazy about me as ever. And I think I found your channel at the perfect time bro. You're such a 100% relatable dude and you have the ability to put into words so many thoughts man like me have. Thanks for doing your work and keep it up
I feel I was around my lowest point when I met my partner. I was over weight bad hygiene , I hated myself and everyone around me. I was also addicted to video games and porn but ever since I met them I’ve been working out more and working on bettering myself and have opened my mind to love those around me. My partner definitely helped me and we will grow together
Hey, I just broke up few days back and this is exactly what caused the breakup. It just felt like I'd plateaued in my spark with my girl. It kinda suck and I feel really sad because it wasn't like that when we met and it was because I left my routines and it even affected my productivity at work. I really regret it because it was really good at the beginning but my complacency messed it up.
I know somebody who got jacked when he was in highschool and got a girlfriend. When I asked him yesterday if he had any tips for training abs, he said that he doesn't train regularly anymore because he has "no time" for it. Thanks for the video hamza, don't want to end in complacency! :)
If you're in a relationship as a young man these things are hard to control. The comfort of love is so intoxicating that other things fall to the side. I've done this multiple times. My last GF was health oriented like I was and we promoted a lot of good habits with each other. Find someone with a similar mindset around growth and life becomes a lot easier 💪
@Sincerely Respectfully Different life expectations at the end of the end, she wasnt someone I should've pursued with the idea of a kids and marriage. I went into it in a video in my channel actually.
100%. Couldn't be more accurate. This was me, 2 years ago. Just over 2 years ago in fact now? Corona brought us living together, I fell apart and became the worst version of self AND we now live together through the "virus" gyms closed, stopped caring and everything went downhill. It was a downward spiral that got me back onto the red pill and self-improvement. A painful experience that was necessary for the blessing that it got me into. Still wish her all the best and never blamed her for the outcome. She was a rare unspoiled by society and social media type so hope she maintains that. Keep up hustling kings, little by little, and don't ever allow yourself to fall that deep apart.
It's good to be motivated by women. A good woman can greatly improve a man's life journey. In order to have that kind of woman in his life, he needs to be a well-rounded, disciplined man. It's a positive cycle, but it starts with one's own self-improvement.
Feminine energy is different though, I've pretty much never experienced it, attention from girl in the rare occasion made me buzz, I can't imagine them flocking for you, it'd be a dream world, but then I put my sensible head on, live for yourself, not to impress others, find a woman but don't push yourself to success just to impress her.
Wow that's something most of us forget, nice! You gotta look for a girl that loves you for your passion and goals you have, so she can be for you when you feel down or uninspired, in fact that's the objective to be with someone
@@BMOGamesHD Well said and that's so rare to find nowadays. What i hate nowadays is the idea that men have to be in the grind and at the top all the times to attract opposite sex or endless race between guys who's the most alpha out there. I'd say do whatever makes you happy and do it for YOU not to attract others. And sometimes when life gives you lemons, the people who stay beside you and support you, are the ones that are worth keeping for.
There will be a point where you resent the other person if you fail to set boundaries from the start. It is sad because I loved her but my ambitions kept evolving while hers stayed stagnant. Sacrifices must be made in this life.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. Key takeaway is to maintain your discipline and focus on your goals, your partner should simply be a positive motivator for you to improve MORE, NOT an excuse to get lazy.
I feel like what you talked about in the beginning of the video might be the most important message today. As the "embrace masculinity" movement gains traction, a lot of misogyny is fostering and it's not geting adressed enough.
Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable... Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals. -- Martin Luther King, Jr.
It's not everyday that a youtuber is speaking to me, but here we are. I don't know where it started with me, but at some point I became so afraid of losing "control" over aspects of my life that I stopped growing and changing, as all things do. I went from feeling like a trailblazer to being someone who was constantly being left behind; I started believing that I wasn't truly worthy of what I had in my life, and eventually those beliefs became my reality. Turns out, I never really had control over anything but myself, and I gave that control up for comfort. Life hit me hard and I learned I wasn't ready for it. But I'm grateful that it did; I was rotting away, and I didn't even care to notice. Stagnation/complacency is death, and I was "dying". I knew that I couldn't stay where I was anymore, so I spent a long time trying and failing to figure out what to do next. I've never struggled so much with anything else in my life as I did when trying to get myself together, but for the first time in years, I felt ALIVE again. I don't know who you are or what your situation is, but if you read this, know that your life starts with you. Forgive yourself for the past, learn from your mistakes and grow. Challenge yourself, throw yourself out of your comfort zone and live your life as you see fit. Don't let fear stop you from being brave, and don't let the fear of losing control stop you from living. Take care.
I found "The Way of The Superior Man" on my Father's bookshelf when I was 16. I am grateful for that. Thanks for the video Hamza. Hitting legs in 20 minutes.
From what i’ve read it’s VITALLY important that you put your purpose FIRST and your woman second. As soon as you put your woman before your purpose, the masculine/feminine polarity is destroyed. She will become disinterested in you; this can even destroy the purpose you set out to do in the first place.
The reasons why I am doing what i am doing now IS FOR OTHER PEOPLE. I was so far gone, lonely and self condemning. I pushed people away, I was not present, I was complaining a lot without doing anything about it. I lost everything due to my actions. So now, I am motivated by relationships, attracting the opposite sex. Increasing my quality of work at work. And much more. By improving myself - I am doing it for others. No doubt about it! As a by product it is also helping me too. So important to dig deeper into our real motives for why we do things. Thank you once again Hamza!
Happened to me, spent 2 years in a relationship and stopped going gym, stopped studying as much etc, after clearing my head I realised she wasn’t a girlfriend she was an addiction. Stay safe everyone.
I think getting a gf is a lot young men’s end goal because that lack has been there for a bit . And it’s something that seems like a huge accomplishment (which it is in many cases, shows you are at least sociable enough and not a “creep”). But relationships should only be a byproduct of other successes as a man. Because if it isn’t ,and it’s just your primary goal- women become your god, and you’re in for much suffering . You become complacent t because women are final achievement .
Perfect timing you bring up “Way of the Superior Man” again. I just bought it and am only about 60 pages in, but journaling on the some of biggest points he touches on. So glad you recommended this book again. I recommend other people give it a go.
I broke up with my girl 3 months ago to get back to my old disciplined self. I realized I wasn't the man that I wanted to be. Even tho it was tough for me to let her go, but I did and I have been insanely productive recently !!!! Thanks Hamza for the video....
I did the same on new years. I lost myself in that relationship. Gained weight, became needy & lost the charming confident attitude I once had. Now I’m on beast mode. Getting in the gym 4x a week and learning to become a front end developer
@@donquixote3292 Thats what I like to hear...I became needy and weak but we all learn and Im taking full responsibility for my life...My ex wasnt perfect but It was all up to me and I fumbled it...We gotta learn and move forward bro 💪🏻
wouldn’t want to have a girl who does all these good habits because they make hold you to high standards and it feels like you can’t show a nice/vulnerable side of you or relax. Like yes I want to do good habits but all the time in a relationship feels like I won’t have any time for her and that goes for me too.
Hamza, you should make a video just going deep asf on social skills, body posture, tonality, and all around how to present yourself as more of a leader. I think going in depth with that on the unfiltered channel would help a lot of people.
Another wonderful video. My experience on that topic goes backwards. I was in a relationship that turned me into a pile of sadness and laziness. I met the love of my life after that relationship and we got married. I started my self-improvement journey and she respects that. I am in awe with what I am accomplishing so far and even people around me are amazed by the change. Still, I don't care what anyone thinks. Self-improvement is a personal journey and one to help the self and the world. Let's go boys.
First relationship and I made this mistake. Didn’t focus on my goals and self improvement which was so integral to my personality. I gave up my entire schedule and seeing friends which was quite filled and busy. Regret it. Best thing for both of us would have been to continue on the same routine I had. Its over now. All I can do is learn from my mistakes and move on. A painful lesson indeed, but now I know for next time. Didn’t realize any of this until a month post breakup. If you love her, please don’t repeat my mistakes.
Currently dealing with this, I lost all my motivation to improve myself as a man after I got a girl. I’m so lazy now and don’t see a point so grow when I get consistent intimacy.
One of youre best videos bro, I feel like this advice can really elevate most relationships enormously . It should be almost like an achievement to spend time with youre partner.
Exact reason why ex broke up. I was a bitch lol and started obsessing over her as a 17 yr old Jeffrey. I'm 20 now and haven't dated since then, but it was a big learning lesson.
finalllyyyyyy someone said it, like women aint to blame at all. i promise if all you saw your shorty do was sit around and get fat youd leave too. its the exact same thing. everyone and i mean everyone wants to be with someone they can bring home to their parents and be proud of. simple.
this hits hard for a lot of us, but i just had a big problem that makes my mental health really bad that it makes me lose my discipline and i feel like shit for this past few weeks because of that, i've been trying so hard to bounce back but i feel like the progress is so micro level it makes me feel like i'm starting from square one again. some of my bad habits been creeping back since my mental health been down and i kinda lose my good habit, well then i need to re learn the self improvement journey again, ish me luck boys.
My situation is the complete opposite, we both got complacent but she’s ok with it. Now that I’m not ok with complacency I no longer feel the same way towards her like I used to and I feel stuck.
totally agree Hamza. I really appriciate the warning. Haven't been on self improvement for long. Still yet to get a girlfriend. Definietly gonna read way of the superior man and get my timetable sorted thanks dude.
Self-improvement is key (or at least the core of it). It's is basically your Why? Why you get out of bed early? Why you workout 6 days a week? Why you take risks and put yourself out there? It is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs for women. Just don't forget about the girl. Women want your attention, to spend quality time with your woman is a good thing because it makes her feel loved and put in a feminine position. Watch the movie with her, go out and eat some food, but always go back to what attracted her to you. In these cases, self awareness is important. Give her the space to miss you. That way the time you spend with her is far more valuable than spending every waking second with her. Stay on the oath of self-improvement but don't forget about the girl, your relationship will improve.
I’m so glad someone else agrees with me. It’s all about the balance. Obviously keep yourself on track but don’t sacrifice a date night because you want to track you macros or skip a movie with your gf for the gym. Life’s not about tryna prove you have the biggest dick because you can lift 120kg and haven’t missed meditation for a year. As I said before to someone else, if you have to schedule a slot to meet your “girlfriend” then that’s not love.
This video helped me so much that I am scared. Thank you so much Hamza. You're helping a legion of people to get better every single day bro. Let's keep improving together.
A girl I'm going out with speak with me like I'm her dad. She tells me everything she dislikes about herself, she's very energetic with me, she tells me if some1 hurted her, she wants my approval with everything and so on. We usually do cardio together and I'm going at a gym with a gym bro. I started to change my life and thank you for motivating me bro
Hamza, You're on the money with this one. It's tough saying no to your girl esp. when you love her and all. That being said, one thing you can do is have her join your efforts i.e., today she joined me at the gym and I asked her to film some TH-cam content. Kills two birds with one stone... Anyways, just my two cents on the matter, and perhaps an easier way to go about this problem, if you have the right partner in crime. Thanks for the insights Hamza :)
Feel like we are in sync bro, this has been constantly going over my head since I’m in monk mode. It’s acc tough when you hit the realisation that the time spent together is impacting your productivity and thus impacting the relationship. Whether you make the bold decision to prioritise productivity cold turkey or can manage to balance both and strict disciple is difficult. And even if, like you suggested - you choose the latter; it’s a tough balancing act. But I guess that what makes the man who can do this a Superior One
I was complacent in my last relationship… she just ended it last week because she was motivated by my mindset on self-improvement. She has her own battles that she needed to battle by herself for herself. I respect her for that. Right person just wrong timing.
LMAO this applies to friendships too! I blocked an old friend that always resorted to copium for why his life hit the shitter. I tried getting him on the path to self improvement and he was trying to put me on the path to degeneracy. Guy still thinks I'm going to see him for coffee to "patch things up"...
I shit on you sometimes but just the term "self-improvement" changed me, im grinding my character in real life instead of in a video game, good job bro
My ex said to me that I was too inflexible and not spontaneous enough to have a properly relationship after 2 years together, once I was fully into self improvement our relationship started to collapse as she said I became condescending as I started to read more and she became attracted to one of my Jeffrey friends who I used to play games with Ik I'm better off without her in the short term if this is her attitude but she truly introduced me to a growth mindset and I got into self improvement mainly for her and have struggled to maintain it since the break up though I am improving now thanks mostly to the unfiltered channel But it seemed like she preached the growth mindset and followed it in terms of school work but in mental health she seemed completely unable to apply it because of her fucked up relationship with her parents
I don't have a girl friend but I do have very close friends and sometimes I avoid workouts and homework just to hangout and I'm never fully present when having fun so I regret it and try to catch up but never can. Sometimes I have to say no or better prioritize.
I’ve not watched too many of your vids recently, but the title majorly caught my attention! Shit happened to me with covid and lockdown I got worse and just depressed. Looked a shit load worse etc Proper good point and ultimately I’m better off now than I was before lockdown but it took that “loss” to get my back on the horse. I’ve been a red pill enjoyer for 7-8 years so I laughed my ass off when I realised i did it myselfn
Hey Hamza, I've recently turned 21 and really had no intimacy with a girl or let alone a girlfriend. It's mostly down to the usual issues like how I view myself confidence that has always plagued me. Moreover my main focus has always been on school and academics and so I've just never spent time on attracting girls. I've been watching your videos for around a month and you're one of the only guys that really motivates and appeals to me, so I truly appreciate and admire you bro. Even now I'm not as consistent with self improvement and to be honest, I probably will still never get around to focusing on girls I feel this because, despite this journey being for life, I feel I will just become solely focused on my goals and purpose, and constantly want to improve.
@kingsquid thanks bro for the advice👊, yh theres no reason to think you should refrain yourself from having just normal casual interactions with girls or anyone whilst on self improvement. Can't become a complete lone wolf and weirdo by not being social in general. I've mostly surrounded myself with people who are proper focused and driven to succeed at uni. I'll definitely join Hamza's discord but another goal for me is to try and put as many people in my life on this thing.
@@medankwaw3190 get a gf that is also success oriented. If you leave university with no experience then you will have to resort to clubs and dating apps and cold approaching. And you will be new to the game so you’ll be fucked
@@fuarkk3611 this is the maddest thing I'm starting to realise. I'm already at the end of my first year and me still living at home and even struggling with my physics degree, doesn't help.
Yes. i was once in a relationship with someone who seemed ambitious af. when we broke up he expressed to me that his ambitious nature, and daily grind of self improvement (working out, reading, etc) was him just trying to mirror me. and he resented me for this lol. But yes, women love someone that is constantly evolving, and men should want that in a woman as well. I was attracted to his ambitious nature that was just a front. I was not attracted to him when he'd play COD all night, and wake up at 3pm. Hold high standards for others, and yourself. being alone is better than being with someone who doesn't align with you.
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W Woman Ngl
Men just want a traditional and good looking wife nothing more or less
@@markosgelos3321 Peace and feminine traits as well, but yes an overall healthy woman
@@markosgelos3321 nah bro It sounds true but it's not
The quote "Men learn from their mistakes, wise men learn from the mistakes of others" is like a mantra for me. I'll probably get a tatto of this
@Muhammed Alhad ,,,,, thanks for watching leaving comments.. Contact me
Lol don't get a tattoo of that. People will just learn from your mistake
getting lettering tattoos of quotes is dumb asf in my opinion, but you do you bro
Ok then a question to someone whos more mature and made mistakes. I am in a healthy relationship with a great and traditional girl but shes my first girlfriend and I am insecure that if it goes long term I might only have a bodycount of 1. I am an insecure person who used to dream of getting women. What should I do?
@@bhavyashokeen8106 don't throw away a good relationship for a number.
Conclusion: Don't give up on your self improvement and workouts if you life starts getting better, you need to grind, grind, grind for yourself. You have to be and remain like the man she is attracted to
Edit: never give up your goals for anybody or anything
Be strong and everything will follow
@@kidmxrc on god
A fellow doom fan I see
Thank you and best wishes to you bro!
Never give your goals for holes. 😃
Even though I'm a female, i noticed that when I got complacent my boyfriends started to notice. As soon as you stop caring and get comfortable that's when shit goes down. Stop allowing yourself to get complacent!
@ WhatsAp Me㈩①⑤⑤⑨⑥⑨①⑤⑧⑥⑧ dont fall for this people. It's not actually Hamza
@@prodbyamy do girls also feel the same after being in relationship (become lazy etc..)?
@@soy_boy69 sadly yes i know a girl that used to be like that she got a boyfriend then she started becoming super lazy and shit sadly alots of girls i know are just has down bad has mans we all need to allways self improve no matter what
@@soy_boy69, I know you're asking OP, but the answer is yes! Humans seek comfort. Especially when you're six months deep in a relationship and there's no longer an element of chasing or impressing someone.
She’s attracted to the man and goals you had. If you leave them behind and get comfortable she simply isn’t attracted to that guy.
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@ WhatsAp Me㈩①⑤⑤⑨⑥⑨①⑤⑧⑥⑧ yo hamza what’s good it would be so cool if this was actually you
This is probably the most important message for young guys and dating. She’s not going to tell you that you’re slipping
It’s so difficult to admit our own manhood. Man, even Arnold spoke about being motivated by something, even if it’s girls, because you leverage it against your purpose. It creates urgency, it creates that enigma.
Girls are... based?
What did Arnold exactly say?
@@awanderer9966 He spoke of the purpose of having goals in order to have direction and commitment. He framed it with respect to bodybuilding but said that you have to have a goal, even if it's to attract girls - but there needs to be a purpose otherwise you will give up.
@@MistaKasko I see makes complete sense. Did he talked about his own goals and purpose aswel at the beginning?
If you aren’t constantly improving everything in life goes bad, life long improvement is the key to life
I couldn't imagine the regret you'd feel hitting 60 and never accomplishing anything
@kingsquid You can do both
@kingsquid I think you are reading into it a little too much or taking it to literal
@kingsquid accomplishments mean different things for everyone you are assuming things, I never even mentioned working out in the first place, I thought you replied to the wrong comment, to be honest
@kingsquid When I'm 60 I hope to have a loving family and a charity for suicide prevention. Those don't seem to be superficial and I don't really care too much about what you say I'm just trying to figure out where you're coming from. Always looking to improve so I'm trying to figure out where I came off as superficial?
@kingsquid You are wrong my friend. The gym and meditation take a fraction of the day, and form one part of improvement. The rest includes living a meaningful life, cherishing friends and family and working towards a greater purpose. If you don’t continually improve, wasting your life playing videogames and scrolling on social media or whatever else, of COURSE you’ll regret it when your 60. That’s what this guy is saying.
Feminine energy is insane bro, like if im near someone attractive at my gym my body which was almost about to give up, suddenly got a huge hit of adrenaline and power. Its a biological drug i guess haha
wow, now that u say it
High quality attracts high quality. Stay on top of your game boys
I hate to admit but I fell into complacency after getting my first GF and she just stopped being attracted to me. I wish I had seen this video before it was too late, you're doing young men a great work Hamza
Happened to me once, never again
So grateful for that learning lesson
Though I am a girl, Hamza you are a role model for me and inspire me and help me to be a better human. Thanks for your teachings 🙏
Take this advice with a grain of salt.
Yes, the most important thing to keep the interest and in love with you is to not change what made you attractive in the first place and keep grinding and moving forward to other goals. *BUT*
Do not attempt to be the 24/7 mysterious guy that barely talks to her and takes a long time to answer her messages only because "that's the way I keep her interest"
When you can answer but you don't do it only because of this you are being a douch, why would you or she want to be in a relationship if there's really no place for her or you?
Im not saying be for her 24/7 or if she calls you or text you stop doing what you're doing immediately, im saying just don't do this stuff if your really aren't doing anything, just for the sake of being "mysterious" and if you're working or doing something just tell her you're busy and you will call her in a few. That's it, there's no need to ignore or do those things to your couple, it's not healthy for neither of you
yeah, I completely agree, I saw this piece of advice somehwrre saying, if you're going to be unavailable, make it be because you're ACTUALLY doing something
just ignoring them for the sake of being cool or whatever is only going to be detrimental to the relationship
I would say that you should answer text messages like a normal person. If you got her and now respond to her texts immediately, she knows that you played that mysterious guy role.
You missed the point of the video, its not about making yourself look busy but not making her the centre of your life. I agree by not making it look like you're busy building or working when you are not, but I've been that guy for awhile now where I would only meet them for an hour or so but that is due to me working 80 hour weeks on top of maintaining a fitness routine and good sleep hygiene and it does work in peaking their interest considerably so many men today drop everything they are doing because they got a girlfriend.
@@aaronkiuna2231 Yeah I remember when my female flatmate was talking to this guy she liked and she would always wait before responding to his messages so I told her: "He takes a while to respond because he's doing something important. You're not doing anything so just respond to him already."
My last girlfriend broke up with me because she thought I did not care about her anymore. At that time I did nothing else but study and go to the gym and that few days out of the week where I was free, I spent with her and no friends no alcohol, just trying to work towards a point where I could be proud of myself and be successful enough to provide in the future. And as you said, I felt much more comfortable hanging out with her, knowing that I had done my work. I felt sad that I could not put into words what I am trying to do and I still wonder to this day if I had my priorities straight as it was a good relationship but I know if I focused on her I might be in a really bad place now. This video is a huge relief that in the end, I made the right choices.
@♜𝐏𝐢𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐝 by_hamza unfiltered Be gone
Thank you Hamza, this video changed my life
May Allah bless you.
PURPOSE OVER RELATIONSHIP
Man, this just hits exactly in the right moment... I have had a very long mental self improvement journey but my physical has been lacking since covid hit. I have been trying to put myself together the past 3 weeks and I've done a very good job so far, but the more I learn the more it seems I suffer, I've learned enough to see the mistakes I used to make all these years, when I started self-improvement I asked myself why I was doing this in the first place, everybody else said it was to get girls or to be a better version of themselves but that just didn't hit ME right!! But it seems everything finds it's place at the right time and that for me was last night, you see last night I had a dream, I had a dream in which I told the girl that I persuaded myself I didn't want anymore but in reality I just knew I wasn't good enough, how I felt . Anyway I told her always loved her and that I still do, and man this girl is literally it!! You know how everyone has a sort of manifestation of their perfect partner, their personality their looks and even their problems, maybe I am weird but literally when I first met her I felt sort of... odd, like something weird was happening, we had many conversations during the past couple of years and I could see she knew how good chemistry we have , I now realize that my mind was going mad realizing just how important she was, anyway in my dream I told her how I really felt, then we took a walk when it started raining, but then I kissed her and told her I loved her, it was a wonderful moment and there was even music in my head as this was going on, there were also some people in a car next to us who seemed very moved by our apparent union but then I found myself in that car with no-one around... I instantly became conscious of the fact I was dreaming and having never felt so intensely happy I stopped for a moment and prayed to God to guide me. Now I know the reason, I have my why, I am doing this because for her, I don't care what anyone says or even if she never feels the same way, I love her..with all my heart...
U simping bruh ngl
These dudes reacting can't even fatom real love. I'm happy for you dude hope it works out :)
@Sincerely Respectfully it seems he use her for motivation and inspiration. If they end up happy I think that is amazing. Let him chase her. That's nothing bad. If it is not meant to be, to bad and if it is meant to be good that's great. But don't go denying yourself any pleasures because you think your "delusional" if you chase something with no certainty. Even tho it motivates you. Growth is often in discomfort so if he needs to work and reach for something it's probably for the best he is doing so. If he gets the price or not that's up to him. That's a journey he has to walk on his own. But he doesn't deserve to be called delusional by a stranger. Being a little bit naive results in a happy life. Maybe with more disappointments. But ultimately a happyer life.
I don't actually expect getting her, that's just the thing I know I am not good enough for her yet, and I never said we had anything other than good chemistry. And trust me this is a really high quality girl, I am just not a high quality man at the moment. That's why I really am doing this and if it doesn't work out, then I will move on.
@@jimnian4031 than stop dreaming like that… srsly that’s called obsession my man.
I didn't even watch the video yet but I agree with you. After I got into uni, had a good body, got a gf we're in love with guess what. I got fat again, failed classes, just nosedived. Probably also has to do with other issues but I'm happy to say that after a long rut I'm back on the grind, hitting the gym hard, studying a lot, working and my gfs is as crazy about me as ever. And I think I found your channel at the perfect time bro. You're such a 100% relatable dude and you have the ability to put into words so many thoughts man like me have. Thanks for doing your work and keep it up
I feel I was around my lowest point when I met my partner. I was over weight bad hygiene , I hated myself and everyone around me. I was also addicted to video games and porn but ever since I met them I’ve been working out more and working on bettering myself and have opened my mind to love those around me. My partner definitely helped me and we will grow together
bro u are reading my mind
Hey, I just broke up few days back and this is exactly what caused the breakup. It just felt like I'd plateaued in my spark with my girl. It kinda suck and I feel really sad because it wasn't like that when we met and it was because I left my routines and it even affected my productivity at work. I really regret it because it was really good at the beginning but my complacency messed it up.
I know somebody who got jacked when he was in highschool and got a girlfriend. When I asked him yesterday if he had any tips for training abs, he said that he doesn't train regularly anymore because he has "no time" for it. Thanks for the video hamza, don't want to end in complacency! :)
If you're in a relationship as a young man these things are hard to control. The comfort of love is so intoxicating that other things fall to the side.
I've done this multiple times. My last GF was health oriented like I was and we promoted a lot of good habits with each other. Find someone with a similar mindset around growth and life becomes a lot easier 💪
@ WhatsAp Me㈩①⑤⑤⑨⑥⑨①⑤⑧⑥⑧ my nigga you ain’t even try to make it convincing
@Sincerely Respectfully Different life expectations at the end of the end, she wasnt someone I should've pursued with the idea of a kids and marriage. I went into it in a video in my channel actually.
Man i didn’t want to believe this, but i just asked my gf and she confirmed it. Luckily i changed my life and she’s no longer feeling that way.
100%. Couldn't be more accurate. This was me, 2 years ago. Just over 2 years ago in fact now? Corona brought us living together, I fell apart and became the worst version of self
AND we now live together through the "virus" gyms closed, stopped caring and everything went downhill. It was a downward spiral that got me back onto the red pill and self-improvement.
A painful experience that was necessary for the blessing that it got me into.
Still wish her all the best and never blamed her for the outcome. She was a rare unspoiled by society and social media type so hope she maintains that.
Keep up hustling kings, little by little, and don't ever allow yourself to fall that deep apart.
It's good to be motivated by women. A good woman can greatly improve a man's life journey. In order to have that kind of woman in his life, he needs to be a well-rounded, disciplined man. It's a positive cycle, but it starts with one's own self-improvement.
Feminine energy is different though, I've pretty much never experienced it, attention from girl in the rare occasion made me buzz, I can't imagine them flocking for you, it'd be a dream world, but then I put my sensible head on, live for yourself, not to impress others, find a woman but don't push yourself to success just to impress her.
Truth. This happened to me boys, don't let it happen to you.
also, WHERE WERE YOU WHEN I WAS YOUNGER BRO?
especially, advice at the end. tick your boxes and be present.
Can't get complacent if you don't have a girl🤧
If you've slipped since getting with her she's not the girl for you. The right girl will inspire you.
Wow that's something most of us forget, nice!
You gotta look for a girl that loves you for your passion and goals you have, so she can be for you when you feel down or uninspired, in fact that's the objective to be with someone
@@BMOGamesHD Well said and that's so rare to find nowadays. What i hate nowadays is the idea that men have to be in the grind and at the top all the times to attract opposite sex or endless race between guys who's the most alpha out there. I'd say do whatever makes you happy and do it for YOU not to attract others. And sometimes when life gives you lemons, the people who stay beside you and support you, are the ones that are worth keeping for.
There will be a point where you resent the other person if you fail to set boundaries from the start. It is sad because I loved her but my ambitions kept evolving while hers stayed stagnant. Sacrifices must be made in this life.
“Complacency kills a man’s purpose”
Couldn’t have said it better myself. Key takeaway is to maintain your discipline and focus on your goals, your partner should simply be a positive motivator for you to improve MORE, NOT an excuse to get lazy.
I feel like what you talked about in the beginning of the video might be the most important message today. As the "embrace masculinity" movement gains traction, a lot of misogyny is fostering and it's not geting adressed enough.
It is our duty to uphold women. The harder we work, the more we praise them. The more we want the good of them, the more successful we become as men.
"Men use the image of female perfection to motivate themselves"
-Jordan Peterson
Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable... Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.
-- Martin Luther King, Jr.
It's not everyday that a youtuber is speaking to me, but here we are. I don't know where it started with me, but at some point I became so afraid of losing "control" over aspects of my life that I stopped growing and changing, as all things do. I went from feeling like a trailblazer to being someone who was constantly being left behind; I started believing that I wasn't truly worthy of what I had in my life, and eventually those beliefs became my reality. Turns out, I never really had control over anything but myself, and I gave that control up for comfort.
Life hit me hard and I learned I wasn't ready for it. But I'm grateful that it did; I was rotting away, and I didn't even care to notice. Stagnation/complacency is death, and I was "dying". I knew that I couldn't stay where I was anymore, so I spent a long time trying and failing to figure out what to do next. I've never struggled so much with anything else in my life as I did when trying to get myself together, but for the first time in years, I felt ALIVE again.
I don't know who you are or what your situation is, but if you read this, know that your life starts with you. Forgive yourself for the past, learn from your mistakes and grow. Challenge yourself, throw yourself out of your comfort zone and live your life as you see fit. Don't let fear stop you from being brave, and don't let the fear of losing control stop you from living. Take care.
Hamza's new video is always my priority
Thankfully this vid got recommended to me at the right time before I went too far from self improvement
facts man, learned this the hard way
I found "The Way of The Superior Man" on my Father's bookshelf when I was 16. I am grateful for that. Thanks for the video Hamza. Hitting legs in 20 minutes.
From what i’ve read it’s VITALLY important that you put your purpose FIRST and your woman second. As soon as you put your woman before your purpose, the masculine/feminine polarity is destroyed. She will become disinterested in you; this can even destroy the purpose you set out to do in the first place.
The reasons why I am doing what i am doing now IS FOR OTHER PEOPLE. I was so far gone, lonely and self condemning. I pushed people away, I was not present, I was complaining a lot without doing anything about it. I lost everything due to my actions.
So now, I am motivated by relationships, attracting the opposite sex. Increasing my quality of work at work. And much more. By improving myself - I am doing it for others. No doubt about it! As a by product it is also helping me too.
So important to dig deeper into our real motives for why we do things. Thank you once again Hamza!
Happened to me, spent 2 years in a relationship and stopped going gym, stopped studying as much etc, after clearing my head I realised she wasn’t a girlfriend she was an addiction. Stay safe everyone.
Man , I needed this .
Reflecting on my past relationships, this is exactly what has happened every single time.
I think getting a gf is a lot young men’s end goal because that lack has been there for a bit . And it’s something that seems like a huge accomplishment (which it is in many cases, shows you are at least sociable enough and not a “creep”). But relationships should only be a byproduct of other successes as a man. Because if it isn’t ,and it’s just your primary goal- women become your god, and you’re in for much suffering .
You become complacent t because women are final achievement .
This hits so hard bro
Perfect timing you bring up “Way of the Superior Man” again. I just bought it and am only about 60 pages in, but journaling on the some of biggest points he touches on. So glad you recommended this book again. I recommend other people give it a go.
I broke up with my girl 3 months ago to get back to my old disciplined self. I realized I wasn't the man that I wanted to be. Even tho it was tough for me to let her go, but I did and I have been insanely productive recently !!!! Thanks Hamza for the video....
I did the same on new years. I lost myself in that relationship. Gained weight, became needy & lost the charming confident attitude I once had. Now I’m on beast mode. Getting in the gym 4x a week and learning to become a front end developer
@@donquixote3292 Thats what I like to hear...I became needy and weak but we all learn and Im taking full responsibility for my life...My ex wasnt perfect but It was all up to me and I fumbled it...We gotta learn and move forward bro 💪🏻
Please don't shift too much to the new thumbnail Hamza, your old thumbnail is more genuine and more to the heart.
Made the same mistake in the past. Never again. My mission must come first.
wouldn’t want to have a girl who does all these good habits because they make hold you to high standards and it feels like you can’t show a nice/vulnerable side of you or relax. Like yes I want to do good habits but all the time in a relationship feels like I won’t have any time for her and that goes for me too.
LMAOOOOOOO caption speaking nothing but facts. I’m not you’re audience but keep up the great work Hamza.
Hamza, you should make a video just going deep asf on social skills, body posture, tonality, and all around how to present yourself as more of a leader. I think going in depth with that on the unfiltered channel would help a lot of people.
Another wonderful video. My experience on that topic goes backwards. I was in a relationship that turned me into a pile of sadness and laziness. I met the love of my life after that relationship and we got married. I started my self-improvement journey and she respects that. I am in awe with what I am accomplishing so far and even people around me are amazed by the change. Still, I don't care what anyone thinks. Self-improvement is a personal journey and one to help the self and the world. Let's go boys.
First relationship and I made this mistake. Didn’t focus on my goals and self improvement which was so integral to my personality. I gave up my entire schedule and seeing friends which was quite filled and busy. Regret it. Best thing for both of us would have been to continue on the same routine I had. Its over now. All I can do is learn from my mistakes and move on.
A painful lesson indeed, but now I know for next time. Didn’t realize any of this until a month post breakup. If you love her, please don’t repeat my mistakes.
MAINTAIN DISCIPLINE ROUTINE RELATIONSHIP
This is one of the most important videos hamza has ever made. Will be having this one on repeat
i needed this recently been taking girls on dates not doing the right things slacking working thank you.
Currently dealing with this, I lost all my motivation to improve myself as a man after I got a girl. I’m so lazy now and don’t see a point so grow when I get consistent intimacy.
One of youre best videos bro, I feel like this advice can really elevate most relationships enormously . It should be almost like an achievement to spend time with youre partner.
Keep leveling up men. You'll win more.
Jokes on you bro, I got no gf
Im not always a fan of you Hamza. But I like how you keep it very real on this channel. Respect.
Wtf I'm in the same phase now but luckily some how I manage to keep her attached....highly agree 🙌
Exact reason why ex broke up. I was a bitch lol and started obsessing over her as a 17 yr old Jeffrey. I'm 20 now and haven't dated since then, but it was a big learning lesson.
finalllyyyyyy someone said it, like women aint to blame at all. i promise if all you saw your shorty do was sit around and get fat youd leave too. its the exact same thing. everyone and i mean everyone wants to be with someone they can bring home to their parents and be proud of. simple.
im happy that it didn’t happen to me like getting in a relationship doesn’t affect anything (my goals, my go to bed time etc)
This is accurate. Happened to me twice now.
this hits hard for a lot of us, but i just had a big problem that makes my mental health really bad that it makes me lose my discipline and i feel like shit for this past few weeks because of that, i've been trying so hard to bounce back but i feel like the progress is so micro level it makes me feel like i'm starting from square one again. some of my bad habits been creeping back since my mental health been down and i kinda lose my good habit, well then i need to re learn the self improvement journey again, ish me luck boys.
Bro I JUST FINISHED READING THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN TODAY. Stg Hamza and I on the same wavelength
Perfectly timed thanks Hamza!
My situation is the complete opposite, we both got complacent but she’s ok with it. Now that I’m not ok with complacency I no longer feel the same way towards her like I used to and I feel stuck.
totally agree Hamza. I really appriciate the warning. Haven't been on self improvement for long. Still yet to get a girlfriend. Definietly gonna read way of the superior man and get my timetable sorted thanks dude.
I picked up drinking earlier this year peak self improvement
This was so weird how I was just thinking about things with a girl I’ve been talking to
Shit, even further through the video and actually the best hamza content in months. Good shit bro
Self-improvement is key (or at least the core of it). It's is basically your Why? Why you get out of bed early? Why you workout 6 days a week? Why you take risks and put yourself out there? It is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs for women. Just don't forget about the girl. Women want your attention, to spend quality time with your woman is a good thing because it makes her feel loved and put in a feminine position. Watch the movie with her, go out and eat some food, but always go back to what attracted her to you. In these cases, self awareness is important. Give her the space to miss you. That way the time you spend with her is far more valuable than spending every waking second with her. Stay on the oath of self-improvement but don't forget about the girl, your relationship will improve.
I’m so glad someone else agrees with me. It’s all about the balance. Obviously keep yourself on track but don’t sacrifice a date night because you want to track you macros or skip a movie with your gf for the gym. Life’s not about tryna prove you have the biggest dick because you can lift 120kg and haven’t missed meditation for a year. As I said before to someone else, if you have to schedule a slot to meet your “girlfriend” then that’s not love.
This video helped me so much that I am scared. Thank you so much Hamza. You're helping a legion of people to get better every single day bro. Let's keep improving together.
A girl I'm going out with speak with me like I'm her dad. She tells me everything she dislikes about herself, she's very energetic with me, she tells me if some1 hurted her, she wants my approval with everything and so on. We usually do cardio together and I'm going at a gym with a gym bro. I started to change my life and thank you for motivating me bro
This literally opened my eyes thank you 🙏
Hamza,
You're on the money with this one. It's tough saying no to your girl esp. when you love her and all. That being said, one thing you can do is have her join your efforts i.e., today she joined me at the gym and I asked her to film some TH-cam content. Kills two birds with one stone...
Anyways, just my two cents on the matter, and perhaps an easier way to go about this problem, if you have the right partner in crime.
Thanks for the insights Hamza :)
Feel like we are in sync bro, this has been constantly going over my head since I’m in monk mode.
It’s acc tough when you hit the realisation that the time spent together is impacting your productivity and thus impacting the relationship.
Whether you make the bold decision to prioritise productivity cold turkey or can manage to balance both and strict disciple is difficult. And even if, like you suggested - you choose the latter; it’s a tough balancing act.
But I guess that what makes the man who can do this a Superior One
You’re right. Thank you Hamza
Perfect right after the gym, going to watch this while stretching🦍
I was complacent in my last relationship… she just ended it last week because she was motivated by my mindset on self-improvement. She has her own battles that she needed to battle by herself for herself. I respect her for that. Right person just wrong timing.
You're a genius Hamza.
LMAO this applies to friendships too! I blocked an old friend that always resorted to copium for why his life hit the shitter. I tried getting him on the path to self improvement and he was trying to put me on the path to degeneracy. Guy still thinks I'm going to see him for coffee to "patch things up"...
Great video Hamza I learned this one the hard way
Really needed to hear this... thanks Hamza.
The way of the superior man book
I shit on you sometimes but just the term "self-improvement" changed me, im grinding my character in real life instead of in a video game, good job bro
1:55 “she starts seeing the other side of you, she smells your shit”🤣 🤣
My ex said to me that I was too inflexible and not spontaneous enough to have a properly relationship after 2 years together, once I was fully into self improvement our relationship started to collapse as she said I became condescending as I started to read more and she became attracted to one of my Jeffrey friends who I used to play games with
Ik I'm better off without her in the short term if this is her attitude but she truly introduced me to a growth mindset and I got into self improvement mainly for her and have struggled to maintain it since the break up though I am improving now thanks mostly to the unfiltered channel
But it seemed like she preached the growth mindset and followed it in terms of school work but in mental health she seemed completely unable to apply it because of her fucked up relationship with her parents
I don't have a girl friend but I do have very close friends and sometimes I avoid workouts and homework just to hangout and I'm never fully present when having fun so I regret it and try to catch up but never can. Sometimes I have to say no or better prioritize.
I’ve not watched too many of your vids recently, but the title majorly caught my attention!
Shit happened to me with covid and lockdown I got worse and just depressed. Looked a shit load worse etc
Proper good point and ultimately I’m better off now than I was before lockdown but it took that “loss” to get my back on the horse.
I’ve been a red pill enjoyer for 7-8 years so I laughed my ass off when I realised i did it myselfn
If she leaves you, then you deserve it
Hey Hamza, I've recently turned 21 and really had no intimacy with a girl or let alone a girlfriend. It's mostly down to the usual issues like how I view myself confidence that has always plagued me. Moreover my main focus has always been on school and academics and so I've just never spent time on attracting girls. I've been watching your videos for around a month and you're one of the only guys that really motivates and appeals to me, so I truly appreciate and admire you bro. Even now I'm not as consistent with self improvement and to be honest, I probably will still never get around to focusing on girls I feel this because, despite this journey being for life, I feel I will just become solely focused on my goals and purpose, and constantly want to improve.
cope
@kingsquid thanks bro for the advice👊, yh theres no reason to think you should refrain yourself from having just normal casual interactions with girls or anyone whilst on self improvement. Can't become a complete lone wolf and weirdo by not being social in general. I've mostly surrounded myself with people who are proper focused and driven to succeed at uni. I'll definitely join Hamza's discord but another goal for me is to try and put as many people in my life on this thing.
@@medankwaw3190 get a gf that is also success oriented. If you leave university with no experience then you will have to resort to clubs and dating apps and cold approaching. And you will be new to the game so you’ll be fucked
@@fuarkk3611 this is the maddest thing I'm starting to realise. I'm already at the end of my first year and me still living at home and even struggling with my physics degree, doesn't help.