For me as a 7w8, I REALLY struggle with denial. I will deny everything to the point of it being unhealthy. I will also ignore physical and emotional pain. I will make myself busy and pack my schedule to the point of convincing myself I don’t have time to deal with this. But I definitely agree about the evading pain thing I specifically use denial and businesses as a tactic. I also reframe a lot of things from a negative to positive perspective. And I am painfully logical. I have like no emotions and the ones I do I run full force from. But I really struggle not to be brutally honest and I tend to be oblivious to or annoyed by sensitive and emotional people. I’m also just motivated by having fun. The only way I do anything productive is by finding something fun to look forward to as a goal or incorporating small things that I enjoy into things that I hate which are mundane.
You're confused about how to bring joy and don't realize that you do exactly that through these videos! You are changing lives. Making people smile. Helping people understand each other in their relationships. You're doing amazing things. Thanks for providing me with the knowledge to understand the people around me. -5w4
I am a blunt, bold, totally edgy 7w8 indeed! :D Although I am determined and persistent when I truly want something, I experience a different problem as a young adult. Namely, it is SO HARD to decide what I want; I like a lot of things and do not want to commit to a career because I am scared that I would not enjoy it as much or that I would not get paid enough to fulfill my other desires like traveling and trying out new things. The fear of missing out is oftentimes nerve-wracking. And as a true 7w8 I'll stop being all emotional and go out get myself a nice cold beer!
Wow. This was extremely helpful. It was definitely difficult to listen to, but I persevered. I am a type 7w8 and I am currently dealing with something painful. My immediate reaction is to cut ties with the people who are bringing me pain. Listening to this helped me realize that I won’t be my best self unless I grow in this area instead of running from it and chasing happiness.
So accurate!! You described me perfectly. I’m a 7w6 and I always felt like the “party animal” description of the 7 didn’t really match. Now I realize it’s the wing 6 connection to my family is what keeps me rational :) even down to my very tiny tattoo of the number 4 representing my family of 4. Not the baby footprint per se, but still “family” related. Amazing video! Wish my husband the 1 would listen haha
Glad to have helped. A 7 and a 1- a "classic" comedy combination. Abbot and Costello. (No offense intended.) . I think Ricky and Lucy are also a 7 and 1.
My husband is a 7w6 and I am a 2! Your videos are so helpful especially when you talk about you and your wife, so relatable and helps me understand him better!
I’ve had the hardest time finding my number. I think I’m a 7, but I try to come across as kind, light hearted and caring, because if not people don’t always like me 😂
Fellow 7 here. I find that I've shifted from a 7w6 to a 7w8 gradually from when i was child/teen/young adult to being in my 30's. I care less and less if people like me or not. If they do, great, if not, too bad. Lol
Dude. I love this video, your insights, your whole vibe. I personally am not religious, but overwhelmingly see the importance of spirituality, and I found your mentions of Christianity to be extremely clear-minded and pretty much universally applicable. I have had few self-contained experiences loaded with this much revelation and understanding, from a stranger no less! I really want to thank you and let you know that whoever is coming across your channel is bound to discover meaningful insights about themselves, how they interact with the world, and how holding themselves back is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are helping people the world over. God bless you.
37:58 a couple of years ago my friend confronted me with the fact that I don’t feel my feelings, but I think my feelings. And that I need to learn to feel them because then I can not be so stuck when it came to all the bad stuff that has happened that I could not run away from. It’s been such a long journey but now I can sit with myself, and yes sometimes I have to have music in the background, but I can be in the moment in my feelings and cry it out, let it out and just feel. It has genuinely helped me reach happiness in a way that I never thought was possible. It’s still not my preferred thing to do but I can be present in the moment even when it sucks. I’m so much more confident in my ability to handle the bad stuff now and it speaks to the people around me. I’m no longer just a shallow optimistic person that I was before. But the hope I feel deep down in my bones is now a testimony to those around me of real joy and happiness. I finally feel like I’m tapping into my calling to be the joy.
This is EXCELLENT. My daughter seems to be a 7w6/ESFP.. we got divorced when she was 1 1/2. Shes the most thoughtful, emotionally volatile.. the fomo, boredom, always the experience shes JUST had or is _currently_ having she fears is not enough.. incontent, dissatisfied.. I cant GIVE her enough experiences, entertainment, joy.. She's always moving triple movement.. looking at what everyone else has/is doing and wants it/to do it too. Shes a freedom based creator, material-oriented, explorer. Loves nature.. Shes amazing. Brilliant mind.. shes amazingly natural, the least clumsy. Shes amazing at math, and has a flair for EVERYTHING 🤣 driven for friendship, and for sharing anything she has.. asked me to buy her friend this little stuffed animal bc she lost hers, and saw hers. 🤣 But I see that fear of pain right through it. The enneagram, ive just stumbled onto understanding recently.. the description of the 7, desires and fears totally sums up Im a 3w4?, ENTJ. Almost the worst compatibility.. but ive been studying and studying.. and im not natural at mothering her at all.. but I want to be. 😕 I can't believe how lucky i am to have finally found a 7w6/ESFP producing TH-cam videos. She's so hard to get words out of but the way you've described your thoughts and motivations perfectly matches her actions. Thank you so so so much for this video. I'm bouta binge your videos 😁 Side note.. 7w8s are super ESTPs 👌
I have a 7 w 8 daughter. I call her Wednesday Adams. That's her level of emotion most times.😂 She's an extremely high achieving girl (very 3ish) with a need for adrenaline and tasty foods and snacks. You would think she was a 3 if you met her but she doesn't much care what people think, she has the worst time making choices and fun is really her core driver. She's sarcastic but viewed as nice by everyone. She's very physical and just unreal smart. Very dynamic person.
@@DiamondsRexpensive When we are born, the ego (the enneagram type) isn't there yet. Each center (mental, emotionnal and instinctive) is used equally. We are in the essence. The ego forms itself around 0-2 YO as a way to survive in the world, by doing this, a center is sacrificed by the top one like a scapegoat and gets repressed, and another center supports the top one. Thats where the ego forms, its basicly a lot of hypnotic trances stacked together. We only have 1 type (each type is the 2 types next to it "in a shacker" btw, you can easily see that for the triangle, harder for the rest) and parents are supposed to help you develop so you dont need a second type to survive basicly. When you "get into the real World", around 18-22, you develop another ego (another type next to your type), its like you "lean" to one side and reject the other, developping another type is a way of compensating your type. Its very rare to develop another second wing, only happens after 40 YO and a lot of work on yourself, most people die without a second wing. Idk if that answers or if im even understandable xD What im saying isn't fully correct, its just to give the Idea, take what i say with a grain of salt
Sometimes I feel like a 7w6 sometimes I feel like a 7w8....I’m an ENTP btw Sometimes I compromise in order not to offend someone but other times I’m ruthless and I’ve been dubbed the brutally honest friend and the class clown....also I feel like I will stand up for what I want even if others don’t see it my way. I hate being told what to do and I can come off as sweet but others know me as mean idk it really depends.
Sounds like 7w8 Tbf. I'm an enfp and I'm assertive carefree and intensity seeking like a 7w8 sometimes but I also really struggle with anxiety and doubt
This helped me become clear that I am a 7w6. I find it interesting that most of my "growing up" has come through integrating loss, grief,...breathing through, accepting and experiencing negative states. I feel strongly led to work with the dying at this time of my life. Up to this point though, I have taught dance out of a desire for people to experience well being. I think these high positive states are the best place to create from. I have experienced quite a few significant deaths since I was young. I feel that part of a gift of the 7 is knowing that life is precious. If I can experience that preciousness and share that with someone, I feel deeply connected to why we are here and all of what it is to be human.
I'm a female entp 7w8 and I dont think sensitive people are weak at all. I just personally think emotion more then I actually emote, but I honor and respect everyone's process. I myself am highly empathetic and actually understand my own emotions better by observing more sensitive people, and it has been a tremendous gift to my life.
It's great to hear that you resonate with the idea of empathy and respect for others' emotional processes! Understanding emotions can truly be a gift, and it's wonderful that you've found value in observing sensitive individuals.
My husband and I went through the enneagram during Covid! It was tough to spend that much time together, when we had been apart during the days…before that! He was working and traveling, and that’s just how our life was. Our kids were also home, and this was a life that we just hadn’t been use to! I know lots of people experienced the same thing…we are not the only ones! We have been married for almost 22 years and we have two sons that are almost 21 and 18. My husband is a 7w6 and I am a 6w7. This video was so spot on, and these co tongue to help us navigate through life and understanding one another better! Thank you for putting these out there…they are truly helpful!
Omg, I’m totally a 7w8. I’ve been sooo many things in my life as career wise: worked in Resorts, worked as an international flight attendant for 5 years, I lived in the Caribbean (where I was born) and moved to Europe in my teen years and then moved again to the US many years later. I’m a real estate agent, but I just started studying Psychology, but I’m also an artist and I love to paint and… I’m about to start writing my first book… I mean, I’m all over the place!!! 😂 But I can now understand why I made the choices I did my entire life 😅 Thank you for such a wonderful explanation of the 7 type, you are truly talented and have a great vibe. 🙏😊
I’m a 7w6! You totally nailed it. I’m struggling lately with depression (which of course has confused me because I feel like I’m such a “positive person”) and this really helped me work through some things.
I don’t feel like I avoid emotion - I just have faith in God that he is in control and I’m an optimist. Just came out this way according to my Mom. Was the ‘youngest’ so wanted to be included.
7w8 here (and an ENFP too!)- any other 7w8s who thought they were type 1 or 3 before finding out they were a 7?? It took me really long to figure out which type I was because the tests are soo inaccurate!
yeah, when i first learned about 3s i thought to myself that i used to care more about 'accomplishments', but now i realize they are simply a means to much different goals - enfp 7w8 ;D also, type 1 is the disintegration type for 7s which makes sense that we can relate to that mindset
“We are always thinking about what action we need to take to feel our happiness.” - Dr. Tom LaHue. So true! 7w6 here - it’s really hard to multitask and listen to these when I constantly have to skip ads...
7w8 right here. You're so right about my enneagram illustration haha. Im working on myself by caring more about what people might think about me, and I succeed to cool down my strong energy (which was too strong many many times haha).
My partner is a 7w6 and I'm a 4w5 actually! I feel like we work together incredibly well, as my empath instincts help my partner feel things he may not want to while he becomes a person I can tell my feelings to and help learn that they don't have to control me. Sure, we still don't always face the problem, but that's an issue we still work out, little by little. We have each other to hold on to when the tide gets rough.
Thank you Tom. I'm just starting out on my enniagram journey, I'm definitely a 7w6, this is really helping me learn about myself. Peace and love from Sydney!
Thank you very much for making this video. I’ve been going through life trying to figure things out. And this just explains it all. 7w8 and now I understand why I do what I do.
As a 7, Im so glad I found your videos. Definitely learning a lot about myself and hoping to use this knowledge to focus on what I can do to live more in the moment
Thankyou, that was helpful...You described my two sons....one is 7w6 social and the other is 7w8 sexual. Its been so interesting as a mother seeing their differences and similarities.
Really glad I found your videos, thank you for making them. I was really into MBTI for about a year, but recently found that enneagram is a lot more dynamic. I am an ENFP and really enjoyed you talking about 7w6. You're right about being us being sensitive!
Thanks for sharing Tom. Awesome input, full of richness & depth. This is so valuable. So in mbti terms, which I understand don't necesserily go hand in hand with the enneastyles, the (Ne-Fi) Doms are more likely 7s w6, & the (Se-Fi) Doms are more likely 7s w8. Both have a tertiary (Te), which makes total sense, because all types have a natural disposition towards their tertiary cognitive function & show that function in its most genuine & its rawest form. Nice concluding ending. My genuine appreciation. Tarik (INFJ 6w7)
Thnk you Dr. Lahue. The great thing is your sharing, which obviously takes a lot of preparation, summarization, & most importantly connecting between all of that information meanwhile delivering it in a palatable manner. That in itself is a gift. Thanks again for sharing.
I'm laughing... I'm a 7, and I was diagnosed bipolar after having my son. He was in the NICU and I had a manic episode. My husband is a 9... So while I was in the hospital he went and played Pokemon go, and I was in the NICU going "oh everything is great!" We've learned more about our selves in watching your videos than 6 years of therapy! So thank you!
Tom, love, I REALLY enjoy your work. I just want to throw in that here you said, "If you're a Christian, pray." People pray who are not Christians. People pray who think they don't pray. And .. thanks for all you do.
7w8 makes really sense for me .. I got very stressed just watching a 5 sec add .. It’s ridiculous ! I’ve lost my positive attitude , but it starting to come back lately..almost forgotten who I really am.. thank you !
Yes I would appreciate if you didn’t throw the term bipolar around. My mom is bipolar and it’s a condition and it’s nothing like a 7. I know people like to use that phrase a lot and misuse it. But it’s not a personality thing, it’s a mental state thing.
I also use my six wing to access sobriety through work. I use my 8 wing to get off my butt and get started. I like how 8 helps me get over that 6 wing fear of other people's opinions. It protects my freedom. By learning how to attend to the needs of the 6 i have shifted my attachment style from avoidant withholding toward healthy confident. I find that in studying the enneagram i keep gaining more and more freedom to access the strengths of the different strategies 7w8-joe rogan, danny devito, rhea perlman, bill burr, all mediterrenean cultures.
I love your videos! This video convinced me I am indeed a 7w6, and now it's super clear to me. I love how you describe the wings and it makes so much more sense now
I'm a 7w6 and when you talked about tattoos.... I literally have SO MANY ideas for tattoos that are tributes to life and love. I got my first one in December, and it's daisies in front of a crescent moon, for my mom, because her name is Daisy and she always says "I love you to the moon and back". I'm also gonna get one for my dad, and one that's a tribute to all the pets I've loved and lost. What an interesting thing to identify with in a video!! I didn't even expect that!!
Thank you so much for that awesome video, Dr. Tom! I now know without a doubt that I’m a 7w6 and can start on the (very long) road to self-improvement. ❤️
I flow between both wings. I tap into 8 when I have to defend or cuss someone out. Watch out! It's shocking how tough I can become. I use the 5 arrow in how I solve problems. When I'm solving problems and finding solutions I totally look like a 5. I use the 1 arrow to get things done that have to be done and also to cut someone down to there flaws and faults when I feel threatened or crossed. That 7 sunny demeanor goes to the background if I feel threatened, disrespected or mistaken for weak. Otherwise I'm really pleasant and fun most of the time.😂 I'm a 7 w 6.
Dr Tom I love your Enneagram Type series I have been listening to you for over a month now and I’ve learned so much. I love how realistic and humble your approach is and your adult kids are very knowledgeable and relatable tooThank you for doing this. Continue your great work Elizabeth Norqual
So clearly explained!!! Thank you. I'd dare to say that we're one of the most misunderstood (and precisely difficult to understand) eneatypes.. bc usually our characterizations are so shallow, just like how the 7ven itself is considered to be.. But it takes a real 7ven to accurately convey the complexity of our type and not stay only with the always 'high, hyperactive, euphoric, soul-of-the-party, clownsy' definition of a 7. Here a twin (social) 7w6. Love your work, Dr Lahue!!!
Thanks dr! Humorous enneagram analysis, i am a 7w8 but an infp. I found myself laughing out loud when you described certain scenarios.. it rings so true.
Im an ENTP and i suspect im a 7w8 but i could also be a 4w3. I have a streak some would call perfectionistic, but i consider myself to be an optimalist. Nothing fills me up with a greater sense of freedom than to discover a new approach to a standard situation. I am HIGHLY competitive and hard on myself. But also am a firm believer in discovery and anti conventiality. When i need to escape i try to imagine the life i always wanted to earn. Realistically, i just got fired after grinding for 4 years to find a job. They didnt even want to fire me. I had a bad day and made a mistake that got me fired. The past 5 days have been VERY Turbulent. Because it was a good job, i had made some big plans really quick.
Interesting. Can relate with so much you say. I am a 7w6 and an ENFP. I am turning 67 next month which I bring up because it's hard having so many years to consider for reference. I feel my feelings constantly and escape is fleeting although I do try of course. ;) Gratitude and contentment, (I've been there before) eludes me right now. I am in the place we fear most. But something my years have also given me is the knowing things get better. Just wish I could find the fast-forward button on the remote!
infp 7 w 8 here,thank you for info ,i always had this fire to go get what i passionate about,and when its start to get hard in a way that where i found my strength ,to stand for what i believe and to stand for the peoples i love ,some may think that kindness and compassion is something they can exploit that when the wing 8 comes out to rampage,you can be kind and emphatic and loving and compassionate but if others think they can bully you or exploit your good nature you just gona demolish them if they get in your way,there is always this rotation like a butterfly be gentle and sensitive and emotional and if threaten the phoenix comes out or when you have certain challenge you face or dream that ignite that spark ,almost if the passion or inspiration and happiness give you life,to do everyday something a bit new never get stuck in same routine have it modified a bit so the passion won't fade away.
Great. I found a fellow INFP 7w8. I'm kind of pissed at people generalizing INFPs idealistic and too emotional when actually Fi is all about internalizing and hiding emotions. I guess INFPs with 7w8 had developed their Te and Ne. Truth is, being type 7 you try to exhaust yourself with ideas and work (Ne) so you can get out of the Fi-Si loop. I don't want to keep remembering my past mistakes and guilt so in order to move forward I use Ne. We're the most practical idealist. Lol.
ENFP type 7 here (+ADHD) 🙋♂️ I type dual wing 6/8….a lot here made *a lot* of sense LOL. I do go through the best and worst of both worlds. I’d say that I most often speak “7w8 things” with a “7w6 filter” so it’s less blunt and I just search for a more cordial way to convey it…unless my goal is to shock and get your attention or if I’m feeling spicy 🌶 As if my brain is mostly an 8 and my mouth is mostly 6. 😆 The two of them talk a lot - it’s often like the 6 is sitting on my left shoulder 😇 and 8 sits on my right 😈.
I am definitely a 7w6 wow so accurate! Definitely sensitive, people oriented, playful, goofy, a little fearful sometimes. I am also an enfp and 729 tritype.
This was very helpful for myself! I’ve watched quite a few of your videos and really enjoy they! Thank you! I’m a 7w6 ENFP and related so much to all you’ve said!
Awesome 👏 So much thank you! 🙏I am listening as I am working out enneagram of myself and my hubby.... I got it- he is ISFP 9v8, 7v6, 4v3 or 2. Not definitive on it. Me- ENFJ 2v1, 5v4 and showing 9v1( this one I really think 9v8)... as I have strong 8 somewhere... this self discovery is so awesome and so informative for self growth... so thank you and all people with pure motives doing this... who knows?! Maybe one day I might join you☺️
D. McG. Ha! My hubs is the same ISFP 9 w 8. I kept seeing his calm phlegmatic 9 type but was mystified until Enneagram when smacking into the toughness of 8. I’m a 2 w 3 ENFP.
9w8 Hubby. Dr Tom, we laughed when you recommended watching Clint Eastwood movies, cause we have watched every single Clint Eastwood movie (He’s a 9 so over and over) Gran Torino was the most fun!
I am a 9w8 and I’ve been told that your not supposed to know what your kids are and I’m not tested any of mine they are all really little. I’m pretty sure that my middle daughter is a 7w6. She’s the funniest child I’ve ever met but so hard to get onto her she just doesn’t care. Honestly though just knowing she might be a 7 helps so much.
As a 7, when you said that 7s need to learn to accept pain and not need any stimulus, all of my brain cells and my toes curled. I don't know how you do it but you always find the right trigger words, I'm undone 🤯 😅
This video really helped with my identification as a 7w6, so thank you for that! However, one small thing that still is causing me a bit of doubt with this is how I can get apathetic towards things when I am dissatisfied, or feel that the grass could be greener elsewhere... Does apathy as a response still fit with a 7w6 type?
Oh I just cried so hard! I knew I was a 7 but was struggling with my wing. Then the very detailed description of a wing 6! Holy cow! Thanks buddy! Yes I’m so fricken sensitive and I hate it but I am😭🤣 oh crap!
I think its important for everyone to be more aware of their use of language, and not use diagnostics like "bipolar" to describe day to day experiences. Its insulting for people who genuinely live with the condition, its really debilitating and not just a facet of personality or temperament, but a genuinely severe mental illness which destroys lives and kills people. I find it difficult to hear people throw the word bipolar around so casually, and im sure anyone who genuinely lives with it, also feels the same. It waters down the meaning of it. Its not a cute quirky trendy thing, its devastating, but you'd be surprised how many people think its edgy to declare they have bipolar (when they clearly don't) x
Thank you Tom for these precious videos! I am a 4 and have a 7 in my life and I see that it could do SO good for him to learn to embrace the darker side of the life also, like we fours do (and yeah, we're damn good at it). But it's awesome to have a seven in your life, especially I think so as a four, otherwise I would be just there in the darkest pit weeping on my own all the time. 😂
Thank you Thank you! This has really helped. I never knew which Wing I was. I always knew I was a 7 but some aspects of it never really seemed to be who I am. Now that I know I have a 6 Wing I can totally get it. Thanks for explaining all of this to us in an easy-to-understand way! I am loving learning about the Enneagram and so are my two daughters. My husband not so much. I think he's a three or at 1. 🤷
22:55 so real for my dad. He's a 7w8. He spends money recklessly and give the money to me. I remember talking to him about his personal life. I said something like "if you feel sad, talk to me." He was such in denial XD
Hi, Dr. Tom - just want to say thank you for helping me clarify that I'm a 7w6. I was pretty sure that was the case, but it can be tricky, right? I'm Riso-Hudson certified and have studied the Enneagram almost 20 years, but the wing information always seems either scant or confusing, since I definitely see some 8 influence in me. But what you said about edginess and sentimentality sealed the deal for me! Also, love it that you're a Christian, too. Thanks again!
I'm between wing 6 and 8. I was an 8 a few years ago but now I'm becoming more and more 6. So I'm in the middle of 7w6 and 7w8. It's great to know that I'm growing. Thank you for your video, it was helpful.
My rollercoaster mind when identifying I'm a 7 on the enneagram "Ya! Of course I am.." only seeing the possibility... then hearing all the negative side of a 7 specifically 7w8, "Ugh... but that's in my past, let's move forward!"
😂😂😂🤣 I'm a 7, and I am dying about ur tattoo comment lol, i have my kids names but also tattoos i did "just bc" while being younger and wild. I had found out that after became a mother I ground myself so much, I still have. Child like and free spirit who loves have fun but now I do it in the form of showing my kid the world so they can find their passion, while i enjoy see then experience new things and building new memories. Funny part my oldest is 5 and sometimes I had struggled understanding where he comes from bc he loves be t home and hopefully left alone haha... So we try to compromise to find a sweet spot where we both fulfill
Thanks for another insightful video, Dr. Tom. I have a few 7 friends, and I'm pleased to find out that they are actually 7w6s instead of 7w8s. This info means a lot to me, since I am a 6w7. Keep up the excellent work!
Hi Dr Tom, Thanks for your great work. Been on a 2 year journey to discover that i'm a 7w8... to be honest i'v probably been in denial about it for a while haha. I appreciate your work.
interesting. i'm a 9w8 with 974 tritype, but for so long i had this doubt of being a 6w7 fix instead of a 7w6. yeah after watching this video i finally understood their difference and can definitely feel this connection with 7w6 personality, even if it's more introverted and calmer since it's blending with the 9 xD
7w6 starts at 14:00
7w8 starts at 23:50
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For me as a 7w8, I REALLY struggle with denial. I will deny everything to the point of it being unhealthy. I will also ignore physical and emotional pain. I will make myself busy and pack my schedule to the point of convincing myself I don’t have time to deal with this. But I definitely agree about the evading pain thing I specifically use denial and businesses as a tactic. I also reframe a lot of things from a negative to positive perspective. And I am painfully logical. I have like no emotions and the ones I do I run full force from. But I really struggle not to be brutally honest and I tend to be oblivious to or annoyed by sensitive and emotional people. I’m also just motivated by having fun. The only way I do anything productive is by finding something fun to look forward to as a goal or incorporating small things that I enjoy into things that I hate which are mundane.
What's your mbti type
Interesting. I am a 7w8 too, but I’m a realist
“ENFP…P’s don’t need a plan, they just need permission”….ONE HUNDRED PERCENT, my fellow 7 :)
Oh boy. I’m definitely 7w8. Thanks for the great breakdown!
Hey Joey. Are you familiar with the website personality database? You are typed as an INTJ 6w5 there
@@yubia5216 Strange. That's probably based purely off someone's guess. I'm definitely closer to ENTP.
Woah joey 💪🏽
Cheers Joey! I knew there was something about you that i felt pretty identified with. It makes sense now.
Same my dude. I subed on that, not much on 7w8 talking bout it.
You're confused about how to bring joy and don't realize that you do exactly that through these videos! You are changing lives. Making people smile. Helping people understand each other in their relationships. You're doing amazing things. Thanks for providing me with the knowledge to understand the people around me. -5w4
I am a blunt, bold, totally edgy 7w8 indeed! :D Although I am determined and persistent when I truly want something, I experience a different problem as a young adult. Namely, it is SO HARD to decide what I want; I like a lot of things and do not want to commit to a career because I am scared that I would not enjoy it as much or that I would not get paid enough to fulfill my other desires like traveling and trying out new things. The fear of missing out is oftentimes nerve-wracking. And as a true 7w8 I'll stop being all emotional and go out get myself a nice cold beer!
i am 100% like you (ESTP-A 7W8)
Oha i feel you so much
@@AboslloomENFP 7w8
Amazing! I'm a 7w6 and also an enfp and I appreciate this so much!
OMFG Wtf I’m an ENFP and I think a 7 too wild
@@ArtOfShannonLee IM A 7w6 AND ENFP TOO AAAA
I'm an ENFP too... And 7w6....woah
omg i'm also 7w6 and enfp!!
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Wow. This was extremely helpful. It was definitely difficult to listen to, but I persevered. I am a type 7w8 and I am currently dealing with something painful. My immediate reaction is to cut ties with the people who are bringing me pain. Listening to this helped me realize that I won’t be my best self unless I grow in this area instead of running from it and chasing happiness.
I am an ENFP, social 7w6!! You are teaching me so much! Can’t believe how much of this fits for me. Thank-you!!
So accurate!! You described me perfectly. I’m a 7w6 and I always felt like the “party animal” description of the 7 didn’t really match. Now I realize it’s the wing 6 connection to my family is what keeps me rational :) even down to my very tiny tattoo of the number 4 representing my family of 4. Not the baby footprint per se, but still “family” related. Amazing video! Wish my husband the 1 would listen haha
Glad to have helped. A 7 and a 1- a "classic" comedy combination. Abbot and Costello. (No offense intended.) . I think Ricky and Lucy are also a 7 and 1.
@@twlahue after 30 years of marriage - we still crack each other up :)
My husband is a 7w6 and I am a 2! Your videos are so helpful especially when you talk about you and your wife, so relatable and helps me understand him better!
Awesome, glad the videos help.
I’ve had the hardest time finding my number. I think I’m a 7, but I try to come across as kind, light hearted and caring, because if not people don’t always like me 😂
Interesting...my daughter is an 8w7 and she feels the same way.
Fellow 7 here. I find that I've shifted from a 7w6 to a 7w8 gradually from when i was child/teen/young adult to being in my 30's. I care less and less if people like me or not. If they do, great, if not, too bad. Lol
Dude. I love this video, your insights, your whole vibe. I personally am not religious, but overwhelmingly see the importance of spirituality, and I found your mentions of Christianity to be extremely clear-minded and pretty much universally applicable. I have had few self-contained experiences loaded with this much revelation and understanding, from a stranger no less! I really want to thank you and let you know that whoever is coming across your channel is bound to discover meaningful insights about themselves, how they interact with the world, and how holding themselves back is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are helping people the world over. God bless you.
37:58 a couple of years ago my friend confronted me with the fact that I don’t feel my feelings, but I think my feelings. And that I need to learn to feel them because then I can not be so stuck when it came to all the bad stuff that has happened that I could not run away from. It’s been such a long journey but now I can sit with myself, and yes sometimes I have to have music in the background, but I can be in the moment in my feelings and cry it out, let it out and just feel. It has genuinely helped me reach happiness in a way that I never thought was possible. It’s still not my preferred thing to do but I can be present in the moment even when it sucks. I’m so much more confident in my ability to handle the bad stuff now and it speaks to the people around me. I’m no longer just a shallow optimistic person that I was before. But the hope I feel deep down in my bones is now a testimony to those around me of real joy and happiness. I finally feel like I’m tapping into my calling to be the joy.
Yes, I am so glad.
This is EXCELLENT. My daughter seems to be a 7w6/ESFP.. we got divorced when she was 1 1/2. Shes the most thoughtful, emotionally volatile.. the fomo, boredom, always the experience shes JUST had or is _currently_ having she fears is not enough.. incontent, dissatisfied..
I cant GIVE her enough experiences, entertainment, joy..
She's always moving triple movement.. looking at what everyone else has/is doing and wants it/to do it too.
Shes a freedom based creator, material-oriented, explorer. Loves nature..
Shes amazing. Brilliant mind.. shes amazingly natural, the least clumsy.
Shes amazing at math, and has a flair for EVERYTHING 🤣 driven for friendship, and for sharing anything she has.. asked me to buy her friend this little stuffed animal bc she lost hers, and saw hers. 🤣
But I see that fear of pain right through it. The enneagram, ive just stumbled onto understanding recently.. the description of the 7, desires and fears totally sums up
Im a 3w4?, ENTJ. Almost the worst compatibility.. but ive been studying and studying.. and im not natural at mothering her at all.. but I want to be. 😕
I can't believe how lucky i am to have finally found a 7w6/ESFP producing TH-cam videos.
She's so hard to get words out of but the way you've described your thoughts and motivations perfectly matches her actions.
Thank you so so so much for this video.
I'm bouta binge your videos 😁
Side note..
7w8s are super ESTPs 👌
Yes... Ariel from the Little Mermaid.
@@twlahue omg yes! Ha, never made that connection, but thats spot on!
I´m a ENTP and a 7w8. It helped me get to know myself more!
Great.
Me too! That’s so interesting
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I’m ENFP and thiiiink I’m a 7 too!
saaaame
I have a 7 w 8 daughter. I call her Wednesday Adams. That's her level of emotion most times.😂 She's an extremely high achieving girl (very 3ish) with a need for adrenaline and tasty foods and snacks. You would think she was a 3 if you met her but she doesn't much care what people think, she has the worst time making choices and fun is really her core driver. She's sarcastic but viewed as nice by everyone. She's very physical and just unreal smart. Very dynamic person.
The wing grows at 18 to 22 yo, children dont have wings
@@falendal2587Prove it
@@DiamondsRexpensive i can explain why if u want
@@falendal2587 Sure why not?
@@DiamondsRexpensive When we are born, the ego (the enneagram type) isn't there yet. Each center (mental, emotionnal and instinctive) is used equally. We are in the essence. The ego forms itself around 0-2 YO as a way to survive in the world, by doing this, a center is sacrificed by the top one like a scapegoat and gets repressed, and another center supports the top one. Thats where the ego forms, its basicly a lot of hypnotic trances stacked together.
We only have 1 type (each type is the 2 types next to it "in a shacker" btw, you can easily see that for the triangle, harder for the rest) and parents are supposed to help you develop so you dont need a second type to survive basicly. When you "get into the real World", around 18-22, you develop another ego (another type next to your type), its like you "lean" to one side and reject the other, developping another type is a way of compensating your type. Its very rare to develop another second wing, only happens after 40 YO and a lot of work on yourself, most people die without a second wing.
Idk if that answers or if im even understandable xD
What im saying isn't fully correct, its just to give the Idea, take what i say with a grain of salt
Sometimes I feel like a 7w6 sometimes I feel like a 7w8....I’m an ENTP btw
Sometimes I compromise in order not to offend someone but other times I’m ruthless and I’ve been dubbed the brutally honest friend and the class clown....also I feel like I will stand up for what I want even if others don’t see it my way. I hate being told what to do and I can come off as sweet but others know me as mean idk it really depends.
hecc yea same
So relatable.
-fellow ENTP
Sounds like 7w8 Tbf. I'm an enfp and I'm assertive carefree and intensity seeking like a 7w8 sometimes but I also really struggle with anxiety and doubt
This helped me become clear that I am a 7w6. I find it interesting that most of my "growing up" has come through integrating loss, grief,...breathing through, accepting and experiencing negative states. I feel strongly led to work with the dying at this time of my life. Up to this point though, I have taught dance out of a desire for people to experience well being. I think these high positive states are the best place to create from. I have experienced quite a few significant deaths since I was young. I feel that part of a gift of the 7 is knowing that life is precious. If I can experience that preciousness and share that with someone, I feel deeply connected to why we are here and all of what it is to be human.
26:25 7w8 Gluttony + Lust/Intensity
I'm a female entp 7w8 and I dont think sensitive people are weak at all. I just personally think emotion more then I actually emote, but I honor and respect everyone's process. I myself am highly empathetic and actually understand my own emotions better by observing more sensitive people, and it has been a tremendous gift to my life.
It's great to hear that you resonate with the idea of empathy and respect for others' emotional processes! Understanding emotions can truly be a gift, and it's wonderful that you've found value in observing sensitive individuals.
My husband and I went through the enneagram during Covid! It was tough to spend that much time together, when we had been apart during the days…before that! He was working and traveling, and that’s just how our life was. Our kids were also home, and this was a life that we just hadn’t been use to! I know lots of people experienced the same thing…we are not the only ones! We have been married for almost 22 years and we have two sons that are almost 21 and 18. My husband is a 7w6 and I am a 6w7. This video was so spot on, and these co tongue to help us navigate through life and understanding one another better! Thank you for putting these out there…they are truly helpful!
Omg, I’m totally a 7w8. I’ve been sooo many things in my life as career wise: worked in Resorts, worked as an international flight attendant for 5 years, I lived in the Caribbean (where I was born) and moved to Europe in my teen years and then moved again to the US many years later. I’m a real estate agent, but I just started studying Psychology, but I’m also an artist and I love to paint and… I’m about to start writing my first book…
I mean, I’m all over the place!!! 😂
But I can now understand why I made the choices I did my entire life 😅
Thank you for such a wonderful explanation of the 7 type, you are truly talented and have a great vibe. 🙏😊
I’m a 7w6! You totally nailed it. I’m struggling lately with depression (which of course has confused me because I feel like I’m such a “positive person”) and this really helped me work through some things.
I'm on the same page. Let's talk about it. Talking to strangers really helps us. Here is my email address bbytrop@yahoo.com
I don’t feel like I avoid emotion - I just have faith in God that he is in control and I’m an optimist. Just came out this way according to my Mom. Was the ‘youngest’ so wanted to be included.
7w8 here (and an ENFP too!)- any other 7w8s who thought they were type 1 or 3 before finding out they were a 7?? It took me really long to figure out which type I was because the tests are soo inaccurate!
yeah, when i first learned about 3s i thought to myself that i used to care more about 'accomplishments', but now i realize they are simply a means to much different goals - enfp 7w8 ;D also, type 1 is the disintegration type for 7s which makes sense that we can relate to that mindset
7w8 Enfp here 👋
“We are always thinking about what action we need to take to feel our happiness.” - Dr. Tom LaHue. So true! 7w6 here - it’s really hard to multitask and listen to these when I constantly have to skip ads...
7w8 right here. You're so right about my enneagram illustration haha. Im working on myself by caring more about what people might think about me, and I succeed to cool down my strong energy (which was too strong many many times haha).
You got this!
Thanks for this video: I am a 7w6 and you describe me so well. Glutony and fear. The collections. The thinking. Wow.
entj 7w8 here and i found this to be very useful! love the way you explain things, super dynamic and relatable :)
Wow same
Figuring out if I'm a 7w8 or 9w8 ENTJ. Either way these both seem rare for us ENTJs
My partner is a 7w6 and I'm a 4w5 actually! I feel like we work together incredibly well, as my empath instincts help my partner feel things he may not want to while he becomes a person I can tell my feelings to and help learn that they don't have to control me. Sure, we still don't always face the problem, but that's an issue we still work out, little by little. We have each other to hold on to when the tide gets rough.
Thank you Tom. I'm just starting out on my enniagram journey, I'm definitely a 7w6, this is really helping me learn about myself. Peace and love from Sydney!
I'm an ESFP and a 7w8. Thankies!
Thank you very much for making this video. I’ve been going through life trying to figure things out. And this just explains it all. 7w8 and now I understand why I do what I do.
As a 7, Im so glad I found your videos. Definitely learning a lot about myself and hoping to use this knowledge to focus on what I can do to live more in the moment
Thankyou, that was helpful...You described my two sons....one is 7w6 social and the other is 7w8 sexual. Its been so interesting as a mother seeing their differences and similarities.
Really glad I found your videos, thank you for making them. I was really into MBTI for about a year, but recently found that enneagram is a lot more dynamic. I am an ENFP and really enjoyed you talking about 7w6. You're right about being us being sensitive!
Thanks for sharing Tom. Awesome input, full of richness & depth. This is so valuable. So in mbti terms, which I understand don't necesserily go hand in hand with the enneastyles, the (Ne-Fi) Doms are more likely 7s w6, & the (Se-Fi) Doms are more likely 7s w8. Both have a tertiary (Te), which makes total sense, because all types have a natural disposition towards their tertiary cognitive function & show that function in its most genuine & its rawest form.
Nice concluding ending.
My genuine appreciation.
Tarik (INFJ 6w7)
Wow, that was deep. Good stuff. Thanks.
Thnk you Dr. Lahue. The great thing is your sharing, which obviously takes a lot of preparation, summarization, & most importantly connecting between all of that information meanwhile delivering it in a palatable manner. That in itself is a gift.
Thanks again for sharing.
I'm laughing... I'm a 7, and I was diagnosed bipolar after having my son. He was in the NICU and I had a manic episode. My husband is a 9... So while I was in the hospital he went and played Pokemon go, and I was in the NICU going "oh everything is great!" We've learned more about our selves in watching your videos than 6 years of therapy! So thank you!
Tom, love, I REALLY enjoy your work. I just want to throw in that here you said, "If you're a Christian, pray." People pray who are not Christians. People pray who think they don't pray. And .. thanks for all you do.
7w8 makes really sense for me .. I got very stressed just watching a 5 sec add .. It’s ridiculous ! I’ve lost my positive attitude , but it starting to come back lately..almost forgotten who I really am.. thank you !
Your such a 7 wing 6. Thank you Tom for your help. I feel like I couldn’t have gone through this Journey without you. Keep it going!!!
Yes I would appreciate if you didn’t throw the term bipolar around. My mom is bipolar and it’s a condition and it’s nothing like a 7. I know people like to use that phrase a lot and misuse it. But it’s not a personality thing, it’s a mental state thing.
I like that, just sit still and prayer. Great info. Exactly what God wants me to know.
I’m obsessed with your videos and sending them to all of my friends! Learning so much! Thank you so much for doing these 🙌🏼❤️🤩
I also use my six wing to access sobriety through work. I use my 8 wing to get off my butt and get started. I like how 8 helps me get over that 6 wing fear of other people's opinions. It protects my freedom. By learning how to attend to the needs of the 6 i have shifted my attachment style from avoidant withholding toward healthy confident. I find that in studying the enneagram i keep gaining more and more freedom to access the strengths of the different strategies
7w8-joe rogan, danny devito, rhea perlman, bill burr, all mediterrenean cultures.
I love your videos! This video convinced me I am indeed a 7w6, and now it's super clear to me. I love how you describe the wings and it makes so much more sense now
I'm a 7w6 and when you talked about tattoos.... I literally have SO MANY ideas for tattoos that are tributes to life and love. I got my first one in December, and it's daisies in front of a crescent moon, for my mom, because her name is Daisy and she always says "I love you to the moon and back". I'm also gonna get one for my dad, and one that's a tribute to all the pets I've loved and lost. What an interesting thing to identify with in a video!! I didn't even expect that!!
"Through the eyes of the kids" those are words I’ve used too I love coming up with adventures for my children not only for them but for me too.
Thank you so much for that awesome video, Dr. Tom! I now know without a doubt that I’m a 7w6 and can start on the (very long) road to self-improvement. ❤️
You can do it!
I flow between both wings. I tap into 8 when I have to defend or cuss someone out. Watch out! It's shocking how tough I can become. I use the 5 arrow in how I solve problems. When I'm solving problems and finding solutions I totally look like a 5. I use the 1 arrow to get things done that have to be done and also to cut someone down to there flaws and faults when I feel threatened or crossed. That 7 sunny demeanor goes to the background if I feel threatened, disrespected or mistaken for weak. Otherwise I'm really pleasant and fun most of the time.😂 I'm a 7 w 6.
7w8 starts around 23:20
Thank you!
22:51
Dr Tom I love your Enneagram Type series I have been listening to you for over a month now and I’ve learned so much. I love how realistic and humble your approach is and your adult kids are very knowledgeable and relatable tooThank you for doing this. Continue your great work Elizabeth Norqual
So clearly explained!!! Thank you. I'd dare to say that we're one of the most misunderstood (and precisely difficult to understand) eneatypes.. bc usually our characterizations are so shallow, just like how the 7ven itself is considered to be.. But it takes a real 7ven to accurately convey the complexity of our type and not stay only with the always 'high, hyperactive, euphoric, soul-of-the-party, clownsy' definition of a 7. Here a twin (social) 7w6. Love your work, Dr Lahue!!!
I am a 7w8 and this video was very well made and brought loads of clarity, thank you sir
Thanks dr! Humorous enneagram analysis, i am a 7w8 but an infp. I found myself laughing out loud when you described certain scenarios.. it rings so true.
Im an ENTP and i suspect im a 7w8 but i could also be a 4w3. I have a streak some would call perfectionistic, but i consider myself to be an optimalist. Nothing fills me up with a greater sense of freedom than to discover a new approach to a standard situation. I am HIGHLY competitive and hard on myself. But also am a firm believer in discovery and anti conventiality. When i need to escape i try to imagine the life i always wanted to earn. Realistically, i just got fired after grinding for 4 years to find a job. They didnt even want to fire me. I had a bad day and made a mistake that got me fired. The past 5 days have been VERY Turbulent. Because it was a good job, i had made some big plans really quick.
37:29 you nailed it there, very precise and concise
Very Interesting. I’m an ENTP 7w8 Who Thought They Were a 7w6. I took the Cloverleaf Test and I Identify Completely With Your Observation of the 7w8.
Interesting. Can relate with so much you say. I am a 7w6 and an ENFP. I am turning 67 next month which I bring up because it's hard having so many years to consider for reference. I feel my feelings constantly and escape is fleeting although I do try of course. ;) Gratitude and contentment, (I've been there before) eludes me right now. I am in the place we fear most. But something my years have also given me is the knowing things get better. Just wish I could find the fast-forward button on the remote!
infp 7 w 8 here,thank you for info ,i always had this fire to go get what i passionate about,and when its start to get hard in a way that where i found my strength ,to stand for what i believe and to stand for the peoples i love ,some may think that kindness and compassion is something they can exploit that when the wing 8 comes out to rampage,you can be kind and emphatic and loving and compassionate but if others think they can bully you or exploit your good nature you just gona demolish them if they get in your way,there is always this rotation like a butterfly be gentle and sensitive and emotional and if threaten the phoenix comes out or when you have certain challenge you face or dream that ignite that spark ,almost if the passion or inspiration and happiness give you life,to do everyday something a bit new never get stuck in same routine have it modified a bit so the passion won't fade away.
Great. I found a fellow INFP 7w8. I'm kind of pissed at people generalizing INFPs idealistic and too emotional when actually Fi is all about internalizing and hiding emotions. I guess INFPs with 7w8 had developed their Te and Ne. Truth is, being type 7 you try to exhaust yourself with ideas and work (Ne) so you can get out of the Fi-Si loop. I don't want to keep remembering my past mistakes and guilt so in order to move forward I use Ne. We're the most practical idealist. Lol.
You being ENFP- 7... boy, respect you even more🌹🌹🌹
:-) Right...Thanks. The challenge is always to "focus."
Dr. Tom LaHue Yep!! ENFP is full on on top with 7: atomic bomb!!! But You doing amazing work on yourself 💯👍🙏🌸
@@Dani-jo9yr I am also an ENFP 7. Aaaaand damn I really need focus and delegation of my tasks via writing it to remeber
The Awesome Dreb Awareness of it is the key, I would say... you got this💯💪👏😁😆
@@Dani-jo9yr I just need consistency to do things in a focused manner
8w7 here, and this video was very helpful. thanks Tom!
ENFP type 7 here (+ADHD) 🙋♂️ I type dual wing 6/8….a lot here made *a lot* of sense LOL.
I do go through the best and worst of both worlds. I’d say that I most often speak “7w8 things” with a “7w6 filter” so it’s less blunt and I just search for a more cordial way to convey it…unless my goal is to shock and get your attention or if I’m feeling spicy 🌶 As if my brain is mostly an 8 and my mouth is mostly 6. 😆
The two of them talk a lot - it’s often like the 6 is sitting on my left shoulder 😇 and 8 sits on my right 😈.
I love your videos...I'm a 7 too and find myself laughing and nodding in agreement whenever I watch you. Thanks for all you share :)
Haha man the way you described 7w6 and then said your were an ENFP and THEN described your kids I was like “the ship has landed” 😂
Blessings.
I am definitely a 7w6 wow so accurate! Definitely sensitive, people oriented, playful, goofy, a little fearful sometimes. I am also an enfp and 729 tritype.
Thanks for sharing!!
Lol the “we don’t have…” and “I don’t care” convo is tooo real 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This was very helpful for myself! I’ve watched quite a few of your videos and really enjoy they! Thank you! I’m a 7w6 ENFP and related so much to all you’ve said!
Man. I feel attacked! 😂 I’m definitely a 7w8.
Can’t wait for 9w1 and 9w8 episode!!!
This week. :-)
I like being a ENTP 7W6. It's pretty fun.
Awesome 👏 So much thank you! 🙏I am listening as I am working out enneagram of myself and my hubby.... I got it- he is ISFP 9v8, 7v6, 4v3 or 2. Not definitive on it. Me- ENFJ 2v1, 5v4 and showing 9v1( this one I really think 9v8)... as I have strong 8 somewhere... this self discovery is so awesome and so informative for self growth... so thank you and all people with pure motives doing this... who knows?! Maybe one day I might join you☺️
Thank you for the comment. I would love to watch your videos one day :-)
Dr. Tom LaHue ohh so nice, maybe... maybe...😊😊
D. McG. Ha! My hubs is the same ISFP 9 w 8. I kept seeing his calm phlegmatic 9 type but was mystified until Enneagram when smacking into the toughness of 8. I’m a 2 w 3 ENFP.
9w8 Hubby. Dr Tom, we laughed when you recommended watching Clint Eastwood movies, cause we have watched every single Clint Eastwood movie (He’s a 9 so over and over) Gran Torino was the most fun!
I am a 9w8 and I’ve been told that your not supposed to know what your kids are and I’m not tested any of mine they are all really little. I’m pretty sure that my middle daughter is a 7w6. She’s the funniest child I’ve ever met but so hard to get onto her she just doesn’t care. Honestly though just knowing she might be a 7 helps so much.
As a 7, when you said that 7s need to learn to accept pain and not need any stimulus, all of my brain cells and my toes curled. I don't know how you do it but you always find the right trigger words, I'm undone 🤯 😅
Very helpful information. You described my 7w6 sister perfectly. Many thanks!
Great to hear!
Tattoos are too much of a commitment 🤣 I’d regret it!
This video really helped with my identification as a 7w6, so thank you for that!
However, one small thing that still is causing me a bit of doubt with this is how I can get apathetic towards things when I am dissatisfied, or feel that the grass could be greener elsewhere...
Does apathy as a response still fit with a 7w6 type?
My wife is definitely a 6 wing. 8w7 here, these nuances are a lot broader then originally thought.
Oh I just cried so hard! I knew I was a 7 but was struggling with my wing. Then the very detailed description of a wing 6! Holy cow! Thanks buddy! Yes I’m so fricken sensitive and I hate it but I am😭🤣 oh crap!
7 wing 6, you've described my son perfectly. Thank-you!
Perfect!
Ive always called it "glust" :D
Oh dear 😬😅 (my bf is a 7)
I think its important for everyone to be more aware of their use of language, and not use diagnostics like "bipolar" to describe day to day experiences. Its insulting for people who genuinely live with the condition, its really debilitating and not just a facet of personality or temperament, but a genuinely severe mental illness which destroys lives and kills people. I find it difficult to hear people throw the word bipolar around so casually, and im sure anyone who genuinely lives with it, also feels the same. It waters down the meaning of it. Its not a cute quirky trendy thing, its devastating, but you'd be surprised how many people think its edgy to declare they have bipolar (when they clearly don't) x
True
With the devine plan you're making a great point 🌟
Thank you Tom for these precious videos!
I am a 4 and have a 7 in my life and I see that it could do SO good for him to learn to embrace the darker side of the life also, like we fours do (and yeah, we're damn good at it). But it's awesome to have a seven in your life, especially I think so as a four, otherwise I would be just there in the darkest pit weeping on my own all the time. 😂
Thanks for the description, I am an ISFP 7w6
Thank you Thank you! This has really helped. I never knew which Wing I was. I always knew I was a 7 but some aspects of it never really seemed to be who I am. Now that I know I have a 6 Wing I can totally get it. Thanks for explaining all of this to us in an easy-to-understand way! I am loving learning about the Enneagram and so are my two daughters. My husband not so much. I think he's a three or at 1. 🤷
22:55 so real for my dad. He's a 7w8. He spends money recklessly and give the money to me. I remember talking to him about his personal life. I said something like "if you feel sad, talk to me." He was such in denial XD
Thank you for sharing this personal insight into your relationship with your dad. It's heartwarming to see such connections.
Hi, Dr. Tom - just want to say thank you for helping me clarify that I'm a 7w6. I was pretty sure that was the case, but it can be tricky, right? I'm Riso-Hudson certified and have studied the Enneagram almost 20 years, but the wing information always seems either scant or confusing, since I definitely see some 8 influence in me. But what you said about edginess and sentimentality sealed the deal for me! Also, love it that you're a Christian, too. Thanks again!
Glad to help. Thanks for your kind words.
I'm between wing 6 and 8. I was an 8 a few years ago but now I'm becoming more and more 6. So I'm in the middle of 7w6 and 7w8.
It's great to know that I'm growing. Thank you for your video, it was helpful.
My rollercoaster mind when identifying I'm a 7 on the enneagram "Ya! Of course I am.." only seeing the possibility... then hearing all the negative side of a 7 specifically 7w8, "Ugh... but that's in my past, let's move forward!"
😂😂😂🤣 I'm a 7, and I am dying about ur tattoo comment lol, i have my kids names but also tattoos i did "just bc" while being younger and wild. I had found out that after became a mother I ground myself so much, I still have. Child like and free spirit who loves have fun but now I do it in the form of showing my kid the world so they can find their passion, while i enjoy see then experience new things and building new memories. Funny part my oldest is 5 and sometimes I had struggled understanding where he comes from bc he loves be t home and hopefully left alone haha... So we try to compromise to find a sweet spot where we both fulfill
Thanks for another insightful video, Dr. Tom. I have a few 7 friends, and I'm pleased to find out that they are actually 7w6s instead of 7w8s. This info means a lot to me, since I am a 6w7. Keep up the excellent work!
I am a 7w8 and an ENFP.
Hi Dr Tom, Thanks for your great work. Been on a 2 year journey to discover that i'm a 7w8... to be honest i'v probably been in denial about it for a while haha. I appreciate your work.
interesting. i'm a 9w8 with 974 tritype, but for so long i had this doubt of being a 6w7 fix instead of a 7w6. yeah after watching this video i finally understood their difference and can definitely feel this connection with 7w6 personality, even if it's more introverted and calmer since it's blending with the 9 xD
I finally discovered who I am. I am ENTP 7w8
My youngest son is 7 w 6, my sister who joined the army at 18 and married special forces types twice I think is a 7 w8.
I’m the experience collector now. Photos get dusty thanks to COVID 😅
yo God just used this video powerfully in my life, thank you sir