1. Not chasing but attracting - she didnt prematurely pick a favorite. She allowed herself to get to know those who are attracted to her. 2. Not giving away too much or over explaining - she does it with simplicity and honesty bit by bit 3. Putting herself first - she wont put others on pedestal, she wont settle for less, she wont rely on others to meet her needs. 4. It’s not about just looks. It’s how you carry yourself and radiate from within. The way you move, grace in your gestures, etc.) A. Posture and mannerisms * keep your arms and legs close to you, it adds grace * fast and jerky movements can sometimes looks as anxious and nervousness. Slow things down and move gently and you’ll give off an air of tranquility and self assuredness. B. Lean back so they can chase you C. Allowing their true intention to show through actions and behavior - takes necessary time to truly appreciate and get to know someone before commiting D. Stay cool and collected - not letting things get under her skin E. We know what’s best for us then that’s what truly matters. dont lower yourself to meet other people’s standards, instead, let’s hold them up yo our own expectations F. Show signs that you are approachable - breaking the ice is not chasing so after you do that, give them the space to decide whether to chase you or not G. Abundance mindset - your efforts should come from a place of confidence and abundance, not fear. - not being overly attached to a potential outcome early on cause there are always more opportunities for connections that are waiting
Purposeful style! I surprised myself deciding to watch yet another clothes/look video and how much MORE surprised I was to discover the helpful tips that are so applicable.
Jia was smart. She didn’t put all her eggs in one basket which is what many south Asians do right off the bat. She didn’t come on too strong. Allowed them enough room to think about her while not being completely distant or ghosting them. Being sweet and showing interest when they turned up, as opposed to being aloof and uninterested. She didn’t reveal her layers. She slowly revealed small details but never the whole picture. Guys will pursue you. It’s in built. They know how to woo and impress you. You just have to show them that it’s okay to approach you. Jia wasn’t playing games. She was genuinely weighing her options. She wasn’t being insincere or manipulative. That’s a big difference. In case you feel that he’s insincere, trying to take you for a ride or hot and cold, during the initial dating phase, step back and decent guys will realise it and change quickly. This is usually the case for guys in their early 20’s. Grown men are more emotionally equipped for adult relationships than young guys. They understand women and women’s behaviour better and aren’t as confused. Only people with naive ideas that haven’t developed, will say that considering different men at the same time is the same as being unfaithful or leading men on. What do you think single people do? They weigh their options. They see who’s the right fit by talking to people. You can’t go all in like south Asians do, without dating the person. That’s an aggressive approach and naive. You don’t even know what you’re getting into. You haven’t even tested the waters yet. You have to see who’s the best fit first. You have to date several people. That means you have to go on dates with different guys. You have to meet them and talk to them. That’s what Jia is doing. People who don’t do that, waste time making wrong decisions. People who are ONLY single without dating anyone or meeting the opposite sex for a date, seeing where things go, are abnormal. You can’t be single for YEARS. You also can’t go months without going out on a date or talking to someone who’s interested. That’s abnormal. I wouldn’t even date a person who hasn’t gone on a date the past 3 months, or who hasn’t had a relationship the past 3 years. Guys shouldn’t either. A girl or guy like that, will fail miserably in relationships. They have no clue about relationships or male and female dynamics and cannot be trusted. That’s irrespective of gender. They’re also too inexperienced to be in a relationship. If you haven’t dated or met different people, you’re too naive to be in a relationship and too immature when it comes to life. Because life is all about relationships, making decisions and weighing your options. This does not include sliding into DM’s or harassing/stalking girls. Harassment is not a date. Stalking is not a date.
This was one of the best video with advices to be honest ❤ will watch it again and again. Also the background music is so beautiful and calming. I was always afraid that trying that feminine and magnetic aura is like a manipulation or arrogance. But it’s not, like you said ❤ this is called self confidence for woman ❤
But what about after ? I mean once the guys learn about her (she’s no longer a mystery) and she’s now completely in a relationship (so no keeping options open) and she’s not putting in the effort/initiative (not chasing) wouldn’t the guys get tired and lose interest? I hear a lot about how guys want girls who initiate dates and make the first move and how guys like the chase so once she’s with them they lose interest ?? Also I understand the concept of putting yourself first but in reality don’t you just get called selfish ??
Lol no guys don’t like girls who ask them out. No guy says that. It’s against his masculine nature. Men WANT and NEED to pursue. They need to feel in control. Your job is to show just enough interest for him to come to you. Your job isn’t to chase. And no, they never get tired of it. I’ve never met a guy who’s lost interest in me. Not even years after I rejected them or left. Most still say nice things about me. It’s doubtful that will ever change. Men who only chase girls as a trophy or obsess over them, wanting a fantasy, are men who get tired of it because they were never chasing something real to begin with. They were chasing a fantasy.
@@piss0ff_ that's like the worst possible example. He makes fun of her in the "no panties" scene because the security cameras were on, later in the marriage goes back to being a serial cheater, HITS her and kidnaps the kids. He's trash and it's not because she's not attractive or alluring enough. Jia is the prime example of attractiveness and being irresistible, yes, but that only goes so far as the meeting someone, luring them in and falling in love phase. In deeper points in a relationship, honesty and working together for the relationship is what counts. You can't be forever responsible for "keeping your man" or whatever, he has feelings and thoughts of his own and will make decisions and takes actions as any other person. If he starts mistreating you or decides he doesn't wanna be with you anymore that's his dumb call, you gotta keep your self respect and move on.
People forget that jia irl kind of got ditched by everyone after being cancelled for the fake designer goods controversy and rumours of her dad owning brothels/room salons, A lot of allure was in part being this heiress which she wasn't. I like her confidence and her attitude but all these videos overlook the class tensions in sk society.
I am a guy and i dun like girl too secretive... i will lose interest in her fast. there are so many pretty girl, and i will pick one that trust me more by opening up to me.
trust is earned especially with men women have to be cautious. Not revealing too much about yourself is a charm in itself, extroverts aren't interesting
I mean....for me she is very ugly but i thought that the reason they liked her was because she seemed like the stereotypical korean girl but with the stereotypical beauty of a kpop idol. At first i thought she was a kpop idol because they are almost the same ( because of the plastic surgery i mean, not because they are Koreans ofc). She was shy and i did not expect that though. I do not get why else they liked her. I mean, almost no one showed any personality, they did not have any time to show their character. And its a reality show, ofc character is not what people that work behind the scenes want to see. They want to see beautiful people. But from my point of view, subjectively i do not get why people were so in love with her, cause okay she was a little shy but i did not see anything else. Maybe if they had more time she would be able to show more of herself.
If u can't Easily figure out the personality of person in front of u that's mean they are very good in manipulation and u can't see through them that's a very big power so don't get mad she is not someone u can understand in a second
1. Not chasing but attracting
- she didnt prematurely pick a favorite. She allowed herself to get to know those who are attracted to her.
2. Not giving away too much or over explaining
- she does it with simplicity and honesty bit by bit
3. Putting herself first
- she wont put others on pedestal, she wont settle for less, she wont rely on others to meet her needs.
4. It’s not about just looks. It’s how you carry yourself and radiate from within. The way you move, grace in your gestures, etc.)
A. Posture and mannerisms
* keep your arms and legs close to you, it adds grace
* fast and jerky movements can sometimes looks as anxious and nervousness. Slow things down and move gently and you’ll give off an air of tranquility and self assuredness.
B. Lean back so they can chase you
C. Allowing their true intention to show through actions and behavior - takes necessary time to truly appreciate and get to know someone before commiting
D. Stay cool and collected - not letting things get under her skin
E. We know what’s best for us then that’s what truly matters. dont lower yourself to meet other people’s standards, instead, let’s hold them up yo our own expectations
F. Show signs that you are approachable - breaking the ice is not chasing so after you do that, give them the space to decide whether to chase you or not
G. Abundance mindset - your efforts should come from a place of confidence and abundance, not fear.
- not being overly attached to a potential outcome early on cause there are always more opportunities for connections that are waiting
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Main reason: she wasnt much into a single guy
I really admire Jia but I cannot deny that 😭✌️
main reason*: she was into herself the most 😋😋
I think you should also make a video about hye-seon she is really calm, clever and unbothered. also know how to play games
Hyeseon definitely is greater than Zia ❤❤❤❤
@@lanienursetraveler no one can top jia >>
@@lanienursetravelertoxic lol no one can top jia 😂 what a typical insecure hater
@@Ichigo-dh9rd fr
Yes ❤❤❤
Purposeful style!
I surprised myself deciding to watch yet another clothes/look video and how much MORE surprised I was to discover the helpful tips that are so applicable.
More of song jia PLEASEEEE
Everyone should watch this video!! You break it down so well!
Jia was smart. She didn’t put all her eggs in one basket which is what many south Asians do right off the bat. She didn’t come on too strong. Allowed them enough room to think about her while not being completely distant or ghosting them. Being sweet and showing interest when they turned up, as opposed to being aloof and uninterested.
She didn’t reveal her layers. She slowly revealed small details but never the whole picture. Guys will pursue you. It’s in built. They know how to woo and impress you. You just have to show them that it’s okay to approach you. Jia wasn’t playing games. She was genuinely weighing her options. She wasn’t being insincere or manipulative. That’s a big difference.
In case you feel that he’s insincere, trying to take you for a ride or hot and cold, during the initial dating phase, step back and decent guys will realise it and change quickly. This is usually the case for guys in their early 20’s. Grown men are more emotionally equipped for adult relationships than young guys. They understand women and women’s behaviour better and aren’t as confused.
Only people with naive ideas that haven’t developed, will say that considering different men at the same time is the same as being unfaithful or leading men on. What do you think single people do? They weigh their options. They see who’s the right fit by talking to people. You can’t go all in like south Asians do, without dating the person. That’s an aggressive approach and naive. You don’t even know what you’re getting into. You haven’t even tested the waters yet.
You have to see who’s the best fit first. You have to date several people. That means you have to go on dates with different guys. You have to meet them and talk to them. That’s what Jia is doing. People who don’t do that, waste time making wrong decisions.
People who are ONLY single without dating anyone or meeting the opposite sex for a date, seeing where things go, are abnormal. You can’t be single for YEARS. You also can’t go months without going out on a date or talking to someone who’s interested. That’s abnormal. I wouldn’t even date a person who hasn’t gone on a date the past 3 months, or who hasn’t had a relationship the past 3 years. Guys shouldn’t either. A girl or guy like that, will fail miserably in relationships. They have no clue about relationships or male and female dynamics and cannot be trusted. That’s irrespective of gender.
They’re also too inexperienced to be in a relationship. If you haven’t dated or met different people, you’re too naive to be in a relationship and too immature when it comes to life. Because life is all about relationships, making decisions and weighing your options. This does not include sliding into DM’s or harassing/stalking girls. Harassment is not a date. Stalking is not a date.
Exactly, love your comment 🩷
Wtf are you talking about
No wtf
😅
wait then how am i supposed to get into a relationship in the first place if i've never had one 💀
This was one of the best video with advices to be honest ❤ will watch it again and again.
Also the background music is so beautiful and calming.
I was always afraid that trying that feminine and magnetic aura is like a manipulation or arrogance. But it’s not, like you said ❤ this is called self confidence for woman ❤
Ohh I love this video! This is a masterpiece! You're a genius! ❤❤❤❤
lol I love Jia but there’s nothing rare about her grounded nature lol most Taurus people are calm and grounded
she definitely gained confidence from that nose job and lip fillers
Thanks for the Taurus hype ☺️
@@dawn3589 what 😂😭
Zodiacs are not a personality trait weirdo
@@Ichigo-dh9rd re read!!
Jia ❤
👍👍👍🥂🎉🎉excellent excellent stunning content to share 🥂👍!!! Unbelievable amazing 👍👍👍
Not you saying Jia isn’t the poster child for perfection 😂 I guess I belong in a ditch
lol
Healthy dinamics ❤
But what about after ? I mean once the guys learn about her (she’s no longer a mystery) and she’s now completely in a relationship (so no keeping options open) and she’s not putting in the effort/initiative (not chasing) wouldn’t the guys get tired and lose interest? I hear a lot about how guys want girls who initiate dates and make the first move and how guys like the chase so once she’s with them they lose interest ?? Also I understand the concept of putting yourself first but in reality don’t you just get called selfish ??
You leave them wanting more, like the wolf of the war street movie margot robbie makes her husband want her.
Lol no guys don’t like girls who ask them out. No guy says that. It’s against his masculine nature. Men WANT and NEED to pursue. They need to feel in control. Your job is to show just enough interest for him to come to you. Your job isn’t to chase.
And no, they never get tired of it. I’ve never met a guy who’s lost interest in me. Not even years after I rejected them or left. Most still say nice things about me. It’s doubtful that will ever change.
Men who only chase girls as a trophy or obsess over them, wanting a fantasy, are men who get tired of it because they were never chasing something real to begin with. They were chasing a fantasy.
@@piss0ff_ that's like the worst possible example. He makes fun of her in the "no panties" scene because the security cameras were on, later in the marriage goes back to being a serial cheater, HITS her and kidnaps the kids. He's trash and it's not because she's not attractive or alluring enough.
Jia is the prime example of attractiveness and being irresistible, yes, but that only goes so far as the meeting someone, luring them in and falling in love phase. In deeper points in a relationship, honesty and working together for the relationship is what counts. You can't be forever responsible for "keeping your man" or whatever, he has feelings and thoughts of his own and will make decisions and takes actions as any other person. If he starts mistreating you or decides he doesn't wanna be with you anymore that's his dumb call, you gotta keep your self respect and move on.
People forget that jia irl kind of got ditched by everyone after being cancelled for the fake designer goods controversy and rumours of her dad owning brothels/room salons, A lot of allure was in part being this heiress which she wasn't.
I like her confidence and her attitude but all these videos overlook the class tensions in sk society.
Show name please
Singles Inferno on Netflix
I guess I’ll stay single forever because I’m too ugly to pull this off.
No, you are so pretty
Don't think like this❤😊
I am a guy and i dun like girl too secretive... i will lose interest in her fast.
there are so many pretty girl, and i will pick one that trust me more by opening up to me.
trust is earned especially with men women have to be cautious. Not revealing too much about yourself is a charm in itself, extroverts aren't interesting
@@dawn3589extroversion doesn't mean sharing your deepest secrets in the first date.
Boohoo no one cares about men especially you
And I could bet she wouldn’t give you the time of the day
@@dawn3589 why you throw dirt on extroverts like that??😂
I mean....for me she is very ugly but i thought that the reason they liked her was because she seemed like the stereotypical korean girl but with the stereotypical beauty of a kpop idol. At first i thought she was a kpop idol because they are almost the same ( because of the plastic surgery i mean, not because they are Koreans ofc). She was shy and i did not expect that though. I do not get why else they liked her. I mean, almost no one showed any personality, they did not have any time to show their character. And its a reality show, ofc character is not what people that work behind the scenes want to see. They want to see beautiful people. But from my point of view, subjectively i do not get why people were so in love with her, cause okay she was a little shy but i did not see anything else. Maybe if they had more time she would be able to show more of herself.
you did not just call her ugly 😭🤚🏻 where's your selfie drop at ?
If u can't Easily figure out the personality of person in front of u that's mean they are very good in manipulation and u can't see through them that's a very big power so don't get mad she is not someone u can understand in a second
I guess I’ll stay single forever because I’m too ugly to pull this off.
omg that's so relatable
it doesn’t matter if your not attactractivr or not it’s based off of true confidence and self worth