@@ketobodybuilder2482 I actually tested the theory of texting a woman more because she was complaining about the lack of texts by the end of the week I was ghosted.
it is why it is so important to be working on your purpose, as this will naturally create space. it's the guys that aren't focusing on themselves, that put their gfs on a pedestal and are around them 24/7
Naw man. It's actually really easy. If you're finding it hard to maintain a gf, that means you're investing and focusing too much into the relationship, when your focus should be in your life and goals. The women will follow, dont worry. And if they dont follow, who cares. You're here on this earth to be successful and have fun! With this mentality, it's impossible to not attract women!
I think it's destiny that when I was about to contact my special someone, I've seen many of your videos and decided not to contact her. Thank you very much! 👍
If shes hooked on you then she will definitely start talking to you after leaving her on seen for a week or so...it just depends on the level of the interactions you have with her.Have you guys talked on the phone? Does she enjoy talking to you?(does she laugh at everything you say even if youre not even trying to be funny... If its just a brief exchange of messages for a couple of weeks then she will obviously forget about you.
@@Diao7 - VERY true. Exactly my case. We’ve been talking for 4 months. She laughs and finds me hot asf. She knows my value and really appreciates that I am still interested in her. She knows I have other options and that I text other girls. Still she considers me her Boyfriend. I do have other girls. Like it’s nuts. But suddenly bros. Within 1 day, she just turned cold and it seems she needs some space. Crazy how women work. I feel her absence man, we were vibing so hard whenever we talked. She was always the first to call, text and interact. I never did the effort. And I feel the absense on all the amazing things she tells me during a day about me. Her messaging I miss you where are you. (I’m a busy guy btw) 1 night we had a little fight through a call because she did something I find disrespectful. I might have strict rules... Even though they don’t take much effort. It’s simple things like texting goodnight and goodmorning etc. But in a day she just turned off, she’s been partying and she’s just gone for 4-5 days. And her attraction isn’t the same. I think she needs space after 4 months. She genuenly thinks she can’t find better. Imma just stop responding for a while to really create some anxiety because I think she now thinks she has me. So when she decides to reach out. I’m not gonna respond. She really values me so she won’t just drop it. She knows what i’m worth and she knows what I am capable of. The problem I think is she kinda knows she has my focus a little bit. Even though it takes me 3 hours to respond to her. We have predictable streak on snapchat and a predictable response on Goodnight and Goodmornings. Even though those stopped. Imma cut off the streak and I won’t respond even when she decides to get back with a goodnight/morning. And until she feels MY absence, wonders, and most importantly anxiety comes. But I gotta admit - We were vibing hard and she’s sexy asf so it hurts. I got attached even though I have other options. That’s f*cked. I’ll keep you updated hopefully guys. 💯
As soon as I began to apply this method...its actually very good advise...because I always felt the need to respond immedietly to a womans messege. It works a womans mind subconsciously she wont even realize that youre taking long to respond or that youre giving short messages...she subconsciously reacts by giving you longer messages and sends you more messages. You can literally turn the tables on an interaction with a woman that isnt very responsive.
In general, it seems that there is a large burden on men to develop this image of strength and unwavering self-confidence. It seems like men have to invest so much more into themselves to manage their own emotions and stay grounded. In some ways, this feels unfair and imbalanced. Maybe it is because I am young and yet still immature, but often times I feel that I have no problem projecting this image (and truly living it) at the beginning of a relationship, but I struggle with it as the relationship goes on. I will also admit that I am somewhat prone to attachment. I just wish, in some ways, that it didn't feel like some sort of curse to care about somebody, or to fear letting them go. To have those feelings and then act in contradiction because you feel as though it's the best course of action to maintain attraction is sometimes painful and can become exhausting.
It's very exhausting yes. I honestly hated doing it. I look amazing now yes but it was hard, very hard, draining, bitter work. But if you can do it you'll drown in vagina.
And this is something people don't touch on either. Why is it so wrong to care and be attached to a woman you like? It's so insane that caring for them truly from the bottom of your heart repulses them, it's like what's the point of even having a relationship then
all you need to be able to do is be OK with leaving her at any moment. today,tomorrow or in 5 years. You ALWAYS have to be 100 % ready to break up. This helps a lot. Other then that I think you are mature enough
Don’t be too unavailable especially if the girl writes to you 1st, I have made the mistake of not responding within 48 hours because of my busy job so the girl moved on and told me I felt you weren’t interested. It’s true that a girl will chase you more if you are unavailable. Girls always write to me 1st because I never text or give them attention but after they give up because I don’t respond within 24 hours.
No healthy person would move on if they really liked you after only 48 hours. Would you?! You texted the girl of your dreams and she didn’t respond for a few days....you’re telling me when she did get back to you you’re gonna be doing anything other than cartwheels?! It’s the same for them. In your example, you just found out she wasn’t actually that bothered, and she rationalised her feelings using the time as an excuse and you’re believing her explanation. Don’t. It doesn’t matter what she says. That’s part of the whole point of not being too responsive...you screen out ones who would be a waste of time anyway more quickly.
@@TheN00bPolice lets say you have a girl..she initiates contact at times and you chat..now during this quarantine time its hard to meet up..so most likely phone convos are important..if i texted last and she read bt didnt respond..how long should i wait to initiate contact again..?
Literally so golden... started ignoring this chick i been seeing a bit more, bc i used to be so fckin responsive and contantly texting.... now she triple texts me if i dont respond. Its insane. Didnt respond to a message she sent earlier bc it didnt warrant a response, and she just hit me again with another snapchat. This information is unreal. It seems so counter intuitive to getting them hooked on you, but its EXACTLY what you need to do
As a women if a guy too unresponsive then we’ll assume he’s not interested and move on. Also the responsiveness needs to build as time goes on and our attraction increases, then we don’t mind. But if a guy is too full on when he’s basically still a stranger then we’ll run in the other direction…which is what most guys do. Remember we’re trying to get to know you at the beginning, it doesn’t mean we know you there’s a difference. So be careful not to smother us in the beginning. Nobody likes being smothered especially by a stranger
I mean that's the same for guys too. But yeah, as a guy, if I message her ,and she doesn't respond or takes longer than usual,i usually just assume she's busy or needs space. And whether she decides to reach back out or respond,we go from there as normal
Hey Chris, in your every video, you use to say "attraction grows in space", I 100% agree with it, but if someone is in love with a coworker, and all the time they are in contact with each other, then how space could be maintained. Therefore, your expert opinion is needed on this aspect too.
For me is more of a masculine tone of voice and I'm also more focused on my work than on her, walk past and DON'T look at her always, instead look in front of you especially when you sense she could be looking in your direction, there is tension in that moment, keep the attention to yourself and your life and work, you can say high and ask for stuff in a deep voice but that's it and ocassionally you and look from afar
Vaibhav Mehta u played urself lmao. Remember this: the person who cares less/ puts less effort has more power in a relationship. U putting all that effort makes u look weak
@@failurez4387 don't worry bro. We can change it around. Even I had made similar mistakes and still continue to do so sometimes even after knowing that I am making a mistake.
Cris is right! He's got a lot of point. I tried no contact on my cold gf yesterday, and it hasn't been 2 days yet and she reaches for my attention and greeted me a good morning today which rarely happened on the past days. I mean its a progress right? I mean i greeted her back and just applied a lil bit of mirroring her actions. I told her good morning, no more ni less. Then I shall maintain my No Contact. Lets see who's tough now!
Waiting, correct move. But then replying with a bland “right back atcha” response, incorrect move. You’ve just displayed disinterest and a lack of enthusiasm. The phone is for setting dates, not for having conversations.
I love your videos. U always get straight to the point and seem to always say things i agree with. Great job. Btw i just ordered your book Atomic Attraction, i know its going to be a great book.
I have a question.. all this is true, but there has to be a stopping point to when you get comfortable with your relationship and up's and down's won't matter much because you are settled..you can't expect this to go on and on... i believe all that until one is married happily.. and as you get comfortable and the illusion of love fades.. you will have soul mate to enjoy.. and not a competition..
Chris is talking about what to do in the early stages to raise her attraction and not turn her off. Really no need to do this while in a relationship or married
The courtship never ends in marriage. If it does, you will possess quite the miserable one. This also means if you want your wife/future wife to be feminine, she will need to feel secure and safe being in her femininity, and the way she will stay that way is by ALWAYS testing your masculine core. You fail the tests, you get a masculine, irritable, bossy wife.
Guys don‘t misunderstand this video. Don’t be complete jerks. You have primarily to be confident in yourself. Women love men who don’t give a fuck about other peoples opininions, who are pursuing their goals and who live their live in their own way. It doesn’t matter if you are studying If you are yourself then you are unique because who can be like you but you. If you are unique then women are interested in you and want to be part in your life. In the video basically he tells you to not give up everything up for a girl and don‘t run after her Continue your own life show interest and then it will more likely to work and your relationship will be far more healthy
In short do not be nice to women or at least minimize the attention that you give them, especially non sexual attention. One can take one's attention from women by having other interests and doing things that please oneself that have nothing to do with women.
🙏 A lot of people afraid to give their girl a few days of space and will wait till it's too late. Honestly she's more likely to cheat on you while you're blowing up her phone, because then she can just put it on silent and continue doing whatever it is she does that don't involve you because it ain't shit to do with you. Unless you're gone.
My and my girlfriend broke up over this quarantine. She had seemed bored and never wanted to get intimate. I believe she broke up with me because she lost attraction for me. I thought this time away from her would make her miss me but it seems like it only assured her that i’m not the one for her. I need help
Not every relationship is salvageable (for any number of reasons). Let her walk. It may hurt, but compartmentalize those feelings and project to her an aura of "hey, cool, have a nice life." No need to get bitter or pissed because if anything, she did you a favor. Now work on yourself and don't sweat the small shit.
PLEASE LISTEN TO THE MAN. PLEASEEEEEEE, HE'S THE ONE WHO MADE ME GET MY RESPECT BACK AND NOW MY GIRL LOVES ME EVEN MORE🤦. I LOVE YOU CHRIS. I JUST LOVE YOU SO MUCH
Hi Chris! I have one short question about certain sentence from your book "Atomic Attraction" (worth every penny, i wouldn't be surprised if it cost twice price). Is "Emergency Help" on your website only way to contact? I don't put sentence here because I'm not sure if you're OK with that
It's very hard especially in the beginning when you haven't won her over yet. There's someone I like I could have run into if I changed my routine but then it would look forced and I would risk looking needy so I maintain my schedule and run into her when it naturally happens. It's tough because sometimes it can be for months and I miss seeing her. But if it's meant to be and she feels something she will wait and hopefully this space will increase her attraction towards me.
I let women know up front I’m not a big phone conversation and texting type. I do small impact text just to say hello or plan dates. It’s much better to communicate when you see them in person and it’ll be a lot to catch up on and talk about. WYD text annoy women and it should annoy you too. Keep everything simple and be mysterious, but don’t ignore them at the same time.
My logic is if you like her you want to see her in person not text all day or talk all day on the phone. I'm also not addicted to my phone which will serve me well in relationships.
its funny the girl im dating does that at times..sends me small responses. so what i do is i take a hour or two and write her small responses back..then like less then 10 minutes later she will sometimes write me fast lol
Yeah kinda. I mean she has to think you're there when she needs you and what you should be anyways. But give her space to miss you. Kinda lost my girlfriend that way and learned from it lol
@@naturalphenomena4025 Nah it should be equal. I mean you have got to show her that you have genuine interest in her. The problem is, if you are too available longterm, she'll take you for granted and automatically think that you don't have much going on in your life but waiting dor her to text you. That's just not attractive. But you can answer as soon as you see that she texted you normally bit if you got something else going on at the moment, for example you are with friends, you just don't have to look at your phone all the time. Hope I could help
Stephan Berg it should not be equal. It should be 80% woman reaching out first. 20% man reaching out first. Don’t be too emotionally available and don’t be needy and ur g for starters
Is there any way you can show care and love and for her not to see you as week and needy?To have the power in relationship but also be the one who loves more?Maybe I am weak but other than sex I don't see why you would ever have a relationship with women based on this material
Right, so if something is difficult to learn you give up and don’t try? If your boss at work is confusing and hard to work for, will you also quit your job and be alone at home? Being alone is good, but you can burn out from that too. I would suggest learning how to pick up women and THEN being alone. That way you will have confidence that if you ever felt like it, you could have a partner, and being alone is by choice and not involuntary.
Barry the Bartender um.. i managed to have 3 GFs without money and they kept paying for me and go crazy to have sex 🤷♂️ and the reason is ( attitude ) plus i still manage to get more girls attraction by being normal.
@@onilknight1102 I've been in the same situation on numerous occasions. Most of them were never my gf though.. I've only had 4gf my whole life (28) haven't been in an actual relationship in 4 years.. My most recent dating experience was in late winter last year.. I'm a weird person though while being fairly attractive. Never considered myself "normal". I'm not very strong in personal social interactions.
The thing is do u want someone that just frankly wants attention from someone that doesn't give it. Or thinking im weak cuz i say whats on my mind. Bro i refuse to let society tell me that i shouldnt be attentive to girls cuz its unattractive to them. Sounds like a personal probelm to me based on how your parents raised you. The guy that gives no attention doesnt love her and wont bring the best out of her. Those people that want attention when your not giving it will drag you down anyway weather u just fcking or together. Women n men need to wake up people die everyday to be bullshitting like that.
I have a really important question please answer. So I've been struggling with my ex, we go back and forth. And it's getting tiring on my end. Once again, our relationship was great, then she pulled away. So I made sure I followed these steps, and also didn't over respond. Then there came today where I wasn't feeling good, and was also a little upset and wanted to be left alone. Now after not replying to her Snapchat for the day, she calls me and is very upset that I hadn't contacted her. And now she is not talking to me, I haven't been calling her a thousand times. But it's getting tiring. It's sad because I really love this girl. And she's worth it and I want to make it work. Somebody please respond and help me with this.
She’s an EX for a reason. You aren’t in love with her, you simply aren’t focusing your attention on other things in life. Your mission/purpose come first, your family second, your friends third, and finally - women, last. Do not change the order of priorities.
Why Aquarius will move on from a non responsive person??? Anyway the key is the person should have had feelings for you before, if not, Forget. They will just keep it pushing from your non response.
Did this mistake, you're probably going straight in with the mindset of dating them. You need to firstly see whether they are capable of even getting along with you as friends in a way where you can be 100% comfortable and yourself with them. Once you have noticed there's a good connection where conversations are flowing without even trying then ask them out on a date - you'll more likely succeed.
rahmani rami you can both, how are you confused? Just don’t give women all your time when you’re texting don’t drop everything when she reply’s to text back
This is true except for when you’re dating a girl that is only in your area for a short amount of time and wants to make the most out of every moment before she goes
Hi sir, please help me and suggest me please please sir. My wife has separated from me since nine months, I love my wife honestly and heartfully, we don't have children till now, I was following NO CONTACT Rule from six months. She has given missed call 3 or 4 times during no contact period, and only one and last message she send me That "call me, if u want to live with me at my home lossing with your parants and family, decision is yours and I need answer" and some times giving me worning that she has brothers. but she is not coming back to me or at my home. even their family is not reach out to me or to my mom by any of way. I am getting fear of losing her permanently. Do I reach out her OR still do I continue no contact rule. Please sir help me, I don't have support from my relatives. I am suffering and getting panic every second of day that "do I live life long As alone". My wife is not telling me honest decision, Please suggest me what do I do sir. Please please please Help me and reply me sir. I am requesting you to humble, give me an idea please.
If thats the case then she wasnt really into u. Look at women lile a cold stone. U will know if the connection is there. I love the hell out this one girl known for twenty years but have to stand my ground i have tons of options but the connection with her is on another level. It is a hard thing with women anymore there are no actual answers and that because women are not logical. Hope u get the girl ya want man good luck. Ive decided to just do me cause i have control over that and got too much stress already with the virus going on and if a women cant help me relieve stress be my escape or give me her all and all her love then i cant be about it.
Very broken system if this is the way to start a family, man if this was the only way then no thanks. Am happy I am muslim Alhhamdlh, we have our own rules.
@@isaacjacob6986 It will take a while, but you have to develop other interests and do things that please you and generally be involved in activities that take your attention and time away from just one/woman or girl. Having multiple relationships also takes your attention time and attention away from just one of them. To be more attractive to girls/women, aside from limiting the attention that you give them, you need to be of higher value, such as becoming more physically fit, especially if you are out of shape, dressing better especially when going out, and having finances in order, and if you can improving charisma - that is a lot more difficult.
A wise man once said " Don't be too responsive "
A woman recently told me she loves me but i dont message her enough! I asked her why i would change anything when she just told me she loves me.
If you text too muxh she feels smoothered. You cant win
@@ketobodybuilder2482 I actually tested the theory of texting a woman more because she was complaining about the lack of texts by the end of the week I was ghosted.
Great video! I believe there is a saying for this that goes something like:
"we tend to crave what we can't have"
it is why it is so important to be working on your purpose, as this will naturally create space. it's the guys that aren't focusing on themselves, that put their gfs on a pedestal and are around them 24/7
So true!
damn having a gf is really hard , and to maintain your attraction
Melzion the secret is not to try so hard less is always more I learnt harshly but slowly have no expectations equals less disappointment
@@cyco781loco1 Please use punctuation. I've had little more expectations for a YT comment. Don't disappoint me
K9amilo90 how about up yours 🖕
@@cyco781loco1 you cute. Want anything to add?
Naw man. It's actually really easy. If you're finding it hard to maintain a gf, that means you're investing and focusing too much into the relationship, when your focus should be in your life and goals. The women will follow, dont worry. And if they dont follow, who cares. You're here on this earth to be successful and have fun! With this mentality, it's impossible to not attract women!
I think it's destiny that when I was about to contact my special someone, I've seen many of your videos and decided not to contact her. Thank you very much! 👍
What happened next?
@@wintersoldier4183 he went on pornhub
@@wintersoldier4183 She f*ed his best friend! 😜
Less is more
Still it's a balancing act, be too unresponsive and she'll feel you're not interested. Comes with experience
paul Same here
This has happened to me but it’s crazy how many messages I received if I never responded
If shes hooked on you then she will definitely start talking to you after leaving her on seen for a week or so...it just depends on the level of the interactions you have with her.Have you guys talked on the phone? Does she enjoy talking to you?(does she laugh at everything you say even if youre not even trying to be funny... If its just a brief exchange of messages for a couple of weeks then she will obviously forget about you.
@@Diao7 - VERY true. Exactly my case. We’ve been talking for 4 months. She laughs and finds me hot asf. She knows my value and really appreciates that I am still interested in her. She knows I have other options and that I text other girls. Still she considers me her Boyfriend.
I do have other girls.
Like it’s nuts. But suddenly bros. Within 1 day, she just turned cold and it seems she needs some space. Crazy how women work. I feel her absence man, we were vibing so hard whenever we talked. She was always the first to call, text and interact. I never did the effort. And I feel the absense on all the amazing things she tells me during a day about me. Her messaging I miss you where are you. (I’m a busy guy btw)
1 night we had a little fight through a call because she did something I find disrespectful. I might have strict rules... Even though they don’t take much effort. It’s simple things like texting goodnight and goodmorning etc.
But in a day she just turned off, she’s been partying and she’s just gone for 4-5 days. And her attraction isn’t the same. I think she needs space after 4 months. She genuenly thinks she can’t find better. Imma just stop responding for a while to really create some anxiety because I think she now thinks she has me. So when she decides to reach out. I’m not gonna respond. She really values me so she won’t just drop it. She knows what i’m worth and she knows what I am capable of.
The problem I think is she kinda knows she has my focus a little bit. Even though it takes me 3 hours to respond to her. We have predictable streak on snapchat and a predictable response on Goodnight and Goodmornings. Even though those stopped. Imma cut off the streak and I won’t respond even when she decides to get back with a goodnight/morning. And until she feels MY absence, wonders, and most importantly anxiety comes. But I gotta admit - We were vibing hard and she’s sexy asf so it hurts. I got attached even though I have other options. That’s f*cked.
I’ll keep you updated hopefully guys. 💯
God bless bro
As soon as I began to apply this method...its actually very good advise...because I always felt the need to respond immedietly to a womans messege.
It works a womans mind subconsciously she wont even realize that youre taking long to respond or that youre giving short messages...she subconsciously reacts by giving you longer messages and sends you more messages. You can literally turn the tables on an interaction with a woman that isnt very responsive.
Sir Your points are very very practical and straight to the point I love your videos
In general, it seems that there is a large burden on men to develop this image of strength and unwavering self-confidence. It seems like men have to invest so much more into themselves to manage their own emotions and stay grounded. In some ways, this feels unfair and imbalanced. Maybe it is because I am young and yet still immature, but often times I feel that I have no problem projecting this image (and truly living it) at the beginning of a relationship, but I struggle with it as the relationship goes on. I will also admit that I am somewhat prone to attachment. I just wish, in some ways, that it didn't feel like some sort of curse to care about somebody, or to fear letting them go. To have those feelings and then act in contradiction because you feel as though it's the best course of action to maintain attraction is sometimes painful and can become exhausting.
Yeah... True man!
It's very exhausting yes. I honestly hated doing it. I look amazing now yes but it was hard, very hard, draining, bitter work. But if you can do it you'll drown in vagina.
And this is something people don't touch on either. Why is it so wrong to care and be attached to a woman you like? It's so insane that caring for them truly from the bottom of your heart repulses them, it's like what's the point of even having a relationship then
@@Arcilios exactly.. What's the point of relationship if we can't love and care...
all you need to be able to do is be OK with leaving her at any moment. today,tomorrow or in 5 years. You ALWAYS have to be 100 % ready to break up. This helps a lot. Other then that I think you are mature enough
Don’t be too unavailable especially if the girl writes to you 1st, I have made the mistake of not responding within 48 hours because of my busy job so the girl moved on and told me I felt you weren’t interested. It’s true that a girl will chase you more if you are unavailable. Girls always write to me 1st because I never text or give them attention but after they give up because I don’t respond within 24 hours.
No healthy person would move on if they really liked you after only 48 hours. Would you?! You texted the girl of your dreams and she didn’t respond for a few days....you’re telling me when she did get back to you you’re gonna be doing anything other than cartwheels?! It’s the same for them. In your example, you just found out she wasn’t actually that bothered, and she rationalised her feelings using the time as an excuse and you’re believing her explanation. Don’t. It doesn’t matter what she says. That’s part of the whole point of not being too responsive...you screen out ones who would be a waste of time anyway more quickly.
@@TheN00bPolice lets say you have a girl..she initiates contact at times and you chat..now during this quarantine time its hard to meet up..so most likely phone convos are important..if i texted last and she read bt didnt respond..how long should i wait to initiate contact again..?
@@naturalphenomena4025 a week
Do you not know how important your channel is to humanity??? Like I can't thank you enough for your content!!
Literally so golden... started ignoring this chick i been seeing a bit more, bc i used to be so fckin responsive and contantly texting.... now she triple texts me if i dont respond. Its insane. Didnt respond to a message she sent earlier bc it didnt warrant a response, and she just hit me again with another snapchat. This information is unreal. It seems so counter intuitive to getting them hooked on you, but its EXACTLY what you need to do
As a women if a guy too unresponsive then we’ll assume he’s not interested and move on. Also the responsiveness needs to build as time goes on and our attraction increases, then we don’t mind. But if a guy is too full on when he’s basically still a stranger then we’ll run in the other direction…which is what most guys do. Remember we’re trying to get to know you at the beginning, it doesn’t mean we know you there’s a difference. So be careful not to smother us in the beginning. Nobody likes being smothered especially by a stranger
I mean that's the same for guys too. But yeah, as a guy, if I message her ,and she doesn't respond or takes longer than usual,i usually just assume she's busy or needs space. And whether she decides to reach back out or respond,we go from there as normal
Hey Chris, in your every video, you use to say "attraction grows in space", I 100% agree with it, but if someone is in love with a coworker, and all the time they are in contact with each other, then how space could be maintained. Therefore, your expert opinion is needed on this aspect too.
Space doesn't always mean physical distance. It can be within your conversations and how and when you touch. What you say and don't say etc.
For me is more of a masculine tone of voice and I'm also more focused on my work than on her, walk past and DON'T look at her always, instead look in front of you especially when you sense she could be looking in your direction, there is tension in that moment, keep the attention to yourself and your life and work, you can say high and ask for stuff in a deep voice but that's it and ocassionally you and look from afar
I wish i knew this 4 yrs ago😢😢
I wish too, 3 years ago
@@sabrieriee3591 Fortunately, Future is yet in our hand. Let's bloom.
I feel you bro
Tanvir Ahamed who cares focus on yourself dumbass
Dont be sad about it man. Just do things right from now on. Its never too late ;)
me sending big ass 5-6 paragraphs and receiving an emoji as a reply noice
Vaibhav Mehta u played urself lmao. Remember this: the person who cares less/ puts less effort has more power in a relationship. U putting all that effort makes u look weak
@@Body.By.Bennett 😢😢😢
@@failurez4387 don't worry bro. We can change it around. Even I had made similar mistakes and still continue to do so sometimes even after knowing that I am making a mistake.
always keep 50/50. You text, she text, you text, she text. If you are the only one chasing then move on
Cris is right! He's got a lot of point. I tried no contact on my cold gf yesterday, and it hasn't been 2 days yet and she reaches for my attention and greeted me a good morning today which rarely happened on the past days. I mean its a progress right? I mean i greeted her back and just applied a lil bit of mirroring her actions. I told her good morning, no more ni less. Then I shall maintain my No Contact. Lets see who's tough now!
any updates? ;D
Waiting, correct move. But then replying with a bland “right back atcha” response, incorrect move. You’ve just displayed disinterest and a lack of enthusiasm. The phone is for setting dates, not for having conversations.
I never knew any of this stuff and f*cked up my relationship properly.
Exactly!! Love to see ur channel growing Cris:)
I love your videos. U always get straight to the point and seem to always say things i agree with. Great job. Btw i just ordered your book Atomic Attraction, i know its going to be a great book.
It's a great book! Alpha males strategies is good also!
Yeah it is a great read!
You are awesome, Chris! I miss the old video format though
Thankyou man you are one of my best coach ever. Your discussing reality on this modern world
I have a question..
all this is true, but there has to be a stopping point to when you get comfortable with your relationship and up's and down's won't matter much because you are settled..you can't expect this to go on and on...
i believe all that until one is married happily.. and as you get comfortable and the illusion of love fades.. you will have soul mate to enjoy.. and not a competition..
Ther is no such thing a HAPPILY MARRIED.
Chris is talking about what to do in the early stages to raise her attraction and not turn her off. Really no need to do this while in a relationship or married
garyjohnson316 there is a need. Never stop being a challenge or U will be made a fool
I think you have to be dating a girl for about 4 months where this goes away
The courtship never ends in marriage. If it does, you will possess quite the miserable one. This also means if you want your wife/future wife to be feminine, she will need to feel secure and safe being in her femininity, and the way she will stay that way is by ALWAYS testing your masculine core. You fail the tests, you get a masculine, irritable, bossy wife.
Guys don‘t misunderstand this video. Don’t be complete jerks. You have primarily to be confident in yourself. Women love men who don’t give a fuck about other peoples opininions, who are pursuing their goals and who live their live in their own way. It doesn’t matter if you are studying If you are yourself then you are unique because who can be like you but you. If you are unique then women are interested in you and want to be part in your life. In the video basically he tells you to not give up everything up for a girl and don‘t run after her Continue your own life show interest and then it will more likely to work and your relationship will be far more healthy
Thank you so much,..man i really enjoyed this video. 🔥🔥👍
I love your content!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Your channel deserves million subs! ❤️
Great work excellent easy to understand content
I'm still at step 1 : getting a female friend!
Hands down the best coach on youtube
In short do not be nice to women or at least minimize the attention that you give them, especially non sexual attention.
One can take one's attention from women by having other interests and doing things that please oneself that have nothing to do with women.
Chris I see you’re over 100K subs congrats
We need more advice on maintaining attraction in marriage/long term relationships
🙏 A lot of people afraid to give their girl a few days of space and will wait till it's too late. Honestly she's more likely to cheat on you while you're blowing up her phone, because then she can just put it on silent and continue doing whatever it is she does that don't involve you because it ain't shit to do with you. Unless you're gone.
Let her cheat dude, WTH!
All these simps worried about her chasing pipe.
Let her go, just don't touch her if/when she returns, you might get a gift.
This guy knows his stuff.
You are a great person..chris!!
Attraction grows with your bank account enough said .
That's why I value money over women and I chase rich successful women
If that were true Floyd would still have Ms Jackson but instead Nelly got her when Floyd is way richer than Nelly
@@Nameanduser Floyd doesn’t want her. He hangs out with strippers and models.
Honestly this guy is the real OG listen to him
My and my girlfriend broke up over this quarantine. She had seemed bored and never wanted to get intimate. I believe she broke up with me because she lost attraction for me. I thought this time away from her would make her miss me but it seems like it only assured her that i’m not the one for her. I need help
Not every relationship is salvageable (for any number of reasons). Let her walk. It may hurt, but compartmentalize those feelings and project to her an aura of "hey, cool, have a nice life." No need to get bitter or pissed because if anything, she did you a favor. Now work on yourself and don't sweat the small shit.
Thanks for the info and tips.
PLEASE LISTEN TO THE MAN. PLEASEEEEEEE, HE'S THE ONE WHO MADE ME GET MY RESPECT BACK AND NOW MY GIRL LOVES ME EVEN MORE🤦.
I LOVE YOU CHRIS. I JUST LOVE YOU SO MUCH
Hi Chris!
I have one short question about certain sentence from your book "Atomic Attraction" (worth every penny, i wouldn't be surprised if it cost twice price). Is "Emergency Help" on your website only way to contact? I don't put sentence here because I'm not sure if you're OK with that
Your vids are 🔥🔥
It's very hard especially in the beginning when you haven't won her over yet. There's someone I like I could have run into if I changed my routine but then it would look forced and I would risk looking needy so I maintain my schedule and run into her when it naturally happens. It's tough because sometimes it can be for months and I miss seeing her. But if it's meant to be and she feels something she will wait and hopefully this space will increase her attraction towards me.
Sir a Vid on why men should not hide the attraction . and know when to go all in or know when to hold back?
Great channel
Its been a long while preach on Chris
When strong project weakness, when week project strength
Your videos are GOLD.
I let women know up front I’m not a big phone conversation and texting type. I do small impact text just to say hello or plan dates. It’s much better to communicate when you see them in person and it’ll be a lot to catch up on and talk about. WYD text annoy women and it should annoy you too. Keep everything simple and be mysterious, but don’t ignore them at the same time.
My logic is if you like her you want to see her in person not text all day or talk all day on the phone. I'm also not addicted to my phone which will serve me well in relationships.
@@NoName-zb1gm AMen!
Your content is very excellent and very practical ....Women are attracted to what they strive to get ...
its funny the girl im dating does that at times..sends me small responses. so what i do is i take a hour or two and write her small responses back..then like less then 10 minutes later she will sometimes write me fast lol
Alright, where's the comment section coaches at?
People here say being responsive is good.
Mimicking the communication pattern of the girl is key.
She'll always go for the good-looking "Bad Boy," who treats her like dirt, and friend zone the guy who really loves her.
It's so backwards. You'd think maintaining contact and showing you care would make them want you but it literally doesn't
It’s not backwards. I even pull away when a woman is all over me and wants to spend every moment of everyday w me. People need space
Yikes watching this makes me feel embarrassed about my past actions
Live and learn :)
Super Chris!
Always pull away if she pulls away. That goes for things like flaking, if she flakes on a date, stay unperturbed. Let her reach back out to you
its been 5 week of no contact its getting hard now
haha most of the time when you don't respond or text first then you never hear back from her?
Exactly
Hey chris can you make a video on how to deal with an abusive female narcissists? Thank you!
No need. You walk away. What the hell else do you think you should do?
You are a 🌟 Chris
Nothing but facts!!
Is this still applicable when she's already ur girlfriend?
Yeah kinda. I mean she has to think you're there when she needs you and what you should be anyways. But give her space to miss you. Kinda lost my girlfriend that way and learned from it lol
@stephan berg ..like after texting last...how long should you wait..if she is your GF should she always initiate contact if i was last to text?
@@naturalphenomena4025 Nah it should be equal. I mean you have got to show her that you have genuine interest in her. The problem is, if you are too available longterm, she'll take you for granted and automatically think that you don't have much going on in your life but waiting dor her to text you. That's just not attractive. But you can answer as soon as you see that she texted you normally bit if you got something else going on at the moment, for example you are with friends, you just don't have to look at your phone all the time. Hope I could help
Stephan Berg it should not be equal. It should be 80% woman reaching out first. 20% man reaching out first. Don’t be too emotionally available and don’t be needy and ur g for starters
If both of you love each other , it doesn't matter lol
Thanks
Is there any way you can show care and love and for her not to see you as week and needy?To have the power in relationship but also be the one who loves more?Maybe I am weak but other than sex I don't see why you would ever have a relationship with women based on this material
Yes this is something not touched on enough. What's the point of being in a relationship if you can't express your love?
Was blocked 4 times without any proper goodbye and reason for being extra caring😂(by 4 different persons)
nice video bro
Its so confusing im not gonna be with any women i think being alone is way better
You need to be with them for sex at least...
Right, so if something is difficult to learn you give up and don’t try? If your boss at work is confusing and hard to work for, will you also quit your job and be alone at home? Being alone is good, but you can burn out from that too. I would suggest learning how to pick up women and THEN being alone. That way you will have confidence that if you ever felt like it, you could have a partner, and being alone is by choice and not involuntary.
@@McDnyss thank you for repyling me homie you are so kind
i try to buy your book on Kindle, but it wasn't available. Back then it was. Please make it on kindle 🙏
Cash Flow It is still available, but it depends on the country you are trying to buy from.
What if I did everything that you said not to do
I'm so unresponsive I ghost women everyday, It's great :) thanks for teaching me some tips Develop Attraction, you know you stuff
That's why i ignore them, i stay sexy and I'm single forever lol
Lets be friends , becoz u r like me😉 ...!!
Barry the Bartender your sexiness will be gone faster than you think
Barry the Bartender um.. i managed to have 3 GFs without money and they kept paying for me and go crazy to have sex 🤷♂️ and the reason is ( attitude ) plus i still manage to get more girls attraction by being normal.
@@onilknight1102 I've been in the same situation on numerous occasions. Most of them were never my gf though.. I've only had 4gf my whole life (28) haven't been in an actual relationship in 4 years.. My most recent dating experience was in late winter last year.. I'm a weird person though while being fairly attractive. Never considered myself "normal". I'm not very strong in personal social interactions.
@@tobik2627 That's something I'm expecting soon. Lol
thanks
Im a woman and this video makes me feel really validated and understood. Thanks!
Ximena Parsons You’re welcome!
Are woman even allowed on this channel?? I find it very risky for guys.. 🤣
What are you doing here???
Hey 👋👋👋
Strength
But since everyone knows this wouldn't it no longer be affective
The thing is do u want someone that just frankly wants attention from someone that doesn't give it. Or thinking im weak cuz i say whats on my mind. Bro i refuse to let society tell me that i shouldnt be attentive to girls cuz its unattractive to them. Sounds like a personal probelm to me based on how your parents raised you. The guy that gives no attention doesnt love her and wont bring the best out of her. Those people that want attention when your not giving it will drag you down anyway weather u just fcking or together. Women n men need to wake up people die everyday to be bullshitting like that.
I have a really important question please answer. So I've been struggling with my ex, we go back and forth. And it's getting tiring on my end. Once again, our relationship was great, then she pulled away. So I made sure I followed these steps, and also didn't over respond. Then there came today where I wasn't feeling good, and was also a little upset and wanted to be left alone. Now after not replying to her Snapchat for the day, she calls me and is very upset that I hadn't contacted her. And now she is not talking to me, I haven't been calling her a thousand times. But it's getting tiring. It's sad because I really love this girl. And she's worth it and I want to make it work. Somebody please respond and help me with this.
Let it go, focus on your passion or work for a week. She'll be back when her emotions flip to missing you
move on
Focus on yourself King 👑
She’s an EX for a reason. You aren’t in love with her, you simply aren’t focusing your attention on other things in life. Your mission/purpose come first, your family second, your friends third, and finally - women, last. Do not change the order of priorities.
Why Aquarius will move on from a non responsive person??? Anyway the key is the person should have had feelings for you before, if not, Forget. They will just keep it pushing from your non response.
Once she started taking the piss in her texts I deleted her number on the spot!
I bet men in the 50s had it so easy when it came to dating lol
2:23
But one cannot be too slow either.
Chris i ask out many girls but i always get a no.. Although I'm good looking and i always respond late to girls.
Why?
It's not what you say, it's how you say it.
If you did not leave a great impression in person it's not gonna matter later.
Did this mistake, you're probably going straight in with the mindset of dating them. You need to firstly see whether they are capable of even getting along with you as friends in a way where you can be 100% comfortable and yourself with them. Once you have noticed there's a good connection where conversations are flowing without even trying then ask them out on a date - you'll more likely succeed.
My opinion.
This is true why it makes it an irony
good👏🏻👏🏻
On the other side they say you should be authentic and ORIGINAL i am really confused RN
rahmani rami you can both, how are you confused? Just don’t give women all your time when you’re texting don’t drop everything when she reply’s to text back
This is true except for when you’re dating a girl that is only in your area for a short amount of time and wants to make the most out of every moment before she goes
Act like you're not interested in her, even if you are. Don't show emotions be a fuckboy❤️
Does anyone know what software he’s using to animate the videos?
GoAnimate
Hi sir, please help me and suggest me please please sir. My wife has separated from me since nine months, I love my wife honestly and heartfully, we don't have children till now, I was following NO CONTACT Rule from six months. She has given missed call 3 or 4 times during no contact period, and only one and last message she send me That "call me, if u want to live with me at my home lossing with your parants and family, decision is yours and I need answer" and some times giving me worning that she has brothers. but she is not coming back to me or at my home. even their family is not reach out to me or to my mom by any of way. I am getting fear of losing her permanently. Do I reach out her OR still do I continue no contact rule. Please sir help me, I don't have support from my relatives. I am suffering and getting panic every second of day that "do I live life long As alone". My wife is not telling me honest decision, Please suggest me what do I do sir. Please please please Help me and reply me sir. I am requesting you to humble, give me an idea please.
If she is contacting you it means she is interested. You should contact her back now.
This is true
But females gets annoyed if u respond late they loose intrest
If thats the case then she wasnt really into u. Look at women lile a cold stone. U will know if the connection is there. I love the hell out this one girl known for twenty years but have to stand my ground i have tons of options but the connection with her is on another level. It is a hard thing with women anymore there are no actual answers and that because women are not logical. Hope u get the girl ya want man good luck. Ive decided to just do me cause i have control over that and got too much stress already with the virus going on and if a women cant help me relieve stress be my escape or give me her all and all her love then i cant be about it.
Very broken system if this is the way to start a family, man if this was the only way then no thanks.
Am happy I am muslim Alhhamdlh, we have our own rules.
Is this really contain all women's? Because my girlfriend gets mad when i do these . She always ask me to love her
never show that you love her,she is testing you,let her be upset,show some love and then be cool,hot and cold attitude
I second you Chris . I tried this technique. It worked.
But at end it was difficult for me to be persistent.
What should I do?
Focus and love your goals more than your girl
Focus on other goals, interests, and things that please you that do not involve women and also get yourself other ones...
@@thecommentschannel3548 Thanks. I mean how can avoid replying early?
@@musafawundu6718 Thanks. I mean how can avoid replying early?
@@isaacjacob6986
It will take a while, but you have to develop other interests and do things that please you and generally be involved in activities that take your attention and time away from just one/woman or girl.
Having multiple relationships also takes your attention time and attention away from just one of them.
To be more attractive to girls/women, aside from limiting the attention that you give them, you need to be of higher value, such as becoming more physically fit, especially if you are out of shape, dressing better especially when going out, and having finances in order, and if you can improving charisma - that is a lot more difficult.