That's interesting. I have to turn off my sound for that part everytime because it makes me feel very uncomfortable, I don't really know why. For whatever reasons I hate that jingle deep in my bones - anyone feeling like me?
I so appreciate how vulnerable Ashley is on the pod. She’s got a lot of insight and self awareness that she delivers with a joke, not only to make it easier to share, but easier to receive. Refreshing to hear the unapologetically talk about pain and her personal reflections too! Thanks Ash!
Did y'all know that the part where the Sims could be on same sex relationships was an accident? Well it was put on the code because one of the creators was gay, but the idea was cancelled, but when a new boss came in who had to make like a game pitch, he accidentally used the older version of the game with the "gay code", and a lesbian kiss appeared on the pitch and everyone loved it
smh, The Sims came out like 2 years after Fallout 2 already had the player be able to bang a farmer's son or daughter as either gender and be forced into a shotgun wedding by their father
Ashley, please for the love of all things gay don't stop talking about your chronic pain. Visibility is so important for those of us with invisible disabilities. As someone who's suffered from chronic pain since I was 7 years old, I'm now 33, and it's only been in the last 3 years where I was able to say out loud to my friends, family and community that "I am disabled." It was one of the hardest steps I had to take, but so necessary in order to fully accept my circumstances and to step into advocating for myself and the care I deserve. White knuckling through life isn't a full life. All that being said, seeing a fellow artist find so much success in their art and career all while battling so much pain has been so inspiring. So please, as long as it's in your comfort zone, keep sharing your journey. I'm rooting for you and for all of us chronic pain gaybies 🖤
I 1000% agree with this! I'm 41 & have dealt with chronic pain & illness for 20+ years. And I'm in the process of being tested for mixed connective tissue issues now. Having this representation has been healing for me! I so appreciate it! 🙏
I also have EDS and it was so hard to finally admit that I am disabled by it. I cried in shame when I had to admit that I needed to get a handicapped placard. And I still have embarrassment around accepting and admitting that I am disabled. You are not alone in these feelings you're having around it. I have said it before but I really appreciate your honestly and vulnerability lately about your struggles. I am so glad that you are feeling better and finding the things that are working for you!
I’d been diagnosed with ME/CFS (knew I’d lived with a supposedly mild form most of my life)-also have EDS-and was getting worse at the time of diagnosis (finally), and I couldn’t bring myself to admit out loud that I was going to be disabled soon if I didn’t stop work. My doctor told me to start working part time but at the time in the US, I had no other way to get health insurance except through my employer and he wouldn’t let me cut my hours to 30 hours a week. I couldn’t bring myself to tell him I had ME/CFS in case he found a way to fire me. At the time, I asked my doctor, “Who’s going to pay my mortgage?” I fully pushed myself into a worse state with my denial nonsense.
I also have EDS! I'm lucky that it has minimal negative effect on my day to day life currently, but there have been times where it's been much worse... and the worst part wasn't even the pain, it was the medical gaslighting ✨✨✨ It's hard to accept when you realize you are disabled for a lot of people. Something that helped me a lot was to realize that EVERYBODY has been, is or will be disabled at some point in their life. It"s something that we culturally avoid talking about and avoid engaging with.
Oh yes internalized ableism is b***. There is nothing to be embarrassed about 💜 But autism diagnosis opened a whole new beautiful world to me. I wholeheartedly recommend the YT channel Special Books By Special Kids. It helped me so much to accept myself.
I will have to get a disability accomodation at my college due to extremely long chronic migraines that became a disability, and I've been post-poning calling to make arrangements bcs it's pretty scary to admit and request it, even if you really need it. Strength to all my fellow chronic pain sufferers
I cried as well 🤗 I felt like I was mourning my former self for the first 10+ years. I hope that your journey becomes easier. Acceptance was very difficult for me as well, I suspect it is for most people. As far as feeling embarrassed about a disability, I've been there but now I'm more kicking the door in and announcing it lol. I think the embarrassed comes from internalized ableism - the idea that if you're disabled you're insufficient, a burden, you're not a full person. There's nothing to be embarrassed about 🤗 You're not inconvienencing people, you're not less valuable than other people, there's no need to feel shame that your body works differently. And let's be real a lot of able people be a MESS lol. We're all a mess at some point. It's part of the human experience. But it's not like concessions don't need to be made for able people, those concessions are just more common and socially acceptable
The way when Ashley talked about not white knuckling through pain I got up to go get my meds rather than fighting to prop my head up with pillows at the one angle that isn't unbearable to my neck. Thank you for the CPT and it is clearly making an impact but also take things in your own time and don't feel like you have to share the CPT if you aren't ready for it. My neighbors must think I'm crazy cause this is the only podcast that makes me literally lol. Love all 3 of you!
Disability is seriously a spectrum! It's not either you can't do anything or you can do everything. Chronic pain is disabling. Unfortunately MOST of society is still ableist so don't let others get to you. There are some great creators that help with this though. You are very much valid.
I finally submitted my disability paperwork last week after dragging my feet for six years! Accepting my disability identity has been rough. Internalized ableism is so real. I’m happy you’ve started feeling better, Ashley!
9:19 I had to pause and write this one down in the note book. “This is the rest of your life, you kinda have to act like it” is such a simple sentence with such a heavy sentiment. Thank you Ashley, that’s a new mantra for me Edit: ugh! And the spoons reference at the end!!! Can only have so many spoons 🥄
The convo on trying to whiteknuckle through it and "failing" hit haaaard. I have a condition too and really felt it. It's so cool to hear Ashgavs finding a balance and a way to live more kindly towards herself.
It's been fun watching the development of the intro, going from Daddy, Mommy, and Baby, with Alayna doing everything in her power to avoid calling herself Mommy, to Alayna confidently/casually saying Mother and Mak calling herself the Hot Teenaged
I also have EDS! (type 3) i found out when i was about 17. it took years for me to understand and let it sink in what it means to be disabled. so proud of you ashley!! i love hearing people with a big following talk about it!! thank you for your vulnerability!
I also have EDS and I am currently going through the process of getting medical help. My hip pain is so severe, but the idea of spending immense amounts of money is scary when I am not convinced the doctors know how to help me. Hearing Ashley talk about EDS is so important becuase no one in my life truly understands what living with this disability is like. I hope her next treatment helps and I am glad she is feeling better now.
My mom was disabled (as a result of my birth...) and so has been as long a I've known her. Two crutches always outdoors, fentanyl prescription and a wheel chair for 'those days'. So I've witnessed what it can be like Ashley and I have great sympathy for and pride in anyone who bravely lives with chronic pain. I hope yours isn't progressive.
Alayna saying Tom Holland instead of Tom Welling c. 2005 , had me crying 🤣 Tom Holland in 2005 would have been the same age as me, which was 9 years old… definitely think Mak was going for the Tom Welling in his late 20’s in 2005 vibes 🤣
I'm in the middle of a flare up with EDS and Ashley's update has given me some perspective and hope that it won't last forever. Thanks for sharing about your struggles.
thank you so much for speaking about the white-knuckling pain. i experience it exactly as you do, ash & alayna, and you’re right its pointless!!! also mak you’re on fire !! 🔥😂
Ashley I’m so sorry you’re dealing with chronic health issues and pain. I’ve been dealing for over a decade (from age 15- now at almost 27) and I hope you get the help and relief you need! I got a Fibro diagnosis in the summer but knew that wasn’t it, and I did end up getting both an MS and Endo diagnosis this January finally after I suspected both conditions for half of my life, but I was ignored and brushed off by our Canadian healthcare system. It took me standing up for myself at an ER visit to push for a neurologist referral to finally get the answers I knew I needed and also have to start the process of medications which is scary. I’m sending all of the good thoughts etc to you Ashley! I hope things get better for you (and all of us chronic pain crew)
Its been over a year and Ashley's "I gym, tan, laundry then I chronic pain talk about how hard all those things were for me" still gets me, without fail, every single time
As someone who also suffers from chronic pain (autoimmune arthritis woot woot), I am also coming to terms with the fact that I have a disability lately and I really appreciate Ashley talking about this. I really relate to you saying "this is the rest of your life, you have to act like it" and for talking about alternative coping strategies like mindfulness and modified exercise ◡̈
thank you for talking about the chronic pain thing. the white-knuckling through the pain and ashley talking about how it all compounds to more pain is so. wow. anyway just. thank you for reminding me to be more mindful about taking care of myself
So glad to hear you’re doing better Ashley!! Sending you love❤❤ and thank you all for the talk about the clothing sections. It was very relatable and it was reassuring to hear🥰
Coming to terms with being disabled is really difficult. There's a whole grieving process that comes with it. It's not ableist to have feelings about losing abilities you once had and/or realizing you may never be able to do certain things again. I was an athlete for 13 years, from the age of 3 until I was 16. I've always had my chronic illness, but it's worse now than it was as a kid. I'm 21 years old and I can't walk up the stairs without feeling like I might pass out. Just last week my heart rate went up to 185bpm because I ran around a corner, meanwhile I was a soccer player for most of my life. I played just below the provincial level and had soccer of some sort 4 times a week. Practice, fitness training, goalkeeper training, and a game every week. (not to mention the other sports I was also playing at the same time.) It's hard to go from that level of athleticism to getting dizzy and winded from standing for too long. I don't know if I will ever be able to play soccer again and that really sucks! And EDS sucks! It's painful! It's okay to have negative feelings about having it. It isn't ableist to have those feelings about your own disability. It's normal and it's okay.
From one formerly very active person to another, I hear you. It's frustrating not to be able to do a thing you love, that forms part of your identity & your self-esteem. I've been lucky enough to marry someone with almost as little energy as me, who's shown me the joys of "boring" pursuits like crafts. I no longer consider my identity to be tied to what I can do, but to who I am & what I do when I'm able. My mental health is great too. I hope you find lots of new ways to love yourself & enjoy your time. But yes, the grief is very justified
Speaking of queer versions of heterosexual things, I binge listened to this and Ashley's other podcast and momentarily forgot straight people existed. I listened to a song a few days ago that was a woman singing about a partner and when they used a male pronoun I was like "wait what" before realizing "oh right straight people exist, I'm not listening to a gay podcast right now"
Ashely, watching these as I'm going through EDS diagnosis process after being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, makes ME cry! I felt guilty and like there was something wrong with me for not being able to just push through it. Thank you for being vulnerable.
Thank you Ashley for talking about what you're going through. I don't have chronic pain, but I'm still in the process of finding things to help my mental health. I relate so much to the emotional process of realizing there's nothing wrong with me and I don't need to white knuckle it through a hard/painful day. 💕 and yes, you seem to be doing do much better and you look more refreshed. 😊
The discussions about questioning gender and sexuality were relatable and interesting to hear. I had a hard time with my gender identity/expression for a bit shortly after realizing I was queer. I only just recently had an epiphany as to why I was so uncomfortable being feminine, and only for a certain period of time. After coming out (and being outed at school) I was viewed negatively for dating a girl, so I guess I tried to be more masculine so that it wasn't gay? Kind of like what Ashley was talking about with acting/dressing like a boy in order to crush on girls. I didn't realize at the time that that was why I felt that way, I just knew that I wanted to be viewed as masculine, and was pretty dysphoric. But that feeling started going away when I went into high school and felt more accepted. I still wasn't sure how I identified, but I decided to put off figuring it out since I was no longer feeling dysphoric. I do still question every now and then though, so idk if I'm truly cis. The best way I can describe it is feeling like female adjacent. I like calling myself a woman and presenting feminine, but for some reason I'm still a bit hesitant to call myself a cis woman. I've considered labeling myself as a demigirl or genderqueer, but I'm still questioning it. It did help a bit to hear other perspectives and experiences though. It's nice to know that other people have gone through similar.
two gay awakenings of mine mentioned in this podcast: smallville (mine was lana lang) and a shot at love with tila tequila (I had a dream that tila chose me, and I wasn't even out to myself yet) I love this podcast and all of you, so glad I found these videos.
for my chronic pain I had to read about cognitive behavioral therapy and for the whole book it was abbreviated as CBT and I just kept giggling when I was supposed to be learning about my messed up nerves lol
I'm a vet & have also done CBT. I also have to do continuing professional development. The other week I did CPD about CBD & these acronyms need to stop 🤣 (TLDR on CBD for dogs- not enough data on safety, efficacy data highly variable & of low quality, unregulated here in UK so you don't know what you're getting, in case anyone's curious)
Great episode as always, by the way I not only recommended the podcast to one person, but TWO. Seriously though, this is the only podcast I've ever kept up with and I look forward to next week.
I love these episodes so much- I genuinely feel like I’m having an extra therapy session every week and love listening to every beautiful word of wisdom that comes out of these women’s mouths🥰 Also these gals are so fuckin funny it’s amazing 🤩 🥰
to answer mak's question - i made masc lesbian sims that made out with lots of women and am now living my happy little gay fantasies out in the real non-sims world
The first thought I (as some form of nonbinary/trans) had upon first learning about trans people and hearing their stories about childhood trans experiences was a very innocent "Ah! I have a bunch of stories that would work pretty nicely for this if I ever came out as trans :D"
lol OMG Ashley is really funny! Mak your fans love you too! lol Love getting to watch all of you at the same time with this podcast. You all have a great chemistry and fun-loving friendship. I am here every week and just wanted to thank you for the giggles.
First off as a bi Ashley gives me gay panic. Second off mak my 10 year old cut her hair off(it’s like yours), wears “boy” clothes and came out as a lesbian but told me “I’m still a girl I don’t like long hair and shirts with stupid flowers” so as a mom of a mini mak I’m sorry people are shit about your gender identity. I showed her a picture of you after she cut her hair off and she was so happy to see someone who is the same style as her.
I'm so late but this turned me into a bundle of happy tears. Sometimes it's easy to forget the little moments of goodness in the world and how meaningful they can be, so thank you for sharing a piece of yours. I'm so happy that you and your mini Mak get to share in the adventures and happiness together 🥹❤️
Ashley btw! If you haven't, I highly recommend reading When the Body Says No and The Body Keeps The Score. You might have already but please be open to them if not! I prefer When the body says no.
Petition for a video where Ashley, Mak and Alayna make their own Sims and live in an actual house being an actual chosen family
THIS IS SUCH A BANGER IDEA
WOULD WATCH
PLEASE THAT’D BE AWESOME
YES PLEASE!
I need this
The way that no matter how many times Mak says Tom Welling, Alayna continues to confidently say Tom Holland.
The whole episode hahaha....
It’s the most mom thing ever lol 😂I love it
LMAO
Tom Holland in 2005
It's a Millennial / Gen Z divide 😂
ok but the fact that Mak puposfully dressed like Tom Welling at the 2005 teen choice awards is just why i love her lmao
The hilarity of Alayna looking up Tom Spider-Man while Mak is talking about Tom Superman! 😂
She really was thinking it was Tom Holland the whole time 😂
@@SkittlesMafia I'm surprised Mak even knows about Welling, he's more Alayna's generation
My literal favorite part is the intro when Mak says “& I’m your hot teenage brother” and Alayna says “baby, you are baby” lmaoo it kills me 😂
Me too lmao
Imagining Matt Rife’s whiplash listening to this episode. Simultaneously roasted and thirsted. Truly the yin and the yang. 😂😂😂
15:30 "This is what happens when a man is raised by the lesbians around him" This line KILLED me lmao
Did you see the picture? What does alex even look like? I'm curious now
Right?
I love hearing that "Forever Dog" of a Wednesday morning, I've been pavloved into smiling when I hear it.
Same!
Same!!!!
Saaaaaaame
Same here.
That's interesting. I have to turn off my sound for that part everytime because it makes me feel very uncomfortable, I don't really know why. For whatever reasons I hate that jingle deep in my bones - anyone feeling like me?
Okay, Mak is so relatable with her aesthetic attraction, Victorious references and language learning. I love it.
I so appreciate how vulnerable Ashley is on the pod. She’s got a lot of insight and self awareness that she delivers with a joke, not only to make it easier to share, but easier to receive. Refreshing to hear the unapologetically talk about pain and her personal reflections too! Thanks Ash!
Did y'all know that the part where the Sims could be on same sex relationships was an accident? Well it was put on the code because one of the creators was gay, but the idea was cancelled, but when a new boss came in who had to make like a game pitch, he accidentally used the older version of the game with the "gay code", and a lesbian kiss appeared on the pitch and everyone loved it
smh, The Sims came out like 2 years after Fallout 2 already had the player be able to bang a farmer's son or daughter as either gender and be forced into a shotgun wedding by their father
Peep the “ I should call her “ swear jar on Mak’s desk 🤣🤣
Ashley, please for the love of all things gay don't stop talking about your chronic pain. Visibility is so important for those of us with invisible disabilities. As someone who's suffered from chronic pain since I was 7 years old, I'm now 33, and it's only been in the last 3 years where I was able to say out loud to my friends, family and community that "I am disabled." It was one of the hardest steps I had to take, but so necessary in order to fully accept my circumstances and to step into advocating for myself and the care I deserve. White knuckling through life isn't a full life. All that being said, seeing a fellow artist find so much success in their art and career all while battling so much pain has been so inspiring. So please, as long as it's in your comfort zone, keep sharing your journey. I'm rooting for you and for all of us chronic pain gaybies 🖤
Yes! I vote for CPT to be a regular thing please!!
I 1000% agree with this! I'm 41 & have dealt with chronic pain & illness for 20+ years. And I'm in the process of being tested for mixed connective tissue issues now. Having this representation has been healing for me! I so appreciate it! 🙏
Can we please have the reaction of Alayna's mom and sister to the part where Ashley says: "hi mom and sister" 🙏😂
i love that ashley uses the spoon measurement, in the chronic pain community that’s such a vibe
I’m a spoonie, too! I was excited about that little mention, too!
I also have EDS and it was so hard to finally admit that I am disabled by it. I cried in shame when I had to admit that I needed to get a handicapped placard. And I still have embarrassment around accepting and admitting that I am disabled. You are not alone in these feelings you're having around it. I have said it before but I really appreciate your honestly and vulnerability lately about your struggles. I am so glad that you are feeling better and finding the things that are working for you!
I’d been diagnosed with ME/CFS (knew I’d lived with a supposedly mild form most of my life)-also have EDS-and was getting worse at the time of diagnosis (finally), and I couldn’t bring myself to admit out loud that I was going to be disabled soon if I didn’t stop work. My doctor told me to start working part time but at the time in the US, I had no other way to get health insurance except through my employer and he wouldn’t let me cut my hours to 30 hours a week. I couldn’t bring myself to tell him I had ME/CFS in case he found a way to fire me.
At the time, I asked my doctor, “Who’s going to pay my mortgage?”
I fully pushed myself into a worse state with my denial nonsense.
I also have EDS! I'm lucky that it has minimal negative effect on my day to day life currently, but there have been times where it's been much worse... and the worst part wasn't even the pain, it was the medical gaslighting ✨✨✨ It's hard to accept when you realize you are disabled for a lot of people. Something that helped me a lot was to realize that EVERYBODY has been, is or will be disabled at some point in their life. It"s something that we culturally avoid talking about and avoid engaging with.
Oh yes internalized ableism is b***. There is nothing to be embarrassed about 💜 But autism diagnosis opened a whole new beautiful world to me. I wholeheartedly recommend the YT channel Special Books By Special Kids. It helped me so much to accept myself.
I will have to get a disability accomodation at my college due to extremely long chronic migraines that became a disability, and I've been post-poning calling to make arrangements bcs it's pretty scary to admit and request it, even if you really need it. Strength to all my fellow chronic pain sufferers
I cried as well 🤗 I felt like I was mourning my former self for the first 10+ years. I hope that your journey becomes easier. Acceptance was very difficult for me as well, I suspect it is for most people. As far as feeling embarrassed about a disability, I've been there but now I'm more kicking the door in and announcing it lol. I think the embarrassed comes from internalized ableism - the idea that if you're disabled you're insufficient, a burden, you're not a full person. There's nothing to be embarrassed about 🤗 You're not inconvienencing people, you're not less valuable than other people, there's no need to feel shame that your body works differently. And let's be real a lot of able people be a MESS lol. We're all a mess at some point. It's part of the human experience. But it's not like concessions don't need to be made for able people, those concessions are just more common and socially acceptable
Mak and Ashley wearing the same hat backwards is hilarious to me😂❤
We should cast Tom Welling to play Mak in the chosen family movie
The way when Ashley talked about not white knuckling through pain I got up to go get my meds rather than fighting to prop my head up with pillows at the one angle that isn't unbearable to my neck. Thank you for the CPT and it is clearly making an impact but also take things in your own time and don't feel like you have to share the CPT if you aren't ready for it. My neighbors must think I'm crazy cause this is the only podcast that makes me literally lol. Love all 3 of you!
Sorry for the tangent but OMG I didn’t know everyone was saying CPT but just kept mistakenly saying CBT…I know both meanings and was SO CONFUSED
Dove Cameron sliding into Mak’s dm’s is actually a huge flex though 😅😍
awe i actually smiled so big when ashley said she took a turn for the better 😭
Who's gonna tell Alayna that she's talking about the wrong Tom 😅
Disability is seriously a spectrum! It's not either you can't do anything or you can do everything. Chronic pain is disabling. Unfortunately MOST of society is still ableist so don't let others get to you. There are some great creators that help with this though. You are very much valid.
I finally submitted my disability paperwork last week after dragging my feet for six years! Accepting my disability identity has been rough. Internalized ableism is so real. I’m happy you’ve started feeling better, Ashley!
9:19 I had to pause and write this one down in the note book. “This is the rest of your life, you kinda have to act like it” is such a simple sentence with such a heavy sentiment. Thank you Ashley, that’s a new mantra for me
Edit: ugh! And the spoons reference at the end!!! Can only have so many spoons 🥄
The convo on trying to whiteknuckle through it and "failing" hit haaaard. I have a condition too and really felt it. It's so cool to hear Ashgavs finding a balance and a way to live more kindly towards herself.
I love the age range ! You get such a wider audience this way, the conversation is so much fun
Waking up at 8 am to find this is actually the best. I’m so happy now!
I love that we can see the glass from Mak's reaction videos on her desk with the "i should call her" note
It would be so cool and funny if after all this Ashley ends up calling Matt Rife as a guest on her pod 😂
Ashley's "I only have so many spoons" at the end killed me
It's been fun watching the development of the intro, going from Daddy, Mommy, and Baby, with Alayna doing everything in her power to avoid calling herself Mommy, to Alayna confidently/casually saying Mother and Mak calling herself the Hot Teenaged
I also have EDS! (type 3) i found out when i was about 17. it took years for me to understand and let it sink in what it means to be disabled. so proud of you ashley!! i love hearing people with a big following talk about it!! thank you for your vulnerability!
I literally spit out my water I was laughing so hard when Mak and Ashley started fighting over Alayna’s sister 😂
I was watching this while working in my bedroom, came out to the living room and my girlfriend was watching it in the kitchen lol. Love you 3
That's how you know you got a keeper lol
I also have EDS and I am currently going through the process of getting medical help. My hip pain is so severe, but the idea of spending immense amounts of money is scary when I am not convinced the doctors know how to help me. Hearing Ashley talk about EDS is so important becuase no one in my life truly understands what living with this disability is like. I hope her next treatment helps and I am glad she is feeling better now.
the best friend's brother song 😭 I freaking love it
Ashley, you are radiating!
Inspiring me to stop only using hot water bottles for my pain and actually take my health and self care seriously 😂
My mom was disabled (as a result of my birth...) and so has been as long a I've known her. Two crutches always outdoors, fentanyl prescription and a wheel chair for 'those days'. So I've witnessed what it can be like Ashley and I have great sympathy for and pride in anyone who bravely lives with chronic pain. I hope yours isn't progressive.
mak is getting so good!!! theyre coming out of their shell and getting funnier and funnier 🧡
Alayna saying Tom Holland instead of Tom Welling c. 2005 , had me crying 🤣
Tom Holland in 2005 would have been the same age as me, which was 9 years old… definitely think Mak was going for the Tom Welling in his late 20’s in 2005 vibes 🤣
Plot twist: I was literally left on the steps of a police station when I was a few days old so this podcast intro is really speaking to me :P
I'm in the middle of a flare up with EDS and Ashley's update has given me some perspective and hope that it won't last forever. Thanks for sharing about your struggles.
thank you so much for speaking about the white-knuckling pain. i experience it exactly as you do, ash & alayna, and you’re right its pointless!!! also mak you’re on fire !! 🔥😂
This is such a great episode! Literally one of the best thus far, which is saying a lot because every single one of them has been great.
Ashley I’m so sorry you’re dealing with chronic health issues and pain. I’ve been dealing for over a decade (from age 15- now at almost 27) and I hope you get the help and relief you need!
I got a Fibro diagnosis in the summer but knew that wasn’t it, and I did end up getting both an MS and Endo diagnosis this January finally after I suspected both conditions for half of my life, but I was ignored and brushed off by our Canadian healthcare system.
It took me standing up for myself at an ER visit to push for a neurologist referral to finally get the answers I knew I needed and also have to start the process of medications which is scary.
I’m sending all of the good thoughts etc to you Ashley! I hope things get better for you (and all of us chronic pain crew)
Congrats Ash, it is so good to see you happy again!! Soooo relate to feeling the worst with chronic pain when I'm sleep deprived
Thisss was one of my favourites again!! So lovely to see the energy come back to Ashley and everyone being so happy and silly ❤ Love you Fam ❤
this podcast is the highlight of my week
Me too
Mak was on something else in this episode. It was so funny
It took me so long to learn and understand what Ashley is learning and I’m so proud of you and myself
25:34 punk rock drummer and he’s 6 foot 3!
Its been over a year and Ashley's "I gym, tan, laundry then I chronic pain talk about how hard all those things were for me" still gets me, without fail, every single time
As someone who also suffers from chronic pain (autoimmune arthritis woot woot), I am also coming to terms with the fact that I have a disability lately and I really appreciate Ashley talking about this. I really relate to you saying "this is the rest of your life, you have to act like it" and for talking about alternative coping strategies like mindfulness and modified exercise ◡̈
Ashley I adore you!! Love your humor and vulnerability!! Much love to all three of you❤️
thank you for talking about the chronic pain thing. the white-knuckling through the pain and ashley talking about how it all compounds to more pain is so. wow. anyway just. thank you for reminding me to be more mindful about taking care of myself
Laughing about the boat comment… Oh my god, so funny! LMAO.
So glad to hear you’re doing better Ashley!! Sending you love❤❤ and thank you all for the talk about the clothing sections. It was very relatable and it was reassuring to hear🥰
Coming to terms with being disabled is really difficult. There's a whole grieving process that comes with it. It's not ableist to have feelings about losing abilities you once had and/or realizing you may never be able to do certain things again.
I was an athlete for 13 years, from the age of 3 until I was 16. I've always had my chronic illness, but it's worse now than it was as a kid. I'm 21 years old and I can't walk up the stairs without feeling like I might pass out. Just last week my heart rate went up to 185bpm because I ran around a corner, meanwhile I was a soccer player for most of my life. I played just below the provincial level and had soccer of some sort 4 times a week. Practice, fitness training, goalkeeper training, and a game every week. (not to mention the other sports I was also playing at the same time.) It's hard to go from that level of athleticism to getting dizzy and winded from standing for too long. I don't know if I will ever be able to play soccer again and that really sucks!
And EDS sucks! It's painful! It's okay to have negative feelings about having it. It isn't ableist to have those feelings about your own disability. It's normal and it's okay.
From one formerly very active person to another, I hear you. It's frustrating not to be able to do a thing you love, that forms part of your identity & your self-esteem. I've been lucky enough to marry someone with almost as little energy as me, who's shown me the joys of "boring" pursuits like crafts. I no longer consider my identity to be tied to what I can do, but to who I am & what I do when I'm able. My mental health is great too. I hope you find lots of new ways to love yourself & enjoy your time. But yes, the grief is very justified
Truth! to you both. ✊️🤗
😂😂 you guys had me crying laughing! Thanks for another great episode!
Speaking of queer versions of heterosexual things, I binge listened to this and Ashley's other podcast and momentarily forgot straight people existed. I listened to a song a few days ago that was a woman singing about a partner and when they used a male pronoun I was like "wait what" before realizing "oh right straight people exist, I'm not listening to a gay podcast right now"
I say "tag" and "bag" the same as Alayna because of living in Chicago for only a few years but it's engrained in me now 😂
I have so many queer friends that we tell our straight friends that we accept them lmfao
This might have been my favorite episode so far!! I can feel the three of you settling into this dynamic and being funny as!
Thanks for the Pod, yall!
Ashely, watching these as I'm going through EDS diagnosis process after being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, makes ME cry! I felt guilty and like there was something wrong with me for not being able to just push through it. Thank you for being vulnerable.
I love this podcast so much. I binged it last week.
2:52 pause, Mak if you are straight even though I don't swing that way/understand that lifestyle I'll still support you lmao
Thank you Ashley for talking about what you're going through. I don't have chronic pain, but I'm still in the process of finding things to help my mental health. I relate so much to the emotional process of realizing there's nothing wrong with me and I don't need to white knuckle it through a hard/painful day. 💕 and yes, you seem to be doing do much better and you look more refreshed. 😊
The discussions about questioning gender and sexuality were relatable and interesting to hear. I had a hard time with my gender identity/expression for a bit shortly after realizing I was queer. I only just recently had an epiphany as to why I was so uncomfortable being feminine, and only for a certain period of time. After coming out (and being outed at school) I was viewed negatively for dating a girl, so I guess I tried to be more masculine so that it wasn't gay? Kind of like what Ashley was talking about with acting/dressing like a boy in order to crush on girls. I didn't realize at the time that that was why I felt that way, I just knew that I wanted to be viewed as masculine, and was pretty dysphoric. But that feeling started going away when I went into high school and felt more accepted. I still wasn't sure how I identified, but I decided to put off figuring it out since I was no longer feeling dysphoric.
I do still question every now and then though, so idk if I'm truly cis. The best way I can describe it is feeling like female adjacent. I like calling myself a woman and presenting feminine, but for some reason I'm still a bit hesitant to call myself a cis woman. I've considered labeling myself as a demigirl or genderqueer, but I'm still questioning it. It did help a bit to hear other perspectives and experiences though. It's nice to know that other people have gone through similar.
I need “poor little lost kitten of a gay” on a tshirt
Dove & I went to see Burlesque together in highschool living our hot topic dreams.
Im having straight panic with Pedro Pascal right now help
two gay awakenings of mine mentioned in this podcast: smallville (mine was lana lang) and a shot at love with tila tequila (I had a dream that tila chose me, and I wasn't even out to myself yet)
I love this podcast and all of you, so glad I found these videos.
It was Chloe for me, but with what Allison Mack has gotten into since then it feels weird to admit that.
@@darx8419 understandable why you feel that way, I mean same, look at the path Tila took.... lol. but we couldn't have known back then.
@@darx8419 omg it was Chloe for me too
why is "your sim has skipped leg day" the sickest burn I've ever heard lmao
Dani Campbell IS a firefighter, she wasn't wearing a costume. 🤣
this episode had me dYinG😭😭
for my chronic pain I had to read about cognitive behavioral therapy and for the whole book it was abbreviated as CBT and I just kept giggling when I was supposed to be learning about my messed up nerves lol
I'm a vet & have also done CBT. I also have to do continuing professional development. The other week I did CPD about CBD & these acronyms need to stop 🤣
(TLDR on CBD for dogs- not enough data on safety, efficacy data highly variable & of low quality, unregulated here in UK so you don't know what you're getting, in case anyone's curious)
I am so glad I get out of school early in days you guys post these cuz I hate waiting so long to watch them!
Great episode as always, by the way I not only recommended the podcast to one person, but TWO. Seriously though, this is the only podcast I've ever kept up with and I look forward to next week.
I remember getting straight panic when I heard Corpse Husband speak the first few times lol.
It’s minutes to five in the morning and I’m so happy this was posted now lol 😭
I love these episodes so much- I genuinely feel like I’m having an extra therapy session every week and love listening to every beautiful word of wisdom that comes out of these women’s mouths🥰
Also these gals are so fuckin funny it’s amazing 🤩 🥰
to answer mak's question - i made masc lesbian sims that made out with lots of women and am now living my happy little gay fantasies out in the real non-sims world
Thank you for taking about chronic pain. Many suffer. ❤
The first thought I (as some form of nonbinary/trans) had upon first learning about trans people and hearing their stories about childhood trans experiences was a very innocent "Ah! I have a bunch of stories that would work pretty nicely for this if I ever came out as trans :D"
This one actually made me laugh so hard. Thanks, fam.
Where do I find a pic of Alex we need visuals
can i just say i have never seen Mak act so straight... I'm getting scared guys...
i just wanna say alayna’s hair looks really good this episode!! rly rly pretty curls !!!!!
Genuinely look forward to this each week, thanks y'all
lol OMG Ashley is really funny! Mak your fans love you too! lol Love getting to watch all of you at the same time with this podcast. You all have a great chemistry and fun-loving friendship. I am here every week and just wanted to thank you for the giggles.
First off as a bi Ashley gives me gay panic. Second off mak my 10 year old cut her hair off(it’s like yours), wears “boy” clothes and came out as a lesbian but told me “I’m still a girl I don’t like long hair and shirts with stupid flowers” so as a mom of a mini mak I’m sorry people are shit about your gender identity. I showed her a picture of you after she cut her hair off and she was so happy to see someone who is the same style as her.
I love that mini mak is having such a supercool mom-experience with you! Life-jackpot! 🎉
@@yamilia111 🥹 I’m so happy to be her mama raising her is a privilege
I'm so late but this turned me into a bundle of happy tears. Sometimes it's easy to forget the little moments of goodness in the world and how meaningful they can be, so thank you for sharing a piece of yours. I'm so happy that you and your mini Mak get to share in the adventures and happiness together 🥹❤️
Ash sometimes you give off Micheal Scott from the office vibes and I love it
Guys stop I was bingeing old eps of WHGS and was about to go to bed, I can’t do this rn
If anyone would like to add “sassy straight accepting aunt”… I really am down for that role in this family bizzzzzzzz 🎉
It is the opposite of ableist to come out as disabled. We love you Ashley ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Thanks for this awesome video on my birthday! :)
Happy birthday!!! 🥳🥳
Ashley btw! If you haven't, I highly recommend reading When the Body Says No and The Body Keeps The Score. You might have already but please be open to them if not! I prefer When the body says no.
Welp never thought I would be this early to a vid lol, might as well watch before going to bed
I'd love to be a fly on the wall when Alaynah's fam watch this ep lol