"Shadow Projection": Why people scapegoat you...
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- The shadow holds many of our unrecognized or pushed off traits. When we learn to integrate these traits in a healthy manner, we grow in our wholeness and can better individuate.
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I didn’t expect to come across such a charming, chocolate gentleman… must be fate! I truly enjoyed your background music but may I suggest some Star Trek instrumentals, harp, or classical next time? The right music would make your words resonate even more deeply.
If you outshine someone, they will project their weaknesses onto you to feel better about themselves.
It's still an unatural behavior.
@@jeannedouglas9912 unfortunately, it is not. Human nature to try to ease their feelings of invalidating nature (i.e. - knowing someone else is better than you).
Actual Factuals 💯💯
If you outshine someone, your light creates their shadow. Often bright light makes people uncomfortable, they enjoy thier shade 😎 😉
ALWAYS!!!
I’m 73 and learned through life that you can pour out love and it disappears like pouring out water in the desert. Animals will return love but humans never really do.
Because you feed the animal, you are its entire world. If its a dog its even more dependent upon you.
*Its not love its survival*
8:40
Humans can be petty and only offer conditional love when its given in a conditional way.
If you pour your cup out wilingly into the desert expecting nothing in return then you are unconditional in your love. Which you mentioned you are not doing, as you expect and are dissapointed ehen it is not returned.
You are complex, so is everyone.
Dont take it so personlly.
Love unconditionally as you think your animals do.
@@Altriex. , The Bible also says to love your spouse, with the only condition for divorce being adultery... So technically, we are all supposed to love like dogs. Who can sometimes also be conditional, right? I know that's fact also, because I have rescued dogs before who bit their owners. (I am an animal rehabber). All animals are somewhat conditional. They wont stay with someone hurting them. God made humans the same way.
You’re giving love to other people more than yourself. Love isn’t transactional.
wow....that's exactly what I see too! you only hv ur animals then?
@@rimeesi think he's talking more so about leading by example or treating others how he would like to be treated
Scapegoating is also gang stalking. Others become jealous of you because of the way you move to the extent they want to see you fail, gone. It's happened to me. I'm not a victim. I recognize people are cowards and followers. With those qualities, they will follow along with the hate just so the focus will stay off of them. It's really that simple. No disrespect. If you have any individualistic qualities just know people will gang up on you because they are envious, resentful and afraid to be themselves in a good way.
Oh yeh Baby; I ran for cover, it happened often. This is vindicating my thoughts. Things just didn’t add up. Problem is they saw my light and I didn’t. Very confusing.
Love this take on it! I’ve experience this is many different seasons of my life.. Family members being the blueprint to this dynamic.. thanks for sharing! 💜🙏🏼
This happens to me hard
Absolutely correct.
Joseph in the Torah went through this! his own brothers sold him away to Egyptians then they lied to their dad and said he got killed or something. he was seeing visions and it made him talk a lot so he stood out and it irked his brothers. they ended up screwing themselves because those visions would have lead them to wealth. Egypt saw that gift in him and took advantage and they ended up getting the success Jacob family would have gotten. it's a good lesson.
I've been doing shadow work for years, and it's amazing how much truth we hide from ourselves.
For me, growing up in a loveless, selfish household has brought almost 40 years of abusive friendships and relationships.
I had to remove my parents and everyone else from my life to heal.
I forgive, but when the same people who hurt you are the same ones pounding nails into your coffin while trying to heal- do yourself a favor and get rid of them! Friends, or family- doesn't matter. If they don't work on themselves they will keep coming after you and attacking.
Sounds like we grew up in the same family. I too cut them and all friends out to survive.
Been 32 years now and I like myself and love others.....
Shadow work was critical for me. Terrifying. But it taught me how to fashion my emotions to best serve me. There are definitely aspects of myself I wish had never been planted.
But as long as I acknowledge them, I can use them too.
I wish more people were brave enough to face themselves. It's truly liberating.
Same. At least, I'm working on it. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Can you give an example of what shadow part of yourself you've acknowledged and how you can use it in a beneficial way too?
@@websurfer5772the video has a good one: anger.
@@HighMaintainence Yeah that's great if you're well. I'm in debilitating chronic pain that worsens if I get tense or intense, or do any kind of activity at all. So, are there any others besides that one?
When I was well I was able to utilize my anger by going for a run and then being more relaxed, and focused and still having the energy to get things done.
I think we confuse passion and anger
It is hard to know who we actually are. We hide ourselves behind masks of pretense and deception. We try to act the way we think others want us to act. Even though we may try to do this a little, we usually end up not being who we really are.
We meet ourselves time and again in a thousand disguises on the path of life.
Carl Jung
Beautiful!! ❤
❤ nothing else can be said. nice
That's just immaturity and a lack of real wisdom. It's most of the population and by design.
@@markpatton6847 through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves.
@markpatton6847 would you mind elaborating on that thought? I’m truly curious how you arrived to your conclusion.
You can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it. And in a roundabout way, when you control how you react to situations, you begin attracting the experiences you want by resonating with the frequency of that experience.
If you act angrily in a situation where you could have acted more compassionately, then the experiences after that will reflect what you put out. So, an angry response will illicit an experience that will create more anger. The same is true with compassion.
Thanks❤
Most especially if you're aware of why you do what you do, only then can you choose to change it, rather than being railroaded by it
Man, i was just thinking about how simply allowing myself to react angry-ly at things had improved my adhd. and just writing things that frustrates me in morning just allows me to process things better.
Do you have any other adhd tips you could share ?? Recently discovered I may have it !!
@@huehuehue1155 bro i can't and you should avoid looking for hacks too, having adhd is just lack of function in working memory to navigate your contexts. personally, i keep a my physiology notebook where i stream `logs` of things to keep doing, avoid, change, mix up. where by the end of the week, i create a `structure` that glues those logs together and `list` to keep tabs on things which i link to my calendar. i do this all in obsidian btw.
@@romanmunarironically, this IS a very good tip to share 💜 I use a similar system and use the term “logs” for structure too. This is exactly the kind of system required for adhd/working memory challenge as it’s a healthy and effective adaptation… the trick is~it has to be kept up or everything falls apart (for me) … so it has to be fun and pliable for variety… a structure that lifts to create more freedom, less stress 🌊⛵️🌊 I agree it’s not about identity(adhd) but it is about understanding our brain’s differences to help with adaptations that can majorly help us and then once we have a system adhd doesn’t have to be a disadvantage (yes always a challenge bc of the need for systems) but also an advantage too! also, yes, recommend don’t get stuck in looking for tips (although they can be helpful ~there is no one “magic” thing)… it’s about starting a system today and working that system like you and I do… adding and taking away little parts of it based on current effectiveness/current goals/how we feel and need for variety! @huehuehue1155 you can do this! What he described was a system vs getting lost in hunt for individual tips… and systems can be adapted, just like sailing. You may want to look up hunter vs farmer brain~ it helps understand what gets and keeps our brains going and can help w the structure and the fun bells and whistles on the structure. For my Sailing, there’s a daily, weekly, monthly time and place… it’s sacred and necessary to my life. I use islands as part of the metaphor as well.
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@le370 mannnn you know you can justtype it again instead of that literally nonsense of a comment.
I see this in general in politics, it's really scary because it's a kind of insanity. Denial is the gospel of the darkness.
Right? Politics and every day life.
I lived in the USA for a while, and they love creating scapegoats there. Even for little things. Always an excuse, somebody else is always to blame, nobody owns their own mistakes, nobody learns from their own mistakes.
It is a kind of insanity
Protect this man. At all costs.
are you projecting?🃏
it's important to discuss this topic on how other project onto us. you only put out one projection from yourself but you have to deal with dozens of others projections on to yourself. that stuff takes up way more of your time than interpreting your own projections.
Yeo
Yep
I'm becoming more powerful as a person every day thanks to Jem Veda.
Great to hear, I’m rooting for you :)
Thank you for bringing up that you can scapegoat your parents!
That is very fashionable right now. We are often told that if we are angry at our parents, we are correct and our parents are always wrong. If they upset us in anyway, then they do not deserve our gratitude, respect or our love. These days we have no duty to our parents, no honour, no forgiveness. No empathy .It’s a fashion that most of us will regret in the future.
Sure, there are some of us who have experienced SA And horrible violence at our parents hands. But many of the people who are rejecting their parents right now are doing so for incredibly selfish shadow projection reasons.
Learning to forgive my mother set me free and made me responsible for my own actions
Amen.
Lots of people today blame their parents, in most cases the only people that love them unconditionally, for all of their personal faults. We have become ungrateful and pathetic.
We need to do shadow work.
You must be female if you've ever been treated like you were correct about any criticism of your parents you ever made.
Yeah ironically parents are becoming the scapegoats 😏. Nobody is perfect and every day is a school day
I was blasted in an online community for saying I'll still be nice to my narc mom that clearly put me through hell and left me there lol.
I have a homeboy that does that crap to me I swear it’s horrible, because he does this is a form of escapism so he uses me as like a shield or crutch to keep from feeling bad about himself so he will mirror his unacceptable behavior through someone else
Thats not your friend.
That should not be your homeboi
@@Ryukikon I agree two both comments !
I hope you hold strong firm boundaries.. or see that you deserve better friendships than that homeboy 💜🙏🏼
You articulate the Jungian concept quite well. Thank you for your efforts to help!
I appreciate your time and your depth of awareness in the abstract concepts you have sacrificed alot of time refining into wisdom. Thank You for posting this valuable information for everyone to consider the details they were lacking in their own perceptions. Universal Law of Randomness is not so random when you begin seeing the patterns of probable outcomes. This will allow you to avoid the series of unfortunate events that sometimes occur in the Law or Averages... Roll the dice ( opposite sides = 7 ) Adventure Awaits...
4:40+ Yes you have to have self respect. You are the best thinker & lecturer on the effects of newtonian symptoms & newtonian physics as an egalitarian bacteria perceptual vector on YT. So much helpful clarity. Tak sa mycket!
Thank you so much for this message. This message found me at just the right time. Needed to hear this today! ❤
Thank you for a very good description of the Shadow. I used to think that it contained only dark traits, so thank you for clarifying. I am also able to use my anger and rage to better myself - I just used them to promote myself to a better job and more money. You need to study your anger from every side, then carve away the bad sections until you're able to get to the meaty good bits - when you're done you'll have a sculpture of your personalized, new weapon- the one that gives you the power you need when you need it. Mine stays holstered at all times and if someone tries to do me harm, they're in for some hurtin' themselves.
Thanks
I SEE YOU!
Thank you for being another light worker that walks in the truth that is you.
Thank you :)
Thank you for sharing such a resonant concept…your calm energy and demeanor make for such easy listening and understanding, in addition to personal affirmation(s) of learning/growth 😌🙏
I want to add, when you project good onto people, one reason that is bad is because when they inevitably let you down, you will get angry / dissapointed with them.
When in reality, they did nothing wrong.
Unwarranted idolization is not fair to the person on the receiving end.
Exactly what I’ve been dealing with
My oldest sibling was parentified and the golden child. He is now in his late 70s and quite a mess. Family members who have had zero contact with him for decades continue to make up positive (untrue) stories about him. If you think about it, what a heavy burden for someone to carry starting in early childhood. Imho no one, including himself, has any clue who he really is. When I agreed to travel to provide care to keep him out of a nursing home some years ago I encountered an ANGRY and controlling man. 3+ weeks of HELL until I had to leave. There is this myth surrounding him to this day in our extended family. It’s a really cruel thing thing to do to someone. People who are scapegoated understandably might want to exchange places with the golden child. As a scapegoat I prefer my role and being able to go nc & heal, wishing everyone their own healing from a distance.
Carl Jung books speaks a bit about the shadow self, persona, anime and more.
Carl Jung predicted anime that’s crazy
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Yeah, he speaks about that a lot here. You should listen to it. It’s called Jungian psychology and shadow projection
This was fantastic! Thank you. It totally fits in with something deep I learned about myself this week and ways I was operating out of fear and allowing this to create imbalance in relationships. Facing what I was unconsciously afraid of and working through it has empowered me and given me boatloads of energy and enthusiasm!
I've been telling people that try to do that to me ... Negative Reflections 🤔🧐 Good job Bro
I’ve recently came to terms that I’m my most loyal critic and struggling to have self compassion when I judge myself. This video gave me wonderful insight and clarity on it❤ thanks bro ✌🏾
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Thank you for caring about my wholeness...not just part of it ;)
I am currently working on this in therapy 🥰 (its better to have more insight into why i do this/why this happens). This is especially helpful right now - thank you!
Awesome 🔥
Just found you. This is a very interesting take on projection. Especially the comment on our pets. Lol. Wow so true.
The Shadow knows.
Your way of presenting ideas is great
This is a refreshing restart for my perspective on Shadow Projection. Also, for the 7 Deadly Sins, there are (in terms of polarity) 7 Heavenly Virtues, or so I’ve read. What you say about the Sins is very on point, even the concept of Sin (metaphysically) is different than what we collectively and culturally see.
I really like the sound of your voice n cud listen to ya talk for hrs. Plus the content is very clear n helpful . Good job.! +...My Salutes!
Yup. I have said it before and I will have to say it again. What a wonderful bright insightful young man you are. I sure am happy to see you sharing what you happen to learn about. Thank you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼😊🥰🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you, I really appreciate that!
once the baggage is cleared we usually stop whatever path we were on and begin simply existing. if you find yourself in this headspace, contemplate these words nightly:
to grow in understanding & effectiveness.
to grow in understanding & effectiveness.
I know myself. I was exposed to that as a kid, and broke when I spotted the patterns as an adult.
Appreciate what you have shared here 🙏 alot of things made sense, related and resonated when I thought about my child life. Definitely shed some light into those memories and life experiences. Thank you.
Completely unrelated to the video but your complexion is absolutely GORGEOUS ❤
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perfect timing thank you friend
First time watching what you shared (I don't thing it's content).
Im doing shadow work ideas and it's the best tool to overcome our insecurities, fears and deficiencies.
Lived all I heard on your video and hope it will help others.
I rarely go never yelled at people in any situations - but as a kid and a teenager playing team sports - I’ve yelled my soul out when my teammates weren’t doing their part. And even got an A from my PE teacher for it. That’s called passion ❤
Definitely had it done to me and being truthful done it myself. I know I don't do it now I'm very reformed. Done lots of work on myself in recent years. I've always been very honest in my bad points to.
Wonderful to hear. Getting over something like that, blaming other people for your own negative traits, is a serious weakness that modern culture does not really discourage.
Fantastic content. Needed to hear this today too. Thank you.
protect yourself I need to tell you that.
Really like your' way of thinking. excellent. siting your' sources ...prestige..Chef's kiss
Thank you :)
So scapegoat its not a political issue , good to hear that ❤
Political people can create scapegoats too.
But the first mention of it is in the Bible. It was an actual goat that people put their sins on and then left it run out in the wilderness to take their sins away. Same idea.
Put your garbage on somebody and send them off with it
Sir! Thank you. My mind can't grasp it just yet, though. I see why we as humans leave here tired. Always having to think and battle.
If people close to you are trying to go after your shadow and pull you down. Switch off the light. Shadow gone. Poof.
It's not easy but it works.
Poetic. But not clear. What does “switch off the light“ mean figuratively?
@@Saffron-sugar the light = Your light. Don't let them feed on it.
When they try to invite me into their negative, dysfunctional, narcissistic or whatever behaviour. I don't let them, I say stop in a multiple different ways. If I don't share my "light" or "energy" with them, it's impossible for them to feed on my shadow. Hope it makes sense. Jerry Wise have good constructive content on this topic.
@@primaballerina84no contact is best when possible
The girl stabbing the dude w her eyes in thumbnail is so relatable.
This was very well explained. Thank you
Good stuff I'll pay more attention
Thanks, man.This
helped a lot.
Subscribed !
Excellently made this video, great job, very informative and easy to understand. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us.
ThankU, you put it really well. As a former goody 2shoes overly nice pseudo simp, i can attest to the inferno within. Shadow is too mild a term. Good i'm back in therapy, glad i'm old
Wow this man is gorgeous 🎉🎉🎉
I was thinking the same thing! 🤗
Go date him then
He's black as hell. You're blind.
Maybe you are projecting. 😊
Interesting...I hate to be the "OMG THATS ME" guy...but this has been going on my whole life...even so far as happening long after I am gone, as in "not working" somewhere for a year but still having blame played on me
Lol yup! This just happened to me this week.
You're awesome I appreciate the insight.
I did not watch the entire video, but it most likely mentions that One makes oneself out to be a scapegoat, and others that push their personal negative values towards the scapegoat, hoping to rid themselves of their own problems are not intelligent enough to cease their negative thinking and behaviors 😅
the problem with interpreting reality is there are plausible viewpoints, but there are finite truths which exist regardless of human interpretation and denial of those truths lead to a skewed view of the universal constants that negate reality. Discerning actuality and feeling.
authentic interpersonal communications kills everyones shadow _ no need for CONTROL _ cant make it happen unless the other agrees. As soon as creepy says CONTROL _ hmm hmmm hmmm
Always remember That
Is that true? If someone deeply envies you and convinces others that you are the scapegoat, does being authentic really help?
In my experience, it means nobody else will believe them. But it doesn’t stop those who have made you a scapegoat from continuing to defame you and recruit more people who don’t know you.
Tgank you youre more digestable/ understandable than most on utube about self improvement shadow work 5th dimension ascension and all the exciting posabilitys from a world waking up to its own divinity figuring out that paradise can be right were we are in the hear and now that the onley limits are the ones we except create or fabricate and kinda like embarasment it onley lives in the head of the embarased no one elses any way i lije how you explain stuff thank you for youre time presentaition energy and love it took to create this abd the caring to spread the noledge abd not hoard it thank you peace.
Thank you 😊
This was really on time for me. ✨
I think this is happening to me right now. It’s exhausting
It's only exhausting if you care. I just ignore those people, label them as fools, and do whatever I want. I don't care if it makes me look arrogant to disregard other people.
WOW, amazing video and explanation! Thank you so much, new sub xo
Great articulation.
Made a lòt of sense ❤ new sub
Also remember "It's not you" it's them.
But logical people need to think it through to make sure. Otherwise everyone thinks “it’s not me, it’s them”. They think that they cannot make any mistakes and everything that that happens is the other persons fault. That’s called a villain arc
@@Saffron-sugar ok Logically it's them most of the time. Are you a part of the GS Crew. (gang stalkers)?
my exp has been, people see something that makes them feel self conscious and they join in a campaign to make me fall on my face,
to humanize me and draw thw attention off their inadequacies.
constantly lookin out for being tripped or targetted by peoples mobbing
ironically it pushes me deeper into solitude and i put 10,000 hours into another thing that makes them feel self conscious
i thought the video was about this. I get accepting my shit but how do you deal with people projecting on you that don't know all these things and get pissed if you start talking his brow like this to them?
Exactly my experience.. exhausting
I feel I can learn a lot from your channel thank you
I love your videos 🥰 wonderful content
I feel this happening. I'm experiencing exactly what I went thru in my childhood. I'm just grown. If I or it doesn't stop. Then idk. Its bad. I'm very humble I don't want imply something I'm not. I think Trying to guide myself. Pandoras box. Did something I didn't know. It's It's indescribable .. for one person to be😢 experiencing .. I know something somethings not rite
It never really stops.
@@BlackSheep380😋🙏🏽well may I be as tough as nails. I rebuke it to feet of Jesus on the cross for its consequences amen 🎉
I can imagine this being very difficult especially when you’re teaching 30 students it’s difficult just dealing one to one relationship
Interesting. This explains it well.
I use my shadow to keep the world around me at bay
Weak
Wonderful content and clarification
Thank you 💓🏴🙏
Thanks 🙏
Always great content
People scapegoat me because of the Tootles Effect... benevolent melancholy...so seemingly..
Idk who you are or what you're about, but I'm subbed to find out.
Very well stated, thank you 🙏🏻 New Follower, blessings friend
Fascinating!
Great video!
Indeed
Wow, this is the most succinct explanation for homophobia that I’ve ever heard
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JV could you make a video about flow state, balancing anxiety and boredom? Or the law of attraction maybe? Btw great vid like always
important topics discussed here
Societies are liars. This is not how life should be. For evil designed your reality. Not all your thoughts and desires are your own. Humanity has been lied to.
I'm sensing a shadow here.
What do you do about a younger brother who hates you? He's an adult, so i can't go to Dad and get him to enforce boundaries. I'm afraid the only option left to me is complete separation. I used to talk to him every day, even knowing he hates me, trying to build a friendship. But after a year of this, he sent me a long and accusatory message, and basically he interpreted everything I've ever said or done in the most selfish way possible. I'm exasperated... I gone out of my way to show him love. I'm considering a move for a new job, and I'm actually considering breaking off all communication with him.
I stop getting angel a while a go,and i don't miss it,
Good stuff. You have a nice, even speaking voice which is pleasant and relaxing to listen to.
If you make a pop shield out of a wire hanger and a pair of tights/pantyhose, that will improve your audio quality with little cost or effort.
Great video
Smart man
Our minds interpret the input of the senses and makes a guess at what is in the environment despite the range of accuracy. How we interpret these inputs that could ultimately change of perception can also depend on genetic and social factors. I used to be deep into Carl Jung but accepting his interpretation as your own instead of leaving it with him can cause a lot of confusion as it did to me. If you’re interested in the updated version of Jung then I would go over to the JungToLiveBy channel from insight on actual clinicians and maybe look into the works of George Engels and Mark Solms, thanks.