I'm glad that you're learning to be more authentic. But don't forget to utilize self-awareness, a skill that took me a while to understand 😅. That way you can more immediately detect whom to keep and whom to ditch. And I think your parents are somewhat gaslighting you into thinking you're selfish when they are selfish themselves. Just remember to take care of yourself (without being hedonistic) first before thinking of others. As for the need for attention, don't feel bad. Everyone has that need especially when he/she had tough parents. Finding a good friend/support/psychological group might help you (at least for me) Lastly, when you want to be yourself, consider asking yourself who and what makes you happy. I think that's best to figure what type of personality fits you the best Good luck on your new adventure towards greater personal growth and discovery!
You self analyzed pretty well. What you're planning to do will help, but it will likely come up short as it doesn't hit the root of the problem. Tackling your "fakeness" is good since it is a form of lying. We as humans will eventually learn if you are lying or not, even if it only manifests in instinctive irritation rather than cognative confrontation. If you want to have permanent progress, you have to understand that you are making conscious assumptions, that are making you jump to false conclusions, causing your suffering. Much like how the love of money is the root of all evil, making unnecessary assumptions is the root of all suffering. You need to turn it down and train yourself to only assume when it will directly impact your life. So things like life threatening events, or things that will permanently affect you, is fine to make assumptions. Things like maintaining friendships, or anything that can be replaced, should be ignored. The reason for this is because your subconscious can only do so many calculations at once. Each time you assume, you place a continuous calculatory burden on your subconscious. The more you do that, the more likely it is to make mistakes, and cause mental decay. That being said, glad you noticed the "curse" your father layed on you. This is what the Bible takes about when it speaks about the sins of the fathers. You have a great opportunity to break it so it no longer affects your descendants. I hope your journey in breaking that curse bears fruit
To be fair, my analysis that I shared came after I had a chat with one of my best buddies who really knows how to see people. Because he saw this in me way back when we first met. But I love what you have to say - that I am jumping to conclusions by assuming things rapidly. That is something I need to catch myself doing - I will look closely at it now.
Love the vids. Sounds like you are going through a lot professionally, personally and romantically. I might suggest you talk to a licensed therapist to help work these issues out and provide some useful feedback that you can use to help guide your actions. Going over your issues here might feel helpful in getting some things off your chest, but in the long run I think a one-way conversation with the internet might do more harm than good. My 2 cents, hope it is helpful and hope you are able to navigate things well. Good luck sir!
I understand you, I went through something similar in terms of self-worth, dealing with my parents' traumas, being able to reconcile the self that I believe I am and what people expect. I understand that you are having problems with your friend and your issue of taking up space, but I think it is better to give your friend ample space because she is at a time when her mental health is more important to her. But one thing that I know will help is what helped me and helps is professional support, I am not talking about medication per se, but a professional who can help you find tools that will help you with your mental health and your reconciliation with yourself.❤
I've met professional youtubers before, and none of them have openly come out and said what you just did: that you want attention. AFAIK that makes you the most self-aware youtuber in existence.
Man, in order to understand yourself, start studying psychology. All your questions will be answered. But look only for professional university knowledge.
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19:10 That grenade was perfect
This episode was so tragic and inspiring I stared TAKING NOTES
Bro is tech switching in-game and in life.
I'm glad that you're learning to be more authentic. But don't forget to utilize self-awareness, a skill that took me a while to understand 😅. That way you can more immediately detect whom to keep and whom to ditch.
And I think your parents are somewhat gaslighting you into thinking you're selfish when they are selfish themselves. Just remember to take care of yourself (without being hedonistic) first before thinking of others.
As for the need for attention, don't feel bad. Everyone has that need especially when he/she had tough parents. Finding a good friend/support/psychological group might help you (at least for me)
Lastly, when you want to be yourself, consider asking yourself who and what makes you happy. I think that's best to figure what type of personality fits you the best
Good luck on your new adventure towards greater personal growth and discovery!
Thanks bro. Love you
You self analyzed pretty well. What you're planning to do will help, but it will likely come up short as it doesn't hit the root of the problem.
Tackling your "fakeness" is good since it is a form of lying. We as humans will eventually learn if you are lying or not, even if it only manifests in instinctive irritation rather than cognative confrontation.
If you want to have permanent progress, you have to understand that you are making conscious assumptions, that are making you jump to false conclusions, causing your suffering. Much like how the love of money is the root of all evil, making unnecessary assumptions is the root of all suffering. You need to turn it down and train yourself to only assume when it will directly impact your life. So things like life threatening events, or things that will permanently affect you, is fine to make assumptions. Things like maintaining friendships, or anything that can be replaced, should be ignored.
The reason for this is because your subconscious can only do so many calculations at once. Each time you assume, you place a continuous calculatory burden on your subconscious. The more you do that, the more likely it is to make mistakes, and cause mental decay.
That being said, glad you noticed the "curse" your father layed on you. This is what the Bible takes about when it speaks about the sins of the fathers. You have a great opportunity to break it so it no longer affects your descendants. I hope your journey in breaking that curse bears fruit
To be fair, my analysis that I shared came after I had a chat with one of my best buddies who really knows how to see people. Because he saw this in me way back when we first met. But I love what you have to say - that I am jumping to conclusions by assuming things rapidly. That is something I need to catch myself doing - I will look closely at it now.
Love the vids. Sounds like you are going through a lot professionally, personally and romantically. I might suggest you talk to a licensed therapist to help work these issues out and provide some useful feedback that you can use to help guide your actions. Going over your issues here might feel helpful in getting some things off your chest, but in the long run I think a one-way conversation with the internet might do more harm than good. My 2 cents, hope it is helpful and hope you are able to navigate things well. Good luck sir!
Appreciate it. Thank you man.
I understand you, I went through something similar in terms of self-worth, dealing with my parents' traumas, being able to reconcile the self that I believe I am and what people expect. I understand that you are having problems with your friend and your issue of taking up space, but I think it is better to give your friend ample space because she is at a time when her mental health is more important to her. But one thing that I know will help is what helped me and helps is professional support, I am not talking about medication per se, but a professional who can help you find tools that will help you with your mental health and your reconciliation with yourself.❤
I've met professional youtubers before, and none of them have openly come out and said what you just did: that you want attention. AFAIK that makes you the most self-aware youtuber in existence.
and tbf, I realize I've confused attention with love. But I think you guys do appreciate me because y'all are still here (uwu)
Man, in order to understand yourself, start studying psychology. All your questions will be answered. But look only for professional university knowledge.
Hey man watch some Jordan Peterson lectures about agreeableness, people pleasers etc. It'll put things in perspective for you.